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As we approached, something unfortunate happened. One of the boys tried to pass me. Some gals would have let it go, but, no, I wanted the lead and, perhaps, an audience.

I GUNNED IT.

Snowmobile Lessons

BY KANDACE CHAPPLE, EDITOR

WE GREW UP on snowmobiles. Weekends and evenings were spent outside sliding off the back of the slick seat of a 1981 Ski-Doo, trying to hang on to one another, riding double. Of course, the point was to dump the other one off, pretend we didn’t notice and leave a sister in the field, enjoying a solo ride for a few glorious moments. Alas. The older we got, the more trouble we could come up with. We spent weekends snowmobiling out to sledding hills with a pullbehind trailer on skis stocked with firewood, hotdogs and Pepsi. Our mom did all the work then, and little did we know how much work that must have been. We were focused solely on building jumps big enough to break a leg. Finally, we set out on day trips, where we didn’t fall asleep riding between our mother’s legs, our helmet hitting the handlebars. Then we became drivers… although we still had to share a sled.

WE WERE TEENAGERS ON A MISSION. We borrowed Dad’s sled and took off with the guys, our newest interest. And the soon-to-be boyfriends were, of course, in awe. A couple Interlochen babes aboard a 1986 Phazer? It was love at first snowfall. One afternoon, we decided to ride out to T-ville, where, believe it or not, the action was. We stopped at the Laughing Horse Saloon for lunch, our snow bibs unzipped and hanging off our waists, our helmets benched along the wall. We split the burger and the bill. It was the epitome of a high-end date in our teens. We thought we were charming then, over watered-down Sprites, but it was after lunch on the way home, that we sealed the deal. I was driving, Kerry’s arms wrapped around my waist, and the boys were behind us on their own machines. We were 16, parent-free, and, for the most part, senseless. Up ahead, I could see a pile of snow-covered gravel next to the nowdefunct railroad bed. A jump, as it were.

At the moment when I could have gone straight past the gravel pile, I went right, the throttle pinned to the handlebar. I hit the jump going wide open. And there we were, up above the world, the boys tiny specks below us down on the trail, the Phazer’s orange and red decals gleaming as it reached for the January sun. For a moment, there was no gravity, no thought, no time. Just silence. We thought we were dead. But what was done, was done. We had nothing left to do but wait for the earth to greet us again. Which took a while. When we finally landed, I imagined our father, working in his pole barn in Interlochen, felt the impact of his Phazer depreciating by a couple hundred bucks, maybe more.

SLAM! The skis wrenched one way, then the other when we hit the ground. But, somehow, with my now-boyfriend’s eyes upon me, I kept control. I rolled the narrow, black machine to a stop, calm. It was something, really it was, to witness teenage bravado in the moment. When the plume of snow settled, we found ourselves well off the trail. And our boys came running over, shouting in approval. They inspected us first. We were alive. Off we got, limp with relief, falling to the ground in lumps of polyester, laughing, celebrating and admitting things had gone a little too far. The boys inspected the sled next. It was decided that the Phazer could make the trip home, that they were in love, and that, of course, no one would tell Dad a thing. You know what we call this kind of thinking? Vision. Poor vision. And with that, we welcome you to our “Vision 2020” issue, where dreams, ideas and launches are celebrated!

Grand Traverse Woman P.O. Box 22 Interlochen, MI 49643 231.276.5105 www.grandtraversewoman.com FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/grandtraversewoman PUBLISHERS Kandace Chapple Kerry Winkler EDITOR Kandace Chapple, kandace@grandtraversewoman.com ACCOUNT DIRECTOR Kerry Winkler, kerry@grandtraversewoman.com ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Deb Dent, deb@grandtraversewoman.com Sherry Galbraith, sherry@grandtraversewoman.com Lori Maki, lori@grandtraversewoman.com Laura Miller, laura@grandtraversewoman.com ASSISTANT EDITOR Eva Nienhouse, eva@grandtraversewoman.com COPY EDITOR Christine Kurtz DESIGNER Bethany Gulde, bethany@grandtraversewoman.com COVER PHOTO Leslie Hamp, our GTWoman Luncheon speaker on Feb. 12th. See her story on page 8. Beth Price, Beth Price Photography www.bethpricephotography.com PHOTOGRAPHERS Sarah Brown, Sarah Brown Photography www.sarahbrown-photography.com Beth Price, Beth Price Photography www.bethpricephotography.com CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Beth Barbaglia Tracy Bielaczyc Anne Bonney Carol Brown Courtney Fender Leslie Hamp Erica Hansen Christine Magiera Joelle Lynn Mabey Miranda Monroe Lori Sikkema ADVERTISING Kerry Winkler at 231.276.5105 or kerry@grandtraversewoman.com Visit www.grandtraversewoman.com for rates. SUBSCRIPTIONS Cost: $20 (for 6 issues) Subscriptions may be purchased online at www.grandtraversewoman.com or mail a check to: Grand Traverse Woman P.O. Box 22, Interlochen, MI 49643 ARTICLES/PRESS RELEASES See www.grandtraversewoman.com for guidelines. MISSION STATEMENT Grand Traverse Woman is a bimonthly magazine dedicated to the interests of women in the five-county region. Our mission is to provide women with a publication that is educational and inspirational. We strive to maintain a positive, well-balanced and genuine forum for women's issues. © Copyright 2020 Grand Traverse Woman LLC All rights reserved.

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D E AC T I VAT E D

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BY JOELLE LYNN MABEY

IN JANUARY 2019, I quit Facebook. Okay, I didn't quite quit, but I started a sort of personal experiment. It’s not that I’d become a Facebook hater, but I’d noticed my relationship status with social media wasn’t exactly smitten anymore, either. I settled for following someone on Twitter instead of having hard conversations. I stared at Instagram instead of the person in front of me. I checked Facebook posts more than I checked in with friends. I had trust issues with people I’d known for years, yet I was confident in an Amazon review, no questions asked. Something needed to change.

MY “WHY?” Social media can be wonderful, don’t get me wrong. I’ve used Facebook to start a college scholarship fund and to raise money for disaster relief and I’m fascinated by what it has enabled me to explore. It’s great for pictures of my boys and their friends, too. But still, I’d much rather talk to them in person. I stepped back to reflect on this question: Who are the people in my life who make me forget about my phone? Those are the people I want to spend more time with. I want to do BIG things, and I can't do the big things if I am always distracted by the small things. When I told some of my friends that I was going Facebook-less, I wish I’d kept a count of every person who responded with: "I wish I could, but…" Honestly, it's becoming increasingly harder even to consider not having an online presence. I know, because that was me, too! My decision wasn’t quite a New Year's resolution, but it seemed like the right time. And after 10 months, I've decided to keep the experiment going.

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LOGGING OFF

CHALLENGES

Before January, I scrolled and clicked and double-tapped, then wondered where the day went. I recharged my cell phone, my laptop, my desktop, and my iPad but not myself. I complained because nothing had depth. I was more anxious than at any other time in my life, and I kept looking for another app to fix it. But in a world with so much information, I was still missing wisdom. It was fun to see old high school and college friends and what they are doing, but honestly, I didn't hang out with most of them in real life. I felt like a voyeur on their lives 35 years later, and that’s not who I wanted to be. I got so distracted by everyone and everything else that I almost forgot that person I wanted to be.

I haven't felt like I’ve needed Facebook socially, but I do sometimes miss out on parties, nights out, and hanging out with friends. I miss the ease of communication with friends and acquaintances, and I find myself playing catchup in conversation when someone brings up an article or a photo shared on Facebook. The decision I made last January felt liberating, but my world quickly became quiet. Friends had to use the phone to call and make plans. Sometimes I felt like a burden, but my friends slowly adjusted. Now, I make conscious efforts to keep in touch with people. If I really want to connect with people or find out how they are doing, I shoot them an email, call, or even walk down the street and knock on their door.

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UNPLUGGED AND LOVING IT

Once off Facebook, I was able to calm down and temper my anxiety by acknowledging that social media is not reality. Facebook was not feeding my soul. Also, I've always been someone quick to fill the silence or write someone off completely. Through my experiment, I’m learning how to rectify this. And although I can’t always rely on others’ authenticity (especially on social media), I always have my own. No more complaining if things do not feel authentic (as I select another filter on my selfie)… Going Facebook-less has also shown me what I need more of: Genuine connection to the people I love and care about, whether through a phone conversation or one-on-one date. Profiles and status updates don’t tell their story.

What I enjoy most about being off Facebook has surprised me. I spend less time on my computer and other social media. What is or isn't worth sharing no longer lingers in the back of my mind. I spend more time simply enjoying the here and now. I even wrote the first draft of this with a pen and paper. I needed to step away—maybe not forever, but at least for a time. I needed to experience life without Facebook and find other ways to access information that is important to me. Being present, uncluttered by the voices expressed on social media, has allowed me to enjoy the moment. It’s allowed me to see my true self. Although I’m more disconnected in the social media space, I’ve never felt more connected to me. And I feel just fine.

Joelle Mabey is a mom to four sons, a daughter to parents that would gladly let her move home again, and a sister to a brother who still tells her secrets in the dark. She is blessed beyond measure by those she is privileged to call friends.

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THE LIFE-CHANGING POWER OF AN

Intention (NOT GOALS, INTENTIONS!) BY LESLIE HAMP

IT’S THE TIME of year that many people make New Year’s resolutions—60 percent of us, in fact, according to research. But only 8 percent of us achieve them. Here’s how you can beat the odds and crush your goals any time of the year.

HAVE AN INTENTION Intentions are a way to align your mind and heart so you can move forward in harmony. In this clear headspace, you can tap into your desire and focus your energy. Intentions are not just about tangible, physical things; they are also about your way of being. In 2013, I was on the board of directors of the Michigan Land Use Institute, now Groundwork Center for Resilient Communities. I was asked to welcome guests including Governor Milliken, Senator Stabenow and MLUI members to a special event. I was honored, excited and a little nervous about the opportunity and immediately jotted down my goal to be relaxed, articulate and welcoming. My words weren’t convincing me, however, so I decided to write down an intention instead: I’m having so much fun making meaningful connections! Voila; my energy shifted and remained clear in the months leading up to the event. The welcome flowed, and I had so much fun making meaningful connections!

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Setting yearly, quarterly and monthly intentions helps you feel connected to your big vision. Setting weekly and daily intentions helps you show up fully engaged and mindful of your words, thoughts and actions. I always start coaching sessions and workshops by setting an intention to get myself and my clients focused. We close our eyes, place hands on our hearts, and take a few deep breaths. It’s an important ritual to let go of the busyness of life and center ourselves. Then, we set an intention for what we want to take away from our time together. It is powerful and effective. Here’s how to set your own intentions from a place of meaning and satisfaction:

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Grand Traverse Woman 1. CREATE A RITUAL At the beginning of a new season, new year or new project, create a ritual that is meaningful to you. Light a candle, close your eyes, place your hands on your heart and breathe. Notice what unfolds and allow what stirs to surface in your mind.

2. ADD FEELING Feel possibilities. Feel happy. Feel creatively inspired. When you come from the feeling place of gratitude and trust, it’s easier to call forth your deepest desires. Allow yourself to dream at a whole new level. What wants to be alive right now?

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3. JOT IT DOWN… AND LET IT GO Pull out your journal and write down an intention using positive words and descriptions. For example, you could write: “I’m so excited to .” After you’ve written your intention, bring your journal up to your heart and give thanks. Now it gets exciting. Read your intention periodically, write it on a sticky note or illustrate it on a vision board. Stay in the high, happy vibration, and watch it manifest.

WHAT’S NEXT You can learn to let go of the stress that so often accompanies setting goals and instead invite inspiration and joy into the process. Learn how to make space for something larger to take hold, get clear on what you are saying yes to, and relax into what unfolds. Listen to your inner wisdom for a clear direction on what to create in 2020, and stake a claim on an intention that’ll inspire heartfelt action and success.

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IN MAY of 2001, I fell down the stairs and broke my neck. I’d been taking our puppy down so he could go out one more time before bed, and my feet slipped. I hit the back of my head on the stair and fractured my C1. Right after the accident, it was hard to think I’d ever move again in the way that my body always had. But slowly, I learned that I would—and I’d do it even better. I’d run!

RECOVERY I was fortunate. I had a stable fracture and only needed to be immobilized for two months. It could have been much, much worse. Still, during those two months, I couldn't do much more than sit and walk my dog. Even reading hurt my neck (holding up a book uses muscles in your neck and shoulders). So, I did what I could do. I sat and walked my dog while wearing my cervical collar 24 hours a day. I slept sitting up for a long time, too. When I felt like I could finally lie down to sleep, my husband had to help me lie down and get back up. Although he travels a lot, he was able to stay home during my recovery. Once, though, he was gone overnight, and I had to ask my neighbor to come over at 6:30 a.m. to help me sit up and get out of bed.

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do, deeply indebted to their physical therapists. She gave me my movement back. Exactly one year after my fall, I celebrated the birth of our first son. Life was good, and I was healing.

THE POST Fast forward to about six years ago. I saw a friend post on Facebook that she had run at least one continuous mile for the past 100 days. She ran every day! I was amazed. I ran in high school, but I hadn’t been very serious and always came in last or second to last. While growing our family (our boys are now 17, 14, and 10), I ran to get back into and stay in shape, and in 2007, I ran my first half marathon. But I'd never considered running even two days in a row! I mentioned my friend’s achievement to my oldest son. "You could do that, mom!" he said without hesitation. And that made me think that maybe I could. I'd have to think about it, though, and make the commitment mentally first.

DAY 1/100 May 24, 2014, the day of the Bayshore Marathon, was day one of my run streak. I ran the half. I have always loved that race, and so many of my friends often participate with me. I lovingly call it my “Christmas Race” because I look forward to it every year. That first year of running every day was a huge challenge physically. My legs were sore in places that they'd never been sore before, but I kept going. I had made the commitment, and nothing was going to stop me.

COMMITTED AND CREATIVE At first, the hardest times to run were while on vacation. It was difficult to set aside time, so I woke up early or ran while the kids were at the pool. Now, these are some of my favorite runs! Some of my most memorable runs are running in downtown Chicago on Thanksgiving morning, running early while in Arizona to beat the heat, and running on hotel treadmills barefoot because I forgot my running shoes. Sometimes I have been very creative, like running late at night after packing for a vacation. I’ve even run just past midnight; I was up late anyway and wanted to avoid an even earlier alarm the next morning.

FORTUNATE Nutrition is my passion, and I know it’s extremely important for optimal health. I’ve followed a vegan diet for 10 years and seven years ago eliminated gluten. Once I began fueling my body with a wide variety of raw, whole, plant-based foods, I saw my race pace, endurance and recovery improve greatly. I’ve taken this passion and created a wellness business where I help others significantly improve their health, too. I feel very lucky to have been able to run every day for over five years. Since starting my run streak, I have even improved my half marathon pace. I broke the two-hour mark, a goal of mine, this past year (with a lot of training with my friend and coach, Emili). I ran the Bayshore Half Marathon in 1 hour 56 minutes. And I never think of my running as taking time away from my family; it’s time I'm dedicating to me.

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GET READY FOR HEARTFELT ACTION AND SUCCESS! WHAT IF? What if three months from now you could look back and feel fulfillment in the new things you’ve created in business and life? But, wait, there’s this: People are doing more and more, but it’s not always from a place of meaning and satisfaction. It’s time to learn how to intentionally seek what you really want. In this luncheon, you’ll learn a creative approach to visioning, an approach that will help you leave behind the striving and pushing that can turn life into endless hard work. WHAT ARE YOU SAYING YES TO? True success in business and life starts with setting intentions that allow your mind and heart to align. You will discover how to make space for something larger to take hold, get clear on what you are saying yes to, and relax into the unfolding. It’s not business as usual… in this lunch you’ll listen to your inner wisdom for a clear direction on what to create in the next 90 days, and you’ll voice an intention that will inspire heart-felt action and success! Leslie Hamp leads immersion workshops and online classes for women who want to build a new path or reinvent themselves completely. She’s the author of Create the Life You Crave and its companion Beautiful Journal, as well as contributing author of Wide Awake Every Week and Love Stories of the Bay. In her free time she produces audio stories for Interlochen Public Radio and is devoted to hiking, skiing and traveling the country with husband Jim and pooch Sadie in Frankfort.

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5 Ways

T O REBOO T YOUR HE A LT H H A BIT S BY BETH BARBAGLIA

WITH the new year upon us, many of us take this opportunity to start a workout routine or adopt a new diet. Some make it a goal to stick to keto for more than four and a half hours, while others resolve to go to bootcamp, staying even after the first burpee. No matter our approach, we resolve for better health in the coming year. Well, rest assured—a fresh start doesn’t have to be dramatic. You can create big change in your life with small adjustments. Here are five ways you can reboot your health habits in 2020:

Some facilities may offer you a guest pass or a free class for the day. By touring local options, you can feel more confident when the time comes to commit to a membership. You’ll know you’ve done your research and are choosing the facility that has the best features for you and your workout style. Committing to a new membership is like painting a room—most of the time and energy is in the preparation. If you prepare properly, getting the job done isn’t so bad after all.

1. REPLACE YOUR SNACKS Don’t feel ready to tackle a goal like “stop snacking” just yet? That’s okay. Instead, try simply replacing the snacks you eat throughout the day. Like crunchy snacks? Replace your crackers with carrots or cucumbers. Like salty snacks? Skip the chips and grab some salted mixed nuts. Not only will it give you your salt fix, but the protein will keep you fuller longer, too. Like sweet snacks? Skip the fruit snacks and grab a clementine. There are lots of ways to take a step toward healthy without going into full restriction mode.

2. ADD HEALTHY OPTIONS TO YOUR MEALS Healthy meals don’t have to be about deprivation. Instead of thinking about what you have to remove from your diet, add vegetables to each meal and eat them first. The fiber from the veggies will fill you up, and you’ll have less room for the less-than-stellar food choices you may be hooked on right now. Soon, you’ll add so many healthy options to your meals that you won’t have room for the junk food. It may sound easier said than done, but give it a try! See if you notice a difference in your cravings over the next several weeks.

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4. SCHEDULE YOUR WORKOUTS When we don’t plan what we want to accomplish, we force our minds to work harder, remembering all our to-dos. In the process, we offer ourselves a way out, or an excuse for not doing something we should. Workouts are no exception. If you don’t schedule your workout on the calendar, let’s say for 7:00 am, then when you wake up at 6:30 am, your mind has the option to say, “Hmm, do I really need to work out? I could use the time for something else.” So, put your workouts on the calendar. Lay out your clothes the night before, prep your pre-workout or overnight oats, and you won’t have any excuses when the alarm sounds.

5. RESPECT YOURSELF If you wouldn’t cancel on someone important in your life, don’t cancel on yourself. Respect yourself the way you’d respect someone you care about. Remind yourself that you deserve that time you blocked out to exercise. Remind yourself that you deserve to slow down and prep some healthier meal options. Remind yourself that you deserve to feel GOOD in 2020. This is your year and the best way to honor that is by honoring yourself first. Now is your time for a fresh start with small lifestyle tweaks— go out and crush it!

Beth Barbaglia, MBA, is the marketing and communications director at the Grand Traverse Bay YMCA, a non-profit organization focusing on youth development, healthy living and social responsibility. As a former personal trainer (American Sports and Fitness Association), collegiate hockey player and health coach, Beth has combined her MBA in marketing with her lifelong passion of health and wellness in a career at the “Y.” She can be reached at bethb@gtbayymca.org.

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Eat Happy!

1. Eat more slowly. Eating quickly means we are more likely to

overeat, so please sit down, slow down, taste and enjoy. Clear the dining table or declutter the kitchen counter to create a comfortable place to sit and enjoy your meal. Before taking your first bite, take a moment to be thankful for the food you have to eat. Pause to appreciate the colors, textures, aromas on the plate before you. Think about why you want to eat this food—what will it do for you?

2. Between bites…

Eat slowly to become aware of your hunger and fullness cues. It takes about 20 minutes for us to realize we’ve had enough to eat. One simple strategy to eat more slowly is to put your fork down between bites!

3. Toss the temptations. Many times I hear from clients: “If it’s in

10 TIPS FOR HAPPIER MEALS BY MIRANDA MONROE

the house, I’ll eat it!” Remove the nutrient-poor foods from your pantry or fridge–cookies, ice cream, candy, chips and more. Toss expired foods and stale, opened packages to reduce kitchen clutter and make room for the nutrient-dense foods that will serve you well.

4. At first sight. Keep your kitchen stocked with fresh fruits, veg-

etables and other nutrient-dense foods. Keep those foods visible and easily accessible. Keep fruit or veggies cut and ready to eat at eye level in the fridge or a fruit bowl on the counter.

5. Indulge in a technology detox. Especially when it’s time

to eat. Screen time is associated with poorer food choices as well as overeating. Turn off the TV and remove yourself from the computer or smartphone when eating.

6. Eat more plants. Generally speaking, processed foods are

higher in sugar, unhealthy fats, refined grains and additives. The best way to reduce processed foods is to think about eating more food from the earth and relying less on food from a package or box.

7. An apple a day (or more!) Aim to eat a fruit or vegetable at

DO YOU

set big health and fitness goals for the New Year only to realize months later you are nowhere near reaching them? If you can relate to this, then let me be the first to tell you: You are not alone. This is a common pattern many people fall into. After setting these big general goals—eat better, lose weight, drop fat, become stronger, gain speed, feel more energized—we realize...maybe they were a little too vague to achieve. Reaching a new goal doesn’t have to be complex or complicated, but goals do need to be set with intention, and action will be required daily to reach that goal. The secret to long-term change in our eating habits, weight, health and fitness, or any goal for that matter, is found in small consistent changes. To help you get started, I am sharing 10 simple nutrition-related lifestyle tips that will help bring you closer to the big goals most important to you.

every meal. Not only are they low in calories, but fruits and vegetables are loaded with phytochemicals, antioxidants, vitamins, minerals and fiber, which are all key nutrients to a healthy metabolism. And If you focus every meal on making sure you get in at least one vegetable and/ or fruit, they will ultimately replace and reduce the amount of processed foods in your daily diet.

8. Leave two bites behind. If weight loss is one of your goals,

start with simply leaving two bites behind at your meals. This small change will really add up to a decrease in overall intake and, over time, you will see and feel the results! Switch to a smaller plate size and you could reduce overall calorie intake by 20 to 30 percent.

9. Eat the real thing, but less of it. When heading out for a

treat, opt for the smaller version of the real thing (such as ice cream) versus a larger size of the reduced-fat version. That’s right! Eat (and enjoy) a smaller portion of the REAL stuff and feel more satisfied with less.

10. Drink more water. Plain Miranda Monroe is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (RDN), nutrition coach and founder/owner of Grand Traverse Nutrition, committed to helping her clients attain a healthy life through smart nutrition. She specializes in sports and performance nutrition, weight management, food sensitivities and healthy eating advice for your everyday nutrition needs. Learn more at www.GrandTraverseNutrition.com.

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UNCLE JOE’S BOOK & my fulfilled dreams I FOUND the papers in a briefcase that belonged to my late Great-Uncle Joe. The lock under the handle made me doubtful, as I was already missing several keys to locked drawers. Miraculously, though, the tan leather case clicked open, revealing a rich collection of documents. These papers would become a great treasure to me, just like the man who had authored them.

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had made a personal commitment to look at every single piece of paper in his Boston condo. Earlier that day, I had thumbed through stacks of handwritten bank deposit slips from the 1960s. The briefcase looked to be from around the same era. It had spent the last several decades next to a collapsing bookcase doing a stellar job of gathering dust. After I deciphered his writing on the pages I held, it only took a few seconds for me to realize the impact his words would have on my life. “Keep.” No question.

UNCLE JOE Both of my grandfathers passed away before I reached double digits, so after I moved to Boston in 2007, my Uncle Joe became a grandfatherly figure in my life. He had been a professor and lived to teach. A key lesson my Uncle Joe instilled in me was to “go into the unknown.” Meaning, don’t worry about tomorrow—live fully today. I experienced a few hurdles in learning that lesson: I was extremely risk averse; my plans had back-up plans, and I interpreted “live fully” to mean “live your purpose.” Frankly, I had no idea what my purpose was. Uncle Joe was a gifted writer and for years he talked about writing a book. At the end of his life, the doctors kept telling me that he might be holding on so he could finish his book. I had to explain that he had been saying that for seven years. The book would not be finished. Which is why, after finding that briefcase, I was stunned when I read the pages, “introduction to my book” and “for chapter one.”

THE BOOK I’d always thought that Uncle Joe’s book was an idea he’d had later in life. Finding those pages made me realize that it had been so much more—it had been a dream for decades, one that, on his deathbed, he still wanted to fulfill. I decided right then that I didn’t want someone going through my papers after my death and reading about an unfulfilled dream. I set out on a mission to identify all my unfulfilled dreams and take action. For as long as I can remember, I wanted to live in New York City. So at age 27, I moved there and, for the next five years, I lived out that dream. I’d also always wanted a red Jeep Wrangler. When I bought my first new car, though, I realized that the Jeep would be impractical and too expensive. There are dreams that go unfulfilled, too. Sometimes, dreams are postponed until certain pre-conditions are met, often set by the dreamer. I wanted to buy a house with a yard, but not until I was married. Pipe dreams are something different. They are the dreams we believe are so fantastical that we won’t even speak them out loud.

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As I took inventory of all my dreams, I began to discover that in my deepest of fantastical ones, lay my purpose in life. The answer was always within me, wrapped up in dreams.

BOTH FEET I created a risk-averse plan for action, but I kept hitting barriers. The Universe obviously thought I needed to jump in with both feet at once. Unfortunately, for me to accept that, I had to be pushed to the edge. In the scope of two years, I experienced Uncle Joe’s death, taking care of his estate, an unexpected job change, a move and my own health challenges that took eight months to diagnose. I can’t explain it, but with each experience, the insatiable feeling of what I was supposed to do with my life kept getting stronger. I finally decided that enough was enough. I took Uncle Joe’s advice and leaped into the unknown with only my dreams and my newfound purpose in life to catch me. A plan was in hand, but no safety net.

AN UNFINISHED STORY I took the leap in August of 2019 and have yet to reach the other side. I feel like I’m suspended in mid-air. I did everything in one fell swoop: bought a house, quit my job, moved from Boston to Traverse City, and started a business full time. Every morning I wake up not knowing what the day will hold, and every night I fall asleep not knowing what the next day will bring. So, why am I telling an unfinished story? It’s simple: I would make the leap again. I love living in the unknown, and when I think about the lack of net below me, it spurs me to give it my all. Doing what I’m meant to do has given me a peace I’ve never known. I could wait and tell you how it turns out, but for me, I’ve already succeeded. Whatever tomorrow brings, I am all in, and when I die and people read about my dreams, they will know that they were fulfilled and that I gave them my all. I know every situation, dream and person is different. Whatever your dreams are, there are things you can do to fulfill them. It doesn’t matter how it ends—what matters is that you tried. It doesn’t matter what tomorrow holds; it’s about living fully today. Thank you, Uncle Joe. Erica Hansen is a certified integrative wellness and life coach and spends her days helping others find their purpose and fulfill their dreams. Recently, she relocated back to her hometown of Traverse City from the East Coast to focus on her business, Life Integrated Coaching. In addition to coaching individuals, Erica works within companies on employee engagement and team effectiveness. Visit www.lifeintegratedcoaching.com for 2020 more information.

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An Artist’s

BY LORI SIKKEMA

I GREW UP in a large family, the youngest of nine children. Our parents instilled a strong work ethic in all of us, and I was taught to study hard, get good grades, graduate and get a good job. So that’s what I did. I graduated and spent the next 30-plus years working at good jobs that required very little creativity. Throughout those years, I always managed to carve out a little creative time for myself, crafting and art were my treasured outlets. But still, an occasional poster or holiday display didn’t exactly light my soul on fire. And as my life and interests changed, quilting became my favorite pastime.

every issue cover to cover, discovering new tips and techniques and admiring the artists’ beautiful work. I also discovered an advertisement for “AQS QuiltWeek,” a juried, international quilt show and competition for traditional quilts as well as art quilts.

LOVE IN STITCHES I made quilts for everyone I knew and for every occasion. I poured my heart and soul into each stitch and loved every minute of it. Then one day my husband, David, and I attended a quilt show in a beautiful garden, and that’s where I discovered art quilts. The clouds parted and sunshine spread over the entire earth, and the sound of angels singing echoed from the heavens. That’s what it felt like to me anyway! Later that evening, I got in touch with my pals, Google and Wikipedia, and together we explored the wonderful world of art quilts. I was smitten.

WELL-READ AND INSPIRED I purchased some instructional books online and after studying them every night for weeks on end, I jumped in with both feet and all my heart. I began making photo-inspired fabric collage art. I shopped local bookstores for fabric collage art magazines. I subscribed to Quilting Arts Magazine and eagerly awaited its arrival. I read

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THE DREAM I entered again the following year and was accepted once again. It was also that same year, while reading an issue of Quilting Arts Magazine, that I noticed their call for submissions. “We are always looking for artists with inspiring portfolios of work to be featured in our magazine,” the magazine prompted. I felt a little tugging at my heart, but not being a career artist or having an inspiring portfolio of work, I tucked the information away in my brain. I revisited it every so often and dreamed about walking down the aisles of my favorite bookstore to pick up a copy of “my” magazine, the one with my artwork in it.

By 2014, I worked up enough courage to enter “AQS QuiltWeek.” I can still remember hitting “send” on the computer. Even now, five years later, I get tears in my eyes thinking of that. I did it! I was brave enough to enter! To my delight, I was accepted into the show, and my entire family jumped up and down and cheered me on. I was thrilled to be able to show my work alongside “real” artists.

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I continued spending time in my little studio creating new artwork, my family and friends still my biggest fans. I didn’t consider myself a “real” artist. Not yet.

FULL WALLS AND BIG QUESTIONS The walls in my studio were filling up with my art. Before I even finished one piece, I was planning the next one. But there were days when doubt and insecurity invited themselves into my studio, and I sometimes questioned the purpose of all the canvases and art quilts that I had poured my heart into. Thank goodness for my niece, Erin, who introduced me to Rachel Hollis, a bestselling author, entrepreneur and motivational speaker. Erin suggested I listen to Chapter 14 of Rachel’s book, Girl Wash Your Face. (And if you are a creative soul who sometimes doubts herself, I highly recommend you listen to it, too.) “When you’re creating something from your heart, you do it because you can’t not do it. You create as a gift to yourself and to the higher power who blessed you with those abilities,” Rachel writes. Rachel’s words resonated with me and lit my heart on fire. I headed back into my studio with a happy heart and continued to create. I created because I could—because it made me happy, because it filled me up. I no longer questioned my art’s purpose.

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A REAL ARTIST On Sept. 3, 2018, I hit “send” again, this time to submit my artwork and essay to Quilting Arts Magazine. I had finally worked up the courage. I can still remember the moment I opened an email from the magazine’s editor and read the word, “CONGRATULATIONS!” On Sept. 17, one year later, “my” magazine hit the newsstands. From the East Coast to the West, my family celebrated with me. During this process, I came to realize that my family and friends had always believed in me more than I ever believed in myself. All these years, the story I’d always told myself was that I wasn’t educated enough. With no degree in art, I could never be a “real artist.” What I finally realized, though, is that an education comes in many forms. While I was spending my time researching and studying, learning new techniques and creating my art, I was also receiving an education. As it turns out, I am a real artist after all. Lori Sikkema is a fabric collage artist and instructor at The Crooked Tree Arts Center in Traverse City. To learn more about her work, you can follow her on Facebook (Lori Sikkema-Artist) or email her at loreen61@gmail.com to schedule a workshop or presentation.

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prior to Christmas 2011, I lost my sweet mama. Heartbroken and lacking purpose, I prayed that God would bring me to something bigger than myself. A few weeks later, I attended church where we viewed a water walk video of women and children in Kenya who, for their family’s survival, must walk miles every day in search of water. If they are lucky, they find it, but it is filthy, murky, bacteria-infested and shared with animals. Sometimes they must dig. This is what they drink, cook and clean with. The women and children gather the water in jugs, weighing over 45 pounds, and hoist it on their heads, to make the long trek home. They lack the most basic and vital need for life—clean water. Although I’d continue to miss my mother, I found peace and significance in helping to bring clean water to those in need. Without water, nothing can change or grow. But with water, everything changes and everything grows—including HOPE.

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CAROL IN KENYA ON A WATER WALK, CARRYING 48 POUNDS OF FILTHY WATER FROM A NEARBY RETENTION POND.

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Globally, over 600 million people do not have access to clean water. Each day, 30,000 children die due to water-related illnesses. While lack of clean water is a life-threatening problem, it is also fixable; the solution lies deep beneath the earth’s surface. Communities can access clean, safe, life-giving water—with a well. My church in Troy, where my family and I lived until moving to Traverse City two and half years ago, was challenged to raise awareness and funds for water wells, while training for and running the Chicago marathon that fall.

I left church with tears in my eyes. While I was not a runner, I felt called to do something. I’d been naive, unaware and had taken water for granted my entire life. I can enjoy clean, fresh water every day without even thinking about it, while others die due to the lack of it.

TRAINING Saturday group training for the marathon started. Knowing no one, I was apprehensive, but I reminded myself that, “If God brings you to something, He will help you through.” It took only a few weeks for me to realize that this was not just about the run. It was about challenging and pushing ourselves, raising awareness, encouraging one another and growing together on every level. We were ordinary people on a mission to do the extraordinary, for people we may never meet. After a summer of training, in October 2012, we traveled to Chicago, excited and ready. I’d always thought of it as a one-and-done goal, but when I crossed the finish line, I realized that “a finish line is really a starting line in disguise.” I knew, without a doubt, that God had a bigger plan.

GROWTH Our team continued to grow in numbers and in impact, but we also realized the need for more. Our leader and Executive Director Bill Clark, along with many of us, wanted to broaden our vision beyond a church ministry. Soon Hope Water International (HWI), 501c3, was born. We run, walk, cycle, swim, cheer and volunteer to raise money for clean water in Africa. In the last 7 years, we have raised over $3.7M through events like the Bayshore Marathon, the

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FAMILY We are truly just a group of ordinary folks (including veteran runners, total newbies and walkers) who come together with a shared passion and train for a racing event. Over the course of time, meeting once a week, we become like family. The Scriptures tell us to “love our neighbor.” This includes our neighbor on the other side of the world. When a well is installed, the community is strengthened, villages grow, health is restored, schools develop and churches form. People learn

of a God who loves and cares for them. A pinnacle event for me was when some of our team traveled to Northwest Kenya in August 2016. We shared community with some of the poorest, yet most joyful people in the world. While I had seen many videos and heard many stories, nothing impacted me quite like experiencing a typical water walk. We were led to a nearby pond and trust me on this, the water reeked! It was filthy and slimy and filled with feces. I know because I stepped in it, barefoot, and could smell it in my hair as the jug rested on my head. I could not even lift the jug above my waist, so my African lady partner helped, and accompanied me as I walked. She sang, I cried. Yes, I cried, but not because I was in pain (and I absolutely was) but rather because of my realization of people actually having to live like this. This is what they do day after day, sometimes multiple times a day, whether they feel like it or not. They have no other choice - NOW. But guess what, we CAN and ARE changing that. Hope Water International is an answer to their prayer! The next day we visited a site with a newly drilled well and celebrated the flow of

clean water. It was there, surrounded by a beautiful tribe who said they saw “Jesus in our eyes,” that I felt God’s presence like never before. We witnessed first-hand how access to clean water not only saves life, but creates life.

PURPOSE I run (and walk!) not because it’s easy or because I am even good at it, but because it’s what I can do today. God has given me the ability and the opportunity to bring life and hope to people who are dying. A clean water well affects lives for generations to come. I believe everyone wants to make a difference, to feel purpose. As our director explained to us, success is winning, but significance is helping others win. Success ends the day we die, but significance will outlast our time here on earth. Success will never completely satisfy us. Significance will satisfy our soul forever. I am excited and honored to begin Hope Water’s eighth year! This journey has blessed me abundantly. Together, we are creating change, making a difference, and bringing HOPE—one clean water well at a time.

Carol Brown was born and raised in southeast Michigan. She now lives in Traverse City with her husband, Todd, and precious pup, Daisy. She loves exploring her new town and getting to know the beautiful people who make up this community. Time with her girls and new son-in-law, who now live in West Michigan, is her greatest joy. If you want to learn more about HWI, contact Carol at carolzbrown@yahoo.com and visit hopewaterinternational.org.

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The Gender Filter: “I’ve had bad experiences with men, so all men want to have power over women.” There are great men out there! You don’t have to forget your past, but don’t let it hold you back from meeting someone new. The Age Filter: “This old fart doesn’t have anything of value to contribute. Everything they did worth talking about happened before computers were even invented.” Or: “This young idiot doesn’t have anything of value to contribute. What the heck do they know? I was divorced twice before they were even born!” You know the drill. There are many more filters, so if I left yours out, don’t be mad. (That’s the “Omitted My Situation So She Must Know Nothing” filter. See? They’re everywhere!)

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How to FLIP (4!) FILTERS in the workplace BY ANNE BONNEY

DIVERSITY in the professional world today means so much more than the obvious definitions from decades past. It’s not just gender, race and age anymore—it’s also experience and culture, how we grew up and our education, and more. We are all so different, from the clothes we wear to the music we love to the shape of our face. And even when we share similar features or interests, still, no two people are the same. To work together in a trusting and supportive environment (which is the best kind for record breaking results, by the way!), we need to respect the diversity within our team. Feeling accepted and fueled, each person can then bring their unique value to their role.

FILTERS If we want to respectfully and effectively interact with diverse people on our teams who may do, see and think about things differently than we do, we need to have the emotional fortitude to examine our filters. The filters I’m talking about here are the inbound filters (although it’s crucial to also be aware of our outbound ones—or thinking before we say or do something). We all have these inbound filters, and they can impact how we interpret things in both negative and positive ways. For example: The Positional Filter: “All people in power are corrupt and must have done something evil to get there. They are not to be trusted!” We believe this until we get that fabulous promotion (and raise). Suddenly, we don’t understand why people don’t like us. The Starstruck Filter: “I just saw their TED talk and they’re brilliant. Everything they say is perfect. I will believe everything they say and drink whatever Kool-Aid they mix up.” Avoid floating too far from the ground—accept and seek different perspectives and be realistic. Anne Bonney is a change expert, leadership trainer, professional speaker and author who resides in Traverse City. After a 20-year career in leadership and education roles ranging from Boston to Tucson, she left corporate to share her energetic, fun approach to positive leadership with audiences. She is thrilled to facilitate a leadership seminar Nov. 13 for Grand Traverse Woman Magazine and looks forward to seeing you there! Visit her at www.annebonney.com.

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The fact is, we don’t necessarily think these things consciously. Based on our experiences, what we read in the headlines, or things we hear from others, these filters sneak their way into our thoughts. Often we don’t even know it until we critically look at our relationships and approach improving them in an emotionally mature way. A common filter people have is the “Millennial Filter.” (If you just rolled your eyes or heaved a sigh, you have this filter. Diagnosis complete!) It’s easy to categorize and condemn 73 million people just because of the year they were born. They are the largest generation in the workforce today, and soon to be the majority. Whether you like it or not, they are also a group of individuals with a ton of intelligence, energy and drive to do great things. And yet, often they’re not given a chance, written off because of our filters. Think about your filters the next time you work with that person in the office who gets under your skin. If you can approach the situation with a much more positive attitude, you’ll be able to paint your colleague in a much more constructive light. You’ll be proud of your own shifted mindset, and they’ll feel more accepted. Everyone wins!

HERE ARE 3 TIPS FOR THE FLIP! 1. Be aware! First, you need to be aware of the people who might fall victim to your filters. Make a list of the people who you have a tough time with and see if you can find any commonalities between them. This will shine a light on the filters you might want to be aware of. 2. ID it! Once you’ve identified a filter, plan your different response for the next time you encounter someone within it. Say you have an age filter and think that everyone older than you are condescending—rather than downing the whole bottle of chardonnay when grandma comments on your life choices, shift your mindset. Think “She’s just trying to help me be better,” or “She means well,” instead. You’re more likely to see grandma in a positive light and enjoy your time with family. 3. Look for the good. When your filter tends to make you think negatively about a certain person or group, look for the positive. Make a list of all the value a certain individual brings to the workplace or your life. You’re a lot more likely to see their value, treat them kindly and get better results with them. Even if you’re just wearing rose-colored glasses at first, a new approach could revive your results. And who knows, maybe you’ll also gain a better relationship and more enjoyable workplace. All because you flipped your filter!

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THE BIKINI RADAR RUN

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RACE A SNOWMOBILE? Absolutely! In a bikini? Well... The Bikini Radar Run in Wisconsin is a snowmobile race that blends the two, participants suiting up in bikinis and racing sleds to raise money for breast cancer. When I heard about it, I knew I had to give it a shot. So in 2019, I did—and then I brought a Radar Run to East Jordan!

A LOVE FOR SLEDS I have been racing snowmobiles for over 10 years, first at an oval track racing circuit, and now as a drag racer. I have raced in many locations across Northern Michigan and Wisconsin and plan to do as many races as possible this upcoming race season. Throughout my race career, I’ve been told time and again that I’m too small, that the sleds are too big for me. I was once told that I would never be able to handle the sled I wanted to purchase, a 2015 Arctic Cat 1100 Turbo. Determined more than ever to show everyone that I could do it, I bought the sled. I worked hard and started winning races, gaining the respect of my fellow racers, most of them men. Being a woman in a predominantly male sport is never easy, but because of my passion and dedication, I have been recognized and guided by a couple of the sport’s greats.

ALL FAMILY HERE My mentors stepped up and helped me with the maintenance of my sleds, and my mechanics and teammates have become family. My family and friends have supported me from Day One and have always been there to cheer me on. Racing snowmobiles has given me confidence and it has also allowed me to become a role model for other young girls. It is one of my favorite parts of the job. I tell them never to let anyone stop them from doing what they love and that they can achieve whatever they put their mind to. As with any sport, the cost of racing, sled upkeep and race gear can be expensive. I have been fortunate to have some super sponsors, donating not only to me, but also to the Bikini Radar Run.

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TWO RACES, ONE CAUSE In January of 2018, I heard about the Bikini Radar Run, an awesome event in Wisconsin that raises money for breast cancer. I knew then that I not only wanted to race in the event, but I also wanted to bring the same kind of event to East Jordan, my hometown. A year later, in January 2019, I competed in the Wisconsin Bikini Radar Run. Then, a month after, I held the inaugural “Ride Like a Girl to Save the Girls” Bikini Radar Run in East Jordan. I recorded a speed of 99 mph in Wisconsin, the second fastest speed at the event. This year, my goal is to reach 100 mph on my snowmobile, all while wearing a bikini.

GOALS This year (2020) will mark East Jordan’s second Radar Run, held during the East Jordan Sno-Blast Festival, Feb. 21–23. Last year, we raised over $3,500 for breast cancer, which stayed local for both men and women undergoing breast cancer treatments. This year we hope to raise $5,000.

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A Life Change:

SWIMMING IN MY MID-40S BY TRACY BIELACZYC

ALTHOUGH I’m an adult now, I will always be my grandmother’s waterdog. When I was a small child, my grandmother used to call me a “waterdog.” I’m not sure, but I believe it was a compliment, as she was one as well.

GRANDMA’S GUPPY My grandmother taught me how to swim, dive, even how to backflip into the water. Her sister, my great aunt Shorty (yes, we all called her that), taught me how to do the side stroke. It’s my strongest stroke to this day and even saved me from a wicked rip current in the cold Atlantic once. A group of lifeguards caught sight of me and watched from about 150 yards as I fought the current, then swam parallel to shore and broke free. I think they were impressed that a 14 year old had the wherewithal to realize what to do and save herself, but they were standing at the ready just in case. Only now do I realize what a close call that was, but it’s one of many summer memories involving water.

DECISIONS A friend and I once pondered triathlons over a glass of wine. What would it take to finish one? We agreed how cool it would be if we could do it as a team. She likes biking, I like swimming, and neither of us likes to run, so we agreed we’d need a third. We weren’t super committed; we never tried finding a third. Later, I thought about whether it would be possible to do a long-distance swim for charity locally, but life took over, and I didn’t take my consideration further. Then, in May of 2016, I came across an article in a local magazine about a two-mile point-to-point open-water swim for charity, the Swim for Grand Traverse Bay to benefit the Watershed Center. I decided right then that I was going to start training for it. I was 45 and a half. I could swim, but I wouldn't have called myself an Olympic-grade swimmer, and certainly not someone who could just get in the water and swim two miles.

1/8TH OF A MILE That very afternoon, I did my first long-distance swim. Long-distance at that time was about an eighth of a mile. I have to admit, I almost broke my arm patting myself on the back just for doing that much, but then I realized it was going to be 10 weeks of training. I had to get organized. I committed to swimming that distance once a day, five days a week and increasing the distance in increments over the next few weeks. It was a revelation to me how much easier my swimming became just using the tools available to me, like goggles and a swim cap. Not having to swipe my hair out of my eyes while swimming was lovely. In June, I started training at Arbutus Lake No. 5, a small inland lake in East Bay Township. I Google-mapped my course to measure the distance and my husband made me a swim buoy in case I couldn’t make it back to shore and to alert boaters that I was out there.

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ONE WITH THE WATER I have a bad back—a perfect storm of structural issues bad back. It really started getting worse in my early forties and progressed to the point where I could no longer ski or golf. Working out was definitely what I would consider a chore. Thankfully, I found yoga, and that really helped with my back pain. Swimming seemed like a great fit for my fitness regimen, such as it was. As my practice swims became longer and longer, I began to appreciate the similarities between yoga and swimming and the meditative quality of sluicing through the water all by myself with just fish and turtles for company. This was one of the rare times in my life that I truly wanted to accomplish something that was just for me. I wasn’t looking to make great time or beat any competitor; I was competing with myself and just betting that I could do it. I didn’t raise much money, but what I lacked in charitable fundraising I made up for in sheer stick-to-it attitude. I even found time to swim while on a road rally across the states. If I could find a pool or a lake, I was putting in the time.

THE RACE A week before the charity swim, there was a practice swim. It would be the best way to see if I had what it took to finish and see what the course would be like. It took off from Greilickville Harbor Park and ended at the volleyball courts in Traverse City. My daughter, 10 at the time, was my support kayaker. The water was choppy and though I feared for both of us, she was amazing. I almost quit at West End Beach, but she wouldn’t let me. A week later, on a calm, rainy morning, I raced with my husband serving as support kayaker. I finished in 1 hour and 34 minutes, exhausted but happy that, for once in a long time, I didn’t let myself down. I completed the Swim for Grand Traverse Bay again in 2018 and dedicated it to my mother who was dying of lung cancer. She couldn’t be there in person, so I showed her the pictures a week later. I wanted her to know that I swam in her honor. We all fight battles, but I also believe we all have something within us worth fighting for. It’s just up to each of us to find it. Tracy Bielaczyc is an employee benefits coordinator at C&M Insurance in Traverse City. She’s lived and worked here with her husband and daughter since 2004 and says she couldn’t imagine living anywhere else.

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CASE MADE First, Brook collected pictures of her friends changing their hair colors on a weekly basis. I held firm, reminding her that we weren’t sheep. “I could go do other things to rebel,” she tried next. Sure, go ahead and try it, I countered, my resolve still firm. But then, she unearthed a 6th grade picture of her mother… with a very distinct perm. Gulp. Hadn’t I buried that photo? I relented, all the while cursing my tightly curled pre-teen head, and made the appointment.

BRUNETTE BEAUTY On the big day, I fretted the whole time. It was traumatizing to watch. There went my baby girl, from blonde to brunette, and a bonus streak of sassy. She loved it, though, and I had THE BRUNETTE to admit, chestnut fit her well. She was beautiful! Brook’s transformation came just days before her first homecoming dance. With the new hair color, she was almost a stranger to me. She was no longer my blonde baby—she was a brunette, grown-up young lady. Granted, it could have been the pretty dress, the first boyfriend or the dancing ‘til 11 p.m. But I didn’t want to think about that.

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TIME’S THE CHARM From Blonde to Brunette, and Back

an early winter storm on its tail. Brook wanted a change. But there was no way I was taking her back to the salon! And then, almost in tandem with Brook’s premature brunette betrayal, Mother Nature did her thing. Unexpected snow day! We were giddy with freedom now, with lots of time on our hands. “I know!” I announced. “How about we do a few strands of a fun color ourselves?!” An overwhelming YES! I didn’t even take time to point out that we’d just agreed on something. This was serious. We set off to the store only a few short (and plowed) miles away. What color would it be: Blue? Purple? Red? They had every color of the rainbow. “And look!” I exclaimed, mainly to myself, “Washes out in 4-10 washes!”

THE CLIENT Brook chose a deep red. At home, I set her up like at the salon: Towel draped like a cape, perched in front of a bright mirror. I was realizing a secret dream, truth be told. I mimicked what I’d see a hundred times in the reverse image of the salon mirror. The lovely streaks of subtle scarlet were coming in with perfection. So perfect in fact, I was sure my hairdresser, Linda, was going to ask me to sub in for her DAMAGE as needed. But then, I did something I now know was ridiculous—I stepped into the hallway, leaving Brook alone. I was gone for practically a nanosecond, but my client had clearly been counting the minutes to give me the slip. Brook emptied the rest of the red color onto her

hair in a matter of well, a nanosecond. Oh, the delight in her eyes to see the dramatic change take place… on her mother’s face! And the hair color, too, of course. Now an explosion of red, bordering on violet. Oh, Linda, help us.

NINE GOOD DAYS For nine days, Brook spun about, happy with the cool, trendy color. And then came day 10, when I noticed an odd spattering of white powder on our hallway floor… baking soda. Oh nooooo. Brook had taken it upon herself to Google how to get the red out, her hair now a sudsy mix of peroxide and baking THE RED soda. After a bit of a scramble and some shouting from her mother, Brook had a new mix of red AND green hair. Just in time for the holidays! But this is when I began to sweat. There was no way my hairdresser was going to believe I was a pro at coloring hair if she saw this hot mess. But there was no way out. I had to call in the professional, and Brook, too, admitted defeat. How had my mother done this to me!?

MY BLONDE BABY I ushered Brook back to Linda, armed with an over the top speech about how I had absolutely nothing to do with it. Well, except for the red dye, the giddiness and birthing a headstrong child. Linda quietly worked her magic, CONTROL saving the talking to for when I was back later that month for my solo appointment. I watched, then, as my baby girl began to appear again. Her blonde was back, the fourth time the charm! I was happy, and Brook was happy too! She was my blonde baby girl. Well, blonde at least until tomorrow. Who knows what Day 10 will bring!

Kerry Winkler is the account director and publisher of Grand Traverse Woman Magazine. She enjoys skiing, snowshoeing…but not coloring hair anymore. She lives with her 2 teenagers, 3 cats and 1 pup in Interlochen. She can be reached at kerry@ grandtraversewoman.com.

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ICEMAN 2019. The story this year was the mud. The story every year is that I have a nemesis.

HOUR 1 At 46 minutes, I was still upright, but as I approached another section of single-track hell, I moved aside to let riders pass. “Go,” I said, waving them on. I knew I would slow them down while I struggled through the thick mud ahead. A guy behind me called out, “That was my best Iceman start ever!” I went into polite chitchat mode, even in my agony: “Oh, have you raced this before?” In the next moment, I screeched. Jake had arrived.

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HOUR 2 The “nemesis” thing began close to a decade ago. THE HILL The first year we raced the Iceman together, he beat Next, I approached a famous hill along the route me by 17 seconds. We were racehorses, neck —Make It Stick. There was a long-haired, bushyand neck. A couple Black Beauties in tailed guy playing a full drum set at the top, spandex, as it were. And that batwith a cheering section offering Fireball tle, those 17 seconds, changed and beer to the racers. everything. As I tackled the climb, I hit a mud The war was on after hole that sucked me down. I literthat. Every year thereafter, ally PEDALED IN PLACE, my rear we’d battled and we’d each tire spinning, spitting mud. I felt “won” four times. So this like a circus clown. But I didn’t year was crucial—it would want to get off and walk. Instead, be the tiebreaker. I continued to pedal for all to see, Unfortunately, it was also going nowhere. the backbreaker known as Suddenly, I heard someone shout, THE HILL Mudman 2019. “GET HER!” Two guys ran up behind Much of the trail turned into black me, grabbing my seat on either side of me, and swaths of deep Michigan mud as an early November pulled me up out of the hole— and pushed me up, snowstorm melted away under thousands of bike up, up the hill. tires. There was nothing I could do but stand up I was saved! on my pedals for the worst parts and ride slowly, My muddy soul was renewed, for a few pedal inching, controlling my bike with every (untrained) strokes, by their kind hearts (and their affection muscle in my body. I wasn’t fast, but I was upright. for Fireball). It was my only goal. However, when I made it to the top, Tim and At least after Jake passed me, it was. Kendall stood waiting. They looked uncertain, worried. I was far, far behind my expected arrival THE WAIT time. About an hour in to the race, it happened. The I stopped. I got off my bike. entire operation shut down. The mud was so deep “I’m done.” that it became unrideable and with snow and trees Other cyclists spilled around me. Bikes broken, narrowing the trail on either side, there was nowhere hearts broken, walking out to the nearest road. to go. There were 1,900 riders ahead of me on the Tim shook me a little by the shoulders, looked trail, and we came to a halt. me in the eyes and said, with a laugh, that there This may have been the most fun of the race. was no way he was giving me a ride out. People took off helmets and gloves. Got out “I’m serious,” I said. “Give me the keys.” phones. Turned on music, took videos. Shared I had never felt like this. It was bad. I had no snacks, met their neighbors. For 20 minutes, we energy left, and sh!t, I was only 10 miles in with literally stood in a line in the woods, waiting to walk 20 miles to go! our bikes down the muddy path until it spilled out Tim shuttled me back on my bike. on solid two-track again.

HANDING MY NEMESIS, JAKE KABERLE, HIS TROPHY.

“You got this, honey!” I was certain I didn’t have this. But I figured Jake felt this awful too. Maybe he would quit! Like any good friend, I started hoping for the worst.

HOUR 3 Three hours in, and I was well into an abusive relationship with my bike. I spoke to no one. I hurt everywhere. I was walking when I had no choice. I was standing in mud when the line was backed up. I was wondering when the suffering would end. We all were. One section that would normally take 5 minutes, took 25. There were countless sections like that. At Williamsburg Road, 450 riders pulled out. Hundreds called it quits in other spots, hundreds more didn’t even start the race. The race was no longer a timed event—it was a can-you-finish event.

THE FINISH It was in the last two miles, that I finally committed to that race. (It was also the point where there were no more side roads to cut out on.) An intensity (desperation) came over me as I imagined the humbling I was about to take on the last few hills. But I realized it was nothing to me then. My mindset had changed. I hadn’t died! I was going to finish! Nearly four hours later, I got to the finish line. And there he stood: my nemesis. Waiting, with a full 14 minutes of rest under his belt. But when we saw each other, it was like two survivors rising from the mud. We hugged, we drank, we (I) cried, we (he) celebrated. It had been the hardest race we’d ever done together. I bought a Bell’s Two Hearted Ale, as tradition goes, and presented it to Jake on bended knee. Later, it was determined: The thought of the other one quitting… was what kept us both going.

Kandace Chapple is the editor and co-publisher of Grand Traverse Woman. Her essays have been published in Writer’s Digest, Chicken Soup for the Soul, Literary Mama, Motherwell and more. She loves to mountain bike on Northern Michigan trails, hike with her dog (Cookie!), her husband and two sons. Visit her at www.kandacechapple.com.

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There are up to 5 generations in your office these days, and they all have very distinct characteristics, motivations and expectations in the workplace. Inter-generational tension is high, but with education, understanding and patience, a truce can be called, and diverse strengths can come together for a cohesive and highly effective team. In this informative and mind-opening peace summit, leadership consultant Anne Bonney will enlighten you with what you need to make beautiful peace a reality. So open your mind, and let’s get to work! AFTER THIS SEMINAR, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO: - Identify the origin of all the generational diversity in the workforce today. - Understand how to influence everyone, no matter their generation. - Motivate your team for lower turnover, higher engagement and better results.

OUR SPEAKER: Anne Bonney is a fun, energetic speaker, author, podcaster and workshop facilitator. After 20 years in highly successful leadership positions, Anne founded Different Shoe Enterprises and now uses her experience, education, and expertise to ignite her audience’s courage to embrace discomfort; in change, in communication and in becoming influential with others. She shares fun and relevant stories, time-tested knowledge and immediately applicable strategies.

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Grand Traverse Woman

Start Your Transformation Today!

Women’s health has been a focus of my practice for many years, helping women become the best and healthiest version of themselves. Sometimes that involves losing weight for better health, disease prevention, and movement; sometimes that means facial or body treatments for better self-image. There are many treatment options available today! We offer the Ideal Protein Weight Loss Method – a quick and efficient way to lose body fat – all the while coaching and teaching patients on healthy eating habits and lifestyle management, so the weight loss is sustained. Complementary monthly seminars are offered to learn more about the program. For the past year, we have been excited to have two great light lasers (Ultra-Slim and Reveallux) that target fat and cellulite reduction, skin tightening, acne, and wound healing. Depending on the color and wavelength of light used, different results are achieved. All these treatments are both FDA approved and painless. We also offer Botox, fillers, peels, and skin care products.

Weight Loss Seminar Dates

All seminars start at 5:30pm. RSVP required, as space is limited.

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Elk Rapids Reservations: 231.264.0700 Traverse City Reservations: 231.935.8346 Petoskey Reservations: 231.264.0700

DR. ANN KUENKER

Dr. Kuenker is happy to welcome Terri Glenn, FNP to her practice locations. Terri is well known to the area and her practice focuses on women’s health issues. TERRI GLENN, FNP

The Vein Center

872 Munson Avenue, Suite C, Traverse City (The Green Square Building)

Elk Rapids Skin & Laser Clinic 516 Bridge Street, Elk Rapids

Petoskey Weight Loss Clinic

3890 Charlevoix Road, Suite 180, Petoskey

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Warm, Soft, Quiet Carpet Provides it All

Carpet is Warm Warm to the touch, and warm colors that make you feel right at home. Carpet is the only floor covering that provides both. Karastan brings you more styles, colors, and textures than any other manufacturer.

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Carpet is Quiet Leave the stress at work or school. and surround yourself in quiet! Carpet is the only floor covering that can transform the noisy and chaotic world into your personal safe spot. Karastan supplies the greatest number of styles to choose from, one must be right for you!

Winter Sale Savings Come in to Carpet Galleria, and see all the fabulous carpet from Karastan at surprisingly affordable prices!

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