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Love and Passion

Love is in the air!

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I will have to admit — I wasn’t much of a dog man before this year. I thought they were smelly, way too hard to upkeep, and liked to chew and tear up everything in the house. However, in the past few weeks of taking care of little Fenuxe, I can now emphatically declare that I am starting to understand what love means.

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Love can’t wait for you to come home and is waiting for you at the door after a hard day of work. Love is two beautiful brown puppy eyes that longingly look up to you. Love is waking up in the morning to your face being licked off. Love can’t wait to go on a walk with you while you clear your head. Love comes in many shapes and sizes, you just have to open your heart and let it in. If your Valentine’s date doesn’t go as planned or maybe you don’t have a date this year — consider volunteering at any of the local animal shelters. I think you will ﬁnd that there is a lot of love just waiting for you!

p.s. Little Fenuxe is recovering very well — she had to have a second surgery because a pin was dislocated in her leg, but after the second surgery, she is going to be A-OK!

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Dress To Impress (And Score…)

Tips on how to dress for your first date Top

Don’t wear a suit, but wear a jacket – A sports jacket is practically perfect because you can dress anything up and down with it. An entire suit is overdoing it unless you are going to a very ﬁne eatery — otherwise a suit makes you appear a little stiff and perhaps even boring. J. Crew Ludlow Sport Jacket in Corded Cotton, $188 Show your style with a tee – As long as you wear a jacket, you can go (a little) crazy with your T-shirt. This is where you can add a pop of color, wear your favorite slogan or support your favorite team. And a ﬁtted T-shirt will show off your physique in a subtle and tasteful way. Alternative V-Neck T-shirt Eco Green, $19

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Denim does it – A good pair of jeans, preferably in a neutral and darker wash, are dressy enough for almost any venue. Alternatively, a pair of chinos are perfect because they emanate the same kind of casual style. Club Monaco Barrett Jeans, $195

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What you wear always matters, which is particularly true when it comes to work — and first dates. And if that first date coincides with Valentine’s Day, the pressure to pick the right outfit is so on! There are first impressions and then there are ‘first date first impressions.’ Although you met in a crowded bar or at the gym, lasting impressions are made on the first date. So naturally, what you wear to that first date is highly important. Start by asking yourself ‘For whom will I be dressing?’ Do you need to boost your own confidence through your outfit and basically feel hotter than ever? Or do you want to display your personality and style to that potential significant other through carefully chosen pieces of clothing? Ideally, what you wear should be a mix of the two: On one hand you should feel comfortable and confident, and on the other you should dress in a way that does not disguise who you are. Tricky business, as you want to sell yourself in the best possible way and not overdo it at the same time — after all, we could be talking the first date of a life-long relationship here!

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Showcase shoes – Naturally, you should not wear your oldest pair of sneakers. Nor should you show up in your ﬁnest lacquer dress shoes. The perfect middle way is a pair of dressy sneakers that show you care about how you dress, but that you are not fussy either. Aldo Matfre High-tops, $80

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NOMINATIONS NOW OPEN F O R T H E 2 0 1 3 B E S T B A C H E L O R O F AT L A N TA Nominations for the 2013 Best Bachelor of Atlanta are being accepted now through Feb. 21. If you know someone who is still single and you can’t understand why, visit fenuxe.com/bachelor and ﬁll out the short form to nominate him or her. Nominees must be single, gay, over 21, live in the metro-Atlanta area, be available to participate in a photo shoot the weekend of March 16-17, and be willing to have their images published in FENUXE. Nominees can be male or female. Once we’ve received all your nominations, voting will be held Feb. 22 March 14 to choose the

10 successful nominees. Winning Bachelors will have their pictures professionally taken. Our Best Bachelor Party will be held on April 6, when the 10 winners will be auctioned off for a date with the highest bidders, complete with a luxurious date package that includes makeover services and dinner for two. All proceeds from the auction beneﬁt AID Atlanta. Terry Hackworth, a nurse practitioner at Pride Medical, was one of the 10 Bachelors last year. “I thought it was a really good experience,” he told FENUXE.

Participating in the 2012 Best Bachelor of Atlanta contest was helpful for Terry’s career as well. “I had just become a nurse practitioner a few months before that and it helped put my name out there,” he said. Although he doesn’t usually do well in the spotlight, Terry said the auction and photo shoot were not difﬁcult for him. “The other Bachelors made [the auction] a comfortable experience as well and we watched out for each other, so I wasn’t uncomfortable at all and it was actually a lot more fun than I anticipated or ever expected it to be,”

fenuxe invites you to nominate this year’s Best Bachelor of Atlanta! Nominations will be accepted now through Feb. 21. Nominees must be single, gay, over 21, live in the metro-Atlanta area, be available to participate in a photo shoot the weekend of March 16-17, and be willing to have their images published in fenuxe. Nominees can be male or female. Once we’ve received your nominations, voting will take place feb. 22 - march 14. The 10 winners will be auctioned off at our third annual Best Bachelor of Atlanta Party on April 6. All proceeds from the auction beneﬁt AID Atlanta. perks of being a fenuxe Best Bachelor: • Raise funds for AID Atlanta • Free dinner for two • Free makeover services • Free professional photo shoot • Attend a party in your honor • You could meet the love of your life 14 : February 14, 2013

he said. “[The photo shoot] was made to be extremely comfortable and it was also a lot of fun.” Last year, our date packages included dinner at STK Steakhouse, a spa package from Look Young Atlanta, tickets to the Horizon Theatre, doggy daycare, and more. The 2012 Best Bachelor of Atlanta auction raised more than $20,000 for AID Atlanta, and we hope to exceed that amount with our 2013 Bachelors, so be sure nominate that sexy single who you know deserves a fabulous date night!

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NIGHTLIFE DJ Joe Gauthreaux Spins to Win Joseph Gerbino, Contributor

When Out Magazine named Joe Gauthreaux “Hottest DJ of the Year” in 2005, it was a very different world. Social media wasn't as prevalent. “We're all so much more connected now,” says the New York DJ who returns to Atlanta to spin at Heretic Nightclub. “It's so much easier to get information and music to my supporters, and for promoters to get a hold of me if they want me to spin at their club or event.” In 2005, Gauthreaux was still considered one of the new kids on the block, competing for gigs against some of the biggest names in the dance biz, including Junior Vasquez, Manny Lehman, Victor Calderone, and Tony Moran, who dominated the scene in the early 2000s, headlining every major event and making it close to impossible for aspiring DJs like Gauthreaux to get their chance on the decks. “Fighting you

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stronger,” he says now. “The long battle to make a name for myself in the club industry taught me that to stay in the game, you have to constantly keep working like nobody knows who you are.”

Starting out, Gauthreaux made a name for himself with a sound that was primarily vocal house mixed with tribal and melodic trance. Today, his sound is a bit more diverse.

And to be really successful, a DJ should prepare to give up his social life. “I travel nearly every weekend and during the week I spend most of my free time working on the music I’m going to present at the gigs.”

“I genuinely love all kinds of music,” he explains. “I love tribal, EDM (electronic dance music), progressive house, and then sometimes I simply love a good commercial vocal anthem. I'm always trying to keep my sound fresh, incorporating new beats and sounds to keep the momentum going on my dance floor, yet still staying true to who I am. The worst thing a DJ can do is get stuck in a certain sound for too long. Music is constantly changing and evolving. If you don't change with it, you'll get left behind.”

Then there’s the promotion side of the business, the time spent on Facebook, Twitter, and the like. “It's very time consuming, but important and essential,” says Gauthreaux. Competition remains fierce, especially today when it's easier than ever for one to call him or herself a DJ. The goal remains to please the crowds. “There are constantly new faces coming into the club scene; young kids stepping on the dance floor for the first time or guys in their mid-to-late 20s who are tired of the bar scene and want something more. There are always new people to win over.”

He says club revelers simply want to have fun. “That's what I tell myself when I go into the booth — make it fun. Sometimes that means a full-on banging tribal set, or if the party is on a beach in Miami, it's a lot of anthems and some EDM-styled tracks. Whatever the event, I want people to think the experience was worth the cover charge and the long line they waited on to get in. I don’t take anyone’s time or money for granted. I aim to give them something they can't get on their own, something new and original.” That includes his own production work. Gauthreaux began producing his own remixes six years ago. In that time, he’s worked with some of the biggest dance artists in the biz, including Kristine W, Jeanie Tracy,

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and Tony Moran. Recently, he’s begun taking on more mainstream projects like NeYo, The Wanted, Melanie Amaro, and even Justin Bieber. “It was for ‘Boyfriend,’ the first single from Justin’s new album,” Gauthreaux explains. “At the time, nobody had heard his new direction. I was excited to have the opportunity to present his voice in a clubbier production. I think my favorite thing about that project is that I helped show people in the dance community that Justin's a real artist with talent and a great voice. It's also kind of surreal to open up iTunes and see my remix on such a popular artist,” he adds. He says the next step is to write and produce his own original music with major artists. But first he wants to build up his name as a producer and get a couple more #1 remixes by major artists under his belt. “I want people to be really excited about my first single when it comes out because they knew and loved all of my other production work,” he says. “That's my plan.” Joe Gauthreaux spins Heretic Nightclub (2069 Cheshire Bridge Road) on Saturday, Feb. 16.

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“Viva Italia” is an audibly arresting symphonic production performed by Popperazzi, a trio consisting of soprano Janien Valentine (how apropos!) and tenors George DeMott and Cody Shawn Gay. Coproduced and conducted by Michael Krajewski (the principal Pops Conductor of the Houston and Atlanta Symphony Orchestras), “Viva Italia” is a nod to the trio’s Italian roots. The production is a journey of popular music made famous by Italian-Americans and is rife with opera arias and popular classics you’re sure to recognize, from “The Godfather” to Turandot’s “Nessun Dorma.”

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Love is in the Aria Make up for that ho-hum Valentine’s date with the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer

Because Valentine’s Day came during the workweek this year, some of you lovebirds couldn’t arrange the perfectly romantic date due to time constraints. Now that you’re free to kindle an amorous ﬁre over the weekend, we’ve got a hot tip to get a sophisticated start.

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The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra is hosting “Viva Italia,” a mesmerising performance that blends tender Sinatra standards with romantic orchestral works that’ll have your hands involuntarily inching toward one another’s.

Though the focus on of the show will be its blissfully love-rich music, showgoers are destined to become infatuated with the über-talented and visually appealing Popperazzi. Young, sexy, and musically versatile, they’ve graced the stages of Houston, Phoenix, Detroit, and Canada. They played Atlanta on New Year’s Eve 2010 and have been invited back to re-entertain our fair city with their rock and popinspired energy. When can I go? Friday, Feb. 15, 8 p.m. and Saturday, Feb. 16, 8 p.m. How much is it? Tickets are $24 - $60. Where is the Atlanta Symphony Hall? 1280 Peachtree St. NE Atlanta, Ga. 30309 Where can I get more info and tickets? AtlantaSymphony.com or give them a call at (404) 733-4900

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XPLORE GAY HOTSPOTS: Club Pantheon: Known for its highenergy approach to nightlife, Club Pantheon is a necessity for those who love to dance until the lights come on. Friday and Sunday nights feature “Brooke Collins and the Ladies of Pantheon.” (Collins is a high-glam performer with an arts degree to back her stuff up.) The club is only open three nights a week — Friday, Saturday, and Sunday — so all the good stuff is concentrated into three nights of delicious debauchery. Deja Vu II: For a more laid back night on the town, there’s Deja Vu II. With three pool tables, a roomy dance floor, and a friendly mix of men and women, the club has mass appeal. Deja Vu II is the spot where local work-weary gays and lesbians go to relax with a cocktail and meet new friends. You might even find yourself sharing a steaming plate of the bar’s signature “Rita’s Wings” with some friendly locals.

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Why, I Do Declare! Charleston, S.C. is Quite the Charmer Berlin Sylvestre, Staff Writer

ribs are slow-cooked all over the city, each establishment offering its own twist. Charleston, S.C. From Atlanta, it only takes five hours to drive to Charleston. For some, this is an eternity, but for those in the know, the trip flies by in anticipation of the city’s unique culture, which blends traditional Southern, French, and Palmetto trees line streets of West African staples into its food, exquisitely preserved buildings architecture, style, music, and dating back to the 1600s as Spanish coastal lands that include barrier moss sways in soft bayside breezes. islands and swamp marshes. Centuries-old cobblestone avenues meander through 18th-century BE SURE TO VISIT: Georgian architecture while the wrought iron gates and ornamental Folly Island stucco preserve the look and feel With a dark history — Folly of the colonial era from whence Beach used to be known as the darling city of Charleston, S.C. “Coffin Beach” for all the plague and cholera victims who were was founded. abandoned on the island by ships Charleston is known for its art, that weren’t allowed to bring them fashion, music, and local cuisine. into the Charleston harbor — Folly Fresh-caught seafood finds its way Island certainly has changed its into curious fusion dishes, native tone. With surfing, kayaking, chefs keep classic low country boils fishing, parasailing, jetski rentals, going year-round, and (perhaps camping, spas, and hotels, Folly most famous) South Carolina-style Island is a local favorite for

catching some rays and possibly catching a glimpse of hatching sea turtles and playful dolphins. The French Quarter of Charleston Famous for its art galleries, the French Quarter was so named for its prevalence of French merchants from Charleston’s early days. History buffs and lovers of good stories of yore can explore The Pink House Tavern, built in 1712 and still standing, as well as the Old Slave Mart built in 1859. Dock Street Theatre is cited as the ﬁrst site of theatrical production in the United States. The Historic Charleston City Market Open 365 days a year, the constantly buzzing district is four blocks of quaint boutiques, casual eateries, ﬁne dining establishments, and a host of vendors selling anything from hand-woven baskets to organic lotions.

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During the week that rain ceaselessly drenched Atlanta in a slow and dismal parade, people slogged through the streets of Midtown, faces disgruntled, umbrellas and lapels tightly clutched. Perhaps I’m gloating a bit, but the view just behind my cocktail at the corner of Peachtree and 8th Street was an ample distraction provided by La Tagliatella. Known by many as simply “La Tag,” the Italian fine dining eatery is wildly popular in Spain and France. Launching its first American flagship restaurant right here in Atlanta, La Tagliatella brings its massive European splendor and success to Midtown. Upon entrance, the soaked landscape of Midtown was replaced by the old-world European stylings of La Tagliatella’s grand

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dining area. The masterfully gilded interior loomed high above, a veritable Romanesque cathedral of intricately carved wood politely interrupted by artful Italian chandeliers and golden adornments that harken back to a time when eating with family was serious business. With its oversized portions made from artisanal ingredients ﬂown in directly by a supplier in Italy, the ‘eating well with family’ theme is the lynchpin behind La Tagliatella’s menu. Leaving the dinner choices up to the courteous management and her talented chefs, the tour of northern Italy’s cuisine was ofﬁcially underway.

their appetite. The generous portions of bread (one with chèvre, honey, bresaola, balsamic reduction glaze, and crushed pistachios, the other with provaletta cheese, duck ham, arugula, and shaved Parmigiano-Reggiano) don’t skimp on any of the ingredients, especially the chèvre, which is particularly rare around these parts, where it is usually a hint and not a standout addition. The continuous depth and lusciousness of the goat cheese and the enormously palatable salted beef (bresaola) complement each other beautifully, and the olive oil, though instantly recognizable, isn’t over-the-top.

A tiny dish of arbequina olives, pits intact, opened the dining experience (and pairs especially well with a SKYY vodka martini, hint hint.) Shortly therein, three types of breadsticks arrived — one infused with green olives, one with sautéed onions, and the ﬁnal with tomato and herbs, all equally delicious with a crisp exterior and delicate center. Better still, the Focacce Liguri, touted as a “duet of focaccia breads,” is an appetizer for which diners may makes excuses to ruin

A signature dish for La Tagliatella, the Insalata Torre di Pisa (Tower of Pisa salad) comes “leaning” curiously — and precariously, honestly — over a bed of mixed greens in a nod to one of the most famous landmarks in northern Italy. Comprised of sautéed eggplant, wafer-thin zucchini, fresh-sliced tomatoes, and buffalo mozzarella, the layered beauty is dressed with a black olive paté and makes for a chilled, refreshing start to a warm and robust dinner.

Then the entrées began to arrive. Excellent. The Cuore di Zucca, translated “pumpkin hearts,” is a butternut squash ravioli dish with impact. Tossed with Pesto Rosso Panna — a subtle pesto/cream sauce with solé di Puglia tomatoes, pine nuts, and cheese — the dish was a beautiful specimen of sweet-onsavory in an al dente execution. (‘Al dente’ is literally translated ‘to the tooth’ so it made perfect sense that the kitchen retained some of the pasta’s firmness during cooking. It sticks around for wonderful and blissful moment of licking of one’s teeth after each bite.) I’ve never had pasta that is made in-house. Such tedious preparation truly allows for the pasta to have a complex flavor of its own, something I could see people sneaking around the kitchen to eat even before it’s been sauced. La Tagliatella’s Salume pizza is light, handmade, and complete with an egg (sunnyside up) in the center. Sound strange? Try it anyway. Diners are encouraged to slice their own pizza and once the provided pizza cutter rolls through the egg, each slice is faintly tinged with the flavors of the smooth, buttery yolk in a surprising twist on an classic. Topped with thinly-sliced chorizo, it’s a sumptuous pie with an irregular shape and unusually tasty crust that gives away its in-house beginnings. The silky residue left on my fingers was

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FOR MOST, “COMING OUT” IS AN ARDUOUS UNDERTAKING THAT CAN NEGATIVELY AFFECT OUR RELATIONS WITH FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES, AND ABOUT-TOWN ACQUAINTANCES. THOUGH A GROWING ACRONYM, LGBTIQ ISN’T INCLUSIVE OF A THRIVING SECTOR OF RELATIONSHIPS KNOWN AS “POLYAMOROUS.” IN THESE OFTEN-HIDDEN INTERCONNECTIONS, WE FIND A DIVERSE AND COMMONLY MISREPRESENTED GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE CENTERED THEIR LOVE AND FAMILY AROUND MORE THAN ONE PARTNER. HOLLY (A DIRECTOR OF IT AT A FORTUNE 500), ANNE (A DOCTOR), AND MARK* (A POLICE OFFICER/SWAT TEAM MEMBER) ARE A POLYAMOROUS TRIO WHO HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR FOUR YEARS. HOLLY GAVE FENUXE HONEST ANSWERS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP. Did you always know you wanted to be with more than one person or was it a surprising self-discovery? I can honestly say I never thought about a polyamorous relationship. I wasn’t hip to the gay lifestyle either. I had a few close female friends in high school but I never chalked it up to a “crush” even though I knew I had much closer relationships with girls than I did boys. Anne 26 : February 14, 2013

was always attracted to both [men and women] and made the comment once that if she could have her way, she’d have both. Mark had always considered himself a one-woman man. Is jealousy ever an issue? Each of us understands that jealousy is a wasted emotion. I don’t think any of us ever felt jealousy in our one-on-one relationships. When we ventured

into this, we knew jealousy may be an issue and so we all committed to talking openly about anything that might make us jealous. Now, do we ever get jealous? Yes. It has leaked into our relationship. Usually when one of us feels insecure, we can take everything the ‘other two’ do together as an insult. But again, communication is key, and once one of us says “I feel jealous,” the other two usually

respond to help ﬁx that. Either by making special one-onone dates with that person, or making more time for all three of us to do something together. Do you feel like you have to "come out?" We deﬁnitely have to “come out” and there are some people who we don’t tell (mostly in work situations). In fact, when we all got together, Mark was upset that he would never be able to invite his work-friends over, as he typically works with extremely conservative people. After a few months, he started opening up to a few folks at work and realized that no one cared. Now he’s comfortable with it and pretty much tells anyone.

Anne had to come out when she took maternity leave and didn’t appear pregnant. Lots of people asked. She could have simply said she was adopting but she opted for the truth when people asked. When I had my baby shower, we had a very large turnout. Mostly people wanting to “meet the tribe.” Hey, we got lots of presents, so who’s complaining? What about legal matters? Can you talk a bit about filing taxes, etc.? So obviously, three people can’t get married. Mark and Anne are married to each other, they file taxes as a married couple and I file as single and head of household claiming one of the kids. They claim the other. This actually works out great as we get to take advantage of some of the dependent care tax credits. When we sit down to do our taxes, Anne and I are like dueling pianos with our laptops looking to see who would benefit most from claiming what expense (mortgage, etc.). How did all this come about? (How did y'all meet and how did the "hey, let's be a family" business come about?) Though Mark and Anne were already married for eight years, Mark gave permission to Anne to “mess around” with other women. I was in a relationship with a woman who attended the same medical school as Anne. Anne and I became friends over the years and spent a lot of time together riding bikes, running, playing racquetball, drinking, etc. She was always flirty and I sometimes reciprocated but kept her at an arm’s distance. When my relationship started turning for the worse, I was much more open to a no-stringsattached physical relationship with Anne. It was just physical at first, but very quickly turned more emotional. Anne made the comment one day that she didn’t think she could ever leave Mark

and I said, “Why should you?” That got the wheels turning. I liked Mark but didn’t really know him although we had been intimate a few times. We all sat down around the kitchen table one day and said, “Sooooo, what’s going on here?” It was during that discussion that we thought we’d give the relationship a try. You have two children. Do any weird legal issues come up? As far as raising kids, we ﬁled legal paperwork to grant “Joint Conservatorship” to all three of us over the children. That essentially grants all three of us the same parental rights although I could never sue Anne for child support if she were to leave the relationship. Mark is the biological father, so he’d still be on the hook. Starting out sexually, were there any "ground rules" or "you can't sleep together without me," etc.? In the beginning, Mark and I felt a little weird having sex without Anne, but there weren’t any rules saying we couldn’t. We actually hook up more one-on-one than we do with all three. Mostly because our schedules are all over the place. It's kind of funny, sometimes Mark will ask for sex and Anne and I will do rock/paper/scissors to see who will (as we're both tired and don't want to). What are the sleeping arrangements like? We have a very large bed in the master bedroom (a king with a single pushed up next to it). Our friends call it our emperor size bed. But with Mark working a night schedule, he has his own room upstairs that functions as a black-out room that allows him to sleep during the day. Essentially, it is HIS bedroom. When Mark does sleep at night, he’ll usually climb into bed downstairs.

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rememBer all the Bad times. Don’t romanticize all the little things. Instead, try remembering the times your ex didn’t even treat you like a friend. There are reasons you broke up — never forget them. cut your (insignificant) losses. Does he have books you lent him that you want back or some of your old tees at his place? Leave them. Often, we make excuses to get that one last call or visit in. Don’t. Just let ‘em go. don’t hide aWay to sulk! Go out with friends. Once you get over the “I can’t even get out of bed” stage, force yourself to call up your support group and get outta the house for some laughs and shoulders to lean on. don’t sell yourself short By saying you’ll never find love again. You have your own set of charms and idiosyncrasies. Someone is bound to notice them when the time is right and give you the treatment you deserve. get rid of the stuff in the house that he gave you. That dusty old Valentine’s bear sitting on your dresser serves as nothing but a reminder that he’s gone. If you can’t trash it entirely, put it in storage. Out of sight … (you know the rest). go off your mutual friends’ radar. You’re less likely to get stabbed in the heart if you don’t hear about him from someone else’s mouth or see a tagged photo of him having fun while you’re grieving at home. Lay low for a while and go off the map from folks who may bring up a really sore subject. don’t reBound With someone you’ll regret sleeping With. They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. That’s not always true. Unless you want to end up losing your personal sense of dignity, make sure your rebound isn’t a tragic one that’ll make you miss him even more. find neW hangouts for a While. It’s hard to give up your haunts, but how awful is running into your old love while he’s arm-in-arm with the new squeeze? Or how about seeing him across the bar trying to avoid you like you’d never even met? Atlanta has plenty of gay bars: Find some new ones. get Back to you (and all your old hoBBies, etc.). Remember when you used to paint? Or how about when you’d take a camera around the city and snap freelance shots for local bloggers? Get back into the things that fulﬁlled you before you got sidetracked by that bad romance. Remember: You had a life before him and you’ll have a life after. hit the gym. No matter what your current physical condition, few things give you that instant boost of self-worth and conﬁdence like working out does. It changes everything, from the way you look at the world to the way it looks at you. FENUXE.COM : 33

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When the doe-eyed Tennessee boy with a shy smile reached across the table to greet me at Roxx, I immediately noticed two things: the courtesy of his “I’m shaking a girl’s hand, so don’t crush her knuckles” grip and the otter-indicative scruff of chest-hair peeking from the low collar of his white tee. His dashing features and genteel Southern accent are all lovely, but they’re mere previews of what makes Jared Allman truly hot: he’s intelligent, warm, fantastically modest, and full of memorable quotes.

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On early life: “I went to kindergarten in three different schools. We moved to Montana, then Virginia, then Tennessee, then east Tennessee [to a farm that’s been in our family for 200 years.]” “The farm had everything. We grew tobacco one year, we had cows, horses, chickens. I liked a lot of the animals.” “I would always dream about getting away from the farm. I didn't want to work in a sewing factory and do the whole family and kids thing.”

On growing up gay: eping with women].” e [sl d e tri ver ne e v ’ I . gay r sta d l go “I’m a was 21 and a half. There I l ti un n gi r vi d se s ki nee -b ver ne a “I was t were cute.” were no boys at my school I though ssful poli tical campaign. ce suc a g n ni run e k i l s i out g n mi co k n “I thi tes if you want to win sta y ke and e l op pe y ke r ove n wi to t You’ve go the election.” On his roots: “Maybe it was a blessing in disguise, growing up gay in a rural Belt. It might’ve been God’s way of protecting me from somarea of the Bible ething that could’ve been really bad.”

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On being body-beautiful: “I fight bad genes every day. All my brothers tend to be fit, but I have to fight for it.” “I love food more than I love sex, more than alcohol, more than anything. I dream about fried chicken, cakes, cupcakes, cookies.” “I’m deeply shy in real life. I think it’s perceived as arrogance or douchebagginess sometimes.”

On filming love scenes: “I think [love scenes] would probably be less awkward with a woman — there would be no surprise boners.” “When there is [an on-set erection], you just keep going. It’s normal, especially when you have two really attractive people.” “Some people use [a ‘cock sock’] and some people claim to be doing the real thing.”

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THErE arE SErIouS CHanGES In HIS SEXuaL HaBITS: When you’re intimate with someone for so long, you end up with a pretty ﬁrm grasp on his sexual prowess. When out of nowhere, he wants to throw you in a sex sling or try out a strange position that seems completely unlike him, you’ve got to wonder: Where’s he learning all this new stuff? And where did this gusto come from? I need not even mention the random condoms that seem to keep piling up. Seriously? You better get on this.

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HIS GrooMInG HaS InCrEaSEd SuBSTanTIaLLY: Do you remember when you began dating? You couldn’t get to the mall fast enough to pick out new clothes. From head to toe, you made sure you were the most attractive version of yourself. When you both slipped into the bliss of relaxed couplehood, a few ‘personal upkeeps’ suffered, but that’s to be expected. So why is he all the sudden worried about looking polished for his “work meetings” and what’s the deal with all the new cologne and marriage to the mirror? HE pICKS FIGHTS. You’ve never been strangers to openly disagreeing about certain things, but does he have to go out of his way to argue with you about every little thing? It seems like that’s the only way he can communicate. And does he have to storm out of the house and not answer his phone, leaving you devastated, confused, and unable to reach him? He does if he wants to make time for his other relationship. Any excuse to get him out of the house and off your map will do.

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HIS CELLpHonE SpEaKS For HIM: Doesn’t it strike you odd that every time his phone rings lately, he leaves the room? And what’s up with those weird calls and texts in the middle of the night? Not that you were snooping, but when you went to use his cellphone, you noticed his passcode had changed, and even when he does check his inbox in front of you, he shifts his body to cover the screen. These are all bad signs. THErE arE SIGnIFICanT CHanGES In HIS SCHEduLE: He’s always been available, but now it seems he’s always got something planned … and you’re never a part of it. Whether it’s lunch dates with coworkers, going long at the gym, spending facetime with his family, or anything else that you used to do together, you’ve got to start wondering why you’re cut out. See also: “I’m working a super-late shift. Again.” 42 : February 14, 2013

HE ConSTanTLY TaLKS aBouT THE End oF THE rELaTIonSHIp. He’s always talked about your future as a couple, so why is he so curious about what would happen if you broke up? Questions like “What would we do with the dog if we broke up?” or “Would you move out or would you want me to go if this didn’t work out?” should sound an alarm in your head. No happy couple is harping on relationship gloom and doom. He’s contemplating a bailout. HE IS SuddEnLY dISTanT. It’s a real chore to get him to leave the guest bed and come back to sleep with you. You don’t even bother with trying to get him to cuddle anymore. What’s even more distressing is his insistence on spending the night at his “sister’s” house and his gradual pullout from your happy home in general. It seems like he doesn’t want to be around you for a reason — he doesn’t.

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Asparagus First appearing in the 15th century’s “The Perfume Garden” (an Arab version of “The Kama Sutra,” basically), this sensual stalk has long been touted for its boost to sexual prowess. A member of the lily family, asparagus is high in folic acid, which is said to bolster histamine production, which is necessary for the ability for both sexes to reach orgasm.

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Avocado The Aztecs had a name for the avocado tree: “ahuacuatl,” which literally translates “testicle tree.” (The fruit often grows in pairs and tends to dangle.) Among other nutrients, avocados are high in Vitamin E, known as “the sex vitamin” for its beauty enhancing properties.

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Mary’s – The Honey Pot – 9PM MIXX – Texas Hold’em Poker with Nut Flush – 7pm Model T – Karaoke with Pat & Tina – 10PM My Sister’s Room – Karaoke – 8PM Oscar’s – ReBooT Retro – 8pm Sister Louisa’s Church – Church Organ Karaoke – 10PM The Hideaway – Miss Lauren’s Poker – 7pm Tripp’s – Free Taco Bar – 5pm Woofs – Trivia – 8PM

Las Margaritas – Crazy Bitch Bingo – 7:30PM LeBuzz – Ladies Night – 11PM Mary’s – Balls Out Thursdays Theme Night – 9PM MIXX – The Toolbox – 6pm | The Unexpected Cabaret – 11pm Model T – Wheel of ? with Michael – 9pm My Sister’s Room – Xplosion – 10PM Oscar’s – Petey Party - 2pm – 8pm Tripps – Karaoke – 9pm Woofs – Country Music – 7PM

Blake’s – Charlie’s Angels Show with Charlie Brown – 11PM Bulldogs – Back That Vinyl Up - Bulldogs Funky Fresh Friday Retro | Military Free All Day Every Day Burkhart’s – The Fab Five – 11:30PM Friends On Ponce – Happy Times with Ken & Kelly Heretic – DJ Lydia Prim – 10PM LeBuzz – Divas Cabaret – 11PM Mary’s – Boys Room – 5PM MIXX – End of the Week Party with Ron – 4pm Model T – Free Friday Bagels – 10am Oscar’s – 80’s Retro Vidz – 8pm Tripp’s – Afternoon Delights – 4pm Woofs – TGIF Cocktail Night – 5PM

saturday Blake’s – Open at 1PM. Non stop music & Video. Daring Diva’s Show – 11PM Bulldogs – Get In Free With College Id All Night Burkhart’s – Extravaganza – 11:30PM Friends On Ponce – Afternoon Funtime with DJ 12-6PM LeBuzz – Divas Cabaret – 11PM Mary’s – Hot Mess Dance Party – 9PM MIXX – Afternoon Grill-out – 4pm | Guest DJ’s Dance – 10pm Model T – Saturday Night Live with Michael – 9pm Tripp’s – Cook out – 3pm

sunday Amsterdam – Brunch – 11AM Blake’s – Open at 1PM, Classic Blake’s Bill Berdeaux spins @ 3PM, Darryl Cox @ 7PM, Texas Hold’em upstairs @ 2 PM Burkhart’s – The Armorettes – 8PM Friends On Ponce – DJ’s Smirnoff B Mary Bar 12:30PM Gilbert’s – Brunch – 10AM Las Margaritas – Brunch – 11AM Model T – Sunday Dinner with Ron – 3:30pm MIXX – Grill Out & Beer Bust – 4pm | Old School Sunday Dance – 7pm Roxx Tavern –Brunch – 11AM The Hideaway – Bloody Mary Bar – 12:30pm Tripp’s – Buffet of Goodness – 3 pm | Karaoke – 9pm

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FRIDA & DIEGO: PASSION, POLITICS, AND PAINTING HIGH MUSEUM OF ART

The High presents an exhibition centered around Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera’s works within the artistic and political contexts of their time. Their ﬁerce loyalty to Mexico and staunch support of the 1910 Mexican Revolution is evidenced in their art. With more than 75 works from Kahlo and Rivera, The High will be the only place in the U.S. to display the exhibition. Visit high.org for more details. 02.09. - 04.14.2013

ORCHID DAZE: SURREAL BEAUTY ATLANTA BOTANICAL GARDEN

02.16.2013 DJ JOE GAUTHREAUX HERETIC 10 P.M.

The Fuqua Conservatory lobby in the Atlanta Botanical Garden will bloom with the natural spectacle of orchids with an artistic twist. Mirrors that enlarge, contort, fragment, and bend reﬂections will distort both plants and viewers into bizarre and beautiful forms, making visitors a part of the exhibition. The Orchid House will feature magniﬁcently patterned slipper orchids and a “Moth Orchid Blast” will burst from the facing wall in dazzling canary and sienna hues. This is a great opportunity to see rare and delicate orchids in their full majesty. Tickets are $18.95. 02.16.2013 AND 03.02.2013

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In honor of Jerusalem House board member Richy Pugh’s birthday, Jungle is hosting “Dragavanza” to beneﬁt Atlanta’s oldest non-proﬁt that assists with housing for those living with HIV/AIDS. New York’s one and only Miss CoCo Peru will hold down the fort with several local emcees and performers we know and love. A silent auction will be held with all proceeds going to Jerusalem House. Tickets are $20.

02.22.2013 THE MANSHAFT: LUMBERJACK EDITION COCKPIT ATLANTA

Attention, bears, cubs, otters, and daddies: Cockpit is gearing up to give you wood. Bring your burly selves in at 8 p.m. for the “Big Wood Cocktail Hour” and get acquainted with the other hairy woodland creatures prowling Atlanta. Cockpit is yanking up the pool table to make more room for frolicking to DJ Diablo Rojo’s disco, rock, and electro mashups. 50 : February 14, 2013

ZOO ATLANTA

Ever bathed an elephant? You’re about to have a chance! Zoo Atlanta is giving visitors an opportunity to experience what their zookeepers get to do on a daily basis. Feel like hanging out with some kangaroos? They’d love to have you over! Tickets (which include a T-shirt and lunch) are $225 for Zoo Atlanta members and $280 for non-members.

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CHICKEN AND CHARITY BANTAM + BIDDY RESTAURANT

Has anyone noticed the savory new scents wafting around the Ansley area? It’s Bantam + Biddy, the new rotisserie restaurant in Ansley Mall, and they’re inviting Atlanta to come out and eat while showing support for Jerusalem House. Donating 10 percent of the proceeds received after 5 p.m., the owners are certainly making a name for themselves in the community. Check out the menu at BantamAndBiddy.com. 03.03.2013

2ND ANNUAL INTOWN TEN RUN JOHN HOWELL PARK - VIRGINIA HIGHLANDS 8 A.M.

There aren’t many places inside the perimeter that offer the chance to run 10 kilometers along some of the most scenic spots in Virginia Highlands and Morningside, but don’t let the beautiful view fool you: the hilly terrain can be challenging. For $45, you’re in the running equipped with a chip timer and race tee made from organic, sustainable materials. Get the jump on the race packet at Phidippides and West Stride. Registration is closed on race day, so run along to Active.com and secure a spot. 03.04.2013

PFLAG MONTHLY MEETING UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST CONGREGATION OF ATLANTA 7:30 P.M.

PFLAG is widely known as a support group for the parents, friends, and family members of individuals who identify as part of the LGBT community. What most people don’t realize is that PFLAG serves as a support group for anyone in the LGBT community. If you’re a local who’s planning to come out but needs a boost of support, or if you’ve come out and don’t seem to be getting the support you desire, stop by! Lots of folks claim that they’ve gotten more out of one session around the PFLAG table than they did in years of therapy.

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scorpio [oct. 23 – nov. 22]

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