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LOOKING AHEAD

Warren and her husband Marc Frew. They started a new chapter in their lives tying the knot on a beach in Mozambique – in black tie and barefoot! What an amazing celebration – turn to page 10 to share in Bianca and Marc’s fairytale wedding.

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Ilike the new year. There’s something satisfying about finishing off work at the end of a year knowing you have all those loose ends sorted, and you’re ready for the new year. There’s also something pleasing about having the festive season behind us for another year, knowing all our plans, pressies and free time worked out just as we wanted.

The best part of a new year is treating it like a new beginning. Whatever I failed to achieve last year – well that’s now behind me, a thing of the past. Now we’re looking ahead

to dream new and exciting dreams, to try adventures we’ve never dared to try before. To experience the unknown. To push ourselves to be better than last year. To take on challenges with new vigour and determination.

The first issue of a year traditionally highlights educational issues, and this year is no exception.

Writer Anne Schauffer has unpacked two topics: How the ever-changing landscape of education has adapted to better equip our children with skills for the future; and

the benefits of a gap year, which, no doubt, a lot of 2022 matriculants will probably be considering right now. Ant Ellis also suggests breakfast and lunchbox ideas for school and work; Nelfrie Kemp shares her thoughts on young schoolchildren doing sport; psychologist Gina Laurie unpacks anxiety in children and teens; and nutritionist Kerryn Wuth gives the lowdown on nutritional needs to boost your child’s energy levels.

Our cover speaks of another new beginning – this time for celebrated couturier Bianca

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EDUCATION

KEEPING YOU IN THE LOOP

fabrics and colours and making ideas become a reality.”

Rachel’s currently selling her clothes at various markets – uMhlanga Farmers’ Market, Litchi Orchard, Sugar Market (Salt Rock) and others. Most of Rachel’s fabrics are imported from different parts of Africa, and her Kikoys – ethnic sarongs worn by men and women – are particularly popular. “A good design should be something different, yet easy to wear and also stand the test of time,” says Rachel.

A LOVE OF COLOUR

Many of us will have come upon Rachel and her unique clothing stalls at community markets north of Durban. Her passion for fabrics began as a child in a small village in Kenya. “I was a very shy, quiet little girl and felt I didn’t fit in at school. Then one day my uncle

and aunt gave me a Cinderella dress and another outfit with blue with white stripes. I sneaked them into school in my schoolbag to show my classmates – and got their attention!

“From a shy, quiet girl I became a ‘mini celeb’,” she laughs. “From then on I have always loved playing with

“I have learnt in this business to be braver, to take risks. I am fortunate in that my customers and people I meet at the markets are supportive and encouraging. I see it as a beautiful journey together.” – Lee

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ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE

Clifton School’s social responsibility is directed through the Clifton Foundation, a Public Benefit Organisation at the heart of creating opportunities for talented boys from financially challenged backgrounds to benefit from the Clifton experience.

One such boy is Asanda Dimba, whose Clifton journey culminated in an exceptional set of matric results recently. Asanda was the recipient of a Foundation scholarship which afforded him the opportunity to continue his high school education at Clifton after finishing Grade 7 at Addington Primary School.

Initially very quiet and shy, Asanda transformed into a confident, independent and engaging young man who has thrived in the Clifton environment.

Last year Asanda received the Fabrice Muhizi Trophy for Gratitude, an award made to the matric boy who has lived out the values of gratitude throughout his time at Clifton

College. He was also awarded full colours for Dramatic Arts and received the Drama Trophy for Most Improved Performer.

Asanda’s excellent results and Bachelor Pass means he can now pursue a university degree, and has been accepted at UKZN to study BSc (Computer Sciences), but is also considering studying Information Systems at Wits. Asanda is hoping that one of these institutions will support his dream through an offer of financial assistance.

Asanda is positive about his future and the opportunities that lie ahead. He would like to become a software engineer, programmer, web developer or graphic designer. Asanda is quick to acknowledge the life-changing experience he was afforded through the Foundation scholarship, and is grateful to Clifton for giving him the platform and grounding to believe that anything is possible.

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LOVE OF WINE

Wineology – a boutique wine shop in Sage Centre in Salt Rock – was started by Peter and Vanessa who both share a love for wine – and had a vision to bring a snapshot of the Cape Wine Experience to the North Coast, showcasing less commonly available boutique wines.

“With summer in full swing, here are our recommendations to ensure you make the most of our long summer days,” says Vanessa.

• Two Dogs, a Peacock and a Horse from Black Elephant Vintners. A 2022

vintage, this wine is perfect for pool parties. Sourced from cool climates, it is a smooth and fruity wine with no acidic heartburn after a few glasses.

• Cygnus Rose from Stellekaya. A 2021 Sangiovese Rose with lively aromatics of fresh summer berries, and a palate that is clean, fruity and balanced.

• Hier Cinsaut by Jaco Pienaar. To all red wine lovers, here’s a red that won’t put you to sleep under the heat of the summer sun. With notes of cherry and strawberry on the nose, a

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At any automotive dealership, the Dealer Principal (DP) sets the tone for the showroom atmosphere and the customer service experience. The newly appointed DP of SMG BMW Umhlanga – situated at the iconic uMhlanga Arch –brings a unique approachability and flair to this award-winning dealership.

Zululand local, Kirsten Hodgson, has over 20 years experience in the motor industry working with a range of premier brands, and fell in love with the BMW brand when she joined SMG in 2019.

Kirsten realised her passion for cars and bikes early on in her career and quickly moved her way up from sales to management. With sheer determination to succeed in the motor industry, Kirsten equipped herself with essential knowledge on all aspects of the dealership, which

anewfaceinthe DRIVER’S SEAT

SINCE 2015 SMG BMW UMHLANGA HAS BEEN A BEACON OF CUSTOMER EXCELLENCE FOR BMW FANS, OFFERING THE PREMIER EXPERIENCE THAT THIS ICONIC BRAND DESERVES. WITH A DYNAMIC CHANGE IN LEADERSHIP, THE DEALERSHIP IS READY TO MAKE WAVES IN THE COMPETITIVE AUTOMOTIVE PLAYGROUND OF UMHLANGA

she believes is the key skill for future management.

“I have always believed that people buy cars from people. We need to humanise our brand and build a relationship of trust with our customers in order to better understand their needs in sales and aftersales. This will set us apart.”

Kirsten also explained that a key focus of her new strategy for SMG BMW Umhlanga is to engage more with corporates and like-minded brands, creating synergistic relationships with local businesses.

Approachability and accessibility are high on Kirsten’s agenda, and the last place you will find her is in her office.

“I love chatting with customers, whether over a coffee at our La Dolce Vita coffee shop, or just while browsing our dealership selection. You learn more from these small interactions than any feedback form, and customers tend to be a lot more open when they feel comfortable,” said Kirsten.

With an exciting range of BMW and Motorrad products on the horizon, paired with the energetic leadership of Ms Hodgson, SMG BMW Umhlanga is poised to cement itself as the premier automotive experience in KwaZulu-Natal.

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As the flagship dealership of SMG, BMW Umhlanga is driven by the pursuit of perfection

ABOVE: Kirsten Hodgson, SMG BMW Umhlanga’s new Dealer Principal.

BLACK TIE & barefoot

AFTER DESIGNING AND MAKING WEDDING DRESSES FOR SO MANY CLIENTS, IT WAS CELEBRATED COUTURIER BIANCA WARREN’S TURN TO WEAVE HER OWN LOVE STORY INTO A FAIRYTALE DRESS AND MAGICAL WEDDING, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

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“In you, I’ve found the love of my life and my closest, truest friend.” The words Bianca embroidered at the very end of her wedding train, her message to Marc.

Bianca Warren, now Frew, celebrated her marriage to Marc in early December last year. A relatively small, intimate and exquisitely curated affair, it was everything she’d ever wanted, with everyone she ever wanted … to the person she wasn’t sure she’d ever meet.

For Bianca, life had been all about work: “For the last 15 years I’ve dedicated my life to my business – that’s been my family.” But that all changed when she met Johannesburg-born and bred Marc. In typically South African fashion, Bianca and Marc met at a braai. After a few months of dating and living together, Marc purchased Bianca her dream home and gave her full reign to decorate it: “This became my second job – a fun but challenging project. I have a little side business-cumhobby called Black House Décor, where I – together with my mom – decorate homes.”

Now firmly a couple, they headed off to Mykonos on holiday, and Marc proposed: “Completely unexpected,” she grins. But as would be expected, she had ideas, loads of ideas, as to how her dream wedding would be: “Small, formal, intimate, timeless, white, and on the beach. I looked at KZN beach venues, but they were either over-used or not what I visualised.” Bianca and Marc also had family and friends coming from overseas, so an extended destination wedding felt right: “We settled on The White Pearl, a hotel in Mozambique.”

Bianca laughs, “Of course, October and November are one of my busiest times of the year – I was designing and making dresses for seven brides, three of whom were getting married on the same day in December I was. I did not have that fairytale ‘getting your dress ready’ moment you see in movies! In between my brides and meetings, I was juggling my own fittings and alterations.”

She does admit to a weakness: “I bought a number of different fabrics. In my head, I wanted something fairytale and ‘poufy’,

but I ended up choosing fitted, heavily beaded with a little bit of a train.” It was exquisite. “I was so comfy and happy in my dress, I would not change a thing.” Bianca’s wonderful work team all wanted to be involved in beading, embroidering and sewing, and each played a part.

Bianca‘s dress was white, the guests in black: “With fabric from Minty’s, I handembellished each flower individually. The base of the fabric is an intricate crystal beadwork – an ombre – which went from very heavily beaded to little beading. I appliqued the lace individually, then added the pearl detail on top of that. The top was constructed on an Italian Illusion Mesh, and I used a power mesh underneath – it was semi see-through, the beadwork and crystals went over it so it wasn’t too sheer. The wedding dress was boned and corseted; I custom-made my three-metre»

long, non-functional veil with the little quote at the bottom for Marc.”

As a long weekend destination wedding, it went beyond the wedding: the Meet ‘n’ Greet was a boho beach vibe, the wedding black tie, and the last night (requested by Marc) a shebeen evening. “The boho vibe was beautiful, with huge fire pits on the beach, peonies from Belinda at Peonie Perfect, covered pods with beanbags, local instrumentalists, fire dancers and singers from the community, large platters of prawns and Mozambique chicken. It was laid-back, with everyone in neutrals, khaki, beige, creams, and champagne.” Exquisitely boho, Bianca wore a crocheted lace dress with bronze and gold beadwork with a frill trim around the edging.

The wedding was richly black and sophisticated, Marc stylish in his custom Frank Bespoke and Bianca simply exquisite in her striking beaded gown. She laughs at the couple’s different definition of formal: “Immediately after I walked down the aisle, Marc’s shoes were off, and he

asked for the first dance barefoot, outside, overlooking the full blue moon. I was a little taken aback, but I’d learnt that marriage was a compromise – I’d been allowed to plan the entire wedding … as long as it included a shebeen and he could remove his shoes for both events!

“We were married on the deck, the weather picture-perfect with the ocean and

waves crashing behind us,” says Bianca. “It couldn’t have been more romantic, surrounded by the love of friends and family, in a dream setting.”

White was everywhere, from the decor to the flowers: “All my orchids were potted with their roots. We chopped them at the second node, and used the sprays in the arches, displays and bouquets. After the

The boho vibe was beautiful, with huge fire pits on the beach”

wedding, we brought them home to put in our trees to reflower, a beautiful memory to remind us of our special day.”

For the wedding tables, Bianca wanted pure white, no greenery, with gold accents. Her fine attention to detail was everywhere. Bianca not only made the embroidered hand towels and waitrons’ aprons, but each serviette was embroidered with the names of the guests: “Everyone wanted to take theirs home, and they did.”

And there were flickering candles simply everywhere, Bianca’s own brand: “I have a range of rooms sprays and candles with the signature scent I developed, ginger and wild lily. For the wedding, the candles were all in glass candleholders and the unmistakable scent was wonderful.” The reception was lit like fairyland.

For the last night, Bianca organised Marc’s shebeen party. She rented a local shebeen, ordered R&R and local beers, with a Mozambican menu. Guests »

travelled there in taxis over the dunes. She laughs, “It was very, very festive, and the older guests who’d been sceptical of staying late, looking askance at the red plastic chairs – were the last to want to leave.”

Bianca’s team were tried and tested professionals with whom she’d worked before: “Valenti did my hair and make-up

– I’ve worked with her for 15 years, and recommend her to all my matric dance girls and brides: “We’re a good team,” she smiles. Rowena from The Floral Team did the flowers, and our DJ was Dave Ward of Top Jocks.

For Bianca, her mom, Linda, “my rock” – was simply amazing: “I don’t know what I would have done without

her. She sourced everything, and ran the show. She knew I wanted it to be perfect, and made sure it was – it was deeply appreciated by Marc and I.”

“In you, I’ve found the love of my life and my closest, truest friend.” A simple vow made by Bianca to Marc, words to embroider into their life story from here on in. *

• When choosing your wedding dress, you can be on trend, but don’t ignore timeless and elegant styles. Keep in mind your body shape, what suits you, and what you’re most comfy and confident in. Ultimately that choice will look and feel best.

• For your first two wedding dress fittings, don’t include too many others. You’ll be trying to make everyone happy. Only when there’s a beautiful base you love, bring in others.

• It’s an early start for everyone. Don’t rush getting ready. Give everyone their make-up and hair times, and don’t waver on those – make sure you have enough time for you.

• Choose clip-in extensions over permanent.

• If possible, choose real tan over fake tan.

• In stiletto heels, get a clear shoe tab so you don’t fall into the grass or wooden decking.

• Give a bridesmaid a lipstick for the bride and bridesmaids to use during pics.

Considering the world has always been in a constant state of flux, relevancy in terms of skills, life skills and values taught at schools should always have been a factor, shouldn’t it? For a long time though, education and schooling felt inflexible and distant from the reality of what the world beyond school demanded of its “new recruits”.

“Hericlitus said it over 2000 years ago – change is the only constant in life,” says Waterfall College Principal Bryony Green. “But what impacts education today is that the rate of change has picked up significantly.” She feels that in some respects, this means educators need to go back to basics – to focus on the “soft skills” that will arm school-leavers with the foundation they need to adapt to an everchanging world.

CONSTANT CHANGE

Ongoing conversations around this constant change, and exploring ways to arm children for the future, are alive and well in the schools we spoke to.

“The world in which these pupils will live as adults will look vastly different to our current reality,” says Claire Keyworth, Senior Primary teacher at Durban Girls’ College (DGC). “Advancements in technology will drastically change the face of the workplace, and we have to identify what our students will need in order to be successful in their lifetimes. This is where 21st century skills are so important –collaboration, creativity, problem solving, independence, critical thinking. These skills are developed in our school through the Thinking Schools pedagogy, to which we prescribe.”

The Thinking Schools concept is attributed to the late Professor Burden of the University of Exeter. For him, “A great deal of evidence would appear to indicate that a significant proportion of pupils pass through their 15 000 hours of schooling without being required to do much real thinking at all.” Accreditation as a Thinking School was given to DGC’s Junior Primary, an acknowledgement underpinned by the requirement that the

THE NEW FACE ofeducation

WE LIVE IN A VASTLY DIFFERENT WORLD, ONE WHICH DEMANDS OF SCHOOLS AND EDUCATORS A CONSTANT RETHINK ON HOW TO EQUIP OUR CHILDREN WITH RELEVANT AND APPROPRIATE SKILLS, LIFE SKILLS AND VALUES. SO, IS IT HAPPENING? ANNE SCHAUFFER REPORTS

school is “an educational community in which all members share a common commitment to giving regular careful thought to everything that takes place. This will involve both students and staff learning how to think reflectively, critically and creatively, and to employ these skills and techniques in the co-construction of a meaningful curriculum and associated activities. Benefits will be shown in ways in which all members of the community interact with and show consideration for each other and in the positive psychological well-being of both students and staff”.

Kate Collins is head of Academics at DGC’s Junior Primary: “As a member of the Thinking Schools SA network team, we’re involved in termly network meetings where content is shared, and this allows

our Drive Team to frequently review current practices and reflect on where improvements may be needed. A culture of thinking and learning filters into all areas of the school curriculum, and the curriculum has become more rich, relevant and meaningful. Students are making better connections between their learning and real-world issues.”

This learning real-world connection is at the heart of what Northwood School aims to achieve. For Headmaster Paul Viljoen, “The analogy of a box is a powerful one for me – if we continue to educate and teach within the confines of the traditional box, we will negatively impact our children and, perhaps even more dangerously, we are not equipping them with the skills they will need to be successful, value-adding adults in a rapidly changing global world.

FUTUREPROOFING

“The curriculum and expectations as set by the Department of Education and the assessment body, that is the IEB, are still valuable, but as schools we surely have to be brave enough and innovative enough to think and teach outside of the traditional ‘box’.

“At Northwood we teach a variety of skills we believe will futureproof our boys.”

Futureproofing requires a multifaceted approach that goes beyond subjects taught: “The past three years have seen us implement coding and robotics as compulsory subjects,” continues Paul Viljoen. “These speak specifically to the skills of programming, engineering, innovation and problem solving. These boys are developing skills that already make them employable, but also entrepreneurial and, as such, they have a better chance of meeting the expectations of a technologically advanced society.”

Bryony Green described how Waterfall College’s ongoing conversation around change evolved and continues to do so: “Covid meant we began to use online teaching strategies out of necessity. Many of the good aspects of blending the use of ‘chromebooks’ and traditional teaching have remained, and this conversation

continues. How we integrate technology into our classrooms, how we teach students to discern fake news from reality, how we perceive our world based on what we are viewing online. These ‘soft’ skills are part of our everyday teaching. It is even more important now that we focus on developing those skills that can’t be (easily) automated, like collaboration, creativity, critical thinking.”

Life skills underpin it all. Bryony says “There’s a greater emphasis on the ability to focus, as teens are faced with an abundance of distractions. Those who are able to work independently and are intrinsically motivated are the ones who are going to make it.” She adds, “PostCovid, there’s a real sense of apathy among teens. We need to encourage a curiosity for learning and an understanding of why it is relevant.”

CHANGING MINDSETS

“Mindset needs to precede skillset,” stressed Brad Cooper, Headmaster of Waterfall Prep: “In a world where we are bombarded by information, it is vital that children are able to discern what is true, whether in terms of comments aimed at them or about the world we live in. This places the focus on developing a strong sense of identity in children and respect for others, so that they can work together»

to achieve what is required of them in the future, making good choices and decisions.”

It’s impossible to ignore the curriculum and final examination requirements in all this. Brad noted that “One of our teachers coined the phrase ‘the why way’ because, since the establishment of Waterfall Prep in 2017, we have had the opportunity to question every aspect of the way we manage the school. Much of how we do school has come about by necessity of creating an environment for 24 children to meet the needs of the curriculum. To some extent, all schools are constrained by what is expected by the final examination authority and by parents. We have looked at areas where we can be flexible and work to take away unnecessary pressure and fear; things that can reduce a child’s ability to learn and grow.”

The previous drive to achieve over all else, has shifted significantly. Today’s education stresses progress, rather than

excelling; about the child’s ability to think for themselves, rather than memorising information; about having the skills to adapt to change. “The emphasis on

DGC Senior Primary.

“We are faced with so many pupils struggling with anxiety because of this way of thinking. We are working towards changing this mindset by showing our students that it is progress over perfection that we value; that each one of them is on their own unique journey; that memorisation of content is no longer necessary (thanks Google!) but rather developing those incredibly important 21st century skills. This approach should be adopted throughout the education sector in South Africa.”

marks and results, and the mindset that high marks equal success, is a narrative that is damaging the young people of today,” says Claire Keyworth, teacher at

The new approach to education has also involved a significant shift in the traditional relationship between teacher and student. DGC’s Claire says, “In order to develop critical thinking and inquiry skills, the students require a greater degree of independence to discover things themselves. So, the teacher now fulfils the role more of facilitator in many instances, particularly in inquiry-based tasks.”

The emphasis on marks and results, and the mindset that high marks equal success, is a narrative that is damaging the young people of today

BUY-IN OF PARENTS

A key piece of this new puzzle is the buy-in of parents. Waterfall College’s Brad Cooper feels strongly: “Never before have children so badly needed structure and guidance at home and at school. It is vital that parents choose a school that reflects the values they espouse at

home or aspire to, and that they partner with their children’s teachers to achieve the best outcome for their children. The responsibility cannot lie solely with the school. We work to share resources and thinking with parents to strengthen our partnership.”

Bryony Green concurs: “Parents must

encourage students to become involved in school life, and to move out of their comfort zones a little. We work closely with parents, as we believe education is a team effort – child, parent and teacher.”

So, too, Paul Viljoen: “We have also worked hard in engaging with our parents around the topics of working with us to ensure they enforce the same principles that we focus on as a school. To work in partnerships with our parents, in service of our boys, is viewed as critical to our success.”

For Claire Keyworth, “Without buy-in from the parents, all the work staff are putting in to change mindsets and teaching practices will lose its emphasis and value. Parents need to see the importance of progress over perfection, de-emphasise being marks and results driven, and support independence, problem solving and critical thinking in their children. »

We endeavour to involve parents in this process and provide them with many opportunities to engage with us on this matter.”

realised the need to upskill both parents and teachers, and it’s done through termly muffin mornings, keynote speakers, focus group meetings and professional development.”

Dale Charter, DGC’s Junior Primary Head of Academics continues, “The link between all stakeholders – parents, pupils and teachers – is vital in building and maintaining these core values. DGC

Listening to the heads and teachers about equipping children for that new world out there, one thing is certain: the school’s role has shifted. It’s far more about building and nurturing a strong individual sense of self than it is about packing in information. It’s also about nurturing compassion, respect and concern for others, and – although strongly led by the school –there’s an interesting sense of collaborative exploration between teachers, parents and children, as everyone navigates the new world together. *

At Northwood we teach a variety of skills we believe will futureproof our boys

DOMINICAN CONVENT SCHOOL

to be a GOOD MAN

TIMES HAVE CHANGED, PRESSURES ARE GREATER. FOR THE NEXT TWO YEARS NORTHWOOD WILL BE FOCUSING ON ENCOURAGING AND SUPPORTING THEIR BOYS TO BE EXCEPTIONAL IN ALL THEY DO – TO GO OUT INTO THE WORLD AS A GOOD MAN

In educational institutions, it has become apparent that many of the things that were part of our formative years, have become secondary in importance within modern society. These include, good manners, being proud of one’s actions and appearance, a strong work ethic, setting of high expectations and standards, being kind, caring and generous, and of course being respectful not only to women but to all who form part of our wonderful diverse community.

Northwood recognises that the pressure our young people are facing is different and more intense, and with the number of broken families, access to social media, vaping devices

and other substances, the laissez-faire approach to rules, and the lack of accountability for breaking them, life is very confusing to the boys.

Given this context, we recognise that as an educational institution, we have a bigger responsibility than ever before to send good men, men of conscience, character and substance into the world. Our school’s focus during the next 24 months will therefore be on what it means to be a good man.

The goal is to send young men into the world who are good brothers, good boyfriends, good sons, good husbands and good fathers. Men who have respect for their appearance, who are

hardworking, proud of the quality of work they produce, and are uncompromising in their determination to be successful.

As a school we will not accept mediocre work, and will encourage and support our boys so that they can be exceptional in all they do. Our boys will not fear effort; they will sweat so they can succeed. When Northwood boys travel, people will know who we are, but they will know who we are for the right reasons.

“Please” and “thank you” will be common denominators. We will honour and respect opponents, officials and the blessings we have. Whether we play, perform, compete or

attend, we will do so with honour and respect. When we visit our hosts, we will be gracious and humbled by their hospitality and welcome. Yes, we will be fiercely competitive and determined, but there will be no entitlement –just pure joy in doing the right thing.

Of course, these expectations cut both ways. Rest assured that as a management team, a teaching cohort, cultural facilitators, sports directors and even school governing body, we will hold ourselves accountable to the same standards we set for our boys. We will be diligent in serving your son on all fronts and will do so to the best of our ability.

As a school we cannot embark on this journey to excellence in isolation. We need your help and your sons need your help. Work with us. Set high standards for your sons – in behaviour, dress and effort. Do not be afraid to say no, and don’t accept average effort. When they achieve, celebrate with them. When they err, punish them, but also guide, support and forgive them.

The world – and our society – is crying out for good men. Let us make sure we work together so our boys can be recognised as exceptional people of conscience, substance and excellence.

We look forward to holding hands with you in service of our boys.

If you – or your young adult – is either undecided about their career path or desperate to step away from the treadmill of the past decade or so, a gap year is a wonderful opportunity to explore, mature, make a positive impact on others and/or breathe in a safe space where big decisions can land gently rather than be forced. The opportunities both here in South Africa and abroad are endless. Clearly, passport issues may limit choices, and many of the gap year opportunities cost, but that still leaves so many possibilities.

The gap year concept has always been considered a mix of positives and negatives, but realistically, if your son or daughter needs that space and time, giving them that opportunity pays dividends.

A gap year doesn’t need to be a year. It’s a concept, the length of which is largely determined by enrolment in a course the following year. One of the perceived negatives was always the “missed” year of education, the idea you’d be out of the studying groove and be left behind in the gallop for the career finish line. You might not even want to reintegrate into formal education. But that line of thinking is now far less prevalent. There’s a greater concern about mental health, ultimate happiness in a career, and recognition that a year can go a long way in clarifying decisions, cultivating life skills such as financial management and improved organisational skills, developing heightened sensitivity to cultural issues, and cultivating independence and increasing confidence. It’s also possible to learn a foreign language, and discover an entirely new career path.

A gap year is not an aimless “time out” period – it’s planned mindfully.

For some youngsters, a structured yearlong course works well. These can offer a combination of life skills, experiences and, sometimes, qualifications. For others, it’s more about experiencing life out there, travelling and even earning some money. Au pairing, working in international ski resorts or hotels in entertainment or hospitality, or working on yachts,

takingthe GAP

BEING GIVEN THE SPACE AND TIME OF A YEAR OFF AFTER MATRIC IS A GREAT GIFT TO THE UNCERTAIN OR UNDECIDED MATRICULANT. IT’S NOT THE SOFT OR PRIVILEGED OPTION, BUT OFTEN THE RIGHT OPTION FOR CERTAIN YOUNGSTERS, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

are popular options, often involving the acquisition of short-course skills like first aid, and some, like sailing or perhaps au pairing, often morph into related careers. Organisations specifically designed for gap year students usually have a curriculum covering a number of subjects

designed to upskill or equip young people for life. The Academy for Environmental Leadership SA (AEL), based in Upington, is one such organisation. Their prospectus describes the AEL experience as: a combination of academic learning, outdoor adventure and personal development

in one transformative year. They go on to say, The NQF Level 5 National Higher Certificate in Conservation Ecology academic programme is designed to serve as a bridging year between school and the next phase of life.

But studying Conservation Ecology doesn’t mean that’s your future career. Retired CEO now responsible for student liaison at AEL, Gys Botha says, “When they leave here to start their further tertiary studies, the majority do not pursue careers in nature conservation. Being in, and learning about, nature is the catalyst.”

Botha added that the most telling aspect of the efficacy of their course is that nearly 100% of their alumni pass the first year of their chosen course of study, as opposed to the national average.”

He also pointed to the thoughts of Johannesburg-based career advisor Professor Zak Nel on a gap year. Nel has been providing career counselling for over

40 years and advises matriculants to think of their first year after school as a key building block to help establish their career path: “The gap between school and tertiary education is huge, causing thousands of students each year to fall by the wayside. Many first-year students experience problems adapting to the university workload and tempo,” he said. “As a result, one in every two first-year students fail their initial year, and half of all students reportedly leave the higher education sector after five years of study without a qualification.”

Durbanite Kayla Hinchliffe is an AEL 2020 alumni. “Towards the end of my matric year, I felt very unsettled as to what field of study I wanted to pursue.

“I knew I wanted to explore different options before ‘locking’ into a university degree. Naturally, the internet tracked my search history and an advert for AEL popped up on Facebook. One year later, and I can happily say that AEL offered me so much more than I had ever imagined.

“I arrived at AEL as the only student from Durban (and KZN). Looking back, this was the best thing to have happened as I

have now made life-long friendships and memories that will never be forgotten.

“I knew very little about Upington. At AEL, I had the opportunity to visit the

most incredible places that are ‘bucketlist experiences’ for most, from sleeping under the stars on a three-day Orange River paddling trip, to visiting the Kgalagadi Transfrontier Park and travelling to Namibia.

“The highlight of my experience was definitely the memories made as a small group, such as our braai evenings or watching the sun set over the Orange River that was right on our doorstep.

“The academic aspect of AEL allowed us the opportunity to gain knowledge »

I had the opportunity to visit the most incredible places that are ‘bucketlist experiences’ for most

from some of South Africa’s top academics in the field of environmental conservation. We had the opportunity to further engage in this knowledge doing practicals almost every day in the beautiful Kalahari surroundings.

“My year at AEL offered me the perfect balance of academic structure, outdoor adventures, friendship building and growth as an individual.”

Kayla is now studying a Bachelor of Education in Foundation Phase teaching at Stellenbosch.

Directed by Jim and Sheila Musto, Quest Africa is a well-respected gap year organisation based in the Eastern Cape and Zimbabwe. “It’s a life skills programme that will challenge you, test your limits and inspire you to become the person you are supposed to be,” they say. “Quest is all about growth through dealing with challenges – the daily physical routine is challenging, the skills learning is challenging, the discipline is challenging, the frequent physical ‘epics’ are challenging, but ultimately young people are re-wired to embrace challenge, and this seems to engender an excitement for life and confidence to take on the challenges that lie ahead. Ex-Questors frequently confess that although Quest was extremely challenging at times, it was also great fun, with life-long friendships being formed. Many also say that it was the best year of their lives.”

As far as possible, training is focused on experiential as opposed to academic learning. There is a balance between lifecoaching, practical skills learning and a demanding physical training programme, that has an adventure sport component and is outdoors based. Quest Eastern Cape is located on an exceptionally beautiful coastal beef and game farm, which provides an ideal location for Quest activities. There are three course options: seven-month Core course, 10-month Core plus, and the three-month Spring programme.

The response from parents to the son who arrives home, compared to the one

who left, is strikingly positive, peppered with words like matured, confident, responsible, motivated. Testimonials from the boys themselves are solid testament to their choice of Quest for their gap year: “My time at Quest showed me that anything is possible if you do it properly and put your mind to it; if you believe you can do it, and I mean truly believe, it will get done!” says Kevin Horwitz, Quest Core Course 2011.

Wildlife and conservation is a popular gap year choice, not only for those who

feel they might pursue a career in that field, but also because it’s the ultimate escape combined with the feel-good aspect of volunteering. The word “escape” is used guardedly, but the reality is that many young people choose a gap year to clear their heads, move away from the noise of social media, and live simply without any peer or other pressure.

Today, volunteering is used as a crucial fundraising initiative for conservation bodies, so you pay for the privilege of »

being part of the team making a difference. With reputable organisations like Wildlife ACT in KwaZulu-Natal and the Seychelles, the time spent there is invaluable on so many levels. Numerous game reserves within South Africa cannot afford to fund a dedicated monitoring team within their boundaries, so Wildlife ACT provides a free priority species monitoring service in order to ensure the safety of these endangered species. Volunteers live in simple quarters, work extremely hard, are part of an international team of all ages, and can submerge themselves in this wholly worthwhile experience.

Often, there’s a local community aspect to these, too, so there’s the advantage of learning first-hand how other South Africans live, cultural differences, and challenges they face. Inevitably, empathy grows. The Thula Thula Volunteers Academy on the KZN North Coast runs courses from one week to three weeks, programmes that are designed to not only cover the needs of the reserve, but those of the surrounding communities. The Academy provides a hands-on learning experience for the volunteers, and provides work experience in wildlife conservation, reserve management and environmental studies.

Giving back and contributing has so many built-in life lessons, not least of all

building self-esteem and empathy. Working on yachts has, over the years, been a very popular choice. It’s lucrative (foreign currency) and offers travel and a unique lifestyle. Kimberly Muller initially set off to do a nine-month season, but was still on a luxury yacht four years later. She says quite candidly that it was amazing, but very different from what she’d

money earned was insane, the boat takes you to places you’d never see on your own, and you meet people who can remain friends for life.”

Don McKee is a partner of YOA, an international crew agency that specialises in placing crew on board the world’s premier yachts. He’s cautious when responding to the gap-year question: “There is an opportunity to do this as a ‘gap year’, but most often I find that the priorities of someone on a gap year aren’t always aligned with those of an employer looking for a reliable crew member whose work schedule will often involve 12-14 hour days, seven days a week for months on end without the option to go ashore. More often than not, there is a conflict if these two priorities aren’t aligned.”

expected: “I had no idea. How difficult can cleaning be? Very. The captain would pick up a smudge that couldn’t be seen with the naked eye. It’s hard, and it’s not for everyone. Living and working on board with 15 to 20 people, day and night, soon taught me how to let go of issues very quickly, you can’t hold on to them, and I learnt how to be patient.”

She laughs, “I can clean toilets and wash dishes superbly.” On the flipside, “The

A gap year can make a major difference to a young person’s life. Matured is the most commonly used word by parents describing their post-gap-year children. No, it’s definitely not the soft option. Some courses will cost, but other opportunities don’t – some will even allow you to earn –and many are on your doorstep. *

FOR MORE INFO

AEL: www.ael.co.za

Quest Africa: www.quest-africa.co.za

Wildlife ACT: www.wildlifeact.com

Thula Thula Academy: www.volunteer.academy

YOA: www.yoaagency.com

Living and working on board with 15 to 20 people, day and night, soon taught me how to let go of issues very quickly

GRADE 8s OF 2024

24 FEBRUARY 2023

GRADE 8s OF 2024

FRIDAY

24 FEBRUARY 2023

13:00 - 18:00

Growing independent, responsible, courageous young adults.

Growing independent, responsible, courageous young adults.

Parents and Grade 8s of 2024 are invited to join us for our Open Day. Come and explore our bustling campus that’s complete with boarding, sporting and performing arts facilities, located 10 minutes away from an international airport. During your time with us, you’ll get to learn about our school’s ethos from our Head whilst your child takes an entrance exam.

Email info.umhlanga@reddam.house to book your spot.

Parents and Grade 8s of 2024 are invited to join us for our Open Day. Come and explore our bustling campus that’s complete with boarding, sporting and performing arts facilities, located 10 minutes away from an international airport. During your time with us, you’ll get to learn about our school’s ethos from our Head whilst your child takes an entrance exam.

Email info.umhlanga@reddam.house to book your spot.

www.umhlanga.reddamhouse.com

6 reasons to LOVE REDDAM

THERE’S MORE TO REDDAM HOUSE UMHLANGA THAN GOOD ACADEMIC RESULTS

Founded in 2003, Reddam House Umhlanga has flourished into an extraordinary success story as an independent, co-educational school. Reddam House Umhlanga students are inspired to achieve academic success, as evidenced by the school’s recent matric results. Even more evident is the enormous emphasis the school places on instilling a culture of responsibility, integrity, courage, ambition, kindness and respect.

Executive Head of Reddam House Umhlanga, Adam Rogers, lists six key aspects of what makes the school unique.

1. Non-traditional with traditional values

Reddam House Umhlanga is nontraditional in its belief that education should be enjoyed and not endured, without fear or intimidation. Rogers is emphatic on this point, saying, “We have no student hierarchy and we do not believe that senior students should wield unrealistic power or fear over those junior to them. Our teachers have been handpicked not only for their subject expertise, but also for their exceptional rapport with those who have been entrusted into their care. At the same time, we stand proudly by our more traditional values which can be seen in the fair and consistent application of our strict discipline code.”

2. Balanced and holistic education

Rogers says that a balanced and holistic education is one where every student is

expected to contribute fully – not only to academic endeavours, but also to the extramural programme in sport and or cultural activities to become happy and productive children and young adults. Comments Rogers, “We believe in nurturing and celebrating our students’ talents both inside and outside the classroom.”

3. Co-educational by design

Reddam House Umhlanga is steadfast in the belief that co-education best reflects society and contemporary trends. The school strives to create an environment in which all types of boys and girls feel validated and respected. “Boys and girls are comfortable interacting and working alongside students of the opposite gender, and they learn to accept each other as equal partners in school and in life. We believe that co-educational schools are best equipped to produce confident, socially well-adjusted young adults,” says Rogers.

4. Giving back

The Reddam House motto “We Shall Give Back” speaks to the importance of students being aware of the needs of those less fortunate than themselves. Every Reddam House Umhlanga student is expected to “give back” to the community through various school and studentinitiated outreach activities every term.

5. Fostering leadership potential Reddam House Umhlanga believes

that every student possesses leadership potential and deserves the opportunity to show their leadership potential. “Our students are expected to dedicate their talents and their time to serving on various leadership portfolios based on their passions and sense of purpose in their senior years in the Prep and College. Our senior students are expected to lead with confidence and compassion, never seeking to exercise power or privilege.”

6. International best practice

As a member of the Inspired Education Group consisting of over 70 schools around the world, Reddam House Umhlanga leverages off international best practice to provide students with a global perspective and a world-class education. This, together with access to overseas exchanges and unique international summer school experiences combine to provide an exciting educational journey that equips students with the knowledge, skills and values to face an increasingly challenging global future with confidence.

FOR MORE INFO Visit umhlanga.reddamhouse.com or contact Adam Rogers on 031 566 5736. For more information, visit https://inspirededu.com/our-schools/ and click on the Africa & Middle East link.

With semigration trends on the up in 2022 and a definite focus on people moving north, statistics from Lightstone show that the significant demand being seen is still in proximity to uMhlanga and the King Shaka International Airport. This demand – combined with a scarcity of coastal land available for retirement living, the desirability of the Sibaya stretch, and a rate of sale at one exemplary development that’s triple what their nearest competitor has achieved –reinforces the claim that in 2023 the next big thing in KwaZulu-Natal real estate is retirement estate living.

Zoning in on the demand specifically for property in the Sibaya and uMdloti regions, according to Lightstone’s data for 2022, residential property prices have increased substantially across sectional title homes, freehold homes and vacant land in the uMdloti town area.

The statistics reflect a staggering 88%, 67% and 545% capital appreciation growth respectively over a 10year period with uMdloti and Sibaya also having achieved a 67% higher property value than the Ballito area over the same time period.

In addition, the population in the Sibaya and uMdloti areas has grown by 30% since a census was conducted in 2011, and of all residential

RETIREMENT livingatitsbest

GEARED TOWARDS BUYERS

OVER THE AGE OF 50, CAPRI VILLAGE AT SALTA SIBIYA IS AN INVESTMENT OFFERING SECURITY, CONVENIENCE AND FACILITIES AT AN AFFORDABLE PRICE POINT – EVERYTHING TO GIVE YOU PEACE OF MIND WHILE ENJOYING RETIREMENT ESTATE LIVING

property purchases made between December 2021 and November 2022 in these areas, 34% of the buyer profile was over the age of 50. According to award-winning developers, DEVMCO, these insights fuelled the concept of Capri Village along with the demand by buyers for secure, pet-friendly homes and stands at attractive price points geared for buyers over

the age of 50.

“The market response has been overwhelming since we first launched Capri Village – having captured the hearts of over 50s who dream of estate life by the beach. It’s due to the unprecedented sales experience in the first phase, that we were optimistic about the response to our launch of phase two of Capri Village in December, which

included a further collection of freehold stands as well as 2, 3- and 4-bedroom sectional title homes being released. We also included several new unit types, including a 3-bedroom/3-bathroom, and a 4-bedroom/3-bathroom option,” says DEVMCO’s Development Director, Schalk Theunissen.

With the official public launch of Capri Village’s

second phase having commenced in December at the original 2021 launch prices, Theunissen believes the opportunities available will be snapped up quickly.

“Capri Village offers homeowners a vibrant coastal lifestyle, one that embraces an active way of life, convenience, and a broad array of world-class amenities within the popular Salta Sibaya development. The initial collection was 40% sold within the first few days, and since launching phase two in December 2022, interest has been significant,” adds Pam Naidu, head of DEVMCO Realty who are responsible for the Salta Sibaya portfolio.

“We also know what a great investment opportunity the Capri Village offering is with recent studies by Lightstone showing that sectional title homes within a secure estate have achieved a 31% price premium over homes sold outside of estates. Further to that, the rental demand for homes in Salta Sibaya has exceeded expectations, which is another reason for investors to sit up and take interest in the Capri Village offering,” continued Naidu.

Residents of Capri Village will have access to all of Salta Sibaya’s features and facilities – including the Marine Walk Shopping Centre. Considered a second “clubhouse”, the shopping space features national

retailers such as Woolworths, Spar, Dis-Chem, Mr Price, Milady’s, Mugg & Bean and Kauai. Local eateries include Casa Nostra, Tightline and Waxy O’Connors. The new shopping centre is built around the same philosophy of sustainability and environmental consciousness that’s woven throughout Salta Sibaya and that will resonate with the prospective buyers of Capri’s phase two offering.

Another key facility within Capri Village is its exclusive residents’ clubhouse comprising of an indoor heated pool, bowling green, bocce ball, library, bar and areas for entertaining. Here, a community of like-minded residents with a zest for life can relax and socialise within the convenience of the estate. Those who prefer to spend their leisure time outdoors will also be able to enjoy Salta Sibaya’s green parks and extensive nature trails, as well as six kilometres of pristine beaches surrounded by lush coastal forest nearby.

“Discreet and professional medical services and in-home care and catering services have also been factored in for those who need it – helping to complete the offering to the over 50s market,” adds Theunissen.

Stands and 2-, 3- and 4-bedroom residences at Capri Village are now available, with land being offered from R1,295-million and homes starting from R2,705-million.

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MOVING

DANCE FOR YOUR BODY AND YOUR BRAIN. LEE CURRIE SPOKE TO DANCE TUTORS –ALL TEACHING VERY DIFFERENT STYLES – TO GET SOME IDEA ON WHAT’S KEEPING ENTHUSIASTS FIT – AND HAPPY

While we may enjoy watching programmes like Strictly Come Dancing, we’re not really big on ballroom competitions here in sunny KZN. However, we’re spoilt for choice with a variety of less formal dance styles designed to get us moving – from hanging upside down on poles, swaying to charismatic Bollywood music, and a few energetic options

in between.

Whatever the dance style, it’s widely known that dancing provides an excellent all round workout. Physical benefits include increased aerobic fitness, muscular strength, reduced risk of osteoporosis, and weight management to name a few.

ON THE CEREBRAL SIDE

Studies have shown that the combination of music and dancing has a very positive impact on our psyche –boosting memory, cognitive skills, preventing dementia, addressing social anxiety, and, more recently, treating those with Parkinson’s disease.

“Dancing has always been a space where I can let go of everyday life and ultimately let go of all thinking,” agrees Dominique Manias, a clinical psychologist in Sunningdale, who has been dancing since early childhood – initially competitively and currently modern. “We can all think of something we love to do where we’re so absorbed we’re no longer trying to orientate ourselves in the world. Everyone has a naturally high frequency, but it is often diminished by thoughts of stressful, negative emotions. Dancing then becomes our reset button. Pain, stress and anxiety often go hand in hand with depression, and dance can play a major role in remedying this.”

THE MOVES

Contemporary, Latino, hip hop, jazz and a few more: “We teach a different style of dance every week,” says Jemma Badenhorst of Freedom Dance Studio, with studios based in uMhlanga and more recently Ballito.

I’ve been very strong in driving the concept of women supporting one another and never feeling intimidated or excluded. Our studio embodies

a special warmth and it’s very relaxed in class. We encourage and support each other, particularly if someone is having a bad day and we laugh – a lot!”

UP THE POLE –GYMNASTICS WITH MUSIC

For some, pole dancing may conjure up visions of sleazy music in dimly-lit clubs. While that may still apply in some places, pole dancing is in fact an internationally-recognised competitive sport with a Pole Sports Federation in South Africa.

So, if you’re looking for a total body workout, grab a pole at Pole Base in Glenashley. “There are several types of pole fitness, namely Pole Sport, Pole Art and Exotic Flow/Dance,” explains Cindy Naidu. “The latter is perhaps what comes to mind for most people. Most of our classes encompass Pole Sport and Pole Fitness.” And what about those who don’t think

they’re fit or young enough?

“Just try,” urges Cindy. “Your body will truly amaze you. Our motto is, ‘things in the mirror are stronger than they appear’. It just takes a little time.”

VIBRANT AND COLOURFUL BOLLYWOOD

“Derived from Bombay (formerly Mumbai) and Hollywood, Bollywood refers to the American film industry dance form developed from the 1930s in the Indian film industry,” explains Suvina Mahadaw of SM Entertainment and Events based in Ballito.

Using Bollywood music we combine various dance forms such as belly, contemporary, jazz, aerobics as well as traditional Indian dance.” Suvina, a former Miss India SA KZN, also teaches couples who wish to learn a dance routine for their wedding.

TAKE A SEAT

International Ageless Grace»

educator Fiona Furness offers a brain health programme based on neuroplasticity designed to move the body to exercise the brain to a variety of music. “Comprised of 21 different tools that focus on different parts of the body and brain this offers a holistic workout. The class is seated so anyone can do it –including the physically and cognitively challenged,” explains Fiona whose studio is

in Durban North.

So there you have it. You can dance while no one’s watching – but by dancing in a group it will keep you fit and be a lot more fun. *

FOR MORE INFO

Freedom Dance Studio: @freedomdancedbn W and Pole Base: @polebasedbn W SM Entertainment and Events: Call or WhatsApp 076 535 7789

Ageless Grace: Call or WhatsApp 083 258 5880

justnutsabout FARMING

FOR TAMMY WILLIAMS, FINDING HER NICHE IN THE FARMING SECTOR HAS BEEN BOTH REWARDING AND CHALLENGING, WRITES SHIRLEY LE GUERN

Tammy Williams, who keeps a watchful eye over 120-hectares of banana plantations and a 150-hectare macadamia operation at the Sekela Farm near King Shaka International Airport as well as a young family, is the 2022 KZN Toyota Kwanalu Young Farmer of the Year.

KwaZulu-Natal’s Agricultural Union says it chose Tammy because of her determination when it came to learning from the ground up. She has not only

mastered the many technical aspects of farming, but managed many of the practical aspects while also implementing environmentally conscious applications and driving community upliftment.

Tammy’s fascination with the technical aspects of farming began while she was working as a receptionist for Sekela. Her duties included ordering pesticides, fertilisers and other necessities. After she began quizzing her boss on their use, he took her into the banana fields to explain. When an opportunity to manage

a 30-hectare banana plantation at the company’s smaller Windermere Farm came up, she swapped the switchboard for a tractor.

Looking back, she says she had a lot to learn, but consulted her boss, other farming experts and her husband who was managing another of the group’s farms at the time.

When the Sekela Farm expanded to include a 100-hectare banana plantation, she moved there as manager.

In 2012, the farm owners ventured into macadamias. Within four years they had planted over 60-hectares of macadamias but had no one to oversee the operation. It was a natural progression for her to use the knowledge gained in the banana plantations and apply it to the macadamia operation. It has since grown to over 150-hectares.

As a busy mother to two young sons, Tammy’s day starts at 4.30am, and by 6am, her sons are ready for school and she is in her office talking to staff and reviewing the tasks for the day. Then it’s off to the fields to make sure all is being done correctly – something she likes to

do at least twice a day.

Specific tasks depend on the time of year – sometimes it is pruning the macadamia trees, on other days it is weed control in the banana fields or even harvesting and packing. Then there’s also the admin for the company.

Amazingly, she still manages to attend after-school activities and cricket matches in the afternoons. Then it’s back home, supervising homework and making supper like a normal working mom.

“It is a very rewarding lifestyle and, what the kids get out of the way we live, is incredible. They wouldn’t have it any other way. Even now, we are on school holidays and they’re off at the dam fishing.”

She is passionate about her job and

says there is nothing else she would rather do. “I’m just so grateful that I have found my niche. Every day is so different on a farm. You just have to adapt,” she admits. She says the support of her husband,

whether it is the technical side, the soil side or anything else. If you find something you are interested in, find out about it, make it a career choice,” she says.

Looking to the future, Tammy’s goals revolve around the farm itself. She’d like to improve the quality of the nuts produced while reducing the amount of spraying. This fits with her love for conservation which inspires her to find ways to minimise the use of insecticides and herbicides.

Brett, is behind many of her achievements – including the award of which she is extremely proud.

“I’m very grateful for the recognition and for what it means for women in agriculture. There are so many aspects to farming –

“I am also an avid bee lover and I have introduced bee basil and other vegetation to attract good insects. I make sure we conserve the natural bush and waterways to take care of the sensitive ecosystems on the farm,” she adds.

Switching to the admin, she admits it is challenging to manage a farm during turbulent economic times. “It is very difficult with diesel hikes, high fertiliser prices and electricity costs, and even the cost of boxes going up. Expenses are very high but the banana price is very low at the moment. Macadamias are a high value crop, so you have to manage your costs carefully. But, everything is a wheel and you just have to stick with it to go forward,” she says. *

FAR LEFT: Tammy Williams in the banana plantation.

LEFT: Kwanalu President Peter-John Hassard with Tammy Williams.

BELOW: Kwanalu President Peter-John Hassard, Kwanalu CEO Sandy La Marque, Evan Williams (son), Tammy Williams and Brett Williams (husband).

Every day is so different on a farm. You just have to adapt

PARTY toremember

Max’s Lifestyle Village in Umlazi is set to rock once again. In January partygoers flocked to Max’s Lifestyle’s All White Party in collaboration with Durban Tourism to hear the likes of Scorpion Kings, Somizi, DJ Tira and many others, which was a raving success and enjoyed by many.

In February, Max’s Lifestyle is adjusting the vibe for Valentine’s Day.

Our next big event on February 14 will be our first Valentine movie night on our big screen, as well as a performance from local talent to set the mood for all those in love. So bring your loved one and share this romantic time

MAX’S LIFESTYLE VILLAGE IN UMLAZI – JOIN US THIS VALENTINE’S DAY WHERE THE LOVE OF FUN NEVER ENDS

with them. Bookings essential. Look out on our social media for information on upcoming events such as the Durban July,

All Black, etc. And don’t forget Max’s Lifestyle offers an all-inone venue for conferences and special events.

Growing up in the 80s, I very seldom heard the terms psychologist, depression, anxiety, fear or any other narratives relating to mental challenges or well-being. And if you experienced any of the above, you would simply keep quiet. It was drilled into us as young adolescents that to show emotion – or heaven forbid cry – was the epitome of weakness, and was an indication that you lacked a strong and brave character.

Many boys – though certainly not all – still have trouble talking about emotions and feelings because social norms have encouraged them to conform to a masculine ideal that emphasises values like stoicism, toughness, and competitiveness. This – along with strong cultural taboos as mentioned above – continues to place the mental well-being of boys at risk. In addition, the Covid pandemic prevented boys from interacting socially, created financial pressures within families, and led to an even greater addiction to electronic devices, gaming and social media platforms. All factors that would perpetuate any underlying mental health issues.

In our own educational space, we have seen a sharp rise in the number of boys requiring counselling and support. Many of the boys report that it took them a very long time to seek help, as they felt they would be showing weakness if they reached out

BUILDING character

HIGH SCHOOL IS NOT ONLY ABOUT ACADEMICS AND SPORTS – IT’S ALSO ABOUT PREPARING YOUNG MEN TO BE EMOTIONALLY MATURE TO FACE THE WORLD, WRITES PAUL VILJOEN, HEADMASTER AT NORTHWOOD SCHOOL

for the help they so desperately required. Despite the uptick in depression among teens generally, a recent international study found that only one third of boys aged 12 to 17 sought help for depression in the last year, compared with 45% of girls.

It has become clear to us as a school that intervention and a strong psychological support structure are needed

if we are to send well-rounded and emotionally healthy young men into the world. Crucially we have taken steps to destigmatise mental health. To help boys process emotions in a productive way, our school needed to destigmatise mental health challenges generally, enabling boys to feel that it’s a little easier to talk about their feelings.

Creating an empathetic

school culture can help boys learn to listen and to share and also allows them to feel safe and supported in the navigation of their high school career.

Having the necessary experts work with our boys – we employ a full-time education psychologist and a school counsellor – ensures that boys get the help they need. In fact, I am of the opinion that these individuals play as important a role in a school as the math and science teachers.

Giving boys the freedom to express their feelings, allowing them to connect with each other around sensitive topics, and positively reinforcing the strides they make, all adds to the development of a strong character, but also establishes

a sensitivity for the mental battle people face. Caring and being sensitive is certainly not a sign of weakness. In fact, these are character traits we need much more of in this crazy, somewhat broken world of ours. *

A recent international study found that only one third of boys aged 12 to 17 sought help for depression in the last year, compared with 45% of girls

It doesn’t matter what time of the year it is, it’s never too late to start working out. Exercise is one of the best things you can do for your health and well-being, and choosing the correct activewear is beneficial for your workout journey.

ChristyAnn.Fit is passionate about keeping fit and healthy, and has developed her own range of activewear that’s not only stylish to look at, but has been designed to be comfortable, supportive and offers quality – everything a woman needs to get in shape.

With all the different options on the market today, it can be difficult to know where to start. Don’t worry. Here are five pointers to consider.

1. The fabric: Choosing the right fabric is essential for your exercises as not all workout gear is the same.

Low-quality items often end up overheating your body as they are not designed to handle intense sweat sessions and hold in all the moisture, making you feel uncomfortable.

If you tend to have intense sweat sessions or do workout sessions outdoors, opt for fabrics that pull moisture away from your skin so that the sweat can evaporate, which in turn will help keep your body temperature down.

2. Form and fit: If your clothes are too tight or too baggy, then you probably will not end up wearing them and may even lose motivation to work out.

While the clothes you choose will depend on the type of sessions you do, we all know the importance of a good sports bra. You are going to want to ditch that strappy top if you’re doing high impact workouts, like HIIT, and choose something that not only allows a full range of motion, but also “holds” everything in place.

3. Think about flexibility: Workout gear is meant to be comfortable for a full range

PHYSIOTHERAPIST AND BODY COACH CHRISTY ANN SHARES FIVE TIPS FOR CHOOSING ACTIVEWEAR TO SUIT YOUR WORKOUTS

of motions as well as to support your body. Think about the movements you will do –it is not just the fabric, but also the fit that allows you to move so easily.

For leg workouts or cardio, shorts are great, and for yoga, leggings are often a popular choice. For leggings, I recommend doing a squat test to check out the quality. If you can squat comfortably and the leggings don’t become see-through or expose your bottom, you have yourself a winner.

Make sure you feel comfortable enough to move freely without feeling restricted. They should not be too tight or loose, but should rather fit snugly without bunching up at the bottom or falling down.

In addition, leggings are comfortable and versatile, and provide the right level of support and coverage.

When choosing leggings, it is important to find a style that flatters your figure. One of our best-selling styles – the ombre range – has been designed with a high waistband to offer you a flattering and comfortable fit. The quality fabric is thick and soft to the touch, and has a supportive but luxurious feel, making them perfect for

a workout or even for running errands.

4. Quality is more important when choosing the right leggings: Quality is key when shopping for leggings. It is important to find a pair that fits well, feels comfortable, and looks good. If you’re looking for something that will last longer than just one season, it might be worth considering buying a pair that has been made from durable, quality material.

5. You need to feel good: One of the most important things when working out is that you need to feel good in your activewear. For some of us, looking good makes us feel good.

I started my activewear range for women to be motivated to work out, and to feel and look good in their activewear.

From a range of high-quality activewear legging sets with highsupport sports bras, trendy active shorts for hot summer days, to swimwear – we have you covered with a vast selection to choose from.*

mental health*

Fear and anxiety are adaptive and developmentally appropriate emotional responses to actual and perceived threats, and are vital for our survival. Children and adolescents may experience fear and anxiety in response to certain situations, objects, and/or events. Many of these fears are developmentally or age appropriate, eg, children aged four to six may be fearful of the dark or adolescents may be fearful of social exclusion and fitting in.

However, anxiety, which is an emotional response to thoughts of perceived or impending danger or threats, can result in excessive or irrational fears, and can lead to the development of an anxiety disorder – which can significantly impair one’s daily functioning. Early identification and intervention is imperative for children and adolescents who experience overwhelming anxiety. Most, if not all, mental health challenges begin with anxiety.

Anxiety presents differently for each individual, but there are some similarities or common

unpacking ANXIETY

GINA LAURIE HELPS US UNDERSTAND ANXIETY FROM OUR CHILD’S OR TEEN’S PERSPECTIVE

red flags to be aware of. Firstly, anxiety may make one avoidant of places, objects, people, and/ or situations, as these can act as triggers. Secondly, if a child or adolescent is anxious, they may frequently complain about physical, usually midline, ailments such as sore stomachs, headaches, back

aches, jaw clenching, and/ or neck pain. This is usually accompanied by excessive worry and/or future-focused thinking that is catastrophic in nature (the worst possible outcome). Lastly, anxiety may also drive recurrent panic attacks, safety-seeking behaviours (like excessive hand washing, ordering, seeking reassurance etc), and/or making decisions based on fear and/or avoidance.

As anxiety is necessary for our survival, we cannot and do

not want to get rid of it. Anxiety makes sure we are fearful of potential threats that may cause us harm – like being scared when we see a lion. It is important to note that the part of our brain that is responsible for our emotions cannot decipher between perceived and actual threats (for example, stress in response to an examination and to seeing a lion are perceived as the same threat in the mind). The body then responds in

a fight, flight or freeze mode in attempting to protect the individual. The rational brain is dominated by the emotional brain and therefore rational thinking is paused in times of heightened anxiety. The rational brain does kick back in after the anxiety has subsided, but if the emotional brain is not regulated (given time to calm down), the emotional brain becomes the dominate response mechanism in a person’s life.

Most, if not all, mental health challenges begin with anxiety

Children’s and adolescents’ rational brains are not yet fully developed, and as such they have a dominant emotional brain in response to daily life. As a parent, this is where you can help your child or adolescent process their anxieties up until the developmental point that they are able to do so for themselves.

Here are some practical tips that may help you when your child or adolescent is anxious:

1. Try your best to not get sucked into the panic that anxiety can create. Remain calm, sit with your child, reassure them that the anxiety will subside and remind them to focus on deep breathing. Refrain from telling your child to calm down – trust me, they have most likely already tried to do that.

2. Validate and label their emotions, such as, “I wonder if you are feeling overwhelmed by upcoming exams and if this is making you feel anxious”. By labelling and validating the emotion, it normalises the emotion and takes the power and intensity away from that emotion.

3. As anxiety creates future-focused thinking, it is important to help your child be more present in the moment. The 333 technique may help bring awareness to the present. Ask your child to name three things that they can see around them, three things that they can hear, and move three parts of their body.

4. Gently remind your child that they can only control the things that they have control

over and that there are, and will always be, things that are out of their control.

5. Gently remind your child that it is alright to make mistakes and to learn from these. Excessive pressure on children to be perfect (which is completely unattainable and unrealistic) can result in heightened anxiety and a deep fear of making mistakes.

6. Try not to give into your child’s avoidance tactics. It may provide short-term relief to give into them, but it will only increase your child’s anxiety in the long-term.

The above-mentioned techniques are not treatments for anxiety, but may assist in the management of it in a way that is gentle and useful for parents who have anxious children. Please seek professional help if you feel your child needs some additional support. Remember that health is not health without mental health, and there is no shame in reaching out for some extra support if you or your family need it. *

FOR MORE INFO

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RIGHT: Counselling psychologist Gina Laurie.

At one time or another most of us have experienced growing pains, but what should be done if the “growing pains” become a regular occurrence interfering with daily activity? Pain is not normal, and is a sign from your body that something is not functioning at its optimum potential. Pain should not be ignored – and the worst advice is to “just work through it”. If the pain is activity related and does not subside, it’s best to get professional advice.

With the new school year having just started, the following questions often get asked. How much sport should a child be doing? How far can a child run? When should a child start with weight training? Can children really suffer from sports injuries?

Let’s look at a few developmental factors.

Bone formation (ossification or osteogenesis) begins in the sixth and seventh weeks of embryonic development and continues until the age of 25. Growth plates harden into solid bone in girls between the ages of 13 and 15, and in boys between 15 and 17 years. Peak muscle mass occurs between the ages of 16 and 20 years in girls, and 18 and 25 years in boys.

Children are meant to run around barefoot and play for hours, but are they meant to play intense sport on artificial surfaces for a few hours a day, every day?

Think about this: Adults who spend two hours or more training every day for a particular sport will be considered as semi-professional or serious about sport. They would address their nutrition, follow a conditioning programme, and have specific shoes and gear.

The same should apply to your child. When playing sport for more than three hours a week, they need to wear the proper gear, follow a proper diet that would fuel their bodies, and look at conditioning programmes specific for their age and sport. Common lower limb growing pain conditions are Sever’s disease/heel pain, and Osgood-Schlatters disease/knee pain.

growingpains orsporting INJURY?

YOUNG CHILDREN PLAYING SPORT IS GREAT FOR EXERCISE AND LEARNING THE MEANING OF WORKING TOGETHER, BUT HOW MUCH SPORT IS ENOUGH? NELFRIE KEMP DISCUSSES KEY ISSUES

3 FACTORS CONTRIBUTING TO THE PAIN

Entrance level shoes: No-name brand entrance level shoes are perfect for children if they are simply exploring a sport. However, when they start playing seriously for the A team and for a club and/or extra coaching, they need to get proper shoes.

Sport surfaces: The impact on your body when your foot hits the ground is three to five times your body weight. Over time, repetitive impact can lead to injury, and the surface you train on can contribute to your injury and pain.

As an example, dancing and gymnastics should be done on a sprung floor, while indoor hockey and soccer on astro.

Barefoot rugby: This sounds great, but it can lead to a lot of tears. The level and intensity at which kids play rugby these days is harsh on the developing body and leads to injury.

I’ll leave you with this thought. In my practice there is a definite pattern in the amount of children I treat with sports injuries/growing pains during the relevant sporting season. During the two-year lock-down period I hardly treated children with “growing pain” injuries. I’m not against sport or activity, but are we pushing our children too much? *

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THEY CAN dohard things

e have just returned from an incredible surf trip to a beautiful little town in the Eastern Cape. While we were there, one of my 13-yearold twins, Ryan, had to work through a tough but characterbuilding experience.

One morning we had taken all the surfboards and wetsuits down to a friend’s house,

Wwhich was close to the beach, so the kids could grab their stuff whenever they wanted to hit the water. The boys went off to a nearby town for a bit while I went down to the sand with a friend.

A few hours later, when they kids wanted to surf, Ryan discovered that his board wasn’t with the others. It had been forgotten back at our chalet. He left his brand-new wetsuit with a friend near the

surf spot and decided to skate the kilometre and a half back to our chalet to get his board. When he got there the house was locked, so he had to climb through a window. On his way back, skating with his board, he fell twice. When he got back to the rocks, everyone (and his wetsuit) was gone. He started to search for them and it was at this point that I bumped into him as I came off the beach. I could tell that he was on the brink of tears.

I joined the search and after a while we found that his wetsuit had been left with some other friends who were sitting, hidden from plain sight, further down the beach. Ryan breathed a huge sigh of relief, suited up and paddled out to backline.

When Ryan told me the whole story later, I knew he had been through something hard, navigated a range of emotions, got a little banged up and had to dig deep, but he had done it, and I was immensely proud of his courage, initiative and problem-solving.

At this point you may be questioning my parenting but I have been very intentional in developing these skills in my kids from a young age. And school provides a great opportunity for our kids to do this, but we are going to have to play our part. Mostly that involves stepping back. This year there will be teachers your child doesn’t like, tests they might not do well in, sports teams they might not make, lunches and PE kits they are going to forget at home. To develop initiative, grit and problem-solving skills in your

child, here are a few things you can do:

• Don’t come to their rescue too quickly. A forgotten PE kit provides a great opportunity for your child to have a tough conversation with a coach, to think of how to solve the problem (borrow from lost property?) or to feel the pain of sitting out while his friends have fun on the field.

• Make home a safe place to talk about mistakes and navigate “failure”. Let them talk without jumping in with solutions. When things go wrong, allow your child to process what happened, how they could have perhaps dealt with the situation better and figure out a way forward.

• Don’t try to fix everything. You don’t have to email the teacher every time your child has a bad day or intervene every time there is a friendship spat. These are invaluable opportunities to develop important conflict-resolution skills your child needs for adulthood.

• Treat your children like they are competent and you believe in them. Wrapping them in cotton wool will breed anxiety and stunt emotional growth. Giving them freedom to try, fail, pick themselves up and keep going is not easy – but it is an incredible gift to your child.

And I can pretty much guarantee that, like I did that day at the beach, you will realise that your child can do hard things. And that when life throws him a curveball, he has creative ideas and capacity to remove whatever obstacles are standing between him and the perfect tube. *

PLAY YOUR PART BY STEPPING BACK, ALLOWING YOUR CHILDREN TO DEVELOP PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS, WRITES

CHRISTY HERSELMAN

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The school year might have just started, but are your children tired and lacking energy? Do they appear to be negative and irritable, are battling to concentrate, aren’t sleeping well or have lost their confidence?

Don’t underestimate the demands placed on school-aged children. It is enormous, and very often they are not appropriately supported to meet these high demands – leaving them exhausted both physically and emotionally.

Adequate nutrition is one effective way that you as a parent can help your child. Good food, and the right amount of food, goes a long way to support a child and help them to cope, thrive, excel and feel good about themselves. But, what does this translate to when packing lunchboxes and preparing meals?

It helps to understand – on a scientific level – how much children need to eat. Compared with an adult, a child’s food requirement is close to double an adult’s when calculated per kilogram of body weight. This is a huge volume of food every 24 hours, but it is needed to ensure and support the following: Survival, growth, concentration and activity.

So how do you ensure your child eats enough despite often being reluctant to eat?

Routine. Your child should be consuming nutrition up to six times a day and every two to three hours. This should include three meals (breakfast, lunch and supper) plus three snacks. This routine will depend on your child’s school and sport schedule, and needs to be structured and strategic. No two children are the same.

The bulk of their nutrition should come from their three meals, with the snacks topping them up to see them through to the next meal. Children are often given snacks that are too big and/or at the incorrect times, resulting in a reduced appetite at mealtimes.

Be targeted with what food is offered. A child needs to be given specific guidance on what to eat and when. Set strict boundaries and avoid offering “buffets” of food.

The one fundamental principle that must be applied – for most of the time

keep energy LEVELS UP

DIETITIAN KERRYN WUTH ADVISES PARENTS HOW TO PLAN THEIR CHILDREN’S NUTRITIONAL NEEDS TO BOOST THEIR ENERGY LEVELS AND HELP THEM COPE BETTER AT SCHOOL

– to what your child eats, is to provide them with foods that are as close to their natural state as possible. These have a higher nutrient density and do not contain harmful chemical additives. Do not be influenced by marketing slogans on convenience meal or snack options. All chemical additives in sweet and savoury foods negatively affect a child’s concentration, behaviour and energy levels. Send an extra snack to have on the way to school. Kids leave the house early, so breakfast is sometimes at 5.30am. They then only eat again at school at about 10am. This is far too long for a child to go without nutrition. Narrow this gap, especially if they have early morning sport.

Children do not need a lot of variety and do not get as bored with food as adults do. There are only a handful of snacks that children should have on a daily basis – fresh and dried fruit, popcorn, nuts and nut butters, biltong, white cheese, and plain

milk and plain cultured yogurt.

Avoid sweetened (or sugar-free) drinks as these will fill your child up and “replace” foods they should be eating. Water is all they need.

If in doubt, consider getting professional, age-appropriate advice and implement it consistently. Having a structured framework to work from will take the pressure off of you when planning meals as well as reassure you that your children are on track.

An established daily food routine that includes fresh, wholesome ingredients, will reward you with energetic, enthusiastic, successful and happy children. *

FOR MORE INFO

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RIGHT: Kerryn Wuth is a registered dietitian who is passionate about good health for the entire family.

As much a dog’s best friend as a dog owner’s, Emmanuel recounts how he grew up with a single mom on a small farm surrounded by animals. When his grandmother disciplined him for being naughty, he escaped to the nearby Mazarat Kennels. There he not only fell in love with the residents, but also got to watch how handlers trained the police dogs that lived there. He tried out what they did, and has been working with dogs ever since.

Emmanuel worked for various kennels over the years, but in 2015 decided that it was time to open his own business. He says he has never looked back.

A natural entrepreneur, Emmanuel started out by handing out pamphlets offering a free half-hour consultation to potential clients. He now has clients extending from the Upper Highway area to uMhlanga. Although he is active on social media, the adage of success breeding success applies, and he constantly adds

to his customer base through word-of-mouth.

He is often called in to deal with problem dogs and says that, just as every situation is different, so is every dog. Even a group of pups that share a single owner will learn differently. They can each have different problems, he explains.

When meeting a problem pooch, he needs to assess the dog and then work at that dog’s level. Then it is a case of also working closely with the owner to change the mindsets of both.

Emmanuel believes that his system of doing house calls and training dogs at home is particularly important. “Dogs are not the problem, the owners are,” he smiles. Home is where the bad habits are and owners usually stop doing the things they have been taught during training as soon as they arrive home.

As a trainer, he says the two most important things are to never use fear and to work with each unique animal, one

meet the dog WHISPERER

step at a time. Hitting dogs is out. Dogs disciplined in this way end up conflicted because they fear their owners but still feel called to protect them.

He also doesn’t believe that dogs should be smothered with love. Avoid spoiling a puppy and put in place the boundaries that will make for a well-behaved and healthy adult dog from the outset, he advises.

Emmanuel uses his voice to communicate with and reward a dog for the right behaviour, and prefers not to resort to treats.

Along the way, he admits that he also gets to hear about pet owners’ problems and often adds some advice here, too. “Believe it or not, owners’ insecurities and personal problems often manifest in their dogs’ problems,” he points out.

“During phone calls, owners tell me about their problems. The minute I meet the dog, I realise the situation is completely different. I feel that this is a gift from God. As soon as I take the lead, I get this feeling that the dog understands that I am not a threat, that I am there to help,” he explains.

He says that post-Covid he is dealing with a great deal of anxiety and aggression. Dogs that have been confined at home with their owners fear being left alone, and many struggle to socialise with strangers and other dogs.

In addition to helping suburban dogs, Emmanuel has a passion for educating

owners in poorer communities to properly care for and appreciate their dogs. He has worked with a demonstration dog to take his message to learners, and has helped the Department of Agriculture to vaccinate dogs against rabies.

His focus is now on improving his business skills so that he can train and employ others as his operation grows. He is also keen to provide therapy dogs to help the disadvantaged. *

EMMANUEL GWABENI BELIEVES HE HAS HIS CANINE COMPANIONS TO THANK FOR ALL THAT HE HAS ACHIEVED, WRITES SHIRLEY LE GUERN

Just as every situation is different, so is every dog

family BUSINESS

AS THE THIRD GENERATION IN A FAMILY BUSINESS, VIHAAN DASARATH, ABOVE, HAS HAD TO LEARN FROM THE GROUND UP – AND TODAY IS HELPING TO GROW THE SUCCESS OF THEIR BUSINESSES

QPlease outline your background.

AAs a young child I recall watching my father working in his glass shop, and would watch in awe as he went about his daily duties. My mother is a pharmacist, but my dream was to be just like my father, and this is where the affinity to glass, aluminium and the family businesses started. After school I studied towards a degree in accounting, then my honours, and served my articles at Ernst & Young in Durban. I spent the next three months on secondment in the United States and returned home ready to impart my experience and knowledge with

the family business. Initially I was an apprentice, learning the more practical aspects of the businesses, City Glass and Aluminium, and Hitech Safety Glass SA. After some time my family gave me more responsibility and I became the office clerk, which meant I spent hours studying official documentation and identifying areas of improvement.

QAs the third generation involved in the business, is there still room for improvement, and how do you get the “older generation” to buy-in to your “younger generation” ideas?

AThe best part of working with my family is the constant support and freedom to bounce ideas off one another. Their decades of experience paired with my youthful exuberance have been part of the success of our family businesses to this day. I am truly blessed to have the support of previous generations and attention to new ideas I bring to the table.

We have grown from a retail glass supplier and glazier to a glass processor and architectural aluminium fabricator and installer, positioning ourselves as the high-end differentiator within the architectural glass and aluminium industry. This growth has been both organic and a reaction to the changes within the industry, harnessing the latest technology and materials to enhance our product offering.

QWhat is the foundation of a successful business?

AA successful business is one that has a defined purpose and goes about achieving this purpose with empathy to all people. I see our family businesses and all businesses as a vehicle for change. If you think of a business like a car, we would be the drivers navigating the road ahead. As entrepreneurs and leaders, we provide the petrol and maintenance to the vehicle and the space within it for the people who choose to join the journey. As a business grows, the car

becomes a bus, then a train and hopefully a mega-cruise ship.

QWhat are the advantages, and challenges, of being an entrepreneur?

ABeing a driver of change in people’s lives and within the industry is one of the biggest advantages of being an entrepreneur. But don’t be fooled, entrepreneurship is a full-time job, can be all-consuming, and is often misconceived as having the freedom of time.

There are challenges. For instance, balancing your time between family and business, feeling under immense pressure to make the correct decisions, and being responsible for multiple livelihoods that depend on their employment within the business. That said, entrepreneurship is what you want it to be.

QWhat is one hard lesson you have learnt as an entrepreneur, and what is your advice to wannabe entrepreneurs?

ABusiness is the official school of hard knocks. One of my greatest life lessons has been realising that no failure is permanent, and success is built over a period of time. This advice goes to any aspiring entrepreneur. Always apply good morals to the development of your business decisions. Be patient when affecting change. Change is incremental and so is success. Commit to your vision and selfbelief and, continue working towards your own success. *

letÕstalk BRAND CONSISTENCY

CONSISTENCY IS CRUCIAL IN SOCIAL MEDIA MARKETING; YOU NEED TO FIND YOUR VOICE AND STICK TO IT, WRITES CRAIG BRIGG

One of the key drivers to success in most activities in life, sport and business is consistency. And consistency is key in social media marketing too.

If you want your audience to recognise your brand, you need to be consistent. There’s no doubt in the fact that consistency drives growth in audience numbers, engagement, and in turn, sales.

So, what does it mean to have a consistent voice? Your social media tone is all about understanding who you want to speak to and finding the identity of your audience. Choose a voice that your selected audience will understand, so that when you use “your tone” consistently, your audience will understand that you’re speaking to them. This brand recognition is required to build a loyal following.

Always aim to communicate in a manner that stays true to your brand. Think about your mission, vision, and values when choosing your voice. The content of your postings can help ensure there is balance and consistency to market your business well on social media.

Ensure your content is consistent, and ensure that

what you share is relevant to your audience and their lives. Be real, and create content that evokes emotion. By eliciting a response with consistent content you will draw your audience in, and they will engage with your message, your story and your information. And don’t forget to always be consistent in your choice of trustworthy information. If your content is trustworthy, so is your business, and in turn, so are you.

Try to maintain a balance of the content you post and ensure you’re not posting too much of one type of content, and too little of another. For example, as an estate agent don’t only post your property listings, but also offer tips and advice on selling your home – or even about finding a good agent. Creating a posting schedule over six to eight weeks in advance helps to ensure your consistent content is well balanced.

Many businesses make the mistake of posting content that is too long, disjointed and messy, leaving their content unappealing. Focus on consistent aesthetics with appealing visuals, colour schemes, brand identity and fonts. If your brand identity is cohesive and consistent, your audience will recognise the brand and engage accordingly.*

5 PRO TIPS for maintaining

1. Understand the key differences between frequency and consistency. Frequency is specifically the number of posts you share on your social platforms, and consistency is the type of messages you are offering to your audience.

2. Be mindful of setting yourself rigid content goals that meet with your strategy and the clear message guidelines that have been established.

3. Planning is essential to maintaining your consistency, because it allows you time for thought and applying good content ideas to your platforms.

4. Do not wake each day and think “what shall I post today”. Set aside a day or even a few hours and create your content for the coming weeks. This aids in the balance of your messaging.

5. Make life easier for yourself, and use scheduling tools so that you can focus on other key elements of your marketing.

how to improve the performance of your digital media and build a social media following, please feel free to contact Craig Brigg of UHI MEDIA GROUP on 079 505 3170 or craig@upperhighwayinfo.co.za

the consistency of your brand

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VIVA LA resolution

NEW YEAR, FOOD RESOLUTIONS AND SIMPLE IDEAS TO INSPIRE SUCCESS, WRITES ANT ELLIS

e’ve said it pretty much at the start of every year, but this time we really mean it: we’ve changed. To kick off the new(ish) year, we’re gonna eat less crap, cut down on the booze and exercise more –and this time it’ll stick. I’m absolutely not here to impart nutritional wisdom, nor preach on any diet or system (I’m a sucker for comfort food), but I do know that a few basic habits could help to sustain your food resolution, and anything’s worth a try, ya dig?

So let’s talk about the two areas that suck the most to try and stay healthy in – breakfast and weekday lunches. Enough with the sugar-coated cereal, garage pies and drivethroughs. A bit of planning followed by some conscious shopping, and you could be making this one last. Let’s start with a super simple rule: five fruit or vegetables a day. Decent portions, not that soggy slice of tomato on your triple cheeseburger, OK?

Breakfast – and the easiest way to jam flavour and goodness into an on-the-go win. Smoothies are so versatile, you never need to have the same one twice, and if you avoid the bland, gluey variety, you’ll look forward to ’em too.

WBasic rules:

1. Slice, core, hull, and freeze your fruit, then use frozen for an ice-cold wake-up call.

2. Don’t throw the kitchen sink in – that’s when they become a boring tick-box exercise instead of an opportunity to create a menu of great ideas. Instead, pick three, maybe four, key ingredients.

3. Keep them cold, runny and drinkable.

4. Fruit can contribute excess sugar to your daily intake, so mix it up.

Blueberry PeanutButter Smoothie

• 2 tablespoons peanut butter

• ½ cup blueberries, frozen

• 1 banana, frozen

• 4 pitted dates, frozen

• 1 cup milk of your choice

• honey, to taste

• 1 cup ice-cubes

Blend all ingredients together in a blender until smooth. Add liquid if too thick, add fruit if too runny. You should be able to drink it through a straw.

Optional: Top with chia seeds.

Now, how about them lunchboxes? Endless sarmies will eventually bore you to death, salads are great but can be unsatisfying, and left-over pizza is unfortunately not

a food group. Humph. Also, prepping for a week at a time is weird – can you really eat the same thing five days in a row?

Again, the greatest tip is planning – both for the kiddos and their extra-murals, and for yourself around your work sessions and being a parent. Write up your menu for the week and prep for each day the night before with a variety of textures. Always include a snack like nuts, biltong, grapes, cheese blocks or crackers.

A versatile winner that can pretty much include anything in the fridge and sustain you for an afternoon is a pasta salad. From simple Greek-style (tomato, cucumber, olives and a drizzle of olive oil, pictured) to the more sophisticated (see recipe below), a pasta salad is an easy fix for the family, goes a long way, and can include any protein from tuna to chicken to plant-based, or none at all.

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Chicken Curry Pasta Salad

4 portions – scale according to requirements

• 1kg cooked short pasta such as penne, fusilli, farfalle, rigatoni or macaroni

• 1 cup mayonnaise, divided in half

• ½ cup Greek yogurt

• 1 cup cooked chicken, chopped

• 1½ tablespoons mild curry powder

• 1 teaspoon turmeric powder

• 1 red or green pepper, diced

• 2 tablespoons fruit chutney

• 1 tablespoon white vinegar

• 2 tablespoons dried apricots, finely diced

• 1 stick celery, chopped small

• salt and pepper to taste

• chopped coriander to taste

Mix all ingredients in a bowl starting with half a cup of mayo. Add the other half

once all ingredients are mixed, until you reach the desired consistency

Until next time: As tough as it seems, it’s doable – I may even take my own advice this time. See you around springtime when the spandex comes out, and if all else fails, remember, round is also a shape. Talk to me at ant@rockthekitchen.co.za *

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swift APPEAL

OFFERING GOOD PERFORMANCE, FAVOURABLE FUEL ECONOMY AND STRIKING LOOKS, THE SUZUKI SWIFT IS ALL ABOUT ADDING FUN TO YOUR LIFE

The last year has seen the fuel price increase drastically, and even though it has dropped slightly, the price remains above the R20 mark with us seeing a record high in 2022 due to oil prices and other factors.

While most people are struggling to keep afloat with these rising costs and the decline of the Covid pandemic resulting in the summoning of the “return to the offices”, you need a car that is energetic, appealing to all ages, and is both reliable and practical – but more importantly, fuel efficient.

Not needing any introduction, the Suzuki Swift has been a firm favourite for consumers in all categories – from students, young professionals and even retirees looking for something nimble and fuel thrifty to run around in. The numbers say it all – in December 2022

806 units were sold – that’s a 20% sales growth from the previous year.

To the average man in the street, what makes the Swift an easy choice aside from the incredible fuel economy and great

projects, groceries, and even multiple soccer kits.

Another factor worth noting is the focus on safety, with Electronic Brake Distribution (EBD), Brake Assist, Dual Zone Airbags and Iso-fix car seat anchors, central locking and electric windows at the front and back.

looks? There are two key factors. Firstly, it boasts an estimated 4,9-litres per 100km in a small but surprisingly powerful 1,2-litre engine; and secondly, it’s not a compact hatchback. In the Swift there is more than enough boot space to carry campus bags,

If you’re looking for a little more flair while getting the same quality, safety and value, you can opt for the incredibly sought-after Swift Sport which boasts an even sexier appeal with a two-tone roof option, exclusive grille, Sports Alloy rims, LED lights and a list of extras in a powerful 1,4-litre engine that is available in both automatic and a 6-speed manual transmission. *

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It boasts an estimated 4,9-litres per 100km in a small but surprisingly powerful 1,2-litre engine

As 2023 kicks off, there is a sense of cautious optimism as we tentatively approach the new year hopeful that the economy stabilises – all the while mindful of how quickly things can turn. The past three years have shifted mindsets and forced us out of our comfort zones, with the result that anxiety is more pervasive than ever and lifestyle has come up trumps in terms of prioritising what really matters.

These shifts have had a knock-on effect on the property market with buyers making decisions based on lifestyle choices, and investors seeking stable asset classes, like property, rather than being too heavily invested in stocks. Against this backdrop, we have also endured the local challenges of failing municipalities and ongoing load shedding, so where does this leave us for 2023?

First and foremost, it is not surprising that many homeowners are now considering implementing more sustainable green features in their homes. If we look at current trends in residential developments, there is a strong emphasis on eco-friendly features. Most developments encourage solar panels, heat pumps and some form of water reticulation. JoJo water storage tanks are a great cost-effective way to save water and provide a back-up supply in the event of municipal shortages. For

going GREEN

to weigh up the costs and benefits of a solar inverter system as opposed to a non-solar alternative.

many, the idea is not to be fully off the grid, but rather to have water and energy “back-up” solutions for times of need and to reduce the burden on local infrastructure. This green focus applies across the board to homeowners and buyers

that is connected back into the home to act as a reserve water supply and to become the primary source of water for irrigation and gardening purposes. From a power supply perspective, many are still relying on inverters. Generators are noisy and costly to run – especially with the increase in fuel prices –so most are opting for small inverter solutions that keep the essentials in their homes running during load shedding.

For any homeowner or buyer, the benefits of having green features are self-evident – water and electricity crises become less worrisome and homes remain fully functional despite the failings of our electricity supply and/ or municipalities. More and more, we are seeing buyers noting such features, and while it is difficult to quantify the value-added benefits of these, having back-up power and water supply solutions certainly makes homes more appealing and more sellable.

From the perspective of general market sentiment, we are encouraged by the fact that many investors have returned to property as

in both freehold and sectional title properties.

A good starting point is for homes to have at least one JoJo tank with a pump

From a new build perspective, solar inverter systems are probably first prize, as they offer a hybrid solution tapping into both solar energy and municipal supply to keep batteries charged. They also satisfy our eco-friendly goals, by placing less pressure on the grid. It is certainly more cost-effective to install green features at the start of a building project, than to add them after-the-fact to an existing home. Consequently, it is advisable for those planning a new build or undergoing a significant home renovation,

WE MIGHT HAVE ADOPTED A CAUTIOUSLY OPTIMISTIC OUTLOOK FOR 2023, BUT GOING GREEN IS WITH US FOR THE LONG HAUL, WRITES CAROL REYNOLDS

The idea is not to be fully off the grid, but rather to have water and energy “back-up” solutions for times of need and to reduce the burden on local infrastructure

an asset class because it is relatively stable compared to the volatile stock market. Investors are diversifying and property is becoming an essential part of their portfolios.

This bodes well for the development space in KZN, as there are some exciting new projects in the wings which should be well received by the market. The key for developers, as always, is to price their projects correctly and to focus on contemporary architecture with easy open-plan living, keeping things simple and modern with a focus on lifestyle. Green features will, of course, sweeten the deal.

In closing, we anticipate that going green will be the theme for 2023, especially as we encounter ongoing service-

related challenges throughout South Africa. We also believe that property will continue to be a sought-after commodity and that it will continue to show resilience, as it has done over the past three years. KZN will prop itself up and lifestyle will yet again emerge as its number one trump card, so with this in mind, we have chosen to adopt a cautiously optimistic outlook for 2023. *

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Ithink my neighbour is in a witness protection programme. My partner rolls her eyes at this, but I’ve been watching him, and I’m convinced he’s a police informant with a new identity, far away where none of the old mob can find him.

“No he’s not,” said my partner. “He’s just a normal man, minding his own business. He’s probably quite lonely.”

He’s a strange fish, is John. He keeps his curtains closed all day. When he ventures out for a walk, he wears sunglasses and a floppy hat pulled low.

“So do you,” pointed out my partner.

Maybe, but I don’t check left and right before walking up the road, to make sure no one’s watching me. Why does he think people are watching him?

“Maybe because you’re

NEW beginnings

IT’S THE START OF A NEW YEAR, AND AS GOOD A TIME AS ANY TO CHANGE MY WAYS, ADMITS DARREL BRISTOW-BOVEY

always watching him,” my partner said.

He never has visitors. Once I knocked on his door and asked if I could use his bathroom. He frowned a frown that meant, ‘What’s wrong with your bathroom?’ but I’d already sidled past and was scoping out the joint.

“And?” said my partner. She disapproved – but she also wanted the deets.

“No photographs!” I declared triumphantly. “Not a single piece of family memorabilia!”

She looked meaningfully around our photo-free lounge. I should explain: it’s not that I don’t like my family, I just don’t find them particularly photogenic.

“I wish he would trust me,” I sighed. “I’d keep his secret.”

“No, you wouldn’t. You’d write about it in a column,” said my partner.

I suppose she’s right, but

I really am fascinated by the idea of a witness relocation programme. Imagine the opportunity to start again, a whole new person with a whole new life, knowing all you know now but without being burdened with the consequences of how you learnt it? Imagine if every day could be a new beginning, like the start of a new year. If it were me I’d choose a snappy new name – Seymour Coyote, or Hercules Strongbow, or Dave Skywalker – and

“I wasn’t upset, I was just disoriented. I had to sit in the other chair and look at the screen from left to right, and I’m used to it from right to left.”

But I brooded on that. Am I really such a creature of patterns and habits, so stuck in my ways? It’s dreadful to think that even if I had the chance to start again, I would probably just end up being me. Surely not. How could I put it to the test?

“Well,” said my partner, “instead of doing what you normally do, which is skulk around spying on poor John who’s just very shy, why not knock on his door and invite him round for tea? With no ulterior motive?”

What? Tea? Socialise? A friendly gesture with no ulterior motive? That’s crazy! I’m just not that kind of guy.

redesign my entire life purely to delight me.

“You couldn’t start a whole new life,” said my partner. “You’re a creature of habit. You’d just end up doing exactly the same thing, wherever you are.”

“That’s not true.”

“Yes, it is. Remember how upset you were when my Dad came to watch the rugby and sat in your chair?”

She nodded and smiled sadly at that, and I sat there for a bit, wondering why I’m so keen to change things that don’t matter, and so content to do nothing about the things that do. It’s the start of a new year: maybe I can do something differently.

“Where are you going?” she said.

“Just popping next door,” I said. “Will you put the kettle on?” *

You couldn’t start a whole new life,” said my partner. “You’re a creature of habit”