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FEBRUARY/MARCH ISSUE 8
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Garmin International Inc., a unit of Garmin Ltd., has announced the babyCam, the first in-vehicle video monitor that functions wirelessly with a compatible Garmin GPS sat nav1.
imed at facilitating driver safety, the babyCam conveniently transmits video2 to the GPS sat nav display. This allows parents or caregivers the benefit of daily route guidance while the babyCam monitors their children in the back seat of a vehicle. Thanks to its night vision, the babyCam also lets drivers view little passengers at night or in low-light conditions without disturbance. Drivers can easily mount the babyCam unit to a frontor back-seat headrest3 within minutes. The babyCam’s adjustable viewing angle can monitor multiple children in
the rear seats of a vehicle. After driving to a destination, the babyCam reminds drivers to check for passengers before exiting the vehicle. This useful on-screen alert helps avoid incidents where a sleeping child or a loved one is accidentally left unattended inside a vehicle. In an effort to keep both hands safely on the wheel, drivers can use compatible voice-activated sat navs to control babyCam with their voice. A simple voice command allows users to switch from the Garmin navigation display to the babyCam view. When paired with a broad range of Garmin sat navs1 for cars, trucks and motorhomes, the
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CONTENTS Editors Letter 3 The Baby Show 2016 10 Baby Shower Boom 12 Bundles Of Joy 13 Antenatal Classes 14 Keep Your Relationship On Track 16 Ultrasound Diagnostics 17 No Pain No Gain 18 Double Trouble Or Twice As Nice? 20 Designer Childbirth 22 Charming Charms 24 British Cutting-Edge Design And Innovation 26 Create A Dream Nursery 28 Baby Moves 30 Active, Energetic Dance And Movement Classes 31 Parents Questions About Vaccinations 32 Baby Bathtime 34 Talking Timeline 36 Having Another Baby? 38 Wisdom For Healthy Childrens Teeth 40 Keep Them Healthy 42 Most Expensive Kids Fashion Labels 44 You Check Your Child’s Eyes And Teeth Regularly,Why Not Their Fee? 46 Harrods New Childrens Wear 48 Harrods Launches Mini Superbrands 50 Fancy Kids 52 Get Fit As A Family 54 Bring The Fun Inside 56 Learning Your Abc’s 58 Kids & Technology 60 Anxiety In Children 62 Speak Out About Bullying 64 Keeping Your Kids Safe Online 66 Every Child Deserves A Family 68 The Importance Of Children Learning First Aid 70
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The Baby Show is back! 19TH – 21ST FEBRUARY, EXCEL LONDON
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he Baby Show with MadeForMums, the UK’s leading parenting event for bump, baby and beyond is set to return to ExCeL for a 14th year. The Show will be home to over 200 exhibitors showcasing the very best baby and infant essentials. The only baby show to feature all the major retailers, alongside family favourites including iCandy, Stokke, Philips Avent and Chicco, it is a must-attend event for any new parents, friends and family members shopping for the latest products – and amazing discounts! The main stage will be boasting a fantastic lineup of speakers, including renowned nutritionist, Annabel Karmel MBE, breastfeeding expert, Clare Byam-Cook, baby sleep gurus Chireal Shallow and Fi Star-Stone and many more. Adding a twist to the line-up is Blake singer, Humphrey Berney, who will be taking to the stage to sing his collection of lullabies from the album ‘Slumberland.’ And for the first time ever, The Baby Show will house a ‘Family Experts Village’ – a place where you can get all your new parent questions answered. Whether it’s financial, childcare, legal or career advice you’re after, there will be an expert on-hand to help.
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HIGHLIGHTS OF THE BABY SHOW AT EXCEL IN LONDON WILL INCLUDE: • Over 200 trusted brands offering visitors the chance to thoroughly test and try before buying. • Exclusive show offers and competitions from top parenting brands. • The chance to listen and ask advice from the UK’s top parenting experts. • Catwalk shows with all the latest fashions in maternity, baby and toddler wear. • A complimentary crèche where parents can drop off their little ones and enjoy the show knowing they are being cared for. • The Baby Show Stars’ themed competition where the show’s cutest babies will be awarded £100 each day. • Dedicated baby facilities ensure visitors have a hassle-free time, including the Tommee Tippee feeding area where parents will be able to take advantage of heating and sterilising equipment, complimentary baby food and a comfortable and private space for breast feeding.
THE DETAILS The advanced ticket price is £13.95 on Friday and £14.95 for either the Saturday or Sunday, while on-the-door tickets cost £20. ••••• Opening times: Friday 19th February: 9.30am – 5.30pm Saturday 20th February: 9.30am – 5.30pm Sunday 21st February: 9.30am – 5.3 0pm. ••••• For more information visit www.thebabyshow.co.uk.
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Baby Shower
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No longer just for celeb mums-to-be, some are spending £10,000 on parties for their unborn babies: no expense is being spared on today’s baby showers with professional planners, lavish venues and expensive gift lists.
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he trend, adopted from America, is becoming increasingly common in Britain, with women spending an astonishing £220m attending baby showers each year. Two-thirds of expectant mums now plan a celebration with “the girls”. When baby showers first caught on here, they were low-key affairs for a few close girlfriends at their pregnant friend’s home. Now the shower has become a costly social event: No wonder dozens of companies now offer baby shower gift-lists online, and there are even professional baby shower planners. The trend has doubtlessly been helped along by celeb mummies tweeting and Instagramming pics of their swanky bashes to the world. Guests buy gifts from a compiled wish-list, this may sound lavish and materialistic but it is not unusual. The baby shower gives the mum-to-be the opportunity to be the centre of attention, with invited guests arriving laden down with designer presents.
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‘Baby shower gift lists are becoming more popular and more extravagant as mums-to-be try to up the ante,’ said a consultant for Harrods’ weddings and celebrations gift list department. ‘Where mothers used to ask for small presents, such as baby clothes and toys, we had a list drawn up recently that included a £1,200 Silver Cross Balmoral Pram and a £469
preferred, rather than having fans sending gifts for their baby born last year, the couple asked all money be given to charity. The money given to UNICEF will go to vulnerable children and expectant mothers around the world. Shakira says: “We wanted to help other children around the world and also contribute to a longlasting solution for getting children living in extreme
Two-thirds of expectant mums now plan a celebration with “the girls” Swarovski crystal-inlaid picture frame.’ Some more generous, and less materialistic celebrity mums-to-be are seeing an opportunity not to indulge in all the expensive baby gifts, but to give to others. Shakira and Gerard Pique took to social media to ask their fans to donate money to UNICEF for what’s being dubbed a “World Baby Shower”. The mega pop star and FC Barcelona
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ANTENATAL
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ntenatal classes can help you to prepare for your baby’s birth and learn to look after and feed your baby. They can help you to stay healthy during pregnancy, and give you confidence and information. You can learn about the different arrangements for labour and birth, and the choices available to you. This can help you to make your own birth plan. You may also meet some of the people who will look after you during labour. You’ll be able to discuss your plans and any worries with professionals and with other parents. Classes are also a good way to make friends with other parents who are expecting babies around the same time as you. These friendships often help parents through the first few months with a baby. Classes are usually informal and fun.
CHOOSING AN ANTENATAL CLASS
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can get booked up early, so it’s a good idea to start making enquiries early in pregnancy so that you can secure a place in the class that you choose. Speak to your community midwife if you can’t go to classes. The midwife may be able to lend you a DVD about antenatal care, or you may be able to buy one.
WHAT HAPPENS IN ANTENATAL CLASSES
You might be able to attend introductory classes on baby care early in pregnancy, but most antenatal classes start around 8-10 weeks before your baby is due, when you are around 30-32 weeks pregnant. If you’re expecting twins, start your classes when you’re around 24 weeks pregnant because your babies are more likely to be born early. Some units offer antenatal classes for women expecting multiples – ask your midwife about this. Classes are normally held once a week, for around two hours..
THE KINDS OF TOPICS COVERED BY ANTENATAL CLASSES ARE:
• Health in pregnancy, including a healthy diet • Exercises to keep you fit and active during pregnancy • What happens during labour and birth • Coping with labour and information about different types of pain relief • How to help yourself during labour and birth • Relaxation techniques • Information about different kinds of birth and interventions • Caring for your baby, including feeding • Your health after the birth • Emotions and feelings during pregnancy, birth and after Some classes cover all these topics. Others focus on certain aspects, such as exercises and relaxation, or caring for your baby. The number of different antenatal classes available varies from place to place.
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The transition from being a couple to becoming a family is joy-filled but can also turn your world upside down! As you and your partner adjust to your new responsibilities as parents, you will find you have less time for each other. How do you keep your relationship strong when your new baby makes demands on your emotions, time and energy? We ask some experienced mums how they did it. The days pass in a blur. How can I make things less stressful? “Have fun. Laugh. Don’t take things too seriously and don’t ‘sweat the small stuff ’ as they say. Love each other first no matter what. Being a family will inevitably involve struggles, but it’s supposed to be fun as well!” – Mary “Relax and enjoy each other. Life is too short to not do so.” – Clare “Enjoy your family. It really is worth it, otherwise why would so many people have babies?” – Carly
Will our sex life change? “Unless you have some really honest friends, no-one tells you that sex can be uncomfortable for quite a while. In my case it was eight months before sex felt good again.” – Lizzie “We try and have sex in the morning, when we’re not too shattered. It’s impossible in the evening, we’re both too tired.” – Natalie
Keep your relationship on track AFTER HAVING A BABY How can I get my partner to help me more? “Undoubtedly your other half will get on your nerves. He will seem incompetent and sometimes you will need to shove a broom up his bottom!” –Lou “If you’re first-time parents, ask an experienced father to explain to your partner what to expect. Many men think that because you’re at home with a newborn that sleeps all day, you should be able to catch up on all the housework.” – Jo
What can we do to stay close? “Every day, no matter how tired you are, spend time with your partner to talk about your day, your feelings and your worries. Just five minutes at dinner is better than nothing at all.” – Abi “Be tactile with each other. Don’t forget a quick cuddle, or a kiss, every day goes a long way!” – Jill “Try to talk about things other than your children.” – Kay “The most important thing in any relationship is communication. If you keep talking and being honest, you’ll keep that strong bond.” – Leanne
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How can we make more time for each other? “If anyone offers to help and take the children for an evening, or for a few hours during the day, take them up on it. As often as you can! An evening out chatting with your partner, or even just getting out for a walk, can make a huge difference to the way you feel.” – Donna “After our twins were born, I was upset with the house being a constant tip. My partner didn’t understand and didn’t want to help with housework. I took the matter into my own hands and got a cleaner for the first four months! It gave us more time for the fun things.” – Evie
Will our relationship ever be the same again? “Although it won’t seem like it at the time, eventually you will get some of your old life back. We love doing things as a family, but we still have time to ourselves. Once a month we have date night at home: a DVD and a snuggle on the sofa. It works for us!” – Emma “Relationships go through phases. If the relationship doesn’t feel like it used to in terms of intensity or excitement, it doesn’t mean you’ve fallen out of love. Sometimes there are boring patches, or times when the stress gets too much and you end up taking it out on each other. You will then come into another good patch and rediscover why you fell in love.” – Michelle
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abour can be painful, so it’s important to learn about all the ways that you can relieve the agony. Write down your wishes in your birth plan, but remember that you should keep an open mind. You may find that you want more pain relief than you’d planned, or your doctor or midwife may suggest more effective pain relief to help the delivery.
SELF-HELP IN LABOUR
You will be more relaxed in labour and better placed to cope with the pain if you: • Learn about labour. This can make you feel more in control and less frightened about what’s going to happen. Talk to your midwife or doctor, and go 18 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
to antenatal classes. • Learn how to relax, stay calm and breathe deeply. • Keep moving. Your position can make a difference, so try kneeling, walking around or rocking backwards and forwards. • Bring a partner, friend or relative to support you during labour, if not, your midwife will give you all the support you need. • Have a bath.
to use and they control it themselves. You breathe in the gas and air through a mask or mouthpiece, which you hold yourself. You’ll probably practise using the mask or mouthpiece if you go to an antenatal class. The gas takes about 15-20 seconds to work, so you breathe it in just as a contraction begins. It works best if you take slow, deep breaths. If gas and air doesn’t give you enough pain relief, you can ask for a painkilling injection as well.
This is a mixture of oxygen and nitrous oxide gas. Gas and air won’t remove all the pain, but it can help to reduce it and make it more bearable. Many women like it because it’s easy
PETHIDINE INJECTIONS IN LABOUR
GAS AND AIR FOR LABOUR
Another form of pain relief is the intramuscular injection (into the muscle of your thigh or buttock) of a drug, such as pethidine or, less
commonly, diamorphine. The injection can also help you to relax, which can lessen the pain. It takes about 20 minutes to work after the injection, and the effects last between 2-4 hours.
EPIDURALS
An epidural is a special type of local anaesthetic. It numbs the nerves that carry the pain impulses from the birth canal to the brain. For most women, an epidural gives complete pain relief. It can be helpful for women who are having a long or particularly painful labour, or who are becoming distressed. An anaesthetist is the only person who can give
an epidural, so it won’t be available if you give birth at home. If you think you might want one, check whether anaesthetists are always available at your hospital. How much you can move your legs after en epidural depends on the local anaesthetic used. Some units offer “mobile” epidurals, which means you can walk around. However, this also requires the baby’s heart rate to be monitored remotely (by telemetry) and many units don’t have the equipment to do this. Ask your midwife if mobile epidural is available in your local unit. An epidural can provide very good pain relief,
but it’s not always 100% effective in labour. The Obstetric Anaesthetists Association estimates that one in eight women who have an epidural during labour need to use other methods of pain relief.
WATER BIRTHS
Water can help you relax and make the contractions seem less painful. Ask if you can have a bath or use a birth pool. The water will be kept at a comfortable temperature but not above 37.5C, and your temperature will be monitored.
TENS MACHINES
This stands for transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation. Some hospitals have TENS machines. If not, you can hire your own machine. TENS has not been shown to be effective during the active phase of labour (when contractions get longer, stronger and more frequent). It’s probably most effective during the early stages, when many women experience low back pain. TENS may also be useful while you’re at home in the early stages of labour or if you plan to give birth at home. If you’re interested in TENS, learn how to use it in the later months of your pregnancy. Ask your midwife to show you how it works.
ALTERNATIVE METHODS OF LABOUR PAIN RELIEF
Some women prefer to avoid the types of pain relief listed, and choose alternative treatments such as acupuncture, aromatherapy, homeopathy, hypnosis, massage and reflexology. Most of these techniques are not proven to provide effective pain relief. If you’d like to use any of these methods, it’s important to discuss them with your midwife or doctor and let the hospital know beforehand. Most hospitals don’t offer them for pain relief during labour.
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DOUBLE TROUBLE
or Twice as Nice?
ARE YOU CARRYING TWINS? In the most recent survey, in 2012 You might suspect that you are carrying more more than 12,400 sets of twins than one baby if: and more than 226 sets of triplets • You seem bigger than you should be for your dates or more were born in the UK. • Twins run in your family That means that about 1 in every • You have had fertility treatment It is usually possible to find out if you’re having 64 births in the UK today are twins through your dating ultrasound scan, which twins, triplets or more. This is a big when you are 8-14 weeks pregnant. increase from 1978, when 1 in every happens At the scan, you should be told whether the 100 births was a multiple birth. babies share a placenta (meaning they are identical) DIFFERENT TYPES OF TWINS
One-third of all twins will be identical and twothirds non-identical.
IDENTICAL TWINS
Identical (monozygotic) twins happen when a single egg (zygote) is fertilised. The egg then divides in two, creating identical twins who share the same genes. Identical twins are always the same sex, so if your twins are identical, you’ll have two girls or two boys and they’ll look very alike.
NON-IDENTICAL TWINS
Non-identical (dizygotic) twins happen when two separate eggs are fertilised and then implant into the woman’s womb (uterus). These non-identical twins are no more alike than any other two siblings. Nonidentical twins are more common. The babies may be of the same sex or different sexes. 20 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
or if they have two separate placentas (meaning they can be identical or not). If this is not clear from the first scan, you should be offered another one. One-third of identical twins have separate placentas. This occurs when the fertilised egg splits before implanting in the uterus, up to four days after conception.
WHAT CAUSES TWINS?
Nobody knows what causes identical (monozygotic) twins. All pregnant women have approximately the same chance of having identical twins – about 1 in 350-400. Identical twins do not run in families. However, there are some factors that make having non-identical twins more likely: • Non-identical twins are more common in some ethnic groups, with the highest rate among nigerians and the lowest among japanese
• Older mothers are more likely to have nonidentical twins because they are more likely to release more than one egg during ovulation • Non-identical twins run on the mother’s side of the family, probably because of an inherited tendency to release more than one egg IVF can increase the chance of twins as more than one embryo may be transferred. After natural conception, about 1 in 80 births in the UK results in multiples, compared with 1 in 5 after IVF.
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ncreasing numbers of pregnant women are personalising their labour by choosing alternative methods and locations to give birth. New research by the parenting website Netmums, has found that seven out of 10 women select how and where they give birth, with choices ranging from outdoor or silent births and slow caesareans, to swimming with dolphins.
women simply accepted whatever happened during labour, even if things were done without their consent. “But now there’s so much information at women’s fingertips, they’re standing up and saying ‘no’ to the medicalisation of childbirth,” she stresses. “I think it’s instinct - they don’t want to be pushed and shoved into how the professionals think birth should be any more. “Women are taking back birth, and it’s absolutely excellent.”
TAKING BACK BIRTH
ALTERNATIVE AID
Virginia Howes, an independent midwife from the Kent Midwifery Practice, says that in the past
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The Netmums study found 56% of mumsto-be fancy including one of the new wave of
alternative birth techniques in their birth plan, with more than a third considering hypnobirthing (using self-hypnosis to manage pain), and almost one in five opting for the experimental slow caesarean - a new caesarean technique which minimises anaesthetic use for a more natural birth experience. “Caesarian-section mums often feel they miss out on those first few precious moments as the baby is rushed off,” explains Howes. “In a slow caesarian, a woman can reach down and hold her baby and bring it up to her chest, in the same way as she would during a vaginal birth.”
DOLPHIN PAIN RELIEF
Another one in 10 women aspire to an unassisted birth, where there’s no medical intervention, 2% opt for a silent birth, where everyone else in the room keeps quiet, 1% want to give birth outdoors, and 1.5% are even interested in swimming with dolphins during labour in a bid to calm themselves and ease pain.However, Howes points out: “Swimming with dolphins is such a rare choice because of the practicalities. It will hardly ever be done.” A lot more accessible than swimming with dolphins, 85% of mums in labour use relaxation methods including aromatherapy, visualisation, meditation, water birth, positioning strategies, massage, acupuncture and reflexology. But although the majority of mums want to choose their own type of birth, 30% still don’t write a birth plan, and 8% of mums would rather leave birthing decisions to doctors. And maternity staff have mixed reactions to their requests - while six out of 10 mums felt well supported in making their birth plans, one in five found it difficult to get the type of birth they wanted, and nearly half said the availability of birthing options depended on factors such as time of day or staffing levels.
KEEPING UP APPEARANCES
Louise Silverton, director for midwifery at the Royal College of Midwives, says: “Midwives will do their very best to support women in the
animals such as dolphins. We want women to have the best possible birth experience, and we also want that experience to be safe.”
You’d think the birthing process was Today’s mums are also concerned about how they look on the big day, with enough to worry about - but today’s than 40% considering make-up, hair and outfits in advance mums are also concerned about how they look on the big day, with more than 40% considering make-up, hair and outfits in advance. choices they make.”We would encourage women to Gone are the days of wearing an old T-shirt or discuss the options available with their midwife, so nightie through labour - 30% of mums plan to buy that they can make an informed choice.” Silverton a special outfit to wear, 31% intend to get a leg or says pressure on services often prevents women bikini wax, 12% want to get their nails done, 9% from accessing choices such as home births, will have their hair done in advance, and 5% plan to and she stresses: “As a woman’s pregnancy and pack hair straighteners or styling tongs. labour progresses, some options are no longer “Women seem to think about aesthetics a lot recommended as there may be safety implications more than they used to,” says Howes.”When they’re at this late stage for both mother and baby. “We actually in labour, they don’t care how they look - in would also strongly discourage, for example, a birth the throes of labour you won’t care if Brad Pitt without skilled medical help or one involving wild walks in and you haven’t got any make-up on.”But leading up to it, it’s about having control of the birth and not being passive.”
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And mums also want to look good on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, which are now an extension to the birthing experience. More than half of mums (53%) share their newborn baby’s first picture on social media, and 10% live post throughout their labour and birth. Howes says: “Birth shouldn’t be hidden, it should be celebrated. Women have been empowered to know birth doesn’t have to be like convention portrays it - it isn’t something we endure any more, it’s something we relish.”
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or the past nine years sisters-in-law Sally Herbert & Philippa Fergusson have been casting children’s hands and feet in bronze, silver, glass and gold as well as creating beautiful bespoke fingerprint jewellery.
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gold star sign charms, studded with diamonds or precious stones. Their ‘initial’ charms made in silver or gold, with or without diamonds, are also very popular. Sally and Philippa use only British craftsmen and their service and pieces are totally bespoke, they say just about anything can be made and they would love to hear your thoughts and ideas. If you want a really unique piece that isn’t available on the high street give them a call, their growing fan base would suggest you won’t be disappointed!
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Both mothers themselves and knowing how difficult it can be to get around with small children they will come to your home to take the casts and prints. Philippa & Sally have created a range of charms in silver and gold which can be worn on bracelets, necklaces, key rings and added to cufflinks. Particular favourites are
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ith 82 years of British cuttingedge design and innovation, iCandy brings a collection of beautifully formed, luxury pushchairs and accessories. iCandy’s precision manufacturing journey has lead them to crafting the definitive pushchair, creating the world’s first single to double travel system with a single footprint. Business at iCandy is a family affair; Brothers Bradley and Warren Appel absorbed manufacturing knowledge from their grandfather Charles who founded a fashion company in 1933. One of iCandy’s most significant moments to date was the launch of the world’s first single to double pushchair in a single footprint. The iCandy brand has received considerable press exposure since its inception, with their unique pushchairs proving popular amongst a number of A-list celebrities such as Sir Richard Branson, David Beckham and Sir Elton John.
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British cutting-edge design and innovation We are dedicated to creating pushchairs that reflect a unique sense of style and practical, welldesigned solutions. With a perfect mix of hightech sophistication and smooth living, iCandy is for people who appreciate the value of British design, craftsmanship and innovation. What’s more, iCandy also believe their responsibility extends beyond travel systems, and take their position as a leading figure in the parenting arena seriously. iCandy work with Great Ormond Street Hospital, raising money for the Children’s charity through a number of fundraising endeavours. One of the key differences with an iCandy product is the use of aeronautical technology. The standard of
engineering and luxurious level of material rival that of a plane, not a pushchair. The results are seen and felt in the effortless performance. The fluidity of movement and smooth handling from the first touch are the result of master engineering. We’ve made the ride for baby seamless, safe and deliriously comfortable, and the experience for you a pure pleasure. Just as important as the design is the look - the look of luxury, modernity and style. We have a passion for quality that ensures each iCandy pushchair is tested way beyond the industry norm. Why do we strive for such high standards? You won’t accept anything less than perfection from us, and our job is to ensure we deliver just that. www.icandyworld.com
We want to make your dreams come true, so refuse to compromise on any aspect involved in the creation of the perfect iCandy pushchair.
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esigning your baby’s nursery is one of the most exciting and memorable projects a parent will do, and is the first step to welcoming your baby into your family. It is important that it is a space of beauty, tranquility but also of practicality. Your nursery has to be functional as well, so before purchasing furniture think about safety and function but also style, the purpose, and the activities that will take place in there. Besides the obvious sleeping and feeding, consider storage and your lifestyle too. Start by measuring your space as it gives you an informed platform to build on. Nursery furniture comes in different shapes and sizes so you need to take a lot into consideration like alcoves and awkward spaces.
YOUR TASTE
To prevent being overwhelmed with the plethora of cot styles, look at your home to determine your personal taste. Are you a city slicker or country-loving? Do you love nature and prefer natural woods or even eco-friendly furniture? If the rest of your house is sleek and contemporary for example, there’s no reason why you can’t carry the look into your baby’s room. With careful thought, the colours, decorations and lighting can please young eyes and grown-up tastes alike. Be inspired by stylish designs and create a space both you and your little one can enjoy. Stay neutral - If the cot were removed from your nursery, would it still look like a nursery? That’s the ultimate test of creating a stylish room that goes with your home and grows with your child. Painted furniture gives you the flexibility to create a space that really coordinates with the rest of your décor.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
Babies need lots of stuff, but keeping surfaces free from clutter is key to a stylish nursery. Good storage makes sure essentials are tucked out of the way, while wooden flooring allows you to wipe up spills easily. To keep the simple mood, avoid lots of pictures and go for one striking, graphic decal to create an interesting focal point for your baby. 2288 FFEEBB/RMUAARR Y 2 0/ 1M6A R C H 2 0 1 6
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MAKE IT PERSONAL
Add personality to your nursery by going beyond predictable character themes. Incorporate treasured family mementos, to create an individual look. Let there be light - Babies are known to have scant regard for the fact that night-time is really for sleeping, but you can train your little one early on (to an extent…). So getting lighting right is essential – for both of you! You don’t want to blast your baby with 100w at 2am, so make sure you have soft lighting for night-time feeds. You will also need sufficient light by your feeding chair for reading. Don’t limit your choice to novelty designs: use the same type of floor and table lights you might choose for a living room or master bedroom.
NURSERY FURNITURE
The cot tends to carry the bulk of the design so choose that first. Most retailers sell nursery furniture as a collection. This means that you can purchase coordinating pieces like the changing unit, wardrobe, shelving etc. Some companies even supply single and double beds as part of the range so you only need to purchase one item later on and you’ll still have a coordinating bedroom. If space is limited consider purchasing dual purpose furniture, like changing units that have a
removable changing top set atop a chest of drawers. This gives its use longevity and it carries on being used long after baby outgrows the nursery. The cot will be the most important purchase in your nursery. You can choose from ‘classic’ and ‘modern’, to ‘vintage’ and it will set the theme for the whole room. Your choices range from wood or iron, antique, traditional or modern to natural finish, painted or eco-friendly. A rocking chair gives you yet another opportunity to add a design touch to your nursery. Functionality should come first, with design being a priority as you want this purchase to be enjoyed by you and your little one for the years ahead. If the chair you love does not fit your design story, why not have some fun with upholstery to make it work for you?
baby needs a relaxing space. If your favourite colour is a deep colour and your space is small, tone it down to a softer shade in the same colour palette. Bold colours pull the walls in and make a small space feel smaller. The reverse is also true; lighter colours make the walls recede.
FINISHING TOUCHES
Now that the mainframe of your nursery is formed, add the finishing touches to your design. Decorative accessories like a rug, artwork, clocks, etc all place a stamp on your baby’s space. A mobile hung above the cot are perfect to engage and calm a baby. Take time to select one that communicates your design message, pleasing you as much as your baby!
BABY BED LINEN
Nursery bed linen again comes in many shapes, styles and sizes and the same principle applies that we use to choose furniture. Traditional bed linen are quite easily identified, frills, checks, florals, etc. while contemporary baby bedding will be again rather fuss-free and simple. Think neutrals, geometric patterns and crisp predictable styles. For a true luxe design, go for bespoke bedding this is where you or your designer can select suitable fabrics in your chosen theme or colour.
WALL COLOURS
Notice we haven’t talked about wall colours yet. This is because it is easier to match paint to bedding than the other way round. It is safer to choose your bed linen first because you wouldn’t choose one in a colour you don’t love. Once this is safely done, pick a colour from the bed linen. Go for a soft colour as you’re creating a serene space that you’ll be walking into at 2am in the morning! Plus of course your FEBRUARY/MARCH 2016 29
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Baby MOVES
It’s important for all little ones to be lively and active…..
THINGS TO WATCH OUT FOR
Baby moves make for a happy, healthy baby, so it’s important to make sure they are free to move their bodies. Here are some things to watch out for: Baby signs Babies like moving about, but sometimes they can’t. They might be strapped into a rocker or pushchair, or perhaps their clothes are too small or big, making it difficult for them to move around. Watch out for your baby looking fidgety, and give them some room to move around.
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eing active takes brain and muscle power so it plays an important part in your baby’s development. As they grow, you can help them by playing with them and helping them make new movements and explore their surroundings. Most of all you can help them by making sure they can move around freely, easily and safely. Once your child can walk without holding on to something, try to keep them moving for at least 180 minutes (that’s three hours), spread throughout the day.
SQUARE EYES
Babies that watch too much TV will get less chance to be active, so try and reduce the time they spend in front of the telly or other screens. Why not try some of the ideas below?
Rockers, walking aids and baby bouncers These are all useful for busy mums, but babies who are strapped into them don’t get the freedom to move around properly. Try making a space for them to crawl or wriggle – do stay with your baby though to make sure they are safe.
IDEAS FOR ACTIVE PLAY Cuddles and wiggles Even very little babies can be active! Getting them out of their cot or rocker for a cuddle or a game of peek-a-boo is a great way of getting them to interact and move their muscles. They
also love to kick their legs and wiggle about so make sure they have enough space when they lie down. Singing and talking Babies love being sung or talked to, and spending time with your baby is an important part of their development. So sing a song or nursery rhyme, clap their hands or rock them to the rhythm. Playing Whether it’s with toys, mum, dad, or friends, any form of play helps babies to interact, even when they are tiny. Reaching for, pulling and pushing toys or other objects are all simple ways to stimulate your baby and improve their coordination. Tummy time Putting babies on their tummies gives them a different view of the world! They’ll learn to roll over, and will start to try to crawl towards the things that catch their eye. Parent and baby swim sessions Most swimming pools have separate areas or times for parents with babies or toddlers. Babies will love the feel of being in the water, as well as gentle play or splashing in the pool. Just like adults, they use different muscles in the water so it’s good for their development too.
Babies love being sung or talked to, spending time with your baby is an important part of their development Crawling about It’s the first time your baby has the chance to explore, and the living room is an exciting place to be. Make some space for them to explore their surroundings safely. Toddling around Practice makes perfect, and it’s an important part of growing up, so it’s good to try and make sure your baby is free to have a toddle when they get the urge. Let them try walking with you, rather than using the buggy.
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Active, energetic dance and movement classes CLAIRE GREENWOOD – CREATOR & FOUNDER TAPPY TOES
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was a professional dancer for 10 years and I have danced all my life, so Tappy Toes is something I am very passionate about. I was teaching dance to 3-18 year olds and realised there wasn’t anything on the market, dance related, geared to children under 3 years. I had lots of parents asking if they could bring their 2 year olds to my classes, but the class structure wasn’t really suitable for children that young, so I decided to create a syllabus
specifically for that age group, and Tappy Toes was created. Tappy Toes was designed to really get little ones moving, it’s an active, energetic dance and movement class. Teaching all the basics including skipping, galloping, running on tip toes, jumping, hopping, twirling and more. Gentle stretches are disguised in fun stories, children learn to stretch their bodies, improve their posture and develop co-ordination without realising.
With the Chief Medical Officers’ physical activity guidelines for the under fives being that Children of pre-school age who are capable of walking unaided should be physically active daily for at least 180 minutes, Tappy Toes is a great start. Visit www.tappytoes.com for class locations Franchises are available
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PARENTS’ QUESTIONS
about baby vaccinations
HOW WILL I KNOW WHEN MY BABY’S VACCINATIONS ARE DUE?
Your doctor’s surgery or clinic will automatically send you an appointment for you to bring your baby for their vaccination. Most surgeries and health centres run special immunisation or baby clinics. If you can’t get to the clinic, contact your surgery to make another appointment. All childhood vaccinations are free.
CAN I REFUSE MY BABY’S VACCINATIONS?
As a parent, you can decide whether or not to have your child immunised. You should be asked for your consent before each vaccination and, if you refuse, this should be recorded in your child’s medical notes. Bear in mind that there’s lots of evidence that vaccinations do much more good than harm and that vaccines will protect your child for many years against a range of serious illnesses.
WILL MY BABY HAVE SIDE EFFECTS FROM THE INJECTION?
Some babies will have side effects. These include: • Redness, swelling or tenderness where they had the injection (this will slowly disappear on its own) • A bit of irritability and feeling unwell • A high temperature (fever) If your baby develops a fever, you can treat them with paracetamol or ibuprofen. Never, though, give painkillers before the vaccination. Will my baby feel much pain from the vaccination? 32 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
Your baby may cry and be upset for a few minutes, but they’ll usually settle down after a cuddle.
MY BABY WAS PREMATURE – SHOULD WE WAIT UNTIL THEY’VE GROWN MORE BEFORE HAVING THE VACCINATIONS? Premature babies may be at higher risk of catching infections so it’s really important that they have their vaccinations on time, ie from two months of age, no matter how premature they were. It may seem very early to give a vaccination to such a tiny baby, but many scientific studies have shown that it’s a good time to give them vaccines. Postponing vaccination until they’re older leaves premature babies vulnerable to diseases.
I THINK MY BABY HAS AN ALLERGY – SHOULD THEY STILL HAVE THEIR VACCINATIONS?
Yes, they should. Asthma, eczema, food intolerances and allergies do NOT prevent your child having any of their vaccinations. If you have any questions, speak to your doctor, practice nurse or health visitor.
BUT SOME BABIES DO HAVE AN ALLERGIC REACTION TO A VACCINATION DON’T THEY?
It’s very rare for babies and children to have an allergic reaction to a vaccination – though it can happen. The important thing to remember is that it’s completely treatable. Signs of an allergic reaction
to a vaccination are a rash or itching of part or all of the body. If this happens, the doctor or nurse giving the vaccine will know how to treat it. In very rare cases, children can have a severe reaction within a few minutes of the injection, which causes breathing difficulties and, sometimes, collapse. This is called an anaphylactic reaction. It only happens about once in every million immunisations and, again, the people who give vaccinations are trained to deal with anaphylactic reactions on the spot and children recover completely with treatment.
WHAT IF MY BABY IS ILL ON THE DAY OF THE APPOINTMENT?
If your baby has a minor illness without a fever, such as a cold, they should have their vaccinations as normal. If your baby is ill with a fever, put off the vaccination until they have recovered. This is to avoid the fever being associated with the vaccine, or the vaccine increasing the fever your child already has. If your baby: • Has a bleeding disorder (for example haemophilia), or • Has had a fit not associated with fever Speak to your doctor, practice nurse or health visitor before your child has any immunisations.
WHAT IF I MISS A VACCINATION APPOINTMENT?
If you missed the appointment or delayed the immunisation, make a new appointment. You can pick up the immunisation schedule where it stopped without having to start again.
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BABY Bubbles Babies only need a bath two or three times a week, with a wash in between, but if your baby really enjoys it, bathe them every day! Here are a few tips on getting the best out of bathing your baby, keeping them safe, and smelling fresh. We all love that clean baby smell!
1. Hold your baby on your knee and clean their face first.
2. Next, wash their hair with plain water, supporting them over the bowl.
3. Once you’ve dried their hair gently, you can take off their nappy, wiping away any mess.
5. Keep your baby’s head clear of the water. Use the other hand to gently swish the water over your baby without splashing.
4. Lower your baby gently into the bowl or bath using one hand to hold their upper arm and support their head and shoulders.
The water should be warm, not hot. Check it with your wrist or elbow and mix it well so there are no hot patches.
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Don’t bathe your baby straight after a feed or when they’re hungry or tired.
If your baby seems frightened of bathing and cries, try bathing together. It’s easier if someone else holds your baby while you get in and out of the bath
6. Lift your baby out and pat them dry, paying special attention to the creases in their skin.
Have everything you need at hand: a baby bath filled with warm water, two towels, a clean nappy, clean clothes and cotton wool.
Never leave your baby alone in the bath, not even for a second.
Don’t add any liquid cleansers to the bath water. Plain water is best for your baby’s skin in the first month.
This is a good time to massage your baby. Massage can help them relax and sleep. Avoid using any oils or lotions until your baby is at least a month old.
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Talking TIMELINE varied. Consonant sounds will begin to mix with vowels, such as “baba” or “yaya” 5- 6 months Your baby practises making his voice rise and fall (intonation)often in response to your baby talk and the faces you pull. He’ll be able to make sounds to get your attention, and will babble to himself and laugh when he plays Ask for help if... If your child isn’t making vocal sounds or eye contact with you by the time he’s six months old, talk to your doctor. 7- 12 months Your baby is babbling with greater variety by now, making new sound combinations and intonations. He tries to copy your speech by putting consonants and vowels together, such as “bah-BAH-bah” or “no-no” He’ll have pretend conversations with you, taking turns to talk. He’ll recognise the names of familiar objects and toys, such as “car” and “teddy”.
TODDLER
12 months The all-important first words will have been spoken by now, and were probably “mummum” or “dada”. Your toddler may use a few words, but he won’t be able to pronounce them clearly. 15 months Your toddler raises his voice at the end of a
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rom your baby’s first gurgle, to his excitable chatter after a day at school, the ability to talk develops gradually. But before your baby says his first word, he’ll be picking up language skills from you and other adults around him. Here’s an idea of what you can expect, and when. But remember it’s completely normal for your child to reach these milestones a little earlier or later.
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Your newborn makes quiet, cooing sounds when he’s happy or content. These are typically single vowel sounds, such as “ooh” and “ah” with his tongue and lips. 2 - 3 months Your baby alters his cry according to his needs. As you get to know your baby, you may be able to distinguish a hunger cry from the cry he makes when he’s tired or uncomfortable. 3 - 4 months Your baby cries less often but will still cry when he’s uncomfortable or annoyed. He utters mostly vowel sounds, but cooing and gurgling is now a little more
Your child may know as many as 50 words by now, including some descriptive language. He’ll use short sentences consisting of two or more words with lots of pauses, such as “want milk”, “Baby ... fall down!” and “Me go... swings? question and makes hand gestures, such as pointing and waving, to emphasise what he’s saying. He may be able to say up to six simple words.
Ask for help if... If your child isn’t saying any words by the time he’s 15 months old, talk to your health visitor. 16 months Talking rather than just babbling out loud has started, even if it isn’t all that clear. He calls you to get your attention and nods and shakes his head for yes and no. Common consonant sounds such as t, d, n, w and h become part of his speech. 18 months Your toddler may know between six and 20 words, including nouns “mama”, verbs such as “eat”, and adjectives such as “cold”. 18 – 24 months Your toddler may have started to put two-word and three-word phrases together to form simple sentences, such as “Daddy go”, “go home now”, and “milk mess”. By 19 months about half of all children will be doing this. He’ll sometimes ask questions about the names of people and objects around him. 24 months Your child may know as many as 50 words by now, including some descriptive language. He’ll use short sentences consisting of two or more words with lots of pauses, such as “want milk”, “Baby ... fall down!” and “Me go... swings?” 2 – 3 years Your child knows about 200 words by now, including lots of verbs, and will be able to carry on a simple conversation about something in his immediate environment.
He’ll be asking simple questions, such as “What?”, “Where?” and “Who?” a lot. Phrases expand from three-word sentences to five-word sentences. He may stutter or stammer while he’s thinking what to say, but this is normal. Ask for help if... If your two or three-year-old echoes your questions rather than answering them, or has been stuttering for more than six months, speak to your doctor.
PRE-SCHOOLER
3 -4 years Your child will make words past tense by adding a “d” sound to verbs, and can talk about things in the future as well. He’ll make plurals by adding an “s” sound to nouns, such as “mans” and can use pronouns (I, she, we) correctly. He can talk and play at the same time, knowing between 800 words and 1,000 words. He can say sentences of four words to six words and repeat his favourite words such as “why,” “what,” and “who” often. You can understand him most of the time, and he can describe what happened if you were out of the room. By five years, speech is generally grammatically correct. Ask for help if... If your child’s stuttering lasts for more than six months, or if he tenses his jaw or grimaces while trying to speak. If so, he may be referred to a speech therapist. Bear in mind it’s perfectly normal for your child to sound as though he’s stuttering if he trips up on his words in his excitement to communicate. FEBRUARY/MARCH 2016 37
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HAVING ANOTHER BABY
is there ever a right time? What impact can a second child have on the existing family unit and relationship? What about physically or even emotionally? Is there ever a right or wrong time to have another baby? We pose some questions for you to think about if you’re contemplating another baby.
ARE YOU BOTH READY FOR A ANOTHER NEW BABY?
After having your first child you may have got to the point where you are now settled in a routine, with even getting more sleep! You and your partner have probably found that you have got more time for each other again. Now is probably a good time to sit down together and talk things through. Decide if this is what you both want, when you want it, make the plans together. Research tell us that the happiest couples are those that make the decision together to become parents. It is also important to realise that the demands of a second or subsequent newborn will be the same as your first and may even be more challenging when you also have an older child/children to look after. You will also have to negotiate the tiredness and renegotiation of the household chores all over again! 38 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
WHAT ABOUT FINANCES AND WORK?
Having and bringing up children is expensive, so extra money is always needed however large your assets are. So it is important to talk to each other about your finances. What about your work situation? Childcare is more expensive for more than one child. Can you afford to both work if you have more children? Or will one partner’s working hours increase? Would this cause a strain on your relationship? Where will the new child sleep in the short and long term? Can you afford to upsize if you need to? These are all crucial questions that need answering before a final decision or plan is made.
ARE YOU READY EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY?
Only you really know this, but researchers tell us the ideal gap is between 18 months and 23 months. This
Can you afford to both work if you have more children? Or will one partner’s working hours increase?
timing allows your body to recover and replenish all those important nutrients needed to grow and nurture a healthy baby.
DON’T FORGET YOUR EXISTING CHILD/CHILDREN
It is also important to remember their feelings; how will they feel with a new baby joining their family? They may be feeling bewildered and anxious which in turn may cause some challenging behaviour or jealousy even before the baby is born. If you are thinking about having another baby, the good news is that both you and your partner survived and together made it through all the highs and lows of a newborn once. This time you’ll have more of an idea of what to expect.
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SUPPORT YOUR
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The FittaMamma range not only looks fantastic but supports your bump, back and boobs – holding and lifting the baby weight to make any activity more comfortable. A choice of tops meets a wide range of exercise needs from yoga to high impact activities such as running or gym workouts; the leggings (different lengths and styles) all feature a unique waist panel that rolls right up over your bump or folds underneath for your preferred comfort. If you’re planning a healthy pregnancy lifestyle that includes regular exercise it’s well worth buying suitable clothes –consider them a maternity wardrobe essential to improve your health, motivation and confidence!
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TOOTHPASTE TIPS
• Start brushing your baby’s teeth with fluoride toothpaste as soon as the first milk tooth breaks through. This helps to prevent and control tooth decay. • There’s no need to buy “children’s toothpaste”. Some of them don’t have enough fluoride. • Children under 6 who don’t have tooth decay can use a lower-strength toothpaste, but must contain at least 1,000ppm fluoride. • Make sure children don’t eat or lick toothpaste from the tube. • Below the age of 3, children should use just a smear of toothpaste. • Children aged 3-6 should use a pea-sized blob of toothpaste.
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FOLIC ACID Folic acid is a man-made form of folate, a B vitamin that occurs naturally in food. It’s unlikely that you’ll get enough folate to protect your baby just from the food you eat, which is why folic acid supplements are recommended. But it’s still a good idea to eat a healthy, balanced diet that includes folate-rich foods such as granary bread, beans and pulses, and green vegetables such as broccoli and spinach. Look out for the symbol on some breads and breakfast cereals which shows they’re fortified with extra folic acid. Taking a 400 microgram folic acid supplement before and during the early days of your pregnancy helps with the development of your unborn From brushing their first tooth to theirbaby. firstHowever, trip to women the dentist, here’s how to who suffer from diabetes, or have had a previous ometimes it can be hard to make sure you get all the vitamins take care of your children’s teeth. A regular teeth-cleaning routine is essential neural tube defect (NTD) affected pregnancy, or have a history of spina and nutrients you need for a healthy pregnancy. But along with dental Follow these and oryou canconditions help keep teeth similar in theyour family,kids’ should consult their doctor as they eating a healthyfor diet,good vitamin D and health. other supplements like tipsbifida may need to take a daily dose of 5mg of folic acid. folic acid can do the trick. Vitamin D and folic acid help the remain decay-free. This applies to all women who are either pregnant or planning to get growth of your baby’s bone and brain development. pregnant, whatever their age, and whether or not there is a history of spina Supplements aren’t meant to be a substitute for a healthy diet, but TOOTHBRUSHING TIPS bifida or similar conditions in the family. Many people with spina bifida will they can help to make sure your baby’s not missing out. You can also •ask Brush your child’s teeth about about supplements – folic acid can have some paralysis and need aids to help them to walk or will need to use your GP, midwife or for pharmacist 2 minutes a day: once just a wheelchair. It can also affect the nerves controlling the bowel and bladder. be free withtwice a prescription. before bedtime and at least one Folic acid supplements are widely available in pharmacies, health food another D time during the day. TAKINGYou YOUR CHILD TOfree THE DENTISTfrom shops and supermarkets. can also get them on prescription VITAMIN • Encourage them to spit out excess • Take your child to the dentist when their first milk your GP It doesn’t matter which brand of folic acid supplement you teeth All pregnant and breastfeeding women are advised to take a daily toothpaste, but not toofrinse with appear, theycontains become400 familiar and getofto know choose – just make sure eachso tablet micrograms folic acid.the vitamin D supplement 10 micrograms. Vitamin D regulates the lots of water. Rinsing with water dentist. The dentist can help prevent decay and You’ll only need to take one tablet a day. amount of calcium in the body, which helps to keep bones and teeth after will awayThis thealso fluoride identify any oral health problems at an early stage. strong andwash healthy. provides your baby with enough vitamin D make lessmonths. effective. Just opening up the child’s mouth for the dentist inand their firstitfew • Supervise tooth brushing until your to take a look at is useful practice for the future. child is 7 or 8, either by brushing • When you visit the dentist, be positive about it All pregnant and breastfeeding women, particularly teenagers theiryoung teeth women, yourself are or, ifat they and make the trip fun. This will stop your child and risk of vitamin D deficiency. But you’re brush their own, by watching how worrying about future visits. more at risk if... they donot it. From theto age of 7 sun, or 8,for example, you cover up your skin, • Take your child for regular dental check-ups. You’re exposed much they should be able to brush their are housebound, or confined indoors for long periods own teeth, but it’s still or a good idea descent, or have darker skin, You’re of South Asian Caribbean to watch them now and again to because your body does not produce as much vitamin D in response to make sure they brush properly and sunlight for about 2 minutes. Warning: If you’re pregnant, you should avoid supplements and •multivitamins Guide your child’s hand vitamin so they Acan containing (retinol) –– as too much of it can harm feel the correct movement. your baby’s development. You should also avoid liver and liver products
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Based on some of your biggest worries, we have compiled a kids health special to help keep your little ones safe and well.
MENINGITIS
Many parents assume their child has been vaccinated against meningitis, but the jabs don’t protect against all forms of the disease. Symptoms can seem cold or flu-like at first, but young children and babies can become dangerously ill with hours. What to do: Look out for a high fever with cold hands and feet, drowsiness and confusion, continuous crying and a blotchy red rash that doesn’t fade when you place a glass over the top. Don’t wait for a rash to appear – seek medical help.
CHOKING
A recent survey showed that 58% of parents are worried about their children choking, but 79% wouldn’t know what to do if it suddenly happened. Choking is one of the highest killers of children under five. What to do: Symptoms are usually obvious in older kids – they grab their chest or neck and have trouble breathing. Lay the child face-down along your thigh, supporting their head, then give up to five sharp blows between their shoulder blades with the heel of your hand. If this doesn’t work, give up to five abdominal thrusts by holding the child around the waist, then pull upwards and inwards above their belly button. Repeat these steps, and call 999 if necessary.
MEASLES
Measles shouldn’t just be thought of as a normal part of growing up – it is potentially one of the most deadly childhood illnesses. What to do: Ensure your child gets the MMR vaccine – it’s safe and effective, and protects against mumps and rubella too. Babies are given one injection, then a second usually between 3-5 years.
ANAPHYLAXIS
This is a severe allergic reaction and can be brought on by anything from insect bites to eating nuts or shellfish. Children commonly develop a blotchy rash, swelling in the hands, feet or face, and have difficulty breathing. What to do: Anaphylaxis can be potentially fatal, as swelling blocks the child’s airway. Call 999 if your little one suddenly develops these symptoms.
BUMPS TO THE HEAD Minor head injuries are part and parcel of everyday life for children. But it’s important to monitor any bump to the head for the next 48 hours, in case the injury is serious.
What to do: In the first instance, apply something cold, like a pack of frozen veg, to reduce swelling. Symptoms to look out for over the next couple of days include difficulty staying awake, seizures, slurred speech, clear fluid coming from the nose or ears, and vomiting. Take them to A&E with anything that appears unusual.
BURNS
A massive 500,000 children are injured in the home each year, and 50,000 go to A&E suffering from burns. What to do: Put the burn under cold water for 10 minutes. Then cover it with something non-fluffy, like a tea towel or clingfilm. If it is a bad burn, call 999.
POISONING
Every day in the UK, an average of 58 children end up in A&E after being accidently poisoned with substances such as bleach. What to do: Find out exactly what they have swallowed, and if possible, the quantity so you can tell medical staff. Either call 999 or take your child straight to the hospital, remembering to take the offending bottle or container with you. 42 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
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here are hundreds of clothing brands worldwide producing designer clothes for kids. The clothes made by them are very stylish and according to the latest fashion and trends. Mostly parents are conscious about their attire and are willing to purchase expensive clothes for their kids to maintain their status and move in the high-class society. The brands are very exclusive, not affordable for everyone, but the rich people can afford them. Affluent parents want to see their kids in branded clothes that make them look cute and stylish. These brands are now focusing a lot on their Children’s Collections due to the increasing trends towards designer children’s wear and feeding the demand. Kids of this modern age are also very conscious about their look and want to look as trendy as possible according to the latest fashions.
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LIST OF TOP TEN MOST EXPENSIVE CLOTHING BRANDS FOR KIDS Sr. No
Names
Founded
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Burberry
1856
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Dolce & Gabbana
1985
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Fendi
1925
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John Galliano
1960
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Longchamp
1948
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Marc Jacobs
1984
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Oscar de la Renta
1965
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Roberto Cavalli
1970
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Versace
1978
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Catimini
1962
Parents are now more conscious about the clothes of their babies because of the changing trends in the society. Affluent parents want their children to look as stylish as they do, illustrating the status and lavish lifestyles of the rich and famous.
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and will allow the feet to grow healthily. Q. When do children need their first pair of shoes? A. When they are walking most of the day by themselves and want to walk outside, they will need a pair of shoes to protect their feet. Q. How fast do a child’s feet grow? A. You cannot generalized. They grow faster in their early years but growth will not be at a regular rate, rather in spurts. Younger children can grow by up to 2.5 size a year. Q. How often should a child have his/her feet checked? A. Every 6-8 weeks for infants and young children ( 0-4 years) and 10-12 weeks thereafter.
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CHILDRENSWEAR PRESENTS
New in for Spring Summer 16 Kicking off the kid’s collection with a bang, the brand will host a pop up space at the iconic department store Harrods in London. Bunnies big and small are taking over Harrods just in time for Easter.
The pop up space opens on 25th March until 8th May. Several exclusive colourways designed for Harrods will be featured in the pop up.
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BLOSSOM BY ROKSANDA ILLINCIC (BELOW LEFT)
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Pete the pony and Gertrude the giraffe are this season’s stars, with their playful prints adorning tee’s and sweatshirts in bold, summery shades.
Clashing colours and bold prints, Roksanda introduces her signature style once more to her childrenswear line, Blossom. Matching looks available for mum’s too, for true mini-me style.
This season it’s all about cool and effortless chic style inspired by the late 60s. A collection designed for the preteen fashionista, who dares to stand out from the crowd.
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ALL AVAILABLE IN-STORE NOW Minna Parikka Kids pop up at Harrods will be a fun and cute explosion of glitter, bright pinks and pastel hues. The theme of the pop up will be “Follow the Bunny”, taking little customers down the rabbit hole
to Minna Parikka’s wonderland. Children can follow the bunny shoes along the shelves through peek-a-boo boxes, making the display dynamic and interactive.
MISSONI SWIM (ABOVE)
MINNA PARIKKA MINI (BELOW)
Missoni Swim has arrived in the Harrods Childrenswear department for the first time this season. The collection comprises of classic beach styles such as kaftans, cover ups, beach skirts, bikinis and swimsuits, adorned in the timeless Missoni chevron knit pattern.
Minna Parikka brings the petting zoo to little feet for spring/summer 2016. Typically fun and typically bold, this season’s collection introduces us to her merry band of signature bunnies.
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Harrods Launches Mini Superbrands PHASE 1, FEATURING DIOR, LORO PIANA AND GUCCI Harrods is delighted to announce the launch of the first stage of the exciting new Mini Superbrands concept on the 4th floor in Childrenswear.
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he first room has been completley transformed, housing newly designed boutiques from Dior, Gucci and Loro Piana. The space offers little shoppers an array of sophisticated and fashionable styles from each of the much loved brands. Loro Piana’s boutique is truly one-of-a-kind, with Harrods being the first department store in the World to launch a stand alone childrenswear boutique for the brand. The full Loro Piana childrenswear collection will be available, from baby gifting through to toys and childrenswear, all featuring the same quality fabrics and attention to detail as the brands counterpart collections. Gucci have created an entirely bespoke shop fit for the department, designed by their new in house creative team, which is the the first concept of its kind in the World. The “World of Gucci Kids” offers the brand’s collections of clothing and accessories for both children and babies. Dior’s new children’s boutique is the largest of it’s kind, spanning across 2,000 sqaure feet. The
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space features clothing for all ages from babywear to childrenswear, along with the season’s must have shoes and accessories. Soft grey furnishings complete the area for the ultimate comfort and relaxation during the little customers shopping experience and parents alike.
The further three Mini Superbrands rooms will be opening throughout 2016 as part of the redevelopment of the Childrenswear department, with the concept due for completion by Autumn 2016. Harrods 87-135 Brompton Road Knightsbridge, SW1X 7XL. www.harrods.com
Loro Piana’s boutique is truly one-of-a-kind, with Harrods being the first department store in the World to launch a stand alone childrenswear boutique for the brand
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Unique style, quality pieces with an environmentally conscious approach Fancy Kids is a London based children’s online shopping website launched in May 2015.
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hey offer fashion wear, toys and lifestyle accessories for children aged 0 to 10 years old. The website presents an exquisite selection of over 50 independent children’s brands sourced from across the world. All their products are organically produced, and are hand-picked for their individual character and impeccable craftsmanship. Fancy Kids is a community of designers and consumers synonymous in their shared desire for the same things - unique style, quality pieces and an environmentally conscious approach to all their work. In showcasing fresh, exciting products
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they aim to introduce a new way of discovering children’s clothing through a bespoke online shopping experience for their customers. From the beginning they wanted their website to be accessible to all, and so provide worldwide shipping and the option of next day delivery within the UK and Click&Collect service in London. For more details email hello@fancykids.com www.fancykids.com @fancykidslondon @Fancykidslondon Fancy Kids
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GET
Fit AS A Family • Walking with the family. The simplest of healthy activities, costs nothing and can be enjoyed almost anywhere. A family walk over a couple of hours will tire out the children and bring a multitude of health benefits including exercising the cardiovascular system, strengthening and toning the legs and burning approximately 100 calories per hour. • Family outdoor activities. Whether it’s a playing in the garden, a game of ‘tag’ in the local park or some fun on the swings and slides, simple outdoor games and activities are great for quality family time and exercise. The children will love it and you’ll also benefit from the getting your heart rate a little higher. Make sure all the family members can get involved so that everyone has the chance to exercise. • Family day trips. Any event that involves everyone getting up and about will contribute to the family’s health and fitness. Visiting the zoo, going to a sporting event or exploring a theme park is something that can be enjoyed by all the family and will also involve expending plenty of calories en-route!
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hile we’re all leading busy lives, it can be hard to fit in family time, let alone time to exercise. We’ve put together some family fitness activities that will help you to bond with your children as well as keeping everyone fit and healthy! Getting the family involved in sport is a guaranteed way of improving everyone’s fitness – so why not try out some of the following…….. • Swimming is always a sure-fire hit with the kids, and a fun family activity. An hour’s swimming can burn up to 300 calories as well as build your upper-body strength and it also gives your heart, lungs and all the major muscle groups in your body a good workout. • Family cycling. There are now more and more safe cycling routes that are traffic-free for familyfriendly cycling. Even if your child is too young to control a bike on their own, you can buy child seats or attachments that link their bike to yours. Cycling is a fun way to shift the pounds because it burns between 200 and 800 calories per hour! • Indoor games for the family. Badminton, tenpin bowling and table-tennis (to name just three) are all activities that everyone in the family can have a go at. • Activity holidays. Nowadays, there is a growing trend for the traditional beach holiday to be supplemented by something a little more dynamic and adventurous. The opportunity to 54 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
experience a new sport without compromising family time is ideal – and with the wide range of sports now on offer, there will be something for everyone. Water sports, trekking or even daily excursions are more beneficial and healthy than sun-lounger-type breaks – plus they are more enjoyable family activities.
It doesn’t have to be hell to be healthy for you or your family and using some smart combinations of activities such as the ones above means that you’ll neither neglect your family nor your fitness. Of course everyone is busy and yes, everyone wants a piece of you, but there aren’t many more important things than maintaining your health and fitness and spending some time with your family, so go and do it!
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fun inside!
hen it’s pouring down outside, it can be tough for parents to stop their kids playing on tablets or mobile phones, or vegging out in front of the TV. But there has to be more for them to do inside than simply stare at a screen. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to keep kids entertained inside! Children are at their most imaginative and creative when they’re helping to make their own entertainment. And let’s face it, who looks back on their childhood and gets nostalgic for that perfect day spent in front of the telly? So instead of relying on technology, parents can encourage their kids to get creative and/or active inside, perhaps by trying a few of these ideas:
BUILD A DEN
INDOOR OBSTACLE COURSE
Give imaginative children a stage of their own to recreate their favourite fantasies - a miniature theatre is both fun to make and fun to play with. All you need is a shoebox, some card and some pens/ coloured pencils/crayons, and perhaps some images cut out from magazines. Cut some slits in the side of the shoebox and make some characters from card, which are then attached to a longer strip of card so the characters can be ‘moved’ around the stage. Make some different backdrops from more card, using
Let off some steam by creating and racing through your own obstacle course. Chairs are great for climbing over or crawling through, and a blanket on the floor weighted down at the edges makes a perfect homemade tunnel. Place cushions some distance apart and leap between them, and if you have a narrow corridor you can even use wool and masking tape to create your own spy web to negotiate.
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Make like the animals and indulge in a bit of hibernation, using blankets, sheets and quilts to make the biggest indoor den possible! Clear a space where it’s nice and warm and there’s plenty of room for everyone to get comfortable. Then erect a canopy/tent using sheets or blanket, weighed down with chairs or other furniture. Make the den cover as big a space as possible, and the inside really cosy. Bring bean bags inside, cosy rugs, quilts and sleeping bags so the whole of floor beneath the canopy is covered. Throw in some soft toys and books, then all you need is to snuggle up with something warm to drink and eat. The kids will relax and so will you.
MAKE A MINIATURE THEATRE
pictures from magazines and your child’s own illustrations, which can then be stuck to the box.
TREASURE HUNT
Kids love finding hidden objects — especially when there’s a prize at the end. Simply write your clues on some slips of paper — get creative. Place the first clue somewhere easy to find, like inside your child’s snack or cereal bowl. Then leave as many clues as you like around the house, making a trail to the final clue. Instead of a prize, the treasure hunt can lead to various coins around the house. This way the kids get to collect all the coins and put them in their piggy banks in the end.
BUBBLES
You don’t have to go outside to enjoy bubbles. For this game, you need a plate and straw for each player, some dishwashing soap and water. Place a dime-size drop of dish soap at the centre of each plate. Pour a little water onto the plate and gently mix with the dish soap until some suds start to form. Have the kids place the straw in the suds and blow very gently. Watch as massive bubbles start to form. To make this competitive, see who blows the biggest, or longest-lasting, bubble.
A good night’s sleep for your baby Baby sleeping bags are the safest way for babies to sleep, ensuring a good night’s sleep for your child and peace of mind for you. It is normal for babies to wake during the night, particularly in the first few months of life. However, research has shown that babies often wake because they wriggle about, kicking off, tangling in, or even slipping down under conventional blankets and duvets. As a result, babies can easily become too hot or too cold, and it is this discomfort that leads to distress and the inevitable crying. By replacing blankets and duvets with a baby sleeping bag, you can keep your baby at a safe and comfortable temperature throughout the night. Because your baby will be warm and snug in her sleep sack, she will be less likely to wake in the night and more likely to go back to sleep if she does. When used as part of the bedtime routine, a sleeping bag is great for helping your baby to settle. After an evening bath, put your baby into his sleeping bag for a cuddle, and you’ll find it simpler and far less stressful when you put him into his cot. LONG SLEEVED WINTER SLEEPING BAGS As the nights start to draw in and the temperature drops, a Slumbersac long-sleeved sleeping bag is the best way to ensure that your child stays cosy and warm all night long! Unlike most sleeping bags, which only have short sleeves or no sleeves at all,
these sleeping bags cover baby’s arms for that extra insulation, helping them to sleep better and wake less often. The 3.5 tog winter bags are thicker too, made from 100% cotton with a soft, padded polyester fleece that is easy to wash and dry. They are available in sizes from birth right up to 10 years, so there’s no reason why your little one should suffer chilly nights this winter! PERSONALISED COMFORT Baby sleeping bags come in a wide range of sizes and togs. The tog size determines the thickness of the sleeping bag and therefore how warm it keeps your child. Whether it’s summer or winter, Slumbersac offers sleeping bags for every season, and a wide choice of designs featuring beautiful embroidery, appliqués and prints to suit boys and girls, and to coordinate with your baby’s nursery. All sleeping bags are made from – and lined with – 100% cotton. Padded with quick-dry, soft polyester fleece, Slumbersac baby sleeping bags are easily machine-washed and tumble-dried, and they make the ideal gift for babies and toddlers because they are both practical and attractive! To make them extra special you can opt for name embroidery in lots of different colours. THE DETAILS
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A,B,Cs Our definitive guide to help you make all the right choices for your children
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here are 2,500+ independent schools in the UK which are independent of local or central government control. Independent schools offer a wealth of facilities and high teaching standards that enable students to achieve great results year after year. Independent schools are in the unique position to provide a truly bespoke education for your child. Choosing the right school for your child is an important decision that takes plenty of time and research. There are a wide range of independent schools specialising in different age groups and needs.
PRE-PREPARATORY SCHOOLS (AGES 2 YEARS - 7 YEARS)
Pre-preparatory schools - also called nursery schools or kindergartens - correspond to nursery and infants stages in local authority schools. In pre-preparatory schools children are taught to read, write, develop numeracy and learn to play. Pre-prep schools are often attached to specific junior schools.Pre-prep school is the first time most children will experience education, as opposed to the daycare provided by kindergartons. Children will have to learn the basics of mathematics, science and English, and a host of other subjects. Outside the classroom, many of the children will be having their first proper experience with team sports, music and/or choral tuition, and the arts.
PREPARATORY SCHOOLS (AGES 7 YEARS -11+ OR 13 YEARS)
Preparatory or prep schools, have a full range of subjects leading to admission to senior schools at 11+ or through the 13+ Common Entrance Examination.As their name implies, the preparatory schools are focused primarily on preparing boys and girls for their senior education, and the important
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public exams that come with it. Free of the National Curriculum, prep schools can differentiate their curricula according to what they think best prepares children for their later education. Most prep school children will be learning a foreign language from the very first year, and don’t be surprised to see subjects like Latin, Philosophy and Physics in the classroom, with cricket, rugby and tennis all on offer during games. As children reach the end of their time at prep school, most will look to the Common Entrance Exam as their gateway into the senior schools. It is during this transition process that senior schools are also looking for talented pupils for scholarships and other awards, so the very able students may be asked to attend further examinations/recitals/matches &c, depending on where their particular strengths lie. In the state system, children are tested by the Government SATs, however many schools in the independent sector will have their own internal methods of measuring the performance of the children. There are around 499 prep schools in the Independent Association of Prep Schools, one of our constituent Head’s Associations, collectively educating over 134,000 children.
SENIOR SCHOOLS (AGES 11 YEARS -18 YEARS)
Most of the pupils in independent education are in senior school, educating over 350,000 senior school students in almost eight hundred schools. Independent Senior Schools offer approaches to education, subjects, facilities and sports unparalleled in the state sector – students can study History of Art, Government, Russian and Japanese, and try their hands at Astronomy, Ceramics or Equestrianism. They could be on their school judo or sailing team, and take trips all over the world. Whatever your child’s particular strengths, passions and interests, there is almost certainly a school which can offer the chance to try all of them.
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KIDS AND TECHNOLOGY: WHEN DOES IT STOP?
When you say so!
time has been associated with reduced physical activity and higher risk of obesity in kids. • It may expose kids to too much advertising and inappropriate content. Many commercials promote junk food and toys in powerful ways that are designed to get kids to want these items.
HOW TO LIMIT TECHNOLOGY
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hese days kids are operating electronic devices such as smartphones practically moments after being born. Just take a look around any local playgroup or playground: you’ll be likely to see kids as young as 3 clutching mum or dad’s phone to play games or view videos. When it comes to technology, kids are not only starting to use it at a younger age, but are using it in more varied situations, both at home and at school. Today, technology for kids is a source of learning and entertainment, and in a pinch when parents have to get dinner made or take a few minutes to answer emails, a terrific babysitter. For school-age kids, technology can be a doubleedged sword. There are countless benefits that can be garnered from using technology: Computers can be used to do research and improve language skills. Television (and DVDs) can offer educational programming such as documentaries and other educational materials. And even video games can encourage developmental skills such as hand-eye coordination (and some motion-controlled active games on the Wii can promote physical activity such as dancing). But all these electronic devices can also have some distinct disadvantages as well. Here are some reasons why technology should be limited for kids and how to do it. • It may interfere with sleep. Getting enough sleep can be challenging enough for kids who often have
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homework and after-school activities. Add to that numerous hours of TV watching - and you have a recipe for sleep-deprivation. Electronic stimulation, such as watching TV or using the laptop, has been shown to interfere with sleep. • It may cut into family time. It can be difficult for families to find some good quality time to spend with each other. While it can be fun to have a family movie night, the fact is that screen time means less face-to-face interaction time. • It may encourage short attention span. Studies have shown that too much screen time may be associated with attention problems. • It may interfere with education. Children who watch a lot of TV are more likely to have lower grades and read fewer books. • It may lead to less physical activity. More screen
Letting kids use technology with limits can be achievable if you keep some of these key tips in mind….. • Do not put a TV in your child’s room. • Turn it off. When the kids are not watching a specific programme, turn off the TV. Keep it off during mealtimes and especially when they are studying or doing homework. • The best way to know what your child is watching or playing is by helping her pick out a show or a game. Then you are able to decide whether it is appropriate for their age. • Limit screen time. Whether it’s one hour of TV a day or 5 hours a week, limit the amount of time your child spends watching TV or playing video games and stick to that number. • Opt for alternatives to technology activities. Find great ways to spend family time together such as playing board games, reading good books or take go for a family day out.
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Anxiety IN CHILDREN Just like adults, children and young people feel worried and anxious at times. But if it is starting to affect their wellbeing, they may need some help to overcome it
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hildren tend to feel anxious about different things at different ages. Many of these worries are a normal part of growing up. From about eight months to three years, for example, it’s very common for young children to have something called separation anxiety. They may become clingy and cry when separated from their parents. This is a normal stage in children’s development and tends to ease off at around age two to three. It’s also common for pre-school children to develop specific fears or phobias. Common fears include animals, insects, storms, heights, water, blood, and the dark…and when starting at a new school. These fears usually go away gradually on their own.
WHEN IS ANXIETY A PROBLEM FOR CHILDREN?
Anxiety becomes a problem for children when it starts to get in the way of their day-to-day life. Severe anxiety can harm children’s psychological and emotional wellbeing, affecting their self-esteem and confidence. They may become withdrawn and avoid situations that make them feel anxious. 62 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
WHAT ARE THE SIGNS OF ANXIETY IN CHILDREN?
When young children feel anxious, they cannot always understand or express what they are feeling. You may notice that they become irritable, tearful, clingy or have difficulty sleeping or eating. They may wake in the night, start wetting the bed or have bad dreams. In older children you may notice a lack the confidence to try new things, find it hard to concentrate and prone to angry outbursts.
HOW TO HELP YOUR ANXIOUS CHILD
If your child is experiencing anxiety, there is plenty you can do to help...It’s important to talk to your child. reassure them and show them you understand how they feel. Focus on exploring solutions with your child, and help them plan ways to cope with them. With younger children... you could say, ‘I’ll take you to the party, knock on the door and talk to the mum or dad, then you can give your friend their present”.
OTHER WAYS TO EASE ANXIETY IN CHILDREN
Children of all ages find regular routines reassuring, so try to stick to regular daily routines where possible. If your child is anxious because of distressing events, such as a bereavement or separation, see if you can find books or films that will help them understand their feelings.
TRY NOT TO BECOME ANXIOUS YOURSELF OR OVERPROTECTIVE
Practice simple relaxation techniques with your child, such as taking three deep, slow breaths, breathing in for a count of three and out for three. Distraction can be helpful for young children. For example, if they are anxious about going to nursery, play games on the way there, this is a way of focusing attention away from internal anxiety and worries.
WHEN SHOULD WE GET HELP?
If your child’s anxiety is severe and interferes with their everyday life, it’s a good idea to get some outside help. Some children do grow out of anxiety but, if it’s not addressed in childhood, it can continue. A visit to your GP is a good place to start. If your child’s anxiety is affecting their school life, talk to their school as well. Parents can get help and advice around children’s mental health from Young Minds’ free parent helpline on 0808 802 5544 (Monday to Friday, 9.30am-4pm).
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Speak out
ABOUT BULLIES A
third of children reported being bullied in the last 12 months, and half of them don’t tell anyone about it. But a new survey that took place during Anti-Bulling Week in November, reveals more than a quarter of young people bullied in school say it impacts their mental health, and that they experience anxiety, depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts,. The Anti-Bullying Alliance is urging young people, parents and teachers to Make a Noise About Bullying. Lauren Seager-Smith, national coordinator for the Anti-Bullying Alliance, says: “What has come across really strongly from both young people and adults is that young people need support to talk about bullying. About half of young people don’t report bullying to anyone when it’s happening, which is a really serious issue.”
MAKE A NOISE
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• To empower children to make a noise about bullying, whether it’s happening to them or to someone else, face-to-face or online. • To help parents have conversations with their children about bullying, both as a way of preventing it, and to help children who are worried. • To encourage ‘talking schools’ where all children are given a safe space to discuss bullying and other issues, and are supported to report all forms of bullying. • To equip teachers to respond effectively when children tell them they’re being bullied. • To raise awareness of the impact of bullying on children’s lives if they don’t tell anyone it’s happening, with a focus on the impact on mental health.
SUPPORT
“We can’t just have young people speaking out without teachers responding appropriately, and parents being supported around the conversations
with their children about bullying and what they should do,” says Seager-Smith. “Children are often quite worried about telling their parents, because of how they’re going to respond. If we don’t support children to speak out, schools aren’t responding appropriately, and parents aren’t supported to speak out about these issues, then children don’t tell anyone about bullying and there can be a really serious impact on mental health.” While more than 16,000 children are absent from school at any one time because of bullying, over half of 6-15-year-olds don’t know how to get help if they’re being bullied. This is compounded by the fact the Anti-Bullying Alliance survey found that teachers and GPs feel ill-equipped to support children with mental health issues related to bullying. Bullying is strongly linked to eating disorders, self-harm and suicide, and being a bullying victim increases the risk of being depressed later in life by more than half. And it’s not just the victims who
what needs to change, which is also much more helpful for the person on the receiving end of the bullying.” Overall, Seager-Smith stresses that children need to understand that it’s vital to speak out about bullying, whether it’s happening to them, or they’ve seen someone else being bullied. “It’s about breaking the taboo about bullying - there’s still
feel the weight of bullying, as the bullies themselves are 30% more likely to become depressed as adults.
RESTORATIVE
Seager-Smith says that, in the past, there’s been a tendency to provide more services for victims of bullying than interventions with children who bully. But now restorative approaches, where bullies meet their victims in a controlled environment and the devastating impact of their actions is much more evident, are being used very effectively. “Restorative approaches work,” says Seager-Smith. “If a child bullies at school and is then excluded, they’re being punished but not learning about the impact of their behaviour, what needs to change and why.The benefit of a restorative approach is that the child understands the damage that’s been caused and
a sense that if you tell, you’re a grass. Make a Noise is trying to break that, saying that if bullying’s going on, you’re not a grass - bullying is so serious that you could be saving someone’s life. “You shouldn’t stay quiet about it, but breaking the culture of not telling is a challenge.” For more information about Anti-Bullying Week, visit www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk
TOP TIPS FOR PARENTS • If your child is being bullied, don’t panic. Explain that the bullying isn’t their fault and together you’ll sort it out. • Bullying should always be taken seriously, and it’s never your child’s fault if they’ve been bullied. • Try and establish the facts. It can be helpful to keep a diary of events, and if the bullying is online, save or copy images and text. • Find out what your child wants to happen. Help to identify steps you can take; and the skills they have to help sort out the situation. Make sure you always keep them informed about any actions you decide to take. • You may be tempted to tell your child to retaliate, but this can have unpredictable results.Your child might get into trouble or get even more hurt. Instead, role play non-violent ways they can respond to the bullies. Show them how to block or unfriend people if the bullying is online and help them identify other friends or adults that can support them. • Encourage your child to get involved in activities that build their confidence and esteem, and help them to form friendships outside school (or wherever the bullying is taking place).
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KEEP YOUR KIDS
Safe Online
Children of all ages love using the computer, learning to navigate the internet from their earliest days through exposure at home and school. It is of paramount importance to put safety rules and measures into place before allowing your child independent access to the worldwide web.
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ccording to Andrew Rogoyski, Vice President of Cyber Security Services at CGI UK, the main online dangers parents need to be aware of are people masquerading as children and forming inappropriate and hidden relationships with a child, as well as criminals acting to defraud, run scams, or clone an individual’s identity. He also warns of unscrupulous companies getting children to sign up to paid services and urges parents to explain to their kids about inadvertently exposing private and sensitive information to the public. Technology that suddenly goes on the fritz is also something to watch out for - if your computer starts to slow down, that can be a sign there is malware on the system, which can wreak all kinds of destruction, from erasing all of your files to capturing online banking details. “There are plenty of services and software that promise to keep your child safe online. None of them are substitutes for good parental supervision and knowledge,” Rogoyski says. Before allowing your child online, establish some ground rules: “When and how long they have ‘screentime,’ what 66 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
applications they can use, what you, as parents, expect to have access to and what punishments will be imposed if problems occur. Such rules can be difficult to impose on mobile phones so think about how your child is going to use mobiles.” It’s key for parents to understand how their children are using technology and social media. Stay safe by enforcing privacy settings on social media and making sure your child is only interacting with people they know. Rogoyski recommends that parents check websites like www.cyberstreetwise.com and www. getsafeonline.org to get tech-savvy and learn about installing security software and strong passwords to prevent hackers. They offer detailed information on topics from online gaming to preventing identity theft so parents can assess risks and take precautionary measures. It’s important to explain the risks of being online to children. Parents should educate children about filling in personal information (required for competitions, etc), responding to pop-ups, being aware about the photos and messages they post and the dangers of meeting strangers online.
Most social media websites (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) have a minimum age of 13, while WhatsApp requires users to be 16 and Vine has a minimum age requirement of 17. These minimum age requirements can be breached, which is why parents need to be vigilant in monitoring their children’s internet use. Minormonitor.com helps parents track their children’s Facebook and Twitter accounts, allowing them to stay ahead of any potential issues involving bullying, drugs and sexual references. Apps can also give parents power over their children’s digital lives. K9 Web Protection Browser is an internet filter and parental control software which blocks websites in over 70 categories and Net Nanny is another customisable filter that lets you block porn, profanity and other undesirable content. Mobicip is a popular choice to ensure your children are only exposed to age-appropriate content. Think of it like a Safari that bans restricted content and puts a time limit on internet usage. A fun way to teach kids about online dangers and safety precautions is with The Cynja, a book series about a cyberspace superhero fighting digital baddies.”Encourage positive use of these technologies,” says Rogoyski. “If you can get your child interested in areas like programming, digital art, game design, music production, film making and writing, to name but a few areas where technology excels, then the darker side of the internet will be much less of an issue.”
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Strap on a SwimFin and get splashing! We know how important learning to swim is for all family members. It’s a popular after school and recreational activity.
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wimFin has been designed by a highly qualified UK swimming coach with over 30 yrs experience. It’s a vertical aid and is suitable for children from 2 years and up. SwimFin is also useful for learners and more experienced swimmers! SwimFin can be used on all 4 strokes and is the only aid to have been endorsed by the Amateur Swimming Association (ASA). We’re very proud of that fact and are pleased to be partnered with leading organizations around the globe. So how will it help your child to swim? It works in harmony with the body because it’s worn on the back providing total freedom around the arms and legs which allows for a natural swimming position, with the fin working like a boat’s keel
in the water. Kids love SwimFin because the shark element appeals as a fun piece of kit and encourages them to get into the water. It appeals to parents because it makes learning to swim more of a game than a chore. Tests have proven that it can reduce the learning to swim process by up to a third less time. It’s also perfect for taking on holiday as the fin is highly visible in a busy pool or on the beach! SwimFin works for all ages and abilities. Kids love feeling safe and secure, whilst the fin motivates and encourages imagination. So strap on a SwimFin and jump in with your friends! For more information visit www.swimfin.co.uk
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Every child DESERVES A FAMILY… I
n England over 4,000 children are waiting for loving adoptive parents. They are a range of ages, from a variety of backgrounds. What they have in common is a difficult start in life and that they can no longer be brought up by their birth families. All these children need a loving, stable home. They need parents who will stick by them through the good times and the bad. They need support and love to help them overcome their troubled backgrounds, make sense of who they are and grow up to be safe and secure. Adoption is a way of providing a permanent family for children. Parenting adopted children, whilst presenting unique challenges, can be extremely rewarding. If you are able to offer love, commitment, time, patience and the motivation to want to understand how your child sees the world, then that is a great start and the rewards will be limitless. It may be that you have a wish to be a parent but fertility issues mean that you cannot have a birth child. Or you may already have a family but feel you still have space for another child. Or you may be single and feel that you have masses of love, security and happiness to offer to a child who has not had a great start in life and/or has ongoing challenges. Or you may have adopted and are thinking of adopting again. Whether you are married or single, divorced or living with a partner, gay or straight, unemployed
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or disabled, and whatever your cultural background adoption may be for you.
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE AN ADOPTIVE PARENT?
Adoptive parents need the same qualities as any other parent. Adoption offers children the love, stability and security of family life they may not have experienced before. Have confidence that you have what it takes! You will need to give your adopted child(ren) lots of individual time, understanding and support. Children who experience unmet physical and emotional needs early in life can have their later development adversely affected, perhaps requiring different parenting techniques to a birth child. That may sound daunting but there is plenty of support available, via your agency and voluntary support agencies. On a practical level, you will need to be able to support a child financially, though you don’t have to be a millionaire or even be a homeowner. You can apply for tax credits to supplement your income when you adopt, and other financial help may
also be available in the form of one-off or regular payments. When you first adopt, one partner will be expected to take time off work for between six and twelve months to help the child settle in. Your child will also need your ongoing support to help them understand about their birth family and why they were adopted. You will need to be able to help discuss their history with them in a respectful way and highlight the positives in their past. Where it is in their best interests there may be ongoing contact with the child’s birth family. This can involve anything from occasional meetings with birth family members or ‘letterbox’ contact once or twice a year. As an adoptive parent, you will need to support your child with whatever arrangements are agreed for contact with their birth family. Adoption is a lifelong commitment requiring skill, empathy, energy, patience – and a sense of humour! But there can be no greater reward than transforming a child’s life forever and building a happy, fulfilled family. Adoption transforms the lives of some of the most vulnerable children in society.
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THE IMPORTANCE
of children learning first aid Learning a few first-aid principles can prepare kids for the worst: it helps them develop their compassion, self-esteem, and sense of purpose
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erhaps the most important skill you can model for your kids is staying calm when they get hurt. Show them how to take a slow deep breath and release it to help ease panic. This will then put them in good stead if they are helping someone else. Kids learn best when they feel relaxed and playful. Talking seriously about Mum and Dad getting hurt can bring on anxiety for many children. Avoid planting the seeds of recurrent nightmares if it’s only a remote possibility. Instead, engage with their natural love of playing “doctor” by pretending to be their imaginary patient and telling them your symptoms. Even though you use play in your teaching, be explicit about what your child is learning. When they have successfully demonstrated several skills, celebrate their achievement and point out that they now know some useful first aid. Remembering this may give them much needed confidence in an emergency. Go through the first aid kit together, and have some extra bits of gauze, tape, and cotton balls on hand so your child can practice with real tools: smaller kids get a special thrill out of these materials. Make sure your family kit is well organised
so a child can find recognisable tools quickly, and have illustrated instruction pamphlets on hand. Often, the most important thing a child can do in a crisis is call for assistance. You can’t start too early with 999 training. Let kids touch the buttons on the phone to practice and memorise the sequence, but don’t forget to stress how important it is never to use emergency numbers for play or curiosity. A kid should never hesitate to “bother” the emergency operator if something seems very wrong and they are scared. Begin gently with small children, and trust your instincts to know how much they are ready to take in at each developmental stage. Children can often practice: Applying pressure to a bleeding wound, applying cold running water or a wet towel to a burn, or gently rolling a person into the recovery position. While some children are capable of understanding the basics of CPR, their size and strength may prevent them from being able to effectively administer it. First aid courses can be tremendously empowering for kids, as they are achieving real-world competencies and facing serious adult-like situations.
Focus on emergencies your family is most likely to encounter. Do you have a family member with epilepsy, a heart condition, or another serious chronic illness? If so, focus on those specific assessments, and make sure your child is aware of the conditions and knows how to name them to emergency services. Make sure children know that their first and most important job is to stay safe themselves. Talk just as much about what a child should never try to do - like jump into deep water to help someone in distress, or run into a burning building. Children need to be able to deal with any situation that arises. It’s also very important to provide children with emergency contact information. Many of these things can be taught to children by parents and teachers. Children can also learn such things from first aid books written for children. There are also first aid courses available to children, such as those offered through the Red Cross. 70 FEBRUARY/MARCH2016
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