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n Tuesday the GFLGLCC and the GLLN hosted a combined mixer at Rosie's. seen amongst the crowd were: Andy Perrot from Lightship Media & the GLBX,
Restaurant), Arnicua "Arnie" Renta, Barbara Moeggenberg "Babs"
(formerly of Rumors) and DJ Cliff.
Michael Mendillo from Slowburn Theater, Derrick Bowling & Steve Ryan from Remedium Wellness, Photographers Michael Murphy and Dennis Dean, Blanca (Fast Printz), Rene (EQFL), and Rosies owners Cliff and John).
On Wednesday Stonewall held their monthly Pride Skate at XXtreme Action Park, and seen there was: Stephen and Ariel (J. Marks
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On Thursday, the Pride Center held their monthly Founders event at Grateful Palate, and as usual this event was packed with those that support Robert and Roger and all the great work the Pride Center does.
On Friday we headed down to South Beach with the first stop being Hotel Gaythering for their Bears and Hares Friday party from 10pm-2am. Seen there was Jose Cano and his friends celebrating a birthday; Jaime Bailo
(formerly OUTMiami now of The Perez Art Museum)
sexy realtor Luis Sotomayor and many more.
Afterwards we headed to Twist, which as usual was packed with partygoers and the dance floor was pumping! On Saturday afternoon Broward House held another Car Wash at Dick's
Everything you need to plan your week Service Staion to benefit their Smart Ride team. These car washes are always lots of fun!
u THURSDAY SEPT 27 The Pride Center at Equality Park presents “Finding Happiness” an Art Show from 7-9pm in the Shubert Building. The show will feature art from Stephen R Lang, Jimmer O'Rourke, Carina Mask and Chris Chavez.
Throb Thursdays (3901 NW 77th Avenue, Miami) presents Fabulously Fetish where you a get a free gift for being in leather. For more information go to: ThrobThursdays.com.
Starting today and going through Sunday, September 30, My Tropx presents their monthly Ruby Member Sale where everything is 40% off for Ruby Members. For more
info go to: MyTropx.com. u FRIDAY SEPT 28
The Pub presents the 60th birthday party for former Miss Florida F.I., Former Miss Entertainer of the year, and Former Miss Continental Elite, the one and only ELECTRA. The party/show starts at 9:30pm.
MOCA is celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month with a unique performance by Grammy award-winning artist Nestor Torres as part of its monthly “Jazz at MOCA” series at 8pm. As a flautist, Torres has found inspiration in classical, Cuban, rock, and jazz sounds resulting in a rhythmic and mellifluous flute sound that has become a music genre all by itself. Torres has been nominated for four Latin Grammys and one Grammy nomination, and has won a Latin Grammy award for his CD “This Side of Paradise.” For more info go to: mocanomi.org.
Business for the Arts of Broward (BFA) is hosting a tour of cultural sites in Broward County from 8:15 a.m. to 1:15 p.m. Presented by Hoffman's Chocolates, the fully-guided tour takes participants for an exploration of the cultural treasures Broward County has to offer. The tour destinations include the Stonewall National Library, the Broward Center for the
Performing Arts, the Girls' Club Collection, IS Projects, and the Fort Lauderdale Historical Society, where lunch will be served. Participants will meet at the Stonewall National Library, 1300 E Sunrise Blvd. in Fort Lauderdale for breakfast and return there at the end of the tour. The tour cost is $50 and includes breakfast, lunch, transportation, networking, admission, and guided behind the scenes tours. To register or for more info call 954-940-5344. u SATURDAY SEPT 29
Compass GLCC ares everyone to throw fashion rules out the window and wear white after Labor Day, and join them at Penny's at the Duke (902 N Dixie Hwy, Lantana) at 7pm for their Annual White Party. There will be dancing, raffles, Jello shots, and of course, there will be general craziness! It's National Gay Men's HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and funds raised at the White Party will go towards supporting the Compass SMART Ride Upload and Download Crew! Admission is free. Hotspots.LGBT | 13
Noche Latina Saturdays inside the Ivy Dance Room and Patio at the Manor Complex presents the final appearance of Kalah Mendoza, Miss Florida F.I. before she gives up her title on Monday, October 1. The night will also feature special guest Calypso Monroe Lords with guest DJ Ricardo Torres and sexy Latin Go-Go Papi's. Inside the Ballroom, they present “Replay” with Diva Anthems, Club hits of today and yesterday with a twist starring DJ Kidd Madonny, as well as productions, and fabulous dancers and décor. Saturdays at the Manor is from 11pm to 4 am and feature NO COVER before midnight (FL Res) and only $7 for members after midnight and $10 for nonmembers (18-20 – $12 all night). u SUNDAY SEPT 30
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South Florida just got bigger as Impulse Group South Florida has once again teamed up with Aqua Girl to bring you Evolution, where they invite you to go and dance your Sunday away by the massive 204 foot pool at the National Hotel. Beats will be served up by DJ Whitney Day, and their headlining DJ from Chicago, Cindel. They have also flown in direct from this season of Ru Paul's Drag Race, ‘Eureka OHara. Evolution takes palce from 11am to 7pm and to purchase tickets which are $10 in advance, go to: aquagirl.org/events.
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himself as America's most beloved male vocalist in the process. Rogers, who just celebrated his 80th birthday, has sold more than 120 million albums worldwide, including a diamond award for ten million copies of his album Greatest Hits, which spent an entire decade on Billboard's album chart and sold over 24
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SOCIAL EVENT OF THE SEASON - MISS FLORIDA F.I. RETURNS The 46th anniversary of Miss Florida F.I. and the 2nd anniversary of Mr. Florida M.E. will star the current reigning Miss Florida F.I. Kalah Mendoza, the current reigning Mr. Florida M.E. Antonio Edwards, as well as Cezanne who’s celebrating her 15th anniversary, Erika Norell/20th anniversary, Esme Russell/25th anniversary, Tiffany Arieagus/40th anniversary and Emore Dubois/45th anniversary, and many other of your favorite formers. Sun and Mon September 30 and October 1; 8pm; Pier Sixty-Six Hotel and Marina (2301 SE 17 Street, Fort Lauderdale); Tix start at $40; MissFloridaFIpageant.com COMEDIAN – LOUIS ANDERSON Louie is a best-selling author, sitcom star and an Emmy award winner so it’s no wonder that he has been named “One of the 100 Greatest Stand-Up Comedians of All Time” by Comedy Central. When he’s off screen, Louie continues to do what he loves most: stand-up comedy. Sat, September 29; 8pm; Broward Center for the Performing Arts (201 SW 5th Ave, Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $25-$45; BrowardCenter.org AMERICAS GOT TALENT’S - TAYLOR WILLIAMSON Taylor is a stand-up comic and actor, known for finishing as the runner-up on the eighth season of America’s Got Talent and as a semi-finalist on Last Comic Standing. He was recently named one of their 4 favorite acts of all time in their 10 year AGT Anniversary Special. Fri and Sat, September 28 & 29; Boca Black Box (8221 Glades Rd #10, Boca Raton); $25 & $35; BocaBlackBox.com MOVIES - NIGHT SCHOOL A group of troublemakers are forced to attend night school in hope that they’ll pass the GED exam to finish high school. This comedy stars Tiffany Haddish, Kevin Hart, Brooke Butler, and Keith David. In theaters Fri Sep 28; Rated PG-13; 111 minutes SNL – VETERANS PERFORM The lineup of Rob Schneider, Darrell Hammond, Chris Kattan and Finesse Mitchell comprises a quartet of former “Saturday Night Live” stars who have all gone on to solo success as stand-ups, authors and TV and film actors. Thurs, September 27; 8pm; Seminole Casino Coconut Creek (5550 NW 40th St. Coconut Creek); Tix: $40-$200; Seminolecoconutcreekcasino.com. Hotspots.LGBT | 27
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COUNTRY - LADY ANTEBELLUM The Grammy-winning country trio crossed over into the mainstream with such singles as “Need You Now,” “I Run to You” and “Just a Kiss.” After a brief hiatus, they roared back with the “Heart Break” release, featuring the lead single “You Look Good.” They’re joined by former Hootie & the Blowfish frontman Darius Rucker, who has forged a successful solo career as a country star. Opening is Russell Dickerson. Sat, September 29, 7pm; Coral Sky Amphitheatre (601 Sansburys Way, West Palm Beach); Tix: $35.25 to $100; Amphitheatrewestpalmbeach.com. CONCERT - TROYE SIVAN He is gay, he is out, and this super popular recording artist is in South Florida for one night only. The South African-born Australian singer, songwriter, actor and YouTube personality will perform his dreamy, danceable electro-pop music. Opening for Troye are Kim Petras and Leland. Sat, September 29, 7:30 pm; Bayfront Park Amphitheatre (301 Biscayne Blvd. Miami): Tix: $29.50 to $79; Bayfrontpark.amphitheatermiami.com. GLBX - INAUGURAL BUSINESS COMMUNITY ALLY AWARDS This new recognition event with six award categories will showcase individuals along with business and government entities that are successfully doing business with the LGBT+ community, defining and implementing diversity and inclusion policies and supporting worthy related causes. Tues, October 2; 6pm; Pier Sixty-Six Hotel and Marina (2301 SE 17 Street, Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $45-$55; Ftlchamber.com/bca. TELEVISION - MURPHY BROWN RETURNS Star Candice Bergen and series creator Diane English reunite in this 13-episode revival of the groundbreaking comedy that will find Murphy Brown returning to the airwaves amid a divided nation, chaotic national discourse and rampant attacks on the press. Now back in the game, she is determined to draw the line between good television and honest reporting, proving that the world needs Murphy Brown now more than ever. Thurs, September 27, CBS; 9:30pm
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MY WAY: A MUSICAL TRIBUTE TO FRANK SINATRA MNM Theatre Company presents a musical revue featuring 56 songs recorded by “Ol’ Blue Eyes.” Expect to hear “All of Me,” “All the Way,” “Chicago,” “Fly Me to the Moon,” “High Hopes,” “It Was a Very Good Year,” “Love and Marriage,” “That’s Life” and the title song “My Way.” Thurs-Sun, September 28-30; Kravis Center for the Performing Arts (701 Okeechobee Blvd., West Palm Beach); Tix: $25-$55; Kravis.org
deep inside HOLLYWOOD By Romeo San Vicente
Mrs. Fletcher goes to series at HBO
“...the series will follow the lives of an empty-nester Mom (Hahn) and her college freshman son (Jackson White)”
stars Happy Endings alum Casey Wilson and transgender actress Jen Richards (Her Story) in currently unknown roles, and the series will follow the lives of an emptynester Mom (Hahn) and her college freshman son (Jackson White) as their lives are impacted by internet porn. Holofcener alone makes this appointment television, because if anyone can deal with adult sexual entertainment thoughtfully, it's her, and we love this cast, as well. One question: will there be promotional tie-in events with Pornhub?
actually get a series order. The latest project from the amazing Nicole Holofcener, Mrs. Fletcher, starring Kathryn Hahn, has an HBO pickup with no set air date. The show co-
The upcoming fall film Boy Erased, which stars Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe, is the true story
We write about pilots sometimes, and then that piece of TV hope vanishes into the ether without a trace, abandoned by the network suits, leaving you thinking thoughts like, “Wasn't The Corrections supposed to be a show at some point? Did it happen? Is it on Starz and nobody told me?” So it's a pleasure to see one we were hoping would go the distance
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Boy Erased Promotes Responsible Podcasting
of a Baptist pastor's son forced into discredited conversion therapy run by conservative Evangelical Christians. And the filmmakers have hit upon a unique and truly valuable bit of promotional content. They'll be launching a four-part podcast, UnErased to coincide with Boy Erased's release. Author Garrard Conley, whose memoir forms the basis of the film, will participate in the podcast, which will focus on real stories of young people forced into the abusive programs, which have affected an estimated 800,000 people since their inception. UnErased will be made available exclusively to Stitcher Premium subscribers in the weeks before
the film's Nov. 2 release, and available everywhere podcasts are hosted coinciding with that release. There are already laws on the books in some states banning these programs for minors. Let's hope projects like this help turn the tide and protect queer youth in even more places.
Romeo San Vicente is always happy when Hollywood Actors come out!
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u SAVE! held their Luminaries of Equality Awards Party at the Bacardi Headquarters in Coral Gables and awarded Miami Dolphins’ Kenny Stills with the Luminary Icon Award.
Miss Florida F.I. and Mr. Florida M.E.
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Street Causeway in Fort Lauderdale. The pageant is nicknamed “The Social Event of the Season� attracting some of the top named female impersonators, and Movie, TV and Fashion stars from across the USofA and beyond.
In the past Miss Florida had celebrity judges including KC and Sunshine Band, Boy George, and Sylvester.
Although many pageant systems have started since, they have followed the lead of Miss Florida F.I. Although Miss Florida F.I. is a state title, the system has always been recognized as a national pageant.
Former winners have gone onto great careers in TV, movies, and coveted lead roles in shows and cabarets including Las Vegas and PTown, and have traveled not only across the state of Florida but around the world.
The current owners plan to uphold the vision of original owners Keith Landon and Rene Rodriguez include, they are:
Alyson Thomas, a seasoned professional in the art form of female impersonation herself for 40 years, brings professionalism, style, stability, and experience to the pageant. She is also known throughout the country as a leading promoter and supporter to many who have gone on to become national title holders and a coach to newcomers. Well respected by everyone in the art form, a hands on owner with an eye for detail, coupled with personality, hospitality and vision.
Scott Holland, whose knowledge and experience in the Florida market includes: media and editorial experience, judge to many pageantry systems, a pageant coordinator, public relations, professionalism, and a love for entertainment that cannot be touched. Scott is
also Hotspots Media's very own Associate Publisher.
Victor Zepka and Gary Santis who have owned the pageant for the last 26 years. They bring 26 years of hands on working knowledge of the system, and the experience that's makes Miss Florida F.I. rich in history, and memories. Victor brings long standing established relationships with sponsors, vendors and local business and community leaders to the pageant. Gary continues to create amazing sets, outrageous productions, state of the art
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sound and lighting, encompassing a show and a night of entertainment not to be missed. When asked about any new things happening in the Miss Florida System, Alyson Thomas, President, said “We have many exciting plans
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in the years to come that I think the community is going to love. So far, since resurrecting the Miss Florida system 5 years ago, we have also brought back the Miss Florida F.I, at Large pageant 3 years ago that we produce at the Parliament House, and this year we are excited to be producing for the second Time, the Mr. Florida Male Entertainer pageant that will be held, on Sunday, September 30 also at Pier 66” This year the Miss Florida F.I. Pageant has some exciting anniversaries, and they are: Cezanne th th th (15 ); Erika Norell (20 ); Esme Russell (25 ); th th Lakesha Lucky (30 ); Tiffany Arieagus (40 ) and Emore Dubois (45th). The crowd is always excited to see the Miss Florida's in the opening production and to see what they are wearing. At poress time there are 16 con irmed to attend, so it should be a very exciting year. Who will be your next Miss Florida F.I. and Mr. Florida M.E.? And who will be crowned Honorary Miss Florida F.I. and Honorary Mr. Florida M.E.? There is only one way to ind out…go to the Social Event of the Season!
We asked Miss Florida F.I. 2017, the talented Kalah Mendoza, why it was so important for her to become Miss Florida F.I and she said: “From the moment I moved to Florida, I knew I wanted to be Miss Florida F.I. I attended in 2014 to do my research, and then started competing in 2015. I was lucky enough to make the top 5 that year, and the following, and on my third try I was fortunate to be crowned Miss Florida 2017/18, and my life changed. I will forever be grateful for the opportunity to travel the state and meet so many people and make so many good friends. For my sisterhood, the former Miss Florida's, Thank you for
accepting me with open arms. For my successor, I wish a fabulous year illed with love and surprises.�
The Mr. Florida M.E. and Miss Florida F.I. pageant will be held Sunday and Monday, September 30 and October 1 at the beautiful Pier 66 on the 17th street causeway. To reserve your hotel room go to: https://book.passkey.com/go/pageantSept2018. To purchase tickets go to MissFloridaFIPageant.com. For more information call Scott at 954-478-4587.
Chloë Sevigny Is Still Drawn to Outsiders
'Lizzie' actress on why she'd turn down a trans role now, motivation for LGBTQ roles and legacy of Boys Don't Cry hloë Sevigny knows the power of words, so she's very careful with them, warily tiptoeing to the end of an answer when asked about the in luence of her seminal trans-landmark ilm Boys Don't Cry. The 1999 dramatization of the murder of real-life Nebraskan transgender teen Brandon Teena (Hilary Swank) garnered the 43-year-old indie queen and style icon, who played Teena's girlfriend, Lana Tisdel, an Academy Award nomination for Best Supporting Actress. Director Larry Clark's 1995 ilm Kids came irst, with Sevigny portraying an HIV-positive teen. But Sevigny would go on to amass a body of LGBTQ ilms and roles, including If These Walls Could Talk 2, Party Monster, Will & Grace and Broken Flowers, playing Jessica 46
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Lange's lesbian assistant. In 2012, she portrayed trans contract killer Mia in the British miniseries Hit & Miss, a part she now says she'd pass on if it were offered to her today. (Actress Scarlett Johansson recently withdrew from playing a trans character in the forthcoming Rug & Tug after facing LGBTQ backlash.) Currently, Sevigny stars in and co-produces Lizzie, featuring the actress' irst lead role in her 50- ilm career. The thriller explores infamous 19th-century alleged murderous Lizzie Borden through a queer lens, which, according to this version, goes like this: Lizzie (Sevigny), to rebuke the patriarch who's getting in the way of her romantic pursuit of maid Bridget Sullivan (Kristen Stewart), slaughters her father and stepmother with an ax. And so, Sevigny can now add “real-life killer lesbian” to her abundantly gay resume.
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What has led you to so many LGBTQ characters? The marginalized, the misunderstood, the outcast – you know, I grew up super sensitive as a child, and my brother and I were pretty rebellious in a small town and were really into just questioning the status quo. I have a lot of older peers who are gay and knowing the struggle and what they fought through, and having so much respect and admiration for the times that they've lived through – not that the struggle is over by any means, but just the perspective that I think gets lost. Post Trump,
with all the conversations that are being had, and everyone's like “oh god, it's so horrible; I can't watch the news,” but thank god everyone is talking about how political the systems are. I really feel like change is happening.
Why do you think you didn't experience the same backlash that Scarlett Johansson did for signing on to play a trans role? It was just a different time then. When they came to me with that role I said, “I don't understand why you don't cast a real trans person,” and they said, “We can't get the funding because we can't ind anyone that has a big enough name, in all honesty.” And I just felt like it was an important story to tell, and I loved the writing and I loved the creators and I wanted to be a part of it. If that opportunity came to me today, I would pass, for sure, 100 percent. It was
just, unfortunately, what was acceptable then. I think it wasn't as challenged, and it should be.
What are your thoughts on whether LGBTQ actors should exclusively be playing LGBTQ roles? And with that in mind, how did you approach Lizzie's sexuality? Well, I want to respect (the community) and their stories and who they are as people, and I feel like (Lizzie and Bridget's) love was born out of the con ines of the environment they were in at the time; they were looking
for escape in one another. I feel like it's kind of beyond the boundaries of queer, straight, you know? We had a good writer, we had lots of out cast members who really respected the story and wanted to be a part of telling it, and I admire them all for being out and for coming forward and supporting the project. I mean, I feel if gay men or women can play straight, I don't know (laughs) if it's fair to do the reverse. But I just hope that there's more opportunities, for everyone – especially the people who are marginalized. Did it mean something to you to have someone who is not heterosexual, Kristen Stewart, play Bridget, who is also not heterosexual? It… did. But she was also my irst choice just
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as an actor, not the person. I have so much respect for her choices, and I could go on and on about her performances, but I like her persona. For me, I've always been attracted to directors or other actors that I feel like have more than just that going on – that aren't just, like, theater nerds (laughs). Not that there's anything wrong with theater nerds! But I feel like she really represents something to a lot of generations, with Twilight and beyond.
You've said what you had in mind for this ilm didn't align with director Craig William Macneill's inished feature. How about Lizzie and Bridget's sexuality – was that explored as deeply as you had hoped? I think when I said that I was more talking about the process because we had been through so many different incarnations of the script. Things were changing even until the last moment. It's the power of the edit, things you have to let go of. There was more between our relationship, kind of questioning it, and deciding she doesn't want to go any further and then coming back. And probably in the overall course of watching the movie it would've muddled things, so you kind of have to accept in the edits how things work and how some things don't, and that's just the process of ilming.
There's an intimate scene where Bridget and Lizzie almost kiss, but trepidation holds them back. How were you reading Lizzie in that moment? She was starved for recognition; she just wanted to be seen as she was and she felt really that she didn't have a voice, and I think she wasn't valued by her family or her community and she found somebody who valued her and could hear her and who wanted to listen to her and talk to her. There was so much physical attraction between them, but also just what that person was for her. She was on a quest for freedom, and she goes to the most extreme thing you can do and in the end kind of loses it all. As someone who's known for her queer roles, when you get stopped by an LGBTQ person on the street, which ilm do they tend to most recognize you from? Boys Don't Cry, for sure. They say every actor
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has one thing that they get recognized or known for, and for me it's Kids, but from the gay community it's probably Boys Don't Cry. I think there are just a lot of reference for that movie and it meant a lot to a lot of people.
Next year marks 20 years since Boys Don't Cry. How do you re lect on the effect that movie had? Just like... I just think at that time when it came out there just wasn't a lot of representation of that community, on screen or on television or anywhere – oh my god. So sensitive around this subject. (Laughs) I'm always like, I'm gonna get take down for anything I say – it's just a hotbed. It feels like it's almost hard to talk about this without feeling under the gun, for some reason. Because it's like, you can't say the right thing. But I feel like it was important to the world. Not even one community in general. As far as building tolerance and acceptance and educating people and portraying a person and seeing the violence acted out against them and how heart-wrenching it is and humanizing a story, it was a really important thing to be a part of. I had read all the articles about Brandon Teena and was already obsessed with the story before being offered the audition and I wanted to be a part of telling that story. As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. Reach him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).
The City of Oakland Park has perfected the art of Oktoberfest. The event
organizers have learned what works when it comes to food, entertainment and activities and they have listened to attendees to add new features appealing to both adults and families. “Oakland Park's annual Oktoberfest celebration is known not only for dancing people, but dashing dachshunds as well,” says the City's Parks and Leisure Services Director Heidi Burnett who enjoys dressing up in her dirndl for the occasion. “Our sponsorship relationship with Funky Buddha has taken our beer selection and food choices to a level rarely experienced at community and cultural events.” The 14th Annual Oakland Park Oktoberfest takes place in the City's downtown Jaco Pastorius Park (4000 N. Dixie Highway) on Friday, October 5 (6 p.m. to 11 p.m.), Saturday, October 6 (1 p.m. to 11 p.m.) and Sunday, October 7 (1 p.m. to 7 p.m.). Oktoberfest attendees old and new will be pleased the “Central Bark Dachshund Dash” will once again be the Saturday spectacle at 5 p.m. Dachshund owners must register with Central 52
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Bark Doggy Day Care at 954-568-3647. Presenting sponsor Funky Buddha – Oakland Park's nationally renowned craft brewery – is already brewing up a tasty array of German-inspired seasonal beers, including Floridian Hefeweizen (German wheat beer), Buddafest Marzen (a true German “festbier” brewed with Munich malts), Vibin' Groovable Lager, Hop Gun IPA, and the award-winning Last Snow Coconut & Coffee Porter. Besides the bevy of beverages, Oakland Park Oktoberfest offers some traditional Bavarian favorites with a new spin courtesy of the Funky Buddha Craft Food Counter whose chef has elevated grilled bratwurst to a savory taste experience by beer braising and serving with brewer's cabbage, ale mustard, and caramelized onions on a freshbaked poppy seed bun. Funky Buddha Marketing Director John Linn shared some of the other culinary delights on the menu. “Our chicken schnitzel features Florida Hefeweizen-marinated chicken cutlets pounded thin and served with ale mustard
and beer pickles,” Linn said. “The sauerbraten is a German-style pot roast marinated in our Hop Gun IPA, vinegar, and spices and served with roasted root vegetables and a traditional ginger-snap gravy.” Oakland Park's Oktoberfest offers ample opportunities to dance off the calories with a full schedule of entertainment under the giant tent complete with dance floor and the Munich-style long tables where friendships are easily made. Entertainment headliners include the San Antonio-based Alpine Express known both for their music and their audience participation antics. Master jodler, zither and accordion virtuoso Sepp Diepolder, as well as singers from Opera Fusion, are also on the bill. Traditionally attired Schuhplattler dancers will feature performances by both adult and children dance troupes. Oakland Park's popular Mayor and Broward League of Cities President Tim Lonergan is always among those gracing the dance floor in attired in traditional lederhosen. “Community events and cultural festivals add so much to the fabric of a community,” states Mayor Lonergan. “Oakland Park is proud to present a calendar of events that reflect our city's rich cultural and ethnic diversity.” In addition to the Dachshund Dash, Pet Supermarket will sponsor a Doggie Fashion Show (for dogs 25 pounds and under) at 4:30 p.m. Sunday. Categories include Doggie Diva
(most fashionable), Twinning (owner & dog dress alike), and Oktoberfest Dog (best Oktoberfest costume). Pet Supermarket will award a prize in each category. Online application details can be found on the City's Oktoberfest page. Other Oktoberfest activities and contests include the beer barrel roll, beer stein races, and apple strudel eating contests. Culinary seminars include Beer and Cheese Pairings, Home Brewing, and Sausage Making. Children can enjoy the carnival area with their favorite fair foods, rides and games. A Kid's Corner will offer face painting, flower crowns, cookie decorating and other crafts. General admission to Oakland Park's Oktoberfest remains one of South Florida's best bargains at $5 with ages 12 and under admitted free with adults. Premium parking will be available in the immediate vicinity of the park and free parking nearby with complementary shuttle services. As with many Oakland Park events, a special drop-off and pick-up will be designated for ride share services such as Uber and Lyft.
Contact the City's Parks and Leisure Services Department at 954-630-4500 to learn more about event and vendor information or volunteer opportunities. Visit the City's website for a detailed entertainment schedule, and updates: oaklandparkfl.gov/228/oktoberfest. Hotspots.LGBT | 53
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con Adora y Teddy Behr Adora: Sleeper, ¿cómo dijiste que te llamaban 'Sleeper'? .. Pareces completamente despierto para mí ... Sleeper: Me dieron ese nombre en THE DUMP, (como lo llamábamos), donde vivía y trabajaba después de salir de casa a los 15 años. Hacían fiestas a veces y como yo era el único que todavía estaba en la
escuela. Tendría que acostarme temprano para poder levantarme por las mañanas. A esa edad los niños juegan con usted si usted es el primero en desmayarse, si lo hace como dibujar sobre usted o coserle al sofá. Pero si te llamas Sleeper, estás bien. Jaja ... No es una historia muy interesante. Aunque funcionó bien para mí.
Más tarde lo adopté como mi nombre de artista: me dio la libertad de expresarme más abiertamente como Sleeper, para tomar riesgos en mi arte. especialmente en Rendimiento a esa edad. Era una especie de herramienta para involucrarme conscientemente en cómo quería dar forma a mi vida más libremente. Teddy Behr: Cuéntanos un poco acerca de ti: ¿qué es importante para ti en tu práctica artística y por qué? Sleeper: Soy un artista que vive en Miami. Principalmente hago trabajos de escultura, performance e instalación. Terminé en programas de artes escolares desde la escuela primaria. Miami era un lugar bastante bueno para mí; hubo oportunidades para aprender sobre las artes y parecía más o menos bien ser LatinX Queer. Mi arte y rendimiento están directamente relacionados con el rendimiento del club y los eventos; Me han dicho que es accesible y directo, lo cual tiene sentido para mí ... supongo que la forma en que he usado la electrónica y la luz también está relacionada con el rendimiento del club ... lo mismo para las imágenes súper reales o surrealistas. Me dicen que hago uso de. Adora: ¿Cómo comenzó la fiesta 'Gender Blender'? Sleeper: Empecé a trabajar en clubes desde una edad muy temprana, era principalmente la escuela
durante la semana y el bar y los clubes los fines de semana. Trabajé en casi todas las posiciones, desde busser hasta bar manager. Durante ese tiempo, tuve una idea de los diferentes aspectos de los eventos en ejecución. Realmente nunca parecía ser el tipo de cosa que siempre quise hacer, pero me dio la oportunidad y, finalmente, decidí crear algo que sentía que Miami se estaba perdiendo; así que con la ayuda de gente increíble como Juleisy y Karla, Kesiah, Radskillz, Zehno, (por nombrar algunos) y el personal de The Corner Bar (donde originalmente comenzamos la fiesta 'Counter Corner', que precedió a Gender Blender} ... ¡Ha sido un viaje! Miami RAN con él ... La gente ya estaba aquí, simplemente no tenían un lugar que fuera de ellos. Soy socio de Party Karloz y Neon Brown en Gender Blender. Habían comenzado el evento juntos y me pidieron desde el principio que me subiera a bordo de la noche Queer Punx. Me identifiqué con su misión y me sentí muy feliz de ser parte de algo más que sentía que Miami necesitaba. Movimos la fiesta de Churchill's a Las Rosas, (2898Nw 7th Ave, Miami 33127), lo convertimos en un evento gratuito, y el resto se convirtió en una bola de nieve en esta noche mágica que espero con ansias todos los meses. Teddy Behr: Por lo tanto, más recientemente te has involucrado en la falta de
vivienda LGBTQ para personas sin hogar. ¿Cómo surgió la idea? Sleeper: Adrian Madriz, fundador de SMASH, {Struggle for Miami's Affordable and Sustainable Housing}, una organización sin fines de lucro que aborda cuestiones relacionadas con la gentrificación, los propietarios de barrios marginales y personas sin hogar, me preguntó si estaba interesado en colaborar con ellos para recaudar fondos. SMASH tiene un proyecto centrado en la construcción de un albergue juvenil LGBTQ + y una instalación de transición. (www.smash.miami/blog). Me sentí conectado con el tema además de todos los
datos alarmantes que Adrian me presentó. A través de Counter Corner y Gender Blender pudimos organizar un evento tan asombroso, recaudando más de $ 12,000 en una noche. Fue abrumador la cantidad de apoyo que la causa obtuvo de la comunidad: desde los artistas de Drag que donan sus talentos para la noche, Lemon City Day School por albergarnos, hasta el bar local GRAMPS donando las ventas de bares y catering de la noche, hasta EL ESTADO DE bendiciéndonos con su música, fue TANTO! No solo se sintió como un evento para recaudar fondos, sino como una muestra de cuánto amor hay en la comunidad queer. Ahora hay tanto en marcha
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en la escena, es un momento emocionante para estar en Miami. Teddy Behr: ¿Alguna recomendación para las personas que quieran involucrarse más en nuestra comunidad? Sleeper: Realmente no hay mucho para eso. Tómate un tiempo y muéstrate. Pide ayuda, ayuda a otros. Colabore o simplemente hable con la gente y haga amigos, se sorprenderá de lo amigables que pueden ser estos Miami Queers. ¡La mitad de la batalla es simplemente estar presente honestamente, apoyar a la comunidad y a los artistas del arrastre que trabajan duro maldita sea! LOL ... Adora: Sleeper, how did you wind being called 'Sleeper' ? ..You seem wide awake to me… Sleeper: I was given that name at THE DUMP, (as we called it), where I lived and worked after leaving home at age 15. They would throw parties sometimes and since I was the only one still in school. I'd have to go to sleep early so I could get up in the mornings. At that age kids mess around with you if you are the first to pass out, by like drawing on you, or sewing you to the couch. But if you are called Sleeper you are ok. Lol... Its not a very interesting story. It worked well for me though. Later on I adopted it as my artist name: It gave me the freedom to express myself more openly as Sleeper, to take risks in my art, especially in Performance at that age. It
was kind of tool to consciously engage in how I wanted to shape my life more freely. Teddy Behr: Tell a bit about yourself: what's important to you in your artistic practice and why? Sleeper: I'm an artist living in Miami. I primarily do sculpture, performance and installation work. I wound up in school arts programs since primary school. Miami was a pretty good place for me to come up; there were opportunities to learn about the arts and it seemed more or less ok to be LatinX Queer. My art and performance is directly connected to club and event performance; I've been told it's accessible and up-front, which makes sense to me… I suppose the way I've used electronics and
light are also related to club performance..same for super real or surreal imagery I'm told I make use of. Adora: So how did the 'Gender Blender' Party get started? Sleeper: I started working clubs from a very young age, it was mostly school during the week and bar and clubs on the weekends. I worked almost every position from busser to bar manager. During that time i got a sense of the different aspects of running events. It never really seemed like the type of thing I ever wanted to do, but it gave me an opportunity and eventually I decided to create something I felt Miami was missing; so with the help of some amazing people like Juleisy y Karla, Kesiah, Radskillz,
Información de Gender Blender: Gender Blender es una noche queer mensual que mezcla el rock and roll, las drag queens, los reyes y las actuaciones de todos los colores del espectro en Las Rosas. El evento es la única fiesta de Miami dedicada a mostrar músicos y talentos LGBTQ +. Nombrada # 1 Queer Party de Miami por New Times 2018! Las bebidas especiales incluyen un 25% de descuento, toda la noche. Puntos clave sobre SMASH (Lucha por la Vivienda Asequible y Sostenible de Miami) SMASH tiene el control del sitio para el proyecto en 2264 NW 63rd St, Miami, FL 33147. Community Design Los ayuntamientos están en marcha con el vecindario. El primero será el 29 de septiembre en los Ministerios FLE Todavía queda mucho por recaudar para el proyecto, por lo que tendremos otra recaudación de fondos el sábado. 20 de octubre en el Museo y Archivos Stonewall, in Wilton Manors.
Zehno, (to name a few), and The Corner Bar staff, (where we originally started the 'Counter Corner' party, which preceded Gender Blender}…It's been a journey! Miami RAN with it… The people were already here, they just didn't have a place that was theirs. I am partners with Party Karloz and Neon Brown in Gender Blender. They had started the event event together and asked me early on to jump on board the Queer Punx night. I identified with their mission and was really happy to be a part of something else I felt Miami needed. We moved the party from Churchill's to Las Rosas, (2898Nw 7th Ave, Miami 33127), made it a free event, and the rest kind of snowballed into this magical night I look forward to every month. Teddy Behr: So more recently you've gotten involved in LGBTQ Youth Homelessness . How did that come about? Sleeper: Adrian Madriz who is the founder of SMASH, {Struggle for Miami's Affordable and Sustainable Housing}, a non profit that tackles issues surrounding gentrification, slumlords and homelessness, asked me if i was interested in teaming up with them for a fundraiser. SMASH has a project focusing on building an LGBTQ+ youth shelter and transitional facility.
(www.smash.miami/blog). I felt connected to the issue aside from all the alarming data Adrian presented me with. Through Counter Corner and Gender Blender we were able organize such an amazing event, raising over $12,000 in one night. It was overwhelming the amount of support the cause drew from the community: From the Drag performers donating their talents for the night, Lemon City Day School for housing us, to local bar GRAMPS donating the bar sales and catering the night, to THE STATE OF blessing us with their music, it was SO MUCH! It didn't just feel like a fundraiser, it felt like a display of how much love there is in the Queer community. There is so much starting up now in the scene, its an exciting time to be in Miami. Teddy Behr: Any recommendations for people who might want to get more involved in our community? Sleeper: There really is not much to it. Make time, and show up. Ask for help, help others. Collaborate or just talk to people and make friends, you will be surprised how friendly these Miami Queers can be. Half the battle is just being present honestly, support the community and those hard working drag performers damnit! LOL…
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ell, gay sex was decriminalized in India, so that's great news. For those of you saying, “Well it's about TIME, India!” I'd like to remind you that the U.S. didn't decriminalize gay sex until 2003 (Lawrence v. Texas, holla!). We're also still arguing about whether women can be in charge of their own bodies and if black people's lives actually matter. So, don't give the U.S. too much credit here. Especially not while we're staring down the possibility of Brett Kavanaugh becoming a Supreme Court Justice. That we allowed Donald Trump, a man who should never in a million years have been trusted at the helm of this country, the chance to reshape not only our Supreme Court but the entire federal court system IS NOT A GOOD LOOK, AMERICA. YET HERE WE ARE. And yes, I'm yelling. As the Human Rights Campaign puts it, “Brett Kavanaugh poses a direct threat to LGBTQ equality, reproductive rights, affordable health care, immigrants' rights, workers' rights and so much more.” This was made clear when Kavanaugh was asked by President (whoops, I mean Senator but President sure sounds good) Kamala Harris if the Supreme Court case Obergefell v. Hodges, which legalized marriage equality, was decided correctly. Kavanaugh refused to give a straight (no pun intended) answer. “I'm asking you a very specific question. Either you're willing to answer it or you're not,” Harris said. He was not willing. “Brett Kavanaugh's refusal to answer very basic, very direct questions about the Supreme Court's historic ruling bringing marriage
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equality nationwide is alarming and completely unacceptable,” said HRC President Chad Griffin. “The Obergefell decision is settled law. If this nominee cannot so much as affirm that or the fundamental equality of LGBTQ people and our families, he should not and must not be granted a lifetime appointment to our nation's highest court.” And yet it's pretty likely that he will. Trump's Supreme Court list was made by the extremist anti-LGBTQ group the Federalist Society, after all. We've seen the kinds of lawyers Trump surrounds himself with. It's clear he's not picking these guys himself. A willingness, even an eagerness, to overturn Obergefell v. Hodges, maybe even Lawrence, is absolutely required. Oh, and Roe v. Wade, too. It's been the goal of the extremist right from the moment the case was decided to overturn it. To criminalize abortion all over again. To have women who are desperate to terminate pregnancies do it by any means necessary. I mean for Chrisssake we've all seen “Dirty Dancing!” Put simply, Trump is their best shot. That's why he can screw all of the porn actresses he wants. That is why he can cheat on all of his wives. That is why he can have so many marriages and divorces. That is why he can brag about grabbing women by the pussy. That is why he can shrug off multiple accusations of sexual harassment and assault. That is why this utterly immoral piece of garbage we call President has the complete and unwavering support of the socalled Moral Majority. For straight folks or younger LGBTQ folks, marriage equality (which has translated into
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Trump's Supreme Court list was made by the extremist anti-LGBTQ group the Federalist Society, after all. broader equality for LGBTQ people overall) is “settled law.” Meaning the fight is over with & done, and the law is permanent, forever and ever amen. But that's not how laws work. Which can be both good and bad. But in this case, it's bad. I'm 40 years old. I didn't think I would see marriage equality in my lifetime. But when the Supreme Court came through, man did they come through. And yet. “There are already cases across the country where our opponents are working to undermine the Obergefell decision and the recognition of that decision,” Griffin told Variety. “There are also cases rising to the court that relate to existing federal law and the question of if current federal law protects people on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity. These are all things that are headed to this court, and
sooner rather than later. There is significant reason to believe … that he is on the wrong side of all of these issues.” Call your senators. Call senators who are supposedly undecided, too. But most importantly, vote in November. Vote for Democrats, however imperfect, because they're literally our only defense. I'm not willing to go back to when my wife and son were legally just random people I shared a home with. If you're privileged enough to not worry about which party is in charge, at least have the decency to vote to protect families that hang in the balance.
D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer, and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. You can follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.
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CROSSWORD Kevin Keller ACROSS 1 Bargain sign at Barneys 5 Basketball to Eliza Doolittle? 9 Gave a butt whipping 14 Guilty or not guilty, to Perry Mason 15 Constellation bear 16 Sticky stuff 17 Opera solos 18 Dark greenish blue 19 Nickname for Brian 20 Kevin Keller portrayer and source of the quote at 10- and 36-Down 22 Birds' abodes 23 Rubber 24 Climb, as a tree 26 'N ___ (boy band) 29 Whoopi Goldberg plays one in Ghost 33 After "New" ___ (Urvashi Vaid birthplace) 37 "More" singer Perry 39 Type of seaman 40 Stick in the fridge? 41 Masters 42 Rowlands of _An Early Frost_ 43 R. Nureyev's land, once 44 Like the 13 Amer. colonies 45 Mullally of _Will & Grace_ 46 Fitzgerald character 48 Lorca's house 50 Dawn direction 52 Walk, in Sue Wicks' sport 57 With everything counted 60 Kevin Keller is a character in this TV teen drama series 63 Bitch and moan 64 From square one 65 Gomer's "anti" 66 Cause to come out 67 Mae West's "She ___ Him Wrong" 68 Former anchor Roger 69 "God loves everybody," to Jane Spahr 70 Sooner city 71 Takes advantage of pupils?
DOWN 1 Patrick Stewart's final frontier 2 What you better not be calling me 3 First lesbian magazine Vice ___ 4 Makes less difficult to bear 5 Yell upon leaving the closet? 6 Milk go-with 7 Pre-coll. exam 8 Preserves meat 9 Member, in slang 10 "His name may be Moose, but I'd describe a certain ___..." 11 Does a circumcision, e.g. 12 Leave the stage 13 Changes colors 21 Melissa Etheridge's "___ Am" 25 Med. care grps. 27 Home st. of Maupin 28 Margaret Cho, for one
30 "___ to differ!" 31 Bone by the radius 32 Lindsay Lohan's _ ___ Girls_ 33 Skater Mattis 34 _Lohengrin_ soprano 35 In case 36 "...of his as ___" 38 Prefix with byte or hertz 41 Vibrators and such 45 Golf sportscaster Dave 47 What Cassie teaches on _Glee_ 49 Like some mushy fruit 51 It may be rough 53 Affleck's _Chasing Amy_ crush 54 Like the Ambiguously Gay Duo? 55 Write "The Hot'l Baltimore" 56 Gives temporarily 57 Rapper who's a thespian 58 Church section 59 Shakespearean stream 61 Aware of 62 Caesar's post-orgasm cry?
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Want Superior Workouts in Less Time? You Bet!
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ace it. Your life is getting busier with each passing day. Certainly, keeping fit and looking fine are top priorities, but do you really have the energy and the time it takes to stay fit? Here are several methods guaranteed to help you tackle better workouts and achieve superior results in less than half the time. Compound exercises combine two or more exercises, allowing you to train two or more muscle groups at a time. When you think about it, this is how you move in real life, using several different muscle groups at once to perform tasks and get work done. Compound exercises make you work harder, burn more calories, recruit more muscle fibers, and stimulate the release of muscle building hormones like testosterone and human growth hormone.
How do you perform compound exercises? Think of this concept as creative multi-tasking in the gym. Double up alternating dumbbell biceps
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curls as you perform lunges across the gym to execute a perfect compound set for upper and lower body. Perform dumbbell military presses and side raises as you sit upon a stability ball, thereby working deltoids and core at once. The possibilities are limitless!
Free weights rule when it comes to getting more bang for your buck in less time. Machines are very specialized and you've got to move from one machine to another as you work one muscle group at a time. You waste time standing in line, and when they break down, you're at a loss as to what to do instead. Free weights – barbells, dumbbells, kettle bells – allow you to develop power, strength and endurance as they activate more muscle fibers and force you to work harder.
So, how do you move away from machines and more toward free weights? Step away from the pec deck and sculpt your chest with
dumbbell flies reclining on a flat bench. Rather than performing overhead military presses at a universal machine, recruit a pair of dumbbells and perform seated or standing presses. Remember, for every gym machine there are at least a half dozen equivalent free weight exercises you can do instead. Circuit training combines cardio with weight training to help you build muscle and burn fat at the same time. Moving rapidly from station to station, with little rest between exercises allows you to get more work done (both aerobic and anaerobic) in less time. How do you circuit train? Provided you have the space and say, 35 minutes, set up your stations and move quickly. Perform 25 jumping jacks; grab 2 dumbbells for three sets of 15-20 squats; hit the mat for 75 crunches; jump on the treadmill for 5 minutes; intersperse 3 sets of barbell flat bench presses with 3 sets of push-ups; stretch for a minute; pump out 3 sets of alternating dumbbell curls and superset with 3 sets of triceps cable pushdowns.
Tom Bonanti is a certified fitness trainer and licensed massage therapist with his own gym and studio, Pump'n Inc. (pumpnincgym.com), in Ft. Lauderdale. You can contact Tom at trainertomb@aol.com with questions or to schedule a free consultation.
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Celebrate ORGULLO 2018 South Florida's First Hispanic LGBT Pride Festival Enters its 8th Successful Year
UC|CU's Celebrate ORGULLO 2018 – South Florida's irst Hispanic LGBT Pride festival - enters its 8th successful year with an International Artists Showcase, ArtDiva Bus Tours, Music, Human Rights Conference, Costume Exhibit, Movie night, the Night of a Thousand Celia's GALA, and much more… all Celebrating Celia Cruz from Oct. 1-15. They are honoring the life the Queen of Salsa – CELIA CRUZ, through Art , Music, Dance, Photography, Film and Spoken Word. The lineup of events are:
Monday, October 1st, 6-8pm - Community Forum - LGBT Media & Activism in Latin America at the Hotel Gaythering featuring Michael Lavers & Lynare Robins, a Free Community Forum & discussion, in partnership with ImpactOUT and the LGBTQI+ Impact Lecture Series.
Tuesday, October 2nd, 7pm - Dinner, Jazz y Porsias Night on South Beach at The Betsy Hotel starting at the Alley Bistro for a special chef selected menu, followed by a night of talents, featuring the music of EnVee & poetry by Caridad Moro-Gronlier. Pre ix $40 pp.
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Saturday, October 6th, 2-6pm - Art/Diva Bus Tour of Little Haiti. Guests will be met at Arte Fundamental Gallery in Little Haiti, driven to the
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Sagamore Hotel art exhibit in Miami Beach, then to the American Museum of Cuban Diaspora for an exhibit preview, Vodkatinis & light fare on board, all while being escorted and entertained by Drag Diva Ann Atomic. $40 pp
Saturday, October 6, 11pm to 4am – Noche Latina Saturdays inside the Ivy Dance Room and Patio at the Manor Complex pays tribute to Celia Cruz as a preview to the Night of a Thousand Celia's. Doors open 11pm to 4am, and there is NO COVER before 12! Sunday, October 7th, 2-6pm – Art/Diva Bus Tour of historic Cauley Square. Guests will be met at the Douglas Road (37th Avenue & US 1) Metrorail station, then journey south to historic Cauley Square for a walking tour of this quaint & historic Artist Village, visit shops and the Aviary, Vodkatinis & light fare on board, all while being escorted and entertained by Drag Diva DANG HO. $40 pp Tuesday, October 9th, 7pm - Celia the QUEEN movie night. A feature length documentary ilm (78 minutes) that pays tribute to the work of a stellar performer who brought the sound of salsa to the world--Celia Cruz. $20 pp.
Wednesday, Oct 10th, 7pm - Artists showcase exhibit featuring juried exhibits and artists at Pridelines Miami. This event will showcase the work of Emilio Aponte-Sierra, with refreshments, music, featuring art, and
celebrating all things Hispanic & Celia Cruz. Learn to salsa with a free lesson from their dance instructors. Free! Friday, October 12th, 7pm – Celia Gala: Night of a Thousand Celia's at the American Museum of Cuban Diaspora. This is a unique opportunity to preview the Celia Cruz exhibit before anyone else! Their 300+ guests will be welcomed into the museum for a preview of the exhibit (Exhibit opens to the public on Oct 20th). Alexis Fernandez “Marytrini” to receive Unity Coalition|Coalció n Unida's legends honors award. Once inside, you will be escorted to the rooftop venue for a celebration
of music, food, Bacardi Bar, a Celia look-alike contest and much more. $80 pp
To purchase tickets to any or all of their events or for more information go to: celebrateorgullo.com
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HOT ADVICE By Andreus Quinones
Silent Partners Dear Andreus, My boyfriend seems to be bored with me. We go out and he is so happy to see everyone else, then when we leave, it's like he doesn't even want to talk. Our sex life has diminished as well. What do I do? Sincerely, Lonely Boyfriend Dear Lonely Boyfriend, It seems like communication is the problem. As dif icult and as painful as it may be, you are going to have to ind a way to talk. Clearly something has changed in the dynamic of your relationship. The only way to ind that out is to ask questions. There are key factors in this type of situation, such as; (1) the amount of time you spend together, (2) do you share common interest (3) do you want and/or expect the same things from your relationship. In essence, it sounds as if maybe your boyfriend is bored, or is looking for something more. Find out what is lacking, and try to address those things with an open mind. The mistake that most people make in relationship is complacency. They get too comfortable, and someone gets bored. You should treat your boyfriend/partner as if every day is your irst date. Spontaneity is everything!!
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Dear Andreus, I have been with the same guy for 3 years now. He wants to get married, but is upset that I have not told my parents about us. I am not exactly out to them. How should l handle this? Sincerely, Confused Dear Confused, I wish I could give you an easy answer. There are many factors at play here. But honestly, if you love him and you are willing to commit your life to him, what is holding you back from telling your family? This man desires to be a permanent ixture in your life, and wants to be completely open about it. Can you blame him? Marriage is something to celebrate for most, and something that most people want to share with their family and their friends. What you now have to decide is how important he is to you. If you cannot tell your family out of fear of disapproval or rejection, then you must ask yourself who is worth losing. Everyone will never be happy about the decisions you make in your life, but ultimately it is your life, and your happiness is paramount. If your family truly loves you, they may not approve, but they will accept.
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