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O N T H E INSIDE

September 28, 2017

7TH ANNUAL

SPA EDITION

SIX SPAS WE LOVE!

What’s Hot | Scott Holland’s Guide to Events Happening in Sofla

The Hot List | Top 10 Happenings in South Florida this Week

Hot Talk | The Best Chatter on Facebook This Week

Feature | Spa Products We Love!

Frivolist | Eight Reason Gay Men Prefer Female Strip Clubs

Feature | FIU Art Museum Gets Donation

Restaurants | Fort Lauderdale’s Favorite Restaurants

Feature | Blow Mei Hair Care Products

Creep of the Week | Bob Marshall

Cartoon | Couple of Guys

100

Discover Gay Florida | Sarasota

116

Need Wood | He’s Too Shy

82 HOT

BODIES Creating Boulder Shoulders

105

ALL NEW

DIRECTORY OF LGBT AND LGBT-FRIENDLY BUSINESSES

HOT SHOTS:

Lips • Scandals • Village Pub • Voltaire

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HOTshots of the week

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SHE WORKS HARD FOR HER MONEY

u Nicole T. Phillips puts on quite a show while working at Lips Fort Lauderdale.

FEELIN’ SUTHUN

u Tyler, Andy, John, & Tim have some post hurricane fun at Southern Nights.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

u Scott from Boardwalk’s partner Sy had

a birthday party at Mellow Mushroom.

DRINK UP

u Besties Bryan, Tara, & Spencer have some post-hurricane libations at Matty’s Wilton Park.

OHH LA LAAAA

u Palm Beach Icon Jon Elu created

the newest West Palm venue Voltaire with show hostess Daisy Deadpetals.

MR. HOT PANTS

u LMB Leather Auction Model Aaron

NO, IT’S BEARYONCE AH

u Southern Nights NeiBEARhood Takeover

shows off the goods at Scandals Saloon.

welcomed Bearyonce Bear to play with the crowd.

SERVICE WITH A SMILE

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRESTON

u Bartender Chad takes his job seriously at J. Mark’s Fort Lauderdale.

SO LONG...FAREWELL...

u West Palm’s Preston celebrated his birthday with fiancee Hunter at Voltaire’s Grand Opening.

u After five years Village Pub Founding Owners Mark, Greg, & Jim step away to usher in a

new era and ownership.

By Scott Holland

This is the seventh year we've put together the annual Spa Edition, and one of my favorite things about producing this edition is the relationships with the local spa owners. Every year I look forward to seeing them and spending some quality time with them and their staff. A lot of people think of spas as places we visit while on vacation, but trust me, if you take care of your body on a regular basis, it will take care of you and make you look and feel younger for many years! I am writing about the spas in the order in which I went to them.

2415 N Dixie Highway, Wilton Manors, FL 33305 954-563-0001 â&#x20AC;˘ ChiAsianSpa.com

I recently had a much needed massage and treatment at Chi Spa in Wilton Manors. They decided to give me the Mini Chi Revitalization Package ($199), which was two hours of bliss. The "mini" version of one of Chi Spaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s most luxurious treatments consisted of of a relaxing massage, followed by an exfoliating salt scrub and completed with a deliciously hydrating body butter treatment.

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I was greeted by my therapist Teena Wiggins, who had a cold cup of refreshing water on hand. She was extremely personable during my massage, which made it easier to relax. After Teena hit all of the important muscle groups on my body, it was time for the salt scrub (my favorite part). The exfoliating salt scrub was exactly what my body needed after a few weeks in the summer sun and pool chlorine. After I rinsed off the salt scrub in a steamy bath, my body was covered in body butter to sooth my skin. My skin was literally like butter! Before my treatment was finished, Teena draped hot towels on my feet and torso and

sprayed my face with an aromatic citrus spray. Needless to say I didn’t want to get off the table after that.

539 N. Birch Road • 954-630-3692 GrandResort.net

Going to the Grand Resort and Spa is always fun, as not only do I get to see their friendly staff, but I get to see my wife Paula. I think by now her real husband realizes that our marriage is no threat to theirs…LOL!! This year JD decided to personally be the therapist and administer the “Nourishing Sea Mud Therapy (80 mins - $160).” This Massage/Scrub combo starts with a cleanse, and then an exfoliation. Following the exfoliation you are massaged with warm mud. The mud used in this treatment is

great for drawing out impurities and detoxifying the skin. It was amazing how relaxed and refreshed I felt after the treatment. The Grand Resort and Spa has recently initiated a membership program, which is very exciting. There are 2 membership programs to choose from. Membership Package #1 is $85 a month and includes (choose 1) a 50 min Swedish massage, a 50 min classic Dermalogica facial, a Ultra Calming Facial or a 50 min scrub. Membership Package #2 is $125 a month and includes (choose 1)80 min Swedish massage, 80 min Age Smart facial, deep cleansing facial, Bio Active peel, or an 80 min signature body treatment. Both packages also include: 10% off the purchase of spa services, 10% off spa retail purchases, 10% off future bookings at the resort, 10% off purchase of beer and wine from resort while receiving spa services, access to and the use of the resorts common grounds, Jacuzzi, pool, and resort services, and during member’s first month of membership they may obtain access to the resort for one guest at a time while member is present. Guest access to resort includes all the facilities members are allowed to use. The Grand Resort doesn't sell day passes but spa guests can enjoy the facilities along with their treatments. Who wouldn't want to take a dip in the resort pool or hot tub to show off their glowing skin? JD also wanted to remind the community that the Spa offers great mid-week specials on Tues, Wed and Thurs, which change every week so call them to find out.

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4450 NE 20th Avenue, Fort Lauderdale 954-249-9176 • FacialsFortLauderdale.com

Frank Velaz, the owner of Urban Retreat Spa and I have known each other for many years (Did you ask how many? Well I am not saying to protect the guilty…LOL). Frank is advanced certified in collagen induction therapy by Dermapen World International. He opened Urban Retreat and Spa in 2006 and the business has steadily grown. His staff of therapists have at least 10 years’ experience in the industry. The service Frank decided to give me was the "Relax & Renew" (75mins $145), which gets out tension and stress from the body and face, as well as providing needed hydration. It’s an upper Body Massage (he asked me to pick the pressure) using Pure

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Fiji Organic Body Lotion. For me Frank chose the Starfruit Scent as it is the mildest, as he knows I don't like smells that are too strong. Then he proceeded with a Skin Sense Hydrate Facial. It's a seven step instant hydrate and protect treatment. It includes wash/scrub, Hydrate Aloe/Jojoba toner, bio-molecular hydrate mask, a skin plumping Hyaluronic Infusion, a Vitamin C & E Collagen Stimulating Serum, a Lip Complex and ends with a silky SPF to protect skin from environmental damage. Frank told me that the Relax and Renew is a very popular treatment, which lots of clients like to use to start a "power day" looking and feeling good. This is a great treatment when you want to re-center, relax and balance. Frank loves to bring his clients to the full length mirror in the lobby after the treatment so they can see how visibly different they look! It's usually a "WOW!!" moment, kinda of like a 'big reveal'! Urban Retreat offers a Free Skin Analysis to properly design a custom plan of professional treatments and home skin regimens, with

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reality based prices. Evidence based skin care solutions. PCA Skin Certified Peel Treatment Center and Certified In Collagen Induction Therapy by Florida Esthetics Association.

2717 N. Dixie Highway, Wilton Manors

954-396-6245 • LavishManors.com I have been to Lavish Manors many times, so this year I sent Oscar to experience the joys of this spa. When he arrived he was greeted by owner, Tommy Le, who he said was very welcoming. He was then introduced to John who performed his Hot Stone Paraffin Spa Pedicure ($55). As soon as he sat in the incredibly comfortable massage chair John offered him wine or water to drink. His feet were then soaked in a Jacuzzi tub, and shortly after his my nails were trimmed, shaped, cuticles groomed, including an intensive callus treatment, and a salt scrub. He then said his legs were pampered with a warm herbal wrap to soften and plump the skin, next his legs were exfoliated with a sloughing scrub, and softening sea butter. After this he basked in luxury as they performed a long lasting relaxing massage using warm stones and hemp oil distinctively scented with patchouli. The pedicure ended with a refreshing and smoothing paraffin treatment and a wrapping with aromatic hot towels and then his nails were buffed. Afterwards Oscar received the Shellac Gel Manicure ($30). This relaxing manicure

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includes nail trimming, shaping, cuticles detailing, lotion massage and buffing followed by Shellac, which is Chip free for up to 2 weeks. There is no damage to natural nails, resilient mirror finish, no drying time. Oscar said he left Lavish Manors feeling wonderful and he couldn’t stop looking at ow nice his toes and fingers looked.

2153 Wilton Dr. & Wilton Dr.• 954-488-9000

Babylon Men’s Day Spa is the newest Spa edition to Wilton Drive taking over the old space of 78 Degrees Spa. Babylon Spa originates from Asia. Their masseuses are trained in Chinese and Thai massage techniques as well as Japanese essential oil massages. They pay special attention to pressure points using essential oils to massage these special areas. They offer heat treatments and Chines traditional cupping techniques so their clients can

enjoy full relaxation in a peaceful setting. The service they were giving is called “The Perfect Massage” (90 mins - $80). After I lied down on the table, they put a towel over me for a 10 minute Massage of full-body muscle relaxation. Next they used oils for a full body massage. My therapist said that the neck, shoulders, and small back generally the parts that need the most work so they focus on these places, so their guests can be completely relaxed. After the oil massage technique, they did Chinese cupping, which cures the fatigue of the body (Did anyone see the Real Housewives of Orange County last season?). In the end, they use the hot stone to relax the muscles and let the massage achieve the perfect effect. After the massage he encased my body with warm towels, which made me feel like I was in a cocoon and was super relaxing. While in the cocoon he massaged my feet, hands and head.

2133 NE 26

Street, Fort Lauderdale 954-565-2307 • CabanasGuestHouse.com Spa Cabanas at The Cabanas Guesthouse is th celebrating its 9 year in business. Norman Lachance began with only himself running and operating the business. Norman contributes the success of the Spa Cabanas to the loyalty of local clients as well as the return of the frequent traveler. It’s due to the continued support of these clients that Spa Cabanas has grown from a one owner/therapist ran business to the successfully ran Spa that it is today with 18 | Hotspots.LGBT

seven employees. The Cabanas Spa has been part of this Spa issue from year one and its always a pleasure to go there and see Norman and his General Manager Clint. They really make you feel special from the moment you walk through their doors. This year they set up a ½ day of services for me. The first service was with Dene, who is a massage therapist and massage. He administered a sixty minute Swedish relaxation massage ($95) with some trigger point examples. Almost immediately Dene noticed that I have a lot of tension in my shoulders and neck and asked if I sat at a computer all day. When I told him that I did, he spent more time in that area. In addition he used a lot of trigger points to relax my body and I must admit I felt so much more relaxed and loose after the massage. Actually noticed the difference at work for days.

Afterwards it was on to Jimmy, who is a Paramedical aesthetician, and who has worked on me for many years. Once a year we get to catch up. This year was especially nice as he got married and I got to hear all about his wedding and his wonderful husband. Jimmy administered the Bio-Lift Facial ($139), which is a unique facial that was introduced to the Spa Cabanas just one month before I received the procedure. This facial includes the use of their new Palm Sonic Nrg Device which reduces visibility of fine lines and includes a heat and cooling option to open and close pores, tripling product absorption and pushing products into the skin. Now anyone who knows me knows that although I won’t do surgery or needles I will try anything natural to remove lines on my face, so I was totally game for this facial, and was excited about the results I saw afterwards. Jimmy also administered the Baby Foot ($40), which is an unparalleled, total foot care package. Their scientifically formulated product contains 17 types of natural extracts which exfoliate and moisturize at the same time. In addition, the Fruit acids such as Glycolic Acid and Critic Acid allow the dead skin cells to peel, but the Alcohol makes the dead cells soft, and the Salicylic Acid, Lactic Acid and Isopropyl stimulate a flaking effect as well. The fruit acid penetrates into the layers of dead skin cells and breaks down the desmosomes which hold the layers together. By this process, skin is undamaged but peels easily away from the fresh layer beneath. After peeling, your feet are reborn just like a baby’s foot,

giving you healthy, beautiful feet. Baby Foot not only peels the dead skin cells from your feet, it also maintains the grain of the skin and adds moisture to the skin. The boots with all the extracts are put on your feet prior to getting Facial and stays there until the facial is done and then is taken off and your feet are wiped with a hot towel. This truly makes a big difference and your feet after peeling feels soft and supple, just like a baby’s bottom. The Spa Cabanas offers a variety of Massages and Bodywork, which include Swedish, deep tissue and sports work as well as aromatherapy, therapeutic and hot stone massage. Spa Cabanas is also able to provide Manicures and Pedicures and all areas of your Manscaping needs with body hair trimming, waxing, shaving and most recently, they have introduced Sugaring. Sugaring is the natural alternative to waxing. Spa Cabanas are constantly updating their monthly specials. Check out the month of October where they are featuring: 10 sessions of a 60 minute massages for only $499 (Reg price $950.00); Microdermabrasion plus massage only $149 (Reg Price $224); 3 Medical Grade Chemical Peels for only $189 (Reg Price $267).

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What is TRUVADA for PrEP? TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP? Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-negative. ® Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ® You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. ® If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ® To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: ® Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. ® Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you.

® Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. ® Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. ® If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ® Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to monitor your health. Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: ® Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. ® Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection. What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ® Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. ® Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. ® Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain.

Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA for PrEP including important warnings on the following page.

I’m passionate, not impulsive. I know who I am. And I make choices that fit my life. TRUVADA for PrEP™ is a once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when taken every day and used together with safer sex practices. ® TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP.

Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you. ® Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away. What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP? ® All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ® If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA.

Learn more at truvada.com

® If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ® All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ® If you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

IMPORTANT FACTS

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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEPTM (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.

MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1.

• You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. w

TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months.

ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health.

Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.

HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms and safer sex practices.

• Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP.

POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat.

• Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. • Bone problems. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can pass to the baby in breast milk.

Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.

HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you.

• Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.

GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV infection.

• Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.

TRUVADA FOR PREP, the TRUVADA FOR PREP Logo, the TRUVADA Blue Pill Design,TRUVADA, GILEAD, and the GILEAD Logo are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2017 © 2017 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0180 08/17

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WHATâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S HOT

By Scott Holland

Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s HOT South Florida

uesday night started off as the GFLGLCC presented their monthly Networker at Shooters on the Waterfront. Seen amongst the crowd were: Rene (GLBX), Chad (Mod), Roger Roa (Pride Center), Rob Bullock (Broward House), Eddie (ReMax),

Michael (Gay Men's Chorus, Monique (Stonewall Museum), Steve McAleer (Douglas Ellman R.E.), Photographer Dennis Dean, Bruce (GM Hunters) and his B/f, Neil (GLLN) and Hotspots' own Peter Jackson and Anthony Verrico. Another successful event fro the GFLGLCC. Afterwards I headed over to the Parker Playhouse, as Murray and Peter presented: Drag- War On The Catwalk starring contestants from Season 9 of RuPaul's Drag Race on

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VH-1, performing live on stage and rocking the catwalk. The night was hosted by Florida's own Trinity Taylor and starred winner Sasha Velour, and Shea, Alexis, Aja, and Farrah (see pic). It was a great show! On Friday evening, Stonewall held the opening of their latest collection entitled "True Colors," which is a multimedia collection featuring the histories of a variety of different groups of LGBTQ people and their coming out stories and life experiences. Saturday was a busy day as we started out early at Georgie's Alibi/Monkey

Bar's for their Drag Brunch starring VJ Barry Browder, Skye Beckett, Shardee Ross, and Dee Dee VanCarter with special guest: the first lady of the Palm Beaches, Melissa St. John. Later on, Remax's Kenny Silverman hosted his annual Customer Appreciation Party at the World AIDS Museum, which was a party for his former clients and new clients to meet and mingle. This event also highlighted WAM's newest exhibition: "Unmaksed: The Real Faces of HIV" In the early evening, The Pride Factory partnered with Hunters Nightclub to bring a CellBlock 13 Gear

Everything you need to plan your week Party and fashion show, which featured very sexy models in Cellblock 13 outfits. The event also featured raffle prizes, and free giveaways and a pop up Pride Factory store at Hunters. Later that night Matty's at Wilton Park hosted a

birthday party for both their owner Matty and their bartender Matt. On Sunday, OUTShine Film Festival hosted their seasonal Prelude Party at W Fort Lauderdale that was for Sponsors and Producers Circle Members and featured the clips of the

major movies that will be premiering for the festival in Fort Lauderdale. Seen there were Russ& Alan, Todd (who I have know for 20 years), Marky G, Alexis, Johnie and Omar, Stephen and Rafaeli (Latinos Salud) and many more. THURSDAY SEPT 28

As I mentioned last week from 8:55p.m. until 9:35p.m.

do not call me unless the world is ending as I, and most every other gay person I know, will be watching the premiere of Will & Grace on NBC. I would guess almost every single bar will be showing it on their TV's, but the ones I know for sure are: Rosie's (The Official NBC Universal party with a big Patio screen and on all 14 of its TV's), Village Pub and Hunters.

Openly gay behavior is a way to spite the government. His

The Greater Fort Lauderdale Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, presented by Northwestern Mutual, features their quarterly luncheon at Sage French Café from 11:30a.m. to 1p.m. The Chef at Sage will create a 3 course plated lunch, served with a nonalcoholic beverage. The cost for the luncheon, including tax and gratuity, is $35 for members and $40 for future members. RSVP required at Ronny@gflglcc.org

writing and homosexuality get him into trouble: he spends two years in prison, writing letters for other inmates and smuggling out a novel. He befriends Lázaro Gomes Garriles, with whom he lives stateless and in poverty in Manhattan after leaving Cuba in the Mariel boat-lift. When asked why he writes, he replies cheerfully, “Revenge.” Free to attend, but there is a suggested donation of $5, and there will be refreshments courtesy of Barefoot Wine & Bubbly.

Stonewall Gallery (2157 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors) presents Stonewall Movie Night at 7p.m. Tonight they are showing the movie Before Night Falls (2000), directed by Julian Schnabel, and starring Javier Bardem. This movie is an episodic look at the life of Cuban poet and novelist, Reinaldo Arenas (19431990), from his childhood in Oriente province to his death in New York City. He joins Castro's rebels. By 1964, he is in Havana. He meets the wealthy Pepe, an early lover; a love-hate relationship lasts for years.

Gloria Trevi vs. Alejandra Guzman in their Versus World Tour at the American Airline Arena at 8p.m brings these 2 diva's to perform together for the first time. Alejandra Guzmán and Gloria Trevi, individually, are two of the most legendary artists of music sung in Spanish. Throughout the years entire generations have been influenced by the two icon's music, style, ideologies and performances. A portion of each ticket sold will be donated to the Mexican American Legal Defense

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and Educational Fund (MALDEF) and the National Day Laborer Organizing Network (NDLON) to benefit their Immigrant Defense Fund. The partnership between the artists and the leading civil rights institutions comes at a crucial and divided time in the United States. FRIDAY SEPT 29

Rumors is so excited to announce that Robyn Almodovar, the Chef at Palate Party returns to Hell's Kitchen All Stars. They will be featuring a premiere party tonight at 7p.m. hosted by Seph Mason and Sasha Lords.

SATURDAY SEPT 30

Everyone is invited to the grand opening of The Tickin Ribbit: Pretty Little Things (2374 Wilton Drive) at 1 p.m. today. The store will carry distinctive treasured

for the home. For more info go to: TickinRibbit.com The Noche Latina Pageantry System in Association with Seph Mason Productions present a benefit for our Brothers and Sisters in Puerto Rico at Noche Latina Saturdays inside the Ivy Dance Room and Patio at the Manor Complex. The benefit will include performances by the Noche Latina Court including: Kalah Mendoza, Jose Manuel Vega, Efrain Reyes, Edward Nunez (all Puerto Rican) as well as Lady Charisse, Sasha Lords, Athena Dion, Rolly Vilaverde, Mia Patricyk, Angie Ovahness, Champagne Bordeaux and Lewis Nicholson. The benefit will also include Raffles, Silent Auctions and donation boxes. They are asking the entire Latino community to band together to raise money for this important benefit. The night

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Grammy nominated and multi-platinum singer, songwriter, Demi Lovato, announced the release of her highly anticipated sixth studio album, 'Tell Me You Love Me,' With a pop soulful flair, the album features collaborations with a number of notable songwriters and producers including Oak, Sean Douglas and John Hill, to Stint and DJ Mustard to name a few. With what Entertainment Weekly calls "one of the year's most unstoppable voices," last month, the Island/Safehouse/Hollywood Records artist released the first single "Sorry Not Sorry" off her new album. Upon release, the single instantly

'Tell Me You Love Me' is available globally starting Friday, September 29.

also stars resident DJ Larry Larr and sexy Latin Go-Go papis. Saturdays at the Manor are from 11pm to 4am and feature NO COVER before midnight and only $7 with Manor card after midnight and $10 without (18-20 is $12 all night). SUNDAY OCT 1

Flip Flops Dockside Eatery presents its monthly T Dance, the only T dance in Fort Lauderdale on the Intracoastal. The party is from 4-7 p.m, hosted by Amanda Austin with DJ Robert Lavalle. This month's special guests are TP Lords, Missy Meyakie Lepaige and Starlet Skye.

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Hillary Clinton will be at the Broward Center for the Performing Arts live. Mrs. Clinton will connect with audiences with a story that's personal, raw, detailed and surprisingly funny. She'll take

you with her on her journey and talk about what happened, what's next, and what's on your mind. What you'll see will be her story – Live. Her story of resilience, how to get back up after a loss, and how we can all look ahead. It's about Hillary's experience as a woman in politics – she lets loose on this topic, and others, in a way she never has before. Tickets start at $50 with VIP packages and Meet and Greet packages (including signed copies of her book) available. LIPS presents An Evening With Victor Victoria at 7p.m., which is their annual fundraiser benefiting Neighbors 4 Neighbors, helping those affected by Hurricane Irma. The show features the role reversal and stage debut of Dan Lindblade and Heiko Dobrikow, with special guest dames and event chairs Alyssa Lovitt, Melissa Milroy and Susan Renneisen.

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flew into the Top 5 on the iTunes US charts, where it remains, and has garnered over 120 million streams globally. The hit is currently at number 11 on the Global Spotify chart, in the Top 10 for the US, and was most added at Top 40 radio upon impact. With 9 platinum and multi-platinum singles and over 6 billion global single streams to her name, Lovato's last album, 'Confident', was released in 2015. Rolling Stone described 'Confident' as "the album she was born to make: a brassy, sleek, dynamic pop production that lets her powerful voice soar to new emotional highs." Her previous album, 2013's 'DEMI,' hit #1 on iTunes in over 50 countries around the world. Demi is one of the most influential names on social media, with an engaged combined following of over 145 million.

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MY PRESIDENT - HILLARY CLINTON LIVE

• at the Broward Center for the Performing Arts on Tuesday, October 3. Mrs. Clinton will connect with audiences with a story that’s personal, raw, detailed and surprisingly funny. She’ll take you with her on her journey and talk about what happened, what’s next, and what’s on your mind. Her story of resilience, how to get back up after a loss, and how we can all look ahead. It’s about Hillary’s experience as a woman in politics – she lets loose on this topic, and others, in a way she never has before. Tickets start at $50 with VIP packages and Meet and Greet packages (including signed copies of her book) available.

TELEVISION – WILL & GRACE

• The iconic comedy that put gay rights and issues in living rooms across America returns on Thursday September 28 at 9p.m. on NBC. In the premiere, Will and Grace both falter when their political beliefs are put to the test; and Jack and Karen help them hide their secret shame from each other, but the truth finally comes out. COMEDIAN - EDDIE GRIFFIN

• will be performing his unique brand of Stand-Up at the Palm Beach Improv on Friday and Saturday, September 29 & 30. The comedic actor has appeared in the films “Norbit,” “Beethoven’s Big Break,” “The Last Boy Scout” and “Scary Movie 3” to name a few. He has worked with such hip-hop luminaries as Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre and the late Tupac Shakur. Tickets range from $35-$45. LATIN DIVAS - GLORIA TREVI VS. ALEJANDRA GUZMAN

• perform together for the first time as part of their VERSUS World Tour at the American Airline Arena on Thursday September 28 at 8p.m. Guzmán and Trevi are two of the most legendary artists of music sung in Spanish and have influenced thousands by their music, style, ideologies and performances. A portion of each ticket sold will be donated to the Mexican American Legal Defense and Educational Fund (MALDEF) and the National Day Laborer Organizing Network (NDLON) to benefit their Immigrant Defense Fund. MOVIES - AMERICAN MADE

• is an Action/Biography/Comedy/Crime/Drama/History/ Thriller and is about a pilot who lands work for the CIA and as a drug runner in the south during the 1980’s. The movie which is rated R and is 115 mins stars Tom Cruise, Domhnall Gleeson, Sarah Wright, and Jesse Plemons.

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TELEVISION – HOW TO GET AWAY WITH MURDER

• Now that we’ve learned the identity of who killed Wes (Alfred Enoch), season 4 is likely to explore the reason why. The reasoning behind why Laurels father wanted to kill Wes is something we all can’t wait to find out, and we also can’t wait for Laurel to find out and see her reaction. Season 4 sees some new cast members including Viola Davis’ real-life husband Julius Tennon and veteran actor Jimmy Smits. The season premiere is on Thursday, September 28 at 10p.m. on ABC.

COMEDIANS - JAY AND SILENT BOB GET OLD LIVE PODCAST

• will take place at the Palm Beach Improv on Thursday, September 28 at 7:30 p.m. Kevin Smith and Jason Mewes revisited the characters of Jay and Silent Bob throughout the films “Clerks,” “Mallrats,” “Chasing Amy,” “Dogma,” “Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back” and “Clerks 2.” Here they tell stories about what happens when two people grow up in Hollywood’s gaze. Tickets are $40. LIPS - AN EVENING WITH VICTOR VICTORIA

• is the drag club’s annual dinner fundraiser benefiting Neighbors 4 Neighbors, helping those affected by Hurricane Irma. The show features the role reversal and stage debut of Dan Lindblade and Heiko Dobrikow, with special guest dames and event chairs Alyssa Lovitt, Melissa Milroy and Susan Renneisen. The event takes place on Tuesday, October 3at 7p.m., with tickets ranging from $100-$150. OKTOBERFEST - POMPANO BEACH ROTARY CLUB

• presents Oktoberfest on the front lawn of Pompano’s new Cultural Center. Enjoy performances by the International Polka Band, Tuchar beers, delicious German food by local restaurant Checkers Old Munchen, games daily throughout the weekend including stein races, barrel races, and coaster toss, and the crowning of Herr & Frau Oktoberfest 2017! VIP packages also available. All proceeds benefit local charities!s. Their event takes place Friday September 29 (6p.m.-10p.m.); Saturday September 30 (12p.m. -10p.m.) and Sunday October 1 (12p.m.-5p.m.) Admission prices range from $15 to $50, with kids under 12 free.

COMEDIAN - JOHN MULANEY

• will be performing at the Adrienne Arsht Center for the Performing Arts on Friday, September 29th at 7p.m. John Mulaney is an Emmy Award-winning writer and comedian. He most recently starred in the Broadway hit, “Oh, Hello on Broadway” alongside Nick Kroll. In 2015 Mulaney released his 3rd hour stand up special a Netflix Original titled “The Comeback Kid” which the AV Club called “his best hour of his career.” Tickets start at $29.

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The best chatter on Facebook this week “I see each and every one of you. The things that make you different? Those are your superpowers. Every day when you walk out the door, put on your imaginary cape [and] go out there and conquer the world! Because the world would not be as beautiful without us in it.” Comedian LENA WAITHE in the Emmy acceptance speech for Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series for Master of None, the comedy-drama web television series on Netflix. Waithe, the first black female to win in that category, thanked her girlfriend and her “LGBQTIA family.”

“Obviously, I disagree with the dismantling of many of the important measures that President Obama put in place to create an even playing field and advocate for civil rights for Americans. But elections have consequences. I don’t think we should be surprised about the steps the [Trump] administration is taking. That’s why President Obama campaigned so hard for Secretary Clinton. And he expressed quite clearly during the campaign what was at stake here.” VALERIE JARRETT, former senior advisor to President Barack Obama, in an interview with LGBT journalist Karen Ocamb of the Los Angeles Blade.

“They want marriage because they want to destroy it. There will be no Mother’s Day, there will be no Father’s Day, there will be no Easter, there will be no Christmas.” Homophobic Australian tennis legend MARGARET COURT, opposing marriage equality in Australia.

“You don’t need to be superhuman and you don’t need to be perfect. Simply live the best you can, and God will take care of the rest.” Fort Lauderdale’s own international drag icon SHAWN PALACIOUS (aka Kitty Meow) on Facebook.

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“What is proven to help our patients is to help them accept who they are. Conversion therapy starts from the assumption that you should not accept who you are…” TONI REIS, spokesman for Brazil’s National LGBT Alliance, after a federal judge in that country ruled that psychologists could consider homosexuality a disease.

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Spa Products

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11 Products I Can’t Live Without! It's no secret to anyone who has ever met me (even once) that I am a love of products. Where I will never elective plastic surgery or put a needle to my face (personal choice) I will try and cream or serum known to man.

Here are a couple of my favorites this year: Ceramiracle – First Light, The Serum –

Ceramiracle.com - $89 This Serum is a phytosqualane based 95% active beauty concentrate containing natural actives inspired by the vernix caseosa - the thick, white wax-like substance that coats babies for weeks before they are born. The Serum mimics the intense hydration and skin nourishing and protective properties of the vernix to bring back baby soft skin. For all skin types, and jJust a few drops will instantly revitalize skin, refresh and smooth your complexion. Use it on its own or with a moisturizer for firmer, radiant, toned and younger looking skin.

Tea Tree Oil Shampoo, 8 OZ. mapleholistics.com Reduced from $25 to $8.95

Their Natural Tea Tree Oil Shampoo is the hair care solution you've been dreaming of! Boasting wonderful therapeutic benefits thanks to the incredible effects of natural tea tree oil, this shampoo can improve hair and scalp health while promoting hair growth and even slowing hair loss. Suitable for men, women, and children, The Tea Tree Oil Shampoo is cruelty-free, parabensfree, GMO-free, and gluten free. Brazil Bronze Quench--Spray Tan Moisturizer; brazilbronze.com; $20/$25

This is the ultimate hydration moisturizer for your spray tan. Quench is infused with Hyaluronic & Cacao to boost hydration and extend the life of your tan. This moisturizer is so rich, only a small amount is needed to cover your whole body. Quench will keep your tan looking fresh and hydrated and fade like a natural tan. Quench should be used the second day of your spray tan and daily after that until your tan fades. 52 | Hotspots.LGBT

Image's Sheer Pink Lip Enhancement Complex $20

This limited edition sheer pink lip enhancement complex is specifically designed to enhance the appearance and volume of lip contours. This ultra-hydrating, powerful polypeptide lip enhancement complex will add up to 40% of moisture volume with repeat usage. Diminishes the look of fine lines and soothes dehydrated lips. Use of product will complement and enhance the effects of professional dermal fillers. Paraben free, and if you buy one by any Authorized Image retailer the entire $20 goes to fund the charity.

MURAD RETINOL PRODUCTS Murad.com Retinol Youth Renewal Serum 1.0 FL. OZ. $88

Murad has perfected the science of Retinol with this breakthrough serum, powered by Retinol Tri-Active Technology: a fast-acting Retinoid, a time-released Retinol, and a Retinol booster. This potent, yet gentle, formula quickly and visibly minimizes lines and deep wrinkles, firms, evens skin tone and boosts radiance for more vibrant, youthful-looking skin. Retinol Youth Renewal Night Cream 1.7 FL. OZ. $82

Activate youth while you sleep. This luxurious Retinol night cream, powered by breakthrough Retinol Tri-Active Technology, delivers transformative results to visibly minimize lines and wrinkles and smooth skin's texture. A peptide-rich Red Algae Extract helps improve firmness and elasticity to restore youthful contours. This intensely nourishing overnight cream melts into skin for a supple, vibrant complexion. Retinol Youth Renewal Eye Serum 1.0 FL. OZ. $85

This potent treatment minimizes the look of wrinkles and crow's feet while infusing skin with a nutrient-rich Marine Kelp Complex to lift, firm and visibly brighten dark circles. See more revitalized, youthful-looking eyes starting in just 1 week.

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SKIN SENSE FacialsFortLauderdale.com Skin Sense works with the skins natural reserve of sodium hyaluronate which is primarily found in the spaces between skin cells. Skin Sense will provide suppleness by retaining and adding moisture, firmness, plumpness and brightening the skin. A simple four step process starts with the Purifying Face Wash (8oz - $35) which has selfadjusting micro-beads made of rice to cleanse, exfoliate and brighten the appearance of skin.

Then the Oxygenating pH Toner (8oz - $35) is sprayed directly onto to the face to reduce inflammation or redness due to environmental pollutants; as well as restore natural pH balance and smooth damaged skin. The Oxygenating Toner can be applied throughout the day to continuously nourish the ski!

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Then two serums, a Pure Hyaluronic Serum (2 oz - $50) which is a topical version of injectable filler with the ability to hold 1000 times its weight in water and bind it to the skin for more youthful, plump and smooth appearance. The Vitamin C & E Booster (1.69 oz - $60) made of the highest botanical quality 20% Vit C, Vit E which works to block free radicals which plays a large part in the aging process. It also includes aloe vera, jojoba, amino acids, geranium and dandelion extracts to improve elasticity and over all skin texture as it helps heal micro wounds present in all skin types. Professional strength means results can be seen in days not months of use. Skin Sense works on all shades and textures of skin. Available at Urban Retreat Spa.

By Mike Rox

Maybe it’s just me – and it probably is, according to my fellow gay male friends – but I prefer a greasy-poled female strip club to a beefcake revue any day. Here are eight reasons why.

Boobies I’m strangely fascinated by females’ breasts’ buoyancy. My buddies’ girlfriends usually let me take theirs for a test drive – much to my buddies’ dismay (especially Kevin) – but I have to limit those occasions, lest I be branded the homo who’s always touching somebody’s tits at the party. The ladies at the club, however – well, they let me satisfy this odd craving for an affordable five dollars. Fair price.

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Rogue dicks don t come flying at my face Let me get this straight first: I’m not a super-fan of strip clubs. It’s not like I’m there every chance I get. In fact, I’ve only been to a handful in my day, but in hindsight I’ve had more fun at a traditional gentlemen’s club than a gay joint. Sure, the naughty atmosphere is exciting, but I don’t get off on stuffing exotic dancers’ tube socks full of my hard-earned singles, so I generally drink and socialize without much regard for what’s happening on stage, no matter whose junk is out. My lack of undivided attention doesn’t always go over well with the “entertainment,” like the “firefighter” who smacked me on the head with his “hose” during his “performance” because my back was turned to him. Guess the “six foot rule” didn’t apply there. My friend Brooke relates another tale of cockiness gone awry. “I knew someone who was at a male strip club and something flew off (the stripper’s) dick into her eye. She had to go to the hospital; turns out it was pubic lice,” she recalls. “I’m not gay, but I’ll take a pair of titties over crabs helicoptering off a dick any day.”

I enjoy giving my unsolicited financial advice to single mothers

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When I’m not delivering sage advice and anecdotes via this celebrated column, I’m writing about money matters as a fairly successful personal finance expert. Day in and day out I practice savvy spending and saving tactics, which I teach in earnest to those in need (or really anybody who’ll listen), and the strip club is like Sunday service for my financial sermon.

Gay-for-pay dancers turn me off It’s not like I want to go home with a male stripper, but if I wanted to go home with a male stripper I’d like to know that for $100 an hour he enjoys sucking my beautiful cock. Anything else is just a waste of my time and money.

A bar full of horny straight guys is a challenge I willingly accept I perfected the art of bedding “straight” dudes during my time in a fraternity, which makes a room full of drunken bros with boners and broken egos motherfucking amateur hour.

I like to root for the underdogs All eyes are on the skinny bitches grinding the stage, but I prefer the big girls with ass and confidence to spare. I once watched this portly chick with gladiator sandals tied around her calves like twine on a holiday ham slink around the pole with the ease of a giant elf sliding down a chimney on Christmas Eve. She got extra drizzle. Nudie man bars are increasingly hard to find Even if I wanted to go to male strip clubs more often, I couldn’t. Full-nudity male clubs are increasingly harder to find – thanks to America’s nouveau Puritans – with most states outlawing them altogether. I prefer a little mystery anyway. What’s underneath the banana hammock? My imagination usually serve me better than reality.

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Patricia & Phillip Frost Art Museum FIU Gets Donation from Univision Communications Inc.

The Patricia & Phillip Frost Art Museum FIU announces a major donation by Univision Communications Inc. (UCI) of 57 artworks from its collection, featuring serigraphs, paintings and mixed media works by forty artists and masters from throughout Latin America and the United States, including: Cundo Bermudez, Coqui Calderon, Humberto Calzada, Antonia Guzman, Wifredo Lam, Rafael Soriano, Fernando De Szyszlo. The artists in this collection are from Argentina, Bolivia, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guatemala, Mexico, Nicaragua, Panama, Puerto Rico, Santo Domingo, the United States, Uruguay and Venezuela. The museum will showcase many of the gifted works in the new exhibition Re lections of the Americas: New Acquisitions from the Collection of Univision (Sept. 23-Jan. 3, including Art Basel season). The opening reception is free and open to the public on Saturday, September 23 from 4-7:00 p.m. The museum is located on the campus of Florida International University, 10975 S.W. 17 Street. “The Frost Art Museum FIU is honored to have been chosen by Univision for this donation of Latin American art,” said Dr. Jordana Pomeroy, the museum's director. “This collection from Univision aligns naturally with our mission to inspire and propel Miami's evolution as a cultural destination. For the irst time ever, for this year's Art Basel season the Frost Art Museum FIU is dedicating our

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galleries to showcase Latin American artists with a winning trifecta of three exhibitions: Re lections of the Americas: New Acquisitions from the Collection of Univision; Rafael Soriano: The Artist as Mystic; and Continental Abstractions: Highlights from the Art Museum of the Americas.” “For over 60 years, Univision has been uniting the 22 nationalities that comprise the U.S. Hispanic community through their one common language, Spanish,” said Jessica Rodriguez, EVP and CMO of Univision Communications Inc. “And just as language is a re lection of its culture, nothing is a more accurate re lection of a people's true character and personality than its art." "This wide-ranging collection, housed and exhibited throughout the hallways of our lagship Univision Television Network broadcast facility in Miami, has served as a constant inspiration and re lection of the rich tapestry of cultures and traditions that make up this country's diverse Hispanic community," adds Jessica Rodriguez. "So it is especially appropriate that as a longtime contributor to the culture of greater Miami, that Univision donates this collection of 57 celebrated works to another great hometown institution, the Patricia & Phillip Frost Art Museum FIU, so that they may inspire others for years to come.”

EATING OUT A SAMPLE OF FORT LAUDERDALE’S FAVORITE

RESTAURANTS ASIA BAY 1111 E. Las Olas Blvd., Fort Lauderdale asiabayrestaurants.com 954-848-9900 Elegant riverfront dining with a menu of Japanese and Thai dishes including creative sushi rolls. BEEFCAKES (at Boardwalk) 1721 N. Andrews Ave., Ft. Lauderdale BoardwalkBar.com 954-463-6969 Open daily from 5 p.m. to 2 a.m. The best burgers and chicken wings in town. BONA ITALIAN RESTAURANT 2468 Wilton Dr., Wilton Manors bonaitalianrestaurant.com 954-565-7222 Under new ownership! Fresh made Italian food. Signature dishes include Fazzoletti, (pasta purses with fontina cheese, cream sauce, peas/bacon), Chicken Cyriac or traditional Eggplant Parmigiana. CEVICHE BY THE SEA 2823 E. Oakland Park Blvd. CevicheByTheSea.com 954-999-0751 Intimate seafood and Peruvian cuisine. Recommended as a “truly remarkable dining experience.” Reservations

recommended. Open for lunch. Happy Hour M-F, 5-7 p.m. EAT 2150 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Eatinwiltonmanors.com 954-626-0722 Menu offers everything from salmon to Chef Rosario’s meatloaf. Great $10 specialty drink menu. FLIP FLOPS DOCKSIDE EATERY 3051 NE 32nd Ave., Ft. Lauderdale FlipFlopsDocksideEatery.com 954-567-1672 Relax on the dock while sipping a specialty cocktail or eating a fresh, made-to-order item from the menu. GEORGIE’S ALIBI & MONKEY BAR 266 Wilton Dr, Wilton Manors AlibiWiltonManors.com 954-565-2526 Relaxed patio atmosphere with a full menu offering awardwinning burgers, wings, hot & cold sandwiches, sliders, flat bread, pizzas and fresh fish, shrimp and chicken entrees. Full bar. Check web site for weekend brunch entertainment schedules. KALUZ KaluzRestaurant.com

954-772-2209 Modern American dining with spectacular waterfront views from an elegant dining room or from a more casual patio and outdoor bar. LIPS 1421 E. Oakland Park Blvd., Oakland Park Fladragshow.com 954-567-0987 A restaurant/cabaret that “dresses up” to entertain its guests! Fabulous drag and tons of fun! MIND YOUR MANORS 2045 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors 754-223-2172 MindYourManorsPub.com A fun, relaxing garden pub and wine bar serving comfort food and hospitality. Enjoy a wide range of creative cocktails, craft beers and a very unique wine list. NABU AMERICAN FUSION BUFFET 3485 N. Federal Hwy. 954-568-2208 NabuAmericanFusionBuffet.com This place offers it all: Japanese, American, Italian and Chinese. Incredible buffet. Q BAR 2362 N. Federal Highway, Fort Lauderdale

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EATING OUT qbarfl.com 954-565-2229 Live jazz & blues acts perform at this gastropub serving gourmet burgers & Creole-type dishes. ROSIE’S BAR & GRILL 2449 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Facebook.com/ rosiesbarandgrill 954-563-0123 A Wilton Drive favorite, this place is known for its non-stop party every “Sunday Funday” with live DJs spinning great music. Great burgers, fresh seafood and amazing Sunday Brunch 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. RUMORS BAR “PALATE PARTY” 2426 Wilton Drive, Wilton

Manors RumorsBarWiltonManors.com 954-565-8851 Full bar, restaurant and entertainment venue serving fresh, local ingredients in delicious dishes by awardwinning Cutthroat Kitchen chef Robyn Almodovar. SAGE 2378 N. Federal Highway sagecafe.net 954-565-2229 Chic, intimate bistro delivering French country cooking in a romantic locale with patio seating. SHOOTERS WATERFRONT 3033 NE 32nd Ave, Ft. Lauderdale ShootersWaterfront.com 954-566-2855

Popular, spacious dining with a comprehensive menu and dining right on the Intracoastal. TEE JAY’S SUSHI 2254 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors teejaythaisushi.com 954-537-7774 Casual locale for Thai & Japanese eats with Asian decorative touches and some traditional low tables. THAI SPICE 1514 E. Commercial Blvd., Oakland Park thaispicefla.com 954-771-4535 Voted the “Best Thai Restaurant in South Florida 2015” by the Sun-Sentinel, this gem dishes up Thai classics and specials by

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EATING OUT owner/chef Michael Tatton on a huge menu that includes Pan-Asian fare & steaks in a soothing space. Happy Hour with half-off appetizers and drinks from 5 to 7 p.m. Monday through Friday. ZUCKERELLOâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S ITALIAN RESTAURANT 3017 E. Commercial Blvd., Fort Lauderdale zuckerellos.com 954-776-4282 Familiar Italian pastas and flavorful mainstays (plus early-bird specials) are offered up in this warm, inviting restaurant.

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Spa Products

By Scott Holland

BlowMei Hair Care Products

Dedicated to the rebels and trailblazers in life; those who have been confronted with adversity, unjustly accosted and pushed to the limit. Their hair care products are formulated with the highest quality botanicals, nutrients, natural minerals, and essential oils. They are made in the USA and, of course, they only test their products on the humans they were made for.

CRUISING CLAY – 2 OZ - $28 Define and texturize long or short hair styles with cruising clay. Matte finish that adds body and fullness that feels like you have twice as much hair. Whether cruising on your bike or through a park at sunset, their light formula absorbs perfectly.

PARTY PASTE – 4 OZ - $28 Add outrageous separation and texture while maintaining self control. Firm yet shapeable, party paste delivers all the party favors without a crispy hard feel. Work the paste easily through damp or dry hair for molding any style. Hair will have resilience all day long and can be reworked anytime throughout your day by adding small amount of moisture (water) to hair, remold with fingers or your favorite comb. PIG POMADE - .2 OZ - $28 Not all pigs play in the mud! Add shine and hold to your dapper style with a fresh mint scent.

BUTCH WAX – 2.0 OZ. - $28 Versatile defining wax for texture and hold, infused with Beeswax for a shiny finish with texture & strong hold. 76 | Hotspots.LGBT

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• Seated dumbbell presses are great for front and mid deltoids as well as for traps and triceps. Sit on a bench with your back straight. Grasp two dumbbells with an overhand grip and lift them to your shoulders, palms facing forward. Inhale and press your arms to an extended overhead position. Exhale as you lower them back to your shoulders. • Side raises are great for the mid deltoids and they help you to achieve a broader look to the upper body. Stand with your feet slightly spread. Keep your back straight, your arms hanging at your sides. Holding a dumbbell in each hand, raise the dumbbells to shoulder height, keeping your elbows slightly bent. Return to your sides. You can also do this exercise seated on a bench with your back straight and simply raise the dumbbells to your sides as if you were standing. Doing these exercises in a seated position helps you to isolate the side deltoids better. • Front raises are superlative for the front and rear deltoids. Stand with your feet slightly apart. Hold the dumbbells with your palms down (overhand grip). Resting the dumbbells on your thighs or slightly to the

side, raise the dumbbells forward to shoulder height alternating each side. • Bent over lateral raises are great for the overall shoulder, but especially for the rear deltoids and upper back. Stand with your feet spread apart and your knees slightly bent. Bend forward at the waist and keep your back straight. Hold the dumbbells with your elbows slightly bent. Inhale and raise the dumbbells to your sides. Exhale as you complete the movement. • The upright row is another exercise for the mid and rear deltoids. Holding a weighted bar in front of you with an overhand grip, pull it to your chin while keeping your elbows above the bar. Keep the bar close to your body. Tom Bonanti is a personal trainer and massage therapist (MA#40288) with his own one on one gym and studio

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or a long time now we’ve been hearing about people terrified that they might share a public restroom with a transgender person out of fear that trans people will pee on them (that’s the fear, right? I’m pretty sure I read that on World Net Daily). Now we’ve found someone terrified to share a stage with a transgender person. Bob Marshall, a member of the Virginia House of Delegates (R-13th District), is running for reelection. His challenger, Democrat Danica Roem, is hoping to unseat Marshall, thus becoming Virginia’s first openly transgender elected official. Marshall, however, is basically pretending that Roem doesn’t exist. He won’t debate her at a candidate forum, he said, because he doesn’t want to get called names. You see, nasty LGBTQ advocates have

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taken to calling him “Bigot Bob.” According to the Washington Post, Marshall got this nickname “because of his sponsorship of a ‘bathroom bill’ that would have regulated transgender people’s use of restrooms in government buildings. That measure was unsuccessful. Marshall also sponsored Virginia’s constitutional amendment barring samesex marriage — which stood until the U.S. Supreme Court declared such prohibitions unconstitutional.” Well hell, if he has feet like a duck, quacks like a duck, and denies LGBTQ people their humanity, then he’s a ducking bigot. But Marshall takes offense to the label. He tells the Prince Williams Times that it “is simply not correct” and chastises Roem for “hurling insults.” “In the same interview,” the Times reports, “Marshall doubled down on calling

...if he has feet like a duck, quacks like a duck, and denies LGBTQ people their humanity, then he’s a ducking bigot.

Roem … “he.” “Why do you call Danica a female?” Marshall asked the Times reporter. “Did Danica’s DNA change?” Sick burn, bro. Like, seriously, your contempt for transgender people is sickening. Then Marshall has the nerve to cry to the Washington Post about a “lack of civility.” “In the last few elections, there’s been a distinct lack of civility,” Marshall said. “Prior to that, it wasn’t so bad. You weren’t automatically identified as a bigot, or a hatemonger or anything like this. That has changed.” Yes, bigots being called out for their bigoted bullshit is a change. A refreshing one if you’re a member of an oppressed minority in the United States. Maybe we have learned something from the election of Donald Trump, a white supremacist, misogynist, and LGBTQ foe. But if you’re a straight white guy in America and being called “a bigot, or a

hatemonger” feels oppressive to you, well, it’s literally the LEAST everyone else could do. As an added bonus, the candidate forum Marshall is refusing to attend is hosted by the NAACP. I suspect that in addition to not wanting to have to treat a trans person like a human being in public, Marshall probably also has a problem with the NAACP, specifically that they’re allowed to use the term “colored people” but he, a 73-year-old white man, isn’t. Again, that’s just a guess. I suppose we’ll never know since he won’t attend the forum. According to the the Prince William Times, Roem and other Democrats are still planning on meeting with voters regardless. “I think it’s a damn shame that he refused to debate, but we’re going to do it anyway,” Roem said. Cosmopolitan magazine calls the fact that Roem is running against Marshall “cosmic poetry,” and I have to agree. It would be a beautiful thing to see her unseat Bigot Bob. “The message that I can succeed because of my gender, not despite it, because of who I am without being afraid of who I am is a human message,” Roem told Cosmo.

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arasota, located an hour south of Tampa on Interstate 75, is a place where people go to leave their troubles behind. With a booming art scene, tons of great restaurants, and some of the most beautiful beaches in the sunshine state, it is a great place for a get away. There are so many great sights to see, ranging from the famed Ringling Museum to the very

walkable downtown area, featuring many specialty boutiques and sidewalk cafĂŠs. Give Sarasota a chance and you'll fall in love.

Where to Stay Unlike Key West, Miami, or Fort Lauderdale, Sarasota doesn't feature any gay only hotels, but with the high concentration of art and theatre in the small city, there are plenty of gay friendly accommodations. Here are a few of our suggestions.

Hotel Ranola (118 Indian Place) Hotel Ranola is a nine-room boutique hotel located right in the middle of the downtown area. Privately owned, this hotel exudes lots of charm. Each of the nine rooms offer full kitchens with stove and refrigerator as well as Keurig coffee machines. The Royale Suites are over 600 square feet and offer separate living and sleeping spaces, as well as a champagne bar. The hotel is adults-only, so if you have kids, you need to consider a different option, but if not, you will definitely love this hotel. For rates and more information, visit them online at HotelRanola.com

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This is located in the Rosemary District in the

heart of Sarasota's Art's District and within walking distance of Sarasota Bay. Stop by the H20 Bistro, one of the city's top restaurants, for something to eat and drink in cheerful, bright surroundings. The rooms are bright as well, influenced by the coastal color schemes so popular in Florida. All rooms offer oversized beds and hardwood floors. Make it a point to relax in the spa's unique wading pools. Visit HotelIndigoSaras ota.com for booking info and rates.

had to travel to Tampa to party, but now this small but thriving community has multiple nightlife options available. Sarasota's LGBT pride celebrations have grown as well: Sarasota Pride Hyatt Regency Sarasota 2017 will be held on October 21 from 12-6 p.m. The festival brings thousands of people to J.D. Hamel Park for a ton of daytime Hotel Ranola fun. In recent years, Sarasota Pride has even incorporated a parade that crossed the famed Ringling Bridge for the very first time. Siesta Key Bungalows Stay tuned to SarasotaPride.or g for more information or to Hyatt Regency Sarasota (1000 become a sponsor. Midnight Pass Road, Siesta Key) Boulevard of the Arts) If you are looking for The Hyatt Regency Sarasota beachfront, you won't be Barrel 87 (6587 Gateway Ave.), is right on the bay, and after disappointed with this is open seven days a week staying here you may not boutique hotel located on and has undergone several want to stay anywhere else. Sarasota's Siesta Key. Just iterations including just Rooms are offered in steps from the white sand serving beer and wine. standard, deluxe and suite beach on the Gulf of Mexico, However, currently the do sizes, and if you have the Siesta Key Bungalows have a full liquor license and allergies, rest assured that offer 10 private rooms with they have a happy hour from by requesting a hypobeds so comfortable you 3-7 p.m. each day. Elevateallergenic room, you will won't want to leave at the Level 2 at Starlight (1001 sleep well and breathe easy. end of your stay. Try the Cocoanut Ave., Sarasota) is a All rooms are designed in Ringling bungalow, which is weekly gay night at The "Florida chic" style by Lilly waterfront with beautiful Starlight Room, a casual Pulitzer, and the suite, views from the full kitchen restaurant in the heart of should you choose to as well as from the the theatre district. reserve one, is two stories bedroom. For more and features over 1000 information, visit them square feet of space for you, The Purple Rino (2920 S Beneva online at your friends, or loved ones. Rd, Sarasota) is a private club SiestaKeyBungalows.com Check out their rates and that has activities for the information at LGBT community almost Sarasota.Hyatt.com Where to Play every night of the week. While it will cost you $60 for It used to be the case that a one year membership, it's Sarasota's gay community Siesta Key Bungalows (8212 Hotspots.LGBT | 101

a great way to interact with other homos as well as support a great organization that does a lot in the area. They have a full liquor license so their parties are a lot of fun!

and bromeliads, and there's even an area where you can get up-close and personal with entire families of butterflies. The John and Mable

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Where to Go Sarasota is well-known for its shopping. Take a stroll down the Main Street Merchants area in downtown and shop at the various boutiques, mom-and-pop shops, and art galleries. For even more high-end shopping, visit St. Armands Circle. The poshest of the posh shop at the various designer stores around the circle and on the surrounding streets, and take time afterwards to enjoy a lunch at one of the many high-end bistros. For the person who loves to shop until they drop, but don't want to break the bank, consider the state-ofthe-art Mall at University Town Center. It was the only mall built in the United States in 2014 and features over 100 retailers, anchored by Dillard's, Macy's, and the Suncoast's only Saks Fifth Avenue. If you're looking for some fun in the sun, go to nearby Siesta Beach on Siesta Key. It's been voted one of the most popular beaches in Florida by USA Today, and

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it's easy to see why once you step foot on the warm sand and see thousands of sunbathers enjoying the rays and the water. The sand is so white here, that even on the hottest sunny days it doesn't get hot. On your way from downtown, make sure you stop at the Unconditional Surrender statue near the waterfront. A recreation of the iconic "V-J Day in Times Square" photograph in which a sailor plants a passionate smooch on a nurse, it is one of Sarasota's most iconic landmarks. The Marie Selby Botanical

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numerous exhibits in multiple artistic disciplines, such as paintings, sculptures, and historic artifacts. There are even art collections relating to the circus life in their Circus Museum (it is the Ringling Museum, after all!). Sarasota has a very sizable Amish community, which began generations ago when Amish communities from Ohio and Pennsylvania chose Sarasota as a winter vacation spot. You definitely can't miss a home-cooked meal at Yoder's Restaurant (3434 Bahia Vista St.), which has served the Sarasota community, Amish and "English," for 40 years. Want to take in a show afterwards? The Van Wezel

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NEED WOOD

By Woody Miller

HE’S TOO

SHY SHY

ey Woody! I’ve got a problem I’m too embarrassed to ask anyone about. Whenever I go out, especially to the bars, I can’t seem to pee if there’s anyone next to me, even if my bladder is about to explode. Sometimes I can do it if I go into a stall and shut the door but when you’re waiting in line and the stall is occupied, it’s not always possible. The worst is waiting in line, wondering if I’ll be able to pee when I get to the urinal. If the place has one of those troughs where everyone pees into a vat, forget it, I won’t even try. My problem has gotten so bad I refuse to go out to the bars (or really any place where there’s going to be lots of people and long lines in the bathroom). I want to go out and party and get laid but I’m too scared of the humiliation I put myself through. Woody, what can I do? How do I get over this? —

Pee Shy

Dear Pee: I know that was a tough letter to write. About as tough to read, if you suffer from being “pee-shy” like I do. You and I are not alone. About 7% of the public, or 17 million people suffer from being pee shy, which is a diagnosable condition technically known as “Avoidant Paruresis.” It can severely impair people’s lives (some sufferers have literally landed in the ER where they had to be catheterized to

“void” their urine). Shrinks classify it as a type of social anxiety disorder. When fear sets in you get an adrenaline rush and your body automatically shuts down the internal sphincter muscle. It’s a protection mechanism. When you’re running for your life, the last thing you want to do is stop and urinate. With a shy bladder the fear, anxiety and adrenal response spiral until no matter how hard you try, you just can’t go. Some shrinks have tried “disinhibiting” medicine like tranquilizers or anti-depressants but to no real success. You can always go with the gold standard in lowering inhibitions--alcohol. Basically, you drink till you’re so whacked you don’t care if the Backstreet Boys are in the bathroom with you, you’re gonna p-ss like a racehorse. But as you know, I don’t ever offer alcohol as a problem solver. Seriously, desensitization techniques are the best way to move the waters within. It works like this: You gradually introduce the feared stimuli until they lose their power to paralyze your body. Anyway, you do this first with visualization, then in real life. This is how I overcame it. With relaxation, distraction and visualization techniques I short-circuited the panic, allowing me a great degree of bathroom freedom. Though I have to be honest and say that my shy bladder hasn’t gone away completely. I never sought professional help, mostly because I was too ashamed. Don’t let shame stop you like it did me. Start by going to www. paruresis.com. They register more than 42,000 visitors a month in their discussion site. There are all kinds of helpful links.

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