What does it mean to self-reflect or SelfRe?

The funny thing is, I probably would have made it. I guess I’ll never know. But I will tell you this, I’d never let something like that stop me now. It took some time, but I’ve learned that trying, and sometimes failing, is just a part of life. You’ll find that out too.

And if YOU believe in yourself, OTHERS will believe in you—which is awesome! But if you don’t believe in yourself, it could be harder for the people around you to believe in you. And that could be a pretty big bummer.

The perfect combination for success is to believe in yourself and trust that others have confidence in you too! Now that’s what I call a “win-win”! You’ll get there! Believe me!

Your confidence areas

Now it’s time to rate your self-confidence.

Every girl has certain areas in her life where she has more confidence, and other areas where she has less confidence.

Let’s look at the areas where you have more self-confidence versus the areas where you’re less confident.

If you feel you have a lot of self-confidence in an area, mark yourself high—like a 5. If you feel you have less self-confidence in an area, mark yourself low. There may be some areas where you feel your self-confidence is in the middle range—mark 2, 3, or 4.

My self-confidence at school: learning new subjects, interacting with teachers, maintaining organization, completing assignments

My self-confidence at home: completing chores, waking up and going to bed on time

My self-confidence with family members: spending time together, sharing about my day My self-confidence at after-school activities: attending practices, cooperating with others, my skill level

1 2 3 4 5

1 2 3 4 5

1 2 3 4 5

1 2 3 4 5

Yes, it might be difficult. Yes, you might fail. But always remember—you can, and you should, try again. Try until you succeed. You can do it!

Do you remember a time when either you or someone else thought you couldn’t do something, and you found you were actually able to succeed? Go, Girl! How did you feel

when you were finally successful?

It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.

— Oprah Winfrey, American media personality and entrepreneur

As my grandma used to say: “You live in an amazing world during an amazing time! Lucky you, Girl! ”

And she’s right! There are more opportunities for girls and women than ever before. Women do big things, important things. It wasn’t always like that in the past. But you can do anything you want to do—and you can be whatever you want, Girl! ANYTHING—I promise!

It’s your turn, Girl! Start thinking about what exactly it is that you want to do.

Part 4

WHAT IT TAKES TO BE SUCCESSFUL

We can choose challenge, or we can choose comfort. But we can't have both. Not at the same time.

— Brene Brown, American author and professor

What is a SUCCESS?

Let’s talk for a minute about success. Of course, we think of success as being sparkly and shiny and amazing.

Simone Biles, an American gymnast, has had a hugely successful career! At the young age of 24, she has a combined total of 32 Olympic and World Championship medals, making her the most-decorated gymnast of her generation.

Greta Thunberg was wildly famous by the age of 15 for her thoughts and actions around climate change. By 18, the world-renowned environmental activist from Sweden had already won a number of prestigious honors and awards, including two nominations for the Nobel Peace Prize.

Kamala Harris is the first woman to clinch a vice presidency in the United States. The highlights of her career include time as state senator, attorney general, and district attorney. She is currently the highest-ranking female official in US history.

These are all successful women who had dreams, big dreams! Through lots of hard work, planning, and preparation, they achieved those dreams. Now all three of them are known around the world for their successes.

10 Secrets to Help You Be Whatever You Want!

These are SUPER-IMPORTANT RULES and HELPFUL TIPS to help you SUCCEED AT WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT TO DO.

Some things may work better for you than others. Some may work better for your specific goal. Try them. See what works for you and what helps you to be most successful in achieving your dreams.

1. If you believe, you can achieve!

The first step toward being successful at anything is believing in your abilities and believing in yourself.

And, by the way, you should believe in yourself!

Believe that you can be whatever you want, Girl!

Start by telling yourself, either in your head or out loud, I CAN DO THIS! I can be whatever I want! This tip might sound a little silly or strange—but it works, and it can help you!

I will do this. I will be successful. I can do this. I will do this. I will be successful. I can DO whatever I want. I can BE whatever I want.

Repeat this as many times as you need to. Make sure you really mean it! The words we use can change our belief systems and feelings. Words create reality! Try it! Start by writing it here. Now.