December 2015 | Issue 5
GAYLE
ONLINE MAGAZINE FOR LGBTI OF COLOUR
CONTENTS DIE GEITE IS LOS DIE MAAND DIE GEITE IS LOS DIE MAAND
3 TITBITS: PINK MYNAH FEST & THE QUEEN GOES DRAG 4 COCOBOI TAKES IT A STEP FURTHER 6 PHOTOS FROM MZANSI PRIDE 8 WHORISM: SEX TOURISM IN CAPE TOWN 9 MEET THE KZN GAY & LESBIAN TOURISM ASSOCIATION 10 FALLING FOR A STRAIGHT GIRL 12 DRANGONY AUNT ANSWERS YOUR QUEERIES 13 DAVID TLALE: SPRING COLLECTION
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he eighth annual Pink Mynah Festival has been a success! Hosted by the Gay & Lesbian Network in Pietermaritzburg (KwaZulu-Natal) at the beginning of December, the three day long festival advocating LGBT rights in South Africa brought the “Sleepy Hollow” to life.
ROWN This year’s festival included a drama group delivering a powerful performance, a hate crime and HIV/AIDS exhibition at KwaZuluNatal Museum, the Mr and Ms Pink Mynah Pageant, and (of course!) a Pride Parade.
Here are some photographs from the festival. Search #FlyPinkMynah on Facebook and Twitter for more.
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THE QUEEN GOES DRAG IN THE WIZ
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ueen Latifah had an incredibly difficult job in playing the Wiz, Emerald City's mysterious and charismatic leader, the recent stage version of The Wiz. In male drag, the Oscar-winner emerged from the smoke – like infamous gender-bender, David Bowie – in a glittering cape and green-streaked pompadour. Latifah apparently owned the stage which hosted a star-studded cast, including Ne-Yo and Uzo Aduba. With this stellar performance under her belt, perhaps she should change her name to Drag Queen Latifah? . GAYLE
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GAYLE SPEAKS TO INTERNET SENSATION LIFE IN THE SPOT, PUSHING 40,
ON THE COVER People know you online persona better than you as a person, do these misconceptions bother you? Not at all! Everyone's entitled for their own opinions: I have many haters, but millions love me. Cocoboi is just a crazy character. Those who don't know me won't agree, but the ones that do, often laughs and respect my free spirit. He's just an alterego. How did Cocoboi come to light? I was a rebel and there were a lot of people who spoke about me: good and bad... and with that, I had to come to terms that Cocoboi is actually bigger than what I imagined. So, I just gave my all to my fans. What about you, do you think, would surprise people about you? I’m very passionate about Christ. I don't put up a crusade when it comes to God, but I often share my miracles moments with people I connect with. Do you think that being a public figure allows people the right to overstep your privacy?
What do you enjoy shooting?
ONofTHE COVER Wow! There's so much! Weddings, most all! It’s a true blessing capturing those memories of two souls joining as one. I love maternity shoots as well; I think a pregnant woman is one of the most beautiful things God created! You’re pushing 40, how has life changed – compared to being a twink running around looking hot? 37 has never looked this good; going 38 in few months! I feel super great – you are only as old as you feel. I'm very active: dancing, singing and work out regularly. I try and balance it out well; I've never smoked in my whole entire life, I hardly drink and eat healthy. It’s a good feeling to be content and at peace with a lot of things in my life. I’m more responsible; I don't do the club life anymore, I'm focused on my career and I'm always willing to listen and learn where I can. I don't entertain drama; I remove myself from negative vibes. You've got the Cocobois dance group, how and why did you start that?
Either way, there will be some that people do overstep it. But, I'm very open about everything … however, my relationship is extremely private.
That was my comeback… with a gang bang! LOL! I wanted to do something more positive and good. I believe music and dance keeps the world together, and that’s what we need.
Does your partner get jealous about the attention you get online?
Are you going to launch a Cocoboi clothing range?
My partner tolerates me, and has been a great support since day one. We often talk things through and we’re on the same page.
That’s the plan! I have started on a few designs. What are five things you can't live without? God, music, my dreams, food and my camera.
Have you ever been harassed online? What are five things you wish didn't exist? YES! About two years ago, there was a sex tape that went around and I was accused of being a participant in the movie – even some of my own friends believed it was me! It went viral, but I had to remind myself this will pass too. Why did you shut down the Cocoboi page? Well, at a professional level, I had to. My photography career kicked off extremely well and I had to keep it clean.
Pain, racism, homophobia, lies and hypocrites. What does the future look like for you? Pretty Good! My own studio; I want to go into film. A year without sex or a year without your cellphone? Deft sex. I'm much more stimulated by my work, art, photography and music.
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stablished as a culmination of all Pride events in the country, Mzansi Pride took place at Constitutional Hills in Braamfontein at the end of last month – and did not disappoint! With hundreds of people bussed in from all over South Africa, this event was EPIC! With an electric buzz in the air, Pride-goers continued activities despite the threat of rain. Mzansi Pride activities included Miss Mzansi Pride 2015 who led the march by LGBT, and a braai that followed.
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o let’s define Whorism: THE SHEVIL TWIN SISTER OF Tourism. Now, we all know that many of our local economies depend on the constant stream of tourists that buy local stuff. Government actively promote visitors to our shores hoping that these visitors will spread positive word of mouth leading to more than just spending but also investing in local business, buy property and retiring. No wonder you have some economies totally sustained by retired oldies such as Knysna, Hermanus and even Stellenbosch.
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Yet, we also have different type of tourist, not overtly promoted by our tourism agencies who talk in euphemisms like naming Cape Town “the gayest city in the world”, called: Whorism or Whore tourism [formally known as sex tourism]. It is the same reason people frequent Amsterdam’s Red Light District and Thailand’s ping pong shows. Now, many DICKtionaries out there have copious amounts of definitions for what a whore is and we have referred to our resident Dragony Aunt, whose infinite wisdom and PHD in Cockoloy with a minor in sexology, for a better definition.
According to Auntie, Whorists are often old, financially secure men from Europe particularly German and Britons who descend on developing countries to seek out the exotic delicacies of the abundant LOCAL MEAT. This doesn’t only happens in South Africa, as on a recent trip to Zanzibar I was introduced to the ‘Beach Boys’, aka sexual hustlers entertaining old divorcees from Italy and Germany. So, they basically come here to MEAT “in the flesh”. Most of them are, apparently, size queens who travel the world over to be happily SATISFIED by big African dick. So, one place that’s particularly notorious for such WHORISM IS THE lovely city of Cape Town often referred to as the Mother City… And, for those who are unfamiliar with the history of the Mother City, it was the first city that European invaders from the Netherlands came to. What they also saw whilst stealing our land was the abundance of beautiful men and women. And, being so generous, we always took it upon ourselves to be DICKnified hosts and this legacy has not changed. Come December, horny Dutch and German men can be seen all over the Mother City. Now, Whorism might be stimulating the economy – and some people’s body parts – it does have some serious consequences: like the danger of HIV infection or any other sexually transmitted disease that cannot be treated or cured. There is also the risk of falling in love; which has happened to many a people. Obviously, you think that this is but a transaction of funds, for fun; but forgetting that, in the moment, human spirits connect often forming unintended bonds. So how do you protect yourself? By using physical protection (ie, your rubber buddy called the condom) at all times; but, also protect your heart because let’s face it, these whorists are here for one reason only: SEX. As mesmerising and seductive as their accents are or the allure of marrying a European is, in all likelihood they are married back home and this is part of that couple’s arrangement of opening up their relationship as long as the other party doesn’t know. If whorism is your thing and you like to show some Afrikan hospitability, do it; but play by the rules and keep safe.
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urban has always been known as South Africa’s playground, and who can dispute the title? With its tropical weather, endless beaches and beautiful locals, the Zulu Kingdom is truly a South African gem. Right in time for the festive, comes a series of monthly LGBTI cocktail events hosted by the KZN Gay & Lesbian Tourism Association.
The organisation, which claims to be the hub of all KZN gay and lesbian tourism and entertainment, kick-started the event early last month and has since added breakfast meet and greets to the menu – and not the Hot House type, relax yourself! The KZN Gay & Lesbian Tourism Association can be contacted on Twitter for more information on upcoming events. Simply search @KZNGALTA on the social network and click follow. Tweet at them or send a private message once they have followed you back ;)
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6 THINGS
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o, I know my Gaydar isn't broken… maybe I just like to push the boundaries; maybe it is because I've always been told there are some lines I shouldn't cross… but, if your anything like me then you too find straight women enticing and simply irresistible. After all, aren’t girls allowed to have fun?
Here are six important dos and donts if you feel the urge to be adventurous and explore the other side:
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BE SUBTLE
Be subtle when making advances on a straight woman, especially if she is attached. She or her male counterpart might not take too kindly to it – no matter how much he might like lesbian porn. Smile, strike up a conversation and then take it from there. Don't just jump into the deep end, test the waters.
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GUARD YOUR HEART
It is best if you guard your heart and understand that while this might be serious to you and (maybe to her too if she finds that she is bi) but for all intents and purposes she is still finding her feet and you might just be the proverbial guinea pig. 5)
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ENJOY IT
Have fun, let go, enjoy the moment… she's with you now so take pleasure in her company. You’ve decided to be in this with her because you’ve obviously spotted something you like; enjoy it for what it is worth.
4)
DON’T BE LAVISH
Don't be too lavish, at least not on the first couple of dates. Yes, you want to impress her; but, holding back a little helps you gauge what her real intentions might be. You’re not looking to be used, are you?
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DON’T FORCE THE ISSUE
Don't be too pushy in terms of trying to box/categorise her feelings or what you two share. Dating a person who identifies as straight doesn’t quite fit any of the labels we’ve become used too, in the first place. We’ve evolved from labels, haven’t we?
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TAKE YOUR TIME
Don't move too fast; enjoy the journey of discovering each other... especially if it's her first same-sex relationship. Remember, all she has to measure you against are her male experiences so show her how the female experience differs and how beautiful it can be.
DON’T BE LAVISH
Don't be too lavish, at least not on the first couple of dates. Yes, you want to impress her, but, holding
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WARNING: This retired old drag queen has seen (and drank) enough to gayle it like it is! For those brave enough to, send all your Dragony Aunt questions to gaylemag2015@gmail.com
Dear Dragony Aunt I met this gorgeous girl at a party. She had lips juicier then a chupa on a hot summer’s day, piercing eyes and the sexiest laugh ever. We immediately hit it off, we made out so hard I couldn’t even make out whose lips belong to who; and we had sex and Aunty, it felt like the heavens parted. Having been in the Sahara Desert for a quite a number of months it felt like those ice cold Cokes on a Saturday. The first week went well. But then, every week since then, I had one of her family members knock on my door asking to stay the night and they haven’t left. She reassures me that it’s only ‘til the next day but she has been staying for three weeks and three of her family members have refused to leave. It’s not that I’m against them, it’s just that these are white people. Oh, yes! I forgot to say I have a thing for that white chocolate. And you don’t think they would have squatting behaviour. But, every time I ask her to request that her family members to leave, she endows me with mind-blowing sex. Now Aunty, it’s the third week and there’s already three people in my flat. I fear for the sixth week but I also don’t wanna lose her sexercise? What to do?
Dear Pussy Wiped My dear, we all know a good pomp can make you do all sorts of crazy things. And, we definitely wouldn’t want to repeat your desert spell ‘cause there’s nothing sexy about a dry pussy (especially during the, already, dry Jozi summer). So, Aunty suggests you put your stiletto or pump down on the breaks. You have to tell this women that she can’t turn your place into a Formula 1 Motel. It’s either bye-bye family or she leaves. God knows what these ‘family’ members get up to during the day – possibly turning your house into a brothel and drug house? You just never know given that you never mentioned if she is (gainfully) employed... and you don’t want to find yourself homeless in this time of the year. If she leaves then it’s her loss. Don’t let her sexploit your good upbringing any longer.
*Dragony Aunt is not a professional psychologist, be sure as hell knows how to tell it like it is.
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he party invites are flooding in and you're running out of things to wear – and ideas too! Don't fret; fashion royalty David Tlale tipped us a whole year back on what would be #OnFleek this season: Afro chic... and we're not just talking African print! From the Nompendulo doek to North African kurtas, Mr Tlale made point of showing the world that African fashion is more than colourful cloth at Mercedes-Benz New York Fashion Week earlier this year. The South African fashion icon hit mark with his collection with traditional African styles being incorporated in everything from casual to formal wear.
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