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First published in Great Britain by Best of Parenting Publishing 2020 Copyright © The Happy Confident Company Ltd. 2020 www.happyconfident.com Authors: Annabel Rosenhead and Nadim Saad The authors assert their moral right to be identified as the authors of this work. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publishers. A CIP catalogue record of this book is available from the British Library ISBN: 9781916387003 Editor: Jo Chadwick Design and Illustration by Daniel Bobroff, Electric Design Studio Ltd Printed and bound in Europe
The Happy Confident Me Super Journal is written and published as a resource and guide intended to educate the reader of what they can do to improve their happiness and confidence. Although every effort has been made to ensure the contents of this book are accurate, the information provided is not meant to take the place of professional psychiatric advice from professionals. Please consult your GP, social worker or the safeguarding officer at your child’s school if you are concerned about your child’s mental health or emotional wellbeing. The authors cannot be held responsible for any loss or damage suffered as a result of complete reliance on any of this books contents or any errors or omissions herein.
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Our ONLINE COURSES go hand in hand with our SUPER JOURNAL. Each short fun and interactive episode helps you practice the skills you’re developing whilst you’re using this journal. They’ve been created for parents and kids to enjoy TOGETHER.
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS We’d like to thank our incredible and passionate team, who are all part of the Happy Confident Company’s extended family, for all the hard work and effort taken to make this journal a product we are so very proud of. Special thanks to Dan Bobroff & son Louis, Jo Chadwick & kids Tommy, Jack and Max and of course Annabel’s daughter Lulah and Nadim’s daughters Noor, Yasmine & Yara. And thank you to all of their friends from school and the children attending our HAPPY CONFIDENT ME school workshops & clubs who have also given us their brilliant feedback along the way. Here’s to a future with more
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WHAT’S INSIDE
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Meet The Happy Confident Bee How To Use Your Journal What’s This Journal For? How to be Happy Knowing Yourself Feeling Your Feelings Positive Thinking Building Your Growth Mindset Making Mistakes Bouncing Back Boosting Your Confidence Being Mindful Kindness & Empathy Accepting Yourself What I Have Learnt What Next My Worry Box
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THE HAPPY CONFIDENT BEE
Hi, I'm the Happy Confident Bee and I'll bee here to guide you through your journal. I hope I can help you see all the positive things in your life, and how to make the most of every day.
DID YOU KNOW?
Bees work together to give our community (hive) the best possible life, and I want to help you do that too.
We’re SUPER FOCUSED, concentrating on what matters most – the sweet stuff in our life (honey) – so I’ll show you how to make your life sweeter too.
It’s my mission to help you spread your GOOD FEELINGS (like I spread pollen!) around your own world, then together, we can make your days sunnier, and you’ll feel and too! 7
HOW TO USE
YOUR JOURNAL This special little book is all yours. YOURS to fill with your very own thoughts & feelings. YOURS to write your own story!
ONLY 5 MINS A DAY
Fill out your journal every evening, on your own or with a parent...sibling or your BFF!!
KEEP IT SAFE...this is yours to look after & enjoy using. DAILY JOURNALING PAGES Here’s your quick guide to what you need to do...
Fill in the day! Circle or tick all the feelings you felt that day Or even write your own Check out the cool quote* Answer each question
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YOUR WORRY BOX PAGES Right at the back of your journal you’ll find Worry Box pages. These are perfect for worries you might have that you want to write down during your journaling. Either tear them out once you’re done or keep them in…it’s up to you!
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WHAT’S THIS
JOURNAL FOR? This journal gives you a FUN way to write & draw
daily about your thoughts & feelings.
We can have SO MANY FEELINGS in just one day...
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SCIENCE FACT When we write about how we think and feel each day, it has an INCREDIBLE effect on how our BRAINS work. Scientists have proven that it can make us feel FANTABULOUS! 13
JOURNALING IS GREAT...HERE’S WHY... Writing down your thoughts & feelings helps with so much... Getting to KNOW YOU RSELF better.
CALMING down bad feelings.
SOLV probleING ms.
Feeling more CON F I DEN T. BOOST IN your mooG d
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It also gives us the chance to PLAN & CREATE the things we want!
So the great news is that YOU CAN HAVE ALL THESE THINGS! 14
...AND HERE’S HOW IT WORKS! It’s been scientifically proven that journaling for just 5 minutes every day, will create a positive little habit that will help you be HAPPIER and MORE CONFIDENT. If we’re feeling low, writing about it helps us work out why, and understand what we need to do to feel better! So, journaling is BRILLIANT for problem solving. When you write things down, instead of getting stuck in your problem, or too upset to think clearly you can get back in charge of yourself.
You’ll feel CALMER and STRONGER . Yay!!
REMEMBER THE GOOD STUFF
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HOW TO
BE HAPPY The feelings we get when we are
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SCIENCE FACT Our brains are like batteries, just add good feelings to SUPERCHARGE them. When you have fun your brain releases happy-making chemicals that give you that WHOOPEEE feeling! 16
WHAT ARE THE MAGIC INGREDIENTS OF
HAPPINESS ?…
Being CONNECTED to other people Being HEALTHY
SLEEPING well
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Understanding & LIKING ourselves
Being OPTIMISTIC about the future
Feeling SAFE
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Writing in your JOURNAL about what you are grateful for each day helps keep your own store of good feelings up. It makes you feel
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“ YOU’LL NEVER CHANGE YOUR LIFE, UNTIL YOU CHANGE SOMETHING YOU DO DAILY .” John C Maxwell
LET’S GET STARTED!
KNOWING
YOURSELF
WHY KNOWING YOURSELF IS SO IMPORTANT Knowing yourself really well (also known as having strong “self-awareness”) is something that the World Health Organisation lists as one of the 10 most important life skills that humans need!
The BETTER we know ourselves, the more we can HELP ourselves and the HAPPIER we will be.
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LEARNING ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN I DON’T KNOW MYSELF VERY WELL
WHEN I KNOW MYSELF
Quite often I feel unsure of myself or insecure.
I usually feel comfortable and confident about myself.
Sometimes I get confused about what I want to do.
I know what I love doing, so it’s easy to make exciting plans.
When I get stuck or upset, I can feel like that for ages and don’t know how to feel better.
I can help myself feel better when I get stuck or upset.
It’s difficult to talk about or understand how I feel.
I find it easy to talk about and describe how I feel.
So knowing and understanding yourself more will help you with so many things!
Overall, your SELF-AWARENESS can have a real effect on how you FEEL and BEHAVE each day.
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WHAT ARE SOME OF THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU…YOU? Things that make me happy...
To relax I like to...
My favourite foods are...
I’m unique because...
(you can keep going on a free page if you want)
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY What are you good at? Hints: These can be big and small, from reading to dancing, to scoring goals or school stuff!…Write down as many as you can.
What do you think you’re not so good at? Write down as many as you can.
FAMILY ACTIVITY Ask your parents (and siblings if you have any!) 5 things that they appreciate about you. And then tell them what you appreciate about them. Use one of the free pages in your journal to write about this.
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘Just be yourself, there is no one better.’ TAYLOR SWIFT
The superpower I would like to have is...
My favourite thing about myself is...
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‘Find out who you are and be that person…live that truth Lorem ipsum and everything else will come.’ ELLEN DEGENERES
One thing that makes me happy...
Something about me that I’ve never told anyone...
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‘It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.’ EDMUND HILLARY
My favourite ice-cream flavours are...
Two positive things about me are...
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ANNOYED ‘Find out who you are and do it on purpose.’
Three good things today...
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The game(s) I like playing most...
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‘If you truly pour your heart into what you believe in… amazing things can and will EMMA WATSON happen.’
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.’ OSCAR WILDE
My favourite type of holiday is...
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FEELING YOUR FEELINGS
As you already know, in just one day we have LOADS of different feelings…and when we can identify them, it can really help us feel BETTER. SAD
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Some feelings are easy to recognise, when we’re happy we smile, we laugh, we feel SUPER-RELAXED or EXCITED.
When we feel YUCKY, it can be harder to recognise exactly what we’re feeling…hard to name that emotion or even talk about it. Are we ANGRY, FRUSTRATED, SAD or UPSET? It takes LOADS OF PRACTICE to understand and tune in to our feelings and work out what they are. 36
WHY DOES IT MATTER ?
It helps when you REALLY understand what you’re feeling as it’s THE HARDER FEELINGS THAT ARE ACTUALLY THE MOST IMPORTANT to be able to name and talk about! When you can understand and name them, you can then work out how to FEEL BETTER.
You will…
Understand what’s going on inside and then feel calmer. Find it easier to talk about your feelings, so friends and family can help you. Be able to work out what you need, to come out of the yucky feelings. If you get to know the things that usually make you feel SAD or ANGRY or WORRIED you won’t get taken by surprise, and you’ll know BETTER how to handle things. 37
NOTICING & WRITING ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS
The COOL thing is that noticing your feelings and then writing and drawing about them is a BRILLIANT way to get to know what you are feeling. A useful hint to get to know what you feel, is to notice where you feel it in your body…because…that’s where we feel our feelings!
HAVE YOU EVER HAD
“ BUTTERFLIES” in your tummy when you’re nervous? Tight fists when you’re angry? A headache when you are worried or overwhelmed? Or maybe you’ve felt heavy all over when you’re sad? We all feel our feelings differently in our bodies…so where do YOU feel yours? When you make a note of how you feel each day, it’s like turning a key…you’re unlocking knowledge about yourself, and then…you can find out how to feel BETTER ! 38
WEEKLY ACTIVITY Think about all the feelings you had today and mark where you felt them on the diagram. Then come back each day and carry on adding.
FAMILY ACTIVITY At dinner or lunch, take it in turns around the table to share: Today I felt …because… You can use your free pages to write more!
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘Happiness depends upon ourselves.’
ARISTOTLE
Right now I feel...
I had fun today when...
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‘The soul of the world is enriched by people’s happiness.’ PAULO COELHO
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‘Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give.’ BEN CARSON
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‘You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realised how seldom they do.’ ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
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Today when I helped someone I felt...
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‘Listen to your heart above all other voices.’ MARTA KAGAN
Something tough or tricky I experienced today was...
I felt good today when...
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‘Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success.’ ALBERT SCHWEITZER
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POSITIVE
THINKING We want you to be as and as as you can be.
Did you know that your THOUGHTS have a really big effect on what you FEEL?
AND that how you FEEL is also very connected to how you BEHAVE? What you
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What you
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There’s a lot going on in human bodies and minds, all the time!
Lots of thoughts and feelings …
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Making better
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THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN POSITIVE
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Positive thoughts are HELPFUL, negative thoughts are UNHELPFUL. feelings UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS tend to create …feeling sad, hopeless, wobbly or angry and frustrated. But HELPFUL thoughts tend to make us feel the opposite…
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS
HELPFUL THOUGHTS
I’m not good at this.
I’m not good at this YET.
I will never be able to do this.
If I practice...I’ll get better at doing this.
I’m not good enough.
I AM good enough.
I’m scared I will make a mistake.
If I make a mistake... I’ll learn from it.
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Write a list of some of the unhelpful thoughts you have, and then write down a more helpful way of thinking about them.
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS I HAVE
A HELPFUL WAY TO THINK ABOUT THEM
FAMILY ACTIVITY
This week, whenever someone close to you shares a negative thought, share with them how they can see the positive. You could write about this on your free pages!
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.’ BRENÉ BROWN
One unhelpful thought I had today...
One helpful thought I had today...
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‘Your life is a reflection of your thoughts. If you change your thinking, you change your life.’ BRIAN TRACY
The funniest thing that happened today was...
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‘Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.’ HELEN KELLER
A worry I had today...
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ANNOYED ‘Life is 10% of how things happen and 90% of how you take it.’ ANONYMOUS
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Something I found interesting today...
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘There are so many great things in life, why dwell on negativity?’ ZENDAYA
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‘Where your thoughts and attention go, is where your energy flows.’ TONY ROBBINS
What I really enjoy about my friends...
The most fun I had today, was when...
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Well done for completing 3 weeks of journaling. We really hope you’re starting to find more happiness in each day. Keep it up, you must be so proud of yourself!
“All our DREAMS can come true if we have the COURAGE to pursue them.” Walt Disney
Write, Doodle, Draw…
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BUILDING YOUR
GROWTH MINDSET Do you know what a “GROWTH
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In the “olden days”, before scientists and doctors knew that much about our minds or brains, we all believed that when we were born, the things that we could do BRILLIANTLY were completely fixed for our whole lives. So…whether you were a maths whizz, good at french or incredible at art or football, that was just part of who you were.
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THE SCIENCE BIT Every time you think the same thing or do the same thing, a “NEURAL PATHWAY” is created in your brain. The more times you do it, or think it, the and
FASTER the pathway becomes.
When scientists take special photos, like x-rays, of brains they can actually see these pathways light up! What does that mean for you? When you learn and practice new things, you’ll get new pathways, and build stronger ones. As each pathway gets stronger, the things you’re doing will get easier and easier and you’ll get quicker and better at it! 71
WHY HAVING A GROWTH MINDSET IS
AMAZING!!
If you’re LEARNING something new and finding it difficult, it’s not because you ‘can’t’ do it, it‘s just that you haven’t practiced enough yet! This is really
EMPOWERING .
You can get better at anything you put your mind to.
GROWTH MINDSET
If you feel you’re not good at something just use the word ‘yet’ to keep your growth mindset, for example ‘I am not good at maths YET’.
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Write a wish list of all the things that you’d love to be able to do, that you can’t do YET…
FAMILY ACTIVITY
Ask your parents to tell you something they think they aren’t good at. Then, using what you’ve learnt about “yet” and growth mindset, explain why it’s not true! Feel free to write about it on your free pages!
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among LES BROWN the stars.’
Something new I tried today...
The bravest thing I have ever done was...
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‘You don't have to be great to start but you have to start to be great.’ ZIG ZIGLAR
New things I learnt today...
Today I am proud of...
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‘The first step is you have to say that you can.’ WILL SMITH
One thing I found challenging today...
I had fun today when...
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ANNOYED ‘Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.’
Three good things today...
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I made a real effort today when...
I laughed today when...
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‘It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.’
JK ROWLING
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What got a bit easier this week...
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‘Your life doesn’t get better by chance it gets better by change.’ JIM ROHN
Something I did really well today...
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MAKING
MISTAKES Have you noticed that when you LEARN SOMETHING NEW, you nearly always have to “get it wrong” quite a few times before you get it right?
Like learning to do a handstand!
Remember learning about Growth Mindset? We actually HAVE to make mistakes…lots of them…on our way to learning something new.
IT’S HOW OUR BRAINS GROW!
REMEMBER…it’s normal to doubt ourselves
sometimes…but we don’t have to feel bad, because making mistakes is actually perfectly normal …
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WE’RE ALL GOOD ENOUGH AND WE CAN DO IT …JUST NOT YET. This is really important to remember on a day when you feel like you keep making mistakes and you might want to give up! You could feel stuck, frustrated and annoyed, BUT that’s really normal…it won’t last and you will feel better quicker when you remember that…
YOU CAN DO IT… YOU JUST NEED MORE PRACTICE!!
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THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE If you ever think that you’ve ‘failed’…or made a mistake …it is actually just your…
FIRST ATTEMPT IN LEARNING
If you only ever did the easy things, you’d never get a stronger brain or be able to do new things…how boring! Loads of famous people have made HUGE mistakes, loads of times, before they got really good at what they are famous for…even Walt Disney, Lionel Messi and JK Rowling!!
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Write down any mistakes that you’ve made today, and then write down what you learnt from them. Whenever you make other mistakes this week, keep adding to your list.
MISTAKES I’VE MADE
WHAT I LEARNT
FAMILY ACTIVITY
Ask your parents about the mistakes they made this week and what they learnt from them. You can discuss it at dinner or over the weekend! You can use your free pages to write about it!
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ANNOYED Three good things today...
‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.’ THOMAS EDISON after he invented the light bulb
A mistake I made today was...
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ANNOYED ‘Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.’ STEPHEN KAGGWA
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‘We learn from failure, not from success.’
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‘If you wait for things to be perfect, you’ll just miss out on life.’ CHRIS PRATT
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‘You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing and by falling over.’ RICHARD BRANSON
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‘If you try to do your best there is no failure.’ MIKE FARREL
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BOUNCING ?
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BACK
Sometimes things are difficult to learn, and we make mistakes. When that happens, how do we PUSH THROUGH and KEEP GOING?! How do we remember about our growth mindset, and allow ourself to keep ?
When we hit a block, it can sometimes be hard to carry on. When we do find the OOMPH to keep going & keep practicing…we call it “ PERSEVERANCE.” And our ability to recover from difficult situations is called BOUNCING BACK!
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REMEMBER when you learned
to ride a bike, swim, skateboard or ice skate. Did you jump in, jump on, and whizz off like a pro? Most likely you BUMBLED and FUMBLED, SHOUTED, CRIED and GOT FRUSTRATED.
Do you sometimes just want to give up? THAT’S NORMAL! If you can swim, ride a bike or skateboard, you know that you got there because you were DETERMINED …you PERSEVERED.
You BOUNCED BACK from the difficult moments. And to be able to do that all the time, you need to remind yourself that in the end, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DO IT!
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The more RESILIENT you get, the BETTER you’ll feel. You’ll recover quicker from the things you find tough, and be able to keep practising until you can ENJOY it.
REMEMBER
You are good enough, and PERSEVERING &
BEING DETERMINED
to keep going when you feel stuck, will make you
FEEL REALLY PROUD OF YOURSELF. Little by little, you’ll get closer to BEING GOOD
AT WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT TO BE …
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Write down the different challenges you encountered today (or yesterday) and how you overcame them. Whenever you encounter challenges this week, keep adding to your list.
CHALLENGES ENCOUNTERED
HOW I OVERCAME THEM
FAMILY ACTIVITY Ask your family what difficult challenges they’ve had in life, and how they then overcame them. You could use your free pages to make notes!
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‘Practice makes PROGRESS.’ ANONYMOUS
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‘Everyone’s dream can come true if you just stick to it and work hard.’ SERENA WILLIAMS
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‘Our greatest glory in not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.’ OLIVER GOLDSMITH
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‘The roughest roads often lead to the top.’ CHRISTINA AGUILERA
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‘Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.’ ROBERT COLLIER
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‘I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.’ MICHAEL JORDAN
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6 weeks of journaling completed - we reckon you’re going to qualify as an expert in Happiness and Confidence! Well done you’re over half way through.
“YESTERDAY is
history, TOMORROW is a mystery, TODAY is a gift.” Eleanor Roosevelt
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BOOSTING YOUR CONFIDENCE
Being is all about believing in yourself and your abilities.
WHEN YOU’RE CONFIDENT, YOU: Feel comfortable being you Know you’re good enough Like yourself
AND IT’S EASIER TO MAKE GOOD FRIENDS. Some days, you might feel more confident than others. You may even be more confident about certain parts of yourself, and less so about others…like being…
KIND SPORTY
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When our confidence is low, we can feel UNHAPPY about everything! Another word for that is feeling ‘insecure’ and feeling… it’s a all wobbly, sad and a bit rubbish.
, But when we feel we feel the opposite…CALM, RELAXED, COMFORTABLE, STRONG and even PROUD OF OURSELVES…like there’s a sort of a light glowing in our tummies! We hope that writing in your journal has already helped you feel more confident. 121
HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT MORE OF THE TIME
Like happiness, there are some magic ingredients to help grow your CONFIDENCE. Think about your excellent qualities every day…say them out loud or write them down. Be grateful every day for what you have. Learn to like and accept all of yourself. Feel proud of what you’ve done and celebrate your achievements. Be kind and encourage yourself. Ask for help when something is difficult. Remember your growth mindset…take on new challenges. Know it’s okay, and in fact essential, to make mistakes.
DID YOU KNOW
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY What are the things that you are MOST proud of, so far in your life?! Hint: They can be big or small... anything that has you feel pleased with yourself. See if you can write at least 5!
FAMILY ACTIVITY Ask your parents (and siblings) what things they have done in their lives that they are proudest of. You can use your free pages to make a list!
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‘Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage and confidence in the doing.’ THEODORE ROOSEVELT
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‘Your success will be determined by your own confidence.’ MICHELLE OBAMA
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‘Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.’ ANAÏS NIN
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‘Self-trust is the first secret of success .’
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‘If you believe in yourself, everyone else will do.’ ANONYMOUS
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‘You must do the things that you think you cannot do .’ ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
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BEING
MINDFUL To keep your body healthy you EAT WELL, get some EXERCISE , brush your teeth, and get enough SLEEP.
But what about your mind?
Did you know that you need to keep your mind HEALTHY too? After all, it’s in charge of everything you think, and how you FEEL ! A healthy mind has POSITIVE, HELPFUL thoughts so we can FEEL GOOD more of the time.
One way to keep your mind healthy is to be “MINDFUL”. This means focusing your mind on NOW …not thinking about yesterday or . tomorrow, just this
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When our brains are too BUSY we can get all stuck because of so many thoughts around.
Sometimes these thoughts are UNHELPFUL , like if we’re ANXIOUS about something that hasn’t even happened yet, or are feeling
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It can be really unhelpful, annoying and make you feel BAD. It can stop you from concentrating, or enjoying what you are doing, and sometimes stop you falling sleep.
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TURNING DOWN THE VOLUME
Wouldn’t it be great if we could switch our minds off or turn down the volume when it’s too busy with unhelpful stuff? MY MIND - CONTROL UNIT
MIND VOLUME CALM LEVEL
MIND OFF ON
SPEED CONTROL
Well, guess what…you CAN switch your mind into being calmer, slower and “MINDFUL”.
BEING MINDFUL By learning to relax and to breathe slowly, you can practise meditating. This helps keep your brain healthy and you can CHOOSE the thoughts that you have. This will help you to make more out of each day, and to think more clearly. Learning to meditate & be mindful just takes a bit of practice.
Relax Breathe slowly and focus on your breathing And slowly quieten down your head In just a few minutes, you can slow your brain down, relax and choose what it is you want to think about.
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Spend 3 minutes doing ‘box breathing’. This means that you breathe regularly and count in your head: inhale counting 1,2,3,4, hold your breath to a count of 4, and then exhale 1,2,3,4 and hold your breath for a count of 4. Practice is important! So, try and do this every day this week. Write down how you feel after this exercise.
FAMILY ACTIVITY Teach your family how to do box breathing and try to get them to join in with you each day! You can use your free pages to write about your experience!
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‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.’ VIVIAN GREENE
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‘It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.’ EPICTETUS
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‘Don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today.’ THOMAS JEFFERSON
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‘There are no regrets in life, just lessons.’ ANONYMOUS
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‘It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself.’ ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
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‘Nobody can go back and make a new beginning, but anybody can start today and make a new ending.’ MARIA ROBINSON
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KINDNESS & EMPATHY
IS IT IMPORTANT TO BE KIND? I’m guessing your parents have taught you that it is…do you know why? And do you agree?
Well, it is incredibly important because when we are KIND, we make other people !
SO, WHAT IS KINDNESS? In the dictionary it says it’s being FRIENDLY, GENEROUS and CONSIDERATE…ways we make
someone else feel good by how we behave. And as well as actions - it is an attitude, an expression, a look, a touch - anything that lifts another person. So…we know that being KIND makes other people feel good.
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? !? DID YOU KNOW… ! ?!
Research shows that even if you only do one act of kindness a day, you will feel:
That’s because being kind floods your brain and body with happy hormones* that make us feel CALMER, LOVING and LOVED.
*The scientific name of these FEEL-GOOD hormones are SEROTONIN and OXYTOCIN
When people see someone being helpful and kind, they’re also flooded with the same happy hormones, they feel GOOD, so are likely to be KIND TO OTHERS too! 153
DO YOU EVER THINK ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE ARE FEELING?
This is called EMPATHY, and it’s also linked to kindness. When you practice EMPATHY it helps you work out which acts of kindness might be the best ones for the important people in your life.
Empathy is all about LISTENING when your friends talk to you and…
IMAGINING HOW THEY MIGHT BE FEELING.
It also helps us understand how we might be affecting other people with our behaviour…what we do, or how we talk to them. Will it make them SAD or ? Acts of KINDNESS can spread across your community, your town, a city or even the world!
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY How many acts of kindness can you think of? Write down at least 5 different acts of kindness that you could do to make people around you happier. And then choose one to do tomorrow! Hint: Things that help other people or make them smile…
FAMILY ACTIVITY Choose one kind thing to do for each member of your family this week. And enjoy the acts of kindness that you receive from them! You could record them on your free pages!
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‘No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.’ AESOP
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‘Always be a little kinder than necessary.’ JM BARRIE
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‘Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.’ MOTHER THERESA
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‘Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give.’ BEN CARSON
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‘Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.’
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JO U R N A
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“YOU are the HERO of your own story,
YOU can
create the life that you
want to live.” Nadim Saad The Happy Confident Company
K E E 1 W FT LE WOW!! One week left to go in your journal…we hope
you’ve enjoyed yourself. To continue your journey, you might want to talk to your parent about reordering another copy…or get our simpler JOURNAL which focuses more on the daily journaling pages and has new activities and quotes to help you on your way to being happier and more confident. And for even more fun, you could also visit our website with them and take one of our fun quizzes or download some of our FREE Activities & Games.
Your grown-up can go to www.happyconfident.com or they can point a phone or tablet (like an iPad) camera on the special box below...
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ACCEPTING YOURSELF
In your Journal so far, you have read and written all about KNOWING YOURSELF and BOOSTING YOUR CONFIDENCE…and we hope you’re starting to feel PROUD of yourself, and more !
NOW, WE WANT TO SHARE A SECRET… RE ! YOSUO' COOL
Did you know that right now, exactly as you are, without doing ANYTHING at all, you are actually …JUST RIGHT.
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YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE “THE BEST” AT ANYTHING OR EVEN HAVE YET FOUND A SPECIAL THING YOU LOVE DOING… GROWTH MINDSET
Yes, you can CHOOSE to LEARN more, to PRACTICE new things…to be more KIND…and to PERSEVERE . These things will definitely make your life more FUN and INTERESTING… …but whatever you are practicing, however many things you are, or aren’t yet feeling confident about…
you are ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH just as you are. 171
BETTER or WORSE… NO MORE or LESS IMPORTANT You are NO
than any of your friends.
…OR IN FACT THAN ANYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD!
We are all EQUALLY special. And this is
EXTRA-SPECIALLY important to remember.
We are each completely unique. With our own LIKES, DISLIKES, QUALITIES, PASSIONS, SIMILARITIES and DIFFERENCES. And that is just fine.
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WEEKLY ACTIVITY Write down all the things that you like about yourself, that make you who you are.
FAMILY ACTIVITY Ask your family to share the things that they like about themselves. You could record them on your free pages!
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‘Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.’ LUCILLE BALL
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‘I have no special talent, I am only passionately curious.’ ALBERT EINSTEIN
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‘You don’t need to look like everybody else. Love who you are.’ LEA MICHELE
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‘Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.’ LAO TZU
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‘We are all different. Don’t judge, understand instead.’ ROY T. BENNETT
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‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.’ THICH NHAT NANH
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Congratulations on completing your Journal!!!
We hope it’s been FUN, and that you’ve found it useful. HEY…even inspiring!! 187
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CHALLENGE TIME
And now a CHALLENGE…write down or draw the things you might like to start doing more of in your life.
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WHAT NEXT?
We really hope you've enjoyed your SUPER JOURNAL. If you did, you should check out all our VIDEOS and FUN ACTIVITIES that you can do with your parent as part of our ONLINE COURSE. These will help you know yourself better, manage difficult feelings, and help you learn how to deal with and bounce back from the harder stuff in life… Your grown-up can go to www.happyconfident.com or point a phone or tablet (such as an iPad) camera on the crazy symbol below to check this out.
While you’re there (if you haven’t already), talk to your parent about reordering your SUPER JOURNAL…or you could get our simpler JOURNAL which focuses more on the daily journaling pages and has different activities and quotes.
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