Iceni Magazine Norfolk Issue 81

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ISSUE 81

Focus On: Aspirations

Q&A With...

Carol Robinson

Hopes For Society In 2020 And Beyond

Old Buckenham Players Present Camelot - The Panto

Make 2020 Your Best Year Yet And Get Fit

Welcome To Iceni Magazine, Happy New Year!

Happy New Decade!

“JANUARY, The first month of the year, A perfect time to start all over again, Changing energies and deserting old moods, New beginnings, new attitudes” - Charmaine J Forde Welcome to Issue 81 of Iceni Magazine. We hope you have all made lots of wonderful memories over the festive period and spent quality time with family and friends.

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This issue’s focus on is: Aspirations. Pages 38 & 39 see Missy Hitchcox share her thoughts about the future relating to the home education of her two children. Vicki from Blossom Words reflects on recent political events to give her hopes for society.

Elsewhere, catch up with motoring guru, Tim Barnes-Clay, as he reviews the Toyota Corolla Saloon on pages 16 & 17. Check out the very best of Norfolk through our readers’ photographs on pages 18 – 21. We were overwhelmed by the striking beauty of so many of the images shared with us and we are certain you will love the new feature too.

Until February, please take time to enjoy everything good in the world and start 2020 as you mean to go on.

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CONTRIBUTORS Dan Fallon, Gemma Sandwell, Keri Beevis, Niki Marie Etheridge, Mark King, Missy Hitchcox, Paul Hicks, Patrick Arundell, Serena Fordham, Susan Leigh, Tim Barnes-Clay, Vicki.

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ICENI TALKS TO...

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The Benjamin Foundation Monthly Update Iceni News Record Donation Iceni News 2020 Programme Of Courses Iceni Columnist Mark King Iceni Columnist Keri Beevis Start Your...

New Year Well Motoring Review Toyota Corolla Saloon Best Of Norfolk Readers Images Nova Silver January

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Aspirations You Need To Be Inspired To Empower And Aspire Make 2020 Your..

Best Year Yet And Get Fit Believe In Yourself I Don’t Know About You...

Q&A With...

Carol Robinson Strengths For Success A Different Way Of Thinking Using Photography To...

Combat Anxiety And Depression Hopes For A...

Strong Relationship Sisters In Business: From Feather Dusters To...

MAKE 2020

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Our Journey Home Ed Mums Hopes For Society In 2020 And Beyond Iceni Talks To...

Ben Foster AKA Jim Perkins Fabulous Fundraisers Tia’s Treasures Iceni Asks...

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Across Norfolk This Month What's On...

Dial M For Murder What's On...

Camelot - The Panto Iceni Horoscopes What Do Your Stars Hold?

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The Benjamin Foundation The Benjamin Foundation helps people across Norfolk and Suffolk to deal with some of the challenges that life throws at them and our work brings hope, opportunity, stability and independence to the people we support.

Preventing Youth Homelessness We want to end youth homelessness and we’re tackling the problem locally by providing a home and support to over 100 vulnerable young adults every night.

We give the young people a stable home and provide them with the skills they need, so they can leave us and forge an independent life.

The young people who live in our accommodation centres are currently enjoying a new way of working with our Job Coach, Sharon, following the development of The Employability Course to support them on their road to independence.

This series of workshops is designed to fully equip a young person with the skills to complete an application form, write a CV and personal statement, and also gain some experience of interviews etc. In addition to this, the young people cook their own lunch and share this as a group. After lunch, the young people take part in further workshops designed to help with their independence and living skills.

These workshops cover drugs and alcohol, mental health, anger awareness, emotional well-being and budgeting, and so far, the results and response has been really positive.

One young person said: “I have enjoyed getting qualifications, while having fun learning and meeting a new people.”

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Town Tots: Childcare in North Walsham We provide childcare to children in a safe, supportive environment which gives their parents peace of mind.

Rated ‘Good’ by Ofsted in September 2018, Town Tots is our pre-school in North Walsham. We cover all areas of the Early Years Foundation Stage with activities planned around the interests of the children.

We accept children with 2 and 3 year funding and 30 hour funding and we have spaces available at Town Tots from January onwards, so if you’re looking for childcare, please contact us for more information about Town Tots on 01692 407012 or email Teresa.moate@benjaminfoundation.co.uk

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Caterpillar Networking - Supporting Each Other To Grow And Flourish. Wednesday 5th February 2020

Enjoy the first Caterpillar Networking event of 2020!

This quarterly networking event is organised by our charity. Nurture your business by connecting with others, strengthen relationships and share ideas to support each other to grow and flourish.

This time, we’ll be holding the event at popular Norwich pub, The Eagle. The ticket price includes light food and a drink.

The event will include lots of time to network and mingle with other attendees and will include a short talk by Sharon Matthews, The Benjamin Foundation’s Director of Operations for Children, Young People and Families. £12.50pp. Book here: https://benjaminfoundation.co.uk/event/caterpillar-networking-feb-20/

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ICENI - NEWS

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Barnham Broom’s Graham Knights Achieves Record Donation To MacMillan Cancer Support

Left to right: Ellie Brown, Matthew Gardner, Del Sullivan, Graham Knights, Sema Hussein.

The 21st Macmillan Charity Golf Day was held at Barnham Broom Golf Club in October 2019, where over 100 golfers turned out to support the charity.

The event was made possible through the support of Barnham Broom, local companies and individuals alike.

After golf on the 18-hole Valley Course, a dinner was held along with an auction and raffle together with a variety of donated rounds of golf from many Clubs which were sold by silent auction.

Organiser Graham Knights, who is an Ambassador for Macmillan in Norfolk, commented that the amount raised between this event and other fundraising for Macmillan throughout 2019 now equals a grand total of £17,640 - a truly impressive amount made possible by Mr Knights’ hard work and the support of Barnham Broom Golf Club.

The money will be used to support cancer patients in Norfolk.

Graham with Sema Hussein - Fundraising Manager for Norwich & North Norfolk and the golf team.

Mr Knights also praised Barnham Broom saying that the event would not be possible without the support of hotel, events and golf staff.

Barnham Broom is a resort near Norwich, Norfolk. Overlooking 300 acres of beautiful countryside and the River Yare Valley, the venue features a luxury four-star hotel, spa, leisure centre, two golf courses, award-winning Brasserie restaurant, Sports Bar and conference room. It is a popular choice for weddings and events. Visit: www.barnham-broom.co.uk to find out more.

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2020 Programme Of Courses For All Ages Unveiled

Norwich Theatre Royal Learning And Participation If your New Year’s resolution is to find a new interest and explore the world of theatre, a new season of courses can help.

Whether you have ambitions of performing on stage or want to learn backstage skills to bring a performance to life, there are a host of courses happening in the heart of Norwich inside the walls of a professional theatre.

And while some of the courses are aimed at young people, there are opportunities for adults too at the Theatre Royal’s Stage Two building.

From January, a Young Technicians course will get underway. Aimed at 18 to 25 year-

olds, it will offer backstage training in the likes of stage management, lighting, sound design and operation, and set construction.

Working with industry professionals and the technical team at Norwich Theatre Royal, there will be the chance to find out about different backstage careers while also learning theatre techniques and how to use different types of equipment.

Once the course is completed, students may be offered the chance to work on future productions at Stage Two. The theatre has also joined forces with Trinity College London to offer courses leading to nationally-recognised performance qualifications.

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Students, who are aged 13 to 17, will work on various plays and do detailed work on characterisation and acting before being formally assessed at the end of the course.

While some of the courses are aimed at young people,

And there are courses for adults too. Stage Two has assembled a team of professional writers, performers and organisations to offer a Writing For Performance course which also launches in January.

It will explore a range of different styles and also encourage those taking part to plan, write and edit original works in a range of different genres for stage, screen, comedy and radio.

It will mix classroom sessions with discussions, group work and some individual work plus the opportunity to see finished work brought to life by performers.

For those over 18 who prefer to get experience of performing on stage, an adult course offering an Introduction To Acting is also happening.

The weekly two-hour sessions will use improvisation and role play to learn techniques around performance while also building communication skills and confidence.

Andy Adam, the theatre’s training and skills officer, said: “This course is aimed at beginners and run by a team of dedicated drama practitioners including experienced actors and directors.”

Once the course is completed, students may be offered the chance to work on future productions at Stage Two

there are opportunities for adults too at the Theatre’s Royal’s Stage Two building And for those who can’t commit to a regular weekly class, there are also a series of adult one evening taster sessions happening in 2020 focusing on different areas. The first one on January 27 will look at building a character, with a second one on March 30 giving an insight into backstage roles. As well as providing learning in a bite-size chunk, they are also aimed at people who want to discover or improve a theatre skill.

These sessions will run alongside the many existing courses and learning opportunities already running in Stage Two which also include some introductory acting courses for seven-year-olds and Airborne which is aimed at 16 to 21 year-olds who are interested in physical theatre and dance which also explores the use of music, digital art and spoken word in performance.

Andy said: “We are really excited about our 2020 programme of courses. We have been able to assemble a number of highly experienced practitioners to offer a wide range of different opportunities and experiences.

“Many of these are also tasters or aimed at beginners so you do not need to have huge amounts of previous experience. Enthusiasm and commitment are all that we are looking for.”

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The Diary of a Norfolk Family

By Mark King A new day, a new year.

The first couple of days into January, the media is full of what happened in the previous year and generally, it’s all negativity.

Above: Mark King

One disaster after another, either man-made or natural.

I now try to go media dry for the first couple of days of January until it’s all over.

A bit like Stop October for smokers, or Dry January for drinkers, I try to stop listening or watching the news, be it on the television, radio or through online social media like Facebook or Twitter, but, unlike the month long commitment, I’ve only got to try and hold out for two days.

It’s not until you go media-free, (or should I say phone free?) that you realise how additive social media has become for the population in general.

When we go on holiday abroad, we always leave our phones at home, although after weeks of

general nagging, we gave in to our daughter constant moaning that her holiday would be ruined without her iPhone. When I’m abroad, I don’t really miss my phone, but back home, I seem to be just as addicted to it as everyone else. Any other type of media, you can ignore.

If the news comes on the television or radio bleating on about all the negative things that have happened in 2019, you can just turn over the channel, but the modern phone has a seductive power that can leave you with withdraw symptoms just as nail-biting as giving up tobacco or alcohol. For the younger generations, it can be even worse.

Of course, if you follow my Daniel Jones Facebook fan page or my Twitter account @author-king and a posting pops up from myself in the first two days of January then you will know that I have failed miserably to ignore my phone in its frenzy as it sits on the kitchen sideboard calling to me like a mermaid calling an unlucky sailor to his doom on the jagged rocks. www.always-hanging-around.blogspot.com Follow on twitter: @author_king

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What Happened To 2019?

Okay, so I can’t be the only one wondering where the heck 2019 went.

It feels like about six weeks ago I was watching the fireworks and drunkenly dancing to Auld Lang Syne… cough, okay, I mean tucked up in bed watching Above: Keri Beevis Netflix and cursing the fireworks that were going off down the road because they were upsetting Ellie and Lola. And then of course I was posting to tell you all about my disastrous attempt to catch a bus.

How can we already be another twelve months down the line?

As many of us do at the start of a new year, I have been reflecting over the past one, and mine certainly had its highs and lows.

each other. When we’re not pranking each other, our colleagues fall victim, and when I tell you that the pair of us ended up sat in a disciplinary a few weeks back over a fake poo prank, I am not kidding.

Will 2020 see us grow up? It’s unlikely.

And the other notable thing about 2019 is Mama Beev, who appears to be shrinking (she has definitely lost a couple of inches), though claims that her feet are growing.

I went into 2019 expecting to release a new book, but I never dreamt that just four months in I would be signing with a new and much bigger publisher and that the book in question would go on to be a huge bestseller. For 2020 I hope to emulate that success as Bloodhound Books reprints my first three novels, the first of which will be released in January. I hope to also release another brand-new Norfolk based book.

When I recently questioned the logic in this, she studied her feet carefully before announcing that she thinks they are spreading out and getting wider.

The low came midway through when my dear cousin took his own life. He was just one year older than me and we had been so close growing up, but in recent years he had battled a number of demons and eventually he succumbed to them. He is very much in my thoughts as we enter a new year.

What’s funny, dear readers, is that my mother is turning into a hobbit.

There were also changes in the day job, as one of my best friends, Ness, changed departments and we now work alongside one another. Pity the other folk in our office. As I have posted before, Ness and I are a pair of practical jokers, and we bring out the worst in

‘So you’re shrinking, but you’re getting bigger wider feet?’ I giggled away to myself.

‘What’s funny about that?’ she asked.

Wishing you all a healthy and happy start to the New Year. I will keep you updated if there is a Norfolk version of Lord of the Rings happening any time soon.

My new Norfolk based thriller, Dying to Tell is now available to buy in paperback and Kindle. Follow me on Facebook or Twitter for more information.

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START YOUR NEW YEAR

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Start Your New Year Well There are certain times in life when it's good to pause and assess what we've achieved so far, how that measures up to our original goals and where we would like our next steps to take us.

relationship with your other half. Schedule regular 'us time', even if you're unable to go out properly on a 'date'. Meeting regularly for coffee or a walk could provide a welcome interlude for catching up.

Birthdays, especially decade birthdays, can be a useful evaluation point, but new year can also be a valuable time to check in and take stock of our aims, successes and the things that didn't work out as planned.

Identify the areas you feel have become a little stale or neglected and start to invest in them.

Consider how you communicate and focus on listening to each other. Freshen things up by demonstrating a real interest in each others' lives.

A period of reflection can inspire us to start our new year well. ● Ask what happened to your previous year's intentions and resolutions. If we were half-hearted or unrealistic in our goal-setting, they can quickly fall by the wayside. Similarly, relying on someone else to inspire us to lose weight, stop smoking or exercise can be good when everyone's feeling upbeat and motivated, but is much harder to sustain when the weather's cold or one person is starting to waver or lose interest.

● It's good to have things to look forward to, especially over the winter months. A meal with friends, where everyone contributes a dish and makes the effort to dress up can be an inexpensive way to socialise with friends and start your new year well. Book clubs and games nights can come into their own and provide a welcome evenings' entertainment.

Maybe mark your calendar with trips, courses and social events that are of interest. It keeps you fresh and alert to what's happening in your neighbourhood.

● Relationships can struggle in the new year, with January being the busiest month for divorce lawyers. It's important to start your new year well by committing to improve your

● Invest in yourself too. Time passes all too quickly and before long, we're looking at yet another new year. Take some serious time to clarify how you feel about your life. Which

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things are non-negotiable at the moment, which things could you manage better and then make space for some me time, with a little money and energy left for yourself. ● Set goals that mean something to you, that spark your passion. Simply thinking 'I must/ I ought/ I should' is rarely enough to sustain us on dark winter nights or when there's a more demanding option. Even if it's registering for an online course, reading regularly, following a fitness programme or committing to working on a hobby or small business from home, be serious about how much it means to you and firm about diarying that daily/weekly/monthly hour or two. ● Identify stepping-stones towards your goal, rather than it being your sole aim. Then you can celebrate each stage and give yourself credit for the various mini-targets achieved.

Each completed task, form filled out, intention noted, person you've told can all be markers of your commitment along the way. ● Enjoy the detours, rather than fixating on the ultimate result. If you're setting up a small business and, for example, get invited to attend a training course or deliver a talk about your experiences, why not jump at the chance to extend yourself, spread your message and move out of your comfort zone? Be receptive to valuable experiences. ● Life is often about the journey rather than the ultimate goal and the process of getting from A to B is frequently the most scenic,

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memorable part of the trip. So take as long as it takes and enjoy the ride. ● Value the failures. If you slip up, face rejection or feel somewhat out of your depth, rather than giving up, you could instead use it as an opportunity to learn a new skill, try a different approach or maybe even change direction a little. New ideas and great, unexpected successes can come from being receptive to openings that present themselves along the way. Different ways of thinking can introduce you to interesting relationships that offer exciting ways to start your new year well. ● Be accountable, whether it be to a business coach, tutor or even another colleague. Having someone to check in with can ensure than you commit to your interim goals, knowing that you'll have to explain your progress or lack thereof. As a bonus, you may receive useful guidance, a well-timed nudge that gets you back on track or simple encouragement and belief in your abilities at a time when you're plagued with self-doubt. Don't underestimate the importance of a person to whom you're accountable.

Starting the new year well can mean branching out into different areas. Personal development may mean you invest in a new look or approach to life. Professionally, you could bring new skills or alliances into the picture. Relationship wise, why not commit to listening well and refreshing your social life by introducing new friends and interests? Enjoy a great start to your new year, one that suits you well and then you'll feel positive about committing to it.

Article By Susan Leigh Susan Leigh, Altrincham Counsellor and Hypnotherapist, has published her third book, 101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday (ISBN 9781910275160) based on her social media series. A glossy, pocket-sized book, it's full of inspirational quotes & pictures, a treat to give or simply keep for yourself.

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MOTORING REVIEW

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Toyota Corolla Saloon Review

By Tim Barnes-Clay, Motoring Journalist.

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Then sport utility vehicles (SUVs) came along and stamped all over them.

Anyway, the Corolla saloon is a good-looking car, with space for five-up and a boot that’s surprisingly large. At 471-litres, it’ll swallow a load of shopping bags as well as a child’s buggy.

And if you’re away from the kids, you’ll be able to slide a set of golf clubs in there.

These SUVs are often anything but sporty, yet their high-riding position and bolder styling are making them mega-popular. There's also the perception that they're safer because they're chunkier. And guess what? Some people are buying them just because everyone else is.

But that's fashion for you, right?

The Toyota has space for three kids across the rear bench. It's not the biggest car, but the ride is comfortable with minimal body roll when cornering. The electric CVT automatic 'box makes an irritating "whirring" sound, but other than that, the vehicle suppresses road and wind noise well.

Whatever the case, it’s uplifting to see a new saloon back in the mix - especially one that isn’t a “premium” badged German car. BMWs, Mercs and some VWs have stayed the course for whatever reason.

Frankly, it’s just good to see the name Corolla come back. After all, the name vanished in 2006 and was superseded by the Auris. But the model was ushered back into British dealers earlier this year. It’s probably because the moniker

Saloon cars have gone out of fashion.

Think about it - back in the day, it was all about boots, hatchbacks and estates.

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'The Toyota has space for three kids across the rear bench'

represents reliability - and now the term “environmentally-friendly” will undoubtedly be added to the public consciousness. This is because the car is being made with electrified powertrains, including the 1.8-litre unit, driven for this review.

The maximum power in this version is 120ps enough to get the hybrid saloon from 0-62mph in 11 seconds. Okay, it’s not that quick, but efficiency is what the Corolla is about these days. My test car could get up to 62mpg, and its CO2 figure is low at 83g/km.

The re-embodied Corolla comes not just in saloon form, but also in hatchback and estate guises. All hold the maximum five-star Euro NCAP safety rating. Sure, the saloon may not

be quite as practical as its siblings, but it's the best-looking, in my opinion. So, it's a no-brainer if you're after your next booted family car. Oh, and it's not an SUV - yay! You might start a new trend. That would be refreshing, wouldn't it?

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BEST OF NORFOLK Issue 81 2020

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Best Of Norfolk - Through The Lens Of Our Readers With a huge influx of photographers from our followers on Facebook, we are introducing a new monthly feature. Here are your photographs showcasing the very best of Norfolk from the past month. Take a look at these marvellous December images.

Gary Pearson - high tide at Thornham

Brad Damms - Blickling Hall

Richard Goldsmith - Norwich Timber Hill

Angela Morgan - sun rise in Great Ellingham

Laura Rayner - Norwich tunnel of lights

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Gina Upex - wind farm blues at Great Yarmouth Gary Pearson - sunrise piercing through the early morning mist on the Sandringham estate

Horrie Harvey - Garboldisham Rebecca Woods - Rollesby Heath sunset

JP Appleton - Cromer Pier in the flow on a December morning PAGE

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Ray Sturman - Great Ellingham

Bill Pound - Blickling Christmas staircase

Gina Upex - sunset boats at Potter Heigham Lisa Daniels - Royal Arcade Norwich

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BEST OF NORFOLK Issue 81 2020 Laura Rayner - the post office at Guist

Paul Hicks - Brancaster Staithe

Fiona Ellis - Jarrolds Norwich

Nadine Gray - Mundesley beach just after the lovely sunrise

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NOVA SILVER

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January At Nova Silver We’d like to take this opportunity to wish you all a Happy New Year!

As we look towards a new year, we’re looking ahead to trends that we think will flourish in the coming year.

This season, we’ve seen a huge upswing in amber. It makes for gorgeous jewellery and we’re proud to have one of the biggest selections around. Our prediction for the coming year is the continuing trend for smaller, dainty pieces that can be worn alone or layered. We’ve always loved the chunky amber pieces, and we think our smaller pieces give amber a more modern and fashion led look.

Amber often has a reputation for being better suited to a slightly older lady, but over the past few years its image has changed massively. We now find we sell it lots to our younger customers who love its natural beauty. As it’s totally crafted by Mother Nature, you’ll never get two pieces the same which only adds to its attraction.

Amber is not actually a stone, but is actually tree resin from ancient forests that had been buried and become fossilised over millions of years. Our amber is all Baltic, and came from forests that would have spanned the whole Baltic region. It is thought that this area created over 100,000 tons of amber. We always a have a selection of sizes, shapes and colours and are proud to supply other shops around the country with amber. This means our little shop in Norwich has a great range in at all times, with customers often travelling to see us to find the perfect piece, or returning year after year to see what’s new.

We’re also offering lots of pieces of amber in our sale so make sure to pop in store or check out our website to get the best of the sale prices. It’s a great way to try out a new style for a great price!

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You Need To Be Inspired To Empower And Aspire “Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” - Louisa May Alcott I know an amazing woman - who, when she graduated from University and was asked about her aspirations, and being young and exuberant - said she wanted to be a conflict resolution advocate, a wife and a mother.

She now has the main purpose of wanting to provide for her children’s future and be there for them, which she feels is somewhat not very aspirational, and far from her previous ambitious plans.

Now, I’m not sure how she thought she would accomplish all of this, but she was full of hope.

However, she points out that sometimes dreaming about what you want to be, is actually more exciting than being it!

She saw herself going around the world solving its problems, making it a better place.

Fast-forward quite a few years later, and she has achieved some of her aspirations, however not as she had hoped - not because she didn’t have the ability to achieve them all - but because her aspirations have changed as she developed and evolved through her life.

We all aspire. We all have hopes and dreams of how our lives will be.

For some, this comes from the programmes we watch on TV, the books we read, the magazine articles based on the lives of the rich and famous, our social environment, and the hopes of our parents.

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I know a young man in his late twenties whose aspiration is to be someone who bridges the gap between the creative arts and the tech field; like a new school Steve Jobs, Bill Gates and Elon Musk all rolled up into one.

change, it is usually evident that aspirations change more towards providing for others, being a role model for the people they are responsible for in life, and creating experiences and memories to treasure.

He also wants to produce an animated series using his life experience for self-development, to empower others and encourage positive thinking. Furthermore, he would like to travel the world, learn about different cultures, and gain a different experiences in the hope of being of better service to the universe.

The simplest aspirations I have come across was someone who said they wanted to be a musician, write stories that people can relate to, and live a long and happy life with people who love, accept and appreciate them.

When speaking with him, I was really impressed - so much so that I didn’t have the heart to ask him how he would achieve this and in what timeframe! His passion for his purpose was so overwhelmingly inspiring.

Most importantly, they want whatever they do to make the world (and all the people in it) a better place.

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” - Works of Anatole France

“The young have aspirations that never come to pass, the old have reminiscences of what never happened.” - Reginald Saki Most young people I speak to aspire to get really good jobs, own their first home before they are thirty, or to travel the world before settling down. But almost always are aspirations of social status, luxury lifestyles or materialistic fantasies.

As with the woman I mentioned earlier, as the young mature and their life circumstances

So, with 2020 being the start of a new year, and new decade, now is as good a time as any to think about your dreams… ... What are your aspirations and how will you make sure you achieve them? ... Just remember, to achieve your aspirations, you need to go one step beyond dreaming them - you need to make a solid plan and action it in order to achieve them!

Article by Serena Fordham, Founder and MD of HER Business Revolution, Glow Virtual Assistants and Mums Empowerment Movement CIC. www.herbusinessrevolution.biz www.glowva.co.uk www.mumsempowermentmovement.co.uk

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YOUR BEST YEAR YET

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Make 2020 Your Best Year Yet And Get Fit Millions of men across Start with One Thing the UK will identify with If you think you are going to get straight into the gym routine you did starting to put weight on and when you were 25 years old and not getting out of shape after suffer the consequences, think again. becoming a father and it is often put down to a natural part of Start with something as simple as walking. ageing or a declining metabolism.

However, the reality is at this stage of life many men simply become less active and the pressures of family life mean a Dad’s own personal fitness becomes less of a priority.

If you are a dad like me who has lost the reigns a bit, or you’ve let the waistline grow without even realising it, here are my top tips to start 2020 right and get back on track:

Power walking can burn up to 350 calories per 30 minutes if you are going at a good pace (13-14 minute miles).

Do this for 10 days and that is 1lb of body fat gone. As you build momentum then you can start adding extras.

Keeping it basic and mastering the fundamentals is critical for long-term engagement in fitness.

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Win the morning

Power walking can burn up to 350 calories per 30 minutes if you are going at a good pace

Most parents are time poor. They feel guilty if they sacrifice any time with the family for anything other than work. That’s why mornings are the best time of the day.

Most people go to bed around 10pm and wake up at 6.30am. That’s 8.5 hours of sleep.

Considering evidence suggests that we can survive very well on 7 or 7.5, sacrificing an hour in the morning to burn some calories is a good trade off.

My tip is to put your alarm on the other side of the room. As soon as it goes off, go straight to the bathroom and brush your teeth. This stops your brain negotiating.

Keep on your feet

Most people think that fat loss is won by doing 45 minutes in the gym.

The reality is that although this has huge benefits to your health, it’s not wholly necessary. You just need to keep moving - it burns energy and energy is calories. This is called non-exercise activity thermogenesis. Get geeky and track your steps.

Once you have started to walk regularly and consistently, you are likely to notice that your mood has elevated. When we are in a better state of mind, we tend to make better choices in what we eat.

Get support from friends, family and online communities

Accountability is really powerful when you are trying to lose weight and get fit. Get your friends and family involved so they can support you, when the going gets tough you will need them. Look for online groups to join where you can compare notes and get advice and support.

Not wanting to let people down is a powerful tool for staying on track and it can be the most important ingredient for a successful long-term fitness journey.

Do epic stuff

After Dads have been encouraged to start with one thing, they often get the wind in their sails. They start believing in the super versions of themselves. Many go on to challenge themselves further by doing epic stuff and dedicating their blood, sweat and tears to a bigger purpose.

They start doing their bit for charities and raise awareness for research projects that can help fight critical illnesses. This is super motivating and can ignite the drive to train harder.

If you want to go from being a fat dad to a fit dad, just start with one thing. You can be a fantastic role model in your household in 2020 and really inspire your kids to value their health and fitness too.

Dan Fallon is author of Start with ONE THING: The Dad’s no BS approach to fat loss and fitness (Rethink Press, £12.99) and founder of the Super You Project, the Dad’s online fitness community www.facebook.com/superyouproject.

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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

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Believe In Yourself

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I don’t know about you, but I still have the Christmas Spirit sitting warm inside my heart like a shot of vodka!

If I see a shooting star, I’d like to think its Mr C and his reindeer bringing joy to the world.

That’s how I see life; I see the good and it always trumps the bad.

So many of us are sad, bitter, angry and stressed.

Even at Christmas, so many turn to negativity and don’t have room to believe.

Who remembers 34th Street?

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There is a beautiful scene, which takes place in the court room, when Susan hands a dollar bill to the judge with the words ‘In God we trust’ highlighted for his attention. The next speech could not be more relevant today;

“…we’re not here to prove that God exists, but we are here to prove that a being just as invisible and yet just as present, exists. The government puts its trust in God. It does so on faith alone…if the government can issue its currency bearing a declaration of trust in God without demanding physical evidence of the existence or the nonexistence of a greater being, then….by similar demonstration of the collective faith of its people, we can accept and acknowledge that Santa Claus does exist…”

(Try changing the words ‘Santa Claus’ to your name) Have you stood in front of the mirror, crying, hating yourself, wishing you looked different?

Wishing you were skinner, bigger, have bigger/ smaller boobs, different hair, lips, and eyes?

You may as well wish for miracle water that changes your features or non-calorific wine & chocolate and peace on Earth!

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When was the last time you looked in the mirror and appreciated the reflection?

‘Believe In Yourself ’

Why do we await the winter months to cover up and hide the beauty?

Your body, your looks, your hair or your clothes do NOT define you.

Believe that you can lose weight

Your mind, soul and heart is what makes you the person you are. Your choices define you.

Believe that you can ace that interview

There is a huge difference.

Believe you will pass the exam you have worked so hard for

If there is a moment in your life when you are in transition of changing, don’t focus on the end result so much that you forget to appreciate the journey. Enjoy those precious moments and be proud of the choices you made to take that journey.

Life can get you down in such a way that you get lost. Life is hard.

Believe she will say YES: Because she loves the person you are You will truly be amazed what you can achieve.

I can speak from experience. I have always been big, I have dropped and gained weight more times than changing my knickers! It’s only in the past year that I took a good look at myself and said:

To quote the amazing Lindsey Stirling’s song ‘Where do we go?’:

I have people who love me

“…we did everything right, and now I’m asking, where do we go when our prayers are answered, but the answer is NO?”

I make people smile

Well, If we can create a world and a whole community where we believe in a greater being than us, then why can’t we believe in ourselves just a bit more?

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I have friends

It can change in an instant but for now, while I’m lucky enough to have that, I need to embrace it.

Give yourself some respect The wobbly bits, scares, stretch marks, cellulite, wrinkles and grey hair…ALL OF IT. There is no time to save love for someone you wish to be, fall in love now.

Use it to believe in yourself.

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CAROL ROBINSON Recent Norfolk incomer and business owner, Carol Robinson, took time out of her busy festive season to chat to us about herself, her business and her hopes and dreams for the future. She, her husband and son moved from the capital when she discovered she was pregnant with her daughter, escaping from the ridiculously long working weeks and professional pressures.

Tell us all about One of a Kind Club.

One of a Kind Club is a contemporary jewellery brand aimed to inspire confidence and celebrate individuality through fun statement pieces that make an impact.

What was your reason for starting it?

After a long career in advertising and marketing, I finally decided to turn my love for jewellery into my career. I used to squeeze in jewellery making classes around my full-time job. I then used the skills I learnt to help transform my own work

outfits, becoming known for wearing funky, distinctive and unique garments. My bold and bright collections are inspired by all the amazing women I happen upon and I love that I can make a difference. It forms part of that image we want to show the world. I create interesting items in vivid shapes and colours with the aim of helping women express their unique style and personality, so they can go about their lives with extra confidence. Just to put on and feel special even if they’re having a bad day. I think we should just believe in ourselves. I’m making jewellery for the women who know they deserve that, and also for those who seek more of that

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in their lives. My motto is “Celebrate yourself.

You deserve it.” and the hashtags #nevertoolate and #beboldbeyou suit my beliefs perfectly.

If you could offer one piece of advice to someone faced with a similar situation to your own, what would it be?

Confidence wise, I would say that it’s not something which comes naturally to everybody whatever we may think. Just be you and that confidence will shine. When it comes to turning 40 and changing career, it’s never too late to follow your passion but make sure it’s going to be a commercial passion. Finally, a general piece of advice would be that it’s never too late and if you don’t ask, you don’t get.

What have been your favourite and least favourite moments so far?

My absolute favourite has to be having my own pop up shop at Erpingham House. It was my first solo event and I was so nervous. But using all the marketing tricks I know, I had a fabulous day and loved seeing the confidence bloom in the room. My least favourite moment was being filmed for That’s TV Norfolk as I’m so used to directing behind the camera, but I’m so pleased with the outcome and the positive feedback and orders I’ve received following the exposure.

What are your future aspirations for One of a Kind Club?

I’m aiming to continue bringing confidence daily to normal people’s life. Lots of new jewellery collections are at the planning stage.

I have so many ideas. I’m also hoping to grow the business so it’s not just me doing everything although I love learning new skills.

Where can we catch you in the next few months?

Online always @oneofakindclub or www.oneofakindclub.com. Makers' Bazaar 2020 - Sale Market - 1st February - Jane Austen College is my only booked market. I’m in planning mode at the moment, but there are lots of other events so watch this space!

Thank you so much for taking the time out to speak to us. We wish you all the best for the future of your amazing business!

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STRENGTHS FOR SUCCESS

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Strengths For Success A Different Way Of Thinking About Goals As the new year, starts a lot of us start thinking about our goals for the new year and what we would like to achieve.

The reason for this is the part of our brain that we need to help us achieve our goals needs fuel to run.

A lot of the time we focus on what hasn't gone so well this year, i.e. I put weight on in 2019 so I need to lose weight in 2020.

Barbara Fredrickson Positive Psychology researcher in 2003 found in her broaden and build theory that our brains need positive emotion to function productively and creatively (Fredrickson, 2003).

The latest research on achieving our goals actually suggests that by focusing on what we already do well and building on this is a much better way to achieve our goals and actually follow them through.

A research study in 2008 with 19,000 employees (Corporate Leadership Council 2002) found that when teams in the workplace used their strengths their performance increased by 36%.

When they looked at what they weren't very good at (their weaknesses) and set to improve them their performance actually dropped by 26%.

When we do something that brings us joy and makes us feel a positive emotion, we are releasing happy chemicals into our brain.

These chemicals such as dopamine provide fuel to the thinking part of the brain (the neo cortex) which means we can do more as we literally have more brain fuel. We can think of this like filling our car with fuel; if our tank isn't full of fuel and our goal is to drive to another part of the country, we won't get very far!

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So therefore, if we use something we are already good at and bring us joy to achieve our goals, we will have more brain fuel to do so and will also enjoy ourselves and feel more joy along the way.

One of my top strengths is curiosity and I apply this to exercise and healthy eating. If I can try lots of different and new healthy foods and I can get outside and exercise in nature then I'm more likely to find joy doing so and keep it up as a habit.

So use your strengths, what are you already good at that you can apply to your goals? Think about the strength as your mindset to get you from A to B. If your goal is to try a new hobby and you are really good at helping other people achieve their goals (perhaps a strength of 'enabler' or 'relationship deepener') then could you take someone along with you so you help them too and achieve your goal?

Daily happiness habits can really set us up for a super productive and resilient start to 2020!

We are also doing ourselves a favour for our wellbeing when we use our strengths as when our neocortex is full of fuel we are also less likely to be running on the emotional parts of our brain so using our strengths alongside my other recommended techniques of mindfulness and daily happiness habits can really set us up for a super productive and resilient start to 2020!

If you would like to find out what your strengths are and have an in-depth coaching session on what is holding you back and come up with a plan for a resilient 2020 to help you overcome stress in the new year, let me know. You can reach me here www.thehappinessbranch.com

If you have a strength of planning or organising, can you plan out how you will achieve your goal in small steps in a diary or calendar and set the time aside now?

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Using Photography To Combat Anxiety And Depression Paul Hicks, a 47 year old living in King's Lynn, Norfolk has struggled with anxiety and depression for over 20 years now.

It's a daily battle for him with constant negative thoughts, pains, exhaustion, endless worries about things.

However, he has discovered one thing that helps him and that is photography.

He simply uses his mobile phone to capture the great county in photographs from the coast to towns, from countryside to the skies.

Every day is different, but there is always something out there to capture. For Paul, this is relaxing and takes his mind off his problems.

He tries so hard to get out as much as he can as there is a wealth of things to capture.

Paul is also a member of Norfolk and Friends Facebook group where they meet up on a regular basis, taking and sharing photographs.

This is another lifeline for him, supporting his aim of meeting friends. There are over four thousand members and they are all aware of Paul’s battles with my anxiety and depression.

Paul aspires to help others become aware of how much photography may be able to help improve mental health. He has shared some of his images with us to inspire others.

Check out some of Paul's images featured on the page opposite.

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Norfolk Lavender taken in 2018

Burnham Overy taken in 2017

Red Mount Kings Lynn taken in 2019

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STRONG RELATIONSHIP

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Hopes For A Strong Relationship Whether you are in an established relationship or just starting out with someone new, we all have an idea of what we would like the future to look like.

Here are five ingredients for a strong relationship with firm foundations.

Trust If we have been faced with lies in the past, we can sometimes find it difficult to have and show trust in a new relationship. However, it is vital to start each new love with a clean slate, with a renewed sense of trust. Treating others as though they are culpable of wrongs against you that are actually firmly planted in your past.

Affection For some, this aspect of a relationship is natural.

For others, however, it takes work. There are many levels of affection, but for many, showing that you care more about your partner than simply for sexual relationships is vital. Holding hands whilst walking down the street, cuddles on the sofa whilst watching the Walking Dead and telling each other how much you love them are all simple ways of conveying affection.

Compromise It is virtually impossible for a couple to agree on everything in life. We will never share the exact same views on certain things, so it is necessary to compromise from time to time. Saying “Although I disagree with your decision, I will accept it because I love you.” can help you cope with this.

Understanding Showing understanding for your partner is essential. We will all have moments in life where we feel out of sorts and low. Having a lover who thinks about you and shows consideration for your feelings can make things that little bit easier.

Fun If your life consists of all work and no play, you will become disinterested in many things and pretty quickly. Planning date nights to the cinema, theatre, bowling, ice skating, for example, is a great way of incorporating fun into your relationship. You don’t have to do everything together in life, but choosing some hobbies to do together can really help. Don’t forget to ditch the phones every now and then as well!

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Sisters In Business: From Feather Dusters To Watering Cans

Sisters Sarah Turcu and Lisa Bolingbroke swapped their They also carry out planting jobs for local pubs feather dusters for watering and businesses in need of a splash of colour. cans in a bold business move in 2019.

Sarah and Lisa have always loved gardening Based in Coltishall, their gift and plant shop, the Watering Can, appears to be going from strength to strength.

This quirky outlet, set in a disused cider shed, really is a treasure trove for the aspiring gardener or someone seeking a unique present.

The Watering Can pride themselves on being local, fun and down-to-earth, with reviews on social media reiterating that view. They stock a lovely variety of indoor and outdoor plants as well as a selection of gifts. Their indoor plants are most popular and on trend at the moment.

and the joy it brings. They have fond memories of their parents pottering around in the garden when we were kids. Showing great aspirations when setting up their business in 2019, we asked them about their hopes for the future.

Quite simply, they’d love for their business to bloom further in 2020!

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OUR JOURNEY

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Our Journey Journey Article By Missy Hitchcox

While most of us would likely agree that it is relatively easy to aspire to do better, facilitating actual changes in our lives can be somewhat more difficult.

who they are meant to be, it is also true that their predetermined genetics (and perhaps fate) can be massively influenced by environmental, emotional, and social factors.

Of course, we commonly aspire to be better versions of ourselves.

And so, with my general home education philosophy oozing a child-led attitude, there is a contradictory urge to gently lead them this way or that. To raise their aspirations.

Whether that means refining our lifestyles for better health, or fine tuning our minds for a better mentality, personal growth seems to be optimum in our goals.

As a home educating parent, it isn't just my own personal growth I feel wholly responsible for.

With my children in my care for the entirety of each week, in comparison to a child who might be in the care of a school for thirty something weekly hours, I would be lying if I said I didn't feel an intense awareness of how and where I might be guiding them. While I genuinely believe that each child will ultimately become

Of course, anyone with a six-year-old daughter might know all too well how swiftly any suggestions offered their way can be rejected.

My daughter is mostly moulding her own character and treading her own path in everything we do.

In my heart of hearts, as a parent I aspire to scrap all aims if I'm totally honest. To gradually tune out that inner voice, always conscious of where we might be going, and instead to simply enjoy our journey.

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‘My daughter is mostly moulding her own character and treading her own path in everything we do.’

This self-reflection fuelled my curiosity about the views of fellow home educating parents, with regards to hopes for their children.

I asked some friends what their aspirations are, and they were kind enough to share the following answers...

“My main priorities for home ed are for my children to be happy and mentally healthy, to be able to enjoy their childhood as children, and be completely free to follow their passions. I hope that will ultimately lead them to become happy, healthy adults who can earn their living doing something they love." - Rachel “We have no set goals with home education.

We just hope to always continue their natural love of learning and living life, being able to be themselves and following their own interests and ideas throughout. Right now, we love slowing down to enjoy the magic of childhood and all the natural wonder, play, and creativity that comes with it - while growing important life skills. Spending lots of invaluable family time together, and watching their lovely sibling bond. Living without confinement, and finding their own happiness." - Kelly So, this month, with change in mind and new horizons to explore - I aim to be more carefree and, as always, more thankful. To resolutely be more 'yes' and less 'no'. To learn by doing, and not be shaped by what we 'ought' to be doing.

Whatever your journey, I wish you a very happy and healthy New Year.

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Hopes For Society In 2020 And Beyond I sit writing this whilst reflecting on the year just passed and contemplating what is to come in 2020 and beyond.

In fact, I am not merely contemplating, but planning what will happen and the role I will play in society, however insignificant that may seem. For if you do not have goals in mind, the chances of achieving what you desire are minimal.

Things do not always go our way. It can be hard to accept that is the case, but it is important to try to do so. I’m aiming to take a step back and see things from other people’s perspectives even when they differ so vastly from my own.

This year has been eye-opening, especially in a political sense. I have seen things I never thought possible happen, history repeating itself, with bigoted views being propelled into the open once more. I have also been treated

unfairly on several occasions. However, other people’s issues are exactly that.

I must accept that, while I consistently aim to be the best person I can be, others do not have the same experiences as me, the same background as me, the same support network as me, the same hopes and dreams as me. Therefore, their opinions are exactly that. Even though I may disagree, they are entitled to think whatever they choose to. Despite this, I will continue with my mission of educating.

Bearing everything in mind, I’d love for this to happen within society: Awareness of and Kindness towards Others It is all too easy to walk past homeless people and look the other way, pretending that they don’t exist.

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It is all too easy to forget, while our trolleys are piled high with food, that others are having to resort to and rely on the local food bank.

It is all too easy to assume that everyone who works is able to comfortably survive and pay their bills.

I could go on... but my hope related to this is that people will consider others and be aware that everyone experiences life in different ways.

Any number of circumstances can send one person from being a high-earner to suddenly being plunged into the depths of debt. These things could happen to any of us and would we be happy for people to look down on us if we faced tough times? Yes, we may have to swallow our pride, but ultimately, help from others would see us through.

How can we improve the situation? What can society do?

It really is up to everyone to help build a strong society. Ensuring that we do not leave anyone behind (or certainly not let them fall any further away!) is crucial.

Donate to the foodbank It really is not that difficult to buy an extra tin of peas or packet of teabags once in a while and place in the trolley for the foodbank. If you are short on money, three for the price of two deals are perfect as the free item can then be given away. Many

supermarkets make it that easy for you. Other people may have to travel a little further to find a donation station, but there are usually plenty within an area.

Volunteer If you have a little free time, why not take the time to volunteer for a worthwhile cause? It does not have to be on a regular basis meaning you give up a day off every week. There are charities who feed the homeless and you can opt in and out of the rota as suits you. However often you are able to supply your time, it all helps.

Pass on Unwanted Items Do you have boxes of chocolates lurking in the cupboard or toys which are no longer played with? Perhaps you were bought a new toaster for Christmas.

If you have items in working order and good condition, why not offer them to others who are in need? You could do this via a nursing home, hostel for victims of domestic violence or simply on a Facebook ‘Given in Kindness’ (or similar) group.

Share the Love If you have cooked a banquet for seventy-two when only five guests were coming to your house for Sunday lunch, why not plate some of it up and take round to elderly neighbours? Even better, invite them over to share the meal with you. It costs nothing to be kind, and it reduces your waste too!

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Ben Foster AKA Jim Perkins Sometimes, our ambitions for the future take us on a peculiar, unexpected path. We were lucky enough to ask Ben Foster/Jim Perkins some questions about his past life as a gigolo.

Thank you for taking the time to speak to us today. For our readers who don't know who you are, could you tell us a bit about yourself please?

My name is James Perkins. I was born and raised in Norfolk in a little village called Bradwell. After high school, I worked as a deck hand on the fishing trawlers until the government and fisheries department shut the UK’s industry down. I now work full time supporting guys with learning disabilities.

It was because of a small inheritance from my nan that I was able to do a sports therapist course at Lowestoft College a while back. I moved to London in 2000, securing a job at an exclusive spa as a therapist. Due to having children to support and other responsibilities, I had to do what everyone does just to survive: get a second job. I worked in a local gym to make ends meet and it was there when I was

approached by a very influencing gentleman who introduced me to the world of the rich and famous.

You've been doing this job for over two decades now. How long do you see yourself continuing?

I'm not actually doing this anymore this was a phase in my life I was drawn into by circumstance. I never planned to take this path in life it fell into my lap. As I said before, I was approached by a man and then by a very well-off lady, with an offer, then another and so on. In this circle or behind the curtain, I witnessed a lot of exciting experiences.

I got carried away, the more I got into this, I found myself getting deeper into then the harder it became to get out of it. It wasn’t completely unsatisfying, but very questionable to me at times.

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What are the biggest challenges you faced in this profession?

My biggest challenge was coming from a background that I did, scratching for pennies just to survive to being thrown into a world of glamour, wealth, sex and enlightenment.

It gave me an intriguing insight into how the other half actually live.

The money was fantastic: being dressed in top clothes, suits etc. to fit in with them. But all the time I was a stranger in a strange land.

Although they made me feel a part of them, I was and always was going to be an outsider, a puppet for their entertainment. I'm not proud of this at times but it was an opportunity of a life time, which I believe any man would take.

Were there major differences between being a gigolo in London and here in East Anglia?

London is and was a different class. You really must read the book Gigolo to completely understand my life.

Like I said, I was dressed in all the top designer suits to fit in flown to Paris for one night of freedom. The rates you can get in London are obviously a lot higher than East Anglia.

Although I’ve been approached by a lot of ladies and gentlemen in East Anglia, this is my past, a needs-must.

Are your children aware of what you did for a living? If so, how do they feel about it?

No, they are not aware of any of this hence the pseudonym. But since the People's Book Prize award, I had to come out with my true identity for local support. They admire me for coming forward.

And I have to say there’s nothing like Norfolk support. The people have been absolutely amazing and so supportive. I couldn't have got this far without them. Thank you to all in East Anglia: friends, family and loved ones.

Do you have any regrets?

One regret is I wish I told my story sooner.

Like I said, it's scandalous how the people in power and the public eye conduct themselves in a safe setting shall we say.

It's a mockery to all hard-working tax paying law-abiding people of this country. They are doing all the things we are governed not to. They live an actual dream. Their lives are ridiculously expensive and selfish to their needs. I always felt ashamed of my actions, but can't turn back the clock and it was not all enjoyable.

But with all their glamour and wealth, they live in a fairy tale world where anything is possible whilst we all struggle to survive.

Is that really fair? I needed the money to give my family a life with little pressure and the money was very good indeed.

Thank you so much for taking the time out today to speak to us.

The system works us all to just survive. I wanted the best for my children, I wasn't going to get it by a 9 til 5.

We are certain that our readers will find your insight into this world fascinating. We wish you all the best for the future!

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FABULOUS FUNDRAISERS

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Fabulous Fundraisers Tia Hutchinson

“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”

Scott Adams

This month, we celebrate the work of the Hutchinson family team of Gorleston, in particular Tia. Tia’s Treasures was formed in 2011 by Tia Hutchinson when she was just six years old.

Initially, she made beaded bracelets for family and friends, but soon realised she could turn her fun hobby into something important. All the proceeds of her bracelets, as well as keyrings, went to CLIC Sargent and CHECT (Childhood Eye Cancer Trust). She chose these two charities as they were close to her heart, both supporting her best friend, Demi.

Above: Tia Gradually, Tia’s Treasures grew and by the time it had reached its fifth anniversary, more than £5000 had been raised for a wide range of charities including the two mentioned above.

The youngest member of the Tia’s Treasures team, Toby, was diagnosed with epilepsy in 2018. As a result of this, both money and awareness are also raised about this disease.

Self-proclaimed RAKtivists, they also carry out so many random acts of kindness (RAK). For example, local NHS staff have been given gifts to thank them for the selfless, vital work they do; goody bags have also been lovingly prepared and donated to local homeless people.

The impact that all of this fundraising has on so many people is phenomenal and so we would love to say an enormous well done to Tia and her family for the amazing things they have done and continue to do. We like to think that this amazing work will have a ripple effect and impact on the wider community.

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What are you hoping for from 2020?

“I am hoping to have more good days than bad days.” Jenny

“Honestly, I am hoping to really have the chance to appreciate the small things. Life is way too busy and demanding; I just want to be in the moment with those I love.” Jax

“More quality family time!” Cassie

“Positivity. Small changes. Confidence.” Carol

“I’m hoping to build up and extend my own small business success. It’s hopefully going to start with my very own craft room!” Kayleigh

“I’d like to secure a promotion at work. I’ve been chasing it for a couple of years now, but finally got my mental health on track and feel it’s achievable. Wish me luck!” Bobby

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A Masterclass in Suspense

DIAL M FOR MURDER January 21-25, 2020 A brand new production of the classic thriller Dial M for Murder is heading for Norwich with Theatre Royal favourite Tom Chambers at the helm.

A masterclass in suspense, the show is based on Frederick Knott’s stage and screen play, made world-famous by Hitchcock’s iconic 1954 film.

Winner of the sixth series of Strictly Come Dancing, Tom Chambers became a familiar face in people’s living rooms as Sam Strachan

in the BBC medical dramas Holby City and Casualty and as Max Tyler in BBC drama series Waterloo Road. He has appeared on the Norwich stage in musicals Top Hat and Crazy For You. Now he returns as the charismatic and manipulative Tony Wendice, a jaded ex-tennis pro who has given it all up for his wife Margot and when he discovers she has been unfaithful, his mind turns to revenge and the pursuit of the ‘perfect crime’.

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Playing Margot is Sally Bretton, an accomplished stage and television actor known for her roles as Lucy Adams in the television sitcom Not Going Out and as Martha Lloyd in the crime drama Death in Paradise.

Joining Tom and Sally on stage is Christopher Harper. An actor and director, he played Nathan Curtis in ITV’s Coronation Street in a high profile teenage grooming and exploitation storyline. Also recently appearing in the UK tour of Strangers on a Train, he performs in the dual roles of Captain Lesgate and Inspector Hubbard.

Max Halliday, Margot’s American lover, is played by Michael Salami, a multi-awardwinning actor who has appeared in Hollyoaks, Catastrophe, The Temple and Magic Hour.

The Theatre Royal is the second stop for the production as it heads out on a UK tour.

Director Anthony Banks has recently directed two other Hitchcock thrillers - Gaslight and Strangers on a Train. His production of the hit thriller, Girl on a Train also recently enthralled Norwich audiences.

Theatre Royal communications officer Judy Foster said: “Dial M For Murder is the perfect post-Christmas entertainment for a dark, chilly January night. This classic psychological thriller is still immensely popular today and its twists and turns, combined with this stellar casting, will certainly please theatregoers and keep them on their toes.”

SHOW INFORMATION: Dial M for Murder, Tuesday 21 to Saturday 25 January, 2020. Eves 7.30pm. Wed, Thu & Sat matinee 2.30pm. Tickets £10-£33.50.

Discounts for Friends, Over 60s, Under 18s and Groups. For more info or to BOOK ONLINE www.theatreroyalnorwich.co.uk

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Old Buckenham Players Present Camelot - The Panto

Old Buckenham Players are proud to present their 2020 panto offering as Camelot - The Panto, by Ben Crocker.

Following the success of the classic Dial M for Murder in May 2019, the group entered the Hunstanton Drama Festival in which awards were won and praise given for a tense and harrowing one act play.

Now fully in the swing of twice weekly pantomime rehearsals, we can't wait to show you the results of our hard work and dedication.

This show really is a laugh-a-minute, 100mph treat for the senses thanks to the superb script, experienced cast, technical wizardry, well-known songs and of course, the much-loved characters.

Princess Guinevere is promised to Prince Arthur, but dark magic propels the weedy Valerin the Vicious (ably abetted by his Mum!) as Guinevere's suitor.

Join Arthur, Laughalot the Jester, Dame Connie Clatterbottom, Merlin the Great Wizard and others as they try to save Camelot from the evil grasp of Morgan Le Fay and her motely crew. With more than the odd surprise in store, we visit castles, haunted hotels, enchanted forests and meet all manner of other characters (not all of which are 'human'...!) along the way as Camelot's future is contested.

Pantomime is as much about the audience as it is the actors on stage. So, we challenge you to come along to Boo, Hiss, Cheer and Clap louder than you ever have done before!

Through hard work, dedication and years of experience, we're confident you won't find a better night out for under a tenner anywhere. You never know, you might just enjoy yourself so much that you'll fancy giving it a go yourself!

Performances are being held at 'Ye Olde' Buckenham Village Hall and start at 7.30pm on Thursday 16th, Friday 17th & Saturday 18th of January 2020 with the ever-popular Matinee performance on the Saturday starting at 2.30pm. There'll be a raffle, choc ices and a very reasonably priced bar serving a range of soft and alcoholic drinks.

Tickets are on sale now and cost just ÂŁ8.50 for Adults and ÂŁ4.50 for under 14's.

They can be purchased by calling the Box Office on 07783 461803 or online at: https://www.ticketsource.co.uk/oldbuckenhamplayers PAGE

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ICENI - HOROSCOPES

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Horoscopes For January Aries 21 March - 20 April While you might develop a case

Libra 24 September - 23 October With a potent Eclipse

of wanderlust, there is also the potential for major changes that can impact your career, goals and ambitions. With a Lunar Eclipse on January 10th triggering a potential shift, it’s time to trust your feelings and let go of whatever no longer serves and adopt new strategies. Your social life sparkles too, with options to move in new and delightful circles.

in a prominent zone on the 10th, you may be ready to jettison a goal or ambition that takes you away from too much family time. And a powerful line-up in your home zone, can be a call to explore the benefits of working from home or spending more time there. Sizzling romantic opportunities might be on the cards, whatever your relationship status Libra.

Taurus 21 April - 21 May You might be excited at the potential for change to business and financial affairs. And yet other key developments could see you reaching for opportunities that take you on a completely new path. You may need to adopt a new mindset to assist in moving out of your comfort zone, but it is worth it. Plus, a focus on a prominent sector can be a call to showcase your best skills Taurus.

Scorpio 24 October - 22 November As 2020 gets underway,

Gemini 22 May - 21 June You may be the one who

Sagittarius 23 November - 21 December

a potent focus in your sector of communication can be a call to change your mindset and let go of thinking that does not support your goals. This may be initiated by the unique stellium of planets in Capricorn on the 12th and 13th, and could lead to a positive turnaround in your affairs. On the domestic front, having guests over can be most enjoyable, and entertaining them a true delight.

encourages discussion around relationship issues, in a bid to clear the air. But you might also enjoy doing a spot of matchmaking. This can also be a month when changes to financial affairs and the resolution of deep-seated issues could be a relief. Eager to travel? You may find that getting away from it all helps to clear the head, assisting key decisions.

Vitality increases as 2020 begins, and this can see you ready to tackle challenges and get any projects off to a positive start. You may have greater energy to sort out money issues, especially around January 10th onwards. You’ll also benefit from restructuring your financial commitments, as this can be a rewarding exercise.

Looking for opportunities? Socializing might be a big help.

Cancer 22 June - 23 July The Lunar Eclipse in your sign

Capricorn 22 December - 20 January Eager for change?

on January 10th, is part of a powerful blend of energies that can influence key relationships. Could it be time to let go of the past and embrace a new phase? This might mean taking a bond to the next level or letting go of what no longer works.

Keen to do a deal Cancer? The Aquarian focus and a New Moon, could see you forging a fruitful agreement.

You may have been ready for some time, and this month can bring it to pass. Heightened feelings prompted by the Eclipse on January 10th, could push you to make decisions, creating a powerful shift that might benefit you and others. As Mars enters a quiet zone, private time can help you intuit the best way forward. Ready to shop? Bargains galore could be yours.

Leo 24 July - 23 August Have a creative project on the

Aquarius 21 January - 19 February

go? Feisty Mars in your leisure zone can help bring it to fruition. The biggest changes though may be in your lifestyle zone, when a potent planetary set-up, including a Lunation on the 10th, can encourage you to embrace work or activities that nurture you and that fulfil a deeper heartfelt urge. Ready for romance? Don’t hold back Leo.

Your social life benefits from a dynamic energy, encouraging you to get involved and enjoy life. This is especially so if you are going through a time of inner change that could reach a peak around the 12th. Taking time for self-care may give you the inner strength to implement solutions. And a New Moon in your sign on the 24th, can usher in an exciting new phase.

Virgo 24 August - 23 September Get your house in

Pisces 20 February - 20 March Ready to push forward

order with the help of feisty Mars as it powers through your domestic sector. Keen to earn some extra cash Virgo? Consider selling whatever you no longer need. If a romance or creative project has stalled, major activity suggests reaching out for friendship and advice can bring opportunities and support to you. Considering a lifestyle change? Research your options.

with key goals? Giving them more energy and attention can bring potent results. You may also be ready for a breakthrough regarding your social life or affiliation with a team or organization. Indeed Pisces, letting go of a situation that no longer serves could be very energizing. Plus, with Venus in your sign from the 13th, it’s time to administer some self-care.

Astrologer Patrick Arundell provides a unique take on Horoscopes and Astrology. Join him daily for your Daily Horoscope and his penetrating insight into this fascinating subject. Also FREE Horoscope Videos.

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