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On Wednesday, Smarty Pants hosted a party for their anniversary and the show was hosted by Nikki Adams. They also featured
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a free buffet filled with people celebrating their 15th anniversary.
On Thursday, was the “Finding Happiness” show at The Pride Center at Equality Park. Four Artists: Stephen R. Lang, Carina Mask, Jim O'Rourke, and Chris Chavez all showed pieces that specifically inspired them or others. There were lots of people on hand. The event featured an ornament making station, snacks from Storks, a Rainbow Cake, live music, and plenty of liquor, wine and champagne. If you missed the show it will be up for the next month in their Great Room.
On Saturday was the annual Julian's Reverse Quinciniera: Merna's Betrayal. This year's Reverse Quinciniera took it to another level with the help of Andy Perrot's
Lightship Media and an opening Telenovela worthy of an Oscar. Seven Damas competed for the title of the winner, which was based on money raised and audience participation. All
money raised went to help send at risk children to camp. They awarded Bruce Howe from Hunters the Community Business Partner Award for all he and Hunters have done and sponsored over the years.
On Sunday, Impulse Evolution Pool Party was a co production and the closing party of Aqua Girl Weekend. They featured special guest star Eureka O’hara from RuPaul’s Drag Race, several DJs taking turns during the day with
Everything you need to plan your week hot Go-Go dancers along a long and fun pool. Miami Beach Commissioner Michael Gongora stopped in to lend his support.
Later that night we headed to the Mr. Florida M.E. pageant at the beautiful Pier 66 Hotel and Marina. Congrats to the court: 2nd runner up Erik Lords, 1st runner up Tonny Morales Glez and your new Mr. Florida M.E. Carlos RB.
at Equality Park – Main Room, 2040 N Dixie Hwy, Wilton Manors at 7pm. Free to attend. Suggested donation $5.
As part of their One Year Anniversary celebration the Pub in association with the House of Condeghi present “Turnabout Ball at the Infamous Pub.” The event starts at 9pm and features a 50/50 raffle, a silent auction, and tons of your favorite Pub employees in drag all to raise money for team Cintora for the Smart Ride. u FRIDAY OCT 5
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Stonewall National Museum & Archives (SNMA), with generous support from the Florida Humanities Council, presents visiting Professor Emeritus Geoffrey Giles, Ph.D. who will present Silent Victims: The Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals. The 50
minute visual presentation and lecture will be followed by a Q&A and take place at the Pride Center
The Pub presents as part of their One Year Anniversary “The Royals Show” at 9:30pm hosted by honorary Miss Village Pub and the current reigning Miss Stonewall Sharde Ross and starring the current Pub court Tayanna Love and Raul Vegas and former Mr. Village Pub Malik Diamond. The City of Oakland Park in conjunction with Funky Buddha Brewery, presents its 14th annual Oktoberfest celebration featuring music
and dancing, field activities including barrel and stein races, the Central Bark Dachshund Dash and the always entertaining apple strudel eating contest. Biergarten guests can select from a variety of authentic
German-style and craft beers to accompany the fine Bavarian cuisine, or you may wish to visit their vendor area for some Oktoberfest trinkets and crafts. Oktoberfest starts tonight and goes through Sunday afternoon. For more info go to: oaklandparkfl.gov.
Miami Beach Botanical Garden invites you to celebrate Oktoberfest from 7-11pm in their Botanical Biergarten. A beer lover's paradise under the stars, featuring South Florida's finest craft breweries, Bavarian inspired menu, and music by The Tall Boys. Guest admission will be $45 per person, including a sampling glass, unlimited beer and delicious bites. (You must be 21 to attend).mbgarden.org/calen dar/tickets
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& Artistic Director for The Club Fort Lauderdale st Lightning Bolt Productions, features their bi-monthly (1 rd today announced the theatrical and 3 Saturday of the month) Res-Erection Naked company's first major production this season: Little Blackout event at 10p.m. This is always a sold-out event, so Shop of Horrors presented get there early! Also, today, two weekends in a row, Sunday and Monday (Labor October 5-14, at the West Day Weekend) they feature a Boca Performing Arts poolside luncheon at 1 pm. Center, located within West Boca High School, 12811 The National LGBTQ Task Glades Road in Boca Raton (33498). Performances will be Force presents their annual Miami Gala which is an presented at 7 pm on Friday and Saturday nights, and 2 pm evening to celebrate being you and honoring heroes and on Sundays. Tickets are $35 each and are now available for advancing equality. This year they honor Sam Champion purchase at https://lbptheatre.booktix.co and Robin Roberts with the National Leadership Award m/. and Charles Million and Tim u SATURDAY OCT 6 Nardi with the Eddy McIntyre Community Lillusion du Plumage is Service Award. The MC for holding an open call for the night will be Jai auditions for males and Rodriguez (Queer Eye) and females over the age of 21 American Idols Kimberley with experience in stage, Locke will entertain the crowd dance and modeling. The auditions will take place at 12 with her sultry voice. The gala takes place starting at 6:30pm noon (check in at 11am) at at the Fontainebleau Miami the War Memorial Auditorium (800 NE 8th St). Beach. For more information, Pre-registration is required at or to order tickets, go to: info@Lillusionduplumage.co TheTaskForceGala.org. m, as no walk-ins will be allowed. Noche Latina Saturdays inside the Ivy Dance Room The Pub presents as part of and Patio at the Manor their One Year Anniversary Complex in association with “Joe Posa as Joan and Thirsty Celebrate Orgullo presents a Burlington as Cher� at 10pm. salute to the one and only Celia Cruz. The night will star Nelly The Ramrod presents Pig Norell in character, as well as Dance #122 (first Saturday of guest DJ Edgar and sexy Latin every month) from 10pm to Go-Go Papi's. Saturdays at the 3am with this month's guest Manor is from 11pm to 4 am DJ Guy DeGiacinto. and feature NO COVER before midnight (FL Res) and only $7
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We have been hearing about the remake for about a year and then when I heard who the stars were I got even more excited. Unless you are living under a rock, you know “A Star is Born,” stars fourtime Oscar nominee Bradley Cooper (“American Sniper,” “American Hustle,” “Silver Linings Playbook”) and multiple award-winning, Oscarnominated music superstar Lady Gaga, in her first leading role in a major motion picture. Cooper
helms the film, marking his directorial debut. In this new take on the tragic love story, he plays seasoned musician Jackson Maine, who discovers—and falls in love with—struggling artist Ally (Gaga). She has just about given up on her dream to make it big as a singer… until Jack coaxes her into the spotlight. But even as Ally's career takes off, the personal side of their relationship is breaking down, as Jack fights an ongoing battle with his own internal demons. The Film is rated R and opens on Friday, October 5, which is the day I will see it!
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BROADWAY – THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA Cameron Mackintosh’s spectacular new production will make a triumphant return to Fort Lauderdale. Critics are raving that this breathtaking production is “bigger and better than ever before” and boasts many exciting special effects including the show’s legendary chandelier. The beloved story and thrilling score will be performed by a cast and orchestra of 52, making this Phantom one of the largest productions now on tour. Wed October 10 – Sunday, Oct 21; Broward Center for the Performing Arts (201 Southwest 5th Avenue, Fort Lauderdale) Tix: tart at $35; BrowardCenter.org TASK FORCE - MIAMI GALA The National LGBTQ Task Force presents an evening to celebrate honor Sam Champion and Robin Roberts with the National Leadership Award and Charles Million and Tim Nardi with the Eddy McIntyre Community Service Award. The MC for the night will be Jai Rodriguez (Queer Eye) and American Idols Kimberley Locke will entertain the crowd with her sultry voice. Sat, October 6; 6:30pm; Fontainebleau Miami Beach (4441 Collins Avenue, Miami Beach); Tix: $450: TheTaskForceGala.org COMEDY - THE OFF COLOR TOUR Featuring Keenen Ivory Wayans, Shawn Wayans, Tommy Davidson and David Alan Grier, a quartet of comedy stars from the Emmy Award-winning series “In Living Color.” Sat, October 06; 8pm; Hard Rock Event Center (1 Seminole Way, Hollywood) Tix: $50-$90): Seminolehardrockhollywood.com. CONCERT – OLGA TAÑON Over the course of a long career, the Puerto Rican singer-songwriter has won two Grammy and three Latin Grammy awards for her merengue-tinged Latin pop. She is joined by Colombian vallenato singer Jorge Celedon. Fri, October 5; 8pm; Hard Rock Event Center (1 Seminole Way, Hollywood) Tix: $50 to $150; Seminolehardrockhollywood.com. MOVIES - A STAR IS BORN This remake tell the story of a musician who helps a young singer and actress find fame, even as age and alcoholism send his own career into a downward spiral. Directed by Bradley Cooper, and Stars Lady Gaga, Bradley, Sam Elliott, and Greg Grunberg Premieres Fri, October 5; Rated R; 135 min. Hotspots.LGBT | 23
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COMEDIAN - BRUCE VILANCH One of the most sought-after joke smiths in the entertainment industry, Bruce Vilanch has become a recognizable face in his own right, thanks to the feature-length documentary “Get Bruce!” and his one-time stint as a regular on “Hollywood Squares”, for which he also served as head writer. This event may include adult language and content. Fri, October 5; 8pm; Aventura Arts and Cultural Center (3385 NE 188th St, Aventura); Tix: $36.50 - $46.50; Aventuracenter.org. DIRE STRAITS – LEGACY This event reunites original band members Phil Palmer, Alan Clark, Danny Cummings, Mel Collins, Trevor Horn, Steve Ferrrone and Marco Caviglia along with friends live on stage in a celebration of their iconic music. Experience the magic of their unforgettable classics like Money for Nothing, So Far Away, Sultans of Swing, Walk of Life and more. Thurs, October 4; 8pm; Parker Playhouse (707 Northeast 8th Street Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $47.50 - $67.50; ParkerPlayhouse.com VISUALS - SIRO-A This Techno Circus comes to Miami directly from Japan for 1 performance only! The group fuses mime, ground-breaking visual effects, and a techno soundtrack to create a whole new entertainment. Don’t miss this America’s Got Talent Season 10 Golder Buzzer Winner & semi-finalist! Fri, October 5; 8pm; Adrienne Arsht Center for the Performing Arts (1300 Biscayne Blvd. Miami) Tix: start at $35; ArshtCenter.org CONCERT - PHIL COLLINS Phil will be kicking off his Not Dead Yet, Live! tour right here in South Florida. This limited engagement by the legendary performer will feature Phil Collins accompanied by longtime guitarist Daryl Stuermer, keyboardist Brad Cole, bassist Leland Sklar, percussionist Luis Conte & his 16 year old son Nicolas on drums along with a horn section and backup singers. Fri, October 5; 8pm; BB&T Center (1 Panther Parkway, Sunrise); Tix: start at $200; TheBBTcenter.org
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OKTOBERFEST - OAKLAND PARK The City in conjunction with Funky Buddha Brewery, presents this 14th annual celebration featuring music and dancing, field activities including barrel and stein races, the Central Bark Dachshund Dash and the always entertaining apple strudel eating contest. Biergarten guests can select from a variety of authentic German-style and craft beers to accompany the fine Bavarian cuisine, or you may wish to visit their vendor area for some Oktoberfest trinkets and crafts. Fri, October 5 through Sun, October 7; Jaco Pastorius Park (4000 N. Dixie Highway); Tix: $5 and children under 12 free; oaklandparkfl.gov.
deep inside HOLLYWOOD By Romeo San Vicente
Sugarbaker & Associates back in business at ABC
Heidi and Tim deliver a lot of look Heidi Klum and Tim Gunn are taking their act on the road. Amazon, in its quest to take over every last inch of Earth that isn't already nailed down, has made a deal with the Project Runway mainstays to develop a new reality fashion “...the Emmy-nominated
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regarding content, but it means that the Emmynominated PR pair are jumping ship (and if you aren't a diehard fan, be real: did you even realize it was still on television?) and moving into the realm of global reach. Amazon is using vague signifiers like “narrative” and “fresh” to describe the project we aren't allowed to know about, and they're referring to something called a “shoppable experience” for the viewing audience. Frankly, we don't care about any of that stuff; we love Tim and Heidi and we want them to be able to invent a new thing that will bring us back into the fold.
Designing Women might be happening all over again. ABC has confirmed a “script commitment” with creator Linda Bloodworth-Thomason, which isn't the same thing as a series order, but it's good enough for us to get overly excited about. If you weren't in the '80s you should know that this show was about four women at an Atlanta interior design firm who hung out a lot and made jokes about social issues and the out of control shoulder pads were a moral universe unto themselves and these women were, in a word, amazing. If there was any rivalry with the equally amazing Golden Girls we never paid attention to it and now, goddess willing, we're going to have Sugarbaker: The Next Generation. No cast yet, no details at all, just the shining golden hope of television that
comforts and makes conservative men irrationally enraged. Fingers crossed for a chance to revisit the classic “night the lights went out in Georgia” monologue. Romeo San Vicente is always happy when Hollywood Actors come out!
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Keira Knightley Werks the Queer Narrative
‘Colette' actress on playing bisexual author Colette, making a lesbian sequel to Bend It Like Beckham and her drag-inspired Sugar Plum Fairy
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ou know what's to love, actually? How Keira Knightley has now played enough feminist roles to know her character, Juliet, in the bubbly holiday classic Love Actually doesn't exactly fall into that category. In the Christmas rom-com, Juliet is the object of not one but two men's desire, and copious close-up shots insist on telling us what we've already known: Keira Knightley is breathtakingly beautiful. The 33-year-old actress was just 17 when 2003's Love Actually was ilmed. Since then, Knightley's genre-spanning roles throughout her 23-year career have often positioned her as a heroine in girl-power period ilms, women characterized by their liberated state of mind (2008's The Duchess) and patriarchal-defying
genius (2014's The Imitation Game, as Alan Turing's mathematician- iancé e Joan Clarke). Real-life bisexual novelist SidonieGabrielle Colette, who ghost wrote for author-husband Henry Gauthier-Villars (known as “Willy” and played by Dominic West) until she reclaimed her autonomy and byline, is right within Knightley's wheelhouse of women smearing their male oppressors. Take Colette, whose 1944 book Gigi was adapted into a movie musical that won nine Oscars in 1959, including best picture. Written and directed by out director and fellow Englander Wash Westmoreland (Still Alice), Colette is a tribute to his late husband and collaborator, Richard Glatzer, who died
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from the progressive neurodegenerative disease ALS. In the hospital before he passed away in 2015, Glatzer, who could not speak, typed “C-O-L-E-T-T-E” to Westmoreland on an iPad to communicate that his – but in many ways, their – next project should be “Colette.” Recently, Knightley called to talk about her special connection to gay directors such as Westmoreland (and James Kent, who directs her in the forthcoming The Aftermath), her enthusiastic response to a Bend It Like Beckham sequel where best friends Jules and Jesse are lesbian lovers, and her desperate plea to drag queens.
You're so good in this I wouldn't be mad if all you do is play period bisexuals for the rest of your career. Well, thank you very much! I'll quote you on that.
Is there a special relationship between gay directors and female actors such as yourself that helps in telling a story like this one? That's an interesting question! Yes, I think so. I
think that there's that quality of having to ight for your space and ight for your right to be who you feel you are and ight for your voice.
So yes, I think there's a similarity in those two aspects, and one I think, probably, Wash identi ied with in the story of Colette.
When it comes to the male gaze, is there a difference in having a gay director direct a sex scene? Yes and no. He did actually turn around when I think it was me and Eleanor (Tomlinson, who portrays bisexual American heiress Georgie Raoul-Duval) and he was like, “You know, it's really great 'cause there's no male gaze here,” and I'm like, “Wash, there are only men in this room!” (Laughs) He's like, “Yes, no – you know what I mean!” (Laughs) So yes, because sex is sort of taken out of it in a way, because obviously he doesn't ind me attractive, and that's great (laughs). But I still think male sexuality in all of its forms is probably slightly different from female sexuality, so there are probably still subtle differences. But it is very nice to know that when I took my clothes off he didn't get off on it at all.
Are there any other ilms you've worked on where you felt having a gay director helped in doing the story justice? Yes. I worked with… oh my god… my brain's just literally gone blank and I've forgotten every single other person's name that I've ever
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view of her view of her sexuality. sexuality.
Speaking of Speaking of feminism, I have feminism, I have a feeling Colette a feeling Colette wouldn't love wouldn't love your character in your character in Love Actually. Love Actually. Probably not. Probably not. (Laughs) (Laughs)
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Did Colette's approach to sexuality speak to Did Colette's approach to sexuality speak to you in any profound or personal way? you in any profound or personal way? Yes, because she was entirely natural to Yes, because she was entirely natural to herself and she acted without shame. What a herself and she acted without shame. What a wonderful, positive way of looking at your wonderful, positive way of looking at your sexuality and the people that you fall in love sexuality and the people that you fall in love with. I really respected that about her. I with. I really respected that about her. I loved that she was herself and that any rule loved that she was herself and that any rule that didn't that didn't it she just broke and made the it she just broke and made the life that she wanted to live. I think that's a life that she wanted to live. I think that's a wonderful, empowering story, both from a wonderful, empowering story, both from a feminist point of view and from the point of feminist point of view and from the point of
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As for Emma Thompson, she sobs to Joni As for Emma Thompson, she sobs to Joni Mitchell. And her story doesn't have the Mitchell. And her story doesn't have the happiest or even most empowered happiest or even most empowered of endings. of endings. But strong people are allowed to break down; But strong people are allowed to break down; it doesn't mean you don't have emotions. You it doesn't mean you don't have emotions. You just have to then pick yourself up and stand just have to then pick yourself up and stand up again. See, the problem is, I haven't up again. See, the problem is, I haven't actually seen it since it came out, which was actually seen it since it came out, which was over 10 years ago, so actually I don't over 10 years ago, so actually I don't remember quite enough to be able to argue remember quite enough to be able to argue either way. You really, really know it, so I feel either way. You really, really know it, so I feel like I'm just gonna have to go with whatever like I'm just gonna have to go with whatever you say. (Laughs) you say. (Laughs)
You played gay computer scientist Alan You played gay computer scientist Alan Turing's Turing's iancée in Imitation Game. Have you iancée in Imitation Game. Have you ever fallen in love with a gay man before? ever fallen in love with a gay man before?
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worked with before. Wait, what the fuck? He worked with before. Wait, what the fuck? He directed Aftermath. I can see his face. Oh my directed Aftermath. I can see his face. Oh my god, this is really annoying because literally I god, this is really annoying because literally I just spent eight weeks with him and he's the just spent eight weeks with him and he's the loveliest man in the entire world. loveliest man in the entire world. But I don't know whether it's sexuality that But I don't know whether it's sexuality that does it or just – I think it's the individual. does it or just – I think it's the individual. Possibly gay men, because of their Possibly gay men, because of their ight for ight for their identity and to be accepted and accepting their identity and to be accepted and accepting of themselves, understand that there's a level of themselves, understand that there's a level of emotional intelligence, which often – not of emotional intelligence, which often – not always – a heterosexual man will simply try to always – a heterosexual man will simply try to shut down. So I think that helps if you're shut down. So I think that helps if you're dealing with emotions, which you are when dealing with emotions, which you are when you're making a you're making a ilm. It helps to have an ilm. It helps to have an emotional vocabulary and intelligence and emotional vocabulary and intelligence and openness. And look, I'm a heterosexual woman, openness. And look, I'm a heterosexual woman, so maybe I'm completely talking out of turn, so maybe I'm completely talking out of turn, but I do feel, because there is still a process of but I do feel, because there is still a process of acceptance that gay men go through, that acceptance that gay men go through, that emotionally they can be very, very intelligent emotionally they can be very, very intelligent and open and accepting. and open and accepting.
The men in that The men in that movie seem to movie seem to have all the have all the power, while your power, while your character is character is silent, cute; lots silent, cute; lots of close-ups of you looking pretty. How do of close-ups of you looking pretty. How do you re you re lect on that role and what it says lect on that role and what it says about women? about women? I hadn't really until you just said that! But yes, I hadn't really until you just said that! But yes, I can see that. I was 17 when I played that one I can see that. I was 17 when I played that one and I was so excited about just getting a role and I was so excited about just getting a role in a Richard Curtis in a Richard Curtis ilm. You know, I think ilm. You know, I think there were some pretty good strong women there were some pretty good strong women in that. Not that one, but the Martine in that. Not that one, but the Martine McCutcheon character and the Emma McCutcheon character and the Emma Thompson character, which is so Thompson character, which is so heartbreaking. I don't know. I'd have to look heartbreaking. I don't know. I'd have to look at it again with that frame of my mind. I do, at it again with that frame of my mind. I do, however, know Scarlett Curtis, who is Richard however, know Scarlett Curtis, who is Richard Curtis' daughter and a radical-feminist Curtis' daughter and a radical-feminist activist, so he's done something right there. activist, so he's done something right there.
No, luckily. I feel very fortunate in that, 'cause that would be tricky!
Rumor has it that Bend It Like Beckham was originally written as a lesbian love story? I never read that version of the script! I mean, not as far as I know. But you might have information that I don't have. No, the only version of the script that I ever read was the one that we shot, so it was as it was.
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A lot of people in the LGBTQ community wanted Jess and Jules to be a couple in the end. Fuck yeah! That would've been amazing. I think they should've been too. I think that would've been great. We need a sequel.
Race watching. And then there's a great drag night in East London, which I used to go to when I could go out before I had a child, which was always fun. So can I just put that out there: Please, please let there be a drag queen somewhere who will be in a Sugar Plum Fairy out it.
You've worn some fabulous period wigs over the years – is that your real hair in Colette? No, I don't think so. I think we had wigs, always through. Because there were so many different styles, and short, long. I think when it's long we As a teenager, you were told your kiss with used some of my hair with some extensions, and a gay female friend you went to prom with then when it was short, it was a wig. wasn't appropriate. What did that experience teach you about LGBTQ Do you realize how many drag queens are discrimination, and how did it in luence gonna be jealous of the one you wear in you as an ally for the community? your role as the Sugar Plum Fairy in your I thought it was bullshit at the time. Bullshit... forthcoming ilm The Nutcracker and the bullshit! Our picture was not put up (on the Four Realms? event's photo wall) because it was deemed not Oh, dude, yes. Hell yes. You know, we actually appropriate. I'm not sure it was that particular designed it with them in mind. I was so experience that in luenced me; I just pleased. It was my irst time where I could remember thinking that was stupid and I think actually be like a drag queen, and I was so I've thought that – always along the line – any excited. We were all talking about it at the discrimination against people because of their time; we were like, “Come on, this is the most sexuality has been utterly ridiculous. It was the amazing drag out it,” and honestly, I was really way I was brought up, and so I've never excited because normally you have to be so questioned gay rights. So yes, that was one of subtle in ilms and I got these really long, fake them; but no, I don't think that was my sort of eyelashes – I can't remember whether we used awakening. I've always had family with many them – but with bits of glitter over them, and gay friends, and people in the LGBTQ we were all like, “This is perfect drag queen community have always been around me all attire.” It was so amazing, and I think there are my life and have been wonderful friends. some amazing drag queens out there who are gonna wear it even better than I did. I hope As editor of Q Syndicate, the international that this ilm inspires some amazing costumes. LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including You sound like you could be an avid Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. Reach watcher of RuPaul's Drag Race. him via his website at www.chris-azzopardi.com Everybody's a fan! Yeah, there's a bit of Drag and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).
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The Phantom of the Opera
Returns to The Broward Center for the Performing Arts. Cameron Mackintosh's spectacular new production of Andrew Lloyd Webber's The Phantom of the Opera is ready for its triumphant return to Fort Lauderdale engagement at The Broward Center for the Performing Arts. With newly reinvented staging and stunning scenic design, this new version of Phantom is performed by a cast and orchestra of 52, making this one of the largest productions on tour in North America.
Andrew Lloyd Webber said, “Having received great critical acclaim in the U.K. and North America, I am really pleased that Laurence Connor's new production of Phantom will continue to tour the U.S. playing in tandem with the Broadway production which just celebrated 30 years at the Majestic Theatre.”
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Cameron Mackintosh's spectacular new production of Andrew Lloyd Webber's The Phantom of the Opera is presented by Cameron Mackintosh, The Really Useful Group, and NETworks Presentations. Directed by Laurence Connor, with choreography by Scott Ambler, set design by Paul Brown, Tony Award®-winning original costume design by Maria Bjö rnson, lighting design by Tony Award®-winner Paule Constable, sound design by Mick Potter, and musical supervision by John Rigby. The
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Cameron Mackintosh said, “With Phantom still the reigning champion as the longest-running production on Broadway after 30 phenomenal years, with no end in sight, I'm delighted that this spectacular new production of Phantom has been as well-received in the U.S. as the brilliant original
and has already been seen by over 3.7 million people across North America since it opened in November 2013. With an exciting new design and staging, retaining Maria Bjö rnson's amazing costumes, the new PHANTOM is thrilling audiences and critics alike all over again. With the production continuing to be such a success, we are delighted to welcome our exciting new stars to keep the music of the night soaring for many years to come.”
Was Opera always part of your repertoire or when did that happen? My grandmother was a professional opera singer, and always tried to convince me to sing opera, but I resisted. However, when I was 15 I started at the Vancouver Opera Children's Chorus, and there is where I , fell in love with it.
When did you know performing would be your career? I think I always wanted it to be. However, halfway through university it hit me that performing was going to be my life.
production is overseen by Matthew Bourne and Cameron Mackintosh. The Phantom Of The Opera: music by Andrew Lloyd Webber; lyrics by Charles Hart (with additional lyrics by Richard Stilgoe); book by Richard Stilgoe and Andrew Lloyd Webber; orchestrations by David Cullen and Andrew Lloyd Webber.
Based on the classic novel Le Fantôme de L'Opéra by Gaston Leroux, The Phantom of the Opera tells the story of a masked igure who lurks beneath the catacombs of the Paris Opera House, exercising a reign of terror over all who inhabit it. He falls madly in love with an innocent young soprano, Christine, and devotes himself to creating a new star by nurturing her extraordinary talents and by employing all of the devious methods at his command.
It was a pleasure to sit down with Eva Tavares who plays the lead role of Christine Daaé for this exclusive Hotspots interview:
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Were you always a performer even as a child? I started dancing when I was about 2 ½ and moved into singing when I was in High school. But yes, I was always on stage in some way.
What was your irst professional gig? When I was in university, my friend from high school and I got back tracks from Jazz standards and were hired to sing as a Farmers Market. We got paid a little, but the tips were amazing.
Other than Christine, what has been your favorite role, and why? Maria in West Side Story. She is such an amazing woman and she goes through a tremendous journey in that show. That show forces the cast to become really close really quickly. It creates a family dynamic and creates very important messages for the audience. What is your fantasy role? I would love to do Clara in Light in the Poazza, as she is a complex character and her story is so unusual.
What should the Florida audiences expect from this production of Phantom of the Opera? This production is an amped up version of everything you know and love of Phantom. We have so many extras: more ire, different sets, and special effects. However, the things you know and love about Phantom are still there. Even my straight brother who generally dislikes shows, liked this show!
For more information on Eva, check out her out on Instagram.com/eva.l.tavares
Tickets for The Phantom of the Opera will be available at the Broward Center AutoNation Box Of ice, 201 SW Fifth Avenue, Fort Lauderdale, FL, 33312, browardcenter.org or call 954.462.0222. Ticket prices start at $40.25.
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The Frivolist By Mikey Rox
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FINANCIALS The Frivolist: 7 Tips for Navigating Income Disparity in Your New-ish Relationship
Discuss the situation and expectations Don't avoid having a conversation about where each partner stands financially. Pretending that the issue doesn't exist can lead to resentment. Sit down and talk about how much each of you makes, your savings plan and ultimate financial goals. Discuss how you'll handle the everyday expenses, too. Perhaps your partner makes enough that he or she doesn't mind taking on more than you. Maybe you have enough in savings already to contribute equally for the time being. Whatever you decide, make sure that the communication is open and honest and all expectations are clear from the get-go.
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When you're in a relationship, one partner is bound to make more money than the other. Depending on how wide that financial gap, the person with the smaller paycheck can sometimes feel inadequate (whether it's justified or not), and the insecurity of earning less may cause problems. There are, however, ways to facilitate healthy discussions about uneven financial affairs that lead to satisfying results for both parties. These seven tips will help facilitate feelings of worthiness and appreciation among partners – even if somebody's boss is being stingy.
Do the math How much difference is there between your two incomes? Does your partner make twice as much as you do? A fair way to divvy up expenses is to base how much each person is required to pay for monthly expenses on how much each person earns in a month. If your partner makes double what you do, it's a reasonable compromise that they will pay twice as much in rent (or somewhere thereabouts). The discrepancies between salaries should be accommodated at bill time somewhat accordingly.
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“Holidays can be hard for the financially strapped, so the best way to avoid hurt feelings and disappointment is Contribute to a joint recreational account Many partners who earn less feel guilty that they can't pay for as much during recreational outings or vacation. To ensure that both partners feel like they're contributing equally to these activities, consider establishing a joint account. Decide how much you can afford to put in the account on a regular basis – based on the lowest earner's ability to contribute – and start building up the slush fund. When it's time to use it, both partners can feel that they each worked equally as hard to enjoy that time together. I don't, however, recommend combining all your income into one account. Each partner should maintain their own financial independence in some aspects so the waters don't get too muddy in this regard.
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Thinks of ways to have free or inexpensive fun together If money is particularly tight and saving for entertainment isn't feasible, research low- or no-cost activities in your area. There are an abundance of activities that don't cost a dime, like free outdoor movies, bike and kayak rentals, and admission to museums and exhibits, plus plenty of nature-bound DIY fitness activities – all free if you look hard enough. If no one has to put anything out of pocket, no one will feel guilty that one paid more than the other. Another perk: a free activity this time means that you saved even more money for next time.
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“A fair way to divvy up expenses is to base how much each person is required to pay for monthly expenses on how much each person earns in a month.”
Consider alternative ways of making cash It's a harsh reality, but some careers don't pay much. If you're a teacher and your partner is a Wall Street broker, chances are you'll never earn as much as them. That's OK. But just because your salary is capped doesn't mean your creativity has to be. Maybe you're good at crocheting knit caps that you can sell on Etsy, or perhaps you're a talented graphic designer who can provide freelance services. There are a million ways to make extra money outside of a nine-to-five when you embrace your own motivation.
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Set limits at gifting times Holidays can be hard for the financially strapped, so the best way to avoid hurt feelings and disappointment is to set a limit (again, based on what the lower earner can afford) for how much money will be spent. This isn't difficult to do. As we get older we tend to want less at holiday time anyway (probably because we buy ourselves presents all year round, but that's another issue), and it's the thought of the gift that ultimately counts. A limit also helps ensure that the lower earner doesn't overspend, which could push him or her into deeper – even if perceived – debt.
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“Each partner should maintain their own financial independence in some aspects so the waters don't get too muddy in this regard.” If your partner pays more, do more If you're the lower earner and your partner is willing to take on more of the monthly expenses than you – no questions asked – show your appreciation by doing more of the household chores. Wash the dishes, take out the trash, and make dinner more frequently than he or she does. You're not getting paid to take on these tasks, per se, but in the real world those chores are considered work for some (people make a living from it) so it's OK to assign monetary value to the extra time and effort you're putting in. Taking on more of the households chores when he or she is taking on more of the expenses also is an excellent way to show your thanks in small, thoughtful and inexpensive ways.
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Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach, his dog Jaxon at his side. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.
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La Republica de Bolivia, oficialmente conocido como Estado Plurinacional de Bolivia, es un país situado en el centro-oeste de sur América. Cuenta con una población de cerca de 10 millones de habitantes. Limita al norte y al este con Brasil, al sur con Paraguay y Argentina, y al oeste con Chile y Perú, no tiene salida al mar. Su superficie se encuentra entre las 6 más grandes del 56
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continente Americano y su litoral comprende de específicos e importante puntos geográficos del continente Americano tales como la cordillera de los Andes, el Altiplano, la Amazonía. Así conocido como uno de los países con mayor biodiversidad en el mundo. Este país sur Americano se compone de 9 departamento el cual son La capital La Paz,
Beni, Chuquisaca, Oruro, pando Potosí, Santa Cruz, Tarija, Bolivia; En el litoral Boliviano se desarrollaron civilizaciones antiguas como Tiwanaku, la Cultura Hidráulica de las Lomas y la cultura moxeña. Primero los incas y luego los conquistadores españoles dominaron el territorio hasta que el país se independizó en1825. Al haber desarrollado las tradiciones con un mestizaje de las culturas precolombinas con la cultura española, es un país multiétnico y pluricultural, rico en la mezcla de costumbres y tradiciones recibidas de los grupos nativos y los conquistadores españoles. Los Lugares turísticos de Bolivia son muy conocidos al rededor del mundo por sus paisajes surrealistas, con grandes e impresionantes reservas naturales, preservadas ciudades coloniales y áreas donde huellas de dinosaurios han quedado inmortalizadas en el tiempo, son solo parte de los escenarios que conforman esta lista. Ciudad de Potosí: Durante la época colonial era una de las ciudades más prosperas de Bolivia y América, hogar de la mina de plata más grande del mundo situada en las faldas de la montaña conocida como Cerro Rico, enriquecimiento que contribuyó a lujosas construcciones coloniales barrocas. Hoy declarada Patrimonio de la Humanidad por la UNESCO, permite recorrer sus estrechas callecitas adoquinadas apreciando el antiguo esplendor de sus edificaciones coloniales, elevándose entre ellas iglesias,
monasterios, palacios y casonas. En sus alrededores se pueden visitar las joyas del Salar de Uyuni y el Parque Nacional Torotoro, ambos sitios imperdibles que entran en cualquier lista de los mejores lugares turísticos de la República Boliviana . El Salar de Uyuni: El más grande de los desiertos de sal continuo del mundo, una maravilla natural que se extiende por 12 mil km², alcanzando su mayor expresión de belleza entre los meses de enero y marzo, cuando cubriéndose ligeramente de agua, logra reflejar a modo de espejo perfecto de las nubes. En medio de la blanca planicie, la Isla Incahuasi conocida también como “La Isla del Pescado” es uno de los puntos de mayor interés del salar. Parque Nacional Torotoro: Es una .Reserva de 16.570 hectáreas situada en una región montañosa, asi formando un lugar de exóticos escenarios naturales donde se suceden profundos cañones, rocas gigantes, cascadas escondidas en grutas y espectaculares cavernas como Huaca Senka y Huma Jalanta, en ésta última se encuentran muchas especies de peces entre ellos peces ciegos.También es el lugar perfecto para los aficionados de paleontología, ya que en todo el parquet se encuentran huellas fosilizadas de dinosaurios de aproximadamente 130 millones de años, junto a fósiles marinos de aún más antiguos datados de 350 millones de años atrás.
La homosexualidad en Bolivia es legal, siendo uno de los pocos países del mundo que constitucionalmente prohíben toda discriminacióncon referente a en la orientación sexual o la identidad de género, la comunidad LGBTQ aún pueden sufrir ciertas situaciones de discriminación por parte de la sociedad. Y no podemos dejar de mencionar los más conocidos platillos típicos de Bolivia entre ellos El Pique Macho , La Sopa De Maní, Picante Mixto (Pollo Y Carne Picante), Charque (Carne Secada Al Sol) entre muchos más.
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Marcha del Orgullo Gay The Republic of Bolivia, officially known as the Plurinational State of Bolivia, is a country located in the center-west of America; It has a population of about 10, millions of inhabitants. It limits to the north and the east with Brazil, to the south with Paraguay and Argentina, to the west with Chile and Peru, it does not have exit to the sea. Its surface is among the largest parts of the American continent and its coastline includes specific and important geographical points of the Americas such as the Andes, the Altiplano, the Amazon; This is how it is known as one of the countries with the greatest biodiversity in the world. This country in America is composed of 9 departments which is La Paz, Beni, Chuquisaca, Oruro, Pando Potosí, Santa Cruz, Tarija, Bolivia; On the Bolivian coast it developed into ancient civilizations such as Tiwanaku, the Hydraulic Culture of Las Lomas and the Moxeña culture. First the Incas and then the Spanish conquerors dominated Hotspots.LGBT | 57
the territory until the country became independent in 1825. Having developed the traditions with a miscegenation of the preColumbian cultures with the Spanish culture, in a multiethnic and pluricultural country, rich in the mixture of customs and tendencies received from the native groups and the Spanish conquerors. The tourist places of Bolivia are well known around the world for their surreal landscapes, with large and impressive nature reserves, preserved colonial cities and areas where dinosaur tracks have been immortalized over time, are only part of the scenarios that make up this list . City of PotosĂ: During the colonial era it was one of the most prosperous cities in Bolivia and America,
home to the largest silver mine in the world located on the foothills of the mountain known as Cerro Rico, enrichment that contributed to luxurious baroque colonial buildings. Today declared a World Heritage Site by UNESCO, it allows you to explore its narrow cobbled streets, appreciating the ancient splendor of its colonial buildings, including churches, monasteries, palaces and mansions. In its surroundings you can visit the jewels of Salar de Uyuni and Torotoro National Park, both must-see sites that fit into any list of the best tourist places in the Bolivian Republic. The Uyuni Salt Flats: The largest of the world's continuous salt deserts, a natural wonder that stretches for 12 thousand km², reaching its greatest expression of
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beauty between the months of January and March, when covering lightly with water, manages to reflect as a perfect mirror From the clouds. In the middle of the white plain, the Incahuasi Island, also known as "La Isla del Pescado", is one of the most interesting points of the salar. Torotoro National Park: It is a Reservation of 16,570 hectares located in a mountainous region, thus forming a place of exotic natural scenarios where deep canyons, giant rocks, waterfalls hidden in caves and spectacular caverns such as Huaca Senka and Huma Jalanta, in the latter are many fish species among them blind fish. It is also the perfect place for palaeontology enthusiasts, since fossilized footprints of dinosaurs of approximately 130 million years are found throughout the park, along with even more ancient marine fossils dating from 350 million of years ago. Homosexuality in Bolivia is legal, being one of the few countries in the world that constitutionally prohibits any discrimination with regard to sexual orientation or gender identity, the LGBTQ community may still suffer certain situations of discrimination by society. And we cannot fail to mention the most popular dishes typical of Bolivia, among them El Pique Macho, The Peanut Soup, Mixed Spicy (Chicken and Spicy Meat), Charque (Sun Dried Meat) among many others.
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t seems like it was only one week ago that I was writing about how Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh was a nightmare for LGBTQ people. That's because it was last week. And now we find that he is a nightmare for women, too. Who would have thought? Besides anyone who pays even a fleeting bit of attention to the contemptuous way Republicans treat women, of course. Christine Blasey Ford has bravely come forward to accuse Kavanaugh of attempted rape while they were in high school. Yep, that's right. High school. Which was a long time ago for them. But so what? Conservatives have been tying themselves in knots arguing, essentially, that what happens in high school stays in high school, especially if what happened in high school was their pet SCOTUS nominee getting drunk, pushing a girl onto a bed, trying to take off her clothes and covering her mouth with his hand when she tried to scream. This behavior, many would like you to believe, is just “boys being boys.” Which is bullshit. And then, of course, there are people saying that Ford is a lying liar, including Kavanaugh himself. Which just shows you how little so many men understand about sexual assault and how our society treats accusers. As Candance Owens of Turning Point USA put it on Twitter, “Brett Kavanaugh should be confirmed IMMEDIATELY. It is time for Americans to send a STRONG message to the anarchist Democrats that we will no longer tolerate their disgusting, corrupt, low-bar
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antics. The #MeTooWitchhunt needs to come to an END once and for all.” And I agree! The #MeToo thing should totally come to an end. But, spoiler alert, it can only end when MEN CHOOSE TO STOP SEXUALLY HARASSING AND ASSAULTING WOMEN. Until then, women must keep coming forward to try to stop it. They will, of course, be accused of being liars, like Ford has, even though it is a huge risk to come forward. As @OhNoSheTwitnt, the Best Tweeter on the Tweeternet, put it: “Hello, I am an opportunistic woman. I make up decades old sexual assault accusations against rich and powerful men because my lifelong dream is to get death threats from strangers calling me a lying whore.” And as she points out: yeah, that's as ridiculous as it sounds. So Ford is lying and/or Kavanaugh was just putting “locker room talk” into practice. Republicans are hot to confirm Kavanaugh as fast as possible so that the court can finally repeal Roe v. Wade and Republicans can prove once and for all how much they hate women. But Ford's accusation is credible. And we need to take a step back and ask ourselves how in the hell we got to this place. And we don't have to look very far. We've seen this story played out over and over. One popular fable is of the Supreme Court nominee who is accused of sexual harassment and yet the Senate essentially puts his accuser on trial and he's confirmed anyway and is STILL ON THE BENCH TODAY MAKING DECISIONS THAT IMPACT EVERY
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Republicans are hot to confirm Kavanaugh as fast as possible so that the court can finally repeal Roe v. Wade and Republicans can prove once and for all how much they hate women. AMERICAN WOMAN'S LIFE. Then there's the made-for-TV movie about the powerful man who is accused of sexual assault by over a dozen women, calls them all liars after bragging about grabbing women “by the pussy” and becomes President of the U.S. Trump is, of course, very concerned about Ford's allegations and is taking the matter very seriously. Just kidding. He merely sees it as a little bump in the road. “If it takes a little delay, it'll take a little delay,” Trump said. “It will, I'm sure, work out very well.” And who knows? Maybe it will. There are a lot of people fighting like hell against this nomination. Which is heartening.
But I keep thinking of the one person who could have stopped this whole mess before it started. If more American men respected women we would have a President Hillary Clinton nominating Michelle Obama to the Supreme Court right now. I don't know, y'all, it's almost like steeping American boys in a mixture of rape culture and toxic masculinity has been bad for, well, everybody. D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer, and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. You can follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.
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Stop Wasting Your Time With These Useless Exercises!
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itting the gym is a necessary part of staying fit and healthy. It's also the only real fountain of youth available to those of us who want to stay vibrant and attractive for as long as possible. For all these reasons and more it is important not to waste time or spin your wheels when you are working out. Certain commonly used exercises and practices are ineffective and just plain unsafe. Here is my list of some time- consuming mistakes and useless exercises to avoid in the gym. Jerking heavy weights on the leg extension machine with the intention of blasting your quadriceps (the muscles on the front of your thighs) is a recipe for serious knee injuries. Besides straining the cruciate knee ligaments and causing damage to the meniscus, this exercise can
over -develop your quads causing your hamstrings (the muscles on the backs of your thighs) to become excessively tight and inflexible.
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Tight hams in turn can cause low back pain and contribute to injuries. Avoid all this lower body “drama� by sticking with squats, presses, and lunges. Any exercise that involves pushing or pulling a bar that's positioned behind the neck can damage the rotator cuff
muscles that attach your humerus (arm) to your scapula (shoulder). Once you strain or sprain these muscles you are in for a lifetime of shoulder pain and maybe even a permanent disability. When you do wide grip lat pull downs or barbell or dumbbell shoulder military presses, sit up straight, point your chest outward and pull or press the weight in front of you. Doing cardio can be a boring waste of time especially if you set your cardio machine too slow every workout. Varying your pace and intensity during your hour or so of cardio is a more successful fat loss strategy. The best way to burn calories is by mixing fast and slow speeds. This is also
the best way to address the body's different energy systems and muscle groups. Sit-ups are as useless and ineffective as the high school physical education teacher who bulleyed you all throughout your sophomore year. Locking your feet under a rack or bench and rolling up on your lower back as you pull on your 7 cervical vertebrae will only give you a sore back and stiff neck. Instead, do crunches. Keep your feet flat on the floor or slightly elevate your legs over an exercise ball to stabilize your hips. Extend your arms and crunch your torso bringing your elbows to your knees. You can feel the burning in your abs already! When you go to the gym, your main goal is to lift weights, so for cryin' out loud use a weight that's heavy enough so that your muscles feel worked by the end of a set of 8-12 reps. Pyramid your weights up with each set, but be careful to maintain good form with each rep. For more tips on how to maximize your time in the gym, contact TrainerTomB@aol.com. Visit www.pumpincgym.com. Schedule a free consultation today (954) 557-1119
Tom Bonanti is a certified fitness trainer and licensed massage therapist with his own gym and studio, Pump'n Inc. (pumpnincgym.com), in Ft. Lauderdale. You can contact Tom at trainertomb@aol.com with questions or to schedule a free consultation.
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