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Ceviches By Divino
15651 Sheridan Street, Suite 700 • Davie, FL 33131 954.266.0664 • cevichesbydivino.com Mon-Thur & Sun 12pm-9pm • Fri -Sat 12pm-10pm Whether you are a foodie, or just down to taste something unique, you can now experience genuine Peruvian flavors with an industrial ambiance. With four locations in SoFla, their menu highlights the authentic flavors of its cuisine by properly presenting high level Peruvian Tapas, Rolls, Pokes as well as Ceviches. Their menu is quite extensive featuring appetizers, tapas, 13 different ceviches, tacos, burritos, rolls, entrees, cocktails, beers and of course, desserts. Definitely a restaurant worth visiting.
Zucca
162 Alcazar Avenue • Coral Gables, FL 33134 786.580.3731 • zuccamiami.com Mon-Thur & Sun 12pm-10pm • Fri-Sat 12pm-11pm Known as one of the most acclaimed restaurants in Coral Gables, Zucca is an authentic regional Italian experience in the area and its lovely décor shows just that to back up a true Italian cuisine. Their wine list is a window into the world of fine wines for the most discerning collector. Whether it is seafood, meat or pasta, the menu at Zucca is a reflection of Italy’s towns. If you like outdoor dining, enjoy dining al fresco with a casual yet festive european atmosphere at the Zucca Garden. Buon appetito!
Circle House Coffee
119 W. Oakland Park Blvd. • Oakland Park, FL 33311 954.870.6456 • circlehousecoffee.com Min-Fri 5:30am-3pm • Sat-Sun 6am-3pm Created in 2018 by NFL linebacker, Stephen Tulloch, CHC is a lovely place should you need to push your reset button or just need to grab a quick breakfast or lunch. Yes, you can come in and sit down or you can just use the drive-thru if you are on the go. One of my favorites is their chicken, beef and spinach empanadas. Breakfast & lunch are served all day. You might want to stop by again to try one of their shakes or their CBD-infused slushies. Vegan treats are also available like donuts, banana bread & cookies.
Buccan Palm Beach
350 S. County Rd. • Palm Beach, FL 33480 • 561.833.3450 buccanpalmbeach.com • Mon-Sun 5pm-9:30pm Fri-Sat 5pm-10pm Buccan offers an outstanding culinary experience in an informal environment, focusing on superior ingredients and preparation in small plate presentations. To highlight from their menu: Maine Lobster & Shrimp, Short Rib Empanadas, American Red Snapper and their Fried Chicken Sundays are back through Summer. Advanced ordering is recommended. Gift cards also available.
By Romeo San Vicente
The 'American Horror Story' cast is more queer than ever
Season 11 of “American Horror Story” is on the way, and the roster of stars is quite satisfyingly queer. Zachary Quinto is back for another round; Russell Tovey will make his “AHS” debut; Joe Mantello and Charlie Carver, from 2018's Broadway revival of “Boys in the Band,” and Isaac Cole Powell from “West Side Story” are also along for the ride; “Pose” co-star and all-around comedy legend Sandra Bernhard is confirmed, even though Sarah Paulson, an “AHS” vet, has not yet made it clear if she'll be returning or not. And finally, queeradjacent Broadway royalty Patti LuPone is set to make her mark on the production, too. It's currently shooting in New York, but plot details are currently top secret. Stay tuned.
Jason Isaacs takes the lead in Cary Grant biopic
The Cary Grant biopic, a fourpart limited series currently in production from screenwriter Jeff Pope (“Philomena”) and starring Jason Isaacs, is called “Archie.” Confused? Well, young person, Cary Grant was a huge movie star in the Golden Age of Hollywood during the 20th century and his real name was Archibald Leach. The handsome young man arrived in Los Angeles, secured a studio contract, a name change, a “bachelor roommate” situation with fellow movie star Randolph Scott (and before him costume design legend OrryKelly), and then a series of wives. As the public image was constructed, Grant's star
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rose, and the rest is public history. Will “Archie” lean into or out of the private and unconfirmed biographical details of Grant's life? Who knows, but it is confirmed that the series will deal with his impoverished childhood in England, and his last marriage to actress Dyan Cannon. Beyond that, it's anyone's guess, but queer history has always been about reading between the lines of the official story.
Hari Nef to star in Candy Darling biopic
Rising transgender star Hari Nef, making memorable turns in “And Just Like That…” and “Transparent,” is moving forward to a starring role in the upcoming Candy Darling biopic. “Transparent” writer Stephanie Kornick is behind the script detailing the career of the trans pioneer, who left Long Island behind for Manhattan and a life as one of Andy Warhol's group of “superstars.” She appeared in the Warholproduced films “Flesh” and “Women in Revolt” – in addition to the cult queer exploitation flick “Some of My Best Friends Are” – and was the subject of the Velvet Underground song “Candy Says” as well as a figure in Patti Smith's memoir, “Just Kids.” In other words, a short but shining life and an important part of queer cultural history. A film like this has the potential to be not just a gift to queer viewers but a chance to bring Nef's star power to a wider audience. More news on this one when a title, director and more cast are announced.
Matt Rogers of 'Fire Island' will gift us with his own Christmas special
Haven't listened to “Las Culturistas,” Matt Rogers' wild, extremely gay podcast with Bowen Yang? Or watched Rogers steal scenes in “Fire Island”? Or caught up to the hilarious Vanessa Bayer sitcom “I Love That For You”? Well, then, correct those errors, please, because the comic actor/writer/everything is no longer up and coming — he's here and doing it. And word is that casting notices have gone up on Backstage.com for a filmed version of his stage show, “Have You Heard of Christmas?” The concept involves Rogers performing a holiday album of original songs with special guests — one of those casting notices is for a Mariah Carey lookalike — and deranged Christmas cheer. There's no official word yet on when the special will drop, on which platform it'll appear, or which surprise comedy guests will collaborate, but we're already living for this unexpected and queerly cozy holiday news.
Romeo San Vicente will watch any Christmas special any day of the year.
Johnsons 5th Anniversary
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Tuc Watkins on Queer TV, Then & Now
The “Desperate Housewives” star uncouples from Neil Patrick Harris in a new Netflix series
By Chris Azzopardi
Tuc Watkins hasn't just seen how gay relationships have evolved on television — he's been a part of that evolution. On “Desperate Housewives,” Watkins portrayed one half of gay couple Bob and Lee, who became residents of Wisteria Lane in 2007.
But the 55-year-old actor has actually been playing gay characters since the 1990s, when he portrayed the boyfriend to Alexis Arquette's character in the 1997 indie rom-com “I Think I Do.” In 1999, he took on the satirical Showtime comedy-drama “Beggars and Choosers,” which ran for 42 episodes. In the show, Watkin's character, Malcolm Laffley, came out of the closet after being accused of sexual harassment by a woman.
Now, as Colin, he returns to a different kind of queer culture in the Netflix series “Uncoupled,” where PrEP and sending butthole pics on Grindr are the norm and, most importantly, LGBTQ+ characters aren't just mere
accessories but full-on leads. In other words, as Colin breaks it off with Michael (Neil Patrick Harris), they don't get to just watch the drama unfold — they _are_ the drama.
Watkins, of course, is no stranger to the kind of heightened emotional spectacle that lives most commonly within the TV world. Beginning in 1994, the Kansas City native spent nearly 20 years on “One Live to Life.” More recently, he played Hank in the 2018 Broadway revival of “The Boys in the Band” and the 2020 Netflix film, which featured the same Broadway cast, including Watkins' partner Andrew Rannells.
Recently, Watkins reflected on his firsthand experiences of playing gay roles, how it took 30 years for him to star in a Darren Star (“Sex and the City,” “90210”) project, and the crazy thing he learned that Neil Patrick Harris can do with his tears.
A gay man being in a bubble after being in a relationship for so long, which is the concept for “Uncoupled” — has that ever been you, where you get back out into the gay world and you're like, "Wow, gay people have changed"?
Unfortunately, I have experience in this arena. I've had four significant, intimate relationships in my life, and I've been dumped in 50% of those relationships. The reason I think that those two guys dumped me is because they are morons. I am kind and fun and a 100% all-around, wonderful guy. I got back together with those two guys to prove that to them and then we broke up again. Yes. I've experienced singledom in midlife and it stinks. Of course, it stinks. You think it might be fun. "Oh, I get to go on the apps, so I get to date around. I get to try all these things that my friends have been trying." Most of that stuff is more fun in theory.
You're right because there's a big learning curve here, as Michael realizes in “Uncoupled.” I imagine straight people also have to deal with some kind of cultural curve after their breakups.
Breakups don't choose a sexuality to be more horrible to. They're bad to everybody. I think what is unique about “Uncoupled,” is it wasn't that long ago that we were celebrating gay marriage, but what comes with gay marriage? Gay divorce, and so there's two sides to that coin. To reflect what it's like to be single and gay in midlife in an urban environment is not something that we've explored a lot. In the hands of [creators] Jeff Richmond and Darren Star, breaking up stinks when it happens to you. But when it happens to someone else, it's funny.
Speaking of gay men in relationships on TV, I was thinking about Bob and Lee in “Desperate Housewives” and reflecting on whether a shift has happened in how gay or queer men in relationships are portrayed. Have you seen a shift between being an actor on that show and, years later, on “Uncoupled”?
Well, I think that's a really good observation because there has been a shift. When Kevin Rahm and I played the gay couple on “Desperate Housewives,” it was about the same time that Jesse Tyler and Eric [Stonestreet] were playing the gay couple over on “Modern Family.” But what was notable about those two things is that there was a gay couple on those shows. And what I think has happened since is, you've got a show like “Uncoupled,” where it's full of characters from the LGBT community. It's not just the gay couple who have to represent what a gay couple is. You've got different stripes from a very colorful tapestry. I don't feel like we have to show up and feel like we're representing what being a gay person means. Because as we all know, there's a huge spectrum, and that spectrum is now
starting to be reflected in the programming that we have.
The show opens up with you two in bed.
It does. In fact, in the script, it was more graphic. What made it into the episode was a little bit tamer, but we are pushing that envelope in scripts and what we shoot. And maybe it doesn't always make it to screen, but we are headed in that direction. I think that's a great thing. It's just more representative of who we are as a community.
What was the conversation around the scene that was cut and the one that inevitably made it on screen?
I don't remember in “Desperate Housewives” how many love scenes you had with Kevin. But I do know that “Modern Family” got a lot of flack for not allowing its gay couple to kiss.
I think Kevin and I got married on that show. And if I remember correctly, there was a kiss in the script and it was cut, either by the time we shot it or the time that we aired it. Now to their credit, later, we had a very passionate kiss in another episode, but the fact that it was an issue… It probably went through several committees at the network: “Should they or should they not?” And if you watch “Uncoupled,” there's a lot more than kissing. I'm no prude, but it gets pretty… in there.
I was not part of that conversation. I was in the scene, and Neil and I did the scene together. That scene in bed initially was a scene [that] was more graphic in a funny way, but in a very real way. I think they actually made a good choice in toning that down a little bit, because I think it may have set the series off on the wrong foot. The first 30 seconds are very indicative of the tone of a show. I think it would've been a good spice to the show, but maybe not in the first 30 seconds. [In a separate interview, Star said, “We wanted to emphasize the intimacy of their relationship and not the sexuality of their relationship. For the first 30 seconds of a show that nobody knows what it's about, it felt like it was kind of creating almost a false impression of the story we wanted to tell about who these two people were.]
Did you audition for the role?
Well, I've been trying to work with Darren Star ever since he did not cast me in the pilot of “Melrose Place.” I reminded him of that when we started working together. I schemed and plotted and made very fast work of forcing him to cast me almost a half century later.
What happened with “Melrose Place”?
Well, I auditioned for the gay guy, and he hired that knucklehead, Doug Savant, instead of me. Doug and I later became friends on “Desperate Housewives.” He's one of the nicest guys in the world, which made it even worse that Doug got the job because a nice guy succeeded. There's nothing worse than a nice guy succeeding. You stick around long enough, everything comes around. So it took a while, but I got to work with Darren after all.
So what was it like to be a part of the Darrenverse?
What I like about Darren shows is they're aspirational. By way of example, I was in a relationship with a guy and I had the opportunity to move to New York a number of years ago, and he didn't want to move to New York. I made him watch “Sex and the City” because who doesn't want to live in Darren Star's New York City? I made him watch that and sure enough, it worked and he moved to New York with me. I think [Darren] creates a world that we want to live in. “Desperate Housewives” was also a world like, "Who doesn't want to live on that street? It looks so inviting." In fact, I tried to mail a letter in the mailbox one day and the prop guy said, "What are you doing? That's a prop." You forget that you're on a set.
For “Uncoupled,” what was it like building an onscreen romantic relationship with Neil, and how much did you know each other before you started shooting?
Neil and I had never met. I quickly learned that Neil is like a surgeon when it comes to his acting style. He knows what needs to be done and he executes it. He knows where the joke is, he doesn't do too much. He doesn't do too little. And, well, he's a magician, isn't he? In real life, he's a magician. He's got a tattoo of a magic trick on his shoulder. One of the magic tricks that I saw him perform was, he has to do some pretty emotional, heavy lifting in some scenes that he and I do. When he was shot in profile, he cried from the eye that was on camera. But he reserved the tears in the eye that the camera couldn't see, in case there was coverage coming up that he might need to use that eye. Now, that is a real technical, magical actor at work.
I didn't even know that was scientifically possible.
Well, he's got a real facility to his instrument, you could say.
You have appeared in some of my favorite shows throughout the years, including “Six Feet Under” and “The Other Two.” I was surprised to find out that you were in “Silk Stalkings,” the show I watched and shouldn't have as a teenager.
I think Rick Springfield beat me up in “Silk Stalkings.” I was beat up by Rick Springfield. What does that do for your ego to be beat up by Rick Springfield?
If you're going to be on “Silk Stalkings,” you might as well.
Yeah. Might as well get beat up by Rick Springfield.
Growing up, what was the moment in your life where you knew you wanted to be an actor?
I remember in high school, I went to see a production of “Cyrano de Bergerac” at the Guthrie Theater in Minneapolis. There was a moment where the stage went dark, and it came right back on and a huge tree branch had come out from under the proscenium. The actors took their cues off of individual leaves that fell off of that branch. I remember thinking, “That is so cool, I want to do cool stuff like that.” I think I was more interested in the magic and the tricks. The first musical I ever saw was “The Music Man” with Tony Randall at Starlight Theater in Kansas City, and I was just a kid. I remember that at the end of one of his big musical numbers, Tony Randall climbs to the center of this red, Japanese bridge. One of those short but highly arched, red bridges. He throws out his arms and it's a big musical number that ends. My takeaway was: “That's not a real bridge. That's a bridge on a stage, and that's cool. I want to do that.” My entrance to being an actor was for all the tricks and the fun stuff.
Now that you've been doing this for quite some time, have you pulled off the kind of magic you dreamed about as a kid?
Well, I used to think as an actor, I wanted to ride a horse, shoot a gun and get killed. I got to do all three of those things in “The Mummy,” 20 years ago. So maybe I should have just retired at that point. It's all downhill after you get to ride a horse, shoot a gun and get killed.
And of course, Rick Springfield.
Yes. Well, that was a departure.
Chris Azzopardi is the Editorial Director of Pride Source Media Group and Q Syndicate, the national LGBTQ+ wire service. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter
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By Andreus Quinones
Dear Andreus, I have been long-distance dating someone for about 4 months now. We talk every day, and he has even expressed an interest in moving to my area so that we can take things up a notch. About two weeks ago, he says to me that he was starting to talk to someone in his area, so I backed off. Now he comes back and says that the guy was not what he expected, and he hopes that we can pick up where we left off. Even though I really like him, I don't know how to feel about this. What are your thoughts? Sincerely, Jacob L.
Dear Jacob, NO, NO, NO. My response to this is absolutely NOT! Basically, you guys had something going on, and clearly it was becoming serious if he was talking about moving. Then suddenly you are put on hold for someone else. Clearly, you are not a priority. From my perspective, it is unacceptable to for him to behave this way and then come back as if nothing ever happened. This is a red flag, and an indication of questionable behavior that would likely repeat itself. Suppose he were to move, and you get deeply involved in a relationship. Who's to say that he would not put you on hold because he met someone else, and then try to come back again. That sounds like the perfect recipe for cheating. Save yourself the trouble and run!
Dear Andreus, I have a roommate, a friend who moved in with me. We get along
great, and I really like him as a person. He recently started dating someone, and it has gotten very serious. They are pretty much together every day. The issue for me, is that his boyfriend is at my place all the time. It is so much so, that I feel like I am a guest. I have tried to make subtle hints, such as him visiting his boyfriend's place sometime, but he says that his boyfriend prefers visiting him. I am afraid that this is going to put a terrible strain on our friendship. I used to share food and everything with my roommate, and now I am hiding things, because he is sharing everything with his boyfriend. I don't know what to do now. Sincerely, Antonio R.
Dear Antonio, Looks like you are going to have to have a serious conversation. If not, this is eventually going to come to a boiling point, and it may not turn out well. There should have been ground rules established when your friend moved in. It seems that you are a very private or at least space-conscious, and you are feeling trapped. Express to your friend how you feel, and maybe suggest less frequent visits or maybe the two of them doing things outside of your place more. I had a similar situation before, and it is difficult when you almost feel like you are living with a couple. The only thing you can do is talk about it, and if that does not go over well – then maybe your friend might do better in his own place. There should always be a respect for space and boundaries when living with others, but in the future, you may want to establish that from the start.
