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By Mikey Rox
6 Tips for Staying Motivated at Work When Nothing’s Going Right
Staying motivated at work when the chips are down isn't easy. You feel deflated, like a failure, maybe even afraid you'll lose your job. The first thing to remember, however, is that none of us are perfect and all of us make mistakes. The second thing is that you can turn the situation around. Take a look at these eight ways to keep moving ahead when nothing seems to go right to get back on the path to success.
Read Some of the Hardship Stories of Successful People
One of my favorite TV shows is ABC's Shark Tank. As an entrepreneur myself I'm drawn to other entrepreneurs, and I'm often in awe of the brilliant businessmen and -women who enter the tank hoping for a deal. I enjoy hearing about the journey that led them to the biggest meeting of their lives, many of which, as they relay it to the sharks, veer off the course they set for themselves. Yet there they are, standing in front of dealmakers, heads held high, eagerly anticipating a partner that could one day make them rich. Their stories are a dime a dozen. Every person has their own tale of hardship at some point in their life, and it can be helpful when you're feeling down to tap into those anecdotes not only for comfort but also perhaps solutions to your problems. You may not find an answer per se, but it's certainly comforting to know that you're not alone – and that things will get better. If you don't have entrepreneurs in your circle that can offer their advice, the internet is full of from-the-bottom-up stories to help get your head back in the game.
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Adjust Your Goals to Put Achievement Within Reach
I write about goal-setting on a regular basis, and the biggest hurdle I see among people who fail frequently or who feel like failures often is that they've set their bars of achievement so high that it's nearly impossible to reach them. You'll end up disappointed more often than not if your goals are too lofty, which may mean that you need to reflect on them and adjust as necessary. Furthermore, it's been proven time again that by setting small, achievable goals opposed to wide-ranging ones often leads to success and increased motivation. Who doesn't like ticking off a box on their to-do list? Break your goals down so they're humanly possible to achieve, and you'll start to see the positive results almost immediately.
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Step Away From the Stress to Clear Your Head
You can't run when things go wrong, but there are plenty of other ways you can effectively set whatever's weighing on your mind to the side so you can refresh. For some that may be exercise; for others it may be after work drinks with friends. Wherever your safe space is located, go to it, de-stress, and revisit your issue with a rational point of view to get back on the straight and narrow.
Don't Be Too Proud to Ask for Help
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I prefer to work alone. Not so I can take all the glory, but rather so others don't slow me down. I work at my own pace, which is rather quick sometimes, and I don't like having to accommodate someone else's speed. Of course, there are times when I need help with something, and I'm not too proud to ask for it. One's preference to avoid asking for help probably stems back to those childhood vacations in the car when your family got lost and your dad absolutely was not asking anybody for directions, ever, no matter what. But if you're in a bind that requires a second set of eyes or hands, ask for the help. Recognizing that you can't do it all isn't a sign of failure, but rather success – especially when the alternative without the help might be failure anyway.
Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyrox
Keep Your Head Up and Look Toward the Future
It's hard to keep your eyes on the prize when a setback derails your progress, but don't let it zap your motivation completely. Remember why it is you're doing whatever you're doing and remind yourself that it's worthwhile, even through the hard times. Maybe you can revisit the beginning of the project when things were going according to plan, or perhaps check into your vision board for that extra oomph. However you want to do it, find the positive in what you're doing and refocus your sights on the outcome.
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Recognize That You Can't Control Everything – And That's OK
I'm a perfectionist and a control freak, which can wreak havoc on my motivation when life goes wrong. I want to lie in bed, pull the covers over my head, and pretend that none of the problems exist. Meanwhile, the truth of the matter is, they're continuing to pile up as I ignore them, exacerbating the problem further. So I have remind myself every now and then that I can't be the master of all things. Some things are out of my control – and that's all right.
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what’s hot By Scott Holland
everything you need to know
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Welcome to the What’s Hot November column where we feature events happening all over Central Florida. Continue reading on to learn What's Hot this month!
Friday, November 8
Southern Nights Orlando's #FlexFriday's presents Laganja Estranja from RuPaul's Drag Race Season 6. The night which is 18+ will also feature drag shows at 11pm and 12:30am starring Roxxxy Andrews, Maya Andrews, Sassy Devine, & Tashae Sherrington! You can also catch Laganja Estranja at Southern Nights Tampa on Saturday, November 9.
Orlando Improv presents Damon Wayans "The It's Personal Tour" from today through Sunday, November 10th. Damon will also play the Tampa Improv Friday, November 15 through Sunday, November 17. Known throughout the world for his no-holds barred comedic genius; Damon Wayans is best known as writer and star on FOX's Emmy Award-Winning series, “In Living Color.” There, he created some of the show's most iconic sketch characters, including “Homey the Clown,” “Handiman” and outrageously gay film critic “Blaine” from “Men on Film.” His writing for the series earned him two Emmy Award nominations. Wayans also starred in, cocreated and executiveproduced the hit comedy series “My Wife and Kids.” Tickets are $40 and $50 (VIP).
Saturday, November 9
The Amway Center presents
Miranda Lambert in her Roadside Bars & Pink Guitars Tour with special guests Maren Morris, Pistol Annies and Tenille Townes at 7pm. The two-time Grammy Award-winner and reigning Academy of Country Music (ACM) Female Vocalist of the Year says: “I'm so excited and honored to be on tour with some of my favorite artists, who each inspire me in a different way.” Tickets are $22 at AmwayCenter.com
Sunday, November 10
Southern Nights Tampa presents the most anticipated annual QOTN challenge. The time where Club Kids Reign
Supreme, and this year they are serving up a twist. They want to see avant-garde, out of the box, club kids giving 70s 80s or 90s throwback era tracks. This event is hosted by Conundrum and the winner will be chosen by audience applause. Doors open at 6:30pm with contest starting at 8pm. The winner will receive $200 in cash ($100 donated from Michelle Bone Woods), a photo shoot with the one and only Morgan Le Shade, and a booking at Southern Nights Tampa and Southern Nights Orlando.
Broadway show musical comedy featuring both original songs and your mostloved Jimmy Buffett classics, including “Fins,” “Volcano,” “Cheeseburger in Paradise” and many more. USA Today calls it "A little slice of paradise!" and Entertainment Weekly raves, "It will knock your flip-flops off!" So don't let the party start without you." Tickets start at $44.50 at Drphillipscenter.org. Escape to Margaritaville will also be playing at the Van Wezel on Mon, December 2 at 7:30pm.
Thursday, November 14
The Van Wezel Performing Arts Hall presents An Evening of Conversation with Julie Andrews at 7:30. A true legend in every sense of the word, Julie Andrews has entertained millions for more than half a century. Ms. Andrews shares her
Tuesday, November 12
Fairwinds Broadway in Orlando presents “Escape to Margaritaville, The Jimmy Buffett Musical” from tonight through Sunday, November 17 at the Dr. Phillips Center. Get ready for a hilarious and heartwarming musical with the most unforgettable songs from one of music's greatest storytellers, Jimmy Buffett. Welcome to Margaritaville, where people come to get away from it all—and stay to find something they never expected. With a book by Emmy Award winner Greg Garcia and Emmy Award nominee Mike O'Malley, Escape to Margaritaville is a
extraordinary experiences from her early days of vaudeville in England to the popular projects and work she continues to create today, including her new book "Home Work: A Memoir of My Hollywood Years". Joining Ms. Andrews is her daughter and co-author, Emma Walton Hamilton, who will facilitate questions from the audience. Julie Andrews will not be singing in this performance. Program will run
approximately 75 minutes with no intermission. Tickets start at $78 at Vanwezel.org.
Friday, November 15
The Orlando Improv presents Ali Siddiq from today through Sunday, November 17. Ali's unique style of stand-up began behind the walls of
incarceration, an incubator for interesting experiences and good stories. People received their first taste of Ali Siddiq when he appeared on HBO's Def Comedy Jam and Live From Gotham, and in 2013 he was named Comedy Central's "#1 Comic to Watch". Ali impressed comedy enthusiasts by displaying his ability to captivate an audience with his "Mexicans Got On Boots" tale, a descriptive storytelling of a prison riot on This Is Not Happening, the first of three appearances. His stories continued with his half hour special, which premiered on Comedy Central in the fall of 2016. Immediately following the premier of that special, Comedy Central offered Ali an hour-special where he performed for inmates live in a Texas jail, sending Ali back to where it all started.. Tickets are $20-$50.
Saturday, November 16
The Amway Center presents the Jonas Brothers at 7:30pm. After building overwhelming anticipation, Grammy-
Silky Ganache, with the Footlight Players. Shows are at 10pm and 12am and admission is $10 in advance, $15 at the door, and VIP is $25. Get tickets at: Phouseorlando.eventbrite.com.
down the 3,000 years between the Mayans and Pitbull into 110 irreverent and uncensored minutes above and beyond his unique style. Tickets start at $65 at Strazcenter.org
The Straz Center for the Performing Arts presents John Leguizamo in “Latin History for Morons” at 7:30pm. This show had endless critical and audience acclaim direct from Broadway, a sold-out run at The Public Theater, and a
The Straz Center for the Performing Arts presents “Once On This Island” from today through Sunday, November 24. What a delight it is to enter the world of “Once On This Island” raves The New York Times. Winner of the 2018 Tony Award for Best Revival of a Musical, “Once On This Island” is the sweeping, universal tale of Ti Moune, a fearless peasant girl in search of her place in the world, and ready to risk it all for love. Guided by the mighty island gods, Ti Moune sets out on a remarkable journey to reunite with the man who has captured her heart. The groundbreaking vision of two-time Tony Award-nominated director Michael Arden and acclaimed choreographer Camille A. Brown conjures up “a place where magic is possible and beauty is apparent for all to see!” (The Huffington Post). With a score that bursts with life from Lynn Ahrens and Stephen Flaherty, the Tony Award-winning songwriters of Anastasia and Ragtime, “Once On This Island” is a timeless testament to theater's unlimited possibilities. For tickets, go to: StrazCenter.org
Sunday, November 17
nominated multiplatinum powerhouse trio–Jonas Brothers—announced details for a second stop on their Happiness Begins Tour in Orlando. Tickets, which start at $57 are available at AmwayCenter.com. City Side Lounge Tampa presents Closet Ball 2020, now in its 4th year and honoring Miss Phelicity at 6pm. Closet Ball is a drag competition, where contestants with the help of an assistant, transform themselves into their alternate egos (Drag King or Drag Queen). This competition is meant for entertainment and grooming for new entertainers. VIP starts at 4pm -6 pm. This is a charity event benefitting Project No Labels and Visiuality. Contact Robert Rigsby at Vshowboy79@hotmail.com for information and contestant applications. The Parliament House presents, direct from season 11 of RuPaul's Drag Race,
record-breaking engagement at Berkeley Repertory Theatre. Latin History for Morons, reveals America's unsung heroes, throughout past and present – all unforgettably. Latin History for Morons is inspired by the near total absence of Latinos from his son's American History books. John Leguizamo embarks on an outrageously funny, frenzied search to find a Latin hero for his son's school history project. Leguizamo breaks
Tuesday, November 19
Wednesday, November 20
Southern Nights Orlando presents “Orlando Drag Race
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Live Season 6 Finale” presented by Kitana Gemini and hosted by Natalie Nayles! Doors open at 9:30pm, with event starting at 10:30pm
with the top 6 who are: Olivia Hoops, Athena, Briar Blush, Rydher Knightley, Rae O' Light, and Anomaly Pop. Admission is $12, with past ODRL contestants getting 50% off admission ($6). The judges will be: Addison Taylor, Roxxxy Andrews, Kaija Adonis, Brian Raegan, Bob Taylor, PePe, Jade Embers and Power Infiniti.
Friday, November 22
The Van Wezel Performing Arts Hall presents Cirque Dreams Holidaze tonight and tomorrow Saturday, November 23. Cirque Dreams Holidaze is a Broadway musical and new Cirque adventure wrapped into the ultimate holiday gift for the entire family! Featuring the most unique cast of incomparable cirque artists, singers, dancers and talent, it has been hailed by the New York Daily News as “A delicious confection of charm, sparkle and talent by the sleigh load.” Broadway singers perform original
create her unique style of smart funny content for the stage and screens. Tickets are $35 & $65
Sunday, November 24
The Amalie Arena presents Ariana Grande in her “Sweetener World Tour”
Thursday November 21
The Straz Center for the Performing Arts presents Los Vivancos in “Born to Dance” at 8pm. Flamenco fusion at its eye-popping best, the seven brothers of Los Vivancos mix up traditional flamenco with acrobatics, martial arts, classical ballet and street dance. Often accompanying themselves on multiple instruments, Los Vivancos deliver a stand-up-and-cheer evening of pure physical power. Tickets start at $35 at StrazCenter.org
music and a new twist on seasonal favorites like “Deck the Halls”, “Winter Wonderland” and “Jingle Bell Rock” in this groundbreaking holiday stage spectacular. Tickets start at $37 at Vanwezel.org. The Orlando Improv presents Amanda Seales tonight and tomorrow, Saturday, November 23. Comedian, actress, writer, producer, and more, Amanda doesn't just make you laugh, she makes change! With an uncanny knack for taking serious topics (racism, rape culture, sexism, police brutality, etc.) with humor, making them relatable and interesting, she combines intellectual wit, silliness, and a pop culture obsession to
tonight at 8pm. Tickets start at $32 at amaliearena.com. The tour will also be playing the Amway Center in Orlando on Monday, November 25at 8pm; AmwayCenter.com. The Amway Center presents Sara Bareilles in her Amidst The Chaos Tour with special guest Emily King at 8pm. The tour brings Bareilles on the road in support of her fifth, fulllength album, Amidst The Chaos. This marks her first album of original material since 2013. Tickets start at $32 at AmwayCenter.com
Saturday, November 30
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We, and MAX & AJ Mitchell at 7pm. Tickets start at $40 at Amaliearena.com
Tuesday, December 3
Orlando presents “Leather Night” hosted by Sir Joey with a Cigar Social at 9pm and demonstrations throughout the night. As always free parking and no cover! Joe Whitaker & The DILF Party Presents...DILF Tampa "STUFFED" featuring DJ Xavier Alvarado of Mexico City at Cristoph's Tampa. Attendees are encouraged to wear jocks, a harness, gear or leather. Early bird tickets on sale now at theDILFparty.com. Tickets will be available at the door based on venue capacity.
Sunday December 1
The Amalie Arena presents 93.3 FLZ's Jingle Ball starring Sam Smith, Lizzo, Normani, French Montana, Why Don't
Fairwinds Broadway in Orlando Presents “The Play That Goes Wrong” from today through Sunday, December 8 at The Dr. Phillips Center. What would happen if Sherlock Holmes and Monty Python had an illegitimate Broadway baby? You'd get The Play That Goes Wrong, Broadway & London's awardwinning smash comedy! Called “A gut-busting hit” (The New York Times) and “The funniest play Broadway has even seen” (HuffPost), this classic murder mystery is chock-full of mishaps and madcap mania delivering “A riotous explosion of comedy” (Daily Beast). Welcome to opening night of The Murder at Haversham Manor where things are quickly going from bad to utterly disastrous. With an unconscious leading lady, a corpse that can't play dead, and actors who trip over everything (including their lines), it's “Tons of fun for all ages” (HuffPost) and “Comic gold” (Variety)! Tickets start at $44.50 at Drphillipscenter.org. The Van Wezel Performing Arts Hall presents Tony Bennett in the "I Left My Heart" Tour at 8pm. Tony Bennett's career as the preeminent singer of the 20th and 21st centuries is unprecedented. He has received 19 Grammy Awards including the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award, 2 Emmy Awards and is a Kennedy Center Honoree and NEA Jazz Master. Bennett is one of a handful of artists to
have new albums charting in the '50s, '60s, '70s, '80s, '90s, and now in the first two decades of the 21st century. Antonia Bennett, his daughter and a graduate of Berklee College of Music, will open the performance with jazz and pop standards. Tickets start at $98 at vanwezel.org.
Thursday, December 5
The Straz Center for the Performing Arts presents “Straight Up With Stassi Live.” Everyone's favorite authority on basic, Stassi Schroeder, brings her hit podcast Straight Up With Stassi to
The Straz. Stassi wrote The New York Times bestselling book Next Level Basic, is the owner of National #OOTD Day and stars on Bravo's hit show Vanderpump Rules. Join Stassi and her special guests Beau Clark and Taylor Strecker as they talk pop culture, reality TV, celeb gossip, relationships and more. Tickets start at $54.50at Strazcenter.org
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Once On This Island plays the Straz Center's Morsani Hall from Nov. 19-24. Winner of the 2018 Tony Award for Best Revival of a Musical, Once On This Island is the sweeping, universal tale of Ti Moune, a fearless peasant girl in search of her place in the world, and ready to risk it all for love. Guided by the mighty island gods, Ti Moune sets out on a remarkable journey to reunite with the man who has captured her heart. The groundbreaking vision of two-time Tony Awardnominated director Michael Arden (Spring Awakening revival) and acclaimed choreographer Camille A. Brown (NBC's Jesus Christ Superstar Live) conjures up “a
Once On This Island Comes to Tampa Nov 19 - 24 By Scott Holland
place where magic is possible and beauty is apparent for all to see!” (The Huf ington Post). With a score that bursts with life from Lynn Ahrens and Stephen Flaherty, the Tony Awardwinning songwriters of Anastasia and Ragtime, Once On This Island is a timeless testament to theater's unlimited possibilities. Gather around for Once On This Island—the musical NY1 hails as “exhilarating theater! It's impossible to resist!” And where the timeless power of theatre brings us together, moves our hearts and helps us weather the storm. It was a pleasure to sit down with Kyle Ramar Freeman, who plays Asaka for this exclusive Hotspots interview.
year earlier, and I said to myself that I wanted to do the tour. For a year I manifested it to happen. I learned the music, etc. and the morning they announced the tour I had friends calling me. I went to the audition and did my best. I had 3 auditions after that and then I got the call that I was cast.
You are playing a female role. Is this the first time this happened in Once, and what's your thoughts on that?
Yes, this is the irst time it's happened and I love it. I love theater because I can be other people. I wear a dress, have make up on, and I am so happy to do it; it's a blast!
Besides this role, what has been your favorite role?
I loved playing Horton in Seussical, because it was my irst head role.
What's your dream/fantasy role?
I would love to create a character from the ground up. Something that's lovely and can inspire people.
You are a Miami boy, are you happy to be performing in Florida?
Yes, I am a native Floridian. I get to go back to Straz Center as I went to Tampa to compete in Florida Thespian competitions all through High School. Now I inally get to perform on the main stage. I am very excited about it!
When did the performing bug take a hold of you?
I was about 8 years old in elementary school when I decided I wanted to be a performer. When I saw people perform I saw freedom, and I wanted that freedom. It turns out I was pretty good at it, so I stuck with it.
What was your first professional/paid gig(s)?
I did a play in the 7th grade called “De ining Code Red,” and it was about a murder that happened at a middle school. It was the irst time I worked with adult actors in a professional space.
When did you know performing would be your career?
I feel like probably after the performance I just told you about. It just made me realize that this was de initely the thing I wanted to do. I wanted to inspire people to think and learn.
How did you get cast in in “Once on this Island?”
I went to an open call. I saw it on Broadway a
What should our readers expect from the touring company of Once on this Island?
You should expect a stage of beautiful black and brown people telling a story that is universal. It's a story about love, forgiveness and hope. You get to go on this journey that is amazing and I promise you will love.
For more information on Kyle follow him at: Instagram.com/IamKyleFreeman Performances of Once On This Island are Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday at 7:30 p.m., Friday at 8 p.m., Saturday at 2 and 8 p.m. and Sunday at 2 and 7:30 p.m. Tickets, which start at $41, may be purchased by calling 813.229.STAR (7827), in person at the Straz Center Ticket Sales Of ice or online at Strazcenter.org.
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Glam-pop performer talks creative freedom, LGBTQ music evolution and his full-circle Cher moment
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At this point, American Idol is a mere footnote in Adam Lambert's undaunted, venturesome, decade-long career. It was 2009 when Lambert astonished gays and moms with his con ident strut and those sky-high notes, ultimately giving him the runner-up spot during the reality show's eighth season. Since then, the out San Diego native, now 37, has checked some pretty wild boxes. Making Cher cry? Check. Queen frontman? Check. With his latest album, Velvet: Side A, the glam pop-rocker is checking yet another box, one that's especially important to him: the box that lets him call the creative shots. Recently, Lambert phoned to talk about the classic, Queen-in luenced sound of some of his best music yet, the progress made for LGBTQ artists, and his ongoing mission to root his career in “honesty and authenticity.” It must be such a great feeling to promote a project you were so invested in from the get-go. Because I was so involved and so in the driver's seat on this one, the sense of grati ication I get from talking about it and sharing it runs deeper than ever before.
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What are you giving yourself permission to do that you couldn't do at the beginning of your career?
I think it really all comes from knowing myself better. Knowing myself as an artist, knowing myself as a person, knowing what is keeping it real. And if something comes up that just doesn't feel authentic, I'm just like, “No, I don't want to do that.” Which is great. And obviously, having put the time in over the last 10 years into my career, I think I've earned more of that right. I'm doing what I want to do, period, the end. Everything about this project is me doing what I want to do. Creatively, I'm not having to compromise with anybody.
So are the EDM days over then?
For now. (Laughs.)
That must feel refreshing.
Yeah. I think I wanted to do something sonically that just felt like a different
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“When I came to the business, it was people who were older than me who were the ones who were fearful. They were the ones who were ignorant to the type of person I was and also ignorant to the idea that sexuality doesn't have to be at the forefront of every choice that I'm making as an artist.�
page for me, and also something that felt timeless, something that wouldn't go out of date in three years. I just wanted to do something that felt classic.
Has touring as the frontman of Queen influenced that desire?
There's de initely some parallels there, for sure. I think having been part of that lineup has de initely rubbed off on me and made me realize it's not always about the next sound. That's not always the way to have the strongest connection with an audience. It doesn't always need to be something that's the next wave. It can be something that works that people love.
I don't know if it was all that dramatic, to be honest with you. I love the way you put it. Very dramatic. (Laughs.) I don't think there was a inal straw or anything; there was no big drama. But I just got to the point where I was done with my last solo tour, and I was doing some touring with Queen and I re lected on all the work that I put into it. I was wondering if there was enough return on my investment: “Am I feeling a sense of personal gratitude and grati ication here?” And I had to ask myself some hard questions. So a lot of the changes that I made were to protect and insulate my creativity a little bit more. I felt like as an artist I wasn't reaching my fullest potential, because a lot of the things that were being done were being done where the main motivating force was money or popularity or obvious things that pop music revolves around. I think I just had to get the balance right. Obviously it is a business and I'm still playing the game to a certain extent, but the balance was off. So that was the big, important realization I had.
Who do you admire for putting artistic integrity before commercial success?
There's a list, for sure. But recently, I do think
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When you decided to make the move and jump from your former label Warner Bros. to Empire, an indie label, what was the breaking point? At what point in your career did you feel so limited that you just couldn't stand it anymore?
that Lady Gaga has been an amazing example of somebody who's gone against what was obvious or expected of her and done what made her happy, and I think at the end of the day the thing that I had to come to the realization of is, “If I'm happy with it and it feels authentic to me, that will come across to the public.” In the past I may have been guilty of trying to please the outside before the inside, and trying to just do what was trendy or popular or what somebody else was doing as opposed to something that felt like it would make me happy, irst and foremost.
Was there a lot of pressure on you to conform?
(Hesitates.) There was de initely some pressure put on artists in my position. But also, it's me not being an idiot. I'm looking around, aware of how it works, and that is in many cases just how it works. You have a lot of people you're trying to make comfortable, a lot of people you're trying to make feel like they're a part of something. And you have to make a lot of compromises in order to do that.
You've said one of the reasons you decided on the name Velvet for the album is because “The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight
Man's World,” published in 2005, left a big impression on you during your formative gay years. How did you come across “The Velvet Rage” and what was one of the greatest lessons you learned from it?
Just word-of-mouth. Somebody had mentioned it and then I read it, and it's an eye-opener because it basically breaks down the general psychology of what being a gay man is, and most speci ically what they identify as and how to grow up gay in a straight world. Obviously it's a bit out of date now – we are in a time where gay is way more mainstream, and a lot of these things are kind of obvious – but I think at the time, when I read it, it wasn't as discussed, it wasn't common knowledge like it is now. But it kind of breaks down the sort of different gay tropes and patterns and behaviors, and it opened my eyes.
Did it make you feel more comfortable with yourself?
Yeah. And also more comfortable with my community. I think it made me understand all of us more. It was a personal realization, like, “Where do I it into these patterns?” but also meeting people and realizing like, “Oh, I get it, that's probably why they are this way – because of this.” And it made me more empathetic toward others in the community, like my gay friends, people who I dated. It just made me understand it all more.
And now you've been this trailblazer for the LGBTQ community for the last decade, and there are so many artists who have followed in your footsteps: Troye Sivan, Hayley Kiyoko and Lil Nas X. The list is much longer than when you first came out publicly on the cover of Rolling Stone in 2009.
I know, I love it. I love seeing that. I love that it's become sort of a non-issue. I think young people today are like, “Yeah, so what?” (Laughs.) And that's how it should've always been. It's true, though, something has shifted. When I came to the business, it was people who were older than me who were the ones who were fearful. They were the ones who were ignorant to the type of person I was and also ignorant to the idea that sexuality doesn't have to be at the forefront of every choice that I'm making as an artist. It's not. It doesn't work that way. We're all people. It's something that I'm really proud of. It's a very key de ining part of my personality, but you don't have to be gay. The executives didn't realize that you don't have to be gay to listen to a gay artist.
“I really had an amazing time doing that. Cher is one of my heroes. Obviously, she's an icon. She's had, like, moments in every decade that she's been around; it's so undeniable, and to sing for her, what a treat.”
It seems a big part of your fan base is straight moms, so clearly you can bridge gaps and cross boundaries. You've done it.
Yeah, I'd like to think so. Look, over the past 10 years, I de initely don't consider myself an expert in any way. I've been confused and scratching my head along the way as well, but I always try to keep the mission going forward with honesty and authenticity. I can promise myself and my fans those two things and that's all I need to worry about, really, at the end of the day: if I'm being real and if I'm being truthful.
When it comes to LGBTQ artists in music, where do we go from here? What's next?
I feel like we're heading in the right direction. Obviously, society is in a weird place right now given the current political climate. We were all in a much more progressive forward-motion a couple of years ago, before the changeover, and I think that the pendulum has swung backward and we're seeing a lot of bigotry brought to light, a lot of hate and negativity that's kind of swirling around. So I think as artists the best thing we can do is continue to combat that with positivity and lead by a good example and try to give a voice to those who feel like they're being told they're not allowed. I think what we need to do is continue. Keep going, keep pushing. And when the opposition is stronger, we have to push back stronger. The other thing that I'm really loving about where we're at right now is 10 years ago, when you look at mainstream entertainment, it was a small selection of entertainment that got pushed out. There were only so many
songs on the radio, there were only so many ilms going on, and that's what everyone talked about. But now with media it's really interesting because we have way more at our ingertips. We have streaming, we have YouTube, we have a zillion channels on TV. There's more available to people. So I think that artists can now ind their audience more easily; there's an audience for everything. And I think that's one of many reasons why we're seeing more gay success in music, because we're able to be put in front of our audiences. There's less gatekeeping going on.
Right, because you can tweet your followers directly.
And that was not the case 10 years ago. Twitter was just started 10 years ago, and I remember being like, “Oh.” We were sort of at the mercy of the machine, and I think that's a big difference to where we're at now.
Getting back to Queen: Do you have a drink with its veteran members, Roger Taylor and Brian May, at the hotel bar after a show?
Occasionally, yeah. I've been known to have a cocktail with Brian and Roger at a bar, yeah.
What's your drink of choice when drinking with Queen?
Oh, tequila always. I'm a tequila man. And I'm only snobby about a couple of things in my life and tequila's one of the things that I'm a bit of a snob about. I've become a tequila snob. And I'm mostly snobby about it not because I wanna seem like, “Oh this is how much this costs,” but more so the quality and what it does to my stomach. (Laughs.)
Last year you sang a beautiful ballad version of “Believe” for Cher at the Kennedy Center Honors and brought her to tears.
I really had an amazing time doing that. Cher is one of my heroes. Obviously, she's an icon. She's had, like, moments in every decade that she's been around; it's so undeniable, and to sing for her, what a treat. And it was such an honor. I remember getting that album when I was in high school and when I inally got my irst car during my senior year – I was driving the family car forever – that CD had just come out and I remember listening to it really loudly on the freeway and listening to “Believe.” So when I got up on stage to do that, that memory came looding back to me.
Did you get to tell Cher that story?
Unfortunately I didn't get to see Cher afterward because she had to leave right away to get to
New York because her Broadway show was opening the next day. I got a message from her via email, via her manager, and they were all very sweet.
And she cried during your performance. Is there any better compliment?
I didn't realize she was crying because I couldn't quite see that far back in the audience. But when I saw the footage afterwards, I was like, “Wow, that's pretty special.”
Have you given any thought to what a Velvet tour might look like?
Yes. I'm not ready to talk about it yet, but of course I've been thinking about it. It's something that I'm planning on putting together, but it's a ways off. One thing at a time.
One of your Glamberts wanted to know if you would ever consider doing a show where your fans could decide the set list?
(Pauses.) Mmm. A whole show? No. (Laughs.) But I would de initely consider having some fan input on something in the show. Yeah, I think that'd be cool. Trust me, I'm on social media, I watch and look at what people are responding to and how people are reacting. On this project, a lot of this stuff was kind of for me. I wanted to make myself happy irst and foremost on this project, but also, of course, I had my fans in mind when I wrote these songs. With “Superpower,” for example, I wanted to write something so everybody could feel a sense of con idence when they listen to it, everyone could get a sense of standing up for yourself and having that empowerment moment. That wasn't just for me – that's for everybody. For “Stranger You Are,” I've seen so many fans write things about feeling like an outsider, feeling unsure about being different, and that was one of the things they felt was a common connection between us: the fact that I'm that way too and that I've walked through the world feeling that way as well. And “Stranger You Are” is all about that. It's acknowledging, “Yeah, no shit, being different is not always the easiest road but that's who we are and I'm gonna celebrate it.”
To clarify: You do trust your fans?
One-hundred percent.
Just not enough to create your set list?
Well, it's kind of like when you go to a restaurant and you let the chef pick the menu. Like, sit down. Let me give you a great meal.
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As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and BeyoncĂŠ. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.
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4 Style Essentials Every Man Needs
Despite ever changing trends in fashion, certain men's clothing essentials – a denim jacket or a white polo – will always keep you looking good, no matter the time or year. Here's four key items that'll keep your wardrobe looking sharp all year-round.
1. THE CLASSIC DENIM JACKET
Denim represents democracy in fashion —Giorgio Armani Also known as the trucker jacket - the jean jacket is a must for every man's wardrobe. Think of it as your secret style weapon. It remains one of the coolest pieces of clothing for men, and will not likely go out of fashion any time soon. You can pair it with so many things, black pants, blue jeans (Of contrasting blue of course), chinos and a white tee shirt. Make sure your jacket is not too long or too short; ideal cut should sit around the waist. I think denim is something everyone feels comfortable in, and in Florida it's the perfect jacket when it gets a bit chilly. Photo: Tyler Molinari
2. THE COLORED DENIM PANT I pretty much have these in every color. Sometimes I just get bored of the blue jeans. I recommend H&M's Skinny Fit Twill Pants - only $19.99. Think mustard, brown, light beige, navy. This week I purchased a pair in burgundy that I live for! No matter what color calls to you, give your blue denims a well-deserved break while looking fashionable. www2.hm.com
4. THE MULTI-TALENTED CHELSEA BOOT 3. THE TRUE-PREP WHITE POLO The white polo is one of the most classic staples. The perfect mix between a tee and dress shirt. My "go-to" when I travel, not too formal nor entirely casual. Team it with a navy blazer to dress it up or a denim jacket to add some edge. To tuck, or not to tuck? The polo shirt can go either way. Tucking gives you a more formal look, while untucking is more casual. If your shirt's longer in the back than the front, then it was definitely designed to be tucked. A white polo might sound simple and basic. But, basic my friend, doesn't have to mean bland. Photo: lacoste.com
Chelsea boots were a staple of the mid-'60s British modscene - remember The Beatles? They are now back with a vengeance! Versatile and very on-trend, the Chelsea is sleek, unfussy, but a necessary boot for every stylish man this fall. The silhouette is very slim and features elastic side panels and heel pull-tabs. My favorite color for these is definitely Brown since it can be easily dressed up or down. Seriously, this boot goes with just about anything.
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Safer, More Effective, Dynamite Workouts!
Pumping iron makes you look and feel better, a one, two punch that is hard to beat. Of course, you need to combine weights with cardio and a sound nutritional program for a fool proof plan that builds mass, burns fat, and improves cardiovascular health. The popularity of working out has hit an all time high as evidence shows by the sheer number of gym memberships sold each year. Unfortunately, not everyone has the time or the energy to spend endless hours in the gym. Here are a few tips to help you fit the safest, most effective and enjoyable workouts into your day! So, you've made it to the gym after one hell-of-a-day on the job. Excellent! But that's not enough. You need a plan that is
in line with some of the basic goals that you have for your body. Simply lifting weights without a strategy is analogous to listening to someone speak, but not paying attention to what they're saying. A few bicep curls here, a bench press there, and never doing your legs or cardio won't help you obtain the body you want. Working out in this manner will more than likely make you bored and frustrated, and you will quit. When you join a gym, or even if you are already a member, hit up one of the staff or trainers to take measurements. Find out what your target heart rate is for effective cardiovascular training. Know what muscle groups you are going to train on which days and keep a record of the weight that you lift. Learn a variety of different exercises for each muscle group. Always pay attention to proper form when you are working out if you want to avoid injury and secure the best gains. Muscles contract and shorten to overcome resistance
and create motion. A concerted effort must be made to concentrate on the muscle group you want to handle these chores. Simply put, squeeze the muscle as hard as you can during the shortening (concentric or positive) phase, then maintain considerable tension as you allow the muscle to return to its initial position (eccentric or negative) portion of the rep. Remember to breathe in during the easier part of the motion and breathe out during the hardest part. Enjoy your time in the gym, but make sure to be considerate of others. Guys who spit in the drinking fountain, dudes who refuse to flush, and jerks who talk on their cell phones while holding a piece of equipment hostage make it miserable for everyone. Bring a towel and wipe
your sweat off the machinery. Wear flip-flops in the shower and wet areas. Be neat in the stalls and urinals and remember to flush. Wash your hands frequently during work outs. Remember, the equipment and locker room are for everyone to utilize and enjoy. Tom Bonanti is a certified personal trainer and massage therapist (MA#40288) with his own one on one facility www.pumpnincgym.com in Ft. Lauderdale. Contact trainertomb@aol.com with questions or to set up an appointment today.
Tom Bonanti is a certified personal trainer and massage therapist (MA#40288) with his own one on one facility www.pumpnincgym.com in Ft. Lauderdale. Contact trainertomb@aol.com or call Tom (954) 557-1119 to schedule a massage or training session today.
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I am dating his brother. “Should I Keep Silent?”
Dear Andreus, After three months of dating this amazing man, I am overcome with emotions. We have so much in common, but he is different enough to keep me intrigued. It has been a long time since I have had this connection with someone, and I want to express how I feel. Lately, I have found myself on the verge of telling him that I love him, but I don't want to mess everything up by saying it too soon, especially if he is not on the same level, or ready to hear it. When do I know that it is the right time? Sincerely, Mark G. Dear Mark, First let me say that I am very happy for you. As for your question, this is an age-old dilemma. When is it the right time to say? “I love you.” Clearly the biggest fear behind this is rejection. But also, the fear of saying it too soon, or not soon enough. There is no perfect or exact moment, and if things are going well, then don't rush it. He will make clear his feelings, and I believe that you will know when it feels right. With love, there are always risks, and getting it right means that you'll just have to take those risks. Feel him out, and don't be afraid to ask him how he feels about you. Look for clues and allow it to happen organically. I wish you two all the happiness in the world! Dear Andreus, Roughly ten years ago I used to live in NY. While there, I dated this exceptionally nice guy, and the only reason it ended, was because I relocated to Florida for work. Recently I started dating a guy here, and
after a couple months, he asked me to go to brunch with him, his brother and his friends. To my amazement, when we arrived at brunch, the guy he introduced me to as his brother, is the guy I was dating in NY. I knew that there was something familiar about his features, but I would not have thought of that in a million years. My former boyfriend pulled me aside and told me not to say anything, because he feels like his brother doesn't really need to know. I feel like I should say something, because honesty is very important to me. Should I keep silent? Sincerely, Jarrell K. Dear Jarrell, What are the odds? But I suppose stranger things have happened. I always stick beside the belief that honesty is the best policy. Though bringing it up may be awkward or uncomfortable, it is probably best said then found out accidently later. The truth always has a way of surfacing, especially when you have been given the opportunity to share it and did not. Clearly none of this was intentional, so there is no need to feel guilt or shame, just tell him. If he finds out later and knows that you and his brother kept your past a secret from him, that might be more catastrophic. Get it all out, so that hopefully you can continue without any dark shadows.
CELEBRATE YOU Two continents. 35 countries. One love.
Greater Fort Lauderdale invites everyone under the sun to the very first Pride of the Americas. Join hundreds of thousands of individuals who together will bring global attention to LGBT+ advocacy. All are welcome to fly your flag high, make an impact and radiate life – because who you are is worth celebrating. Make your plans at sunny.org/PrideAmericas
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