GENTS Mag - Fall 2015

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o become famous or noted is the desire of most little boys and girls. For those of us fortunate enough to reach high platforms that allow our voices to be heard by the masses, we consider that success. For those of us who reach those platforms and reach down to pull others up—now that’s considered honorable—a blessing even.

In this 2015 Gentlemen’s Ball issue of GENTS Mag, we proudly introduce you to a group of leaders and supporters of the LGBTQ community as they dwell in creativity and service, provoke our minds, use their bodies and voices to make impactful statements and most importantly—they exemplify grace and honor.

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This very special issue is a rebirth of the GENTS Mag brand and we are ecstatic to present it to you—now on a quarterly basis!

It is our hope that you will appreciate the stories within these pages. The words you will read and many of the images you will see come directly from the hearts, minds and souls of talented artists, writers and photographers within our community.

Please join us as we strive to uplift, celebrate and be a positive impact within the media landscape.

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1: JOHN COLLINS John Collins is an Army brat originally from Detroit, Michigan. He is the eldest of two children. He joined the U.S. Navy upon graduation of high school, serving 14 years before accepting an honorable discharge in 2012. He started writing at the age of 16, by keeping a journal depicting thoughts and feelings he was told by society, church, and family were shameful. The idea of writing a book came about after he sat down to compose an essay about the experience he had after his parents discovered he was same gender loving. He began the manuscript to ‘Virgin to the Life’ in early 2007, selfpublishing his work in 2013.

2: ERNEST DUNCAN, JR. Ernest Duncan is a CPA based in New Jersey, where he has lived for 13 years.

He is the chief financial officer at a New York City based workforce development organization focused on homelessness and formerly incarcerated individuals. In addition to his responsibilities as a nonprofit executive, he teaches accounting, finance, and management courses at several colleges and universities. Inspired by his parents’ example, he devotes his spare time and energy to mentoring others on finances and leadership.

3: RYAN R. GIRLEY There is one common thread that unites many across humanity. This thread transcends race, creed, sexuality, culture and socio-economic status. The common thread of all humanity, is our collective ability to dream, and to know that we are all called to something greater than ourselves.

Ryan R. Girley views his life and the lives of others as a kaleidoscope. Ryan’s, life like the lives of many others is filled with dreams, goals, gifts, good times, and bad, victories and defeats. Ryan finds great joy in using his spirituality, unique talents for writing, singing and encouraging others to help them live their best life!

4: LEE P. JONES Lee P. Jones is a photographer, writer and minister based in the Atlanta area. His writings have been published in such varied periodicals such as Jump Cut: A Review of Contemporary Media, Urban Lux, Clique and other books and publications.

His photographs appear in magazines and textbooks and in the homes of enthusiasts across the country. His work can be seen at leepjonesphotography.com.

5: JUSTIN L. MARTIN

Justin L. Martin is founder/CEO of Martin Company, a firm that specializes in graphic design, photography, and event planning.

Born and raised in Atlanta, GA, he attended Jacksonville State University where he studied graphic Design. His target audience is “every man” - the common man who is seemingly starting from nothing, but holds a vision towards a grander something. Justin Martin and The Martin Company offers a fresh eyes review coupled with an acute focus on branding and consulting which helps every client’s vision come to life.

6: BRODNEY MCCLINTON Brodney McClinton is a native of GA and attend Georgia State University, where he studied Journalism, with a minor in Sociology. Brodney has always enjoyed all things fitness related, which lead him to pursue a career in Health/Fitness and his decision to become certified as a personal trainer. Brodney is currently developing a personal training business module, officially set to launch in January 2016.

He believes that fitness should be available for everyone and has started a community initiative, “Be Fit with Brodney”, that offers free boot camps. Brodney’s passions also include uplifting and encouraging LGBT Youth through advocacy, mentorship, and HIV Prevention and Awareness. His words to live by are: Love Hard, Laugh A lot and Live your Best Life!!

7: DEX TAYLOR & NICK MAYBERRY The men of ND Lifestyle and Entertainment Group began their culinary journey at a very young age. Both men had mothers who sparked their love for food and taught them the basics of cooking. Although they both moved in directions outside of cooking, they found their way back to the culinary world.

Six years ago the two decided to develop a Full Service Concierge Firm that would incorporate and exploit all of their talents.

Utilizing past experience and passion, ND Lifestyle and Entertainment Group was formed, with services that now consist of not only Catering but Interior Design, Event Planning and Styling.

8: MEL SMITH

Mel Smith is a native of Cleveland, Ohio who migrated to Atlanta, GA. Mel is a graduate of Hampton University and served in the US Airforce after which he began working for AT&T. During his tenure with AT&T, Mel traveled and lived in several states. Mel now works as Corporate Director of Training, Quality & Curriculum Design for a US company that has locations in Barbados, the Dominican Republic, Grenada, Honduras and St Lucia. He has resided in the later for the past 7 years.

9: DERRICK TENNIAL Derrick Tennial is founder/CEO of Let’s REThink That, an education empowerment organization. A former teacher and administrator, he is now a college professor, who has presented throughout the country on topics such as diversity in education, HIV/ AIDS awareness, and issues of identity, sexuality, and spirituality. He has authored five books; his most recent publication, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: The Unspoken Policy of the African-American Church in the South” is featured in the collegiate textbook Critical Studies of Southern Place: A Reader (2015).

A proud son, brother, uncle, and godfather, he resides in Atlanta, Georgia.

10: J. WESLEY J. Wesley was born in Newark, NJ. and holds a Bachelors in Sociology, a Masters in Education, a Certificate in Pastoral Counseling. He loves education and believes strongly that with knowledge comes much power and accountability. He is an author, an educator, singer, public speaker, spiritual coach, minister, higher education professional, and social advocate. Wesley has accomplished a lot and contributes his success to God, family, friends and supporters. jwesley.org 11: TIM’M T. WEST Tim’m T. West was born in Cincinnati and raised primarily in rural Arkansas. A contemporary Renaissance man, he is a featured voice in multiple documentaries about hip hop and masculinity because of his groundbreaking work as a gay-identified hip hop artist, AIDS activist, and youth advocate, and educator. A professor and cultural producer at a number of secondary and post-secondary institutions since the mid-90s, West has a B.A. from Duke in Philosophy and graduate degrees from The New School for Social Research and Stanford University. He is also the author of several books and now resides in Atlanta.

12: LONNELL WILLIAMS Through the power of the internet, Lonnell Williams, establish himself as an important and influential force in the world of social media. As host and producer of the popular web series, 3LWTV, Lonnell initially came to prominence in the African American LGBT community by committing to showcase positive images of a people often marginalized or ignored by mainstream media. One of Lonnell’s most visible relationships is with media mogul Oprah Winfrey, who he befriended a few years ago via Twitter. In a continued effort to learn, teach and inspire, Lonnell continues to explore new opportunities and use his life to demonstrate a tagline his supporters have come to adore....”Stand In Your Light.”

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What a GENT Wants

14 TRAVEL Caribbean Bliss

16 FITNESS Winter Workout Woes

18 READING ROOM LGBTQ literary picks

19 FINANCE Money Strategies for the Holiday

20 FASHION TKO!

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30 THE 2015 GENTLEMEN’S BALL Honoring LGBTQ Heros & Agents of Change

40 FASHION Deconstructed

43 POLITICAL VIEW Black Lives Matter

44 IN THE SPIRIT ”Stand In Your Light”

46 LOVE RELATIONS So You Can Marry...Now What?

ON THE COVER: CYNTHIA BAILEY & TREY PRESSLEY

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WHAT A GENT WANTS M

aintaining a certain appearance, redolence and worldly sensibility are all a part of the allure of the “Modern Man”. When buying a gift for the “Modern Man” remember he believes in class, distinctiveness and sophistication. As the holidays approach don’t let gift giving for the Modern Man in your life be overwhelming. Let us suggest 10 Essential Gifts.

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COOKBOOK: “I think it bespeaks a generous nature, a man who can cook” (Jilly Cooper) Turn Up The Heat With G. Garvin $19.95 | chefgarvin.com

A SKIN REGIMEN: “It’s important to have a regular skin-care regimen.”

(Helen Manchas) Kiehls $43.00 | kiehls.com

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EFFECTIVE HAIR PRODUCTS: “Gorgeous hair is the best revenge.”

(Ivana Trump) Aveda $66.00 | aveda.com

A UNIQUE SCENT: “Make me a fragrance that smells like love.” (Christian Dior) Joe Malone $110.00 | jomalone.com

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A QUALITY BELT: “Make it simple but significant.”

(Don Draper) Ferragamo $460.00 | ferragamo.com

THE ULTIMATE WEEKENDER: “The difference between style and fashion is quality.” (Giorgio Armani) Bottega Veneta $2,9800.00 | bottegaveneta.com

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AN ELEGANT TIMEPIECE: “People will stare. Make it worth their while” (Harry Winston) Invicta $285.00 | invictawatch.com

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CLASSIC JEWELRY: “Only great minds can afford simple style.” (Stendhal) David Yurman $415.00 - $6,265.00 | davidyurman.com

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A DISTINCTIVE WALLET: “It is not the position you are standing, but which direction you are going.” (Oliver Wendell-Holmes) LV $615.00 | us.louisvuitton.com

ON POINT SHOE GAME: “Its totally impossible to be welldressed in cheap shoes.”

(Hardy Amies) Cole Haan $258.00 | colehaan.com

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Caribbean Bliss

Story by MEL SMITH

JADE MOUNTAIN AND ANSE CHASTANET THE SUPREME COURT HAS CLEARED THE WAY FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY. THE PROPOSAL HAS BEEN MADE AND ACCEPTED.

These sister resorts are considered the most romantic of all the resorts in Sait Lucia.

THE WEDDING OF YOUR DREAMS HAS BEEN PLANNED AND EXECUTED. THE RECEPTION WAS AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER.

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Well you could follow the more traditional route traveled by honeymooners for over 150 years and visit Niagara Falls or you could take a trip beyond your shores and visit the beautiful island of Saint Lucia; named the Honeymoon Capital of the World by World Travel Awards for the 5th consecutive year.

Saint Lucia is not just for honeymooners as singles are also welcomed.

So if you are single, take a change, be a Stella and come get your groove back. Trust me on this one! I’m an Atlantan that has lived on this beautiful island over 6 years and would love for you to see what awaits.

The resort hotel options are plentiful and many have themselves been ranked among the top 10 destinations. While there are many, I hand picked a few of my favorites for this very special issue of Gents Mag. 14 GENTS MAG

Ranked #2 on a list of the top 30 resorts, Jade Mountain is luxury at its finest. This location, nestled within a mountain, sits above the Anse Chastanet resort and offers accommodations where bedroom, living area and an extravagant private infinity pool all glide into one another to form extraordinary floating platforms. The luxury suites feature an entirely absent wall that is open to the Atlantic Ocean. Of course luxury comes with a cost and you’re worth it.

Rates are seasonal and can begin at $1,050 to $3,500 per night. Visit jademountain.com to book a one of a kind experience.

Anse Chastanet shares the same ranking as Jade mountain and was designed by same world renowned architect. Anse Chastanet boast and ever growing art collection for your viewing and a beach side bar with a restaurant on the hillside. Romantic dinners are meant for either of the two tree houses or soft sand beaches with coral reefs just offshore. 600 acres also houses two historical plantations where the hotel grows its own organic produce. Rates are seasonal and can begin at $365 to $620 per night. Please visit ansechastanet.com for more information.

LADERA Ladera, ranked #5 in the Top Ten Hotels in the Caribbean, is an allinclusive resort which offers open air rooms, hilltop dream suites with a pool, one bedroom villas with a plunge pool and a spectacular view of Piton Mountain. Rates are seasonal and can begin at $550 to $2,500 per night. Book your suite at ladera.com.

SANDALS Sandals Regency La Toc Golf Resort & Spa was awarded Saint Lucia’s Leading Hotel at World Travel Awards. This 210 acre resort has a mile long entrance that gives each visitor a glimpse into the enjoyment that awaits including its own private golf course. Called the “Emerald of the Caribbean, Sandals Regency LaToc is 1 of 3 all-inclusive Sandals resorts on the isle of Saint Lucia and very Sandals guest can enjoy the amenities of any of the 3 locations during their stay. Sandals is a favorite of honeymooners worldwide and Saint Lucia is the best they have to offer. From personal butler service to 5 Star Diamond French Cuisine to incredible night time entertainment. Your every desire will be attended to during your stay. Rates are seasonal and can begin at $350 to $2,000 per night. Visit sandals.com for more information.

THE BODYHOLIDAY LESPORT RESORT TripAdvisor Travelers’ Choice 2011 named BodyHoliday one of the Top 10 Relaxation/Spa Hotels.

The BodyHoliday LeSport Resort has something for everyone.

Although they specialize in catering to the active minded vacationer with a wide variety of activities such as golf, tennis, repelling, mountain climbing, bike riding, hiking, surfing, diving, TaiChi, yoga, Zumba and aerobics, you can also enjoy world class spa treatments and lay on the beach while drinks are delivered to your beachside lounge chair. You can also treat yourself to a feast at a variety of all you can eat buffets. Rates are seasonal and can begin at $867 to $3,000 per night. Indulge at thebodyholiday.com.

If you’re interested in beautiful beaches, award-winning spas, allinclusive meals and cocktails, numerous activities, adventures and a service staff there to meet your every need, the aforementioned are just a few of the amazing locations available to the beach bound vacationer or honeymooner.

There is no shortage of options and you will want to return again and again.

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WINTER WORKOUT WOES GOODBYE SUMMER. HELLO WINTER. Hello colder temperatures, layered clothing, Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, holiday parties, and decadent side dishes and desserts.

Now that warmer months have come to an end, for many of us, the reasons we exercise and eat right are placed on the back burner. Then when that time comes for spring to peak its beautiful sunny skies again, we realize that we’ve gained a little bit more than a few great winter memories.

But how does one keep exercise and eating right at the top of their list when faced with bone chilling weather or granny’s pound cake? The answer is simple: Set goals, Be Accountable, Stay focused, and Do it. Following these four simple rules can keep you feeling your best, and help you combat those winter workout woes.

It’s very important to set goals and make those goals a priority. I encourage clients to set quarterly health and fitness goals thus giving you a constant short target to work towards. This helps to keep you from bombarding your body with trying to do everything at once. Short term goals also help to avoid becoming overwhelmed or discouraged when being introduced to a new health and fitness routine.

For example, a goal could be, “by spring time, I want to be able to do 25 pull ups nonstop” or “by spring, I will lose 15 lbs.” If you were to start in October/November, and give yourself until spring to lose 15lbs, you won’t be faced with the pressure that comes with last minute fitness goals.

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goals because you have someone making sure you are completing your workouts and eating within your nutrition plan. It increases the adherence to your plan, which leads to your desired results. Not to mention, training with someone often encourages an increase in your effort to train and eat right.

Set up multiple accountability partners or start an accountability group. Friends, family members and coworkers make excellent accountability partners. Have a conversation about what your goals are and give them permission to correct you when they see that you are deviating from your plan. Also challenge them to join you and develop their own set of goals. You’d be surprised at how motivating accountability relationships can be.

Now that you’ve set your goals and your accountability partners are in place, here are a few tips to help you out if you happen to lose focus or lack the motivation to keep it going.

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CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO TRY OUT NEW RECIPES: If you work in a communal environment consider starting a lunch club— similar to a book club, where everyone contributes to lunch for the group on a different day. This will motivate everyone to step outside of the normal take out menu routine and promote healthy eating.

ADD NEW MUSIC: A new season deserves new music and swapping out your playlist can change your overall workout experience. Keep in mind that for cardio inspired workouts, the best music is going to have about 140 – 160 beats per minute. For those heavy lifting sessions, you will want to listen to something that will make you feel invincible to give you that extra push.

PURCHASE NEW WORKOUT GEAR: Because the temperatures are changing, it’s probably a good idea to add a few new pieces of season appropriate attire to your fitness wardrobe. That new gear will also come with a little excitement to get out there and show it off! Warning, new workout gear will often bring back the same feeling you had on the first day of 9th grade.

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ELIMINATE ALL EXCUSES AND JUST DO IT!: The last piece of advice, as cliché as it sounds, is to just get out there and do it. As the old saying goes, “there’s nothing to it but to do it.” Live by this motto because honestly that’s the simple truth of the matter. Exercise and eating right can be a challenge and regardless of your nutrition plan or training routine, your decision to commit to achieving your goal is only something you can initiate and finish.

Try to keep the emphasis on the internal and overall benefits versus just focusing on the vanity aspect. And if you are someone who doesn’t normally workout, don’t wait until the start of the new year to get your health and fitness on the right track. If getting out there and starting is the hard part, find some group fitness activities that you may be interested in. If group fitness isn’t your thing, find a program that you can do in the comfort of your own home.

Don’t lose sight of what you’ve done throughout the year and slack off because it’s cold outside.

That way when spring decides to show itself, you’ll be more like, “what’s up spring!” Instead of, “oh, hey spring.”

Story by BRODNEY MCCLINTON

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You Said One Thing: God Said Differently-Silencing the Unauthorized Voices and Living your Authentic Life Jonathan Wesley, M.Ed $19.99 | jwesley.org Take a journey of truth with the recently released novel, “You Said One Thing... God Said Differently; Silencing the Unauthorized Voices & Living Your Authentic Life.”

In this book, J. Wesley shares a story of how when the world counts you out, God, who formed you for such a time as this, will count you in! Through the various trials and tribulations J. Wesley overcomes, there may be moments that resonate closely with obstacles you’ve faced. The message to each of us is that even at our worst, God loves us through our best.

J. Wesley’s prayer is that this book challenges you to live in truth and share your story so that the lives of others can be impacted positively, and God gets the glory out of it all.

Virgin to the Life John Collins - $13.50 | letsrethinkthat.com “Virgin to the Life” is a fresh take on black gay coming of age stories. It’s an unapologetic expression of a young man named Jason Williams. He decides that he must fend for himself after his parents confront him in anger regarding his sexuality. Jason never denied who he is per say, but knew he couldn’t be completely honest with them. He joins the Navy during the military’s Don’t Ask Don’t Tell campaign, as a means to establish his own independence. He begins to seek like-minded individuals to befriend and gets thrown into a world wind of gay life and culture. He experiences his first gay night club, first gay pride, first love, deals with spirituality and religion on his own terms, and has to deal with the consequences that come with living in his own truth. He soon realizes just how quickly one can lose sight of who they envision themselves to be…

Saved Sanctified & Same-Gender Loving | A Story Journal to Spiritual Reconciliation Derrick Tennial, Ed.D - $10.00 | amazon.com & iTunes/iBooks African-American Same-Gender Loving (SGL) men are a group that has been historically marginalized by their own families, communities, and churches - shamed into suppressing their homoerotic desires and claiming “faux” deliverance, which has caused many to become oppressed, depressed, and voiceless! Saved, Sanctified, and Same-Gender Loving is not only a proclamation of reclamation for me, but for all African-American SGL men who have lived conflicted lives, tormented by indoctrinated fears of eternal damnation, terrified of being rejected

by God and family, and driven to schizophrenic nihilism (feelings of lovelessness, hopelessness, and despair).

Sanctified, and Same-Gender Loving is the first in a series that will deal with issues pertinent to the African-American SGL community. It presents counter-narratives that give a different perspective into this segment of the SGL population and asks you (the reader) questions of reconciliation designed to foster transformation. Whether you are straight or same-gender loving, the challenge is for you to approach this book with an open mind and an open heart.

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MONEY STRATEGIES for the holiday season Story by ERNEST DUNCAN, JR.

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s the last days of fall fade into our memories, it will soon be time to close out this year with holiday parties and gift giving. Whether it’s Christmas, Kwanzaa, or the office holiday party, I enjoy the merriment of friends, family, and coworkers gathering together to celebrate. Along with the festivities and gift shopping comes financial pressure.

Last holiday season, I went into a frenzy trying to buy gifts for family and friends and ended up with a huge credit card bill in January. I know that I could have avoided this huge bill had I taken the time to plan ahead. Since incorporating lessons learned, I vow not to repeat the same mistakes. Here are some of the lessons that I’ve learned over the past couple of years.

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND - I use the entire year to

prepare my finances for the holiday gift-giving season. I set aside money each month, putting it into an account to use as my “holiday fund.” You don’t have to remember to do the transfer every month. Many banks will automatically transfer money from your checking account directly into your savings account.

When the after-Thanksgiving sales begin, I’m ready to shop ‘til I drop!

GIFT CARDS - Retail stores like Kohl’s offer you cash back in the form of gift cards based on the volume of your purchases. Why not save those gift cards until it’s time to buy gifts for others? It’s almost like free money!

CREDIT CARD REWARDS - Several credit card companies and banks offer you points based on your purchases. For example, CapitalOne’s QuickSilver Rewards offers an unlimited 1.5% cash back points on every purchase. Again free money! You can use those points to purchase gift cards.

Now you can relax and know that you are not destined to overspend. With proper planning and some savvy shopping, you can have a financially stressfree holiday season. Your family and friends will appreciate you even more when you’re not stressed over your finances or the lack thereof.

Again, have a plan to know how much you are going to spend. You will be happy you did come January!

MAKE A LIST - Impulse buying, especially when it’s cold and dreary,

can cause havoc with anyone’s budget. Making a list and sticking to it is a great way to avoid impulse shopping. From presents to decorations to entertainment, I’ve made a list of potential purchases. I’m a visual person so seeing the list in writing helps me control the urge to overindulge. Pencil and paper will do however there are several gift-list apps that make the process easy too. Three of the most popular gift-list apps are Santa’s Bag, Christmas Gift List, and Christmas List. Download one to your smart phone and give it a try.

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CYNTHIA BAILEY STANDING STRONG WITH PURPOSE Story by SATCHEL B. JESTER Edited by CLORISSA WRIGHT

She’s a housewife, a legendary supermodel, an actress and a dedicated mother. For some, this resume would be an impressive note to end on, but for Cynthia Bailey—it’s just scratching the surface.

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“I am honored to be an ambassador of The Gentlemen’s Foundation because the organization represents integrity, class, positivity and most importantly love.”

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or over 25 years, Cynthia has led a life of dominating runways around the globe from, Paris to Milan. She earned her stripes alongside the likes of Tyra Banks, Iman, Naomi Campbell, Liya Kebede and Beverly Johnson— even accompanying them for a Vanity Fair spread snapped by Annie Lebovitz. The Alabama-born southern belle has pioneered movements, changed history and donned the hat of an activist—even when the heat was on.

At the top of her career, in 2011, the Bravo network welcomed Bailey to the Real Housewives of Atlanta cast. Since joining the controversial show, she’s used her star-power to shed light on societal issues like bullying, self-esteem and civil rights injustices. In 2015 she took on the charge of becoming an Ambassador for the Atlanta based nonprofit organization, The Gentlemen’s Foundation. Taking on her new role wasn’t part of a popularity contest—she graciously stepped up to the plate because she recognized the courage and dignity of the corporation.

Founded in 2014, The Gentlemen’s Foundation is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization dedicated to the healthy development of LGBTQ men of color.

“Some of the most amazing men I know happen to love other men, intimately, but what does that matter? Love is patient, kind and nonjudgmental. That’s always been my stance,” In support of positive and healthy lifestyles, Bailey recently lent her celebrity platform to a public service announcement for the “Testing Makes Us Stronger Campaign,” directed by Patrik-Ian Polk.

“It was important for me to participate in this needed campaign because I have lost many friends and colleagues to HIV/AIDS over the years. I am thankful that now there is more information, better testing options and groundbreaking medical treatments to reinforce lifelong health and happiness.”

Having recently celebrated a wedding anniversary, the historic Supreme Court decision regarding same-sex marriage highlights the necessity of her purpose and highlights her decision to join forces with The Gentlemen’s Foundation. With an empathetic tone she shares, “I’ve been married for five years now, and I understand how much of a privilege it really is. More importantly, its a right that should be enjoyed by everyone, regardless of sexuality. Especially since the Supreme Court has ruled gay marriage legal. it’s definitely a time to live and not die.”

Rounding out 2015, she heads back to her place in front of the camera for the new season of RHOA. Her namesake, Bailey Agency School of Fashion has been upgraded and continues to welcome over 1,000 students for training annually. Her budding accessory collection, Cynthia Bailey Eyewear has garnered attention from industry A-listers including Rihanna and Anthony Anderson and in 2016 will introduce Cargo by Cynthia Bailey.

“I constantly feel like there’s work to do, personally and professionally.

I know that I am in a position of visibility and influence for specific reasons and I’ll never become faint while working to my full potential.

I hold myself and everyone around me to that standard.”

With that benchmark for excellence in place, Bailey again references and praises the work of the The Gentlemen’s Foundation and its mission. “I am honored to be an ambassador of the foundation because the organization represents integrity, class, positivity and most importantly love,” she says. “Love is important. It builds us as individuals and as people.” She continues, “It saddens me that in 2015, gay individuals still feel the need to hide their sexuality.

Most are still faced with ignorance, discrimination and hate. We have come such a long way, but still have so far to go. I look forward to the day that this issue is completely accepted, and is no longer a topic of conversation.”

She’s a renaissance woman—the perfect company for gentlemen.

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hen considering a person who is a seasoned activist, politician, motivator, and agent of change, there are various leaders that are mentioned. Leaders such as Dr. Martin Luther King, Ghandi, Mother Teresa, and Malcolm X are just a few names that are mentioned which are known by the masses. In order for the work of the masses to be seen, there must be those individuals who serve on the local, state, and national levels that ensure that action and change is happening. This happens by having meaningful, powerful and persuasive conversations as well as demonstrations with key individuals to ensure that the issues of the people are not just heard, but also acted upon in a way that justice as well equality shines in the home of the brave. GENTS would like to take the opportunity to honor and commend the efforts of the national leader Congressman John Lewis representing Georgia’s 5th district.

Congressman Lewis has dedicated his life to service and is noted as “one of the most courageous persons the Civil Rights Movement ever produced.” He believes in building community in America which is why he is favored on both aisles of the United States Congress.

As a young boy, he was inspired by the words of Dr. King and the activism surrounding the Montgomery Boycott.

From that time until now, he has worked diligently to ensure the civil rights and progressive social movements. While attending Fisk University, Lewis organized many sit-in demonstrations and participated in Freedom Rides during

the times of Jim Crow. While challenging the laws of the land, he had been arrested and beaten by the mobs all because he chose to take a stand for what he believed in.

In his extensive biography, documentaries, books and other sources, we have the opportunity to learn much about the legacy and life of Congressman Lewis. He has taken a journey that most people would be afraid to take, but due to his commitment to the cause, he has endured the struggles and provides us with a wealth of knowledge as well as an example of what a transformational/servant leader looks like.

He has received many awards which include but are not limited to: the highest civilian honor granted by President Barack Obama, the Medal of Freedom, the Lincoln Medal from the historic Ford’s Theater, the Golden Plate Award given by the Academy of Excellence, the Preservation Hero award given by the National Trust for Historic Preservation, the Capital Award of the National Council of La Raza, the Martin Luther King, Jr. Non-Violent Peace Prize, the NAACP Spingarn Medal, and the only John F. Kennedy “Profile in Courage Award” for Lifetime Achievement ever granted by the John F. Kennedy Library Foundation.

In all that Congressman Lewis has done, he still works very diligently to ensure that voices of the people are heard loud and clear. He is a man of honor, respect, dignity, courage, compassion, intelligence, action, and strength just to name a few of his attributes. We deem him to be a hero not just to our nation, but more specifically to our community. He is indeed the essence of what a true moral leader resembles and we are delighted to honor him. Had it not been for the diligent, risky and costly efforts of Congressman Lewis, many of us today would not be able to bask in the ambiance of the human rights and civil liberties that Congressman Lewis has worked for us to enjoy.

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hat many people know about film director, producer, screenwriter, singer, and actor PatrikIan Polk, revolves around his acclaim for films that explore Black LGBT friendships and relationships.

Born in Hattiesburg, Mississippi in 1973, and educated at Brandeis University, the University of Southern Mississippi where he received his undergraduate degree, as well as University of Southern California where he studied at their School of Cinema-Television, Polk is a son of the South who has many times been referenced as the “Father of Black Gay Cinema.” It’s a title he minimizes, if owning his undeniable imprint on mainstream cinema: the Edmond’s Entertainment produced classic PUNKS, LOGO’s Noah’s Arc, or the more recent Blackbird, among other works.

Not one to get bogged down in the critiques by others, Polk notes that,

“once you put something out, it takes a life of its own. I just hope to create good work and make a good living for myself.”

It’s fair to say that Patrik-Ian Polk, in a culture where many LGBTQ young people long for representations of themselves in media, has done so much more. He expects to extend his legacy by pitching more ideas for television. GENTS Mag is honored to celebrate Patrik-Ian Polk’s legacy-in-the making.

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As a proud black gay filmmaker, several of Polk’s films have had runs on the big screen in several US cities. He has bravely opened doors for other filmmakers to produce quality projects that broaden the diversity of black LGBT experiences. An affirmation of his eye for talent, we see actors like Darryl Stephens (Boy Culture), Seth Gilliam (Walking Dead), and Jussie Smollett (Empire), among others, continue to make their mark in film. The production of his most recent “Blackbird” which starred Monique, Isiah Washington, and newcomer Julian Walker, was different than his friendship-driven Noah’s Arc or The Skinny. The adaptation of a novel, Polk notes that Blackbird broadened his directorial skills and bolstered his confidence as a director to create even more expansive portraits of not just black gay experience, but human experience.

What one experiences when talking with Polk is a man who mirrors his own moniker: Tall Skinny Blackboy Productions. He humbly accepts the calling to reflect life through his eyes; and has a strong desire to create the kinds of characters who are often rendered invisible.

His desire to represent characters who might be described as effeminate or trans has come with some critique, though it is an unfair burden for a director to be tasked with representing all black gay and bisexual male experience.

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aughn Alvarez is proof that when strong faith combines with hard work, big dreams can come true. Mr. Alvarez is a native of Ashburn, Virginia, just a few miles outside of Washington, D.C. From as early as he can remember his eyes and ears were fixated on the entertainment industry. As a youth he dreamed of being in showbiz in front of the bright lights. But he soon realized that his role in showbiz was behind the lights instead of in front of them.

Mr. Alvarez’s meteoric rise started early. As a youngster he modeled for magazines and catalog spreads and even dabbled in television by acting in infomercials. Later, Vaughn joined the critically-acclaimed dance group “Tappers with Attitude” based in Silver Spring, Maryland. His career path started to be diagrammed in 2006 when one day he waiting tables at a restaurant and the next day he was trekking off to Nashville, Tennessee to work as a radio promotions intern at E One Music Group. Mr. Alvarez positioned himself for bigger and better things while working at Nashville’s 92Q radio station.

After his spell at E One Music Group he was tapped to join The Word Network in Southfield, Michigan, a relatively new Christian cable broadcasting network at the time. At the network, he teamed with popular gospel recording artist and talk-show host Lexi to create original programming, helping the network to become a major force in the Christian programming industry.

At a time when the entertainment industry was not quite sure

what to do with Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, Mr. Alvarez quickly anticipated the enormous impact that social media was going to have on the industry. He skillfully used social media to expand the reach of showbiz and music artists, management agencies, and P.R. firms. His talents and expertise landed him his current position as a publicist with the 135th Street Agency, a public relations firm with dual offices in New York City and Atlanta. His accounts include The OWN Network, We TV, and So So Def Records. As a publicist he’s worked with celebrities such as Brandy, Aaliyah, Faith Evans, Lil Mo’, Marques Houston, Ray J, Mya, Donnie McClurkin, Yolanda Adams, Tameka Raymond, Syleena Johnson, J Moss, and Mary Mary to name a few. He also books talent for Reach Media’s nationally syndicated radio show “The Yolanda Adams Morning Show”.

Although most of his clientele are in the secular world, Mr. Alvarez works with a number of gospel music artists. “I love gospel music because it speaks to me. It’s so inspiring and spiritually uplifting”, says Mr. Alvarez.

Working as a publicist in gospel music has particularly been challenging since Mr. Alvarez is an openly gay man. “There was no openly gay publicist in gospel music until I came along. I’ve paved the way for other openly gay publicists who are now coming into the industry.”

Vaughn’s faith is the key to his success. He got his spiritual awakening in the charismatic black church with its lively worship, inspiring sermons and soul-stirring music. “I love God and I love the church”. His current church home is The Vision Cathedral in Atlanta, Georgia where Bishop O.C. Allen, III is the Senior Pastor. He considers Bishop Allen to be one of the most influential people in his life. Mr. Alvarez relies on his faith in his professional career and personal life. He says, “The entertainment industry is nasty and it will break you if you don’t have faith in God and faith in yourself.”

Amid his busy schedule, Mr. Alvarez finds time to volunteer his services at a non-profit agency or group at least a couple of times a year. For example, he handles P.R. and talent booking for Atlanta Black Gay Pride’s annual “Pure Heat Community Festival” at Piedmont Park. He’s also done promotions for Back-to-School campaigns that assist kids in need and worked for agencies that help the less fortunate during the holiday season.

When asked what makes him a Gentleman of Promise, without hesitation Mr. Alvarez said he’s living his passion, walking in his purpose, loves God and loves people. “I try to carry myself in a way that [honors] those who came before me and I try to walk in love and operate with integrity.”

Although he has accomplished a lot at such a young age, Vaughn Alvarez has not stopped dreaming. He has bigger aspirations ahead of him. His reputation keenly suggests he will arrive at those dreams, too.

Story by LEE P. JONES

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edrick Tillerson has a benevolent smile, world life experience, compassion, drive, and the autonomous nature that is associated with any great leader. He is a coach, athlete, community activist, and businessman. It is his tenacious spirit that in 2013 allowed him the courage to create and build his non-profit organization named, 4US Sports Foundation. The organization hosts a dedicated team ready to serve the community by educating, mentoring, and raising awareness of the LGBT sports movement, here in America and abroad. The organization is gaining much ground progressing LGBT basketball and volleyball teams further into the mainstream.

Born and raised in Henderson, Kentucky, Dedrick developed a love for basketball at the age of seven, while playing on the Junior Basketball league in his hometown. He quickly learned the fundamentals of playing on a team, keeping what he learned close to heart. He later became a hometown hero as a track star holding 3 award titles in the hurdle event. He was recruited and attended Purdue University where he trained in the 200-meter and 400-meter relays, as well as the hurdles. He is a graduate of the University of Kentucky, obtaining three All-American titles, three NCAA championship titles in Track and Field, and was an active member of the Athletes & Allies LGBT Athletes Association on campus. He still holds record book times in the 400-meter relay at the university, making him a 400-meter specialist.

After college, Dedrick trained in Track and Field professionally competing internationally in the hurdles, from 2007-2010 before an injury lead him to retire from the sport. Dedrick is currently a resident of Atlanta, Georgia.

He is founder and President of 4US Sports Foundation. He is an active member of the community volunteering his time on and off the court as coach of two Atlanta based LGBT basketball teams, and an LGBT volleyball team. When he’s suited up in his basketball uniform, he plays the position of Center Forward, with the Atlanta Fury. The team won the 2015 Championship title during the tournament held by his foundation this past August. Dedrick was a coach and facilitator of the event partnering with outreach organizations offering peer counseling, advocacy, and free HIV screenings during the event.

Dedrick’s compassion for the community has him dividing his time mentoring at the Boys and Girl’s Club, feeding homeless citizens at the Atlanta Mission, and playing an active role in the group Athlete’s in Action, addressing the need to heighten the visibility of LGBT athletes nationwide. He works with this organization at Georgia State University, Kennesaw State University, and Emory. The 4US Sports Foundation works in conjunction with these entities for the progression of the LGBT Sports movement by offering safe havens he calls Open Gym. Open Gym is for anyone who wants to learn how to play the game, challenge his team mates/players, network, or who simply want to enjoy the game as an ally while tweeting and spreading the word about the mission and goal outlined on the foundations website: 4ussports.org.

Dedrick Tillerson is a man with a God-vision who chose to answer the call to love and serve the community while sharing his gifts, time, talent and energy. He is a prime example of what recognizing a problem and developing a solution to negate said problem looks like. Great leaders don’t know they are great leaders until they are recognized, and even then they find it hard to believe. Dedrick Tillerson selflessly states, “It’s just me doing what I love to do, sharing knowledge, and leaving a map for who’s next.”

Story by JOHN COLLINS

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LARRY “PHYLLIE” CARTER, a local R&B singer, songwriter and producer has come into his own as an artist after discovering that the strength of his life was in his pulse. Carter has strong roots in Philadelphia and Norfolk.

Carter is a man who stands at six foot three, loves to laugh, enjoys family, fun and cooking. Carter credits his early vocal influences as legends, Sam Cooke, Marvin Gaye and Aaliyah. Carter is known for his soulful sultry sound and has been singing since the age of 11, and performing publicly since 2007.

CORI LAMONT lives a life profoundly impacted by grace. With strong roots in the church, Coriology’s unique vocal ability and soul stirring lyrics touch the heart. His artistic approach to music has gained the attention and respect of many audiences.

Lamont is a calm humble man from Texarkana, Arkansas. Lamont is a testament to the biblical text “your gift will make room for you and bring you before great men..” Playing piano and organ in church nurtured and honed his skills; and once opportunity met destiny, his music began to take him on a journey that has afforded him the experiences of performing along-side legendary artists such as Kirk Franklin, Stephanie Mills,

Many, go through life sometimes question the profundity of their struggles and adversities.

They may ask themselves; What is the joy of victory, without defeat? What is the feeling of success without failure? Where is the hope of love without heartbreak?

AUSTYN KING has found a unique way to communicate the sentiments of his heart through his music. With vocal comparisons to John Legend and soulful lyrics, King has steadily built a name for himself among fans.

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Shakespeare, once wrote, “all the world is a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” If this adage holds true, Carter is certainly using his stage to promote his music, acting and film credentials, but he is also creating a platform to advocate for equality, love and justice for all people by partnering with Freedom To Marry and Georgia Equality.

Carter can be seen performing around Atlanta and on the reality show, “The Boyz Next Door”, produced by Signal 23 TV. Story by RYAN GIRLEY

Richard Smallwood, Mariah Carey & Monica just to name a few.

Lamont resides in Atlanta Georgia. Cori is the Musical Director at Impact Church where he has successfully incorporated his trademark style of music and empowerment. He begins a new chapter with his debut solo album Coriology101 coming this summer.

The 1st single “Hooray!” is currently available on iTunes and wherever digital music is sold. God has favored Cori Lamont with the chemistry to create some of the best music of our time.

Story by RYAN GIRLEY

King has shared the stage and his talent with many storied notables throughout the music and entertainment industry.

Signed by production company Blue House Media Entertainment Group, Austyn King has calls his sound, #ElectroFunkPop. His most recent release is a five song EP entitled “This Is Austyn King.”

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he outside world, you, and I are observers of greatness every day. Angel describes, Michael’s Jackson’s hit, “Off The Wall” as the The poem, “Our Deepest Fear”, by Marianne Williamson reveals soundtrack of his life. Moreover, true to the lyrics of the hit song, his the depths of the human heart with the following lines: life has followed a similar path and has developed the courage to live as an out and authentic performer in the marketplace. “.. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of Angel has been unafraid to approach demographics that are not God. Your playing small does not serve the world… “ always served by mainstream artists. He works hard to continue to break barriers for his community. Reflecting on his career thus far he What does it mean to be great? What does it mean to be gifted? What states, “I didn’t think I would be doing this, this way.” When, Angel does it mean to be exceptional? What does it mean to be talented? What first started out he questioned balancing his desire to sing, dance and does it mean to be successful? While those answers differ according to perform with his need to live authentically and in his truth. This has one’s personal perspective and paradigm, greatness once recognized in allowed him to live a life beyond his wildest dreams! an individual, cause or group cannot be denied, nor silenced!

Angel describes his decision to get back into music, after ending Marc Angel cultivated his greatness from an early age, sneaking out of an abusive marriage, as a pivotal decision in his life. Angel’s the bed and down the stairs as a youth to hear his father play different album “AngelDust” chronicles his journey through his marriage, albums from the musical greats. Angel credits his father for his early the aftermath of its conclusion and the life lessons he learned as a musical influence and vocal tutelage. Despite his father’s passing, result. Angel describes his album as reclamation of himself and says Angle treasures those moments with his father. Angel began dancing at that leaving his marriage, “turned out to be the best decision I ever two, singing at four, writing at ten and producing at the age of sixteen, made in my life, and if I hadn’t made it I wouldn’t be here today or cultivating the seeds of greatness within. Angel is a truly a multi-talented performing music.” and multi-layered man.

He cautions survivors of domestic abuse within the LGBT community When you are not privy to someones story, his or her failures, and to not be afraid or ashamed of their experience. successes, both public and private, it can often appear as if they have become great overnight. Angel is an example to all of us that greatness Angel believes that young people seeking to follow his career path does not just happen and it most certainly does not go on sale! Nor does should be willing to network, talk and collaborate with other artists greatness just appear on your local stage, television screen or in the and live an authentic life! national spotlight. Angel credits his mother as his number one fan and notes that she makes a point to travel to his performances, in Miami, Angel hopes to further introduce his music to the masses, and inspire California, Washington DC or wherever he may be. Angel believes others through his music, artistry and life. that he wouldn’t have been able to reach his career milestones without Story by RYAN GIRLEY his mothers support. She has encouraged him to follow his dreams and always remain true to himself.

Angel recognized early on that his life was his very own stage and he needed to be the star on that stage. Throughout the years, Angel put in the hard work in the background but his musical career gained steam in 2008 with his breakout single, “Game.” Angel is also an accomplished actor, choreographer, and skilled stage dancer.

Angel has toured across the country, sold out the legendary New York Irving Plaza, and headlined several music events at the OUT Music Awards Concert as well as the NYC, Atlanta and DC Prides. Angel has also appeared in films such as “Finding Me.”

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RAFER JOHNSON has committed himself to the process of going from good to great by becoming entrenched in community activism.

French Enlightenment philosopher Volatire once stated that, “no problem can withstand the assault of sustained thinking.” Johnson has turned his thoughts, desires and ideas into action and advocacy for his local community and is currently running to become a member of the Georgia State House of Representatives for district sixty-two. If elected Johnson would become the first openly gay male in the Georgia House of Representatives.

Johnson currently serves as program manager for Delta Air Lines in-flight services, and is a member of the Atlanta Beltline Tax Allocation District advisory committee. Johnson was previously a member of Leadership Atlanta in 2009. Leadership Atlanta is the nations oldest leadership development program and it helped spark the seeds of leadership that Johnson exemplifies today.

ANTONIO BROWN has never been short on dreams, hope, or commitment. Early in his adult life, Brown discovered his creative instincts, critical eye, discriminate fashion sense and his tenacity to overcome less than ideal circumstances.

Brown has had much practice in turning unforeseen circumstances into opportunity. After leaving his job at Alexander Doll Co., Brown established and created his own company LVL XII (Level 13). LVL XII is Brown’s take on the classic men’s shoe with premium fabrics, textures, and metals. LVL XII accomplished over $250,000 in sales within the first two months of launch and several notable celebrities have worn LVL XII products.

Brown opens up about his journey of becoming, triumphing over adversity, and surviving childhood sexual abuse through his memoir, “Muted Dreams.”

His memoir garnered considerable support from Ebony Magazine.

Story by RYAN GIRLEY

Named by the Los Angeles Times, as one of the “new civil rights leaders” for the twenty-first century it would seem that DeRAY McKESSON had appeared on the national stage seemingly overnight. When in fact his entire life has been the training ground for who he has become today and Ferguson, Missouri arguably may have been the powerful impetus that would cause him to lend his voice to a growing chorus of those searching for equality, equity, and justice for all lives, but particularly African American lives in the United States.

McKesson is a former educational professional and focuses on issues affecting children, youth and families. McKesson uses his voice as a part of the “Black Lives Matter” movement and standing as an emerging civil rights activists and leader. McKesson believes that there is a place for everyone at the table and a space for every voice in the fight for civil rights.

There are so many things to consider when contemplating the measure of a man according to today’s modern standards. Then there are some men for whom no measurement can be found. DENNIS A. MEREDITH, Pastor of Tabernacle Baptist Church in Atlanta, Georgia is such a man.

Meredith has pursued an ambitious vision since assuming the pastorate at Tabernacle Baptist. Under his leadership, Tabernacle has led many major outreach developments ranging from community restoration to leading social justice and human rights campaigns. Tabernacle has also focused on community development, acquiring and refurbishing over thirteen parcels of blighted property in the Old Fourth Ward, helping bring restoration to an economically challenged community

Meredith relocated to Atlanta GA, after being invited to serve as the pastor of Tabernacle Baptist Church in 1994. His message has been one of inclusion, love, and acceptance since his appointment.

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ometimes in our lives, our choices really do determine our destiny, whose gravity is often unbeknownst to us at the time of our decision.

Kelvin Atkinson, a democratic state senator from Nevada, made decisions early in his life that placed him on a trajectory that would one day catapult him into the national spotlight. Kelvin Atkinson’s life might very well be a euphuism for the well beloved poem, “The Road Less Traveled” by Robert Frost.

Atkinson began working for local government in 1991, but has been giving back to his community since his days as a student at Howard University. It wasn’t until after the birth of his daughter Haley that Atkinson first ran for the Nevada State Assembly. Atkinson’s goals then and now have been to improve educational opportunities for his community, through advocacy and community engagement. Upon his election to the Nevada State Senate in 2012, he secured eighty percent of the vote. Atkinson had previously served ten years in the Nevada State Assembly.

In the last legislative session the Nevada State Assembly passed approximately seven hundred and fifty pieces of legislation.

Senator Atkinson, is most proud of his efforts to help overhaul the energy sector in the state of Nevada, along with his educational advocacy work. Senator Kelvin Atkinson is the first African American to serve in both legislative houses in Nevada.

Atkinson continues to be a champion not only for educational opportunities for the citizens of Nevada but also for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender rights across the state of Nevada and the nation. He cautions young LGBT men and women seeking to follow in his footsteps that “being gay is not a career choice.” He advises that they study people with like career paths, take a little bit of knowledge from each person and focus on something that will progress them throughout the years.

Reflecting on his speech identifying as a proud black and gay man in front of the legislative assembly, the Senator states, “ I always wanted to be judged on my merits, the work I do in the legislature, versus my color, sexuality and other identifiers.”

Kelvin currently serves as Democratic Whip for the Nevada Senator Atkinson appeared on the national stage when State Senate and as the national vice chair of the Council of he announced to his colleagues that he was “Black, State Government, he is the first African American elected in the Gay, and Proud”, during a Nevada Senate floor debate organizations storied eighty three year history. on “Same Sex-Marriage”, in 2013. Atkinson later went Story by RYAN GIRLEY on to add “if you feel that marriage equality harms your marriage, then your marriage was already in trouble in the first place”, and the rest as the saying goes, is viral history!

Senator Atkinson made history after a 2014 ruling by the Circuit Court in Nevada struck down Nevada’s prohibition of Same Sex Marriage. Atkinson married his partner of seven years, Sherwood, affectionately known as “Woody”.

Atkinson counts his spouse and his daughter as part of his biggest support system, along with a host of friends and supporters. Just this past legislative session Senator Atkinson has sponsored thirty one bills and cosponsored fifty one bills in this legislative session.

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JUST exactly what is “Black Lives Matters?” Black Lives Matter (BLM) Thirdly, Black Lives Matter should seek to bridge the generational gap

is a grassroots effort that grew out of the outrage of the acquittal of George Zimmerman of the death of Black teen Trayvon Martin. Starting as a mere hashtag, it gained momentum after the deaths of Michael Brown, John Crawford, III, and Eric Brown. Although there is an official website that proclaims that Black Lives Matter is “not a moment, [but] a movement,” there appears to be no formal organization. Nevertheless, in three short years, it has grown to include 23 independent chapters and participated in over 1,000 protests and demonstrations nationwide. While Black Lives Matter effective in bringing attention to police brutality and problems within our justice system, there are some things that it should be conscious of as it seeks to become an effective, long-term organization.

Currently, Black Lives Matter is a confederacy – a decentralized network of chapters acting independently. The lack of a formal, legal structure gives the appearance of chaos and promotes Fox news correspondent Elizabeth Hasselbeck’s misconception the organization is a “hate group.”

Without structure, the establishment will only see Black Lives Matter as a mere moment, not a movement, not a force to be reckoned with, and certainly not a long term threat.

Secondly, Black Lives Matter should be mindful “not to throw the baby out with the bathwater.” Black Lives Matter is not the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960s. Middle-class values, loyalty to the Democratic Party, and working within the “system” do not appear to be their strategy for advancing the cause. However, these Civil Rights Movement tactics painted a vivid picture in the media so the world could see American oppression and force systematic changes. With social media, imagine how much more effective Black Lives Matter could be by adopting and adapting principles from the Civil Right Movement. If it worked once, it can work again.

with Civil Rights Movement pioneers. There is reported “bad blood” between the organization and some Civil Rights leaders. However, now is the time to come together with one agenda for the good of all Black people. There are pressing issues that need our immediate attention (such as constant changes to the Voting Rights Act) that threaten the progress we have made. In words of songwriter India Arie, “If old people would talk to young people, it would make us a better people all around.”

Lastly, Black Lives Matter must include all black lives. The chief organizer of the March on Washington in 1963 was Civil Rights activist Rustin Bayard, a Black gay man; however, the Movement did not include a strategic plan for the Black gay community. Although understandable for that era, times are changing. The Black gay community is increasingly strong and active with a voice that deserves to be heard. Have the oppressed become the oppressors? It was only a little more than 50 short years ago Blacks were denied basic civil liberties that many now want to deny the Black gay community. There must be a strategic plan for the Black gay community within and not separate from the overall agenda of Black Lives Matter.

Black Lives Matter is fresh, new energy that has galvanized Blacks in a way not seen since the Civil Rights Movement to effect systemic change once again. However, it will never happen if Black Lives Matter remains a loose network of independent chapters without a common vision – a confederacy – never to rise again just like the last one…a moment, but never a movement.

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[IN THE SPIRIT]

STAND IN YOUR LIGHT Story by LONNELL WILLIAMS

“STAND IN YOUR LIGHT” is not just a tagline I use to encourage others, but is also the way I try to live my life. What exactly does it mean? How does one achieve it? Like anything worth sustaining, it requires effort and spiritual practice.

The results? Joy. Unspeakable joy.

Spirituality is often associated with religion and joy with emotion. Cowering solely to these two associations stifles our potential. To “stand in your light” means to show up in life, present and unashamed, as the fullest expression of your true self. Not easy, especially in a culture where we thrive on the approval of others. This is not about religion. This is about honoring your purpose for having the gift of life. Joy is a state of being; sustaining contentment and peace in a world that appears full of chaos. Lofty expectations you say? I say essential and achievable.

I find a critical conduit to inner peace is finding YOUR unique spiritual path. You may find it through religious practice but many do not. Perhaps you feel most alive when working out (doing it for your well being and not because of the attention your chiseled abs or firm, exposed “cakes” bring while “twerking” shirtless in the club).

Maybe art, sports, reading, traveling or cooking bring you joy. Whatever centers you, honor it!

I believe joy is our birthright. Not there yet? Start identifying the painful patterns which seem to repeat endlessly. For me the most recent indicator i had more work to do was getting kicked to the curb by the man I loved….on Facebook! Having a full emotional breakdown in a hotel room, I finally had to accept I was just as responsible a contributor to this collapse as he. Getting there wasn’t easy. I called him all

My intent with this platform is to let you dreamers and visionaries

kinds of black mutha-so-and-so’s, plotted the demise of his new “situation,” and

know you are not alone. To you who are suffering or seeking

other things that shall remain between me and God. Once I obtained to courage to

external validation in potential harmful ways (thirsting for

experience that pain and dig deep, I ended up back at my 5 year old self still holding

likes on social media; numbing hookups with random partners,

onto unresolved anger towards my father. If I wanted to return to joy, facing those

excessively partying to your detriment, etc.) you are not alone

demons would only be the first step. The road to healing would be longer than the

nor any better or worse than the rest of us. Our media may be

Underground Railroad.

dominated by fear based headlines but this aims be a safe space where we can cultivate, respect and share our various paths. Far

Are you actually living your life to the fullest? Or are you trying to convince others

too many of us are hurting while others are elsewhere healing.

you are something you’re not? I’m not standing here in judgement for each of us has

We are far too beautiful, talented and important to nurture this

work to do. Today too many of our brothers and sisters are in pain.

disconnect. Let’s bridge the gap!

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[LOVE RELATIONS]

SO YOU CAN MARRY...

NOW WHAT? Story by TIM’M T. WEST

T

here were varying beliefs in the black LGBTQ community about Marriage Equality. To be sure, both the public imagination and legislative reality seemed to suggest that the gay rights equal rights to marry. The reality for many or most black LGBTQ folk is that even with the passage of marriage equality, there would still be concerns about access to health care and an HIV epidemic where we can still track disproportionate infection rates.

There’s the continued reality that many black LGBTQ folk are underemployed, black transgender women are murdered at alarming rates with little resource to a justice system that barely acknowledges them, and LGBTQ black youth in schools are subject to bullying, have high truancy, are over-represented in the criminal justice system, and represent a large percentage of youth who are homeless or unstably housed. So you can marry, now what?

I’m hardly a hater. I’m happy about federal marriage equality, in part because so much of the attention to LGBTQ equity has centered around this right to marry that the ability to focus on a broader range of issues that impact black LGBTQ folk is critical if we are to thrive. For many black LGBTQ people very little remains changed after the SCOTUS decision to make Marriage Equality Federal. In June of this year, being partnered with hopes that if Marriage Equality was passed, I might consider a move back South, I was admittedly compelled by the decision. It weighed heavily in my decision to move to Atlanta.

I couldn’t imagine living somewhere my relationship wouldn’t be seen as equal to others, whether I married or not. My dating experiences, in particular, with other black men were challenging. There were few brothas in my dating history who shared aspirations to marry a guy.

Most couldn’t imagine it, didn’t believe

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it, or felt it was “going too far.” When I started dating my current partner, I was happy to discover that marriage was both an option and aspiration. Upon moving to Atlanta in July, I’m reminded that Georgia, like many other Southern states, has any number of OTHER repressive laws that impact us: from the lack of employment protections or hate crime legislation to “no promo homo” laws in schools or threat of religious freedom exemptions that would enable discrimination against gays. So yeah you can marry but you can also be fired if someone finds out with little legal recourse.

With a presidential election just around the corner and significant threats to civil rights legislation which enabled black and LGBTQ equity, many would be advised to take the walk to the voting booth as seriously as the walk down the aisle. We are misguided if we mistake the growing acceptance of gay best friends on Housewives shows or representation on “Empire” as sign that true equity has arrived. For me, it’s not about being for or against marriage; it’s about acknowledging that having piecemeal civil rights—black rights without LGBTQ rights, or vice versa—yields the partial freedom that marked brotha Bayard Rustin’s tragic outcast from his pivotal role in Civil Rights organizing. I dare to envision and enable a society where my freedom is realized on all terms. Rather than being an empowered black man and an oppressed, shamed, and marginalized queer brotha, I aspire an existence where my Pride isn’t partial.

Otherwise, I can only sit with the reality of second class citizenship when one asks: “Now you can marry, so what?”

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