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Cirque du Soleil’s:

Alegría Returns

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What’s Hot | Scott Holland’s Guide to Events in SoFla Feature | Michael Goodman Named Chair of the Florida Theatrical Association Deep Inside Hollywood Feature | Miss Florida F.I. Pageant Inc. Food for Thought | Apt 9f Things that Make You Go Hmmm... Feature | DJ Miik Celebrates 25th Anniversary of Keeping us Dancing The Hot List | Top 10 Happenings in South Florida This Week Creep of the Week | Rod Dreher Hot Bodies | Exercise Away Those Holiday Blues! The Frivolist | : 7 Ways to Go Vegan Without Actually Going 'Vegan' Feature | Art Basel Miami Beach Hot Advice | Haunting Past

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WHAT’S HOT

By Scott Holland

What’s HOT

South Florida

his past Holiday weekend was filled with events including: Circuit Festival Miami, Leather Masked Ball, Flip Flops T Dance, World Aids Day Candlelight Vigils, and the Hurricane Showdown. There were so many, I am letting the pics do the talking….

Flip Flops Dockside Eatery

Hurricane Showdown

Leather Masked Ball

World Aids Day Candlelight Vigil

Circuit Festival Miami Beach Party

Circuit Festival Miami Urge

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Circuit Festival Miami Pool Party

Everything you need to plan your week

uTHURSDAY DEC 05 Johnsons presents their 2020 Calendar Release Party, where they invite you to drop by and grab a copy, meet the models and more.

The Pub presents their 6th annual Holiday Wreath Auction at 9pm hosted by Electra. Local businesses and individuals donate one of a kind holiday wreaths that you can bid on. 100% of the money raised goes to Kids in Distress. If you or your business would like to donate, contact them at 754-200-5244.

Fetish Party” where if you are in costumes/gear/ leather you get 2-4-1 from 11pm to 1am.

Lakeworth Playhouse (713 Lake Avenue) presents “Divas Holiday Party” where they invite you to enjoy their favorite Queens as your favorite Holiday divas including songs, skits and a comically good time. The night will star Pepper Monroe, Melissa St John, Daizee Deluxx, Dee Dee Van carter, Shardee L Ross, and Lupita Hollywood. To purchase tickets, go to: Lakeworthplayhouse.org. u SATURDAY DEC 07

As part of Pig Week, the Ramrod presents “Cosplay

The Club Fort Lauderdale presents “Reserection: A Second Coming” (the first and third Sat of the month) at 10pm.

The Fort Lauderdale's Gay Men's Chorus presents: “If you Just Believe” at 6pm at All Saints Episcopal Church (333 tarpon Drive, Fort Lauderdale). For tickets go to FTLGMC.org uSUNDAY DEC 08

u FRIDAY DEC 06

Starbucks at 2309 N federal Highway in fort Lauderdale presents ”Drag Bingo” hosted by Paris Lenore and Rianna Petrone with DJ Joshua Atom from 6:30 to 9:30pm.

of every month) with this month's special DJ Pup Rockit.

Bourbon street Pub and New Orleans House presents Mr. Naked Key West 2019, an official men only event of Bone Island Bare it All. The party, where no clothing is allowed, is from 10pm to 4am with the contest at midnight. They invite you to enjoy the pool, the jacizzi and all the other areas. Admission is $20, but free to BIBIA pass holders. The Ramrod presents Pig Dance #137 (first Saturday

The Pub presents “Pig Week T-Dance” in the back parking lot behind the bar from 3pm to 9pm featuring a singlet party/contest. The South Florida Pride Wind Ensemble presents “Simple Gifts: A Special Holiday Concert” at 7pm at the Sunshine Cathedral. For more information, visit Pridewindensemble.org. uMONDAY DEC 09

The Social Event of the Season is upon us at 8pm, as executive Producer Alyson Thomas, along with Hotspots.LGBT | 11

Large, ladies over 225 lbs, Male Entertainer, and Supreme, ladies over 45 years of age. Competition begins with evening gowns, sportswear and talent for the ladies, formal wear, swimwear and talent for the guys. All contestants will be up close and personal in onstage interview. The night will also star Kylee Hunter the reigning Miss Florida F.I. Tickets are available from $25-$60 on their website Missfloridafipageant.com and at the door pageant night. To avoid the lines and get the table you desire act now and reserve your seats. For further information and or contestant packets please

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Michael Jackson's This Is It 10th anniversary box set includes: A repressing of the This Is It 4-LP vinyl set on translucent blue vinyl with original jacket artwork; a 12” X 12” 60-page hardcover coffee table color photo book containing fullpage still photographs from original CD booklet and additional previously unpublished photos from This Is It rehearsals; Rare promotional 3D enhanced Blu-ray disc of the film never released as a 12 | Hotspots.LGBT

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Gary Santis and Scott Holland present the Miss Florida F.I. at Large – Miss Florida F.I. Supreme and Mr. Florida M.E. Pageants at the Venue Ft Lauderdale located at 2345 Wilton Drive – Wilton Manors, FL. The backdrop of this beautiful ballroom will transform you into the majesty of Pageant Competition and Entertainment. The reigning Florida F.I. Court Noel Leon at Large, Carlos Rogue M.E. Dana Douglas, Supreme will pass the titles on to the new court while entertaining you throughout the night. Contestants will compete for 3 different titles: At

Wilton Manors Business Association's 'Holiday Spectacular in the Park' takes place at 7pm at Richardson Historic Park & Nature Preserve! This year their concert features Yoli Mayor (America's Got Talent), Broadway's Heather Lundstedt, and Jonathan Hawkins (Our Night Out, Live in Central Park Revisited: Andrea Bocelli) along with The Fort Lauderdale Gay Men's Chorus, Jennifer McClain, Tommy Paduano, Eytan Deray and more! For tickets and more information, please visit

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Twist presents Arroz Con Mango starring Karla Croqueta with shows by the Mango-ettes, and hosted by Yessie. 321 Private Club for men presents their XXXmas Party from 9pm to midnight. There will be a members sponsored open bar and refreshments. For more info go to: 321slammer.com u HOT STUFF HOT Stuff Congratulations to: Michael and Mauricio Herrera who recently tied the knot. Congrats and here's wishing you a lifetime of happiness!

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contact Scott Holland at 954-478-4587.

standalone version (3D Blu-ray player and TV not required for playback in 2D); Each box contains one of the actual lenticular concert tickets for the July 24, 2009 performance of This Is It at the O2 arena, mounted in acrylic ticket holder; All contained in a collectible limited-edition numbered custom box with a built-in sound-responsive LED light panel on the front cover.

This box set is limited to only 1000 copies, and the cost is $480 at Shopmichaeljackson.com.

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Alegría Returns

Cirque Du Soleil Updates Iconic Show By: Scott Holland A production destined to change the history of the company, Cirque du Soleil irst presented Alegrıá in April 1994, launching an emblematic show that was to win over more than 14 million spectators in 255 cities in 19 years of touring through the end of 2013. The show’s theme song, which was nominated for a Grammy Award in 1995 and continues to be a fan favorite, is the most listened-to Cirque du Soleil song on YouTube. In light of its 25th anniversary, Cirque du Soleil is revisiting its legendary Alegrıá through today’s lens―including new costumes and set design, a renewed acrobatic

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vocabulary, and new musical arrangements ―to ensure it is as inspiring now as it was at the time of its creation in 1994. With its signature songs, stunning acrobatics, memorable characters and enchanting artistry that have helped de ine the Cirque du Soleil aesthetic, Alegrıá is the reincarnation of a classic, reinterpreted for the age, and rekindled to inspire fans―old and new alike. Beloved by fans around the world, Alegrıá (‘joy’ in Spanish) is returning to the Big Top once more to share its timeless story of resilience and hope. The classic power struggle of old-meets-new has been

reinterpreted through today’s lens. Carried by an intangible wind of change, an emerging movement strives to shake the established order, instilling hope and renewal to bring light and harmony to their kingdom in decay. With its joyful spirit, Alegrıá is a vital, energizing force driven by a thirst for a brighter world. It was a pleasure to sit down with one of the principle players of Alegria, Vincent Lavoie, who is also a member of the LGBTQ community, just a couple weeks before Alegria comes to South Florida Under the Big Top, next to Hard Rock Stadium from December 13, through February 17.

At what age did you start doing any kind of gymnastics? I started at around 8 years old. I joined a summer camp for tumbling, and really liked the sport and continued on.

When did you start taking it seriously? I was around 10 when I moved to a more advanced group and we started doing competition and I fell in love with the whole gymnastics thing.

Where have you competed? I have competed a bit all over the globe. My irst international competition was Russia, but I have been to Germany, England, France, Mexico, Bulgaria and all over the US.

When did you realize gymnastics can be your career? I wanted to join the circus since the age of 11 when I saw the DVD of Alegria, and I fell in love with the show and the Power track number. It was at that point I told my dad that I wanted to join Cirque, and that would be my career.

Vincent Lavoie How did you get hired by Cirque Du Soleil? The scouts form the company come to the major events, and I started talking with them. After speaking to them I came home and worked on my demo videos and uploaded them to their website. The rest is history!

You perfromed in La Nouba in Orlando. How long were you there and how was that experience? I was there for 3 years and it was my irst Cirque show. I was excited to be living the dream. It was good to have my irst experience in a residential show, and have a normal life. Do you have a boyfriend? If yes, how does it work traveling if no, what are you looking for in a man? No, I do not have a boyfriend. I am looking for someone who understands the klind of life that I am living right now and that doesnt have a problem with me putting career in front of some relationship aspects. Also, someone who can make me laugh is always a big win. Are you excited to be a part of the updated Alegria?

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get to dive into the world of Alegria. For mroe information on Vincent, you can follow him : Instagram.com/v_l avoie.

I am very excited to be apart of the show that made me fall in love with Cirque. To be a part of this and to revamp it is a dream come true. I feel very priviledged.

Why should our readers come see Alegria? If you have seen the original you can expect the same feeling with an updated lare. If they are new to Alegria, this is a great show, one of the best that Cirque has ever done. They will

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Tickets for Alegria, Under the Big Top, next to Hard Rock Stadium, start at only $42, and are available online at Cirquedusoleil.com /alegria. Think about joining Cirque Club where membership is free and bene its include access to advance tickets, special oďŹ&#x20AC;ers and exclusive behind-the-scenes information. To join, visit Cirqueclub.com.

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Michael Goodman

Founder of Goodman Public Relations, Named Chair of the Florida Theatrical Association Michael Goodman, founder and owner of of GPR | Goodman Public Relations has been elected as the chair of the Florida Theatrical Association. This non-pro it presenter of Broadway in Orlando, Miami and Fort Lauderdale has donated nearly $2 million in scholarships and grants to arts organizations throughout the state of Florida during its 30year history. “We are thrilled to appoint Michael Goodman, a veteran performing arts advocate and community leader, as our chair for the next three years,” said Larry Watchorn, executive director of the Florida Theatrical Association. “Michael's incredible repertoire of raising awareness for nonpro it organizations, promoting quality programming and fostering outreach programs is commendable. We look forward to his vision and contributions.” For more than 25 years, Michael Goodman has been supporting the arts in South Florida. He is currently a dedicated board

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member of Slow Burn Theatre Company and Art & Culture Center Hollywood. He is the current Board Chair of Neighbors 4 Neighbors. His past Board commitments have been on behalf of ArtServe, the City of Wilton Manors, City of Oakland Park, GLBX Council/Greater Fort Lauderdale Chamber of Commerce, Arc Broward, Gilda's Club and Junior Achievement. He is the recipient of numerous honors such as the 2014 Arts Leader of the Year from Art & Culture Center Hollywood, 2013 Leadership Broward Foundation “Pro iles in Leadership” Award, 2007 Encore Award from ArtServe and others from South Florida Business Journal, IABC and more. Through his irm, GPR | Goodman Public Relations, Goodman promotes a variety of initiatives for nonpro it organizations including History Fort Lauderdale, Fort Lauderdale Gay Men's Chorus, Harvey Milk Foundation, The Pride Center at Equality Park, Funding Arts Broward and Heart Gallery of Broward County.

deep inside HOLLYWOOD By Romeo San Vicente

Kate McKinnon hunts down Joe Exotic

Kate McKinnon is working on another project based on a podcast. The Emmy Awardwinning SNL star is already in production on The Dropout, based on ABC News/ABC Radio's podcast about Theranos fraud Elizabeth Holmes (a no-brainer, really, since they look quite alike and McKinnon is a master at tackling the slightly “off” comedy of bizarrely delusional people). And now she's joined production company UCP – who've already turned the podcasts Homecoming, Dirty John, and Dr. Death into TV projects – for Joe Exotic, based on the Wondery network's podcast called Over My Dead Body. McKinnon will executive

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produce and star in this true story as Carole Baskin, a big cat enthusiast, who discovers that a man named Joe “Exotic” Schreibvogel is breeding his own big cats for profit. She tries to shut him down, a rivalry develops, and the two engage in a battle that turns, well, you can listen to the podcast yourself, but it's a doozy. No word on when this limited series will air, or where, but keep your cat eyes open for it down the road.

Teen romance The Thing About Harry coming for Valentine's Day

Peter Paige, the Queer As Folk star-turned-production-

mogul who created, wrote and produced shows like The Fosters and Good Trouble, has a new queer directing gig on the horizon. It's called The Thing About Harry a romantic comedy for the Freeform network. Starring Jake Borelli (Grey's Anatomy) as a young man taking the yearning romantic's path through life after coming out in high school, and newcomer Niko Terho as the no-strings player who complicates the lives of yearning romantic types, it's a straightforward tale of young love and commitment that networks like Hallmark still refuse to touch (and let's not call it heteronormative for now, let's just call it sweetly traditional). The film co-stars Britt Baron (Glow) and Karamo Brown (Queer Eye) as friends, as well as Paige as an older mentor. It all sounds like the Love, Simon-ing of gay boy romances, and we are here for it. There's still an absolute dearth of those, so we're more than ready to watch come Valentine's Day, 2020, when it drops.

BORELLI Romeo San Vicente starts buying Valentine's Day candy for himself on December 26.

Noel Leon, Miss Florida F.I. At Large 2019

Miss Florida F.I. Pageant Inc Presents: Miss Florida F.I. at Large; Miss Florida F.I. Supreme and Mr. Florida M.E. The Social Event of the Season is upon us. Next Monday, December 9th at 8pm, Executive Producer Alyson Thomas, along with Gary Santis and Scott Holland present the Miss Florida F.I. at Large – Miss Florida F.I. Supreme and Mr. Florida M.E. Pageants.

In the Iconic tradition of this pageant system, the board decided to host the event at The Venue Ft Lauderdale located at 2345 Wilton Drive – Wilton Manors, FL. The backdrop of this beautiful ballroom will transform you into the majesty of Pageant Competition and Entertainment. The reigning Florida F.I. Court Noel Leon at Large, Carlos Rogue M.E. and the legend herself Dana Douglas, Supreme will pass the titles on to the new court while entertaining you throughout the night. Contestants will compete for 3 diﬀerent titles: At Large, ladies over 225 lbs, Male Entertainer, and Supreme, ladies over 45 years of age. Competition begins with evening gowns, sportswear and talent for the ladies, formal wear, swimwear and talent for the guys. All

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Miss Florida Supreme F.I. 2019

Dana Douglas, Miss FLorida F.I. Supreme 2019

contestants will be up close and personal in onstage interview.

Joining us as well will be Kylee Hunter the reigning Miss Florida F.I. who will relinquish her title in the 48th anniversary Miss Florida F.I. Pageant that will be held July 13th, 2020 at The Venue. So be sure to mark your calendars for that historic date. Kylee recently relocated here to South Florida so this is a great opportunity to meet her and get to experience her style, grace, beauty, and enthusiasm.

The Miss Florida F.I. at Large pageant celebrates the 30th anniversary of Joey Brooks Miss Florida F.I. at Large 1989. This system in its entirety recognizes the female impersonators who historically created and set the path for female impersonation today. The formers in the system makes up some of the most well known, respected and talented true â&#x20AC;&#x153;legendsâ&#x20AC;? in the industry. We also pay tribute to two former Miss Florida F.I. at Large favorites who passed on this year, Miami's own Lola Lush and the grand ole gal of the south, Orlando legend from Kentucky, Carmella Marcella Garcia. Both of these ladies played an integral role in this pageant, many other nationally recognized pageants and in our entertainment communities. We acknowledge the impacts they made to our LGBTQ vision for gender equality, acceptance and importance. Tickets are available from $25-$60 on their website Miss lorida ipageant.com and at the door pageant night. To avoid the lines and get the table you desire act now and reserve your seats.

Carlos Roque, Mr. Florida M.E. 2019

For further information and or contestant packets please contact Scott Holland at 954-478-4587. Valet Parking is available for only $10, and there is plenty of metered parking. Avoid disappointment, book now and make plans to attend. Kylee Hunter, Miss Florida F.I. 2019

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Carol Moran is no stranger to Wilton Drive. As the former owner of New Moon Nightclub, Thirteen Restaurant and 13Even, the Florida native sold everything and moved with her wife, Nancy, to the Big Apple a few of years ago. The ladies settled into apartment 9F in a building situated in the Washington Heights neighborhood. While in NYC, Carol worked curating the beverage program for a multimillion dollar restaurant

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group, but increasingly began to miss her life in Broward County. Fast forward to now… Carol and Nancy are back and have recreated that little Washington Heights apartment right here on Wilton Drive in an intimate space formally used by The Naked Grape. The result is Apt. 9F Drinking Den and Social Eatery. Crossing the threshold, this shotgun storefront’s ambiance took me back to rent controlled New

York City in the 90’s. Warm colors, unique art and comfy throw pillows added to that “Friends” apartment feel we all loved during that era. There is a huge bar to the left and the “Living Room” to the right, outfitted with comfy couches, leather armchairs and industrial coffee tables. Located directly behind the bar a is a six by six foot open kitchen, where you can find Carol busily turning out small plates of delectable

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food all by herself while chatting across the counter to customers. Next to the kitchen is a long table with stools which gives a nod to that eat in kitchen, big city lofty vibe. The menu is small but the process of rolling out new items is still in motion. In fact, Miami drag diva, Athen Dion and I played guinea pigs, trying out a

couple versions of a Steak Crostini and a smokey tequila based martini Carol was experimenting with that evening. Both were superb and will probably be added to the next menu printing. Apt. 9F started welcoming people into their “home” just a couple months ago and is offering what Carol is calling the “Housewarming Menu.” The tapas menu is small currently but there is a little bit of everything to try. A selection of cheese and meats are waiting for you to Build Your Own Charcuterie Plate, augmented with bread and preserves on the side. Jalapeno Corn Muffins, Baked Goat Cheese and the Burrata and Prosciutto Plate all were tempting but we dove right into the bitesized Turkey Meatballs with house-made salsa verde. The Mini Lobster Roll served on delicious,

gourmet bread with a side of crunchy, retro Potato Stix were a hit with both me and Athena. Our favorite of the evening was definitely the pork Belly Tacos. Tender, crispy pork belly topped with mounds of fresh tropical fruit salsa capped off our little feast. This is a “Drinking Den” after all so Carol has put just as much concentration on the cocktails as she has on the food. Apt. 9F squeezes their own fresh juices daily and whips up their own preserves, syrups and bitters. While they have a full bar, be sure to sample the handcrafted specialty drinks Carol has created with top shelf liquors. The Bourbon Berry Lemonade was terrific. Michter’s Kentucky Bourbon, fresh blackberry, lemon juice and simple syrup…refreshing with just a little kick. Also offered at reasonable prices are a gin drink with blueberry preserves, lemon and soda called the Gin to Sin, the Lillet Paloma with Milagro Tequila, grapefruit juice and agave. There are about a half dozen others to choose from. Carol is a self described “wine snob” so rest assured the wine list is topnotch. All vino is available by the bottle or the glass. Craft beer is on tap and served from the bottle too. If these initial offering are just a preview of what’s to come…Apt. 9F will be a HUGE success. Bravo, Carol! Apt. 9F is located at 2163 Wilton Drive near the Stonewall National Museum and Archives in Wilton Manors and is open seven days a week from 4pm until midnight. Reservations are not required but you can reach them at 954-8801191 with additional questions.

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Things That Make You Go

Hmmm…

By Troy Maillis

A Year Without Sex Proves a Point

A gay man recently abstained from sex for a year just so he could donate blood, hypothetically the first such donation in decades. Since 1983, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has banned blood donations from men who have sex with men for fear of HIV transmission. That rule was replaced in 2015 with another that still discriminates against gay men by requiring them to go a full year

without any sexual contact before being eligible to donate blood. Zack Ford, LGBT editor at ThinkProgress.org, reports Jay Franzone, an openly gay man, was able to donate blood legally week when he went without sex for a year just to do a good deed – and prove the absurdity of the rule. “I [could not] even receive oral sex over the course of one year but my best friend can sleep with eight different women in a week and go donate blood, no problems — without any protection.” Source: ThinkProgress.org

Mommy Dearest

Guy Sadak Shoham, 33, and Chai Aviv Shoham, 38, two gay fathers in Israel, were told by a government official that one of them would need to declare himself their twins’ “mother” to enroll them in daycare. “I understand that you are both fathers and understand that you both run a shared household, but there is always the one who is more dominant, who is more the mother,” the government official told them. “I am just asking for a written statement in your hand which of you is the mother. From the 48 | Hotspots.LGBT

London HIV Rates Are Falling Down Four London, England sexual health clinics have reported seeing 40% fewer HIV infections in 2019 over the previous year. The finding coincides with gay men’s ability to purchase pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) medication online. PrEP greatly reduces the chance of contracting HIV. However, researchers were reluctant to credit the lower HIV infection rate to online PrEP. Source: World Health Organization

point of view of the work, which works less than the father. Like a normal couple.” “It is mostly sad and a little disturbing,” the couple told Israeli new site Ynet. “These are concepts that we consider the past. It is also sad that the state’s definition of a mother is someone who works less and is at home with the children, and that we must choose which of us meets that

definition.” Since this story became international news, the Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs has issued an apology and said they “would update their procedures and policies with their call center employees.” Source: Out.com

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DJ Miik Celebrates 25th Anniversary Of Keeping Us Dancing I

met my Miik Martorell (DJ Miik) in 1998 when I was managing the Club Omni, and I hired him to spin on Thursdays. Shortly thereafter, a friendship developed that has now lasted over 20 years. Therefore, it was my pleasure to sit down with Miik to talk about his career and life just a couple weeks before he would be celebrating his 25th anniversary of DJing.

Who was the irst DJ you ever heard spin? I remember hearing DJs at Uncle Charlies in Miami back in the early 90's, but I never knew their names. In 1992, Ralph Falcon, a friend who I was in college with at the time, played a gig at the Cameo Theater in Miami Beach. I remember standing up in the DJ booth while he played â&#x20AC;&#x153;Homelessâ&#x20AC;? by Crystal Water. That song just stuck in my head and I realized how much I enjoyed house music. Ralph and Oscar G are the production team MURK that have made some amazing music and still inspire me today.

When did you realize you wanted to be a DJ? Since I was a kid, I've always loved music and dreamed on working in radio. I'd make many mix tapes announcing the songs and basically playing DJ at home. In 1990, I worked in retail music promotions and later became and on-air personality at WKLG, a country radio station in the Keys. I went to radio production school in Miami Lakes and while I enjoyed radio, realized it didn't pay that well. While I was working as a manager with Best Buy, in 1994, I started to gravitate to all the amazing dance music that crossed over to radio. I noticed that we weren't carrying these in the store so I did some research on what

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By Scott Holland

was hot in the clubs and contacted the Hitz Records pool in Miami Beach. Record pools oďŹ&#x20AC;ered DJs a place to get new music that the labels wanted to promote. Hats where I met DJ Bugie, who ran the pool and was such an inspiration to me. Still, to this day, he is my best friend and I am truly fortunate to have him in my life. Watching Bugie spin at Twist was what made me realize that DJing is what I want to do.

What was the irst place you ever DJ'd? My irst few DJ gigs were parties for friends, but my irst consistent nightclub gig was in 1994 on South Beach at ReBar and the Comedy Zone. It was there that I met DJ Buddah who had worked with the 2 Live Crew. I loved his style of blending hip hop, rap and house and the way he always kept the energy up in the club.

thumb hit the back of the tone arm on the record player making the needle skip along the What was your irst residency, and how did record. Looking back, it was actually kind of that feel? funny, but not at the time. I knew that failure While ReBar and Comedy Zone was my irst was not an option so I pulled it together and residency, it wasn't until I started working in somehow got the gig. In 1998, Gary Santis, who gay clubs that I realized that this was something was managing the Saint oďŹ&#x20AC;ered me the chance I wanted to do long term. My irst residency in a of a lifetime to work there. He then took me gay club was Copa in 1997. Thanks to DJ Paulie with him to Coliseum, where I was a resident DJ and Gregg Bernard, I got the chance to audition. every Friday from the day they opened to the Things didn't really go to well though, in the day they closed. Years later he brought me to beginning of my audition which was while the Manor, where I still spin. In addition to these club was open, my nerves got to me and my residency's, I have spun at dozens of other clubs here in Florida and around the world. Who are your mentors in the DJ and music world?

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DJ Bugie was and continues to be someone I look up to and love. For all these years he has put up with me and at times my crazy. Over the years, I have been fortunate to meet some amazing DJs who I truly appreciate for not only their body of work but their style. DJ Deanne, DJ Abel, Ralphi Rosario, Chris Cox, Tracy Young, Tony Moran, DJ T-Pro, DJ JPS, DJ GQ and DJ Sushiman are all people I dearly love and admire. Since becoming a Billboard Magazine Music Reporting DJ, I have had the great fortune to meet some amazing and legendary music promoters like Bobby Shaw, Brad LeBeau, Orlando Puerta & Frank Cerallo who together have played a huge part in just about every dance song you've here heard. Getting to know them over the years has been such an honor and a blessing.

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Over the next hour, I pulled out every song that I could think of, and inally got the crowd back on my dance loor. I remember Gary coming up to me and saying "Gurl, you're on ire!" I don't think I'll ever forget that day.

Other than DJing, what do you like to do for fun? Work! I love working but I have found that volunteering has been so rewarding. I've been volunteering with Pride Fort Lauderdale for the last 6 years and became president of the organization about 4 years ago. Over the last almost 4 years, I have volunteered at 68 Pride festivals all over the world from New York to Argentina where I have learned so much about our LGBT community and the wonderful people who organize these Pride festivals and events. Meeting these people, and being there to help and show support and solidarity has been the most important thing I've ever done in my entire life. Describe yourself in 3 words? Caring, Crazy, Genuine.

What separates you from other DJs? Nothing. It's not a competition for me. But I will say that unlike some, I do take requests. LOL!

What are some memorable moments from the DJ booth? One year I was working the Black Fort Lauderdale Party for Gary Santis at Voodoo Lounge and Revolution Live. I was playing the outside area going on right after Tony Moran. The plan was to open the inside of Revolution Live right after I went on, where Manny Lehman would DJ. The outside was packed with what looked like 2000 people and Gary came up to me and said, make sure you play something high energy. I had this great updated house remix of It's Raining Men from the Weather Girls so I started my set with it. Not less than a minute into the song when the thunder came in, the heavens opened up and the there was a torrential down pour. Of course, everyone ran inside to escape the rain and now it was my job to bring them back.

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What does the future hold for you? Hopefully many more years DJing her in South Florida and beyond. I also have to thank Gary Santis for trusting and believing in me, and giving me the guidance I needed to grow. Without Gary, I wouldn't be here today!

Are you excited about your 25th Anniversary and what can our readers expect from your set that night? I've been looking forward to this night for a while. I'll be bringing back some of the classic songs that everyone knows and loves. Think of the songs you would hear on Fridays at the Coliseum and that style is what you can expect. If you want to celebrate DJ Miik's 25th anniversary of DJing, Bubble Gun Fridays at the Manor Nightclub will be having a Coliseum Reunion/DJ Miik's 25th Anniversary extravaganza on Friday, December 6. For more information on DJ Miik go to Facebook.com/DJMiik

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CIRQUE DU SOLEIL – ALEGRÍA Cirque first presented Alegría in April 1994, launching an emblematic show that was to win over more than 14 million spectators in 255 cities in 19 years of touring through the end of 2013. In light of its 25th anniversary, Cirque is revisiting its legendary Alegría through today’s lens— including new costumes and set design, a renewed acrobatic vocabulary, and new musical arrangements —to ensure it is as inspiring now as it was at the time of its creation in 1994.December 13, through February 17; Under the Big Top, next to Hard Rock Stadium (347 Don Shula Dr, Miami Gardens,); Tix: start at $42; Cirquedusoleil.com/alegria. ICON - TONY BENNETT Nineteen time Grammy Award-winning musician Tony Bennett brings his “I Left My Heart Tour” with special guest Antonia Bennett. Having just turned 93, Bennett is not slowing down and his latest recording, with long-time friend and musical colleague, Diana Krall, “Love is Here to Stay” topped the jazz charts upon its debut and was nominated for a Grammy. The album celebrates the music of the Gershwins and includes the jazz standard, “Fascinating Rhythm,” which Bennett and Krall perform as a duet. Sun, December 8; 7pm; Hard Rock Live at the Seminole Hard Rock and Casino Hollywood (1 Seminole Way Hollywood); Tix: $71 to $131; Seminolehardrockhollywood.com MISS FLORIDA PAGEANTRY – AT LARGE, MISTER & SUPREME The Social Event of the Season is upon us as Executive Producer Alyson Thomas, along with Gary Santis and Scott Holland present the Miss Florida F.I. at Large – Miss Florida F.I. Supreme and Mr. Florida M.E. Pageants. The reigning Florida F.I. Court Noel Leon at Large, Carlos Rogue M.E. and the legend herself Dana Douglas, Supreme will pass the titles on to the new court while entertaining you throughout the night. Competition begins with evening gowns, sportswear and talent for the ladies, formal wear, swimwear and talent for the guys. In addition, Kylee Hunter, the reigning Miss Florida F.I. will be entertaining. Mon, December 9; 8pm SHARP (Doors Open at 7pm); The Venue (2345 Wilton Drive – Wilton Manors); Tix: $25 to $60; Missfloridafipageant.com. THEATER - A CHRISTMAS STORY, THE MUSICAL Slow Burn Theatre Co. presents from the songwriting team behind the smash-hit Tony Award-winning musical Dear Evan Hansen and the Academy Award-winning film La La Land, brings this classic 1983 movie to hilarious life on stage! Following a successful Broadway run garnering three 2013 Tony Award nominations including Best Musical, Best Book Of A Musical, and Best Original Score. December 13-29; Broward Center for the Performing Arts (201 SW Fifth Avenue, Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $49-$65; BrowardCenter.org SINGER - CHRISTMAS WITH OSCAR D’LEON Celebrate the holidays with this Latin music icon. His most famous song is perhaps “Llorarás,” which he recorded in 1975 with his group La Dimensión Latina. In Spanish, he is known as El Diablo de la Salsa (“The Devil of Salsa”), El Sonero del Mundo (“the Son Singer of the World”) and el Faraón de la salsa (“the pharaoh of salsa”). Opening act Peruvian singer Yajaira Plasencia. Sat, December 14; 8pm; Broward Center for the Performing Arts (201 SW Fifth Avenue, Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $38-$119; BrowardCenter.org

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DANCE - GEORGE BALANCHINE’S THE NUTCRACKER Miami City Ballet’s holiday spectacle transports you to a dazzling winter wonderland in the new production of George Balanchine’s The Nutcracker. Step into this magical world of toy soldiers, colorful characters and the enchanting “Dance of the Sugarplum Fairy,” set to the music of Tchaikovsky performed by a live orchestra. Create unforgettable memories with friends and family – make it your cherished holiday tradition! Friday, December 13 - Sunday, December 22; Arsht Center for the Performing Arts (1300 Biscayne Blvd, Miami); Tix: Start at $30; ArshtCenter.org. WINTERFEST – BOAT PARADE The Seminole Hardrock Hotel and casino presents the 48th Annual Holiday Parade- “Lights, Camera, Action – Movies on Parade.” The parade takes approximately 2 and 1/2 hours to view from one location. Private boats to the giant showboats and corporate mega yachts will be adorned with hundreds of thousands of lights, music, entertainment, decorations, celebrities, musical groups, beauty queens and many other exciting entries. Sat, December 14; 6:30pm; Stranahan House traveling East along the New River in Fort Lauderdale to the Intracoastal Waterway as it continues North to Lake Santa Barbara in Pompano Beach. SMOKEY ROBINSON - WITH COMEDIAN WIL SHRINER “Smokey” started his career as the founder and front man of the American rhythm and blues vocal group The Miracles. Early on in his career, he was involved in the conceptualization of Motown Records and eventually became the Vice President of the label. His iconic hits include “Shop Around,” “You’ve Really Got a Hold on Me,” “I Second That Emotion” and the number-one pop hit “The Tears of a Clown.” Robinson has continued to be a pioneer in the industry, receiving a Grammy Award, National Medal of Arts Award, Rock and Roll Hall of Fame induction and receiving two stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Sat, December 14, 7pm Magic City Casino (450 NW 37th Avenue, Miami); Tix: 25-$125: Magiccitycasino.com. MUSICAL - THE PLAY THAT GOES WRONG Welcome to opening night of the Cornley Polytechnic Drama Society’s newest production, The Murder at Haversham Manor. This 1920s whodunit has everything you never wanted in a Broadway show — a ramshackle set, a leading lady with a concussion, and a corpse that can’t play dead. It’s a classic murder mystery… and it’s a mystery how it ever got to Broadway! December 10 through 15; Kravis Center for the Performing Arts (701 Okeechobee Blvd, West Palm Beach) Tix: start at $36; Kravis.org.

COMEDIAN - DAMON WAYANS: “IT’S PERSONAL” TOUR Known throughout the world for no-holds-barred comedic genius, Damon Wayans wrapped five seasons of the hit ABC series, My Wife and Kids in 2005, which he co-created and executive produced. Currently in syndication worldwide, the series received numerous awards, including the 2002 People’s Choice for Favorite New Television Series, and Favorite Male Performer in a New Television Series. Daman and his brothers came to national attention for “In Living Color.” Thurs, December 12 through Sun, December 15; Miami Improv (3450 NW 83 Avenue, Suite 224); Tix: $40 and $50; MiammiImprov.com

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Happy Holidays!

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By Bill Malcolm

Your Paris Winter Getaway

inter is the perfect time to visit Paris. The crowds are gone, and the weather is not as cold as many U.S. cities. However, since you will be spending a lot of time in museums, it does not matter anyways. Plus, Paris has a great gay scene and a gayborhood (The Marais).

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Eiffel Tower GETTING THERE I snagged a great low fare on Delta Airlines. The service was exceptionalâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;and everything was free. Free hot dinner and breakfast, free headsets, free blankets and pillows, free eyeshades, and more. Once in Paris, hop on the commuter rail to town, the RER-B then take the Metro to get to

your hotel from the Gare du Nord Station. your hotel from the Gare du Nord Station.

WHERE TO TO STAY STAY I stayed at The Moxy, a new Marriott brand I stayed at The Moxy, a new Marriott brand geared for millennials. The rate was very geared for millennials. The rate was very reasonable (it varied by day with one day at just reasonable (it varied by day with one day at just 93 Euros or around $110). It is located near the 93 Euros or around $110). It is located near the Marais in the Bastille District and near no less Marais in the Bastille District and near no less than 3 Metro stations. You can walk to than 3 Metro stations. You can walk to many of the major attractions or hop on many of the major attractions or hop on the subway. Two nearby stores the subway. Two nearby stores (Franprix) have everything you need (Franprix) have everything you need including salad bars, hot sandwiches, including salad bars, hot sandwiches, and a great selection of wine. and a great selection of wine. NIGHTLIFE NIGHTLIFE The bars are mostly in the Marias. The bars are mostly in the Marias. Bears will of course like the Bears' Den. Bears will of course like the Bears' Den. The Open Café serves food and is a lot The Open Café serves food and is a lot of fun. Sly Bar has a great happy hour of fun. Sly Bar has a great happy hour and karaoke on Mondays and Tuesdays. and karaoke on Mondays and Tuesdays. The Raidd bar has a shower show. You The Raidd bar has a shower show. You can dance the night away at Le Depot. can dance the night away at Le Depot.

WHAT WHAT TO TODO DO The first day I walked around the The first day I walked around the historic Marais District. Like many historic Marais District. Like many gayborhoods, it has been gentrified and gayborhoods, it has been gentrified and is now full of high-end stores as well. is now full of high-end stores as well. The second day I visit the Eiffel The second day I visit the Eiffel Tower, the Arc de Triomphe, walked Tower, the Arc de Triomphe, walked along the Seine River, and explored the along the Seine River, and explored the shops of the Champs-Elysees. shops of the Champs-Elysees. Afterwards I visited the new Leonardo Afterwards I visited the new Leonardo

da Vinci exhibit at exhibit at The Louvre. The third day I third day I The TheLouvre Louvre explored the Natural the Natural History Museums, the zoo (Le Zoo du Jardin des History Museums, the zoo (Le Zoo du Jardin des

Marais MaraisDistrict District Plantes), the Indoor Tropical Gardens, the Plantes), the Indoor Tropical Gardens, the Botanical Gardens, and then walked back to Botanical Gardens, and then walked back to the hotel. There is also a farmer's market on the hotel. There is also a farmer's market on Sundays in the Bastille District where you Sundays in the Bastille District where you can find local delicacies including pig's feet, can find local delicacies including pig's feet, French cheeses, Paella, and every kind of French cheeses, Paella, and every kind of pastry and bread you could want. pastry and bread you could want. I liked the new Liberation Museum I liked the new Liberation Museum (Musee de la Liberation de Paris) which (Musee de la Liberation de Paris) which chronicles the German occupation of France. chronicles the German occupation of France. Day four I went to visit Montmartre and Day four I went to visit Montmartre and the Sacred Heart Cathedral, which has great the Sacred Heart Cathedral, which has great views of Paris. Be sure and visit the views of Paris. Be sure and visit the Montmartre Museum as well and the Montmartre Museum as well and the associated Renoir Gardens. associated Renoir Gardens. WHERE WHERETO TOEAT EAT Grab coffee at Alma Coffee. Don't ask for Grab coffee at Alma Coffee. Don't ask for milk or cream in your coffee. The French milk or cream in your coffee. The French don't use it (although they eat a lot of don't use it (although they eat a lot of cheese). cheese). Ma Bourgogne has great steak and fries Ma Bourgogne has great steak and fries (in the Morais). (in the Morais). TRAVEL TRAVELTIPS TIPS · Your ATM card works at French banks · Your ATM card works at French banks and they don't charge a withdrawal fee. and they don't charge a withdrawal fee. · Many of the museums are free the first · Many of the museums are free the first

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Liberation Museum Sunday of the month in the winter. · Paris is many hours ahead so the jet lag is a hassle. Try to check into your hotel early but wait until 3 to take a nap. Once home stay up late to readjust. · The Euro is The Fresh Basil Cafe worth slightly more than the U.S. dollar. · Tips are included at restaurants. · Buy a 10 ticket pack of Metro tickets and save. · Turn off your phone and put it in Airplane mode. Shut off all data for all your apps too. Otherwise you will face roaming charges from

French carriers which can be quite high. Most places have free Cathédrale Notre-Dame de Paris internet so you can stay connected that way. ·Most locals speak some English but if you can, try to start the conversation in French. For more information and travel ideas Paris has a number of LGBTQ publications all of which have city gay guides. Qweek has a lot of ideas especially for nightlife (Qweek.fr) along with maps of the neighborhoods. Strobo Magazine has a great map of Alma Coffee the nightlife (strobomag.com). Tribu is another great publication also with a map. ParisInfo.com has travel tips as well and you can visit them at the Hotel de Ville (City Hall) in the Marias.

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trike up the band and start the parade, ladies and gentlemen and those who identify somewhere in between or beyond. Chick-fil-A has gone gay! We've done it. At long last, we've broken the anti-LGBTQ spirit and will of Chick-filA's philanthropic arm. From here on out Chick-filA will only be donating to Homosexual Agenda, a 501(c)(3) that seeks to make everybody both transgender and/or lesbian, gay, bi or pansexual. In addition, HA will ensure that the only political figure children learn about is Harvey Milk, though the idea Abraham Lincoln was gay will be included in the curriculum. Wait a minute, I'm being told that I may have my facts mixed up. It appears that there the so-called “homosexual agenda” is just a general desire to be recognized and treated as equal and worthy human beings and not a 501(c)(3) organization. Ooof, that's going to hurt me at tax time. Oh, and Chick-fil-A hasn't gone gay after all. You can forgive me for thinking that Chickfil-A had done something very drastic when it came to their charitable giving. I'm old enough to remember when Chick-fil-A gave money to anti-LGBTQ organizations like the odious Family Research Council. Progressives were angered while anti-gay conservatives literally lined up around the block to show their antiLGBTQ solidarity by buying and eating chicken sandwiches with two pickles on a toasted butter bun. I'm also old enough to remember that Chick-fil-A stopped giving money to groups like FRC. That was in 2012.

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OF THE WEEK BY D'ANNE WITKOWSKI

Well lo and behold, Chick-fil-A has still been giving money to the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and the Salvation Army, two groups that are against marriage equality and have been accused of discriminating against LGBTQ people in hiring. And so Chick-fil-A received criticism from LGBTQ people and allies. And now Chick-filA has announced that it isn't going to give money to either group anymore. Coincidence? Honestly, maybe? I mean, it's possible that Chick-fil-A has been watching a lot of "Queer Eye" and has had a change of heart. But it's also possible that they just decided to put their money and focus somewhere else? Regardless, people on the right are freaking out. Rod Dreher, an editor at The American Conservative, is one of them. He wrote a piece titled “Chick-fil-A Surrenders To LGBT Bullies” on The American Conservative website which begins with, “This is a sad day. Even though Chick-fil-A is hugely profitable, it still capitulated to progressive bullies.” Dreher is, of course, entitled to his feelings so if he wants to feel sad then I won't try to diminish that. But I have a problem with the insinuation that a “hugely profitable” company is exempt from public pressure or just basic decency due to its wealth. I also don't appreciate being called a bully simply for insisting on my full humanity and refusing to capitulate to anyone who sees me as less than. I also do not give a pass to being anti-LGBTQ based on religion. So apparently that means Dreher despises me. I've got to give him some credit for not hiding behind that “love the sinner hate the

I've got to give him some credit for not hiding behind that “love the sinner hate the sin” bullshit. He's just flat out, “I hate you.” Cool cool. sin” bullshit. He's just flat out, “I hate you.” Cool cool. “I despise the LGBT bullies, but I'm not letting Chick-fil-A's leadership off the hook,” he writes, calling them “cowards” and accusing them of “gutless surrender.” “And it's a lesson to all of us,” he warns. “The LGBT lobby, and their progressive allies, will never, ever leave you alone. Never.” Never ever ever? True. There is no amount of discrimination and hatred that we will or have to tolerate. “Anyway,” Dreher continues, “shame on you, Chick-fil-A. You had no reason to capitulate. You have successfully resisted the mob for years, and built a booming business in spite of it! But capitulate you did.” I would like to take a moment to remind everyone that Chick-fil-A is a fast-food restaurant, not the American Embassy, not a hospital, not a military base. They sell sandwiches and fries. They don't save lives or

protect this country. I am reminded of the, “Sir, this is an Arby's” punchline used so often on Twitter. A great example is its use by Alexandra Petri (follow her at @petridishes) as a response to a Brett Kavanaugh quote regarding his insane behavior before the Senate. I propose that we use, “This is a Chick-fil-A” in response to the crazy ramblings of folks like Dreher. Dreher: “The homosexuals are taking over and ruining our freedom and will never, ever leave me alone!” Employee: “Sir, this is a Chick-fil-A. And you need to leave.” D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.

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HOT BODIES by Tom Bonanti

Exercise Away Those Holiday Blues!

early all of us struggle with the “blues” from time to time, but for some people these moods continue for weeks, months or even years. This condition which affects how people feel about themselves – the way they see and function in the world around them is called depression. Believe it or not, the holidays with all their media hype, increased expectations and sometimes monumental disappointments can cause more people to spiral into serious depression than at any other time of the year. There are basically two types of

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depression. Major depression has a combination of symptoms that interfere with your abilities to work, sleep, eat, and enjoy pleasurable activities. Episodes of major depression may occur once, but more commonly they reoccur several times in a lifetime. Dysthymia, a milder form of depression, involves long- term chronic symptoms that, although not disabling, keep a person from feeling good or functioning well. This type of person is more prone to suffer from major depression later than any other. Depression is found in people of all ages. Genetics can play a part, although depression can occur in those with no family history of the

illness. Serious medical illnesses such illness. Serious medical illnesses such as stroke, cancer, and hormonal as stroke, cancer, and hormonal disorders can trigger depression. disorders can trigger depression. Others prone to the illness include Others prone to the illness include people who are overwhelmed by people who are overwhelmed by stress as well as those going through a stress as well as those going through a traumatic event such as the death of a traumatic event such as the death of a loved one, the breakup of a loved one, the breakup of a relationship, or the loss of a job. relationship, or the loss of a job. Symptoms of depression include Symptoms of depression include feelings of sadness, hopelessness, feelings of sadness, hopelessness, helplessness and guilt. Often there is a helplessness and guilt. Often there is a loss of interest in pleasurable loss of interest in pleasurable activities such as having sex, enjoying activities such as having sex, enjoying a favorite sport or socializing with a favorite sport or socializing with friends. Decreased energy and fatigue friends. Decreased energy and fatigue can make even routine activities a can make even routine activities a chore. Depressed people also report chore. Depressed people also report difficulty concentrating, frequent difficulty concentrating, frequent insomnia or over sleeping. Thoughts insomnia or over sleeping. Thoughts of suicide and suicide attempts are not of suicide and suicide attempts are not uncommon. During the holidays many uncommon. During the holidays many of these feelings worsen as the person of these feelings worsen as the person experiences the world noisily experiences the world noisily celebrating as he or she feels alienated celebrating as he or she feels alienated and worthless. and worthless. If you have symptoms of depression that last If you have symptoms of depression that last more than several days, get a physical exam. If more than several days, get a physical exam. If your doctor finds no physical cause, then have your doctor finds no physical cause, then have

him refer you to a qualified mental health him refer you to a qualified mental health professional who can lead you through a professional who can lead you through a psychological evaluation. For many people, psychological evaluation. For many people, a combined treatment plan works best: an a combined treatment plan works best: an anti-depressant for symptom relief and talk anti-depressant for symptom relief and talk therapy to learn better ways to cope with therapy to learn better ways to cope with depression or the causes of depression. depression or the causes of depression.

By far one of the best methods of keeping By far one of the best methods of keeping depression at bay this holiday season and depression at bay this holiday season and forever is through good old- fashioned forever is through good old- fashioned exercise! Both high-intensity exercise (such exercise! Both high-intensity exercise (such as aerobics, dance, swimming, cycling, as aerobics, dance, swimming, cycling, swimming and cardio machines) and lowerswimming and cardio machines) and lowerintensity activities (such as yoga, walking, intensity activities (such as yoga, walking, and stretching classes) have been associated and stretching classes) have been associated with a reduced risk of depression. Adding with a reduced risk of depression. Adding just 4 hours of exercise to your week can just 4 hours of exercise to your week can lower the risk of a new episode of lower the risk of a new episode of depression by 17%, according to a study depression by 17%, according to a study published Nov.5, 2019 in the journal published Nov.5, 2019 in the journal Depression and Anxiety. Depression and Anxiety.

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The Frivolist By Mikey Rox

7 Ways to Go Vegan Without Actually Going 'Vegan'

Want to be more eco-conscious, but draw the line at eliminating animal products from your diet? Here are seven ways to live a semi-vegan lifestyle without going whole hog.

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Make a statement without opening your mouth (don't want that purse to fall out) when you paint on chipresistant, quick-drying, high-shine ella+mila cruelty-free, vegan nail polish available in more than 140 color shades. ellamila.com

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Skincare

There's no shortage of vegan skincare products on the market. It's the category's most abundant non-edible, even though you can technically eat it â&#x20AC;&#x201C; but, ya know, don't. Favorites include Fork & Melon's fine cleansing wash and rich hydrating cream with imported French watermelon oil, and daily eye cream from America's first 100% men's grooming and skincare brand Act of Being with its fancy-schmancy (and totally smooth) roll-on applicator. forkandmelon.com; actofbeing.com

Hygiene

Crystal Mineral deodorant sticks and stones (comprised of only one odor-preventing ingredient â&#x20AC;&#x201C; pure mineral salt) allow you to raise your pits with PRIDE while Sprinjene's vegan, kosher, gluten-free, halal toothpaste leave your chompers beaming with it. thecrystal.com; sprinjene.com.

Backpacks

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Now that we've all ditched single-use plastic straws (you're welcome, turtles) and turned to alternatives, it's time to make this choice: theotherstraw bamboo straws hold up where paper crumbles and is easier on your pearly whites than unforgiving stainless steel. theotherstraw.com.

Wanderlust with a clear conscience when you stack your rations into Fjallraven's Re-Kanken backpack, constructed of vegan polyester made from recycled water bottles and available in a rainbow of colors, or the all-weather Safari backpack from Adventurist Backpack Co. (a lesbianowned business), each sale of which provides 25 meals to families in need across the U.S. fjallraven.com; adventuristbackpacks.com.

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Hiking shoes

Eco-fashion isn't generally associated with on-trend style â&#x20AC;&#x201C; sorry, vegans, its true â&#x20AC;&#x201C; but Boulder, Colorado-based Lems changed that with its selection of vegan hiking shoes, like the Trailhead V2 and Mesa. The shoes' mesh keeps feet aired-out and fresh while their natural foot shape keeps your dogs from barking on a lengthy roundtrip trail. lemsshoes.com.

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Velu's faux fur reversible vegan jackets, particularly the Instagram-worthy Mac Daddy collection, lets you cruise the streets like a beast without killing any to keep you warm. velufur.com.

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyrox 82 | Hotspots.LGBT

DJ Miik Celebrates Art Basel Miami 25th Anniversary Of December 2019 Keeping Us 5-8, Dancing One of the biggest events in Miam i Beach all year is the annual Art Base l Miami Beach, this year taking plac e from Thursday, December 5 through Sun day, December 8. At the nexus of North America and Latin America, Art Basel in Miami Beach presents art works from acro ss the globe. Over 250 of the world’s lead ing galleries participate drawing over 70,000 visitors each year, offering and insp iring and exciting week for artists, colle ctors, curators, critics, and art enthusiasts.

In their American show, leading galle ries from North America, Latin Ame rica, Europe, and Asia show significant work from the masters of Modern and cont emporary art, as well as the new gene ration of emerging stars. Paintings, sculptur es, installations, photographs, films, and editioned works of the highest quality are on display in the main exhibition hall of the Miami Beach Convention Center.

The world’s leading international Modern and contemporary art galleries disp lay artworks by over 4,000 artists, inclu ding paintings, sculptures, installations , photography, film, video, and digital art. Visitors can find works ranging from editioned pieces by young artists to museum-caliber masterpieces.

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Nova - Designed for galleries to present one, two or three artists showing works created within the last three years, the Nova sector features strong juxtapositions and never-before-seen pieces fresh from the artist’s studio. Positions - This sector allows curators, critics, and collectors to discover ambitious new talents from across the globe by providing a platform for a single artist to present one major project.

Edition - Leading publishers of editioned works, prints and multiples exhibit the results of their collaboration with renowned artists, providing visitors with the opportunity to see significant and rare publications.

Meridians -- Curated by Mexico City-based Magali Arriola, Meridians, which is located in the Miami Beach Convention Center’s new Grand Ballroom, will provide galleries with a unique opportunity to present ambitious, monumental works that push the boundaries of a traditional art fair layout, including large-scale sculptures and paintings, installations, video projections, and live performances.

Kabinett - In a separately delineated space within their booths, galleries present a curated exhibition by an artist of their choice. The diverse curatorial concepts for Kabinett include thematic group exhibitions, art historical showcases and solo shows for rising stars.

Survey - presents precise art historical projects. These may include solo presentations by an individual artist, juxtapositions and thematic exhibits from artists representing a range of cultures, generations and artistic approaches.

Magazines - Art publications from around the world display their magazines in single-magazine stands or the collective booth. Editors and publishers often attend the show and many magazines contribute presentations to conversations (their series of lectures and discussions by prominent members of the artworld).

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Conversations - Art Basel hosts a series of conversations on topics concerning the global contemporary art scene. Conversations offers a platform for dynamic dialogues between prominent members of the international artworld, each offering their unique perspective on producing, collecting, and exhibiting art. The series include artist talks, panels, and discussions with a range of speakers including artists, gallerists, curators, collectors, architects, art lawyers, critics, and many other cultural players.

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