Iceni Magazine Norfolk Issue 125

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Focus On: Education

The Pros And Cons Of...

Home Tuition For Children

Have You Got A Good... Skincare Routine?

Should Mobile Phones... Be Banned In Schools?

Why Don’t My Friends... Treat Me Better?

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” Aristotle

Welcome to Issue 125 of Iceni Magazine!

This month’s focus is on Education. How do you feel about mobile phones being allowed in schools? A big fat no or a definite yes? Pages 38 and 39 explore the pros and cons. With a new baby in the house, reading to our new little man is something that excites us. Why is reading to our children so important? Find out on pages 34 and 35. Finally, is private tuition something you’ve considered for your child? There are advantages and disadvantages to doing so (Pages 28 & 29).

Elsewhere in this issue, Charlie tells us, “It’s never too late!” when it comes to a skincare routine (Pages 16 & 17). Our author columnist, Keri, shares her search for the best place in Norfolk to hide a dead body – find out the importance of this information on Page 9. Tim test drives the Subaru Outback 2.5i-T ES Touring CVT - discover what makes this vehicle special on Pages 12 and 13.

It’s almost autumn and with the nights drawing in, we are really wanting the pumpkins and falling leaves to wait a little while longer. Cross your fingers like we are and let’s hope for a warm September.

Enjoy Issue 125 and we shall see you soon!

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Dogs Trust Issues Urgent Appeal For Foster Carers

In East Anglia

To Help Dog Owners Fleeing Domestic Abuse

A specialist dog fostering scheme which supports people fleeing domestic abuse is issuing an urgent plea for more foster carers across East Anglia after seeing a 23% increase in demand for its services over the last 12 months.

The Freedom Project, managed by Dogs Trust, the UK’s largest dog welfare charity, offers a lifeline for dog owners who are escaping from domestic abuse. It provides temporary foster homes for dogs, enabling survivors to access safe accommodation without the fear of what may happen to their dogs if they cannot take them with them.

Pets are often abused and, in some cases, killed by the perpetrator of domestic abuse in order to control and coerce. In addition to the

physical abuse that pets may suffer, Dogs Trust found that 97%* of professionals working in the domestic abuse sector also said that animals are often used as a means of controlling someone experiencing domestic abuse.

So far this year, Freedom Project volunteers have fostered 211 dogs, allowing 163 people to flee domestic abuse.

Due to the increase in demand on its services, Dogs Trust’s Freedom Project now urgently needs additional volunteer foster carers so that the scheme can support more people. All costs are covered by Dogs Trust, including vet bills, food, treats, grooming and bedding.

Involvement in fostering through the project is always kept completely confidential to protect both the dogs and the foster carers. Dogs are

not fostered within the area that the owner is from and the foster carer will not know who the owner is or where they live.

Neil is a volunteer currently fostering for the Freedom Project: “We lost our own dog about five years ago, and while we had a dogshaped hole in our lives, we didn’t want to commit to another dog of our own. My wife found out about dog fostering for the Freedom Project online and we realised this was something we could do to support people in a difficult situation.

“Being a dog fosterer gives us the opportunity to be more sociable outdoors, and it’s incredibly rewarding seeing the dogs settle and to know you have provided a safe place for the dog. The owner doesn’t need to worry about where their dog is or how they are being cared for, and they are much-loved part of a family until they get to go home.”

Laura Saunders, Freedom Project Manager at Dogs Trust said: “We’ve seen first-hand the ways that perpetrators use dogs to coerce, control, physically harm and threaten within abusive relationships. This is incredibly frightening for survivors and is often designed to leave people isolated.

“By providing temporary foster homes for dogs, we support survivors to access safe accommodation with the reassurance that their dog will be taken care of until they can be reunited.

“Whilst we are pleased to have been able to help so many people, there is still very much a need for our service, and we urgently need more foster carers across the UK so that we can continue this life-saving work.”

The Dogs Trust Freedom Project is looking for volunteers who are at home during the day, potentially people who are retired or work from home. They must have some experience

of caring for dogs, and be able to commit to fostering a dog for at least six months.

If you think you can help or would like more information on the service, visit www.dogstrustfreedomproject.org.uk or call 0808 196 6240.

About Dogs Trust

Dogs Trust is the UK’s largest dog welfare charity and normally cares for around 14,000 dogs across its network of 21 rehoming centres in the UK and one in Dublin. Dogs Trust has a non-destruction policy and will never put a healthy dog to sleep. The charity also focuses its efforts on understanding dogs and sharing that knowledge with the wider public to prevent problem behaviours that can result in relinquishment or abandonment. We are working towards the day when all dogs can enjoy a happy life, free from the threat of unnecessary destruction.

* A survey was conducted July 2019 of 369 professionals supporting victims/survivors of domestic abuse (including refuges, domestic abuse services, social workers / Social Care Providers, police Officers, housing Association and Local Authority Housing/Homelessness Teams).

Neighbours

You can’t choose who you live next door to, so I consider myself very fortunate that, with the exception of one - who had a fondness for very loud music, litter dropping and reversing into my new car - my neighbours have always been lovely.

When I viewed my current house, one of the first questions I asked was, ‘what are the people next door like?’ Perhaps a prudent question given that my recently released book was called The People Next Door, and featured the kind of neighbours no one wanted to be near. Luckily, I met a few of the fab people living in my road before moving in, but, learning I was an author, one of them decided to check out my novels. And of course, she chose the one I just mentioned.

Now I can’t stress enough, this is one of the creepiest books I have written, so I suppose it shouldn’t have come as a surprise that she looked a little bit scared of me when we next bumped into each other.

In the spirit of integrating myself into the neighbourhood, I have joined our local Facebook community page. Until now I have mostly observed, adding the odd sad emoji for missing cats and using it to try and source local plumbers. I am working on a new book though and this one is set very locally. So I decided to get everyone involved.

I need a place within a three mile radius where I can hide a body, my post began, before I quickly added not to call the police, explaining that I am a psychological thriller author and the body I need to hide is fictitious.

Well, aside from those neighbours who locked their doors, everyone was extremely helpful. Who knew there were so many good dead body hiding places

on my doorstep? I knew a recce was required to pick the most suitable location, but with book deadlines looming, I just wasn’t sure when I would be able to fit it in.

Then I remembered my birthday is coming up and my family are expecting a nice lunch out. Excellent. Two birds, one stone, and all that. I have booked a pub in the middle of murder country, and proposed a walk afterwards. They think we are all going for a nice jaunt in the countryside, but you all know what I will really be doing.

My brand new thriller, The Boat House, which is set in Wroxham, is out now. Available in paperback, hardback, audio and kindle. Follow me on Facebook or Twitter for more information.

Above: Keri Beevis

Why Don’t My Friends Treat Me Better?

We may sometimes feel that our friends are a disappointment to us.

They know us well and have been through much with us over the years. We think of them regularly, are mindful of how we treat them, but at times, it seems that they’ve oblivious to us and our needs. It’s disappointing if we have to question whether they understand us at all. Do they respect us and care enough to treat us well?

Oftentimes, issues can arise through miscommunication. Do we perhaps expect our friends to intuitively know what’s going on in our lives and be aware of what we need from them? But if we’ve not shared the relevant information how can we expect them to be in tune with us. It’s easy to forget that they have their own lives and daily stresses to deal with too. It’s not all about us!

Perhaps we’re being too preoccupied and selfabsorbed? It can be tough to learn this about ourselves, as we reflect on our own motivations.

Let’s consider some ways to improve our relationships, so ensuring our friends treat us better;

Commit to regular, open and honest communications, where you both share your thoughts and feelings, especially if you’re looking for a deep level of friendship. Good communication includes listening without judgement, as well as not interrupting or second-guessing what you anticipate is going to be said.

It’s important to understand that you may both have different expectations from the relationship. One may want a kindred spirit, a soul friend, whereas the other may simply want a pal to relax with, someone to have a few drinks and the occasional night out with. They may not want the same as you and aren’t looking for an intense connection or something more meaningful.

Thus, very different agendas and requirements can feature in a friendship. Some may want

close attention and the option to share several aspects of their lives, doing much together. They may need someone to help fill their time and be a regular presence in their lives. Others may be looking for a quick fix, respite and intermittent time away from busy, stressful or unsatisfying areas of their lives. Being sensitive to what each is looking for is a prerequisite for a successful friendship.

Some friends may be fair weather friends, enjoying fun times, nights out and entertainment, but don’t want any drama, problem-solving or to hear about your issues and concerns. At best, they may manage a superficial level of interest.

Then there are foul weather friends, who are there for you whenever any bad stuff is happening in your life. They have tissues at the ready, are great at listening, keen to offer advice and help with a vast assortment of difficulties, but run a mile at the thought of big social gatherings, lots of people and lighter fun invitations.

A readiness to compromise is also needed in a relationship as well as respect and consideration for each other’s position. Sometimes it’s important to be flexible and do things you don’t especially want to do. You’re prepared to be good-humoured and supportive, reciprocate whenever required, happy to show that you care. You’re invested in the relationship.

But remember that just because you need support and time ‘right now’ doesn’t necessarily mean it’s convenient for the other person. Dedicated time may need to be negotiated

with care. Each of us have our own lives, our own issues to contend with and need to be reasonable about expecting someone to drop everything and be immediately available for us and our situation. Find out when is a good time for them. Do we need to give them a little advance notice as to why we’re asking for their support so urgently, prepare them in advance?

Finances can sometimes be an area of inequality in a friendship, with some people needing to work to a strict budget and others having rather more disposable cash that they enjoy spending on fun. Rather than be open about their limited financial situation they may be embarrassed and instead prefer to step back, so becoming less available and appearing a little offhand.

If you don’t want to lose that person from your life why not suggest alternative options that are inexpensive and low cost? Early doors dining, coffee dates rather than lunch, pamper evenings at home where everyone brings a few beauty products, card evenings, watching the match on TV, country walks are all inexpensive ways to spend quality time together.

There can be many reasons why our friends don’t treat us well and it’s helpful not to jump to conclusions. But it may also be that the relationship has simply run its course. People reach different stages in their lives where they want different things and sometimes we have to move on from outdated friendships. Everything doesn’t always stay the same.

Article By Susan Leigh

Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net

Subaru Outback 2.5i-T ES Touring CVT Review

We’re embarking on a wild ride through the rugged terrain of the Outback crossover.

A testament to Subaru’s commitment to creating a vehicle that’s as adventurous as it is practical, the Outback is quite intriguing.

In Touring trim level, it’s the pinnacle of the range, a veritable treasure trove of features that make it a standout performer.

It’s an all-wheel drive, off-road-capable estate that’s been given a generous helping of Subaru’s magic potion.

The exterior is adorned with dark grey metallic 18-inch alloy wheels, LED steering responsive headlights with washers, chrome door mirrors and an electric sunroof that lets you soak up the sun or gaze at the stars.

Both front and rear seats are heated, and it also comes with SatNav, DAB radio, voice recognition, keyless entry and a push-to-start button.

Under the bonnet, the Outback accommodates a 2.5-litre turbocharged petrol Boxer engine that pumps out a respectable 169PS.

It also features a Lineartronic CVT (continuously variable transmission), which offers a jerk-free driving experience.

The Outback is a sight to behold, with muscular lines and rugged design giving it a robust look, like a mountain goat ready to conquer any terrain.

The Crystal White Pearl paint job is the default choice, but if you’re feeling adventurous, Crystal Black Silica, Autumn Green Metallic or Sapphire Blue Pearl are among seven other options to make your Outback stand out.

It’s not the best-looking car in the world, and, on that note, it’s about as much a performer as it is a looker.

The engine performance could be better, considering it’s a 2.5-litre, though it’s reasonably adequate for most driving situations.

The gearbox can feel sluggish during hard acceleration, a common trait of this type of transmission, which features one flexible gear rather than a set of pre-determined gear ratios.

The handling is reasonably precise, though, and the ride comfort feels plush. It also features X-Mode, which optimises the engine, transmission, and other systems to improve traction and performance on slippery surfaces, which is handy for tackling rougher terrain.

Inside, the Outback is a blend of off-road charm and everyday practicality. The Java Brown Nappa leather interior is standard on the topof-the-range Touring and gives the cabin a premium feel. At the same time, the highquality materials and attention to detail are evident throughout.

The infotainment system is an 11.6-inch touchscreen that’s reasonably easy to use and comes with Apple CarPlay and Android Auto. Meanwhile, an eleven-speaker Harman Kardon premium audio system, complete with a subwoofer, will keep your journey loud.

Practicality is a strong suit of the Outback, too, offering seating for five, with plenty of headroom and legroom for all passengers. The boot space is generous, too, offering 561 litres with the rear seats up and 1,750 litres with them folded down.

Fuel economy isn’t a particularly strong suit for a sub-200PS car, though, returning just 32.8mpg while emitting 193g/km of CO2.

Safety is a priority for Subaru, and the Outback is no exception. The Outback was tested by Euro NCAP in 2021, scoring 88% for adults, 89% for children and a mightily impressive 95% for safety assists.

It comes with Subaru’s EyeSight Driver Assist Technology as standard, encompassing adaptive cruise control, lane departure warning, pre-collision braking, and lane keep assist.

Overall, the Subaru Outback is adept at balancing adventure and practicality.

It’s a car that can tackle a muddy trail and then comfortably ferry your family around town, offering a compelling choice for anyone seeking a rugged estate that provides plenty of practicality. If you’re in the market for a car that’s safe, capable on the rough stuff and ticks plenty of other boxes, the Outback deserves a place on your shortlist.

Fast Facts - Subaru Outback [2.5i-T ES

Touring CVT] as tested:

Max speed: 120mph

0-62 mph: 10.2secs

Fuel economy: 32.8mpg (WLTP)

Engine layout: 2.5-litre four-cylinder Boxer petrol

Max. power (PS): 169PS

CO2: 193g/km

Price: £42,490

By Tim Barnes-Clay. Follow on Instagram: @tbarnesclay

Dining At Tarn Thai Restaurant

The city of Sheffield is located in the county of South Yorkshire.

Sheffield became known for its major industrial achievements during the 18th, 19th and 20th centuries, as steel making became established and quality productions were exported globally.

The world-renowned Peak District National Park is close to historic Sheffield and both the city of Sheffield and the Peak District National Park are enjoyed by countless visitors, as well as numerous residents and locals, all year through.

Shopping, sports, arts, culture and worldclass entertainment are some of the further

attractions. Restaurants and eateries offer a wealth of choices.

I located the well established Tarn Thai Restaurant in Sheffield. Tables are pristine and in most attractive settings. The menu options offer a quick meal to a full banquet.

To start my dining experience I chose SEAFOOD STREETFOOD. This made an excellent commencement, with nasal pleasures, plus flavours, giving a lot of confidence for the following courses.

For the main course I selected STAND UP SEA BASS (Crispy golden fillet of Sea Bass, standing, with peanut, fresh chilli, shallots, limes, lemongrass, ginger) from a list of choices that had a good number of very tempting dishes, plus COCONUT RICE to accompany. Again, aromas and tastes were in abundance, with

complementing flavours. Succulent, tender and with a most impressive presentation, ‘Compliments to Chef’ were duly sent, with no hesitation.

The very talented Proprietor and Head Chef, Golf, ensures, with the brigade that all dishes are most memorable. Golf has previous experiences with many top class hotels, restaurants, airline flying with Gulf Air and also as Sky Chef to the Bahrain Royal Family.

Desserts have MANGO and other delicious delectations. For wines/drinks I chose COLOMBARD. This MONSOON VALLEY WHITE WINE, from Thailand, is a firm favourite with many diners. All of this company’s wines are suitable for vegetarians and vegans too.

Gift vouchers are available and parties/ occasions can easily be accommodated.

Collections, deliveries and outside catering can be arranged also. Booking is most advisable for popular times. Thank you to Golf and Na for exemplary service throughout. Highly recommended.

Tarn Thai Sheffield, 1 Eccleshall Road, Sheffield S11 8HY. Tel: 0114 275 4800.

E-mail: tarnthaisheffield@gmail.com

Instagram: Tarnthaisheffield

Facebook: Tarn Thai Sheffield

As always, Enjoy!

Review By Trevor Langley

Have You Got A Good Skincare Routine?

Skincare goes much deeper than the products you use daily.

It’s also about ensuring that your skin gets all the nourishing goodness that it needs.

Having a skincare routine is also linked to our mental health. When your skin looks and feels better, you feel better and it helps to boost your self-confidence.

So - why is it so important to look after your skin?

First and foremost prevention is key. If you can eradicate skin problems from the start, it’ll make your life a whole lot easier and be far less costly than trying to fix them later on down the line.

If you haven’t already got a skincare routine, then now is a good time to start.

Every day your skin cells shed. This process helps to keep your skin in good condition and gives your skin that lovely glow.

An effective routine can help prevent acne, treat fine lines and keep your skin looking tip top.

Also, as we age, the rate in which your skin cells rejuvenate is much slower. This heavily impacts on your skin and, as a result, will make your skin look duller and less radiant.

If you can, try and invest in a high quality skincare line. I recommend using Nudge Boutiques Saffron Facial Scrub to remove your dead skin cells (available to purchase from www.nudgeboutique.co.uk).

This will help your body replace them with newer, more youthful looking cells.

What are the benefits when you invest in high quality skincare products?

● Similar to the benefits that healthy food provides for your body, quality skincare ingredients can improve your skin.

● Provide protection from environmental damage, such as pollution.

● Helps fight the signs of ageing, such as fine lines and pigmentation.

● Results for the money. Yes high quality products can be more costly, but they do, however, tend to be worth the money. If you use ineffective products, you’re just wasting your money.

● Quality skincare products have higher standards as they contain fewer impurities and bacteria.

Why is it important to avoid poor quality skincare products?

Poor quality skincare products are more likely to cause negative side effects such as -

● Infections

● Rashes, caused by allergic reactions

● Ineffective results

● Cause breakouts, as a result of clogged pores

Hi, I am Charlie, a former make-up artist originally based in Norwich. I have always been passionate about art and channelling it through creative makeup. I trained at Norwich City College in Fashion and SFX makeup. My work has been published both nationally and internationally.

Want to see more? checkout my Instagram - @ThePoutyLip

Autumn Jewellery Trends!

We’re now entering into the beautiful and colourful season of autumn! Here at Nova Silver, we love the this season and everything it brings. So, to get you into the spirit of autumn, here are some of our favourite jewellery trends that we love at the moment that we think are going to be a great hit over the next few months!

Fall 2023 is all about being bold and a big trend that we have noticed is making a comeback this autumn is stacked rings. Whether its chunky rings stacked with band rings or multiple band rings stacked together, it has become very popular recently! Our silver rings come in a range of different designs which are perfect to mix and match for a simple look or a more statement stacked ring look, including both our silver wishbone ring and silver mountain ring which can both look great stacked together or either on their own!

Speaking of statement jewellery, another trend we have noticed that’s becoming popular is wearing chunky necklaces and pendants. Whether it is a chunky stone pendant by itself or layering it with chains, both of these styles make a perfect accessory to pair with any autumn outfit! We have a wide range of chunky pendants including some beautiful amethyst pendants that have that beautiful bold rich colour.

We have a new birthstone this month! The September birthstone is the stunning blue topaz. Blue topaz is considered one of the most beautiful gemstones on the market today due to its beautiful pale blue colour. There are many different meanings to the blue topaz stone, however what blue topaz mainly stands for is calm and peace, concentration and better communication. With the blue topaz stone having a lot of meaning and with it also being such a beautiful stone, blue topaz jewellery can make a perfect gift for any September birthday, including our lovely matching blue topaz triangle pendant and round dangly earrings.

Whatever you choose to decide to wear this autumn, make sure you do it right and do it with style!

Best Of Norfolk - Through The Lens Of Our Readers

Thanks to the wonderful photographs shared by our followers on Facebook, have a look at these amazing August images of our stunning region.

Charlotte Watlow - Harvest 2023

Charlotte Watlow - Baling

Charlotte Watlow - Wheat

Alex Harvey-Jones - Morston Creek

Alex Harvey-Jones - Seals On Blakeney Point

Charlotte Watlow - Owl In Tree

Laura Baxter - Cromer

Charlotte Watlow - Butterfly

Charlotte Watlow - Harvest

Nadine Gray - Mundesley Beach Sunset

Charlotte Watlow

Charlotte Watlow

To be in with a chance of having your own photographs featured in the future, look out for our regular Facebook posts where you can add your images. Alternatively, send an email with your image and caption to: submissions@icenimagazine.co.uk

Nadine Gray - Stow Mill At Paston

Charlotte Watlow - Harvest

Samantha Louise - Attleborough Sunset

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Focus On: Education

The Pros And Cons Of Home Tuition For Children

In the increasingly pressured world of education, many parents are contemplating additional support outside the traditional classroom setting to supplement their children’s learning experience.

Among the numerous options available, home tuition has become progressively popular for a number of reasons. However, there are also some disadvantages, too.

Advantages of Home Tutoring

Individual Attention: Home tuition provides a one-to-one learning environment. This personalised attention can be beneficial for students who may find

it tough to keep pace with school lessons or to grasp complex concepts in a classroom setting filled with their peers. A home tutor can tailor their teaching style to the specific needs of your child, fostering his/her unique learning style, maximising retention and enhancing the overall learning experience.

Flexibility and Convenience: Home tutoring provides flexible scheduling, meaning the tutor can fit into your family’s routine, rather than the other way around. Your child can learn in their familiar and comfortable environment - their homethereby reducing the time and stress involved in transporting them to another location. However, it is important to bear in mind that some tutors do use their own homes or venues rather than travelling to you.

Enhanced Confidence and Self-Esteem: A home tutor can assist by focusing on specific subject areas, be it Maths, English, Science or another curriculum area, which may be challenging to a child. By overcoming learning hurdles, a child’s confidence in their abilities grows, positively influencing their overall school performance, as well as interpersonal relationships.

Regular Feedback: Home tutors have the advantage of providing continuous feedback about your child’s progress. It gives parents a chance to be actively involved in their child’s education, with the opportunity to address any academic concerns immediately.

Disadvantages of Home Tutoring

Limited Social Interaction: Learning in a community environment establishes a social understanding in children. Classroom learning allows them to interact with peers and teachers personally, fostering social skills and empathy. Home tuition might inadvertently limit a child’s exposure to these necessary social interactions. Of course, if done in addition to standard schooling, it may not be as pronounced.

Cost: Professional home tuition comes at a higher price than traditional group tutoring sessions due to the individualised attention. As such, engaging a home tutor might be a significant financial undertaking for some families. The cost depends on a number of factors, such as experience, location, lesson length and, for some tutors, the stage at which the child is e.g. GCSE or A levels may be more expensive than primary.

Dependency: Regular tutoring could potentially cause children to become overly reliant on their tutors, expecting them to provide answers instead of facilitating learning. This dependence could affect the child’s ability to study independently and solve problems on their own.

Availability of Good Tutors: The quality of a tutor significantly impacts a child’s academic progress. It can be challenging to find a qualified, reliable and compatible home tutor who can connect with your child, understand their needs, and aid effectively in their learning journey. Before embarking on a tuition journey, it is advisable to have a meeting to ensure that you gel well - getting the relationship right is vital. Vicki, from Blossom Education, loves her role as a private tutor. She asserts that building a good relationship with the family and pupils is key to success. “In life, it’s natural that you meet people with whom you simply don’t get along. That’s why I always offer a free halfhour session to chat to the child and parent in order to maximise the chances of the journey going well.”

Over-Scheduling: Juggling school, homework, extracurricular activities and home tutoring could overwhelm children, leaving them with little leisure time. Balance is key in a child’s life, and over-scheduling may cause burnout, stress, and withdrawal.

Overall, tuition can be a hugely beneficial process for your child. However, as discovered, if the student is not on board with having a tutor or the tutor does not seem to provide bespoke learning, this might not be the most effective way of supporting your child’s education.

Education! You’ve Got To Want It For Yourself!

Advice! Isn’t that a loaded word? Something we may dispense quite freely, but how do we feel about receiving it!

Other people may ‘know what’s best’ for us, have ‘been there’ and want to share their horror stories to help us avoid repeating their mistakes, but I’m guessing that whilst you may appreciate the concern and support, you ultimately want to be left alone to make your own decisions in your own time. Not be coerced, nagged or brow-beaten!

No matter how serious or life-changing a decision may be, whether it’s about us pursuing further education, decisions about our health, career development, relationship status, we’ve got to want those changes for ourselves. Doing what other people advise is often secondary to working out our best outcome and resolving the issues in hand, unless those people are our partners or dependants, like children, or are crucial to our financial security, like an employer.

There’s also the question that whilst others may enthusiastically promote a certain course of action, would they really want it for themselves and follow their own advice if they were in our shoes?

Motivation and maintaining a positive focus don’t come from having someone else on ‘our case’, pecking our ears, checking in on us every five minutes or monitoring our behaviour. And for some people being encouraged can even feel like a challenge, something to rebel against, reminiscent of being a child and pushing back against a severe parent or teacher. ‘Why should I, do they think they know what’s best for me?’ may be the simmering response in those scenarios.

Seeing the bigger picture for ourselves is what inspires us on the dull, dark days, on those days when we’d rather stay in bed than get up and go for a run, or would prefer to have a duvet day, watch TV and eat chocolate than return to our online studies or go to a network meeting.

The days when effort seems pointless and futile are when we have to dig deep and find our inner motivation and enthusiasm. It’s in wanting it for ourselves that gets us up and out of bed, pursuing our dreams, staying on track, focussing on the endgame.

That’s why you’ve got to want it for yourself

It’s important to identify what really inspires you to such an extent that you’d do it for free if you had to. Remember the phrase, ‘do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life’. Doing what you love enables you to see beyond hurdles and setbacks, aware only of the task in hand and where your ultimate goal lies. Which is why some people prefer to undertake an internship or to study privately online or become an apprentice instead of enrol for university. It’s the hands on element that appeals.

It’s often a good decision to win those closest to you over to your point of view, so that they’re aware of your rationale, understand your motivation and your big picture for the future. Try to deal with as much dissent and potential sources of tension before you start. Then you can enjoy a clearer focus, able to commit to your important goals and dedicate your attention to what really matters to you.

Introducing stepping-stones can help you get started and organise big tasks into manageable, bite-sized chunks. It can be overwhelming to face a new goal or training course, especially if there’s a new set of skills to learn or you’re working as well as studying. Breaking what needs doing into individual tasks means that it doesn’t completely take over your life. You can still do other things or stop for a break whenever you need.

Good routines are important. Being clear, disciplined and committed to regular daily tasks enables them to be done on automatically, without having to intensively concentrate all the time. It’s tiring when tasks require a great deal of planning, foresight and ongoing focus. You’re more likely to continue with plans that have become an established part of your regular life.

Beware of negative self-talk. Telling yourself that you’re wasting your time, that it won’t work out, or that others won’t approve can hijack your best efforts on the days when you’re already feeling a little shaky or insecure.

Having someone to check in with can be a help, preferably someone neutral like a coach, mentor or professional group, where good, honest feedback keeps you accountable for your progress and offers opportunities to share experiences and discuss problems or areas of concern.

And, yes, be gracious yet cautious about advice coming from people in your inner circle, even when you’re assured that they care and only want what’s best for you. It’s important to say your ‘thank you’s, but then walk away & ‘think about it’. Remember, others don’t have to live with the consequences of your decisions. They’re your responsibility.

Make time to enjoy mini-rewards, like time away, an afternoon spa treatment, a round of golf or a visit to the beach to remind you why you’re doing what you’re doing. This means that

you invest in the other relationships and areas of your life that are important to you too.

Accept that not every day needs to be a roaring success. Some days may be uneventful, even boring, whilst other days may feel like a failure, especially when things haven’t gone to plan or worked out as you hoped or expected. Change your perspective on those days and treat them as opportunities to take time for yourself, to improve your skills or maybe to network and meet new contacts. Then dust yourself off, refocus and start again, still wanting it for yourself!

Article By Susan Leigh

Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net

Cultivating Hearts And Minds: The Importance Of Parents Reading To Their Children

The indelible memories crafted during the early years often tuck away within themselves a recurring scene - that of a parent and child delving into a captivating storybook.

Paramount in the formative years and beyond, reading is an interactive expedition that weaves its influential threads not only through a child’s intellect but also the innate corners of their personality. Here are some thoughts on why it’s crucial for parents to practise the tradition of reading to their children.

Strengthening Cognition

Cognitive development entails a child’s learning and problem-solving skills. Reading, a cognitive

exercise in itself, is an exceptional catalyst in this area. As children listen to stories, they also decode linguistic structures, process information and follow narratives.

This intellectual workout supports the foundations of their comprehension skills, attention span and the ability to visualise what is being read.

An Orchard of Language and Literacy

In the journey towards being literate, children must first acquire language. Parents reading aloud dramatically unleashes a rich vocabulary, proper sentence structure, pronunciation and enunciation. Moreover, as stories rhyme and repeat words, children enhance their phonetic awareness - a stepping stone towards

independent reading. Through books’ vivid lexicon, children sail from simple language to navigating more complex linguistic concepts.

Emotional and Social Development

Books, from those suitable for babies and toddlers to older children, cover a diverse range of subjects, emotions and situations, making them an emotional toolkit. Immersion in different characters’ feelings helps children understand, express, and manage their emotions better, contributing to their emotional intelligence. Simultaneously, as they interact with varied sociocultural perspectives, they foster empathy, compassion, and tolerance, thus sharpening their social skills.

Igniting Creativity

Reading transports children into an array of enchanting universes, invoking their imagination. Parents reading stories to their children encourage them to visualize characters, settings, and plotlines, thereby fostering

their imaginative powers. As their creative minds expand, they broaden their capacity for innovative ideas and out-of-the-box thinking.

Sculpting Values and Wisdom

Literary narratives often carry within them moral lessons which subtly shape children’s value systems. By accompanying their children in these moral explorations, parents can discuss and reiterate these values, impart wisdom, and support their ethical development.

Forging Bonds and Security

Undivided attention is a language of love children understand. The sheer act of spending time reading to children grants them a sense of being loved, cared for, and treasured. This shared journey through narratives and illustrations strengthens emotional bonds, generating comfort, security and confidence in a child’s mind.

Cultivation of a Reading Culture

Children imitate their parents. Seeing their parents enjoying reading can inspire children to emulate this habit. By instilling a love of reading early, parents arm them with a habit that serves as a cornerstone for a successful academic life and critical thinking, creating lifelong learners.

Despite these undeniable benefits, the question arises - how can busy, working parents find the time to take part in this age-old practice? It’s not about having unlimited time, but about making the best of available time.

Even a few dedicated minutes every day, perhaps before bedtime or at mealtimes, can fit the reading exercise into the daily routine. Also, the choice of books should suit the child’s age, interest, and comprehension levels to make reading an enjoyable rather than a taxing exercise.

Education

When you hear the word education, do you see classrooms with desks and chairs grouped together, with relevant posters or work displayed on the walls, or lecture theatres and university libraries?

Do you think of education in terms of formal learning?

As this years ‘A’ level and GCSE students move on to the next stage of their lives that is often the direction they’ll be moving off into, but there are lots of different ways to keep yourself informed and educated.

I left formal education at the age of 17, following a year’s secretarial college. I’d gone to the local comprehensive school (last year to take the 11+) and taken both CSEs (lower academic achievement exams) and ‘O’ levels (the forerunner of GCSEs). I did relatively well

but university was where the academically elite went and wasn’t on my radar at all.

As I joined the world of work, I found that after the first couple of jobs, most employers weren’t interested in your educational qualifications, but your practical skills and ability to carry out the specific duties and roles were far more important. Over the years, I adapted from using a manual typewriter to being able to operating my laptop, though some functions I’m better at than others! I’ve always found learning skills relevant to my situation far easier to take on board than remote theories or information, taught in a more formal setting.

So, at the grand age of 59, I find myself constantly learning about the world of sustainability and how to live in a more ecoconscious way. I carry out independent research through online and books/magazines, but also have a vast amount of training resources available to me through my work with Tropic.

I’ve learnt practical skills such as how to give facials, digital media, the importance of wellbeing, about skin structure, improved my presentation and display skills. The transparency that is applied within the business is fascinating, as it’s meant that if I can’t find that same level within another company/ product within any industry, I’m immediately wary of its claims and so the research begins.

What I do find frustrating is the glib way eco and sustainability terms are tagged onto anything packaged in cardboard with a leaf printed on it.

Even more annoying are the masses who don’t look any further into it and buy it! It seems more than a little ironic that in an age where we have such a vast assortment of knowledge and information available at our fingertips, many don’t even bother.

Without meaning to sound ancient (but I will anyway), as a child if I wanted to find out about ‘stuff’ I’d have to look it up in the set of encyclopaedias that would sit on the family bookshelf or in the school library. I can now put a question into an internet search engine and it would through up all manner of options, but I need to be able to filter and look for context and bias.

Education is an ongoing process that doesn’t need to be restricted to qualifications and formal settings.

Keep being curious about what is going on around you, get involved, try things, visit different places and cultures, and you’ll find that your education need never end.

Article By Jill Roberson @jillecoqueenliving on Facebook and Instagram

Should Mobile Phones Be Banned In Schools?

Mobile phones are an integral part of everyday life.

However, many schools do enforce bans on them, especially during lesson times.

Here, we analyse the pros and cons of allowing this form of technology in schools.

PROS:

Emergency Situations: Having access to a mobile phone ensures that students are able to much more easily contact their parents or carers should an urgent situation arise. A growing number of children own a mobile phone, most being smartphones, highlighting their potential as a safety tool. Apps, such as ‘whatfourwords’, are utilised in emergencies, so being able to use them could be extremely beneficial.

Access to Information: Mobile phones offer students access to a wealth of information, promoting independent learning. Many teachers believe that mobile phones can enhance educational experiences by enabling quick access to educational apps, research materials and online resources. Additionally, displays in schools, such as for careers information, contain QR codes so students can find the information at their fingertips with a simple scan. Not having a mobile phone would limit access significantly.

Digital Literacy: Integrating mobile phones into the learning environment can help students develop digital literacy skills. Incorporating mobile phones into lessons can enhance digital competence and prepare students for the digital world.

CONS:

Distraction: Mobile phones can be a significant source of distraction, diverting students’ attention from learning. The temptation to check notifications on social media, emails and other apps could prevent full focus from young people, leading to less success in their education.

Cyberbullying and Misuse: Mobile phones can facilitate cyberbullying and misuse among students. Unfortunately, many teenagers in the UK have experienced cyberbullying. Without proper regulations and monitoring, mobile phones can contribute to an increase in incidents of harassment and inappropriate behaviour. Likewise, school staff may find themselves on the receiving end of videos and photos taken of them in class being used for unsavoury purposes.

Inequality and Disruption: Mobile phones can exacerbate existing inequalities among students. It remains the case that children from lower-income households are less likely to own a

mobile phone or certainly not one that is as up to date as their peers’ devices. This disparity can lead to social exclusion and disrupt classroom dynamics if some students have access to mobile phones while others do not.

In this article, we have only just scratched the surface when it comes to mobile technology in educational establishments. The debate surrounding the presence of mobile phones in schools is complex, with many valid arguments on both sides.

Individual schools make their own rules based on a number of factors, and we should accept that that there is no one definitive answer when it comes to the question of whether mobile phones ought to be allowed in school.

Carry on reading to find out Our Picks Of What’s On this month.

Out Of This World Guests

Announced For NOR-CONNorfolk’s TV, Film And Comic Con

NOR-CON, Norfolk’s very own TV, film and comic con, returns to the Norfolk Showground on Saturday 23rd and Sunday 24th September 2023.

Tickets are on sale for Norfolk’s longest running comic con. Now in its 12th year, NOR-CON has previously been voted among the UK’s top 10 Comic Cons by arts and entertainment guide The List.

Throughout the weekend, comic, film and TV fans will be able to enjoy a fantastic mix of exhibits, celebrity appearances, stage talks and demonstrations, photo opportunities and a multitude of traders selling memorabilia and merchandise from every corner of the galaxy.

Among the line-up of celebrity guests announced for 2023 are Peter Davison - the fifth Doctor from Doctor Who, Chris Rankin - best known as Percy Weasley from Harry Potter, and Doug Naylor - co-creator of sci-fi cult classic Red Dwarf. All stars will be available for autographs and photos, as well as taking part in stage talks to chat about their careers and answer fans’ questions. More names are still to be confirmed for the 2023 line-up.

Also back by popular demand at NOR-CON this year will be Jedi training including lightsabre skills workshops for padawans of all ages. A host of amazing exhibits will be on show too, including a life-size Johnny 5 (Short Circuit), the UK’s only 1:1 replica of a Star Wars Imperial Probe Droid, plus photo opportunities with some of TV and film’s famous and best loved vehicles including a selection of military vehicles - perfect for a Captain America photo opportunity.

- Tickets now on sale with celebrity guest stars from Dr Who and Harry Potter -

Real life comic book artists appearing at NORCON this year to sketch and offer prints and commissions are Lee Bradley, whose work includes Spider-man and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Peter Clinton - the penciller on Silverline Comic’s newest title, Silverline Team Up, and a regular Sketch Card Artist for Upper Deck and Marvel, plus local artist Jay Manchand, who has worked on the Topps Star Wars cards.

Event organiser Mark Dean said, “We can’t wait for this year’s NOR-CON! As Norfolk’s longest established comic con, we pride ourselves on creating an event, which not only features brilliant guests from the world of TV and film, top quality exhibits and fantastic free workshops, but is also fun and friendly for all to enjoy.

We are always amazed by the incredible cosplay each year, and we’re looking forward to seeing which characters will walk through the door this year and win prizes in our cosplay competitions.

NOR-CON promises a fully immersive nerdfest - no matter what you’re into, there’s something for you. Come along and get your geek on!”

Cosplay is a big part of NOR-CON for many visitors, with competitions throughout the weekend for the amazing costumes made and worn by all ages.

(Cosplay is not compulsory for attendees!). Fantastic prizes are up for grabs for this year’s adult cosplay competition including a first prize of over £1,000 worth of cosplay building related items.

NOR-CON is a ticket only event. Visitors are encouraged to buy their tickets online in advance as numbers are limited to ensure the event is not overcrowded.

For more information or to buy tickets visit www.nor-con.co.uk.

For 2023, tickets remain at the same prices as 2022.

The event is run by NOR-CON Events Limited and sponsors include Dremel, Hasbro, Tyges Craft & Foam Supplies and UK IT Group.

Still Plenty Of Colour In September

September is upon us already but there is still plenty of colour in the garden.

The two gardens opening for the National Garden Scheme this month are a joy and not to be missed. At High House, Shipdham you will find a delightful plantsman’s garden, with traditional shrub borders, perennials and vegetable garden. There is an exciting mix of exotic and tropical at Waldemar Avenue where garden owner Sonja feels that “To make a garden is to believe in tomorrow”. Both gardens will also have inexpensive plants for sale.

SUNDAY 3RD SEPTEMBER

33 WALDEMAR AVENUE, HELLESDON, NORWICH, NR6 6TB

10-5 adm £5 chd free. Home-made teas. A surprising and large suburban garden with different areas which include a mix of exotic and tropical plants combined with unusual perennials. There is a quirky palm-thatched Tiki hut, a treehouse draped in plants and a wildlife pond with rare plants.

SUNDAY 10TH SEPTEMBER

HIGH HOUSE GARDENS, BLACKMOOR ROW, SHIPDHAM IP25 7PU

12-5 adm £5 chd free. Home-made teas. Opening for twenty years for the National Garden Scheme. A Well-developed plantsman’ s garden in 3 acres with colour themed herbaceous borders, an extensive range of perennials & shrubs. box edged rose and shrub borders, large vegetable garden.

Visitors are advised to check the website: ngs.org.uk for UpToDate information.

About National Garden Scheme

The National Garden Scheme gives visitors unique access to over 3,500 exceptional private gardens in England, Wales, Northern Ireland and the Channel Islands, and raises impressive amounts of money for some of the UK’s bestloved nursing and health charities through admissions, teas and cake.

33 Waldemar Avenue

High House Gardens

ICENI ANAGRAMS

Here are five Dereham-related

along with some clues.

A combination of oinks and the past for the poor

A MIDDLEMEN WHIRL

Very few remain - this was built in 1835

A CHUBBINESS MONGOOSE TRUMPET

Great examples of timber frames, thatch and pargeting found here

AIR RADAR OR PORKS URN

A taste of the prehistoric WASHTUB GREW STILL

An important pilgrim shrine in Saxon times