March 2013
“It is better to sit alone than in company with the bad; and it is, better still to sit with the good than alone. It is better to speak to a seeker of knowledge than to remain silent; but silence is better than idle words.� (Bukhari)
“Acts of kindness will always return to us in a greater way! In fact if each individual excels in kindness we will be surrounded by the most wonderful people living in the ideal home or society. Never wait for others to be kind to us before we are, be it at home or elsewhere. Let US start the trend! The reward will be felt almost immediately. Above that we will
be recompensed in an even better way in the hereafter.� (Mufti Menk)
There was a farmer who grew superior quality, award-winning corn in his farm. Each year, he entered his corn in the state fair where it won honors and prizes. One year a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learned something interesting about how he grew his corn. The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbours.
“How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbours when they are entering corn in the competition with yours each year?” The reporter asked. “Why bother?” The farmer replied, “Didn’t you know? The wind picks up pollen grains from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I have to grow good corn, I must help my neighbours to grow good corn too.” The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbours’ corn also improves. So it is in the other dimensions and areas of life! Those who choose to be in harmony must help their neighbours and colleagues to be at peace. Those who choose to live well must help others live well too. The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches… Success does not happen in isolation; it is most often a participatory and collective process. So share the good practices, ideas and new knowledge with your family, friends, team members and neighbours and all. As they say: “Success breeds Success.”
Author unknown Abdullah ibn Umar (radhiyallahu anhu) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
�The best friend in the Sight of Allah is he who is the well-wisher of his companions, and the best neighbour is one who behaves best towards his neighbours.� (Tirmidhi) source: http://www.haqislam.org/success-of-a-farmer/
I`m a Muslim dressed in black, I went to the mosque but now I`m back, I`m a Muslim dressed in blue, Red and yellow and pink and green orange and purple and blue Allah made the rainbow
I read Quran, the Hadith too, I`m a Muslim dressed in green,
Made the rainbow
Ghusal and Wudu make me clean,
Made that rainbow
I`m a Muslim dressed in red,
For me and you
Making sure the ophans are fed, I`m a Muslim dressed in gold, Listening to Ama and doing what I am told, I`m a Muslim dressed in yellow, I give Salam to every fellow
If you’re Kid lies a lot! Then you`re punishing him/her too much! If your Kid doesn`t have confidence! You don`t encourage him/her! If your Kid doesn`t talk too much! You don`t talk to him/her! If your Kid steals! You didn’t teach him/her to give! If your Kid is a coward! You`re always defensive to him/her! If your kid doesn`t respect others! You raise your voice at him/her! If your Kid is stingy! You don`t share things with him/her! If your Kid is a bully! You are violent! If your Kid is weak! You threaten him/her! If your Kid gets jealous! You neglect him/her!
If your Kid bothers you! You don`t kiss/hug him/her! If your Kid doesn`t obey you! You demand too much (abound demands)!
Allah made me I love the stars they twinkle at me, Allah made the stars and Allah made me. I love the sun it shines on me, Allah made the sun and Allah made me. I love the birds they tweet at me, Allah made the birds and Allah made me. I love the rain it splashes at on me, Allah made the rain and Allah made me. I love mummy she smiles at me, Allah made my mummy and Allah made me. I love daddy he cuddles me, Allah made my daddy and Allah made me.
1 Ar-Rahman The One who has plenty of mercy for all the humans in this world and especially for the believers in the hereafter. The Most Merciful
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Recipe for a Successful Marriage Our Lord! Grant that our spouses and our offspring be a comfort to our eyes, and give us the grace to lead those who are conscious of You” (Furqaan 74). Q: Every human being by nature has an instinct to dispute. This instinct becomes more manifest between the husband and wife, thus leading to marital disputes. How can this instinct be controlled? A. Consider the following ten points to control the instinct of dispute and maintain a happy marriage.
1. Fear Allah: It was the noble practice of Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam to conscientise the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa v14, Ahzab v69, Aali-Imraan v101) from the Quraan. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah.
2. Never be angry at the same time: Anger is the root cause for all marital disputes. One Sahabi came to Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam and sought some advice. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam replied, control your anger. The same advice was rendered three times. (Mishkaat pg.433; HM Saeed) 3. If one has to win an argument, let it be the other: Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam said: “Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the centre of Jannah. (Ibid pg.412) 4. Never shout at each other unless the house is on fire:
Luqman (AS) while offering advice to his son said:” and lower your voice for verily the most disliked voice is that of a donkey”. (Surah Luqman v19)
5. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly: Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam said, ‘A Mu’ min is a mirror for a Mu’min.’ (Abu Dawud vol.2 pg.325; Imdadiyah) Advise with dignity and silently.
6. Never bring up mistakes of the past: Nabi salallahu alayhi wasallam said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.” (Mishkaat pg.429; HM Saeed) 7. Neglect the whole world rather than your marriage partner: Nabi
salallahu alayhi wasallam confirmed the advice of Salman to AbuDarda [RA] for neglecting his wife. “Verily there is a right of your wife over you.” (Nasai Hadith2391)
8. Never sleep with an argument unsettled: Abu Bakr radiallahu anhu resolved his dispute with his wife over-feeding the guests before going to bed. (Bukhari Hadith 602) 9. At least, once every day, express your gratitude to your partner: Nabi [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘Whoever does not show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to Allah.’ (Abu Dawud pg.662; Karachi) 10. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness: Nabi [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘All the sons of Aadam commit error, and the best of those who err are those who seek forgiveness.’ (Tirmidhi Hadith 2499) by Mufti Ebrahim Desai
source: http://www.haqislam.org/recipe-for-a-successful-marriage/
Woman was made from the rib of man,
She was not created from this head to top him, Nor from his feet to be stepped upon, She was made from his side to be close to him, From beneath his aim to be protected by him, Near to be loved by him.
Our Prophet may peace and blessings be upon him said: When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at them with mercy (sahih Bukhari 6:19 Tarmidi)
1. This very short s큰rah outlines a complete system for human life based on the Islamic viewpoint. In a few words the whole Islamic constitution is covered. 2. This s큰rah affirms throughout the history of mankind there has been one worthwhile and trustworthy path. All other ways lead only to loss and ruin. As it says in outline, this way means first the adoption of faith, followed by good deeds and exhortation to follow the truth and to persevere in the face of adversity. 3. Faith is the foundation of all goodness in human life. It is from faith that all forms of goodness spring and to which all its fruits are due. Faith is the characteristic by which man, a small creature with a life of short duration in a limited world, attains closeness to the Absolute and Everlasting Originator of the universe and all that exists in it. 4. Following the path ordained by God, with steadfastness and clarity of vision, is the next quality of the community of believers. This must be maintained so that goodness does not come about casually, incidentally or without deliberation but rather springs from definite motives and heads towards certain aims 5.Purity of motivation is yet another quality of the dignified humanity established by faith. The believer feels the awesome presence of God in his innermost consciousness and his awareness makes him tremble. He, therefore, resorts to self-purification and spiritual cleansing. A refined moral sense is the natural fruit of faith in God who is just, kind,
compassionate, generous and forbearing and who abhors evil, loves goodness, knows every furtive look and every secret thought. 6. The final quality is man’s elevation above greed for worldly gains, preferring degradation, even though it may not say so openly. Instead God’s richer, everlasting reward for which all people should strive, as the Qur’ān directs them to do. 7. Such striving for all that is good results in spiritual elevation, purification and cleansing. Of immense help in this regard is the fact that a believer has a broad scope for action: between this life and the next and between the heavens and the earth. 8. Man’s elevation lessens his anxiety about the results and fruits of his actions. He does what is good only because it is good and because God requires it. It is never his concern whether it leads to further goodness in his own short life. God, for whom he performs the good, neither dies, forgets nor ignores anyone’s deeds. The reward is not to be received here, for this life is not the last. Thus, a believer acquires the power to continue to perform good deeds without waiting for immediate results. He is sustained in his determination to do good deeds by his unshakable belief in God. This is what guarantees that doing good becomes a carefully chosen way of life, not a casual incident or motiveless event. 9. Consequently, whenever two Companions of God’s Messenger were about to depart from each other, they would read this sūrah, after which they would shake hands. This was indicative of a pledge to accept this doctrine fully, to preserve this faith, piety and a willingness to counsel each other to follow the truth and to persevere in the face of adversity. It was a mutual compact to remain good elements in an Islamic society established according to that doctrine and to preserve the foundation of this society.See more at: http://1000gooddeeds.com/2012/10/19/good-deed-303-do-gooddeeds-reflect-on-surah-al-asr-time-through-ages/#sthash.dv7RmjhL.dpuf
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