iCandi E-Newsletter #10

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Issue #10

BUCKS with BUX “Impulse Buying”

iCandi Lady & Man Candi of the Month

Big Sexy J. Antoinne’s

iCandi Lady of The Month

Music Reviews

How to Deal With the “Crazy Baby Mama”

New Loves & Second WWW.ICANDIPRO.COM Chances

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Happy Birthday to our September Candi Canes Norm Burrows (Sept 5) Anthony Showes (Sept 7) Brandon Davis (Sept 11) Nikea Sisney (Sept 11) Amanda Watkins (Sept 12) Terri Gist (Sept 20) Jemery Goodson (Sept 20) MzHytechDiva (Sept 21) Sidney Johnson (Sept 22) Joe Anslinger (Sept 22)

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Table of Content Dear iCandi.......................................... page 4-5 Bucks with Bux..................................... page 7 What Would You Do............................... page 8-9 How to Deal With Crazy Baby Mamas........ page 10 iCandi Lady of the Month....................... page 12-13 J Antoinne Music Reviews....................... page 14 Cleaning Up Your Life........................... page 15 Man Candi of The Month........................ page 18-19 iCandi Fab & Hot Mess of The Month......... page 20 iCandi Radio Sept Schedule.................... page 21 Loving Our Women................................ page 22 Snack of The Month............................. page 26

On 8.28.2011 CommuniGize launched a Global Campaign asking 1,000,000 people to love & support the youth with various acts of kindness.

It’s not too late for you to get involved.

Go to:

www.millionactsoflove.org For more information on how you can get involved.

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Dear iCandi A. Cedes!!!

Let me start by throwing out a “shameless plug” for you. Check her out at www.Indiebychoice.com If you love music, GO!!!!

Dear iCandi

Do you think that it is impossible to have a committed relationship with a "flirt". What separates “innocent flirting” and disrespect? ~Renee (Cincinnati)

A. The difference with innocent flirting (which I often find myself doing) and disrespect is answered with a simple question: “What would your partner say if they saw you doing this?” If you have to hide it or do it behind their back then something is not right with what you are doing.

Since I’m in the entertainment field, flirting is a part of what I do and I have to be with a man that’s secure enough to handle that. Now my flirting will always stay tasteful. Sending naked pictures and “sexting” is not all that innocent but a wink, a smile, and a compliment is innocent flirting. ~MsiCandi

Now to answer your question. It feels great! I am one of the biggest Fantasia fans out there so it would only be right that she somehow will be connected to getting iCandi’s name out there. I’ve had several people reach out to me since the video and gained quite a few new supporters so I’m very happy, grateful, & blessed. The video (at press time) is now at 108,834 views!

Whoop Whoop! Go iCandi! :-)

Dear iCandi My husband and I agreed to have a threesome. The agreement was for his birthday, I’d participate in a threesome with another woman. In return, he’s supposed to participate in a threesome with another man for my birthday. His birthday has come and gone; my birthday is around the corner (for the 2nd time since the threesome) and he’s once again making excuses. Why are men always willing to dish it, but when the shoe is on the other foot they can’t take it?

A.

Dear iCandi

How does it feel to now have your FANTASIA video go viral and what is the current view count? ~Mercedes (Cincinnati) WWW.ICANDIPRO.COM

"WOW" Where do I begin? If you really want to make the threesome happen, then you need to tell your husband to man up and hold up his end of the bargain. If he doesn’t then tell him to never ask you to do a threesome again. That would be the end of the experience for him. Going forward make sure you get it in writing if anything like this comes up again. As crazy as it might sound. It would have prevented this situation from happening to you. I hope I was helpful. PEACE & BLESSINGS “BROTHA INSIGHT” www.youtube.com/icanditv

Dear iCandi

I am dating a wonderful man; hard worker, gentleman, father figure, God fearing. He is almost perfect but one thing is lacking: HIS SEX GAME SUCKS. I even tried working with him (telling him what I like and giving instructions). It just hasn’t been working. I don’t want to lose out on such a great catch but I’M HORNY!! What would you do if you were in my situation? ~Mary (Cleveland)

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Wooooooooooow Mary!

I’m so sorry that you are going through that.

A lot of people might feel like you’re being picky (especially with the options for good men out here being slim pickings). You have 3 choices. #1 The honest approach.

“Baby you are a great guy and I really want this relationship to go further, but I’m not happy with our sex life.”

Now he will either take this as a challenge and try his damnedest to have you take that back by working to please you or his ego will be bruised and he’ll turn it on you. #2 Suck it Up A lot of women are looking for a good man and if he’s as good and you are saying then you could just count your blessings and learn the true art of masturbation (pure romance has a sale going on #imjustsayin)

Dear iCandi I’m trying to do a sexy photo shoot for my boyfriend’s birthday. Do you have any tips or suggestions for how I could go about it. I don’t want to come off slutty more so a classy sexy seductress. Also do you have any posing tips. (I know you guys also deal with modeling a bit). ~Alexis (Washington DC)

A. Hello Alexis, I think this will be a great present for your boyfriend. Remember a photo shoot is what you make it. The poses you do makes it slutty or classy.

Figure out what outfit(s) you want to put on, whether it be lingerie or a uniform of some type (police, army, basketball, football). Find a photographer that you will feel comfortable with. I personally went to talk to a photographer and looked at his work before I did my first shoot. This will also give you ideas of what poses you may want to do. ~Kiara “MzDiva” Woody (iCandi FB Top Model Winner)

#3 Move on If it’s just not working and you aren’t willing to compromise or sacrifice “The Big O”, you might just have to bounce. Just be ready to watch some other woman willingly snatch his up in a heartbeat.

I would personally go with #1. Work with the brotha. See if he can step it up. Being a single woman I realize how its hard out here to connect with a “good man”.

Whatever you decide to do, Good Luck & Be Safe! ~MsiCandi WWW.ICANDIPRO.COM

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BUCKS with BUX “IMPULSE BUYING”

By Meghan “Bux” Williams Each year people spend millions of dollars in impulse buying. We should try to save little bits if possible. Some ways to help with the impulse buying are making 30day lists. This list tells you that you cannot buy anything except necessities for 30 days. At the end of the 30 days you can buy the item if you still want it.

(9 out of 10 times the urge will pass.)

We are faced with this every time we go into a store. Impulse buying is not hard to do.

You go in for one thing and may come out with a cart full. This may be considered money wasted because it wasn’t money that you planned on spending.

Another way to cut back on impulse buying is asking questions about your possible purchase.

For example, is the purchase going to improve your life in some important way or is it something that you really need? After asking these questions you will find yourself not needing things that you so desperately wanted and you will save a little extra money.

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What Would You Do? ... if your man or woman left you for your best friend.

@MISS_J_A_Y: Good riddance Good life @RobHatcher: It Happened before!! their Loss #NEXT lol @ANFSTUDIO_LAX: Shot dem both dead.... @SINAFOLD wish them good luck & keep it moving! @Karleahsmama: kill them both lol jk @fliporican1 1st impulse I'll kill him & that bitch! Reality: Not a damn thing. He doesn't deserve me. @daronjonesmusic : I would say good luck to you both.

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Sidney Williams : Lol end up on an episode of Snapped!

Sadiqah Ya'Sina: be ready to fight both of them!

Reneisha Jones: kill it kill it or feed to da gators or screw their best friend n then we're even or(Hell we could make a remake of The Burning Bed) take ur pick I could go on forever .....but im not Crazy or nothing ......lmao William Parks: Wonder why he is messing with my girl cause he is married.

Ebony Capell: I would get they ass for the principle

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William Alexander Make them both bleed preferably out the face!

Lateefah Ragland This is absolutely a situation where U could b mad at both parties, because both parties owe U some sort of loyalty.... I'd leave them both alone

Lakisha Glover Move on. Getting mad gives you wrinkles

Shameka Wharton Whew, whew, omg.. I would be asking GOD to forgive before, after & during the "azz whoppin'" i would give both of them

Melissa Howe Forgive them and wish them luck. Obviously God is trying to clear my path for bigger and better.

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How To Deal With The “Crazy Baby Mama” Written By MsiCandi #2 Stay Focused Most of the “Crazy Baby Mama” stories I hear, the father just wants to see (spend time with) his child(ren). If that is your situation then STAY FOCUSED. Don’t let drama, cattiness, and side comments stop you from seeing your child. If that is truly what you want then ignore her; go see your babies and STAY FOCUSED! #3 Take Action I’ve witnessed some situations when a woman will use her child as a weapon to hurt a man. “You can’t see you baby unless you do this...blah, blah, blah”. I say this with no disrespect whatsoever. Even a deadbeat dad has rights. If he wants to see his child and hasn’t contributed one penny towards his child, he still LEGALLY has rights.

It might not be fair (to some) but it is what it is. So if you are a great dad and she’s being spiteful just because, you can take legal action to see your child. Take action. Go to the courts and file those papers. It’s your child too dang it!

I’ve gotten quite a few “Dear iCandi” letters about ‘Crazy Baby Mamas”. Although I am an advocate for single mothers (baby mamas) and you often hear me giving them (us) kudos, I do, however, realize that there are some “baby mamas” out there that might purposely drive a man crazy.

Dealing with the “Crazy Baby Mama” can get frustrating and be a challenge, but you always have choices and options when dealing with any frustrating situation. Here are a few ways that MsiCandi feels are BEST when dealing with your “Crazy Baby Mama”. #1 Stay Calm A lot of times we let our emotions get the best of us.

We are quick to react and forget to think. If you are in the middle of an argument with the mother of your child and she says something that just pushes your buttons (we all have that button and usually our baby’s mama/baby’s daddy knows exactly what that button is), remember to STAY CALM. Reacting is exactly what they are trying to get you to do. Don’t let them win. Your number one priority should be your child(ren).

#4 Kill Them With Kindness I’m always told to “be the bigger person” and although at times being the bigger person sucks, it’s sometimes the best thing to do. It shows maturity and puts you above pettiness. So when that “crazy baby’s mama” is saying crazy stuff or losing her dang-on mind, pray for her, tell her to have a blessed day, and you’ll be by on Wednesday to pick up the kids. #5 Be Realistic You are stuck with this person so accept it, embrace it and make it work. Living in the fantasy world of “only 18 years” is not a reality. As long as you are a parent of this child, she will be the co-parent. It’s time you accept the facts.

“She trapped me!” No she did not. You took the risk of having sex. We all learned in sex-ed that sex CAN lead to pregnancy.

ACCEPT IT! “She’s a Gold digger!” Oh well! You chose to have sex with the gold digger so you risked your money when you did the deed.

ACCEPT IT! “I wish you weren’t the mother of my child.” Too bad, she is!

ACCEPT IT! Once you can be realistic and accept what reality is you can start to make the best of the situation. My advice to everyone is to pay attention to who you are having sex with. A couple hours of a “good time” can lead to a lifetime headache. So don’t share yourself with just anybody and practice safe sex.

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HAPPINESS AND THE PURSUIT THEREOF.....

by Lateefah Ragland

I can't believe that I'm feelin this way again......

U compliment me so, where do I begin???

Is it the way U bless me with U'r words, u'r kindness, u'r firm yet gentle touch?

It ain't been that long, but I'm feelin u soooo much.

Don't want another man...... cant get u out my system Others may try but, because of u I resist them Need u on my mind all the time, inside my body and heart On the phone sleep gettin my fix.... whenever we're apart This love is so surprising, electrifying and new I feel like Mary J. I wanna share my world with u And don't u leave cuz that would break me U handle all of this.... No other man could take me.

U make me whole, u make me think Quenching every part of me, U r the life water I drink Damn, u'r sleepin on the phone with me now...

And I'm listenin 2 u breath, wonderin wow.....

How'd I get so lucky God truly shown his grace, the day he blessed my world with u'r beautiful face.

U make me feel like a woman and a girl cuz I'm crushin And things r movin real fast, but I don't feel we're rushin I know If I fall u'll b there 2 catch me And that's alright wit me cuz N u'r arms is where I wanna always b The shining armor with my Knight inside......

And if I don't die, I'll ride with u at my side totally in sync, spiritually connected r we and I know u feel the same way bout me Damn, how much happier could I b???

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iCandi Lady Of The Month “Big Sexy”

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Big, Bold, & Beautiful are just three words that come to mind when I think of “Big Sexy”. She is the definition of confidence. She showcases her beauty and knows that although she is plus size she is still Sexy.

MsiCandi: BIG SEXY!!! One thing that I have always admired about you is your confidence. I love how you will walk down that runway like you are the best thing there. How you always had so much confidence in yourself ?

Big Sexy: AWWWW thank you; that means a lot to me!! It’s funny because every time I do a fashion show my alter-ego comes out, and I go from Amber to Big Sexy (laughs), and I've always had confidence because if you don't love yourself and are comfortable with yourself then who will?

MsiCandi: When did you first gain an interest in modeling? What influenced you to want to begin to pursue a career in modeling?

Big Sexy: I would have to say I thought about doing modeling in my teenage years! But what influenced me was when I met Alanna Bradshaw (now friend, model & stylist) at Ashley Stewart, and she ran out of the store to ask me if I wanted to be apart of their fashion show..

MsiCandi: I know you recently started up “Voluptuous Vixens of Cincinnati”.

What exactly is your vision for Voluptuous Vixens?

Big Sexy: Yes I am very excited about my company Voluptuous Vixens of Cincinnati Ent.! Basically I started this company to show everybody that you don't have to be a dress size 6 and be beautiful, because I'm a size 20/22 and I am gorgeous!! My plan for the V.V'S is to be more than just runway models, but to help out with self-esteem issues, breast cancer, and any cancer patients, young mothers ,domestic violence relationships, heart patients, kids with special needs (which I just teamed up with Ty Riyel, CEO of Taj'Lashay Models, which helps out with kids with Down Syndrome), etc. I see the Vixens doing so much good in life!!!

MsiCandi: If you could tell the young “thick madams” across the world one thing about loving themselves as they are, what would you say?

Big Sexy: That God made us all different for a reason. Everybody wasn’t meant to be skinny! Don’t pay attention to the little skinnies on the magazine covers! Love your curves and embrace your curves! You are beautiful! Just look in the mirror and say, “Who run the world? Big girls! (In my Beyonce’ voice) Msicandi: Thanks so much for agreeing to be our September iCandi Lady of the Month. If our fans wanted to know more about you and your company, how can they find you?

Big Sexy: Thank you Ms. iCandi so much for having me as the September iCandi Lady of the Month!!! I'm so excited!! If you want to join the movement look us up http://www.facebook.com// VoluptuousVixensofCincinnati.Ent http://www.facebook.com//AmberJohnson http://www.twitter.com//voluptousvixenj Or if you can contact me directly @ (513) 628-7310, and again thank you so much for having me! I hope everybody will join the movement that’s on the rise!

MsiCandi: What projects do you have coming up in the near future?

Big Sexy: The V.V's have a few things lined up for the month of September, from a fashion show, to our meet & greet party, to photoshoots, to a buddy walk for children with Down Syndrome.

MsiCandi: What is the most challenging thing about trying to make it as a plus size model in the industry?

Big Sexy: I will say the most challenging thing to become a plus size super model is that I'm a single mother of four, so I can't just up and leave town as easily. I wouldn't call that a challenge, I will just say I NEED A NANNY ON CALL (laughs). but even with that, I won't let that stop me. I WANT THIS SO MUCH THAT I CAN'T AND WON'T STOP!! So if I have to take my kids with me, and they have to be in the other room, so be it!!! I know I'm on to something good, and I feel that this movement is going to be bigger than what I ever dreamed!!

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Music Reviews with J. Antoinne With no mainstream artists releasing material anytime soon (or recently), here are a few albums that were released that you may not have even noticed.

B. Slade - Diesel Suxxess Records, 2011

The artist formerly known as Tonex is here to show you that he's cast aside religion (for how long?) to show you a side that most people are afraid to show you: the inside. Here, he definitely does just that, cultivating an album that is the epitome of "grown and sexy." This isn't cookie-cutter R&B; this is real R&B that is raw and direct, graphic and subtle, and completely infectious. Club heads will love the opener "Wallflower" or the slinky "Freak U". "I'm Done" is a perfect breakup song, featuring relatively obscure artist Yummy Bingham, while the latter half of the album contains the "baby-makers" that you'll put on repeat, like "Slow Love" and "Sequel", the latter definitely being worth it. Pretty good stuff here.

(4.75 Stars)(A)

Nicole Scherzinger - Killer Love Universal Records, 2011 Nicole is the former lead singer of two separate, now-defunct bands (Eden's Crush and Pussycat Dolls), known for their pop songs, like “Get Over Yourself” and “Don’t Cha”. As such, this album, long-awaited as it is, is pretty much a pop album. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but fans of her slower songs with the former bands (like “Love This Way” and “StickWitU”) won't be too pleased with this offering. Still, it does have some good uptempo songs that are perfect for a night out, like "Right There" or "Don't Hold Your Breath", and a couple good ballads in "Casualty" and "AmenJena". Nevertheless, a lot of the songs sound a lot alike and this album doesn't really have any surefire hits. Die-hard fans of her old groups might even want to sit this one out.

(2 Stars)(D)

Ruff Endz - The Final Chapter OHOR Records, 2010 This Baltimore-bred duo brought us cuts like "No More", "Where Does Love Go From Here", and the ultimate ballad "Someone to Love You", then practically disappeared. Eight years later, we have their final album together, and they pick up right where they left off. "Senorita" is a nice sensual song, whereas "Ryder" and "What U Need" will have you bopping your head. However, as before, they shine best on the ballads. "Love Zone" will put you in just that, "Love Potion" will keep you there, and "Love U Down" will make you want to go through it all over again. If this is truly their final album, they definitely went out on a good note, as this very under-promoted album is worth it.

(4.75 Stars)(A)

J. Valentine - The Testimony Online Mixtape, 2011 J. Valentine has been around for a while, since 2007 and his single, the overlooked but awesome "She Worth the Trouble". Almost five years later, he's delivering some music that's actually not bad to listen to. J. takes his R&B voice along with some nice beats to produce a solid mixtape that should hold us over until a full album is released. Of course, there are some current beats and uptempo songs on here like "I Luv My Baby Mama" and "Late Night", featuring Keri Hilson, but J. lets loose on he sultry "Climb Them Walls" (grown people's music, indeed) and "I Shoulda Been With You". This is a pretty solid album that others singers and producers should take notes on.

(4.5 Stars)(A)

Michael Keith - Michael Keith Former 112 vocalist Keith brings an album that can be played straight through. Definitely worth checking out.

Lisa Fischer - Lisa Fischer

Awesome album from an awesome singer that brought you "How Can I Ease the Pain?" amongst other awesome ballads.

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OUT WITH THE OLD IN WITH THE NEW CLEANING UP YOUR LIFE With The Go2Gurl The season is about to change…the weather is too...time to throw away and clean up the old junk and usher in the new. Autumn officially starts SEPTEMBER 23-DECEMBER 20…

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iCandi family, when I say this you will probably look at me as if I’m crazy: I LOVE TO CLEAN! It brings me joy, releases stress, and gives me a sense of accomplishment; but that’s just me. I’m telling you that because I find some lack the skill. I mean, who doesn’t like the fresh and clean smell of a house?

I’ve been given the task of letting you guys in on a few secrets; if you’d like to know, here they go:

When you clean try to be as thorough as possible. Clean base boards and blinds, as well as vents and on top of fridge and cabinets. Dust can collect and irritate allergies, and we all know what an allergy attack or sinus infection feels like; it’s all tied together. Make sure you clean with bleach or ammonia (anything that kills germs). We want to be germ-free as well as fresh.

TAKE TIME OUT

Do detailed cleaning at least once a week. Tackle the fridge and the window sills and de-clutter underneath the bathroom cabinet. Clean under your bed and dust (even the tv); this way when you are going about your week, things can’t pile up on you and get out of control.

I know things can be time consuming and everyday life can have you tired, but if you take the time out to care about where you live then it will show in other areas of your life. Care about yourself and what you do and what you surround yourself with. I iron my clothes as well as my son’s clothes for the week every Sunday; that leaves my mornings less stressful. I get to sleep in longer and I have enough time if something was to happen.

I have a couple of tips as well. Instead of going to the store and paying a lot of money for high-priced air fresheners and cleaners GOOGLE homemade fresheners and make some of your own. Here are some links if you are interested; yes, I’ve used them myself!

Homemade spot cleaner http://frugalliving.about.com/od/householdsavings/qt/ Carpet_Cleaner.htm Homemade Pet Deodorizer http://www.lowchensaustralia.com/health/handyhints.htm Homemade Potpourri http://www.ehow.com/how_4548204_make-autumnscents-potpourri.html Essential Oils http://www.greenfootsteps.com/aromatherapy-airfreshener.html So take some time, put on some SADE, and just love the place you live.

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Man Candi of The Month Kole Black “There’s only one Kole Black” I’ve had the pleasure to co-host with Kole on his Late Night Talk Radio show “After Hours with Kole Black”. Between writing books, screenplays, and hosting, Kole made a little time to catch up with me and let the iCandi family in on what he’s been doing lately.

Kole: Well...as a rule, any writer will tell you to avoid writing about people you know, at all costs. But, I always steer clear of situations that are too close to home. Meaning, I try like h*ll not ever incorporate anything even remotely connected to anybody that I know. Disclaimer. (Laughs) MsiCandi: What upcoming projects do you have coming out (as far as writing)?

Kole: Well, right now, we are setting up for the release of Part 5 to The Chance Series "End Of All Chance.”

I'm also in the process of writing Part 6.

MsiCandi: So when will Kole Black and iCandi work together again? When are you going to make time for some type of collaboration?

Kole Black:(Laughs) Well, I would love to work with you again. But, you’re a very busy lady that wears many hats. So, you just let me know. ;) MsiCandi: Koley Kole (Martin Voice) I’ve missed you man. The last we talked (about business) you were trying to put some big things in the works for “After Hours.” Are you still doing that or have you moved on to bigger and better things?

MsiCandi: I’ve noticed a lot of women listen to you for advice. Some men would use that to their advantage but you keep it REAL. What motivates you to be so honest with women?

Kole: Yes, "The AfterHours Show" is set to resume the first Monday in September. Once again it's on and poppin’. (Laughs)

Kole: Because of the type of books that I write (romance/drama), the majority of my fanbase is female. So, from time to time, I would get questions from women who just wanted a honest male opinion about relationship issues, and more often than not, the topic was fidelity, and why men seemed to find it so hard to be faithful. I would answer these questions as best I could, and as honestly as I could. Well, the questions became more and more frequent. With that, my publishers decided that it would be ideal that I write relationship books. Thus, came the Sex Therapy series...

MsiCandi: You are an amazing writer with a wild imagination. I try to write but I quickly get distracted. Where do all of your stories and ideas come from?

Kole: Well, thank you for the huge compliment. I have been writing since I was a kid. It's always been a great escape where I could lose myself. It's my life's passion, so I really feel very lucky to have it as my career.

MsiCandi: Have you ever written about a true story and just changed the names?

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MsiCandi: If my supporters wanted to stay connected with you to see what new things you have going on, how could they find you?

Kole: Well, they can always look me up at www.KoleBlackBooks.com. I'm also around. :)

#6 If women were not so _________ men would _______(fill in the blanks) If women were not so (naive) men would (be less inclined to play games) #7 What is the BEST meal you can cook?

MsiCandi Before I let you go, I have to put you on the iCandi HOT SEAT. Can you take the heat?

Kole: (Laughs) Yeah, I think I can...shoot! :) #1 What body part on a woman turns you on?

Her smile and her eyes...irresistible!!! #2 Which do you prefer, being in a relationship or being single?

Well, being what they call a "hopeless romantic", I have always been in love with the idea of being in love. Sharing your life with someone can be a wonderful thing, but it has to be right. You know?

Not perfect, but just right. Did I answer the question, or did I just dance around it? (Laughs) #3 Do you believe in spankings as a form of discipline?

I cook a mean "roasted Thai chicken in ginger sauce, surrounded by long grain and wild rice, on a bed of fresh spinach leaves." (Laughs) Y'all ain't ready!!!

MsiCandi: Thanks so much Kole for supporting the iCandi Movement and agreeing to be our Man Candi for the Month of September. :-) Kole: Thank you for having me, Ms iCandi. It's always a pleasure when we get together. See you soon. And remember... there's only one Kole Black! ;) **Don’t Forget**

To keep up with what’s going on with

Kole Black or to check out his books go to www.KoleBlackBooks.com

Yes, spare the rod, spoil the child. I guess. (Laughs) #5 What movie have you seen that scared the s*it out of you?

The scariest movies to me are psychological thrillers like "Hostel" because this examines the depths of depravity; being a writer, you are called upon to see things through many different sets of eyes. To me, the most frightening thing in world is human cruelty. So, I chose this film, directed by Eli Roth, because it actually disturbed me, and had me thinking about its conceptual origins for months.

D*mn it, thinking about it again has me scared now. (Laughs)

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iCandi Fab of The Month

Beyonce is Preggers!

Congrats to the future Mommy!

HOT MESS

The Barbie look is OVER!!

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iCandi Radio September Schedule Dates

Event

Host

Topic

Time (est)

Sept 1

Talk Inner Beauty

Blessings of Beauty

Tropical Thursday

8-9:00 pm

Sept 2

iCandi After Dark

MsiCandi & The Crew

Confess your “Stalker Moments”

10-12:00 am

Sept 4

The Insightful Hour

Brotha Insight & Family

Natural Hair Vs. Relaxed Hair Pt 2

6-8:00 pm

Sept 5

New R&B on iCandi Radio

ALL MUSIC SHOW

From Mainstream to Independent Music

6-7:30 pm

Sept 6

Keep it 100

Pastor Vic

“Clubbin Christians”

8-9:00 pm

Sept 7

Late Night With Lateefah

Lateefah & Bishop

Sex Secrets Revealed

11-12:00 am

Sept 8

ThrowBack Thursday

MsiCandi & Go2Gurl

Disco Era

9-10:00 pm

Sept 9

iCandi After Dark

MsiCandi & The Crew

Parenting & Rolmodels How 2 Save our Youth

10-12:00 am

Sept 11

The Insightful Hour

Brotha Insight & Family

Historical Origins Of Christianity & Islam Part 2

6-8:00 pm

Sept 12

New R&B on iCandi Radio

ALL MUSIC SHOW

From Mainstream to Independent Music

6-7:30 pm

Sept 13

Keep it 100

Pastor Vic

Has the Men gone too Far with the Skinny Jeans?

8-9:00 pm

Sept 14

Late Night With Lateefah

Lateefah & Bishop

Breaking the “Man Code”

11-12:00 am

Sept 15

Talk Inner Beauty

Blessings of Beauty

Teen Dv

8-9:00 pm

Sept 16

iCandi After Dark

MsiCandi & The Crew

“Boshie” Black Folks

10-12:00 am

Sept 18

The Insightful Hour

Brotha Insight & Family

Are Our Children Getting Educated or Miseducated Pt 2

6-8:00 pm

Sept 19

New R&B on iCandi Radio

ALL MUSIC SHOW

From Mainstream to Independent Music

6-7:30 pm

Sept 20

Keep it 100

Pastor Vic

Denominations?? Is it a tool to Divide the Church?

8-9:00 pm

Sept 21

Late Night With Lateefah

Lateefah & Bishop

What is “Good P*ssy/ Good D*ck?”

11-12:00 am

Sept 22

ThrowBack Thursday

MsiCandi & Go2Gurl

The 80s

9-10:00 pm

Sept 23

iCandi After Dark

MsiCandi & The Crew

Freaky Fetishes

10-12:00 am

Sept 25

The Insightful Hour

Brotha Insight & Family

Eat 2 Live Pt 2

6-8:00 pm

Sept 26

New R&B on iCandi Radio

ALL MUSIC SHOW

From Mainstream to Independent Music

6-7:30 pm

Sept 27

Keep it 100

Pastor Vic

Do you think Dancing/ Shouting has gone too far in Church?

8-9:00 pm

Sept 28

Late Night With Lateefah

Lateefah & Bishop

Mama’s Boys

11-12:00 am

Sept 29

Talk Inner Beauty

Blessings of Beauty

Parenting 101

8-9:00 pm

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Loving OUR Women Written By: Mayo Woody

Maybe it’s just me, but lately I’ve been hearing way too many men dogging our women. I mean, what is it? Why? As men, we have to be a little gentler with our ladies. Our black women seem to have developed quite the reputation for not being very easy to get along with. Too Independent is the phrase. I hear a lot brothers say, “black women don’t appreciate black men” and because of this, black men tend to date outside of their race. One brother said that black women aren’t sensitive enough to a brother’s struggle in white America. Another said the black women don’t support black men like some women from other races do.

Now I know some people can be a little, well…different.

But with every person you will Iind a different set of motivations, agendas or thoughts, right? So how is it that we’re able to place all black women into the same stereotypical group? It makes it seem to all other races that all black women are uncontrollably confrontational and inconsiderate, almost as if black men need to be rescued from the raging black women by women of other races.

I’d like to take a few minutes and just speak to you, our black men, my brothers. I am normally a straight‐to‐the‐ point type of guy. I love the truth and you don’t have to dress it up for me. The truth hurts sometimes but I like it like that. Because I’m a Man, I can handle it. So I’m going to assume that the brothers that I am speaking to are the same way. When I say to you, “Get Your Life Together!” I say it out of love, but I mean it in the realest way.

Get Your Life Together! It amazes me how we are the only group of people that continue to blame other people/races for our shortcomings. I admit the life of a black man in America is a bit more challenging than the next. Is that fair? No, but it is what it is. It has always been and it will always be that way. That does not mean that a successful life is not possible. In every situation we Iind someone or something to blame and in this case the blame has fallen on the ones who have been there from the beginning and the ones who will be there in the end; none other than those beautiful, amazing, strong black women.

Let me be clear; all black men can’t handle her strength. Some Iind her Independence intimidating, rude, overbearing and disrespectful. But a real man knows just how to handle those qualities. He will know how to organize those qualities and help her use them in a way that will best beneIit him and his family.

A real man is a working man, a loving man, a disciplined man, a one‐woman man; a wise man, and a man who knows when to just listen to her frustrations instead of lashing back and calling her out of her name.

He is the kind of man who realizes that if he is tired, there is a great possibility that she may be as well. So he allows her to express herself when she is under pressure, without being offended. He knows his place.

He knows she knows his place but understands that everyone has a breaking point.

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This real man will recognize that what other men have labeled as disrespectful isn’t that at all; it’s just built‐up frustration. That can be completely cured with a hot bubble bath and rose pedals followed by a hot oil massage by candlelight until she says stop, with some Teddy Pendergrass playing in the background. Then if, and only if, she is still awake, he will follow up with some serious sexual healing that night or Iirst thing the next morning.

The problem is we don’t know how to love her. We don’t know how to make love to her mind and connect with her spirit. We don’t feel when she hurts because we are not connected. Being connected is one thing that having a relationship with a black woman requires. You can’t spend more time with your boys than you do with her and expect to have a good relationship. The video games don’t cook your meal and iron your clothes. It didn’t give birth to your children. She did, that’s why she wilds out (attitude) so badly when you continue to pile on the nonsense.

So black men congratulations. We have created this monster, but once again history is repeating itself in our community. We have to have someone to blame so we blame her. We won’t work; as my grandmother used to say, “we wouldn’t bust a grape in Welch’s backyard.” We wouldn’t work if someone tailor‐made a job for you. So she had the kids, raised the kids, worked the job, cleaned the house, cooked the food, SLEPT WITH YOU, for years before she realized that she didn’t need you. When she came to that realization that’s when the Independent Black Woman was created.

Because we have been out of place for so long she has had to improvise in order to survive. Because women are so much smarter than we are, other women have watched their mothers go through and have decided that they would just rather be Independent. But we can’t handle that. We are not willing to Iight to regain her trust and her love. She will no longer allow you to live off of her; she expects more from you. So we have moved on to the next weakest link.

I know this does not apply to everyone and there are some men out there handling their business. I am not talking to you, so don’t write me talking about you are not that guy. If you are not that guy then this article is not talking about you. But if this is you, don’t get mad, get it together brother. Our community needs you. Your woman, your children, your family needs you. Learn how to talk to her by listening Iirst. When you do speak to her use words of love, kindness and respect, as if you’re speaking to a Queen because you are. The quickest way to a woman’s heart is caring for your children and providing for your family.

Please brothers, don’t look at this as a beat down. I know there are some black women out there that could do better but we have to focus and right now my focus is on us. We have to rise to the proper standard. This message believe it or not is out of love for our race. This is encouragement and invitation to action. You just have to Iind the courage to be encouraged. Remember to keep God Iirst in everything you do. Much Love to you!

May God Bless Ya Life! **Note From MsiCandi** I just had to give Mayo a standing ovation for this article. It feels good to know that some of our brothas still appreciate the Black Woman & what we offer. (finger snaps)

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My Mi dn Written by

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Black T iger

In my Eye’s...

Smooth… flawless skin beautiful silky hair Eye’s that can make any man melt in them With just a little Glance.

As the sun rises and sets, I wait patiently To see your lovely silhouette, stroll past my window.

Headed to your favorite after hour spot As you pass by me, looking fabulous as always.

Your eye’s glanced at me, Sending an electrical charge to my brain “Dangerous thoughts.. now run thru my mind” Twisting every molecule of brain cells that I have.

Thoughts of how you would feel While holding you in my arms, gives me Vitality.

Wishing your body could be my canvas, While using my lips to kiss my poetic art all over it.

Sealing all of its authentic strokes permanently to your body an soul with my tongue. Only if you were my woman….

Knowing… If I could make that happen, No matter where you were, I could hear you call my name Even with a Soft….. Whisper “Dangerous thoughts.. now run thru my mind” You are, an amazing woman with a tremendous style So stunningly beautiful, with a gracious heart that I can’t help but to rest my eye’s upon you. My heart melts from your presents And smile, Yet my spirit gets stronger when I’m near you, wanting to Give you all your heart desires an to be the best man I can for you.

Only if you were my woman…. I see…

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A woman who knows what she wants, and doesn't wait for me to get it started, she initiates it her self.

A lady to dress sexy but classy, show’s just enough to make my mind wonder.

But her movements, lets me know that there's pure fire burning inside.

You see that makes me want to get real romantic with her Her hair has a beautiful soft scent in it's freshness.

A soft scent of perfume not to heavy just enough that you can barley tell she has it on, and her swagger is calling you to receive her, an every movement…. is sensual.

Only if you were my woman…

Oh how “Dangerous thoughts..

Are now running thru my mind” Her sexy posture while she is sitting staring me in my eye's, as she licks her lips teasing me slowly, knowing her body is already immaculately satisfying an Beautiful to me, she works her Talents to stimulate my mind to set it free on a higher intimate level Making me feel like I can be her SUPERMAN, Cause she already knows her loving is the KRYPTONITE!!!

And soon she will be breaking me down...

And there's nothing I can do about it!

If only you were my woman…

“Dangerous thoughts..... Oh “Dangerous thoughts.....

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Healthy Snack of the Month

Basic Fruit Salad Ingredients: 2 cups fresh strawberries, sliced 2 cups green seedless grapes, halved 1 small cantaloupe, cut into chunks 2 firm bananas, sliced 1/3 cup fresh orange juice (100% orange juice)

Directions: • In a large bowl, combine the fruit.

• Pour the juice over the fruit and toss to coat.

• Cover and refrigerate for 4 hours and then stir just before serving.

Recipe provided from : food.com

m o c . o r p i and

c i . w ww Final Words From MsiCandi: As you all have probably noticed we are all about improving and taking things to the next level at iCandi Productions. I’ve finally decided to give the newsletter a MAKEOVER!! I hope you guys are enjoying the new changes. I want to thank all of my wonderful writers for doing their thing by educating and entertaining you all. I believe that September can be the start of wonderful things for all of us. Stay focused, keep pushing and remember: If you dream it & you you believe it, you CAN achieve it!

Love you all, ~MsiCandi~

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