Island Parent Celebrating
25 Years
The Resource Publication for Vancouver Island Parents
May 2013
Yo Mama! tips, advice & Ramblings
Braving Mother-Daughter Relationships Advice: Helpful or Not? Readers Respond The Delicate Balance in Young Adult Novels
Books for the Maternally Inclined Community Connections for New Parents
New & Expectant Parents Products & Services
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Contents: May 2013 Feature
Braving Mother-Daughter Relationships....................................................... 16
Articles
Yo! Mama....................................................................................................... 9 Community Connections for New Parents.................................................... 10 The Lines of a Story...................................................................................... 12 Books for the Maternally Inclined................................................................. 14 Products & Services for New Parents............................................................ 20 Advice: Helpful or Not?................................................................................ 26 The Delicate Balance in Young Adult Novels................................................. 30 Mission Mompossible................................................................................... 40 Active Play Through Music........................................................................... 41 The Bigger Picture......................................................................................... 42 Growing Up Bilingual................................................................................... 44 Welcome to Holland..................................................................................... 45
Columns
Editor’s Note................................................................................................... 3 Healthy Families; Happy Families................................................................. 46 Dadspeak...................................................................................................... 48 Just Eat It!..................................................................................................... 50 Is There an App for This?.............................................................................. 52 New Parent Pages.......................................................................................... 56 Maternity & Beyond..................................................................................... 60 Nature Notes................................................................................................ 62 Cut It Out..................................................................................................... 64
Departments
IPM Notes....................................................................................................... 4 Up-Island Business Directory......................................................................... 25 Party Directory........................................................................................ 28, 29 Family Calendar............................................................................................ 32 Around the Island......................................................................................... 38 Family Services Directory........................................................................ 54, 55 Preschool & Child Care Directory........................................................... 58, 59 South Island Business Directory.................................................................... 63 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca. Island Parent Magazine is distributed free in selected areas. Subscriptions can be obtained by sending $28.00 (HST included) with your name and address to the address below. Canada Post: Canadian Publications Mail Sales Product Agreement 40051398.
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President, Publisher: Paul Abra Vice-President: Anna Abra Director, Production Manager: Mada Moilliet Editor: Sue Fast Sales & Marketing: RaeLeigh Buchanan Publisher’s Assistant: Linda Frear Bookkeeping: Elaine Francis Distribution: Anna Abra, Ted Dawe (Mid-Island) Founders: Jim Holland & Selinde Krayenhoff Production: Eacrett Graphic Design Printed at Island Publishers Cover printed at Hillside Printing ISSN 0838-5505
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Sleep In? Dream On
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leep. That, according to Huffington Post, is what most women want for Mother’s Day. Based on a poll of over 19,000 women, the survey, conducted by Plumdistrict.com, revealed that eight out of 10 moms would prefer to sleep in on Mother’s Day than be woken up for an early breakfast in bed— even if that breakfast consisted of freshly baked orange-brioche cinnamon rolls paired with blackberry-lavender jam and a sparkling Bellini. And even if all brioche crumbs were removed from the sheets. Along with extra sleep, other items on the list included: an hour for a favourite activity such as a bike ride or a hike; a handmade card; one out of three moms said she secretly wanted the day to herself; one out of three said she’d like to choose her own gift; and another one out of three moms said she would rather have pizza and milk with the kids at home, while two out of three said they’d prefer wine and filet mignon at a fancy restaurant. Dinner at home was fine, tweeted one respondent, but what she really wanted was a German Shepherd puppy. Or an Audi Allroad. An Audi Allroad? And to think I was happy with a gilded bow-tie pasta picture frame. And a mushy kiss. Or three. Homemade gifts are among a mom’s favourites. According to Time magazine’s What Moms Really Want for Mother’s Day—and What They Don’t, a safe bet is “something that is hand-made by the family…a gift that really reflects a thought process that goes into it.” Gifts to avoid, according to Time, include the C2S metallic pink Taser, billed as “The perfect gift, just in time for Mother’s Day.”
Why it’s not ideal? “Someone will invariably be tased after Mom opens it. And not only that, but it requires a background check, which spoils the surprise.” Another one to avoid, according to the article, is the USB Metallic I Love You Hand Gesture Necklace Flash Drive, guaranteed to give Mom a stylish look. A rule of thumb when it comes to jewelry: If it connects to a computer and stores up to 16 gigabytes of data, it’s probably not ideal. Last year, the National Retailer Federation predicted that the average person celebrating Mother’s Day would spend $152.52 on gifts, up from $140.73 spent on average per person the previous year. Total spending was expected to reach $18.6 billion. $18.6 billion? Considering that all most moms want is an extra hour to sleep in, $18.6 billion seems like a lot to spend. If you’re wondering how much to spend on Mother’s Day this year, check out the American Coalition for Labor Reparations (ACFLR) website. The ACFLR, a “public initiative whose goal is simple: compensate mothers for their labor”, has devised an effective online tool. Now, using the organization’s online form, you can calculate how much you owe your own mom, or how much your kids owe you. All you have to do is plug in a few numbers, starting with a base labour fee,(the child’s birth year and the number of hours that you/your mother was in labour). Other charges and deductions include: forced sobriety (calculated by using the number of missed drinks); gross stuff that happened to mom during pregnancy (including, but not limited to, flatulence, incontinence and emesis); weight gain; emotional stability
(consult with Dad); baby’s navel formation (more is owed if child ended up with an innie, less if child ended up with an outie); birth punctuality (the amount owed depends
Editor’s Note Sue Fast upon whether or not child vacated the uterus early, later or on time); birth order (based on how familiar mom was with childbirth when each child was born); stretch marks (the bigger the baby, the more mom’s skin was stretched); good offspring deduction (deduct 80 per cent of total charges if you/ your children call mom on Mother’s day, add $100 to the total, if not). According to my calculations, based on the pregnancy, labour and delivery of three healthy children—all over eight pounds at birth, with innie belly buttons, and displaying varying degrees of good behaviour over the years—they collectively owe me enough to buy that piece of waterfront property I’ve been eyeing since their rather lengthy births. And if children can’t afford to pay the full amount of their debt up front? No problem. The ACFLR has thought of that, too. Just complete the Promissory Note at the bottom of the form and mom will be sent an e-mail declaring her child’s intention to pay along with a promissory note that she can present in the future to collect payment. With that in mind—and with over 62 homemade Mother’s Day gift certificates, to date, promising everything from clean dishes, a home-cooked meal, and a walked dog, to a camping trip, new windshield wiper blades, and a week in Paris—maybe I’ll opt for that extra hour of sleep. Happy Mother’s Day.
Summer learning camps… find the clues...learn where those words and numbers hide.... create your own kit-bag of games and strategies! Math and language arts options available the weeks of August 12–16 and August 19–23 Sidney, Victoria and the Westshore Call 250-388-7225 for information about camp schedules and our remedial services
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IPM Notes Smile with Confidence Camosun’s Certified Dental Assistant (CDA) students are getting ready for the annual spring preventive dental health public clinic. The clinic welcomes clients between the ages of 5 and 21. Good oral hygiene reduces the risk of tooth decay and gum disease—to give you a nicer smile. When: May 1-17 (afternoon and evening appointments available) Where: Dental building, Lansdowne campus, 3100 Foul Bay Road Services: selective polishing; x-rays; sealants; oral hygiene instruction; fluoride application Cost: $20 or less This personal care is provided by CDA students, under the supervision of licensed program faculty, as directed by a dentist. For more information, visit camosun. ca/smile. For an appointment, phone 250370-3184.
Camosun College Open House & Career Fair 2013 On Thursday May 2, from 8:30am-
2:30pm, Camosun’s Interurban Campus is opening its doors and inviting everyone to stop by and experience first-hand what this community college offers. The annual Open House and Career Fair will feature a full range of hands-on activities that showcase post-secondary and career options. More than 2,000 middle school and secondary students are expected to visit the campus during the day. Adults of all ages are also welcome to attend. All areas of the campus are open, from the Trades shops at one end to the Pacific Institute for Sport Excellence (PISE) at the other. Programs based at Lansdowne campus will also be setting up displays and activities at Interurban, giving visitors a true college-wide experience. Highlights include a wheelchair obstacle race (Sport & Exercise Ed.), a Spaghetti Bridge Contest, building a one-string electric guitar (Electronics), the Mr. Wizard science show (Chemistry), a compressed air rocket launch (Mechanical Engineering), a nail-driving contest (Carpentry), drumming workshops (Aboriginal Education), and Victoria Conservatory of Music student performances, among other events. The full list of activities, updated daily, is available at www.camosun.ca/openhouse.
New Kids’ Workshop Series The Greater Victoria Compost Education Centre has added the Gardeneers workshop series to its roster of children’s programs. Starting in May, kids can get involved once a month in the teaching garden for Saturday adventures. Staff and kids will be planting, growing, harvesting, and, of course, eating. Themes will focus on composting, gardening, and producing food in an urban setting. The first workshop, Incredible Edibles, is for children aged 9-11 and will take place on Saturday May 4 from 12:15-1:45 pm. Participants will develop a connection to their food through hands-on explorations of soil ecology and plant biology. Each child will bring home their own edible container garden and all participants will work together to prepare and eat a dish from our gardens. Dates: One Saturday per month, full schedule to be announced soon. Ages: 6-8 and 9-11, depending on the workshop. Cost: $5-$10 sliding scale, no one turned away. Location: Greater Victoria Compost Education Centre, 1216 North Park Street. To register, please visit compostkids. eventbrite.ca or phone 250-386-9676.
“A stunning documentary that fills the screen with millions of orange and black butterflies...” “… reminiscent of March of the Penguins in terms of its ability to tug at heartstrings… this miniature underdog story manages to take on human scale” 4 out of 4 stars
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Opens May 17 in conjunction with the new Royal BC Museum exhibit Race to the End of the Earth
“It’s a detective story, a love story and an action flick. And it’s about butterflies.”
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Fifth Annual Butterfly Ball The Queen Alexandra Foundation for Children (QAF) presents a sparkling gala celebrating daughters and their dads (granddads are welcome, too). All girls ages 6-16 and their dads or father figures are invited to attend the fourth annual Butterfly Ball on May 4 from 4:30-9:30pm at the Marriott Hotel Inner Harbour, 728 Humboldt Street. The evening includes a sumptuous dinner buffet, silent and live auctions of items for all ages, and dancing until 9:30pm. Dress to impress and enjoy a wonderful evening in support of Island children and youth with special needs and their families. The Butterfly Ball is an elegant fundraiser to help QAF provide programs, services and initiatives for children and youth. Tickets are $125 per dad and $75 per daughter and include a partial tax receipt. Proceeds go to Children’s Health Foundation of Vancouver Island. Space is limited. For information and tickets, phone 250519-6955 or visit childrenshealthvi.org.
Carnation Campaign On May 9-11, hundreds of volunteers in Victoria and Duncan will take part in a tradition that began in 1976: the Multiple Sclerosis Carnation Campaign. The reason is simple: to end multiple sclerosis. MS Carnation Campaign HOPE volunteers will show their dedication to finding a cure by selling carnations at several locations throughout Victoria and Duncan—on street corners, in malls and at other public spaces. In B.C. and the Yukon, volunteers expect to sell over 20,000 blooms to raise funds for research and provide free supports and services in our communities. Watch for your opportunity to exchange a donation for a carnation, or you can donate online at www.mssociety.ca. The carnation is Canada’s oldest and most recognized symbol of hope in the search for a cure for multiple sclerosis. Many of those Canadians living with multiple sclerosis are mothers. Others, either children or adults, have mothers affected by this disease, and women are diagnosed with MS three times as often as men. That’s why every year the MS Carnation Campaign takes place on Mother’s Day weekend in May. May is also MS Awareness Month. For a list of activities taking place this month and for more information, please visit www.mssociety.ca.
The Magical, Musical, Mother’s Day Garden Tour The Victoria Conservatory of Music’s www.IslandParent.ca
31st Annual Mother’s Day Garden Tour takes place on May 11 and 12. Eight wonderfully creative gardeners have opened their private oases for this tour only, and two public gardens offer amenities including an opportunity for a lunch stop. At many of the gardens, strollers will enjoy musical accompaniment by Conservatory artists and are invited to converse with the on-site master gardeners. A plant sale and silent auction will also take place over the weekend. Early ticket purchase is recommended for this event. The self-guided tour includes gardens from Oak Bay to James Bay, North Saanich to the Uplands. Participants will step inside intriguing, unexpected private paradises among which they will find a nondescript lot in the middle of suburbia transformed with imagination and ingenuity, a garden filled with native plants, Garry Oak trees and blackberry-eating miniature donkeys, a writer’s retreat, and more. Every garden on the tour holds delightful surprises and gardening inspiration. A description of each of the gardens on this year’s tour is available at www.vcm. bc.ca/victoria-garden-tour. Full information access to each garden is provided on the admission ticket. Tickets for the two-day garden tour are $30 and are on sale at Thrifty Foods, most gardening stores, and at the Victoria Conservatory of Music, 900 Johnson Street. Tickets are also available online through the Conservatory website and by phone at 250-386-5311. All proceeds go to support the Victoria Conservatory of Music.
Mother’s Day Paint-In & Craft Fair at Royal Roads On Sunday May 12 from 10am-4pm, you can drop by the 18th annual Mother’s Day Paint-In and Craft Fair at Royal Roads University, located in beautiful Hatley Park National Historic Site, and experience a community outdoor festival where more than 3,000 visitors are expected. Enjoy local artisans who will feature hand-sculpted and painted glass art, organic seasonings, fudge, jewelry, pottery, garden stepping stones and home grown plants, among other things. Sparkle Shack is on site with extreme face painting, air brush body painting, and tatoos. Learn more from community leaders who will share Colwood’s heritage and community initiatives, power smart conservation tips, and fun interactive activities. Along with the work of local artists and craftspeople, School District 62 and West
“When one tugs at a single thing in Nature, he finds it attached to the rest of the world.” John Muir Allow your child to grow and learn in the Natural environment provided on our 2 acre play yard. We support and practise with a strong Reggio Emilia influence, and a child centred curriculum. We have space available for September… so register early to secure your spot. Our philosophies are based on “learning outdoors in nature through experimenting”…we are the original OUTDOOR Daycare you have asked for!
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Pregnant? Pregnancy is a state of health. Midwives recognize what an extraordinary time this is in your life and we are available to support you through your childbearing year.
Covered by Your BC Health Care BC’s Medical Services Plan pays for midwifery care, including in-home check-ups in labour and after you’ve had your baby. You can self-refer to a midwife.
Quality Care Studies show that midwifery clients have lower rates of episiotomies, infection, Caesarean sections, forceps and vacuum deliveries and newborns that require resuscitation.
Choice of Hospital or Home Birth Continuity of Care Comprehensive Care Breastfeeding Education & Support We would be pleased to schedule an appointment to answer your questions about midwifery care.
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IPM Notes Shore Arts Council will host a student fine art exhibit. Other highlights will include a variety of family entertainment, main-stage performances, children’s craft station and complimentary access to Hatley Castle and the gardens, with the opportunity to join a guided tour of Hatley Castle. The museum and gift shop will also be open in the lower level of Hatley Castle. For more information, visit www.hatleypark.ca.
CPS Art Contest: Friendly Advice from Canadian Kids The theme for this year’s art contest is the importance of friendships. The Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS) is asking Canadian children and youth to consider what it means to be a good friend, and why friends are so important. Young artists can enter the contest with a drawing or painting that illustrates how friends and friendships keep them happy and healthy. Participants can win one of four Chapters gift cards, and 12 pieces will be chosen to appear in the 2014 CPS member calendar. To be eligible for the early bird gift card
draw, entries must be received by May 21, 2013. Final deadline is June 28, 2013. The contest is open to all children and youth under the age of 18 who live in Canada. For full contest details, download the contest entry form, contact 613-5269397, ext. 234, or email lindsayc@cps.ca.
Selkirk Waterfront Festival Be captivated by the fun, food and festivities of the 2013 Selkirk Waterfront Festival on Saturday May 25 from 10am-3pm. See beautiful works from talented artisans as you wander the vendors’ market, tantalize your tastebuds with a variety of flavourful foods, dance and sway to the rhythm of various entertainers including Victoria jazz and blues singer Maureen Washington, and thrill your wild side with incredible carnival rides in the family fun zone. The international café will include traditional cooking from around the world. Authentic Italian pizza baked onsite in a wood-fired oven, Jamaican patties and Belgian waffles will all be available. There’s face painting, balloon twists, a tattoo station and a craft zone. Kids, families, and folks of all ages will have fun at this annual free, family-friendly event that takes place along the Selkirk Waterfront. For a map, entertainment schedule, and
Join us at ICE Victoria for a week of summer hockey school! • Our hockey camps are a great way for players to learn to love the game. • We have the smallest group size and most hours of ice time than any other school! • We’ve partnered with Sport Ball to provide a great experience for all our little players.
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other information, phone the Burnside Gorge Community Centre at 250-388-5251 or visit www.burnsidegorge.ca.
Island Children’s Festival Come celebrate children, families, and our community at the 2nd annual Island Children’s Festival on May 25 from noon5pm. Set in the idyllic countryside at the Island Montessori school grounds (5575 West Saanich Road), the festival features a unique program of children’s entertainment and activities focused on health, sustainability, and community engagement. Fred Penner, acclaimed family entertainer and two-time Juno winner for “Best Children’s Album,” will be headlining the festival. The festival will also feature children’s singer and songwriter, Shé, a mad science demonstration, face painting, arts and crafts, games, local food, and much more. The Island Children’s Festival proudly supports the Island Education Access Fund, which provides financial assistance to lowincome families and children with special needs by helping them access support and education based on a model of caring, respect, and inclusion. Tickets are $10 and are free for children five years old and under. They are available at all Megson FitzPatrick locations. Tickets are limited so hurry and get yours today! For more information, visit www.islandchildrensfestival.com.
Pole Painting in Fernwood Take part in the 2nd annual Fernwood Pole Painting Project all day on Saturday May 25. You, your kids, your friends, and your neighbours are invited to paint a telephone pole as a permanent art piece for the Fernwood neighbourhood. Help cover the poles throughout Fernwood with colour and designs. There will be a free Celebration BBQ in Fernwood Square from noon-2pm. Pick up your Pole Painting Kit—only 100 available—containing instructions, paint, signage, and more, at 1313 Gladstone Avenue during the week of May 20-24 between 9am-5pm. You are welcome to use these materials or bring your own (for example, brushes, smock, etc.). Visit www. fernwoodnrg.ca to find a “how to guide” for pole painting or to find out more about a design and stencil making workshop. If you would like to paint a pole, or touch up poles that have already been painted, email polepainting@fernwoodnrg.ca.
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World Partnership Walk For 27 years, on the last Sunday in May—this year on May 26—hundreds of families will make their way to the Cameron Bandshell in Beacon Hill Park to participate in the 28th annual World Partnership Walk, Canada’s largest event in support of international development. Registration begins at 10am and opening ceremonies commence at 11am. After a few words from guest of honour, Dr. David Turpin, president and vice-chancellor of the University of Victoria, and a warm up with Vicki Waters Jazzercise, the group will make its way along Dallas Road to Clover Point, ending the round trip with a hot lunch and toe-tapping entertainment by the Vic High Band.
Your Local Consignment Stores Sailor Jack Family Consignment Store • Stylish infant, kids & teen clothing • Toys & equipment • Maternity & women’s wear • New baby shoes, carriers and accessories 424 Craigflower Rd, Victoria 250-382-5225 www.sailorjack.ca
At Kinderbeez you will always find: • A huge selection of high quality, gently used children’s and maternity items including toys, books, shoes, clothing, furniture, strollers and more. • A great variety of popular new brands including BOB, Britax, Melissa and Doug, TUFFO, Sophie, Amber teething and more
Kinderbeez Children’s Consignment Store • New and gently used name brand children’s and maternity items • Toys, books, shoes, clothing, furniture, strollers and more • BOB, Britax, Sophie, Melissa and Doug and more One hundred per cent of the funds raised are used to help communities in the poorest regions of Asia and Africa with initiatives in education and literacy, agriculture, clean water, and health care. Families in Victoria are an important part of this solution to global poverty. This year’s Tots and Tykes team will be led by Eliott Majcher. Children aged eight and under can join Eliott’s team and help raise awareness and funds to help tots and tykes in Africa and Asia. A special children’s area will feature balloons, and face-painting provided by Par-T-Perfect. Sportball will also be onsite keeping everyone active. The World Partnership Walk is a green initiative, so bring your water bottle, and help make this walk environmentally friendly. For more information and to register at no cost, visit www.worldpartnershipwalk.com.
Bike to Work Week Bike to Work Week (BTWW), from May 27-June 2, encourages and promotes the use of the bicycle as transportation to work. BTWW is for everyone—from cycling pros to brand new riders—so tell your family and friends. Join the 19th annual Greater www.IslandParent.ca
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Baja Rosi’s Consignment Cabana The place to spice up your wardrobe! • Victoria’s Largest and Most Fun Consignment Experience! • Hundreds of new arrivals…DAILY! • Clothing for women 13-93, including PLUS sizes
• A bright, organized, inspirational and clean shopping environment. • Friendly, knowledgeable staff who will always greet you and your children with a smile. • A child friendly environment. Our store is designed to allow your kids freedom from the “no touch” rules, allowing you to shop peacefully in a family respectful surrounding. • A sense of community. We are a 100% mom run, Island owned business. Community is extremely important to us. We have dedicated ourselves to providing the absolute best in customer service, and community awareness. • New seasonal and fresh stock daily.
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• Playroom for children
• Baby equipment & furniture rentals • New products include dress up, ballet clothes, rainwear, sunwear, shoes, toys, carriers, cloth diapers, and much more
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IPM Notes Victoria Bike to Work Week. With events planned throughout the week, there are many celebration stations, great food, lots of fun, and thousands of dollars in prizes. How do you win prizes? You need to be registered on a team or fill in a prize ballot form at a celebration station. Prizes are drawn daily, Monday to Friday during Bike to Work Week, as well as afterwards. For information on BTWW registration, bike safety, and for other BTWW resources, please visit www.biketowork.ca/victoria.
Grow a Row Lots of people are growing food in their backyards and in community gardens. There are stages in every garden when there are simply too many tomatoes to eat. Meanwhile, there are plenty of people in our community who don’t have access to this sort of wonderful fresh produce. The easy solution is to distribute extra produce from local gardens to local people who would like to eat it. Last year, Grow a Row received more than 1,600 kgs of donated food from gardeners and farmers in and around Victoria. This year’s goal is for 2,000 kgs.
The Grow a Row project allows gardeners—experienced or beginners—to help others in an innovative way by donating an extra row of produce from their gardens. Gardeners will have access to weekly dropoff locations where staff and volunteers will weigh all the fruit and vegetables and give it to local transition centres such as Our Place Society, school food programs and community food banks. The program also allows beginner gardeners to learn how to garden organically through workshops and skill-sharing with the Grow A Row community. Check out the Grow A Row website and blog for updates on drop-off locations, free workshops, and special events at www. vicgrowarow.org.
New Guide to User-Friendly Trails A new publication of easy-to-use trails to walk, wheel and hike in the outdoors is now available in Greater Victoria. A Guide to User-Friendly Trails is a pilot project developed through a partnership between CRD Regional Parks, the Intermunicipal Advisory Committee on Disability Issues (IACDI) and West Shore Parks & Recreation. The guide contains 48 pages of full color photographs, maps and descriptions of userfriendly trails within the Capital Regional
Danielle’s Paint-your-own Pottery and Glass Fusing Studio * Pro-D Fun Days * March Break Specials * * Classes and Workshops * * Birthday Parties * Corporate Events * Diva Nights * * Summer Camps * Drop-ins always welcome… no experience necessary! 129-735 Goldstream Ave Langford, BC V9B 2X4 250-590-7949
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Helping Hands Doula Services Supporting the new family through birth and the early postpartum period
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DONA trained Birth and Postpartum Doula Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator
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District parks and the West Shore municipalities. The guide highlights trails that are welcoming to all ages and individuals with diverse levels of mobility and endurance. It provides visitors with trail profiles and information to enable them to determine which parks and amenities to visit based on their own levels of ability. Also, A Guide to User-Friendly Trails highlights the benefits of being active in the outdoors. It showcases local photographers’ images of beautiful landscapes, native species and local residents on the trails. Pick up A Guide to User-Friendly Trails at Capital Regional District offices, recreation centres, and Westshore municipal halls. It is available to download at www. westshorerecreation.ca/userfriendlytrails.
2013 Ready, Set, Solve Program After spending two months developing real-world solutions for local governments, institutions and non-profit organizations, more than 60 students from Royal Roads University, Camosun College and the University of Victoria celebrated their work at the second annual Ready, Set, Solve award ceremony in April. Ready, Set, Solve is a program hosted by the Capital Regional District (CRD), with support from BC Hydro that matches teams of students with organizations to solve local sustainability challenges. The program offers a chance for post-secondary students to gain practical experience while supporting organizations that are taking action on climate change. First place was awarded to a team of students from Camosun College that created an inventory of bicycle infrastructure and mapped cycling routes in the Township of Esquimalt. Second place was awarded to a Royal Roads team that developed a youth climate action summer camp for the City of Victoria’s Parks & Recreation Department. Third place was secured by a team from UVic that designed a natural outdoor playground for the Oaklands Community Centre. All 18 teams took home prizes and new experiences to add to their resumes. “The Ready, Set, Solve Program offers a direct benefit to organizations in the CRD, but the lessons learned can be applied in communities across the province,” says Eric Beevor-Potts, Community Investment Specialist with BC Hydro. Each organization will now start implementing the proposed solutions. A summary of each challenge and team results can be found at www.crd.bc.ca/ readysetsolve.• www.kidsinvictoria.com
Yo! Mama Top 10 Mom Blogs
according to Babble.com
Wisdom, Tips, Advice & Ramblings
“I always imagined when I was a kid that adults had some kind of inner toolbox full of shiny tools: the saw of discernment, the hammer of wisdom, the sandpaper of patience. But then when I grew up I found that life handed you these rusty bent old tools— friendships, prayer, conscience, honesty—and said ‘do the best you can with these, they will have to do.’ And mostly, against all odds, they do.” Anne Lamott
1. The Bloggess (Best Written, Funniest), Jenny Lawson (thebloggess.com) 2. Moosh in Indy (Most Confessional), Casey Mullens (mooshinindy.com) 3. Design Mom (Best Design), Gabrielle Blair (www.designmom.com) 4. Dooce, (Most Controversial), Heather Armstrong (dooce.com) 5. Girls Gone Child, Rebecca Woolf (girlsgonechild.net) 6. Black and Married with Kids, Lamar and Ronnie Tyler (blackandmarriedwithkids.com) 7. Mom 101, Liz Gumbinner (www.mom-101.com) 8. Momastery, Glennon Doyle Melton (momastery.com/blog) 9. Motherlode, KJ Dell’Antonia (parenting.blogs.nytimes.com) 10. Edenland, Eden Riley (www.edenriley.com)
Mother’s Day: Canada’s THIRD LARGEST greeting card holiday— following Valentine’s Day & Christmas—with over nine million cards expected to be sold this year in Canada, according to Hallmark Canada. Why You’re Never Failing as a Mother: You are in the trenches when you have a baby. To the untrained eye it seems pretty straightforward and easy—you feed them, you bathe them, you pick them up when they cry—but it’s more than that. It’s perpetual motion with a generous layer of guilt and self-doubt spread on top, and that takes its toll. Feeling like you also need to keep on top of scrapbooking, weight loss, up-cycled onesies, handprints, crock pot meals, car seat recalls, sleeping patterns, poo consistency, pro-biotic supplements, swimming lessons, electromagnetic fields in your home and television exposure is like trying to knit on a rollercoaster—it’s f*cking hard. From Why You’re Never Failing as a Mother byAmy Morrison on Huffington Post www.huffingtonpost.com.
Flickering bright lights; sound and stories called “movies.” They still exist, right? From Haiku Mama (because 17 syllables is all you have time to read) by Kari Anne Roy. Quirk Books, 2006.
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Mom’s Salted Caramel Brownies 1 cup butter 2 cups sugar 1 tsp vanilla extract 1⁄2 tsp salt 1 tsp good quality sea salt
4 one-ounce squares of dark chocolate 4 eggs 1 cup all-purpose flour 1⁄4 cup caramel topping
1. Preheat oven to 350˚F and grease a 9”x13” baking pan. 2. In a 3-quart saucepan over very low heat, melt butter and chocolate, stirring the mixture constantly. Remove from heat, and stir the sugar into the chocolate. Allow the mixture to cool slightly. 3. Beat in the eggs one at a time, mixing well after each, then stir in the vanilla. Combine the flour and 1⁄2 tsp salt in a separate bowl, then stir into the chocolate mixture. 4. Spread the batter evenly into the prepared pan. Drizzle the caramel atop the batter, and use a knife to swirl over the surface. Sprinkle sea salt over the caramel. 5. Bake for 30 to 35 minutes. Brownies are done when a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Cool in pan on wire rack. (From A Cup of Jo, joannagoddard.blogspot.ca)
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or some new parents, it might be a yoga class, for others a play group or maybe a local café for a cup of tea. Wherever “it” is for you, that place where you find a connection to other new parents can be as important to your well-being as love is to your baby’s. Here are a few places where you can meet other new parents.
Recreation/Community Centres Most centres offer free or nominally priced programs for new parents. Parent & Tot Drop-In (Burnside Gorge Community Centre 250-388-5251, Pearkes Recreation Centre 250-475-5400, Saanich Neighbourhood Place 250-360-1148, Military Family Resource Centre 250-363-2640); Mother Goose (Burnside Gorge, Fernwood); Dad’s Drop-In (Saanich Neighbourhood Place) are just some of the programs listed in spring leisure guides.
Exercise Classes Whatever your preferred method of exercise, chances are you’ll be able to find a class that’s geared toward new parents. From pre- and post-natal yoga classes (Helga Beer, 250-370-0464, Iyengar Yoga Centre, 250-386-9642, Mothering Touch Centre, 250-595-4905, Moksana Yoga, 250-3852105), to Parent & Tot swimming at your recreation centre, drop-in Yoga, Stretch & Dance with Babies and Toddlers at Mothering Touch (250-595-4905), baby-friendly boot camp at Life Force Systems (250-3806947), and Frontrunner’s Running Moms conditioning program for parents with children in strollers (250-382-8181), these classes will help you get in shape and meet other parents.
Libraries The Greater Victoria Public Library offers programs for babies and toddlers and their adults. Programs are free and drop-in. At Baby Time (for babies 0-15 months and caregiver) you’ll learn songs, rhymes, and fingerplays to use with your baby. At Toddler Time (for toddlers 16-35 months and caregiver) you’ll hear stories, songs and rhymes, and see puppets. For children under 3 and their adults, try a Family Storytime. For more info, visit www.gvpl.ca or phone 10
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your local branch. For library programs in other Island communities, check the Vancouver Island Regional Library website at virl.bc.ca.
Parks/Playgrounds With flowers blooming and temperatures getting warmer, May is a beautiful month to be outside, so load up your baby or young child and stroll on down to the park. Try joining Saanich Park’s free Preschoolers in the Park program (www.saanich.ca/parkrec/ parks/parks/free.html) on Friday mornings from 10-11:30am for playground time, circle time, and a guided nature/urban walk in neighbourhood parks. Or take part in the Nature Play Group (for ages 1-5) where kids can engage in free play in a natural setting—both at Saxe Point (at the pedestrian entrance near Fraser and Munro) every Tuesday from 9:30-11:30am and at Highrock Park (at the entrance near Cairn and Old Esquimalt Road) every Thursday, 9:30-11:30am. For information, phone 250-475-5408.
Neighbourhood Houses Call the Neighbourhood House in your area to find out about drop-in programs and other opportunities for you and your child. Beacon Community Services (various locations) 250-656-0134, Blanshard Community Centre 250-388-7696, Burnside Gorge Community Centre 250-388-5251, Esquimalt Neighbourhood House 250-3852635, Fernwood Community Centre 250381-1552, James Bay Community Project 250-388-7844, Military Family Resource Centre 250-363-2640, Saanich Neighbourhood Place 250-360-1148, Sooke Family Resource Society 250-642-5152. Most drop-in programs are free or cost a nominal fee.
Support for New Families The Mothering Touch Centre at 975 Fort Street offers Parent & Babies drop-in sessions 3 times a week: Tuesday afternoons 1-2:30pm for newborns-4 months, Wednesday afternoons 1-2:30pm for babies 4-9 months; Thursday afternoons 1-2:30pm for babies and toddlers 9 months and up. There’s also a Pregnancy Happy Hour (and www.kidsinvictoria.com
a half!) for pregnant mothers only, on Friday afternoons from 5-6:30pm. $2. Phone 250595-4905 or visit www.motheringtouch.ca.
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Online Connections Victoria’s active online communities offer a great way to connect with other parents, find out about what’s going on in your community, and discover local resources. At www.kidsinvictoria.com you can register to access the KIV community where you can join in or start discussions on any topic. For activities and events of interest to families throughout Vancouver Island, check out the Family Events on harbourliving.ca.
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Support Circles Create your own (invite a few new parents and their babies over for coffee or tea and chit chat) or join a group that’s already formed. For example, Fernwood Community Centre’s Parent & Baby drop-in playgroup offers a relaxed setting where parents can nurture their babies (up to three years old) through parent discussion, music and storytelling. Mondays, 9:30-11:30am. Coffee, juice and snacks are provided. Suggested donation of $2. Phone 250-381-1552.
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Go for a Stroll Meet up with a few new moms and/or dads at the stroller-friendly Gorge Waterway, a perfect place for a leisurely stroll with playgrounds along the way and gorgeous scenery. Or there’s the mostly flat gravel loop around Rithet’s Bog in Saanich. For a few hills, and a tougher slog for the stroller thanks to the wood chip trail, take the loop around Cedar Hill Golf Course where you’ll find beautiful views of the Olympic mountains and a duck pond full of well-fed though seemingly always hungry ducks. If you’re looking for a quiet and scenic paved route, try the Songhees, starting either at Westbay Marina or the Delta Ocean Point resort. If you’re too tired to push the stroller back to your starting point, climb aboard the harbour ferry and boat back instead.•
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hroughout my twenties and thirties, I was able to gain and lose pounds with the best of them. But, I was always proud that the front part of my belly stayed flat and muscled…a nod to the thousands of sit ups I did as a gymnast when I was a girl. But, having babies, particularly the twins, changed my flat belly forever. Like someone who has lost a hundred pounds, the skin does not go back again. My stomach hangs low. I can gather my belly in my hands, moving and shaping it like the sweetbread dough I make with my mother at Christmas. And then there are the stretch marks covering the whole front of my midsection. They are a hundred rivulets of red rain streaming down a window, pooling at the sill of my C-section scar in half-inch wide scars that look, to me, like burns. When I blow dry my hair after a shower, I look at my body in the mirror, and the familiar internal conversation begins. First there is the still present feeling of surprise. That’s me? Then comes the uncontrollable feeling of disgust constricting my throat. But on its heels the thought: wait a minute, these scars are sacred, they represent one of the most significant stories within my story, something I don’t want to forget, and there, right there is evidence of my own rebirth into something more. But I hardly take a breath before my hands are moving to my stomach to stretch it out flat and make it look like a long-gone me. If I could just change this one part… About six months ago, a moment of pure grace happened to me in the middle of one of these internal push-pulls. I was drying my hair and my three-year-old son, Ben, walked into the bathroom. He played with the lipsticks in the drawer, he asked about my eye make-up remover, and then he looked at me appraisingly and said, “Your belly is funny.” It all began to rise in me: the initial feelings of body shame so deeply programmed in me by my culture, the thoughts I want to feel about the sacredness of my body, and a memory of playing in the leaves with Steve and the boys last fall. We were tickling and rolling in the leaves and one of the boys tickled me and said, “Daddy’s belly is hard and yours is squishy.” “Yes,” I said, “That is right.” But, I had thought: I don’t think I want to play tickle again. This time, my three-year-old son is standing in front of me, saying, “Your belly is
funny,” and the magic happens. I stood in a place where all the times of my life were present—past, future, and this boy standing in front of me now. Images and sensations of those I love flashed through my mind. I experienced the warmth of Steve’s broad back against mine in bed and the pleasure of recognizing his gait 200 hundred yards before his face comes into focus. I saw the scar under my father’s eye where the horse kicked him. I saw the reading glasses perched on my sister’s distinct elegant English nose as she holds her pen in her long straight fingers making bold careful shapes. And, I saw my own mother putting on make-up after a shower with a towel wrapped around her head while I played with her lipsticks. The curve of her hips, the dough of her soft belly and the silken freckles and cream tone of her skin is beautiful beyond measure. And I understood something. We journey from a seed in our mother’s womb until we are planted in the grave, with ever-changing bodies. Time scratches out its passage across my looks and the looks of all those I love. All our lives, our bodies manifest evidence of an existence marked by gains and losses. We gain and lose pounds, muscle, bruises, teeth, and hair. We lose elasticity and gain wrinkles. We gain scars. Our bodies process and carry our experiences, not without complaint, but with an unfailing perseverance that is worthy of both gratitude and honour. And one of the very great privileges of this life is to cherish the bodies of those I love through all their gains and losses for as long as I get to have them. We do not get to have those we love forever. In that final losing, every turn of the head and expression of the face becomes poignantly precious. So, may I have eyes to see them now. My sister, who hates finding hair in her sink, in her food, on her body to an almost phobic degree, told me a story from the time she walked her dear friend through the months of a fast moving terminal cancer. When the time came for her friend to get her last haircut, my sister was there. She stood close, touching her friend’s shoulders and head, catching strands of falling hair in her hands, letting it lay all over her clothes. Goodbye beautiful hair that I have loved on the head of my dear friend, she thought. I will not miss this moment.
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So, in the moment when Ben stood in front of me and the magic happened, I spoke not what I should, not what I wished to believe, but what I deeply felt for once to be true. “Is my belly kind of squishy? Kind of soft?” I ask. “Yes!” he says. “Do you see these red roads on my belly? Are you curious about those?” I ask. “Yes!” he says. “Do you want to know what those feel like?” I ask. “Yes!” he says. Then I take his little finger and trace it along one of my stretch marks and ask, “Do you know what these are?” “No,” he says. “These are the lines of a story. Do you know what the story is about?” “What?” he asks. “These lines tell the story of Isaac and Ben and Elijah. They tell about how you grew inside me and how I stretched to make room for you because I was so glad you would be my boy. Aren’t they beautiful?” “Yes!” he answers. The healing in this story is not that I have wholly accepted my body or that I will never again attempt to change it. It is that now when rejection rises in me against my body—how it looks, how it feels—I have a fuller answer. I can call up the sounds, smells, movements, scars, wrinkles, and dimples of my dear ones and look at myself through the lens of that incomparable beauty. This gives me access to a programming deeper than my culture that reminds me that my being here in this world in a body matters. The touch of my hand on a shoulder, my hug, the soothing sound of my voice, and the warmth in my eyes are irreplaceable to those who carry me in their hearts. Our physical presence here matters, no matter its shape. And so, sweet Ben, my desire for you goes far beyond that which I have caught myself striving for in the looking glass. Here it is: May you have the great gift of intimately knowing and loving the body of another through all the changes of life, and having your body known and loved from head to toe, in return. And someday, when you stand in front of the mirror with your chosen one, and she is trying to lift her breasts back into place…or you are looking in the mirror and trying to flatten your own belly into a younger shape…remember what I am teaching you now. It is the stories and the cherishing that make us beautiful. May you catch each falling moment in your hands and kiss it as it goes. Mary Martin Wiens’ essay, “These Are the Lines of a Story,” reprinted with permission, originally appeared on Steve Wiens’ blog, The Actual Pastor at www.stevewiens.com.
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Books for the Maternally Inclined Thanks to our intrepid band of reviewer mamas—Shirley Broback, Krista Henry, Jenn Roberts-Hall Lori-Ann Schuck, Lori Webber—who sought a quiet couple of minutes/ hours here and there to tirelessly, uh, okay, gleefully read, and sometimes re-read, the following assortment of motherhood books.
You’re Ruining My Life!: Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting by Jennifer Kolari In You’re Ruining My Life! (Penguin Group Canada, 2012) Jennifer Kolari presents a formula for communicating successfully with our teens, demonstrating her many years of experience counselling teens and families. With warmth, humour and understanding, she offers support to parents who are willing to change our own behaviour and learn to give our teens the unconditional love we so easily gave them as infants. Through her uncomplicated descriptions of brain science, we learn that teens are navigating with an underdeveloped frontal lobe, making them prone to impulsive, emotionally charged reactions. They need us to empathize with them, bathing their brains in oxytocin (the bonding hormone we were flooded with when we gave birth); changing their brain chemistry so we can access the rational part. From the basis of attachment parenting, and using case studies from her own therapy practice, Kolari instructs us to follow three steps: First, CALM (Connect, Affect, Listen, Mirror). Second, present the problem as our adult brain sees it. And finally, together find a solution. Kolari’s powerful advice is explained in a suitable format for a busy parent’s schedule: conversational sections that can be read in short bursts. If your children are nearing their teens, in crisis or not, this book could be a game changer for your family. LAS
Parenting: Illustrated With Crappy Pictures by Amber Dusick One word: Hysterical! Amber Dusick has written a book for real parents. She doesn’t attempt to make parenthood glamourous or try to teach us how to do it “right.” She understands sleepless nights, traveling with kids, and poopy diapers. She understand picky eaters, sick children (sick husbands!) and kids who yell, “Penis!” at the pizza man. She understands and she doesn’t judge. Amber has made mistakes and shares them
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with us. Originally a mommy blog, Parenting: Illustrated With Crappy Pictures does read similar to a blog post with simple stories and crappy pictures, but I found that to be part of the appeal. Busy parents are, well, busy, and this book is a fast read. My husband read the book and laughed constantly. My mother-in-law came for a visit and giggled through a few chapters. Who do I recommend this to? Any parent who is having a bad day and wants to know they aren’t alone. Any parent who just needs a break, a time out with a good book. And any parent who just needs a good laugh because, honestly, sometimes parenting just isn’t funny. JRH
Mind Blowing Sex: A Woman’s Guide by Diana Cage The popularity of the 50 Shades book series indicates that many women either lust for a little more adventure in life—or at least a little more adventurous reading. The beginning of Mind Blowing Sex: A Woman’s Guide (Seal Press, 2012) discusses the history and myths about female sexuality, body image, confidence and communication with one’s partner. You’ll find tips for spicing things up in a variety of ways for couples (and all by yourself, if you know what I mean). The author touches on the troubles and solutions for getting in the mood and what to do about dry spells in your relationship. For example, the book lays out “five kisses to try.” While the book is geared to women, it doesn’t specifically speak to moms. Moms can have certain specific areas of concern, especially in the early years, that I would have liked to have seen addressed. But there are plenty of ideas and information to make the book a good read and a fun topic for conversation. Sexual health survey results show that this aspect of our relationships declines after having kids. But we also know that keeping the passion alive is part of a happy, healthy relationship. Reading this book together with your partner and a glass of wine might be a fun way to re-ignite that spark. SB
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French Twist: An American Mom’s Experiment in Parisian Parenting by Catherine Crawford Catherine Crawford, an American mom in Brooklyn, NY, noticed that her French friends had children that were better behaved than her own two girls. So she asked French mothers (and some fathers) what she was doing wrong and what they were doing right. The result is a mostly clever but rambling book about differing parenting styles: American vs. French. The lessons she learned from her French compatriots were grounded in basic common sense. She was taught that it is damaging to hover over your children á la helicopter parents. Was her “experiment” a success? Yes, if you think having a 21⁄2 hour dinner at a restaurant with well-behaved children is the culmination of good French parenting. French parents simply want to educate their children and teach them appropriate manners. In Crawford’s endless examples of American parenting, the parents and children come off as whiny and spoiled. As a parenting “how to,” I think this book fails, but Crawford does shine a light on how childcentric our North American culture is. This would be a fantastic book club selection, sure to stimulate debate. LW
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Cheryl Mutch, M.D. In September, my kid’s lunches were exciting and edible. By May, well, not so much. I needed some ideas to last me until the end of the school year! Good Food to Go (Random House Canada, 2011) won me over immediately. Any cookbook that acknowledges food allergies and offers substitutions is worthy of praise from those of us who have nut- or other foodallergic kids. No nut butters in this book. Instead, sunflower seed butter (a favourite in our house) is suggested in a number of recipes. Thank you, authors! With an eco-friendly and health focus, the book covers packed school lunches, baked goods, after-school snacks, and meal plans. The ideas fit with how we like to eat in our house: healthily but without deprivation. I immersed myself in the sandwich chapter, finding inspiration to ditch the bread for tortillas, flat breads and pitas. I even tucked some organic greens in my kindergartner’s cheese and turkey roll up. The best advice this book offers is to talk to your child about why their lunch isn’t being eaten. I’m off to buy the ingredients for the “best homemade granola bars ever.” KH
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Braving
Colleen Adrian Janine Fernandes-Hayden
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y mother always said to me, “The way you treat your mother is the way your daughters will treat you.” I never gave her refrain much thought until now. I hope it is not completely true. My mother and I would both agree that we have not had the best of relationships. I have often insisted this is because we are so very different, but deep down I wonder if we are more similar than I’d like to believe. This is why my mother’s words worry me. And with three daughters of my own, my concern is understandable. While the drama, both real and potential, fills the space of my own microcosm, I take some comfort in the fact that my mother-daughter woes are not unique, after all. Why would Pixar take a chance with its movie “Brave” if it felt that the subject matter did not hold universal appeal? I surveyed my female friends—something I often do to gain insight and perspective on family and parenting—and found I am not alone. No topic within my circle has ever generated so much emotional response. I’m not sure what the key is to a happy mother-daughter relationship. I sometimes think that perhaps, had I been a more compliant daughter or, had my mother been more independent in her own identity, life would have been easier for the two of us. But instead, my mother and I fall into the strong-willed daughter vs. overmothering mother category of relationship. I can already see my daughters following in my footsteps. So now, as the mother, how do I find a balance between the two extremes of isolation and enmeshment?
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Hats Off to Wholeness. I love hats. I have a bin-full, ranging in colour and style, some sophisticated and conservative, some youthful, and others just plain fun. These days, however, there never seem to be enough occasions to wear them all. I tend to default to my comfortable newsboy cap, day in and day out. It is a metaphor that sometimes describes my life. Being a mother can be all consuming and at times I lumber on, hiding under my “Mama” hat while the other hats that I wear—wife, friend, learner, dreamer—become musty from lack of use. I have come to realize that while I love my children and family dearly, and while they make up the best and biggest part of my life, they are not my whole world. These days, I try to carve out space that allows me to be all that I am and/or to just be myself. I acknowledge that I am lucky to be able to do so. I take the time to nurture my friendships. I prioritize the pursuit of my own interests and fitness. Sometimes, I feel guilty and wonder if I’m being selfish, but I know that if I lose the fullness of my identity, I cannot be of service to my family, nor can I be the best of role models. I suspect that it is a mind set quite different than that of my mother’s generation. But looking ahead, when my family is grown, I want to continue to feel purposeful in life as a person and not just as a mother. I want to have close friends who are there with me as I navigate my ever-evolving emotional world. I don’t want to depend solely on my family for my physical and mental needs. Above all, I don’t want to have regrets and feel that I need to live my life vicariously through my daughters. I wonder how my mother’s and my relationship would have looked had she been given, or allowed herself, the opportunity to follow her own passions. Of course it’s never too late, but as I have found with my hat collection, the longer they sit in the box, the more I lack the confidence to show them off. Cutting the Cord. My 18-month-old daughter is overcoming her separation anxiety. It has been a struggle—for me as I grapple between letting go of my last baby while reclaiming some independence, and for her as she learns to live her own life and trust a world that is bigger than just me. It is a scenario not unlike that between my mother and I. In both cases, separation despite the anxiety, has to occur in order for growth. Struggling to achieve a healthy sense of detachment with my mother and developwww.IslandParent.ca
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ing intimate independence require much mindfulness on my part. My recipe is guilt free no-strings-attached interactions defined by clear boundaries and seasoned with selfdiscipline, patience and tolerance. All of this topped with the wisdom and discernment as to how emotionally invested I need to become. The proportions and techniques are still hit-and-miss but it is definitely easier on the heartburn and just the right amount of calories. I hope one day my daughters and I can savour a similar experience. Breaking the Vow. “When I grow up and have babies, I’m going to let them have as much sugar as they want!” swears my eldest daughter. Ah yes, the “vow,” a most powerful weapon and I am sure that this one is just the first of many to come. I think back to all of the impetuous vows I made in retaliation against my mother’s control. Most were moot and following through on them would not have been in the best interests of my own children, or would have left me eating a hefty serving of humble pie. I realize that being mindful of my personal triggers and wounds is the best way to navigate the waters with my daughters, and to perhaps either break unhealthy patterns or avoid the trap of overcompensation. Before I examine the ways that I mother my daughters, I need to ask myself the question: Am I mothering my inner child the way I would like to mother my own children? Much of the work starts from the inside out with me looking at myself with honesty and respect. Un-doubling the Standard. Every so often, I have to call myself on the double standards that I hold when it comes to my mother. On the one hand, I expect her to respect me as an independent and responsible individual, yet I am content to be mothered when it’s convenient for me. It must be confusing for her. It’s what we often do with family, unconsciously taking for granted and taking advantage in ways that we would never do with others. More so with mothers—we can burden them with unrealistic expectations and judgments of what they can and should do physically and emotionally. Perhaps it’s an inevitable by-product of the superwoman syndrome they tend to fall victim to. I am trying not to assume that when my mother visits, she will do laundry and help with the cooking and cleaning, or that when I go home to Calgary she’ll take care of the kids while I fly off to the gym or to visit with old friends. Reading this, she would likely say, “Don’t be ridiculous, that’s just what I am meant to do.” But I believe that’s wrong. Again it comes down to boundarwww.kidsinvictoria.com
ies, and these days I remind myself to ask and never assume. It is part of the process of seeing her as a person, and not just my mother—a person who, like anyone else, merits courtesy, consideration and gratitude. Mending the Bond. For my mother’s seventieth birthday, I took her to Vancouver for a cake decorating conference. I knew it was something we’d both enjoy doing together. It was a decision I made after a visit home that was particularly challenging. I realized that we needed to try something new as simply two people learning together and enjoying a common interest. It was a gift for both of us, a gift of a renewed and re-evolved relationship. On the first night, we sat across from each other in a beautiful dimly lit restaurant with no children for us to hide behind. Face-toface candlelight dinners seem to evoke an inescapable intimacy. The initial awkward silence and uneasiness made me realize that this was a new experience for my mother and me. Eventually she began to speak, telling the story of her joys, trials and regrets as a mother. Her eyes filled with tears and as I listened, I realized that we were in fact very different from one another—different generations, different cultural beliefs, different knowledge bases, different pressures and different personal struggles. For the first time, I tried to put myself in her place and understand what it must have been like to be a working mother, making ends meet in a new country with no family support. At the same time, we couldn’t be more alike. We were both mothers suffering from the same insecurities, self-doubt, imperfections, guilt and feelings of “not-enoughness.” I suddenly felt so very sad for my mother but more so for me for not having seen her as just human, fumbling about, tending her own wounds, learning her life lessons along the way and trying to do the very best that she could. And so, the process of mending my relationship with my mother continues with a new stitch, sewn with empathy, humility and most importantly, forgiveness. It’s not perfect and I am sure there will still be knots and tangles along the way. But I like that the seams will be visible, showing where one segment of our relationship has ended and hopefully where a new one is beginning. Janine Fernandes-Hayden is an educator, trained Virtues Project facilitator, and Salt Spring Island mum of four children. She hosts a parent and kids radio show called “The Beanstalk” on Salt Spring Island airwaves at CFSI 107.9 FM. www.IslandParent.ca
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Products & Services for New Parents To help you as you journey through the unique experience of being a new parent, check out the following listings and the corresponding ads in this issue.
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Bellies In Bloom Maternity. Visit us for the hottest products for mom and babe. You’ll find a great selection of clothing and accessories for maternity, nursing, and baby, many exclusive to Bellies in Bloom. We are famous for our nursing bras. We also have fun gifts and newborn essentials, from the most practical to the fun and unique. Visit our website to find out more about us and preview the newest styles. Shop from home with great deals and cheap shipping. www. BelliesInBloomMaternity.com. The Burnside Gorge Community Association offers Parent & Tot drop-in programs throughout the week that are free or lowcost. Drop-ins allow parents to meet other
parents while their kids play, learn, and meet other kids. Other Family Centre programs include: Mother Goose, Kindergym, Toddler Art, and a Community Family Dinner. For program days, times and cost, visit our website at www.burnsidegorge.ca or call 250-388-5251. Choices Adoption & Counselling Services is a licensed non-profit, non-sectarian adoption agency that has been involved in adoptions and family counselling since 1989. We offer a range of services to birth and adoptive parents throughout British Columbia and can assist adoptive families from several other provinces with intercountry adoptions. Whether you wish to
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adopt a child born in B.C. or a child from another country, our experienced professionals will help you through the process. www.choicesadoption.ca. Glowing Touch Doula. Melissa Harris provides non-clinical care for pregnant women and their partners. With emotional and physical support, a doula will take the pregnancy, labour, birth, and the postpartum period from stressful to wonderful. Whether you want a homebirth or hospital birth, natural or epidural, Melissa can support you by providing constant care and helping you meet your baby. Visit www.glowingtouch. ca to see more about how a doula can make your birthing team stronger. Happy Island Diaper Service is the best choice for cloth diapering for your baby. Our modern diapers and products make using our service easy and cost effective. Once a week, our pink van will come and pick up the soiled diapers and leave you fresh clean ones. There is no rinsing or soaking required, and we will supply you with everything you need right at your doorstep. This is a great choice for your baby and for the environment. 1-866-922-7377. www. happyislanddiapers.com. www.facebook. com/happyislanddiapers. Helping Hands Doula. A doula (pronounced doola) understands the physiological and emotional stages of childbirth. A doula will accompany a woman and her partner/family to the hospital or her home and offer continuous support throughout her entire labor and birth experience. The doula can offer a myriad of support from helping mom with position changes, using a variety of comfort measures, helping the family obtain information so that they can make informed decisions, and supporting their birth plans. Research shows that by a having a doula attend a birth, labours tend to be shorter, the need for pain medication decreases, and more women experience a satisfying and positive birth experience. Jay Duncan is a DONA trained Birth and Postpartum Doula as well as a Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator with over 10 years of experience. Please feel free to call or email her if you need any more information. www. helpinghandsvictoriadoula.blogspot.ca. Find on Facebook Page by typing: Helping Hands Doula Services. Hip Baby offers modern, organic and sustainable products for your newborn to four-year-old. Thoughtful toys, organic www.IslandParent.ca
clothing, natural meal-time and bath-time products and much more. Find a great selection of Canadian crafted products and many cloth diaper brands. We offer free monthly workshops on cloth diapering to show you how to choose your diaper system, put them on and care for them. Come with an open mind, and you’ll leave informed. www.hipbaby.com. Investors Group. RESPs are a good vehicle for education planning. However, there are other options, for the same or similar costs of RESPs, that are more flexible, less restrictive and have more significant benefits. Give me a call for a free review of your financial plan and/or a no-obligation, no-pressure presentation of options about which you should be informed. Michael A. Hemmings: 250-388-4234, ext. 507 or cell: 250-818-1119 or michael.hemmings@ investorsgroup.com. Options, choices, planning for the future! Montessori education understands that each child has a natural desire and ability to learn. Island Montessori staff members are committed to providing a rich, safe, developmentally appropriate, caring environment that establishes rapport with every child. Our child-centred program of individual and group activities promotes a sense of well-being, confidence and independence which fosters growth in all areas of development. We have children from a variety of economic, ethnic and religious backgrounds with a whole range of abilities and special needs. Our beautiful rural location is at 5575 West Saanich Road. For more information, call 250-592-4411 or visit www.islandmontessori.com. Since 1944, Island Farms has been proudly producing quality dairy products made entirely from fresh B.C. milk. From our first horse-and-buggy stocked with milk bottles, to today’s wide range of wholesome products, we’ve built a reputation for good things from good people close by. We also play an active role in the communities we serve, sponsoring hundreds of family events and charities. Because at the end of the day, we’ve all got a family to come home to. www.islandfarms.com. JamTots. We specialize in cloth diapers and many other unique items for babies and children. Check out our large selection of puzzles and crafts and Melissa and Doug toys. We carry a variety of shoes, swaddles,
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sleep sacks, BOB and Britax strollers, and Britax Carseats. For mom, we have everything for nursing and a large selection of diaper bags and baby carriers. Gift registry and gift cards available. Visit our website as most of our products are available online with fast shipping on the Island. 2945 Jacklin Road (Westshore Town Centre), Victoria. 250-478-1737. www.jamtots.com. Jody Watson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor who specializes in working with new parents, families and couples. Individual counselling, couples counselling, workshops and support groups are some of the services offered. Areas of practice include: supporting parents to be and new parents, prenatal and postpartum depression, parenting issues, couples and relationship issues and infertility. Jody offers a variety of evidence based supports to meet your needs. For more information about services or upcoming workshops visit www.jodywatson.ca Kinderbeez carries a huge selection of high-quality, name brand baby/children’s and maternity items including toys, books, shoes, clothing, furniture, strollers and more. New items include Melissa and Doug toys, BOB strollers and accry’s, Britax
Car seats, Sophie, TUFFO and more. We have a friendly, knowledgeable staff who will always greet you and your children with a smile! No appointment necessary for consignment or pay outs. 110-2763 Beverly Street, Duncan. 250-748-2345, kinderbeez@shaw.ca. In a Kindermusik Village class, we take those special bonding moments between you and your baby and add in a unique blend of musical learning activities that stimulate and engage all of the senses. The educator will teach you how to encourage your baby’s learning through vocal play, object exploration, instruments, and creative movement. Babies under their six-month birthday get free tuition! Enroll today. Phone 250-667-8794. Maxine Fisher M. Ed., MTA, RCC. Pregnancy and childbirth are stressful whether it is your first child or your fourth. There are ways to reduce your stress, and studies show that when you are more relaxed your baby experiences this as well. Counselling and music therapy can assist parents in stress reduction, and studies show babies perceive sounds and music in the womb. For more information and to set up an appointment,
please call Maxine Fisher at Victoria Family Counselling. 250-686-7582, victoriafamilycounselling.com. Mothering Touch Centre is the comprehensive resource centre for new and expectant parents. We offer support through every stage of pregnancy and early parenthood: childbirth preparation, pre-and post-natal yoga, breastfeeding support, parenting classes, parent-and-baby groups, baby massage, and baby sign language. Our friendly staff inform and support parents and grandparents as they select cloth diapers, nursing bras, breastpumps and breastfeeding accessories and much more. Drop in for a chat, nurse your baby in our lounge, and experience the warmth of the Mothering Touch. 975 Fort Street. 250-595-4905. www.motheringtouch.ca. Planet Kids Comox is a child-centered store, offering a great play area, a washroom with a proper change table, and even extra diapering supplies if needed. We carry the latest in children’s clothing sizes—preemie to 10 years—and we are a full toy store with a little of everything for your newborn. Planet Kids Comox has a great consignment section, carrying maternity, and newborn to size
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16 clothing, shoes, toys, and baby/children’s equipment. We have been lucky to serve our community for over 25 years. Please come and visit the next time you are in Comox, or checkout our active Facebook page at www.facebook.com/PlanetKidsToys. Pumpkin Pie Kids Wear in Nanaimo has a great selection of quality shoes (baby to size 5 youth), clothes (preemie-8 years), toys and baby gear. They are also a fitting shoe store featuring brands: Stride Rite, Geox, Keen, Hatley, Kamik and Saucony. Whether it’s shoes, baby carriers, rain gear or organic layette, let Pumpkin Pie’s friendly, knowledgeable staff help you find the best product for your needs. 411A Fitzwilliam Street, Nanaimo. 250-754-3933. www. pumpkinpiekids.com.
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Saanich Recreation classes for mom and babe allow parents and newborns to learn more about one another, establishing trust and routine. Once baby can walk, indoor and outdoor programs allow children to explore safely while the caregiver oversees their play. Encouraging independence comes with drop-off programs, including full-year preschools. All programs promote learning through play, and readiness for kindergarten via storytelling, dramatic play, circle time, art, music and physical skills. www. saanichrec.ca. The Savvy Squirrel Coupon Book is your family-focused Go-To-Guide for shopping locally. Created by two local moms for families and caregivers living in Greater Victoria, including Sidney and Langford. Find coupons for wonderful local businesses including baby and maternity stores, diapering, clothing, health and wellness, groceries, cafés and more. Pick up your copy of the new edition in stores now. $100’s in savings for only $10! Sign up for our e-newsletter at www.SquirrelCouponBook.com. Scallywags Children’s Boutique is your local destination for all your new parent goodies. Whether it is an organic onesie or kimono, a beautiful first dress, natural rubber soothers or stylish diaper bags, baby carriers or other accessories, we carry the best selection in town. We also have a great baby gift registry program. So stop by one of our two convenient locations, downtown at the Bay Centre or Broadmead Village, and our knowledgeable staff will help you make the best selection for your needs. www. scallywags-island.ca. www.IslandParent.ca
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Sleep Sense Victoria believes that healthy sleep habits make for healthy happy children. I work together, either through private consultations or seminars, with parents to customize a sleep plan that fits for parents as well as meets the sleep needs of their child. Let’s get your child sleeping well through the night and taking adequate naps during the day! Please contact Sukkie Sandhu at 250-857-1408 or email sukkie.sandhu@ sleepsense.net.
Useful Gifts for New Parents When a baby is born, parents usually receive a truck load of gifts: clothes, toys, cute blankets, picture frames, etc. But is any of it actually useful? For people looking to get thoughtful gifts for new families (or families adding siblings), think about the following gift ideas: Food: You can make food and bring it over so that it can either be eaten that day or frozen. Also, if you are not a chef type, there are places you can buy pre-assembled food and have it delivered to the family. Cleaning: Offer to clean, fold laundry, take out garbage, or do the dishes when you are over. Or better yet, give a gift certificate of a reputable cleaner. They can choose when to use the service, and then you aren’t stuck doing the chore you won’t even do at your own house! Find house cleaners in the KIV resource section or ask friends for referrals. Sleep: Offer to take the child for a walk, or hold the baby while mom gets some sleep. If mom doesn’t need sleep because her baby sleeps 12 hours straight (doubtful…), offer to hold the baby while she has a shower, or goes for a walk around the block. If you can’t help, nanny services and postpartum doulas will offer these types of services. For more useful gift ideas, visit the Kids in Victoria website at www. kidsinvictoria.com and click on the Blog link.
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Spina Bifida. Something so small can make such a big difference. Folic acid reduces the risk of birth defects such as spina bifida. It is found in some foods but for most women, eating fortified food is not enough. To reach the recommended daily level you will need a vitamin supplement and it should be taken at least three months before pregnancy. Help protect your baby before it is born by getting enough folic acid daily. www.sbhabc.org. Parents, have you heard that Thrifty Foods has a virtual store? We know you don’t always have time to get to the grocery store, so we’re ready to help you. You make the selections and your shopper chooses the best quality products and packages your groceries just like you would so they get to you in excellent condition. The convenience of Thrifty Foods Online Shopping is that you can shop any time of the day that suits you or your baby. Upon delivery of your groceries, our driver will accept payment at your door using a wireless terminal (VISA, MasterCard, Amex, “Smile Card” or Debit). Visit thriftyfoodsonline.com and let us do the shopping for you. Whether it’s diapers or decor, TJ’s The Kiddies Store is the place to go for all your baby needs. Welcoming your new baby into the world is a wonderful and challenging experience; so many decisions and so little time. Our friendly and knowledgeable staff is ready to help make your decisions as stress-free as possible. Our selection varies from furniture sets to safety items and everything in between. TJ’s is also a great place for gifts—with a baby registry and many wonderful gift ideas, you will be able to find the right thing to make any new parent happy. We’re easy to find at 3045-c Douglas Street (enter off Larch Street)… we’re under Sleep Country. 250-386-2229. Mark your calendar for September 28 & 29, 2013. The 7th annual Vancouver Island Baby Fair is happening at Pearkes Rec Centre. We’ll have an arena of exhibitors, a full lineup of informative talks on the main stage, great shopping and resources, fantastic prizes, our popular photo contest, baby races and more for families ranging from pregnancy through preschool. Exhibitor registration is on now. Visit VancouverIslandBabyFair.com for details or call 250-686-5693.
Victoria Midwives. Midwives care for women throughout pregnancy, birth and for six weeks postpartum. Midwives offer personalized care and provide education and counselling that address the physical, emotional, and cultural needs of women and their families. Midwives offer a choice of birthplace either in hospital, or at home. Midwives provide breastfeeding support, ensure the mother is recovering from the birth, and monitor the baby’s growth. Midwifery care is covered by your care card. See our ad on page 5. midwivesinvictoria.ca. The Vitamin Shop. New and expecting moms need to know that diet is most important. Unfortunately, food is not what it used to be, therefore it is also important to take a good multiple supplement along with other nutrients to assure that both baby and mom receive the right nourishment along the way. Find the most comprehensive selection of everything you need for your pre- and post-natal “good health” at the Vitamin Shop, 1212 Broad Street. Phone 250-386-1212. Welcome Wagon’s New Parent Market reaches new mothers with greetings and congratulations personally presented at home after the birth of their babies. A package of pertinent information on civic and community services is presented, followed by a directory of our sponsors and token gifts from participating businesses and, where appropriate, printed invitations for the family to redeem at their place of business. We also do Baby Showers for expectant moms. There we provide civic and educational information. It is given to mom before baby is born. For more information please visit www.welcomewagon.ca or call 1-866-518-7287. West Shore Parks & Recreation offers a wide range of programs for young families and expectant parents. Our Toddler Social program is the perfect informal drop-in for you and your little one to explore music, activities and more. There are stroller fitness classes and pre-natal yoga, but if you are just looking to sneak in a workout, we offer child minding Monday-Friday 9am-12:30pm. For information, visit westshorerecreation.ca or call 250-478-8383. Find us on Facebook at www.facebook. com/westshorerecreation.•
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Advice: Helpful or Not? Readers Respond
Advice, no matter how well intended or level-headed, can stoke a parent’s anxiety and create paroxysms of doubt. Or it can truly help. In the February issue we asked readers: What’s the best and/or the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received? What are your thoughts on unsolicited advice? Is it ever welcome and/or helpful? Here are a few replies. Thanks to all those who sent in submissions.
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Camp Footholds Footholds Therapy Center is happy to announce a wide variety of summer programs at Camp Footholds. Our camps are structured to offer programming geared towards children with special needs (Autism, FASD, etc) and other emotional and psychological challenges (Anxiety/Depression). Camp Footholds focuses on empowering kids by building social skills and self-esteem, all while having lots of fun!
Base Camp: 4–7 Years Camp Footholds will combine their awesome locations, diverse surroundings and unique staff skill set to offer amazing opportunities for all the campers involved. Base Camp will focus on encouraging positive social interactions and social thinking for campers through fun and engaging activities. Mon–Fri, July 2–19, 9am–2pm, $950
Ascent Camp: 8–12 Years Ascent Camp will offer activities such as exploring Petroglyphs around Nanaimo and surrounding areas, trips to Ammonite Falls and the Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. Promoting a healthy, physical lifestyle and giving campers a safe place to build positive peer relationships is the goal of this camp. Mon–Fri, July 22–Aug 9, 9am–2pm, $900
Peak Camp: 13–18 Years Peak Camp will teach campers to be self-directed, productive members of society. This will be done through a variety of outings, interactions with other campers and camp leaders as well as specific activities focused on building life skills and social skills. Mon–Fri, Aug 12–30, 9am–2pm, $900
Other Camps – check our website for additional information Artistic Outlet: 10–16 Years, Mon–Fri, 9am–12pm from July 2–12 for $550 Slam Dunk: 10–16 Years, Mon–Fri, 9am–2pm from July 2–12 for $720 Welcome to the Oscars: 8–18 Years, Mon–Fri, 9am–12pm from July 15–26 for $600 Creative Minecraft: 7–15 Years, Mon–Fri, 9am–2pm from July 15–Aug 2 for $750 Fun Frogs: 4–7 Years, Mon–Fri, 9am–12pm from July 29–Aug 16 for $850 Musical Melodies: 12–18 Years Mon–Fri, 9am–12pm from Aug 6–16 for $550 Sensory Seekers: 4–10 Years Mon–Fri, 9am–12pm from Aug 19–30 for $750
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Read, Read, Read
Some of the best parenting advice I received was from my mother when she suggested that a key to my child’s bright future was to read to him right from babyhood, and then she gave us some books to get us started. All through out my and my brothers’ childhoods in the 1960s, we were read to, taken to the library, and encouraged to borrow books on any topics we were interested in. Our family didn’t have a lot of money to spare, but my mother always made an effort to visit used book stores whenever she went to town (we lived on a farm) and she sought out books she thought we would like to read. I remember her coming home with paper bags full of books for me and my hardly being able to wait to dive in and see what treasures were in there. She also always let us choose some books to order from Scholastic Books through school—that was special because they were brand new books. I still have many of my childhood books 45 years later. When, at one point, my brother resisted reading for himself in elemen tary school, she would buy him comic books and Mad magazines to read because those were what he was interested in. She didn’t care so much what he read, she cared that he read. When I became pregnant, one of the first things I did was check out all the library programs for new moms and babies, thinking of my mother’s example with us. I’m happy to say that 10 years later, two of my son’s favourite activities are reading and visiting our local library every weekend. He, too, loves to peruse the Scholastic book order forms to make his own choices, and he, too, has a personal library of his own. I am so grateful for my mother’s example and advice about instilling a love of reading from babyhood on. Shannon T
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One summe r, when my second daughter was an infant, we spent a month at my in-laws’ cabin. My young daughter was a bit fussy, and cried whenever she was put down or away from her mom. My father-in-law told me that I should try putting corn syrup on her soother. The sweet taste, he said, would make her keep the soother in her mouth, and voila—no more crying baby. He swore that this was his mother’s secret and that it worked like a charm. I listened to him for days, and eventually weeks, telling me to put corn syrup on her soother, but I couldn’t bring myself to—after all, what could be worse for young developing teeth? Eventually, though, after a particularly hard morning I caved, and at his insistent prompting I clenched my teeth and slathered the soother in corn syrup and stuck it in my daughter’s mouth. After an initial look of surprise she gave a few happy and excited sucks, and spit out the soother after sucking off every last bit of syrup. The quiet lasted about 15 seconds. I turned to my father-in-law and said “OK, now what?” Brenda M
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a delightful main character, Daughter of Smoke & Bone by Laini Taylor (Hatchett, 2012) is a book that will now reside amongst my favourites. Karou fills a sketchbook with fantastic creatures—giraffe-necked Twigi, Issa with her serpent body and pet snakes, Yasri with her parrot beak and human eyes. And Brimstone with his great ram’s horns. Her friends think they are the product of a vivid imagination, but to orphan Karou, they are family. Karou runs errands for Brimstone. But black handprints start to appear in the portals to Brimstone’s world, and as they flare into a burning fire, Karou is sealed off from the only home she has ever known. As she works to find a way home, she discovers some shocking things about herself. Things that will leave her with a difficult decision to make. One of the most imaginative (and fabulous) retellings of classic fairy tales I’ve ever read are Merissa Meyer’s Cinder (Feiwel and Friends, 2012) and Scarlet (Feiwel and Friends, 2013). Linh Cinder is the best mechanic in New Beijing. Her world seems normal enough—at least as normal as it can be for a cyborg—when an unexpected customer drops a robot on her table and asks her to fix it. That wouldn’t be a problem, except he’s the prince. Soon, Cinder is tangled up in a web of politics and family strife, and her life is in danger. Cinder’s story continues in the second book, Scarlet, introducing us to Scarlet, whose grandmother has gone missing. Although the police think she took off of her own volition, Scarlet is convinced her grandmother was abducted, and she’s determined to prove it. Soon, her story and Cinder’s intersect. And yes, there are wolves.
In her book What’s Left of Me (HarperCollins, 2012), debut author Kat Zhang tackles the difficult subject of racism and blending in. Eva and Addie are sisters, but they share the same body. By six, they should have chosen which soul would be dominant, allowing the recessive soul to fade away. But at 16, Eva is still there, lurking in the back of Addie’s mind. But hybrids—those with two souls—are considered dangerous, a menace to ordered society. When Addie’s secret is discovered, she is left with the choice between assimilating and becoming “normal.” But can she really kill her own sister—the other half of her? Another great debut book is The Nightmare Affair by Mindee Arnett (Tor Teens, 2013). Sixteen-year-old Dusty doesn’t fit in for two reasons: she is a late bloomer, only coming in to her magical abilities a few months before starting at Arkwell Academy for magickind. And she is a darkkind— considered the lowest of the magical users, those only able to gain their ability from feeding off others. As she dream-feeds off Eli, an ordinary with no magical ability, he is dreaming of the cemetery inside Arkwell, a place he never would have visited. And he’s dreaming about a dead girl. Things become much more interesting when his dream comes true. Now Dusty has to feed from him regularly in the hopes of catching a killer. It doesn’t help that he’s very attractive, or that Dusty tends towards sarcasm as a protective measure. But as the book progresses, so does Dusty’s character. An enjoyable, quick read. Maggie Stiefvater brings us another great book with the Raven Boys (Scholastic Press, 2012). Blue doesn’t normally see dead people, but this year as she stands beside her mother to watch the soon-to-be dead walk by, a boy comes out from the dark and speaks directly to her. She learns it means one of two things. Either he’s her true love, or she killed him. Growing up in a family of psychics, Blue knew from a
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11th Ultimate Hobby & Toy Fair at Pearkes Arena. Action figures, vintage toys, models, trains, comics, Barbie, LEGO, video games and much, much more. Free door prize entry with admission. Dress in costume for an extra door prize entry. Charity carnival games with all proceeds to the BC Children’s Hospital. 9am-3pm. $5/adults; kids free. www.ultimatetoyfair.com.
SAT 4 Free Comic Book Day at Central Branch Library. Drop in to get your free comic and more. Dress up as your favourite comic character, enter to win awesome stuff, and check out the library’s selection of comics, manga and graphic novels. A free comic for everyone, or two if you dress up (while supplies last). Everyone welcome. Registration not required. 9am-noon. 250-382-7241, ext. 601. Watch Illustrator Jonathon Dalton at Work at Central Branch Library. It’s Free Comic Book Day. Drop by to meet Jonathon and observe his technique and pick up a free comic book while supplies last. For more information about Jonathon, visit www.jonathondalton. com. Everyone welcome. Registration not required. 10-11:30am. 250-382-7241, ext. 601. Moss Street Market Opening at Moss Street and Fairfield Rd. Local organic farmers, food vendors, local musicians, great coffee and more. Something for everyone. 10am-2pm. Children’s Health Day at Royal Oak Chiropractic. There will be a surprise mascot, family gift bags, refreshments and balloons.
World Partnership Walk Tots and Tykes Team Kick-off Event at Christ Church Cathedral School. Face painting, bouncy castle, games and special treats. An excellent opportunity for kids to learn they can make a difference in the world. 11:30am-1:30pm. Free. Horth Hill Highlights at Horth Hill Regional Park. Hike along with a CRD Regional Parks naturalist and check out this delightful park at the tip of the Saanich Peninsula. Discover the plants at your feet, the birds over your head and great views from the top. Wear sturdy hiking shoes. Meet at the information kiosk in the parking lot off Tatlow Rd at 1pm. 8+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks. Illustrator Jonathon Dalton: Drawing Comics at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Do you love comics or manga? Here’s an opportunity to learn to draw them. Pick your style, create your own characters, and be guided through the techniques of writing, drawing and inking the first pages. For ages 13-18. 2-3:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for more information. Youth Choir 61 Spring Concert at St. Aidan’s Church. Comprised of students aged 11-17 attending public school in SD #61. 7pm. 3703 St. Aidan’s St. www.choir.sd61.bc.ca.
Marvelous Matheson at Matheson Lake Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist for a ramble ’round the lake, far from the sounds of urban traffic, with lunch at a scenic viewpoint. This little gem of a park is rich in cultural and natural history. Bring a snack and water and wear sturdy hiking shoes. Meet in the parking lot at the end of Matheson Lake Rd at 10am. 12+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks. Ugh! A Slug! at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. Stroll along with a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to peek under fallen logs and leaves in search of giant gastropods that are one of nature’s best recyclers. Meet at the information kiosk in the Beaver Lake parking lot at 1pm. All ages. BC Transit #70 or #72. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.
MON 6 Author/Illustrator Marthe Jocelyn: ‘Sneaky Art’ at Esquimalt Branch Library. Where do authors find their inspiration? Explore Marthe Jocelyn’s newest book Sneaky Art as she
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THURS 9 Author Caroline Woodward: Fear and Imagination at Emily Carr Branch Library. How can you use your imagination to overcome fear? Explore two of author Caroline Woodward’s books, Singing Away the Dark and The Village of Many Hats, and discover how she uses singing and magical hats to overcome everyday fear. For Grades 2-4. 10:30-11:30am. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-475-6100 for more information.
SAT 11 Winged Migration at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. Celebrate the return of our feathered friends. Join CRD Regional Parks, Rocky Point Bird Observatory and the Victoria Natural History Society to learn more about the journey that birds take from their summer and winter
homes. Engaging activities for birders of all ages, expertise and abilities. Guided walks, mist-netting demonstrations, hummingbird and passerine banding demonstrations, and children’s activities. Meet at the Filter Beds parking lot off Beaver Lake Rd. 9am-2pm, drop-in. All ages. BC Transit #70 or #72. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks. Kids Mega Sale at Pearkes Recreation Centre. Gently used baby and children’s clothing, toys, equipment and maternity. 9:30am-12:30pm. 3100 Tillicum Rd. kidsmegasale@gmail.com. Quadra Village Day on Kings Rd. All-ages activities start with a pancake breakfast. Music and dance performances, face painting, bouncy castle, obstacle course, games, Mother’s Day crafts, climbing wall for teens, instrument petting zoo. Free. Tartan Parade starts in Centennial Square. Pipe bands, highland dancers, heavy event athletes, a float and more. Starts in Centennial Square at 11am and heads down Government St to the Legislature Lawns where the pipe bands perform, the highlands fling is danced, and the caber is tossed. victoriahighlandgames.com. Magic Workshop with Andrew: Magic with Everyday Objects at Oak Bay Branch Library. Join Andy for a two-part program to learn fun and fascinating magic tricks using items you can find around your home. Second part on May 18. For ages 10-12. 2:30-3:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250592-2489 for more information.
SAT 11 & Sun 12 150th Annual Victoria Highland Games & Celtic Festival in Topaz Park. Heavy event competitions. Highland dance competitions, sheepdog herding, kilted mile athletics, tugof-war competition and a variety of Scottish and Celtic dance and music entertainment throughout the park. Children’s entertainment area. $15/adults; children free. victoriahighlandgames.com.
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FRI 17 Celebrate Asian Heritage Month at Emily Carr Branch Library. See WED 1 for details. For ages 5-8. 2:30-3:30pm. Register at www.gvpl. ca or call 250-475-6100 for more information. Victoria Art Finale Juried Exhibition at Vancouver Island School of Art. Opening reception of a juried exhibition of Grade 12 students’ art. 7:30pm. 2549 Quadra St. www. vancouverislandschoolofart.com.
SAT 18 Victoria Symphony Storytime at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Join two musicians from the Victoria Symphony and their puppet friend, Kathy Cadence, for a musical performance that matches music to words and feelings. Presentation includes an instrument petting zoo. Parents and caregivers are welcome to participate. For ages 3-4. 10:30-11:15am. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250477-7111 for more information. Mount Work-Out at Mount Work Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist on a vigorous hike from marshy lowlands to rugged rocky outcrops. Bring a lunch, water and rain gear, and wear sturdy hiking shoes.
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SUN 19 Family Sunday at Art Gallery of Greater Victoria. Children and their families are invited to explore the art inspired by the current exhibition. Included with Gallery admission or free with membership. 2-4pm. 250-384-4171. www.aggv.ca.
WED 22 Vaccinations: Confused? at Dr. Zimmermann’s office. Are you confused about vaccination? Do you worry about the number of shots given or the aluminum in vaccines? Do you want to opt out of vaccination, use only some shots or use the standard program but help your child to tolerate it better? Interested in homeopathic prophylaxis or other natural methods to strengthen your child’s immune system? Dr. Zimmermann can help you make an informed decision that is right for your family. 7-9pm. $10. Please call 250-590-5828 to reserve a spot. #304-2250 Oak Bay Ave. www.drzimmermann.org.
SAT 25 Victoria Symphony Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. See SAT 18 for details. Parents and caregivers are welcome
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SAT 25 & SUN 26 Victoria Spot Prawn Festival at the Carshop Building, Bayview Place. Touch, taste and find out more about local sustainable seafood. Seafood cooking demonstrations, food vendors, kids’ activities, artisan booths, live music and more. 253 Esquimalt Rd.
SUN 26 World Partnership Walk at Cameron Bandshell, Beacon Hill Park. An excellent opportunity for kids to learn that they can make a difference in the world. Registration at 10am, walk at 11am. Free.
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The Great Strides Walk at Royal Roads University. The 3km walk is a family-, stroller- and pet-friendly occasion for all ages. Registration by donation. In support of Cystic Fibrosis Canada. Registration 9am, walk starts at 10am. BBQ and prize draw after the walk. Gather in the gym parking lot. Everyone welcome. What’s That? Ask a Nat! at Island View Beach Regional Park. Come with your curiosity to explore low tide and all the marine critters it reveals. Borrow our dip nets and ask CRD Regional Parks naturalists to identify your treasures. Be prepared to get your feet wet (bring sandals or beach shoes). Meet at the picnic shelter on Homathko Rd, off Island View Rd. 10am-2pm drop-in. All ages. 250478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks. 7th Annual Infertility Awareness BBQ at Gordon Head Middle School. Silent auction for Fertile Future (www.fertilefuture.ca); lunch including hot dogs, veggies, cake and juice; crafts and activities for the children. Everyone welcome. Noon-2pm. Please RSVP to clementine@victoriafertility.com.
A Guide to User-Friendly Trails Go beyond the parking lot and pick up your copy of “A Guide to User-Friendly Trails” featuring easy-to-use walking, hiking and wheeling trails in Greater Victoria, BC. Features: • Trails suitable to individuals of diverse ages, levels of mobility and endurance. • Trail profiles and maps to enable users to determine which parks and amenities to visit. Pick up your copy at Capital Regional District Offices, West Shore Parks & Recreation and municipal halls in the Westshore area. Download it at www.westshorerecreation.ca/userfriendlytrails
Bee Day at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. A honey of a program fit for the royalty of the insect world. What’s the buzz about bees—are they really good dancers? Bee songs, bee crafts and some bee spit to taste. Join us and you’ll bee amazed, bee enchanted and bee happy. Bee there or bee square. Noon-3pm. Admission by donation. For more information, call 250-479-0211 or visit www.swanlake.bc.ca.
WED 29 Guys’ Night Out: A Bedtime Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Calling dads, stepdads, granddads, uncles… bring the kids you love to a special storytime before they go to bed. Join us for stories, puppets, fingerplays and songs. Pajamas and a favourite stuffy or blanket are welcome, but optional. For children newborn to 5 years. 6:30-7pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250477-9030 for more information.
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ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes for Babies, Toddlers and Families at Greater Victoria Public Library. Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate. Storytimes are free and dropin. Please come early to find a space. For a complete schedule of our drop-in programs, visit our website at www.gvpl.ca or call your local branch. Parent/Tot Drop-in at Gordon Head United Church. A safe place where young children can play while parents in the community connect with each other. Lots of space and toys. Tea or coffee is available for caregivers, and a healthy
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snack for the children. Parents are responsible for the care of their own children. Mondays 10am-noon. More info, call the church office at 250-477-4142, or Maisie at 250-477-0388.
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Kindergym at Burnside Campus Gymnasium. Ride-on toys, climbers, slides, balls, hoops and various sports equipment. The program includes free play, organized games and circle time. Best suited for ages 2-4 year, but all children under 5 years are welcome. Parent participation required. Tuesdays 9:30-10:45am. Free. 3130 Jutland Rd. 250-388-5251. www. burnsidegorge.ca. Preschool Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Preschoolers are invited to fun and interactive storytimes that will help foster early literacy development. We’ll share enriching stories, sing songs, learn rhymes and have fun playing with language. Parents and caregivers are welcome to participate. Tuesdays 10:30-11am. Register at www.gvpl. ca or call 250-477-9030 for more information. Toddler Art at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Explore your creative side. Smocks and soap provided, but please dress children in clothing that they can get messy and be creative in. Parent participation required. $2/drop-in. Wednesdays, 9:30am-10:30am. 471 Cecelia Rd. 250-388-5251. www.burnsidegorge.ca. Drop-in Play at Lakehill Preschool. Come join our awesome ECE for a free drop-in play every Wednesday 3-4:30pm. All children 0-4 welcome. 3821 Cedar Hill Cross Rd. 250-4774141. www.lakehillpreschool.org. Drop-in Playgroup at Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare. For parents/guardians with children 0-4 years. Come see what Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare has to offer. Thursdays 3:15-4:30pm. 4205 Tyndall Ave. 250-477-8131. For more information, visit www.lambrickparkpreschool.ca. Drop-in Toddler Time at Lansdowne Preschool. A great place to play and discover. For children ages 0-5. Fridays 9:30-11am, in the Maple Room at Carnarvon Centre, 3802 Henderson Rd. 250-370-5392. www. lansdownepreschool.com. Mother Goose Drop-In at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Enjoy music, stories and fun with your little one. Mother Goose encourages child development through music, stories, movement and attachment parenting. For birth to 5 years. This program is offered in partnership with Success by 6 South Vancouver Island. Saturdays 10-11am. Free.
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Comic Book and Star Wars Trivia at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Did you know that Free Comic Book Day and Star Wars Day are both happening on May 4? GVPL is celebrating with the launch of an online trivia contest for all ages. Test your knowledge
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and enter to win a gift certificate to a local bookstore. Contest runs online at www.gvpl. ca from May 4-May 31. For all ages. “May the fourth be with you!” Sea-Shirt Sundays at the Shaw Ocean Discovery Centre. On the first Sunday of each month, create your own fish fashion. Be sure to bring a pillow case, cloth bag or t-shirt (or purchase a t-shirt from the centre) and your creativity. $2 donation for fabric paint. 1-4pm. 250-665-7511.
YOUTH Comic Book and Star Wars Trivia at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Did you know that Free Comic Book Day and Star Wars Day are both happening on May 4? GVPL is celebrating with the launch of an online trivia contest for all ages. Test your knowledge and enter to win a gift certificate to a local bookstore. Contest runs online at www.gvpl. ca from May 4-May 31. For all ages. “May the fourth be with you!”
FAMILIES Parent Sports Drop-in at James Bay Community School Centre. Parents need time to have fun and get back in touch with their inner child. Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays, 7-9pm. $3.50/person. www.jamesbaycentre.ca. Ready to Rent BC offers a free course to help
find and keep a rental home. Six-week courses run at different times, days and locations. We help renters identify and deal with any barriers they may have to housing. Includes bus tickets, child minding and a healthy snack. To sign up, call 250-388-7171. readytorentbc.net.
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Weekly Bird Walk at Swan Lake Nature Sanctuary (meet in the parking lot). Every Wednesday and Sunday noon-3pm. Metchosin School Museum is open Saturdays 1:30-4:30pm and Sundays 11am-4:30pm. An original, one-room school house built in 1871, it is set up as a classroom with old wooden desks. Families can enjoy perusing the hundreds of artifacts on display. Free. 4475 Happy Valley Rd. Wonder Sunday at the Royal BC Museum. Bring your family on the last Sunday of each month for activities and explorations inspired by different parts of the museum. Make crafts, join special tours, and let your imagination wonder away with you. Suitable for children ages 3-12 years old and is included with admission or free with membership. www. royalbcmuseum.bc.ca. Gorge Waterway Nature House in Esquimalt/ Gorge Park. Aquarium touch-tank, microscopes, interactive displays and friendly staff. Sundays 11am-4pm, May to August. All ages welcome. Admission by donation. 250-3807585 or education@worldfish.org.•
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Around the Island Visit www.IslandParent.ca for these and other events and resources for families from Cowichan Valley north to Campbell River and west to Tofino WED 1 – TUES 7 Youth Week in Parksville. An international celebration recognizing the value, diversity and positive contributions youth make in the community. To find out what’s happening, visit www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.
WED 1 Glow in the Dark Skate at Cliff McNabb Arena. Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Glow necklaces $2. Regular admission. 6:30-8pm. 250-756-5200.
THURS 2 Youth Week Lazer Tag at Oceanside Place Arena. Youth 11-18 will have the opportunity to participate in Lazer Tag on the dry floor. No skates or skating required this time. Bring your friends and join the celebration. 6:308:30pm. Free. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.
FRI 3 Tots Movie Night Out at Bowen Complex, Nanaimo. Are you a parent wanting to take your child out for a movie but are worried about disrupting the audience? Bring your little one out for a movie and get them used to sitting in an environment much like a movie theatre. Popcorn and drink included. $5/child; parents free. 6-7:45pm. 250-756-5200. Mardi Gras Pro-D Day Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre. During the Everyone Welcome swim session, there will be lots of fun and celebration. Enjoy a carnival of events that will include mask making. 1-3pm. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation. Youth Week Swim at Ravensong, Parksville. Youth 11-18 will have an opportunity to be active, wild and wet while hanging out in the pool listening to the beats of DJ All Good, Vancouver Island’s premier DJ. 7-9pm. Free. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.
SAT 4 Take a Kid Fishing at Chemainus Lake. Kids can visit educational booths to find out about identifying fish, rules and regulations about local lakes and rivers, and how to tie knots and cast on prior to fishing catchable-size trout supplied by the Fish Hatchery in Duncan. Fly-
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tying demonstrations and other fun activities. Each child receives a free hot dog and drink. 10am-2pm. Free. 250-743-8070. BookFest in Downtown Nanaimo. Join some of the best Canadian authors and illustrators for a fun-packed day of story and entertainment. Purchase tickets for three sessions from the Port Theatre, 250-754-8550. $10/child or $25/family pass. Aimed at elementary kids, there are also free sessions for preschoolers and lively lunch time entertainment for everyone. 10am-2:30pm. For more information, visit www.bookfest.ca.
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and fun. Tea and goodies will be included. Moms get in free. 2-4pm. 250-756-5200.
TUES 14 Tim’s Tuesday Free Swim at Frank Jameson Aquatic Centre, Ladysmith. Gather friends and family for this sponsored swim. Please bring a non-perishable food or monetary donation for the Ladysmith Food Bank. 6:30-7:55pm.
WED 15 Glow in the Dark Skate at Cliff McNabb Arena. Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Glow necklaces $2. Regular admission. 6:30-8pm. 250-756-5200.
SAT 18 Bubble Bonanza Family Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre. Come for bubbles of fun. Make the largest bubbles and see how long they will last. 10am-noon. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.
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BC Boys Choir at the Port Theatre. A final public performance after the all-day Walk-aSong fundraiser. Free, but you must reserve your ticket (maximum six tickets per order). www.porttheatre.com.
Take a Hike for Families at Westwood Lake. Discover trails you may not have travelled before. Have fun learning about nature, plants, birds and wildlife by playing nature bingo. 1-3pm. $15/family of 4; $8/family of 2; $5/ person. 250-756-5200.
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Move for Health at Ladysmith Parks, Recreation and Culture. Free classes and activities that will help in your quest for a healthy and active lifestyle. All day. Space limited, so call to register. 250-245-6424. www.ladysmith.ca.
29th Annual Family Fun Fair at the Cobble Hill Hall & Fair Grounds. Mini golf and games, silent auction, apple pies, great food, entertainment, creative woodworking, bouncy castle, face painting and more. Free admission. 10am-3pm.
SAT 11 Learn to Fish at Long Lake (Loudon Park), Nanaimo. Catch the fun and learn about fish identification, conservation, handling, tackle and rod rigging. All equipment provided. Parent participation required. 11am-1pm. Free. 250-756-5200. Move for Health Day at Ravensong Aquatic Centre. Come and get active with events in support of healthy, active living. 1:30-5pm. Free. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.
SUN 12 Family Minute to Win it at Ravensong Aquatic Centre. Family fun challenges for Mother’s Day. Compete for prizes and bragging rights. A variety of silly games that give you a minute to show your stuff. Everyone welcome. 10am-noon. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation. Marvelous Moms: Mother’s Day Special at Beban Pool. How marvelous is your mom? Bring her to the pool for an afternoon of pampering
Parent & Tot Forest Exploration at Nanaimo & Area Land Trust (Native Plant Nursery). Parents and tots can enjoy a guided walk through the woods followed by nature crafts, story time, refreshments and potting your own strawberry plant to take home. Bring a picnic to enjoy afterwards. 10-11:30am. $15/family of 4; $8/family of 2; $5/person. 250-756-5200. Learn to Fish at Long Lake (Loudon Park), Nanaimo. See SAT 11 for details. Parent participation required. 11am-1pm. Free. 250-756-5200.
SUN 26 Qualicum Beach Family Day Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre. A special day for everyone. Come out and play. Free. 10am-noon. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation. Children’s Spring Carnival at the Farmer’s Institute, Salt Spring Island. Games, magic show, face painting, arts & crafts, pony rides, petting zoo, bouncy castle, live music, and more. 10am-3pm. $10/family; $5/adults;
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ONGOING PRESCHOOL LaFF at the Aggie. A safe play-based learning environment for families and caregivers with children newborn to age 6. Reading centre, craft area, Brio train station, and snack table. Indoor car and toy riding area. Monday to Friday, 9:30am-noon and Thursdays 12:151:45pm. $2 suggested donation per family (punch cards available). 250-210-0870, laffexecutivedirector@shaw.ca, www.familyandfriends.ca. Adventures in Early Literacy at the Ladysmith Resource Centre. A parent-child, fun-filled program designed for children ages 3-5 years. Participants learn and have fun doing crafts, playing games and singing. A book is read, lunch and snacks are provided. 9:45-noon. Space is limited, so call 250-245-3079 to get on the list. 630 2nd Ave.
Children Parent & Child Hockey at Cliff McNabb Arena. A fun, non-competitive hockey time for children where their parents can play, too.
Please bring your own gloves, stick, and helmet with face cage. Pre-registration required. Parent participation required. Sundays 2:15-3pm. $5. 250-756-5200. National Lifejacket Day Colouring Contest. The Canadian Red Cross and Ravensong Aquatic Centre challenge you to join them in marking the day by submitting an entry. Colouring sheets and entry details will be available at RAC and online at www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation and on Facebook starting May 1. All entries due May 16 at 4:30pm. For more information, phone RDN, Recreation and Parks at 250-752-5014.
YOUTH The Youth Zone in Ladysmith. A fun and safe place to hang out, meet new friends and enjoy games tables, internet kiosk, TV, movies, board games, karaoke and more. Play sports in the gym, even do homework. Energized leaders will challenge you to try new activities. Tuesdays, 3-6pm in the Rec Room; Wednesdays, 3-5pm in the gym; Fridays 6-10pm in the Rec Room or gym. 250-245-6424. www.ladysmith.ca. The Zone Youth Hang-Out at Beban Park Complex, Nanaimo. Come and hang out with your friends and participate in a different activity each week. Movie nights, dodge ball, soccer,
or electronic night. For 11- to 13-year-olds. $6/drop-in. Fridays, 7-9pm. 250-756-5200.
FAMILY Golden Shoe Hunt. The RDN is fortunate to have 12 regional parks and over 180 community parks in the 7 electoral areas. Take some time to explore these treasures with your family. Clues and instructions for the hunt will be posted at www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation and on Facebook and Twitter until May 17. Family Frolics at the Community Centre, Ladysmith. Bring your parent or caregiver for open gym fun. Burn off some energy with soft toys (balls and nerf-type games), mini-trampoline, ride-on toys, hula hoops and more. Tuesdays, 5:45-6:45pm. $2 suggested donation/family. 250-245-6424. www.ladysmith.ca. Edible Native Plant Walk in Oceanside. Join local herbalist and plant enthusiast Stephanie Mills for a plant walk through local parks. Discover how to identify, prepare and incorporate them into your own back yard. May 8 & 15: Englishman River Regional Park; May 22 & 29: Moorecroft Regional Park. 4:306:30pm. $15/session. Pre-register with RDN, Recreation and Parks at 250-248-3252.•
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Get back in shape and attend to your child’s needs at the same time.
Stroller Boot Camp
Classes are held outdoors and indoors and include a variety of strength, endurance, and interval exercise. FITNESS STUDIO M 10:30-11:30am May 6-Jun 24 $40/8 81141 W 10:30-11:30am May 8-Jun 26 $40/8 81135
Stroller Fit
Classes are held both outdoors and indoors and include power walking, toning and flexibility exercises. FITNESS STUDIO F 10:30-11:30am May 10-Jun 28 $40/8 81137
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Mission Mompossible T
he first cry from my 20-month-old daughter comes most days at 5:07 a.m. If I jump out of bed immediately and sprint to her room I can get to her before she starts full-on crying and wakes her brother. Then the get-her-back-to-sleep game begins. First, I turn on her lullaby CD, make sure she has her soother, two dolls and baby orca stuffie and change her diaper stealthily, all without making too much eye contact. I know the jig is up if she starts yelling “Milk! Milk!” or “Book! Book!” If I hear either of those words, I know it’s all over. She’s up. I’m up. I turn on the lights. If, however, I successfully change her with no shouts, there is a tiny chance she will go back to sleep. I bundle up an armful
My favourite days are those when all three are sleeping and there is a chance for a few minutes alone. I tiptoe down the stairs, quieter than Santa on Christmas Eve. The bottom step is the worst; no matter where I step, some days it creaks, other days it doesn’t. Once down, I sneak into the kitchen, careful not to turn on many lights. I flick the switch on the coffee maker. Usually, the minute the coffee begins to drip, one of the children wakes up. Our coffee maker is so loud that it sounds exactly like the pot full of boiling eggs my grandma used to make when I slept over. If I’m lucky enough to pour some coffee, the three loud beeps signalling that the brewing is finished will most definitely wake someone up and
of toddler, dolls and “bankies” and rock her in our rickety old chair. The chair is on its last legs, but the reassuring creaks and cracks lull my little one back to calmness. Her big blue eyes start to flutter a little and I gather her up, ease her into the crib and tiptoe out of the room. I close her door as quietly as possible, then pause at my bedroom door and listen. Music to my ears is hearing my husband and five-year-old son breathing deeply in the big bed, still asleep. Most mornings I hear a chipper little boy voice asking, “Daddy? Is it time to wake up? Where’s Mommy? Can I go find Mommy?”
so begins the cry of “Momma! Momma!” If, by some miracle, no one wakes from the beeps, I’ll either knock something over, step on a piece of Lego or crash into the table and break the silence. I love it when one child wakes before the other. I pour them some milk and have some precious early morning cuddles with them before the sibling rivalry, hugs, yells and laughter begin for another day.
Stroller Spin
Classes are held in the Fitness Studio and include a spin class and some core strengthening and stretching. FITNESS STUDIO Tu 11:30-12:30pm May 7-Jun 25 $40/8 81139
Yoga – Prenatal
Yoga is a wonderful way to nurture you and your growing baby. Gentle movements strengthen and open the body to meet the changes of pregnancy. Postures include variations for all stages of pregnancy. JDF UPPER CLUBHOUSE Th 5:30-7:00pm May 9-Jun 27 $80/8 81182 Th 5:30-7:00pm Jul 4-Aug 1 $56/5 81183 Th 5:30-7:00pm Aug 8-Aug 29 $40/4 81196
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Anna Sorgard is a mom of two, living in Victoria. She blogs at www.murphymusthavehadkids.com. www.kidsinvictoria.com
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laying and being active help promote a child’s healthy growth and development. One excellent way to encourage active play is through music. For children, listening to music while playing helps them learn patterns and rhythms as well as develop physical fitness, balance and coordination. Here are some music play ideas to get you started. 1. Music play with small instruments. Holding small instruments, such as bells, is fun for children. It helps them listen to the rhythms as they dance. No small instruments? Encourage kids to march and skip while tapping sticks. Try popsicle sticks or wooden coffee stirrers. Shaking maracas is fun, too. Construct your own maraca by filling a small cardboard tube with rice or lentils, then shake it to the beat. Or make a simple drum with a paper plate and a small tapping stick.
2. Music play with stuffies and toys. Dancing with a favourite teddy bear, doll, or stuffy can be fun. Encourage kids to improvise with their stuffy by skipping, marching, sliding or tiptoeing to the music. Or hop like a kangaroo, gallop like a horse or swim like a fish with their stuffy. 3. Music play with scarves and ribbons. Holding a lightweight scarf while dancing encourages children to bend, stretch and reach. The room becomes alive with colour as they twirl, swirl and leap with the scarves. To begin, encourage kids to “free play” and explore with the scarf. Play a variety of music with varied tempos as they move around the room. Encourage large circular arm movements, high and low stretches and side-to-side reaches. Long colourful ribbons can be fun, too. Try dancing with the ribbons outside on a windy day.
4. Music play with beanbags. Beanbags are fun to play with and help to develop muscle coordination and balance. Your child can dance, balance and juggle with the beanbag. Balance it on your head while walking to music with a slow tempo. Balance it on a shoulder while slowly turning in a circle. Or put the beanbag on the floor and hop over it to a faster tempo. Make your own beanbag by filling a rolled up sock with dried beans or use a beanie baby. 5. Music play with balls. Playing with balls while listening to music is fun and helps to develop hand-eye coordination and rhythm skills. Start with sitting and rolling the ball back and forth with a partner. Play slow music, then speed up the music for faster rolls. Try bouncing the ball to the music beat. Try different size balls. There are many other music play ideas that can be explored. Try playing and dancing with hula-hoops. Or, play dress-up and make believe and dance to the music. The ideas are endless. Have fun! Jerri Carson is a primary music teacher for SD #61. She is a member of the CRD Arts Advisory Council. Jerri plays the cello in the Victoria Conservatory Cello Orchestra.
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hat if…your children need something more basic than a trip to Disneyland, the latest piece of technology, or the birthday/Christmas pile of presents that breaks your bank account? What if…they don’t even know how to ask for what they need? What if…their insatiable nagging is for something other than stuff? What if…your children are simply yearning to know what it is that makes you tick? In his book, It’s a Meaningful Life, It Just Takes Practice, author Bo Lozoff suggests that what children really long for and need is to know their parents; to know what their parents think, how they deal with the challenges life offers, what they value, what they think life is all about. If actions speak louder than words, are we conscious of how our lives, as adults and parents, are speaking to our children? How many of us didn’t get to know our parents or grandparents until later in life, when the reality of death nudged us to ask the questions we’d never thought to ask before? To wonder and learn about the values that shaped us into the people we are today? As I speak to various parent and education groups, I often start talking about values. I use an exercise to engage the listeners. On a flipchart I write the following words: “As a parent (teacher), I should be…” and then invite input. People call out words like “organized,” “responsible,” “a good cook,” “unflappable,” “patient,” “a good listener,” “know CPR,” “good at math,” “a willing chauffeur,” etc. Once I have a good long list, I ask the people to peruse it and tell me how they feel. I hear words like “overwhelmed,” “inadequate,” “defeated,” “tired,” “despairing,” and so on. One woman summed it up, “It’s just too much for any one person to be good at everything all the time.” Without fail, there will be a feeling of dejection in the room. “OK,” I say, “now let’s try something a little different.” I turn over to a new page and write the following question: “As a parent (teacher) what do I value?” And I write down the words people offer: “compassion,” “trust,” “creativity,” “nature,” “learning,” “family time,” “celebration,” “extended family” and so on. Not only are the words different than the ones used to
answer the first question (some words do appear on both), but the group’s responses to the different lists is very, very different. People seem surprised as they share that they feel “energized,” “inspired,” “not alone,” “amazed” by the words on the second list. Sometimes I will add words to the second list if they don’t get called out because I suspect most of our children would want to see words up there like “fun,” “humour,” “recreation,” “time together,” and “respect.” When we try to be the kind of parent we think we should be, we are working with an external definition that may or may not connect with who we actually are. The bar is set high so we will fail. But when we talk about what we value as parents, we’re talking about what’s important to us, what we care about. There is no bar. There is no “right” or “wrong.” I see participants get excited, energized, and inspired. Once we’re clear about our values, it’s easy to create a vision for ourselves and for our families; one that is sustainable, one that we can revisit, one that is free of the “shoulds” which weigh us down and deflate us. When our boys were small, my husband Jim and I valued family time and trips to visit extended family. That made it easy to limit spending money on “things.” We shopped second-hand and bought thoughtful but not expensive birthday and Christmas presents for each other. We also made gifts and regifted presents because we always had more than we needed. And when our sons whined about not being able to get something, we could say, “We are saving our money to visit Gramma and Grampa.” Imagining the time in Florida with their cousins and grandparents was usually enough to refocus their attention. They loved time with their extended family. They still do to this day! Families value different things. That’s all we have to say to our children. We don’t have to make people “right” or “wrong.” We might want to honestly say how we feel when people don’t value something in the way we do. Slamming others doesn’t help our children. Knowing how we feel about something, does. To know us, our children need to know what it is we value. What passions draw us www.kidsinvictoria.com
forward and bring out the best in us? They want to know what we don’t value, where we are not interested in devoting our time and energy, and why that is so. They notice whether what we say matches up with our actions and choices. My friend Cam had a lucrative but soulcrushing job. He dreamt about buying and running a bookstore and having more time with his family. But being the responsible guy he was, he stuck to his job and steady income. One day Cam was speaking with one of his sons about the importance of doing something you love as a career. His son interrupted and his response struck to the heart. “But Dad, you’re not doing that!” Those words were part of the push Cam and his wife needed. They decided to risk and go for their dream. Not only has the decision been good for Cam and his family, it’s been good for our community because now we have a wonderful bookstore. And I have an amazing new friend who hosts the writing group I’m part of! When we live with an awareness of what we value, we can more quickly identify when we’re off track. Our unhappiness, frustrations, and tensions don’t seem random, they’re rooted in the distance between our actions and our values. We can figure
out how to correct the misalignment, just as Cam did. I’m not saying it doesn’t take courage sometimes, but we have a process for assessing our lives and choices. Try this quick exercise. Pose these two questions to yourself: “What do I value?” followed by, “Where am I spending my time, energy and money?” If there’s not alignment between the two, you might feel what have been described as “soul blisters,” a painful feeling that’s meant to wake you up so you can choose differently and get aligned to your values. Our children long to feel the roots, creativity, and energy of being part of a family living out its values, but our culture is bereft of values. I have some anxiety using this term “values” when it has been used to further a political career/party, or to sell a product. But hopefully, it’s clear that I’m not talking about “family values” in an external way to describe what I think a parent should believe or how they should act. Rather, I’m talking about getting clear about what it is that you value as a parent so that your choices can flow naturally from this clarity. This clarity will serve your children who are bombarded by the “values” of a consumer culture that sees people solely for their ability to consume and/or produce.
Your clarity will give them the ability to look beyond superficial things and navigate with a deeper, stronger rudder; clearly knowing what they value as true and important. A rudder that will not only serve them personally, but will serve their community, their world, this planet we call home. How do you treat people in your own home, how do you treat possessions, how do you live with others? These are the big questions. The answers are rooted in a deep knowing of what is important to you. The answers are not rooted in any product, service, experience, or even parenting book. Yes, all these things can help you live out your values, but the crucial thing is to know what your values are, articulate them for yourselves as a family, and start making choices based on those values. Then the overload of options, choices, products, services, adventures, opportunities can be filtered through your values, thereby making them much more manageable. Selinde Krayenhoff is the cofounder of Island Parent Magazine, a community worker, writer, workshop facilitator and keynote speaker on topics covering parenting, spirituality and mid-life transition. Visit her blog at selindek.wordpress.com.
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Growing Up Bilingual L
anguage mixing—using elements from two languages in the same sentence—is frequent among bilingual parents and could pose a challenge for vocabulary acquisition by one- and two-year-old children, according to a new study by Concordia University psychology professor Krista Byers-Heinlein. Vocabulary acquisition problems are likely temporary, however, and are often counterbalanced by cognitive advantages afforded to children raised in a bilingual environment. How do bilingual parents use their two languages when interacting with their young children? Until recently, little has been known about how often parents switch between languages when interacting with their toddlers, and whether such exposure to language mixing influences vocabulary size. To find the answers, Byers-Heinlein collaborated with Dr. Janet Werker’s Infant Studies Centre in Vancouver. She recruited 181 bilingual parents who spoke English as well as another language, and examined how often and in what situations they mixed languages while speaking with their children. Each parent had a one- or two-year-old child being raised bilingually or trilingually, having heard English and one or two other languages regularly since birth. Rather than being a rare phenomenon, the results showed that language mixing is common in interactions between bilingual parents and their children. Indeed, 90 per cent of parents reported mixing their languages in interactions with their children. Parents did not mix their languages haphazardly, however, but instead reported principled reasons for mixing. For example, they borrowed words from the other language when there was no adequate translation, when they were not sure of a word, and when the word was hard to pronounce. Parents also reported frequently borrowing words from one language when teaching new words to their children in the other. Thus, bilingual parents might use language mixing as a strategy to make sure their children learn words equally in both languages. Byers-Heinlein then examined the vocabulary size of 168 children whose parents had responded to the study. All of the children were learning English, but their non-English language varied widely—from German to Japanese, French to Farsi. As such, she focused on children’s English vocabulary
size, while statistically controlling for the words that children likely knew in their non-English language. She found that exposure to parental language mixing predicted significantly smaller comprehension vocabularies (words understood) in the younger children, and marginally smaller production vocabularies (words spoken) in the older children. Why is that? Byers-Heinlein explains that, “high rates of language mixing make it harder for children to categorize words they hear. That could lead to slower word learning and smaller vocabularies. It also seems that it’s more difficult to learn a word from a mixed-language sentence than from a single-language sentence.”
…Exposure to parental language mixing predicted significantly smaller comprehension vocabularies (words understood) in younger children, and marginally smaller production vocabularies (words spoken) in older children. But that doesn’t mean children raised in a bilingual environment are at a disadvantage. Byers-Heinlein cautions that, “even if exposure to language mixing is initially challenging for vocabulary acquisition, it likely has benefits over the long term.” Studies comparing monolingual and bilingual infants have shown that bilinguals are more adept at switching between strategies and are more able to learn two rules at the same time, she explains. “Infants exposed to frequent language mixing could develop specific strategies for coping with this type of input. That could lead to cognitive advantages that would outweigh any initial difficulties brought about by language mixing.” For more information, visit the Centre for Research in Human Development at crdh. concordia.ca/homee.html. www.kidsinvictoria.com
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Welcome to Holland
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am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability—to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this… When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip—to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Colosseum. Michelangelo’s David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting. After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome To Holland.” “Holland?!” you say. “What do you mean ‘Holland’? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.” But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay. The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place. So you must go and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met. It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills…Holland has tulips…Holland even has Rembrandts. But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy…and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.” And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away…because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss. But…if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things…about Holland. Written by Emily Perl Kingsley, © 1987. Reprinted with permission.
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5 Tech-Free Ways to Promote Early Speech & Language
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ith technology a part of our everyday lives, parents of children under five often find themselves using the latest device or learning software to give their children an educational edge. We all know how easy it is for children to be captivated by technology. However, while the latest gadgets can have educational benefits for children’s speech and language development, they are most effective when used together with adult interaction. It is this engagement with another person that is critical for a rich learning experience. From a speech-language pathologist’s perspective, the most effective way to help children learn how to communicate is through interaction with others. In fact, some of our simplest interactions make the greatest impact on a child who is learning to communicate. These everyday exchanges benefit all children, including those who have or are at risk of speech/language delays. Having the latest technology isn’t necessary for speech and language development. Here are some practical ways you can stimulate your child’s speech and language development without the aid of technology. 1. Introduce new words to your child at mealtime by repeating words and phrases. For example, you might ask “Want more? More?” and when offering more say “Here’s more! More crackers. More, more, more.” A child may be able to understand longer sentences but will still need short, simple, and repetitive information to learn to talk. You might find repetition boring, but children, especially those having difficulty learning language, need to hear words many times before they learn the meaning of words and are able to speak those words themselves. It’s natural to name objects for your child, such as banana or spoon, but children will need a variety of words to communicate fully, so consider repeating words for actions (eat, drink, squish…), feelings (hungry, happy, sad…), belonging (mine, yours, Daddy’s…), describing (sticky, hot, cold…), social interactions (hello, please, thank you…), or locations (in, on, under…).
2. Use the opportunity while facing your baby at a change table to match your baby’s sounds and noises. If your baby says “ah-ba-ba-ba” you can repeat back “ah-ba-ba-ba.” Enjoy sharing a back-andforth conversation this way, remembering to pause after your turn to allow your baby a turn to “talk” (for example, making a face,
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a sound, or an action). Continue to act as if you’re having a real conversation, making eye contact, waiting for your child to finish before starting your turn, and matching your length of turn to your child’s. You can keep the conversation going by changing the pitch of your voice or adding a new sound into the mix (“ah-ma-ma-ma”). Your baby may or may not copy you, but you’ve likely sparked interest and helped your baby attend to your voice, teaching him that talking means sharing messages back and forth. 3. It’s normal for young children to make speech sound errors while they are learning to speak clearly. In your own speech, you can try lengthening and strengthening a sound your child is learning to say as a way to help your child tune in and notice the sound. The next time you’re in a waiting room with your child, emphasize a sound clearly while you talk about pictures in a magazine or book. For example, if your child struggles to say the “s” sound clearly, you might say “What do you ssssssee on thisssss page? I ssssssee yummy ssssstrawberries.” If your child says “I wike tawbewies,” you don’t need to ask your child to correct their speech. Continue to highlight the sound by repeating it back correctly, as in “I like ssssstrawberries too!” 4. While on a walk, repeat what your child says and add a word or two. For a child who communicates with single words and says “Wet,” you could respond with “Yes, www.kidsinvictoria.com
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imagination! Join in by copying your child’s actions. That may mean pushing cars if your child is pushing cars. Gradually add to the play scenario by modeling more advanced actions or ideas. For example, you might pretend your car is flying or suggest all the cars go for a pretend swim. In the same way, for a child who is already imagining more elaborate scenarios, you might use comments and questions to extend the scenario even further. For example, “We finished feeding the animals. Do they need to get ready for bed? Let’s get their pyjamas!” Playing with children stimulates their learning and talking. In fact, by helping children learn how to pretend an object or action is something else (a symbol), you help them learn language. Above all else, enjoy having fun together! Yes, tablet games, educational software, and DVDs are captivating, but don’t underestimate the power of sharing simple interactions and joys in everyday experiences. It’s in everyday social exchanges where meaningful communication takes place and children learn to become successful communicators. May is Speech and Hearing Awareness Month. Speech, language and hearing resources for all ages can be found by selecting “Consumer Info” at www.speechandhearing.ca.
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wet puddle,” “It’s wet,” “Wet shoes” or “You’re wet!” depending on the context. Similarly, if your child speaks in phrases, such as “That doggie,” you might respond by adding “That doggie’s running,” “That’s a big doggie,” or “That doggie’s fast.” By taking what your child says and extending it a small step further you help your child learn how to communicate ideas beyond what they are already expressing. 5. Join your child in their world of play. You don’t need “educational” toys—just
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Random Moments
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o there I am, beginning a new day, brushing my eldest’s teeth, wondering yet again what exactly the toothpaste people mean when they say “pea-sized dab,” wondering yet again if fluoride is the greatest thing ever for our kids’ teeth or the worst thing ever for our kids’ teeth (I have no idea, people tell me both. If anyone knows, get in touch…actually, no, don’t. Don’t ever talk to me about fluoride again, I don’t care anymore), wondering when exactly toothpaste concerns became so incredibly heated and life-or-death important. Then I stop thinking about that and, as my youngest throws a banshee-esque tantrum in the other room, I think of an unrecognized example of literary genius in Richard Price’s 1974 novel The Wanderers. At the very end of this great coming-of-age story, the protagonist is sitting on a bench in a crowded playground, with the sounds of screaming kids all around him. He places his hands over his ears, desperately trying to block out the sound, yet choosing to not just get up and sit somewhere else. This leads me to start thinking about my own kids, and what it will be like when they come of age. I mean, being a dad is a wild ride, isn’t it? And just imagine—if you’re not already hurtling down the tracks—what it will be like when your little ones have those moments in late teenagehood where the world starts making sense, where reality hits. Realistically, parents have nothing to do with those moments—as it should be—but I still like to imagine I’ll be there to help out my little ones. Still brushing my kid’s teeth, this, inexplicably, leads me to think about ZZ Top. For this, I can offer no explanation. I also offer no apology. Turning to my daughter, I start maniacally humming the riff to a classic ZZ Top tune, more for my own enjoyment than hers. For some reason this angers her. She tells me to stop and that I “stink like raw zucchini.” It’s unclear if she’s serious or not. I tone it down a bit, but keep humming
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the tune; how can you stop a ZZ Top song once you start? You can’t. Cut to later that day. It’s the weekend, the wife is at work, I’ve got both rugrats under my care, and I’ve just spent 45 minutes waiting for an appointment which I now realize is actually scheduled for next week. Flustered, I get them back home and toss the youngest into his crib, praying that he’ll fall asleep fast enough to get a good nap in before we race out the door for his sister’s violin lesson. Out of the corner of my eye, I
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see that I haven’t done the dishes yet today and I gotta get those suckers done quick because we need to eat lunch and then paint Easter eggs later and, then, a request rolls in: “Daddy? Can you cut out some hearts for me from this paper?” Okay, stop. This, you’re thinking, is the moment where the frazzled dad realizes he’s worrying too much about irrelevant problems, and the innocence in his daughter’s eyes makes him smile and take a deep breath and enjoy the little things in life. Right? Of course not. I panick. Look, I’m 36 years old. I’m a man. Cutting out little hearts from pieces of paper with child-size scissors, even with my daughter, is just not something I excel at. So I try, and my “heart” looks more like the symbol for some death cult, all triangular and symmetrical and intense. I offer it to my daughter, my hand twitching just a bit as I hold it out to her. She stares at me. A pea sitting on top of a toothbrush, an image from a classic novel, children coming of age, a ZZ Top tune, paper hearts gone tragically awry. All random moments making up just one typical day in the life of a dad, a life that even at the most frustrating and baffling of times, I’d trade for nothing. Greg Pratt is the father of two children and a local journalist and editor. His writing has appeared in, among other places, Today’s Parent, Wired, Revolver and Douglas.
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Cooking, for Everyday Use
It is a matter of measuring, timing, and plain and simple practice. Enjoy!
or what do we require food? For two chief purposes, viz.:—to produce and maintain the various tissues of the body while fulfilling their respective vital functions; and to generate heat, without which life would cease. For these ends different forms of food are required.” Meet The Blue Ribbon Cookbook, For Everyday Use in Western Homes, the 1905 edition, from my Granny Barker’s library. I am obsessed. The book is a basic how-to, a primer written to instruct on and de-mystify kitchen activities. The book’s basic, matterof-fact language (think Professor McGonagall—brisk, kind, and not a whiff of nonsense) reinforces, without any pretension at all, that any and everyone can cook. And one gets the feeling, without guilt or pressure, that any and everyone should cook. There are rules to follow, of course, as in any harmoniously run universe (or household). “Divided recipes fail because they are not accurately divided.” “All vegetables, with the exception of potatoes, should be cooked in uncovered vessels.” “All pastry should be baked in a hot oven.” When these, and similar, precepts are recognized
2 cups frozen peas 1 avocado 3 Tbsp raw pistachios, shelled 1⁄4 cup fresh mint, roughly chopped 1⁄3 cup light vegetable oil (such as canola or grapeseed) 2 Tbsp lemon juice 1 Tbsp cider vinegar 1 tsp lemon zest 1 Tbsp honey dash hot sauce, if desired salt and pepper, to taste Cook peas according to package directions. Drain; set aside in medium-sized bowl to cool. Halve avocado, remove pit, and cut into 1⁄2-inch squares. Add avocado, pistachio nuts, and mint to peas. Toss well to combine. In small bowl, combine oil, lemon juice, vinegar, honey, lemon zest, hot sauce and salt and pepper. Whisk well. Drizzle dressing over pea mixture and serve, either chilled or at room temperature.
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3 cups broccoli florets 3 stalks red or green kale 1⁄2 cup oil-packed sundried tomatoes, gently squeeze-dried 1⁄4 cup sunflower seeds 1⁄4 cup red onion, chopped 3⁄4 cup mayonnaise 1 tsp paprika 1 tsp mustard powder 1–2 tsp sugar 1 tsp cider vinegar salt and pepper, to taste Whisk together mayonnaise, vinegar, paprika, mustard, sugar, and salt and pepper. Taste; adjust if necessary. Set aside. Wash broccoli and separate florets into small, bite-sized pieces. Rinse kale, cut leaves finely, discarding tough stalk portions. Toast sunflower seeds in small skillet over medium heat, tossing frequently to avoid burning, until fragrant and golden. Cool. Finely chop onion and tomatoes. Mix together broccoli, kale, tomatoes, and sunflower seeds. Drizzle dressing over top. Stir well. Allow to sit for at least one hour before serving. Kathy Humphrey lives in Victoria with her husband and two children. She tries to see cooking for a family not as a chore but as a creative outlet.
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To Sleep, Perchance to Dream
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eorge Bernard Shaw famously said that “Youth is wasted on the young.” I see his point, but I think he is slightly off the mark. Kids enjoy the exuberance of youth, the energy of it. Youth isn’t wasted on them. What they really don’t appreciate is sleep. I know this was true for me, in my Life Before Kids. Oh, the weekend mornings I frittered away, blithely sleeping past 8:00 a.m., without even an inkling of gratitude! In those days, sleep was a guaranteed luxury. Back then, I didn’t find myself dreaming about sleeping. When the kids came along, I thought I was prepared to lose a little sleep. I read the books. I paid attention to the advice doled out to me by strangers in line at the grocery store checkout. But this collective wisdom proved useless to me. You see, I have not been blessed with those mythical creatures, the fabled “good sleepers.” To my three, it seems that sleep is some kind of torture, akin to being forced to scrub toilets, or to eat liver and onions for breakfast. I’ve done my best to show the kids the benefits of sleeping. Those books were put to the test, over the years, as we tried every tactic and then some. Swaddled sleeping vs. unswaddled sleeping. Scheduled sleeping vs. baby-led sleeping. Music before bed didn’t work, but neither did quiet before bed. We tried gentle tactics, stringent tactics, and comedy routines. We tried putting the crib in our room, then putting the crib in the nursery…and one sleep-deprived night, hubby and I found ourselves bedding down on the living room floor, allowing our restless infant the peace and quiet he deserved in the master suite. Despite this arsenal of varied strategies, all three babes seemed allergic to sleep. It didn’t let up once they entered toddlerhood—but it did get more interesting. There was a particularly memorable phase when our eldest, then two, decided to wean herself off sleep. For reasons as yet unexplained, she invented a new routine: www.kidsinvictoria.com
Stand in bed, screaming as loud as possible; After 45 minutes, succumb to exhaustion—fall asleep with cheek resting on side of crib; Fall down—due to being asleep—and in the process, wake self up; Scramble to standing position, resume screaming; Repeat as necessary until parents are driven to tears. This went on day and night for several weeks, leaving me so tired and frustrated
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that I once climbed into the crib, eight months pregnant, in an attempt to get her to lie down and go to sleep. It didn’t work, but I can tell you that Storkcraft cribs are admirably sturdy. Preschool years have led us deep into the wilds of bedwetting and sleepwalking. The older children now collaborate on epic and complex stalling strategies. We play bedroom roulette, still under the illusion that everyone will sleep well once we find the perfect layout of the right kid in the right bed in the right room. If we get through a night without scary dreams, itchy elbows, or Tylenol, we are content. In short, our standards for a “good night’s sleep” have lowered considerably…dropped through the floor, in fact. Every day, I puzzle over this battle. Sleep is wonderful. I’d like to be asleep right now. In these years when they can sleep whenever they want, why must they fight it so? But when I watch them tearing through the day, it’s obvious: they fight sleep because they’ve got so much living to do. Sleeping means missing out, and they don’t want to bypass a moment in this amazing world. From that perspective, my choice is clear—I’d rather watch their vibrant lives than I would sleep. And so I’ve made my peace with it. I’ll sleep one day. Or maybe I won’t. In the meantime, there is excitement enough to keep me awake. And there is always coffee.
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Family Services Directory This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families. BC Families in Transition (formerly the Separation and Divorce Resource Centre) is one of three non-profit agencies in North America that offers professional counselling, legal support and education for people who are having problems in their relationships. Each year we help 10,000 adults, children and youth through family changes, separations and divorces, remarriages, and complex family situations. Whether you wish to separate or remain together, call us at 250-386-4331 or visit www.bcfit.org to see how we can help. Some evening and weekend appointments available. Beacon Community Services is a community-based non-profit agency providing social, employment, and health services to Saanich Peninsula, Greater Victoria, and Southern Gulf Islands residents. Beacon offers: child, youth, and family services; a drop-in family resource centre; counselling; employment services for adults, youth, and people with disabilities; home support; volunteer services and opportunities; community events; affordable assisted living for seniors; referrals, information, and resources; thrift shops. For Home Support information call 250-658-6407; for all other inquiries call 250-656-0134, or visit www.beaconcs.ca. Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria is a non-profit organization that provides mentoring programs for children and youth between the ages of 7 - 17. Adult volunteers (“Bigs”) are matched with children (“Littles”) based on shared interests, respect and trust. No special skills or experience are needed to be a mentor to a child, just a willingness to be a friend and commit to being a
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consistent, positive adult role model. Make a BIG difference in the life of a child in as little as 1 hr./ week. Contact us at 250-475-1117 or visit www. bbbsvictoria.com or ‘LIKE’ our page at facebook. com/bbbsvictoria. Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for children and youth at 4 locations. We also offer support to parents (Parents Together) and programs at our Outdoor Centre in Metchosin. For more information on all programs and services visit www.bgcvic.org or call 250.384.9133. The Child Abuse Prevention & Counselling Society/Mary Manning Centre is the primary provider of therapy and victim support services for children and youth in Greater Victoria who experience sexual abuse, physical abuse, and other serious trauma, or who may be at risk for sexual abuse. Therapy services include individual and group sessions for children and youth and group sessions for parents. Victim services include intake and referral, accompaniment and support for children and youth being interviewed by police, and court preparation and support for those testifying as victims or witnesses in criminal cases. No charge for clients. Contact: 250-385-6111 or admin@ marymanning.com. Community Living Victoria supports people with developmental disabilities and their families by providing residential services, day and community supports (supported employment, parent support and independent living). Our Host agency provides direct supports for those with Individualized Fund-
ing and Home Share service. We also provide Autism Services for youth between 13 and 19. Our family support program offers advocacy, conflict resolution, education, newsletters, workshops, support groups and a resource library. Please call 250-477-7231 ext 233. Esquimalt Neighbourhood House Society. Our Family Services offer family resource programs with a focus on early childhood development and learning, parenting education and pre and post-natal services. Our Counselling Services are free to adults and youth (12-18 years); adult and short term clinical counselling is offered for acute mental health problems. For more information call 250-385-2635 or visit 511 Constance Ave. in Esquimalt. Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees. Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming and the Diversity Health Fair. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250-388-4728, info@icavictoria.org, www.icavictoria.org. Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions. Services include a public lending library, individual/ group support for parents and children, professional/educational workshops for parents and professionals. Child and youth programs include: reading/writing, academic skills, social/emotional skill development and Fast ForWord. 1562 Fort Street, Victoria, BC V8S 5J2. Ph 250.370.9513. Fax. 250.370.9421. www.ldasvi.bc.ca. www. knowyourrights.ca
Writing for Island Parent Many of the articles in Island Parent are written by people just like you: parents who want to share their experiences, knowledge or ideas with other parents. We’re always happy to consider your submission, whether you’re a published writer or not. If you’re itching to express yourself but need a few pointers or a friendly nudge, come out for an evening of inspiration. We’re holding a Writing for Island Parent workshop on Tuesday, May 7th, 7–9pm, at 830 Pembroke St, Ste B (across from the north side of Save On Foods Memorial Arena). Space is limited. If you’d like to attend, please e-mail Sue Fast at editor@islandparent.ca.
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Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community. Services include: 24 Hour Information Line, Deployment Information and Workshops, Short Term Intervention/Crisis Support, Welcome/ Relocation Services, services for families with special needs and responsibilities and childcare services and support to parents. Exciting Volunteer opportunities available! Call the MFRC: 250-3632640 (1-800-353-3329) for information. www. esquimaltmfrc.com. Parent Support Services Society (www. parentsupportbc.ca) provides support circles, parenting resources and referrals to all in a parenting role including grandparents raising grandchildren. Our training in peer group facilitation is open to the community. Support circles are free with child minding and transportation assistance available. Volunteers are always needed. Call 250-3848042; email parent-support@shaw.ca. 1Up: Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for reception and peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms, and a support group for dads. The Centre also offers over 20 integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are on a sliding scale). Child care assistance is available based on financial need. The Centre provides a bread pantry and free clothing for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books, and toys are very welcome every Monday and Wednesday. Centre hours are 9–4 weekdays. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-385-1114 or info@1-up.ca. South Island Centre for Counselling & Training is an affordable, non-profit, counselling agency serving individuals and families from all social, ethnic, and financial backgrounds. We help people with a wide range of issues including low self-esteem, depression, grief, marital and family conflict, abuse and spiritual direction. We also offer helpful “life” courses. For more information contact us at 250-472-2851; info@southislandcentre.ca. Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with epilepsy by providing tutoring and one on one professional consultations to help your child to live up to their full potential. We offer epilepsy education workshops in private and public schools, and keep you up to date on the latest research about medications, lifestyle and safety for your child. Visit us at www.vepc.bc.ca to find out more, and to explore our bursaries for Camosun College. Calls are also welcome at 250-475-6677. www.IslandParent.ca
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Transforming disability into ability. At Discovery School, learning disabilities are transformed into valuable skills and abilities. Students work at their own pace in small classes, with focused, individualized instruction. • Experienced, highly-qualified teachers • Ongoing assessment, evaluation & feedback • Improves organizational & study skills • Boost confidence, independence & responsibility • Nurturing environment based on Christian values • For students aged 7 – 17 in grades 1 – 12 • Individual Education Plans • Low student/teacher ratio
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K, Mamas: You may have been blessed with a beautiful baby and a loving partner, yet you find yourself crying over things that usually wouldn’t bother you. If this is supposed to be such a happy time, why do you feel so low? Having a baby can be both exhilarating and exhausting. It can bring much joy, but it can also challenge you in ways you never expected. Soon after giving birth, you may find that you feel weepy and your moods can change from minute to minute. Rest assured, these feelings—known as the “baby blues”—are normal during the first couple of weeks after childbirth. You are not alone. Some degree of emotional upheaval is natural and almost expected after childbirth. Up to 80 per cent of new mothers experience the baby blues, a reaction likely due to hormonal shifts that begins a few days after delivery and generally lasts no longer than two weeks. Moms often feel better after getting some rest and a helping hand with the baby. But if your blues—or those of someone you love—have lasted more than two weeks, read on.
Is it postpartum depression (PPD)? Postpartum depression can begin anytime from right after birth to months later, and may last months or longer if left untreated. A busy and sleep-deprived mom experiencing PPD may deny, even to herself, that she is struggling emotionally, so it is especially important to be aware of warning signs. Common symptoms may include: • Irritability or hypersensitivity • Difficulty concentrating • Anxiety and worry • Crying or tearfulness • Feelings such as anger, sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, failure or guilt • Lack of interest in activities you usually enjoy • Difficulty sleeping (especially returning to sleep) • Extreme fatigue or exhaustion • Changes in appetite or eating habits
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• Lack of self-care • Headaches, stomachaches, muscle or backaches • Inability to enjoy baby • Thoughts of harming yourself or baby. If you think you may act on these thoughts or if you feel incapable of caring for your newborn, seek medical attention immediately.
New Parent Pages Diana Hurschler, BScN
What causes depression after childbirth? Experts agree there is no single cause but rather a complex combination of hormonal, biochemical, environmental, psychological, and genetic factors. Current research indicates that one of the strongest predictors of PPD is depression or anxiety during pregnancy. Studies have considered the changes in hormone levels that occur in pregnancy and immediately after birth, effects of prolonged sleep deprivation, expectations of motherhood, birth experiences and level of support the mother has with caring for her newborn.
What can help? As a first step in recovering from and/or preventing a mild to moderate depression, here are some ways to take care of yourself: • Rest as much as you can. The rigors of caring for a newborn 24/7 can leave you exhausted. Moms with postpartum clinical conditions often can’t sleep when they want to, but it is still important to take rest breaks, even if you just flip through a magazine or watch a TV show. • Eat a healthy diet and drink enough water.
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• Aim to be physically active every day. Take a daily walk with your baby. If even a brief excursion is too much for you right now, then just go outside, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and sit in the sunshine for a few minutes. It will help. • Ask for support. Part of being a good mother is knowing when to ask for help— so don’t be afraid to ask for it during this difficult time. Help comes in many forms, ranging from friends who cook meals and fold your laundry to therapy. You need support from others so you can get better. • Discuss your feelings with your loved ones, health care provider or public health nurse. Tell someone you trust about how you feel. Call an understanding friend. Join a mom’s group for support. You may be surprised at how many women are experiencing similar feelings.
Partner Support A new mother who is trying to cope with depression needs support from her partner and loved ones. Here are some suggestions on how to help out: • Spend time talking about feelings and show that you are trying to understand • Help out with basic household routines such as meal prep and laundry
• Ask and accept help from friends and family to take care of baby or clean the house • Let her know she is loved and valued • Become familiar with symptoms of PPD and seek immediate attention if she talks of harming herself or baby. This is not something you can deal with on your own. Postpartum depression is a serious health issue. One way to show support is to attend healthcare provider appointments and share your concerns. Don’t forget about your own well-being during this time: it is also important for you to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
Where to Get Help If you are experiencing any of the above signs, please seek help. Postpartum depression and anxiety can impact you physically and affect your emotions, thinking, and behaviours. Without treatment, postpartum depression affects both you and your baby. A mother who is depressed for a long time can have difficulty bonding and caring for her baby, which can have effects on her baby’s sense of safety, security and love. Treating depression early will lessen possible long-term effects on both mother and baby.
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There are many resources and supports available to help you: • Your health care provider or public health nurse • Community family services or resource centre • HealthLink BC (dial 8-1-1) or toll free for deaf/hearing‑impaired at 1‑866‑889‑4700 • Pacific Postpartum Support Society (604‑255‑7999) • Local support groups • BC Mental Health Information Line (1‑800‑661‑2121) All children deserve the chance to have a healthy mom and all moms deserve a chance to enjoy their life and their children. If you are feeling depressed after having a baby, do not suffer alone. The best help usually comes from a mix of support from health care providers, family, friends, self‑help, and community connections. May your Mother’s Day be a happy one! Diana Hurschler, RN BscN, childbirth educator, certified breastfeeding counselor, has been helping families in their childbearing years and beyond since 1998. Diana is the proud mama of four little ones. She can be reached at diana@hurschler.com.
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Preschool & Child Care Directory CENTRAL SAANICH
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Chrysalis Child Care..........................250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 3–5 year olds. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play. www.chrysalischildcare.ca.
Lexie’s Little Bears’ Child Care Inc....................................250-590-3603 Our Outdoor Nature program provides your child with an experience un-like no other in the elements! Our program boasts our OWN 2 acre forest for your child to explore and learn while our ECEs provide a strong Reggio Emilia Influence. Like us on Facebook. www. lexieslittlebears.com. Space available. Waitlist for September being taken now!
Colwood/LANGFORD Almosthome Childcare/Preschool...250-590-7666 Quality childcare with a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Experienced Early Childhood Educators. Nurturing environment for ages 10 months to 5 years old. www.almosthomecare.com. Caring Touch Daycare.......................250-478-4886 A warm, loving, fun family daycare in a safe, nurturing environment. Infant/toddler care for ages 1–5 years. Jenn’s Little Bears.............................250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow! Miles of Smiles Licensed Child Care..........................250-298-7374 Dedicated to offering quality care where caring, learning, diversity, guidance and fun are the priority. www. milesofsmileschildcare.com Music Makers Child Care Centre.....250-294-3916 Offering an innovative environment that develops musical abilities and encourages a love of music while following a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Group care for children 2 to 6 and infant/toddler care for ages 12 to 36 months. www.musicmakerschildcare.com
CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool......................250-652-2311 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. www.carrotseedpreschool.com. Cordova Bay Preschool....................250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent-participation preschool with a philosophy of “learning through play.” www. cordovabaypreschool.org.
ESQUIMALT CIARA Early Childhood Centre.........250-386-7369 Education and fun hand in hand. Exceptional care for little ones ages 12 month-5yrs in an inclusive centre with Christian values. Island Kids Academy Esquimalt.......250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca. La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool..........................250-479-0292 French immersion program. 30 months to school age. Licensed Christian centre. www.prematernelleappletree.com. Simply Fun Childcare Centre............250-881-3958 A warm, loving, fun and nurturing place for children to grow and learn. We have spaces available for registration ages 2.5 to 12 in our Licensed Group Facility. We offer extraordinary childcare, before and after school programs and a preschool. Our teachers are extremely qualified with ECE training and have lots of experience. Call Brenda to set up a tour. Let your child’s light shine bright with us!
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METCHOSIN A Growing Place................................250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July. Metchosin Co-op Preschool.............250-478-9241 Come and visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, warm, nurturing, play-based,inclusive program allowing parents to grow and learn alongside their child. Exceptional ECE Staff provide an enriching experience for 2.5 - 5 year olds. Come grow with us! Est.1960. Reg. begins Mar.1 @ 9am. www.metchosinpreschool. wordpress.com.
North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre.......250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.
OAK BAY Emmanuel Preschool........................250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. www.emmanuelpreschool.ca. Gonzales Co-op Preschool...............250-727-1003 Children explore their imaginations in our learning-throughplay environments and large natural playground. Our Reggio-Emilia inspired program focuses on art, nature and music. Over 50 years serving Victoria’s families. Nuturing and highly qualified ECE and ECE Assistant. Parent participation level options available and allergy-aware. Join us! www.gonzalespreschool.com. Kindred Spirits Children’s House........250-590-6966 Now accepting registration for a small group of 2.5–5 year olds in a purpose built Montessori classroom. The prepared environment stimulates and engages the children at their own pace with hands on, size, age and developmentally appropriate materials. www.kindredspiritschildrenshouse.com Oak Bay Co-op Preschool..................250-592-1922 Children Learn Through Play in this parent participation school. Our bright facility is allergy-free with a large outdoor playground. www.oakbaypreschool.com. Recreation Oak Bay..........................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, qualified ECE Daycare and Preschool with play based learning. After school care also available. St. Christopher’s Montessori School............................250-595-3213 A beautiful, warm environment, steps from beach and park in Oak Bay. We offer an enriched Montessori program – half days for 3 and 4 year olds and half or full day Kindergarten. www.stcmsoakbaybc.com.
SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre.....250-477-3731 Innovative and dynamic preschool programming. Children’s learning is nurtured and guided through exploration, discovery, play and creative expression. www.arbutusgrove.ca.
Cloverdale Child Care.......................... 250-995-1766 Preschool for 3 & 4 year olds, Come grow with us and learn through play. www.cloverdalechildcare.com. Full o’ Beans Preschool........................ 250.360.1148 Opening September 2013. We offer ‘learn through play’ programming designed to foster your child’s natural curiosity and imagination. Flexible scheduling, 2.5 and 4 hour programs, qualified staff. Registration is ongoing!www.saanichneighbourhoodplace.com. Island Montessori House..................250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing preschool, kindergarten, Grade 1/2 program. Located in a lovely rural setting. Extended day available. www.islandmontessori.com. Lakehill Co-op Preschool.................250-477-4141 Where children’s development is nurtured through a child centered inclusive, play based program. Come visit our out natural outdoor playground and meet our loving qualified ECE team. Multiple Levels of participation available, please enquire. www.lakehillpreschool.org. Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare............................................250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre. Flexible options, play-based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40+ years. www.lambrickparkpreschool.ca. Little Readers Academy....................250-477-5550 An enriched learn-to-read program for your 3-6 yearold! Reading, Writing and Math. Half-day, weekend and evening sessions available. www.oxfordlearning.com. Montessori Educare..........................250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environments in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months – 5 years. Summer program available. Special needs are welcome. www.montessorieducare.com. Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten..250-479-4410 Offering an early literacy program 4 mornings/wk. (TF) for 4 year olds in an attractive, culturally-sensitive learning environment in Lake Hill School. Oakcrest Preschool...........................250-472-0668 • Two fully qualified teachers, AM classes • No duty days, wide variety of parent jobs • www.oakcrestpreschool.org Playtime Preschool...........................250-383-3101 AM or PM preschool classes up to 20 hrs/wk. Tillicum. Spacious facility, qualified ECEs. Let’s Talk About Touching Program. www.playtimepreschool.com. Puddles & Paints Playschool............250-658-6573 Introduce your children to Nature with our outdoor nature-lovers program. Our centre backs up to 15 acres of our “secret-garden” parkland where we can learn and explore! Strong environmental awareness with a “Naturalplay-based” philosophy. ECE staff, and a strong Reggio Emilia Influence! Celebrating and supporting your child’s world and successes! Like us on Facebook! Ready Set Grow Preschool...............250-472-1530 A warm, caring, quality Learning Through Play environment. Gordon Head area with a highly qualified ECE. heosc@pacificcoast.net. Rogers Child Care Centre.................250-744-2343 Trusted High Quality Programs since 1991. Early Learning and Out of School Care. www.rogerschildcare.com. St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool..............................250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds. • A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.
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Preschool & Child Care Directory St. Margaret’s Preschool & Junior Kindergarten..........................250-479-7171 Our programme for 3 and 4 year old girls offers a nurturing and educationally stimulating curriculum provided by experienced ECE staff and specialist teachers. Our state of the art facility is located in beautiful environmental surroundings. www.stmarg.ca. Strawberry Vale Preschool...............250-479-4213 Children learn through play at our parent participation preschool. Programs for 3 and 4 year olds at “The Little Red Schoolhouse.”
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Wiseways Preschool & Daycare.......250-477-1312
Fully licensed Christian preschool for 3 and 4 year olds. Designed to meet the needs of the whole child. Subsidized fees welcome. www.wiseways. lambrick.com.
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Year-round quality child care where preschoolers explore and learn in a culture of Christian values and virtues. positivepath@shaw.ca.
VICTORIA ArtsCalibre Academy........................250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. www.ArtsCalibre.ca Babies to Big Kids Childcare............... 250-590-5540 949 Fullerton Ave. Daycare owner, 250-818-9225 Licenced group childcare for children 6 months to 12 years old. Three programs offered: Infant toddler program, Three to Five Program and Before and After School Care Program. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. Weekly music and movement classes. www.babiestobigkids. com, info@babiestobigkids.com. Butterfly Corner.................................... 250-381-4845 Licensed family day care in James Bay. Since 1998. ECE. Ages 1–5. Full time. Fun & Educational. http:// ButterflyCornerCreativeLearningCentre.com Castleview Child Care.......................250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Experience. Licensed nonprofit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. www.castleviewchildcarecentre.com. Cedar Daycare...................................250-479-2032 Community oriented, NFP Child Care facility. Wide variety of activities offered including the use of a private outdoor pool during the summer months. Licensed ECE educators devoted to nurturing children aged 30 months – 5 years. www.cedardaycare.com. Christ Church Cathedral Childcare.. 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3 and 4 year olds in our spacious and welcoming facility in James Bay. www. cathedralschool.ca.
Downtown Y Child Care Centre.......250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. www.victoriay.com. Lansdowne Co-op Preschool...........250-370-5392 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. wwwlansdownepreschool.com. Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten...................250-595-7544 – Taking children’s learning forward – One of Victoria’s leading preschools and Junior Kindergartens. Balanced approach to play and education. Programme supports literacy, numeracy. Visit www. nightingalepreschool.com. Fernwood. Parkdale Early Childhood Centre.....250-382-0512 We offer quality care and positive experiences for children in our diverse daycare and preschool programs. Our rich curriculum includes music classes from the Victoria Conservatory of Music. parkdalechildcare@shaw.ca. Rainbow Express Daycare................250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting. Visit our website at www.rainbowexpressdaycare.com. Ross Bay Preschool..........................250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn and discover. Curriculum builds on interests of the children. www.rossbaypreschool.com The Sir James Douglas Playschool.250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield. Victoria Montessori...........................250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–grade 1. www.victoriamontessori.com.
VIEW ROYAL A Secret Garden Preschool..............250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@shaw.ca. Island Kids Academy View Royal.....250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca. Little Friends Childcare Center........250-479-8423 For a creative learning environment. Licensed group facility. Infants/Toddlers/Preschool. Little Wonders Preschool (VROSCS)...........................................250-744-2718 A creative and suuportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! OSC also available. www.viewroyalosc.com.
View Royal Preschool........................250-479-8067 An exciting inclusive program in an exceptional care environment. Licensed 3–5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalps@ uniserve.com.
Mill Bay / Cobble Hill Starchild Centre..................................250-929-3240 Unique infant/toddler daycare, combines the best of Montessori and Waldorf. Our 9 acre hobby farm enables each child to have a garden plot, participate in planting trees, picking fruit, feeding animals, and other outside adventures. www.starchildcentre.ca.
DUNCAN Angel Care Christian Preschool.........250-746-5919 A quality, enriched program for preschool children. Located in Queen of Angels Catholic School. Maple Tree Play House Licensed Family Childcare...............250-746-5060 A daycare program that provides enriched outdoor play time and activities that build on a child’s intrinsic love of nature. Healthy meals and snacks are provided. mapletreekids@telus.net.. Sunrise Waldorf School, Kindercottage Preschool Nursery......250-743-7253 A morning program for 3 and 4 yr olds in a warm natural atmosphere where wonder is nurtured and outdoor play is abundant. Details at www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org. Parent & Child programs also available!
Chemainus Cherry Tree Child Care Centre.........250-246-9195 Preschool program nurturing creative play and engaging learning activity. 30 months to age five. Qualified and experienced Early Childhood Educator. St. Joseph’s Preschool.....................250-246-3191 A Christian learning environment for 3–5 year olds. Active participation in the life of the school. Parental involvement.
Qualicum Beach Children’s Discovery Centre.............250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Preschool, Groupcare, Out of School care. ECE qualified staff. childrensdiscoverycentre@ hotmail.com. Little Star Children’s Centre.............250-752-4554 Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature. Kinder-Prep classes. Licensed group care. ECE instructors. www.littlestardaycare.ca. littlestar@shaw.ca.
Port Alberni John Paul II Catholic School............250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play.” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually.
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Timid Toddler
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ut in the garden, planting strawberries, I found a large worm and put it on the edge of the planter box. “Look Angus,” I said. He eyed it, and slowly approached. “Do you want to touch?” I asked. He most definitely did not. He stood there staring at it warily until, in one great twist, the worm launched itself off the planter and onto the toe of Angus’s rubber boot. There was silence—Angus’s face red, his mouth open wide, engaged in the long inhale that precedes all of his most bloodcurdling screams. I pulled him against me as he sobbed and shook, as he smashed his runny nose into my chest and pulled my hair, his feet kicking at my stomach, trying to climb up my body. I wasn’t surprised. Angus is afraid of things. As Angus gets older, some of his fears are fading. He doesn’t mind riding in shopping carts anymore, and after about a hundred washing machine cycles spent on my lap, clinging to my neck, he has concluded that the machine is tolerable. But it seems like for every fear that is overcome, a handful more appear. Angus is afraid of most forms of motion including escalators and elevators, swings, and the car driving fast on turns. He is afraid of loud noises: dog barks, vacuums, occasionally sneezes and coughs, and the stuffed heron we gave him for Christmas that croaks when squeezed (in retrospect, maybe not the best stocking stuffer). He is generally afraid of the water, though will tolerate swimming lessons so long as he has sufficient time to stare at the pool before entering it, isn’t required to get his head wet and doesn’t ever have to jump or slide in. He likes the tub, but he’s terrified of the drain. On the worm day, I planted the strawberries without gloves, and then tried to get the dirt out from under my nails with a nail file. Angus watched me for a moment, his eyes wide, his body trembling, and then he burst into tears. I know that fears are a normal part of toddlerhood, but sometimes I worry. I wasn’t exactly a brave kid myself. I think back to my Pennysaver paper route and how afraid I was of the seemingly-violent housecats lying in front of mail slots. I recall the wiener dog incident—the rabid mutt who chased me
around and around and around a parked car while its owner stood on the sidewalk laughing. I didn’t face my fears. In order to avoid the wiener dog, I paid a boy in my class to deliver the papers on its street.
Maternity & Beyond Laura TRUNKEY I don’t want Angus to be reckless, I definitely want him to feel safe, but I was hoping that in the courage department he would take after Mike rather than me. Apparently the experts say reassurance is all that’s required. I do this. It takes me forever to vacuum our small townhouse because I stop every 10 seconds to hug Angus and promise him the machine is harmless. Angus’s table manners make vacuuming a necessity, but maybe I should forgo it. Maybe I should allow the floors to become carpeted with bread crumbs and masticated strawberries. Is that really worse than allowing my child to cower in the corner, screaming at the top of his lungs? Sometimes, to ensure quiet and to assuage my guilt, I put him in the baby carrier for the task. And what about elevators? I don’t actually ever need to take them. Angus can handle stairs, and he’s not too heavy that I can’t carry him when he inevitably slumps down and refuses to budge. But is it better to take elevators to show Angus there is nothing to be afraid of, or is it better to avoid them altogether? The reality is, there are only a few fears I can shelter Angus from. The rest of them he’ll have to face. Maybe what it will take is to be a better role model—to work on vanquishing a few fears of my own. The first one on my list: my fear of a fearful child. Laura Trunkey is a writer, editor and mother of the amazing Angus. She can be reached at laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.
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The Best Nest
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irds are lucky. When we mammals are faced with challenges like predators, we can run away, although not always fast enough. Few mammals can migrate, exploit habitats, or avoid predators quite like birds can. But, like some blessings, that mobility comes at a cost. Every part of a bird’s body is designed for aerodynamic efficiency—hollow bones, smaller organs, the list goes on. Imagine the weight of several eggs added to that. Once a plane is overloaded, it cannot fly. The great mobility of birds comes with the price of being unable to carry their growing offspring on their bodies. Finding a safe place to rear their eggs and young is critical. They have, it seems, a “baby dilemma”: predators love devouring eggs and chicks, and the mother cannot fly any distance
with them. But, in solving this dilemma birds have come up with a creative strategy: the nest. A nest is entirely purpose-built. It is for raising chicks, not for living in. In most cases a nest is used only for a few short weeks. Because of this, birds strategize to get this need met quickly and efficiently. If a bird can avoid building a nest, it will. Take, for example, B.C.’s Ancient Murrelet. Within 24-64 hours, the chick is ready to walk out into the world, leaving land under the cover of darkness to spend the rest of its existence at sea. Its rapid development allows parents to skip nest building entirely. Instead, a simple tree root hollow or soft spot of moss does the trick. B.C.’s Wood Ducks, Chickadees, Tree Swallows, and wrens also take the “easy” approach. They simply use a retired nest of another bird, normally a woodpecker. Great Horned Owls even use old crow nests, doing little more than mussing up the twigs to freshen the new nursery. And then there are the birds who find even a recycled nest too much work. They choose to let other birds do the building, and the rearing!
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Local Cowbirds hide their camouflaged eggs in Song Sparrow nests, where they are raised along with the Song Sparrow’s young. Even Cliff Swallows don’t miss the chance to lay the occasional egg in their neighbour’s nest.
Nature Notes HEATHER CHATWIN And if another’s home is not an option? This is when nest design comes into play. Birds are smart, and if the job cannot be done through avoidance, it can be done through technique. One technique is careful and creative material selection. Parent birds can cut back the time they spend guarding their young by choosing materials that repel predators. Manure disguises the scent of nestlings; snake skins in the nest may deter hungry squirrels. Some kinds of falcons opt to build near wasps, using their stings to ward off biting insects and other predators. Nuthatches take a more determined approach: they smear sap around the entry holes of their nests, and then trap ants in the sap, using the ant’s sting against hungry intruders. Building a nest can take hundreds of trips to the surrounding area, and using what’s close speeds up the process, explaining perhaps the strange and wonderful things we find in birds’ nests. For example, the Canadian Double Crested Cormorants have salvaged from an old trading vessel pocket knives, hair pins, and combs to add to their nesting roost. Or the finch that constructed its nest entirely of office supplies—from rubber bands, to paper clips, to matches and toothpicks. Sometimes hard problems bring the more creative solutions, and for birds it is the nest that gives the luxury of flight. Find out more about nesting birds at CRD Regional Parks’ nature outings and events, such as The Best Nest Guided Walk for ages seven years and under or Winged Migration Drop-in Event for all ages. All the details can be found at www.crd.bc.ca/parks/events. Heather Chatwin is a parks naturalist with CRD Regional Parks, where she gets to show children the wonders of the forest and its creatures.
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t’s really hard to listen when somebody talks too much, especially when you are a kid with limited attention. If you are using too many words, Cut It Out! In an effective conversation, people talk for short spurts and give each other time to respond. This kind of exchange respects the need for both people to listen and speak. When it comes to children, they often lose us after the first five words. We can talk over their heads as well by using terms they don’t understand or by discussing concepts they are too young and inexperienced to grasp. Parents must remember to keep instructions clear and brief. Say what you want to say with as few words as possible. If you think you have a tendency to talk too much, you are probably right. Pay attention to times when you don’t have to say anything to your child and see what happens.
• Use one-word reminders: “Garbage” instead of nagging about taking out the garbage. • Ask for what you want specifically without moralizing and lecturing. • Say nothing when you notice a time that you might usually natter needlessly. • Keep your message brief and to the point. • Stick with one issue at a time. • Give your child time to respond. • Be a good listener. LIFE Seminars has two books available, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection. See www. lifeseminars.com.
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