October 2013

The risk of living

In the summer of 2006, I was fortunate enough to visit Alaska for the first time. It was a remarkable experience that surrounded me with some of the most beautiful scenery ever created by God. The mountains are breathtaking and the wildlife is diverse. Much of the trip was quite safe, involving nothing more adventurous than climbing in and out of many modes of motorized transportation or walking through the wilderness. There was, however, one venture that, in my mind, entailed a great deal of risk – whitewater rafting. Small boats or rafts and I have had an uneasy relationship for as long as I can remember. It didn’t help when our guide told us (after the obligatory safety training) that the glacial lake where we were beginning our journey is between 400 and 600 feet deep and its water warms only to a chilly 38 degrees during the summer. “Yikes!” I thought to myself, “I sure hope there’s a patron saint of whitewater rafters and their guides.” While I’m still not sure that anyone will ever entirely convince me that whitewater rafting is an enjoyable thing to do, I will say that taking the risk to get into the raft made possible an amazing (and, in

Be Moved St. Bavo Feast day: October 1

In an instant, everything can change; a life can be forever transformed. Of course, the kind of change envisioned here is the movement that issues forth from the Spirit following an encounter with

the truth, who is a person, Jesus Christ. Consider the story of St. Bavo (also known as Allowin or Bavon). Born near Liège, Belgium, to a Frankish noble family in 622, young St. Bavo earned a reputation for being wild and selfish. His lack of respect for the dignity of others was epic. He even sold his servants to other nobles as slaves. Despite all this, he did manage to enter into an advantageous marriage and had a daughter. Then, in one moment, everything changed for St. Bavo. Shortly after the death of his wife, he heard a sermon by St. Amand at Ghent and was moved to convert to Christianity. He soon gave all his money to the poor, and he entered the monastic life where his life became characterized by fervent penance: from

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his may come as something of a surprise, but I am not a risk-taker by nature. However, I have also learned that sometimes taking a risk can open the door to an experience I would otherwise have missed, and more often than not, I am the better for having taken the risk.

the end, safe) trip through a stunningly beautiful corner of our Godgiven world. Without taking the risk to climb into the raft, I would never have seen an iceberg face-to-face, nor would I have seen the emerald green of a natural spring-fed river. I would never have had the experience of traveling in a small group through a pristine valley that, even to this day, has been visited by relatively few people. The risk was worth it. There is something both exciting and scary about taking a risk. Risk involves a certain degree of vulnerability (will I fall out of the raft?) and it can bring a reward (did you see that beautiful mountain?). Teens, by their nature, are more open to risk-taking than adults. Sometimes the risks they are willing to take have to be offset by the watchful eyes and protective nature of their parents. In many instances, teens are very open to experiencing that which is new or different or challenging, while we adults from the editor might tend to shy away from experiences that take us Father Dwight Ezop is editor of FAITH Magazine and pastor of St. outside our comfort zones. John the Evangelist in Fenton. Email: I am constantly amazed at editor@FAITHmag.com. how young people can be so open to exploring and experiencing new ways to deepen their relationships with God. Having a relationship with God entails a degree of risk, too. Jesus comes to us, like he did those first disciples, and invites us to climb into the boat with him. Sometimes the waters of the lake are smooth; sometimes there are storms and waves. Whether placid or turbulent, Jesus is always with us in the boat. As we travel the path of discipleship, he is always there to guide and govern, to comfort and protect, to challenge and to heal. If we take the risk to get into the boat with him, we will never be the same, for he will take us to places we never dreamed, to become a people who are God’s own, in a kingdom that is not of this world. And so our journey in FAITH continues. choosing a hollow tree trunk for his first dwelling to having one of the servants he had previously sold into slavery lead him by a chain to the local jail. St. Bavo’s life witnesses to the transformation that is offered to us by Jesus if we are but open to hearing the Word of Truth. Of course, once we do hear the truth, a response is demanded. St. Bavo chose to respond to the truth by allowing himself to be moved by the Spirit into an everdeepening relationship with Jesus that completely altered the trajectory of his life. His story also serves to remind us that to know the Truth and then live as if the Truth does not exist is a poison far more deadly to the soul than death of the body. St. Bavo entered peacefully into his eternal rest on October 1, 659.

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work life Why doesn’t my boss respect me? parenting journey Parents and sports – when the cheering goes overboard! conflict resolution Do we have to put our dog down because it bit a neighbor’s child?

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My boss asked me to pick up lunch for a meeting recently. This is not in my job description, and I let him know I didn’t appreciate being tagged for menial work such as errands and coffee. He told me to get with the program or be fired. Is this just?

In my consulting work, I employ a diagnostic tool which measures workplace behaviors and attitudes, either constructive or defensive. Constructive cultures foster high achievement, innovation and trust. Defensive cultures are fearful, forceful and lower-performing.

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So reason through these questions: Are your duties clearly outlined? Are your skills generally well deployed within your job description? Do you generally enjoy and feel well suited for your work?

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Why doesn’t my boss respect me?

It doesn’t take a survey to classify your relationship with your boss. It’s a classic aggressive-defensive profile. Your prickly communication plus Can it sometimes his bristling threat create a be sensible to step toxic combo. Without a big outside the prescribed change, it doesn’t bode well perimeter of your job funcfor a happy resolution. tions to meet a practical You ask if this is just. Justice need for the sake of a means to give to the other his greater good? due. Technically, if lunch delivery is not in your job description, you are not obliged. It’s not due your boss. Is it just that he fire you for refusing to perform an errand? That depends on the nature and language of your work contract. Since “there is in every man a natural inclination to act according to reason” (St. Thomas), consider a different question. Is this reasonable? Is it reasonable to perform a task outside your role for the sake of your colleagues, customers or boss? Can it sometimes be sensible to step outside the prescribed perimeter of your job functions to meet a practical need for the sake of a greater good? Employees (including bosses) are sometimes asked to undertake tasks “beneath” their primary duties. Be careful, by the way, not to demean the menial. Manual work makes the world go round.

work life Jim Berlucchi is the executive director of the Spitzer Center, whose mission is to build cultures of evangelization (www.spitzercenter.org).

If you’re affirmative on all three, and menial requests are only occasional, you might consider getting “with the program.” If not, carefully weigh your options. Bottom line: Your boss clearly finds your attitude unacceptable. And he’s not so enamored with your performance that he fears losing you. Your options? Change your attitude, change your communication style or change your job. Whatever the future holds, you and others will be well served if you exhibit a cheerful readiness to serve. It is the Christian way.

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conflict resolution Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a psychologist and family counselor.

Parents and Sports when the cheering goes overboard!

Do we have to put our dog down because it bit a neighbor’s child?

My son told me that he would rather I didn’t attend his baseball games because I get “too loud” when I’m cheering him on. What is the line between support and being one of “those” obnoxious parents?

When our children make comments like this it can be challenging. Is it simply the child showing a heightened sense of awareness of embarrassment over normal parental behavior? Or is there some truth behind the statement? It may be that you are simply a parent and that is enough to embarrass your son. On the other hand, maybe you have pushed the limit. T. Gennara

Review your game day behavior. Do you encourage your son as well as the other members of his team? Are your comments positive? For one game try being a “listener” rather than a “cheerer”. Pay attention to the cheering methods used by other parents. Which seem to work and which are annoying? Are there some parents who bring a smile to everyone’s face when they call out? How does your behavior compare to theirs? What do you find irritating? Parents who put down players or ridicule coaching decisions create a negative, stressful experience.

parenting journey Dr. Cathleen McGreal is a psychology professor and certified spiritual director.

Be the parent and not the coach. Even if you have extensive experience in a sport, when you are a spectator then be a spectator! Don’t yell out plays to your child. Even if “Hit it out of the park” sounds like a great idea that suggestion can clash with a coach’s suggestion to hit a bunt. Share your expertise by spending recreational time with your son. Go into the backyard and play catch. Hit the batting cages and share some practice time. Spend time listening to why he enjoys baseball and what it is like being part of a team. Analyze your own motivation. In 2012, Sharon Wheeler published a research study called, The significance of family culture for sports participation. (International Review for the Sociology of Sport) She discussed several parental goals related to children’s participation in sports. Often parents wanted to encourage a healthy lifestyle or help children develop friendships. Some parents wanted to provide experiences that had not been available in their own youth. Many parents who had excelled at sports wanted their children to do so as well. Take the time to explore your own motivation in order to promote healthy involvement with sports for your child. Bring your concerns to prayer on game days: “Similarly, anyone who competes as an athlete does not receive the victor’s crown except by competing according to the rules. ... Reflect on what I am saying, for the Lord will give you insight into all this.” (2 Timothy 2:5, 7)

My dog bit a neighbor’s child – it was the first time, and the kid was teasing him. Although the insurance company says the dog gets ‘one strike,’ our neighbors want our dog put down. What do we do with our beloved pet?

This is a no-win situation for everyone involved. I suggest a conversation between you and your neighbors. If possible, invite a mediator from the Humane Society to be present. Although any breed of dog can bite, many communities have enacted breed-specific legislation that prohibits ownership of certain breeds, such as pit bulls and others. It will be good for you to learn, if your community has enacted any legislation regarding the breed of your dog. In most cases, the dogs’ owners are responsible for paying the bill, because they have a legal responsibility to prevent their pets from injuring people or damaging property. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states, “One can love animals; one should not direct to them the affection due only to persons.” (2418) It’s important to keep in mind that while we love our pets, protecting human life is most important.

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yourfaith Dear Father Joe: Am I really supposed to be an evangelist?

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I think it must be a tough thing to hear so many people talking about evangelization without telling us exactly what it is. For a lot of people, the idea of evangelization conjures up images of people yelling from street corners, condemning others or trying to get people to think just like we do. If that is our image of evangelization, then no wonder it has no appeal to us! I’m going to write this article assuming

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I hear talk that we are supposed to evangelize, but I’m not sure I want to do that. What does it mean?

prayer and prayer in your Church. What that you “have the basics”: you care about you and I need to be conscious of is the your relationship with God and you live “why?” It’s not just important that we do that out through a faithful sacramental the right thing, but that we know why life and participation in your parish life. If we are doing it. Ponder the answer to the that is the case, then we’re going to look question, “What differat evangelization as a proence has my faith made cess that involves a few in my life?” Think about key ideas. I’m going to put them in an order that what would you be makes sense to me, but, like without your faith. Consider what your life to be clear, I don’t mean would be like. When you for you to read this as if in the know do this, you will, in the you only do one step at a with Father Joe words of Scripture, “Altime: all these ideas and ways be prepared to give steps roll together and If you’d like to submit a question for Father Joe Krupp to an answer to everyone work as a whole. With consider in a future column, who asks you to give the that in mind, there are please send it to: joeinblack@ priest.com. Father Joe is unable reason for the hope that four elements to evanto personally answer questions. you have. But do this gelization that we are all with gentleness and recalled to: we must know spect.” (1 Peter 3:15) And as Pope Paul VI said, Jesus, we must learn our faith, we must know ourselves and we must be holy. “Man listens more willingly to witnesses First, we’ll look at the idea that we must than to teachers, and if he does listen to know Jesus. Again, I’m assuming an active teachers, it is because they are witnesses.” (Evangelii Nuntiandi) faith life on your part with personal When we do this, we are looking at the human heart and seeing how our faith heals and strengthens it. As we know, however, the human life is not all heart: it’s also about our minds, so you’ll want to feed your love for your faith with knowledge about it. Get to know why we believe what we believe. In these days, there is a lot of ignorance about our faith: that we are antiscience or anti-intellectual. There are few things more inaccurate than that, and the answer to the misconception is people like you and me being well-informed. Learning

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A: Spoiled milk.

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shy. The person you are is a gift that God about our faith is not hard; there are tons gave the world and an answer to the prayers of options out there for us. You can listen of many – even people you’ve never met. to podcasts, read good articles – all sorts When you understand who you are, your of things. By learning about our faith, you evangelization will be authentic, life giving are giving yourself the gift of knowing and and effective. knowing something beautiful and amaz Interwoven into all of these must be a ing. By learning about our faith, we are firm commitment on your part to entering a spiritual and philosophibe holy. Holy is a word that cal base that is 2,000 years means “set apart,” and old and informed by every that really is the key to culture we’ve encounThere are four evangelization. When tered in that time. elements to evanyou and I stand out Your heart and mind gelization that we are all from the crowd by are all a part of the called to: we must know things we say “yes” to what, now let’s look Jesus, we must learn our and the things we say at the how – how do faith, we must know you express what your “no” to, then we have ourselves and we heart and mind loves? begun to walk the must be holy. The simple answer path of holiness. There are many people who to this is that you must love their faith and there evangelize as you are, not as you are not. Take some time are many people who are well informed about their faith, but there and think about your gifts and talents, doesn’t seem to be many people who are your personality traits and characteristics. All of these things form the core of who you simply holy and you must answer that call. Sometimes, this will mean you are goare and makes you the unique person God ing to have to refrain from other people’s called to be an evangelist. If you’re shy, you cruelty to others or immoral behavior. It’s don’t have to pretend you’re not. If you’re going to mean showing kindness to those outgoing, you don’t have to pretend you are

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others are treating cruelly. It’s going to mean speaking the truth about what you’ve done and what you haven’t. It is going to mean taking responsibility for your actions and needs and being respectful to your parents and siblings. Some days, its going to mean holding true to “unpopular” teachings of the Church when all around you are caving in. If and when you do these things, I promise you will stand apart. All of these are elements of being holy. If you commit to being holy, you’ll find that you are evangelizing simply by means of the fact that you exist! Beyond that, you’ll be ready to gently and lovingly explain why you love your Catholic faith and what you know about it. You’ll have credibility from your peers because you will so clearly be set apart without being self-righteous. I pray that God show you how beautiful you are. I pray that, through thinking of your faith and learning about it you become more aware of how blessed it is to stand out, stand up and follow the challenge from the Book of Micah: “You know, oh man, what is required: act justly, love mercy and walk humbly with your God.” Enjoy another day in God’s presence!

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My sophomore retreat really gave me a personal relationship with God,” Charlie says. “But Kairos made God a friend.

Finding a friend in God

harlie Ludlow is a “relationship” kind of guy – he has a big group of friends, but one best friend; he had one girlfriend for almost all of high school; and he is close to his family. His relationships are important to him.

“Relationships are all about the ups and downs,” Charlie says. “No matter how great the relationship is, there always will be some downs. You just have to stick it out until it gets better again.” Charlie’s relationship with God, though, took more time to develop. Like most high-school kids, he found having a personal faith is tough to develop. Social pressure and hectic schedules make finding time for prayer and service difficult, if not seemingly impossible. “I have gone to church my whole life, but I don’t think I understood why until I got a bit older,” says Charlie. “I’ve always gone through the motions, but now it really means something to me.” Looking back, Charlie cites a few important milestones in his relationship with God: his retreat experiences, a friendship with a former Lumen Christi High School chaplain, Father Geoff Rose, and the example of his father. “My sophomore retreat really gave me a personal relationship with God,” Charlie says. “But Kairos made God a friend.” The sophomore retreat, Charlie says, also was the start of his friendship with Father Rose, who was his leader. “Having such a powerful experience at that retreat, and being in his group while it happened was just such a bonding experience,” Charlie says. The sophomore retreat wasn’t just the start of a close friendship with Father Rose. Charlie also cites it as the start of the friendship between his best friend, Peter, and himself.

“I convinced him to run cross country as a junior,” Charlie says. “We both also were invited to join Esto Vir, Father Rose’s group for junior and senior guys. We started doing everything together.” Esto Vir, from the Latin phrase meaning “be a man,” played a pretty big role with Charlie. Founded by Father Rose and Father Joe Krupp, a former Lansing Catholic High School chaplain, the group is comprised of junior and senior guys from a diverse collection of friend-groups from each class. It’s meant to teach and encourage leadership in school and life. “It was one of my favorite parts of high school because it kept me grounded,” Charlie says. “Our meetings once a week were a highlight of the week for me.” “Esto Vir helped me understand leadership,” Charlie says. “Part of learning leadership was learning how to lead people to a relationship with God.” The group’s guiding principle, “The Warrior Creed,” stresses respect – for parents, friends, and yourself. “I have a great relationship with my parents, and my dad is like my best friend,” Charlie says, “but it is always good to have a reminder to be respectful, and a group to hold you accountable.” Charlie’s dad plays a big role in his life, and was a big influence in his relationship with God. “When my parents got married, my dad converted from Presbyterianism,” Charlie says. “He didn’t do it just to get married though. He wanted to know what he was converting to, and he wanted to be committed. Having a dad that really wanted to commit to the faith helped me be interested in it, too.” Instilled with his dad’s sense of commitment, and armed with a relationship with God of his own, Charlie is ready to make the transition from high school to Siena Heights University in Adrian, and to run cross country and track in the fall. He knows, though, that he has his relationships to fall back on when he is unsure or out of his element. “I know that relationships based in faith are going to last,” Charlie says. “I know I can count on my relationships because they all have that faith element.”

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I watched from afar as my dad spent what seemed like forever with this little girl, showing her around and introducing her to people. An hour later, when he finally came over to me, I asked him what took so long. I remember him telling me to never pass up the chance to make someone else’s day over your own.

ESSAY WINNER: Lauren Dantonio of Lansing Catholic High School is the 2013 Father Charles Irvin Essay winner.

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ou don’t need to be a superhero in order to make the world a better place. You don’t need to be extraordinary or special; you just need to be you. I think that most people in today’s society, especially teenagers, would look at the question, “How do you make the world a better place?” and be stumped. In fact, they probably wouldn’t know how to respond to the question at all. They may think about a recent story they heard on the news about a firefighter saving kids from a burning building, or a doctor helping children infected with HIV, and think to themselves that they don’t do anything extraordinary like those people do. However, the fact of the matter is you don’t need to be extraordinary to change the world; you just need to be you. I am an 18-year-old senior at Lansing Catholic High School and, until recently, never gave much consideration to how I made the world I live in a better place. I am absolutely nothing like those people evidently making the world the better place in everything that they do. However, even the little things matter. One morning, I got up and ate breakfast just like every other morning, but this morning was different because I was eating with my dad. He normally gets up earlier than I do, and with our different morning dietary schedules, we never get the time to eat together. After we finished and I had brushed my teeth, I grabbed my backpack, kissed my dad on the cheek and went to walk out the door. However, he stopped me by grabbing me by the arm, looking me in the eye and saying, “Be a light to someone today.” I assume I gave him a weird look like I always do when he says something quizzical, but I nodded my head and walked out the door anyway. I went through my school day and didn’t give much, if any, thought to those six words my dad spoke to me before I left. That night, when my dad got home and as I was getting ready to go to bed, he looked at me and asked, “Who were you a light to today?” He must have realized that I didn’t know what that meant because then he said, “What did you do to make someone else’s day better?” I must have replied that I didn’t know, because I remember him telling me that he would ask me again tomorrow night. The next morning when I woke up, there was a note

waiting for me on the kitchen counter, written in my dad’s distinct handwriting, with the words “Be a light.” I put it in my planner and later that day found it, after I had long forgotten the words my dad had spoken to me. Seeing it reminded me to do my best to be a light. It doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary or extravagant to make someone’s day. It can be as simple as smiling to someone in the hallway or going out of your way to help someone out. To this day, when I get home, my dad will usually ask me the same question he did at the beginning of the year, and these days I actually have an answer for him. He asks me who I was a light to and I ask him the same question. My dad never ceases to amaze me in the things he does for other people. Whether it’s visiting a sick child in the hospital, calling or emailing back one of his “biggest fans,” or even holding the door open for a random person, he never goes through a day without trying to make someone else’s day better. I specifically remember one example that has always stuck with me. It was during a football practice I attended. I could tell by his body language that my dad was exhausted and would like nothing more than to go home to his family. But there were lots of people at the practice, specifically a girl named Paige who has cancer. I watched from afar as my dad spent what seemed like forever with this little girl, showing her around and introducing her to people. An hour later, when he finally came over to me, I asked Follow FAITHpub on

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him what took so long. I remember him telling me to never pass up the chance to make someone else’s day over your own. To me, there is no better feeling than being told that you have made someone’s day. Smiling is contagious and making one person smile can inspire them to make another person smile. You never know the impact your smile, words or actions can have on someone else. Life is about the simple things – and it’s through the simple and little things that the world changes. I don’t do anything super amazing to change the world; I just try to be a light to anyone who needs it.

The 2013 Father Charles Irvin Essay Contest Winner Every year, FAITH awards a $1,000 scholarship to a high-school senior in our diocese, based on an essay on a topic related to life in the Church. Our goal is to promote insightful thought and excellent writing, and to encourage careers in Catholic journalism. There are many ways to spread the Good News of Jesus Christ, and good writing is one of them. We hope you enjoy this year’s essay by Lauren Dantonio of Lansing Catholic High School. 11

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Teens have a lot to say to each other on deep subjects like love, relationships and God. What kinds of things, you ask? Following are 45 of the most common thoughts on these subjects from teens from the ARK, a parish-run hangout for teens. (See page 15 for more on that.) Amber Smith and Neil Feldpausch hang out there and were part of a group of more than 20 faith-filled teens that we talked to. Keep in mind their thoughts are not necessarily representative of their peers. Nevertheless, we think you’ll find them interesting.

13 is open to sharing her thinking and speaking her mind; isn’t afraid of being herself. 14 loves God. 15 shows support and wants to get to know me. 16 deep conversa 17 sharing faith tions. and growing closer 18 complete trust and honesty. to God.

19 premarital sex. 20 too much talking or too little. 21 someone who isn’t Catholic .

22 faith and love of God. 23 honesty, trust and listening 24 a sense of ears. humor.

25 find someone else. 26 be willing to learn about Him. 27 feel free to ask me about Him. 28 I will accept you, but I won’t 29 My faith is change. very importan t to me, so don’t try to change that. 30 I will try to show you the truth.

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16 God to be the 17 good commun center. ication. 18 a mutual friendship respect, trust and – built on love, faith.

19 someone who is dominating, disrespectful, dishonest, abusive or jealous. 20 someone who won’t help me in my faith. 21 someone who consumes all my time. 22 love of God and encouragement grow in faith. to 23 support, respect, listening, understa 24 humor, fun, nding. laughter. 25 not date me. 26 leave. 27 find someone 1 they read else. I will prayinto things too much. formuch. you. 2 they flirt too Mistakes girls 3 they think guys care only about looks. 28 my faith is the most importa make with guys: nt thing to me and will not change. 31 girls can 29 we can talk have children about faith, . 32 girls are 4 they and areI will not try open answer any question more passiona to enough about their te and guys s feelings, you have.and don’t say the right things. more laid back– 30 our relations it’s a good balance. hip may not can 5 they last.base their first opinion off 33 girls tend to be more caring. Mistakes guys looks and fail to respect girls’ bodies.

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For the past two years, Catholic Westphalia have youth met for Bible studies, living in or near fellowship at a prayer, songs and local storefront known as the ARK. 2003, parishio In June ners at St. Mary completed Phase Church, Westph alia, I of their goal to old building, which buy and remode l the will Twenty-five families be used as a parish youth center. contributed $130,0 buy the building 00 in cash to . Phase II will involve raising money to remode additional l the building. When comple include a café, ted, it will a movie and game room, a study meeting room room, a and a prayer chapel. “It will social, spiritual serve as a and educational center for the for young adults,” youth and says Fr. Cecilio Mary. “These young Reyna, pastor of St. people are truly and we are really drawn to the ARK, excited about realizing more information, its potential.” For please call Craig Minister, at (989) Pohl, St. Mary 1 flirting Youth too much. 587-4201.

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en years ago, we asked teens about the relationships between guys and girls. This year, we asked them the same questions. We thought there might be a difference in a decade, but a lot of things stayed the same. Whether 2003 or 2013, guys and girls are interested in trust, honesty and respect – pretty eternal values for relationships! 12

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“Practicing chastity allows you to communi ues, beliefs and cate. When you morals, I firmly can talk to each believe that that’s ger in your faith other about valan opportunity together. Therefore for you both to , God will bless grow stronyour relationsh ip.” – Amber Smith “4 tips for guys with girlfriend s: Communicate grudges! Be romantic – If you are wrong, – say so! Don't friend at the unexpecte Take advantage of special hold creative things d you can do for and positive relationsh and expected times. Be chaste your girl– Chastity is huge ip. God – Let important thing Him be the center within a lasting you can do! Keep of your relationsh Him in your every ip. It’s the most thought and deed.” – Neil Feldpausch

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6 they use them as objects, rather than seeing them as persons.

7 talk to me. 8 spend time with me. 9 be interested in who I am.

34 dressing modestly. 35 practicing chastity – talking about it. 36 drawing a line that does not get crossed. If you want to get 37 respectin g her, to know better: by notme starting anything or going too far. 38 controlling my 39 not spending emotions. the night at her house.

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43 guys are not all “pigs” – there’ s a lot of nice guys out there.

44 God is the center of a good relationship. 45 dress modestl y and set high standards of love and respect.

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What mistakes do girls make with guys? • They read into things too much. • They flirt too much. • They think guys care only about looks. • They read too much into what we do. • They never go for the good guy; they usually go with someone who makes bad choices. • They don’t say how they really feel.

What mistakes do guys make with girls?

2003

• Pressuring them. • Judging them based on their looks and bodies. • Downplaying things that are important to girls.

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• Insulting girls’ activities, for example, saying, “You throw like a girl” as an insult. You gotta have respect. • They don’t always respect us and our personal boundaries, whether they are sexual or otherwise. • Expecting girls to look like celebrities.

This is what I want in a relationship: • Deep conversations • Sharing faith and growing closer to God. • Complete trust and honesty. • Honesty and trust. • Fun and spontaneity. • Equal cooperation and input from each partner.

This is what I want in a relationship:

2003

• God to be the center. • Good communication. • A mutual friendship built on love, respect, trust and faith.

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• Honesty, respect, communication. • Faith. • Someone who cares as much for me as I do for him.

What I am NOT looking for in a relationship:

• Premarital sex. • Too much talking or too little. • Someone who isn’t Catholic.

2003

• Someone who is dominating, disrespectful, dishonest, abusive or jealous • Someone who won’t help me in my faith. • Someone who consumes all my time.

• Someone who is fake. • Cheating or dishonesty. • Drama.

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• A relationship based on sex, or the pressure to have sex. • Disrespect and lack of trust. • Clinginess.

If you want to know me better, you will: • Talk to me. • Spend time with me. • Be interested in who I am. • Carry on an intelligent conversation – don’t act dumb! • Talk to me instead of instantly judging me. • Spend time with me.

If you want to know me better, you will:

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• Spend time talking to me. • Pay attention and listen. • Meet my family.

2013

• Talk to me. • Listen to what I have to say. • Treat me as a person, not an object.

If you have a problem with the fact that God is important to me, you can: • Find someone else. • Be willing to learn about God. • Feel free to ask me about God. • Leave. • Try to deal with it or see my side. • Find someone else.

If you have a problem with the fact that God is important to me, you can:

2003

• Not date me. • Leave. • Find someone else – I’ll pray for you.

2013

• Show yourself out – the door is that way! • Not date me and I will pray for you. • Learn to respect it or leave.

If you want to know me better, you better not: • Flirt with other guys. • Act differently depending on who you are around • Be cruel to others or disrespectful to God. • Judge me. • Talk all the time – guys have feelings too and would occasionally like to be listened to. • Pretend to be someone you’re not.

If you want to know me better, you better not:

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• Do drugs or get drunk. • Swear. • Be rude to others or disrespectful to God.

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• Be rude, mean or disrespectful. • Interrupt or ignore me. • Push me.

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10 YEARS LATER: Amber and Neil appeared on the cover of our teen issue in 2003. Today they are married with two young children.

Amber and Neil 10 years later

emember these two? In 2003, Neil and Amber were dating when they appeared on the cover of FAITH’s teen issue. They talked about the challenges of dating and teen relationships. What ever happened to them? “A few years after the teen issue, Amber and I finished schooling at Lansing Community College (LCC). After LCC, I acquired a teaching degree in industrial technology, and Amber received her degree in travel and hospitality,” says Neil. And then, seven years ago, they got married. Today they have a 5-year-old daughter, Brianna, and a new baby. Neil says, “After I received my degree, I started my first job, which is where I am now, at St. Johns High School. I taught drafting and some history for a few years, and then switched to woodworking and wood technology, which is my preferred area. I love it. 14

For Amber, it was her love of travel that in- of its benefits until after it led us to the spired her work. “After LCC, I went to school root of the problem with my infertility and provided a solution.” to be a travel agent and did that for three With that, they have some advice for years. It was a great experience. Then we got young couples embarking on their first pregnant with Brianna. After being home relationships. Neil has this to say: “Just for two years, I decided to go back to work keep Christ at the center of it all. Until part-time.” Amber’s passion for helping you make Christ number one, others and her love of traveling your relationships will fail. has led her to working as the And don’t rush into relaexecutive assistant and It’s really imtionships. Especially in event coordinator for portant, especially for high school, you need Habitat for Humanity younger people, to stay true time to grow and of Michigan. to who you are and true to just focus on God.” Though they have a God. Take your time when Amber then adds, lot to keep them busy, you’re young, and take “It’s really important, God added one more it slow – get to know especially for younger thing to their task list. each other. people, to stay true to “After Brianna was born, who you are and true to Neil and I decided we God. Take your time when should teach natural family you’re young, and take it slow planning (NFP). However, it – get to know each other. Marriage wasn’t just taking the classes that is not easy. You’ve got a lot of learning to inspired us. For a long time, we struggled do before being thrown into the challenges to become pregnant. After having to move from doctor to doctor without any answers, of marriage. The most important person in I sought out ‘NFP-only’ gynecologists. your life should and will always be God. If “We planned to use NFP when we got you think you can go through life without married, but never really knew the extent him, then good luck.”

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God is the heart of Sophia and Nate’s romance

ophia Roth and Nate Winnie look like an average teenage couple. They smile and laugh, sharing inside jokes and memories. Nate offers a compliment, boasting how beautiful her choir voice is, while she talks about his accomplishments on the football field.

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But Sophia and Nate, both headed into their senior year at Father Gabriel Richard High School in Ann Arbor, talk differently than most teens. Rooted in their Catholic upbringing and scholarly endeavors, the two show uncommon respect for each other, and have vowed not to rush their relationship emotionally and physically. “In high school, it’s obvious that most couples don’t center their relationships around faith, but, for us, it’s about being respectful of each other and incorporating God into our relationship,” says Sophia, 17. “We realize there are so many pressures in society and that friends want to compare relationships in terms of what they’ve been doing, but we don’t want to compare ourselves to others.” “Really early in our relationship we sat down and said, ‘We don’t have to do everything the world says to show we care about each other,’” adds Nate, 16. “We didn’t have to be pressured into something we’re not ready for.” The two began dating in the fall of their sophomore year, and there have been plenty of opportunities – school dances, retreats, and just hanging out with friends – in which they could have given in to physical and emotional temptations, but they’ve made a stronger commitment to each other,

and, with God’s help, they have forged their own path. “We’ve always been able to take a step back and ask ourselves what we want,” Nate says. “It’s hard, though, because it’s just everywhere – TV, movies, and maybe the music is the most ridiculous because it makes you think that if you’re not doing the things the lyrics say, that you’re a loser.” Nate and Sophia both dated prior to their relationship and out of those experiences they discovered more about themselves and what truly mattered to them. “I realized ... if a guy puts pressure on me, then he doesn’t really care about me, and I don’t need that,” says Sophia. It was also early in her high-school career, after a series of bad relationships, that Sophia realized the relationship she was ignoring the most, and needed the most, was with God. “I wasn’t going to Mass and I was placing so much value on what guys thought of me, but I started to realize that In high school, my relationship it’s obvious that most with God was couples don’t center their more important.” relationships around faith, but Sophia and for us, it’s about being reNate now share spectful of each other and their faith toincorporating God into gether, praying in our relationship. the school chapel before class starts and attending Mass side-by-side when their schedules allow. They also attended a Kairos Retreat together this past year that carried their faith to greater heights. “That retreat was a big eye-opener to me because it was maybe the first time in my life I really invested in my faith and what that meant to me,” says Nate. Sophia and Nate don’t know what the future holds. They will likely end up at different colleges, but even if that occurs, they made a commitment to each other they have no intention of abandoning now. “I’ve heard friends say, ‘I love you but we’re not going to the same college so let’s just do this,’ but I think what we’ve said is it means a lot more to us and to God to be respectful, and waiting means you love that person more,” says Nate.

Chaplains in the high school hallways four priests at four Catholic schools FAITH talked to the chaplains at the four Diocese of Lansing Catholic high schools to ask them about teens and their relationships – with each other and with God. Read more about how these priests help prepare students for dating and marriage.

Father Dan Kogut is the chaplain at Flint Powers High School.

Father Gordon Reigle is the chaplain at Lansing Catholic High School.

Father Dan Kogut

Father Gordon Reigle

How do you reach out to the students at Flint Powers High School? Being present in everyday activities is big. Being on the sidelines at games, praying with them before their events, going to band concerts and theater performances, eating lunch with them – they want to have someone involved in their world. That’s how they get to know me, trust me and open up to me. I don’t pry into their lives, but, in the ministry of presence, they know you’re available to them when they need to talk.

What is the most common type of relationship for which students seek advice? I suppose that I hear about family issues most frequently. It seems as if the pace of student life increases each year: more demands, more sports practices, more of everything. Coupled with the teenage desire for freedom and independence, which is all part of forming an identity distinct from parents and siblings, the stress from living up to these high expectations inevitably leads to conflict in the home, most of all with parents.

How does a Catholic education benefit the students in their relationships? Being at a Catholic school means you have freedom. We won’t shove the Catholic teachings down your throat, but we do teach what Jesus and his Church teach. But we can talk about the Theology of the Body and sex, as opposed to just the health and physiological aspects of it. We can talk about God’s plan. When you tell high school girls that God wants a man for you who will sacrifice for you and that God wants you to have an amazing husband, they’re overwhelmed. So often, they’re settling for a counterfeit. It feels like love, but it isn’t love. And the guys want to know there is someone out there for them who respects them, and they want to be the kind of man who is faithful and true. At their core, guys want to be honorable. So, not only can we talk about sexuality in terms of God’s plan, but there is support in place, and role models, and peers who are honoring God in their relationships. – Michael Spath

When counseling teens with issues in romantic relationships, do you try to address chastity or marriage preparation issues? This is a perennial favorite. I seek to remind teens that they are years away from marriage, will meet all sorts of interesting people at college and beyond and will likely go through several relationships before discerning the right person to marry. Instead of “dating,” I encourage students to socialize with larger groups of friends – keep it public and transparent; avoid pairing off and spending time alone and meet lots of people so that you can learn to socialize well and evaluate the qualities you appreciate in a potential future spouse.

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What one piece of advice or counsel do you offer to all teens with relationship issues? I encourage students to keep their future spouse in mind. It is very hard to “be good for goodness sake.” If you give a piece of your heart away to every romantic interest that comes along, you will be giving the leftovers to your spouse, and who wants leftovers? – Betsy Hicks

Father Geoff Rose, OSFS, is the chaplain at Jackson Lumen Christi High School.

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Father Geoff Rose

What are some of the challenges teens face at your school? Self-image is a big one. Among our young women, their appearance is so critical. There is so much in our media that places demands on how they look and whether they meet certain standards. I think fathers have a huge role with their daughters in that respect because they need to say, “You are worthy of love. You are beautiful the way you are.” That masculine affirmation goes far in helping them feel loved. And with the boys, they go through different growth spurts, and the emphasis on athletics in our society – on size and strength as a measure of masculinity – is so great that our students often feel their self-worth is valued on their physical prowess.

What are the most common relationship issues students seek advice for? I find that most common relationship problems I hear are family relationship problems. They range widely, but often are tied to the tensions between the student trying to assert their independence and family members seeing it differently.

What type of advice would you give to teens suffering through these issues? A huge step is making them aware of the great love of God. How is God active in your life? How have you seen him respond to your needs? Teenagers will share some of their faith that maybe they don’t think is strong on its own, but when others speak or when I can listen, they realize they’re not alone. There is suddenly a sense of awareness of God’s love and presence in their lives. They’re not at a stage where they are ready to select their life partner, and there are kinds of behavior reserved more properly for older, more mature people. Too often, young people don’t have the wisdom and maturity to know how to handle themselves when their attraction gets so strong. How does a Catholic education help teens value what’s important in their relationships? We try to create an environment that pleases Jesus. Whether that’s how they dress, how they pray, how they interact with each other – we use the standard of the Gospel. Being in this environment, and even after hours because they’re still with their peers from this school, it really does help to lessen some of the pressures the world wants to bring to bear upon them. – Michael Spath For expanded interviews with the chaplains, please visit www.FAITHpub.com

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Father Richard Lobert is the chaplain and a theology teacher at Father Gabriel Richard High School in Ann Arbor.

What kind of advice or counsel do you try to offer for those common problems? I stress that this tension is quite normal. I want the student to see how the tension is created. That the student is charging forward to leave the nest and the family response is to slow them down, for their own safety/good. Also, to be patient, as this tension is not always how it will be, or how they will feel. I strongly encourage them to communicate their apologies when they speak out in hurtful ways. Even when all parties know why this tension exists, it helps to communicate how you really feel. What advice seems to resonate most with students? That they are normal! Also, to communicate their feelings and to be honest. What kind of approach do you take when offering counsel to students – are you more or less direct than you might be with adults? Why? I treat my students with as much respect as adults, and am as direct. Most students appreciate this, as it is how they want to be seen/treated. If the students don’t like that approach, I tell them (with a loving smile) that this is how adults communicate. When counseling teens with issues in romantic relationships, do you try to address chastity or marriage preparation issues? I always make a point of showing the wisdom of chastity – chastity meaning purity, not just abstaining from sex. As students share various problems, I can gently point out how a chaste person doesn’t encounter these problems. They have other problems, sure, but the can avoid a lot of headaches, heartaches and hurt feelings by living a chaste life. Whether it is in how they speak or how they act – all aspects. – Betsy Hicks Photography by Tom Gennara

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Chad and Dillon Mrdeza have attended Catholic schools for their entire education, first at St. Mary Queen of Angels in Swartz Creek and then St. Pius X in Flint Township. When Chad was ready for high school, the decision to continue his Catholic education felt right. 20

His dad, Scott, says, “Financially it was more difficult because tuition goes up, but, overall, we felt we wanted to continue in Catholic schools, and not because that’s what we had been doing, but because of the philosophy of why we were sending them to a

Catholic school in the first place. For us, it’s always been about our faith and the quality of education you receive at a Catholic school.” The Mrdezas considered two high schools for Chad – Powers in Flint and St. Thomas More Academy in Burton.

While St. Thomas More is an excellent school and excels in faith formation, they ultimately chose Powers because it is a larger school offering a greater variety of classes, sports and after-school activities. Powers also is closer to their home. Chad graduated last spring

“Every day, we pray in homeroom and then we have a religion class on our schedule, and then every Wednesday we have Mass. There is a Kairos retreat for the juniors and seniors, and then every individual grade has a retreat once a year. Plus we have a service day where we go out into the community. Through all of it, I feel like my faith has really developed.”

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“And it’s been great for us, too, because we’ve had the chance to get to know a lot of the other families, and I’ve done things with other moms who you know share similar beliefs with you and the direction you want your children to go.” “We felt that each iteration

of going to school should be a little larger, without being overwhelming,” Scott adds. “We wanted Chad and Dillon to get exposure to more people, and Powers offered that plus greater curriculum choices, sports and clubs. “There is a lot of talk that Catholic schools are too

sheltered, but I think it’s the opposite. Because there is not the secularism of the public schools, you can talk about all the issues and news from every angle, without ignoring the role that faith and religion have on the decisions we make. You just don’t have that option in public schools.”

“There is a lot of talk that Catholic schools are too sheltered but I think it’s the opposite. Because there is not the secularism of the public schools, you can talk about all the issues and news from every angle, without ignoring the role that faith and religion have on the decisions we make. You just don’t have that option in public schools.”

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and Dillon completed his junior year. For Chad, the influence of a faith-based education was especially significant; he is attending St. John Vianney Seminary at the University of St. Thomas in St. Paul, Minn. this fall. After four years of undergraduate work, he hopes to return to Michigan and enroll in Sacred Heart Major Seminary in Detroit. Dillon is still mulling over his future, but has also valued the religious aspects of attending Powers. “Every day, we pray in homeroom and then we have a religion class on our schedule, and then every Wednesday we have Mass. There is a Kairos retreat for the juniors and seniors, and then every individual grade has a retreat once a year. Plus we have a service day where we go out into the community. Through all of it, I feel like my faith has really developed,” he says. Dillon joined his older brother on the cross country and track and field teams, and witnesses a core value system that extends beyond the normal school day into every extracurricular pursuit. “It seems like our coaches, as much as our teachers, are really invested in us,” Dillon says. “They go out of their way to get to know you on a personal level, and you can talk to them about anything.” It is this sense of community that greatly appealed to the boys’ mother, Sue, and has left her thankful the family chose Powers. “Having your children be able to go a priest, a teacher, or a coach who cares about them with any problem or issue they’re facing is very comforting to a mother.

Why they picked Powers: While the Mrdezas opted for Powers over St. Thomas More partly due to size, the school is not too big; Flint public schools Carman Ainsworth (1,737 students in 2013), Northern (1,409) and Southwestern (1,351) have massive populations compared to the 723 enrollees at Powers. (high-school.com) “I would highly encourage the Catholic school choice,” Scott says. “Part of it is the religious and core-faith reasons, but even for people outside of our Catholic faith – there are a lot of non-Catholics who go to Powers – they may go for the higher moral standards, less secular/liberal influence or for many of the other reasons we’ve already discussed. “I’ve found in our experience there that the teachers have a greater interest in the kids. They know them. They’re involved more. The class sizes are generally smaller than the public schools with more one-on-one time, and, financially, there are options. Some people see the price of tuition and it scares them off, but there is financial aid available. “For everything that was important to us, sending them to a Catholic high school just made the most sense, and we’re really happy with our decision.”

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ishop Earl Boyea concelebrated with many priests at the dedication Mass for the new Powers Catholic High School in Flint.

Before Mass, several speakers thanked Bishop Boyea for his faith in the project. When he was told the diocese didn’t have the money, his response was, “Look harder.” Dr. Kathy Kirtek, chair, for the PCHS 22

Board of Directors gave the keys of the school to the bishop and said, “Welcome home, everything seems right. We did it. We finally did it. The city of Flint has had a positive impact on us and we will have a positive impact on the city.” Principal Tom Furnas talked about the miracle of the school and thanked the many donors that made the new school possible. The Mayor of Flint, the Honorable Dayne Walling shared, “This is the largest private redevelopment in Flint. There is a powerful spirit of renewal in Flint.” Old Powers was built in the ’70s when eight Catholic high schools were closed to build it. William Haley, executive director, Genesee County Catholic Schools said, “They closed the schools and consolidated.

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It was a sacrifice but people gave and gave.” Three high school seniors thought the school really cool. Lindsey Wisner said, “We will be the first graduating class from the school.” Katlyn Moonan remarked, “Everyone has become more of a family.” And Claire Peabody shared, “The old section and the new section bring everyone together.” John Gazall, president of Gazall, Lewis & Associates Architects, Inc., an alumnus, stated, “It is very exciting to complete the project for Powers. We did it in three years. We reclaimed the building for the students and the city of Flint.” The 545 students have found a new home thanks to all the efforts of those who went before them. By Jan Hoffbauer | Photography by Don Quillan

Clockwise from top left: The opening of the dedication of the new Powers High School. A large turnout for the dedication. The ribboncutting for the new school. Bishop Boyea concelebrates the dedication Mass. The congregation receives Communion at the dedication Mass. The entrance procession. Bishop Boyea sprinkles holy water in blessing.

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SYRIA UNREST: In this Sept. 8 photo, a girl stands in front of a building destroyed by what activists said was shelling by forces loyal to Syrian President Bashar Assad in the northern town of Ariha.

Special Report: War in Syria

n March 15, 2011, the so-called Arab Spring arrived in the Middle Eastern nation of Syria, taking the form of demonstrations calling for the resignation of President Bashar al-Assad. The growth of the demonstrations soon provoked Assad, whose family has been in power since 1971, into deploying the army against the uprising. The resulting civil war soon grew to its current state, which finds approximately nine separate factions all pitted against the government. The war continues to rage and reports of the regime’s use of chemical weapons against its citizens now has the United States moving ever closer to yet another military intervention in the troubled Middle East. The just war question

Understanding the Catholic response to the proposed use of military force in Syria by the United States requires consideration of whether such a strike is just. The Catechism of the Catholic Church enumerates strict conditions for the legitimate use of military force: 1. t he damage inflicted by the aggressor on the nation or community of nations must be lasting, grave and certain; 2. a ll other means of putting an end to it must have been shown to be impractical or ineffective; 3. t here must be serious prospects of success; and 4. t he use of arms must not produce evils and disorders graver than the evil to be eliminated.

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Maryann Cusimano Love, Institute for Policy Research Fellow at the Catholic University of America, argues that the Syrians clearly have the right to defend themselves against the military attacks of the Assad regime. However, the question as to whether external actors such as the U.S. have a just cause to militarily intervene to protect Syrians from their own brutal government is far more complicated. For example, the Catechism states that the evaluation of these conditions as “justifying war” belongs to those who have the responsibility for the common good. (2309) In other words, only a right, public authority can enter into war, guided by the right intention of protecting peace and the common good. But, Love asks, who has the rightful authority to assert just war theory in the protection of civilians in humanitarian interventions? Many say only a right, public, international body such as the United Nations would qualify – rather than a single state alone.

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The pope Pope Francis has likewise asserted that dialogue and negotiations are “the only option for putting an end to the conflict and violence that each day cause the loss of many human lives, especially among the unarmed population” in Syria. This sentiment was reiterated during an Aug. 25, 2013 Vatican Radio address:

“With great suffering and concern I continue to follow the situation in Syria. The increase in violence in a war between brothers, with the proliferation of massacres and atrocities…leads me once again raise my voice that the clatter of arms may cease. It is not confrontation that offers hope to resolve problems, but rather the ability to meet and dialogue.” Most Rev. Earl Boyea, bishop of Lansing

Many local bishops have called for dialogue rather than military action in Syria. One such example is Bishop Richard Pates of Des Moines, Iowa. On Aug. 29, 2013, in his capacity as chair of the U.S. Catholic Bishops’ Committee on International Justice and Peace, he wrote to Secretary of State John Kerry. While Bishop Pates decried the use of chemical weapons as atrocious, he stated that the “longstanding CALLING FOR DIALOGUE: position of our conference of bishops is that Bishop Richard the Syrian people urgently need a political soPates of Des lution that ends the fighting and creates a fuMoines, Iowa ture for all Syrians, one that respects human rights and religious freedom.” He also urged the United States to “work with other governments to obtain a ceasefire, initiate serious negotiations, provide impartial and neutral humanitarian assistance, and encourage building an inclusive society in Syria that protects the rights of all its citizens, including Christians and other minorities.” Additionally, Catholic Relief Services, the international humanitarian arm of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, has already programmed $26 million for the Syrian refugee crisis. The funds will provide trauma counseling, shelter, food, water, medical equipment and services and help with education.

As the media widely reported, Pope Francis asked for Saturday, Sept. 7, to be observed as a day of fast and prayer for peace in the mideast, particularly in Syria. The pope’s message is addressed to all Catholics, as well as to persons of good will from other faith traditions throughout the world. Saturday is, as the pope observed in his Angelus message this past Sunday, the vigil of the birth of Mary, Queen of Peace. Pope Francis condemned both the use of chemical weapons in Syria and the current proposal to respond with military force. “How much suffering, how much devastation, how much pain has the use of arms carried in its wake in that martyred country, especially among civilians and the unarmed!” Saying that “War begets war, violence begets violence,” he is asking instead that prayers and fasting be the response of Christians and others who seek peace. I requested parishes throughout the Diocese of Lansing to join with the Holy Father and the universal Church in this plea for divine assistance. I ask the faithful of this diocese to pray for peace. Additionally, I ask that they prayerfully consider a fast from a portion of their usual food or some other voluntary act of personal sacrifice. Mary, Queen of Peace, pray for us.

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The seeds of war “Injustice, excessive economic or social inequality, envy, distrust, and pride raging among [people] and nations constantly threaten peace and cause wars. Everything done to overcome these disorders contributes to building up peace and avoiding war ... ” – Catechism of the Catholic Church (2317)

Pre-protest Syria was characterized by the following: high poverty rates, increased socioeconomic inequality due to policies benefiting mostly a government

connected minority, a declining standard of living, dramatically rising commodity prices, high youth unemployment, strictly limited rights of free expression, association and assembly, imprisonment and torture of human rights activists, and discrimination against women and ethnic minorities in the public sector. The fruits of war “Because of the evils and injustices that all war brings with it, we must do everything reasonably possible to avoid it.” – Catechism of the Catholic Church (2327)

Estimated Deaths: 83,260 to 110,370 Refugees: 2,000,000 Displaced inside Syria: 4,250,000 Schools damaged/destroyed: 3,000 Economy shrinkage: 35% Massacres, torture, food deprivation as a weapon of war, rape as a weapon of war, kidnapping, and use of children in combat also have reportedly characterized the conflict.

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WYD 2013: Clockwise from top: Three million people attend World Youth Day’s closing Mass on Copacabana beach in Rio de Janeiro. Pope Francis hears confessions during World Youth Day. Pope Francis kisses a baby while riding along Copacabana beach.

World Youth Day 2013

he Catholic Church celebrated World Youth Day in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, from July 23-28, 2013. The theme for the celebration was “Go and Make Disciples of all Nations.” (Matthew 28:19) The final Mass of the event drew an estimated 3.2 million to 3.7 million people, ranking it second only to the 1995 World Youth Day Mass with Blessed Pope John Paul II, held in Manila in the Philippines, which was attended by 4 million to 5 million people.

The origin – According to WorldYouthDay.com, the event has its roots in1984. That year, at the close of the Holy Year of Redemption, more than 300,000 youth accepted Blessed Pope John Paul II’s invitation for an International Jubilee of youth on Palm Sunday in St. Peter’s Square. Inspired by the massive showing, the late pontiff exclaimed, “Who claimed that today’s youth has lost their sense of values? Is it really true that they cannot be counted on?” The following Palm Sunday, which also happened to coincide with the United Nation’s International Year of the Youth, the pope again welcomed the youth of the world to Rome. The success of the gathering led him to institute World Youth Day on Dec. 20, 1985, and the first official WYD was held in 1986. The very next year, the second event and first international WYD took place in Buenos Aires, Argentina. There have been 13 International World Youth Day celebrations in all.

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The vision – “When, back in 1985, I wanted to start the World Youth Days ... I imagined a powerful moment in which the young people of the world could meet Christ, who is eternally young, and could learn from him how to be bearers of the Gospel to other young people ... Millions of young people have taken part, and as a result have become better and more committed Christian witnesses.” (Blessed Pope John Paul II at WYD 2002 in Toronto, Canada – WorldYouthDay.com)

The next time – Pope Francis has announced that the next World Youth Day will be held in Krakow, Poland, in 2016. Poland, is a country of around 38 million people, roughly 90 percent of whom are Catholic. The choice also is especially significant because Krakow is the former diocese of Archbishop Karol Wojtyla, who, of course, became John Paul II, the founder of World Youth Day.

In his own words: The message of Pope Francis

To those discerning a vocation “God calls each of us to be holy … but he has a particular path for each of us.” However, “in a culture of relativism and the ephemeral, many (say) it is not worth making a lifelong commitment, a definitive decision, forever, because we do not know what tomorrow will bring.”

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U.S. bishops attended the event

“I ask you instead to be revolutionaries, to swim against the tide. Yes, I am asking you to rebel! To rebel against this culture that sees everything as temporary, and ultimately believes you are incapable of responsibility, of true love … have courage to swim against the tide, to be happy.” “God calls you to make definite choices … to respond to your vocation is to move towards personal fulfillment …” “Do not be afraid of what God asks of you … in him we find real joy.”

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“[Show] by your life, that it is worth taking risks for Christ and his Gospel” and that “it is worth recognizing the dignity of each human person.” (CNA/EWTN News)

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To the Latin American bishops “Bishops must lead, which is not the same thing as being authoritarian … Bishops must be pastors, close to people, fathers and brothers, and gentle, patient and merciful. Men who love poverty, both interior poverty, as freedom before the Lord, and exterior poverty, as simplicity and austerity of life. Men who do not think and behave like ‘princes.’ Men who are not ambitious, who are married to one Church, without having their eyes on another. Men capable of watching over the flock entrusted to them and protecting everything that keeps it together – guarding their people out of concern for the dangers which could threaten them, but above all instilling hope, so that light will shine in people’s hearts. Men capable of supporting with love and patience God’s dealings with his people. The bishop has to be among his people in three ways: in front of them, pointing the way; among them, keeping them together and preventing them from being scattered; and behind them, ensuring that no one is left behind, but also, and primarily, so that the flock itself can sniff out new paths.” (Address to the Leadership of the Episcopal Conferences of Latin America Rio de Janeiro – July 28, 2013)

To us all “Let us all work for that word which is unpopular today: solidarity. It is a word that people always try to put aside, because it is irksome, and yet it is a word that reflects the human and Christian values that are required of us today … so as to counter the throwaway culture, according to which everything is disposable. A culture that always leaves people out of the equation: it leaves children out, it leaves young people out, it leaves the elderly out, it leaves out all who are of no use, who do not produce, and this must not be! On the contrary, solidarity includes everyone. You must continue to work for this culture of solidarity and for the Gospel.” (Pope Francis on Rio de Janeiro’s “Cathedral Radio” on July 27, 2013) “I want to ask you a favor, a small favor: pray for me, pray for me, I need it.” (Impromptu address by Pope Francis from the balcony of the Basilica of the Shrine of Our Lady of Aparecida, after Mass on July 24, 2013)

Catechesis sessions in 25 languages

7,814 Priests at the final Mass

9,500

U.S. youth attended the event

350k

Pilgrims registered for the event

4Hosts million made for the various Masses

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yourcommunity things to do: Oct. 1, 7 p.m., Most Holy Trinity Church, 545 N. Maple, Fowler will host the wellknown author and motivational speaker Immaculee Ilibagiza, who will share her story. Her first book, “Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust,” is an autobiographical work detailing how she survived the Rwandan Genocide. All are welcome to attend. For information, contact the parish at 989.593.2162. Oct. 3, “A Season for Healing” is a nine-week free small group Bible study designed to help women break free of the guilt and grief of abortion. Space is limited. Are you or a friend struggling to cope after an abortion? God longs to heal you. Please contact an ArborVitae post abortion recovery counselor at 734.994.8863 ext. 14 or asfh@arborwoman.com for a confidential consultation. Oct. 4, 7 p.m., in celebration of its 35th anniversary, St. Mark the Evangelist, Goodrich, will dedicate its new Peace Prayer Garden in honor of St. Francis of Assisi and Pope Francis. All are welcome to attend. Oct. 5, St. Joseph Catholic Church in Adrian will celebrate its 150th anniversary with a gala at the Adrian Tobias Center on the campus of Adrian College. A cocktail reception (cash bar) will begin at 6:30

p.m., with dinner and a program at 7:30 p.m. Reservations are required. For ticket information, call 517.265.8938. Oct. 13, 9 a.m.-3 p.m., Church of the Resurrection, 1531 E. Michigan Ave., Lansing, will have a Craft Show and Luncheon in its parish hall – handmade crafts and homemade bake goods – including a soup and salad lunch, $5, 11 a.m.-2 p.m.

Oct. 19, 10 a.m.-3 p.m., St. Mary Parish, 14200 E. Old U.S. Hwy. 12, Chelsea will have its 8th annual Fall Fest Craft Show, raffle and bake sale. Author Richard Baldwin, Death in the Choir Loft, will be available for book signings. Admission is $2, children 13 and under free. For information, call 517.851.7210.

Oct. 13, 2 p.m., the Divine Mercy Cenacles Choir of Holy Redeemer Church will host the “Let It Be Concert” performed by internationally known Catholic artist Tajci. It is at Holy Redeemer Church, 1227 E. Bristol Road in Burton. For further information, call the parish at 810.743.3050.

Oct. 20, noon – 4 p.m., 58th annual St. Andrew Harvest Dinner, 910 Austin Dr., Saline, includes: roast beef, mashed potatoes, sides and homemade pie; cost – $7 adults, $5 seniors 60 + and children 6-12, children 5 and under free. For information, contact the parish at 734.429.5210.

Oct. 13, 12:30 p.m., Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw – join in the fun and tailgate at Barton Hills Country Club, Ann Arbor, to benefit its programs and services. Cost $150 per person. For more information or sponsorship opportunities, call 734.926.0153 or development@csswashtenaw.org.

Oct. 26, 5:30 p.m., St. Paul, 111 N. Howell St., Owosso, will have its harvest festival, dinner, raffle and pumpkin carving contest. Cost: adults $10 and families $25. Questions, call 989.723.4277.

Lansing Catholic Singles invite singles, mid 30s-60s, to their October events: Oct. 11, Happy Hour, 5:30 p.m. at Tavern on the Square, downtown Lansing; and Oct. 20, trip to Crossroads Village in Flint, including a ride on the Huckleberry Railroad and Genesee Belle Riverboat, cost $16 – will carpool from Lansing at 10:30 a.m. RSVP and payment are due by Oct. 5. For more information and to RSVP, call 517.321.7886 or email lansingcatholicsingles@live.com. New

Catholic Charities: St. Vincent Catholic Charities, www.stvcc.org or 517.323.4734, ext. 1700 Oct. 20 and 27, 3 p.m.-6 p.m., a We C.A.R.E. marriage preparation class will be held at St. Gerard Parish in the Adult Faith Room, 4437 W. Willow St. Register four weeks prior to the class. Beginning Nov. 29, St. Vincent invites you to join its Holiday Giving Program by sponsoring a refugee family, teen or select an Angel Gift Tag from one of our Angel Trees found at local shopping malls and retail shops. To receive information about how you can get involved, contact Thomas Woods at 517.323.4734 ext. 1203 or woodst@stvcc.org. Catholic Charities of Shiawassee and Genesee counties, 810.232.9950 or www.ccsgc.org The third Thursday of each month, everyone is welcome to celebrate Mass at 8:45 a.m. with us in St. Michael’s chapel, 609 E. Fifth Ave., Flint, for the prayer intentions of Catholic Charities’ clients and staff.

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Nov. 8, 6 p.m., St. Thomas Aquinas Parish School Faith and Fundamentals Celebration at East Lansing Marriott at University Place. The event includes silent and live auctions, Ss. Joachim and Anne Service Award and Golf Ball Drop – ball closest to the pin wins $5,000. To purchase balls, email Golfball@FaithFundamentals.info. For more information or to purchase tickets, visit www.FaithFundamentals.info. Nov. 9, Dexter Knights of Columbus will host a Murder Mystery Dinner Theater

Oct. 19, 6 p.m., join us for the second annual Harvest Hoe-down for the Hungry benefitting Catholic charities Soup Kitchens at Wild Spurs, 5720 Perry Rd., Grand Blanc. Enjoy a D.J., live band, line dancing, raffles, prizes and a silent auction. Call 810.232.9950 ext. 226/325 for more information or email givehope@ccsgc.org. Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County, 734.971.9781 or csswashtenaw.org We C.A.R.E. is a communication and relationship enhancement program for engaged couples, upcoming classes are: Nov. 8-9 and Dec. 6-7. For information or to register, call 734.971.9781 ext. 421 or visit csswashtenaw.org. Livingston County Catholic Charities, 517.545.5944 or livingstoncatholiccharities.org. Oct. 15, Nov. 19 and Dec. 17, 6 p.m.-8 p.m., Foster Families Are Needed, orientation will be held for people interested in learning about the foster care program at Catholic Charities’ office, 2020 E. Grand River, Ste. 104 in Howell. RSVP Beverly to reserve your spot, 517.545.5944.

chain witnessing to the sanctity of life. People gather along Grand River Ave. from Abbot Rd. to Williamston – meeting at Abbot Rd., Brookfield Plaza, Summit Bank near Okemos Rd., St. Martha Church or Main St. in Williamston near St. Mary Church – to thank God for babies saved, ask God’s blessing on pro-life counseling centers and pray for the success of life-affirming initiatives and all people working for life. Please join us or join a Life Chain in your community.

October Café events: St. Mark the Evangelist, Goodrich, will have a Vatican II Speaker Series in its parish center: All begin at 6:30 p.m. – Oc.t 6, Church, Oct. 13, Liturgy, Oct. 20, Sacred Scripture and Oct. 27, Social Justice. All are welcome to attend. Questions, call the parish office 8 a.m. - noon, Mon.-Fri. and 6 p.m.-7:30 p.m., Mon.-Thurs. Oct. 12, 9:30 a.m.-3 p.m., Christ Church Spirituality Center, 61 Grosse Pointe Blvd., Grosse Pointe Farms will have “Pathways to Prayer.” Come and experience guided meditation, journaling, movement prayer, centering prayer and gain many tools to enhance your spiritual journey. Presenter is Janene Ternes. Register at 313.885.4841 ext. 113 or christchurchgp.org/spirituality.html. at 8265 Dexter-Chelsea Rd., social hour 6 p.m.-7 p.m. and dinner 7 p.m.-9 p.m. Only 150 tickets, cost $50 each or a table for eight for $360. All are welcome. Call 734.426.5558 or visit www.dexterkofc.org. Dec. 8, 3:30 p.m., Lansing Catholic High School cordially invites you to attend its Madrigal Dinner and enjoy an evening of medieval feasting and Christmas celebration. Tickets are $20 per person or $35 per couple and include dinner, music and entertainment. Proceeds will benefit the Music Department. Reservations must be made by Nov. 26. To order tickets, contact Colleen Murray at 517.267.2109 or colleenmurray@lansingcatholic.org. Toward Healing: Coping with the Death of Your Child, 7 p.m.-9 p.m. Mondays beginning Jan. 20 at St. James Catholic Church, 1010 S. Lansing St., Mason. Ten-week grief support group for parents coping with the death of a child of any age. No church affiliation necessary; no new members after the second session. Call or email Pat at 517.676.4232, info@ masonfirst.org; or Rose at 517.676.5513, stjamesros@gmail.com to register. Oct. 6, 2:30 p.m.-3:30 p.m., Lansing’s 22nd annual Life Chain is a peaceful prayer

Sign up for a Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekend to make your good marriage great. Saginaw Center for Ministry, Nov. 8-10; St. James Parish, Mason, Jan. 24-26, 2014 and St. Mary Parish, Pinckney, Feb. 14-16, 2014. For information or to register, contact Harry and Karen Porter at 888.628.7433, hrporterhouse@hotmail. com or visit www.wwme.org. Join other Christians in 40 Days for Life Lansing to pray and fast for an end to abortion. The campaign is Sept. 25 through Nov. 3. You also are invited to stand and peacefully pray during a 40-day vigil outside WomanCare, 1601 E. Grand River in Lansing. A mid-point celebration will be held Oct.16. For time, location events and information, visit www.40daysforlife.com/ lansing. To volunteer, email Cecilia Tombelli at 40daysforlifelansing@gmail.com. For campaign updates, like us on Facebook @ 40 Days for Life Lansing. Oct. 20, Mission rosary makers fall gathering at Immaculate Heart of Mary Parish, 3815 S. Cedar, Lansing. Everyone interested in mission work and/or rosary making is invited to a potluck luncheon following the 11:30 a.m. Mass. Guest speaker John Drake is the founder and director of the Lingap Center, an orphanage in the Philippines, which was opened in 2006 and offers housing, schooling, three meals a day and other life necessities for 100 children.

At our retreat centers: St. Francis Retreat Center, 703 E. Main St., DeWitt, 866.669.8321 or www.stfrancis.ws/ Oct. 13-17, Catholic Writers Guild will hold a writers retreat, “Your Word is My Delight”; And Oct. 25-27, Retrouvaille Weekend Retreat for troubled marriages. To register, call 517.290.5596. Weber Retreat Center, 1257 E. Siena Heights Dr., Adrian, 517.266.4000 or weber.adriandominicans.org Oct. 3-6, A Serenity Retreat for Women: Strength for the Journey through the 12 steps of AA. Pre-Retreat, Thurs.,7:30 p.m. – Fri., 6 p.m.; Retreat, Fri., 7:30 p.m. – Sun., 1p.m.; non-refundable deposit of $50. To register and for information, call Weber Center.

Sisters of Life Two Ann Arbor residents professed vows for the Sisters of Life on Aug. 6, the Feast of the Transfiguration. Archbishop Samuel Aquila presided at the Mass when the sisters joined the contemplative order with other sisters. Sister Marita de la Fuente, 35, attended Christ the King Parish, Ann Arbor, and professed her perpetual vows. And Sister Maria Regina Immaculata Williams, who attended St. Francis of Assisi, Ann Arbor, made her first vows. Sister Marita will attend the Institute of Psychological Sciences in Washington, D.C. She will work toward a master’s degree in psychology grounded in a CatholicChristian view of the human person. Sister Maria will serve in a mission at the Sacred Heart of Jesus Convent in Manhattan. This holy respite is where pregnant women live with the sisters. After giving birth, the women are invited to remain at Sacred Heart for up to eight months for the new beginning of their child. According to Sister Talitha Guadalupe, S.V., the Sisters of Life Order was founded in 1991. The Motherhouse is in Suffern, N.Y. There are currently 70 sisters serving around the United States. – Jan Hoffbauer

Diocese of Lansing’s Catholic Women’s Conference This year, the Catholic Women’s Conference – Transforming Love – is Oct. 26 at the Best Western Plus Hotel, 6820 S. Cedar St., Lansing. In attendance will be 1,400 women ranging in age from teens to senior citizens. According to Cheryl Quinn, “Last year far exceeded our expectations. Our purpose is to do God’s work. ... and it is the most awesome experience to see God working.” For more information about the conference, email lansingdiocesecwc@ sbcglobal.net. 29

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St. Joseph’s mission trip to Oklahoma The youth group from St. Joseph Parish in Dexter learned what to do after an EF3 tornado, which is the third strongest category with estimated winds of 136 to 165 mph., hit there last year and 210 homes were damaged. So this year, 57 teenagers and 11 adults went to Oklahoma to assist in the cleanup after a deadly tornado destroyed the area. Don Dalgleish, youth director, says, “The students knew what to do. They organized themselves, dismantling homes by separating the debris in piles of metal, wood and glass. And the Federal Emergency Management Agency took care of picking up the debris.” The National Relief Network sponsored the group of students, 13 and older, and parishioners from St. Mary Magdalen, Brighton and St. John, Howell, to assist in the cleanup. According to Don, the students brought their own air mattresses and slept in the gym at St. James Church, Oklahoma City. After the first day, because the temperature was more than 100 degrees, they started at 5 a.m. The students worked eight hours and then each group took turns preparing meals. They were joined by another group from Chicago. More than 160 students did what they could to help the Oklahoma people prepare to rebuild their homes. – Jan Hoffbauer

St. Mary and St. Gerard’s mission trip For 20 years St. Mary, Chelsea, and St. Gerard, Lansing, have teamed up for a summer mission trip. This year, they took the students to New Jersey to help people displaced by Super Storm Sandy. The group was sponsored by the National Relief Network. Mary Lou Hahn-Setta, St. Mary’s youth minister, says, “The kids worked so hard and listened so well. They did home repair and removed 20 tons of debris.” Jeff Corder, St. Gerard’s youth minister, shares, “The students helped Rob Milling get his house ready, with flooring, exterior walls and siding the house.” Almost 50 students and adults traveled from both parishes. 30

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SS. Cornelius and Cyprian Church, Leslie, celebrated its 150th jubilee Sept. 15. The church was built in 1863, suffered a fire in 1906 and was rebuilt in 1907. It is the oldest Catholic Church in Ingham County. Father Mike Petroski has served the parish for the past 10 years. Parishioners commented on how much the church means to them. Eileen Hunter says, “My grandfather helped build the church. We have five generations that attend here.” Thomas Badall says, “I love the serenity of the place. It is a tiny parish community. Our four children were baptized and confirmed here.” Lori Badall says, “It is a small parish, but it is big in spiritual compassion.” – Jan Hoffbauer

Knights’ ‘Returns for Vocations’ fundraiser The Knights of Columbus Msgr. Esper Council 3027 held their eighth annual “Returns for Vocations” fundraiser on July 13. The council represents Most Holy Trinity Parish, Fowler. The group raised $5,500 to aid those pursuing vocations by collecting returnable bottles and cans (48,000+) and monetary donations from the community. The event was a way for the community to “Return” support to their local seminarians. More than 95 volunteers participated in the collecting and sorting. The fundraiser was such a success that the planning already has started for next year.

Livingston County Catholic Charities therapist celebrates 50 years of religious life Precious Blood Sister Joanne Belloli celebrated her golden jubilee during a special banquet and social in Dayton, Ohio. Since 2003, she has been a substance abuse/mental health therapist at Livingston County Catholic Charities and previously worked as a substance abuse therapist at Brighton Hospital for six years. Sister Joanne Belloli entered the Sisters of the Precious Blood from then-Guardian Angels Parish in Detroit on Dec. 31, 1962, (class of 1963). She earned a bachelor’s in education from the University of Dayton. She also has master’s degrees in education from the University of Detroit Mercy; in pastoral studies from the University of Loyola; and in social work from the University of Michigan.

Family Assessment Clinic joins Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County The Family Assessment Clinic (FAC), formerly located at the University of Michigan School of Social Work, has affiliated with Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County (CSSW) and is now located at 4925 Packard Rd. in Ann Arbor. This new affiliation “will strengthen the commitment and impact we all have toward helping children and families who experience trauma and maltreatment through physical abuse, sexual abuse and/or neglect in our community” says Larry Voight, president of Washtenaw’s Catholic Social Services. “We are delighted to work with a program that aligns with our mission of helping those most vulnerable in our community.” For more information about the Family Assessment Clinic, please visit the agency website, www.csswashtenaw.org, or contact it directly at 734.926.4650.

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We all share that concern. But what can we do to help sustain their faith? Dr. Christian Smith conducted the national study on youth and religion nearly a decade ago. There have now been three followup studies on this same group to discover the factors leading to a more active and integrated faith life. The faith life of parents was the number one indicator. This reality, when combined with other significant indicators, resulted in a higher percentage of emerging adults active in their faith and living faithfully. Here are the top seven indicators: • Parent religiosity is high • Relationship with parents is good • Parents have higher education • Parents are married • Organized activities involvement is high last word • Positive peer influence reported by parents Patrick Rinker • Close friends attend is the director of youth ministry and young adult Other indicators that were evident in the ministry in the Diocese of active faith life of youth included signifiLansing. cant faith experiences – retreats, a strong personal prayer life, other caring adults in their faith community and involvement in acts of service, such as service trips. But still, the No. 1 indicator is the faith life of parents. So the question for those of you who are parents of teens is this: How is your relationship with God? C. Jones

Many times, children entering the foster care system do so with the clothes on their back and a plastic bag filled with their belongings. Thanks to a generous grant from the Gannett Foundation, Livingston County Catholic Charities is able to provide a new suitcase to 20 children entering its foster care and adoption programs. Providing the children with a suitcase of their own for their belongings as they relocate provides them with a sense of dignity and a safe place to store their special items.

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Parishes looking for some ways to strengthen parents’ faith, and thereby increase the likelihood of your teens continuing to grow in their faith lives, may want to check out this resource – tinyurl.com/ParentsFaith If you are a teen heading to college, or are already there, check out tinyurl.com/FindNewman. You can fill out the information there and someone will get in touch with you to tell you where there is campus ministry geared for you at your stage of life and faith. For young adult ministries in the Diocese of Lansing, please go to our diocesan web page for information about this ministry and young adult groups near you – tinyurl.com/DOL-YAM. And, finally, while our teens are in high school, let us continue to prioritize the ministry we offer them with competent and well-trained youth ministry leaders who will walk with our parents and our teens as we grow in faith together. “The presence of any designated youth minister in the teen’s congregation is also statistically associated with increased teen attendance without parents. “However … only the presence of a full-time youth minister … compared to no designated youth minister at all, significantly increases these teens’ attendance.” (Soul Searching, pp. 113-114) 31

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