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ast Monday, The collaboration with the LGBT Rosie's. Once again this ast Monday, The collaboration with the LGBT Rosie's. Once again this venue was the Visitor Center presented the Visitor Center presented the was a great event that venue was the was a great event that host for the Miss 10th Annual HoliGay host for the Miss 10th Annual HoliGay Florida F.I. at Celebration & Toy Drive for Celebration & Toy Drive for Florida F.I. at Large – Miss Florida F.I. the Miami Beach Police the Miami Beach Police Large – Miss Florida F.I. Supreme and Mr. Florida Department's Children's Department's Children's Supreme and Mr. Florida M.E. Pageants and the Holiday Relief Fund. Holiday Relief Fund. M.E. Pageants and the community came out to Congrats to Steve, Jorge, Congrats to Steve, Jorge, ommunity came out to support! Your new Florida Scott and their entire staff upport! Your new Florida Scott and their entire staff court, who joins Kylee on another successful year. on another successful year. featured performances, featured performances, ourt, who joins Kylee Hunter (Miss Florida) is Also on Thursday, Also on Thursday, Hors D'oeuvres, Hunter (Miss Florida) is Hors D'oeuvres, Genesis Health Institute champagne, and lots of fun champagne, and lots of fun Genesis Health Institute held their annual Holiday all for a good cause. all for a good cause. held their annual Holiday Party. Once again it was a Friday night was the Friday night was the Party. Once again it was a fabulous event that premiere of Cirque Du fabulous event that premiere of Cirque Du Soleil's revamped version of Soleil's revamped version of the iconic Alegrıa ́ under the the iconic Alegrıa ́ under the big top next to Hard Rock big top next to Hard Rock Kimberly Venom (At Stadium.Tis is a must see Kimberly Venom (At Stadium.Tis is a must see Large), Erika Norell show, as I promise you will Large), Erika Norell show, as I promise you will (Supreme) and Raul Vegas thank me. They are in South Supreme) and Raul Vegas thank me. They are in South (Mr.). It was a fantastic Florida until Feb 17 and Mr.). It was a fantastic Florida until Feb 17 and featured food, drinks, tickets start at only $42. night of pageantry, and I featured food, drinks, tickets start at only $42. night of pageantry, and I tours of their beautiful am looking forward to Miss On Sunday, The Pride tours of their beautiful am looking forward to Miss On Sunday, The Pride Florida on Monday, July 13. offices and free raffles for Factory featured the new offices and free raffles for Florida on Monday, July 13. Factory featured the new amazing giveaways. On Thursday, the The amazing giveaways. On Thursday, the The Congrats to Dr. Ferdinand Miami-Dade Gay & Lesbian Congrats to Dr. Ferdinand Miami-Dade Gay & Lesbian Cabrera and his business Cabrera and his business and life partner Dimitri and life partner Dimitri Bakoulis on a fab event. Bakoulis on a fab event. As if Thursday didn't As if Thursday didn't have enough have enough events…LOL…Captain Bill designs by Marrero designs by Marrero events…LOL…Captain Bill was holding his annual Collection with a fashion Collection with a fashion was holding his annual Undercover Santa holiday show, and lots of prizes. show, and lots of prizes. Chamber of Commerce Undercover Santa holiday Chamber of Commerce party and toy drive at Congrats to my friend and Congrats to my friend and (MDGLCC) and Pridelines in party and toy drive at MDGLCC) and Pridelines in 14 | Hotspots.LGBT

Everything you need to plan your week co-worker (he is Hotspots' Fashion Editor), Carlos, on once again coming up with amazing designs. On Sunday evening, The Gay Men' s Chorus of South Florida returned to the

Chef Howie of the Pub invites everyone to his holiday food drive to help benefit Father Bob's All Saints Catholic Mission from 6-8pm. Please bring a canned item to donate. There will be an $8 buffet. u FRIDAY DEC 20

Twist wishes everyone Happy Holidays as they present DJ Power Infiniti tonight and DJ Mika tomorrow. The Pub presents a Christmas Show Spectacular at 9:30pm

brand new Seminole Hard Rock Hotel & Casino celebrating their 10th season with Grammy nominated, multiplatinum, singer/songwriter and actress, winner of season six American Idol, Jordin Sparks! It was an amazing event, and the Hardrock even lit up the guitar in the rainbow colors! uTHURSDAY DEC 19

Pride Factory presents one of their now infamous sales from today until December 24, where the more you spend the more you save. If you spend $50 you save $5, and if you spend $100 you save $15.

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Georgie's Alibi/Monkey Bar presents their monthly “Beast” party starring DJ Alex Ramos. The Club Fort Lauderdale presents “Reserection: A Second Coming” at 10pm. This event happens the first and third Saturdays of the month, and they suggest you get there early as this event

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Get in the holiday spirit and rock out in the Frost Planetarium, as they will be rocking out with throwbacks to the classic laser light spectacles you know and love. From Symphony of the Stars to The Nutcracker, you'll be sure to feel festive after these visuals! Bring your friends and come early! Snacks and beverages are available for purchase in the main atrium from 6:30 pm to 10 pm. The Schedule is 7pm Symphony of the Stars; 8pm Tchaikovsky's Nutcracker Fantasy Laser Show; 9pm Prince; 10pm Led Zeppelin; and 11pm Pink Floyd: Best of. Admission is $10 per adult; $8 per child. Each show must be purchased separately. Laser show admission includes laser glasses. Please, note admission to laser shows does not include museum admission. Museum exhibitions close at 6pm. For more information, visit frostscience.org/laserevenings Art Walk Wilton Manors takes place from 5-8pm.

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neighborhoods. South Florida's fine artists will be displaying paintings, photographs, jewelry, and sculpture at various business locations plus wandering musicians.

Noche Latina Saturdays inside the Ivy Dance Room and Patio at The Manor Complex celebrates the birthday of our Maestro DJ Larry Larr. The night will Kalah Mendoza and guests along with sexy Latin Go-Go Papi's. Saturdays at the Manor are from 11pm to 4am and feature No Cover before midnight for FL Res. After Midnight admission is only $7 for members and $10 for non-

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Starting today and every Sunday thereafter Georgie's Alibi/Monkey Bar presents â&#x20AC;&#x153;The Divas of Wilton Drive Sundaysâ&#x20AC;? where they are bringing the divas of disco back to the drive hosted by Sharde Ross with special guests and shoes at 7, 8 and 9pm. u MONDAY DEC 23

The Arsht Center for the Performing Arts presents Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical. The beloved TV classic Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer soars off

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Robert Lee (RuPaul), better known as the drag queen Ruby Red, has big dreams of opening his very own drag club. After years of performing in clubs all across the country, he has scrimped and saved and is one signed lease away from turning his dreams into a reality until he realizes he's been swindled by a charismatic grifter (Josh Segarra) and his eye-patch wearing partner-in-crime, Lady Danger (Tia Carrere). With his heart broken and money stolen, Robert has no choice but to pick up the pieces and start over, and a cross country Ruby Red roadshow provides the

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the screen and onto the stage! Come see all of your favorite characters from the special, including Santa and Mrs. Claus, Hermey the Elf, Bumble the Abominable Snow Monster, Clarice, Yukon Cornelius and, of course, Rudolph, as they come to life in Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical. It's an adventure that teaches us that what makes you different can be what makes you special. Tickets start at $25, at ArshtCenter.org. .

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Georgie's Alibi/Monkey Bar presents Fresh Faces: a special Christmas Eve

show at 10pm starring Kat Wildnerness and Morphine Love with music by DJ Bryan Reyes. Bourbon Pub presents “A Very Naughty Christmas” with holiday shows tonight and tomorrow with Bria's Christmas Cheer from 810pm, and the Men of Bourbon nightly at 10pm.

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The Pub presents a complimentary Christmas Day buffet. Doors open at 4pm with the buffet at 5:30pm. They invite you to make the day more special by bringing a dish to pass.

perfect opportunity to do just that. But when AJ (Izzy G.), a scrappy, streetwise 10-year-old escaping a difficult home life, stows away in Robert's rundown RV, the consummate performer suddenly finds himself in a new set of shoes: de facto parent. Fabulously mismatched yet perfectly paired, AJ and Ruby must find a way to navigate through tough times as they learn a few tricks from one another and roll on to brighter days. Michael-Leon

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Wooley and Katerina Tannenbaum also co-star. Created by Michael Patrick King (Sex and the City) and RuPaul, and featuring performances by RuPaul in each episode, AJ and the Queen is an equally heartfelt and gritty comedy about finding family in the unlikeliest of people when they're needed most. For more info go to: Insta gram.com/AJANDTHEQUEEN

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hirteen minutes with Jamie Lee Curtis was not quite enough time to ind out why, even though it was “very important to me” to investigate the sexuality of one of her characters, she's never considered the sexuality of her most enduring, Laurie Strode. I'm still curious. I still want to know. Jamie, if you're out there, if you're reading this, call me.

The day we spoke, Curtis, in signature no-nonsense mode, was fully immersed in a whirl of action at the media junket for her new whodunit ilm Knives Out, which left precious time for contemplative states, Laurie Strode gay talk and cheeseburgers. The esteemed “Scream Queen” is completing her order as she calls me, though “the last thing I'm thinking about is what I'm gonna eat.” Eventually, however, I've got Jamie Lee Curtis thinking about that time she decided to make a character gay and no one ever really knew. Minutes into our twisty chat, Curtis, best known for roles in A Fish Called Wanda, Trading Places and some movie called Halloween, is re lecting on a role she seems very proud of: her portrayal of the school principal in a ilm she says “no one saw” called Spare Parts. Based on a true story, the 2015 ilm centers on a group of Latino students who win irst place over the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in the 2004 MATE ROV robotics competition. Those who didn't see it, and perhaps even those who did, missed what Curtis calls a “subtle reference” to her character's late wife, who she says is pictured in a photograph in her character's of ice. “I very speci ically wanted the backstory – that you will never know – that she moved to that place because of her wife and her wife died,” Curtis says. Knowing that the actress used her ally powers to queer one of her characters, I'm curious if Curtis delved similarly into Laurie Strode, who is stalked by madman Michael Myers in Halloween, both the original and its recent 2018 sequel – asking you to forget all Halloween sequels in between.

Released in 1978, the horror classic jumpstarted her career; exploring the eﬀects of lingering trauma in the latest installment lured Curtis back to ictional Haddon ield, Illinois, where the story takes place (Curtis will return for two more entries in the

undying saga, Halloween Kills, due in 2020, and Halloween Ends, set for 2021). I point out that one Tumblr page I discovered recently is called “Laurie Strode is gay!!!” (The site even features Pride Laurie Strode icons, with a cartoon Laurie in front of a rainbow backdrop.) Curtis tells me she hasn't considered Laurie's sexual identity at all. “No, no,” she says, irmly. Quickly moving on, she leads the conversation into a discussion about the sexuality of public igures, including her own. “I don't think it's anybody's business what people's sexuality is, to be perfectly honest,” she says. “I ind it like a reverse discrimination.” Going beyond the scope of the question, she explains that, “People's private lives are their private lives and whether I've ever kissed a girl – have not – is irrelevant to whatever advocacy I participate in.” Curtis thinks it's “sort of destructive cocktail party fodder what people's sexuality is,” but that ultimately it's “nobody's business, it doesn't matter” – unless, she insists, “you legislate anti-gay legislation but are gay. I fully accept outing those people for the hypocrisy.” Though not gay herself, Curtis has been a longtime LGBTQ ally since the AIDS

epidemic hit close to home, claiming the lives of her good gay friend Rick Frank, whom she starred with in the early '90s ABC sitcom Anything But Love, and his husband George Lowe, who both succumbed to complications from the virus and, she says, died one year apart. “Rick became, honestly, one of my best friends,” she says, warmly. “That experience with both Rick and George was a galvanizing moment for me, and I have tried to honor him more than anything with trying to keep that focus.” Though her compassion for the LGBTQ community stems from Rick and George, Curtis's ties to it go back even further, thanks to the passel of gay friends and colleagues surrounding her legendary mother, Psycho actress Janet Leigh (Curtis's also-legendary father, Tony Curtis, star of early-drag romp Some Like It Hot and featured in The Celluloid Closet, was also noted for having close friendships with gay men).

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“Her make-up artist was gay, the playwright that she did a play with was a great friend of our family who was gay,” she says. “I did not know any gay kids growing up, but I was propositioned in school once by a girl. I was at boarding school and I remember I rejected her advance and, you know, that didn't go well. She made a point of making that an issue for me at school a little bit.” But even as a straight woman, who has been married to Best in Show ilmmaker Christopher Guest since 1984, “You don't have to have your own experience in order to feel compassion and the need for justice and equality. In the LGBTQ world, certainly I have friends and family, but I don't have to have the direct experience in order to feel the compassion that I truly feel for acceptance and equality in all areas.” She has acted accordingly, participating in a variety of LGBTQ causes and projects. In 2012, alongside Brad Pitt and Martin Sheen, Curtis portrayed Sandy Stier, one of two women who went to the Supreme Court to defeat Prop 8, in Dustin Lance Black's play 8. Four years later, in 2016, Curtis was one of many stars who shared stories of the people killed in the Orlando Pulse nightclub shooting for a Human Rights Campaign-produced video. And earlier this year, Curtis

appeared in another video for the HRC's launch of the Americans for the Equality Act public awareness and advertising campaign. Her LGBTQ advocacy will soon translate to screen, as Curtis has purchased the rights to author Sara Cunningham's self-published memoir How We Sleep at Night. The book tells the journey of Cunningham, a Christian mother, as she learns to accept her gay son. Cunningham is now the executive director of “Free Mom Hugs,” a nonpro it oﬀering LGBTQ outreach and support to LGBTQ youth, an organization she founded. As for the movie: “We're in the inal script,” Curtis told me, otherwise tight-lipped, “and then hopefully we will be making it next year.” On TV, she's also defended the LGBTQ population with her bare ist. Her role as Dean Cathy Munsch in Ryan Murphy's Scream Queens featured the actress in a politically charged moment, her character beating up an attacker dressed in a Justice Antonin Scalia mask. While Curtis throws a steady stream of punches at his face, she gives him a piece of her mind, insisting with iery conviction that, “The homosexual lifestyle is not destructive to the fabric of American society!” As for using her art as activism to spur social and political change, Curtis says, “I'm happy to represent whatever aspect of hope someone will take from anything I do, be it something I write, something I say, a part I played or, most importantly, the 'being Jamie' in the world. If that ends up being something that is helpful, that is then a reason to be alive; to be hurtful would be a tragedy for me. It would kill me to think that I've hurt someone with an action or a word or a deed.” If you take away anything from Knives Out, a feel-good murder mystery featuring Curtis as realestate mogul, bullshit-calling Linda Drysdale-Thrombey, whose father Harlan (Christopher Plummer) is murdered at his 85th birthday bash, it's who the ilm's real gay icon is. Some on the internet have already given the title to Toni Collette's highcamp character Joni, the widowed step-sister to Linda and Walt

(Michael Shannon), because she speaks in Valley Girl uptalk and owns a silly lifestyle and wellness brand called Flam, which, according to a branding video, is “more than a word, it's a way of living.” But Curtis wants to rede ine the very broad quali ications of a gay icon, it seems – beginning with taking a good, hard look at why women with children fall into that category. (This would exclude, of course, famous moms like Madonna, Cher, Britney Spears, Judy Garland, Diana Ross, Barbra Streisand, Beyoncé and Mariah Carey.) “Why does Toni Collette's character have to be a gay icon?” Curtis objects. “I don't understand that. She's a heterosexual woman who has a child. She's not gay. Because she's lamboyant?” Passionately speaking on the subject, Curtis posits that the true gay icon in Knives Out is Marta Cabrera (Ana de Armas), Harlan's devoted caregiver, “because she's kind.” “You see, embracing LGBTQ issues, the root of it is kindness,” she explains. “Not clothing or lifestyle. The root of acceptance of a human being is kindness and the kindest person in Knives Out is Marta Cabrera. I would hope what LGBTQ people focus on is whether someone is kind and loving and inclusive and expansive versus rigid, cold, judging and hateful, and that is, to me, the dividing line.” Gay icons of the world, Mama Jamie has her eyes on you.

As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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deep inside HOLLYWOOD By Romeo San Vicente know him as one of the writers of the instantly legendary â&#x20AC;&#x153;Sara Lee Instagramâ&#x20AC;? sketch. At this point we're pretty much just stalking his career wherever it happens to meander, like into the indie drama Cicada, currently in production. The first narrative feature from filmmaker Matthew Fifer, it's the story of a young queer man who enters an interracial relationship and who then must, over the course of a summer, come to terms with traumatic childhood experiences. Fifer will play the one of the leads, as will fellow newcomer

Taika Waititi's non-binary goals Filmmaker Taika Waititi's career now spans wild comedy (What We Do In The Shadows), Marvel Cinematic Universe box-office juggernauts (Thor: Ragnarok), and daring Oscarbuzz satires (JoJo Rabbit). So naturally his next move is an inspirational sports film about a Samoan soccer team. It's called Next Goal Wins, and it's about a real-life team's resurgence after suffering the longest losing streak in international football. What's queer about that? The existence of Jaiyah Saelua, the first non-binary player to compete in a men's FIFA World Cup qualifying match. And what's queer about the casting is that it will be the debut film role for actor Kaimana, who is

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a fa'afafine Samoan actor (in Samoan culture, fa'afafine people comprise a non-binary gender identity). In other words, this will be the next step in non-binary representation in cinema, both in character placement and casting (after non-binary actor Asia Kate Dillon's role in John Wick: Parabellum) and that's a significant development.

Cicada gives SNL's Bowen Yang a movie role

We listen to Yang's podcast Las Culturistas and know him as one of the new cast additions to SNL. Of course, more importantly, like the rest of queer America, we also now

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Sheldon Brown, but the supporting cast includes Yang and some very established names like Cobie Smulders (Avengers), Scott Adsit (30 Rock) and David Burtka (A Very Merry Harold & Kumar 3D Christmas, where he played a bizarre version of himself alongside husband Neil Patrick Harris). We're expecting this one to hit indie film festivals first, so keep tabs on it. Romeo San Vicente loves Sara Lee pound cake and you'll have to get your own because he doesn't share.

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Just a few month ago, Spencer’s Corner Bar became one of the newest hangouts on Wilton Drive. Located in the former Thirteen and Sea & Olive location, Spencer’s is a place to drink, eat or just corral with friends. When owners David and Ray decided to open, they selected their cherished dog’s name Spencer as the moniker for their new endeavor. You can see his portrait, drinking a martini, displayed proudly watching

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over daily business. The interior is open, clean and modern and features about a dozen tables and a huge bar with stools. The seating capacity is more than doubled by the addition of the beautiful covered patio, which also boasts another full bar. Recently, I stopped in on a Wednesday evening for dinner and to catch my friend Dee Dee Van Carter’s cabaret show. She is there every week hosting an old school 2-hour variety show

that features a rotating cast of drag performers as well as live vocalists. The show was great and brings in quite the crowd. Even though they feature a modest menu, there is a little something for everyone at Spencer’s. It’s pretty much the same menu for lunch and dinner, although dinner entrees are beefed up a bit. Be sure to try the Shrimp Po’Boy and the Market Chicken sandwich, only available at

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lunch. There is more than a half dozen starters to pick over… Shrimp Cocktail, Chicken Wings, Hummus, Sweet Corn Fritters and Wild Pork Wings to name a few. Numerous salads like their Corner Bar Salad with mixed field greens, mandarin orange, English cucumber, sun-dried cranberries, toasted almonds, feta and a housemade raspberry vinaigrette as well as traditional Caesar and Wedge salads offer lighter options for those watching their waistlines. Indulge in a heavier meal with a variety of hot sandwiches, chicken dishes, pastas, salmon and of course their famous meatloaf, just like mom used to make. For dinner, we ordered a couple of appetizers and a couple of entrees and shared everything. We selected the Mozzarella Half Medallion…gooey cheese moons lightly breaded and served with warm house made marinara sauce hit the spot. The Homestyle Potato Cakes were amazing too. This creamy fried potato goodness on a bed of dill sauce took me back to the time of delicious food at

Grandma’s kitchen table. Dinner portions are huge and served up blue plate special style with a meat and two sides. The homemade Meatloaf is comfort food at its best. Made with lean ground chuck and topped with brown gravy with velvety whipped potatoes and sautéed veggies…this

was the highlight of the meal! The Pork Chops rounded out our dinner selections. Two large, French cut bone-in pork chops, marinated in rosemary and grilled to perfection went great with a side of applesauce, rice and mixed seasoned vegetables. Spencer’s Corner Bar is open for lunch daily from 11:30am to 4pm and dinner every night from 4pm to 10pm. The bar is open until 11pm Sunday through Thursday and midnight on Friday and Saturday. Happy Hour prices run open to close everyday with $3.50 well, $4.50 house wine, $3 drafts and $3.50 bottled beers. Enjoy a frozen blender drink on the patio Wednesday through Friday starting at 5pm and Saturday and Sundays starting at 2pm. Spencer’s is located at 2390 Wilton Drive in Wilton Manors, Florida. While reservations aren’t required, they are suggested on Wednesdays if you want to see the show. They can be made over the phone at 954-368-2558.

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Things That Make You Go

Ridin’ All The Way to the Bank

Each year you hear that ONE song blasting every 30 minutes on your favorite radio stations, gym speakers and Spotify. The lyrics roll effortlessly off your tongue and the internet memes are borderline overkill—but you just can’t stop singing. “Old Town Road” was THAT song in 2019. The runaway hit was so popular in fact that it surpassed Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men’s “One Sweet Day” as the longest running number-one single on the Billboard Hot 100. Oh boy, I wonder if Mariah’s lambs will ever stop screaming about that fact. Lil Nas X’s Country Trap beat, which featured Miley’s dad Billy Ray Cyrus, spent a whopping 19 weeks atop the charts. Whether you dig the song or didn’t get the hype, you can’t deny its epic dominance—especially considering its main vocalist is a black, gay man. The 20-year-old breakout star is now ridin’ the single’s unprecedented success all the way to the bank. Lil Nas X (AKA Montero Lamar Hill) made $14 million before taxes in 2019 and is the first out LGBTQ person to make Forbes’ list of highest earners in country music. He is also the first gay musician to win Song of the Year at the MTV VMA’s, but is there a Grammy in his future? We will soon find out in 2020—the singer is nominated in six categories, including best new artist. Source: OUT.com

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Breaking The Glass If old-fashioned traditions don’t suit your fabulous lifestyle,

create new ones! Although gay marriage isn’t technically legal in Israel, a loophole allowed a same-sex couple to legally marry in another country but also have it officially recognized back in the homeland. And did we mention the grooms hosted a kick-ass party to celebrate? Liran Buchny and Maor Shtern, who traveled to Portugal to obtain their marriage license, welcomed hundreds of friends and family to Tel Aviv to celebrate their nuptials. The celebration, which did not include a rabbi, was held in a nightclub and featured other traditional elements, including the toasts, the giant chuppah – or canopy representing “home” – and the stomping on glasses. “I think that just by doing a big wedding in Israel, that’s our big statement … not letting the system take you down,” Maor Shtern told CBS News correspondent Seth Doane. Source: CBSNews.com

Going Solo

A national sex study found, with the exception of the 71+ age group, at least 60 percent of men have masturbated within the past year, and an impressive 84 percent of men between 25 and 29 are taking matters into their own hands. Masturbating in the presence of a partner is a less popular activity than going solo with only 49 percent of men aged 25 to 29 engaging in it. Hey, we all need a little alone time here and there! Source: Kinkly.com

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6 Best Songs By Women in 2019

By Chris Azzopardi ‘Bring My Flowers Now’

Tanya Tucker Country music legend Tanya Tucker's elegiac coda from her first album in 10 years, “Bring My Flowers Now” off While I'm Livin', is a frank reflection of leaving this life, its imagery handled with a gentle hand in the song's music video. The video features Tucker riding atop a horse, two young girls flanking her and releasing flowers petals to the streets. They stop at one point, wave goodbye. On her journey, Tucker passes a smiling preacher and a man in a convertible. Finally, she comes to a halt to share a moment with the co-writer of “Flowers”

and While I'm Livin' producer Brandi Carlile, who's playing the piano; the out singer-songwriter and the country icon relay a deep mutual respect through a simple tip of their hats and a warm, silent acknowledgement. Then Tucker is on her way. The video is one of the year's best, its simplicity the perfect match for the small, heartbreakingly specific details in Tucker and Carlile's plaintive lyrics about Tucker's life and its message of living for those you love now. “Don't spend time, tears, or money on my ol' breathless body. If your heart is in them flowers, bring 'em on,” she achingly sings. The years on Tucker's voice are as lifeaffirming as the song itself. And these – plus its recent Grammy nomination for Song of the Year – are her flowers. Lovingly, Carlile has brought them to her.

‘Track Record’

Miranda Lambert Even Miranda Lambert knows she's been a little busy with the boys. She mocks her floozy image with dry wit on “Track Record” from her new album Wildcard, owning it and treating it as a shoulder-shrugging fact of her life rather than a rueful self-analysis. She even makes time for a casual dig, namelessly calling out past exes, the “user” and the “loser.” Sonically, there are traces of The War on Drugs in “Track Record,” matching the indie rock band's signature sound with its hypnotic '70s-rock-style torrent of glistening guitars and chugging drums. When Lambert sings, “Girls like me don't mean it but we don't know better, I got a track record,” you really do have to wonder: Is this the Grindr anthem we've all been waiting for?

'Love You For Free'

'Cornelia Street'

Cynthia Erivo If church every day was Cynthia Erivo singing “Love You For Free,” my hands would be folded and I'd be at that pew right now. The Broadway stars sparse, inviting almost prayer of a song is about unconditional love, its warmth radiating through her angelic approach to its gentle, dreamy stride and twinkling sound. The song is among over 30 originals recorded for Hedwig and the Angry Inch creator John Cameron Mitchell's 10-episode Anthem: Homunculus, an altautobiography he produced for the Luminary podcast app. For the world's outcasts, queers and others who have felt rejected by any church, hearing Erivo sing, “In this world, my child, you have a place,” is like falling into arms that won't let you go.

Taylor Swift The lyrical cornerstone of Taylor Swift's Lover album, “Cornelia Street” shares some DNA with tender storysong “All Too Well,” off her 2012 Red release. Both summon images with the striking vividness of a photograph. The latter happens to be one of Swift's best written songs – and now so is “Cornelia Street.” The sole writer of the song, Swift is confronting the fear of potential romantic loss, setting the scene over gentle, rolling synths like a movie whose image shifts aspect ratios. The song rolls on like the car she's singing about, accelerating at the chorus, a flood of sound pouring in; there are car-door and wiper-blade sound effects tucked into Jack Antonoff's production, which also includes a heartfelt piano break. “Cornelia Street” is like going back to a good book. You discover something new and wonderful every time.

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'Bible and a .44'

Trisha Yearwood Trisha Yearwood turns words on a page into country-music magic, but the singer is at her best when those words tell a story as rich as the one CMA Best New Artist Ashley McBryde wrote for “Bible and a .44.” Yearwood's finest moment on her latest album, Every Girl, is this weepy, which illustrates the lessons a father has passed down to his child. Made personal by the death of Yearwood's own dad in 2005, the singer fondly remembers what he looked like (“hair as white as a cottonfield”) and what he taught her (to be perceptive, to love the Lord, to “take what you've got and do the best you can”). The guitar softening to a whisper, she reflects on seeing him strumming “this thing,” which “he left it to me like he said he would.” Before the final chorus, Yearwood reminds us, her warm, no-frills vocals accompanied by Patty Loveless's soulful harmonies and ad-libs, of how certain things become our most prized possessions: “And if you ask me why it sounds so good, it's 'cause I'm holdin' onto more than strings and wood.”

'Higher Love,'

Whitney Houston When Whitney Houston's unreleased cover of Steve Winwood's 1986 hit “Higher Love” was released during June Pride Month, I made my gay friends listen to it any way I could. Of note was the time this past summer when I flung open my car doors and cranked this one up, the song's divinity thumping in a public parking lot. Not only did my closest friends hear, but so did many lucky passersby. I was doing them a favor that day, because Whitney's neverbefore-released-in-America cover, originally recorded during her I'm Your Baby Tonight sessions and reimagined as a club banger thanks to Norwegian DJ Kygo, is gay dance heaven. She sounds incredible, and Kygo enlivens the song at every turn, taking it beyond its very '80s origins and into timeless soul-revival territory. This is exactly the Whitney I want to remember. As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. Reach him at chris@pridesource.com. 60 | Hotspots.LGBT

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Y100’S - JINGLE BALL Don’t miss the star-studded lineup presented by Capital One and featuring at press time: Jonas Brothers, Khalid, Ozuna, Niall Horan, CNCO, Why Don’t We, & More! This is the holiday season’s biggest annual music event. Sun, December 22; 7pm; BB&T Center (1 Panther Parkway, Sunrise,); Tix: start at $36; thebbtcenter.com. A DRAG QUEEN CHRISTMAS – THE NAUGHTY TOUR Murray and Peter once again present a magical (and hilarious) evening of holiday performances featuring some of Ru Paul’s Drag Race favorite contestants. All ages welcome. Warning – adult content. The night will be hosted by Nina West and star Lady Bunny, Thorgy Thor, Shuga Cain, Manila Luzon, Scarlet Envy and hometown girl Latrice Royale. Sat, December 28; 8pm; Parker Playhouse (707 Northeast 8th Street Fort Lauderdale); Tix start at $41 with VIP meet and greet options; Dragfans.com or Parkerplayhouse.com TV – LOST IN SPACE The Season 1 finale of this sci-fi drama found the Robinsons aboard the Jupiter 2 as they were unexpectedly launched into the home galaxy of the Robot, whom Will (Maxwell Jenkins) had befriended. With no idea where they are, we can only hope the Robot tracks them down to deliver the rather obvious, but in the case appropriate, line of, “Danger, Will Robinson.” Season 2 Premieres Tues, December 24; Netflix CHRISTMAS WONDERLAND – HOLIDAY SPECTACULAR This is quite simply one of the most delightful and enchanting Christmas shows ever, featuring glittering costumes, a dazzling cast and the highest kicking chorus girls this side of the North Pole. This show, which features all your favorite Christmas songs, is pure holiday magic – with enough fun and festive cheer to power all the Christmas lights in town! Sun, December 22; 6pm; Broward Center for the Performing Arts (201 SW 5th Ave, Fort Lauderdale); Tix: $35 to $75; BrowardCenter.org COMEDIAN - JIM GAFFIGAN The four-time Grammy nominated comedian, actor, two-time New York Times best-selling author, Emmy-winning top touring performer, and multi-platinum-selling recording artist brings his The Pale Tourist to Miami for 1 night. He’s known around the world for his unique brand of humor, which largely revolves around his observations on life and food. Sat, December 28 – 7pm & 9:30pm; Arsht Center for the Performing Arts (1300 Biscayne Blvd, Miami); Tix: start at $50; ArshtCenter.org

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RUDOLPH - THE RED-NOSED REINDEER This beloved TV classic soars off the screen and onto the stage this holiday season! Come see all of your favorite characters from the special including Santa and Mrs. Claus, Hermey the Elf, Bumble the Abominable Snow Monster, Clarice, Yukon Cornelius and, of course, Rudolph, as they come to life in this Musical. It’s an adventure that teaches us that what makes you different can be what makes you special. Mon, December 23; 2 and 7pm; Arsht Center for the Performing Arts (1300 Biscayne Blvd, Miami); Tix: start at $25; ArshtCenter.org FORBIDDEN BROADWAY: THE NEXT GENERATION This show wowed critics when it opened in October, with the New York Times calling it “The Best Edition in recent memory!” Up-to-the-minute spoofs include comic looks at Moulin Rouge, the all-Yiddish Fiddler on the Roof, Hadestown, this season’s dark Oklahoma! revival, along with Dear Evan Hansen, Tootsie, Beetlejuice, Frozen, and a whole new generation of Broadway stars, plus exciting turns by Bette Midler, Andre de Shields, Bernadette Peters, Lin-Manuel Miranda, and several more surprises. Fri, Dec 27 through Tues Dec 31; Kravis Center (701 Okeechobee Blvd, West Palm Beach); Tix: Start at $39; Kravis.org COMEDIAN – PREACHER LAWSON He started writing jokes when he was 16, then decided to perform for the first time a year later on a bet with his mother. In 2017, Lawson made a big splash on NBC’s “America’s Got Talent” where he made it to the top 2 and then made top 5 on the Champions on NBC’s highest-rated season to date. Sat, December 28 through Tues, December 31; Palm beach Improv (550 S Rosemary Ave #250 West Palm Beach); Tix: $25-$30; Palmbeachimprov.com LATIN & CARIBBEAN - FOOD AND MUSIC FESTIVAL Miami Seaquarium has announced the return of its the Tastes of Miami Festival. The colorful and energetic five-day festival will showcase an array of Latin & Caribbean food, music, dance, arts and crafts. Park guests can discover the diverse cultures that make Miami a unique and vibrant international city. Thurs, December 26 through Mon, December 30; Miami Seaquarium (4400 Rickenbacker Causeway Miami); Tix: $42, but there is a special $10 discount offer is available online.

HOLIDAYS 2020 Whether you celebrate Christmas, Chanukah, Kawanza, or anything else, we here at Hotspots Media Group wish you a safe and happy holiday season.

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Art Basel Week

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ANNE ENNIS

spent part of my weekend attending a 2019 Election post-mortem where a group of committed volunteers, activists, candidates and elected officials went over what went right and what went not-so-right in 2019. Some of you might be thinking, “There was an election in 2019?” And I could say I forgive you and we're all human and let bygones be bygones and all that — but I won't. Because you're not allowed to skip elections. Not now. Not ever again. Even, and especially, the local ones, which are the races we discussed at this meeting. That's how we managed to get progressive majorities on city councils that used to be deep red. And how we got candidates elected who had never run before. And that's how we plan to use that energy and momentum as we gear up for 2020. Local elections are so important. They aren't sexy. They don't have the razzle-dazzle of a presidential election or even a governor's race. Local races don't tend to have swag like bumper stickers and T-shirts, and they also lack the chatter of pundits. If you want to learn about school board or city council candidates, you're going to have to drag yourself to a local school or public library for a usually sparsely attended candidate forum. If you see the candidates on TV at all it will probably be on a public access channel at 3 a.m. But local government is what most directly and immediately touches your everyday life. They make decisions about your child's education. They decide whether that empty lot in your town gets turned into a park or sold and turned into a Tim Horton's. They decide what

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happens with the taxes you pay. You want people serving in these roles who are competent and moral and just. And that doesn't happen by chance. Conservatives have understood this for a long time and have traditionally been very engaged at the local level. And there have been capable local elected officials who swing to the conservative side. But with the Republican Party literally losing its collective mind and turning into a Donald Trump fan cult, it's more important than ever to get your progressive neighbors onto your city council, library board and school board. A case in point: A recent exchange at a board meeting between a member of the EvansvilleVanderburgh County School Corporation board and members of the TriState Alliance — which describes itself as “a social service and educational organization that serves the diverse LGBTQ communities of Southwestern IN, Western KY and Southern IL” — attended the board meeting to advocate for LGBTQ students “with emphasis on transgender student suicides.” This was according to the description of a video on their Facebook page. In the video, a member of the Tri-State Alliance accuses a woman identified as Board Member Anne Ennis of being transphobic. In response, she mimes playing a violin and says, “Cry me a river.” In response, a voice off-camera says as Ennis walks away, “Oh, cry us a river over kids who've died? Kids commit suicide. You don't care.” The same voice then adds, “You're a shitty

In response, a voice off-camera says as In response, a voice off-camera says as Ennis walks away, “Oh, cry us a river Ennis walks away, “Oh, cry us a river over kids who've died? over kids who've died? Kids commit suicide. You don't care.” Kids commit suicide. You don't care.” person,” but the door is already closing behind person,” but the door is already closing behind Ennis. Ennis. Now, I don't know this woman. Maybe she's Now, I don't know this woman. Maybe she's just a really big fan of performance art and is just a really big fan of performance art and is simultaneously really terrible at it. But it seems simultaneously really terrible at it. But it seems pretty clear that she was dismissing the pretty clear that she was dismissing the concerns brought to her by Tri-State Alliance. If concerns brought to her by Tri-State Alliance. If that is not the case, then I welcome her defense that is not the case, then I welcome her defense and explanation. and explanation. LGBTQ student need champions in their LGBTQ student need champions in their corners. If you want to help protect LGBTQ corners. If you want to help protect LGBTQ youth then run for school board or support an youth then run for school board or support an ally who is running. You owe it to those kids to ally who is running. You owe it to those kids to do your research on who is running for school do your research on who is running for school board and other local offices and to elect people board and other local offices and to elect people who say no to discrimination, homophobia and who say no to discrimination, homophobia and transphobia. transphobia. A few years ago, a woman running for school A few years ago, a woman running for school board in my son's district handed me a flier. I board in my son's district handed me a flier. I asked about her position on LGBTQ students and asked about her position on LGBTQ students and

families. She told me she wasn't anti-anybody, families. She told me she wasn't anti-anybody, and that she was an ally. and that she was an ally. “But that's not really relevant to the school “But that's not really relevant to the school board,” she said. board,” she said. “It's very relevant to me,” I said. “This district “It's very relevant to me,” I said. “This district includes sexual orientation in its nonincludes sexual orientation in its nondiscrimination clause. Most Michigan districts discrimination clause. Most Michigan districts don't. That's why we moved here.” don't. That's why we moved here.” “You know, I never thought about that,” she “You know, I never thought about that,” she responded. “But I will.” responded. “But I will.” She got my vote because she was willing to She got my vote because she was willing to listen, something Ennis seems unwilling to do. listen, something Ennis seems unwilling to do. Now who's going to run against her? Now who's going to run against her? D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski. @MamaDWitkowski.

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HOT BODIES by Tom Bonanti

Healthy Choices for Dining Out This Holiday Season

hether you're searching for the right career, scoping out a new place to live, or planning a vacation, life is all about making right choices. Staying healthy also requires you to make key decisions. Finding a great gym, making the time to work out and eating right all require proper planning. With the holidays upon us it's almost a sure thing that most guys will cheat on their nutrition and stall some important gains. Whether you are attending family gatherings and holiday work parties or meeting friends out for lots of food and drinks, here are some pointers that can keep you lean and on track with your fitness goals. Holiday brunch on the weekends with friends can be a pleasure. But in one sitting

you can literally consume your daily calorie requirements of fats and carbs. Ask for egg- beaters when ordering an omelet. Stay away from

bagels and Danish as well as sweet rolls and muffins. Instead, opt for an English muffin or a couple of pieces of whole grain toast. Try unbuttered grits with a little fresh salsa instead of hash browns. Avoid processed meats like bacon

and sausage. If you really want to cut back on calories and provided you have the will power, drink sparkling water instead of Mimosas, Screwdrivers and Bloody Marys. Lunch with friends and co-workers to celebrate the season sounds simple and convenient. Yet, those burgers, sandwiches, and salads can be terribly fattening. Between those slices of bread lurk some serious calorie pitfalls like mayo, salad dressing, several servings of salty cold cuts, and loads of fattening cheese. Choose whole-grain breads or better yet, a wrap and grilled chicken

instead of ham, roast beef, tuna or chicken salad. If you choose a salad make sure to avoid croutons, bacon bits, and thick, fatty dressings. Order only half a sandwich or salad and avoid super sizes. Pasta is good energy food but request a half portion and you'll save hundreds of calories. Eat pasta earlier in the day so that the carbs fuel the

rest of the day's activities. If it's available, choose a healthy whole-wheat pasta or spinach pasta for

a more fiber-rich dish and pair it with a lean protein grilled portion of chicken or fish. Avoid cheesy calorie-dense dishes like ravioli, manicotti and lasagna.

Sushi is a healthy choice when dining out. Broiled fish, steamed veggies, edamame and tuna, yellowtail and salmon sashimi are all tasty and light Japanese fare. But unless you want to look like a sumo wrestler, steer clear of tempura and agemono, which indicate deep-fried.

The time you put into your workouts is crucial. Yet it's what you put into your mouth that will make or break your physique. Don't let the holidays be your downfall. Make healthy choices starting now!

Tom Bonanti is a certified personal trainer and massage therapist (MA#40288) with his own one on one facility Pumpnincgym.com in Ft. Lauderdale. Contact trainertomb@aol.com with questions or to make an appointment today!

The Frivolist By Mikey Rox

5 Ways Your Upbringing Influences Your Money Mindset You may not recognize a connection between your parents' financial habits and the way you manage money as an adult, but the apple often doesn't fall far from the tree.

Your parents were tightwads

Frugality is about balance. If your parents didn't strike a healthy balance and were overly frugal when you were a child, you may have developed a pattern of overspending and impulse shopping later in life. Even if your needs were meant as a kid, maybe you felt deprived because your parents didn't or couldn't provide your wants. Either way, you might spend your adult years overcompensating for what you feel you lacked as a child. Rather than save your money, you spend it as soon as you get it. Now that you're older, it's important to find a healthy balance between being frugal and frivolous. Be realistic when it comes to your money and stick to a budget. It's OK to splurge and enjoy your income, but not if it means going into debt and sacrificing your savings account.

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You were spoiled as a child

Whether you were rich or middle class, if you always got what you wanted materially and the word 'no' wasn't in your parents' vocabulary, you might grow up thinking you're entitled to everything. As a kid, you probably didn't see anything wrong with instant gratification and being spoiled by your parents. But the desire to have what you want, when you want it, can follow you into adulthood. And when your parents stop paying your way, you might do whatever it takes to get what you want, even if it means using a credit card and digging a financial hole for yourself. This sets the stage for debt and begins the vicious cycle of living paycheck-to-paycheck.

Money wasn't discussed in your house

Some parents feel like money is an “adult” topic, so they don't discuss finances in front of their children. The main problem with this type of upbringing is that when some parents take money topics completely off the table, they forget to teach their kids the basics of money management. These kids grow up knowing nothing about money, and they become adults who overspend and overcharge. Just because money was a taboo topic in your house doesn't mean you have to live in the dark. If you don't know much about personal finances, there are resources available to educate you like reputable financial websites and blogs, or you can work with a financial advisor.

You didn't get everything you wanted

Your parents were financially insecure

If a neighbor purchased a new car, did your parents have to buy one? Or if a neighbor updated his house or went on vacation, did your parents feel the need to outshine them? Some people feel they have to stay a step ahead of everyone. If you observed this behavior growing up, this attitude might rub off on you. There's a cost to keeping up appearances, and materialism and jealousy can be financially devastating, especially when you're living a life beyond your means. Are you buying an item because you like and need it, or because you want to prove you can hang with big spenders?

It was probably upsetting as child when your parents didn't give into your every command or request. Maybe your friends didn't have to do extra chores or save their allowance for a new toy or a new pair of shoes, but you did. Or perhaps your father's favorite phrase was, “Money doesn't grow on trees.” Rather than your parents buying your first car for you, maybe you had to get a job and pay half the cost while they paid the other half. Back then you thought your parents were being harsh, but you should thank them for instilling financial values. Learning about money, budgeting and saving isn't always fun at an early age. But these lessons (no matter how small) can pave the way for a stronger financial foundation. This upbringing can teach you to be more cautious with money and to think before you buy, which means less debt and more savings.

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyrox.

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DIRECTIONS Allow puff pastry to thaw and come to room temperature. Over medium high heat add oil and sauté diced onions until just translucent. Add dry spices and then ground meat and cook until brown. Remove from heat, drain off excess grease, and allow to cool. On a lightly greased cookie sheet, lay out one sheet of the puff pastry. Sprinkle evenly with half the cheese mixture. Evenly distribute ground meat over cheese, but about an inch from the edges of the puff pastry. In a bowl, beat the egg, and brush some of the egg mixture on the vacant edge of the puff pastry. Sprinkle remaining cheese over the meat, and then cover with the other sheet of puff pastry. With a fork, press the top sheet into the bottom as you would do if you were seaming a pie. Make random holes in the top of the pastry so that steam can escape and brush the top of the pastry evenly with the egg wash. Place in the oven for one hour until golden brown. Allow to cool for 10 minutes, cut and ENJOY!!

By: Chris Azzopardi Elizabeth Banks is here for all your lesbianenergy needs. After starring in Pitch Perfect, which never quite gave a cappella group members Beca and Chloe the full-on queer relationship fans (and even star Anna Kendrick) yearned for, Banks returned for Pitch Perfect 2 as star, producer and director, the musical-comedy's lirtation with queerness still very much intact. You could say the same for Banks' new Charlie's Angels and its own ranking on the

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Kinsey Scale, which de initely leans a little gay. Banks wrote, directed and produced the feature under Brownstone Productions, which she co-founded with her husband, Max Handelman. In addition to working behind the camera to launch the fearless trio â&#x20AC;&#x201C; portrayed by Kristen Stewart, Naomi Scott and Ella Balinska â&#x20AC;&#x201C; into our modern, sexually luid era, Banks also stars in the spy epic, playing an ex-Angel and one of the ilm's multiple Bosleys. Notably, Stewart

It was intentional then?

I'll tell you, this is what it is: We have a very inclusive, open, loving movie set and I get to make movies with multiple women who get to sit around in rooms and touch each other and hold hands, because that's what women do, right? We just really tried to be as loving and accepting of each other as possible, and if that creates some vibes that people want to interpret, so be it.

After the trailer dropped, this film was dubbed “Charlie's Gayngels” by some queer fans. Is a part of you upset that that wasn't the actual title? (Laughs.) I wish it was just Elizabeth's Gayngles. I'll make a new movie that says that.

Was it your intent to remain sexually ambiguous with these characters?

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I think ambiguity is kind of modern now. I think the luidity is very modern right now. Kristen's character is de initely gay in the movie. I mean, she wanted to be gay in the movie and I'm like, “Yeah.” I made sure we kept that little moment in so that you understand what she was attracted to. And you're welcome to talk to her about it. She loves to be open about it. I just wanted to make sure that she was able to present a character that she was fully behind.

Was it important to you to cast somebody whose sexuality aligns with that of the character she's playing?

portrays her secret agent character Sabina Wilson, the irst Angel to be depicted as a member of the LGBTQ community, to re lect her real-life queer sexuality. On a recent morning, Banks called to talk about busting up gender expectations, canceling straight, white, cisgender men and how – yes, kweens – “Kristen's character is de initely gay in the movie.”

So, Elizabeth, are you seeing the lesbian energy in this film that every other lesbian is seeing? (Laughs.) I am! Sure, of course.

Yeah. I will say none of them had sexuality written into the script and everybody in the script sort of lirted with everybody (laughs). Everybody could go all ways at all times and we didn't want to put any limits on anyone. It's a really great way to investigate your mark.

Speaking of investigating your mark: Pitch Perfect fans were rooting for Beca and Chloe to get together, and that never happened.

Both of them date boys in the movies.

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do dates boys in the movie. And they do get naked in the shower together, but lots of people get naked in communal showers in college.

That wasn't my college experience, but please, tell me about yours.

(Laughs.) I de initely was naked in lots of communal showers.

So, back to Sabina: She identifies as gay? Or does she identify as queer, lesbian, bi?

I believe that she refers to herself as queer.

To have a queer lead in a Charlie's Angels movie, does that feel like a big deal to you? It's never happened before.

It's so interesting. I'll be honest, it feels so natural to me that these characters would live in this way. Again, I feel like it's the most modern version of Charlie's Angels and speaks to the audience that's here for it right now. It was never a big deal, it was not a big deal. We talked about it and it just… happened. It was very natural.

How much of Sabina's queerness was Kristen's idea and how much of it was yours?

I wrote that little moment in that script for her to be like, “Ohhh, hello!” to another woman because I wanted it, even though she lirts with guys and then beats them up. It was important for Kristen to present herself as queer in the movie and I was all for it.

Was she responsible for the hair too?

Oh, I de initely wanted her to have that hair. We wanted to play with expectations of Kristen Stewart in the movie, so I told her from the get-go, “I want to open the movie with you in full Barbie regalia. I want you to have the long, blond hair.” She played Gisele on SNL and we looked at a lot of those photos for reference, like long, long, beautiful hair and bright pink dress. You know, the whole thing. Just super comfortable in her skin, so then when she transformed in the opening scene of the movie, it was like, ha-ha, you thought it was one thing but it's something totally else. We were presenting something that really had a big turn. It wasn't like she took oﬀ a long, blond wig and then just had shorter blond hair, you know what I mean? (Laughs.) I really wanted there to be a distinction so that you know she's truly playing a character and the real her is underneath.

“Queer Eye” style expert Tan France visited the “Charlie's Angels” set. Did he approve of everything in that giant closet where the Angels's wardrobe is housed?

(Laughs.) I wish he was able to consult on the closet! But he was with us after we were done in the closet (laughs). We were in Istanbul together. We had so much fun. I was so grateful that he came. I don't think he's ever been to Istanbul, which is a really incredible city. And he loved the ilm and is a huge supporter of it. He's just been great.

Are you a “Queer Eye” groupie now?

Oh, I've been a groupie since the original Fab Five, honey. I love the irst go 'round. I'm back for round two. I can't get enough. I have not seen (the special) Tokyo (season) yet. Have you?

No, but I've got a box of Kleenex ready to go.

Yeah, exactly. I bawl during every single episode. (Laughs.)

How did you connect with Laverne Cox for her cameo in “Charlie's Angels?”

I got to develop two television shows with her and love her and I think she's an incredible talent, and she blessed Charlie's Angels. I told her a year-and-a-half ago when I irst started, “I have something in mind for you and it will be small at irst, but I promise there's more if you'll just trust me,” and she was like, “Let's do it. Anything.” Oﬀ we go!

You seem to be strongly suggesting you're working on another “Charlie's Angels” film. Are you thinking of making an even queerer follow-up?

I can't… I don't want to… I just want to tell you I always keep her in mind.

It's been said that you playing a space witch in “Power Rangers,” Rita Repulsa, is the ultimate queer role. Is that really your queerest role yet?

Oh, she is probably really high on the energy scale, isn't she? Wow. And also just the costuming. And she was real mad at guys too, by the way (laughs). Yeah, I'm gonna go with Rita, for sure.

You're gonna go with her over Eﬃe Trinket in “The Hunger Games?”

I think so, yeah. I think Ef ie's kind of asexual, actually. She's more of a drag queen; she really has an af inity for Haymitch, obviously. I think that's real. The two of them had a connection but I think in general, yeah. Asexual.

Will LGBTQ characters be among the cast of your HBO show “DC Super Hero High?”

I don't want to say too much about that, honestly. But I'm sure self-exploration will be a part of

their journeys as they are very young and in high school.

As a producer, how important is LGBTQ inclusivity when it comes to the projects that you oversee?

I think it's really important. Also, it's really good business. I'm all about trying to be fresh, and some (people) are like, “You seem to have a lot of female-fronted ilms and television shows. You have Aidy Bryant on Shrill, Kristen... ”

The fact of the matter is that as a businesswoman, I'm trying to create (in a way) that feels really fresh to people, that feels like you haven't seen it before, that feels exciting and new and speaks to right now. It just comes down to the fact that a white, male, cisgender perspective is just not fresh. We've been looking at 'em for 100 years (laughs). And in media right now, I'm about giving voice to something a little diﬀerent than that. As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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uSpotlight Ad of the Week

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Mark’s List Marketplace u HELP WANTED

HELP WANTED!!! FULL-TIME HOUSEKEEPER AT THE GRAND RESORT AND SPA. NO PHONE CALLS PLEASE!

Looking for a Full-Time and Part-Time Housekeepers for this award-winning, men’s clothing optional, spa resort. Candidates must be able to work a flexible schedule, which will include weekends and holidays, have hotel/ resort experience, and references. Candidates should be efficient, detailed and dependable. Send resumes to jobs@ grandresort.net for consideration. No Phone Calls Please!

RAMROD BAR BOOT BLACK

Part time. Will train! Leave number with bartender.

ADMIN. ASSIST/ACCTS REC

Broward County Marketing firm looking to fill entry level admin assist and Accts Rec. positions. Pleasant phone voice a must, exp with QB helpful, email resume to jeffrey@rmkworldwide.com

CLUB FORT LAUDERDALE NOW HIRING

Now Hiring Full time team members for a Private Men’s Club. Customer / Hospitality experience is a plus. We are open 24/7, so you must have a flexible schedule. We are looking for reliable, dependable team members. The position requires cleaning during your shift. We offer competitive wages. Submit application and resume to the front desk. 110 NW 5th Ave. Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33311. 954-525-3344 www.clubftl.com

WORTHINGTON RESORTS

Handyman needed to improve And maintain three hotels at beach. Knowledge and dependability a must. Apply in person @ 543 North Birch Rd. Or send to info@theworthington.com 954-563-6819

SPA POSITIONS

The Spa at The Grand Resort is looking for a Licensed Massage Therapist for our day spa. Also looking for a Licensed Full Specialist. Waxing, nails (no fills, acrylic) simply buff or clear coat and a variety of facials. We’ll train you on our products and services. The right therapist and specialists can do well in our spa. We’ve been in business for 18 years and have received many awards. All equipment and materials are provided. We receive guests from the resort we are located in, along with clients from neighboring hotels and guesthouses. Commission and 100% of your gratuity. 3-4 days available for the right candidates. Email a resume to spa.director@ hotmail.com. 102 | Hotspots.LGBT

GEORGIE’S ALIBI MONKEY

is seeking part time line cooks up to 30 hours per week. Apply in person Monday – Friday 2 pm – 4pm or send resume with pic to jeff@alibiwiltonmanors.com

ALIBI MONKEY BAR IS SEEKING PART TIME SECURITY

Up to 30 hours per week. Send resume & pic to jeff@ alibiwiltonmanors.com or apply in person between 2 & 4 pm daily. Must be available weekend evenings.

u FOR SALE - BROWARD FORT LAUDERDALE

Look Homesites 3/2 Ocean Access Hollywood $359k! Plantation Gardens 4/3, 2CG, Pool. Full Solar. $465k. Meadowbrook 2/2 1 mile from beach $175k. 2/2 Hidden Harbor Condo $1,450/mo. Coral Ridge Seasonal Pool House $6,500/m. See display ad in this issue. “Broker Joe” Grano, Realtor® 954-931-0031

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u FOR SALE - OTHER SAN JOSE COSTA RICA - FOR SALE BY OWNER

Beautiful hill-top house in San Jose, Costa Rica, steps away from world famous Colours Oasis Resort. 4 BR, 3.5 baths, 4100 sq.ft., incrediable views, fully furnished and ready to move in. $349,000. For more info go to www.HillTopHouseSanJose.com or call Tracy at 305-891-4959.

Mark’s List Marketplace

Meadowbrook Coral Ridge Look Homesites Cypress Harbor Plantation 2/2 Corner 3/2 Ocean Gardens 4/3 Country Club 3/2 Ocean Condo on lake Access 4/2.5 w/Pool. Access. 1,310 Pool 2CG Impact Glass Full Solar $465k $175k 3,000 sqft. 900k sqft. $449k $359k Rent @ Hidden Harbor 2/2 $1,440/m. @ Coral Ridge 4/2.5 Pool House $6,500/m

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Mark’s List Marketplace u RENTALS - OAKLAND PARK 1/1 IN OAKLAND PARK. $975. BRIGHT, SPACIOUS “OWNERS UNIT”

Tiles floors. Granite counter-tops. New Hurricane Impact windows. Large walk in closet. Off the street parking for one car per unit. $50 application fee. Background check. No pets. No smoking. Call 754-366-7563

u RENTALS - OTHER DOWNTOWN HOLLYWOOD

Lg. 1/1, Condo, 1st Floor, private parking, 4 blocks to entertainment, arts, food etc. - Less than 10 minutes to the beach. $1100./mo., CAN SPREAD OUT F/L/S Contact Joe AT 954-656-7608 or TEXT/ MSG with “apartment”

u COUNSELING METH PROBLEM??

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GENDER ALTERED AND OTHER ASPECTS OF SEXUALITY

and personality may be conditioned subliminally. Please call Mark Ranne (972) 951-9025

u LICENSED MASSAGE u RENTALS - FORT LAUDERDALE

MASSAGE BY MARK

3040 NE 21 AVE FT LAUDERDALE

Great massage, great price. 90 minute massage clients $45./therapeutic massage. In the Fort Lauderdale area. In or out. 954-463-6791, 954895-2265, no texting please.

FT LAUDERDALE 1/1 EAST OF I-95 IN A QUIET SETTING

Offering Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Sports and Deep Tissue Massage for Men at Affordable Rates in a comfortable and Private Massage studio located in Wilton Manors on NE 26th Street, Same Day appointments can mostly be accommodated. Great New Specials Available call for details. Gift Certificates Available. Call Jim at 954-600-5843 or visit my website at www.massagebyjim.com License MM22293. Plenty of Free Parking

2 Bedroom apt. Ceramic tile through out, ceiling fans central A/C, shared laundry on property, off street parking. Close to Coral Ridge Mall, bus line, close to Wilton Manors, No DOGS, cat okay. $1,250.00 monthly. F / L / S to move in. Contact blueboy1st@ hotmail.com Bill (954) 226.8315 French doors lead to a private deck and yard, tile floors, large walk-in closet. Friendly pets ok. $950 mo. Call James at 305-606-1657

1 BEDROOM, 1.5 BATH CONDO, S CORAL RIDGE ON MIDDLE RIVER

Gay friendly, secure, swimming pool. Must be vetted, yearly rental $1550/M 1st & Security. 978-994-0086

u RENTALS - WILTON MANORS DUPLEX FOR RENT WILTON MANORS

2 bed / 1 bath, renovated. Nice private fenced yard, driveway ½ mile to The drive, Florida room 1650.00 call- 954-804-6764

WALK TO WILTON DR. STUDIO/EFFICIENCY

Private entrance, nice studio/efficiency. 1/2 Block to Wilton Drive. Refrigerator, microwave, electric & water included. $895./month plus 1 month security. Call 313-460-3881

WILTON MANORS 1/1

Completely renovated, central air, DW, W/D in unit. Prime location. Beautifully landscaped complex, minutes to the drive. Pet friendly. $1225./mo. Contact Rich 718-314-8686 104 | Hotspots.LGBT

AWESOME MASSAGE BY JIM

MASSAGE/SKIN CARE/WAXING/MANSCAPING

In & out travel to resorts or homes. Private studio located at Hollywood Blvd. & 95. Massage/Facials/ Waxing www.massagemp.com 305-331-1010 Miguel MA0025781

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u HAIR REMOVAL

LET ME SHAVE YOU

Body shaving and trimming in the comfort of your own home. Friendly, no attitude, Broward only. $50.00 per session 9AM-9PM, call Michael at 754-222-6623

HAIR REMOVAL & MORE!

Waxing, facials, trimming, shaving and body scrubs at its best. Very friendly and relaxing experience. Visit me today. For appointment please call 954-649-9905. WWW.BRAZILLIANTOUCH.COM

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Markâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s List Marketplace u PERSONAL TRAINING

u BODY CONTOURING

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u CLEANING SERVICES PANE IN THE GLASS

WINDOW CLEANING, PRESSURE CLEANING, GUTTER CLEANING AND WINDOW TINT REMOVAL. CALL SCOTT 954-608-7625 CELL

***CLEAN IT RITE*** THE BEST CLEANING FOR YOUR BUCK!

1BD $60, 2BD $70, 3BD $80. Excellent rates and references. 10 years in the business. Serving Broward, North Miami and South Palm Beach. Also pet sitting and window cleaning avail. Call Manny at 954-371-8920

BRAZILIAN HOME AND OFFICE CLEANING

Let the Brazilian Man do it. Your Home or Office Cleaning. In business since 1998. 1BD/$50 and Up, 2BD/$60 and Up. Weekly, bi-weekly. Free quote available. Call or Text 954-861-7617

GENTLEMAN AT YOUR SERVICES

Thank you for taking the time to read our ad. We are very responsible company looking to help you with anything and everything from cleaning, shopping, preparing meals and laundry. You name it we do it no job to big or small. If we can be of service to you please call us at 508-353-5061, we are happy to meet with you and discuss your needs and answer any questions that you may have. We Look Forward To Hearing From You!!!

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Mark’s List Marketplace u HANDYMAN ONE-STOP SHOPPING AND ASSOCIATES HANDYMAN/REMODELING AND MORE WITH OVER 30 YEARS EXPERIENCE IN ALL PHASES OF... Home improvements, additions, electrical, plumbing, painting, kitchen, baths, wood flooring / trim, TV mounting, Former owner of a NY remodeling co. as well as a hands on worker, because I demand perfection in all I do. Please call Mitch for prompt honest and dependable service. Lic. CGC1514441 and insured. 954-253-4650

KENNY & JAY REPAIRS AND MAINTENANCE

u COMPUTERS **OPTIMA** COMPUTER REPAIR 954-817-3883

IN-HOME SERVICE. Proudly serving our community for over 20 years. *Get the BEST performance, protection & value from your computer investment. *A+ Hardware & OS certified. *Friendly, professional, RELIABLE service. Reasonable rates. Call: Mike 954-817-3883

HELPMEERIC.COM ! TECH SUPPORT

Your Personal Tech Assistant. BEST RATES in the tri-county area. Specializing in Android & iPhones. PC/Mac-Training, Installation, Clean-up & Repairs. Friendly, In-Home Srvc. Call/Txt 954-903-4383.

u ELECTRICAL

Bathroom, kitchen, microwave, plumbing and electric, outlets, switches, breakers. Time clocks, Upgrade breaker box, repair or replace sprinkler & pool motors, replace & remove hot water tanks & install tankless water heaters. Vanity. sinks, faucets, dishwasher & garbage disposals. K&J 954-260-9940 BEST PRICES IN TOWN! 32 Years Experience.

SKILLED HANDYMAN FOR THOSE WHO DON’T POSSESS A HAMMER

Asian handyman for light repairs in and around the house. Fast repairs, clean job. Rate: $15/hour or $50 / 3 hours. Wilton Manors location. Same day service possible. Handyman Tom: 954-309-1418

CAPTAIN’S REPAIR & MAINTENANCE

Carpentry - Plumbing - Electrical. 20 years experience in Ft Lauderdale. Projects done on time and clean. Call 786.348.3598

u LAWN MAINTENANCE/IRRIGATION IRRIGATION SYSTEM REPAIR AND MAINTENANCE

30 Years experience, excellent work, referrals upon request. Call Roberto at 954-383-8980

LAWN MAINTENANCE - LANDSCAPE

Make your home a showplace. INTEGRITY LANDSCAPE SERVICES, LLC specializes in property clean up, tree and shrub pruning, sodding and landscape design & installation. We also do lawn maintenance. Call Mike 561633-7419 or 954-812-5434 our website at www. integrityLandscapingService.com

TAX PREPARATION

HARRY’S ELECTRIC - RESIDENTIAL & COMMERCIAL

Additions, renovations, service upgrades, breaker panels, FPL undergrounds, code violations, A/C wiring, ceiling fans, recessed, security & landscaping, lighting, pools, pumps, Jacuzzis, water heaters, FREE PHONE ESTIMATES 954-522-3357 Lic & Ins. www.harryelectrician.com

RTS ELECTRIC - 24 HOUR SERVICE

Quality work at a reasonable price. Licensed & Insured #98-CME-1807-X. Contact 954-257-9509. Also, all size generator service and installation.

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HAROLD J BLOTCHER, EA

Tax Preparation and Resolution for Individuals and Small Business. Help With Same Sex Marriage Issues and IRS Issues. Call 781-363-5519 or 561-429-3592 or visit our website at www.haroldjblotchertaxes.com

u AIR CONDITIONING *** EXPERT AIR ADVICE *** ** AIR CONDITIONING REPAIRS **

Cooling is what we do best. FPL rebates, insured, CACO 36862. FREE estimates on replacements. $95 tune up, Call 954-764-1990

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Markâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s List Marketplace CENTRAL AIR CONDITIONING

Repairs, installations, indoor air quality. Residential/ Commercial. Proudly serving the tri-county area. Quality and experience. Free service calls for all A/C makes and models. Lic/Ins CMC1249558 Call 954-274-8287 for your free estimate. **10% off your first repair**

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u MOVING | STORAGE RED BOX MOVING COMPANY OWNER IN TRUCK ON EVERY MOVE

Call Norbert directly. Affordable, Reliably and Careful. Insured & Licensed MV#567 www.RedBoxMoving. com (954)305-9176

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HOT ADVICE By Andreus Quinones

ONCE A MAN, TWICE A CHILD

Dear Andreus, My husband wants to move his father into our house because he is elderly and needs supervision due to health issues and his frailness. I do care for his family, and his father is pretty much all he has left besides his sister, however I am not sure that this is the best decision. We have 2 small dogs and would have to modify our home with bars in the tubs, showers and along the hallways. Also, his father's health requires a lot of attention, and he wants us to take shifts caring for him. I am not up to the responsibility. I work from home, and am at home more than him, but I do not have the time to give his father the proper attention. My husband says I am being selfish. I don't know what to do. Sincerely, Rolando P. Dear Rolando, There is a saying- â&#x20AC;&#x153;Once a man, twice a child.â&#x20AC;? As our parents age, it is inevitable that we will end up caring for them. However, how we chose to do that needs to be carefully executed considering the role of every person involved. You know what you can do, and if you are not able to give his father the proper attention because of your obligations with work, that is understandable. If it is necessary to have him come to live with you both, then maybe you can talk about having a caregiver. Otherwise, your husband may need to adjust his schedule to meet his father's needs. After all, it is his father and that is not your primary responsibility. Sit down, talk it out, and come to a solid agreement.

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Make sure that you are both comfortable with the agreement, because it can have a lasting effect on your relationship. Best of luck to you both!

Dear Andreus, I have a co-worker who likes me. Well, I like him also. We met at a local bar after work one day for drink and ended up having sex. Now when we are at work, I feel awkward because he is literally all over me. He tries to be touchy-feely and says inappropriate things around my other co-workers. I am afraid to go to HR because I don't want to lose my job. What do I do? Sincerely, Pierce C. Dear Pierce, It is a rule of thumb to not have personal relationships with the people that you work with. Now, clearly things have gotten out of hand. What you can do, is talk to him outside of work and let him know that his behavior is unprofessional. If for some reason you wish to continue a personal relationship, any intimate behavior must be outside of work, or maybe one of you should transfer to another location if possible. If that does not help, then warn him that you will go to HR. If this becomes a problem, you may not have a choice but to go to HR, and you might want to do it before he possibly does. Hope this was a worthwhile learning experience!

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