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EDITOR’S NOTE

Photography by JUSTIN L.MARTIN

WITH EVERY ISSUE of GENTS Mag our offices are buzzing, phones are ringing, staff is jet-setting and e-mail boxes are overflowing with ideas.

comfort recipes with a cuddle buddy and exploring the nightlife of the Dominican Republic all shot to the forefront of our focus and stayed there.

And while planning the first issue for 2016 I initially thought about the typical subjects of self improvement. I’d planned the perfect New Year fitness photo shoot and even discussed menus with a nutritionist that would encourage our readers to fuel their bodies in preparation for summertime— all great stories in their own right.

This issue also features author, philanthropist and designer Antonio Brown. The multi-talented innovator let us in on who he is outside of social media and red carpets. Within the other pages, we chose to display stories of politics, music finance and fashion from a GENTS vantage point. Get lost in these pages that follow and enjoy!

Then the ideas of celebrating self with our “Stand In Your Light” column, indulging in our southern

Lentheus Chaney

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1: JUAN SESSION-SMALLS

Juan Session-Smalls is co-chairman and founder of The Gentlemen’s Foundation. The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. (TGF) is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization dedicated to the healthy development of LGBTQ men of color. The foundation also seeks to promote positive images of LGBTQ men of color and encourage dialogue on issues that impact our communities. Since 2011, The Gentlemen’s Foundation has been committed to supporting, empowering and mentoring LGBTQ men of color, as well as encouraging public service, leadership and networking among its membership. thegentlemensfoundation.org

2: ERNEST DUNCAN, JR. Ernest Duncan is a CPA based in New Jersey, where he has lived for 13 years. He is the chief financial officer at a New York City based workforce development organization focused on homelessness and formerly incarcerated individuals. In addition to his responsibilities as a nonprofit executive, he teaches accounting, finance, and management courses at several colleges and universities. Inspired by his parents’ example, he devotes his spare time and energy to mentoring others on finances and leadership. 2 5: JUSTIN L. MARTIN

Justin L. Martin is founder/CEO of Martin Company, a firm that specializes in graphic design, photography, and event planning. Born and raised in Atlanta, GA, he attended Jacksonville State University where he studied graphic Design. His target audience is “every man” - the common man who is seemingly starting from nothing, but holds a vision towards a grander something. Justin Martin and The Martin Company offers a fresh eyes review coupled with an acute focus on branding and consulting which helps every client’s vision come to life.

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8: MEL SMITH Mel Smith is a native of Cleveland, Ohio who migrated to Atlanta, GA. Mel is a graduate of Hampton University and served in the US Airforce after which he began working for AT&T. During his tenure with AT&T, Mel travelled and lived in several states. Mel now works as Corporate Director of Training, Quality & Curriculum Design for a US company that has locations in Barbados, the Dominican Republic, Grenada, Honduras and St Lucia. He has resided in the later for the past 7 years.

5: DERRICK TENNIAL

Derrick Tennial is founder/CEO of Let’s REThink That, an education empowerment organization. A former teacher and administrator, he is now a college professor, who has presented throughout the country on topics such as diversity in education, HIV/AIDS awareness, and issues of identity, sexuality, and spirituality. He has authored five books; his most recent publication, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: The Unspoken Policy of the African-American Church in the South” is featured in the collegiate textbook Critical Studies of Southern Place: A Reader (2015). A proud son, brother, uncle, and godfather, he resides in Atlanta, Georgia.

6: J. WESLEY J. Wesley was born in Newark, NJ and holds a Bachelors in Sociology, a Masters in Education, a Certificate in Pastoral Counseling. He loves education and believes strongly that with knowledge comes much power and accountability. He is an author, an educator, singer, public speaker, spiritual coach, minister, higher education professional, and social advocate. Wesley has accomplished a lot and contributes his success to God, family, friends and supporters. jwesley.org

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7: LONNELL WILLIAMS

Through the power of the internet, Lonnell Williams, establish himself as an important and influential force in the world of social media. As host and producer of the popular web series, 3LWTV, Lonnell initially came to prominence in the African American LGBT community by committing to showcase positive images of a people often marginalized or ignored by mainstream media. One of Lonnell’s most visible relationships is with media mogul Oprah Winfrey, who he befriended a few years ago via Twitter. In a continued effort to learn, teach and inspire, Lonnell continues to explore new opportunities and use his life to demonstrate a tagline his supporters have come to adore....”Stand In Your Light.”

8: DJ RICHIE SKYE DJ Richie Skye is an international DJ who infamously infuses elements of EDM, Hip Hop and Dancehall. Follow DJ Richie Skye on Twitter & Instagram at @DJRichieSkye and online via richieskye.com.

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10 INDULGE

Southern Comfort

14 TRAVEL Destination DR

16 FASHION Fashion In The Key Of Lifestyle

25 FINANCE Stupid S#!t I’ve Done With My Money

26 HEAD SPACE R&B When Did It Die?

28 FEATURE

Antonio Brown: SUPERhuman

35 POLITICAL VIEW The Notion Of Privilege

36 STAND IN YOUR LIGHT ”Stand In Your Light”

38 LOVE RELATIONS Let It Go!

ON THE COVER: ANTONIO BROWN

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[INDULGE]

sOUTHERN COMFORT Although the winter season has been mild thus far, there is still no better way to keep warm and cozy than eating a big bowl of your favorite soup. But instead of sticking to your usual dish—sorry Chicken Noodle soup—GENTS Mag encourages you to step outside of the box and try something new, delicious and savory. Here are three southern comfort recipes that are sure to leave you and your cuddle buddy satisfied. Story by LENTHEUS CHANEY

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BAKED POTATO SOUP ingredients:

cooking instructions:

4 baking potatoes

Bake potatoes until tender. Let potatoes cool, cut into

Bacon, cooked and crumbled – about 12 slices or ½ cup

halves and scoop out pulp. In a large pot, melt butter

4 green onions, chopped ⅔ cup butter

and stir in flour—let cook for approximately one minute, gradually adding in milk.

⅔ cup flour 6 cups milk

Cook over medium heat (don’t let it come to a boil) and stir

1 cup cheddar cheese

often. Add potato pulp, cheese, bacon, green onions and

Salt & pepper to taste

salt & pepper to taste. Heat soup, but don’t let it come to a boil. Add additional milk sparingly until it reaches your desired consistency. Serve with extra cheese and bacon and enjoy!

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CHICKEN ENCHILADA SOUP ingredients: 3-4 skinless chicken breasts 1½ cups LA VICTORIA brand enchilada sauce

cooking instructions: Season and brown chicken breasts. Once fully cooked, cut into thin strips.

1½ cups chicken broth 1 can petite diced tomatoes

1 can diced tomatoes with green chilies

1 can black beans, drained

3 garlic cloves, crushed

1 tsp cumin

½ tsp dried oregano

Sour cream, cheese and green onions for garnish

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Next, combine chicken, enchilada sauce, broth, tomatoes, black beans and spices in large pot and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and let simmer for 20 minutes. Serve warm and garnish with sour cream, cheese and green onions as you please!

CREAMY TORTELLINI SOUP ingredients: 1 ½ ounce envelope white sauce mix 4 cups water

cooking instructions: Place dry white sauce mix in a 3 ½ or 4 quart slow cooker and gradually add water, stirring until smooth.

14 ounce can vegetable broth 1 ½ cups sliced fresh mushrooms ½ cup chopped onion

Stir in broth, mushrooms, onion, garlic, basil, salt, oregano and cayenne pepper.

3 cloves garlic, minced ½ teaspoon dried basil, crushed ¼ teaspoon salt

Cover and simmer on low-heat for 5 to 6 hours or on high-heat for 2 ½ to 3 hours.

¼ teaspoon dried oregano, crushed 1/8 teaspoon cayenne pepper 7 ounce package dried cheese tortellini (about 2 cups)

Stir in tortellini pasta. Cover and simmer on low-heat for 1 hour. Stir in evaporated milk and fresh spinach.

12 ounce can evaporated milk 6 cups fresh baby spinach leaves or torn spinach Ground black pepper (optional)

If desired, sprinkle individual servings with black pepper and Parmesan cheese.

Finely shredded Parmesan cheese (optional)

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[TRAVEL]

DESTINATION DR

Story by MEL SMITH

f you are looking for a getaway that can provide spectacular and long lasting memories, then The Dominican Republic should definitely be on your “Must Do List.”

From the beautiful beaches and the beautiful people to the very favorable exchange rate, you can’t go wrong here. The Dominican Republic is a Caribbean nation that shares the island of Hispaniola with Haiti to the west. Though known for its pristine beaches, all-inclusive resorts, golfing and the Caribbean’s tallest mountain, it has a varied terrain comprising of rainforest, savannah and highlands. The island has a Spanish colonial history going back 500 years with Passionate Merengue being the official music and dance. The laws in the Dominican Republic make no distinction between homosexual and straight relations between adults (over 18 years), and if you are carrying the US Dollar or Euro, you are by all means accepted. NOTE: A large percentage of the male population appears to be bisexual.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO IN THE DR The Colonial Zone in Santo Domingo is both an important historical site and a vibrant neighborhood that is currently experiencing a cultural and economic renaissance. Founded in 1498, the Santo Domingo Colonial Zone is the oldest European settlement in the New World. In 1990, the entire area was listed as a UNESCO World Heritage Site. The Colonial Zone is a wonderland of historic Spanish Colonial buildings and monuments. Yet, the area is so much more than a mere open-air museum. It is a bustling district filled with shops, restaurants, cafes and night clubs. The vibrant street life, incredible live music performances and beautiful parks and squares make the Colonial Zone a prime tourist destination. This amazing historical area features some of the oldest buildings in the New World. Top attractions include the Catedral Primada de América, the first cathedral in the Americas, and the Alcázar de Colón, the former residence of Christopher Columbus’ son. Other attractions include the Convento de los Dominicos, the first monastery in the Americas, and Ozama Fortress, the oldest fortress in the New World. The Santo Domingo Colonial Zone also has beautiful parks and squares. Parque Colón, in front of the cathedral, is the perfect place to take a break and watch the people strolling by. Plaza de España is an enormous square lined with some of the area’s best restaurants. It is also the backdrop for live music and dance performances every Friday and Saturday evening. The Ruins of the San Francisco Monastery are another setting for live music. Every Sunday night, locals and tourists gather to enjoy a lively evening of Latin music and dancing. Visitors staying in the Colonial Zone will find that everything is within easy walking distance. The hotels are near all of the top attractions, as well as great shopping, fine restaurants and fun night clubs. The Colonial Zone is an amazing tourist destination that offers something for everyone. 14 GENTS MAG

Fogoo Discotec - Santo Domingo

Fogoo has very LOUD music with very young, beautiful and available clientele. Open from Thursday to Sunday there is cover charge on Friday and Saturday. As a foreigner I have never paid for entry but if you like a good Drag Show, this is the place. You can find out more about their upcoming events or specials at facebook.com/pages/Fogoo-Discotec.

The G Bar Lounge & Gallery - Santo Domingo

Located directly right next door to Fogoo (above). Same clientele, with more drag queens. Strippers and drag shows. Great Music, Great Atmosphere, Great EyeCandy. ~ facebook.com/G-Bar-Lounge-and-Gallery.

Coco Bungo – Punta Cana

Strategically located in a centralized area which offers the huge exposure to several nearby Resorts, Hotels, Malls, local amenities and the Punta Cana Airport, Coco Bongo is a nightclub and an ultimate entertainment experience. Coco Bongo offers wonderful live music and performances that imitate popular performers such as Beyoncé, Madonna, Mickael Jackson, LMFAO, Jennifer Lopez and Pitbull and soundtracks of famous films such as “The Mask”, “Moulin Rouge”, “Chicago”, “The Phantom of the Opear”, “Batman”, “Spiderman”, “Tron” and “Saturday Night Fever. The club provides 9 to 12 shows per night and each night offers a different selection of shows which also include professional acrobats, dancers, actors and a dazzling light and sound show. ~ cocobongo.com.mx/Punta-Cana. GENTS MAG 15

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[FINANCE]

STUPID S#!T I’VE DONE WITH MY MONEY Story by ERNEST DUNCAN, JR.

avigating one’s finances can be a bit of a struggle for many but there are valuable lessons to uncover as well as a journey worth traveling to get to the ultimate destination of financial stability. I’ve traveled down the financial road and taken several detours along the way to financial stability. I want to share some of my mistakes and hopefully you won’t be inclined to repeat my temporary moments of insanity. A SALE IS NOT A BARGAIN I used to think that a sale of up to 75% off was a good deal. I would feel a sense of pride of getting a Ralph Lauren hoodie regularly priced at $225 for $56.25. I don’t think many individuals would disagree. However, it may not be the good deal that you thought it was if the item is still hanging in your closet unworn for five years. This was a waste of money because I really didn’t need the hoodie. WAREHOUSE SHOPPING At various times in my life, I’ve been a member of one of those warehouse clubs such as Costco Wholesale, Sam’s Club, or BJ’s Wholesale Club. The concept behind these behemoths is that buying in bulk saves you money. I agree that these clubs can save you money if you make wise buying choices. Otherwise you can leave one of these stores feeling as though you left the contents of your wallet behind. Everyone uses toilet paper and paper towels, so there’s no doubt that a case of each will be used at some point. However, you must be careful when it comes to buying perishables. Those 5 pound jars of mayonnaise and relish looks great when you calculate the price per ounce. However, it may not be the bargain you thought it was when you end up throwing half away. Needless to say, I wasted money several times on the mayonnaise and relish as they spoiled well before I was able to use them. BALLER STATUS Homeownership has always been one of my goals in life. I was fortunate to be able to buy a two bedroom townhome early in my 20’s. I should have kept the townhouse but quickly traded up to a five bedroom house. What was I thinking other than trying to get my “baller” status! Lucky for me that I was able to find someone willing to help me pay the mortgage. I know it’s hard to escape the influence of those around us who appear to be living the life. And of course, advertisers promote the Kardashian lifestyle to the fullest. I didn’t know it at the time but many of my friends were struggling to keep up just like I was. I’ve come to appreciate that overspending on material items will hurt my financial stability, stress me out, and make me unhappy in the long run. READ THE FINE PRINT “Zero finance charges for one year” appeared in large fonts. I couldn’t pass up the ‘no interest for a year’ opportunity to furnish my new townhome. The plan was to save up enough money to pay the loan off at the end of the year. It seemed easy at the time however I did everything but set aside the money to pay the loan off. Needless to say, I was surprised when I received the first statement with an interest rate that I wasn’t expecting. Of course, if I had read the fine print carefully I would have focused on the section that stated that interest was accumulating if I didn’t pay the balance off after a year. I ended up paying an interest rate of 22% and four times as much as the furniture cost.

FREE MONEY Starting your career after graduation is tough. Back when I graduated, we were in a recession. Jobs were hard to come by. And even if you managed find a job, it was at an entry-level salary. I was living paycheck to paycheck. The last thing I wanted to do was to set aside a portion of my salary for retirement. At the time, I thought I needed every penny I earned. I failed to avail myself of the 401k match that my company offered. I turned down free money. The company would match dollar for dollar each dollar I put into my retirement account up to 6% of my salary. I missed out on the opportunity to double my investment by simply saving a few dollars every paycheck. These mistakes are just a few of the detours I’ve taken in the process of gaining control over my quest to becoming financially stable. I hope that you’re able to learn from my mistakes on the road to financial success and end the cycle of financial madness. GENTS MAG 25

[HEAD SPACE]

WHEN DID IT DIE? Story by DJ RICHIE SKYE

t’s been an interesting past several years for music aficionados, particularly with regards to R&B. Here, I want to skip the obligatory definition of R&B, also known as Rhythm & Blues, and get right to the heart of the matter: has R&B died? And if so, when did it die, and how? Can it be resuscitated? I think I may have the answers.

THE BLUE EYED SYNDROME See, for the past few years, it seems as though industry insiders have given the genre an ominous and dire prognosis—that R&B was on the decline and on the verge of flatlining—even though in recent years we’ve also seen the resurgence of “blue eyed soul” with the likes of Justin Timberlake and the release of his 20/20 Experience. And who can forget the omnipresent holy grail of this alternative brand of soul, Adele? The name alone resonates among industry analysts, the buying public and award show committees. In fact, recent sales of her new album, 25, seem to indicate that the “blue eyed” subsection of the genre is indeed alive, well and more than thriving. So how is it then that so many are quick to tout the death of R&B when sales figures, in fact, indicate that the genre is at an all-time high? By nature, the two aforementioned acts are often classified as “Pop” acts or perhaps even “Adult Contemporary” even though the roots of their latest releases have been steeped in R&B. Their mournful songs of longing and love lost, bluesy notes and chord progressions mixed with syncopated percussive elements lend themselves to the heart of R&B, and yet, for some reason these acts aren’t typically listed as R&B acts. Could skin color be the unspoken barrier?

A SALES FACTOR? As it stands, the decline of R&B in recent years seems more rooted in a decline in music sales than lack of interest in the genre (a dark cloud over much of the music industry). After all, musical acts like R.Kelly, Monica, Kelly Rowland, Trey Songz, August Alsina and Chris Brown have been consistently putting out music, perhaps not to the same degree of sales-success as their Pop counterparts, but an onslaught of tours, videos sponsorships and branding opportunities seem to continue to ignite public interest in these acts. Powerhouses like Beyonce, Rihanna and Chris Brown continue to offer more R&B flavored albums in recent years. And the fact that many R&B purists label the genre’s more hip-hop and EDM-laced flavors as a form of sell-out is an out right piece of bull. 26 GENTS MAG

A BRAND NEW LIFE See, I would argue that R&B hasn’t died. In fact, it never left. I would say that R&B has gone through puberty, and evolved into a full-fledged, multifaceted entity capable of morphing its sounds and elements in fresh new ways. Artists like Tinashe, Kehlani, Frank Ocean and The Weeknd have pushed the genre in alternative directions. Much like Rihanna, Usher and Neyo explored the more hyper-synthesized elements of electronic music, many of today’s newer artists are infusing elements of grunge, trip hop and dubstep into their offerings, making the genre all the more complex and rich. R&B is no longer just a black genre, it’s a genre rooted in African-American heritage that now reflects the world we live in today. A world where races are united and merged, a world where an artist can come out of the closet and is respected, praised and offered sponsorship opportunities, a world where we accept that everyone has experienced heart ache, yearning and most importantly, love. R&B has died, its been given new life.

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ANTONIO BROWN SUPERhuman

ANTONIO is muted. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have anything to say. Just ask any one of the 68 thousand Instagram followers he’s garnered since penning his memoir “Muted Dreams”, launching his luxury shoe brand LVL XIII (Level Thirteen) and establishing his non-profit entity, Protect-A-Child, Inc. What they will tell you is that Antonio is an opinionated mogul in the making. They may even say that he is a modern-day superhero. Fortunately for me I got a true glimpse of the man behind the mask. Story by JUAN SESSION-SMALLS ~ continued on page 31

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[FEATURE]

“I give without the expectation of gain. Because for me, it’s not about that. Sometimes there’s a bigger picture at stake.”

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t’s an unseasonably warm winter afternoon when I arrive at Antonio Brown’s “de-luxe apartment in the sky” (an ode to The Jefferson’s for those of you too young to recall the popular television series.)

I ask him to elaborate on what he means by ‘boring’ because from my vantage point, nothing about this guy—the one seen on magazine covers and red carpets—gives me boring.

We are in the heart of Atlanta, also known as the Hollywood of the South, where skyscrapers and highrises create a magnificently sumptuous skyline that attracts the who’s who in television, sports and music. It’s no wonder that Antonio, 30, resides among the crème de la crème atop one of the most sought after properties in the city. After all, he is the founder and CEO of LVL XIII, a masterfully crafted luxury shoe brand.

“I’m a homebody. I don’t like to go out. I don’t like large groups of people. I get uncomfortable.” This description of Antonio is the antithesis of the public persona we’ve come to know: captivating, successful, endearing and in charge. Superman with the proverbial ‘S’ plastered on his chest. I guess that explains why he is viewed as an enigma by his followers. He gives you just enough to remain intrigued, all the while maintaining a stealthy mystique about himself. I ask him if he thinks this is true. “I’m very complicated,” is all he offers a la Clark Kent and I leave well enough alone.

With a minimum retail sticker price of $550 and exotic materials that accentuate the sneakers futuristic designs, the brand was an immediate sensation following its launch in 2013. Mega-watt super stars such as Chris Brown, Nas, Tyson Beckford and Jason DeRulo are all drawn to the brand. VH-1 even joined forces with Antonio for the launch of his Fall 2015 collection which further cemented his spot alongside top designers in the industry.

So, where does this modern-day marvel find solace? “I love going to the movies because it’s my one outlet where I’m capable of escaping reality.” An outsider would wonder what’s there to escape from and that his life seems picture perfect. Unfortunately that is a fantasy in and of itself.

Antonio is definitely at home with the stars because he is a star in his own right, a self-proclaimed “superhero” even. And just like your favorite superheroes from the comic books, Antonio battles the forces of good and evil on a daily basis with the requisite aplomb needed to change the world. “I’m a very boring person,” Antonio says while handing me a rum and coke from his sparingly stocked bar—remnants of a recent party held at his condo. “I don’t drink.” He sips a tall glass of water as we make our way into his decked out living room, an effortless, masculine mix of vintage and modern, wooden and metal pieces fit for the pages of Better Homes & Gardens.

Brown does not shy at the opportunity to share his story because it is the fuel that allows him to persevere. He is also fueled by the fact that all of his life people told him that he would never amount to anything because of his sexuality. He had a tumultuous childhood and was a victim of molestation, verbal and physical abuse. He’s endured acts of violence so gut-wrenching that he made it his mission to help prevent other children from suffering the same perils. He created Protect-AChild, Inc., to provide an opportunity for abused young and adult men to reinvest in their lives through programs focusing on empowerment, self-reliance and education. Like most superheroes, Antonio is an “extremist” by nature. He is a walking, talking paradox that straddles the line of good and evil. He casually mentions that he has a strong relationship with God and an equally strong a relationship with the Devil, “for me, I realized that [those relationships] are important.” Why is it important? I ask, enthralled by his dichotomous nature. He explains, “God is a spiritual force that is like the father of all fathers. A creator. Universal love. The Devil, for me, is a Being that’s lost, confused, angry. It’s the force that makes you question who God is.” He says that having a close relationship with both Beings is necessary because it gives him a unique perspective that allows him to effectively carry out his life’s mission of service even if that perspective proves to be his kryptonite. I assume there has to be a large price to pay when you live your life consuming the pain and angst of others. There comes a time, even for the strongest of men, were serving the masses becomes a disservice to self and I get the feeling that carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders is weighing Antonio down. ~ continued on page 32

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ntonio’s mother recently asked why he carries the worries of the world on his shoulders. “I feel like I can,” he answered. “Even though the worries of the world may be way heavier than what I can ever in my life potentially carry, I feel like I can still do it. Without faith and without hope you really have nothing. You can’t move mountains without faith.” Faith. Moving Mountains. Hope. It all sounds great but I’m not buying it. At least not 100%. So, I continue on with my queries. Are you happy? “No. When you go through things in your life that intense [like a near death experience 3 months ago], sometimes they break you. Sometimes you don’t become unbroken. Sometimes you don’t have the strength to continue fighting. Sometimes you want to give up and just say fuck it all, you know?”

What does the “Fighter” say to himself when he is tired of fighting? “It’s ok. It’s ok to get tired of fighting. It ok to no longer want to fight in this moment that I’m in right now. And I think there’s a lesson to come from this.” It’s been said that the measure of a man can be summed up by what he posts on Facebook. It’s been said because I just said it! And if this sentiment rings true, and it does, then Antonio Brown is an overflowing cup of spiritual goodness. He is quick to offer guidance, motivation and encouragement to those who need it, in spite of his personal woes and shortcomings. That’s what makes him (super)human. After all, what’s there to celebrate if our heroes didn’t have to overcome obstacles? “I give without the expectation of gain. Because for me, it’s not about that. Sometimes there’s a bigger picture at stake.” And what exactly is that bigger picture?

Do you ever want to give up? “I’m tired of fighting. Fighting everything. Life. Experiences. Spirituality. God. The Devil. I’m just tired. Yes, there were many times [I wanted to give up] but none that deterred me from moving forward in the greatness that I know God had in line for me.”

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“I know that I’m meant to inspire change in this world. I just haven’t seen how I’m supposed to do that. I just know it’s going to be in a great way. And the impact of it is going to be substantial.” Well, if launching a charity, writing memoirs and running luxury sneaker brand doesn’t equate to a big enough ‘S’ on his chest, the world better watch out for this man of steel because the best is yet to come.

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[POLITICAL VIEW]

THE NOTION OF PRIVILEGE Story by DERRICK TENNIAL, Ed. D

he notion of “privilege” impacts all aspects of our society, yet many people are unaware of it including the privileged. Just exactly what is “privilege?” Privilege “allows people to assume a certain level of acceptance, inclusion, and respect in the world, to operate within a relatively wide comfort zone. Privilege increases the odds of having things your own way, of being able to set the agenda in a social situation and determine the rules and standards and how they’re applied…Privilege means being able to decide who gets taken seriously, who receives attention, who is accountable to whom and for what. And its grants a presumption of superiority and social permission to act on that presumption without having to worry about being challenged” (Rothenberg, 2008, p. 117). With the 2016 presidential campaign in full swing, privilege has taken center stage in the form of Republican presidential candidate and billionaire, Donald Trump. Trump has made all sorts of outlandish, degrading, demeaning, and stereotypical comments about women, the disabled, Latino immigrants, and the Muslim community without the fear of consequences or repercussions. Although his brazen comments have made national and international headlines, Trump continues to dominate the Republican presidential field and will likely become the party’s nominee, which will exacerbate the problem of privilege already prevalent in American society. How so? Trump’s brashness has awakened other members of the dominant culture with much less or no socioeconomic power who yet feel empowered to say and do whatever they feel. Recently on Fox News, guest moderators Lt. Col Ralph Peters referred to President Obama as a “total p***y” and Stacey Dash, who suffers from cultural amnesia, stated that the President “doesn’t give a sh*t about terrorism.” When did it become acceptable to disrespect any President on national television?

Also, Texas Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia suggested that black students do not belong at elite colleges but at slower track schools during the oral arguments for Fisher v. University of Texas, a case in which Abby Fisher is suing the University of Texas because she believes that the university denied admission to her in favor of a minority (a violation under the Fourteenth Amendment). According to the university, Fisher did not have the grades nor the test scores to meet admission requirements, yet from her place of privilege, she feels that it was her right to be admitted. Two defendants only received probation after brutally attacking a male gay couple in Philadelphia. This was a clear cut case of gay bashing – a hate crime by federal definition, yet they only received probation allegedly at the victims’ prompting. Why was this gay bashing not classified as a hate crime? If so, when do victims have a say so in the prosecution of a federal crime? The assertion of privilege will only worsen if Donald Trump becomes the Republican nominee with the likes Sarah Palin, David Duke, and the “privileged” poor, who are championing a candidate that (perhaps) places them in the same category with minorities, pledging their allegiance. It is imperative that we galvanize greater than we did in 2008 to elect President Obama to prevent a Trump presidency. A Trump presidency will not only set this country back in ideology but in policy as well for all minorities including the LGBT community. Trump and his supporters see nothing wrong with their ideology, psychology, or theology. All after, the privileged are most often unaware of their privilege.

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[STAND IN YOUR LIGHT]

STAND IN YOUR LIGHT Story by LONNELL WILLIAMS

’m writing today from 40,000 above the Pacific, nestled in a comfy Business Class pod! Laying here appreciating many of the wonders in my life—health, family, friends, travel, work and joy.

From the outside this all looks so glamorous. While I do live a full, fun, exciting life, I have my share of pains, challenges and lessons like everyone else. Perhaps what is not as common, is how I approach them. Everything from “failed” romances, to betrayals, to kindness being mistaken for weakness, I realize there’s only one way to face the madness successfully and that being personal accountability. It’s easy to point the blame and cement ourselves in the pain of “If only he/she/it hadn’t done this or that to me!” Even wishing God would expedite karmic payback can be soothing comfort food. Comfort food, however, ingested in excess, can have toxic consequences on the body and soul. To get the lesson a challenge brings, we must be still and be present in the moment. Meditation, prayer, exercise or whatever your path for obtaining clarity, you must go there in the very moment you feel angst. When you catch yourself projecting your pain and blaming others, take that moment to acknowledge the emotions you feel. Don’t blame yourself for feeling hurt, pissed or even vengeful. Allow the feeling but don’t wallow in it. Proclaim a different narrative and ask yourself the following questions: What did I put out there to draw this experience to me? What is the lesson for me here? What do I do to ensure I don’t repeat this EVER again? Ask repeatedly anytime emotional discomfort arises and if you are open to receive, the

Sometimes we are tempted to seek sympathy on social media

answers will come. You must trust the truth of your instinct. The answers may not be

from our “friends” or supporters. Exercise caution when posting

quick or easy but they’re usually right so be patient and keep your heart space open.

your trials on the net. Doing so invites all kinds of energy to your wounded space. External validation can do more to harm than heal

We also need a support structure outside of the chaos of our minds. Turn to your close

internal anguish. As Brene Brown, one of my favorite spiritual

support system of family or friends. Some of us may feel we have no one to trust but

teacher says, “only share your story with those who have earned

in those instances you absolutely must call on yourself. An exercise I learned long ago

the right to hear it.” It’s true that as a community we must create

when I was in the depths of despair and felt alone was to stand in the mirror regularly,

more safe spaces where we can be vulnerable with one another.

look at myself and repeat, “I am lovable. I am loving. I am loved.” You won’t believe

We’re not there yet but it’s achievable. It starts with you. It starts

it at first so repeat it until you do. It’s life changing. I promise.

with me. It takes us all.

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[LOVE RELATIONS]

LET IT GO! Story by J. WESLEY

he great gospel legend Milton Brunson pinned and recorded a familiar song. “I am free. Praise the Lord, I’m Free. No longer bound. No more chains holding me. My soul is resting. It’s just a blessing. Praise the Lord, Hallelujah I’m FREE!” Normally this song is sang during the homegoing celebrations of our loved ones with the hope that their soul is at peace. Free from a world of suffering. The congregation mourns the fact that a loved has departed, but on the other hand there is rejoicing because the loved one is free from the bondage of the flesh. Do you believe that freedom only exist when we leave this life? Life is a journey comprised of experiences that are designed to mold us into stronger beings that can teach others through our example. Our struggles and experiences should never be taken for granted nor diminished. However, the struggles come to build stamina for the other trials that are to follow. I pose to you a series of questions: “How do you handle tribulation? How do you compartmentalize what has happened to you during your life that was out of your control? How do you handle what you have done to others? During your times of transition from relationships, employment and other areas, what spirit(s) did you allow to enter that still has control over you until this present day?” As you have taken the time to ponder over the proposed questions, you might discover that there are some negative things that have happened to you that is causing stagnation. We sometimes believe that if we do not address the trauma in our lives, that it will just disappear. That ladies and gentleman is just a fairy tale. Our childhood trauma if unresolved grows into adulthood drama which makes it very difficult to live a life that can be meaningful instead of defensive. It’s in the place of defense where we don’t allow ourselves to embrace love, hope, truth and a different perspective of how life can be.

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We have allowed the hurt, fear and anxiety to keep us locked in our own fairy tale to the extent that we have become numb to reality as well as the many possibilities that life has in store for us. If a word of encouragement can be offered to you in this season, it would be to let it go. Whatever you have acknowledged your “it” to be, just know that as long as you continue to hold on to the corpse, the longer you will remain in the graveyard. There are some things in our lives that just had to die so that we could live. The challenge is being able to let the dead thing go so that you can truly be free. Some relationships that we have held on to, offenses that others have committed against us, and the list goes on. Ask God to forgive you, you forgive others and forgive yourself. It is not always an easy task, but it is a much needed one in order to truly sing the song of Milton Brunson “I am free. I am free. Praise the Lord I’m free. No longer bound. No more chains holding me. My soul is resting. It’s just a blessing. Praise the Lord. Hallelujah I’m Free”. Today make a choice to let it go and be free. Be free from the offense, the hurt, the betrayal and the pain. You can live without it.

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