of you, then you aren’t straightforward with yourself, which makes you a flaky person who cannot be trusted. Even halftruths are lies so tell the full story and don’t leave out the bad parts, because they’re usually the most honest parts. BEING MATERIALISTIC “Money can’t buy me love,” sang the Beatles 53 years ago and it still rings true to this day. Don’t be in it or out of it for the money. Don’t glorify possessions more than people.
THE 7 BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS FOR MEN by Farah Khedre We all have quirks and are super weirdos, but that doesn’t mean that everyone will like us in spite of that. Just like women are picky when it comes to men, there are certain things you can do/be that will make sure he will never pick you! We’ve asked around and their verdict’s out! These 7 relationship red flags were the most common answers! IF SHE’S A WANNABE BRIDE Men don’t like to be rushed into doing something. They want to take their time until they decide they want to do it on their own. If you’re rushing into your relationship forward too quickly and are immediately ready to settle down and have babies, think again. Why fast forward through first dates, anxiety of getting to know each other and all the other first timers? If you really are ready for a monogamous relationship, then you should be slowing down and savoring moments. DISHONESTY Dishonesty in all forms is unappealing to anyone. If you can’t be straightforward with the person in front
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ACTING MOTHERLY While Sigmund Freud once proposed the idea that men are looking for women who resemble their mothers, guys don’t like it when you actually become their mother. Don’t guilt trip them into doing things they don’t want to do or to spend more time with you. Worry, care and love but not in a motherly way, but rather in a partner-y way. DRAMA Swinging from one emotional extreme to another, and sometimes in less than minutes screams selfproclaimed drama queen. Nothing good will come out of creating something out of nothing. Constant drama in life is bad for the soul, so chill out. NOT GIVING THEM SPACE Solitude is healing and it brings peace to any relationship. If you are constantly at each other’s throats all the time, you will eventually feel trapped, especially if you do everything together. You should spend time with other people on your own different times and get to grow individually instead of standing still together. So don’t be the person who throws tantrums when he’d rather travel for the weekend or spend the night alone. IF YOU TREAT WAITERS LIKE CRAP J.K. Rowling once said, “If you want to know what a man’s like, look at how he treats his inferiors”, because that way you will glean important information about who this person really is. Eye rolling at the barista or yelling at the bank clerk because you were having “one-of-those-days” or they mistook your hot mocha for iced is not sexy.
