Gentleman's Purpose - December 2020

DECEMBER 2020 What Nobody Told You About Saint Nicholas Page 8

Seeing Through Her Eyes, Page 14

Top 5 Reasons to Invest in ETFs Page 28

NAUGHTY OR NICE?

GEAR: A Harley Christmas

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What’s Ins What Nobody Told You About Saint Nicholas Page 8

Seeing Through Her Eyes Page 14

Underwear for Christmas Page 24

Christmas Library Additions, Page 38

South Florida Featured Musicians, Page 44

A Harley Davidson Christmas, Page 46

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side Top 5 Reasons to Invest in ETFS, Page 28

Restaurant Review Page 32

Daytona Beach: Still the One, Page 60

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FAITH

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What Nobody Told You About Ol’ Saint Nicholas Written by Justin Gaynor There are some things about Santa Claus that nobody told you about. Who is this strange man in a red suit that blesses us each year with new underwear and 10 extra pounds? Well, of all the things we do know about him, there are some things that are extremely fascinating.

Well, first of all Santa is not actually from the North Pole, rather, he hails from Greece. So he would be more likely to make you a nice healthy greek salad than to make you some hot cocoa.

Although, I would venture to say that he still really likes chocolate chip cookies. After all, who doesn’t like fresh baked chocolate chip cookies?

Next, Santa loves to pray. For people that know him well, he is often called ‘Nicholas the Wonderworker’ because he would spend so much time praying for people that God answered his prayers for others with amazing miracles.

Apparently, Santa really loves Jesus.

Now, another thing that you may not know about Jolly Ol’ Saint Nicholas is that he was a jail bird.

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At least for a brief period of time. It seems he was so passionate about his love for Jesus, when a man declared that Jesus was not divine, that He was not God’s actual Son, Santa struck him and was jailed. It almost resulted in his losing his status as a Bishop in the Church.

He eventually apologized for using physical violence against the man, but maintained his position that such a statement is blasphemous and deserves proper retribution.

Santa knew that vengance belongs to God though, and so his repentance led to him maintaining his position as Bishop and being released.

Finally, the gift giving that Saint Nicholas is most known for actually had a lot more to do with redemption than a reward for being good. You see, there were three young women that were on the verge of being sold into prostitution, but Santa brought them enough money for their dad to pay a dowry and get them married in order to avoid such a terrible fate.

Saint Nicholas, is a true gentleman.

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Relationships

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Seeing Through Her Eyes: 7 Conversations to Strengthen Intimacy Written by Justin Gaynor

When beginning a relationship, it can often explode into flame like the lighting of a match. A sudden, exciting interaction. Powerful emotions are stirred up. Connections are established. Oneness begins to take shape. However, without taking that lit match to the wick of a lamp that is filled with oil, it will quickly be extinguished.

The various places of common ground and common vision for the future are like the wick that has taken to light. These are the places of oneness where love burns most fervently and where blessing is discovered.

In this article, I want to help you communicate during the courting process in a way that establishes a solid foundation for a future of enduring love. So, seven conversations to aid in exploring your love interest’s wordlview and beyond that to what she really believes about life in the depths of her heart.

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The first conversation that will be vital to exploring your partner is the topic of faith. Discovering what she looks to and allows to mold and shape her is the single most important thing you will need to know in order to begin wrapping your mind around her character.

There is a significant difference between a woman that values the character of Mother Mary, for instance, and someone that shapes their life around famous female musicians like Cardi B or Madonna.

Most of us shape our lives after a conglomeration of icons and figures whose lives and stories we feel are exciting, valuable, and worth emulating. However, gently getting past the layers of culture and into what she holds to be most true at her core is what you want to explore in conversation.

Exploring her faith at the heart level and finding places of unity there will help you get to a place where you can establish a solid foundation.

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The next conversation, or series of conversations, that you will want to have regards her vision of the future. Her goals.

Her trajectory and her plan for attaining those goals. As she is sharing about her hopes to own her own home, or launch her own business in a certain field, consider the value that you might be able bring to her life as regards attaining these goals. Also, consider if her goals align with yours.

Now, I would advise you to refrain from jumping in with a bunch of ‘Yes! Yes! I want that too!’. Simply listen, and ponder these things in your own heart. Think through how including this women and the goals that she hopes to attain can be woven into the tapestry of your life and how you understood your own path before she entered into it.

Remember, the purpose of exploring this woman is to know if this has the potential to be a lifelong union, if it does, wonderful. If not and it is something less than that, that’s ok too, but you want to have your spirit, soul, and body in alignment with the reality of the situation. If she requires too many changes or compromises to your vision and life goals, or you require too much change or compromise from her, then the relationship may be something you will both want to spend some more time praying about before you get in too deep.

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Now that conversations about faith and vision have taken place and there was enough mutual passion there, you will want to explore her views on sexuality and where that fits within the relationship. You are obviously attracted to one another, otherwise, you would not have gotten through the first two topics without discovering incompatability. So, how does the attraction you are feeling towards one another inform your interactions.

What are the things that she enjoys? What makes her feel loved? If you have not read the book ‘The Five Love Languages’ written by Gary Chapman, I would recommend you read it together and discuss it. Great sex begins long before your clothing falls to the floor. True intimacy involves the whole spirit, soul, and body. That is why the physical act of sex should only really begin to be explored in conversation once the matters of the spirit and soul are on the table to a certain extent.

The details of this conversation will depend on your comfort level with one another. However, being able to speak openly about this topic is important. If you discover that she seems to feel a sense of shame regarding this topic or is in any way uncomfortable with such a conversation, that will mean you may have to spend some more time getting to know her on the spirit and soul level to discover why she feels uncomfortable talking about sex and sexuality.

Eventually, though, you want her to be able to open up to you and share this area of her heart with you. When she does, tread lightly and wisely, she is entrusting you with her deepest self as she allows you to truly get to know her on all three levels.

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Exploring her views on sexuality and intimacy will naturally lead to the next topic, family. This ought to have been at least mentioned someplace in the first three conversations, since family is such an important part of our lives. If not, there may be a lot of broken relationships, in which case how you love her and connect with her may be different than if she has a strong family life that she openly talked about.

The reality is though, her relationship with her father and mother, siblings, and extended family will help you understand the level of importance she places on relationships. How she feels about having children is also important, particularly if the two of you are choosing a level of intimacy in your relationship where that may be a possibility.

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The next topic to be explored is how she views money. Often, women are better stewards of finances, but that is not always the case. Are you entering into a relationship with a woman that is just working until she finds a husband to support her as wife and homemaker? Is she more interested in being a career woman that a wife and mother? If so, what does she see your role in her life looking like. Are you going to be a partner in obtaining financial goals? Are you going to be something less or more than than that?

You will want to understand her feelings towards debt and savings. One of the number one causes of men and women that choose divorce after they have commited to a marriage covenant are financial issues and disagreements. Having these conversations wisely, early, and regularly in the relationship is important. Not only will it benefit you both financially, but money is one of those things that is very precise: communicate and function well with her in this area and all the other areas of communication will be helped.

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The next topic of conversation has to do with how she likes to spend her time. If you have significant and strong feelings for this woman, you will likely be hoping to spend as much time with her as possible, and likewise, she will have a strong desire to spend time with you. That is what happens when people fall in love.

How are the two of you aligning in your desire for one another and what are the areas of common interest that you are discovering to invest your time in? Time, unlike money, cannot be regained, we only have so much of it alotted to each of us. So building a strong, long-term relationship, means being intentional about spending quality time together and having that quality time utilized in a way that you are mutually building one another up in love.

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The last topic of conversation that we are going to discuss is timing and emotional intelligence. All of these conversations should be engaged in, at some point, and in some way. You will need to be intentional and wise about it, otherwise it will become overwhelming and can be somewhat off-putting.

If exploring your beloved becomes too systematic and lacks the love, joy, and the sense of adventure that you should each feel towards exploring and getting to know one another, then you may want to adjust your approach.

A conversation here, a wisely worded question there, a word of encouragement fitly spoken from time to time. An expression of longing to know the other person that is beyond just lust and deeper than simple friendship or what is had with an aquaintance should be experienced on both sides of the relationship.

In closing, gentlemen, you should be prayerful in all these things. If so, the God of peace will give wisdom from above unbegrudgingly to you concerning the woman that you have set your love upon. Do you believe this?

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Style

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Underwear For Christmas: Stylish Undergarments That Keep Your Stuff Comfortable

Under Armor Compression Leggings For Men When it comes to staying in shape, or getting in shape, as the case may be this winter, UnderArmor Compression Leggings for men are a great choice. These things wick sweat quickly and dry fast. They have an anti-odor technology that will help keep you feeling fresh. Also, they offer a significant level of support while helping to prevent uncomfortable chaffing and rash. The benefits of having a few pair of these under the tree definitely justify the price at around $40 each.

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Hemp Boxer Briefs

If you are ready to take your boxer brief game to the next level hypoallergenic hemp boxer briefs offer great comfort and help you do your part to be a good steward of creation, plus you can feel good about embracing your inner hippie as we move into 2021. These underwear are also 100% biodegradable, and made in the good ol’ USA! Priced at around $27 25

Business

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Top 5 Reasons To Invest in Exchange Traded Funds Written by Justin Gaynor

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Low expense ratios - Because exchange traded funds

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Commission Free Trading - Many stock brokerage

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trade like stocks and have a relatively fixed number of outstanding shares, the cost of managing these funds is significantly lower than traditional mutual funds and that savings gets passed along to you.

houses will allow you to invest in or trade ETFs through their online platforms with zero commission. This reduces your overall expense in owning this particular investment.

Diversification - ETFs are an easy way to add diversity to

your portfolio without requiring all of the research and costs associated with developing a diverse portfolio through picking individual stock and bond investments.

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Easy to Understand - When you invest in an individual

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Great Way to Get Started - If you have limited

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stock it is important to get to know the fundamentals of the stock, to understand its business and so forth. When you invest in an ETF, knowing the sector or industry is the most important thing, you are getting exposure to the whole basket of stocks contained in the ETF.

investment experience and you want to start buidling wealth, ETFs are a great place to start because of the low-barrier to entry. They also offer one of the most efficient ways to “dollar cost average�. More on that at another time...

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Dining

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THE ORIGINAL STAVRO’S PIZZA HOUSE http://www.originalstavrospizzahouse.com/ 262 South Beach Street, Daytona Beach, FL 32114 Winner of the News Journal Reader’s Choice Best Around Award, Stavro’s Pizza House in Daytona Beach is the Gentleman’s Purpose lunch destination any time we are in the Volusia County area. Their greek salad (pictured on page 31) is world renowned. Other dishes such as their Gyros or Calzones are absolutely worth a little detour to Beach Street.

Oh, and while on Beach St., plan to spend a little time checking out the shops and pubs, take a walk along the intracoastal waterway, and perhaps catch a baseball game at Kelly Field, home of the Daytona Tortugas.

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The Great Harvest Ministries Fulfilling the Great Commission

Making Disciples, Preaching The Gospel, Spreading God’s Kingdom, Gathering The Harvest

EVANGELISM

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DISCIPLESHIP

KINGDOM BUILDING

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Books

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Add these books to your library this Christmas season...

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Music

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The South Florida Music

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Scene: Featured Artists

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Gear

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There’s nothing quite like a Harley Davidson roadtrip.

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Travel

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DAYTONA TURKEY 62

ROD RUN 63

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CLASSIC CARS

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Daytona Beach Beach Front Amphitheater

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DAYTONA BEACH BIKE WEEK

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