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INSIDE THIS ISSUE 6 Jennifer Michalove

J-Love tells Meg Hale Brunton how she opens her heart through her artwork.

20 Traveling Carefree

Effortless, breezy and feminine fashions from Belk - Asheville.

31 Around

The World In 80 Wines

Andy Hale shares some of his favorite European wines.

34 Can We Talk?

Lauren Griffin, M.A., LPC

helps us to move from peeved to peaceful.

8 Women of WNC

Captured by photographer Jennifer Mesk.

10 Finding The

Perfect Fit

Angela Kim explains how to

24 Exploring Asheville etty Sharpless shares her B favorite places in Asheville.

26 Oz Fashion Fantasy Photographs by Max Ganly Photography

35 Meg’s Movie Review

oonlight receives 6 out of 10 M stars.

12 Condom Couture Photos from the sold-out fashion event.

Debi Manfre shares some delicious foil packet recipes for summertime grilling.

14 10 Best Practices For

Only Grows Stronger With Time

S usan Reinhardt shares her story of the true and lasting love between her parents.

18 Garden Bloomers

B etty Sharpless shares her gardening secrets.

36 Betty’s Book Review

Talk Before Sleep draws you in in such a way you don’t want want to put the book down.

An expanded calendar of

30 Garden Faeries

By Kristen Marie Greene of KMG Photography

activities around WNC.

42 Sophie Celebrates You!

44 Concerning

Our Community

45 Real Men Read Sophie Meet Matt Williams, multi instrumentalist, singer, songwriter and producer.

COVER CREDITS: Photograph by Katy Cook • Model: Jennifer Nolan • Hair & makeup stylist: Jacklyn Rhew from Carmen! Carmen! at Belk • Clothing & accessories provided by Belk - Free People Sweet Dreams Lace Top $108, Free People Hot Tropics Maxi Skirt $128, New Directions Catie Flat Sandal $40 • Cover design by Rachel Hoeft 4 | Sophie MAY / JUNE 2017

CREATIVE EDITOR Debi Manfre CALENDAR EDITOR Carrie Harder CREATIVE SERVICES Carrie Harder Rachel Hoeft Randy Whittington CONTRIBUTORS Meg Hale Brunton Lauren Griffin, M.A., LPC Andy Hale Angela Kim Susan Reinhardt Betty Sharpless

PHOTOGRAPHERS Katy Cook Max Ganly Photography Kristen Marie Greene Jennifer Mesk Emma Grace Moon Myriah Wood

CLASSIFIED SUPERVISOR Angela Frizzell

38 Things to Do

Hair Growth

16 A Love That

IT/PRODUCTION MANAGER Jeff Ruminski

ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS Pam Hensley Rick Jenkins Rose Lunsford

28 Let’s Get Cooking

Ahdonnica Patterson shares her top ten tips for healthy hair growth.

GENERAL MANAGER/PUBLISHER Patricia Martin Betts

FASHION COORDINATOR Angela Ramsey

achieve the perfectly fitted wardrobe.

stylish. sophisticated. sassy

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he literary definition of May is “one’s bloom or prime” which makes me think about all the lovely flowers and trees that are blooming, but it also can reference someone who is in the May of their life or career. In this issue we have put a spotlight on an extraordinary woman who seems to have always been in the May of her talents.

Jennifer Michalove has never let Down’s Syndrome hold her back from achieving her goals of being an artist, a poet, a singer, a dancer, a volunteer, a truly remarkable person. Her parents, Barbara and Paul, enduring love has clearly inspired Jennifer to live life with a full and open heart. I hope you find her story as inspiring as we do at Sophie.

Angela Kim, a fashion designer for over 20 years, is a new contributor and she offers excellent insight on how to find the perfect fit when picking out your wardrobe. Our intern, Ahdonnica Patterson from Warren Wilson College continues her series on Hair Growth, and Susan Reinhardt shares her parents love story of over 60 years.

As promised we have dedicated pages to feature the local fashion shows and events, and one of the most unique was the Condom Couture Fashion show which raised nearly $42,000 for Planned Parenthood. The money raised will increase awareness of services, subsidizes care of patients and provides education.

Check out the Oz Fantasy Fashion show for Appalachian Angels of WNC to benefit families and other local organizations in our community, very creative and fun event.

There are many insightful and entertaining articles from our local writers and contributors, and I’m sure you will enjoy reading and sharing. Patricia with her newly leased 2017 Subaru Forester We value our from Prestige Subaru. advertisers who support Sophie and we hope you will support them as well.

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By Meg Hale Brunton

ennifer Michalove has never let Down’s Syndrome hold her back from achieving her goals. Both a prolific artist and poet, she also volunteers with the American Red Cross, and worked in the shipping department at Great Smokies Diagnostic Lab (now Genova) for over twelve years. “I love doing things with everybody,” Jennifer says.

“Jennifer has always given life one hundred percent of everything,” says her father, Paul. “She’s always liked to do things and accomplish things.

And she’s accomplished a lot.” Paul thinks that Jennifer’s love of creating art is rooted in her want to complete tasks. Her mother, Barbara, always did volunteer-work and fundraising for local organizations. “I took the kids with me; they were there by my side.” She thinks that Jennifer may have picked up her love for volunteering from that experience.

Becca Cummings of the local Red Cross division says, “Jennifer has been a Red Cross volunteer for thirteen years or more! She volunteers every week in our Biomedical Services Donor Resources Department, helping to prepare materials for blood drives. She counts and organizes pre-printed materials for donors and blood drive coordinators, creates informational folders for blood drive coordinators, along with the occasional mailing and T-shirts for donors. Jennifer loves the Red Cross and her favorite color is red! I greatly appreciate Jennifer’s weekly assistance and positive attitude.

Jennifer always has a smile for everyone and loves helping others.”

While she was an extremely communicative child, and always an avid writer and dancer, Jennifer did not fully-embrace her artistic side until she started attending Open Hearts Art Center when it opened in June 2005. “The teachers bring it out in her,” Barbara says of Jennifer’s artsy side. “They bring out the best in every one of them.” Open Hearts Art Center is a non-profit art education program that is dedicated to serving adults with a variety of challenges, including developmental, mental, physical and emotional disabilities.

Open Hearts was developed by three women with a vision of combining their love of art with their desire to make a difference in the lives of differently-abled adults.

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Sonia Pitts, one of the directors, says of Jennifer (or J-Love, as she is affectionately known at Open Hearts), “She delights us on a daily basis with her ‘geomagical’ art work and sweet, thoughtful disposition. We’ve known Jennifer for ten years and have watched her evolve as an amazing artist, who has gone through several artistic periods, similar to Picasso. Her current work is geometric shapes with vibrant colors, almost quiltlike in form and design. She is also an excellent dancer/performer, who revels in her brave and expressive lyrical dancing.” Jennifer’s artistic periods have evolved over the years, from portraits, to still-lifes of plants and animals, to spirographs and pointillism. In the past few months, she has shown an artistic prevalence towards flowing, repetitive shapes. Marshall Hammer, one of the employees of Open Hearts, even collected some of Jennifer’s art and poetry pieces into a book that Jennifer entitled “One Day at a Time.”

To keep in shape, Jennifer was a faithful member of Weight Watchers for over 12 years. Her instructor, Norma Burleson, says she was “such a joy to see each week. She was always anxious to know how she had done; she was great on keeping a daily journal on the food she ate, would share what she took for lunch, wanting to be sure she was right on track. Jennifer is such a loving person; she will always have a special place in my heart.” When Jennifer reached her lifetime goal, the staff at Weight Watchers, along with her parents, even threw her a surprise party to celebrate the occasion.

She also has an active social life, with a wide circle of friends. She regularly gets her hair cut

by Juanita at Secrets of a Duchess. She is also tight with renowned singer Kat Williams, and has even performed onstage with her several times. She was a longtime pen pal with writer and Rabbi of the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York, Neil Gilman, who even quoted her in one of his books. Her friend, Bunnie Silver, says “I am very blessed to know Jennifer for many years. She is so happy and upbeat, and just makes me feel so good. Jennifer is a very creative artist and (by the way) has the best parents in the world! They have been such a wonderful inspiration in her life.”

Last year, when Open Hearts hosted their annual fundraiser and talent show at Asheville Community Theater, Barbara Michalove got the opportunity to express her artistic side and sang Bette Midler’s “The Wind Beneath My Wings” on-stage to her daughter, who then performed a dance number to the song. Though she admits to being nervous, singing in front

of over 300 people, Barbara said she loved getting to perform for her daughter. “This is some journey,” she says, “both of our children are incredibly caring, sensitive and well-mannered.”

Her sister, Amy, says she is so fortunate have Jennifer as a sister. “She is the best example of pure love and what a positive attitude can do for yourself and for those around you. She is famous around Asheville...people know her everywhere she goes and are always happy to see her. She never fails to give people a big smile and hug and makes everyone feel very special.

Even when she is having a hard time, she always makes sure we are all ok. My teenage kids just adore her and think she is the cutest person ever and love to do art and play games with her. She is the most positive and loving person I have ever met.” One of Amy’s favorite memories of Jennifer took place at her wedding. Everyone was dancing and suddenly, they all looked up to see Jennifer on stage, playing her harmonica and dancing with the band like she was a part of the show! Amy feels that moment really captured Jennifer’s spunk and personality. Amy adds, “She has achieved so many things in her life thanks to the love and support of my parents who are the best example of compassion, selflessness and true love.”

Though Jennifer’s artistic talent is undeniable, Barbara Michalove says that the first thing people notice about her daughter is her self-confidence, joy and loving spirit. “There’s a real kindness to her- a kind, generous personality,” she says.

“Jennifer is just like an angel that’s been dropped out of Heaven. Everywhere she goes and everywhere she’s been, people don’t forget her. They are always so happy to see her. She has so much love for other people.” Jennifer’s parents agree that people respond to her unending positive nature and complete lack of judgement. “Jennifer never sees bad in people. What a great trait!” her mother exclaims. “She loves to make people feel good about themselves. She always compliments people and sees the good in others. I think she has lots of gifts.

She brings out the best in people, that’s why people love her.”

You can see and purchase “One Day at a Time” at Secrets of a Duchess salon on Merrimon Avenue, and view, or even buy, some of Jennifer’s artwork plus her book, at Open Hearts Art Center in West Asheville.

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PEOPLE

“Servers deserve a 20% tip for good service. I work hard for that 20% tip. A lot of people are under the impression that it should be 10-15. I heard that Oprah had said that once. But we get paid $2 an hour so our income is what you give us.”

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“You can get anything you want if you just put it out there and do the work. That’s it. You can do anything. I’ve traveled. I’ve sold art. I’m about to go back to college. I’m moving out with my best friend. I put that all into the universe and then it happened.”

Photographed by Jennifer Mesk, HumansOfAsheville.net

What’s something you wish people knew?

“Not to just see color. That’s one of the things that brought us to Asheville. We had been here a couple of times. We just loved how laid back it is.”

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“I wish people would read more when it comes to our Constitution and our rights. People are quick to quote something without actually reading where it’s from. And to not forget that our government works for us and not the other way around. Some people think that our government is some kind of powerful person but it’s just an idea.”

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ANGELA’S FASHION TIPS

Finding the Perfect Fit

By Angela Kim

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recent study of women’s shopping and spending habits conducted by ING Direct and Capital One banks showed that the average American woman spends between $2000 and $5000 per year on clothing. Those spending habits were closely related to aspects of their personal lives, and the top reasons women go shopping included: “I want to cheer myself up.”

“I want to impress others.”

“I feel depressed.”

“I feel unattractive.”

“I am anxious or worried.”

Almost 40% of the women surveyed claimed they changed outfits at least twice per day, and 60% claimed on a daily basis that they could not find anything suitable to wear in their wardrobe. With so many options for different styles, brands, designers and stores, why do women still typically feel so unsatisfied when it comes to their wardrobes? And what can we do to make the most of our clothing budgets and satisfy those desires that drive us to shop for new clothes in the first place?

Why Is The Fit Important?

Many women who buy designer brands are focused on the reputation associated with the label. Some are looking for fine fabrics or quality construction. And who doesn’t want to impress their friends and coworkers by looking great in the latest styles for the season?

But if the clothes don’t fit you well, none of this is going to matter. And yet so many of us are willing to compromise when it comes to how a garments fits. Sure, fabrics, cuts and styles are important. But nothing is more important than how a garment fits your body— regardless of the body type you have.

The right tailoring can make almost any garment work for any body type. In fact, no matter what the style, a proper fit is going to enhance your body type. When a garment is sufficiently slim and well measured, it will not only look better on your body, but it will also provide you with a higher level of comfort.

And the first step to being confident in your wardrobe is to be comfortable in your clothes.

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length of your legs, your waist, and so on. You may not realize it, but the fit of your clothing can not only be used to emphasize a particular part of your body, but it can also be used to draw the eye upwards toward your face.

Whatever your body type, a good fit is always of supreme importance. For example, if you have a larger frame, unnecessarily large or baggy clothing will almost always be unflattering. If you are thin, fit layering and draping can be used to achieve particular styles. If you have an average build, you can use clothing to appear slimmer, larger, taller or shorter, depending on the look you are trying to achieve.

And if you are short, you can use pants with a long rise and cropped jackets to appear taller.

What Is Good Fit? In general, the desired fit and look is “slim,” whatever your actual body type may be. Slim doesn’t mean tight or skinny. It actually refers to how closely the clothing lays on your body.

You want your garments to fit closely to your natural shape. Even with slim fitting clothing, you should have enough room to allow for normal, easy movement, and a good range of motion. Your clothing should be comfortable and functional for everyday wear. A tight fit is usually not desirable because it restricts movement, and areas of misfit are more visible.

With loose fitting clothes, the fit is obviously not as noticeable.

A number of factors affect the fit of garments, including the grain (or drape) of the fabric, the placement and size of darts, the placement of seams, lining, and the interfacing of closure features (like zippers and buttons).

Where the garment lies on your body is also important (sleeve length, for example).

How To Shop For Well-Fitted Clothing Ignore your size! Sizes vary widely between countries, brands and styles of clothing. Try on several sizes and see which one fits the best. Don’t get hung up on being a particular size. No one can tell what size you are from looking at your outfit, but they can definitely

tell if a garment fits well or not. And you will look your best when your clothes fit properly.

Shop for your biggest part. For example, if you’re pear-shaped, shop for garments to fit your hips, and then alter them to fit the rest of your body. Don’t buy items that are too snug on your hips but fit everywhere else.

Use resources from online shops.

For example, take advantage of free returns to purchase an additional size when ordering online.

Make necessary alterations.

Almost everything you buy off the rack could fit you better with a little tweaking here and there.

Get your clothing custom made.

There is nothing like wearing cloth-

ing that is specifically tailored to your body. Especially when shopping for a special occasion (like a holiday party or black tie event) and frequently worn items (like business attire), custom designed clothing will help you stand taller, smile bigger and exude confidence.

It’s not just an investment in your wardrobe, its an investment in yourself.

It’s no secret—how you look affects how you feel about yourself. And when you look your best, you’ll naturally feel more confident, attractive and powerful! A perfectly fitted outfit is the most important part of creating the right look for you.

Angela Kim is a fashion designer with 20 years of experience in the industry. She is a founder & designer of Asheville Couture- Bridal and Special Occasion Dresses and Angela Kim DesignsWomen’s ready to wear Clothing. Check out their websites for more details. www.ashevillecouture.com, www.angelakimdesigns.com

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By Nikki Harris, Director of Philanthropy for WNC

March 11th 2017, Planned Parenthood South Atlantic celebrated their 5th Annual Condom Couture Fashion Show. The event raised nearly $42,000 for the affiliate, a record breaking amount for the event. The money raised from Condom Couture increases awareness of services provided by Planned Parenthood; subsidizes care for patients, and funds no-cost programs like education and advocacy.

Condom Couture is a fashion show utilizing the talents of local and regional designers who are challenged with constructing fun, fashionable pieces as a way to promote healthy sex and STI prevention. A minimum of 500 condoms must be used for each piece-no small feat and by all accounts, condoms are a very difficult medium. The designers who participate in this fundraiser do so because CONDOM COUTURE they care so deeply about Planned Parenthood’s mission to serve its patients in a BUSINESS SPONSORS: compassionate and non-judgmental envi•Ad-Lib ronment. After all, the Planned Parenthood •Boheme motto is “Care More. Judge Less.”

• Caravans at Grove Condom Couture was held at The OrArcade ange Peel, and was a sold-out event with • First Congregational United over 500 guests in attendance. Highlights Church of Hendersonville included Waverly Jones performing an •Jewels That Dance incredible aerialist routine, a high energy •SkyBitch dance opener performed by the dance •Studio Chavarria troupe, Christine Garvin & Transform, DJ •Turner & Company Marley Carroll bringing down the house, and emcee Barbie Angel, who cracked jokes and entertained the audience throughout the evening. Guests were treated to complimentary dessert courtesy of Ruth and Ranshaw.

DESIGNER: CARLEIGH DRAKE WEST MODEL: SARAH ELIZABETH PHOTOGRAPHER: EMMA GRACE MOON PICTURED LEFT TO RIGHT: DESIGNER: IDA BOSTIAN MODEL: CHARTREUSE DESIGNER: LOGAN PATTERSON MODEL: NICHOLE MARTINEZ DESIGNER: KAYREN REYNOLDS MCKNIGHT MODEL: BEN JOYNER PHOTOGRAPHER: MYRIAH WOOD - MCW PHOTOGRAPY

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FASHION

Power and presence were my intention with the Planned Parenthood super women.

Condom Couture Designer: Kati Foster - KatDog Couture

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DESIGNER: AMY DAY DOUGHERTY MODEL: NA’AMA ELLA ASIDO DESIGNER: KATI FOSTER - KATDOG COUTURE MODEL: APRIL SHAMEL PHOTOGRAPHER: MYRIAH WOOD - MCW PHOTOGRAPY

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HAIR CARE

10 Best Practices For Hair Growth

By Ahdonnica Patterson

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here has always been a concern when it comes to hair growth for curly hair. Because of its strong curl and tendency towards dryness, curly hair can seem to be very difficult to grow. Here are some steps to help you grow your hair and to ensure you are taking good care of it.

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Keep your hair moisturized//Use oil in your hair.

Because your hair is so curly, oil from your roots takes a much longer time traveling to the ends of your hair.

•Always use conditioner every time you wash your hair. Look for conditioners which advertise dry, damaged, or brittle hair management.

•Use a deep-conditioner every 1-2 weeks.

•Make your own deep-conditioner or try mayonnaise. Mayonnaise is a wonderful deep-conditioner. Use this every 1-2 weeks for ultra-soft curls.

•Try a leave-in conditioner. It does not need to be rinsed out and will keep your hair from getting greasy-looking. This can be done after every shower or

between washes.

•AVOID petroleum and mineral oils. Try using castor oil (or Jamaican black castor oil). This has been used for hundreds of years to increase the softness of your hair and aid in faster growth.

•There are also oils that you can use for root simulators, that promote hair growth-they are peppermint oil, lavender oil and stinging nettle.

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Take vitamins that boost hair growth.

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Protect the ends of your hair.

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Cover your hair whenever possible.

There are many supplements and vitamins available for oral consumption which help your hair to grow.

•Biotin is considered the best vitamin to take to boost hair growth.

It helps to renew the cells in your hair, allowing them to grow longer, faster.

•Vitamin B6 is a great supplement to take to aid in hair growth, as it blocks the testosterone receptors at your hairs’ roots. Too much testosterone released into your follicles makes hair become thin and slows growth, vitamin B6 blocks some of this testosterone.

The tips of your strands are the most brittle and damaged (as they receive the least amount of natural oils), and are the most prone to breakage.

•Leaving your hair down constantly increases the likelihood of breakage.

•Keep your hair in a bun using bobby pins to help keep your hair in place.

If possible, don’t use a ponytail holders or rubber bands, as these can break your hair when you remove them.

•Braid your hair whenever possible. This helps keep the ends of your hair from being exposed and damaged further. You can choose to do dozens of small braids or a few large ones, but make sure you leave the ends ponytail holder-less so that strands of hair aren’t ripped out when removed.

•Pineapple your hair before bed. What is a pineapple? The pineapple is a loose, high ponytail on top of your head, that prevents the frizz, knots and flattened curls that come with lying on a pillow. Only the back and sides of your hair will be subject to your tossing and turning. It also cuts down on your ends rubbing against your pillow or sheets which causes breakage.

To help your hair soak in the oil and nutrients you have been supplying it with, cover it in a satin or silk scarf or bonnet. Wear one during the night to prevent damage rubbing against your pillow or sheets.

•Use a satin scarf, as this material does not absorb oil like cotton and other synthetic fabrics do.

•Sleep on a satin pillowcase so that the oil from your hair doesn’t get sucked out while you sleep. This also cuts down on breakage and helps to keep styles in place.

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Try using a protein treatment.

These are products that add protein to your hair to fill in the parts of your strands that are broken or damage.

•Protein treatment has the biggest positive effect in relaxed (a type of lotion or cream generally used by people with tight curls or very curly hair which makes hair easier to straighten by chemically “relaxing” the natural curls) or treated (relaxed, texturized or colored) hair, but can be used on natural hair as well.

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Eat your vitamins and nutrients.

•Certain foods have proven to increase hair growth, and are great for nourishing your scalp and strands.

•Eat foods packed with protein and omega-3 fatty acids, which help you hair follicles and you to stay healthy.

•Don’t forget to get your vitamin C, which is important for strong hair. Too little vitamin C leads to hair breakage.

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Avoid using extensions and tight braids.

These place stress on the roots of your hair, making hair more likely to break from the root.

•Braiding your hair loosely can help protect brittle ends, but exceedingly tight braids or cornrows can break off your hair near the follicles.

•Wearing a wig isn’t shameful. If you are in an awkward stage in your hair growth and you want to wear a wig until you have achieved more hair growth; or so that you can be more versatile with your style without damaging your hair, that’s fine. Just make sure the glues that you’re using and the methods that you’re using are good for your hair. Make sure to wear wigs that don’t tug on your scalp or edges.

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Steer clear of hair color.

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Be gentle to your hair.

The chemicals in hair dye are a major cause of hair damage.

You can dye your hair naturally with teas, different teas bring different results but they aren’t permanent. You can also use semi-permanent hair dyes that are vegan, that won’t damage your hair.

Don’t try to control your hair through power-brushing and a strong hand. Instead, be soft to your hair to ease out tangles and knots.

•Brush your hair slowly. This will help to reduce the amount of breakage your strands experience.

•Use a comb or boar-bristle brush to brush your hair.

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Avoid using heat on your hair.

High temperatures make your hair dry and brittle, increasing the chances of breakage. If you must use heat on your hair, try to limit it to once a week at most.

•Allow hair to air dry whenever possible or use cooler temps on your blow dryer. The heat from blow dryers can be especially damaging, as it is combined with a strong blast of air - another culprit for hair damage.

•Keep use of flat irons and curling irons to a minimum heat. Since they can heat upwards of 400 °F you would be are literally cooking your hair at these high temperatures.

THE MOST IMPORTANT POINTS: •Make sure you are moisturizing your hair to promote growth.

•Drink water and get your nutrients •Braids or Extensions= NOT TOO TIGHT! It stresses your hair and can lead to hair loss.

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That Only Grows Stronger With Time

By Susan Reinhardt

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he sprawling ranch house smells of a woman’s love, her nurturing ways. Tonight it’s fried pork chops, green beans cooked to an olivebrown death and that familiar scent of happiness steeped and sealed into every corner.

Even though the woman’s tired of cooking, wants to trade her pot-holders for a chair next to Jesus, she does it anyway.

Inside are two people flirting with each other, playfully teasing and bantering, professing a love that ripened over the decades.

“She epitomizes more than anyone I know, the love of God and love of everyone else that Christ called for in the Book of Matthew,” a gray-haired, sun-weathered man says, pointing to his wife. “I don’t know of anybody she doesn’t love. Not me though. There’re a lot of people I can’t stand to be around, but she’ll go around and try to win them over.”

The woman wears leggings and a lace top, her neck accessorized in matching fashion jewelry. Her hair is white, cut to perfection and her figure like that of much younger women who lunch on salads and hit the Pilates mats.

This elegant lady has a candy drawer, and her midday meal is one of vanilla yogurt, cheese crackers, three mini Kit Kats, and a few grapes thrown in for good health. She’s blessed with the thin gene.

“I fell in love with him when I was 12 years old,” she says of the man in the leather recliner. “I’ve loved him more and more ever since then.” She reaches and takes the man’s hand. They had their first date when she was 16, and she never looked at another fellow, except for Elvis.

She then bends for a kiss, an innocent yet affectionate peck, an act repeated thousands of times since marrying her soul mate almost 60 years ago.

I watch them and marvel. I’m ten miles past blessed to call these two role models my parents. Not many women my age have both parents living, still married and in good health. My mother is pushing 80, and my dad hit that mark a couple of years ago. They are an example of true and lasting love.

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for granted.

Mom worships dad, right behind God and her bible. He cherishes her. It’s a love I’ve watch grow even deeper over the years.

“Out of everybody still alive from our graduating class, all the men were still married but one to the same woman,” my father says. “We were taught marriage was sacred and for life. Things would be hard and tough, but we’re supposed to put up with it. You obeyed your parents; you served country and were married for life. You provided for your wife and children. That’s the way it was.

“She’s just perfect for me. She always has been.”

Peggy and Sam I remember when Dad retired Gambrell and Mama grew a bit stressed, even slightly terrified. As a stayhome parent active in her church, she didn’t know how his being in the house with her all day might affect their relationship.

She started keeping journals from the time her grandkids were born.

When I was home last month, enjoying a visit at their well-kept house in Spartanburg, my father opened her journals and read with laughter, his grayblue eyes dancing with adoration.

The journals chronicled their life after his retirement, the travels across the country and throughout Europe.

“We’ve had a great life,” Dad says. “These journals are priceless. You need to publish these because your mother is a great writer.”

If a man ever put a woman on a pedestal, one could say my father has done just that.

“She keeps me in stitches,” he says. “In addition to being a beautiful and loving person.”

Dad says it’s because of my mother’s purity of heart and no-strings love that they are still married.

“It’s her, not me,” he says. “She loves unconditionally. That will get you through the hard days.”

“I fell in love with him when I was 12 years old.”

Susan Reinhardt is the author of the hilarious and quirky novel “Chimes from a Cracked Southern Belle,” along with “Not Tonight Honey, Wait ‘Til I’m a Size 6,” “Don’t Sleep with a Bubba.” and “Dishing with the Kitchen Virgin.” susanreinhardt.com

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GARDEN BLOOMERS

An Asheville Gardener’s Secrets

By Betty Sharpless

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hen you have been gardening professionally for 37 years in the Asheville area, you see a lot of sources come and go. While I may regret this, I am letting you in on some really good sources for gardening success that have helped me be a successful business. All of these places are geared towards the casual gardener and available to you. ​When I first was getting into landscaping in the mountains, my most valuable resource was Lonnie Israel at Jesse Israel and Sons, down at the WNC Farmer’s Market on Brevard Road. Sure you can buy plants for a little less

from a big box store, but I promise that the folks there can not help you with “what will grow in dry full shade and be pretty all year long”. Now days, there are many really knowledgeable folks working the nursery department. If you want to take advantage of their know how, go on a Tuesday or Wednesday, when the tourists are somewhere else and they have more time to talk. Take specific questions. While they won’t draw out a plan, they can tell you what will and won’t work with the information you give them. ​Another mentor was Becky Norris at the old Citizens Hardware store. She is a walking encyclopedia of native plants. In turn, she passed that knowledge to Lawrence Hill now at the Merrimon Avenue Ace. For such a little store, it has an amazing selection of perennials and shrubs, all of which are chosen because they thrive in our local conditions. Don’t be in a hurry once you get him talking, you will be the richer for it. ​Every time we put mulch out, cars stop and ask where did you get that beautiful dark mulch. I will tell you: Riverside Stump Dump on Riverside Drive.

Best deal in town. We use the triple ground fine. It is like putting lush carpeting on your beds. The fine then breaks down to nourish the underlying soil. I also use this if I am filling raised beds for about half of the “soil”, adding mushroom compost (they have that) and sand to finish the mix. ​One of my latest discoveries is Eden Brothers Seeds also on Brevard Rd, almost to the airport. One warning: set your budget ahead of time and only take cash. (They do take cards, but can you control your desire to buy?) Eden Bros. is the Willie Wonka land of gardeners. Bulbs, tubers, and seeds, seeds, seeds.

10 kinds of beets? Got ‘em. 24 kinds of zinnias? Yup. Wildflower seed mixes by the ounce, pound or pounds? Yup. I have bought there for the last two years with great results. Their seeds have a good germination rate, crucial to a professional. Their bulbs are amazing with great yearly return results. It is very self-service, so don’t expect to be chatted up. Enjoy the quiet joy of discovery.

Buy at least one thing you have always wanted to try. ​Here’s one secret that is especially true for new gardeners: don’t buy more than you can plant immediately. Unlike quilting materials, plants will die sitting in your driveway waiting to be planted. In fact, it is a good idea to under plant your garden the first year so you can see how big, how many and how tall things will be before adding more. Please, please read and believe the final height and width information on the tag. They are not underestimating. Putting that sweet little evergreen right next to the front door is not going to work in 5 years when it is 15 feet wide. Also on the same tag is the sun tolerance. While some plants (like hostas) do well in full sun and full shade, most prefer one or the other. One hour of sun in the early morning is not full sun. If you want blooms in your full shade yard, look to the native wildflowers, which all bloom in season and are fine with dry shade. ​My folks always stressed using the best materials for the job at hand. Using the above tips as a starting point, I can promise you great results. Just plan on watering; 2017 is going to be a dry year.

Betty Sharpless is a professional freelance gardener who loves to see her winter plans come to fruition in the late spring…

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By Betty Sharpless Photgraphers By Sabrina Kumar

Me in front of West Asheville mural with a guide book

I In front of Taco Billy’s mural, my FAV taco joint in all of town

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sn’t it funny that millions of folks come to experience Asheville and Western North Carolina every year, but if you live here you are less likely to try new places, restaurants and breweries, sticking with a few favorites. I am just as guilty; when I have a favorite dish at a favorite restaurant, I hate to try something new…it might not be as good! But what if it was? Or different? Or even better?

I love showing off Asheville to new comers. It seems to be the only time I do try new places. Even if I tried someplace or thing new once a week, I could never keep up with the amazing things to do, eat and hike on right here at home. I love going to West Asheville and just sitting outside at a café or restaurant and people watching while I eat. There are a zillion tiny stores with the coolest gift and home items on Haywood Road, the main drag…I love poking in or even just window shopping.

Theater? We got it! When I moved here in 1979, we had one tiny community theater. Asheville Community Theater is still here, but what a difference in performance now! So much talent. Add to that, Magnetic Theater, Bebe Theater, NC Stage and Diana Wortham Theatre. That is not even counting the street performances happening every evening downtown. Don’t even get me started on our amazing dance performances.

World quality music? No one does it better than Asheville, from grunge to bluegrass to symphony and everywhere in between. The hard part is trying to decide which music to see and where to enjoy it? Brewery?

On the river? Inside? Outside? At the Biltmore’s free Friday concert? (My dog Cocoa’s favorite...)

Have you been to the Blue Ridge Rollergirls competition? Again, hard to decide between watching the competition and watching the fans! So much fun! Where else are you going to wear those sequin sneakers, tutu and feather boa? Other sporting events include UNCA athletics, bike and road races, SoCon basketball and lots of mountains to climb.

So listen up Sophie readers, challenge yourself to break out of your comfort zone and try someplace really different. I promise it is way cheaper than the flight to the same old Myrtle Beach week and the food is so much better in our town: good ol’ Asheville.

Betty Sharpless misses all the yummy Greek diners in town when she moved here…but loves all the new tiny places beckoning with good local food and good local brews.

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PHOTOS BY MAX GANLY PHOTOGRAPHY he Appalachian

Angels of WNC held their second annual Fashion Fantasy

Fundraiser with the theme of “Wizard of Oz”.

FORTUNE TELLER - Model: Noora Viljanmaa Designer: Amanda Rose EVANORA - Model: Missy Baker Designer: Jon Pierce Hair: Yvonne Womble MUA: Erica Calvert WICKED WITCH - Model: Savanna Mease Designer: Kayren McKnight Hair: Yvonne Womble | MUA: Vanessa Sogan SHOWGIRL - Model: Tammy Mattox Designer: Amanda Rose MUA: Kayren McKnight

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Live music from Free Flight, Ryan Perry Band, entertainment by Pisgah Dance Academy and special performance by Kendra Warren provided the evening with non-stop fun. An Oz cake was provided from Fresh As Can Bee Catering.

Proceeds went to Appalachian Angels of WNC and to benefit families and other organizations to help our community in Asheville and surrounding areas.

For more pictures & bonus interview with designer McKinney Gough, go to sophiemagazine.com

TINMAN - Model: Maleah Castle | Designer: Jon Pierce Hair: Yvonne Womble | MUA: Vanessa Sogan THEODORA - Model: Betsabe Fregoso Lee | Designer: Jon Pierce Hair: Lindsey Pangle | MUA: Erica Calvert DOROTHY - Model: Kayla Beavers Designer: Kati Foster | MUA: Tia Renay Hixon COWARDLY LION - Brittany Nicholson Designer: Kati Foster | Hair: Yvonne Womble MUA: Tia Renay Hixon CHINA GIRL - Model: Ivy Hawkins Designer: Jon Pierce | Hair: Lindsey Pangle MUA: Vanessa Sogan

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LET’S GET COOKING BY DEBI MANFRE

Wrap it up & grill it!

Foil packet recipes are the one pot meal for the grill. I love that they save time by not having to clean pots and pans especially during the warm summer days when I’d rather be outside relaxing on my porch. Here are a few of my favorite foil packet recipes for you to try this summer.

Grilled Peach-Glazed Pork Tenderloin with Potatoes

Grilled Coconut Lime Shrimp and Summer Veggies in Foil

This easy to make meat and potatoes dinner is impressive, incredibly delicious, and since it’s grilled in foil packs, cleanup is a snap! Servings: 4

When you put coconut, garlic and lime on shrimp, all of the flavors are sucked in by the shrimp and we are all dang happy campers. Servings: 4

• 1/4 cup sugar free peach preserves • 1 tablespoon dijon mustard • 1/2 to 1 teaspoon Sriracha •3 garlic cloves, minced • 1 peach (pit removed), sliced •1 lb. pork tenderloin • Salt and fresh ground pepper • 1 1/2 lbs. new potatoes, cut in half •1 tablespoon olive oil •3 garlic cloves, minced 1. In a small mixing bowl combine peach preserves, dijon mustard, sriracha, and garlic; mix and stir until thoroughly incorporated.

2. Season pork tenderloin with salt and pepper. Spray a large sheet of aluminum foil with cooking spray. Place the pork in the middle of the sheet of foil, cut several slits across the top of tenderloin and insert peach slices in each slit. Brush with peach glaze. Set aside.

4. Place the potatoes in a bowl, season with salt and pepper, and toss with a tablespoon of olive oil.

5. Transfer potatoes to prepared foil, arranging them around the pork tenderloin. Seal the foil packet well and place in the refrigerator for 1 hour.

6. Preheat your grill for 10-15 minutes with all the main burners on high.

7. Remove foil packet from refrigerator and let stand at room temperature for about 15 minutes. DO NOT OPEN THE PACKET. 8. Place the foil packet over high heat on the grill; about 425º F. Cook for 25 to 30 minutes, turning, until internal temperature of pork reaches at least 150º F. Remove from grill and let stand a few minutes. Open up the packet and remove pork. Place on cutting board and slice. Arrange on serving plate. Place the potatoes along side pork. Drizzle the pork with the glaze from packet.

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• 1 small yellow onion, chopped •2 garlic cloves • 1 cup shredded sweetened coconut • Zest and juice of 1 lime • 1 cup fresh cilantro or parsley, chopped • 1/4 cup olive oil •1/4 cup soy sauce • 1 pound raw shrimp, peeled and deveined • 8 to 10 aluminum foil sheets large enough to wrap around the food •1 med. zucchini, sliced into 1/4-inch rounds •2 cups corn kernels (you can also use frozen corn kernels) •Chopped fresh cilantro or parsley, for garnish 1. In a blender, combine onions, garlic, coconut, lime zest, lime juice, cilantro, olive oil and soy sauce; blend until smooth.

2. Place marinade and shrimp in a resealable bag and toss to coat. Place in the fridge for 2 to 4 hours.

3. Preheat an outdoor grill to medium-high heat.

4. For each foil pack, prepare two sheets of aluminum foil; place the sheets one on top of the other for durability and lightly spray with cooking spray.

5. Divide up the veggies and shrimp evenly and place into the center of each foil packet.

6. Fold the sides of the foil over the shrimp, covering completely; seal the packets closed.

7. Transfer the foil packets to the grill, cover grill and cook for 10-12 minutes, or until shrimp are opaque.

8. Carefully open the foil packets and stir the contents. Sprinkle with cilantro or parsley and serve.

Source: diethood.com

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Easy Chicken Fajitas in Foil Packets Enjoy this easy make-ahead meal of juicy chicken fajitas in foil packets. Grill, then load them up with your favorite fajita fixings! Servings: 4 •4 boneless skinless chicken breasts •4 tablespoons taco seasoning mix •1 red onion, thinly sliced •1 each of red, orange and yellow peppers, thinly sliced •1 lime •4 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil •2 avocados, sliced or homemade guacamole •1 pint (2 cups) cherry tomatoes, halved •1 cup sour cream or Greek yogurt •1/4 cup cilantro, finely chopped •Tortilla chips, corn or flour tortillas 1. Cut 4 squares of heavy-duty aluminum foil, about 16 inches square.

2. Slice chicken breasts crosswise into thin strips. Sprinkle each with up to 1 tablespoon of taco seasoning mix. Place one breast on each of the foil squares. Divide peppers and onions evenly and arrange beside each of the chicken breasts.

3. Drizzle the chicken and peppers with 1 teaspoon olive oil. Squeeze a little lime juice on each. Fold foil loosely over chicken, securing ends, allowing a little space for heat to circulate. Refrigerate until ready to grill.

4. Grill over medium heat, checking for doneness after 20 minutes. Garnish with cilantro and serve with sliced avocados, cherry tomatoes, and sour cream. Serve with tortilla chips or tortillas. Source: flavourandsavour.com

See yourself clearly

Cherry Cobbler on the Grill Let me start by saying that this isn’t your “pretty” dessert…but it’s gonna taste delish. Be creative and try different fruit and cake mix combinations.

Here’s what you need: •Cherry pie filling •White or yellow cake mix •Butter •Ice cream Here’s how to make it in 3 easy steps: 1. Lay out 2 large sheets of aluminum foil on a hard surface.

2. Directly on the foil add some cherry pie filling (as much or as little as you like). On top of the pie filling add a layer of cake mix–about 1/4 to 1/2 cup. Finally, add a few slices of butter evenly over top of the mixture.

3. Fold up the foil length wise in the center and the fold the ends in to create a little cobbler tent (Don’t smush it!). Place directly on the grill for about 15 minutes. Pull off the grill and eat warm with ice cream or any other toppings of choice!

Source: thecardswedrew.com

www.WNCcounseling.com 828.782.3388 Lauren Griffin, M.A. Licensed Professional Counselor Psychotherapist Sophie MAY / JUNE 2017 | 29

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ENTERTAINING

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he world is full of winemaking been drinking the affordable wines coming traditions and there are thouout of Moldova recently, a small country sands of different grape varito the South of the Ukraine. Vinaria din etals, each with their own unique flavor Vale makes a spicy, characteristics to try. There are over two exotic white from the thousand in Italy alone! It seems Feteasca Alb grape, like every day I am introduced and the red made out to a new wine made in a place of Feteasca Neagra is that I have barely heard of. robust and fruity, with a Moldova, wasn’t Jason Bourne slightly earthy finish. hiding out there?

What I’m trying to say is, be With so many wines to choose from, adventurous with your wine it always surprises me how many people drink choices! Many of the “top shelf” the same old thing every night. Whenever I hear wines you see are expensive because they someone say “I only drink Pinot Grigio” it sounds are famous. Seek out wines the same to me as “I only eat peanut butthat are less popular and I think ter and jelly sandwiches.” Life is too short you will find that you get more

By Andy Hale to drink nothing but Chardonnay or Merlot. for your money.

There is a whole world of interesting wines out Andy Hale is a Certified Specialist of Wine and there that you absolutely need to try! Here are a few cofounder of the Asheville School of Wine at Metro of my favorites.

Wines and the Blind Tasting League of Asheville. He When you think of Italian wine, you probably think of Chianti, was a Sommelier at The Sanctuary Hotel at Kiawah Prosecco, Brunello or Barolo first. These are the famous areas of Island, SC and now teaches classes at Metro Wines.

Follow him on Twitter @avlwinegeek Italy and they are all located in the North. If you dislike the barnyard-like smell and tart flavor of Northern Italian wines, check out the richer, fruitier wines grown in the hot climate of the South.

Try the Negroamaro and Primitivo grapes from Puglia for a smoky, Zinfandel alternative, and Garofoli’s “Colle Ambro” from La Marche for a red that rivals Chianti.

If you love French wine, but are tired of the same old Rhône, try some of the new reds coming out of the Languedoc region. The wines from this area used to be drinkable, but forgettable. The new wines are made from the native grape Carignan and are much more interesting. They are more rustic than most French wines, and taste like fresh blueberries and teriyaki beef jerky. My favorite is Chateau Coupe Roses from Minervois. Also try my favorite summertime sipper, HB Picpoul. It tastes like a cross between Sauvignon Blanc and Pinot Grigio, and is an outstanding value!

Grüner Veltliner is a gorgeous Sauvignon Blanc-alternative that doesn’t make you feel like you just drank a smoothie made from grapefruit and cut grass. It is crisp and clean, with some citrus and a finish that reminds some people of arugula and white pepper. Try the Grüner from the mother and daughter owned Müller Grossman winery and I think you will be sold! While you are in Austria, check out the Tinhof’s “Zwei” from the Zweigelt grape for a priceworthy alternative to Pinot Noir.

When it comes to winemaking, Western Europe isn’t the only name any more. There are some really terrific wines coming in from Eastern Europe as well. I have Sophie MAY / JUNE 2017 | 31

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LIFE SKILLS

Shifting from Stuck to Flow

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hat if it was possible to move from peeved to peaceful, or from blue to beaming? What if you could transform how you feel in spite of feeling immobilized, or stuck, in your life? You have the power to make this happen, if you want it.

The energy of springtime encourages new growth, allowing us to release burdens. It’s possible to learn to be in the natural flow of embracing our joys and releasing things that no longer work in our lives. It sounds so simple doesn’t it?

In fact, the process of being in “the flow” can be simplified by learning a few new life skills.

People move through the flow of embracing and releasing in different patterns depending on how they are stuck in life. We experience being stuck physically, emotionally, cogni-

tively, behaviorally, and spiritually.

We can be stuck in denial, anger, disbelief, yearning, anxiety, sadness, helplessness, guilt, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue, and social withdrawal. We often experience these feelings in overwhelming waves leading to feeling out of control. The impact on daily life of being stuck can be intense.

Minette, 38, had been feeling stuck and out of the flow of her life since her relationship of six years ended two years ago. It was difficult for her to move past the constant rumination of trying to understand why her partner “discarded her.”

She experienced a loss of her sense of identity and of the person she was before the relationship ended.

Minette also lost her living situation and several friendships through the breakup. These losses added up and negatively affected her emotional wellbeing. She felt very stuck.

Minette wanted her life back, and decided to get support to learn new ways to work through the grief that stopped the flow of her life.

Here are some of the many skills she mastered to reclaim her life: •Overcoming denial: After two years, Minette was ready to face how she was stuck and how it impacted on her life. She stopped bargaining with other people and wishing to be rescued. Self honesty gave her clarity.

•Discharging anger: Anger surfaced as Minette let go of her denial.

At first, she blamed herself for being in denial for so long. She then discharged her anger toward her expartner and others and felt tremendous relief. Anger can be discharged

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through physically activity, through writing or verbally.

•Releasing sadness: Anger turned inward can intensify sadness. Minette experienced many improvements in the quality of her life as she released the sadness around the loss of the relationship. Her sleeping and eating patterns improved and she had increased energy to connect with friends and family.

•Finding acceptance: Acceptance is catalyzed by combining these skills with forgiveness. Minette learned that forgiveness of others and herself released her from being stuck in the past and allowed her to return to the natural flow of her life. She found ways to create a new direction for herself through her more positive and proactive outlook. Minette learned that controlling her focus positively impacting the quality of her life.

Springtime’s promise of renewal reminds us how we flow in and out of the seasons of our lives. Being out of the flow of life is a profoundly personal and often lonely experience that can often be relieved when we are willing to reach out to friends and family. If you find yourself in need of additional support, it is helpful to work with a licensed professional counselor to facilitate moving through feeling stuck and support the development of your new life skills.

Checking in with Minette, she reports, “I’m grateful for the new way I am able to live my life and feel great about what’s to come.”

Lauren Griffin, M.A., is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville. Learn more Lauren’s work at WNCcounseling.com, or call her at 828-782-3388.

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MEG’S MOVIE REVIEW

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Moonlight

, like everyone on Oscar night (especially Warren Beatty), was pretty shocked when “Moonlight” won Best Picture. While I was underwhelmed by “La La Land,” considered the heavy contender to win in that category, I wasn’t exactly blown away by “Moonlight” either.

“Moonlight” is the story of an African American boy named Chiron, growing up in the projects of Miami. He is ostracized in school for being smaller than the other kids and his mother has developed a crack habit, which is wrecking his home-life. During all of this emotional turmoil, he is also grappling with his own sexuality. Needless to say, the movie is far from a funfilled ride and a lot of it is fairly tough to watch.

I am a huge fan of indie films receiving critical acclaim, and love when a movie makes a statement. While “Moonlight” is about a minority within a minority, I was a bit confused as to what the point of the movie was. The film is divided into three parts: one where he is a child called ‘Little’, the second in which he is a teenager called Chiron, and lastly when he is a grown man called ‘Black.’ In each walk of life, he encounters different challenges, and in none of these periods is he happy.

In addition to the Best Picture win, “Moonlight” also got the Best Supporting Actor Oscar for Mahershala Ali’s (“Luke Cage”) performance as the drug-dealer, Juan. I was a bit baffled by this win as well. While I’ll admit that every time Ali came on-screen it was like coming up for air from all the negativity that is surrounding Chiron, I didn’t feel like there was that much ‘meat’ to the character. He was just playing a decent person who cares about a child’s well-being. I’m sorry, but it didn’t feel like a standout performance to me. I also thought it was a risky choice to make the only well-intentioned people in the whole movie the drug-dealer and his girlfriend.

My favorite performance in the movie was given by Naomie Harris (“28 Days Later”), who plays Chiron’s mother. Her character was the only one that I really felt showed range and had real power behind it. She managed to be sympathetic playing a woman that, in one scene, nearly attacks her son, trying to score money to buy drugs. Harris was also nominated for an Academy Award for her performance in “Moonlight.” Let’s face it though, no one was taking the Oscar away from Viola Davis this year.

“...I was a bit confused as to what the point of the movie was.”

Written and directed by relative-unknown Barry Jenkins, “Moonlight” is not an altogether bad movie, and probably marks the start of a great career for him. No aspect of it resonated with me as a particularly good piece of film-making. Since Chiron’s character is acknowledged to be very quiet and shy, the dialogue leaves something to be desired, most of the scenes are kept pretty basic and understandably unimpressive. The story also doesn’t really have a traditional plot arc, nor does it reach a conventional resolution.

All in all, “Moonlight” just didn’t blow me away on any level. Perhaps I had mentally set the bar too high after it got all the Oscar-buzz, setting the movie up to let me down. I didn’t dislike it though; I just found it disappointing as the film that is acknowledged as: the best of the year, especially when I saw so many more movies in 2016 that I liked much better (“Hell or High Water,” “Hello My Name is Doris,” “Arrival”). I give “Moonlight” six out of my ten stars.

Meg Hale Brunton reviews movies for Sophie every month. She has a Creative Writing degree from UNCA, loves fresh-made popcorn, and throws an annual Oscar party at her house.

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ENTERTAINMENT

BETTY’S BOOK REVIEW

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“Talk Before Sleep,” by Elizabeth Berg

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Talk Before Sleep

ave you ever opened a new book and after a few pages feel like you have known these characters all your life? Despite the sad and difficult story of two friends, one dying of cancer and one learning to be true to herself, reading this book is like sinking into a favorite easy chair, complete with a cat on your lap on a wintry night. ​In this small book, we follow the thoughts and wishes of the friends who surround Ruth, an independent woman who suddenly finds herself dependent on this group of very individual friends. Each friend has something special to contribute to the situation, yet they draw closer to each other as Ruth grows steadily weaker.

So often in a book about cancer the focus is on what the patient is experiencing, this book expands our view to reveal what is happening to the circle of close friends that surround that person. ​The writing is sumptuous and draws the reader in, in such a way that you will not want to put this book down until you have devoured it. I promise

you will be sad when the book has reached its conclusion. You will be sad because of the obvious outcome and sad that no more words are there for you to read. ​Many thanks to Ann for introducing me to this author. I assure you that I will be looking up her other works to enjoy the magic of a good read in the future…

Betty Sharpless is a professional freelance gardener, writer and quilter who loves a good read almost as much as dark chocolate.

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vendors, 3 food trucks, 17 fishing guides and/or fishing industry vendors, a farmers market, and live music from Unspoken Tradition (hardcore bluegrass) and Terri Lynn Queen & the Stingers (classic rock). Admission to the family friendly event is free with donations encouraged.

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The WNC Chapter of the NC Herb Association hosts an incredible festival with an estimated 80,000 attendees.

Special guests from the Herb Society of America representing the great variety of herb related businesses in NC, as well as natural gardening and landscaping specialists, makers of herbal ointments, balms, soaps, teas, sauces, and medicines. Free admission, parking, shuttle & workshops..  Friday-Sunday,

May 5-7, WNC Farmers Market. For more info, visit wncherbfestival.com

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BREAD FESTIVAL

The 13th annual Asheville Bread Festival brings together millers, bakers, and bread lovers to celebrate Asheville’s vibrant baking community.

Over 15 local bakeries will be sampling and selling their bread during the ‘Bakers’ Showcase’ -- a free, family-friendly event running from 10am to 2pm. From 10am through 4pm workshops will be held with well-known bakers Peter Reinhart, Jim Lahey, Lionel Vatinet, and Tara Jensen. Workshop tickets are $15 each.  Saturday, May 6, AB-Tech, Magnolia Building.

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This favorite event will feature a large selection of plant material from returning and new vendors. Free garden related workshops, fundraising Clothesline Event supporting Black Mountain Beautification Committee, and lunch available at hotel make this an annual event not to be missed.  Saturday,

May 20, 9am-4pm, Monte Vista Hotel, Black Mountain. blackmountainbeautification.org

Leave your worries and kids at home, grab a girlfriend, and enjoy a free evening of inspiration, self-care, and fun! Enjoy dinner and guest speakers Paula Guilfoyle (“Re-Energizing Your Life”) and Ronnie Metcalf (“Heart Attack in Women - Signs You Shouldn’t Chalk Up to Stress”). RSVP early!

The free, one-day music & arts festival has a new look with entertainment stages, artist and vendor booths, and central food court all now on one street, Montford Avenue in Asheville’s historic Montford neighborhood.

Wednesday, May 17, MAHEC. RSVP at

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THE AMAZING ACRO CATS FT. THE ROCK CATS The Amazing Acro-Cats, The Rock Cats, and their human staff are devoted to promoting cat-training awareness and supporting feline adoption and rescue across the country. Their performances delight and astound audiences of all ages! “Who knew cats could do that kind of stuff!”

Photo: The Amazing Acro-Cats

 May 7, 1 & 2pm. Diana Wortham Theatre. circuscats.com

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 Saturday, May 20, Bridge Park, Sylva.

For more, mountainlovers.com

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This art fair is different! 130 juried professional artists. All art is original and personally handmade by the artist at the show – no reps or sales agents. All art is for sale in all disciplines. There is something for everyone, in all price ranges.  Saturday & Sunday, May 20 & 21, US Cellular Center. hotworks.org

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This family friendly festival is held in Downtown “Mayberry-like” Marion, NC. The festival spotlights vendors from all around and their sweet, delicious treats.There will be booths for local & regional artisans to display and sell their creations.The festival will also feature: a 5K Dash, a Car Raffle, a Donut Pageant & a donut eating contest.  Saturday, May 20, Downtown Marion.

For more, carolinadonutfestival.com

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& DRINKER FESTIVAL

The Jackson County Chamber of Commerce presents this inaugural festival featuring at least 10 craft beer

SPRING LEAF FESTIVAL Prepare for an experience that will ignite your imagination and inspire your spirit. LEAF is a festival like no other.

Headliners include Macy Gray (above) and an NEA Grant funded “Legends of Africa” series, brings artists from 13 countries in Africa.  May 11-14, Lake Eden. theleaf.org

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Asheville, NC’s premier downtown craft beer festival brings the best local and regional breweries from Asheville and surrounding areas together for a great day of beer and music to benefit Big Brothers Big Sisters of WNC.. Admission is $45/advance, $50/day of event.  Saturday, May 27, Roger McGuire Green. For more, beercityfestival.com

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An exciting evening of lively entertainment, delicious food, and traditional craft and fine art. Proceeds will benefit the Folk School’s craft programs.

Folk School chefs will serve delicious southern inspired fare. Admission: $25 (includes food and drink).  Saturday, May 27, John C. Campbell Folk School. For more, call 1-800-3655724 or visit folkschool.org/auction

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Two days of music, craft and food vendors, and a BBQ Cook Off. The lineup consists of blues legends like Tinsley Ellis, Anson Funderburgh and Room Full of Blues, while bringing some regional favorites like Delta Moon, Lee Griffin Band, Peggy Ratusz and the Daddy Long Legs, Dangerous Gentlemens, Mojo Brothers Blues Band and many more.  Friday & Saturday, June 2 & 3, Brevard

Music Center. For more, visit brevardbluesfestival.com

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A celebration of compassionate living in one of the top vegan-friendly cities in the country. On Saturday, listen to speakers from around the country as they tackle the latest vegan issues. On Sunday, enjoy an outdoor festival with over 100 vendors showcasing vegan food, beer, lifestyle products and more! Hosted by Brother Wolf.  Friday-Sunday, June 9-11, Pack Square Park. Free. veganfest.bwar.org

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Friends of the Mountain Branch Library presents author Lisa Wingate speaking about her stunning and shocking historical novel, Before We Were Yours (Ballentine, June 6, 2017).

The novel tells the story of children stolen, mistreated, manipulated, and sold through the Tennessee Children’s Home Society in the first half of the 20th century and invites the unsettling question: Where are these children now?  Tuesday, June 13, 11am. Mountain Branch Library, Lake Lure. magictimeliterary.com

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With Dillsboro’s 20 or more small shops, and over 50 booths of the Front Street Arts & Crafts Show, the day will be filled with great opportunities to see and purchase many works of the hand and listen to some great entertainment. Sounds of the guitar, the bass fiddle, the banjo will echo through

ASAP’S FARM TOUR For one weekend every year, the gates & barns of WNC farms open to the public for the Farm Tour. The self-guided driving tour is your chance to learn how food grows, taste farm-fresh products, hang out with farm animals, and meet the community’s food producers. Buy a pass, pack your car with family/friends, and set off to celebrate the region’s agricultural heritage and beautiful landscapes. $30/pass.

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 June 24 & 25, various locations.

To see participating farms & buy a pass, visit asapconnections.org

the town, along with the dancing tap shoes of cloggers and tantalizing smells of festival foods.  Saturday, June 17, 10am-4pm.

Dillsboro. For more info, email Connie Hogan at chogan4196@ gmail.com or cal 828-586-3511.

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A FREE multi-stage event bringing together community, arts & music in a one day celebration. There will be activities for kids, beer & a little something for everyone’s music palette

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Enjoy cauldron boiled shrimp, HNG Farm grilled sausage, smoked potato salad, coleslaw and finish with seasonal fruit crisp and Ultimate ice cream. Music and a live auction with proceeds supporting Haitian Scholarships, wheelchairs for a Mexican village, & Rotarians Against Hunger who will package more than 300,000 meals to be distributed by MANNA Foodbank.  Saturday, June 24, Hickory Nut Gap Farm. hickorynutgapfarm.com

across four sound stages.  Saturday, June 17, 12pm-2am. West Asheville. allgowest.com

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The Park Ridge Health Foundation invites the community to “Experience the Wild, Wild West” at its 2017 Annual Gala. Grab your boots and round up your partner to enjoy tasty vittles, live music, silent & live auction surprises and a sit-down dinner.

Come join the fun at the first Better Dads Festival! Be part of creating the kind of community you want to live in. Help create a space where men, women and children can share their experiences of how men and fathers show up in their lives. Build bridges between cultural communities to appreciate both unique and shared experiences. Discover new ways to connect, share, explore, and grow! Games, music, speakers, food.

 Thursday, May 11, 5:30pm, Jeter Mountain

Saturday, June 17, 12-9:30pm. Pack

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Farm. For tickets, parkridgeGALA.com

Square Park. betterdadsfestival.com

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On June 24, Brevard Music Center’s Saturday Spectacular concert features Lee Ann Womack, a Grammy, CMA, and ACM award-winning artist acclaimed for I Hope You Dance – which sold over 6 million albums – and her newest release, The Way I’m Livin’.  Saturday, June 24 7:30pm. Brevard Music Center. For more info, visit brevardmusic.org

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ONGOING EVENTS ASHEVILLE COCKTAIL WEEK

May 1-7 A celebration of the art of mixology and craft spirits, combining the best talent and trends the industry has to offer. This week long event provides something for everyone from industry to the occasional cocktail drinker. A variety of events at every price point including workshops, tastings, competitions & more.  Various locations. For more info, visit carolinacocktailweek.com

STRIVE NOT TO DRIVE Strive Week, May 12-19, asks those who move through Buncombe, Haywood, Henderson, and Transylvania counties to do so in the healthiest, happiest, most sustainable ways possible. Join the FOCB and the Commute Challenge and consider using the greenways to get where you need to go by bike, by foot or if you are not located near a greenway, carpool or public transit.  Find Strive Week events near you at strivenottodrive.org

MATT & BEN

May 17 - June 11; Wed- Sat: 7:30pm; Sun: 2:00 pm; select Sat matinees Written by Mindy Kaling & Brenda Withers, the show investigates a theory behind the writing of the award-winning screenplay Good Will Hunting (written by Matt Damon & Ben Affleck). Played by two women, the fast- paced and entertaining one-act play depicts Hollywood’s golden boys Matt Damon & Ben Affleck, also known as Jason Bourne & Batman. Truly, before anyone actually cared they were just Matt & Ben, two college boys who couldn’t be more different. But they shared one big dream – Fame!  North Carolina Stage Company. $1634. ncstage.org

BILTMORE BLOOMS Through May 25

A celebration takes place each spring at Biltmore when the estate shakes off winter and eases into blooming season. Springtime is show-off time for the members of Biltmore’s talented horticulture team who spend their days nurturing thousands of tulips, delicate azaleas, rhododendrons, and roses in the historic Rose Garden. Calling all garden lovers, gardeners, and greenthumb wannabes! B iltmore. Access

included with regular Biltmore admission. biltmore.com

LISTEN TO THIS Learn the story of Biltmore Industries on a guided history tour with a visit to the historic Dye House in Grovewood Village (usually closed to the public). See the original looms, carding machines, mule spinners, and dye vats used to make Biltmore Handwoven Homespun.

Tours are about 45 minutes and are geared towards adults. No charge, but donations are appreciated.

May 25 & June 29; 7:30pm Local actor/comedian Tom Chalmers invites you to take part in what is quickly becoming one of Asheville’s most popular series, Listen to This. A storytelling format in the vein of “This American Life,” An evening of stories and songs from some of Asheville’s most interesting writers, performers, and citizens. Each installment features a central theme Real people. Real stories. Real good times.

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CLASSES & WORKSHOPS WOMEN’S FINANCIAL EMPOWERMENT CLASSES The Financial Empowerment Center at OnTrack WNC offers a full range of financial counseling & education services with a women-centered approach, responding to unique needs & perspectives, to help you reach your financial goals.  OnTrack WNC Offices, 50 French

Broad Ave. Most classes are free, pre-registration required. Call 828255-5166 to register. ontrackwnc.org

WILD ABUNDANCE CLASSES

A variety of classes offered March through November including: Essentials of Homesteading and Permaculture, Ancestral Foods Cooking Classes, Women’s Basic Carpentry Class & more!  For complete class

listings and more information visit wildabundance.net or call 828-775-7052

questions on how to work smart and not harder as a creative entrepreneur.  A sheville Area Arts Council, 207 Coxe Ave. For more info, ashevillearts.com

THE VILLAGE POTTER A range of classes for adults designed to welcome the beginner, welcome back the prodigal potter, guide a new enthusiast to the next steps and offer mentorship for those wanting to explore their skills and learn from a generous community of artists.  The Village Potter, 191 Lyman Street,

#180. For current class offerings and to register call 828-253-2424 or visit thevillagepotters.com

DANCE + TRANSFORM CLASSES

Christine Garvin features a variety of dance classes at The Colourfield in downtown Asheville. Sign up for classes in Contemporary Hip Hop Flow, Jazzy Cabaret, Belly Balance among others, or undertake her special Metamorphosis Program.  The Colourfield, 54 Ravenscroft Dr. For complete class listings and more information visit christinegarvin.com

WINE CLASSES WITH ANDY HALE Through July 01

Andy Hale, Education Director for The Asheville School of Wine @ MetroWines, will conduct a series of six wine classes, the second Thursday of every month through July, offering what you need to know about the wines in over 10 countries through presentation and tasting! The cost for each class is $20 plus tax.  Metro Wines, 169 Charlotte St. To purchase tickets call 828-575-9525 or visit metrowinesasheville.com

ARTIST BUSINESS BRAINSTORM: HOW TO GROW AND THRIVE YOUR SMALL CREATIVE BUSINESS

May 11 | 10:00am-12:00pm June 8 | 4:00 – 6:00 pm Have questions on how to start or grow your own creative business?

Annice Brown, small business development coach with the Western Women’s Business Center, is partnering with the AAAC to offer her small business expertise. This is your chance to ask any and all

HOT SHOP I- THE BASICS Thurs. June 22- August 10, 6-9pm.

Fall in love with glassblowing! This introductory 8-week class teaches the basic skills of glassblowing. Learn how to gather molten glass from the furnace and shape it into basic forms such as paperweights, solid sculptures, bubbles & eventually drinking tumblers. For those who are new to the medium or have limited experience in glass and are seeking to build a solid set of skills.  North Carolina Glass Center. For more information visit ncglasscenter.org

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2 0 1 7 o p e n i n g d at e s asheville city market

April 1, Saturdays 8-12

asheville City market South April 5, Wednesdays 12-4

Black mountain tailgate market May 6, Saturdays 9-12

east asheville tailgate market May 5, Fridays 3-6

French Broad Food CoOp tailgate market April 19, Wednesdays 2-6

henderson County tailgate market March 14, Saturdays 7-12

leicester Farmers market April 2, Saturdays 9-2

mills river Farmers market May 7, Saturdays 8-12

north asheville tailgate market April 1, Saturdays 8-12

oakley farmers market

May 4, Thursdays 3:30-6:30

Original waynesville tailgate market

May 14, Wednesdays + Saturdays 8-12

river arts district farmers market May 3, Wednesdays 2-6

weaverville tailgate market

April 12, Wednesdays 2:30-6:30

west asheville tailgate market April 4, Tuesdays 3:30-6:30

For a complete list of the 90+ tailgates in the region, including their season closing dates, visit ASAP’s online Local Food Guide at appalachiangrown.org

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JAMIE HARRINGTON, North State Bank Mortgage market manager, was again recognized as one of the Homes for Heroes top lender affiliates in the nation.

Harrington is the #2 Homes for Heroes lender affiliate in the United States for 2016, following recognition in 2014 and 2015 as the #3 lender affiliate nationwide.

T he Van W inkle L aw Firm announced that attorney JENNY BOYER has joined the firm’s trusts and estates team as an associate. Boyer will focus her practice on estate planning, estate and trust administration, charitable gift planning, and trust reformations and terminations.

Award-winning children’s book illustrator and western North Carolina native, KATIE KATH, will be holding the official launch party for her newest picture book My Kicks: A Sneaker Story!, written

by Susan Verde, at Malaprop’s Bookstore on Saturday, May 13th, at 11:00 a.m. The event is familyfriendly and will feature a reading from the book, a characterdrawing demo, and more.

Park Ridge Health welcomes FRED NIRDÉ, LCSE, CPA, as Administrative Director of Behavioral Health. Nirdé has an extensive career history of innovative leadership in both public and private behavioral health care systems.

Asheville’s largest locally owned insurance agency, Insurance Service of Asheville, warmly welcomes REGINA EDWARDS and JANICE ADAMS to their team of experts in commercial and personal insurance lines.

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Park Ridge Health is excited to announce the winner of its quarterly DAISY Award, RYAN O’NEILL, RN. O’Neill is a vital member of the fully accredited Park Ridge Health Diagnostic Imaging department. She was nominated by a colleague who has seen her clinical skill and compassionate care exemplify the kind of nurse that Park Ridge Health patients, their families, and our staff recognize as outstanding.

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CONCERNING OUR COMMUNITY Junior League of Asheville Marks 90th Year The Junior League of Asheville, Inc. (JLA) will commemorate its 90th anniversary this year with an intensified commitment to our community. The JLA, organized in 1925 as the Junior League Club, joined the Association of Junior Leagues of America (now the Association of Junior Leagues International) in February of 1927. The coming year will be imbued with a recommitment to service through annual events such as Volunteer-a-Thon and ChildWatch Tour as well as new events and projects.

Over the years, the League’s Impact Projects have helped to shape both the physical and volunteer landscape of Asheville as we know it today. From the Baby Home in the 1930s to Harvest House, downtown revitalization, the Nature Center, ChildWatch Tour, Pack Place, Angels Watch, and Volunteera-Thon, the JLA has been at the forefront of the Asheville’s community’s collective commitment to the spirit of service and goodwill.

Safelight Announces $50,000 Capital Campaign Match Safelight recently received a donation of $50,000 as a matching gift for their capital campaign for shelter renovations.

According to Laresa Griffin, Director of Development for Safelight, this gift from an anonymous donor will make a big difference to their capital campaign. “We are grateful to not only have this donor’s strong support, but also to see the inspiration this match creates in our community,” Griffin said.

“Matching gifts encourage other donors to give, knowing their dollars essentially have twice the impact.”

Safelight’s Executive Director, Tanya Blackford explained how this campaign will fund renovations inside the agency’s shelter for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and child abuse. “When we moved into our current location nine years ago, we had 15 clients who stayed an average of two weeks and the dorm-style housing we have worked for that. Today, we have over 30 clients who stay up to six months due to a lack of affordable housing.” Blackford added, “Longer stays can be positive when coupled with therapy and skill building. Our services have grown to meet these challenges, by adding a job training program for example, and now our floorplan also needs to reflect these changes.”

Safelight’s capital campaign goal is $150,000 which will be used to create private rooms, increase security, and improve shelter space. To donate, please visit safelightfamily.org or checks can be mailed to 133 Fifth Avenue West, Hendersonville, NC 28792.

Safelight provides hope and healing for families in Henderson County affected by trauma. The organization responds to domestic violence, sexual assault and child abuse by offering free, confidential help for adults and children. By removing barriers to getting help, Safelight’s many programs heal lives and create a safer, healthier community. For more information, visit safelightfamily.org.

Montford Park Players Announces Registration for The Montford Moppets Montford Park Players, an Asheville theatrical tradition, is pleased to open up registrations for its popular summer program, The Montford Moppets.

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performed some of Shakespeare’s most-beloved scenes, with modern translations by the tweens and teens themselves. This year they’ll perform a shortened version of The Bard’s foreboding tales Macbeth.

The final presentation of the show will go up before Montford’s premiere of the classic Peter Pan on August 11th, 12th and 13th. Ms. Goff says of this year’s camp, “Every time these kids come together, they surprise me with how deeply they delve into the work of Shakespeare.

They’ve been clamoring to do Macbeth for a few years now, so those returning students will be psyched.”

Mr. Catanese added, “The audiences who witness how a group of kids can grasp and perform such complex subject matter are in awe. The kids who join The Moppets really come to work. But we have a lot of fun at the same time.”

Registration for The Montford Moppets can be done online by going tomontfordparkplayers.org/montford-moppets, and is open to any kids aged from 9 to 17. The number of students who can participate is limited, so Montford Park Players urges parents to take advantage of the “Early Bird Special” rate before June 1st.

If there are other questions, parents can reach out to Montford Park Players’ Education Director Cary Nichols at cary.nichols@montfordparkplayers.org, or call (828) 254-5146. Deadline for registration is July 24th, 2017.

Asheville’s Grovewood Gallery Celebrates 25 Years of American-Made Art and Craft Considered one of Asheville’s premiere art and craft galleries, Grovewood Gallery - located in Grovewood Village adjacent to The Omni Grove Park Inn - will mark its 25th year this year.

Plans are underway for the anniversary celebration, slated for Saturday, May 20 from 2 – 6 p.m., which will include an outdoor sculpture exhibition, artist demonstrations, live music by The Bad Penny Pleasuremakers, and local food and drinks. Customers will also have a chance to enter a free raffle to win a kinetic Wind Sculpture by Lyman Whitaker.

Grovewood Gallery’s 25th Anniversary Celebration is sponsored by: Golden Fleece, Hi-Wire Brewing, Metro Wines, and Noble Cider.

The gallery is part of Grovewood Village, which is housed in the historic weaving and woodworking complex of Biltmore Industries. Grovewood Village includes six English cottages constructed from 1917 - 1923 by Fred L. Seely, son-in-law of Edwin Wiley Grove.

For more information on Grovewood Gallery and Grovewood Village, visit grovewood.com or call (828) 253.7651.

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