Helper student guidebook

Helper Student´s Notebook 2016/17 Name:_______________________

Coordination meetings

HELPER STUDENT´S ROLE 1.

Inform your peers about the help you can offer.

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Spread your help individually or in joint actions with other mates.

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Accept the student who has just arrived at the centre or those mates who are isolated or always alone.

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Listen to your mates actively when they want to talk about the problems they have and the concerns they feel without judging or criticising..

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Guess if there are posible conflicts and discuss about them in the regular meetings in order to search for ways to intervene before it is too late.

6 Reroute those cases when we don´t know how to act and also when physical violence has taken place and always when those involved show a lot of pain and serious personal difficulties. The responsable teachers will assess with you what should be done.

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HELPER STUDENT´S PRINCIPLES 

CONFIDENTIALITY: I keep quiet about personal matters or problems the people I help could have.

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COMMITMENT: I cooperate with the helper student´s team and also with my attitude. I always pay attention to what I can do to help, even though I could not like that person.

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RESPECT: I express respect toward the people who require my help: their likes, their opinions and their image.

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SOLIDARITY: I put myself in the others´shoes, I have to perceive their sorrow, their difficulties, their weaknesses and their differences with others. I try to make them meet instead of looking for battles.

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AVAILABILITY: I offer my presence when somebody needs me. I try to make the others feel my interest to listen and help them.

Coordination meetings

SOCIAL ABILITIES WE USE. THE HELPER STUDENT. Date: 1.

I recommend solutions when a problema arises.

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I try to put myself in others´shoes trying to know how they feel and must understand them when they feel bad.

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I wait for my turn to speak when we speak in a group.

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I am glad and feel well when I help somebody.

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I realize that there are different ways to solve a problem.

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I become aware of those things that annoy the others and I try to avoid them.

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I respect everybody even those I don´t agree with.

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I have fun with all my mates without excluding anybody.

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I think the others trust me.

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I listen carefully.

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THE HELPER STUDENTS ARE ASSERTIVE We express firmly that a situation is not correct without showing fear and without using violence. If something is not fair, we act; we struggle with determination to change it.

Coordination meetings.

Previous remarks / Topics / Agreements

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People I helped

WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM AMONG CLASSMATES THE HELPER STUDENT TRIES:

I REFLECT what the person who is speaking feels.

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If he/she expresses sorrow, I will express that I feel his/her sorrow; if it is worry, I will express the same; if stress is expressed, I will convey the need to calm down.

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To stop to think.

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To know what the problem is.

I ask OPEN QUESTIONS about what I don´t understand.

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To figure out who causes the problem. It is better to speak about the problem in a place where nobody is around.

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To investigate what each person feels and what they want to achieve.

I ask CLOSED QUESTIONS when the other person shows that he/ she intends to make a decisión:

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To make those who had the problem listen to each other and say what they feel doing it calmly and without offending anybody.

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To make different alternatives appear in order to solve the problem and make a decisión.

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To try to reach an agreement so that nobody prevails.

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What?, How?, Why?, What for? To encourage him/her to speak more if he/she needs it.

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Are you willing to ask him/her if he/she wants to go out with you?

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Are you willing to tell him/her that you can´t stand that?

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What have you told him/her exactly?

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The answers could be YES or NO or a short and precise answer.

I SUM UP with two or three sentences the most important things he/she said.

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Then what happens is that somebody speaks to you badly.

That person doesn´t deserve you and that makes you feel very bad and that is why you need to find a solution.

IN ORDER TO LISTEN ACTIVELY TO OTHERS 1.

I listen with interest.

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I establish eye contact.

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I nod.

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My position and distance must show that I am listening.

WHEN WE LISTEN TO A CLASSMATE ACTIVELY, WE NEED TO SAY SOME THINGS: I PARARHRASE: I repeat what it is said to me so that the others know that I have heard and understood well.

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Do you mean that you think that? (I repeat the same he/she has told me).  Do you mean that you understand that? (I repeat the same thing the person I listen to has said).  Do you mean that you ponder that? ( I repeat the same he/ she has told me).

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