Just for Her Issue 7 by Forces & Corporate Publishing Ltd

ISSUE 7

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Welcome to issue 7 of Just for Her… I cannot believe that this is the Christmas issue already! It has therefore been a whole year since we relaunched ‘Just for Her’ and what an incredible year it has been! The feedback and support we have received, from both readers and contributors, has been overwhelming and we cannot thank you enough. I would like to say a particular thank you to Kate Saines who has written many of the fantastic articles which you have been reading and is always ready to offer words of support and encouragement. Don’t forget, if you want to subscribe to Just for Her, to ensure you receive every issue through your door, please visit www.justforhermilitarymag.co.uk. We’re here to help with Christmas this issue and are offering 40 lucky readers, the chance to win tickets to ‘The Festive Gift Fair’. As well as the obligatory ‘Christmas Gift Guide’ we also have some excellent advice from Cat Williams on surviving Christmas and can highly recommend her book ‘Stay Calm & Content - No Matter What Life Throws At You’. In this issue, we interview the founder of ‘Huggable Heroes’ as well as the extremely talented Jacqueline Hurley from POSH Original Art about her moving ‘War Poppy Collection’. We are extremely excited to welcome ‘The Real Military Housewife’ and know you will enjoy her hilariously frank column on ‘Patch Life’. Not ones to shy away from controversial issues, we discuss ‘Staying Faithful’ and whether there is a ‘Divide in the Ranks’. This issue, Michelle from ‘Not Just A RAF Wife’ talks openly and honestly about her family’s experience of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and urges you to stay strong and you can get through it. For a bit of light relief, browse our fashion pages to stay warm, yet stylish, this winter. We take our pick of this year’s best ‘Christmas Jumpers’ as well as outfits to see you through the party season. Need a bit of inspiration? Enter our competition to win a pair of tickets to ‘The Clothes Show’ at the NEC in December. For anyone that would like to appear in the next issue, the closing date for contributions is 16th November 2015.

Equality for War Widows

The Real Military Housewife

Neglected Cookbooks

Not Just A RAF Wife

The Clothes Show Competition

Stylishly Braving the Cold

Christmas Jumpers

Christmas Partywear

Tips and Tricks for Perfecting Your Hair

Personal Training

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Book Review and Competition

Staying Faithful

Divide in the Ranks

The Good Wife’s Guide

Just the Job

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REMEMBR IS EVERY DAY With Remembrance Sunday approaching, Just for Her speaks to Jacqueline Hurley, the expressionist artist behind the ‘War Poppy Collection’. Her 24 piece collection is a tribute to our Armed Forces and a lasting memorial to all those fallen and injured in past campaigns. She paints to evoke emotion, reflection and remembrance in her poignant and evocative style and has received international critical acclaim as well as the full support of The Royal British Legion. Here Jacqueline tells us more about her work and the person behind it…

JFH: Hi Jacqueline, welcome to Just for Her! Please tell us a bit about yourself? JH: I am a mum of 12 year old twins. We live in Bournemouth which is a beautiful town on the South Coast. I am also an expressionist artist. I believe that there is art in this world for everyone but I mostly paint remembrance paintings as a tribute to our Armed Forces. After leaving school I trained as a nursery nurse and for 17 years worked in a primary school in a reception class. However, due to ill health I lost my job in April 2014. I have always loved painting, but due to working full time as well as being a mum, there was little time left to paint. Although this was a difficult time, I can see now it was a blessing in disguise. Like many of my generation, both my grandfathers served during World War 2. My grandpa Les joined the Royal Navy at the start of WW2 as an able seaman. He was later commissioned as a gunnery officer. During the war he served on the aircraft carrier HMS Furious at the time the spitfires were launched to save Malta. He also served for two years on the Arctic convoys to Russia and another 2 years mine sweeping from Dover. My grandpa often talked of his time in the Royal Navy before he retired as a Commander. It was a very special part of his life. My other grandfather, Grandad Jack also served. He was in the Territorials before the war and served with the Royal Engineers at the start of the war, later serving with the Royal Signals in North Africa. After they died there were so many questions I wished I had asked. The same with my grandmothers. Although they all shared many of their experiences and this time in their lives were often talked about, I still wished that I had asked more questions and had a better understanding to pass on to my children. WW1 and WW2 are part of this county’s history and heritage and too much has been

sacrificed for the freedom we are blessed with today, for those who lived and fought through this period to be forgotten. I am of the last generation whose grandparents lived through a world war and our children need to understand what generations before them lived through and that our freedom wasn’t free. As George Santayana famously quoted, “The one who does not remember history is bound to live through it again.” What does POSH stand for? POSH stands for Port Out, Starboard Home. It is quite interesting to read about where the word POSH is thought to have come from. The most desirable cabins on the British steamships travelling to India at the turn of the century were on the Port side, sailing out and on the Starboard side sailing home. It is believed that travellers luggage and tickets were stamped POSH if fortunate enough to be able to afford one of these shady cabins, away from the heat of the sun. However the reason why I use the name Port Out, Starboard Home POSH is because all ships and aircraft have a port side (left) and a starboard side (right). All our troops travel out by either ship or aircraft and we all hope and pray they return home. What inspired your collection? I only started the collection last October when one evening I was thinking of a friend of mine, Royal Marine Neil Dunstan who was tragically killed by an IED whilst serving with the Royal Marines Brigade Reconnaissance Force in Afghanistan on the 12th November 2008. So many lives have been lost in more recent conflicts and this is what inspired me to paint scenes of the Falklands, Iraq and Afghanistan in my War Poppy Collection. My paintings in the War Poppy Collection are tributes to our heroes in our Armed Forces and my personal thank you to our troops, veterans and their families and as a remembrance to our fallen.

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BRANCE DAY What do you enjoy most about your work? Visual art is a powerful means of communication, it speaks a universal language. I am both passionate about supporting our troops and passionate about what my paintings represent. Remembrance Day is every day. The most wonderful thing about my work is that I am able to use it to reach out to the people I paint to thank, and the families of those I paint to remember. I have been able to help support forces charities including: Shoeboxes For Our Heroes, Forces Support Charity, Mind 2 Mind, Forward Assist, Help For Heroes, Helping Families Suffering with PTSD, RTTW (National Memorial Arboretum), Combat Stress, The DMWS, The Royal Air Force Association, The Royal British Legion, UK Homes For Heroes and Soldiers Off The Streets by donating signed prints as raffle prizes and to be auctioned at fundraising events. I also donate to the Royal Marines Association charity “Adam’s Hoofing Hut” and I have a Commercial Association Agreement with the Royal British Legion whom I donate to from sales of War Poppy prints. I take my artwork to events where I have been hosted by The Royal British Legion and The Army Air Corps. This gives me the opportunity to meet and talk with so many wonderful and amazing people who approach me because of my art. They share with me their own personal experiences of either serving in our Armed Forces or having loved ones with military connections. I have both laughed and cried with many of them. These are very special times for me. I hope my paintings touch hearts and emotions and help to keep the importance of remembrance in the forefront of our minds.

What materials do you use? I paint using acrylics and add impasto gels to thicken the paint to create texture. Texture and lots of layers is part of my expressionism style, as what’s hidden is equally as important as what is visible. This represents the mind and often the long term suffering which war often inflicts.

Although my images depict war, I try to bring an element and sense of peace to my work, this being what we all hope for and what lives have been sacrificed for. I use a mostly monochrome palette and the stark redness of the remembrance poppies. This creates contrast against the highly textured, gritty impressionistic landscapes. 7

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All the 24 paintings in the War Poppy Collection feature silhouettes which often allow the image to become more personal or sentimental to the people I paint for. I paint to evoke emotion, reflection and remembrance in what has been described as a poignant and evocative style. Do you have a favourite painting in the collection? It would be impossible for me to choose a particular painting as a favourite as they are all so meaningful to me and I painted each of them to thank different people in our Armed Forces. The first painting in the collection “We Remember, We Fight On” is special as my fallen friend Royal Marine Neil Dunstan was the inspiration to start the painting. Medic On The Mountain is special as it is the only painting I have done based on an actual photograph. This was sent to me by a Private Soldier called Mike Warman who was attached to 3 Yorks Ops Platoon on Herrick 16. He was a medic and I found his photograph so inspirational that I needed to recreate it in my own style. “My Knight In Body Armour” is also very special as it can mean so many things to different people in different ways. This is why I am so passionate about my expressionistic way of painting. All my images are so subjective and can be interpreted in however way a person chooses to interpret them. I love the freedom of art! My paintings could be your dad, mum, brother, sister, son, daughter, a loved one, a memory, someone who fought alongside y ou,YOU. What feedback have you received? I have been totally overwhelmed by the positive feedback and the extremely touching comments, messages and emails I have received as well as the feedback I have received at events. In such a short space of time I have had nearly 2,600 people liking my Port Out, Starboard Home page on Facebook and over 5200 followers on my POSHoriginalART Twitter page. I have received messages from bereaved family members which have brought me to tears and have received so many lovely comments which tell me how appreciated and meaningful my remembrance art is. I would love to share some of the words of such a cherished letter I received from a veteran: “Your talent has found me and speaks to a 8

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part of me that is never lost but somehow I cannot vocalise. Your pictures stir a deep and profound something that only exists inside those who know what it means to see first- hand and their families share their pain. The print I purchased is a cherished possession by my family and I, as we have lost friends along the way, and when I find the perfect frame and the perfect place, it will take pride of place in our home. A constant and fitting reminder of those friends and the good times we had along with the gratitude of all those we know. You know you never forget the pain, and embrace the joy. Remember who they were and what they did, don’t dwell on the hole that was left behind. I appreciate what you do and I do thank you. I am blessed to live in a world where someone with an amazing talent is able to grasp an emotion and transfer it into a medium that can be understood by many as words and feelings cannot always be conveyed.” What are your plans for the future? Is there another collection on the horizon? It took me 6 months of painting 24/7 to paint the War Poppy Collection. The paintings followed each other with such spontaneity, allowing me to totally open up my emotions and express my feelings on to the canvases. I never imagined when I began painting it that it would become such a large collection and once I had completed one, the next was literally bursting out of me! As I find comfort and inspiration painting through the quiet of night, I have a lot of missed sleep to catch up on! I plan to paint a smaller WW1 and WW2 collection next, following many requests and a personal need to commemorate and remember them through my art. Before committing to this though, as I realise it will take a lot of time, I hope to give the War Poppy Collection as much exposure as I can and reach out to all those I have painted it for to give my thanks and to show them my appreciation of the sacrifices they have made for us all. The families of our troops also make such a huge sacrifice and I thank them also. Do you exhibit your work? How can we purchase a print? It has always been very important to me to exhibit and share the complete War Poppy Collection together in a place which epitomizes remembrance.

Opportunities have come up to exhibit, along with a lot of interest in the original paintings, however I decided to wait for when I felt in my heart that it was right. This has allowed an amazing opportunity to happen through the continued support which I have received from The Royal British Legion. In accordance with the Director General of the Royal British Legions wishes, the intent is to display the complete collection of War Poppy originals in the entrance lobby of The Royal Albert Hall in London for The Festival of Remembrance. It is also the intent to display them at the National Memorial Arboretum early next year prior to them going up for sale, with donations being made to The Royal British Legion. Prints are currently available to purchase either through my website www. poshoriginalart.co.uk or through my online shop https://www.etsy.com/shop/ PortOutStarboardHome

Competition… One very lucky Just for Her reader can win a high quality print, signed by Jacqueline herself. ‘We Remember,We Fight On’ has been professionally produced on linen textured brilliant white 350gsm Zetamatt board and measures 12.5” x 12.5”. To enter, simply answer the following question… What does POSH stand for? Please email us, including your name and address, at justforher@ forcespublishing.co.uk Closing date for competition is 27/11/2015

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Equality for War Widows To lose a husband or partner whilst they are serving their country is devastating, they are often young men full of life and have great expectations of an exciting, fulfilling military career…

e, as their loved ones, support them and share the life they chose without complaint or showing fear when they are sent into dangerous situations. We tell them how proud we are and how much we will miss them, making sure, when they leave us, their thoughts are positive and filled with promises of wonderful times ahead upon their return. Some of our loved ones never come home and the promises can never be fulfilled. They lose their lives, often, in horrific circumstances, leaving their loved ones to cope with the devastating pain of loss. Widow(er)s are then faced with the struggle of rebuilding their shattered lives. The distress for widow(er)s from 1973/2005, was compounded by the fact that if they found happiness again, their pensions were revoked. It seemed they were being punished for moving on with their lives. The recent changes to the Forces Pensions Scheme from April 2015, which allows all widow(er)s who remarry, cohabit or form a civil partnership to retain their pension for life should be applauded along with those who have campaigned tirelessly for this change. Last November the government took great delight in saying that in line with the Forces Covenant no one should

“It is absolutely wrong that some Armed Forces widow(er)s lose their pension if they choose to remarry”. have to choose loneliness in order to retain their financial independence and dignity. Mr Cameron also declared, “It is absolutely wrong that some Armed Forces widow(er)s lose their pension if they choose to remarry”. However the amendments fail to include those same widow(er)s who have already had to make this cruel choice. The government, in neglecting these widow(er) s, have said that in line with previous governmental policies they will not make retrospective change. This is not strictly accurate as widow(er)s who fail to qualify for a pension under the means test rule will now automatically have their pensions retrospectively reinstated. Simple justice demands the same treatment for widow(er)s who have already remarried or are cohabiting. They too should have their pensions reinstated.

Discrimination Against War Widows is a group of forces widows, not affiliated to any other forces charity, who are speaking out against this injustice. Our aim is to gain equality for the war widow(er)s who remarried/cohabited and are excluded from these recent changes to forces widow(er)s pensions. Currently we are the few representing the many and we would welcome any inquiries or support regarding our campaign.

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“You knew what you were marrying into,”They said. “No,” I snort. No I did not. or Shake and Vac. The plumber realises he’s brought the wrong sized Whilst dating Him I was paraded around the Officers panel so he’ll have to make a new appointment.You huff. The dog Mess bar like a trophy, as he chauffeured me to and from London needs walking, the child needs feeding, next doors children also look where I lived. I had my own money to spend on hideously expensive peckish. There are three of them.You have a wheel of camembert... cosmetics, impractical shoes and soirees in trendy tapas bars. I had a they are not impressed. Two minutes later and their mum knocks on career that enabled me to globe trot to my hearts content. He would your door, looks at you quizzically and hands you a glass of prosecco. often dash off on military business trips only to return to lavish me It’s 3pm.You drink it whilst sitting next to her on the kerb in the with duty free gifts and adoring affection. While he was away, I had a sunshine watching the little ones ride their bicycles. life. At some point that evening after both a pre and post bath melt Two years into our glamorous courtship and within weeks I found down (Baby, not you... yet) you take a call from Him whilst you pick myself pregnant, we were married and he was jetting off to Korea for up dog poo in the soft, fading light and he tells months. Whilst I hoovered the Winter Nipple you he is sitting in a bar having an ice cold beer Blush coloured carpet in our first pine clad before he heads out for dinner, and how he married quarter, 100 miles from anywhere or may have to stay an extra week to see through anyone, I wondered a) when I was supposed to the completion of the exercise. Oh dear, you be making the canapés? and b) who do I call crackle the poo bag close to the phone receiver about the mice in the roof, the leaky washing (which is also rather close to your face), you machine and the imploded garage floor? have really bad phone signal you lie, “Bye now.” Settling onto the married patch was, as You calmly put the dog poo in the bin, before a matter of fact, rather unsettling for me, marching inside, muttering to yourself how especially having to do it alone. Having arrived much YOU would like a cold beer and YOU from London where you can live next door to would like a meal in a restaurant.You open the same family for two years and not know the fridge. That flipping wheel of camembert! whether they are British/ Japanese/ Hungarian, You eat it. The whole wheel.You feel sick, but have one or five children and whether they proud. Then sick again.You go to bed at eight are all still alive, to having the military police “You find yourself relying on your because there’s no reason to be up any later. It’s knock on your front door because your fellow military wives to advise, a Friday night for goodness sake. husband left four hours ago and the entire street was wondering where you’d got to, comfort and guide you just as your Hold on. The Child is asleep.You are in bed at eight o’ clock. This is great. There is no one takes some getting used to. You eventually mother, sisters or friends would.” to entertain or to cook, clean or iron for.You embrace this lifestyle of everyone knowing are in a king size bed by yourself.You shuffle to the middle.You grunt your business, where you are 24 hours a day and how much wine you with satisfaction. There is a fast disappearing packet of biscuits to your have in the fridge. Whose marriage is a bit wobbly, whose struggling right and the TV remote to your left.You are able to read a book... a with deployment and who is in need of a reassuring hug. Whose dry book, not the same sentence over and over again, but an actual book! cleaning needs picking up, whose dog needs walking and who burns The television can be on at the same time, flickering away softly tray bake the best. through highlights of horrendously addictive reality shows and food It is daunting at first, but as you move further and further away from programmes.You’ve now eaten a wheel of cheese and a whole packet the familiarity and comfort of your old life you find yourself relying of chocolate digestives in the space of a few hours. And didn’t have to on your fellow military wives to advise, comfort and guide you just share either of them. Smug. Ashamed. But proud. Should you feel like as your mother, sisters or friends would. 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In the ﬁrst few weeks and months after having a baby, the idea that life will ever return to some kind of normality seems utterly ridiculous. It’s as if some teeny tiny person has put your former life in a snow globe, shaken it up good and proper, and there you are standing at the base of the globe catching glimpses of the things you love - sleep, eating dinner at the same time as your other half, sleep, drinking hot coffee, sleep, cooking, sleep, reading, sleep - swirling about above you and waiting desperately and impatiently for them to settle and for there to be calm again.You adore your baby, couldn’t imagine life without them, but at the same time you’re also mourning the life that you once had and all that precious sleep you foolishly took for granted.…

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n the early days of having a baby, when you’re up every 2 hours at night feeding and then desperately trying to get them to sleep anywhere that isn’t on your chest, you’ll hear many well-meaning people tell you that “it does get better”. After 6 weeks of surviving on 2 hours sleep a night the most civil you can get is uttering “does it?” through gritted teeth while in your head cursing them for not offering to pay for you to go on all inclusive tropical holiday while they take on the night feeds for the next six months. People are just so bloody selfish, and sleep deprivation does indeed send you temporarily insane as well as leave you with unreasonable expectations of your friends and family. So as you can imagine, I am pleased to say that the snow in our globe has now settled. We actually now get real sleep and hallelujah, I’ve got some time in the evening to cook again.Yay me! This combined with the fact that we’ve recently had our new kitchen installed and it’s bloody amazing means I’m now cooking with fire baby (or if it’s accuracy you’re after, an induction

hob). After cooking in a dire kitchen for two years and sticking to the same old recipes, I’m now feeling ambitious in the kitchen again and have been delving back into my cookbooks. The Boyfriend bought me Tom Kerridge’s Proper Pub Food book a couple of years ago for Christmas but the recipes involved too many steps and needed lots of equipment which would have been an absolute nightmare to even attempt in our old kitchen, so the book sat quietly in a box until this very week. The Boyfriend sped off to Paris today for work, so I wanted to cook him something very British before entering the city of croissants, steak frites, moules mariniere and escargot. Tom Kerridge’s book of pub food seemed just the ticket, so I went for smoked haddock fishcakes with cheese sauce and fried eggs, which just reeks of Britishness. If you have this book and haven’t cooked this recipe yet, I urge, implore and beg you to do so. It is so unbelievably good. So good in fact that my biggest food critic The Boyfriend could only gush about

how amazing the dish was and how it was the best fishcake he had ever had. I even got a text this morning from him while in St Pancras waiting for the train saying how jealous he was that I got to have the leftovers for dinner tonight. The man was on his way to PARIS for goodness sake, the centre of the good food universe, so take from that what you will about this recipe. I know you’re sitting there wondering how the humble fishcake could be so darn good, but this is no ordinary fishcake. If you don’t know who Tom Kerridge is, he’s the first pub chef to ever win a Michelin star for his pub ‘The Hand and Flowers’ and he’s on TV a fair bit. He’s a big guy with a proper West Country accent and whenever I see him on the telly he always seems like such a nice guy with no pretensions, he just cooks food that you really want to eat. It goes without saying that I really want to eat at his pub, and that I trust his recipes for British pub food. The fishcakes are packed full of fish, which sounds like an obvious thing to say but so many fishcakes should really be called

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‘potato cakes with a sprinkling of fish’ such is the content of them. Tom’s would sail through the trade descriptions act, which is one reason why they are so damn good. There is a small amount of potato in there which holds the cake together, as well as chives, salt and pepper, and sweet baby Jesus, little cubes of mozzarella. This is then coated in flour, eggs and panko breadcrumbs and fried in some oil. The cheese sauce is fairly simple to make too, and this would also breeze through the trade descriptions act with the heart stopping amount of cheese needed to turn a standard white sauce into the cheesiest of all cheese sauces. Peter Andre has nothing on this sauce. Topped with a fried egg (runny yolk, obviously) you have dinner perfection. The fishcakes ooze melted mozzarella and you get that lush effect of the cheese stretching from your fork to the dinner

plate when you start tucking in, and then you have big chunky flakes of smoked fish (please buy the undyed haddock if you plan on making this as the yellow stuff doesn’t even compare) and a crunchy coating from the panko breadcrumbs. The cheese sauce is amazing, as well it should be with the crazy amount of parmesan and cheddar (the recipe does call for gruyere instead of cheddar but my fridge was full of cheddar and with this being a British recipe it felt like the patriotic thing to do) contained within. Sure, you could make this healthier by reducing the amount of cheese, and you could remove the mozzarella from proceedings entirely, and I suppose you could poach an egg instead of frying one, but all of this would be hugely detrimental to the dish. Saying all that, I would definitely serve this with plenty of vegetables on the side to assuage your conscience and delude yourself that by having some of your five a day with this that it’s actually a really healthy meal. Tom has turned the fishcake into an absolute masterpiece, and by taking away everything that makes this dish great you’re left with something completely un-special.

If all the other recipes in the book are as good as this one then Tom has come up with an amazing book. The flavours in this dish hit you with a massive punch and the devil is in the detail - stringy mozzarella oozing from this fishcake is what made it for me, although the cheese sauce is not to be sniffed at, nor the crispy coating. Food like this shows how far English cooking has come in the last decade or so and that when done right it absolutely can compete with the big boys in France. This recipe has also given me my confidence in the kitchen back and inspired me to keep on trying new things and get me out of my comfort zone. In the words of the West Country boy himself, this dish is proper lush!

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When PTSD Rears its Ugly Head… I’ll never forget the day that my husband finally realised he had PTSD; it hit him like a high speed train and came out of nowhere… It was April 2012 and we were sat in the garden of our house in Anglesey. He was chatting about a friend of his that had recently been diagnosed with this horrid illness and explaining some of the symptoms and feelings he’d been having. Something clicked and I casually asked him if he thought maybe he was also suffering with PTSD (as you do!)? And then came an unbearable silence... followed by realisation.... lots of tears... and 3 long years of recovery. On more than one occasion I’ve wished that I had kept my ‘casual’ mouth shut that day. The reality, of course, was that I’d known something was wrong for a long time. Ever since his last detachment in Afghan he had changed and in the immediate months that followed, he had become very withdrawn. At that point, he was due to move away from Chinooks and pursue a new opportunity on a Search and Rescue squadron. In my naivety, I hoped that a fresh start somewhere new, away from the monotonous cycle of tours to Afghanistan, would give him the pick-up he needed. We’d only recently married and were looking forward to starting a new adventure. Sadly, things didn’t work out in the way we expected. The move to Anglesey, miles away from friends and family, seemed to make things worse, rather than better. My husband was back in training, which he enjoyed, but had lots of time on his hands – which, in hindsight, I can see was spent remembering awful moments from the past. The longer we were there, the worse he became and

there were lots of times that I wondered whether it was me, or whether he regretted getting married. He became more and more withdrawn, very low, irritable and refused to socialise, which was difficult because I was desperate to meet people and make new friends. It’s a difficult illness to understand. Some days were better than others. Some days were horrific. And I just couldn’t understand why; we had just married, had a beautiful new house, lived in a stunning part of the country and had our whole future ahead of us... what was there to be miserable about!? You can’t help but question yourself. It wasn’t until he started talking about his friend’s situation that everything started to make sense... but even then it took a while. He’d mention something in passing every now and then, which would ring an alarm bell, but then you’d push it to the back of your mind and carry on. Eventually, I pieced together a massive jigsaw and I suppose that day in the garden, the final piece just slotted into place. Once you’ve acknowledged something like PTSD, it’s really hard to hide away from. And even more hard to know where to go with it. I remember wondering about what would happen next and what I should be doing to help? Should I be calling family and letting them know? Getting in touch with a doctor? Calling a helpline? It was very confusing. And watching the man I love crumble into a person I didn’t recognise made it harder. But I’m sharing this story because I want others who are going through the same thing to know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel. It’s a long, trying journey, but you can make it. Jumping forward to 2015, we are happy, settled and excited about the future. I’m not ashamed to admit that our first 3 years of married life

were challenging, but that was because of the illness, not because of us. And getting through something like this only makes you stronger – such a cliché, but so true! You have to be patient and be kind to yourself. As the spouse of someone that is suffering with PTSD, you often feel neglected and lost – it can feel like you’ve turned into an afterthought. And then you feel selfish for even thinking that because you can see what the other person is going through and it’s distressing to watch. Being the person that has to carry on is tough and it’s OK not to feel too chuffed about the situation you’re in; but sometimes, you literally have to man up, pull your shit together and save your tears for another day. The thing I found hardest was waiting… waiting for things to ‘get back to normal’. You kind of forget what ‘normal’ is, to be honest! After a while, normal is just feeling sad and wishing you weren’t. But suddenly, things just start to change and you don’t feel so sad anymore. It happens so slowly that you don’t even notice it! Then, all of a sudden it hits you. For me it was when we were both sat in the garden drinking wine (standard) – we were joking about something (probably pissed) and laughing and I felt an overwhelming sense of happiness and relief - “Thank God! We’ve made it!” The strangest thing was that as my husband started to get better, he actually wanted to go back to flying Chinooks. It took him a year to take the plunge and ask to move back to Odiham, but so far it was the best decision we’ve made. He’s back doing a job he loves and has no regrets. If you’re helping someone with PTSD, keep strong. Things do get easier. And when you’re out the other side, you’ll be glad you stayed xx

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Christmas Jumpers Don't be that person in the office without a Christmas jumper this year - get involved and don the special festive knitwear! No winter wardrobe is complete without a sprinkling of classic fairisle or a novelty knit to channel your inner child! Wear it with jeans or oversized with leggings (more room for mince pies!) and knee high boots for a cool Christmas look. These are a few of our favourites…

Clockwise from top left: M&Co Penguin Jumper £29.00, BHS Nordic Xmas Jumper £25.00, Debenhams Red Herring £20.00, BHS Robin Jumper £25.00, M&Co Glitter Reindeer Jumper £29.00, Debenhams Red Herring £18.00, M&S Collection Christmas Jumper £35.00, BHS Pom Pom Scotty Xmas Jumper £28.00, Debenhams Red Herring £20.00, New Look Novelty Jumper £24.99, BHS Fluffy Christmas Tree £28.00. M&S Collection Christmas Jumper £35.00

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Next Sequin Cami £30.00

New Look Faux Fur Jacket £44.99

New Look Silver Jacquard dress £34.99

Accessorize Lola Feather Frame Clutch £45.00

Very Silver and Gold Glitter Ombre Clutch Bag £22.00

New Look Black Pom Pom Court £22.99

Phase Eight Lucie Glitter Point Heel £89.00 Debenhams Edition Preen £45.00

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Get the party look this festive season! Just for Her have come up with a few outfit ideas to bring glamour and sparkle to your party… 28

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New Look Black and Gold Sequin Dress £29.99

New Look Gold Star Bag £19.99

New Look Black Cut Out Heel £27.99

Accessorize Imogen Bugs Ziptop Clutch Bag £37.00

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“At Eizun Wellbeing we put at your disposal some ancient techniques and remedies” Not only with advances of technology but also with the vast amount of research and knowledge that is now constantly being put in front of us through the media. We are more equipped with the knowledge for op mum health and what we need to do to prevent and protect our systems against ill health. We strongly believe that regular gentle detox is integral to an individual’s wellbeing, this is also in line with the Ayurvedic principles that we incorporate into some of our treatments. At Eizun Wellbeing we also aim to put at your disposal some ancient techniques and remedies that have stood the test of me, from me immemorial to the present day

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Welcome to our holis c wellbeing salon and apothecary, where we bring you treatments and products that are natural and as much as possible organic and ethically produced. We aim to bring a balance to your inner and outer wellbeing and beauty. Our philosophy is to nurture the individual and promote a wellbeing which leads to Balance, Harmony and Calmness within. We encourage Respect and Integrity for each other and our surroundings. We can create a sustainable lifestyle that not only enhances ourselves but also our future genera ons. We endeavour to reflect this philosophy in our products and treatments. The majority of our treatments and products are based on the principles of Ayurveda, which means ‘knowledge of life’. Ayurveda is a medical science of ancient India, it deals with ma ers rela ng to health, day to day life and longevity. At Eizun, we aim to bring Ayurveda into a prac cal means of applica on into today’s modern world. In our treatments and products we combine the essence of ayurvedic products with essen al oils and the goodness of aromatherapy. Most people are familiar with the word ‘Wellbeing’, today this is the most talked about subject as more importantly than ever, we are at the forefront of understanding that wellbeing is in our hands if we choose to work with it and take the necessary steps for preven on and maintenance. There is a vast amount of informa on and resource now available at our disposal to arm ourselves with the knowledge to protect our environment and our internal body and our inner selves, to feed our body with the correct nutrients that protect and strengthen our immune systems to be able to cope with the demands of the 21st Century that we live in.

“Eizun is the ancient meaning for ‘balance’ … to your inner and outer wellbeing and beauty” some of these have proven valuable me and me again. We reflect this in some of our treatment techniques and also the ingredients in the products used and available through the shop to buy. These holis c therapies cover a range of issues from Back Pain to Stress Relief Management, we can help with our offerings of : Reflexology, Indian Head Massage, Homeopathy, Back Realignment Therapy, Aromatherapy, Deep Tissue Massage, Reiki Healing, Pregnancy Treatments. We endeavour to bring you quality treatments so you can ‘ Be Free of Pain and feel HAPPY in your body again’ ! We invite you to step inside and take a look at our services and products and ENJOY your Eizun experience. 31

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TIPS AND TRICKS

for PERFECTING YOUR

HAIR

erfecting your hair isn’t always easy to achieve, especially when you have to battle changes in the weather, heat from styling products and general tugging from being pulled up into ponytails or twisted into plaits - that’s without even considering the dreaded bad hair days, unruly hair and hair that just won’t cooperate! That is why it is vital that you take care of your hair all year round to give yourself the maximum chance of good hair days and hairstyles that look great on the first attempt. Ensure your hair is hydrated for summer, conditioned for winter and looks healthy at all times. There are a number of tips and tricks you can use to ensure your hair looks the best it can at all times. Here are 3 of our favourite ways to perfect your hair. Take a look at just how quick and easy it can be! Hair Hacks for Getting Perfect Hair…

Coconut Oil Coconut oil has burst onto the scene lately as a ‘must have’ product for just about everything; hair, beauty and cooking included. Using coconut oil is a great way to perfect your hair as it keeps your locks conditioned, hydrated and really healthy - all of which help with styling and the overall appearance of your hair. Simply coat your hair in coconut oil, wait and wash. This can be done in an hour, a few hours or even overnight. When the coconut oil is removed hair is left feeling soft and luscious.

Texturising Spray One of the main issues we are faced with when styling is limp, lifeless and all round dull looking hair which wreaks havoc when it comes to creating a voluminous updo or giving your hair some body. Using texturising spray adds life, creates volume and gives your hair some texture - leaving you with hair that not only styles well, but that can be worn down without looking flat or thin.

Dry Shampoo We all want freshly washed hair every day, but with a lack of time and other commitments this is far from possible; not to mention that washing your hair daily can in fact damage it in the long run. Dry shampoo is one of the best hair hack products available at the moment. Simply spray some into your hair to decrease the visibility of grease and to leave it looking fresh and clean. After all, perfection begins with hair that looks and feels clean! 32

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So if you are ready to create that perfect wardrobe and lifestyle then give me a call or drop me an email 07872000836 chelle@chelleshohet.com.

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I work with busy, ambitious individuals to translate their true personality in to, not only a hard working dynamic wardrobe, but in to their lifestyle too. I am not only a stylist who helps you create an amazing wardrobe that can take you from day to night, weekday to weekend or season to season, I also help you discover and develop your own true personal and unique style that fits you like a glove. Take it from me, when you know that the outside truly represents the inside and gives you so much confidence, it is mind-blowing. When you are also confident in your own skin and know who you are deep down then you can sky rocket that confidence.

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07737476977 www.kayannekreations.co.uk ann@kayannekreations.co.uk facebook.com/kayannekreations “A Mother and Daughter Trio, Creating Krafty Kreations for You to Enjoy and Brighten Your Day” Here at Kayanne Kreations we have many extra-ordinary creations, all handmade, lovingly sewn and crocheted. All the artist creations are unique and one of a kind, each with their own personality and characters. All our items are bespoke and handmade to order. (I am Happy to try ‘anything’) All special creations need adopting into a loving home, keep an eye on our website as we will be regularly updating with special creations!

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IT’S NOT JUST FITNESS…

IT’S PERSONAL

A great workout session can help you feel pumped and positive and while you can get one all by yourself, a personal trainer can help you kick things up a notch and ensure your time at the gym is spent as efficiently as possible. Personal trainers are one of the best investments you can make for your health because they motivate you and support you along the way without giving up. Need some convincing? Read on: HOLDING YOU ACCOUNTABLE

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Personal trainers are like workout buddies, they hold you accountable. “Can’t” is not in their dictionary and they aren’t as lenient as real workout buddies.You have a goal, your trainer will devise a solid plan for you to achieve it and will not take no for an answer. Some of us tend to hit the snooze button in the morning and try to sleep in during our gym time. If you miss your scheduled meeting with your trainer, you’re definitely going to get a phone call asking where you are. When there’s a person waiting for you to show up, it’s highly likely that you will be there on time.

Your personal trainer will check your body-fat percentage, analyze your body size, work around any longstanding injuries and help you set a goal and a workout routine that suits you. Most people who formulate exercise plans themselves, often fail to reach their full potential while working out.Your trainer will make sure you work everything from your shoulders to your legs.Your trainer will give you that extra push, that “come on, just 5 more” you need to complete a workout and get results. In addition to not getting an added push, you may be compromising on your form too which also makes workouts ineffective. For example, doing squats incorrectly will either lead to no results or a painful injury.

INJURY PREVENTION This is perhaps one of the most important reasons for hiring a personal trainer. Having a one on one session with a trainer will ensure that you perform your workouts in a risk-free and effective manner. Almost every piece of equipment will have step by step guidelines at the gym, but equipment such as free weights don’t come with any instructions.Your hip may be titled to the side, your grip maybe off, your feet may be too close together or you may be using a piece of equipment completely wrong. All of this puts you at a high risk of injury and can make your efforts worthless. A personal trainer watches your every rep, making sure your form is proper and effective.

STAY UP-TO-DATE Personal trainers are constantly learning because they need to stay up-to-date with their certifications.Your trainer will definitely be aware of what the latest fitness trends are, what routines are being proven to be more effective and yes, nutrition guidelines too.Your trainer will give you a dip on what you should eat, and what you shouldn’t to a certain extent, to help you reach your goals more effectively.

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Cat

Dear

“ Dreading the festive season…”

“I am secretly dreading the festive season, am I the only one? Every time Christmas rolls around it seems to bring with it so much pressure to be ‘having a wonderful time’ that I am usually having exactly the opposite! Maybe it’s because, as a military family, we can never choose the kind of Christmas we would really like, my husband is either away, or we are in a different country from family and friends, or we have too many of them to stay, in too small a house, for too long a time period!

Have you got any tips for making this Christmas a happy occasion rather than the stressful one it seems to always turn out to be!” Karen

Thank you so much to Karen for raising this topic. I agree that Christmas can so often turn out not to be the “happily singing carols round the fireside” stereotype that the media likes to portray, but there is hope! Here are my top tips for a happy and stress-free Christmas: 1. Know that it is all about self-esteem and self-confidence You might not think of your confidence as something that affects how you feel about Christmas but, just like any other challenging time, self-esteem and confidence, or the lack of it, is crucial. Christmas brings stress, and challenges our self-esteem, because of how much we expect; a) from ourselves: “I’m supposed to find the perfect present for everyone, to wrap them perfectly, write cards on time, prepare perfect food, find perfect decorations, get on well with everyone all the time …..” b) from those around us: “You’re supposed to be loving and happy all the time, you’re supposed to make me feel wonderful by finding me the perfect gift that shows amazing thought and preparation….” c) from the season in general: “Everyone is supposed to be having an amazing time, everyone else’s Christmas seems to be perfect, I bet their kids are thoughtful and grateful and perfectly behaved…” 2. Lower your expectations - perfection is impossible! Those who find Christmas the most enjoyable are those who accept it might be challenging, and so don’t expect perfection. He or she doesn’t ‘beat themselves up’ if they forget something, or if something goes wrong. They focus instead on what they can control, they maintain their self-belief, and they focus on building themselves and others up.

3. Learn to control your self-esteem When we feel happy and ‘at our best’ is when our self-esteem is good. We usually feel confident in our ability to cope with life even under unpredictable or challenging circumstances. If we feel overwhelmed by our circumstances then our confidence and feeling of being able to cope is ‘threatened’ and our physiological fight or flight instinct kicks in. This causes physical changes such as an increased heart rate, and we might feel hot, nauseous, or agitated. We will describe these physical experiences as negative emotions such as frustration, anger, fear or anxiety. If we are unaware what generates our negative emotions, then we will also be unaware that our subsequent actions are attempts to protect or repair our self-esteem. We instinctively do what makes ourselves feel more in control and ‘better’ at the time. Have you ever found yourself becoming angry or defensive more quickly, or arguing with your spouse or children over ‘nothing’, or doing something to ‘take your mind off it’ such as drinking or eating too much? If you are behaving in a negative way towards yourself or others then it is a clear sign that the pressure of Christmas is affecting your self-esteem. 4. Take responsibility You are the only one responsible for how you feel about yourself at any moment. Speak to yourself in your own head as if you are your own ‘best friend’ not your ‘worst enemy’. As soon as you speak to yourself in a more helpful and positive way you will notice a difference in how you feel. “No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt 5. Find somewhere to be alone when you start feeling stressed, or start ‘getting at’ yourself or other people Take slow deep breaths and imagine you are breathing in a warm, bright light and breathing out self-doubt and self-criticism. Say to yourself, out loud if possible – “I am okay, I can only do my best, I can cope with this, I believe in myself ”. Smile and stretch your arms to relieve your tension. (Watch my YouTube ‘Toilet Seat Therapy’ video to see this technique in action) 6. Get prepared. It’s not too late to use a diary. Write everything in the same place, appointments, timings, card list, gift ideas. Tick things off and your confidence will soar when you see how well you are doing to manage it all. 7. Make a present plan and set a budget If you have left it to the last minute, could all your relatives get vouchers, books, music or hampers this year. The simplest presents are often the best.

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8. Ask for help Fully appreciating an occasion means playing a part in it. Give others a chance to help, whether it’s with present buying, wrapping, or food preparation. If your ‘standards’ slip, then so be it, being a martyr isn’t all it’s cracked up to be! 9. Prioritise pleasure for yourself If you love a walk, a quiet bath, or a night out with just your partner then don’t forget these things during the festive period. They are important to you and you are important so find time for them and don’t feel guilty about it. 10. Ask what really matters? Let go of expectations and traditions if they are not really important to you. Focus your efforts on whatever really matters to you and those closest to you. 11. Don’t take it personally! Those we care most about have the most powerful influence over our self-esteem. Emotions run high at Christmas. Remember; you, not them, decide how you feel about yourself. If someone is unpleasant to you then he or she will be feeling low about themselves for some reason (they find Christmas challenging too!) and are attacking or criticising you to try to feel better. Don’t take it personally, their behaviour is about themselves not you, try to understand rather than criticise them in return. 12. Encourage and praise your partner, your family, friends and children during this festive season Giving praise and recognition shows healthy self-esteem and is the most likely way we will receive the same in return.

“Don’t wait for people to be friendly, show them how” Anonymous 13. Focus on being kind, supportive and welcoming No matter how others are behaving, try to be kind, supportive and welcoming and you will ensure a happy Christmas for yourself and those around you. Good luck!

It’s not too late to order a Christmas copy of my book and 50% of profits go to UK military and civilian counselling charities. ‘Stay Calm and Content No Matter What Life Throws At You’ covers more than 25 different topics and is a short and jargon-free look at how to live a happier life. Only £9.95 on Amazon, multiple 5 star reviews and professional starred reviews. I am also available confidentially for counselling and coaching via the telephone and Skype www.staycalmandcontent.com You can follow me on Twitter @catstaycalm , Facebook Stay Calm and Content, and find out more about happiness and relationships via my blog www.staycalmandcontent. com/blog Take care!

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BOOK REVIEW

Stay Calm and Content No Matter What Life Throws at You By Cat Williams

e’ve all been there. Happily sailing through our day, when that emotional juggernaut hits us head on. It might be a tactless comment from an acquaintance, a criticism from our boss or our favourite dress being smeared with chocolate ice cream by our toddler. Suddenly we are consumed by anger, drowned in fear or transformed to a crumpled ball of stress. The wonderful thing about Cat William’s book, Stay Calm and Content No Matter What Life Throws at You, is that after reading it, you’ll find you see these situations in a completely different light. For, while the book addresses ways people struggling with big problems such as marriage difficulties, bereavement or depression can cope with their anxieties, it’s also great for finding ways to deal more positively with every day blips. And it’s quite revelatory. Not least because Cat, a military wife, relationship counsellor and life coach, has identified one problem which she believes is behind almost every one of our anxieties, fears and stresses – low self-esteem. Cat believes, by taking control of our self-esteem, trying hard to

ensure that no one other than ourselves can influence it, and being less critical of others, we can liberate ourselves from some of the emotional pain we suffer – whether it is self-inflicted or through others. Cat, who specialises in counselling military relationships, takes us through exercises to help us become aware of and improve our self-esteem. She brings the book to life with scenarios – based loosely on real life situations she has encountered through her work. And each chapter is peppered with inspirational quotes from a variety of sources from the Dalai Lama and Anne

Frank to Whoopie Goldberg and Annie Lennox. The book is dedicated to the partners of armed forces personnel who Cat praises for their ability to cope, but who also, she believes, “need to become experts at finding ways to remain calm and to maintain their belief in themselves, no matter what challenges each new day brings”. This is one of those books to read, savour and then keep nearby to dip into at times when you think those hostile emotions might strike.

Competition… Need a little help to ‘Stay Calm and Content?!’ Fear not as Just for Her has a copy of Cat’s fantastic book to giveaway! To enter, simply email us your name and address with the subject ‘I want to stay calm and content’ to justforher@forcespublishing.co.uk Closing date for competition is 27/11/2015.

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STAYING It is a sad fact that the divorce rate in the military is double of that of civilians. Sociologists studying the causes behind these uncomfortable statistics believe the main reason for this is down to the huge amount of time members of the armed forces spend away from their partners and families.

hen there’s the stress of their jobs which can put huge pressure on relationships. But they also cite the fact many military spouses are unfaithful as another reason for the high divorce rate. But is it really harder to stay faithful in a military relationship? Cat Williams, a military wife and relationship counsellor, said we all have the potential to cheat - whether we are a military spouse or in a relationship in the civilian world. People cheat, she explained, because they want to feel better about themselves, or because their existing relationship isn’t meeting their needs. “When we are feeling low, being wanted by somebody else, particularly when it’s secretive and risky is exciting and gives us a great boost to our selfesteem,” she said. The difference for women in military relationships is that they are on their own for long periods of time, and this can be very hard on them. “If we start to doubt ourselves,” said Cat, “perhaps [we doubt] our ability to cope, or we doubt our partner’s love for us in some way, then fear and insecurity creeps in. If an opportunity to have an affair presents itself it can be tempting to take it.”

But it’s not just the long absences which can trigger infidelity. Cat believes the unpredictability as well as the frequency and magnitude of changes during military life can really take their toll on relationships. “I think most military couples would agree that it’s the transitions from being alone, to together, to alone again which usually bring the greatest challenge,” she said. Samantha (not her real name), a mother of two, began an affair with a work colleague just over a year after the birth of her first child. She admits that the insecurity of her life, and her husband’s low moods, were putting a strain on the relationship and that, combined with the stresses of having a small child, had seen her confidence plummet to rock bottom. “Every time I read a magazine I was being bombarded with yummy mummies, celebrities regaining their pre-pregnancy bodies weeks after giving birth and there was I with three stone of extra weight, stretch marks, and bags under my eyes the size of suitcases. I just thought I looked fat and ugly. I didn’t like the way I looked, and I just assumed that my husband found me hideous too.” Samantha returned to her job a year after her daughter was

born and started noticing she was getting attention from one of her colleagues, David (name changed).

exposed to traumatic situations. It’s stressful and it’s hard to understand what’s going on in your partner’s head.”

“He would compliment me on how I looked, be flirtatious and he made me laugh. It made me feel good.”

But while having an affair might seem like a solution to a problem - providing empathy or an ego boost, these feelings tend to be short lived. Cat said: “Everything unravels in the long run. We have to live with the guilt from the start, and then we usually eventually get found out, or we come clean, and then we have to live with a multitude of consequences. What started out as a bid to ‘feel better’ usually ends up making everyone involved feel much, much worse.”

It wasn’t long before Samantha had started an affair with her colleague, fabricating days out or weekends away with friends so she could spend time with David. “I did feel guilty, of course, but it was also a thrill. I couldn’t believe that someone actually found me attractive. It gave me such a boost.” The affair ended when David found another job and moved away. Samantha admits she has never told her husband about her affair but thinks he might have guessed something was going on. “I think he realised I was not myself. But I think he buried his head in the sand as it was too painful for him to acknowledge. I think he thought he would lose me if we admitted it was happening.” Does Samantha think unfaithfulness is more common in the armed forces? “I think it is common in any relationship where one partner is in a job where they are

“He would compliment me on how I looked, be ﬂirtatious and he made me laugh. It made me feel good…”

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AITHFUL Cat believes that communication is the vital tool required for couples to remain faithful. “[In the military] each partner has to be very self-reliant and resilient, whilst also being able to communicate with their partner openly, honestly and to reach out to each other whenever possible.” But we also need to be happy with ourselves, so we can gain that strength and contentment in ourselves that prevents us from seeking it elsewhere. For this reason Cat believes it’s important that we learn how to look after ourselves because when we feel at our best, we are also able to be the best partner we can be. “Stop criticising yourself,” she said, “it just brings you down and doesn’t help you feel at your best. If you are being criticised by someone, don’t believe them. People criticise others to feel better about themselves, so decide how you want to feel and behave and just be yourself. “Also, accept the things you cannot change, but change the things you can, especially the

things that will help your selfconfidence,” she adds. In fact there are plenty of things you can do to help boost your self-esteem including taking up your favourite hobby, exercising every day to increase endorphins, listening to your favourite music, getting plenty of fresh air and helping others around you.Talking to a good friend, who really understands you, can also help. Once you are feeling at your best, you can then focus on helping your partner, said Cat. “Be supportive of your partners’ interests and hobbies. Plan time together doing something you both enjoy and explain clearly how you are feeling - without blaming the other person - if something is bothering you.” If your marriage has suffered an affair, Cat said this does not have to mean the end. As both a military wife and a relationship counsellor she has counselled many military couples who have survived and thrived after an affair. “It takes a lot of courage on both sides to come to counselling, but if you can then you will be able to carefully explore the reasons why your relationship ran into trouble, what you both truly want and how you can achieve a bright future together.”

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Divide in the Ranks Have you ever heard the phrase “wearing her husband’s rank”? It’s the term coined to describe those wives who take on their husband’s status within the armed forces and apply it to their own lives…

espite the fact we live in a modern society, where the shackles of the antiquated class system have supposedly been unleashed, there are many of you who can probably pinpoint occasions where ‘rank’ has filtered into relationships between wives and girlfriends and created a barricade. It might manifest itself in different ways, but there is plenty of evidence to suggest the divide in the ranks exists within the wider military community. But does this difference in status of husbands really affect the relationships between military spouses? Do they really keep themselves to themselves? Talking anonymously to Just for Her, one military wife told us that there are plenty of wives and girlfriends who befriend partners of personnel regardless of rank. However, she said being well acquainted with someone from a different status would pique interests. Indeed, if a car belonging to a Commanding Officer turned up in lower

ranking quarters, curtains would almost certainly start twitching. But is it any wonder there is still such obvious division? For nowhere is structure more rigid than it is in the armed forces, where hierarchy and organisation is so fundamental. Surely this meticulous order will naturally transfer into the everyday lives of the men and women who work in the armed forces - particularly if their families live with them in married quarters? Because, although there are plenty of socalled ‘mixed’ areas where families are not segregated according to rank, it is still, often, very obvious from the type or size of house whose inhabitants have the more senior role. Social events and clubs are often also organised with the pecking order in mind - the Officers’ Mess is still an exclusive area, and at social events the hierarchies are clearly defined. Indeed, an article published in the Daily Mail in 2011 by a former RAF wife, Annie Waller, went as far as to suggest that being

a military wife was much like being a housewife in the 1950s. She talked of losing her identity and socialising with snobbish wives, and ‘rank-conscious’ women. In her account she tells the story of a female neighbour appearing on her doorstep introducing herself as “Flight Lieutenant Jones’s wife” leaving Annie none the wiser as to her own identity. Annie’s account of life at RAF Lyneham included claims officers would look less favourably on a member of personnel as a potential promotion candidate because his wife did not wear the right clothes. She also revealed how her ‘mixing with the wrong ranks’ was described as a ‘big mistake’ after she invited a group of squaddie’s wives over to her house for a wine tasting session. Annie’s tale is clearly an individual account of life in the armed forces. It is certainly not indicative of most experiences. But, her discomfort in this clearly segregated environment is something which other spouses share.

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For while there are some women who wear Michelle said: “I soon realised that there was a very obvious divide amongst spouses their husband’s rank, there are as many who in the military. There were those that wore prefer to keep it completely under wraps their husband’s rank on their sleeve, and through fear of alienating potential friends then there were those, like myself, who had who might feel intimidated. There are little interest in military life, finding those accounts of senior officers’ wives who have that did very annoying and enjoyed chatting seen friendships end or fizzle out after their about anything non-military husband’s rank had been “Whether you’re in related.” revealed. And of others a relationship with who have joined groups, only to be snubbed when it an engineer or an Michelle said in her blog emerged their husband was officer, we are all just she was incredibly proud of her husband, but she did an officer. It would seem the women, married to not use his job or positon “rank-wearing” wife is not a role to take on if you want men in the military” to define her. She is firm in her belief that the only to make friends. things that should set military wives apart Michelle Smithson, who writes the Not Just are their own accomplishments. She added: “Whether you’re in a relationship with a RAF Wife blog, agrees that wearing your an engineer or an officer, we are all just partner’s rank - although rare - is not ideal. women, married to men in the military.” Writing in her blog she admits to finding the military structure, particularly the way While the Officer’s Mess might be exclusive it can ‘seep into military spouse and family - there are many, many places in the armed circles’ uncomfortable. What’s more, she forces community which are the complete believes the gap is not so much within the opposite: a haven of inclusivity. Take the ranks but in people’s attitudes.

hugely popular Military Wives Choir. One of the many achievements of the foundation has been to provide a place for all women regardless of their background, career, status or husband’s rank - to become friends and join together in a mutual understanding and interest. Organisations such as the choir exist to create stronger relationships between the wives and girlfriends of armed forces personnel. “Just as much as they build up unbreakable bonds, our choirs also break down barriers,” says the MWC’s publicity material. The subject of how women perceive other armed forces wives and girlfriends will always be a complex one, but there is one thing which seems entirely straightforward, however; It is that we are all individuals and should be treated as such - regardless of our partners. As American philosopher and poet Chris Jami said: “When I look at a person I see a person - not a rank, not a class, not a title”.

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The Good Wife’s Guide In 1955, Good Housekeeping Monthly are rumoured to have produced the following ‘Good Wife’s Guide’. Thankfully a lot has changed in the last 60 years and the guide is not only hysterical, it seems completely absurd. Despite this, however, I did assume that on waking up a ‘Mrs’ I would suddenly possess baking skills to rival Mary Berry and an innate ability to darn socks! Sadly this was not the case, and not only has my husband had to continue to replace his holey underwear, he’s also had to stomach some pretty revolting attempts at ‘baking’. I’d say, amongst other things, he married me for my scintillating conversation and unrivalled ability to carry out any household chore using only a babywipe and it’s a good job, as judging by the guide below, I’ve a long way to go before reaching the wife standards of 1955!

• Have dinner ready Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

• Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

• Prepare the children Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

• Prepare yourself Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him

• Be happy to see him

His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him

• Clear away the clutter Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

• Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables

• Listen to him You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

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• Make the evening his Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

• Your goal Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

• Don’t greet him with complaints and problems • Dont complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

• Make him comfortable Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

• Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.You have no right to question him.

• A good wife always knows her place Interesting you say? As he arrives through the door I will ‘gaily’ tell him that whilst he’s suffered through his ‘boring’ day at work, I too have been at work, returned home, and repeatedly wrestled household objects from the jaws of the cats, wrestled the cats from the clutches of the children and wrestled the children from the clutches of each other. I’ve attempted to tidy up whilst being dressed up as a fairy princess and attended a lavishly laid out tea party consisting of plastic sausages, a tin of tuna and a croissant. I’ve mopped up juice (with babywipes), wee (with babywipes) and tears (with, you guessed it, babywipes) and am yet to think of an answer to ‘why is the rabbit still at the vets?!’. Although the ultimate goal is for my home to be a place of peace, order and tranquillity, sadly this is a rare occurrence since having children. These days, if my husband wishes to renew either his body or spirit, he gets 2 minutes in the downstairs loo before the kids start hammering the door down and I’m yelling at him to stop hiding and help me out! I know my place, it’s somewhere hot and I’m lying down reading a book whilst sipping a cocktail. Until I’m there, I guess I better work on my wife skills!

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adly, having a career and being a military wife are not two things which necessarily spring to mind as being compatible. In fact, even having a part-time job to keep the boredom at bay can prove tricky because of the fact armed forces wives and partners are so often on the move. But what if you could take your job with you? What if you could find a vocation or a career which you could simply pack up and move along with your personal belongings?

businesses - that need support on an ad hoc basis, or at irregular times throughout the week, but cannot afford to employ a permanent member of staff or a temp. Generally, virtual assistants are paid by the hour for the work they do - so they can provide a resourceful solution for businesses. Work can involve anything from answering the phones, typing, data input, creating presentations and booking travel to providing marketing/PR support, running a website, managing social media, bookkeeping and project management.

With so many technological advances, working from home - wherever “Do you have Sharon Bristow, a military wife home may be - has become and mother of two children, not only a possibility but is a hobby or actually proving more practical interest that you has recently set up Two Fat and cost-efficient for employers. are particularly Birds which provides a virtual assistant service to businesses. High speed broadband and WiFi skilled at and After launching the website and have made remote working fast could make Facebook page for the business and easy and advanced forms of communication such as instant money from? Or she was inundated with queries messaging, Skype and Voice Over could you use - highlighting just how high Internet Protocol (VoIP) mean your skills to the demand is for this kind of service. home workers can keep in touch teach others?” with colleagues and clients as “Virtual assistants are the way easily at home as they would if ahead,” said Sharon who also helped set they were on the other side of an office. up the Military Wives Choir. “If you can employ a virtual assistant there are no But it doesn’t have to be desk-based. costs, no sick pay. A virtual assistant can be Do you have a hobby or interest which anything from a PA who will book flights, you are particularly skilled at and could deal with expenses, take phone calls right make money from? Or could you use through to a project manager, managing your skills to teach others? There are so delivery of a website or social media.” many possibilities for working from home. Here are a few ideas to give you some Indeed, Two Fat Birds offers a variety of inspiration… services and describes itself as being “based virtually anywhere” and providing “a range VIRTUAL ASSISTANT of services from professional administrative, A virtual assistant works from home, or another location, providing business support technical, personal or creative assistance.” to companies who are looking for someone You can find more information about to do admin, project management, front becoming an office assistant by contacting of house or back office work. It works the Alliance of UK Virtual Assistants brilliantly for businesses - particularly small

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Remember to apply for a DBS certificate if you are planning to work with children, and - if you are inviting students into your home, you will also need Public Liability Insurance. NETWORK MARKETING Check out companies such as Pampered Chef or Usbourne Books who recruit people to run their own businesses selling their products.You will normally be asked to make an initial financial outlay - usually around £100 to £300 - to buy a starter kit to get you going. Then it’s up to you to start selling and making money. It’s ideal for anyone who wants to work from home, or who cannot commit to office hours, because the work is flexible. Most people running these sorts of businesses sell products via parties, which are normally in the evening, or using social media such as Facebook.You can do it full time, part time or dip in and out depending on how much money you want to make, and how entrepreneurial you want to be. There are a number of legitimate advertisers, throughout this issue, who are looking for people to join their successful teams. If you are interested in network marketing and want to find out more, please do contact them.

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Learning to code is like learning a new language. Except this new language is more universal - it holds the key to creating computer software, websites and apps. There are lots of courses available which will teach you how to code. There are wellpromoted companies such as Decoded. com which run “Code in a Day” courses in places like London, costing from £420 upwards depending on days and locations. However, you can also learn for free with organisations such as the Codecademy https://www.codecademy.com

If this is something you enjoy, why not start by selling your wares at fetes, craft fairs or coffee mornings. Spread the word, make up business cards, set up a Facebook page and share with your friends.

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PRIVATE TUTORING This is a great option for teachers or for anyone who is an expert at a particular skill or subject such as a foreign language or a craft such as dressmaking or carpentry. The difficulty with this job option is that you may start to build a client base in your location. However, if you know you will be staying for a set amount of time - a year, for example - you can limit clients to those who only require 12 months or less tutoring. A child who is being tutored for the 11 Plus exam, or GCSEs for example, might only need a year’s support. Many tutors are now offering their services online, using Skype, for example something which works well for language students.

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Having a newborn baby rocks your world. There is euphoria, joy and overwhelming love and then there is exhaustion, fear and sleep deprivation. It is as wonderful as it is terrifying. And it’s quite bewildering how such a tiny little bundle can have such a huge impact on our lives. Having a partner around to ease the emotional - not to mention physical burden and to share the highs and lows is crucial. But what if your partner is not there to share the load? What if, due to deployment, you are left, literally, holding the baby? Sharon Bristow, whose husband Eric is in the Royal Marines is one of many military wives and girlfriends to have found themselves in this very situation. Eric was deployed to Afghanistan when her son William was not quite ten weeks old. It was a winter tour, so not only was Eric leaving behind his baby, he would also miss his son’s first Christmas. Like many military wives, Sharon knew what she had signed up for when she married Eric and was pragmatic about the fact he was going to miss such a crucial stage in their son’s life.

“On the day our son was born, my husband was on an interview board for promotion. That’s his job, that’s what happens when you work in the armed forces,” she said. But, despite her logical approach to her husband’s deployment, being a new mum and having a husband in the armed forces came with its own set of difficulties. Not only did Sharon have to cope with a newborn alone, but the couple had only just moved to married quarters, so she didn’t actually know any other military wives. “My first experience of military wives was going to a baby group when William was four weeks old,” Sharon explained. To add to this, Sharon had preeclampsia and a complicated delivery and was in hospital for a month before her son’s birth. Upon her return home, she then had to get used to the constant demands of a newborn. “It was a shock to me,” she revealed, “I’d been this career

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girl and suddenly I had this baby. They don’t come with a manual and he needed feeding and changing. And then there was the crying - you wonder what’s the matter.” Then Eric went to Afghanistan, and Sharon was on her own. The biggest difficulty, Sharon admits, when her husband was deployed, was getting through the 7pm to 7am period of each day. The daytimes were a whirl of social engagements. Sharon had already built up a network of friends outside of the armed forces through work and by joining an NCT group. Even when she had no plans to meet with friends, Sharon made sure to make the effort to go out, even if it was just to the shops to buy a newspaper. But the 12 hours throughout the evening and night proved tough. Sharon wanted her baby to have a routine and was putting him to bed at around 7pm, which proved restrictive. “Being stuck indoors from 7pm to 7am was definitely the hardest. If I ran out of milk, I couldn’t just go out of the house because there was no one to keep an eye on the baby.” The only way to survive the loneliness that these evenings created, Sharon said, was to keep busy. “I would spend the time prepping stuff or on the phone chatting,” she explained. The other problem was that Eric was only allowed one 20 minute phone call a week. This meant Sharon relied on e-blueys, which she was able to send frequently, with pictures of William attached, so Eric could see how his son was progressing. Eric’s absence at such a crucial time in the family’s life created difficulties, but Sharon admits it also made some things easier. “It was just me,” she said, “so I couldn’t be irritated with anybody. Also, I didn’t have to think about anyone else but me and my baby. If I wanted a bowl of cereal for tea, I could have a bowl of cereal for tea because there’s no one else to make tea for!” Sharon’s advice for other military wives or partners coping alone with a newborn is to make sure you take care of yourself. “Have a shower, put some make-up on, and try not to sit at home all day in your pyjamas. Try and get out of the house, even if it’s to go to the shops to buy a newspaper or a bar of chocolate,” she said. Sharon also suggests

be worth seeking the support of a doula. Although their role is to support mothers during the birth, some will also make return visits after the birth to provide support around the house.

Sharon, Eric and family being as organised as possible – making sure your fridge is stocked with milk, for example, so you can make that cup of tea when you are housebound.

It’s inevitable you will also get visitors during this time. Maureen suggests using them to your advantage and getting them to help with some jobs around the house - even just making you a cup of tea. Or, ask them to bring with them a meal for you to heat up later on - a lasagne or a casserole. And she also advocates, strongly, joining an antenatal group during pregnancy to build up friendships and support networks before the baby’s birth.

Her final piece of advice is to let people in. “You don’t have to cope alone, there are always people out there who will help they want to help.” This advice is echoed by experts, who agree “It’s inevitable you will also that whether your husband is deployed or not, those early get visitors days of your baby’s life are during this a time when you should be time. Maureen reaching out for all the extra suggests using support you can get.

them to your

When your baby has arrived, Maureen said, you can get lots of help, support and social interaction by attending breastfeeding clinics, mother and baby groups and other classes and events. Health visitors are a brilliant source of information and will be able to point you in the direction of activities such as baby massage to help increase your contact with other mums in similar situations. Try also your local Children’s Centre or welfare office.

Maureen Gannon, a former advantage midwife, ante-natal educator and getting and author of “Understanding them to help the Needs of Your Newborn” with some jobs said it’s important to have people who can help with all around the the domestic jobs around the house - even house while you - the new just making you mum - bonds with your baby. a cup of tea.” Most of all, Maureen said, you What’s more, it’s helpful to have must be kind to yourself and try someone there merely to hold not to put too much pressure on yourself your baby while you have a shower. to do everything and be perfect. If, one day, you find you are still in your pyjamas “The mother should be with her baby in at 4pm - don’t beat yourself up about it! those early days,” said Maureen. “The kind Equally, if there is a pile of washing up by of help she needs is practical help.” She the sink, try not to let it worry you - deal added: “Babies need to be held more in with it when you get a spare moment or those first few weeks, but this is the time ask someone to come and help. mothers are sleep deprived and it’s the loneliest time. “This is when they need “You have to let your standards slip,” said their mum, or a wonderful friend, to come Maureen. “This period of time is not going around in the day so they can have a sleep. to last forever.You might think this is what Or someone who can do the shopping or it’s going to be like for the rest of my life, the laundry for them.” but it’s a flash in time. It’s a very, very short time in your child’s life so give it the vital Maureen suggests, for women who do attention it needs.” not have family or friends nearby, it might

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MY HUGGABLE

HERO Royal Marine wife and mum of 2, Jo Lomax, has had a whirlwind year since setting up Huggable Heroes. We catch up with the supermum, who created the personalised dolls to battle separation anxiety, to ﬁnd out more about running a business, her inspiration and her future plans!

Tell us about yourself and your inspiration. Why did you start Huggable Heroes? My name is Jo Lomax, I am married to a serving Royal Marine and we have two beautiful Children, Charlotte 3 and Henry 1. My inspiration came from a conversation I had with my friend Katie whose husband was about to deploy for 6 months and her 4 year old daughter who was really upset. We commented that we could do with cuddly daddy toys and she then asked me to make her one. After two very long evenings I had made my very first Huggable Hero! I then made both of my children a Huggable Hero each as Daddy was working away during the week and home at weekends. The Heroes made a huge difference to our family and ‘Daddy’ never missed another thing. It has been a busy start for Huggable Heroes! What achievements are you most proud of? Wow! It really has been the most amazing

year so far. I am so proud of Huggable Heroes as a whole, however my proudest moments are when we receive happy customer photos and messages, especially when we hear that we have settled a heartbroken child who is struggling with separation anxiety. Why is a Huggable Hero so important to children whose parents have been deployed? Huggable Heroes are so important to children as they are helping to reduce separation anxiety by giving their Mummy or Daddy the very important cuddles they need and reinforcing the bonds between parent and child. What do you enjoy the most about running Huggable Heroes? Delivery Day! I love receiving the photos and videos of our happy customers. I turn into an emotional mess most weeks, happy tears of course.

What challenges have you faced? The biggest but most important challenge I have faced is making sure that each Huggable Hero meets toy safety standards meaning they are safe for children from birth and fully washable.You will see the CE mark on all of our Heroes. What plans do you have for the future of Huggable Heroes? I have big dreams for Huggable Heroes. My mind is constantly on over drive and we have new products in the pipeline as well as plans to help children from different backgrounds including civilian families, autistic children, hospital stays, separated families and families of a deceased loved one. You started Huggable Heroes with your mum. How is it working together? It’s great working with Mum although I

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“Huggable Heroes are so important to children as they are helping to reduce separation anxiety by giving their Mummy or Daddy the very important cuddles they need and reinforcing the bonds between parent and child. “

What is the best thing about running your own business? There are two ‘best’ things. The first one is that I can still be a full time Mummy to Charlotte and Henry and the second is being able to do the most rewarding job that I absolutely love.

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wish she lived closer. We are living 6 hours apart, but we spend hours on Facetime and the phone while we work and Royal Mail have been amazing sending Heroes between us at different stages of the making process.

What advice would you give other military wives and girlfriends looking to start a business? I would say, do it! It’s great being able to do a job you love around your family, meaning you can be there when your children most need you. What feedback have you received? I am honored to have received such amazing feedback from our customers, has spent many nights sobbing and ‘acting which has also included 100% positive out’ because she is unsure of what to do with feedback that Huggable Heroes reduce her emotions at such a young age. When separation anxiety. Here are she opened the parcel today her just a couple of customers little face lit up and she is now comments but please “It’s great inseparable from her ‘mini daddy’ do have a look at our being able to so far he has watched her practice website or posts to page on do a job you her literacy and played with her Facebook for more: in her room and now getting lots love around of cuddles while she sleeps. It is “I just want to say a massive your family, thank you for my daughter’s meaning you beautiful made and can’t wait to see what adventures we can all huggable hero, we’ve been very can be there go on for when daddy is next lucky over the last couple of when your away. Thank you so much, years with him not going away something so small really does children most much but this year we are barely make a huge difference! seeing him and the impact has need you.” From the very grateful R*** not only been hard on me but family xx” even harder on my daughter. She

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“Thank you so much for our wonderful Huggable Heroes! My boys have been really struggling since their daddy joined his ship and started pre deployment training, but they get real comfort from their Huggable Hero! It’s making bedtime easier and I’m sure they’ll be worth their weight in gold with a 9-month deployment looming later this year. I’ve got one ready for the little girl we are expecting in the summer. It makes me feel better to know that she’ll be able to still see her daddy all the time, even if he’s going to miss so much of her first year. They are absolutely gorgeous, thank you so much! Xxx” How can our readers get a Huggable Hero for their child or children? We have a Facebook Page: www.Facebook.com/HuggableHeroes which we hold regular giveaways on and a brand new website: www.HuggableHeroes.co.uk both of which you can order through. Alternatively please send me an email: Jo@HuggableHeroes.uk

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John Adams looks forward to a golden year with Tiny Tears! Celebrate Tiny Tears’ 50th anniversary with a limited edition doll… First launched in the UK in 1960’s, the Tiny Tears range of dolls has been loved by little girls for generations! The UK’s most recognisable doll, Tiny Tears, was the first fully functioning feeding, crying and wetting doll with closing eyes, moveable arms, legs and head. The Classic Tiny Tears doll (RRP £19.99) is the original feeding, crying and wetting doll. Pretty in pink, Tiny Tears comes dressed in a spotty pinafore dress and wears a headband in her shoulder length hair. Included are lots of essential accessories, including potty, bottle, pacifier, pull up knickers and hair brush. Feed Tiny Tears and she’ll cry tears and need changing, so you need to look after her! She has an all-vinyl body and limbs, jointed arms and legs and hair rooted into her head, which makes her a perfect companion for any girl aged 3 years and over. If the very mention of Tiny Tears brings back fond memories then you’ll love the limited edition Tiny Tears 50th Anniversary Doll (RRP £29.99). As a first introduction to motherhood, generations of mums and grandmothers have grown up with Tiny Tears – and now your children can too! To celebrate her 50th anniversary, this special edition Tiny Tears doll is all dressed up in a sparkly birthday princess dress along with a vintage curly hairstyle. Just like the traditional doll, you can still feed Tiny Tears from her very own water bottle then put her on her potty to wet, sit her up and she will cry real tears, like a real baby! When it’s time for a nap, snuggle up as you lay her down and see her eyes gently close, ready for sweet dreams. The 50th anniversary limited edition doll also comes complete with a potty, bottle and a keepsake special commemorative certificate, printed with its own unique number!

! n o i t i t e p Com Just for Her are offering one lucky reader the chance to win a Classic Tiny Tears doll AND a 50th Anniversary Tiny Tears doll! To enter, simply tell us who you’d like to win the Tiny Tears dolls for! Please email us, including your name and address, at competitions@ forcespublishing.co.uk Closing date for competition is 27/11/2015 For more information on Tiny Tears please visit www.johnadams.co.uk

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Baker Ross is giving away a bumper selection of craft kits from its brand new range. The arts and crafts company, which specialises in creative products and toys for children, has just launched it’s exciting new collection of products, including goodies for Autumn, Halloween and Christmas, and you can get a taster right here. Many of the kits and products have an educational spin, helping children to develop their skills while having fun. Ideal for weekend craft sessions or for brightening up the hours after school, there’s plenty to choose from. See more at www.bakerross.co.uk

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GIFT GUIDE Christmas is fast approaching so it’s time to start thinking about what to buy your nearest and dearest! Just for Her have come up with a few ideas… From novelty gifts to beauty products, gifts for children, keen gardeners, food lovers or explorers - we have ideas to suit them all!

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1 Sainsbury’s Home RHS Bird House £14.00 2 Marks & Spencer Small Print Watering Can £15.00 3 Very Rosa Chinensis Gift Collection - Burgon & Ball 4 Dotcomgiftshop Mint Green Mini Greenhouse With 3 Panels £19.95 5 Marks & Spencer King and Queen Garden Mugs £8.00 each 6 Sainsbury’s Home Allotment Gardeners Gloves £8.00 7 BHS Gnome Boot Scraper £16.00 8 Marks & Spencer Crossword Book £6.00 9 Marks & Spencer Large Insect Hotel £29.50

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1 Sainsbury’s Home Mary Berry Bell £4.00 2 Biscuiteers Baking Gingerbread House DIY Kit £35.00 3 Debenhams Costa Set £28 4 Debenhams World of Flavours Mediterranean Baguette Serving Set £17.00 5 Sainsbury’s Home Gourmet Cheese Camembert Baker £12.00 6 BHS 15 Pack World Traveller Hot Sauce Set £15.00 7 Debenhams Cupcake Mix in Jar £10.00 8 Amara Orla Kiely Apron Owl £30.00 9 Debenhams Marmite Chocolate £4.99 10 Very Mason Cash Baking Made Easy Bread Making Set £15.00 11 Very Kenwood KMX84 500 Watt Kmix Stand Mixer £329

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11 1 Sainsbury’s Home Dream Kingdom £4.99 2 Early Learning Centre Giant Wooden Activity £35.00 3 Debenhams PlayDoh Disguise Lab Featuring Despicable Me Minions £10 4 Debenhams Disney Frozen Sing a Long Karaoke £20 5 Houseology Sebra Play Kitchen £149.00 6 Wilkinson Wooden Castle £25.00 7 Debenhams Minion Walkie Talkie £15.00 8 Sainsbury’s Home Frozen Wand £12.99 9 Marks & Spencer Peppa Pig ABC Frame £20.00 10 George Home Wooden Police Station £35.00 11 George Home Wooden Dolls House £35.00

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1 Marks & Spencer Pug On A Plug £6.00 2 Primark UK Santa Novelty Sunglasses £3 3 Debenhams Black Cable Knit Headphone Beanie Hat £15.00 4 Debenhams Condiment Gun £15.00 5 BHS World’s Smallest Voice Changer £8.00 6 Wilkinson Gadget Face Mats £3.00 7 Very Kitvision Bluetooth Selfie Stick with Phone Holder £19.00 8 Primark UK Minion Dressing Gown £15

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All we want for Christmas is yoo-oo-ou! Combine your festive shopping with a fun day out… The Festive Gift Fair is back! Christmas again! Stuck for ideas? Don’t worry, help is at hand! Visit the fantastic FESTIVE GIFT FAIR where you are guaranteed to be inspired - 325 stalls from all over the country overflowing with cracking gift ideas. More to see, try, touch, taste, buy and enjoy than ever before. Celebrating its 20th anniversary with a daily programme of FREE live musical entertainment. There won’t be a dull moment - no wonder it is now one of the most popular Christmas shopping events in the UK. From the moment you walk into the Fair, you will be caught up in the excitement of the day, browsing round all the stalls overflowing with clever new gift ideas and Christmas decorations that don’t cost the earth. The variety is huge, with something for ALL the family – from babies to teenagers, from parents to grandparents!

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Gifts for the little ones… Hold your breath, count to three and you’ll be in a world of imagination! There’s lots of fun and games for Tiny Tots to School Children. A happy child is a busy child - keep them amused with a Cupcake and Cookie Baking Set from Little Pals. What about an ingenious designed kid friendly I-pod case by Fatframe, whic is lightweight, bouncy, soft, waterproof and robust. Hurray, no more moaning about carrying their own bag - chose from an assortment of fun soft handmade backpacks from Cole. Make pre-bed time hours that much more special - snuggle your child into an adorable fleecy dressing gown from Comfy Baby Collections.

Presents to keep forever… Thoughtful personalised gifts and family heirlooms… Traditional toys are often the best - remember the fascination of shaking a Snow Globe and watching the snow swirl, these exquisite large globes are on the Farrar’s stall. Stimulate small world play with a large Noah’s Ark from Lanka Kade that will brighten up any bedroom; Handmade and hand painted with 11 pairs of animals and Mr & Mrs Noah. Delightful Decorations have some fantastic personalised tree decorations for all the family to use year after year.

After the washing up… Cosy up, relax and enjoy an after-dinner tipple with some cheese… Snowdonia Cheese produce seven amazing mature Cheddars in waxed shells - the ‘Pickled Power’ one packs a punch with savoury chunks of pickled onion. The Cornish Blue Company produce their sweet mild creamy farmhouse blue cheese on Bodmin Moor - a delicious evening snack in from of the television. Celtic Spirit Company have an aromatic Black Mountain Liqueur, which is an ideal choice for your Christmas celebration. And what about an alternative to Port, ‘Rubis’ is an indulgent after dinner drink, a delicious combination of dark chocolate and red wine by Rubis Chocolate Wine. And guaranteed to give a warming sensation - Real Sloe Gin made from the wild blackthorn bush and infused with gin and sugar from Condessa Welsh

Festive flavours… Christmas is the one time of the year when everyone can ‘over’ indulge a little. At the Fair you can sample lots of Christmas favourites BEFORE you buy - from delicious cheeses to Christmas puddings … The Great Taste Award luxury ‘Pudding Lane Christmas Puddings’ are delicious or try their decadent chocolate mud-cake at Handmade Treats. Wish someone a Happy Christmas with a chocolate pizza… The Gourmet Pizza Chocolate Company will deliver your chosen message on a delicious chocolate pizza! How about something savoury? Yorkshire based Crusty Pie Co’s delicious Pork, Turkey and Cranberry Pie will go down a treat on Boxing Day. And to drink… Giving Good Beer a Bad name with Direct Beers! Great beer with quirky labels such as ‘Misery Guts’, ‘Grumpy Git’ and ‘Lazy Sod’ that can’t fail to amuse!

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Effortless entertaining with scent-sational results… At Christmas there is NO place like home so set the scene for a magical Christmas … Nothing says Christmas more gloriously than a display of flickering candles or diffusers from Fragrance Sand that smell delicious. Natural Cone & Fruit Company will be selling their beautiful selection of swags and garlands to decorate your Festive table. Decorate your home with Treasure Tree’s sparkling votive candle holders. 75

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Pamper your Mum, Granny, sister, best friend, wife or girlfriend with a special present this Christmas … Indulge your beauty queen with this gorgeous, cocktail inspired bath and body care range by Boozi Body Care. An ingenious way of keeping all your earrings organised - Hunki Dori has designed a beautiful book with 4 padded pages, each holding 12 pairs of earrings.Visit Donna Bella, a one-stop stall for professional Salon hair products to achieve smoother, silkier hair and superior results. Belle Bijoux have a stunning range of beautiful Danon jewellery A fashion line combining gems, leather and Swarovski crystals.

The way to a cook’s heart… The rule for long lasting garlic is to keep it dark, aired and dry - Ginger & Garlic Grater Co sell beautiful painted handcrafted storage jars. Create a homely rustic feel in your kitchen with East 2 Eden’s super sets of wicker storage baskets in choices of linings - for bread, cheese or the laundry. Catching up with Jamie Oliver recipes while cooking? No home should be without E.Bean’s I-Pad cushion that adjusts to the angle of your device and in loads of cool fabrics. Order a beautiful customised Cake Topper for your Christmas cake - Bateman Designs make amazing art deco toppers.

What to get that hard-to-buy-for guy? ‘I Love My Granddad’ mug should do the trick - Carolyn and Sue Gifts. For men on the go, buy an innovative water bottle Water2Go that filters 99.9% of contaminants.Whether he is an action man and likes hiking…. or just walking round to the pub, Warwickshire Clothing have branded jackets for every activity. From Horror Stories, Crime Thrillers to Sci-Fi, Snazal sell every imaginable boxed set of books – saving you up to 50% off RRP!

Just for Her have teamed up with The Festive Gift Fair and have an amazing 50 pairs of tickets to giveaway! All you have to do is answer this simple question…

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BOOK GIVEAWAY! Just for Her have the following 3 books to giveaway! For your chance to win, send us an email with your name, address and telephone number to competitions@ forcespublishing.co.uk and tell us which book you’d like to win and why. Winners will be drawn first week of November so get emailing!

Learn the freehand cutting method with up-andcoming designer and ‘Sewing Bee’ star Chinelo. Make classic garments that fit perfectly every time – with no patterns required!

Dogs in Jumpers RRP £14.99 Redhound for Dogs (Debbie Humphreys) Walk out in style with 15 practical knitting projects for dogs Redhound for Dogs, the premier canine attire company, is passionate about dogs and style. Their irresistible new book shows you how easy it is to mix the two with 15 new knitting projects to keep your pooch warm this winter. Simply select a jumper style and follow the instructions to create your tailormade knit. To ensure the perfect fit, there are easy-to-follow instructions on the four key measurements needed before starting and tips on how to take them. With patterns for jolly jumpers, cosy coats, and a beautiful blanket, it couldn’t be easier to kit out your best friend in comfort. From chihuahuas to greyhounds, this book will inspire all owners of shivering dogs, so walk out in style with Dogs in Jumpers!

Freehand Fashion (Chinelo Bally) RRP £20.00 (Publishing 12th November)

Before appearing on the BBC’s ‘Great British Sewing Bee’, Chinelo Bally had never used a sewing pattern. She wowed the judges with her

Redhound for Dogs produces Britishmade dog attire and accessories. Established in 2010, the online shop offers dog jumpers, knitting kits and ‘Sew it Yourself ’ dog coat patterns, alongside bandanas, wax coats, bags and collars. Redhound was awarded Editor’s Choice at their first Country Living Show in 2010, and a Runner Up in the prestigious Country Homes & Interiors Rural Business Awards in 2011. Their unique Dog Jumper Knitting Kits have been stocked by many independent shops as well as well-known stores such as Habitat. They collaborated with Holland & Holland on an exclusive range of bespoke dog coats, and have a successful store on the popular market place notonthehighstreet.com. Photographer:Whippet Snippets

Mollie Makes: How To Knit RRP £16.99 Go from beginner to expert with 20 new projects! Learning how to knit will be a breeze with the stylish projects and extensive techniques section in Mollie Makes How To Knit. The team from Mollie Makes magazine have brought together all their favourite knit designers to share their tips, stories and beautiful projects. Readers will learn the best way to hold their needles, cast on and make their first stitches. The focus is on beginner’s knitting but there are also more complex techniques for seasoned knitters wanting to build up their skill base.

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ability to create stylish, fitted garments using a freehand cutting method that was taught to her by an aunt. In Freehand Fashion, Chinelo lets us in to the secret of how she does it. Using a series of basic garment blocks, she explains how this innovative technique can be used to create a whole wardrobe of fashionable clothes. Based on a traditional Nigerian technique, Chinelo has developed a freehand cutting method that emphasises the individual’s own body measurements. This is a surprisingly simple technique that anyone can learn. No fancy equipment is needed – just a sewing machine, measuring tape, chalk and a good pair of scissors. Full step-by-step instructions are included for a rage of garments, including practical tops, skirts, day dresses and eveningwear. This is an exciting sewing technique that will be brand new to most people, even to experienced dressmakers. There really are no limits, and the beauty of this technique is that it can be applied to any body shape. Photographer: Laura Lewis Chinelo Bally is a Nigerian-born Brit with an overly healthy appetite for fashion and sewing. In 2014, Chinelo appeared on the BBC’s Great British Sewing Bee, where she wowed judges and fellow contestants with her freehand cutting method. She now runs workshops across the UK and also writes a blog where she offers tutorials on freehand cutting projects. She keeps her Twitter and Instagram accounts abuzz with exciting fashion-related projects: @chinelobally

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All the projects are brand new and include trendy knitting projects for the home such as a cable footstool and plant pot holders. There is also a range of stylish accessories to wear with pride – whether it’s a classic pair of socks, a more daring pompom headband or a loopy poncho. There’s so much covered here you’re bound to find your next cast-on. Mollie Makes is the UK’s most successful lifestyle and craft magazine, bringing you the best of contemporary craft. The Mollie Makes team have hand-picked projects from their favourite international designers for each book in the series, which perfectly complements the magazine’s unique editorial style and first class design. Photographer: Rachel Whiting

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Dubrovnik History is alive in every part of Dubrovnik - as a museum city and at the same time a live stage, it represents a perfect cross between the past and the present. Every nook and cranny of this Pearl of the Adriatic, hides a treasure. Dubrovnik is surrounded by 1940 meters of unique medieval ramparts preserved in their original form and open to visitors as the city’s flagship attraction.

rotected by UNESCO World Heritage Status since 1979, Dubrovnik can boast one of the first such listings in Croatia. Its rich history, geographic location, mild climate, traditional hospitality and excellence in tourism make Dubrovnik a must visit destination. It’s a city of culture, as demonstrated by its many festivals, prestigious art happenings, major open air events, excellent artists and athletes, and, last but not least, its architectural treasures.

PLACES TO S TAY Dubrovnik Palace, Conference & Spa www.adriaticluxuryhotels.com Known as the Croatia’s finest Luxury Resort Hotel & Spa, Hotel Dubrovnik Palace Conference and Spa is a luxurious five-star hotel and is a part of the Adriatic Luxury Hotels group. The hotel is a proud holder for 2 years in a row of 2 prestigious tourist World Travel Awards as ‘Croatia’s Leading Hotel and Croatia’s Leading Spa Resort’. Distance to Old Town: 4.5 km Distance to Dubrovnik airport: 22 km

• 308 sumptuous bedrooms and suites, all with a private balcony and spectacular seaview. • VIP wing for guests looking for the ultimate privacy and seclusion. • 5 restaurants: Satu Sushi Bar, Maslina Tavern, Beach Restaurant Ponta, Elafiti Restaurant , Luna Restaurant. • 4 bars: Sunset Lounge, Lanterna Glorijet Bar, Night Club Orlandinjo,Vala Bar • Award-winning Spa & Wellness centre with Comfort Zone Space - Indoor swimming pool and 3 outdoor pools Starfish Kids Club • 8 flexible conference and meeting rooms for up to 1000 delegates • Free wireless internet

• Business Centre with 6 meeting rooms • Ballroom • Wellness and Fitness Centre including indoor swimming pool • 24hr Room Service • Parking Hotel Adriatic www.booking.com/ hoteladriaticdubrovnik Hotel Adriatic is a frequent choice of younger guests, eager to explore Dubrovnik and its entertainment and cultural attractions. Plan the rest of your day over a morning cup of coffee. Get inspired by the possibilities of the Lapad peninsulas unique surroundings.

Hilton Imperial Dubrovnik www.hilton.com/dubrovnik Ideally located, Hilton Imperial Dubrovnik overlooks the ancient city walls and azure Adriatic Sea and is only a minute’s walk from the famous Old Town. The hotel was originally built in 1895 and links two stylish venues of great Mediterranean charm. Although completely renovated in 2005 it has preserved original 19th century architectural features. • 147 luxuriously rooms including 8 suites • Executive Floor and Lounge • The Porat Restaurant and Terrace, The Bar, and The Lounge Bar

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• 158 rooms • Aperitif bar and Restaurant • Fitness centre • Clay tennis court • Concrete and sand beach • Guest services: - Laundry washing and ironing • Internet corner (service is charged) • Rooms for pets - Musical program

flavour which will make you memories to keep.

Camping at Pod Maslinom www.orasac.com The auto-camp “Pod maslinom” is situated 11km to the west of Dubrovnik in the beautiful Mediterranean village, Orašac. The camp spreads over nearly 2500m2 which means 30-35 camping places under the olive trees that gave the name to the camp. A path through the pine trees leads you, in only 3 minutes, to two beaches and a small port. This is a perfect place for an unforgettable holiday.

Island of Lokrum and Elaphiti Islands - If you set to explore Dubrovnik’s vicinity by sea, you will be enraptured by the beauty of its islands.

Cable Car - A panoramic view of Dubrovnik - Glide through the air on a scenic adventure. The ride offers breath taking views of the old town of Dubrovnik, coastal sights with islands and magnificent sunsets.

Trsteno Arboretum - A protected monument of nature. The Arboretum,

which was established on the summer estate of the aristocratic family Gucetic, is famous for its rich and ancient collection of exotic plants in the Renaissance park from 1502. It is difficult to resist a beautiful memento.

SHOPPING Discover Dubrovnik through its typical souvenirs, candied almonds, arancini (candied orange peel), kontonjata (quince cheese), brandies with stories, top quality red and white wines, valuable stone-masons handicrafts, golden olive oil or cold-pressed soaps with laurel and rosemary fragrance. continued over page >> Paul Prescott / Shutterstock.com

PLACES OF INTEREST City Walls - The most recognisable feature which defines the history of Dubrovnik and gives it its characteristics, is its intact city wall with five fortresses that offer an unforgettable view over the city, the island of Lokrum and the open sea. The Old City - Dubrovnik is not built in a way to be admired from the car or coach. This is a place for pedestrians. Every spot and hidden corner has its own unique

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cuisine and excellent steaks which would do credit to the finest Argentine restaurants. In compliance with the wishes and adventurous way of life of younger visitors, fast food restaurants, pizzerias and small restaurants serve simple Dalmatian food and dishes of other cuisines.

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Wine was highly valued in the Dubrovnik Republic, when dessert wines were sold on prescription as medicine. The best-known wines of the Dubrovnik region include red wines of the Pelješac Peninsula, the Plavac Mali variety, white wines - Pošip from

In its squares Dubrovnik offers souvenirs made by the traditional craftsmen who are encouraged and co-financed by the City authorities, such as goldsmiths/filigreemakers, shoe-makers, barbers and leatherworkers. Those who look for elegant and selected designer clothing, ultramodern glasses, Swarovski crystal and hand-made jewellery should visit the stores of Escada, Max Mara, Maria, Borza Group, and Đardin both in the Old City and in the shopping centres situated in the new part of Dubrovnik.

FESTIVALS / EVENTS If you’re visiting in December, the Christmas markets are a must, along with enjoying the traditional street caroling. A street carnival, masked balls and religious ceremonies are held in February for the day of the Patron Saint, St. Blaise and to celebrate Easter, the Dubrovnik Tourist Board spreads out Easter eggs for tourists on the main street and an Easter Fair is organized. Dubrovnik Summer Festival is one of the most prestigious events which sees the city’s palaces, churches and squares transformed into unique stages for dramas and concerts.

SPORT & LEISURE Dubrovnik is a perfect place for those who seek challenges and enjoy an active holiday and entertainment, recreation and sports are available throughout the year. Experience a jeep safari, horse-back ride, hiking and cycling in Konavle valley, a canoe safari, canoe tour on the sea, sail to the Elaphiti Islands or visit a National Park on Mljet Island. 82

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GASTRONOMIC DELIGHT If you wish to experience how a nation really lives, you should go to the market place, the very stomach of the city, and smell, touch and taste the food which people consume every day. Even the finest chefs who visit Dubrovnik and prepare international dishes in some of the city restaurants cannot resist the taste of courgettes from Župa Dubrovacka, cabbage from Konavle and aubergines and tomatoes grown in the fertile and unpolluted surroundings of Dubrovnik. The gastronomy of an area is based on the fruits which grow on ecologicallypreserved land, as is still the case with that in the Dubrovnik environs. The delicacies of Dubrovnik are plain and without many spices. Prepared in a simple way, they are seasoned with plenty of olive oil, which accentuates the juicy taste of natural foods. The gastronomic choice on offer at the Dubrovnik restaurants is heterogeneous, varied and in compliance with the guests wishes. Those visiting local taverns wish to taste authentic national food, good smoked ham, cheese kept in oil, octopus salad, zelena menestra (smoked meat and cabbage stew), sporchi macaroni, fried sprats and grilled sardines.Visitors to top class restaurants, on the other hand, are served the freshest fish from Adriatic depths, shellfish from the unpolluted sea and other delicacies prepared to meet the requests of the choosiest gourmands. Restaurants also serve the popular sushi, which has become an integral part of western cuisine. In the attractive ambience of the Dubrovnik restaurants one can also enjoy French Anton_Ivanov / Shutterstock.com

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FACT: The American production company HBO in 2011 chose Dubrovnik as the location for the filming of award winning hit series “Game of Thrones” due to which the City has become the “King’s Landing”.

the Island of Korcula, the aforementioned Malvasia called nectar of gods, and the wines of the Konavle area with the characteristic flavour of the south.

DUBROVNIK WITH CHILDREN If you have decided to spend your holiday in Dubrovnik with children we recommend you choose your accommodation first. Dubrovnik offers high quality hotels and private accommodation with a range of prices. Depending on your budget, at the price of several hundred kunas per day you can stay in one of the private apartments or at a 3-star hotel, while 4 and 5-star hotels also offer special discounts for children. We recommend accommodation in the areas of Lapad and Babin Kuk, where you can spend a lot of time in the open air, walk by the sea and along the beaches. Go for a stroll in the Bay of Lapad, take coffee, eat ice-cream, pancakes and pizza, and let your children run free on the beach or play in nearby places with various programmes for children. King Zvonimir Promenade in the Bay of Lapad is a pedestrian zone. A walking path by the sea connects it with the green areas in Babin Kuk ideal for playing ball, riding a bicycle, table-tennis and minigolf in the open air. Babin Kuk is just a short walk away from Copacabana Beach, located on the opposite side of the peninsula, where you can rest over coffee and fruit juice, while your children run along the beach and throw pebbles into the sea.

City Café, Snack Bar or Cele Bar while watching your children play at ease with the Dubrovnik kids in front of St Blaises Church. A ten-minute boat ride from the Old City harbour will take you to the nearby Island of Lokrum. This half-day excursion offers swimming in the Dead Sea, walks in the groves with peacocks and exotic rare plants in the botanical garden. Spend a day in Medena Valley on Bosanka above Dubrovnik.Your children may enjoy fresh air, riding ponies and meeting other domestic animals in this small children’s kingdom. If you decide to stay longer, do not miss a visit to Konavle and enjoy horseback riding. On your departure, before your plane takes off, make sure to visit Đurovic Cave situated under the runway at the Dubrovnik Airport. If you come to Dubrovnik in summer, you can do all this after a day spent on the Dubrovnik beaches swimming in the crystal clear sea. If you get bored with your hotel beach, take a whole day excursion to the sandy beaches on the Elafite Islands and in Slano, and pebble beaches in Brsecine and Srebreno. The sea and sun will improve your health in the forthcoming winter, and the photographs of your children swimming for the first time, diving, jumping into the sea, kayaking and pedalling will remind you of your memorable stay in Dubrovnik. Your children will certainly ask you: When are we going to Dubrovnik again?

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