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QueStionS 1) True or false: You can get HIV from giving a blowjob. 2) True of false: Female condoms are even recommended for gay male sex. 3) Name the spermicide that one can use in addition to condoms that will work against HIV. 4) True or false: Fisting is a relatively safe sex act when it comes to avoiding the spread of HIV. 5) True or false: Mosquitoes can transmit HIV. 6) True or false: Having other sexually transmitted diseases puts people at an even greater risk of becoming infected. 7) What does the standard HIV test identify? 8) HIV is believed to have evolved from a similar virus found in which animal? 9) Which country has the highest number of people living with HIV? 10) True or false: Lesbians can’t contract HIV through sex with other women. See page 41 for answers
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1 in 30
The CDC’s estimate on the number of black women who will be diagnosed with HIV during their lifetime. Recent research shows that AfricanAmerican women, many living in Atlanta, are being infected with HIV at such a rapid rate that the numbers are being compared to African countries.
79%
of the infected Latino population are men.
20%
1981
The year AIDS was first identified in the U.S. after several gay males became ill with a rare form of pneumonia. The term "AIDS" was first used the following year. (Note: 1969 Midwestern teenager Robert Rayford died of causes that stumped his doctors, and it was later discovered that he was infected with AIDS, suggesting that the virus may have been present in the U.S. prior to the 1970s.) The percentage that Latinos comprise of those afflicted with HIV/AIDS, representing approximately 16 percent of the total American population.
Low income individuals are a fast-growing demographic of HIV infections, due in part to a lack of prevention education and awareness.
The Cost of Medicine
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Help
oraQuick is an easy way to test yourself for the presence of HIV antibodies at home. You can purchase it online at OraQuick.com or pick one up at CVS, Walgreens, Kroger, Rite Aid, or WalMart. $39.99 - The price of one single use OraQuick test. 20 - The number of minutes it takes to get your OraQuick test results. 2 - The number of weeks it can take to get results from standard HIV tests. 0 - The amount of blood needed to complete the test. 2 - The number of times you swipe your gums with the swab (once on the upper gums and once on the lower). 4 - The number of steps in the testing process.
$20 to $100 per month: the monthly cost range that a person with insurance pays for a single medication.
30 - The number of minutes you should wait after eating or drinking before swabbing your gums.
$500 to $1,600: the monthly cost range that an uninsured person pays for a single medication.
3 - The number of months you should wait to retest after a negative result if you continue to engage in sexual behavior that puts you at risk for contracting HIV.
Agencies like AiD Atlanta can help get medication free. there are programs available to assist people who are Hiv positive in getting necessary medications. the ADAP (AiDS Drug Assistance Program) program is available in every state.
97 - The percentage of people who develop HIV antibodies within three months after infection.
Free medical treatment for Hiv/AiDS is available through your area’s ryan white Program. Drug companies that make Hiv medications also have programs that provide either free or discounted medications to those who qualify. The information compiled for Fenuxe is a collaboration of AID Atlanta’s/State of Georgia’s GA AIDS/STD Information Line Team, as well as information from the CDC. We come to you with a cumulative 34 years in the HIV/AIDS field. Our backgrounds are in Psychology, Customer Service, Harm Reduction, and Crisis Management. A great deal of our training in the HIV field began in 1993. If you have further questions about HIV, contact AID Atlanta at (404) 870-7700.
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can do to show your style — both in and out of the gym. It is all about choosing active apparel that has the ability to double as sportswear and the right accessories to your gym outfit.
FAShIOn
FANCY FOOTWORK
Reebok CrossFit Lifter
These shoes are intended for high-intensity Crossfit, but they look so good that they would go just as well with a pair of jeans as with gym shorts. They are super-light (13.4 ounces), have excellent stability and can be custom-molded to your feet. Reebok CrossFit Lifter, $149.99
ARRIVE IN STYLE
This jacket may look like a varsity jacket, but it has all the bells and whistles of active wear such as light insulation, custom fit, and welded zippers for secure storage. Nike Destroyer Jacket, $500
BAG IT UP
Your gym bag is an important style accessory that should be able to be brought along for the post-workout dinner with friends as a cool part of your look. American Apparel Mineral Wash Natural Denim Gym Bag, $45
FASHIONABLY
FITTED
COLOR BLOCK AWAY
John Hilton, Fashion Contributor
If you are a regular gym buff, you know how comfortable, convenient, and cool active wear has become. Amazing textiles that will move with your body and absorb your sweat so that it won’t cling chillingly to your body. Sneakers that will support all your physical endeavors and even give you an energetic spring to your step. And snuggly fits that will enhance your hard-earned pecs or put a little ‘oh yeah’ in your derriére. Even though your prime focus is shaping that bodacious bod of yours, a trip to the gym is also about style. Because like in so
many other aspects of life, what you wear to the gym will speak volumes about who you are. So even though you may love that old, washed-out T-shirt bearing proof that you did indeed participate in that 5K run in Chicago in ’92, all it is really saying is that you used to be a runner, that you stopped investing in yourself and that you are not really taking your training seriously today. So for starters get into all the high-tech materials and great fits of modern active wear, and if you are even a little bit of a fashionista, there are many more things you
Who says that your classic gym shorts can’t be colorful? Apart from giving your run a new freshness, the right color might even inspire you to wear the shorts on other occasions than going to the gym. Vince Pigment-Dyed Jog Shorts, $125
JUST A LITTLE BLING
Workout and jewelry don’t mix. Period. But with the Nike Fuelband you get a little digital helper, which measures your activity level throughout the day and gives you a little sparkle at the gym. Nike FuelBand, $149
ADD SOME EXTRA MILEAGE TO YOUR WORKOUT WITH THESE GYM NECESSITIES Message In A Bottle Bringing bottled water to the gym is kind of like the person always asking for plastic at the supermarket. Show your ecofriendly side and bring your own bottle to the gym. And don’t worry about the taste of tap water: Bobble Bottle’s built-in carbon filter will purify the water as you go. Bobble Sport, $9.99 14 : January 31, 2013
BANG Bar No, it is not the latest bar opening in Atlanta, but a protein bar that is a far cry from those sugary, carb-laden and so-called meal replacement bars. This is 30g of protein, 5g of creatine to build muscle, heart healthy fats, and it has a low glycemic index and low carbs that will all make your workout a little bit more worthwhile. VPX Bang Protein Creatine Bar, $3
Bridge Catering as DJ Mike Pope provides a rhythmic backdrop — all to help those living with HIV/AIDS.
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The Party with Heart:
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ON THE
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Katherine Tippins, Managing Editor
Valentine’s Day falls on a Thursday this year, so you’ll probably be celebrating on the 15th or 16th, leaving your pre-Valentine’s weekend free to party at Joining Hearts’ sixth annual Love on the Rocks cocktail soiree. No worries if you don’t have a sweetie, Love on the Rocks provides the next best thing: Top-shelf drinks from Diageo! This event is an opportunity to mingle with other supporters of Joining Hearts, sip quality cocktails, and nosh delicious hors d’oeuvres from
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“Love on the Rocks has become our second largest fundraiser of the entire year,” Joining Hearts President Kerry Loftis told FENUXE. “It’s a really crucial event for us because it does count for at least a third of the donations at the end of the year.” You can make a difference by bidding on Love on the Rocks’ silent auction, which Loftis describes as one of the best of the year, that includes original artwork, salon services, home décor, vacations, and gym memberships. Each dollar provides vital funding for AID Atlanta and Jerusalem House. To purchase tickets or make a donation, visit joininghearts.org. General admission tickets to Love on the Rocks are $25. VIP tickets, which include specialty drinks and swag bags with gifts from Joining Hearts sponsors (e.g. Godiva chocolate!), are $50. Become a patron and receive free VIP access to Love on the Rocks and the upcoming Change of Seasons Tea Dance in April and the 26th annual Main Event fundraiser in July. Patrons are treated to a Patron & Sponsor Appreciation Party each year. Information on becoming a patron can also be found on Joining Hearts’ website.
THE DETAILS WHAT: Love on the Rocks WHERE: Room & Board 1170 Howell Mill Road NW | Atlanta, Ga. 30318 WHEN: Feb. 10, 6-9 p.m. HOW: Purchase tickets at joininghearts.org.
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nIGhtLIFe
CoCKtaiL CALORIE COUNT
In our Jan. 3 issue, celebrity trainer Jackie Warner told us emphatically: “Don’t ever drink fruit juice ever in your life.” This rule doesn’t apply just to the breakfast table. Take it to the bar as well! There are 15 calories in 1 ounce of orange juice; 1 ounce of 80-proof vodka contains 64 calories. An average screwdriver calls for 2 ounces of vodka and 5 ounces of orange juice, bringing the calorie total to 203. A 160-pound person has to walk for one hour at 2 mph to burn off one screwdriver. But who has just one cocktail? That same 160-pound person could run for an hour at 5 mph to burn off three drinks, but if you’re not up for all that, perhaps opt for lower-calorie cocktail options.
(100 - 200 CALORIES)
(100 CALORIES OR LESS)
cHAmPAgne A 5-ounce glass of bubbly contains about 100 calories, but unless you have friends who’d like to partake, ask your bartender if he has those small single-serving bottles before asking him to pop the cork on a whole bottle just for you, your highness. Just so you know, if you drink an entire standard-sized bottle, that’s about 500 calories.
rum & Diet coKe
voDKA SoDA Club soda is calorie-free, but tonic water contains approximately 10 calories per ounce. Choose a vodka soda and you’ll imbibe only 96 calories.
moJito
This drink has 97 calories, but be sure to ask for Diet Coke (or Coke Zero) — order a regular rum & coke and the calorie content jumps to 182.
wHiSKeY ginger
Most mojito recipes call for simple syrup or plain ol’ sugar. So, in addition to the rum, that’s where most of this drink’s nearly 200 calories come from. Club soda, lime, and mint leaves don’t amount to much. You may get funny looks if you ask for your drink to be made with Splenda, so just ask the bartender to hold the sugar.
Diet ginger ale will reduce the calories, but if your bartender doesn’t have it, you’re still looking at only about 150 calories for a regular whiskey ginger.
mArgAritA
(200+ CALORIES)
coSmoPoLitAn
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Cosmos contain cranberry juice, so they’re automatically on the naughty list. A 4-ounce serving of this drink will cost you 213 calories. mArtini A vodka martini contains about 250 calories. Like it dirty? Add another 20 calories for the extra brine and four calories per olive.
Margarita mix contains 25 calories per ounce; 1 ounce of silver tequila has 69 calories. Put those together with some orange liqueur and you’re dangerously close to 300 calories in one drink. And that’s at the bar. Restaurant margaritas tend to be bigger and contain more calories. Long iSLAnD iceD teA A 5-ounce serving of long island iced tea has nearly 300 calories. Asking for Diet Coke won’t help much, this drink contains only a splash regular Coke.
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UrBAn CULtUre
Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer
“But you don’t need it!” exclaimed the individual who reluctantly agreed to provide me with a single 20mg dose of the pink oval, conveniently split down the middle. “You don’t have ADD!” I laugh off his good intention. This is journalism, I tell myself. Some people go into war-zones for a story, some get waterboarded. I anxiously dive into medical-grade amphetamines. For the record, I’m a martini and (prescribed) Xanax kind of girl. My brain, in its natural state, is a staticky, buzzing AM radio station feeding me crackling half-thoughts and painfully mixed signals that need little more than a slow dial toward the closest tower. A stiff drink and a downer usually hones the madness into a single, crisp FM transmittance, but uppers? Even full-bodied coffee fiendishly snaps my fragile antenna in two. Adderall, from the description of its users (and abusers) sounds uncomfortable to me … egregiously intense, sickeningly full-force. Perhaps my hesitant provider is right — maybe my stimulant oversensitivity is an indication that “uppers” aren’t right for me, but I’ve got to see this for myself. Do it for the story, I successfully coerce myself. In spite of waking before 7 a.m that morning, I’m ready to embark on more than a full evening's worth of weird. 20 : January 31, 2013
9 p.m. (Down the hatch.) I find the pill easy to break into two pieces, but that’s just cowardly. I’m not here to write a half-assed account, so I down both halves. The pill tastes sweet, oddly, and a funereal sense of dread washed over me. Here “we” go, I guess. 9:37 p.m. (Replying to emails.) I can’t say that I feel “off the wall” speedy, but I do admit: I want to wash the dishes. I don’t have a dishwasher so it’s all by hand. Sounds enticing, oddly. Screw that, though. I need to focus on this piece. I’m going to re-read the anonymous submissions on the darker side of Adderall and prepare myself for what may come. BRB. 10:15 p.m. (Water!) My mouth is incredibly dry and I keep trying to drink, but my body is telling me to refrain each time I bring a glass to my lips. I need cigarettes. (Where are my cigarettes?) And where is that iPad? I want … no, I need to get portable. 11:12 p.m. I can’t seem to type as well as I normally do, having to backspace constantly and slow down due to my hands not being able to catch up with the speed of my thoughts. What’s with the shaking, man? I attended to the dishes only to realize the clanking was jarring my nerves, so I took a pensive step back and tried to engineer a quieter way to go about it. Even with the copious washrag and oven-mitt buffers (what?!), no dice. Pruney fingers now crown numb hands. (Is that normal?) I had a heartfelt (one-way) conversation with the dog and we’ve come to realize that my eyebrows and earlobes are interesting to stare at in the bathroom mirror. I resist the urge to organize the Q-tips and take my seat at the computer again. (I want to go back and brush my teeth. I’ve returned to document this experience instead.) 11:42 p.m. (Water!) What the hell with this dry mouth? Water washes over my tongue as I sip, but it doesn’t wet it. I’ve put on Pandora’s Mozart station and feel like I can accurately guess each key the pieces are composed in. I grab my guitar and try to play along. It sounds amazing, but that’s probably just the drug. Bet it actually sounds like crap. No matter; feels good. Midnight-ish My teeth have been thoroughly brushed, but my mouth is still dry. I started to clean
the bathroom sink, but instantly felt gross looking down the slimy drain. My throat feels on the verge of retching at the weirdest things, like the thought of grapefruit juice or the smell of cat food. I should be tired, but the idea of sleeping is as far away as the idea of trying to drink even more water. (Oof. Just typing that makes me want to gag.) 1:21 a.m. (Annoyance.) I’m whiling away the time researching Adderall’s side effects. My right arm feels a bit numb, which is alarming. I’ve smoked seven cigarettes inside, which is a no no. I’ve attempted to do the dishes again (fail), so I went and flossed like I have a dental visit in the morning or something. To some, this might be a wonderfully productive thing to do, but to me? To me, it’s obviously the product of a drug making me act like a bumbling, jittery idiot. The dry mouth and feverish need to relax (as I’m in constant need of) is nagging at me. Water is wet, but not moisturizing. Gross. I just feel gross. 1:43 a.m. I’ve just returned from what has to be the third time brushing my teeth with the frightening realization that I can’t really feel my feet. I’ve tried to lie down and chill, but to no avail. I really feel like I should take the computer apart and clean all the grit out of its cooling fans. (This is crazy, I know.) My one-time supplier was right: This isn’t for me. That’s not to say it’s not for everyone, mind you. People who truly need it lead normal lives and sleep fine. Me? I just don’t need it and I can’t handle it — that’s all there is to it. I’m breaking out the white wine. Maybe that’ll help. 2:02 a.m. Bad idea. Terrible idea, the wine. After two quickly-guzzled coffee cups full of grigio, I feel even more awake than I did without. Quick math tells me it’s been five hours since I downed that potent little pill. My tongue is bandying about my mouth, from the right side to the left and I’m grinding my teeth as though I have the world’s tiniest piece of chewing gum in there. Psychologically (if I’m allowed to comment whilst in this state), I feel misplaced. I’m thinking and writing at a poignancy-deficit, which (for a writer) is akin to male sexual impotence. Physically, I feel worse. It’s as though my upper back muscles (namely my shoulders) are tightening to the point of actively trying to join my earlobes in a tension frenzy. Never again. Instead of that crackling static I was talking about earlier, I liken the way I feel right now as having on gigantic headphones — one ear is hearing
death metal, the other is hearing funhouse music, both on full blast. Ugh! 2:23 a.m. Eff this, I’m taking some Xanax and chugging a glass of wine. (I can’t take it anymore.) I can’t even drink tea with too much caffeine! I definitely DO NOT have ADD, man. Never again. (Epilogue) 11 a.m.-ish I woke in my bed on top of the covers and freezing, not remembering how I got there. My fiancée informed me that she got up at 3:30 a.m. to check on me and found me passed out in the computer chair, hands in my hoodie pockets, chin on my chest. (She had no idea what I’d just done. I should’ve told her, I know.) Because I was so still (and because I’ve never passed out at the computer), she rushed to shake me awake. According to her, I said something in utter and complete gibberish, followed by: “Wait, that didn’t come out right,” and then said the exact same phrase in gibberish. She got me into bed somehow. Listen: I’m aware that what I did was risky, sure, but I’m a “try anything once” kinda girl. Perhaps I needn’t say it, but the operable word in this particular instance is ‘once.’ Never again. 0/5 stars. For the record, Fenuxe Magazine does not condone the ingestion of medications that are not prescribed to the user. As well, this article is in no way meant to provide medical advice to readers. In other words: DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME. (Or anywhere else, hell.)
QuiCK adderaLL faCtS • Full-time college students are twice as likely to abuse Adderall than part-timers. • Midterm and finals weeks see a huge boost in Adderall consumption. • An estimated 7 million Americans admit to abusing prescription stimulants. • Medically unsupervised doses can easily lead to heart failure. • Long-term use of Adderall commonly alters brain chemistry permanently. • Adderall is considered a Schedule II Controlled Substance, like Oxycodone or Percocet. • Because of the euphoric (but incredibly dangerous) effect, Adderall abusers are likely to binge drink. • Forty percent of American teens think it’s fine to abuse Adderall because it’s FDA-approved and “much safer” than the street equivalent, crystal meth. • Users can experience headaches, irregular heartbeat, hostility, paranoia, or even heart failure and fatal seizures. FENUXE.COM : 21
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No Passport? No Problem.
Puerto Rico
Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer
Culebra Island, PR
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Right now is high time for you to get the hell out of the impending freezes of next month and book your flight to San Juan’s Luis Muñoz Marín International Airport. Why? Three reasons: One, to flee the cold (Puerto Rico’s average high in February is in the high 80s); two, you don’t need to hassle with a passport (it’s a U.S. commonwealth) or changing money (they use our dollar); and three, not only is it beautiful, but the food is savory and authentic, and the historic sites will transport you back to the days of Ponce de León and his battle with the British. OK, there’s a fourth: The happening gay scene, with its “down to party” Latin men, is more than enough to keep you constantly dipping into all the island has to offer. With Spirit Airlines offering a roundtrip ticket (as in there and back, pal) at $385 for flights booked mid-February, it’s a no-brainer: Get your gorgeous selves to Puerto Rico.
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The first thing you’ll notice stepping out of airport is that PR is balmy. Incredibly balmy. The blanket of humidity and defrosting properties of tropical heat sap the Georgia winter clean out of your bones. Then, it’s the smell. Salt and sea are carried on aqueous breezes as you wait for a rental car to pull around. Opting out of a rental car? Don’t — you’ll be doing yourself an impractical disservice, as they’re phenomenally cheap. Trust me: You’re not going to want to stay in San Juan the entire time.
Once you take the wheel, head toward the historical district known as Old San Juan (that isn’t entirely unlike New Orleans’ French Quarter, actually). It’s historic, full of architecture from the 16th and 17th centuries, and located on a small island full of fortresses in the semblance of Spanish castles. The food, music, boutiques, and updated (wildly affordable) hotels that are older than America itself will blow your mind. For $80 a night, Da House Hotel is an art gallery/hotel that provides incredibly tasteful rooms with shiny hardwood floors, a four-poster bed, and French doors that open to your own giant balcony offering clear views of the Castillo de San Cristóbal. Want lodging with a deeper, darker past? Try El Convento, a hotel that started out as a convent in the 1650s, was transformed into a dance hall, then served as a flophouse rumored to be a brothel, and converted to a hotel in the 1960s when it settled into its current luxury lodging purpose — a sinful and sexy legacy. Like history? Tour the two fortresses — Castillo de San Cristóbal and Castillo de San Felipe del Morro — and discover not only why the foundations are slanted (think horse “leavings”) but also how dark, despondent, and medieval the internal prisons were. Ghosts are rumored to roam the forts night and day and with a quick tour within their cold and gloomy interiors, you’re bound to feel the chill of their haunted pasts.
relatively deserted beaches and set up camp (literally, as tents rent for $8 a night) and get down to the most soothing and serene of island basics. After some world-class snorkeling that gives you VIP access to Culebra’s submerged marine metropolis, you can enjoy dinner at the small island’s only town, Dewey, whose “mami y papi” restaurants provide fresh seafood and native dishes you’ll never find in the U.S. Rent one of the abundant and affordable Jeeps or golf carts Dewey offers and wind around the mountains for sublime views of Culebra’s paradisiacal landscape. Sleeping in a tent in the tropical weather of Culebra is only “camping” in a literal sense. Outdoor freshwater showers are provided (and it’s damn near deserted, but if you’re shy, just shower in your undies), and you don’t wake swatting gnats and mosquitoes from your face. Waking means that rain-like clicking of palm fronds overhead and distant calls of exotic birdsong has lulled you into an almost unreal consciousness. Softly crashing waves, an ocean breeze, silky white sand, and gentle sun beg you to come out and play. Catching a ride back to the ferry in one of the copious Dewey taxis that frequent the island won’t run you more than $8 and another blissful boat ride back to Fajardo lets you finish off that sun-kissed look you can’t wait to show your friends back home.
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But don’t dawdle too long in Old San Juan. Fight the compulsion and hop back in the car, mi amigo.
There’s a literal rush to driving through the often-hectic traffic of Puerto Rico. Thankfully, the country drives on the same side of the road as we do, but the style of maneuvering the streets and narrow byways requires a bit of aggression. Not into breakneck driving? That’s quite all right.
It’s easy to get away from the city and into the Great Wide Open of Puerto Rico, where smoother, quieter roads lead you toward the slower pace of non-tourist coastal roaming. Even if you don’t speak (or read) a lick of Spanish, road signs are pretty obvious (highway numbers are the same in Spanish) and most rental companies provide an English-compatible GPS that’ll guide you. Head toward Fajardo, another oceanside city an hour to the west that, along the way, gives you fringe views of El Yunque, PR’s most famous, lush jungle territory. Fajardo is where, for $2.50, a ferry takes you on a gorgeous two-hour ride to Culebra, a crescent-shaped island consistently ranked as having one of the top ten most beautiful beaches in the world. There, you’ll be able to walk on the
Because of the “move move move!” nature of San Juan, expediting the return of your rental car is something at which the locals are adept. Toss your keys on the counter, watch the hasty inspection of the vehicle, jump into an airport-bound taxi and in no time, you’re boarding the plane. With (most likely) a travel budget surplus still in your wallet, you’ve seen more history offshore as a U.S. citizen than you could have whilst traveling on the mainland.
¡Buen viaje!
Old San Juan, PR
Gay Hotspots: BatuCada: Calle Carlos Chardon #15 San Juan, PR 00918 (4 out of 5 stars) A gay bar with occasional karaoke, the dance floor stays hopping until the lights come on. Local hits are intertwined with worldwide favorites, proving ample entertainment for townies and visitors alike. The bar is notorious for its cheap drinks and rowdy Sunday night scene. Compare it to Mary’s. tia Maria JoSe de diego: 326 Av. José de Diego San Juan, P.R. 00920 (4 out of 5 stars) The oversized drinks are fantastically underpriced. If you’re looking to escape the tourist traps for a safe and gay-friendly setting, Tia's is a local favorite. According to locals, get there early — it gets packed after 10 p.m., but it’s well worth it. It’s also the best place for “Daddies!” Aye Chihuahua! Compare it to Blake’s on the Park. SCandaLo tHe CLuB: 613 Calle Condado San Juan, PR 00907 (3.5 out of 5 stars) Down for a good drag show? If it’s Thursday, pop into Scandalo. (Nina Flowers, who is from Puerto Rico, has caved in the roof on many an occasion.) In the mood for hot naked strippers of the Latin persuasion? Sunday is your night. DJs pride themselves on house music and Latin rhythms which, in short, means you can shake that ass. Compare it to Burkhart’s Pub, featuring naked Ricky Martin clones. SX: 1204 Ponce de León San Juan, PR 00907 (3 out of 5 stars) Boasting the hottest male strippers in San Juan, this scintillating gay bar offers two floors of dance-centric hotness, a video bar, and VIP lounge. The modelesque dancers are known to be incredibly laid back and down to please their clients. Compare it to Swinging Richards.
pr in tHe newS: Because of its terrible education system, crime rates, and struggling economy, Puerto Rico's legislature sent a formal request to Obama and the U.S. Congress in December 2012 to end the current form of “territorial status” and to begin the process of admitting Puerto Rico to the Union as the 51st state.
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the nutrient-Packed Seed of the Year Katherine Tippins, Managing Editor
Get out your rice cooker … and put some quinoa in it.
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Rice is yummy, but if you’re looking for a bit more nutrition with your carby goodness, try quinoa (pronounced keen-wah), the edible seed of a tall crop plant that is grown primarily in the Andean region of South America.
One cup of cooked quinoa has 222 calories, 4 grams of fat, 39 grams of carbs, 5 grams of fiber, and 8 grams of protein. One cup of cooked long-grain white rice has slightly fewer calories (205) and no fat, but it has less fiber (1 gram) and protein (4 grams) than quinoa.
Quinoa can be prepared in the much same way as rice and used as a rice substitute in dishes such as pilaf and stir-fry. It’s tasty on its own, but it can be mixed in with soups and other meals for an extra bit of protein and fiber. Plus, quinoa is gluten-free, cholesterolfree, and kosher. One difference in quinoa preparation is that it requires rinsing. The seeds have a bitter coating, so if you don’t rinse and drain them thoroughly in a fine mesh strainer, you’re going to have a bad time — no matter what 28 : January 31, 2013
It’s not just me singing the praises of this South American seed; quinoa is internationally recognized as a superfood. The Food and Agriculture Organization (FAO) of the United Nations named this year as The International Year of the Quinoa (IYQ). The Bolivian government started the proposal, with support from other Central and South American nations, and in December 2011, the United Nations General Assembly approved 2013 as the IYQ.
But why does this seed, commonly referred to as a whole grain like barley and rye, deserve an entire year named in its honor? According to the FAO, quinoa deserves the recognition because of its “exceptional nutritional qualities ... its adaptability to different agro-ecological floors and its potential contribution in the fight against hunger and malnutrition.” The exceptional nutritive value of quinoa comes from the fact that it is a plant-based protein source that contains ample amounts of all nine essential amino acids. Most plant foods do contain at least some of the nine amino acids, but they have insufficient amounts of one or two. The amino acid content makes quinoa a valuable food for vegetarians, and it contains 15 percent of the suggested daily value of iron, an important nutrient in which vegetarians can easily become deficient due to their eschewing of ironrich animal proteins. No matter your carnivorous eating habits, or lack thereof, quinoa is a wholesome addition to your diet. Give it a taste (after all, this is the IYQ) before the spontaneous try-something-new attitude of the New Year wears off.
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"I think atlanta need more cars. Lots and lots of cars. Til no one can move. Then maybe you'll come up with a great public transit system. Except for the traffic, Atlanta is a great town." the end they pay it lip service. We’ve let it slide for years, and at this juncture in our history it is absolutely vital. It’s time for us to stop farting around. Education is where everything we are comes from. We have beaten into the ground the constant bickering of the two parties over how the government and business and budget should work. It’s time for them to sit down together and figure it out and leave the rest of us alone.
Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer Longtime comedian and one of The Daily Show’s most brazen political commentators, Lewis Black is a staunch supporter of common sense and swear words. Neither a fan of the farleft or the far-right, he keeps the dialogue pretty clean for Fenuxe and waxes political. Check it out: Obama stays! Good or bad? Better than Paul Ryan being a heartbeat away. Was there any moment during the campaign when you found yourself yelling "Seize that moment, man!" only to be met with the softer side of Barry? I had no expectations. Politics is easier to swallow that way. Was there any time when you seriously thought it could go the 34 : January 31, 2013
way of Romney? Only for a moment after the first debate. I figured it was going to be Obama and was only surprised that I was right because I am never right. LGBT issues are important to Fenuxe. Do you think Obama's same-sex marriage endorsement was pandering to the gays or was it genuine? It doesn't matter, it was about f**king time. Romney’s ads loved this question: Are you personally better off than you were four years ago? Personally, I am more exhausted by the assholes in charge than I have ever been. What issue do politicians NOT talk about enough? Which ones do they beat into the ground? They don't talk enough about education. Maybe they do, but in
You get five minutes to beat the living sh*t out of a politician, immune to repercussions. Who's gettin' it? It’s tough because it’s a toss-up between Eric Cantor and Paul Ryan, both whom I find intolerable. Cantor, after one of those hurricanes ripped through Vermont a few years ago, held up aid to the state unless something was taken out of the budget. This is not the way we work as a country, nor should it ever be. Besides, Virginia had gotten federal aid after they were hit by a storm and Cantor didn't apply that rule. He is more interested in his agenda than compromise. Paul Ryan bases much of his political and economic philosophy on the books of Ayn Rand. He's basing these philosophies on works of fiction! You've got to be kidding me. Obama's got nothing to lose, so make your prediction now: Is he gonna tell the naysayers to piss off or is he going to keep tiptoeing on their eggshells? He is going to continue to lead by being withdrawn. Hopefully he can move us forward. I have my doubts. The Republicans and Democrats don't help. What's a bottle to treat Mr. Lewis Black to during the holidays? I usually drink red wine now as I went through practically all types of booze during the course of my life., including Absinthe when it was really Absinthe. Now I will have a drink only occasionally. And that's usually vodka or a cocktail that seems interesting. Any stance on the guns issue? I'm seeing fresh, crisp NRA stickers slapped on bumpers.
For starters. NO ONE IS TRYING TO TAKE AWAY ANYONE'S SECOND AMENDMENT RIGHTS AND NO ONE IS TRYING TO TAKE AWAY ANYONE'S GUNS! Just because people say it and they say it a lot, doesn't mean it’s true. It’s paranoid and delusional and gets in the way of our coming up with a sane gun policy. I have worked on and off with the Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence for quite awhile now and they also have no interest in taking away people's guns. Idiots have responded to my membership by claiming that is what they want to do. It doesn't help to be stupid when children have been shot. And the solution isn't guns in the schools. How do I know that? I don't. I just think it’s a good guess. Who was your childhood crush and who would you like to take out for an evening or two currently? Chris Garfink was my childhood crush. I'd like to go out with Charlize Theron or Scarlett Johansson even though I am too old and they are way out of my league. I'd just like to do a movie with Jennifer Lawrence. What music have you been listening to lately? I listen to a variety of stuff including Florence + the Machine and the Rolling Stones and Bonnie Raitt. I just played some Joe Cocker. What comedian/comedienne is underrated? By far the most underrated comic is Kathleen Madigan. She maybe the funniest person in the country. What's a quality in a woman that IMMEDIATELY sends you the other way? A sense of entitlement. What's the strangest thing a fan has done for/to you? An absolutely stunning young woman had a tattoo of me on her arm and had me sign it and then had the signature tattooed. The tattoo was better looking than most of my photos or me even. What're the best fringe benefits of your job? I get to say pretty much whatever I want in public.
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Trainer and owner of Fit Studio, Kevin DeLoach, and his sidekick, trainer Andrew Gann, know their stuff. With an easygoing, ultrapersonal approach to physical fitness, the affable duo make clients feel welcome, encouraged, and in good hands. I don’t have a gym membership, but I’d like to get a head-start on working out from home. What do I need to buy?
sacrifice the feelings of my family or friends, or if it causes conflict.” What exactly do you mean by that?
Kevin: You don't need to buy anything. The best equipment is your own body weight. But if you absolutely have to, the best thing to start out with are exercise bands. You can even bring them along during your travels, and they’re very inexpensive — you can find some for 20 bucks.
Kevin: So many times we let our friends and family make excuses for us to not eat healthy: “You can have that! It’s OK!” We fall prey to it, but have to make a commitment. You can’t let others be your excuse.
On your website, the first step you suggest people adhere to goes like this: “I am prepared to eat differently, even if I must
For some, the idea of going to the gym is intimidating. With all those fit people, newbies who aren’t exactly in the best shape can really feel out of place.
Andrew: I think one good thing about Fit Studio is that it’s not corporate gym. You’re not going to feel like everyone’s staring at you as you get your one-on-one with a trainer.
and start them on a nutrition plan to help them reach their goals.
Kevin: I was about 60 pounds overweight in my late 20s and I’d never been in a gym. I was scared to death, so I really didn’t go. I was insecure and embarrassed. Our concept is to let people come in, be secure, and learn how to work out and eat right. We’re not some highpressure sales gym. We’re here for people who want to change their life. Remind yourself: Some people have the same exact feeling — they’re worried about what people are saying. The truth is, people who’ve been working out for a while see someone new and think, Wow that’s great! We all started somewhere, so we look at new people in a positive way. We’ve all been at the point where we could only work out with 10-pound weights, so we definitely don’t judge.
Kevin: At the studio, we do 30-minute sessions of solid working out. We have no TVs, no distractions. We can get you in and out in 35 minutes for $45. We also do group sessions, which is really popular. You get to train with us, and you can pay anywhere from $16 - $25 a class, and that’s three times a week at a $45 investment! It’s the best way to work out at the best price. Our clients love it.
What are some of the initial results people can expect that’ll help them stick with it? Andrew: The initial weight loss is a good motivation to keep going. The closer you get to your goal, the easier it is to keep at it. Kevin: A good thing to remember is that you have to set really small goals. Tell yourself: “In four weeks, this is what I want to accomplish.” Then reward yourself when you reach your goal. Buy a new outfit; take a small vacation. Do you find that people often reward themselves too much? Like binging on junk food? Kevin: It happens, but if you mess up, if you fall off the wagon, you just get right back on it. That’s important to remember: You’ve made a contract with yourself, a commitment. Starting out is pretty rough, but does it get any easier to make a part of your life, working out? Andrew: Once you make it a habit, absolutely. If I don’t make it to the gym, I make up for it by training extra hard the next day. I advise my clients to do the same thing. Kevin: Give yourself 12 weeks. If you can make it for 12 weeks, you can make it a lifestyle. So what can we expect from Fit Studio? Andrew: When a client contacts us, they get an initial consultation where we figure out their goals, show them around the gym, get one-onone with them, talk about their eating habits,
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So what foods should those new to nutrition start avoiding? Kevin: It’s all about portion control. Our food portions in this country are huge and we’ve gotten used to eating so much at once. Watch your portions and you’ll immediately lose weight. I tell my clients to use small plates. Eat everything on your plate, wait 30 minutes, then go back for more. What happens after 30 minutes is that they realize they’re not even hungry anymore. But just change your portions. If you go out to dinner, ask for half of it to be boxed up when you order. You’ll be full and you won’t even miss it. But try taking flour out of your diet for 30 days and watch what happens. Some people notice that they don’t get any swelling in their stomach. If you don’t see any results, put flour back in. It doesn’t work for everyone, but portion control is a guarantee. So what about eating before working out? What do you recommend? Andrew: Whatever meal you eat needs to be two hours before your workout. This gives you time to digest your food, so it’s not so heavy on your stomach. But right before your workout? Bananas. The potassium will help you with any cramping and give you an extra energy boost.
Andrew and Kevin lent us some tips on how bodyweight can be the best equipment while at home or on the road. 1. DIPS:
1) Grab a chair (or a similarly raised, sturdy surface) and position yourself on the very edge of it. 2) Place your hands behind your hips on the edge of your seat shoulder-width apart, making sure they’re secure. 3) With your chest elevated and head up, lower yourself until your elbows are at a 90 degree angle. Your knees should not bend past your toes. 4) Extend your arms, raising yourself upward while supporting your body weight with your arms.
2. JUMP ROPE:
1) Make sure you’ve got a decent rope to jump with. The rope should turn freely inside its handles, be made of quality plastic (as are speed ropes), and — when you’re standing in the middle of the rope — the handles reach just below your armpits. 2) Find a proper surface, preferably wood floors. Concrete is rough on your knees and will eat your rope in time. Avoid carpet, as it makes the rope bounce. 3) Make sure that when you start jumping, you’re only using the balls of your feet. Your heels should never touch the ground while you’re performing the exercise. Don’t lock your knees; just relax and let the fluid motion carry you through. 4) Jump at around 1/4 - 1/2 inch off the ground, landing softly each time. Keep your elbows near your side and turn the rope with your wrists, not your arms.
Kevin: Protein bars before your workout are good too. I know abstaining is best, but what about alcohol? What drinks won’t completely wreck your diet? Kevin:A glass of red wine at dinner isn’t bad, just don’t chug it — enjoy it. A vodka tonic or a vodka soda is not bad. If you put a lemon or a lime in it, even better. A lot of people don’t realize that lemon and lime help burn fat. If you drink, just watch out for sodas and sweeteners like orange and cranberry juice.
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1) Hit the floor! Make sure your hands are positioned slightly wider than shoulder-width apart. 2) Your feet can either touch or be shoulder-width apart, as well — whatever’s most comfortable. 3) Imagine your body as one straight line from the top of your head to your heels and keep it that way throughout the maneuver. 4) Lower yourself steadily until your elbows are at least at a 90 degree angle. 5) Raise up and resist the urge to pat yourself on the back … because you’ve got to finish this set.
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1) True. Open sores in one’s mouth provide an entrance into the bloodstream of the giver. Though the risk of contracting HIV through fellatio is extremely low, condom usage reduces the risk of infections from other STDs as well. 2) True. When used properly, female condoms will provide protection to both partners — and they’re fun! However, using a condom for men in addition to a female condom is not only unsafe, it’s also painful (think: friction heat). Female condoms are currently in use among the gay community (they’re anally inserted), and are made of Nitrile, which is non-allergenic. The portion of the female condom that remains outside the body covers the entire anus, allowing for germ- and disease-free rimjobs! They can also be used with oil-based lubricants — another plus. 3) It doesn’t exist. The CDC states, however, that spermicides will actually increase the risk of HIV transmission, as they are an irritant and can cause breaks in the oral, vaginal, or anal lining. A good lube and a condom is all you need. 4) False. Fisting can cause tears in the anal or rectal walls, especially if the nails are not extremely well groomed. When accompanied by a cut on the hand, you would have the perfect opportunity for HIV infection (this applies to both parties). Please use a latex glove and get that manicure. 5) False. HIV is not spread through insects that bite, such as mosquitoes, ticks, and bedbugs. 6) True. Having an STD changes the cells lining the penis, rectum, vagina, and mouth, making HIV easy to enter a person’s bloodstream. 7) Antibodies. When HIV enters the body, antibody production goes into overdrive to fight the infection. The standard HIV test looks for antibodies in a person's blood. 8) The SIV virus found in chimpanzees is very close to HIV. It is believed that the virus crossed species to humans. 9) An estimated 5.6 million people are living with HIV in South Africa. 10) False. Though at a decreased risk of contracting HIV through lesbian sex, infected fluids, such as blood or vaginal fluids, can enter a lesbian’s body via shared sex toys or through open sores in their mouths or on their hands.
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Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer
An entrepreneur since the fourth grade, when she noticed busy New Yorkers in nice clothes would gladly pay for someone to remove the snow from around their car, Emma Foulkes has always been a “money” person. A licensed stockbroker with a Bachelor of Science in Information Systems, Foulkes knows her way around a dollar. She also comes by frugality naturally, as the daughter of immigrants, and she shares a few tips on how to make the most of what we’ve got. In general, youth of today aren't too concerned about saving. What are some strategies that would make it easier for them to put money back without too much duress? An easy way to start saving is to have a designated amount automatically drafted from your checking account go to a non-connected savings account each pay period. This will help establish an emergency reserve. It is also important to invest at least up to the match in a company’s retirement plan. No one wants to think about getting old but it’s coming. What's an easy and effective way to build credit? Obtain a secured credit card through your bank. You give the bank an amount, say $500 and they put that amount into a CD (Certificate of Deposit) for you. They then give you a credit card with a $500 limit. 42 : January 31, 2013
You use and pay on time and, after an agreed upon term, they give you your $500 back. If you mess up, they keep up to what you charged on the card. Credit cards: Are they the devil? Credit cards are not evil. Using credit cards requires a level of maturity. Only use them if you can pay off the balance in a reasonable amount of time. People get into trouble when they use credit cards to supplement their lifestyle. In this economy, with its recordlow home prices, is the allure of a super-low mortgage worth the cost of home ownership? Home prices are very low right now. However, there is more to owning a home than making the mortgage payment. Homeownership is a huge financial responsibility. A person who is considering buying a home has to take into account the obligations — Homeowner Association dues, annual maintenance, yard work, insurance, and taxes. What are the worst investments you see young people repeatedly throwing money into? Cars they can’t afford. Clothes they don’t need. I've seen many people come into an inheritance and either blow it completely or slowly and unknowingly drain it dry. What would you advise someone who would like to make the most of it?
Any time someone comes into sudden wealth, it is imperative they seek out professional financial guidance prior to spending any money or telling the world about their new-found prosperity. I have witnessed, over the last 14 years, sudden wealth recipients blowing insane amounts of money. "Iffy" used car or a brand-new one that requires payments: Which would you advise for the "I just got my first real job!" crowd? A great way to pick the best car for you is to grab a copy of the Consumer Reports Magazine Best Used Cars and Best New Cars editions, where cars are rated by price and reliability. I am not a big car person — they get me from point A to point B. What are a few of the challenges that LGBT couples should watch out for when it comes to financial issues in a legal sense? At this time — although things may change in the near future — same sex couples do not have the same rights as heterosexual couples. It is best to meet with a financial advisor and an attorney who specializes in LGBT estate planning and domestic partnership agreements. How about stocks: For people starting out in the stock market, what are some common pitfalls to be aware of? Don’t invest in the stock market
before you have an emergency savings account with at least three months of living expenses. This rule will prevent an investor from selling stock at the wrong time because they lost their job or need new tires. People also tend to take advice from everywhere: Uncle Joe, pundits on television, financial entertainment shows, magazines, radio — everyone has great investment advice for you. People should do their own research if they have time. If they don’t have time, find a financial professional who you are comfortable with. Is obtaining a financial adviser a good idea for one who doesn't make a lot of money or is it a good idea for everyone? For a person just starting out with their first or second job, they should focus on learning how to pay bills, establishing an emergency fund, and putting money into a company retirement plan. Hiring a financial advisor is great for a person who wants to maximize the dollars they have, but just like hiring a personal trainer, you have to be ready to take action on the advice! Emma and her partner Petrina have been together for eight years. They have a 20-yearold son in college and count the wildlife in their backyard as their many pets. Emma I. Foulkes is a Registered Representative and Investment Adviser Representative of Equity Services, Inc. Securities and investment advisory services are offered solely by Equity Services, Inc., Member FINRA/SIPC, 1050 Crown Pointe Parkway, Suite 1000, Atlanta, Ga. 30338 (770) 5125100. Commonwealth Business & Retirement Services and all other people and entities referenced are independent of Equity Services, Inc. TC71860(0113)
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Jungle Club
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227 10th St.
Gilbert’s Cafe The Fifth Ivory
219 10th St.
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Amsterdam – Evolve Showtunes – 9PM Blake’s – I Gotta Sing! Karaoke by Jerry – 11PM Burkhart’s – Trivia Tuesday Karaoke – 11:30PM Bulldogs – $2 Well Drinks 8Pm- 11Pm Cowtippers – Trivia – 8PM Friends On Ponce – Let’s Make A Deal with Ken – 6pm LeBuzz – Krazy Karaoke – 10PM
wednesday
Blake’s – Lust and Bust Show – 11PM Bulldogs – $4 Frozen Drink 4-9 pm | $2 Well Drinks 8 - 11Pm Burkhart’s – Humpday Karaoke – 11:30PM Friends On Ponce – Team Trivia – 8pm Gilberts – Trivioke – 10PM Heretic – HUMP Dress Code Night – 10PM Joe’s on Juniper – Crazy Bitch Bingo – 8PM Las Margaritas – Trivia – 7:30PM LeBuzz – Theme Nights – 9PM
thursday
Blake’s – Texas Hold’em Poker – 7PM Blake’s – The Shawnna Factor Show – 11PM Bulldogs – Get In free With Out Of State id Before 11 pm Burkhart’s – Twisted Thursdays – 11:30PM Cowtippers – Movie Night – 8PM Friends On Ponce – Where Girls who like Girls meet Girls with Regina Simms – 8pm Gilberts – Wine Tasting – 6:30 – 9:30PM Heretic – 3 Legged Cowboy Line Dance Lessons – 8PM Joe’s on Juniper – Trivia – 8PM
friday
Mary’s – Industry Night – 5PM Model T – Wheel of ? with Elvis – 9pm Oscar’s –Service Industry Night – 9pm Sister Louisa’s Church – Ping Pong Tournament – 8PM The Hideaway – Domestic Beer Special Tripp’s – Monday Night Madness – 9pm Woofs – Texas Hold’em Poker – 7:30PM
Mary’s – Mary-oke – 9PM MIXX – Piano Night with David Reeb – 8pm Model T – Texas Hold’em Poker with Nut Flush – 9:30PM My Sister’s Room – Trivia – 8PM The Hideaway – Trivia with Will – 9pm Tripp’s – Ladies Night – 9pm Woofs – Industry Discount Day – 10AM to 10PM
Mary’s – The Honey Pot – 9PM MIXX – Texas Hold’em Poker with Nut Flush – 7pm Model T – Karaoke with Pat & Tina – 10PM My Sister’s Room – Karaoke – 8PM Oscar’s – ReBooT Retro – 8pm Sister Louisa’s Church – Church Organ Karaoke – 10PM The Hideaway – Miss Lauren’s Poker – 7pm Tripp’s – Free Taco Bar – 5pm Woofs – Trivia – 8PM
Las Margaritas – Crazy Bitch Bingo – 7:30PM LeBuzz – Ladies Night – 11PM Mary’s – Balls Out Thursdays Theme Night – 9PM MIXX – The Toolbox – 6pm | The Unexpected Cabaret – 11pm Model T – Wheel of ? with Michael – 9pm My Sister’s Room – Xplosion – 10PM Oscar’s – Petey Party - 2pm – 8pm Tripps – Karaoke – 9pm Woofs – Country Music – 7PM
Blake’s – Charlie’s Angels Show with Charlie Brown – 11PM Bulldogs – Back That Vinyl Up - Bulldogs Funky Fresh Friday Retro | Military Free All Day Every Day Burkhart’s – The Fab Five – 11:30PM Friends On Ponce – Happy Times with Ken & Kelly Heretic – DJ Lydia Prim – 10PM LeBuzz – Divas Cabaret – 11PM Mary’s – Boys Room – 5PM MIXX – End of the Week Party with Ron – 4pm Model T – Free Friday Bagels – 10am Oscar’s – 80’s Retro Vidz – 8pm Tripp’s – Afternoon Delights – 4pm Woofs – TGIF Cocktail Night – 5PM
saturday Blake’s – Open at 1PM. Non stop music & Video. Daring Diva’s Show – 11PM Bulldogs – Get In Free With College Id All Night Burkhart’s – Extravaganza – 11:30PM Friends On Ponce – Afternoon Funtime with DJ 12-6PM LeBuzz – Divas Cabaret – 11PM Mary’s – Hot Mess Dance Party – 9PM MIXX – Afternoon Grill-out – 4pm | Guest DJ’s Dance – 10pm Model T – Saturday Night Live with Michael – 9pm Tripp’s – Cook out – 3pm
sunday Amsterdam – Brunch – 11AM Blake’s – Open at 1PM, Classic Blake’s Bill Berdeaux spins @ 3PM, Darryl Cox @ 7PM, Texas Hold’em upstairs @ 2 PM Burkhart’s – The Armorettes – 8PM Friends On Ponce – DJ’s Smirnoff B Mary Bar 12:30PM Gilbert’s – Brunch – 10AM Las Margaritas – Brunch – 11AM Model T – Sunday Dinner with Ron – 3:30pm MIXX – Grill Out & Beer Bust – 4pm | Old School Sunday Dance – 7pm Roxx Tavern –Brunch – 11AM The Hideaway – Bloody Mary Bar – 12:30pm Tripp’s – Buffet of Goodness – 3 pm | Karaoke – 9pm
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“FLASHDANCE” THE FOX THEATRE
What a feeling! Flashdance — the 1983 smash-hit that made Jennifer Beals of “The L Word” an instant star — will be live on stage at the fabulous Fox Theatre. The story follows Alex, a workingclass girl from Pittsburgh, on the hardships she faces while bringing her dreams of becoming a dancer to fruition. Directed and choreographed by Sergio Trujillo (“The Addams Family”), the musical features hits from the movie along with 16 original songs. Tickets from $30. 1.10 – 4.24.2013
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2.10.2013 LOVE ON THE ROCKS
ROOM & BOARD 6 P.M. Joining Hearts is hosting a Valentine’s Day-themed evening of top-shelf Diageo cocktails, choice hors d’oeuvres from Bridge Catering, and the musical stylings of DJ Mike Pope. A silent auction will feature vacation packages, gym memberships, and much more. All proceeds go to benefiting the lives of people living with HIV/ AIDS. $25 general admission, $50 VIP. Get tickets in advance at JoiningHearts.org/Events/ Love-On-The-Rocks.
2.19.2013 PAPI’S LOVE SUCKS BALL LAS MARGARITAS 8 P.M.
Las Margaritas is taking reservations for the Love Sucks Ball, featuring a four-course menu with entrées such as Cuban boliche, chicken cordon bleu, and Latin lasagna for $16.95. Stasha Sanchez will be performing live and Cuervo models will be on-hand for giveaways. All are invited to participate in the champagne toast to Love Sucks. 50 : January 31, 2013
A staple in Atlanta, this comedy/murder mystery dinner theater is always a good time. The audience participates in the action each night, with the chance to “die laughing” between five courses of dinner including hors d’oeuvres, salad, a choice of entrée, and a glass of wine. The dress code is dinner casual, so no flip flops! Tickets from $65 (dinner, tax, and tip included). 2.8-16.2013
ATLANTA BALLET - “DRACULA” COBB ENERGY CENTRE
Back by popular demand, Atlanta Ballet takes on Bram Stoker’s lurid tale of supernatural seduction and boasts an original score complete with immersive sound effects, such as wolf howls and the booming heartbeats of the terrified. Engrossing sets and extravagant costumes couple with paranormal effects to make “Dracula” a haunting cinematic performance. Tickets from $20.
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SAGE ATLANTA PRESENTS “JOHNNY GREYEYES.” FIRST EXISTENTIALIST CONGREGATION OF ATLANTA 7 P.M.
SAGE Atlanta invites you to attend their Third Friday Film Series for a viewing of “Johnny Greyeyes,” the story of a Native American woman who finds love in a women’s prison. Popcorn and other refreshments will be available.Stick around to discuss the film and to get some sage advice on a host of senior LGBT issues. Donations are greatly appreciated, but no one will be turned away. Doors open at 7 p.m. and the films go live at 7:30 p.m. 2.20.2013
CHANTING SERVICE CONGREGATION BET HAVERIM 7 A.M.
Openly-gay Rabbi Joshua Lesser, a recipient of the Fenuxe 50 award, invites Atlanta to attend a chanting service at his LGBT-friendly synagogue. Promoting social awareness and intelligent discussion on sexual orientation and familial bonds, his synagogue actively serves and supports the gay and lesbian community. The event is free for all. 2.21.2013
ATLANTA EXECUTIVE NETWORK FEATURES SPEAKER WENDY WATKINS
HUDSON GRILLE MIDTOWN 6:30 P.M.
Certified “Strategic Attraction” coach and licensed “Passion Test” facilitator, Wendy Watkins will dish up some fresh approaches to love and life as the Atlanta Executive Network’s February speaker of the month. Join the lecture and treat yourself to light appetizers and cocktails provided by Hudson Grille. Complimentary valet parking is available. Admission is $20 for guests and free for AEN members.Visit aen.org for more info.
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AQUARIUS [Jan. 20 – feb. 18]
Water-bearer, your sign rules the calves and ankles, which makes sense: The way they flex beautifully as you stroll down the hall in your pencil skirt and heels is ultra-sexy.
PISCES [feb. 19 – mar. 20]
Pisces, your sign rules the feet, which is why your tootsies are so adorable and why you’re known for those killer foot massages you give.
ARIES [mar. 21 – apr. 19]
The ram’s territory includes the head, face, and eyes. No wonder those intense gazes you give from across the bar make us weak in the knees.
Taurus [apr. 20 – may 20]
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Taurus, you govern the neck, ears, and throat — some of the most erogenous of zones where we love to place kisses that really get you in the mood.
GemIni [may 21 – Jun. 22]
Gemini, you rule the arms, shoulders, and hands, which perfectly explains why you give good cuddles and can work wonders with those dexterous digits of yours.
CANCER [Jun. 21 – Jul. 22]
Hardworking crab, your zones are the chest and stomach, which is why our eyes are always drawn to your beautiful pecs and smooth tummy.
LEO [Jul. 23 – aug. 22]
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Leo, your domain is that strong, broad upper back which looks so damn hot in those broken-in tees you sport in warmer months.
virgo [aug. 23 – sept. 22] Coquettish virgin, your sign rules the lower abdominal region, that super-sexy area below your navel and above your … you know. (We know it too … and love love love it.)
libra [sept. 23 – oct. 22]
Libra, your sign’s territory is the lower back, which is why we’re so drawn to reaching our arms around your gorgeous waist and pulling you close.
scorpio [oct. 23 – nov. 22]
Scorpio, you naughty thing. Your sign has reign over the genitals (as if you didn’t already know that), but you’re also known for the sexy smell of your sweat.
SAGITTARIUS [nov. 23 – dec. 21]
Archer, you rule the hips and thighs, which make for sexy spots to plant our lips, if we’re lucky enough.
Capricorn [dec. 22 – Jan. 19]
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HRC Pre-Dinner Reception 1.24.2013 • 10th & Piedmont
HRC hosted a get-together to give attendees the scoop on the upcoming HRC Gala Dinner in May while providing excellent networking opportunities for Atlanta’s LGBT community.
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ARMoREttES FUnDRAiSER 1.20.2013 • Burkhart’s Pub
honoring the owners of Brushstrokes (Mark Jackson and Tom Schloeder), Ruby and the gang brought the house down while raising money for hIv/AIDS-related causes.
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