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here’s something quite invigorating about the start of a new year. It’s a time to reflect on the past year, plan for the future year, brush out all the cobwebs and start afresh. But, Covid had other plans for us. It’s still here, we’re still in a state of lockdown, fighting the virus, sanitising, social distancing, and trying to live a seminormal lifestyle.

The tide will turn, but in the meantime we, as a community, need to take one day at a time, and keep moving forward with a positive attitude, all the while being vigilant and caring for our loved ones as we ride this second wave together.

One thing the lockdown has forced us to do, is enjoy local – especially the opportunity to get away for a few days to unwind, recharge the batteries, and take time out to smell the flowers. This issue has an amazing competition for one lucky couple. This is your chance to win a two-night stay at Teremok Lodge & Spa, which includes breakfast, a spa treatment, gourmet picnic, a bottle of bubbly, flowers and more. Worth R18 000, don’t miss this opportunity to get away for a couple of nights – even though it’s only in uMhlanga – but it’s still the perfect hideaway for some time out. Read more on page 24.

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As in the past, our first issue of the year has an educational slant, and true to form we unpack a couple of topical issues relevant to learners, parents and teachers.

Journalist Anne Schauffer explores the upside of learning additional languages, and realises that the bilingual brain is more nimble and efficient. She rounds off the story by saying, “Experiencing ‘differences’ in global cultures, clearly fosters an understanding and willingness to embrace those differences.”

When we think of the world around us, this is a trait so badly needed today.

Anne also considers the benefits of children partaking in extra-mural activities – especially activities they want to do for themselves, for pleasure, for fun – and not necessarily do to be the best at something, which, sadly, often parents pressurise their children into doing. School and academics can be a challenge for some children, so give them the space and freedom to find their own “happy place”.

As we enter the hottest month of the year, enjoy the early sunrises, make the most the our long days, and relax in the shade with a chilled glass of your “favourite” as you browse the latest issue of The Ridge. This is our magazine – if you have any story ideas or thoughts you’d like to share, please drop me a line. I’d love to hear from you.

Until next time, stay safe.

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ake French.

A seductively beautiful language to listen to, and useful in that it’s spoken on five continents by about 265 million people, and used by numerous internationally respected bodies like the United Nations.

Similarly, Spanish, German and more. But there are layers upon layers of both visible and invisible advantages to learning a foreign language, and the practical aspect is just one.

Francesca Balladon, former UKZN Professor of French, has 36 years teaching experience in both higher and tertiary education: “Knowledge of a foreign language encompasses much more than a passing acquaintance with the grammatical system of the language. Learning the language requires knowledge of the patterns of living, acting, reacting, seeing and explaining the world of the target country.”

She believes there are two compelling reasons around the value of learning languages other than your own country’s official ones: “Learning a foreign language has an educational worth which is pertinent in any geographical or social context, in that it provides an opportunity for personal growth. Secondly, it has implications for the shaping of values vital in a pluralistic cultural context such as South Africa.” Big, bold concepts for sure, but there’s an enormous amount of highly respected

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research to support her views.

It stands to reason that the worldviews of different language speakers are different, just as the concepts within which we all operate are culture-bound.

Learning another language not only takes you beneath the skin of another culture, but opens you up to other ways of looking at the world.

Francesca says, “At a deeper level, the study of languages helps us understand that which we, as humans, have in common. Learning French involves, to an extent, ‘becoming’ French. It’s a valuable means to enable us to reflect on humankind, on differences, to learn to be tolerant of these differences, and more importantly, to understand them.

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CLASSROOM THERE’S SO MUCH MORE BEHIND CERTAIN SCHOOL SUBJECTS OR EVEN STUDENT EXCHANGE PROGRAMMES THAN MEETS THE EYE – BENEFITS WE NEVER EVER DREAMT OF, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

learning goes a long way towards promoting the values of tolerance and openness, and preparing learners to live in a pluralistic society.”

Bottom line, in order to speak another language competently, you are not only required to

learn about “the other”, but also to restructure your view of reality, and learn to see the world differently.

Heather Peel is head of French at Hilton College, and a matric national examiner and moderator. Her research

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into the value of bilingualism has led her down many paths – the physiological one is powerful. Essentially, there’s ample proof that multilinguals display detectable growth in the hippocampus, the part of the brain which helps govern

memory and mastery of new material; likewise in three areas of the cerebral cortex, where higher-order reasoning is processed.

But it is the knock-on effects – not how the brain looks but how it functions – that argue most for learning additional languages. The bilingual brain is simply more efficient: “The constant toggling that comes from having to choose between two words for every object or concept in your world is a totalimmersion exercise in what cognitive scientists call ‘task switching’ and what the rest of us call trying to do 17 things at once. The loss of efficiency when we rotate among tasks is called the global switch cost.

Everyone slows down some

ABOVE: Francesca Balladon, former UKZN Professor of French. or makes more errors, but multilinguals in all age groups have less of a drop-off. That increased efficiency plays out in people’s lives outside the lab – and there is no reason to think it doesn’t – that would confer a real advantage over monolingual classmates, colleagues and

others.” In short, the brain becomes more nimble.

Heather references a 2020 feature in The Financial Times, which explained: Research shows bilinguals have an enhanced awareness of other people’s points of view, born from their deeper understanding, from an early age, that some people have a different perspective. They are also better than monolinguals at giving selective attention to specific features of a problem, while ignoring misleading elements, and at switching between different tasks.

Professor of Developmental Linguistics, and founder and director of the research and information centre Bilingualism Matters, Professor Sorace

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points out that bilinguals do not switch off their “other” language – their brains actually grow to be more adaptable than those of monolinguals – a vital asset in a complex business world.

Professor Sorace’s research shows speaking another language offers not only utilitarian communication advantages, but also cognitive benefits. Her message to business is: “Hire more multilingual employees, because these employees can communicate better, have better intercultural sensitivity, are better at co-operating, negotiating, compromising.

But they can also think more efficiently.”

Sensitivity to others, improved communication, adaptability, ability to compromise and more – all invaluable life skills, many of which Sue Meehan of Durban Girls’ College, pinpoints as benefits of their student exchange programme.

Sue has spent five years with the portfolio of Exchange and Global Initiatives. At 27 years old, the school’s exchange programme is probably the largest and oldest in the country, with 17 partner schools in over 10 countries, with capacity of around 30 girls in Grade 9 to apply for travel to another country in Grade 10 year. It’s not a one-way street either – the school/families reciprocally host those 30 partner girls from around the world. Sue’s passionate about the programme which has a »

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ABOVE: Heather Peel is head of French at Hilton College, and a matric national examiner.

Research shows bilinguals have an enhanced awareness of other people’s points of view, born from their deeper understanding, from an early age quote by Gustave Flaubert as its motto: Travel makes one modest.

You see what a tiny place you occupy in the world. Sue says, “My absolute joy and passion is to see how the girls flourish when they are

given these kinds of opportunities.”

For all the right reasons, the school has a very stringent application process: “We measure them on academics, peer and teacher relationships, general integration and engagement in school, whether it’s cultural, academic, sport, or more. Over and above those diagnostics, we interview the girls to find out precisely why they want to ‘go on exchange’.” Sue’s goal is to ensure the girls are going for the right reasons, and her experience in this field is reflected in what she’d describe as around a 96% success rate in the choice of girls, and matching them to a school and home/girl in another country.

Sue says girls who go on exchange are often those who like to step out of their comfort zone, and want to try something new: “They’re not always the most confident girls, but want to grow in confidence; not necessarily good communicators, but want to improve their communication skills.” She adds, “They often want to learn a new language – even if they don’t necessarily take French at school, they want to see what it’s like going to school in France.” They come with the right reasons.

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ABOVE: Sue Meehan of Durban Girls’ College.

To fully benefit from the experience, girls need to be adaptable, be willing to compromise, and be flexible” children really gain from exchange programmes: “To fully benefit from the experience, girls need to be adaptable, be willing to compromise, and be flexible. If they can do that, they return having grown in confidence, with an ability to handle different or uncomfortable

circumstances, with improved communication skills and an enhanced ability to compromise.

The friendships too, that they often forge with the girl they’re twinned with, can last a lifetime.” It boils down to a single question: “How human are you?” asks Sue. All those “human” attributes like compassion, communication and compromise – these are put to the test on exchange programmes, and can be massively enhanced if you’re open to the experience.

When Sue initiates the year’s programme, she presents to parents and prospective exchange students, and is very clear on one thing: “Your girls will not just be receiving, they’ll be giving too. It’s an experience versus an expectation.

And, importantly, your daughter is an ambassador for our school, and for South Africa. It’s a responsibility they need to honour.”

Travel in person, or travel through acquiring a foreign language, presents young people with opportunities to expand their worldview. Experiencing “differences” in global cultures, clearly fosters an understanding and willingness to embrace those differences. That sensitivity is certainly something of value, which the world needs today, and certainly will tomorrow.

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learn to commit to one or other hobby or interest, and by having a range of them, choose what appeals to them.”

There are, of course, important distinctions between the various motivations behind taking extra music, cricket or drama (remedial classes aside). For young children, those choices are often parent driven.

Are extra-mural classes about achieving excellence, or about experiencing joy and satisfaction in the mere doing of it? A child’s reaction to it will usually answer that quite swiftly, but there’s certainly a life lesson in how commitment to a task is essential for success. Messing about creatively with paint at an art class is satisfying and rewarding enough – it’s not about winning the art prize or even later doing art for matric.

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e all know parents who spend their afternoons driving their young children to extra this and that, every day of the week, relentlessly. It begs the question, “Why?” Is it necessary, or should the children have more time out?

Gail King, headmistress of Montpelier Pre-Primary School, reminds us, “We had a very different childhood to the children today. We walked or cycled to school, played out in the streets until late, didn’t have television or technology which kept us indoors – so for starters, being outdoors is not nearly as much an integral part of their lives as it used to be of ours. Outdoor activities are often something parents have to orchestrate.” Gail also points out that, without overdoing it, extra-mural activities certainly can and do have value: “Children

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Bring someone

into an ensemble, they’re part of a team and they grow. Even some who’ve been reticent, come out of their shells

when part of a group”

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Likewise with music. A practising musician, Mike Mazzoni has been teaching drums and percussion as a school extra-mural for 30 years. “Children find drumming exciting. To get a half-decent sound out of a drum doesn’t take nearly as much discipline as, say, a violin or piano.” He’s endorsing what Michel Schneuwly, principal trumpeter of the KZN Philharmonic Orchestra, had to say.

Michel’s taught music for many years.

Today, there are quite simply far fewer students: “Learning a musical instrument takes real commitment, long repetitive hours, and discipline – there’s no shortcut. But that’s totally contrary to the way the world operates today. Everyone wants instant gratification, the fast-track to success. Few are prepared to put in the hours.”

Mike’s drumming classes always begin as one-on-one lessons, so skills are built at the learner’s own pace, nothing competitive: “No one is judging them, and they know that.

If you start with a group, and one individual progresses faster than another, that youngster becomes despondent and likely to give up.”

He says children benefit in so many different ways from playing the drums: “Most can see and feel they’re making progress, and in that way, feel good about themselves and grow in confidence.” Many of the schools at »

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which Mike teaches have percussion bands, and once skills have been learnt, many children enjoy that group collaboration: “Bring someone into an ensemble, they’re part of a team and they grow. Even some who’ve been reticent, come out of their shells when part of a group.” But not all: “Some don’t want to join up with others or compete in competitions, they play purely for themselves. It’s their outlet.”

Mike watches his students develop in different directions, not just their skillset, but their joy: “No matter what you do, there’s always a great deal of pressure to be the best. Fact is, in life, there’ll always be someone better than you, so best learn that early. That doesn’t mean you can’t strive to do or be your best, or really enjoy what you’re doing. It’s not about passing or failing, this is about getting something out of it.

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“Some students dream of going on to be in bands, others leave them behind when they leave school, and others still go on to learn other instruments after drums. But the joy was had, their sense of timing (and maths) was enhanced, self-esteem grew – and many of the more serious ones developed or discovered their sense of humour!”

Mike laughs, “A drum is the most unsociable instrument there is.” But, as he says, “It’s creative, accessible, great stress relief, very physical, and for some, a real outlet from a situation in which they’re struggling. It could be that they’re not good at sport and feel ‘lesser’, or they’re having mental health issues. Drumming tends to have a bit of a rebel image to it, and it gets kudos from the other children.”

For children, it’s about finding their passion, and with young children, it’s

usually parents who help them there.

As Gail says, just as life outside school has changed, so too within its doors: “Exposure of children via the school to so many outdoor, environmental and cultural experiences has been made tricky. There are strict departmental rulings around transporting children off the property, so now, many of those extra-murals come to us. There are wonderful little businesses focusing on different aspects of child education, and they bring their knowledge and experience to us – whether it’s snakes, creepy crawlies, or balancing equipment.”

Heather’s Puppet World has been in operation countrywide for 40 years, and Heather Tomlinson and daughter Jane, fully qualified teachers, tour the country with the puppets, props, and scenery: “We see great advantage in drama and music, and our »

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shows are fully interactive. We have several shows on environmental topics, like saving the rhino, and protecting our oceans.”

The content rolled out at pre-primary schools falls under the national curriculum, so at Montpelier, movement, music, and environmental play are all part of daily activities. But what about outside the school?

Clearly, those parents who are “bush” people, will take their young children regularly to game parks, and they’ll grow up with an understanding and appreciation for the environment, wildlife and so on. More and more regional nature reserves, organisations like Green Corridors, freelance trails guides and others offer nature-based outdoor education opportunities for children. Increasingly, a strong connection to nature is considered at the very least, vital for good mental and physical health, and at the most, educational in terms of seeing and understanding what is impacting our planet and how our actions play a positive or negative role in our own destiny.

The Wildlife Environmental Society of South Africa (WESSA) runs a programme with the support of the Department of Basic Education, namely Eco-Schools, an international programme active in 78 countries, with over

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A strong connection to nature is considered at the very least, vital for good mental and physical health 1 200 registered SA schools. “It’s the biggest environmental movement globally,” says programme manager Cindy-Lee Cloete.

“Essentially, young people learning about their natural surroundings and how they can improve it. Each project is flexible and dynamic, so a school can work within its own parameters. We encourage schools to find innovative solutions to challenges – for

example, a vertical garden if you lack space.”

Numerous KZN schools are members, and some have taken their nature connection to wonderful heights, from recycling to income-generating veggie gardens. The Eco-Schools programme encourages schools to rather integrate conservation/environment into all subjects, so young people are immersed in an holistic vision of the environment and its impact.

Drumming, ballet, ball skills or birdwatching. This is a time for young children to explore wonderful new worlds, build confidence, learn life lessons, and hone in on, and identify, what gives them joy and satisfaction. And it doesn’t have to be stereotypical ballet for girls, and drums for boys! Let them find their happy place.

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An inspiration TO ALL MEET A FEW PRESENT AND PAST HIGH ACHIEVERS FROM SOME OF OUR WONDERFUL SCHOOLS IN AND AROUND DURBAN

Brigitte Larkin, Teneo Schools

Saabira Amod, DGC

One to watch, Brigitte Larkin is currently embarking on her AS levels as one of Teneo’s top achievers. In 2020, she took eight subjects in the CAPS curriculum where she maintained a 90-plus aggregate.

She has a passion for French which she says, “made me appreciate different cultures through learning a language”.

Brigitte was recently awarded a bursary for Teneo International School (British International curriculum). An all-rounder, she is also a gifted artist.

Saabira started her journey at DGC in Grade R, and says that being appointed as Head Girl is a meaningful and rewarding way to conclude her final year at DGC. Saabira feels excited and humbled to take on this role, knowing it is challenging and demanding, and will require time and resource management, as well as selfdiscipline. The pride Saabira holds for DGC is what will drive her efforts and passion to excel and bring out the best in herself and her school.

Tristan Smith, DPHS Tristan, a Grade 7 learner in 2020, has featured prominently in academic merit lists ever since his entry into DPHS. His determination, dedication to the task at hand, and attention to detail are some of his attributes, and these have assisted him in his pursuit of academic excellence. A true Prep boy.

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Christian Elsner, Reddam House uMhlanga

Tiara Pillay, Northlands Girls' High School

Christian, a Grade 10 student at the College of Reddam House uMhlanga, is not only an academically talented student who achieved Full Academic Colours at the end of 2020, he is also a passionate sportsman who was awarded Half Colours for hockey.

Chris is an example to others for his philanthropic involvement. He has participated in various feeding schemes, assisted with beach clean-ups, and provided a worthy service at local baby homes. “I like to view every day, and everything that comes my way, as an opportunity to grow and develop,” says Chris. He embodies the multi-faceted elements of the Reddam House ethos and philosophy.

Hard work and determination are the key factors that have allowed Tiara to lead a schooling career with many achievements and success. The transition from primary to high school was challenging, but Tiara thanks her educators for always being passionate and going the extra mile to ensure she reached her potential.

Tiara believes the constant support and guidance of her parents enabled her to persevere through the difficult challenges that came with 2020, ultimately leading to her achieving the Dux Award. “I feel motivated to continue to achieve success as I embark on my tertiary education.

I have been provisionally accepted at Stellenbosch University studying their new and exciting degree, Bachelor of Data Science.”

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Corey-Rachel Ward, St Mary's DSG

Ethan Abraham, Redwood College

“Corey-Rachel was our 2020 Vice Head Girl who epitomised all the qualities of the ethos and values of the school,” says Jo Kinsey, head of high school. “She has always been well-liked amongst her peers and teachers, and was an exceptional academic student and sportswoman.”

In 2020 Corey-Rachel played for the St Mary’s 1st team in action netball and waterpolo, and was awarded Full KZN Colours and Half Colours for swimming. She was also selected as the action netball Captain and waterpolo Vice-Captain.

“We wish her well as she enrols to study Industrial Psychology at TUKS while continuing to play sport,” says Jo.

Hans Christian Anderson said that where words fail, music speaks. In life there are those who are gifted in bringing words and emotions to life through music. Redwood College, La Lucia, is privileged to have a student with this remarkable ability.

Ethan Abraham is a polite and pleasant young man whose greatest passion is music. Through hard work and commitment, he makes the piano come alive with his recitals. His talent has earned him first place in the 2020 All Africa Student Convention and he has been awarded an International Student Convention nomination for his piano solo. Where words fail – Ethan’s piano speaks.

James Jarvis, Clifton School Clifton School are immensely proud of Grade 11 learner James Jarvis, who was placed first in the Shelagh Digby Golf Trophy held at Durban Country Club, shooting three under par (69).

His recent results are as follows: KwaZulu-Natal U19 Championship, Mount Edgecombe CC – 1st (70); Cameron Murray Memorial, Kloof Country Club – 3rd (73); Nomads KZN U19 Trophy, Royal Durban Golf Club – 1st (70); Victoria U19 Championship, Victoria Golf Club – 2nd (74).

Currently Clifton’s No1 player in the 1st Team, James also won the Clifton Champs in 2020.

Giselle Duval, Our Lady Of Fatima DCS “As the Executive Head of high school for 2021, I am excited to take on the role of leading my peers with humility and dignity.

I am looking forward to working with this inspiring group of girls to make 2021 a memorable year. 2020 taught us to never stop reaching for our goals, but rather to find alternative ways of attaining them. It made us believe that no matter the obstacles we might face, we will indeed find a way to overcome them.”

Giselle offers these comforting words to every young person who is afraid of having to do things differently.

She emphasises that when we come together to support and lift each other up in trying times, we are capable of much more than we can imagine.

Keira Naidoo, The Wykeham Collegiate At The Wykeham Collegiate, girls are encouraged to discover and develop their own talents through an holistic curriculum focused on self-belief and self-reliance. With world-class facilities the girls at TWC are encouraged to try different sport and cultural activities to find something they enjoy and excel in.

At just 14 years old, Keira Naidoo has taken this to a whole new level – she has excelled in everything, and was selected for the KZN swimming, tennis and athletics teams while still playing saxaphone in the school Senior Wind Ensemble. Even though 2020 was a disruptive year for academics, Keira still managed to achieve an “A” aggregate, proving that balance is key in achieving your goals.

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The great

ESCAPE Ñ JUST ROUND THE CORNER

WHO SAYS YOU CAN’T TRAVEL? TEREMOK’S BOUTIQUE LODGE & SPA IS AN URBAN SANCTUARY UNLIKE ANY OTHER. IT’S RIGHT ON OUR DOORSTEP IN UMHLANGA, AND HAS ALL THE INGREDIENTS FOR THAT SPECIAL OCCASION – OR SIMPLY A GLORIOUS ESCAPIST TREAT FOR YOU AND YOURS

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icture this. Awake at 3am, tossing and turning, analysing why you’re feeling flat and grey, then trying to conjure up something to drag you out of the lockdown blues. Could be you? Not this time. It was a Teremok Lodge & Spa client.

By 9am, she’d made the booking for herself and a friend, and by 11, Sunday morning, they’d checked into Teremok for an overnight treat. They were joyously anticipating the spa treatments, private dinner on their veranda, oodles of fresh air and space … and the longed-for contact and conversation of a good friend in a safe and sensational space.

The two live a mere 10 minutes from Teremok – which, under current circumstances, prompted the guilt-free spontaneity of leaping into their cars and heading for heaven!

Teremok is Russian for “little hideaway”, and when the gates close behind you, you’re doing just that. Hiding away, in plain sight, with every possible spoil on the menu – body and mind, tick.

Sisters Tracy Gielink and Kim Davidson, together with mom, Debbie Davidson, are celebrating an impressive 18 years of ownership of Teremok. It’s been there, tucked away like a little secret green oasis, within easy walking distance of uMhlanga Village and the beach, for nearly two decades. But it’s no secret to their regular international clientele

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and ever more regular locals, who know it and love it. What’s not to love?

There’s ample cause for celebration too, as they’ve just won two trumpetblowing awards in a year, that for most, is best forgotten: Best Bespoke Boutique Hotel in KZN (Lux Life Resorts & Retreats Awards 2020), and Boutique Hotel of the Year, South Africa (Corporate Livewire SA Prestige Awards).

At Teremok, there’s no Covid doom and gloom. The team has taken the downtime to tweak and twist the decor, introduce more glorious greenery, fatten up the koi, and dream up some wonderfully innovative ideas to keep us all upbeat; ideas around nurturing, around relaxation,

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about laughter. Teremok is where you go to quieten the noise in your head, and replace it with happy self-talk. You’ll see.

Many are doing just that. Particularly, say the Teremok team, those who’re celebrating various occasions: “It may be because life is a little flatline that everyone is turning birthdays and special occasions into landmark ones,” says Kim. “We’re having a wonderful time curating exquisite, bespoke marriage proposals, intimate wedding anniversaries, and other stylish customised occasions. We’re fortunate, because Teremok’s layout allows easy compliance with Covid protocols. We have private chill spaces on verandas, lush green garden expanses, spacious rooms with even »

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bigger windows and sliding doors. All eight en suite rooms have room to breathe.”

Teremok works closely with Jacqui Warren of The Perfect Proposal. Jacqui, like the Teremok team, is all about fine attention to fabulous detail. At Teremok, she’ll arrange a photographer … all the way down to the “Will You Marry Me” pennants strung between trees in the garden, fairy lights, and a string quartet. If you’re looking for magic, she has the wand.

And food, glorious food. This is Tracy’s forte, and she spends every moment dreaming up something different, something delectable. Teremok serves breakfasts, then lunch and dinner are by request. Tracy is queen of their wonderful picnic offering, which you can have in your room, on your patio or in the garden. Up to you. These old-fashioned wicker baskets are crammed full of comfort food goodies like grandma used to make – and it’s the perfect way to social distance, eat at your leisure, where and when you like.

Teremok can also order in for you from your favourite uMhlanga restaurant – and there’s plenty to choose from.

At Teremok, buying, stocking and promoting local has always been one of

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their pillars. But since lockdown, even more so: “It’s imperative we all support local businesses,” says Tracy. “We need each other. Aside from that, the love and work they put into their products, makes it a superior, healthier, and more interesting one anyway. Whether it’s the simplicity of eggs or milk from the farm, local Blue Bird coffee (sustainably sourced, roasted in the Midlands), Abingdon wines (KZN’s only wine estate), Musgrave Gin, or Sean and

Marcelle Roberts’ That Brewing Company beer (Durban-based craft beer), we are committed to using the best from local suppliers and growers.”

As five-star as Teremok is in every way, it’s also delightfully unstuffy and quirky in every other way. This is where Debbie comes out to play – if a surprisingly pink beaded flamingo doesn’t peer at you around a corner, you’ll get lost examining an old telephone, radiogram or artwork.

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Luxe escape prize up for grabs - worth R18 000 Spend the occasion of your dreams at Teremok Lodge & Spa where itÕs all about extreme attention-to-detail. The prize for two people is valued at R18 000 and includes: Two nights accommodation in a luxury suite Breakfast A full body massage per person PLUS, The Perfect Proposal will set up a romantic garden rendezvous with a gourmet picnic basket, a bottle of bubbly (or non-alcoholic alternative), a bouquet of flowers, plus a 30-minute couples’ photo shoot and a personalised photo frame.

To enter: Go to The Ridge website – www.theridgemagazine.co.za – click on the competition, fill in your details and submit. It’s that easy. OR, follow us on Facebook to enter.

ABOVE: Sisters Tracy Gielink and Kim Davidson, together with mom, Debbie Davidson, are celebrating an impressive 18 years of ownership of Teremok.

As fivestar as Teremok is in every way, it’s also delightfully unstuffy and quirky in every other way

The spa too, is a stylish, quirky and calming space, with a large loyal local clientele, who wouldn’t consider going anywhere else. Although its reputation centres around non-invasive anti-ageing treatments, Tracy says the focus is on quality first, no matter what the treatment. Open seven days a week until late, they’ve found that their range of massages has been in far higher demand than usual, their couples massage in particular: “Lockdown has meant we’re all starved of a lack of touch,” says Tracy. “We need that for good mental health.”

Teremok’s spa has introduced a sensational new massage with CBD oil.

Sourced locally by Cannadose, this is the highest grade CBD oil. The benefits are both legendary and legion, from improving sleep to reducing anxiety, pain and inflammation.

At Teremok, the lodge connects perfectly with the spa. A great breakfast for two, then a massage, a pedi with friends, then a catch up on the patio … a night away from life as we know it, with evening massages, a picnic on your deck, a good night’s sleep to the sound of the sea.

At Teremok, one night feels like a glorious week away.

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TEREMOK LODGE: Spend a date night at Teremok on a bed-and-breakfast basis. You’ll get: An early check in  Full body massage each A three-course dinner prepared by a private chef A romantic turndown R4 500 a couple.

Valid until March 31, 2021. Ts&Cs apply.

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ath Denholm was working as a speech therapist in a private practice in uMhlanga when she first came across her now husband, Daren. “I had to teach children how to store information to their long-term memory. To be honest, I had crammed most of my Speech Therapy and Audiology Degree into my short-term memory – and the information was long gone! I felt like a complete fraud,” she says. Kath had heard about Daren who was making a name for himself as “the memory guy” after competing in several World Memory Championships.

“I researched and stalked him online and watched all his videos over and over again.

The cost of his courses far exceeded my meagre budget, though.” But in a divine twist of fate, Kath and Daren met through church, fell in love and Daren soon had a wife who shared his passion for learning and memory enhancement.

“He encouraged me to compete in the World Memory Championships too, and we went to China when I was six months pregnant,” Kath says.

There she met a nine-yearold girl who was not only a talented competitor but found learning genuinely enjoyable.

“She set me thinking that kids could find learning and memory development fun – and it was this that set the stage for what has become Little Genius.”

Daren has built a successful business around teaching

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GENIUS in training

KATH DENHOLM’S FUN COURSE FOR CHILDREN TEACHES SKILLS CRITICAL FOR LEARNING AND ACADEMIC SUCCESS, WRITES CANDICE BOTHA

ABOVE: Daren and Kath Denholm with their three children.

TOP: Puppet characters used on the Little Genius programme.

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memory and learning skills to high school and university students and adults, after his dismal grades at university were completely turned around by implementing them in his own life. Kath has adapted the skills he teaches – through Genius Series – for a younger audience. “The sweet spot is from around Grade 2 to Grade 5,” she says.

The programme uses a group of entertaining puppets to teach children skills including effective listening, the distinction between critical and non-critical information, identifying key concepts, effective reading, note-taking, summarising, and the art of revision. “The tone is entertaining and humorous and children find the weekly lessons genuinely enjoyable,” says Kath – who runs the courses at local schools, children’s homes as well as working through it with her son, Jack, who is in Grade 2.

Little Genius has been eight years in the making and Kath has seen students who worked through the material in their early school years successfully matriculating.

“Learning is a science we can

all get better at,” she says.

“Organised, creative and consistent reinforcement of key information leads to superior academic or learning results.

Building the foundational skills

that we teach through the puppets enables kids to see results and learn effectively.”

The facilitator of the online course is an essential element, especially for younger children,

but Kath says parents have been amazed at how much they have learnt about how they learn themselves, through working through the course with their children. “It’s so important to equip yourself with the strategies and model them for your children. Starting early – as soon as they can read – is also essential. As is being consistent and working through the course week by week,” she says. “Parents who understand the concepts and how it increases their child’s potential and makes learning fun and straightforward, are also able to help them implement the strategies –

which is key to success.”

The online Little Genius series includes the puppet show videos, workbooks, quiz books and star charts and runs for three terms of 12 weeks with lessons taking 40 minutes each. “Parents enjoy the fact that they can revisit the course as their children grow, and refresh just certain skills if necessary,” says Kath.

“The skills children gain apply to all areas of learning – from comprehension to fact recall – and we find it so rewarding to see how our Little Geniuses grow in confidence.”

FOR MORE INFO kath@genuisseries.com

WHY CHOOSE US? Apart from our solid ECD Foundation, the stability gained from the social, emotional, physical and intellectual stimulation facilitated at our Prestige schools on a daily basis is priceless.

OUR QUALITY - Qualified, experienced educators and professional staff - Dietician approved menu - Spacious ventilated classrooms - Excellence in hygiene, health and safety - Structure and routine, free play - Extra Murals

OUR SAFETY

OUR EDUCATION

- Covid compliant and registered

- Full CAPS Curriculum

- High staff to child ratio - Appropriate playground equipment - CCTV surveillance system - Controlled pick up and drop off access.

- Reggio Amelia Approach - Dynamic Development and stimulation program - Baby Massage and Gym - Comprehensive reports ages 3 months–Grade R

www.prestigebaby.co.za KZN BRANCHES: UMHLANGA: 083 661 8239 DURBAN NORTH: 083 761 9463 MORNINGSIDE: 082 496 9597

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brandnew year, particularly after the unmentionable one we’ve had, presents us with a brand-new slate. It gives us the chance to tackle aspects of our lives or lifestyle which no longer serve us, and to turn them around.

Have you been procrastinating about selling and moving from the large family home? Or toying with the idea of downsizing into a secure cottage in a retirement village? Have you been putting it off because the thought is overwhelming?

None of these decisions or actions is for the faint-hearted – but as you know, it doesn’t get easier. This new year is a really good time to start the process, to do some homework, and examine your options.

To start with, make a list of priorities. Need a retirement village in a particular area, pet friendly, with frail care, two bedrooms, and within a specific price range? You’ll be amazed how putting pen to paper clarifies your thinking, and narrows down the options.

We all have concerns about the change and new lifestyle.

All those issues you’re facing, others have faced – and with no exception, now the move is behind them, they’re all glad, and can focus on the future.

Listen to what a few of our residents at Mount Edgecombe Retirement Village who’ve made the move have said.

Ingrid Ludlow has been renting at Mount Edgecombe

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LEFT: Residents relish the companionship, friendship, and lush outdoors.

A change of

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NEW YEAR. WE ALL KNOW JANUARY HERALDS RESOLUTIONS – SOME WE KEEP, OTHERS NOT. A NEW YEAR DOES, HOWEVER, PRESENT US WITH A CLEAR SPRINGBOARD TO MAKE THE LIFESTYLE CHANGE WE’VE BEEN PROMISING OURSELVES

for two years. Her husband had died, and the following year she had cancer. She knew she needed to sell the family home, and with her children living at Mount Edgecombe, she (and they) wanted the proximity: “I decided to rent here so I could see if it would work out for me.

I’d spent 30 years in my house, and had to get rid of so much stuff … but I knew I was doing it for the right reasons. It was a relief to give up the house and the pool. Now I drive through the Estate to see the children and grandchildren, and they can stay with me. One of the best things at MERV is that I

feel so safe. I honestly didn’t realise I was uneasy in my big home, until I felt the marked difference. I’m really happy here, and I intend to stay.”

Meet Rose Hobson. After 33 years in their Berea home, Rose and her husband moved to MERV a year ago. She says it’s impossible now to imagine how tough the move was, because it’s faded into insignificance: “It’s the best thing we ever did,” she says.

The children had left for overseas, and the Hobsons were toying with the idea of selling up. A friend suggested they look at MERV: “I’m not

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moving into a retirement village,” said Rose. “I’m too young.” But they went to look anyway, and were surprised at how much they liked what they saw.

Two days after moving into MERV, Rose popped round to her neighbour: “Hi, nice to meet you. Please could you keep our keys, we’re off to Hong Kong in the morning.” And off they went. Rose says the lockup-and-go aspect, the sight and sound of life around you, and the sense of security is invaluable. Rose is alone most of the week as her husband

The sight and sound of life around you, and the sense of security is invaluable works away, but at MERV, he doesn’t have to worry about her at all, and Rose, well, she’s loving her life.

Downsizing is a challenge. But, as Rose said, “Baby steps. One kitchen drawer at a time. Getting rid of all that stuff we didn’t need or want, was really cathartic!”

And they didn’t have the benefit of MERV’s new Concierge Service. Now, from the moment you choose MERV, you have the support and assistance of the MERV Concierge team who understand about moving home, and have all the tools at their fingertips!

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randparents and grandchildren have a special bond that is difficult to explain. It’s also fairly common for grand-aunts and grand-uncles to have a special place in the hearts of young children within the family. Retired grandies have more time to spend listening to a slew of high-pitched stories, playing Snap and building intricate Lego cities – and they also have far more patience and are quite happy nodding off midway through the fourth rerun of Paw Patrol.

Some grandies live close to their grandchildren while others may have families overseas – but either way, grandparents have an important role to play. It is necessary for young children to have an older person in their lives to give them stability, cuddles, read stories and overflow with unconditional love. Keep in touch with your overseas families and chat to your grandkids as often as possible, congratulating them personally on each milestone reached.

Visit as often as you are able to and stay for as long as you can without causing stress within the family unit.

It is important for grandparents to accept and respect the fact that their children are now grown-up and have a significant other with whom they have built their own family unit. Although it may come as a surprise to some grandies, we are not

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part of that unit. In fact, we are not welcome within that unit unless we follow the rules and routines laid down by the nucleus family.

There are bath time and bedtime routines, nap time and snack time routines; rules about screen time and sugar intake. These rules and routines have been put in place not only to make the parents’ lives easier but also to provide the children with a sense of security through routine. Don’t rock the boat – you’ll make bad friends and get to see less of your special little people.

On the other hand, children should also respect their parents’ boundaries. Retired grandparents are busy people: they may play golf, bridge or

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grandparents should never do

Request more grandchildren.

Give naming advice.

Post about them online without their parents’ permission.

Hand off your grandchildren to anyone who wants to hold them.

Try to raise your grandkids like you did your own children.

Be lax about car seat safety.

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bowls; attend art classes or work three mornings a week.

These things are important to older people – they are the things we couldn’t do when we were working long hours providing the best we could for our own families. Your children therefore must also accept and adapt to your rules and routines. Draw up a timetable of when you are free to babysit or help with the school run or swimming lessons. Arrange sleep-overs convenient to you both.

I’m sure it annoys you as it does me to hear how some grandparents are literally abused by their children’s expectations of them. Both sides need to sit down, discuss and draw their parameters so that there are no future misunderstandings. My house rules aren’t quite as stringent as my daughter’s, but they fall within her boundaries, so the occasional spoiling is overlooked and supper in front of the telly is ignored!

Enjoy and love your grandchildren. They are precious beings. Next time you’re watching them play with your heart overflowing with love, think of James Joyce’s words: As you are now so once were we.

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IT’S FRIGHTENING TO THINK THAT IN KZN ALONE THERE ARE AROUND 120 000 CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS WHO ARE CURRENTLY NOT IN SCHOOL – BUT THERE’S A LIFELINE AT HAND TUCKED AWAY IN THE SUBURBAN HEART OF UMHLANGA, WRITES CATHI WARRINER

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hanyisa Developmental Centre, a registered trust and Public Beneficiary Organisation, is a place “where light comes from” (the Zulu meaning for Khanyisa), a safe haven of hope, preparing a better future for students who have previously been sidelined. Not only is Khanyisa changing lives, but they’re also lifting the lid on stigmatism and generalisations.

Since 2013 the centre has catered for special children who don’t “fit” into regular places of learning and therapy intervention, whose prospects would otherwise look extremely bleak for accessing the support they desperately need.

Amy Rodger, founder member, centre director and occupational therapist (OT), says Khanyisa is a centre with a difference, providing excellent intervention for all children with moderate to severe and multiple special needs. “Our aim is to provide hope for our students and their

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TOP LEFT: Aarav Sathdav

playing on the jungle gym with teacher Julia Hutton.

TOP RIGHT: Junior educator Pretty Mnkoyeni with Viwe Mthembu.

ABOVE LEFT: Zander Muthan enjoying a bit of fun on the swings.

ABOVE RIGHT: Munesu Jerahuni – always ready with a smile.

RIGHT: Amy Rodger with student Viwe Mthembu at an open day event.

families. There exists this misconception that children with autism, cerebral palsy and other disabilities won’t ‘amount to anything’. But if children with special needs are provided with appropriate learning opportunities, they can become contributing members of society, with meaningful jobs, who can love and be loved.”

She explained, “Many schools – even those aimed at special needs children – cannot cater for pupils with more than one diagnoses. Children with cognitive differences can also be physically challenged or have behavioural, sensory or other problems (often undiagnosed).”

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unique to each child – in an educational environment – starting from the age of 18 months right through to senior students of 15 years. Khanyisa not only provides an integrated programme for students who attend daily, but also serves the community by providing therapy (OT, speech and language therapist, and physio) for children who are in mainstream schools but need weekly therapy intervention.

Amy and her full-time staff of 23 teachers and therapists look at where a child is currently functioning developmentally, and then tailor-make goal-oriented programmes unique to each child. Academic, artistic and practical aspects are adapted to build confidence, maximise potential, and eventually build employable skill sets.

Debbie da Canha, one of Khanyisa’s parents shared that since their son joined Khanyisa “he has excelled beyond our wildest expectations. What we have experienced here is unlike anything we thought possible. Khanyisa has changed our lives.”

Lockdowns have proved difficult for the centre, as some of the children have highrisk comorbidities, and for many it’s not just their education at stake. Khanyisa was able to support these families with home visits and online assistance in order to ensure the continued development of each student.

Sadly, financial constraints have meant some have had to deregister.

Fundraisers are a regular part of the Khanyisa calendar, and business investment or sponsorships are welcomed, which are then eligible for tax exemption.

Costs range from R4 000-R9 000 a month depending on programme and extent of intervention required.

This means that those needing the most support don’t get any at all.

Often, by the time parents hear about Khanyisa, they feel isolated, totally exhausted and despondent about their child’s education and future prospects.

They’ve spent years investigating alternative options – only to be disappointed as some offer partial assistance in specific areas, but the necessary overall support is simply not there. Timeous referrals from medical/ educational professionals is critical, as early intervention can make a significant difference for children with different needs.

Khanyisa offers holistic solutions

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FOR MORE INFO If you are interested in being involved and supporting Khanyisa, or volunteering, please phone 031 561 9167 or email admin@khanyisacentre.co.za; www.khanyisacentre.co.za; W /khanyisacentre/

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ANELE MSWELI’S ALL-NATURAL PRODUCTS ARE FINALLY GETTING THE RECOGNITION THEY DESERVE, WRITES KATRINE ANKER-NILSSEN

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is how Mare & Itis was born. “I found a South African expat selling essential oils and started tinkering away in my little kitchen,” she says.

Not only focusing on skin and hair products, Anele had also realised that cleaning products in China had harmful chemicals that would cause a rash or peeling. “That’s when I made the first prototype of the Zesty Kitchen Cleaner.”

Anele moved on to Wuqing, a small district in Tianjin, and worked long hours as a Montessori English teacher and co-ordinator. “I was also studying interior design online,” she explains. “I was exhausted all the time, so I needed to make another plan as I couldn’t continue working myself to the bone.” Anele’s partner back home in South Africa, Kyle Watkins, told her to sit

nele Msweli and her three sisters were raised by her mom in Montclair. “At Mowat Park High School I was a bit of an odd ball, I was a library monitor and organised cake sales for Animal Action,” she laughs. “But a lot of my childhood was just me in my own head, dreaming big. And I was obsessed with South Korea and Japan, everything about the East fascinated me.

“Some of the best days of my life were spent at Rhodes University, where I studied a Bachelor of Science,” continues Anele. “After university I volunteered for Greenpeace Africa. The most memorable part of this journey was onboard the Rainbow Warrior, sailing with an eclectic and multi-national crew I learnt so much from.”

In 2016 Anele moved to Harbin in China. “I needed change, adventure and well, money, to be perfectly honest,” she says. Completing an online TEFL certificate, she secured a decent entry level job. “The first three months were hard, I missed home and it was just the biggest culture shock,” says Anele – who chose Harbin because it was a city most unlike Durban, with long and freezing winters.

“I remember being absolutely down with my dry hair, scalp and hands in Harbin. Everyone blamed the harsh weather,” she says. “After a YouTube rabbit hole spiral, I learnt so much about essential and carrier oils, and started making concoctions for my dry hair.” And this

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down and think long and hard about her future.

“For our relationship, someone had to move. I was that someone. And, I was going to start a business. I needed to do something new and something I loved – and that included tinkering, creating, and being environmentally conscious.”

Mare & Itis has grown far beyond what Anele had imagined. “From just selling at markets in China, we are now online and at numerous stockists in KZN,” says Anele – who laughs when asked about the story behind the unusual name, which originates from her student days at Rhodes. “Mare is a ‘Rhodent’ word that you’d hear buzzing around on a Saturday morning; meaning somewhat a fun yet debaucherous time. Itis is slang from the Boondocks which is your translation of ‘maagies vol, ogies toe’ – that feeling you have after Christmas lunch,” she explains. “I decided to put these two amazing things together to create something that is quintessentially me.

I love a good time and I love food.”

I needed to do something new and something I loved – and that included tinkering, creating, and being environmentally conscious” TOP: Anele during her time in Harbin, China.

ABOVE: A few of the all-

natural Mare & Itis skin products.

LEFT: Passionate about making a difference, Anele hopes to shift the consumer mindset.

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Anele had come back to South Africa for a friend’s wedding early last year. “I had a suitcase packed for two weeks, but then lockdown happened in both China and SA and I couldn’t go back,” she says. Mare & Itis Shoppe was propelled, and had to become a fully functioning income-earning business.

“The year 2020 will always remain a significant year for me and for the brand. It was all or nothing, and I have learnt so much about entrepreneurship and resilience.

“Mare & Itis home care products instantly convert an apartment into a home. They envelop the space with cosy and homely scents that often remind people of something. The non-toxic, natural and cruelty-free products are plant-based and biodegradable, work really well, and won’t break the bank,” says Anele – who still makes everything herself. “I formulated every single product with some help from friends in the industry. I think having studied science has helped me a great deal.”

When Anele is not tinkering, she loves being in nature, travelling to new places and talking to passionate people. Her partner is also an entrepreneur. “Seeing his fire lit, working tirelessly to build his dream, inspires me every day. It lights my fire too,” she says – adding that she met Kyle on holiday in SA in 2018. “We will talk about our businesses, the operations and the ups and downs until the wee hours.

It is so good to have someone with far more experience than you do, someone who can be a sane sounding board.”

This year Anele is focusing on growth by leading Mare & Itis into more retail stores.

“We want to shift the consumer mindset; it’s affordable and practical to shop consciously,” she says. “We also wants to educate. Even if you don’t buy a Mare & Itis product, but you have learnt something from us – whether it’s about essential oils or cleaning products, which will make you shop with your health and environment in mind – then we have done our part.”

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LIFE WELCOME TO PRESTIGE BABY & KIDZ ACADEMY – A LEADING GROUP OF PRE-SCHOOLS WITH THE AIM OF GIVING TODDLERS FROM THREE MONTHS TO SIX YEARS THE VERY BEST START IN LIFE

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n 2005, Prestige Baby & Kidz Academy was founded in response to the need for exceptional early childhood education in South Africa. There was also a clear vision – to provide the necessary balance of academic learning and play that all children need to excel, not only in grade school, but in later life as well.

Apart from excellence in our early childhood development (ECD) foundation, the stability gained from social, emotional, physical and intellectual stimulation experienced at Prestige schools is priceless.

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Understandably, learning to read and write is important, but at Prestige we believe it is essential for every child to develop a high level of selfconfidence and self-esteem to allow them the opportunity to find their place in the community. Prestige children learn through arts, projects and activities that reflect their ideas and interests.

More importantly, the ECD programme teaches children to learn invaluable life-long lessons from an early age – something they will use for the rest of their lives.

The facilities offered are beautiful and spacious, and following Covid regulations, the classrooms are exceptionally hygienic.

Meet the team The Prestige Group is directed by a comprehensive management team where collaboration is a dynamic process in which our staff across our branches combine knowledge, expertise, experiences, resources and strength to promote children’s growth and development at our schools.

Meet Principal Michelle Greyling of our uMhlanga branch. Her passion and heart

for children has earned her an admirable reputation as a contributor in ECD for almost two decades in the uMhlanga community.

Michelle, who is our Grade R lead, studied childcare and education in Britain and holds a B.Ed Foundation Phase Degree.

She has furthered her studies to include special interest in children who have different individual needs and how to provide for them in the school environment. She relocated to South Africa in 2006 with an amazing career opportunity in the ECD field, then joined the Prestige family in 2015 with her wealth of knowledge.

Apart from teaching, Michelle has also worked individually with young adults and children within a family unit. Her special interests include creative elements, music, reading, cooking and co-ordinating school concerts.

Raised and schooled in Cape Town, Principal Kirsten Katherine Brissett heads up the stunning Durban North campus. Her passion within the institution of ECD has facilitated both children and teachers in exceeding their full potential.

Along with excelling in the field of leading teams through child focused programmes, she furthered her career to

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become a child and family specialist. Kirsten is an internationally recognised certified children’s life coach.

Working simultaneously with her brainchild – Kids Unique Coaching – she focuses on empowering children through social and emotional learning.

Kirsten’s vision for a dynamic approach on early childhood learning combined with that of family support and instilling value systems, is entrenched deep within her heart.

After a decade of success, Prestige pre-schools have raised the bar for excellence in early childhood development, elevating an established group of facilities to a first-world premium standard.

We welcome you to visit our beautiful, warm and familyorientated schools.

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Illovo Sugar SA annually supports the Eston Trail Challenge, which is a major fund-raising event for the Eston Club and its community that caters for 130 commercial farmers

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and successful Eston Trail Challenge event went towards the upgrading of school infrastructure and sporting facilities for the Nippers Preprimary and Eston Primary schools.

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f you’re listening, you’ll hear even the greatest chefs say unashamedly that their mothers or grandmothers are their greatest source of food inspiration, often citing a single dish or family kitchen memory that kick-started their culinary journeys. Layer on top of that some serious theory that ranges from science to history to agriculture; plus insane hours in a hot kitchen with a perpetually furious boss, and eventually they get to call the shots on who eats what, when and for how much.

For us everyday home cooks, there’s a food memory or family-favourite recipe that’s become a go-to by default – and there’s a good chance it has become a springboard for some delicious signature cooking on our own turf. But there are some very simple rules I’ve picked up on at culinary school that genuinely mean the difference between good and GREAT cooking – and

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you can use them too. Here are my top five.  Mise en place is everything: French for “putting in place” – making a habit of your recipe prep before you start cooking will make your time in the kitchen a joy.

It’s a professional kitchen non-negotiable, and for good reason(s). A clean, organised path from your recipe to the table means an uninterrupted, efficient cook, so plan accordingly. Defrost, chop and measure your ingredients in advance, get all your utensils ready, then grab a glass of wine and enjoy the process.

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 We underuse herbs and spices: A pinch of this or that won’t result in bold and robust flavour, so next time give it some attitude! Try adding more than you usually would, and you won’t believe the difference. This includes basic seasoning with salt and pepper. It’s about trial and error and developing your ideal taste profile, but chefs can literally take years to perfect a dish in search of that utopian balance. Taste as you go and remember, you can keep adding – but you can’t take away.

 Stock is liquid gold: This nutrientrich and delicious-on-its-own bone (or vegetable) broth is the flavour base for the world’s greatest sauces, gravies, soups and more. Rocking if you can make your own from a roast chicken carcass and/or veggie offcuts, or buy good-quality reductions (not the blocks or granules). Plain rice boiled in stock instead of water is a delicious surprise – so imagine what it can do for your bolognese, chilli con carne or tray bakes.  Live the dream with butter and cream: Use good-quality farm butter and full cream for huge flavour boosts and luxurious textures. These are saturated fats, so it’s not wise to make these ingredients everyday purchases – but to elevate the occasional family favourite and make a big difference to your overall foodie journey, there really are no substitutes. Never cook grumpy: Another thing we hear from highly-awarded chefs is that food tastes better when it’s cooked with

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My Kinda *Bolognese Sauce • a healthy glug of olive oil • 1 large onion, finely diced • 4 cloves garlic, minced • 2 large carrots, grated • 500g lean beef mince • 1 glass red wine • 1 heaped teaspoon each of: dried oregano, dried marjoram, dried parsley, dried basil, paprika, dried chilli flakes • 1 tin Italian diced tomatoes • 6 large, fresh plum or roma tomatoes, finely chopped or puréed • 2 tablespoons tomato paste • 500ml chicken, veg or beef stock, hot • 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce • ½ cup cream • salt and pepper to taste • Parmesan cheese, fresh basil and sliced red chilli to serve

ABOVE: Durban lover of good food, wine and company, Ant Ellis. passion and love. While that’s as cheesy as a quattro formaggi pizza, it’s dead true – long days and bad moods can mean rushed cooking, distractions and ultimately poorly cooked, burnt or just misjudged flavours. If you aren’t in the mood, do everyone a favour and laugh it

off with a comforting takeaway, or a cup of tea and a sack of biscuits.

There are endless lessons to be learnt from culinary school – but there’s never a point when the learning is over. Here’s a basic I’ve been working on and perfecting since I was seven.

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On medium heat, add onion, carrot and garlic to a large flat-bottomed pot with olive oil. Sweat, don’t fry. Add minced beef, using a whisk to break it up evenly and brown.

Add red wine, cook until the boozy smell is gone, then add herbs and spices and mix.

Add all tomatoes, stock and Worcestershire sauce, mix and simmer on medium-low heat for 90 minutes. Crank up the heat to reduce to desired consistency for last 15 minutes and stir cream through. Season to taste. Toss with al dente penne and serve with lashings of good Parmesan cheese, fresh basil leaves and red chilli.

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ver the past decade, probiotics have become one of the fastest growing sectors of the natural health market. But why do we actually need them? And what benefits do they have for children?

Well, ensuring a healthy gut is arguably the most important factor in the overall health of your body. The bacteria in your bowels outnumber the cells in your body by 10 to one. This gut flora has incredible power over the immune system, meaning that the health of the body is largely tied into the health of the gut. Beneficial bacteria are responsible for the body’s ability to use the nutrition in food. They are responsible for the production of vitamins and fatty acids. They stop the build-up of disease-causing bacteria and harmful yeasts – such as Candida. And they produce natural antibiotics. In fact, one could say that no matter how good your diet is, or no matter what supplements you take, the ability of your body to use them is firstly dependent on the health of the bacteria in your gut.

When it comes to your children, beneficial bacteria are vital in the formative years of the body, ensuring good nutrition, immunity and growth. But another vital and often overlooked factor is that the gut plays a major role in one’s emotions, concentration and judgement … so much so that it has been nicknamed the “second brain”. Emotional stress, poor concentration, poor sleeping habits and general unhappiness are all factors which can very often be linked to bacterial imbalances in the digestive tract, and which can often be resolved through fixing that imbalance.

When choosing a probiotic for your children there are two general types of probiotic. Liquid (live fermented) probiotics are produced using a wide range of beneficial bacteria that are grown together, and compete amongst each other, to form the final product. They are the most natural form of bacteria since the conditions in which they are grown mirror the conditions inside the human body. Encapsulated (freeze-dried) probiotics are much easier to produce and store, however, and so make up most of the probiotic market. Encapsulated probiotics will also typically

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CHILDREN LET’S TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF PROBIOTICS FOR KIDS

The gut plays a major role in one’s emotions, concentration and judgement … so much so that it has been nicknamed the “second brain”

have high counts of Colony Forming Units (CFUs) to ensure that enough bacteria reach the gut to be effective. With liquid probiotics, however, very high counts of CFUs are usually not needed as the microbes have been grown in conditions similar to those in the body and are not killed off on their way through to the gut.

Whichever you prefer, the fact remains that ensuring a balanced digestive tract, along with a good diet, are the first steps in ensuring that you have healthy and happy children.

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he suicide rate in South Africa has increased alarmingly since lockdown began almost a year ago.

Depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders are burgeoning during these uncertain times.

When Dr Alan Howard, a Consultant in Emergency Medicine in the Northwest of Ireland for 12 years, returned home to South Africa at the end of 2019 to launch Ketamine Clinics of South Africa (KCSA), little did he know that Covid would strike a few short months later and the need for an effective treatment for resistant depression, suicidality and anxiety would grow like never before.

Ketamine, the party drug known on the street as “Special K”, is a dissociative anaesthetic that has been around since the 1960s and is on the WHO’s list of essential medicines. It was not until 2006 that ketamine’s remarkable ability to improve mood and reverse suicidal ideation in up to 80% of patients – even after a single infusion – was realised. Numerous studies and clinical trials have been undertaken since.

The greatest sustained benefit for patients with mood disorders like depression, bipolar disorder, PTSD, anxiety, post-partum depression and OCD, is realised after a series of six 40-minute outpatient infusions over a two- to-three week period.

Patients are encouraged to book maintenance infusions thereafter (usually one infusion

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ABOVE: Dr Alan Howard, the Founder and national Medical Director. every four to six weeks) to maintain remission.

KCSA’s flagship outpatient clinic opened its doors in December 2019 at Hilton Life Hospital in the KZN Midlands, and to date more than 1100-infusions have been administered. Such was the demand from other regions around the country that KCSA opened a further large infusion clinic in Bedfordview, Gauteng in October last year, and now turns its focus towards the KZN North Coast and the Western Cape.

Dr Howard explains that, although ketamine has an excellent safety profile and few side effects, it remains an

anaesthetic agent and, as such, must be given in an appropriate clinical environment by medical professionals familiar with its use. KCSA employs such doctors and anaesthetists at its clinics who are assisted by a team of ICU-trained nurses.

Patients are treated in private cubicles and are monitored throughout.

Almost all patients treated at KCSA clinics are referred by psychiatrists and GPs who recognise ketamine’s remarkable potential to offer new hope to patients trapped in a cycle of dark despair.

The clinic can be contacted off the website, where there is a wealth of additional information and testimonials.

Ketamine works by increasing levels of the neurotransmitter glutamate in the brain, which has a more immediate effect than more traditional antidepressants.

Studies show that areas of the brain damaged by mood disorders can recover when serial ketamine is administered through a process called synaptogenesis and dendritic sprouting (new nerve fibres and junctions). Ketamine is also used to treat certain types of chronic neuropathic pain.

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“I’ve never been more excited about anything I’ve done during my 30 years of practicing medicine,” says Dr Howard. “The results have been gratifying and heart-warming.”

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illow opened in Windermere Centre in June 2015. “Brett, my hubby and business partner, and I have a clothing wholesale business called Collins Collection. We found that we had no wholesale customers in Durban and decided to open our own store so that we could also retail our clothing,” says Cathy van Rooyen.

“We initially set up a boutique at our factory premises at The Design Factory in Station Drive, but there wasn’t a lot of foot traffic or parking. So when an opportunity arose at Windermere Centre we took the plunge.”

Cathy and Brett haven’t looked back since, and opened their second store in La Lucia Mall in April 2019. “During lockdown last year we set up our online store, and now offer a selection of what we have in store online,” says Cathy.

“We started out stocking mainly clothing from our wholesale brand. Soon however, we realised that our Durban customers had very diverse styles and tastes and were also looking for accessories, shoes and gifts,” says Cathy. “So our wonderful journey began as we moved from being a clothing boutique to a lifestyle store.

“It has been incredible building relationships with other talented local brands and stocking their beautiful products in our stores. As we got a feel for what our customers loved,

A BEAUTIFULLY CURATED MIX OF FASHION, ACCESSORIES AND HOMEWARE FROM SOUTH AFRICAN DESIGNERS CAN BE FOUND AT WILLOW, WRITES KATRINE ANKER-NILSSEN

We want customers to have a luxury shopping experience where they are looked after and given exceptional help and service”

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we developed our own Willow collection – reflecting our causal Durban lifestyle.”

Willow aim to find beautiful and unique locally made items at affordable prices and curate them together in such a way that customers love coming in to browse, see what’s new and wanting to treat themselves.

“We want customers to have a luxury shopping experience where they are looked after and given exceptional help and service,” says Cathy.

“We like to go the extra mile where we can, and our staff are known for their friendly customer service.”

Willow’s latest summer collection is all about beautiful natural fibres like linen, cotton and rayon. “We print some of our own fabrics to keep things exclusive and unique. Our styling is classic and feminine with a contemporary twist, so it will last beyond one season and won’t necessarily date,” says Cathy. “We love detail and believe it’s the subtle details on each piece that adds that element of luxury and chic. This season we are loving tiers and frills, and flowy silhouettes – so we have incorporated these elements in some of our dresses and tops. We have also created some loungewear pieces which have been popular, reflecting the current trend for comfy casual wear.”

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WELCOME TO 2021, WHERE THE PAIRING OF A SOLID GREY COMBINED WITH A CHEERY YELLOW OFFER US HOPE FOR THE FUTURE

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ollowing a turbulent and uncertain year, the Pantone Color Institute announced that it had chosen two colours to best express the mood for Colour of the Year 2021. Only once before have the experts at Pantone ever awarded this prestige to two colours. 2021 sees Ultimate Gray and Illuminating as the perfect combination of dull, familiar grey with the bright yellow of lemon skin. According to Pantone’s executive director, Leatrice Eiseman, the two colours come together to create an aspirational colour pairing that is practical, rock solid and resilient, yet providing us with hope, optimism and the promise of a sunshine filled day.

Pantone 13-0647 Illuminating is a bright and cheerful yellow

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2 sparkling with vivacity, a warming yellow shade imbued with solar power. Pantone 17-5104 Ultimate Gray is emblematic of solid and dependable elements which are everlasting and provide a firm foundation. The colour of pebbles on the beach and natural elements whose weathered appearance highlights an ability to stand the test of time, Ultimate Gray quietly assures, while encouraging feelings of composure, steadiness and resilience.

The tonal pairing encompasses the seriousness of the world’s ongoing struggles while at the same time acknowledging the hope connected to the availability of a vaccine against Covid and

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light at the end of the tunnel.

When using the two colours in 2021, they do not have to be used in equal proportions. Either colour can take precedence whether for apparel, beauty, home furnishings, product design or packaging.

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INTERIOR DESIGNER LISA TWYMAN’S NEW RANGE OF LOCALLY PRODUCED FURNITURE IS BOLD AND PLAYFUL, WRITES CANDICE BOTHA

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ABOVE: Ballito interior designer, Lisa Twyman, feels the timing is right to create a series of furniture pieces made by small businesses.

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nterior designer Lisa Twyman’s new range of colourful, contemporary furniture perfectly reflects the combination of modern lines and fun elements evident in all her work whether it’s an interior, ceramic piece or painting.

“I think my style is joyful. Exciting,” she says.

“As an interior designer I emphasise how a space feels, and how this will impact the users of the space. I like to create interest by juxtaposing unexpected elements. The furniture collection speaks to this ethos too. Some

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pieces have a playful element, while colour and the use of different materials create depth.”

The furniture was a natural extension of her work and she says the timing felt right to create a series of pieces that would appeal to the current market for products made by small businesses and the move away from massproduced furniture. “I think there is a niche group of people looking for something special, something with a story. Even though there are bigger companies out there with cheaper products, I felt the time was right to service the smaller niche market, those buyers who are interested in locally produced heirloom

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pieces. I also sensed that the realm of South African design was gaining momentum and I want to be a part of it,” she says.

Her background in psychology has led Lisa to a deeper understanding of how our homes and the items we surround ourselves with can impact on our moods and overall well-being, and even as a child, she says she was constantly thinking about how to move furniture around. Lisa’s home showcases many of her favourite items from her range, including the one-off Mrs Wallace stainedglass cabinet. “I also love the simple lines of the Beatrix sofa. The proportions are just »

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right in both looks and comfort,” she says.

Proportion is important in her work, and her home reflects this with a series of spaces that flow into one another and blur the boundaries between indoors and out with an enormous tree growing through the roof of the living area. It’s dramatic yet completely inviting – like her furniture.

Lisa’s creativity extends to several artistic mediums and she is a renowned ceramicist and painter. “Playing in my art studio is important for my sanity. Without the creative play I am unsettled and a bit lost. Painting, although the most challenging cognitively, leaves me feeling the most grounded,” she says. “I’d say the ceramic work, painting, and the furniture and interior design complement each other by allowing me different channels of creative expression, and by fulfilling the various processes I enjoy, from conceptual and analytical through to material completion.”

Her furniture has been well received and she plans to extend the range this year. “I aim to connect with other South African designers and platforms, too. I love the side of my furniture collection that offers one-off pieces that will never be reproduced. It means I can constantly be creating. I think the next product will be something small, such as a table lamp or pendant light.”

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t all began with Ben Narotam, who founded Benze in 1970. When you step through the door of Benze in Mayville, you’ll find him still at the helm, still with the same values of impeccable service and quality workmanship.

He’s known as the “Upholstery Whisperer”, and you’ll soon see why.

Decades of experience means you’ll get a straightforward opinion, a fair quote, and work which goes beyond your expectation.

As a family business, Ben’s wife, Budds Narotam, oversees the upholstery and carpet cleaning arm of the business.

But no matter which sector of the business, the family prides themselves on two key aspects: building lasting relationships, and their client-focused approach. Clients return time and time again because they know beyond any doubt, that the Benze team is fully committed to firstrate quality – with at least 70% of their new business coming from referrals.

When it comes to upholstery, nothing speaks louder than “before” and “after” images of chairs, couches, and more. For the Benze team, their biggest reward is that look of astonishment, relief, pleasure and gratitude when a treasured heirloom or loved piece is given a new lease on life. As Ben says, “I’m totally driven by passion. I’m determined that each client will receive the

Trust &

TRADITION THERE’S SOMETHING SO REASSURING ABOUT DEALING WITH A DURBAN FAMILY BUSINESS THAT’S OVER 50 YEARS OLD. WHEN YOU HAND OVER A FAMILY HEIRLOOM FOR RE-UPHOLSTERING, TRUST IS EVERYTHING, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

best service possible, and that is our motto.”

Upholstery and restoration is highly skilled work, carried out by experienced craftsmen who’ve not only been doing this for decades – but who take immense pride in their work. Over the years, staff arrived from all walks of life, and learnt their trade the Benze way.

Benze offer a wide range of South African fabrics from top fabric houses, but they don’t simply recover your furniture. Reupholstering involves everything from repairs to joints and structural damage, to stripping,

ABOVE: Still going after 50 years – husband and wife team, Ben and Budds Narotam are passionate about their family re-upholstery business.

BELOW: Before and after.

Decades of experience means you’ll get a straightforward opinion, a fair quote, and work which goes beyond your expectation replacing webbing, springs and padding.

Ben Narotam pointed out their Duco work: “We can revive a scratched surface, or paint and colour-match any furniture.

We’ve even given wooden furniture a young, contemporary colour, which includes sanding, painting then upholstering the chairs.”

It feels good to deal with a family business. There’s a sense of continuity, that personal touch. And after 50 years Ben still takes great pride in ensuring the Benze reputation stays that way.

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ust south of Port St John’s in the Eastern Cape you’ll delicious meals a day. And for those looking to celebrate a special find Umngazi Hotel & Spa. From wonderful welcoming occasion, there are two magical private dining venues available to hire.

Another must when visiting Umngazi is to venture out on the staff to tasty morning and afternoon tea offerings on afternoon river cruise, admiring the end of another glorious day the recently extended wooden deck and the tranquillity on the Wild Coast and sipping on a chilled refreshment. If of the hotel’s natural surroundings, a visit to this lucky enough, guests will witness the majestic African popular beach resort is a delight.

THE HOTEL Umngazi is a perfect destination for a completely Eagle swooping down to claim his catch of the day.

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There is a team of experienced gillies on hand with a wealth of local knowledge to encourage and guide young budding fishermen. A tennis court, a fully air-conditioned gym, SUP boarding, kayaks, walks and hikes, and an award-winning spa – located on the hillside with breathtaking views – is also available to add to the fabulous Umngazi experience.

Guests will enjoy comfortable reconnect and spend quality thatched accommodation with time together. calming views of either the wellUmngazi also offers a variety manicured gardens, the sparkling of out-of-season promotions and river or the wide-open ocean. packages that are ideal for 60+ Umngazi’s romantic suites are guests, those who no longer perfect for those looking to indulge have kids at home and families and reconnect with their loved who are not yet bound to the ones. These suites are situated school calendar. close to the river mouth and have exclusive access to the Emlonyeni FOR MORE INFO Please email our amazing reservations private lounge and pool deck. team on requests@umngazi.co.za, find One of the many highlights out more on www.umngazi.co.za or when visiting Umngazi is the dining follow us for news on our social media platforms @umngazi experience, which includes three

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esigned in Sweden, the new Volvo XC60 is a midsize SUV crossover with a uniquely Scandinavian character and refined strength. In 2018 the Volvo XC60 captured hearts around the globe from drivers and critics alike and was awarded the coveted World Car Of The Year title.

With four 2-litre, 4-cylinder turbocharged powertrains to choose from, the Volvo XC60 ensures that every need is catered for. The D4 and D5 diesels deliver 140kW/400Nm and 173kW/480Nm respectively, while the T5 and T6 petrol versions deliver 187kW/350Nm and a whopping 235kW/400 Nm respectively – the T6 using a combination turbo/ supercharger. All engines are mated to a super-smooth 8-speed automatic gearbox and an AWD drivetrain for sure-footed handling in all road and weather conditions.

The interior cabin blends exceptional craftsmanship with everyday versatility, using premium selected leather and trim materials. Sitting high in an extraordinarily supportive seat – which is sculpted to fit your body no matter what shape you are – you gaze at a simple dash with a large 22cm portrait high resolution touchscreen taking centre stage. The menu is simple and intuitive, allowing you to customise your driving experience. Voice control activation enables changes to climate control, navigation, telephony and media functions so that you don’t have to take your eyes off the road.

Innovative technology connects you and your car with the world through Sensus Connect. A personal sim card connects your Volvo to the internet, enabling you to browse the web, access a variety of internet, radio and media apps, and facilitates over-the-air diagnostics and software downloads. Connect mobile devices to the Wi-Fi hotspot, stream your favourite tunes via Bluetooth, or access your device apps on your Volvo’s screen through smartphone integration. USB

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OFFERING SOPHISTICATION, COMFORT AND CONTROL, THE NEW VOLVO XC60’S LATEST SAFETY TECHNOLOGY HELPS PROTECT WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU points are standard and optional inductive charging ensures you are always in touch.

Volvo On Call is a unique service that comes standard on the Volvo XC60 and helps motorists communicate with their vehicles. Using a smartphone, you can remotely track your car, lock or unlock the doors, check fuel level, and remotely start your XC60 to cool or heat the vehicle.

In addition, you can keep trip logs and a calendar of meetings with addresses, and download to the car’s navigation system. If you forget to lock your vehicle, you will get a notification. The push of a button in the car

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Volvo pioneered City Safety – collision avoidance technology – that helps prevent collisions

connects you with your very own concierge service, roadside assistance, or emergency response through Tracker Connect.

Intellisafe encompasses a myriad of active safety features expected on a Volvo.

In addition, Volvo pioneered City Safety – collision avoidance technology – that helps

prevent collisions, even on highways. It scans the area around you, detecting other vehicles as well as pedestrians, cyclists and large animals, and automatically applies emergency braking when necessary. City Safety, Driver Alert Control with Lane Keeping Aid, a reverse camera,

and Roadsign Information System are standard, while Blind Spot Information System with Cross Traffic Alert and a 360° camera are optional. A special key fob enables you to set speed parameters for less experienced drivers. Adaptive and bending LED headlights complete the comprehensive safety feature list.

What should get potential owners particularly excited is the Pilot Assist feature. This optionally available semiautonomous driving system combines the Adaptive Cruise Control and Lane Keeping Aid to maintain a safe following distance and steer the car at speeds of up to 130km an hour. Keyless entry and a power operated tailgate with foot sensor are great standard convenience features.

There is a full range of accessories to choose from, including styling, packing and loading, protective, performance, and lifestyle components – each one created to complement the look of the XC60 and personalise your driving experience.

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fter the worst economic downturn in decades, further dampened by the recent tightening of lockdown restrictions in response to the second wave of the pandemic and the recommencement of load shedding, economic growth – while admittedly coming off a low base – is still widely expected to show some positive growth of around 3% this year.

According to Dr Andrew Golding, chief executive of the Pam Golding Property group, coupled with this, a number of factors are expected to continue to underpin current activity in the housing market.

These include interest rates which are likely to remain at a near-record low this year; an ongoing large number of potential firsttime buyers (many of whom were previously tenants but are now able to afford to purchase a property at current low interest rates) eager to gain a foothold on the property ladder; and financial institutions with a continued appetite to extend mortgages to home buyers.

That said, the more stringent lockdown restrictions potentially threaten the strength of the anticipated economic recovery, which is likely to result in an increase in our already high levels of unemployment, while rising oil prices are expected to see a

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WITH OUR LIVES ON A CONSTANT ROLLER-COASTER RIDE, WHERE IS THE HOUSING MARKET HEADED IN 2021? GARETH BAILEY TAKES A CLOSER LOOK significant increase in the fuel price in February and possibly thereafter – thereby creating some inflationary impacts.

Realistically, the robust pace of residential property activity seen during the latter part of 2020 as lockdown restrictions were eased, while currently ongoing, is unlikely to be sustained throughout 2021. In

part this reflects the fact that some of that activity was due to pent-up demand created during the initial lockdown, while other buyers were responding to the aggressive interest rate cuts.

With growth prospects expected to weaken as a result of the renewed lockdown in South Africa and across the

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globe, and with inflationary pressures remaining relatively subdued at 3,9% in 2021 from 3,3% in 2020, there is room for the repo rate to be cut by a further 0,25% over the next few months. However, the Monetary Policy Committee may err on the side of caution and opt to leave interest rates at current levels for longer due to the more uncertain growth outlook.

Nonetheless, the changes in lifestyle choices triggered by the repeated lockdowns, combined with the stable, low interest rates, suggest there will still be areas of robust activity, such as the R700 000 to R1,5-million price band which Lightstone has identified as the price bracket favoured by first-time buyers during 2020.

However, from a Pam Golding Properties

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ABOVE: Gareth Bailey, Pam Golding Properties.

We continue to experience consistently busy activity in the price bands not only below, but also from R1,5-million upwards, including the luxury market in excess of R10-million

perspective, we continue to experience consistently busy activity in the price bands not only below, but also from R1,5-million upwards, including the luxury market in excess of R10-million.

Forecasting the likely level of activity in the local residential property market this year is unusually difficult.

Areas which offer affordably priced homes – and an appealing lifestyle – are likely to prove most resilient in 2021. The aggressive 350 basis points cut in interest rates during the course of last year fundamentally altered the housing market in that it made homeownership accessible to many first-time buyers for the first time and also made ownership a viable option for many aspirant buyers who previously thought they could only afford to rent.

This would suggest that sectional title homes in traditionally expensive areas in major metros, and freehold homes in secondary cities, holiday, retirement and “Zoom” towns will prove to be more resilient and the ones that remain relatively affordable during tough economic times.

Furthermore, since property is an immoveable asset, these structural shifts in lifestyle are likely to result in excess stock supply in some areas and a shortage – and development potential – in others.

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he problem with you,” I told my partner, “is that you don’t have enough faith in my abilities.”

“No,” said my partner patiently. “I am perfectly prepared to believe that you’re a glutton. I just don’t think you held the world record.”

“Well I did,” I said. “If you don’t believe me, you can ask my mom.”

I tried to maintain my air of worldbeating confidence, but I must say, the more I thought about it, the more I wondered if it was true. It couldn’t have been a dream, could it? Did I really, when I was 10 years old, break the Guinness World Record for eating a pie?

I am SPECIAL DID I REALLY BREAK THE WORLD RECORD FOR EATING A PIE? ACCORDING TO MY MOM I HAD, AND THAT MADE ME SPECIAL IN HER EYES, REMINISCES DARREL BRISTOW-BOVEY

I desperately wanted to be good at something, but, as I had so far discovered, I wasn’t naturally very good at anything It may seem unlikely, but I have a very clear memory of it: one day my mother brought back a quantity of chicken and mushroom pies from the tuck shop at the school where she taught, and lined them up in the kitchen, and stood there timing me with a stopwatch.

There were a number of pie records an aspiring champion could tackle. There was the stamina record, where you eat as many pies as you can in an hour, but I was too canny to try that. My 10-year-old belly was not as athletically developed as it is now – I would have been defeated by sheer volume. But speed and enthusiasm – there I had a shot.

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The current world record for eating a standard-sized pie is 23,5 seconds, set by a professional pie-chomper named Martin Appleton-Clare in Wigan in 2012, so allowing for improvements in technology and training methods in the intervening decades, I am going to assume the record back then was a more manageable time of somewhere around a minute.

The first time I tried, I fell short of the mark, but my mother encouraged me not to be crestfallen. No one succeeds at the first go, she said, cleaning pie pastry and gravy from the floor, from the front of my

T-shirt, from my face and hair. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.

I took a short breather, then applied myself to the second pie. You’re getting closer, she said. Definitely closer! I was tempted to give up. If something didn’t come easy, was it worth anything at all?

Also, I was quite full. Two pies in a row is quite a lot of pie. But my mom persuaded me that something means more when you’ve worked for it. Then it becomes something to be proud of.

I’d never thought of it that way. I’d spent my days studying a copy of the Guinness Book of World Records I’d received for Christmas, trying to decide which record to try to break, not sure where my natural talents lay. I desperately wanted to be good at something, but, as I had so far discovered, I wasn’t naturally very good at anything.

So I didn’t give up, and it’s strange – the third time felt like my slowest effort yet, but I still remember my mom’s look of excitement when she told me I’d done it! I’d broken the record! I’d worked hard and I’d done it! She was so proud of me!

It never became official, of course. You need special timekeepers and verification for that, but all through my childhood I knew I was good at something. I knew that if I tried hard enough, I could be special. I told my partner all this, and she was quiet for a while, and then she apologised for having doubted me. It’s true, she said. I am special.

“And so is your mom,” she said.

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