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❂ OUR SIXTH BIRTHDAY ISSUE TO MY AMAZEMENT THIS ISSUE OF FUSE CELEBRATES OUR SIXTH BIRTHDAY. I’m constantly taken aback at just how fast time goes by and I’m pretty sure that’s because we are rarely present in each moment of our days. When you live on autopilot the years can just slip away. Well, that’s how it feels for me at the moment anyway. I’ve written about mindfulness many times, but still personally struggle to remember just how important it is, especially when so much is happening.
Foster carers are desperately needed in Australia and there are some pretty serious myths around what being a carer means and who can be one. I really encourage everyone to read our feature on as it might just change your life forever p15. On the subject of people in need, late last year in an unlikely turn of events, Grace Phelps-Roper, a former member of the Westboro Baptist Church, made a massive statement of solidarity with the LGBT community. Travelling to Jamaica with Planting Peace founder Aaron Jackso, Grace documented the living conditions of LGBT youth who have been forced to live in the sewers of the city of Kingston because of their sexual orientation. Her photographic essay is beautiful, while deeply concerning and poignant p23.
As we’ve been putting this issue together it has been hard not to notice just how mindful some people actually are when it comes to noticing the needs of other people — wonderful people with big hearts, really trying hard to make the world a better place.
You’ll actually find lots of wonderful photos in this issue of FUSE. Late last year we celebrated Pride in Canberra, another fantastic ‘SpringOut’ month filled with community events and diversity. One of those events was the FUSE BAKE OFF, which was a fabulous day filled with cake and icing. This year we raised over $2000 for the AIDS Action Council and A Gender Agenda — a not-for-profit organisation providing support for the Canberra trans and intersex community. You can check out all the photos p39.
This month we chatted to a couple of local Canberra boys who decided two years ago that they would build their family through foster care. A decision that has brought a whole lot of happiness into their lives and the lives of the three wonderful children they care for. There are literally thousands of kids, which are in desperate need of a loving, stable and supportive home.
As with our birthday tradition, I’d like to say a great big thank you to everyone who makes FUSE Magazine possible — contributors, advertisers and of course all our readers. A special mention to Linda Djumlija, who has been doing such a wonderful job as our associate editor over the past couple of years and to my (under-appreciated) partner Christopher, who’s support and love is so vast that sometimes I think I’m looking at the sun.
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INFINITELY POLAR BEAR OPENS 5 MARCH Fresh from his second Oscar nomination, Mark Ruffalo appears in a completely different film to the chilly Foxcatcher. Although also based on a true story — the childhood of writer-director Maya Forbes — Infinitely Polar Bear is a warmhearted testament to parenthood under trying conditions. In this instance, manic depression, which Cameron (Ruffalo) suffers from but which doesn’t prevent him from aiming to be the best dad he can be to his two young daughters. Zoe Saldana (Guardians of the Galaxy ) also stars in this 1970s set dramedy.
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Remember the 1980s robot comedy Short Circuit? South African filmmaker Neill Blomkamp certainly seems to; the spirit of No.5 seemingly alive in the titular robot in the latest sci-fi film from the director of District 9 and Elysium. Chappie is actually a police robot, one of many which in the future keep society in check. But when he is stolen and reprogrammed, Chappie develops the ability to think and feel for himself. Blomkamp favourite Sharlto Copley stars, as does Hugh Jackman in a very unflattering mullet.
INSURGENT OPENS 19 MARCH In the wake of The Hunger Games (which will complete its box-office smashing run in November), the Divergent series hopes to take up the YA franchise mantle (and a greater share of the audience/dollars). Like THG, Divergent is a three-book series that will be turned into four films of which Insurgent is the second instalment. Shailene Woodley is back as Tris, the unlikely heroine leading the revolution in a dystopian future. Kate Winslet is also back as the villain, while Naomi Watts and Octavia Spencer join the cast, bulking up its ‘girl power’ credentials.
AVENGERS: AGE OF ULTRON OPENS 23 APRIL Three years after saving the world — and conquering the international box office — The Avengers have assembled once more to defend the planet, this time from a sentient robot (voiced by James Spader). Buffy creator Joss Whedon is again at the helm, promising as much humour as action when Marvels’ motley crew of Iron man (Robert Downey Jr.), Thor (Chris Hemsworth), Captain America (Chris Evans) and Hulk (Mark Ruffalo) unite to kick butt. Elisabeth Olsen and Aaron TaylorJohnson join proceedings as The Scarlet Witch and Quicksilver respectively.
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LE NOIR THE DARK SIDE OF CIRQUE CANBERRA THEATRE 6 – 10 MAY
This May you are invited to enter the captivating world of Le Noir. A truly unique and electrifying theatrical experience, Le Noir features 20 of the greatest circus performers on the planet, all of whom are award winning athletes and many stars of previous Cirque Du Soleil shows.
For over 30 years Tilley’s has been a gathering place for the gay and lesbian community. Continuing that tradition we would like to invite you to the FUSE Big Gay Champagne Breakfast at Tilley’s. No bookings necessary. The breakfast takes place in the covered outdoor area. The fabulous Champagne is very kindly supplied by Tilley’s.
World class acrobats, specialty acts and comedians are the centre piece of this cutting edge production that will enthral as you are taken on this spell-binding journey.
Le Noir comes to Australia following a sold-out world tour and will, for the first time ever, see the theatre transformed to seat audiences around a custom-built stage, offering a spectacular 360 degree view of the performance and bringing the heart pounding action closer than ever before. THE ORIGINAL CONCEPT BEHIND LE NOIR WAS TO TAKE THE VERY BEST OF THE BEST CIRQUE PERFORMERS IN THE WORLD AND RATHER THAN CREATE A PRODUCTION IN A HUGE AUDITORIUM OR ARENA, PRODUCE AN INTIMATE STYLE SHOW WHERE THE AUDIENCE IS LITERALLY INCHES FROM THE ACTION ON STAGE.
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Le Noir is fast-paced, extremely funny and above all entertaining. With incredible displays of balance, contortion, stamina and aerial artistry, the skills exhibited by the cast of Le Noir is a show that you don’t want to miss. Bookings at the Canberra Theatre Centre, online at canberratheatrecentre.com.au or by calling the box office on 02 6275 2700.
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7% A study by the Pew Research Center has revealed that 7% of LGBT Americans actually oppose marriage equality completely!
MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES MAY INCREASE HIV RISK IN GAY MEN Gay and bisexual men are at increased risk of acquiring HIV if they have mental health problems, according to a new study by The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Overall, 680 men completed the study. Those who reported the most mental health issues were the most likely to become HIV positive by the end of the study. They were also most likely to report having unsafe sex.
SEX PARTY WINS FIRST SEAT IN VICTORIAN PARLIAMENT Five years after forming as a political party, the Australian Sex Party has won its first seat in the Victorian Parliament and last month the party’s national president and long time civil liberties lobbyist, Fiona Patten made her inaugural speech in the Legislative Council. Fiona Patten who has close ties to the LGBTI community, including a family member, has always been a passionate supporter of equality and it rang clear in her inaugural speech. “I will stand together with the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex and questioning community to rid our system of inequality.” “I will fight for better outcomes in the areas of mental and sexual health, and I believe we owe it to our children to take a different approach to sex education and relationship education in our schools. I will continue at every step I can to ensure that everyone, no matter their sexual orientation, gender, race, colour or religion, is able to live the life they choose to live without interference and in freedom.” Patten, who has a gay sister, believes that Australia is ready for same-sex marriage and her party has pledged not to take the pressure off the big guys until marriage equality is a reality. “My sister Kirsty and my brother Ian have been somewhat willing partners on this journey. It is not always easy having a sister who links your surname to a sex party, but they have been loyal siblings, and fortunately they agree with me most of the time.” “Kirsty and her partner Linda have a beautiful daughter, Bonnie, and they have given me wonderful insights into the subtle nature of discrimination,” Patten explains. “I am very happy to report that it is actually a pretty rare thing for them to encounter, but there are still laws that do not treat their relationship equally with others. This I would like to change in Victoria in whatever way I can.” “I find it repugnant that gay couples cannot adopt children and that they cannot marry or even have overseas marriages recognised when they come home. I am heartened that the Andrews government has committed to making changes in this area” she said. 8
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GOOGLE+ INTRODUCES ‘INFINITE’ GENDER OPTIONS Google+ is introducing “infinite” ways to define gender, letting users describe themselves using whichever terms they feel comfortable with rather than relying on the ternary “Male,” “Female,” or “Other” system. “Now the gender field on your profile will contain four entries, ‘Male,’ ‘Female,’ ‘Decline to state,’ and ‘Custom’,” writes Google software engineer Rachel Bennett. “When ‘Custom’ is selected, a freeform text field and a pronoun field will appear. Plus you can still limit who can see your gender, just like you can now.”
QUOTE : “If hearing that the CEO of Apple is gay can help someone struggling to come to terms with who he or she is, or bring comfort to anyone who feels alone, or inspire people to insist on their equality, then it’s worth the trade-off with my own privacy.” Tim Cook, CEO of Apple.
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29% The number of LGBTI Americans that say they have been made to feel unwelcome in a place of worship. 21% say they have been treated unfairly by an employer and 58% say they’ve been the target of slurs.
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LGBT ATTITUDES, EXPERIENCES IN CHANGING TIMES A recent survey of lesbian, gay and bisexual Americans by the Pew Research Centre pewsocialtrends.org has found that 12 is the median age at which LGBT people first felt they might be something other than heterosexual. For those who say they now know for sure that they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, that realisation came at a median age of 17.
CHINESE COURT RULES ‘GAY CURE’ TREATMENTS ILLEGAL A Beijing court has ruled in favour of a gay man in a case against a “gay-straight conversion” clinic, an unprecedented legal judgment in a country where most people consider homosexuality deeply taboo.
Among those who have shared this information with a family member or close friend, 20 is the median age at which they first did so. Gay men report having reached all of these coming out milestones somewhat earlier than lesbians and bisexuals. The general LGBT population was found to be distinctive in many ways beyond sexual orientation. Compared with the general public, Pew Research LGBT survey respondents are more liberal, more Democratic, less religious, less happy with their lives, and more satisfied with the general direction of the country. On average, they are younger than the general public. Their family incomes are lower, which may be related to their relative youth and the smaller size of their households. They are also more likely to perceive discrimination not just against themselves but also against other groups with a legacy of discrimination. An overwhelming share of America’s LGBT adults (92%) say society has become more accepting of them in the past decade and an equal number expect it to grow even more accepting in the decade ahead. They attribute the changes to a variety of factors, from people knowing and interacting with someone who is LGBT, to advocacy on their behalf by high-profile public figures, to LGBT adults raising families.
BOTTOMS UP STEVE GRAND Gay singer-songwriter and model Steve Grand, who shot to viral fame last year with his smash single “All-American Boy,” will release his hotly-anticipated debut album on 24 March, which will feature 12 all new original songs! Head to stevegrand.com or iTunes to grab a copy of the album.
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The “Accelerating Acceptance” report, which surveyed 4,000 people who identified as heterosexual, has found that 36 percent of respondents were uncomfortable seeing a gay couple hold hands in public, while 34 percent said they would be uncomfortable attending a same-sex wedding.
In a recent study, The Pew Research Center found that 49% of LGBT people believe equality can be achieved while maintaining a distinct LGBT culture, with 49% saying the community needed to become part of mainstream institutions like marriage.
43 percent said they would feel uncomfortable bringing their child to a same-sex wedding, and 32 percent said they would feel uncomfortable learning that a family member identified as LGBT.
According to the World Population Counter, we have reached a scary milestone. For the first time ever, there are now more active mobile devices on the planet than people. There are currently around 7.2 billion humans on the planet and that figure is growing by about two people per second. But head over to the counter of active mobile connections and you’ll see that there’s currently over 7.2 billion SIM cards operating in the world right now, and that figure is growing over five times faster than the population counter.
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42% Of the estimated 100,000+ homeless people in Australia, a staggering 42% are young people aged between 12-25.
LGBTI SCHOOL PLANNED IN UK A school catering to only lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender young people could be open within three years. The backers say it would provide a safe haven from discrimination.
A RISING NUMBER OF HOMELESS GAY TEENS ARE BEING ALIENATED AND OUTCAST BY RELIGIOUS FAMILIES A staggering 42% of homeless people are aged between 12-25. Alarmingly many have had to leave, or are forced to leave, repressive or violent home lives because of their sexuality or gender identity. Late last year a story about Tim, a 16 year old boy kicked out of his home by his religious parents for being gay, hit the press. The story sent shock waves throughout the community with many people asking themselves does this really happen in Australia? Sadly the answer to that question is yes! While living on the streets, Tim encountered the Wesley Mission and The Salvation Army, however because of Tim’s circumstances and sexuality he was reluctant to accept their help. In an interview with News Limited, he said “It was awkward because they asked me why I was on the streets and I didn’t know what to say. They’re a religious organisation and I didn’t want to hear what they’d say, so I just left.” He also commented that he had meet other LGBTI young people who also avoid homeless organisations because they suspect that beneath the support offered is the view that you deserve “endless punishment”, simply because they are gay. “I guess knowing that their belief system is religious kind of scares me away,” Tim said. The Salvation Army works hard to help street kids, however they are also very clear that they believe that God calls for ”the endless punishment of the wicked”. In 2012, The Salvation Army’s Major Craib went on gay radio and confirmed that it was their belief that gay people should die. It’s important to note that there is a lot of good work being done by these Christian based organisations, nonetheless stigma remains a significant barrier for young homeless LGBTI people struggling to overcome homophobia, especially when that comes from the very people charged with helping them. There seems to be a great need for government funding to be spread around more and create some space for more secular organisations. If anyone you know is facing difficulties with their sexuality, call the Gay and Lesbian Switchboard on 1800 184 527 or visit Minus18.org.au If you are struggling to find somewhere to live, or experiencing financial, mental health or other difficulties, visit ReachOut.com.au 10
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The school is to be based in Manchester and will offer 40 full time places and 20 part time places for students who wish to also attend a mainstream state school. According to the school’s founders, the need to open the institution was “about saving lives” and helping vulnerable young people who would be at risk at an ordinary state school. “Despite the laws that claim to protect gay people from homophobic bullying, the truth is that in schools especially, bullying is still incredibly common and causes young people to feel isolated and alienated, which often leads to truanting and, in the worst-case scenarios, to suicide,” Amelia Lee, the strategic director for LGBTI North West, told the UK Guardian. “This is not about making a little, safe enclave away from the real world: we work with 9,000 mainstream pupils and 1,000 teachers a year to help educate them about homosexuality. In addition, the support this new school will offer to part-time pupils could happen in their mainstream school, if that’s what they want,” she added. QUOTE: Safe Schools Coalition ACT “I am aware that schools continue to face challenges in relation to increasing numbers of young LGBTI students who are coming out at school in numbers not seen in previous years. The (ACT) Government supports the need for schools to provide safe, inclusive and empowering environments for all students throughout their school life. The Safe Schools Coalition ACT is an important initiative to facilitate this.” Katy Gallagher MLA — ACT Minister for Health November 2014
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WHILE LIFE DOES GETS BETTER FOR MILLIONS OF LGBTI KIDS, THE NUMBER OF HOMELESS TEENS — MANY CAST OUT BY THEIR FAMILIES — QUIETLY KEEPS GROWING
DOES IT GET BETTER? LGBTI youth study in the US has revealed that it really ‘Does Get Better’. Queer youth who face bullying and abuse are often told that “It gets better” and it appears new research now supports that claim. In a multi-year study, researchers found that being the victim of bullying and other abuse was linked to psychological distress, but both distress and victimisation decreased as the adolescents grew up. “I think we should be very happy that it does get better, but I think it’s important not to forget victimisation is important and happens very early,” said Michelle Birkett, the study’s lead author. “It’s not good enough to just wait. It should be tackled early on so kids don’t have to experience it... I want it to get better sooner”. LGBTI youth are at increased risk of being bullied. For example, in a survey of 10,000 teens by the Human Rights Campaign, they were twice as likely as their peers to report being physically assaulted at school. In 2010, columnist and author Dan Savage created the “It Gets Better Project” in response to growing attention to bullying and suicide among LGBTI youth. According to the project’s website itgetsbetter.org, more than 50,000 videos appeared online of people sharing the message “It Gets Better,” along with personal stories. Many videos featured well-known figures, including U.S. President Barack Obama and singer Adam Lambert. As reported in the Journal of Adolescent Health, researchers used data from 231 LGBTI young men and women whose ages ranged from 12 to 16. The teens were assessed six times over an average of three and a half years beginning in 2007 or 2008. They rated the amount of bullying or victimisation they experienced in the past six months on a scale of 0 to 3, with 0 being never and 3 being three or more times. At age 16, their average victimisation score was 38%, compared to 14% by age 24.
They also rated their psychological distress on a scale of 0 to 4, with 0 being “not at all” and 4 meaning “always”. On average, the distress scores were 84% at age 16 however by age 24, the average score fell to 54%. Males, some racial and ethnic minorities and transgender individuals reported greater victimisation. The researchers found that victimisation was indeed linked with psychological distress, which suggests that decreasing victimisation across childhood and adolescence may decrease distress in those populations too. The study also found that support from family members, remained relatively stable across adolescence. While that support provided some immediate relief for psychological distress, there was no link between the amount of support the young person got and later distress. “Family support is important, but it doesn’t really protect against the negative effect of bullying and victimisation. We need to go into schools where the bullying is happening and eliminate the bullying,” said Brian Mustanski, the study’s senior author. As Michelle Birkett, the study’s lead author said “It needs to get better sooner!” NEWS&POLITICS > YOUTH
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Talking to your kids about puberty, relationships and sexuality can be challenging REWARDING Having conversations about puberty, relationships and sexuality with your kids can yield many benefits: positive connection, being the ‘askable adult’ in their lives, and even learning yourself! The positive effects for your child include not only an understanding of their bodies and health, but also opportunities to learn, grow and build skills for healthy relationships throughout their life. Talking in childhood without guilt or embarrassment about things like body parts and how they work, and respectful peer relationships, sets the stage for talking later about puberty, sexuality, intimate relationships and sexual health.
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Children and young people value their parents’ perspective on these matters, but will also seek information from other trusted sources. Frank and open conversations can also help young people to value themselves and diversity in their community, as well as enabling them to recognise and prevent or report abuse and exploitation. SHFPACT helps guide parents and carers (children’s primary sexuality educators) who would like to start having these conversations with their kids by providing resources for parents/carers and children using an evidence based approach to comprehensive relationships education.
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MARK AND LIAM ARE FOSTER CARERS WITH BARNARDOS AUSTRALIA. THEY ARE CURRENTLY CARING FOR 3 CHILDREN UNDER 5 YEARS OF AGE. HERE IS THEIR STORY. “We’ve been together for eight and a half years and have been foster carers for a little over two years. Since 2012, we have provided both crisis and long term foster care with Barnardos.” We really wanted to be parents but we thought we’d exhausted all the avenues. We’d looked into co-parenting with female friends and even surrogacy, but then we decided to look into fostering.
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Fostering had been brought to our attention years earlier, as we recall having foster children at school with us and one of our friends used to work for Barnardos and would encourage us to help out needy kids.
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We went along to a Barnardos information night and it just confirmed our decision, so we completed all the paperwork and submitted it that night. This included a short life history of each of us. The application process was relatively easy and included completing a Certificate IV in positive parenting and caring for needy children, which we attended one night per week over a two month period, and we spent two Sundays at the course. We then went through eight rounds of interviews with Barnardos, totalling 20 hours. Finally we received the news – we had been accepted as foster carers! All this took less than six months. It was so wonderful when our first foster child came to stay with us. It was also a little scary as well. We had never parented before and here we were looking after another person’s child, particularly one who hadn’t spent the first few months of his life learning to trust us. We were concerned that the child may not bond with us. However, on the day we met him, he just grabbed one of our legs and we knew there was something there to work with.
DID YOU KNOW THAT NOT ALL FOSTER CARE IS FULL-TIME? SOMETIMES FOSTER CARE IS ONLY REQUIRED ON WEEKENDS, SOME FOR TWO MONTHS, SOME FOR TWO YEARS AND SOME LONGER.
About six months later, we took on two siblings as a crisis placement, and this has now become long term. So, now we have three children in our long-term care or until they are 18 years old. We believe it is very important these children have stability in our home and at the same time maintain their identities by keeping some contact with their biological roots. Ideally, we would love to adopt all three of the children and we have started the process to adopt, or at least to gain ‘Enduring Parenting Responsibility’ for the first child who came into our care. This process typically takes up to a couple of years. The biggest change we’ve seen in the children is their increased sense of security and comfort in their living surrounds and their growing bonds with us. One of them in particular is much happier now going on reports from those who have known him for most of his life. They have expressed how much more outgoing and interactive he is compared to what he was like before coming into our care. It’s great to see a regular smile now on all three faces.
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I’m thinking of becoming a foster carer. Are you crazy??? Aren’t all Foster kids damaged and dangerous? What? Kids are in foster care because their parents made mistakes, not the children. Most have been abused or neglected, but they’re kids, not damaged goods! Well, you know you won’t get to keep the child. They always go back to the family. The goal of foster care is to heal biological families, but that’s not always possible. When it doesn’t happen, if there are no other family members suitable to care for the child, the foster parents are usually the first choice for permanent care, and even adoption. MORE THAN 40,000 AUSTRALIAN CHILDREN RELY ON FOSTER CARE AND EVERY YEAR THIS NUMBER CONTINUES TO INCREASE. FUSEMAGAZINE.COM.AU
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Another big change has been in their general health status. All three came to us requiring some type of additional health care and we really enjoy watching them grow and exploring their potential. You definitely need to have patience and understanding to be a foster carer. Not just with the children themselves but also with people and circumstances that you might not normally have to deal with. However, all this is worth it every time you see your child smile. Without doubt, the best part of being a foster carer is the children. No matter what pressures you have in life, how you are feeling or any other type of negativity you experience in your day, when you come home to great big smiles, squeals of delight and hugs from your foster child, the world is turned right again. Our friends and family are all very supportive. Our brothers and sisters have started to call themselves uncles and aunties to the children, our parents are Nan and Pop and our friends are regularly buying them new clothes and toys. Out in the general community most people greet the news with a little bit of curiosity (what are you both called? How long do you have them for? etc.) and we generally receive warm comments. Barnardos also provide a great deal of support. One of the reasons we chose to foster with this organisation is their program of carer support is more comprehensive than other agencies in Canberra. 18
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BARNARDOS AUSTRALIA FINDS SAFE HOMES FOR CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE AT RISK OF ABUSE AND NEGLECT. THEY ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR FOSTER CARERS.
We have a case worker who we speak with at least once a week in relation to the children; a foster care support worker who we talk to about parenting and the unique challenges that foster care brings; and an agency psychologist who we see four times a year to discuss any issues that may be affecting us, from children’s behaviour to our own stress levels. We also receive financial and medical support. Our advice to people in the gay community who are thinking about fostering is – DO IT! Look up the website, pick up the phone or go into the Barnardos office in Downer and start inquiring. You can always start as a respite carer where you have a child in your care for just one weekend a month and you may decide this is the perfect fit for your lifestyle. Or you may want to help children in crisis on a short-term basis or for the long-term. There are many different options for you to be involved with fostering children. Ultimately, no matter what avenue of foster care you choose, you are changing the life of a child for the better.” YOU CAN HELP! Barnardos find safe homes for abused children and young people, work with families to prevent abuse and use their knowledge to improve the future of disadvantaged Australian children. If you would like to know more about being a foster carer with Barnardos call 02 6228 9500 or visit barnardos.org.au/wecare FUSEMAGAZINE.COM.AU
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LOOKING AFTER YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR FRIENDS! Research tells us that young LGBTI people experience high rates of victimisation and abuse, and are more likely to experience depressive symptoms than heterosexual young people. We also know that young LGBTI people are at increased risk of harming themselves; in Australia, more than one in three young LGBTI people reported that they had thought about harming themselves, or had actually done so, in response to homophobic experiences. Here at headspace Canberra we recognise that not all LGBTI people face the same challenges in their lives, however some common negative experiences have been reported: Feeling ‘different’ from other people.
Feeling pressure to deny or change your sexuality.
Experiencing bullying, including verbal and physical abuse. Having difficulty fitting in and coping at school.
Feeling worried about ‘coming out’ to friends and family members and the possibility of being rejected or ridiculed. Feeling unsupported or misunderstood by family or friends.
Being discriminated against in the workplace.
Such pressures can be stressful and overwhelming, especially when combined with the usual challenges faced by young people such as managing school or university, finding a job and forming relationships. Discrimination, abuse and marginalisation resulting from sexuality or gender identity can make it difficult to fully enjoy life and to maintain a sense of good mental health and wellbeing. It can also make it difficult to seek help when problems arise and to know where to turn for help and support.
WHEN DOES MENTAL HEALTH BECOME A PROBLEM? It’s normal to experience some of these changes from time to time. However, if you notice changes in yourself or in a friend that are lasting longer than usual, particularly those affecting most areas of life, or are preventing you or them from doing things you usually enjoy, then it might be worth seeking some support. Getting help early can reduce the impact of the problem, and decrease the chances of having more serious problems in the future.
Changes in mood, such as feeling sadder or more anxious than usual.
CHANGES THAT MIGHT INDICATE PROBLEMS WITH MENTAL HEALTH INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING >
Changes in appetite and sleep patterns – sleeping or eating more or less than usual, or rapidly losing or gaining weight.
Changes in coping, such as feeling overwhelmed and tired of life.
Changes in relationships. For example falling out with friends or partners, or conflict with family members.
Changes in behaviour such as being more or less talkative, or more aggressive, withdrawal from usual friendships or activities.
WHAT CAN YOU DO? headspace Canberra supports young people deal with the problems that life throws up. We assist with anything that troubles young people – we often see people struggling with difficulties at school, uni or work, having problems with family, drinking too much or using too many drugs, relationship problems as well as issues related to sexuality and gender identity. If you are worried about your mental health or that of a friend or family member, please don’t hesitate to contact headspace Canberra, your GP or another mental health support service. If you or a person you know says they are thinking of suicide or harming themselves, or if you or anyone else is worried about their safety, then it’s vital to seek immediate help. Contact your local mental health service or clinic, Crisis Assessment and Treatment Team or hospital emergency department, and develop a plan with the person for keeping them safe until they can be seen by a mental health worker. For more information, visit us at headspace.org.au/canberra
Acknowledgements Feeling Queer and Blue: A review of the literature on depression and related issues gay, lesbian, bisexual and other homosexually active people. Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and Society, LaTrobe University, 2008 Writing Themselves in 3: The third national study on the sexual health and wellbeing of same sex attracted and gender questioning young people. Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and Society, LaTrobe University, 2010
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LATE LAST YEAR IN AN UNLIKELY TURN OF EVENTS, GRACE PHELPS-ROPER A FORMER MEMBER OF THE WESTBORO BAPTIST CHURCH MADE A MASSIVE STATEMENT OF SOLIDARITY WITH THE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITY. Travelling with Planting Peace founder Aaron Jackson to Jamaica, Grace documented the living conditions of LGBT youth who have been forced to live in the sewers of the city of Kingston because of their sexual orientation. Jamaica is widely known as one of the most homophobic countries in the world and these powerful images capture the reality of these young people’s lives in a heart breaking and poignant way.
Planting Peace is a non-profit humanitarian organisation founded for the purpose of “spreading peace in a hurting world”. The organisation specialises in diverse global causes including orphanages in Haiti and India, international deworming efforts, rainforest preservation, and anti-bullying programs. In March 2013, Planting Peace president Aaron Jackson gained international attention when they created the Equality House, a rainbow coloured home located directly across the street from Westboro Baptist Church. Westboro is known throughout the world for its intimidating tactics of protesting (or threatening to protest) what they refer to as America’s pro-gay, anti-God agenda, at gay pride parades, soldier funerals and other events like memorial services.
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Until only recently, Grace Phelps-Roper was standing shoulder to shoulder with her fellow church members holding signs proclaiming that ‘God Hates Fags’, ’Soldiers Die For Fag Marriage’ and ‘Fags Die, God Laughs’ just to name a few. However in 2013 in an act of courage and love, Grace followed two other family members, along with her sister Megan, and decided to leave the controversial family-run church group. Apologising for the ‘hurt’ they caused, they have now been cut off from their family.
In an interview with the Huffington Post Grace stated “I spent twenty years learning why God hates gays, preaching that they’re ‘beasts’ and ‘depraved,’ and protesting anyone who dared to speak up for them. When I heard about the young people living in Jamaican sewers because their parents kicked them out for being gay, my heart hurt for them. I know what that’s like, being rejected by your family for not going along with their beliefs. There’s an irony there that I couldn’t ignore; that I share a fate with the very people I was taught to dehumanise so fiercely. I wanted to meet them, to see their plight for myself, and help tell the world their story.”
Living in such close quarters in the “gully” has made close friends of the sewer’s inhabitants. Waking up to another day without home or family can be overwhelming, which makes these friends especially thankful for each other. Amongst all the upheaval maintaining the daily rituals of life is important, though the environment in which they take place has changed so dramatically.
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The abuse faced by members of Jamaica’s LGBT community leaves both physical and emotional scars. Constant verbal attacks, threats of physical violence, and the discomfort of sewer life make sleep difficult.
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Homophobia is rampant in Jamaican culture and LGBT youth are often disowned by their parents and cast out of their homes, with no-where to go. Most have no choice but to turn to the sewers of which are dirty, damp and strewn with trash. Currently around forty teens and young adults have ended up in this sewer, seeking refuge from the violence and persecution they face daily on the streets of Kingston. There is little comfort and even less privacy for those who escape to live underground. Though it provides some safety from would-be attackers, the sewer is a source of many other hazards.
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Though it has cost them dearly, these young people refuse to hide who they are to accommodate the attitudes of their fellow citizens.
LGBT YOUTH LONG FOR ACCEPTANCE FROM THEIR COMMUNITY HOWEVER FEAR THAT REALITY MAY NEVER COME TO JAMAICAN STREETS BECAUSE OF THE COUNTRY’S LONG HISTORY OF HOMOPHOBIA.
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Jamaica is a hostile country for LGBT people. Over the past few years there have been increasing numbers of homophobic related murders and mob attacks. Activists are not entirely sure what has caused the surge in violence, though it may be due in part to the debate over possibly repealing the country’s colonial-era sodomy law, an idea that Prime Minister Portia Simpson-Miller floated during her election campaign. Her government has not yet taken any action on the proposal, however pro-family groups have mounted a campaign to ensure it never does. In response to the impact that the trip made on Grace and Aaron and the dire need for support in Jamaica, Planting Peace asks you to join them in raising money to help provide meals to the LGBT youth in Kingston.
YOU CAN HELP MAKE A DIFFERENCE! If you would like to help Planting Peace provide food and support to the LGBT youth in Jamaica, please donate at: crowdrise.com/feedlgbtjamaica
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~ RELATIONSHIPS ~ LOVERS THAT DEFINE YOUR LIFE
ONLY WHEN WE CHANGE OUR THINKING, CAN WE CHANGE OUR FUTURE. Everyone knows that in high school, people date, fall in love and get their hearts broken. There is nothing anybody can do to stop these things from happening. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the tools and strategies for engaging in healthy relationships could be taught early in life? As we mature we have so many different choices for how to take part in a love relationship. We can choose to date casually or exclusively, to try an open relationship, a polyamorous relationship or settle down with one person and try the happily-ever-after notion. Most of us are allured by the attractive notion that effortless relationships exist. We would like to believe that our most intimate relationships are unconditional and strong enough to withstand whatever may come. When reflecting on my relationships, both past and present, I find it a useful exercise to classify each relationship in terms of their purpose, my own personal development and desires. Every relationship serves a unique and necessary function to our improvement and evolution. Don’t be concerned I am not going to give you any relationship advice, however I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately and what resonates with me most is the concept of 4 types of love relationships. These are: 1. TRANSITORY RELATIONSHIPS A transitory relationship acts as a bridge between two phases. It can enact change or ease the burden of major life shifts. Transitory relationships are almost always temporary, but serve a great purpose in gently pushing a person from one level of self-transformation to the next.
2. KARMIC RELATIONSHIPS Whether you believe in Karma or not, these relationships always entail some form of “action” that must play out within the couple, i.e. the breaking of some pattern or cycle of recurring situations. Karmic relationships are enriching experiences that can be progressive, elevating and fulfilling, whether temporary or for the long term. 3. COMPROMISE RELATIONSHIPS A compromise relationship occurs when two people come together based on an arrangement of comfort, such as financial or emotional stability. Many relationships that are meant to end continue on because both partners have become very used to each other and find it difficult to part ways. 4. SOULFUL RELATIONSHIPS A soulful relationship denotes a soulmate bond reaching far deeper than the physical or emotional level. Soulmate relationships are far and few but when they do occur they often last the test of time. This kind of relationship is marked by an intense connection between two people, one that may even be difficult to convey into words. Love relationships play a critical role in our lives. Perhaps the most difficult aspect lies in detangling ourselves from the desire and the emotion to reveal the core functions of our relationships so that whatever the type of relationship we have it is healthy. So no advice from me, just something to reflect on. Philippa Moss is the Executive Director of The AIDS Action Council of the ACT
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Daniel Radcliffe continues to pursue surprisingly challenging and off-beat projects in his post-Harry Potter career and Horns may be the most off-beat yet. After the mysterious death of his girlfriend, Ig Perrish (Radcliffe) awakens one day to find he has grown a pair of horns. He’s also developed some supernatural powers, all of which do not help to dispel small town fears that not only is Ig a killer but he may indeed be the Devil. Alexandre Aja’s film is based on a novel by Joe Hill, the son of horror master Stephen King.
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In the first part of 2015, I reached a milestone in that I am closer to age 50 than I am to age 20 (yes, I am a finance geek!). As I reflected on this, it got me thinking about what tips I would have given to my younger self. So here they are, my top four money goals to achieve before age 40.
GOAL 1
GET YOUR CASH FLOW IN ORDER AND LIMIT USE OF CREDIT CARDS When I first started working, I was paid weekly via cash in an envelope from the office manager of the small business I was working for. When I was at University I also ‘signed up’ for my first ever credit card with a $500 limit. Time and our use of cash money have changed. We often don’t even touch the stuff (cash money) anymore however, over the years I have seen credit cards get many of my clients into trouble. I would tell my younger self not to sign up for that credit card (it doesn’t help your credit rating) and to get a solid cash flow foundation in place from day one of working so I saved more early on. Check out the great resources online at moneysmart.gov.au including some smart phone budget tracking apps.
GOAL 2
TAKE NOTICE OF YOUR SUPERANNUATION One of the great benefits of working in Australia is our retirement savings. If you were given a 9.5% pay rise today you would most likely plan to do something with that money. Superannuation is a minimum of 9.5% of your salary being paid forward to help fund your retirement. When your annual statement arrives, check it out! Know what fund you are in and what fees you are paying. If you have more than one fund, get advice to consolidate them into one which can save you in fees and as the adverts say “make a lifetime of a difference”. Once you are 40, you are closer to age 60 (the time you can access your super) then you are to age 20 so do some research and find the best superannuation fund that suits your needs!
Money at the end of the day is a means to an end. It provides option and opportunity. If you can get into the property or share markets at a young age, over time you will build up more equity and in turn have more option and thus more opportunity. When I first started working, I setup a share portfolio as I didn’t have enough money to buy a property. This gave me the step up I needed to purchase my first property and enabled me to continue building up equity (between the property and shares) providing me with the opportunity to set up my own business. This is what I would have advised my younger self to do much sooner. Investing won’t always be easy however if you educate yourself and get empowered, it will give you flexibility to explore other options and opportunities in life.
GOAL 4
CHECK YOUR INSURANCES AND HAVE A PLAN Hopefully your life is uneventful when it comes to health issues or not being able to work for a long period of time. Insurances can provide that protection for you and the younger you are the cheaper the premium and less potential for health concerns which insurance companies sometimes do no provide protection for. You can also level the premium the younger you are and get significant savings over a 10-year period. If you have insurances within superannuation this can also be a great way to structure things however if you are like me and 14 and 9 months when you started working check the super policy and what insurance cover you have. This may not be required until you are working full time and can eat away your superannuation savings very quickly. If you need assistance in exploring these further talk to a professional but most importantly start your journey to being free around your money and creating wealth with understanding.
Scott Malcolm is Director of Money Mechanics a fee-for-service business who are authorised to provide financial advice through PATRON Financial Advice AFSL 307379. For more information email scott@money-mechanics.com.au or call 1300 772 643. The information provided in this article is of a general nature only. It has been prepared without taking into account your objectives, financial situation or needs. Before acting on this information, you should consider its appropriateness having regard to your own financial goals, objectives and personal circumstances.
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The Safe Schools Coalition ACT program is proudly delivered by Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT in partnership with local community organisations for free and aims to support the whole school community. SHFPACT executive director, Tim Bavinton, told FUSE Magazine, “We are proud of the local partnership of health and community services that have come together to support the roll out of the Safe Schools Coalition ACT, and that this program focuses not just on creating safe school environments, but truly inclusive communities where sexuality, sex and gender diversity is welcome and celebrated. We are proud to be following in the steps of Safe Schools Coalition Victoria and alongside our other national partners around the country. Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT, with its track record in professional development, health promotion, and sexuality and relationships education in school communities is well placed to lead this work in the ACT.�
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Olivia Noto and Sally Richardson, Safe Schools Coalition Australia; Colleen Matheson, Principal Lyneham High School; Mr Tim Bavinton, Executive Officer Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT; Jan Owen, CEO Foundation for Young Australians; students from the Youth Action Council in ACT and Ms Diane Joseph, Director General, ACT Education and Training Directorate.
On Tuesday the 17th of February Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT held their official launch of Safe Schools Coalition ACT at Lyneham High School.
Last month we celebrated the official launch of Safe Schools Coalition ACT (SSCACT). The launch event was held at Lyneham High School (ACT) and it was a terrific celebration for the start of this fantastic new program. It was great to see so many people from such a wide range of organisations taking part in the launch of this important initiative. The youth focus of the SSCACT program was reflected by the active role young people took in the event as they shared their experiences and showcased their talents. SSCACT is part of a national coalition dedicated to making schools safer and more inclusive for same-sex attracted, intersex and gender diverse young people. SSCACT is creating change to ensure that every student and every teacher in every school in the ACT has access to a safe and inclusive learning environment. A school can join the coalition any time. Joining Safe Schools Coalition ACT is both a statement and a commitment. When a school joins SSCACT, it is committing itself to building an environment that is free from all bullying and a place that is safe and inclusive for everyone attending the school. In exchange, SSCACT provides professional development for teachers and staff, plus resources, advice and support to help build connective and supportive spaces for students now and in the future.
Safe Schools Coalition ACT member schools have access to a broad range of tools, resources and support that suit the unique needs, concerns and capacity of your school’s community. These services aim to improve safety and inclusivity for samesex attracted, intersex and gender diverse students, their families and teachers, while taking a zero-tolerance approach to homophobia and transphobia in the school community. The Safe Schools Coalition ACT program is delivered by Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT (SHFPACT) in partnership with local community organisations for free and aims to support the whole school community. Schools from all education sectors are encouraged to join – government, independent and Catholic schools. SSCACT has heaps of resources and supports for young people who want to create positive change in their schools and might want support to do so. Students can organise activities, events and groups such as Diversity alliances (gay-straight alliances) in schools to actively challenge homophobia and transphobia. By doing so, they can create the kind of school culture that everyone wants — one that’s positive and supportive.
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Change is coming The Safe Schools Coalition is dedicated to making schools safer and more inclusive for same sex attracted, intersex and gender diverse young people. We are creating change to ensure that every student and every teacher in every school has access to a safe and inclusive learning environment. If you would like your school to be part of the Safe Schools Coalition it’s free. By joining us, you are committing to building a school that is free from homophobic and transphobic bullying, that’s safe and inclusive for all students and staff. For more information contact Erin Smith on 6163 3438 or email esmith@shfpact.org.au Delivered by
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YOUR HOROSCOPE MARCH & APRIL 2015
By Melisa Sandfort
Over the next couple of months we’re all going to have to be more patient and work on letting go of the things we just can’t control. During March, Saturn is going into retrograde and that means we may have to deal with some issues with authority, perhaps at work or home. Pluto and Jupiter will also be retrograding in April and some plans might be affected; but with a little patience and the help of the Sun, you should be able to get everything back on track.
Aquarius
January 21 – February 18 Lucky Aquarius, March is going to bring fabulous news! Not only could your financial status improve but your academic or professional situation may also receive some positive changes. Tip: With the autumn weather upon us, be sure to take care of your health.
Taurus
April 21 – May 21 Stop trying to control everything, it actually makes things worse! You really need to let go more than you do. During March, the Universe is going to give you a nice surprise regarding your family. Tip: Eat healthier; show your body that you love it and you’ll be rewarded!
Leo
July 23 – August 23 You might feel that your sex life needs some adjustments or revitalising but try not to over think it. Let Saturn guide you and you’ll know what to do. Tip: Talk to your boss, associate or partner about those innovative ideas that have been rattling around in your head of late.
Scorpio
October 24 – November 22 Recent issues at work may have you concerned however, try not to worry as by the middle of March everything is going to fall into place again. This anxiety is only temporary. Tip: To avoid stress where you can. Take some time for yourself, exercise and try meditating.
Pisces
February 19 – March 20 Around the middle March you may have an argument at, or regarding, work. Try to avoid over-reacting or getting angry, just take a deep breath and let it go. Tip: Spend some quality time with the people you love. The first week of April is a good time for this.
Gemini
May 22 – June 21 March is going to be a month full of new fabulous things! Try focusing on the positive things happening in your life rather than worrying about the stuff you haven’t done yet. Tip: If you’re looking for love, remember that what you are seeking is also seeking you.
Virgo
August 24 – September 23 Your academic or professional life looks like it is getting better as time progresses but remember, it is always good to let things flow instead of trying to make everything happen your way. Tip: Love and open communication are the tools you need to make life better.
Sagittarius
November 23 – December 22 You might get some unexpected family or friends visiting. Don’t worry, everything is going to be okay, just try to be a good host even if you don’t really like the visitors! Tip: It’s time to spice things up in the bedroom. Remember it’s is always fun to try new things and be adventurous.
Aries
March 21 – April 20 It looks like positive things are coming your way. By the end of March you may have received some good news regarding a goal or something close to your heart. Tip: Listen carefully and with an open mind to what people have to say to avoid getting into any arguments.
Cancer
June 22 – July 22 It’s the perfect time to get creative when it comes to romance, love and sex. Try doing new things and stop being afraid of not having everything under control all the time. Let go. Tip: Take some time off to recharge those batteries. Importantly, do what you like to do.
Libra
September 24 – October 23 These next two months are going to be really important. You might need to decide whether your financial situation is good the way it is or if you need to make some changes. Tip: Remember, the people around you are important. Love and cherish them always.
Capricorn
December 23 – January 20 Something important needs to be done! Try to do it calmly and you will see that the Universe will put everything in its place by the end of the month. Tip: Take care of your finances. If you have some extra money, save it as you might need it for that rainy day. STARGAZER
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AIDS Action Council The AIDS Action Council provides information, support and services. aidsaction.org.au A Gender Agenda A resource for transgender, intersex, gender queer and gender variant people. genderrights.org.au ACTQueer A free email list for LGBTI people in Canberra and surrounding region. groups.yahoo.com/group/actqueer Bit Bent Youth Group Meet other young people, get support or just hang out. Mondays at Belconnen Youth Centre 6pm–8pm and Thursdays at the Woden Youth Centre 5pm–6.30pm. Email: bit_bent@hotmail.com Canberra Gay & Lesbian QWIRE Want to be involved with Canberra’s own gay and lesbian choir? Singers and non-singers encouraged. More info: canberraqwire.org.au
Cube Nightclub Canberra’s Premier Gay and Lesbian (LGBTIQ) Dance Venue. Historically, Cube is been renowned within the Canberra gay community for its mellow, liberating environment and loving atmosphere. Thurs 9pm-5am • Fri 9pm-5am Sat 10pm-5am • Sun 10pm-late 33 Petrie Plaza Civic, Canberra City. cubenightclub.com.au Diversity ACT A LGBTI community and service centre, for more information visit diversityact.org.au PFLAG-ACT A support and friendship group for parents and friends of LGBTI people. More info email pflag.act@gmail.com OUTBIZ LGBTI Business Network Connect with other like-minded people, expand your business, find new customers or suppliers, network and support the LGBTI business community. Email outbiz@yahoo.com.au
Ranch Men’s Lounge Canberra’s mens’ space at Fantasy Lane is located at Unit 19, Molongo Mall in Fyshwick ACT. It’s a safe venue for men who want to meet men. Open 7 days. Call 02 6239 1600. mustangranch.com.au Relationships Australia Canberra Region Do you need a counsellor or a relationship mediator? RACR provide services in a friendly and respectful way for all members of our communities. Call 1300 364 277. racr.relationships.org.au The Phoenix Pub The most friendly pub in Canberra. Supporting equality, the GLBTI community and the right to drink beer since 1993. lovethephoenix.com Tilley’s Devine Cafe For over 30 years, Tilley’s has been a gathering place for the LGBTI community. Warm and sumptuous, it’s famous for its food, fabulous coffees and cake. Cnr of Wattle & Brigalow Sts, Lyneham. Telephone 02 6247 7753.
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By Rose Pappalardo
Dear Rose, My partner has recently asked if we can have an open relationship. He has assured me that he is still very much in love with me but I feel this would eventually break us up and he might find somebody better. Kim
Dear Kim, Venturing into the world of polyamory is a massive game changer for any relationship. It is incredibly important before you contemplate this change to weigh up whether this is actually something that contributes in a positive way to your relationship. There are a whole range of different types of “open” relationships. I encourage you to have a look before deciding if this is really for you. The emotional and physical pitfalls also need to be considered including the touchy subject of the all too basic human emotion of jealously. Perhaps your partner’s suggestion is masking something else and you may need to ask yourself “Is my partner really happy in our relationship”? Either way you will need to have an honest conversation with your man.
Dear Rose, Recently my girlfriend’s best friend hit on me at a party, should I tell her or keep it to myself? Jannie
DearJannie, Warning, you are treading on dangerous territory! BFF land is a space you should never venture! Trust me when I say it would be sacrilegious to imply to your GF that her BFF has attempted to hit onto you, regardless of whether it is true or not. It is also a huge indicator of the BFF’s character and the kind of person she really is…I mean who does that kind of thing? The BFF may be testing you, checking your commitment to the relationship and hoping you might take the bait and report back to your GF. Either way, it’s a great big red flag warning you not to go near this girl. My advice is to stay away from the BFF, avoid being alone with her or discussing anything about your relationship with her. Be polite always and if the situation arises again, firmly but kindly express to her that you only have eyes for your GF.
Dear Rose, I’ve met a wonderful boy at school who I really like but I’m not out yet at home and I’m really worried my mum might find out. I pretty sure she’s already freaking out! What should I do? Brad
Dear Brad, It’s terrific that you have met a wonderful guy who you have a connection with. If your mum is freaking out, chances are she probably suspects your sexual orientation. It’s now in your hands to decide whether now is the best time to come out. If you do decide to come out, there are no hard and fast rules about the process and everyone’s story and circumstances are different. Some people come out as teenagers, some people come out when they are older and some never come out at all. There are some great LGBTI youth groups in the ACT (Bit Bent is one) who you can seek out for support, share your story and they in turn, will share their stories and experiences with you. I also know that there is a Safe Schools program in the ACT that tackles homophobia and is currently being rolled out in ACT schools, so times have changed! Coming out to anyone whether it’s your parents, relatives or school friends can be a terrifying and a complex process. When coming out myself I had to use my gut instinct to determine who I could come out to and who I shouldn’t. You will learn this too, just as we all have. We are lucky that we live in a time where coming out or not coming out is now our choice. So remember, don’t be afraid and be safe!
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