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Focus On: Education
Sorry Can Be The Hardest Word
Best Of Norfolk
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Aston Martin Vantage Review
The Fascinating History Of UK Education
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“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world” - Nelson Mandela Welcome to Iceni Magazine.
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This month’s focus is on Education and Vicki shares her views on the need for some people to educate themselves, reducing the frequent whataboutery seen on social media these days (Pages 42 & 43). Tom from See What Mummy Says tackles the controversial issue of whether parents should remove their children from school to take a termtime holiday and whether they should be fined for doing so (Pages 40 & 41). We’d love to know your views on this matter! Over on page 45, you can check out Yellow Mysteries Entertainment’s ‘Murder Goes to School’ - can you work out who the culprit is this time? Elsewhere, if you are about to experience empty nest syndrome, check out Pages 22 & 23 where Lianna Champ offers advice on how to minimise the sadness and maintain a positive relationship with your child. Eco-queen, Jill, gives us the lowdown on Secondhand September, providing advice for updating our looks (clothes and home) without buying anything new at all (Pages 20 & 21). We hope you have a wonderful September and the weather brightens up a little bit... until Issue 102, stay safe and have fun!
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Contents 48
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Full of absolute dynamic
creative content!
“You Reap What You Sow”
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5 WAYS TO SURVIVE...
MOTORING REVIEW
An Empty Nest & Stay Close To Your Child
Aston Martin Vantage
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EDUCATE... Yourself!
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The Benjamin Foundation Monthly Update
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Iceni News Dersingham Open Gardens
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Iceni News National Garden Scheme
HOW SPORT HELPS... Children Develop Key Life Skills
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The GadgetMan Review GIANTARM 3D Printing Pen
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Learning Outside... The Classroom
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Secondhand September The Recent Publication...
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How Sport Helps Children Develop Key Life Skills
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5 Ways To Survive... An Empty Nest
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See What Mummy Says Do Term Time Holidays...
Nova Silver September
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Educate... Yourself!
Best Of Norfolk Readers Images
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Focus On: Education
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Iceni Asks... What Do You Wish...
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Just For Fun 'Murder Goes to School'
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Iceni Horoscopes What Do Your Stars Hold?
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Iceni News Mannington Hall To Host...
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Iceni Columnist Keri Beevis
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Sorry Can Be... The Hardest Word
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What Can We Learn... From The Olympic Games?
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Motoring Review Aston Martin Vantage
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The Fascinating History Of UK Education
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The Benjamin Foundation For over 25 years, children, young people and families across Norfolk and Suffolk have been supported by The Benjamin Foundation to overcome big challenges in their lives. Each night, we accommodate 100 vulnerable young people, equating to over 40,000 safe nights sleep a year for local young people. They can finally feel safe from youth homelessness. Each week, 150 young people access our emotional wellbeing support improving their mental health, increasing their self-esteem and to finally feel understood. Each year, over 250 young people attend our youth work in the community to gain new life skills, expand their horizons and finally feel confident. Overall, 2,000 local children and young people every year finally feel hopeful of a better future because of the work of The Benjamin Foundation.
“This is just the start…”
Currently a resident at one of The Benjamin Foundation accommodation centres, Ryan* recently started an apprenticeship at one of our Furniture Stores and is already gaining valuable skills as he looks to the future. “I was really chuffed on my first day,” he says. “It was the first week of shops re-opening after the lockdown so the shop was quite busy.” “I was quite new to the area, I had previously dropped out of school and college didn’t appeal to me. My recent application for the army hadn’t worked out and, with it being two years before I can apply again, I wanted to do something to show that I’ve got the mentality that I’m willing to learn and not just sit around waiting for opportunities to come to me.”
“I’ve already improved my communication skills and teamwork. This is just the start of it - I’m hoping to improve a lot more. The best parts of the role are going out in the van, seeing new places and talking to new people. It all looks great on my CV and shows that I’m willing to do stuff. I want to come out of it with good skills,” he adds.
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“The teams at the store and the accommodation centre are all really friendly and they are helping me a lot. I’m grateful for all the help I’ve been given by The Benjamin Foundation.” *Name has been changed
You can help more young people like Ryan to finally feel hopeful of a better future. Make a donation on our website today: https://benjaminfoundation.co.uk/donate/
Coming Soon… Sleep Out 2021
An estimated 121,000 young people faced homelessness in the UK last year (source: Centrepoint). The Benjamin Foundation aims to help more local vulnerable young people into successful, independent living by providing a safe home and support to learn essential life skills, such as cooking and budgeting, as well as supporting their education and career aspirations while building their resilience and self-esteem. This vital work gives young people stability, new opportunities and prevents the street homelessness problem from growing. That’s why we are excited to be bringing our much-loved Sleep Out event back in 2021 to raise vital funds to support local, vulnerable young people to take their next steps to independence. Could you spend one night on the streets so a young person doesn’t have to? Register for Norwich Sleep Out at Norwich City Football Club on Thursday 11th November 2021: https://benjaminfoundation.co.uk/event/norwich-sleep-out-2021 Contact us
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Dersingham Open Gardens 2021 Since Open Gardens 2020, life has continued to be a roller-coaster of restrictions and emotions. During this time, more and more people, young and old, have appreciated the calming effect gardening brings. It is not only about the plants; it also connects us to Nature in a wider sense, and gives us a chance to encourage insects and animals into our gardens. Sharing our different garden successes was one way of keeping in touch with my children, and my grandchildren, who have all loved to report what they have been doing or seen in their garden. One of my greatest pleasures is just to walk around my garden each day and see the changes from the day before. A garden can take so many forms; half an acre of beautifully manicured lawns and beds, to a few pots on a patio and everything in between. Chelsea Flower Show and Hampton Court Flower Show offer the most spectacular and jaw-dropping array of gardens and plants, but I wonder how many of us have fallen in love with a plant there, bought it, only to find it doesn’t survive in our garden. The joy of being able to visit gardens in your local area is that whatever you see growing is more than likely to grow in your garden too. The owners of the gardens will likely have had some of the gardening problems
that you have had and be able to offer advice or solutions. On top of that, we have the chance to enjoy some of the best kept secrets of the village hidden behind walls, hedges and fences. This year, we are following the success of last year and opening our gardens on Saturday 4th September and Sunday 5th September from 11-5 each day. We have many “old-favourites” open and some new gardens to explore. Tickets will be on sale for £4 in advance at Dersingham Post Office and £5 on the day at the Village Centre. There will be refreshments on sale at the Village Centre from 10.30 on both days. All proceeds from the event will be divided between St Nicholas Church and the Village Centre. Together Again is the theme of floral display that will be showing in St Nicholas Church during the weekend, and one we all embrace. They will be depicting what we have missed over the last year and is a must to visit. There will also be some of our local artists opening up their studios alongside their gardens. Make sure you put this weekend on your calendar and come and see some of the wonders of Dersingham! PAGE
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Norfolk National Garden Scheme Gardens Opening September 2021 The Norfolk National Garden Scheme brings the 2021 garden visiting season to a close with 6 gardens opening in September and a finale at The Old Vicarage in East Rustonon October 16th. There is a great variety of garden interest on show as Autumn approaches. Pre-booked tickets can be purchased through online booking for all gardens listed, and at all gardens it will also be possible to turn up and pay at the gate. Refreshments will be available at each garden and entry for children is free. Please check at ngs.org.uk website for latest details before visiting a garden. Gardens opening in September are: Sun 5th September 10-5pm
33 Waldemar Avenue, Norwich
Sun 5th September 12-4pm
Holme Hale Hall
Sun 12th September 10.30-4.30pm
Chapel Cottage, Rougham
Sun 12th September 2-5.30pm
High House Gardens, Shipdham
Wed 15th September 2-5pm
High House Gardens, Shipdham
Sun 19th September 11-5pm
Manor House Farm, Coston
Sun 19th September 2-5pm
Silverstone Farm, North Elmham
Sat 16th October 12-5pm
East Ruston Old Vicarage
Since its foundation in 1927, The National Garden Scheme has donated over £55 million to its beneficiaries, with current annual donations reaching £3m. Charities supported by the National Garden Scheme in 2020 were: ● Macmillan Cancer Support ● Marie Curie ● Hospice UK ● Queen’s Nursing Institute Horatios Gardens ● MIND ● Carers Trust, Perennial, Parkinson’s UK ● Treloar’s and KIDS ● Bursaries and community projects were also funded Registered Charity 1112664 - www.ngs.org.uk PAGE
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Mannington Hall To Host Charity Day With Craft Stalls And Live Entertainment Lady Walpole supports Hospice Ethiopia. Mannington Hall to host charity day with craft stalls and live entertainment. Over 30 craft stalls, 20 charity stalls, live music, story-telling, dog shows, plate smashing, chef demonstrations and even a picnic butler! The Mannington Hall Charity Day has something for everyone and promises to be a tonic for anyone who has missed getting out for some serious fun over the last 18 months or so. The event happens on Sunday September 5th, 11am - 5pm. It’s being run by Norfolkbased charity Hospice Ethiopia, thanks to the generosity of Lady Walpole, who has offered to host it in the grounds of her magnificent Mannington Hall in North Norfolk. While the craft stalls and the chef demonstrations will be big pulls for adults, children will be entertained by the family events and child-friendly stalls. The inimitable Paul Jackson will be telling stories to delight and thrill all ages. There’ll be face painting, family dog shows and dog agility events, and displays ranging from birds of prey to vintage tractors. On the musical front, afficionados can expect both classical and popular live performances, including a string quartet and North Norfolk guitar legend Dave Morrison with his band. The Hall’s café will provide teas, cakes and light meals. There’s also the option to preorder a picnic, for £12, which will be delivered by your personal picnic butler (contact info@hospiceethiopia.org.uk to book up). The café will be cash or cheque only, no cards.
“We’re thrilled to have the opportunity to put on such an exciting event,” says Sue Mumford, chair of Hospice Ethiopia UK. “It should be a fun time for all, plus we hope to raise lots of much-needed funds for Hospice Ethiopia and several other charities.” One of the more unusual entertainments will see children getting the chance to experience Ethiopian-related crafts and activities. “An important part of our outreach programme is to educate people about Ethiopia - the Ethiopian craft lessons will be different and exciting.” As well as looking after hundreds of critically ill patients in Addis Ababa, Hospice Ethiopia is one of the leading medical educational centres in sub-Sahara Africa, training doctors and nurses in palliative care. “Its work brings hope to thousands of desperate people who have no-one else to support them,” says Sue. “Every penny we raise goes to the charity.” Entrance to the Mannington Hall Charity Day is £6 for adults, with children under 16 free. To find out more visit: www.hospiceethiopia.org.uk, or email info@hospiceethiopia.org.uk. PAGE
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New Beginnings While 2020 was a very quiet year, spent mostly at home staying away from everyone, 2021 has been a hive of activity. As well as going back to do a few hours a week at my old day job (writing can be lonely and I need a little Above: Keri Beevis social interaction), I am also in the process of moving house, and, by the time you read this, I will have celebrated my fiftieth birthday. Now I originally had grand ideas for this event, involving a holiday to Tuscany and a weekend away in a haunted house. This has changed though in light of the pandemic and instead a few friends and family will be joining me for a garden party. Honestly, I am just grateful I am one of the lucky ones who gets to celebrate, but I am currently glued to the weather forecast, hoping any rainclouds pass us by. The moving thing, fingers crossed, will happen later this year and my mother is already freaking out about the idea of me living three miles further out into the countryside. It’s amazing how much more space you can get for your money though if you go further out, and I will finally have an office, instead of having to write at my dining table in my living room, where people are walking past and gawking in the window every five minutes. Not because they are thinking, ‘Ooh look, there’s an author,’ mind. No, I think the gawking is at my bird’s nest hair, my dubious dress sense, and the fact I probably haven’t put a bra on.
happy and homely, I love hearing the hourly chimes of the village hall clock, I love that there is beautiful parkland on my doorstep, and I love that over the years I have worked hard to turn it from a sad soulless former rental shell into a much adored home. But sometimes change is necessary and it’s time to move on. I am already in love with my new house and super excited that it has a cute little garden. And I can’t wait to put my own stamp on it. Here is to fond memories and new beginnings.
I am going to miss my little house. It’s the first place I have ever owned, and it is filled with happy memories. I love how the late afternoon sun spills through the windows, making everything seem
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SORRY CAN BE...
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Sorry Can Be The Hardest Word Many of us use the word ‘sorry’ frequently throughout the day. Even when we’re innocent, when someone has bumped into us or has made a mistake, we may find that we’re the one who’s quick to apologise and say ‘sorry’. It can become an automatic response, said without thinking. It can be helpful to start paying a little more attention at these times and reflect on our automatic default, especially if we gradually realise that we’re regularly apologetic, even when it’s not warranted. What drives an apology, what prompts us to become regretful about a perceived offence or omission? The word ‘sorry’ can become a habit, which ultimately reflects badly on us and starts to convey the impression of someone who’s accident-prone, careless, timid or over-cautious in their approach; someone who’s anxious to avoid confrontation at any cost. Pay attention to times when you typically apologise, and notice what’s going on! Are you showing yourself in a good light? Then there are times when an apology is required, when we should apologise sincerely for something that we have said or done, or not said or done. What about those times? ● Sometimes it can be a valuable exercise to join a personal development group and explore what your triggers are, so you can understand
your rationale for those times when you typically apologise. What’s going on, is this your unthinking default, are you afraid of conflict, would you rather apologise and move on rather than discuss it or apportion blame? Finding your appropriate voice, rather than becoming angry or upset is a major first step to take. There’s often an emotional link or trigger connected to apologising; ● It may have been that our early years were fraught, that home or school involved arguing, bullying or constant tension. We learned that it was best to remain silent, keep the peace, defer to others and be quickly contrite. Any criticism or accusation of wrongdoing became best remedied by a heartfelt apology, promise to improve and offer to do ‘penance’. ● It may be that we came to regard others as better, more competent, confident or clever. Some people feel intimidated by people who they regard as more intelligent, senior, sporty, attractive, rich, worldly-wise or of a higher social standing. Feeling inferior, suffering maybe from imposter syndrome, can mean than an apology is readily delivered whenever there’s the slightest hint of others being irritated or inconvenienced. Fear, dread, shame, guilt, embarrassment may well be experienced at these times.
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● At other times, apologising may be regarded as a sign of weakness, an admission that we’re flawed or imperfect. We may be wary of admitting that we’re in the wrong or be apprehensive at revealing an unfortunate side to ourselves. Exposing ourselves and becoming vulnerable can be a scary prospect. Yet saying sorry if we’ve made a mistake is often viewed as a positive step and seen as a sign of strength. Many people respect a person who has the selfconfidence and integrity to hold their hand up, admit that they’re wrong and apologise. So, let’s look at the best way to apologise, the when, how and why; ● Be genuine. There may be times when a difficult situation needs to be dealt with and face-to-face confrontation is required. That in itself may be justified. But bringing matters to a head may cause unfortunate things to be said or done. We may want to apologise for the upset caused, the consequences of our actions. Maybe we could have handled things better, been less confrontational, more sensitive, empathic or tactful. Saying ‘sorry’ for our lack of sensitivity or tact may prompt further discussion and start to heal the relationship. ● Avoid long explanations. There is nothing worse that someone starting to say ‘sorry’ and then delivering a long-winded explanation of how, when and why it all occurred. It can sound like an apology and a retraction all in one go! Sometimes brevity is important, especially if everyone’s keen for the situation to move on.
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● Sooner rather than later is best. Delaying making an apology can result in it seeming forced and insincere. Determining to put matters right straight away demonstrates an acceptance of what’s happened, a recognition of wrong-doing, a commitment to take responsibility and a desire to put things right. ● Family situations can sometimes be tough. But if a parent has made a mistake or behaved badly, it’s important to teach their child about mutual respect and not be afraid to apologise. Similarly, emotions can run high in a marriage. Conflict can sometimes result in an almost pantomime-like exchange, apportioning blame, bickering about who’s right and who’s wrong. Sometimes healing the relationship matters more than winning the argument! Saying sorry and apologising can be the bigger gesture. ● Actions speak loudest of all. When we’ve apologised, it’s important to prove that we meant what we said, that our words were honest and true and that we’re keen to learn from what’s happened. Demonstrating a commitment to improve, to behave better and not repeat the same mistakes is important. Interestingly, many people find that when they make the first move and start to apologise, the other person will often respond in a positive way, being relieved that the difficulties and tension are coming to an end. It’s often the case that the other person starts to respond too. Understanding our motives for apologising can be a valuable way to build confidence and feel more positive about doing it in the right way when something warrants an apology.
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MOTORING REVIEW
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Aston Martin Vantage Review
Follow motoring journalist, Tim Barnes-Clay on Instagram: @tbarnesclay and Twitter: @carwriteups. The Aston Martin Vantage is what dreams are made of for those who adore British sports cars. As a child, I never thought I’d get to sit inside an Aston, let alone end up test-driving one.
Under the metal, the Vantage is similar to its sibling, the DB11. Both cars house the MercedesBenz-derived 4.0-litre V8 powerplant. Stamp on the accelerator, and the car will hoon from 0-62mph in a mere 3.6 seconds. It will then push you on to 195mph.
But life can have a funny old way of working out if you’re prepared to work hard. I’m not talking about me; it’s Aston Martin who should be asking for a medal. The automaker has worked like a hound to get the latest Vantage just right and it has paid off.
Open the Vantage’s doors, and comfortable, low-slung sports seats greet you. You feel cosseted behind the Aston’s wheel, and the cabin is generally less clinical than a Porsche’s. It’s traditional, and the switchgear, also supplied by Mercedes-Benz, is incorporated well.
Why? Well, let’s start with the car’s looks. It’s stunning from the back, with attractive lights and a subtle spoiler. Things are a tad less dramatic at the front, although the sharknose is appealing. What works, though, are the proportions. The two-seater car is sinuous almost hunter-esque in the way it seems poised to pounce.
Of course, the sports car isn’t the most practical of vehicles - it comes without rear seats, but you can get golf clubs in the boot. Practicality aside, the Vantage is close to perfect. Prodding the starter button produces a roar - it’s a gratifying noise, particularly with the four-pipe sports exhaust system fitted.
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Moving off in Sport (the most chilled of the settings) and letting the eight-speed auto ’box do what it wants, makes for an “easy-likeSunday-morning” motoring experience. Move through Sport+ and Track modes, and you can make the Vantage angrier, more rebellious and louder. Whichever setting you go for, joy is always served. On UK tarmac, the Aston offers confident handling, and the brakes do a top job of making pace disappear. I drove the luxury sports car around the highways and byways of East Anglia, and it excelled. Yes, a 911 offers better practicality, but a Porsche won’t give you the feeling you get from driving a British icon.
Fast Facts: Aston Martin Vantage • Max speed: 195 mph • 0-62 mph: 3.6 seconds • Combined mpg: 27.4 • Engine layout: 3,982cc eight-cylinder turbo petrol • Max. power (PS): 510 • CO2: 230 g/km • Price: £120,900 (£148,500 as tested) PAGE
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GIANTARM 3D Printing Pen Doodle away in 3 Dimensions As a user of 3D Printers, I have been intrigued to see what 3D pens have to offer, so it was interesting to receive a Giantarm 3D Pen a week ago. The Giantarm 3D Pen comes with a kit allowing you to get creating straight away. Included with the 3D pen are a generous 12 different colours of PLA filament (each colour is 10ft in length), a stand for the pen, a Micro USB cable and charger plug, drawing stencils, a clear PVC drawing board and finger protectors. All of this is packed inside a nifty magnetic closing box. So, out of the box and plugged in, it was time for some fun! The pen defaults to PLA as the material (which was included), and then I needed to select one of 3 flow speeds, which is
the rate the molten PLA comes out its tip. The pen LED glows red whilst it heats up to temperature. As soon as it's ready, the light turns green and you can press the advance button which begins feeding the filament through the pen, heating it up and then squirting it out of the end. Pressing the button again stops the flow and retracts the filament slightly, which gives a clean break of flow. Using the pen was easy and you can write on surfaces as you would a normal pen, but unlike a standard pen, you can begin experimenting by lifting the pen away from the PVC drawing sheet and drawing in the air. It is able to do this because the molten PLA cools quickly and solidifies, so as long as there is sufficient support, it will stay in place.
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Now, this is when my daughter, Gracie decided to take over. In fact, she was busy creating all sorts of amazing things for what seemed like hours. She even presented me with a little 3D box that she made, something I had been struggling to do myself.
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the opportunity to save models that might end up in the bin otherwise! Available from Amazon using the QR Code below:
For those of you that own 3D printers, you will have experienced occasions when your prints failed or you wanted to glue items together. Well, the 3D pen also works very nicely as a 3D model welding tool. I was able to perform gap filling and welding using exactly the same filament colours that my models had been made from, very useful! The 3D Pen is priced at about £36. I thought it was great value, as not only does it provide my daughter with hours of fun, it is also a great additional tool for my 3D printing and affords
See you next month, keep safe! Matt www.thegadgetman.org.uk
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Secondhand September The recent publication of the IPCC report didn’t shock those of us who are interested in and take action on environmental issues.
I haven’t found it particularly difficult, but as we head into Autumn, I know I have clothing to replace (it is literally falling apart) I will be looking to put this into practice.
There can be no doubt that our climate is getting dangerously warmer and we are responsible for it - the headlines were pretty horrendous, as they should be, but there is hope, there are some basic positive steps we can take.
As much as mainstream fashion brands will tell you that they’re making eco-changes and becoming more sustainable, whilst they continue to bring out new lines every week/month and encourage you through their marketing that you NEED the latest items, they will remain major contributors to the climate crisis we find ourselves in.
This campaign is the last stage of Slow Fashion Season which began in July. It has been promoting the concept of not buying anything new clothing-wise from then until the end of September. Personally, as we were still in semilockdown and just generally being cautious about heading out and about with other people,
Fashion
The constant churning of new ‘must have’ items means that long-term use is not something that is part of the design. These companies are often responsible for poor working conditions and rates of pay, polluting the environment through
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the manufacturing processes of both the end product and its materials, and ultimately are responsible for generating huge levels of waste through disposing of unwanted items (yes returns are often just sent to landfill to ‘protect their brand’). Interiors But fashion trends don’t only relate to clothing. Years ago, I used to run an independent eco furniture business. We sold fabulous well-made pieces manufactured from fruitwood timber effectively a by-product of the fruiting industry. I had grown up to believe in investing in wellmade key pieces of furniture that would last the test of time. Towards the end of my time in this business, it was clear that the growing mainstream interiors market was very much geared towards swapping a sofa every 5 years, and while you’re at it, what about the carpet and curtains? Lockdown has had a huge impact on the furnishings market. Stuck indoors for weeks
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and months on end, sitting on lumpy (or not so lumpy) sofas, laptops scratching furniture, staring at the same furnishings, many got bored and decided we wanted a change. The average carbon footprint of each new sofa, according to FIRA (Furnishing Industry Research Association) is 90kg - the equivalent of driving 220 miles. That’s without considering the timber used in its frame or the type of material and the impact of its manufacture on the environment. Options So, what are the alternatives to buying new? • Charity/secondhand or auctions
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stores
• Upcycle and repurpose - may take some basic skills, but plenty of ‘how to’ videos online and a real sense of satisfaction when it comes good. • Recover or refill - if your sofa/chair frame is sound, look to get new foam/cushion filling for the sofa and maybe new coverings Benefits • You get to really personalise your own living space and clothing • Get a great feeling of achievement when it all pulls together • You improve your impact on the environment I’d love to see your secondhand projects and outfits, so please tag me @ecoqueenliving in your social media posts.
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5 Ways To Survive An Empty Nest & Stay Close To Your Child Empty nest syndrome is something that many parents dread from the moment they start to see their child grow and develop independence. Knowing that one day, our offspring will have grown their wings and flown the nest offers both comfort and anxiety. When the day comes, it will be tough, but there are ways to make an empty nest easier, whilst maintaining a close relationship with your child. Here are five things that can help. Preparation The best coping mechanism is to prepare! Very often as parents, our lives are built around our children - their timetables, laundry, meals etc - and we tend to cram our own stuff in somewhere in between. There is such an intensity about parenting that when children fly
the nest it’s no wonder the house can feel hollow and abandoned and the days seem to stretch ahead. Not to mention the feeling of not being needed. Losing the daily interactions and constant presence can make you feel bereft. Also, we may have defined ourselves and strongly identified as a parent and can now feel redundant. Usually, you will have plenty of notice therefore you must use this time wisely. Accept that your children will need you in a different way once they have moved out and look upon this as an opportunity for a second crack at the whip. Think of all those things that you would like to do. Hobbies and plans that may have lain dormant during the years of devotion to your children’s care. Start making your plans and put things in motion whilst your children are there. This is the opposite of ripping off the plaster; you must peel it back slowly.
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Acceptance & Adjustment Empty nest syndrome can feel akin to a bereavement and therefore can bring related issues - sleeplessness, loss of appetite, an overwhelming sadness, nausea. Let it be ok not to be ok for a while as you adjust to this massive milestone in your life. Like any traumatic event, we need to step back and lick our wounds. Accept the feelings of sadness and if it helps hugging one of their T shirts or sitting in their room in tears, that’s ok. Your parent/child relationship is entering a new phase, you have to mourn the loss. You are also not there to protect them on a daily basis or make their decisions for them and this can feel scary. Activity Begin your new activities. If you’ve always wanted to cycle, try it. Find whatever works for you. Remember, if you are starting something for the first time, they say it takes 28 days to change a habit, so persevere. This is where family and friends are invaluable. Structure meetings and outings with your friends, create new routines so that you have the distraction of new things to keep you going in those early weeks and months. It’s all about creating new habits and routines to fill the great expanse of time that you will now find on your hands. Communication Once your children have moved out, let them know how you are feeling and the importance of regular contact/visits. Also let them know that no matter what, they can always come home if things don’t go as they planned. Many great things are discovered veering off the path!
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day forge their own lives and the part that we play will change. Accept that your children will need you in a different way once they have moved out. Allow them to learn through their own mistakes without chiding them. Explain things to them. Always listen to them. FaceTime from different places so they know that you are ok and coping without them. Above all, don’t take it personally if they forget to phone home. They are swept up in a frenzy of activity and independence. Maintenance Life ebbs and flows and so do we, our relationships, our needs. Nothing stays the same and we are constantly evolving, changing and developing. Send food parcels, cards and little gifts. Keep your own activities so you have lots to talk about when your children phone or visit. You are teaching them that life is for living and not to make others do what we want them to do! If you give them their wings, before you know it, they will be back with their partners and their own children and you may just think …. I enjoyed the peace whilst I had it.
We give birth to our children, nurture them to young adulthood and, just like a plant or shrub, we have pruned and shaped them and fed them with our own learnings. Have faith that you have done your best and as hard as it is, we know right from birth that our children will one
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Amber, What is it? Amber has been treasured since Neolithic times, and you only need to look at a piece to see why. Here at Nova Silver, we carry a huge range of amber, from classic beaded necklaces to more modern, statement pieces. If you’ve ever been lucky enough to find a piece of amber washed up on the beach, you may not immediately recognise it as amber, as it will look quite scratched and will show its history on its surface. Once polished up it will immediately show its inner beauty. A good quality piece of amber seems to glow from within when held up to the light and will warm up quickly in the hand. Amber is made from the resin of different species of now extinct trees. Resin differs from the sap that carries nutrients around the tree, as it is formed as a protective defence against wounds (like a broken branch) or attack (from insects or fungi). The resin would flow at the point of injury and plug up any gaps in the bark to allow the tree to heal and prevent further attack or damage. These trees were around and growing in the Middle Cretaceous and Tertiary periods, between 10 and 100 million years ago. The oldest amber ever found is thought to date from the Upper Carboniferous period, over 320 million years ago! When these trees fell, some were carried by rivers to the sea, where they eventually settled and were covered by sediment. Others may have been knocked over by glaciers and buried in sediment. Over millions of years, that resin hardened into amber. This is why you will find ‘inclusions’ in amber. These can be small bits of organic matter, like bits of leaf, bark or even insects trapped in amber and preserved through history. Amber can be mined, treated and used to create beautiful jewellery for you to enjoy. No two pieces of amber are ever quite the same, and each piece can be thought of as a little time capsule!
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What Can We Learn From The Olympic Games? The Olympic Games are yet another reason for England to be in the spotlight. Royal Weddings, the Queen’s Jubilee and now this international sporting event all generate massive worldwide attention. But some people have little interest in sport and maybe instead would benefit from focussing on the role of learning new skills, dedication and tenacity in life. With that in mind let’s look at what we can learn from the Olympic Games: ● Training, focus and self-discipline are the main ingredients in any success driven goal. All serious athletes have to put other distractions to one side as they concentrate their time, energy
and enthusiasm on their ultimate objective. Similarly, when something is important enough to us, we need to fully commit all our attention. ● Success entails working with others and co-operating. Even individual sports require a team effort with trainers, nutritionists, masseurs, sports psychologists all liaising and sharing ideas and strategies. A successful team effort recognises the importance of utilising each other’s different skill sets. Setting aside differences and co-operating with each other enables the best possible outcome from a joint effort. ● Asking for help can be an important component in success. Sometimes admitting that we don’t have all the answers and need
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to ask for help or admitting that we’re on the wrong track and need help in putting things right can make all the difference to the eventual outcome. And a little humility often indicates an important shift in attitude and outlook towards better flexibility and improved receptivity of thinking. ● Using defeat as a motivating factor is an important lesson from competing at the highest level. When a high jumper clears the bar he or she simply raises it to the next level until he eventually fails. Using defeat as the motivation to explore what it takes to succeed is an important lesson to learn from top athletes.
● Learning to lose with good grace knowing that we’ve done our best is an important life skill. Losing brings disappointment, especially when we’ve been working with dedication and commitment for years. But acknowledging that we’ve tried our best, today someone else is better, allows us to congratulate the worthy winner whilst not becoming discouraged ourselves. The Olympic Games teach us about singlemindedness, focus, determination and commitment to the ultimate prize. Courage and dedication to our goals and dreams are valuable lessons indeed.
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The Fascinating History Of UK Education Education - what a big and important subject! They say that our school years are the best of our lives; I wasn’t sure that was true whilst at school, however, on reflection, I reckon that in my case, they are quite correct. I’m not saying my years of education were all a pleasant experience, but they were shaping and guiding for who I am today. If I were to pick out an era of my education that I particularly enjoyed, I’d have to say that it was in my final year of High School when taking my exams. And the reason is fairly straightforward really; we became adults almost overnight! The
attitude of the teachers towards us changed, we weren’t being chased to attend lessons (or even exams), moreover it had clearly become our responsibility. Nobody was questioning our comings and goings; there would be encouragement, but it seemed that we were now in charge of our own destinies - and I liked that. And in a way, my relationship with my teachers had changed - they were more open and, strange as it may seem, I saw they were human after all! It does feel odd to admit that taking those stressful exams was actually a pleasant time for me.
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But I know that having such easy access to a good education should not be taken for granted. Even today, in many countries, any form of education is a luxury and certainly not available to all. Any nation with a well-developed system of education should not take its existence for granted, it is something to be treasured. In thinking about my own education, I wondered if many people would know the history of the English education system; where did it all begin, who decided we should all learn the basics, reading, writing and arithmetic? Well, you won’t be surprised to know that we go back several hundred years to find the ‘beginning’ with the setting up of the first schools being credited to St Augustine who created cathedral schools in Canterbury in 597 and Rochester in 604. The St Augustine schools taught Latin to priests and also taught
songs to ‘the sons of gentlefolk’ for singing in cathedral choirs. Some ‘free from church control’ schools started to appear from 1150 onwards. But, in 1391 Richard II outlawed education for serfs unless it was permitted by the lord of the manor. This approach was to exist for another 500 years. Indeed, prior to the 19th Century, there were few schools, with those that were operating being linked to religious institutions and stressing the importance of Religious Studies. 19th century reforms expanded the provision of education and introduced many statefunded schools. By the 1880s, education was compulsory for children aged 5 to 10. Most of the surviving schools were eventually absorbed into the state system under the Butler Act of 1944. To this day many state schools, most of them primary schools, maintain a link to the Church of England, reflecting their historic origins. As you’ll appreciate, that’s an extremely simplified history of the development of the English education system, but it gives a flavour. There’s plenty of detailed information online! What was your favourite memory from school? Or did you not have any fond ones? Please get in contact to carry on the conversation.
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Learning Outside The Classroom
Although I do thoroughly enjoy time spent alone, and short breaks from parenthood are not only pleasant but sometimes necessary, I am genuinely happiest in the company of my children. They complete me, and give me a happiness like no other. Despite my love of having the children at home, which is a great deal of the time due to home schooling, I’m starting to feel a familiar yearning for routine. Parents are beginning to feel the ticking clock, as the summer holidays draw to an end. We are collectively realising we may have thrown all caution to the wind and discarded our own functional routines, such as bedtime, studies, healthy diets or screen-time limits. And as the resumption of school (or homeschool) fast approaches, the need to regain a hint of control and order intensifies.
With an energetic boy aged four, and a sociable girl aged eight under my roof, excessive time spent at home can create an unprecedented amount of noise, chaos and clutter. And including the unwelcome dose of covid, isolation and lengthy recovery period, we have recently endured, the children are practically climbing the walls at this point. So, September is bringing a fresh start all around. Along with our resuming freedom, we have some new adventures lined up. My son is starting at a new pre school - an early years setting which is child-led and individual focussed. Following a slow start with his speech, he has blossomed into an inquisitive chatterbox. I’m excited to hear about his independent feats, general progress, and social interactions. He is one of many children his age to have missed countless opportunities for play and interaction over the last year or so. The happiness written all over his face in the company of other
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children is a telling sign about the importance of play and friendships for small children. Not just for emotional and social development, but the physical time spent playing with others is incomparable to time spent playing alone. There is so much to be gained from socialising our children. As for my daughter, home education remains a slightly uncertain area to navigate. Post covid interruptions, we have no firm schedule to speak of, and will need to start from scratch in building one for the new term. Luckily, taking a relaxed approach is our forté. And my son’s new schedule at pre school will grant some peaceful time to engage with my daughter’s learning and interests. Our main priority will be seeking out groups and classes offering face-to-face interaction. The pandemic seems to have reshaped the home education scene. We can access an abundance of online learning and zoom classes, but this has never been our preferred approach. Small numbers and closely acquainted environments
are among the best features of home-education specific classes. It allows for effortless learning, and easily built friendships. Some of our closest bonds with other home educating families have been formed in regular group settings. And I have observed massive benefits to my daughter’s learning experience, with regular classes and outings pencilled into her schedule. We are lucky to enjoy the perk of experiencing days out during off-peak times, and Norfolk has many educational destinations to offer. This term, we plan to visit Gressenhall, Pensthorpe, and Norwich Castle. Along with destinations for play and fresh air, such as Bewilderwood and High Lodge. Learning happens everywhere, not just in a classroom. And although our schedule continues to change over time, one thing always remains the same… We continue to prioritise happiness and wellbeing throughout our homeschool journey.
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How Sport Helps Children Develop Key Life Skills
This summer, both the Euros and the Olympics will have inspired so many young people to get involved in sport, but whether you end up wearing a gold medal around your neck or not, I think the biggest reward that comes from these sports are the skills that they teach you along the way. If you attend football training once a week for 2 years, you will improve at it, but what isn’t as clear, is how much these sessions can make you more employable, resilient, and successful in life. I am not saying that the commitment to your local grassroots football team is the sole cause of your achievements, but I do believe that it helped… and here’s why. • Teamwork Learning how to put aside differences of opinions and work together to achieve a shared goal, is the key to unlocking a lot of doors in life. This happens on a consistent basis in training and matchdays, through the regular challenges that sport likes to bring. Making decisions that
not only effect yourself, but other people around you, significantly accelerates a child’s maturity and makes them a good team player – ready to solve much more complicated and more emotional problems later in life. • Hard work Hard work beats talent, when talent doesn’t work hard. Never has this been more apparent than in sports. You can be the most gifted runner in the world, but if somebody is training harder than you, they will overtake you. Sport participation is a reminder to all children that if they want to be good at something, they must give it their all. • Commitment Having the ability to commit to something and stick with it, is a powerful skill in any person’s life and will ultimately help you to succeed whether that’s in terms of your career, health or relationships! Experiencing the highs and the lows of a situation, without quitting at the first hurdle, helps you to discover that a lot of
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things in life are worth hanging around for and that they usually get better, even when they currently suck. For example, if a child misses a penalty and their team ends up losing 1-0, but then in the next game scores a hat-trick and they win 3-0, that child will know that the good times would not have come if they had of quit straight away. • Leadership There is nothing better than seeing children encouraging each other, celebrating when another person scores or reaches their personal best. Sport builds communities, which more importantly teaches children what it takes to be a part of one, as well as how to lead one forwards. The best leaders are the ones who have a positive attitude, can keep others motivated and act as role models. These are traits that come naturally when you care about your team.
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• Working under pressure Let’s face it, life can be tough. Sometimes it can feel like the whole world is against you and that every pair of eyes is locked on your next move. Well, that also sounds like a game of football, when the coaches and parents are yelling instructions and time is running out to score that much-needed equaliser. A child who has experienced this type of pressure regularly, will start to improve their ability to handle it, which means that in the future their work deadlines will not be so scary after all, because from a young age, they have been working against the clock and managing it totally fine, with memorable achievements that can fuel their confidence. • Self-confidence Having confidence in yourself is very important, this comes from building a portfolio in your head of the times that you have failed, overcame and succeeded. If you do not experience these emotions at a younger age, then you become more vulnerable to them in the future. We all want our children to be brave and take risks in life, so it’s a good idea to take them outside of their comfort zone whilst they are open to trying new things, so that we can show them how much they are capable of, before they set their own limits. When a child wants to play, say yes! It will mean a lot to them and can make a big difference in their lives this is the main reason why I decided to work as a football coach.
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Do Term Time Holidays Damage Your Child’s Education? I’m sure we all have an opinion on this. Whether you have children or not, you will still either agree or disagree that their education is affected or not by taking a holiday during term time, and also if a fine is an appropriate deterrent. Personally, at the current ages of my children (9,5 & 1), I don’t believe it will negatively affect
their learning and I feel that this won’t change until they are studying for GCSEs and above, at which point we will be more careful about the timing of travel. We have taken our children out of school to enjoy family holidays and wouldn’t think twice about doing it again. I think it’s too easy to simply talk about the learning that they miss during that time. I prefer to think about how
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much they’re learning and experiencing whilst on holiday. Even on a short holiday abroad, they experience the excitement and routine of air travel, foreign currency, history and culture. Not to mention, uninterrupted family time away from the constant distractions of life at home. Our children don’t always talk about what happened at school three years ago, but frequently discuss holidays and their memories of these. Can this be experienced out of term time? Of course, but work and available funds don’t always allow for this. Even after paying a fine, it is considerably cheaper to holiday in term time. Three years ago, we took our children to Florida during term time. We received a fine upon our return. Did that stop us considering doing it again? No. The memories that were created in that two-week period hold a higher value for me than two weeks in school. However, if our children’s attendance was particularly poor and their learning was behind,
I would feel differently. It’s also important to remember how well our children have coped in recent times missing that structure of a classroom environment and how our schools said they could catch everyone up to speed quickly on their return or how the last week of each term appears to have considerable downtime in the classroom and yet the education of our children in unaffected by this each year. On another occasion, we attended a friend’s wedding in Italy and as always, involved our children by taking them with us ensuring they got to taste local food, see famous landmarks and enjoying the social aspect of travelling with friends in an environment that was very different from a typical beach holiday. I’m not suggesting that you should take your children out of school every other week for a city break, but I believe that every once in a while its worth it to instigate a love for travelling, adventure and escape. As always, we would love to know your thoughts! Thank you for reading! Tom www.seewhatmummysays.com @whatmummysaysuk PAGE
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Educate... Yourself! While my work as a teacher and tutor probably hints that I might write an article about schools or children for this month’s Iceni Magazine, it is actually not the case. I couldn’t ignore an issue that has reared its ugly head once more this month, both on- and offline. So, this month’s article centres around the need for some people to educate themselves... and properly. Social media is brim-full of contradictions. Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are three of the places where I have witnessed the most hate in my whole life. Granted, not aimed at me, but at others.
What am I talking about? There is so much vitriol aimed at people wanting to make a difference and support a small number of people who are being rehomed here in Norfolk in their effort to escape their war-torn country: our Afghan refugees. Whataboutery has no place in modern-day society. The attempts of others to discredit someone’s opinions and actions are vile and unnecessary. Let’s take an example. Imagine that a colleague was taking part in Race for Life in memory of a loved one who had passed away due to terminal cancer. Would it be acceptable for someone to tell this colleague that they shouldn’t raise
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money for a cancer charity? No. It absolutely would not be. The colleague undoubtedly had a vast number of reasons as to why they chose that charity and event to try to make a difference.
“ Whataboutery has no place in modern-day society. The attempts of others to discredit someone’s opinions and actions are vile and unnecessary. ”
Why is it different when people collect clothes, food and household items for these Afghan refugees? People decide that they can slate other people’s decisions to donate and say that they should be helping different groups of people, including war veterans and the homeless. My message in today’s article really is for people to educate themselves and consider how lucky they are to not experience something as horrific as being petrified for their lives and those of their family members. I realise that there are people local to us who have been through hideously traumatic times, and never ever would I undermine their experiences with my words or actions. However, a minority of people who are insistent that other people are wrong to want to help the Afghans need to look at themselves, their words and their actions. Where were their pleas to help the homeless prior to this crisis? Where were the rants about how unfair our veterans are treated before the UK government agreed to help a small number of refugees? The official religion of the UK is Christianity. Many people quote the bible when they seek ways of validating their arguments and opinions. If you are one of these people, I’d like to ask you why kindness only extends to those born and bred in the UK? Where in the bible does it tell you to love thy neighbour unless they are a refugee?
being valued... where has that disappeared to now? Vanished into thin air like the caring nature so many people claim to possess. I realise that this article is emotive. It’s a sensitive issue. As a family, we try to support several charities and groups of people with the aim of doing our bit, regardless of how big or small. For example, we give, when we can, to the foodbanks, have gathered items for local people whose lives have been tipped upside down for a number of reasons, cook and give out food to local homeless people, and raise money and support for a wide range of charities. Doing one good deed does not mean that we are banned from helping someone else. This isn’t me blowing our own trumpet, far from it; however, it ought to make it clear that there is no one group of people more deserving than another in our opinion. I’ll end with a quote from Charles Dickens: “No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”
A significant number of Brits responded to the Black Lives Matter protests and campaigns with the words ‘All Lives Matter’. The former statement never said that non-blacks’ lives didn’t matter. So, the sentiment of everyone
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What do you wish you’d been taught in school that you had to learn as an adult? “Honestly, I find budgeting and running a household really tricky at times. If we’d learnt about it in school, I reckon I’d be much better and find it less stressful.” Becky
“You could choose politics in sixth form, but we didn’t touch upon it except occasionally in assembly. When I could vote at 18 for the first time, I had no clue who to vote for or how the system worked... I ended up not voting at all because it was confusing.” Paula
“We did food tech and I learnt how to cook bits and bobs, but we didn’t learn how to cook for more than a couple of people. Some of the lessons even revolved around making sandwiches – a skill I’d had since I was 8.” Bobby
“I’d have loved to have been able to pick up the basics linked to looking after my car. My dad left when I was young and my mum didn’t drive, so it was a shock to the system when I got my first vehicle and didn’t know how to check the oil or change a tyre.” Marcia
“Definitely money skills. I am ok now, but when I first went to uni, I lived in my overdraft. It would have been a far more useful part of maths than quadratic equations!” Olivia
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ICENI - HOROSCOPES
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Horoscopes For September Aries 21 March - 20 April
Gemini 22 May - 21 June
Taurus 21 April - 21 May
Cancer 22 June - 23 July
The more organized you are, the better, and you’ll fly high with the right strategy. Plus, looking after yourself will boost your energy levels, leaving you ready for anything. The New Moon on the 6th is a good time to make a start. Fiery Mars moves into harmonious Libra midmonth, and the Sun on the 22nd empowering your social life and intimate relationships. Mind, as Mercury rewinds in week three, delays and mixed messages are possible, so don’t presume anything. Have skills that are under-used? It’s time to showcase them, and let others see how talented you are. Also, choose the New Moon on the 6th to initiate your plans, learn a new hobby or take a romance to the next level. From midmonth, the passion in a relationship could be rekindled as Venus enters Scorpio. In addition, creating a balanced and healthier life may be the key to peace of mind. And the Full Moon on the 20th, can be very romantic and great for celebrations, Taurus.
Keen to give your place a brighter look? Check out magazines and websites for ideas, and allow your imagination to free reign. Use the New Moon on the 6th to kickstart a makeover and a decluttering session. Leisure time is important too, so don’t ignore it. This month Mercury your guide planet turns retrograde from week three, so there may be mixed messages and misunderstandings. Don’t be too quick off the mark to buy or sign. Do your research first. Getting everything in order can lead to greater productivity, and leave you calmer too. The Sun in Virgo until the 22nd could inspire you to network, promote your skills and link with friends or family you haven’t seen in a while. A developing bond might get deeper and more passionate too, and this may take things to the next level. New brooms sweep clean, as Mars moves into your home zone. Ready to redecorate your place? Creative ideas could inspire you to have a go.
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Issue 101 2021
Leo 24 July - 23 August
Sagittarius 23 November - 21 December
Virgo 24 August - 23 September
Capricorn 22 December - 20 January
Libra 24 September - 23 October
Aquarius 21 January - 19 February
Scorpio 24 October - 22 November
Pisces 20 February - 20 March
Want to get your finances in order? Finding ways to save and spend wisely can make a world of difference. Thinking of starting a side business? Go for it around the New Moon on the 6th, as your efforts will quickly pick up speed. Study, writing, marketing and networking could work well. But exploring your local area and connecting with friends might be good too. Mercury will turn retrograde from week three, so look after important documents and keep back-up copies, Leo.
You’ll be in your element, and busy with all the things you love to do, Virgo. The New Moon in your sign on the 6th is golden, so use it to start good habits, get moving on a dream plan and other exciting goals. Need to impress someone? Lovely Venus in Scorpio can help. You may be irresistible. Plus, a little budgeting can assist you with making sure everything runs smoothly and allow you some treats too. With Mercury rewinding, keep receipts when buying expensive items.
Make use of the weeks up until the 22nd, to relax and recharge. This time is excellent for spiritual practices, and for letting go of emotional baggage. Ready to explore your full potential? Linking with a life coach or other mentor could give you the boost you need. As the Sun and Mars ease into your sign, your courage and confidence will shine out. You may discuss things you’ve been holding back for fear of upsetting others, which might leave you much relieved and happier.
Your social life brings opportunities for meeting people who share your interests. You’ll have a chance to forge new bonds or collaborate with others on unique projects. And as Venus moves into your sign from the 10th, your magnetism and charisma look set to increase. But you’re also entering a quieter phase from midmonth as dreams become more vivid, and when you’ll have a chance to find closure on issues that need attention. Your intuition will be much stronger too.
Aim for the top! With a dynamic focus encouraging you to fly high, the coming weeks can set you on a path to bigger and better things. But you could also consolidate your progress and lay the foundation for fresh options in the future. You’ll enjoy events and get-togethers, especially from midmonth, when you’ll be on a roll. This is the time to network and make valuable connections. Mind, with Mercury going into reverse from September 26th Archer, watch out for mixed signals.
A desire to ease out of your comfort zone, could find you travelling new paths and exploring diverse opportunities. Have a goal in mind? Take those first steps at the time of the New Moon on the 6th, and you could go far. From the 14th, a dynamic influence boosts your resolve and may inspire you to let your ambitious side in on the action. Want that promotion or job? You’ll do all you can to get it. With Mercury rewinding from the 26th, be ready for delays, Capricorn.
You’ll be keen to get to the bottom of anything that is a cause for concern. You’ll have the power to peel back the layers and make discoveries. And your instincts can be vital in helping you choose wisely, when things don’t make sense. But you’ll also be ready to move on and accept new challenges. Fresh opportunities may call out to you, and could be a catalyst to a new beginning. Don’t be in a rush to buy or sign when Mercury rewinds from week three, Aquarius.
Friends, family and key others, may keep you busy with the emphasis on teaming up, smoothing over difficulties and finding ways to co-operate. Ready to take a relationship further? The New Moon on the 6th, can help you make a success of it. Have a business idea? Pooling resources could assist you in making things happen. You’ll also be keen to get your money working harder. The Full Moon in your sign on the 20th, may greatly emphasize feelings, so go easy.
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