JAYE August 2011: The Success Issue

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Just in Time for Back to School!

the success issue

JAYE Because College is More than the Classroom

153 New Style Ideas For Fall!

 Fresh Trends  Hair Tips from Nicki Minaj’s Stylist  Denim Updates Plus: The 1st Annual JAYE Beauty Awards p. 104

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Chani Christie

“I just say, ‘Doubt me, then watch me’” and Views on How Contemporary Women Measure Their Achievements

culture watch

How Twitter Changed the Way We Watch TV

Relationships Report

>> Non-Verbal Keys to Clue-In on >> Be a Better Listener in 5 Steps >> Survival Tips For Any Type of Romance

Health Alert

6 Slimming Super Foods

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Features 72 I Did It My Way! By Melissa Kimble Chani Christie wears a lot of hats (model, recording artist, actress, entrepreneur and best-selling author) — and even though she’s accomplished more at 19 than most people twice her age, she has no plans of slowing down 76 The Modern Meaning of Success Now more than ever, young women across the country are realizing that good things may come to those who wait, but Thewho Front great things comeTK to those Need-to-know create their own opportunities. In headlines; Memo from Mike editor’s letter; Instrucour special package, we feature tions an Ivy-league philanthropist, an emerging singer with secondTK to-none work ethic, andCheat profilesSheet of military girlfriends making The Key to Style Success? Proporsacrifices to support the men tions: Long Knits & Even Longer they love Skirts; The New Mid-Calf Day

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84 Fall of Decades Designers looked back in history for inspiration in the form of feminine frocks, sexy separates and sultry silhouettes culled from three our most fashionable eras: the ‘40s, ‘60s and ‘70s 90 Travel Pack By Sara Brown From the Dominican Republic and Spain to Paris and England, five girls dish on the good, unexpected and everything in between from their experiences studying abroad

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Accentuate your femininity this fall with dresses in sumptous fabrics, perfect for any occasion. Dress, Miu Miu.

98 Love Will Find a Way By Brianti Downing Relationships can be a stressful proposition, whether you’re rocking steadily along with your high-school sweetheart, using technology to make it work with a long-distance lover or freely playing the field with a few hotties. We’ve got the 411 on how to deal, no matter your situation 104 The 2011 JAYE Beauty Awards Behold! The best buys for your face, makeup kit, hair and body bundled together for your consumption


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7 The Front Need-to-know headlines; Memo from Mike editor’s letter; Instructions 13 Cheat Sheet The Key to Style Success? Proportions: Long Knits & Even Longer Skirts; The New Mid-Calf Day Dress; The Bright Skinny Pant 19 Cram!: Because College is More than the Classroom Streamline your schedule with time-management tips; 60 Seconds with a Cutie; August’s Movie Menu; manage your credit cards and minimize debt; advice to stand out from your coworkers; Get-Ahead Guru; how to bounce back from a broken heart; find the strength to steer clear of no-good exes; body language tricks to improve your relationship; Make a Difference in the Lives of 75 Million Americans 37 Style Study Guide: The Scoop on the Latest Trends, Designers and Fashion News August’s Obsession: Polka Dots; Wear-With-Anything Gray Bags; Céline reissues some of our favorite pieces; The Comfiest, Most Stylish Heels; Back-to-School Staples You’ll Wear All Semester; Street Style Inspiration; Style Q&A; Having a Moment: Plaid; Cute Stuff You Can Afford: Under-$50 Instant Updates; plus the latest fashion news 45 Beauty Study Guide: Tricks to Try for the Gorgeous Girl On the Go

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Beauty & Books: Your Back-toSchool Manual For All Things Pretty; A look ahead to the hottest fall hair trends with Celebrity Stylist Terrence Davidson; how to love The Skin You’re In, no matter the tone; what Director Margaret Francois packs in her Beauty Backpack; plus the latest beauty news 57 Health Study Guide: Wellness and Fitness Intel to Help You Get the Most Out of Life Lose weight without losing your curves; the six superfoods that are equal parts healthy and delicious; Health Editor Nikki Roberti’s advice on how to get the body you’ve been dreaming of 64 JAYE Report Culture: Twitter and TV: A match made in producer’s heaven; Hot Topic: Are You a Healthy Trender?: Money: New strategies for financing college and paying back your loans 110 Lessons & Confessions Trust the Process: Michelle Golden’s experiences have taught her patience, fortitude and to appreciate the little things 113 Relax!: Lifestyle, Food, Drinks, Shopping Jean Code: 25 fresh denim updates; The Ultimate Smoothie; Master Class: Pasta; Sittin’ Pretty in the Perfect Desk Chair 122 Till We Meet Again If JAYE was a college course…


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The Front >> August 2011 Indispensable News, Notes, Facts and Figures for the Cultured College Girl Key to Success The Short List The Most Expensive Public “A May study by the John J. Heldrich Center for Workforce Colleges For InDevelopment at Rutgers University polled nearly 600 young State Students

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U.S. News and World Report compiled a list of the 10 most expensive public colleges for in- state students. According to the report, the 10 universities average cost of tuition, for the year, was nearly double most public universities, which was $7,042.  Pennsylvania University–University Park: $15,250  Maine Marine Academy: $14,665  University of Vermont: $14,132  University of New Hampshire: $13,675  University of Illinois— Urbana Champaign: $13,640  St. Mary’s College of Maryland: $13,630  Colorado School of Mines: $13,425  College of New Jersey: $13,273  University of Illinois– Chicago: $13,074  New Jersey Institute of Technology: $12,856

men and women who graduated from college between 2006 and 2010. The authors found that young men are not only outearning young women, they're doing so by an average of more than $5,000 per year. Male participants reported first-year job earnings averaging $33,150, while young women earned about $28,000.”

Keepin’ It Real

According to a recent survey, Three out of four women said they would not wed someone without a job, and 65 percent would feel anxious tying the knot if they themselves were jobless. The Trend

More college freshmen feel above average. Are you one of them?

According to a new study, college students are becoming too confident in themselves. “It’s not just confidence. It’s over confidence,” Jean Twenge, author of Generation Me, and psychology professor at San Diego State University said. An explanation? Twenge credits the over confidence with creating a crippling effect on college students in their professional future—the economy, jobs outlook, the housing market; you know, all that serious stuff. Twenge explains the sense of over confidence creates a disconnect with reality.

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The Front >> august 2011

Moronic Move of the Month: A 19-year-old man has been arrested in connection with hacking into the Sony Web site and the CIA Web site. Since he was arrested in London his name cannot be

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released. The hackers recently called for “war” on governments that control the Internet.

 Memo From Mike

Most Likely to Succeed

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Michael Jones Editor-in-Chief executive editor Michelle Golden Fashion director Arriel Ginter  beauty director Margaret Francois deputy editor Anne-Michelle Toussaint Deputy editor, health Nikki Roberti

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editor-at-large Melissa Kimble Executive articles editor Ju’lia Samuels  senior articles editor Jesica Met senior editor Chloe Metzger articles editor, health Liyana Abdul Kadir associate editors Sara Brown, Megan Elliott,

Brittney Fennell

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senior style & market editor Kydee Williams fashion features editor Jill Scherr

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senior beauty editor Jillian Ruffo correspondents

Joanna Fantozzi, Brittney Fennell, Jamie Harrison, Kim Jaso, Tiffany Johnson, Shannon Kirk, Kate Marcus, Aileen Peachman, Artieka Smith

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e all have our own definitions of success, and while there are some common denominators (financial security and familial stability, along with a few nice material things), what my staff and I discovered is that there are myriad ways to achieve your goals. And whether you’re like our Jane-of-all-trades cover girl Chani Christie; a philanthropic do-gooder like Harvard undergrad Rebecca Kantar; like songstress Kimberly Nichole, an emerging star who works during the day and records even harder at night; or any of the military girlfriends profiled by Executive Editor Michelle Golden (who’s one herself!), we all can glean a little wisdom from each other’s experiences.   While I was editing “The Modern Meaning of Success,” featuring the stories of the ladies mentioned above, starting on p. 76, I was reminded of a lyric in one of my favorite songs, “The Heart of the Matter” (originally recorded by Don Henley, and later covered by India.Arie): “The more I know, the less I understand, and all the things I thought I knew, I’m learning them again.” Although our minds are often clouded with the stresses of lectures, study groups, and extracurricular activities, life has a knack of framing events in a way that reminds us success is elusive if we stop learning, taking risks and helping others.   Obviously, I want you to be as inspired as I am by these influential ladies who represent the best of what our generation has to offer. But what I hope is equally resonant is that with access to so much information at the click of mouse, the touch of a screen, or a

pit-stop at your campus library, you can positively impact your community too.   We’ve spent the summer refreshing your reading experience, to make arriving your final destination as uncomplicated as possible. I’m especially thrilled to introduce our new Cram! section, an eclectic mix of knowledge on culture, personal finance, careers, relationships, time management, self-improvement and philanthropy, bundled together in a vibrant design to help you get in, get out and get on with your lives.   Not before checking out our new Study Guides though! These information-packed departments include updates on Style, Beauty, and Health and will keep you looking and good and feeling great each month.   “There aren’t enough hours in the day,” Margo Francois, our gorgeous beauty director, protests, and her gripe is reinforced each month when I chat with you all on Twitter, through email and in-person. Your busy schedules inspired our Report section, which cherry-picks the headlines dominating the news and makes them relevant for your life. In the back of the book, wind down with our Relax! pages, which highlight the best of the best in lifestyle, shopping, food and drink.   As you prep for the first day of the semester, remember the sage words of the late author Wilfred Peterson: “Success is focusing the full power of all you are on what you have a burning desire to achieve.” Shoot me a note at jayemagmike@gmail.com or find us on Twitter (@JAYEmagazine) and let me know how you’re going to be successful. In the meantime, have a ball reading the issue!

MJ

Michael Jones Editor-in-Chief


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The Front >> august 2011

Sleeping Beauty: The National Sleep Foundation encourage students to take naps to improve their state of mind and alertness in class, which will improve students’ academic performance. Take a thirty-minute respite between the hours of 10 and 11 a.m. and 2 and 4 p.m. Those are the hours that the human sleep rhythms trigger grogginess and a natural lack of focus.

The entrepreneurs behind UCLA Munchies have introduced a new gourmet takeout service. The late-night room service, a partnership with The Palace, has been comically named Ching Ching Ling Long, in response to the UCLA student racist rant. The new room service will offer vegetarian dishes and entrees like fried vegetable rice and chow mien.

Tweet, Tweet!

Senator Greg Ball (R–NY) took to Twitter to ask his followers how he should vote on gay marriage. At press time, lawmakers in The Empire State were preparing to vote on a bill to legalize same-sex marriage.

Speak Your Mind… Dating & Relationships

 57 percent of the respondents in a recent JAYE online survey said that they wouldn’t care to know their partner’s sexual history.  14 percent thought they deserved to know would happily share their history.  29 percent would like to know, but wouldn't share my past unless asked. Email us at jayespeakyourmind@gmail.com and let us know what you think!

In the Know

Experts suggest the Walmart discrimination lawsuit brought on by a group women who accused the retail giant of gender bias, which was dismissed as this issue closed, will make future group discrimination lawsuits more difficult to file. The U.S. Supreme Court said in their final ruling that future discrimination suits will have to prove that there was a nationwide practice or policy that hurt the class.

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This Just In Verizon no longer offers

unlimited data plans. The change only affects new customers, not customers who already have unlimited data plans. The new plans begin at $30 a month for 2GB of data. Other packages will include $50 for 5GB, or $80 for 10 GB.

Sports Buff We see celebrities everywhere from the big screen, TV and magazines. Here is a list of some of our favorite celebrities who have also conquered the world of athletics too.  Our favorite comedian, Jon Stewart played soccer for William and Mary.  Oscar-winning actor, Forest Whitaker went to Polytechnic University on a football scholarship. He transferred to USC and majored in music.  The man who embodied the phrase Jesus-abs, Jim Caviezel played college basketball for Bellevue Community College.  While it would not have been our first guess, Boris Kodjoe was said to be a talented tennis player for Commonwealth University.

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The number of years embarrassing photos on the web could haunt you >> According to a recent report from Forbes magazine, the Federal Trade Commission recently gave approval to a background check company that screens job applicants on their Internet photos and postings. This means that anything you post on Facebook, Twitter, Flickr and blogs may become a standard part of background checks.


google me, baby: Behold, for your your personal consumption, the most Googled universities: The University of Florida; South University; American University; National University; University of Chicago; University of Miami; University of Arizona; University of Iowa; Boston College ; Boston University

Instructions

Essential Knowledge to Navigate the Outside-the-Classroom Experience How to Write* a Kick-Ass Thank You Letter to Your Summer Boss

Dear [Insert Boss’s Name], It’s hard to believe summer’s already over! As I prepare for another semester, I wanted to take a moment to thank you for the opportunity to work for you. The lessons I learned while working with you are definitely going to help me as I continue to grow in the [insert field] industry. You’ve been an amazing resource and I look forward to continuing to cultivate an awesome relationship moving forward. Thanks again and have a great day! Sincerely, [Your name here] * While technology is great (you wouldn’t be reading this magazine without it!), we suggest you go the old-fashioned route and hand-write your letter.

How to Get Involved on Campus Most universities have tons of student activities and organizations to get involved with—here’s how: Stop by the student services office: They usually have resources and contact info to get your started. Check out the campus newspaper: Most pubs keep you in the loop of what’s going on a daily or weekly basis. Talk to your RA. Residents halls provide great opportunites to network and socialize.

This jersey dress from Topshop is body conscious enough to show off your curves (or provide the illusion of them!) while hiding the problem areas without being too revealing. And the color? To die for! And at $110, it’s moderately priced for a dress that you’ll definitely get tons of wear out of. Another bonus: You don’t have to worry about hunting for a necklace—The ruching at the neckline serves as a unexpected detail!

What to Wear to the First Party of the Semester Deciding on an outfit for the opening shindig of the new school year isn’t as overwhelming as it seems, says our Editor-in-Chief Michael Jones. Read on for his pointers: Opt for a dress. “It doesn’t have to be a Little Black Dress, but I suggest a frock with a simple silhouette in a basic, on-trend color (think cobalt blue, fire red or jade green). Show off your personality with accessories. Think of your dress as a blank canvas. If you’re fun and flirty, add quirky heels and costume jewlery. Polished and feminine? Opt for sexy heels and a elegant clutch. Tight isn’t always right. Fit is key; you don’t want to be tugging at your dress all night long!

3 Tidbits to Include in Your Twitter Bio

Despite the entertaining aspects of the social networking and mircroblogging site (check out our report on live-tweeting TV shows on p. TK), Twitter also provides an ideal platform for connecting with like minded people who share similar personal and professional sensibilities. The first step to making these worthwhile connections is mastering the art of the bio. Too many folks leave this space blank or fill it with BS so they can proceed straight to following, retweeting and hashtaging their lives away, but we’ve got a few tips, courtesy of MediaBistro’s All Twitter blog to help you take advantage of this key real estate. A link to a site that works. Including a link to another web presence—whether it’s a personal site, LinkedIn account or Facebook profile—kills two birds with one stone: It shows you’re not one of those pesky bots and it helps you attract more quality followers by allowing them to engage with you on other platforms. Throw in a few keywords. “By including keywords in your Twitter bio, you will signal to potential followers exactly which topics interest you and what you will be tweeting about most often,” writer Lauren Dugan explains. Keep the keywords relevant to what you will most often be tweeting about, and you’ll send strong signals to potential followers. You’ll start to see an increase in followers who want to hear what you have to say and be more likely to retweet and engage with you. Succinctly answer: Why am I on Twitter? By defining your specific reason for using the site, you can make sure you’re following people worth engaging with and it will also give your tweets some clarity and consistency.


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The Key to Style Success? Proportions!

Financial aid’s squared away, you’re schedule’s set and the lease is signed—now on to the fun stuff: What to wear back to school! We’ve got a few ideas, inspired by fall’s freshest shapes Turquoise is fresh for fall. Theory sweater {$295; net-a-porter.com.} Go boho-chic with a crochet pattern. Delia’s skirt {$20; delias.com.}

Emerald green’s surpisingly versatile! Yves Saint Laurent shoes {$720; ssense.com.}

Store all your back-toschool essentials in a roomy satchel. Dorothy Perkins bag {$29; dorothyperkins.com.} Define your waist with a belt. Tilly’s belt {$8; tillys.com.}

Consider this the foundation to your fall uniform. Elizabeth & James skirt {$224; my-wardrobe.com.} Wool and cashmere blends keep you cozy. MICHAEL Michael Kors sweater {$175; net-a-porter.com.}

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Fall Proportion #1 Long Knits & Even Longer Skirts

Whether worn with cable-knit sweaters or toppers made of sweatshirt materials, you’ll find fall’s ankle-length stunners are as wearable as they are chic Throw in a red-

hot pop of color. 2 Lips Too shoes {$60; heels.com.}

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Fall Proportion #2 the new mid-calf day dress Thanks to a supporting cast

of pastel-colored cardis, layerfriendly turtenecks and teeteringly high ankle boots, elegant frocks are having a moment These provide the extra

inches you crave. Giuseppe Zanotti shoes {$865; giuseppezanottidesign.com.}

A fitted jacket pulls the look together. MiH blazer {$315; net-a-porter.com.}

Add a dose of youthfulness of youthfulness with a cocktail ring. Old Navy ring {$10; oldnavy.com.}

Perfect for layering. J. Crew turtleneck {$40; jcrew.com.}

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Invest in a quality everyday bag. Madewell satchel {$148; madewell.com.}

Behold: The perfectfor-layering dress. Mulberry dress {$740; mulberry.com.}

Tie-dye for grownups. Unconditional dress {$158; coggles.com.}


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jaye Cheat Sheet Fall Proportion #3 the bright (skinny!) pant

Combine cigarette-thin trousers with nautical stripes, sumptuous cashmere and business-ready blazers for combos that work for the classroom or post-meeting cocktails A black blazer keeps

the look polished. Dorothy Perkins blazer {$73; dorothyperkins.com.}

Toughen up vivid hues with a shot of leopard print. Steve Madden shoes {$140; heels.com.}

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Nautical stripes never go out of style. Golden Goose top {$194; lagarconne.com.}

Think of this cherry-red color as a neutral. Michael Kors pants {$695; net-a-porter.com.}

Trust us: You’ll carry this clutch everywhere. American Apparel clutch {$50; americanapparel.net.}

Think of this cherry-red color as a neutral. Michael Kors pants {$695; net-a-porter.com.}


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Have an opinion about something you read in the magazine? Send us your thoughts at jayespeakyourmind@gmail.com or directly to JAYE Editor-in-Chief Michael Jones at jayemagmike@gmail.com. Your letter could be published in the magazine, and you could win a token of our appreciation if selected as Reader of the Month!

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ack to school for college students is a necessary burden on the road to success. So to make life as easy as possible, use our guide with a few useful apps that are sure to keep you in line:

Get organized. It may seem like an obvious solution, but as obvious as it may seem it is equally as crucial to a student’s success. It’s important that you find the approach that works best for you. Agendas and smartphone to-do lists are all effective approaches to staying organized and prepared for what is next. Apps like iProcrastinate for the iPhone offer features that are normally seen on paid apps, which are guaranteed to keep students in line. You can add steps required for each task, and if necessary, add team members to the tasks.   For Android users, Astrid Task is a useful free app that will synchronize with students’ Gmail calendar. The program sends reminders and organizes each task. Make sure when using to-do lists or agendas that every important date is logged well in advance with reminders that inform you in

enough time to prepare for an exam or that next assignment. Find the right approach for you but above all else stay organized.

Time Management is crucial. You have to know how to delegate your time for each class. You may not be able to study for every class every day. So it’s important that you divide your schedule up accordingly. Set an established amount of courses for you to study each day and divide your time accordingly. Make sure that you take study breaks as well. Go to class. It is always tempting to skip class, but going to class is a solid approach for making the most of your time. It is an approach to that will pay off in the long run. Going to class will cut down your study time when exams roll around. The more you go to class the easier it might be to understand the material. There is nothing more painful than learning new material and trying to study it all at the same time. Note-taking is a unique science all of its own. It important to find the approach

streamline your schedule and make the most of the little time that you have by downloading a few efficient apps, writing kick-ass notes in class and taking study breaks  by ju’lia samuels

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that works best for you, and use that approach when you go to class. Reviewing notes after every class gradually prepares you for any exams and pop quizzes your professor might have planned for you. Google notebook, Zoho notebook, Yahoo notepad and Spring Note are all useful applications for note taking. Another thing to keep in mind, is that using an online app ensures that if your trusted laptop should fail you, you won’t loose any important notes, which would really jeopardize your time. wired up: According to a 2009 Participatory Marketing Network and Pace University's Lubin School of Business IDM Lab, email was the activity that college students were least likely to give up for a week.

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Cram! >> 60 Seconds With a Cutie This Month’s Cutie:

Cody Tucker, a 22-year-

old from Davenport, IA with a sense of humor and the ability to woo a girl in one minute. What He Does: “I’m a student who serves at a restaurant, works retail, socializes, and performs improv comedy. I stay busy.”

 Describe yourself in three words: “Gorgeous, charming, modest.” Favorite Thing About a Woman: “A sense of adventure. Anytime a woman is more than ready to do something crazy and fun is always welcome.” What women need to know about men: “We’ve got some crazy emotions running around in our head too.” How to win him over: “By being a genuine person, accepting my busy schedule, and having a dorky side.” Dating deal-breaker: “If the lady doesn’t understand my jokes, thus making me explain…” Secret life-long dream: “To be a featured player on Saturday Night Live!” A super power he’d choose: “Flight. I’ve spent way too many class periods daydreaming that I had a cape. Probably have the grades to show for it!” What intimidates him about women: “When they start toeing that line between, ‘I’m fine just hanging out with you,’ and ‘Let’s get married now!’” Worst dating habit: “Eating too fast. I swear I’m having a good time—I’m just hungry!” A woman must-have: “Sense of humor (and maybe a twin sister?)” What he doesn’t get about women: “Talking to you one day and completely ignoring you the next.” 
 Surprising daily ritual: “For a scrawny guy, I really enjoy working out. Even if I can’t make it to the gym, I’ll make sure to get some push-ups or crunches in.” How to make a girl fall for him in 60 seconds: “I have this really cool rolling trick I can do with my stomach. If that doesn’t get ‘em, I’ve got nothin’.” A call for cuties! Submit the handsome single guys in your life to jayespeakyourmind@gmail.com. Be sure to include a photo, contact information, along with a few words on why our readers will love him. You may see your submission on this page in a future issue!

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“Men have some crazy emotions running around in our head too.”

did you know: According to a match.com survey, mong singles without children under 18, more men (24%) than women (15%) say they want to have children.


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Cram! >> Movies

on this month’s movie menu

Party of Five

shot in 3-d on canadian terrain, final destination 5 brings the hear

Back to The Future

with star-studded cast and enthralling storyline, the help gives you a glimpse into the journey towards a post-racial society

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et in Mississippi during the 1960s, The Help stars Emma Stone (star of the breakout hit, Zombieland) as Skeeter, a southern society girl who returns from college determined to become a writer, but turns her friends' lives-and a small Mississippi town-upside down when she decides to interview the black women who have spent their lives taking care of prominent southern families. Academy Award nominee Viola Davis (Eat Pray Love) stars as Aibileen, Change of Pace Ryan Reynolds and Jason Bateman star in The Change-Up, from director David Dobkin (Wedding Crashers), writers Jon Lucas and Scott Moore (The Hangover) and producer Neal Moritz (Fast and Furious, Click). The R-rated comedy takes the traditional bodyswitching movie, ties it up tightly and throws

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Skeeter's best friend's housekeeper, who is the first to open up-to the dismay of her friends in the tight-knit black community. Despite Skeeter's life-long friendships hanging in the balance, she and Aibileen continue their collaboration and soon more women come forward to tell their stories-and as it turns out, they have a lot to say. Along the way, unlikely friendships are forged and a new sisterhood emerges, but not before everyone in town has a thing or two to say themselves when they become unwittingly-and unwillingly-caught up in the changing times.

it off a cliff.  Following a drunken night out together, Mitch and Dave's worlds are turned upside down when they wake up in each other's bodies and proceed to freak the &*#@ out.  Despite the freedom from their normal routines and habits, the guys soon discover that each other's lives are nowhere near

as rosy as they once seemed. Further complicating matters are Dave's sexy legal associate, Sabrina (Olivia Wilde), and Mitch's estranged father (Alan Arkin). With time not on their side, Mitch and Dave comically struggle to avoid completely destroying each other's lives before they can find a way to get their old ones back.

Editor’s Note: Movie Synopses courtesty of RopesOfSilicon.com.

In this fifth installment, Death is just as omnipresent as ever, and is unleashed after one man's premonition saves a group of coworkers from a terrifying suspension bridge collapse. But this group of unsuspecting souls was never supposed to survive, and, in a terrifying race against time, the ill-fated group frantically tries to discover a way to escape Death's sinister agenda. The new victims of Death's plan are part of a cast led by Emma Bell (Frozen, TV's "The Walking Dead") and Nick D'Agosto (Fired Up!, TV's "Heroes"). The film is being shot on location in Vancouver, Canada. The second of the Final Destination films to be shot in 3-D, Final Destination 5 is being directed by Steve Quale, marking his major feature film directorial debut.


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Cram! >> Money Monitor

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t’s that time of year when credit card companies flock to campuses to prey on the wallets of students just like you. Be in control of your financial fate and don’t fall victim to the tricks, schemes and pitfalls. So whether it’s your first time signing up for a card or you’re in the market for another, make sure you know what you’re getting into first: Be cautious. Companies will lure students in with promises of free food or prizes if they simply register for an informational packet, but oftentimes this “packet” can be a cleverlydisguised card application. Shop around. Don’t feel obligated to sign up for the first card you hear about. Call companies or look online to find a card with the lowest-interest rate and know what its restrictions are before you sign up. Start small. Little, occasional purchases are the best way to build credit. Sign up So electric! Whether you’re moving into your first apartment or relocating to a new complex, these tips will help shave off a few dollars on your next electric bill. make sure you’re paying the lowest rates possible. You don’t always have to pay the area’s main provider. Use light bulbs that are energy-efficient. There are tons on the market that conserve electricity. seal your doors and windows so heat and cold air doesn’t escape. An energy audit can help identify where the air is leaving your home from. Take care of the little things. Air dry your clothes when possible, and of course, when lights aren’t in use, turn them off!

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for a gas card or a store charge card to reduce temptation to overspend everywhere. Decrease the limit. A good rule of thumb is never let your credit card limit exceed 20% of your income. Set your limit low to avoid the temptation of having a blank check in your wallet. Pay on time. Develop a habit of paying off your balance in full and on time every month to avoid unnecessary interest charges on purchases you don’t pay off. Keep track. A magazine one day and a latte the next can add up quickly and throw you into debt if you’re not careful. Monitor your spending by using online banking or by writing down every purchase you make. Use it sparingly. Extravagant buys aren’t necessary to build a credit score and can slowly lead to debt. Try using your card just once a week or for emergencies only to avoid a shock at the end of the month.

To Stop a Predator protect yourself from credit card traps with our easy tips  by chloe metzger

a generation of borrowers: According to “The Survey of Consumer Payment Choice,” Federal Reserve Bank of Boston, published in January 2010, the average cardholder has 3.5 credit cards. Including both cardholders and noncardholders, the average consumer has 2.7 cards each.

book check The prices of textbooks don’t seem to be going down any time soon, but relief may come, courtesy of some of your professors. If you’re in a class with a new edition of the book that only has minor changes, your instructor may allow you to use an older (read: cheaper) edition to save you a few dollars. Consult with your profs to make sure the new version isn’t mandatory for his or her course.

make your money work

6 Easy Ways to Manage Your Money 1. Save your receipts. to compare them with statements at the end of the month. 2. Steer clear of liberal spenders;they’re habits could rub off. 3. Get involved on campus—most events are free with a valid student ID. 4. Don’t force your guy to spend outside of his means. 5. Make extra money from your special talents. 6. Car pool, and when the weather permits, walk to class.

Tip You’ve Probably Heard Before: Make a budget—a generic Excel spreadsheet will suffice—and keep track of what’s coming in and what’s going out. Have a plan to allocate a few dollars to a rainy day fund and give yourself some spending money.

money-saving idea of the month: Orchestrate an at-home spa day for you and your girlfriends to relax and prepare for the new semester.


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Cram! >> Workplace Warrior

he difference between a job and a career is the proximity to happiness, and being stuck in the I-hate-my-job blues can be depressing. However, there are ways to impress the higher-ups without going back to school for another four years. Here are seven easy tips to help you move forward in your career ventures: Your first move beyond hourly and into salary is to identify your goals. You can’t move forward without knowing where you’re going. So, sit down, write a list, and map out your goals. Whether you plan to acquire a supervisory role or become the president of a company, a good plan helps you stay motivated while you stay on track.   Once you’ve identified your goals, start building relationships. Start conversations with people in the elevator or the suits you may see passing you by in the hallway. By initiating quick chats in the

workplace show that you know how to communicate and understand the importance of sociability.   The benefit of having a mentor is overlooked. After you say hello, seek out a personal mentor to help you strengthen your skills. The successful people that you aim to be are usually more than willing to share their secrets for achieving their goals. Having a personal mentor available to guide gives you an advantage over your mentor-less co-workers. Be a team player. No one likes the naysayer. Show initiative by chipping in on projects that need extra players, assignments that need you to stay late, or tasks outside your job description Never use the dreaded line, “That’s not in my job description.” “I wish I still had a job,” will be your next line. Speak up. Saying yes and hello is the first step; soon you should begin voicing your opinions. When you see a problem, offer solutions. Even if your ideas aren’t used, that doesn’t mean no one is

Attention to Detail

grab attention by mastering the small stuff by jesica met listening. Learning when and how to speak your mind shows employers that you might have some of the answers too. Before you speak up though, be sure to study up on your material. Studying doesn’t stop with graduation. If you want to move ahead, you have to know what happens when you get there. When you open your mouth, know what you’re talking about. Understanding the company you work for and the role you and everyone else plays, prepares you for whatever hurdles your journey may hold before you. Always ask for feedback. You don’t have to wait until end-of-the year evaluations to see what your progress is. Find out how well you are doing on the job so you can create your own weekly progress report to track your success to better than you were the week before. Once you receive consistent feedback, it allows you to gauge how others view your work and what steps you need to take to improve. Getting ahead in the workplace is much easier than you might assume; you just have to step up and take initiative. A smile and a positive attitude can equip you with the potential to turn a dead-end job into a flourishing career.

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reference request

The competition’s steep out here, and sometimes the best way to get ahead is to turn to the people that saw your second-to-none work ethic first hand. But it’s not always easy to ask for one, so follow these steps to cash in on your request. Provide at least two to three weeks for the referrer to write the letter. It’s common courtesy to take into account the other responsibilities and deadlines they may have. Choose your writer carefully. You want someone who can splice in personal stories of how you made their jobs easier or how you took control of a project without being asked—details that show initiative and work ethic. If you haven’t been in contact with your reference in a while, shoot a brief update via email of what you’ve been up to. Don’t read the letter. Some applications even ask you to waive the right to view reccomendation letters. Follow-up and let your letter-writer know the outcome. And of course, say thank you.


Cram! >> Get-Ahead Guru

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eing new on the job can be an incredibly intimidating feeling. When you look out at your surroundings, you notice how everyone has already formed their own relationships, established their own set of skills, and formulated their own set of values. Hence, when you come in with the pungent scent of unfamiliarity, the judgmental eyes that stare back at you are a little overwhelming. Debbie, the Multi Function Financial Analyst in the finance department of a global security company, is no stranger to that feeling. So, she offers a little advice to the newbies who are where she was almost seven years ago.   Upon starting her first day at her company, her initial emotions consisted of a little intimidation, nervousness, and anxiety; getting a job with a well-known global security company was kind of a big deal. Eventually she got the language of the company and worked hard enough to move up.   First day jitters: The first day at a new job is always nerve-

wracking. On her first day, Debbie remembered her previous experience and utilized that to ease into the thick of things. Soon, her nervousness settled and that allowed her to familiarize herself with the company and get comfortable. Remember, you wouldn’t have been offered a job if you weren’t qualified.   Who’s buying lunch: Luckily, Debbie had old college friends there to share in her initial apprehension. However, if she didn’t know anyone before starting, finding someone to eat lunch with still would not have been a difficult task. Most companies, like Debbie’s, try to ease newcomers into the company to avoid the harsh sting of being seen as fresh meat. When lunch time turns the corner, you have to leave yourself open and keep it friendly. Not everyone is as standoffish as Corporate America may make it seem.   Getting help: Once you’ve gotten over the stigma of being new in the workplace, it’s time to get to work. Usually, the fear of being new and untrained takes over and gets in the way of professional growth. You can’t let that happen. Debbie

asked for help immediately. When you need answers you cannot be afraid to ask for help. She realized that “people are eager to help” and actually look forward to assisting you in your professional journey. And besides, not being afraid to ask for help looks good when promotion season comes around.   Taking initiative: You’re on the job, time has passed, and you have lunch time work buddies. Now it’s time to take it a step further. Before long, your superiors will have taken the training wheels off and will expect more of you. Once Debbie understood what role she played in the success of her company, she quickly took it upon herself to learn the ropes and aspire to become more than what she started as. Her performance reflected her growing knowledge base of the company and it aided her in moving up come evaluation time. When you understand your role and the company you work for, people begin to listen

when you have something to say.   Parting words: To advance in Corporate America Debbie offers this: Learn quick and build relationships. Being timid and introverted is normal the first week or so but eventually you’re going to have to come out of your shell and work on building professional relationships in and definitely outside of your particular function. When you showcase your skills to people across the board, you leave room for the opportunity for doors to open and advancement in your career in ways that you may have not had without certain connects.   Being new at work can really be a scary ordeal. However, realize that you’re not alone— remember everyone there has started fresh at some point in time. Utilize the skills that Debbie discusses and get outside of your comfort zone. Plus, keep in mind: You won’t be new for long.

Before long, your superiors will have taken the training wheels off and will expect more of you.

One Step at a Time

from getting over the first-day anxiety to who pays for lunch— your guide to navigating the office as a newbie by jesica met


Cram! >> Give Yourself a Boost

Un-Break Your Heart how to bounce back from the disappointment of a fizzled romance by jesica met

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ou’re laying in bed staring at your corduroy ceiling pattern, wearing bunny slippers, singing along to sad love songs, and stuffing your face with a dangerous combination of strawberry ice cream, Snicker bars, spicy nachos, and M&M’s—you know you’ve been there. Everything was moving along smoothly until your Mr. Right turned into your Mr. Not Really. So now you’re left with broken dreams, dried-up tears, and ten extra pounds. All you can think about now is figuring out how long it’s going to take to bounce back from the heartbreak.   First things first, welcome the pain. The more effort put into avoiding the pain will only lead to frustration and more delayed pain. Getting over a break up includes having time to grieve. The tired saying that “time heals all wounds” is a saying that too many women try to circumvent. Letting go involves accepting the fact that it is going to take some time to get back to a place of acceptance and happiness. Besides, a little grief never hurt anybody.   Grief doesn’t have to last forever though. Once the relationship is over, it’s best to remove constant reminders of what could have been. The teddy bear he won for you, the pictures of you laughing it up at the park, or the first napkin he used to wipe his nose—no one’s judging what you deem as sentimental value—only cause you to revisit the old memories and feelings you once held dear. Now, no one is saying to throw all his personal items in a box and set fire to them, simply let go of the material possessions that remind you of him so you can eventually let go of him.   Upon chucking that box full of old memories and being sure to keep away from your old hangouts, recognize the fact that it isn’t your fault. He may have only been Mr. Right in your eyes because the opportunity to show you how Mr. Wrong he was never presented itself. Sometimes, relationships don’t work out. People grow apart, communication dwindles, and college semesters change. Therefore, understanding that him leaving may have been the best gift he’s ever given you.   However, if the grief is too much to cope with, keep yourself busy. Immerse yourself in school assignments, attend more club meetings, or spend time with your girls not bashing men for a change. The less you think about him, the easier it will be to move on. A few days or even a week, maybe two, is quite enough time to pine after someone. Soon, the moving on stage has to kick in. Look at yourself in the mirror and realize that a woman as beautiful as you deserves someone who is willing to

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put in the effort to making a relationship work. Hence, take some time to improve the many other happenings in your life that have been lacking your attention. Ultimately, the time will have passed and the mourning stage will just seem too dramatic. I mean let’s be serious, was he really that cute anyway?

Helping Others Helps You Here’s a quick pick-me-up tip: Volunteer in the community— your mood will change for the better and you’ll be making a ad difference. pat yourself on the back

>> Author Rebekah Harkness, who was in a devastating paragliding accident in 2000, outlines clear and simple approach to succeeding in life in Turning the Tide: The Top Ten Principles of a Success Mindset.

Experts say the key to feeling great about yourself is to identify and accentuate your strengths and expose people to them as often as possible. That way people encourage you to continue to hone your craft, increasing your confidence even more.


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case of the ex

Our Get-Over-Him-For-Good Playlist “Before He Cheats,” Carrie Underwood  “Best Thing I Never Had, ” Beyoncé  “Never Again,” Kelly Clarkson  “Fading,” Rihanna  “Over You,” Daughtry  “My Happy Ending,” Avril Lavigne  “Too Little Too Late,” JoJo “Two Weeks Notice,” Fantasia 

The Point of No Return he’s an ex for a reason! before reconciling with an ex, take heed to our advice to make sure it’s on your terms this time around by jesica met

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ou and your girlfriends decide to paint the town tickleme-fuchsia in your hottest new post-monogamy dress. Then, it happens. You look down at your phone and notice his number flash across the screen. You ignore it. That chapter in your life closed and it’s time to move on. Then, it happens again. He sends you a text that reads, “I was wrong. Life means nothing without you. Please, baby, give me another chance.” Time stops and a million new thoughts run through your head.

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Two minutes ago you were thinking about stepping outside your comfort zone to brazenly flirt with a cute guy. Now, that flushed, insecure feeling of commitment and companionship has taken over and forced you to consider reneging on your breakup. Now that daunting question looms: Is it worth going back to? Obviously he didn’t like it enough to put a ring on it before, has he really come to his senses? Let’s explore that.   Are you really over him? Yes, you cut off your hair, lost some weight, and even went out on a few dates, but do you ever catch yourself sitting in

class and staring off into space while you daydream about how good you two were? If so, maybe you’re fooling yourself. However, if getting over him was easier than picking out a nail polish color then it’s possible that he was never that important to begin with.   Don’t lie to yourself though. Before you start re-opening those wedding guide books, ask the question: Is it him that I want or do I simply want the loneliness to go away? Some women get back with men they know they have no business being with because singlehood really isn’t as exciting as they thought it was. The new, overt-

some co-dependency issues that you need to work through, alone.   He hurt you. He left you alone on a park bench in the rain while he and his umbrella walked out of your life for what you thought was for good. Now that he’s realized that his umbrella means nothing without you under it, Are you ready to forgive him? You say you’re not bitter but the thought of him being upswept by a strong gush of wind and electrocuted by some loose power lines actually brings a smirk to your face. If the wound is still fresh, then ripping off the Band-Aid and

Before you start re-opening those wedding guide books, ask the question: Is it him that I want or do I simply want the loneliness to go away? ly flirtatious you isn’t so cool when you have no one to warm you up at night. However, if the idea of being with him is much more alluring than actually being with him, you may have

revisiting a closed chapter might be a bad idea. Being single a while longer may help the wounds heal. Once you’re truly over it, consider the idea of taking him back.


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ommunication is essential for the successful longevity of a relationship. But, what’s more important is realizing that relationships consist of both verbal and nonverbal cues, like how engaging eyes illustrates interest while folded arms and glazed over stares show indifference. Let’s delve deeper into what your body language is really saying: It’s all in the eyes: When you avoid eye contact, it tells the other person that you have things that are more important on your mind or that you may be hiding something. Rolling your eyes indicates that you’re not truly listening or that you don’t care what the other person has to say. Steady eye contact shows attentiveness. Hugs and Kisses: A hug and kiss represent obvious signs of intimacy, and hen you and your partner meet for Xs and Os, soft lips and bodies that touch display closeness and connection. When your lips are tight and your back is out, it shows distance. It doesn’t hurt to linger for a moment too. Quick signs of endearment tell the other that you lack focus and emotion. Proximity is key: When you’re having dinner, watching TV, or walking next to each other, your proximity to each other tells a great deal. Sitting across from each other at a long table, facing away from each other when sitting on the couch watching TV, or walking ahead of each other denotes detachment. You don’t have to be all over each other but subtle touches and warm, lingering kisses say a lot. Mirror me: Couples who are truly dedicated to each other often tend to mimic each other’s actions.

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Body Talk

non-verbal cues could be the key to taking your relationship to the next level by jesica met Their steps are in tune, they cross their legs toward each other when sitting across from each other, and their movements match. Committed couples synchronize their actions while mismatched partners don’t. Slow down: Fast and rigid movements signify lack emotion. If you truly care about someone, you’ll take your time. to notice your partner, gazing into each other’s eyes and being intimate for a little bit longer tells the other that you’re interested and willing to appreciate your time together.

5 Steps to Becoming a Better Listener

Many relationships disintegrate due to lack of communication, and with technology galore, face-to-face interaction is tougher than ever. Don’t let your love fall apart; follow our easy checklist to get the most out of your man

 Look at your partner in the eye. Visual cues show him that you’re interested.  Turn down the TV, silence your phone and eliminate any other distractions.  Pay attention not only to what’s he saying, but how he’s saying it.  Don’t start thinking of a response while he’s talking.  Try not to interrupt. And when he’s finished, ask questions for clarity, if necessary.


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Cram! >> To the Rescue >> August is National Psoriasis Awareness Month, so brush up on your knowledge of the disease and read about how to get involved with spreading awareness. What it is: A chronic skin condition that affects nearly 7.5 million Americans and over 125 million people worldwide, according to the National Psoriasis Foundation. Why it’s a problem: It’s the most prevalent autoimmune disease in the United Sates and can lead to serious health conditions like diabetes, heart disease and depression. How to tell if you’ve got it: There are various types of psoriasis, but the most common kind appears on the skin in rough, inflamed lesions with white scales. How to treat it: Unfortunately, there isn’t one solid treatment for psoriasis. Not all methods are effective on everyone either, which is why finding a cure for the disease is so crucial. How to help: Supporting research is the most important step in finding a cure, and numerous foundations are working to speed up the process. Check out Alyssa’s Fund and the Discovery Fund to find out how to donate money and get involved in the search for the cure. To find out more: go online to the National Psoriasis Foundation (psoriasis. org), and tell your friends to spread the word.

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Make a Difference in the Lives of 75 Million Americans give back and help fight psoriasis by chloe metzger

psoriasis at a glance

 Psoriasis often appears between the ages of 15 and 25, but can develop at any age.  Psoriatic arthritis usually develops between the ages of 30 and 50, but can develop at any age.  About one out of three people with psoriasis report having a relative with psoriasis.  Psoriasis is not a cosmetic problem. Nearly 60 percent of people with psoriasis reported their disease to be a large problem in their everyday life.  Psoriasis has a greater impact on quality of life in women and younger patients. Source: National Psoriasis Foundation


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Study Guide Style

The Scoop on the Trends, Designers and Fashion News

Bad hair day? Who cares! Tasha headband {$28; nordstrom.com.} Every girl needs a pair of showstopping heels! Gianmarco Lorenzi shoes {$1,011; farfetch.com.}

Khaki’s such an unexpected color. Marc by Marc Jacobs top {$419; mytheresa.com.}

We’re Obsessed With: Polka Dots

Spots were a big hit down fall’s runway—and why not? They’re a fun, flirty and cool update, just in time for back to school A classic white buttondown dresses up a strapless frock. Delia’s dress {$25; delias.com.}

Jazz up your basics with a scarf. Closed scarf {$33; luisaviaroma.com.}

Complete the Look with a Shot of Red

Clockwise: MICHAEL Michael Kors bag {$328; nordstrom.com.}Moschino C&C skirt {$390; luisaviaroma.com.} Aldo shoes {$40; aldoshoes.com.}

Diane von Furstenberg When the temps drop, pair with tights. Annabelle skirt {$20; amazon.com.}

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Style

Study Guide To extend retailer Sunglass Hut’s global reach, Rachel Bilson—who also serves as the company’s brand ambassodor and style director—will pose for ads in Europe, Asia and Latin America.

Wear-With-Anything Gray Bags

After a summer filled with psychedelic neons and bold colors, tone things down a bit with tranquil gunmetal carryalls

the children’s place Fast-fashion chain H&M will launch a kid’s collection this fall to benefit its All for Children initiative with UNICEF. The clothes for girls and boys will be available in 160 stores worldwide, with 25 percent of the sales prices going directly to UNICEF projects to promote children’s rights to education and protection in vulnerable communities. “We believe that children who learn how to read and write are better equipped to make informed choices about their future,” says the company.

Carry it as a clutch or sling it across your body messenger style. Many the Miles bag {$20; shopruche.com.} Bucket bags are still in style. Murati bag {$45; yesstyle.com.} Breathe easy: We’ve found the perfect work/internship carryall. Michael Kors bag {$795; neimanmarcus.com.}

in stores now! Head to your local Neiman’s and Barney’s to check out “Céline Classics,” a compilation of the designer Phoebe Philo’s six best looks— including a black wool Crombie coat, mallardblue poplin boy shirt, and cobalt blue grain de poudre tuxedo. Minimalism mavens, we hope you have a little cash left over from your refund check because these must-haves (inspired by Picasso’s famous “The Actor” painting) are definitely a splurge!

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don’t mess with tory! Popular womenswear brand Tory Burch won her suit against 141 websites knocking off the designers footwear, accessory and handbag designs. The judgment? A whopping 164 million bucks!


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The idea of having a chunky knit to throw on to combat cold mornings and chilly lecture halls is a wise one, and we recommend one like the knit at right from Aubin & Wills ($160; net-a-porter.com) in a khaki-ish color that’s more versatile than you probably think. Wear it with a nobrainer combo of jeans and a T-shirt, or a maxi skirt or skinny pants and wedged boots. Opt for a rustic feel, something a little dishelved. ASOS ankle boots {$207; asos.com.}

If you’re gonna splurge on denim, push the boundaries with a pair of waxed jeans from J Brand ($149; net-a-porter.com).

The initial instinct for most spenders is to stock up on the basics when back-to-school shopping, but the mark of a well-curated closet includes a few statement pieces to mix and match with your wardrobe standbys. What’s on our list? Striped sweaters for never-ending layering; a navy blazer with a fresh, slouchy silhouette; printed pants (we’d style ‘em with something solid up top); and updated accessories like a stack of bracelets and everyday bag.

We Found THEM! The comfiest, most stylish heels! While teetering stilettos may be unrealistic for trekking cross-campus to your poli-sci class, these loafer-inspired ankle boots with a wooden platform merge function and flair—one step at a time.

back-to-school staples you’ll wear all semester Elizabeth & James blazer {$299 each; boutique1.com.}

Amrita Singh bracelets {$100; amritasingh.com.}

Fossil bag {$126; zappos.com.}

J. Crew sweaters {$78 each; net-a-porter.com.} Topshop pants {$80; topshop.com.}

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style on the street

Your go-to layering piece for fall. Chalayan, $220; net-a-porter.com.

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A look from the designer’s fall colletction.

During the weird transitional months in between seasons, it’s tricky hitting the right style notes— it’s still too warm for bulky outerwear, but the nights are a little chillier than those of summer’s. Take a cue from Lookbook.nu user Rylee J. and mash-up smart layers for a look that’s chic and perfect for any temps.


Having a Moment

We saw a plethora of plaids and tartans at the fall collections—including Rag & Bone, Thakoon and Chris Benz— and why not? They can be dressed up or down and worn to class or while running errands on the weekend. The key to looking on trend and not like you’re headed to the backwoods for a lazy getaway is to pair your plaids with modern basics and sophisticated accessories.

Style Q&A

I don’t want to carry a backpack around campus, so I’m on the hunt for a stylish bag that’s functional without looking too academic. Any ideas? The good news is that roomy, everyday bags are having a moment. Gone are the days of switching from bag to bag, and shoppers are savvily hunting for sturdy carryalls to take them through whatver the day throws at them. While you’re trying to avoid the “academic” look, these utility bags have a sophisticated prep air, perfect for college campuses. Our pick is a bowler bag from Zara ($169; zara.com), in a sand-colored hue, perfect for surviving fall in style.

Cute Stuff You Can Afford Under-$50 Instant Updates

Forever 21 necklace {$11; forever21.com.}

Delia’s dress {$45; delias.com.}

RSQ jeans {$30; amazon.com.}

The fashion team always swoons over a ‘70s reference and we got one in the form a wave of mustard-colored silhouttes stomping down fall’s runways. Get the look yourself with a Topshop calf-length skirt (we love the side-button detail!) and pair it with jewel tones or earthy hues for a winning combo.

Gringo skirt {$32; fashionconscience.com.}

Old Navy jacket {$40; oldnavy.com.}


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Study Guide Beauty

Tricks to Try for the Gorgeous Girl On the Go

Model Jourdan Dunn backstage at Proenza Schouler.

Beauty & Books

ideas, products and expert advice—your back-to-school manual for all things pretty >> by jillian ruffo

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For this look, try and keep the liner or shadow to a bare minimum. This way, you’ll look fresh and awake, but without an over-done look. Of course, apply mascara and your eyes are set. Sweep bronzer along your cheekbones and on your forehead, giving you a natural glow- and follow that with a bit of pink blush on your cheeks. Nars Bronzer and Blush duo in Orgasm/ Laguna, $40; narscosmetics.com. Of course, no one wants to look-over-the-top while sitting in class all day, but that doesn’t mean we’re not checking ourselves in the mirror before rushing off to hit the books. When it comes to your face, keep it simple. Casual daytime makeup should look as natural and clean as possible. This means no smoky eyes or thick liners, but rather a touch of brown liner or smudge a bit of brown shadow on the outer corners of your eyes.

Do something fun with your nails, such as painting on a design of making them glittery-fab. With a thin nail polish brush, you can create different designs.

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If you’re short for time, don’t worry. Simply put your hair in a high ponytail! There’s nothing easier, and it’s a great look that anyone can pull off. As we drift away from the extreme bright-colored lip trends of Spring, red-wine lips are a sizzling, sophisticated way to turn heads this Fall. Nars Pure Matte Lipstick in Volga, $25, Nars. com. Alexander Wang, Spring 2010

Tip: If you’re pressed for time, don’t bother drying your hair. Simply hop out of the shower, run some mousse through your locks, braid and go!

Lately, a loose braid has been a great trendy go-to. No matter the length of your hair, a braid is simple and fun, leaving you worry-free. Whether your hair is curly or straight, thick or thin, braids are easy. Opt for one braid in the back or loose to one side, or if you’re into a messy look, try braiding your hair to one side, loosening the braid and pulling a few strands out once you’re done. If you have layers, some pieces may fall out anyway, but don’t worry, that’s the look- just let them fall and enjoy it.Or, if you want a sleek look, put some mousse in your hair before you begin, and braid tightly. This way, the braid will be held in place and look beautiful all day.

For a school-friendly hairdo, simple waves, braids or a high ponytail are foolproof and perfect weapon against the inbetween weather as the seasons change. If your hair is naturally wavy, apply a small amount of serum until your waves are smooth and defined. Or if you’re looking for a more perfect wavy look, run the Hot Tools Deep Waver ($50, Folica.com) through your hair. This waver creates natural looking waves, and it’s totally easy to use. If you have unruly curls, there’s no need to even worry about your roots- simply wave the bottoms and your hair will look great.

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beauty tutor JAYE: What advice do you have for first-time weave/ wig wearers trying to find the best look for them? davidson: When it comes to wigs and weaves you can’t be your own critic. In my professional career my advice to those would be that wigs and weaves need the response from others vs. questioning yourself. Hey, it's 2011 the year of fun and trendsetting; of course you will look totally different, so go ahead and make others do a double take. JAYE: What’s one of the biggest misconceptions that people have when it comes to wearing weave or wigs? davidson: People think that wearing a wig or weave makes them look fake or unrealistic; in reality it’s not about that, it’s a form of creative expression—a weave or wig is a need and not a want. I recommend that when a woman pulls out her dress and shoes that she needs to

bring out her wig or lace front. I believe that a weave or wig is a part of a wardrobe and everyday life. When I teach, I challenge my students to explore their imaginations and in order to create a conversation piece through the hair. If people are not talking about your hair, then you are not a conversation piece. JAYE: What advice do you have for maintaining wigs? davidson: I always tell my clients that in order to keep a wig looking

If you want to see statement-making hair personified, look no further than to celebrity hairstylist Terrence Davidson, the mastermind behind the looks of Nicki Minaj, Tyra Banks, Lauren London and Patti Labelle. We caught up with the busy stylist and mentor to get the scoop on the wide-world of weaves and wigs

This technique works with straight or curly wigs while the manikin helps to hold the shape of the wig. JAYE: What hair trends do you predict to be hot this fall? davidson: This fall I would have to predict the soft textured look to be a hot look. For me, I would mix a blend or Beautiful Brown (Permanent color) and Kiss Color (Semi-Permanent Rinse) together to get the perfect blend. Of course, you would definitely have to know how

“If people are not talking about your hair, then you are not a conversation piece.” new and fresh; they should place the wig on a manikin with a silk scarf wrapped around it to keep the hair silky and with its natural sheen.

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to properly mix colors before you go trying this one at home. I would say that if you not a stylist then mention this suggestion to your stylist and walk out of the salon looking hot! JAYE: Are there any projects that you have in the works that you would like to share? davidson: I recently released the “Just my Colour” (www.justmycolour.com) wig line and it has been a complete success. My DVD titled “How I got in the game” is due to

drop before the holidays. This DVD will illustrate how to create the perfect wig and weave for yourself and help choose a style that fits your personality. Everything that makes a person successful has a formula and this is my gift back to anyone who aspires to be great. And of course, between all of this and styling celebrities hair I still have The Tranz4merz International Hair Battle touring major cities. I also have a lot of things brewing, but you will have to stay tuned for the rest. 


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What would you do if the only way to gain acceptance and status in your community was by altering the color of your skin? Prepare to get a glimpse into the lives of women who face this question daily as Siobhan Cassidy sheds light on this emotionally taxing issue

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t was not until I met my roommates Tyrella and Eeshanti that I realized women have a desire for a different skin color, no matter their race or ethnicity. Before we would go out for a night on the town, Tyrella, who is fullblooded Jamaican, would look in the mirror and comment on if only her skin was a shade lighter. “They make creams

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that can lighten your skin,” Eeshanti, who is Indian, said. “My mom used it when she was trying to get married back in India.”   In India, 60 percent of beauty products are for lightening skin and have names like Fair and Lovely. In Indian culture, marriage is about child bearing, and it is important for young adults to be married, but it puts added pressure onto

young Indian-Americans, beautiful. or Indians in general, Sunita   The beauty industry disMukhi, who is the director of agrees. There are various prodAsian-American programs at ucts on the market that claim Stony Brook University, says. they will make your skin the Women with darker skin, have any shade you desire, whether a difficult time finding a poit’s light or dark. The advertential spouse, like Eeshanti’s tisements for these products mother. paint a euphoric picture of the   In western “They make creams women and culture, the that can lighten your men who use abnormal, skin. My mom used it these products. year-long, sun when she was trying They have kissed tan to get married back in great careers, is an imporIndia.” – Eeshanti and heads turn tant beauty when they ritual among the fair and walk by. The industry perpetulight-skinned. “Ah, I am so ates the image that the grass pale. I need to go tanning,” is greener on the other side; the women who live in my whether or not the products dorm building constantly say, actually work safely, is another despite having a dark tan that debate. they wear as a badge of honor.   There is a parallel between Even Snooki from the MTV Eastern and Western counshow, Jersey Shore, claims that tries. Eastern countries desire her race is not Caucasian but to be lighter, and western instead tan. Most excessive countries desire to be darker. tanners say they feel better Why? Why must we achieve about themselves with a tan, a different skin tone to live a rather than “pasty, pale” skin. fulfilled life? I say we should, I believe that there’s a misconjust rock what we already have, ception that tanned skin is besides, it’s much cheaper. 


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The key to maintaining your look throughout the day is to stow away a few goodies in your satchel to refresh and touch-up throughout the day, says Beauty Director Margaret Francois. Here are her picks

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s women on-the-go, our schedules can sometimes become overwhelming. There are only 24 hours in a day, but with the busy lives that we balance—class, work, study groups, meetings, social obligations, and oh yeah, studying!—we sometimes wish there were 25.   The life of a hard-working student can impact our beauty regimen. I can’t count the number of times I’ve nixed putting on makeup, for an additional 10 minutes of sleep after a long day of work. As always, I’ve got just what you need to make sure that you can balance your personal and professional lives in style. Whether you’re heading back to school, or taking on the tasks of every day work and life, this list of my go-to beauty items (all of which can fit into your backpack or purse) will help you maintain your glam throughout the day. E-mail me at margaretdfrancois87@yahoo.com and share your get-glam quick secrets!

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A face full of runny makeup or oil from a long day’s work can easily be eliminated with facial cleansing wipes. Nivea Cleansing Wipes, $9.95 smallflower.com. These mini hand sanitizers are awesome for on-the-go beauties—they’re small enough to fit into your purse or even your pocket. The best part is they smell just like your favorite scents from the line. $1.50, Bath & Body Works stores. While you’re shopping for back-to-school threads, grab the purr-fect eye makeup look with this travel-ready kit equipped with highlighter, three eyeliners and three double ended applicators. There’s also a mirror attached to the casing! Forever 21 Kitten Eyeshadow Kit $8.80. There’s something about having a mini cuticle and hangnail snipper, cuticle pusher and nail cleaner, and nail file in one compact carryall. It’s cute and convenient. Tweezerman Mini Nail Rescue Kit, $20 ulta.com. Put your best smile forward with this combination of teeth-whitening ampoules and a pop of shimmery pink gloss. Did I mention that this set comes in an adorable silver clutch, so you’ll look great and have an accessory to match your outfit? Go Smile Go Glam Travel Set, $15; ulta.com.

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Sears Spruces Up It’s Beauty Offerings Sears, the company known for spearheading the catalogue shopping movement, is looking to be recognized as a beauty destination too. The retailer is adding in-store cosmetics departments to more than 100 locations that will carry product favorites such as L’Oreal, Maybelline, Revlon, Cover Girl and many more. They’ll also feature nail care fro Sally Hansen, Essie and Nicole by OPI, in addition to skin care, and fragrance for men and women. They will also have resident “beauty advisers” available to share makeup tips.  The Ultimate Merger Now, you can avoid the hassle of having limited access to Butter London nail polish, one of the industry’s best kept secrets, because it’s finally available in all 350 ULTA stores nationwide. Nail lacquers, treatments, and pedicure essentials from the 7-year-old brand are just a few miles away.

Accelerated Pulse After having great success with her “Heat” and “Heat Rush” fragrances, Queen B is putting our nostrils to the test with the launch of her new fragrance, “Pulse.” The scent has hints of pear blossom, peony, midnight blooming jasmine, Madagascar vanilla and, for the first time in a fragrance, bluebird orchid is used. The stunning singer says this new scent is unique because the bottle, which has an upside down design, was inspired by her stage costumes.

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Wonder twins (and March cover girls!) Coco & Breezy, have launched C&B 4 Kids, a jewelry line for children’s full of bright-colored accessories. Get inspired by the plush curls and bright blue lipsticks. New beauty trend, anyone? The attention-grabbing products are available at cocoandbreezy.com.

Global Goddesses Eco- and hair-friendly brand Carol’s daughter, brought singer-songwriter Solange Knowles, model Selita Ebanks and model-singer Cassie on board as spokesmodels. These diverse beauties will be featured in upcoming ads for the brand, including their latest launch, the Monoi Repair Collection.


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eady to work out but scared to lose your beloved curves? As we all know, thick thighs hips and booty are high in demand, but you may want to shed some belly fat in order to keep it sexy in the hottest fall trends.   Unfortunately, you can’t lose weight in just one area of your body and the fat will come from wherever your body decides it will come from. The only thing you can do is lose weight all around and eventually the problem area will also improve. With that being said, there are exercises that can be done that could leave your whole body (especially your womanly parts) looking great and in tip-top shape.   The secret is to lose fat and tone muscle simultaneously. Being toned is a product of having less body fat and lean muscle. You can achieve a flatter stomach while sculpting your legs and butt as well.   The first step? Begin with some cardio training. You can’t lose your extra weight around your tummy just by doing 100 crunches a day. Your abs are hidden under a layer of extra weight, so you have incorporate cardio training along with

weight training and eating healthy in order to see results.   Cardio exercises will speed up your heart weight, burn calories and eventually lose weight. To exercise your glutes while doing the cardio, try using the stair climber, a spinning bicycle or an elliptical machine. Perform cardio exercises for 30 to 45 minutes three times a week.   In order to keep your bum plump and rounded and to keep your legs nice and toned, you should try doing a variation of squats and lunges. Perform 10 to 12 sets for 2 to 3 repetitions.   Squats are definitely a go-to exercise. Squats work every muscle in the thighs (quads, hamstrings, outer thighs), core and glutes. You don’t need any equipment to perform this exercise but you can use a free weight or a kettle ball to add challenge. >> Make sure your feet are shoulder width apart with toes slightly pointed out. >> Keeping your weight in your heels, sit your butt back and bend at knees as if sitting in a chair. >> Keep eyes looking forward and back straight, not rounded. >> Drive through the heels >>

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Study Guide to come back to standing.   Lunges are another work out that can define and strengthen your butt and thighs. There are many different types of lunges you can do, but we will start out with a standard forward lunge. You can also add dumbbells for challenge. >> Step forward as far as you comfortably can. >> Bend both legs to 90 degrees. >> Push off front leg and return to start position.   Try doing your squats and lunges in conjunction with different ab exercises such as the standard crunch, leg lifts and/ or the bicycle to work out those ab muscles.   Eating unhealthy foods is also another factor that can make it harder for us to lose the belly fat. Foods that are high in

fat, sugar and sodium (and that unfortunately tastes so good!) tend to settle right around the stomach area, giving you that “pooch” affect. This includes fast food, ice cream, pizza, hot wings, chips, cookies etc. Try replacing those with “clean foods” such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean beef, chicken, turkey and fish. It is also important to drink enough water to get rid of the toxins and harmful materials in your body and to be hydrated. You need to drink 8 to 10 glasses a day.   Try doing these exercises at least three times a week, alternating the days in order to see results. It may take several weeks to even start to see results. Belly fat seems to burn off a lot slower than the rest of the body, so don’t forget to have patience!

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what would you say if we told you that the key to more energy, a stronger immune system and a leaner figure could be found in a group of “superfoods”? if you’re like us, you’re reply is: when’s dinner readY?! by nikki roberti hile there packed with vitamins and are no quick antioxidants. Don’t be misled fixes packthough—processed tomato aged in a sauce doesn’t count. Think bottle that’ll pasta’s the only way you’ll be transform our weight-loss able to include a healthy dose woes, Mother Nature has pro- of tomatoes in your diet? Make vided us with super foods that your own sauce from scratch not only make us healthier, but by dicing up tomatoes and can also help us finally shed letting them breakdown over those pesky little pounds. medium heat in two tableTomatoes: 
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Let Me Be Your Motivation slimming down and working towards a healthy lifestyle is a one-step-ata-time proposition, according to our health editor Nikki roberti. follow her advice on how to get the body you’ve been dreaming of

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t seems like a day cannot go by without hearing someone gripe about their appearance and how much weight they need to lose. Whether its my girlfriends, family, or even the stranger standing behind me in the grocery check out, it’s obvious that there’s one thing on everyone’s minds: how to lose weight.
It’s not a bad goal by any means, and especially with the obesity epidemic hitting America the way it is, people should be a concerned about their weight, right? But it seems like complaining is a much easier pastime than breaking a sweat at the gym to many people.  For every person I hear say something about how they need to lose weight or finally get healthy, I never hear someone say that they’re going to do it. Sure, maybe there’s a vague mention about how they need to go running. But there’s no concrete plan.  Losing weight is a difficult process. Trust me, I know. After losing 20 lbs this year, I >>

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veggies like onions, mushrooms, peppers and spinach with some fresh herbs and you have a tasty meal in no time. Green Tea:
 Want to boost that dormant metabolism of yours? This is the stuff to do it. Drink straight up or mix with black tea, lemon or mint to mellow out the flavor. Hot or iced, this drink will kick start your day with tons of antioxidants. Apples:
 An apple a day may not necessarily keep the doctor away, but they have a magical power about them when it comes to weight loss. Most people eat fattening carbs when they’re hungry because carbs are good at filling you up. However, an apple is so high in fiber, it has the same satisfying effect. Eat an apple before lunch and you’ll find yourself feeling more satisfied and full at the end of your lunch break. Chickpeas: 
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some low fat hummus or make your own by blending garlic, olive oil, and (may favorite) roasted red pepper. Not only will you feel like you’re kicking back with a tasty snack, but you’ll be lowering your bad cholesterol while filling up on great protein, iron and insoluble fiber. Eggs:
 Forget the myth that to enjoy these protein-packed fellas you need to only eat egg-white omelets. Even with the yolk, one egg is just about 70 calories. Cook one up and put it on a whole wheat English muffin with a little bit of cheese and you’ll have a filling, fiberand protein-rich breakfast under 300 calories. Salmon: This is one of the greatest sources for your omega-3s. Honestly, canned tuna will never cut it. For every 100g of wild salmon, you’ll consume 20g of protein. Not only will that keep you full, but you’ll lose weight while building lean muscle mass. Be wary of farm-raised salmon; they tend to be omega-3 deficient.

know it can be a day-to-day struggle and sometimes watching The Bachelorette on my sofa seems more inviting than jumping up and down to a Jillian Michaels DVD. But it’s something I need to do if I want the results.  Yes, losing weight is hard, but it’s never impossible. What seems to be harder for some people is actually finding the motivation within themselves to take those first steps toward truly bettering their life, appearance and most importantly, their health.
You just need to go out there and do it! I know … easier said than done, but this is why finding your motivation is important. Maybe you have a long-term goal you want to work toward. For me, it’s my wedding next July. Maybe you have a big event you want to attend looking fabulous like your graduation or you want to make sure you can buy cute clothes for your new internship next spring.  Picking an occasion or a reason is a great source of motivation. It helps you assign a meaning to your goal besides just some number. Plus, whenever you think about the upcoming event or shopping spree, you always remember that you probably shouldn’t neglect your workout that day. I make it a habit to watch Say Yes to the Dress while biking 20-30 miles on my stationary bike. Nothing motivates me more than dreaming about a healthier me walking down the aisle

in my gorgeous wedding dress   But of course, long-term goals aren’t the only motivation you’ll need to keep yourself on the fast track to healthy, weight-loss bliss. Set short-term goals periodically and reward yourself when you do accomplish what you set out to do.  My first goal was to lose 15 lbs. The reward? I splurged and bought myself a vintage bathing suit that showed off my curves in all the right places so I could feel confident on the beach this summer despite not being at my end goal quite yet.  My new goal is to lose a dress size so I can fit into some of the sample wedding dresses off the rack in boutiques instead of having those stupid clips holding it onto me. Once I reach that short-term goal, I’m going to get myself the wedding gown of my dreams.  If you find yourself wanting to change something about your lifestyle to make you a happier and healthier you, then get up and go for it. Don’t just sit there complaining. Be the change you want to see, set goals, make a plan, and reward yourself for being completely awesome.  It’s not all about numbers, people. It’s about getting healthy, feeling beautiful and living longer lives. If that’s not motivation, then I don’t know what is. Although, having an excuse to go shopping is quite the perk, if you ask me.

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It’s 7 p.m., your favorite show just came on the tube and if you’re like a growing segment of Gen Y, you scurry to join the party with your friends across the globe. Thanks to Twitter, savvy viewers are engaging in dialogue about must-see (and must-miss) TV. Brittney Fennell explores this growing trend

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f you have ever wanted to know the general public’s feelings about a television show, an award show or a sports event just log onto social media site Twitter during primetime hours. Chances are your timeline will be full of replies, hashtags, trending topics and retweets pertaining to the top television event at the moment.   Live tweeting has become popular within the past two years and it hasn’t gone unnoticed by television executives. Award shows such as the Grammys, MTV Video Music Awards, BET Awards, Billboard Music Awards and more have created their own hashtags for viewers to use when they live tweet so that they can see fan reaction.   Many will argue that Twitter is the best thing to happen to TV in recent years and viewership is up with events like the Super Bowl; and this spring, Twitter reportedly saw its most interaction with television to date during the Royal Wedding.   Live tweeting allows fans who are watching the same show to interact with each other and share their opinions. Twitter is becoming an integral

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part of the television viewing experience and live tweeting is continuing to blur the lines between television and social media. The Live Tweeting Effect For a television executive and creator of a show, besides ratings, Twitter is one of the best ways to gauge how audiences are receiving your show. If it’s one of the top 10 trending topics, then it’s safe to say that most of the country is tweeting about it. Networks have tapped into this and to make sure that

their programs are being watched, they’ve created show hashtags for fans to use while they live tweet. This was evident during the 2010 MTV Video Music Awards, where MTV used the hashtag “#VMA,” and was able to see that Lady Gaga was the most talked about performer.   Late night talk show hosts Jimmy Fallon and George Lopez incorporate Twitter segments into their nightly routine by showing the funniest tweets they’ve received that day. Turn to news networks such as CNN >>


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jaye report culture and MSNBC and you’ll likely see a Twitter screen showing tweets from viewers at home sharing their thoughts on the news of the day.   In November 2010, Twitter’s Director of Media Partnerships, Robin Sloane, spoke at the NewTeeVee Live Conference in San Francisco about the role that tweets played Live in television. tweeting He pointed allows out that Twittelevision ter was the viewers new electronwhere they ic program guide in can “social viewinteract ing.” He used with other BET’s 106th viewers of & Park, as an the same example of show and a show that feel as used trendthough they ing topics to are gather feedback so that watching the viewers television feel as though with their they’re viewfollowers ing the show and friends. with others when they’re at home.   MTV has also seen the role that Twitter has played among its viewers, that they have their own Twitter Jockey (TJ), Gabi Gregg, who uses Twitter to spark discussion about shows and topics with MTV viewers.   Programs such as Survivor, Grey’s Anatomy, Glee, Jersey Shore, Real Housewives, American Idol and The Voice are just some of the shows that lead the pack when it comes to

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viewers live tweeting and creating a trending topic.   However, even though live tweeting has become popular in television viewing, there are no studies to support that tweets and trending topics equal ratings. Does Twitter Make or Break A TV Show? Twitter doesn’t have the power to “break” a television show necessarily, but if people aren’t into a program (or a character on said program), they don’t hesitate to tweet their true feelings. A trending topic is an indicator of popularity but the tweets surrounding it aren’t always positive. Twitter hasn’t “made” a television show, instead, a television show was made from a Twitter account.   The CBS show S!@# My Dad Says was inspired by a Twitter account of the same name started by Justin Halpern, who tweeted the sayings of his 73-year-old live-in father. The show debuted this past fall, backed by the creators of Will & Grace, and stars William Shatner.

Why Live Tweet? The foundation of Twitter as a social network is for people to express their thoughts in 140 characters or less and to engage in discussion. Live tweeting does just that for television viewers where they can interact with other viewers of the same show and feel as though they are watching television with their followers and friends.   Twitter users say they live tweet when they see something funny or weird on a show and to express what they like or dislike, giving viewers the chance to feel as though they are taking part in a show while they’re watching at home.   Media analysts argue that Twitter has integrated into television, but feel the social network still has a long way to go before it can be considered a true component of the television experience. The next step is for Twitter users to be able to control programming through their tweets. We’ll see how long it takes for that to happen, until now we’re just satisfied tweeting along with our followers about our favorite shows. 


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hether you love them or hate them, trends will always be around. These days one fad will be hot on minute, and in the next minute there will be another craze right behind it and another to replace that one. And even if you don’t want to admit it, you’ve followed an of-the-moment movement at some point. When we make choice to participate in the latest flavor of the month, we have to be careful that we don’t over indulge. Remember the adage: “Too much of a good thing, can be a bad thing.” Here are some “good” trends that we appreciate but realize that even these, have a downside. Embracing The Curves In recent times, we’ve been fortunate enough to see more images of plus-sized women in society. Gone are the times of if you wore over a size six, you would be seen as unfashionable. Ironically, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that the average woman, twenty years old and older weighs 164.7 pounds with a waist circumference of 37.0 inches. That’s a size 14 or 16. Gracing the covers and pages of magazines and blogs, and demanding attention from stores and designers, full-figured body types are now more respected. The Downside: There’s nothing better than loving yourself and your body, no matter your size; it’s important to the development of any young woman. But never should it come at the cost of bashing someone else. Embracing your curves is one thing, but hating someone else because they don’t have curves is absurd. “My cousin gained a lot of weight after her freshmen year of college and actually loved it. But then she began to say the craziest things about our friend, who is naturally skinny,” Denise Williams, a 23 year-old nurse from Illinois, says. “It wasn’t our friend’s fault that she was naturally skinny—she had been that way her entire life. But my cousin felt somehow that the more you weighed, the better you were.”

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Basking in Natural Hair Beauty With the help of social media, young African American women across the country are ditching chemical relaxers and embracing their natural hair. Blogs such as Afrobella.com, Black Girl Long Hair, Naturalchica.com, and more, there is a vastly growing community of women who support each other before, during, and after their natural hair journeys and processes. It has grown into a movement of self-acceptance and appreciating natural beauty. The Downside: Any group that you may encounter always has its opposite. Even though natural hair is on the rise and more women are embracing it this has also caused some tension between natural hair lovers and those who chose to use relaxers and wear hair weaves. “I didn’t realize how tense it could be until I overheard one of my natural-haired friends make a comment about girl who wore extensions,” Anna Williams, a student at Lincoln Land Community College. “I was under the

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jaye report hot topic impression that if you wore your hair natural, you were more accepting of all hair types, but I guess I was wrong.” Getting Fit One goal most of us have in common when going back to school is to gain a new look. We want to make a dramatic difference as we enter into a new chapter in our academic lives. This year, the most popular way to get fit and has been through gaming. A term coined “exergaming”, which is physical exercise conducted through video games, has changed the way we exercise. The Wii systems, PlayStation consoles, Dance Revolution, the Michael Jackson Experience, and even our iPods have all allowed us to get physically fit without leaving the comfort of our own homes. Not only is it fun, and a distraction from your normal workout routine, but you can do it with your friends too. Zumba, a mix of cardio, salsa, and dancing and pole dancing— using a stripper pole for more than just adult activities—have also made working out much easier. These trends have allowed more young people to stay in shape, which leads to a healthier body image and boosts self-esteem and confidence. The Downside: Even though you have certain physical goals in mind, exercise should ultimately make you feel good. When it becomes an obsession, then there is a problem. Is it necessary to exercise three times a day? Or instead of going on a well-balanced diet, you decide to skip your meals and work until you’re not hungry anymore? “It had gotten to a point where all I wanted to do was exercise,” a student from Mississippi State, who asked to remain anonymous, reveals. “I started off working out about three times a week and eating right and the weight fell off. After I lost ten pounds, I received so many compliments

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from my family and friends and guys that I normally didn’t get attention from. I worked out until I literally made myself sick.”   Unbeknownst to many, compulsive exercising is actually a form of an eating disorder. Compulsive exercising can lead to serious health issues, including stressing or wearing out your muscles and joints, fatigue, and even more spawn more eating disorders due to unhealthy body issues. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Dietary Guidelines of 2010 stresses the importance of establishing good eating habits, as various eating patterns may provide short-and long-term health benefits, including a reduced risk of chronic disease. Eating right along with working out on a consistent basis (not overdoing it) will help you to reach a healthy weight for your body type. Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with following a trend. The key is to keep a balance between being a follower of a trend and who and what you are. Strive to set the standard, instead of letting the standard define them. 


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ollege tuition seems to skyrocket every year, leaving college students staring at a string of zeroes, and being forced to spend their college careers worrying about their financial future. According to Time magazine, the Class of 2011 is the most indebted group of graduates yet, which is not exactly an exciting graduation present. Even if your parents pay for most of the tuition and take care of the student loans now, you are going to be the one paying off these loans until you have your kids and they have their own kids — definitely a scary thought.   First, what is the cause behind this disheartening statistic? Besides tuition hikes, which have increased at a steady rate of 5 percent each year, according to Time, today many parents are unable to foot the bill like they have done in the past. This leaves students partially or completely fending for themselves when it comes to repaying student loans.   However, there is some good news. Even though the Class of 2011 may find a hard time with paying off their loans, current college students can get a head start by following certain guidelines.   The most important rule to follow when considering taking out student loans, is to do your homework. Do not rely entirely on your parents

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money to take on the fiscal responsibilities, and do not assume that your college will award you with financial aid and/or scholarships. It is especially important to be wary of borrowing money from private companies. Be dollar-smart, and you will be light-years ahead of your indebted peers.   There are multiple ways to prepare ahead of time. According to the City College of New York’s Associate Director of Financial Aid, Shellye Belton, their students are required to do online, preloan counseling. “We advise them to not over-borrow. They can always return funds they find they do not need or reduce their loan request,” Belton explains.   As most students know, there are multiple ways to get money from outside sources, including school scholarships, private scholarships, private loans and government loans. Suggests Belton, students should “try to find all of the ‘free’ money first.” She mentioned that federal and state grants are some of the best “free money” options out there, along with searching for scholarships at fastweb. com and brokescholar.com. Belton stated that students should always apply for financial aid and federal loans first as “federal loans have better interest rates and better repayment terms and options.”   Even though paying for college may seem confusing, daunting, or both, most stu-

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jaye report money since 1978 the cost of tuition in America has gone up 900 percent and with the economy shackling families from footing the bill, students are taking out larger loans to compensate. how can we survive? Joanna fantozzi has a few answers

dents survive the process with hardly any scarring. Jessica Friedowitz, a current senior at Boston University, has had her first taste of the financial stress that paying for college can cause. “During my sophomore year of college, although my family’s income decreased, my aid from the school also decreased, so my dad had to take out a Parent Plus loan with Sallie Mae to cover the difference.” However, Friedowitz has a plan for her financial future. “Depending on what our finances look like when the time comes, my family and I should be able to repay all of the loans over the course of several years, though I'm not looking forward to the interest we'll certainly have to contend with.”   Life after college may not be as bleak as Time claims. Of course, being able to pay off student loans depends on your personal amount of debt and financial stability post-graduation. According to Kristin Sarli, a 2008 Master’s graduate of American University, her student loans are still a bit of a sore spot. “If I ever won the lottery, the first thing I would do is I would go directly to Wilkes-Barre Pennsylvania and personally hand Sallie Mae a check.”   In all seriousness however, Sarli stated that problem lies within not thinking ahead. “At the time you’re getting the loans, you’re not thinking about paying them back. I have more than one loan…

Sallie Mae is not very flexible. At first, the loan companies are all willing to give you money, but six months after graduation, they want their money back.”   When asked if she would have done anything different financially in college, Sarli admitted, “I might have considered going to a less expensive school with a more manageable tuition. I could have also researched different loan options.”   The bottom line is, don’t panic, and don’t give up the search for alternative financial solutions. Be on top of the specifics of fiscal planning, including the language and how-tos of student loans. After all, starting after graduation, you are going to face the real world, and the reality of paying off student loans. Perhaps you will be part of the trend to turn around these staggering debt statistics. Sinking to Rise No More Staggering Student Loan Stats  Approximately 14% of all students that graduate with student loan debt end up defaulting within 3 years of making their first student loan payment.  Based off of figures collected in July of 2010, Americans owe $826.5 billion in revolving credit, which is mostly credit card debt, while the amount owed in student loan debt surpassed that with a total of $829.8 billion.  New federal student loan debt is expected to exceed $100 billion for the first time in 2011.  Should students default on their student loans, up to 15% of their paycheck can be collected by State or Federal government as repayment for defaults. Source: CollegeDegrees.com.


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I Did It My Way! To be successful, you can allow others to create your path, or you can create your own. Chani Christie opted for the latter option and became a bestselling author, award-winning recording artist, producer, model, actress and ambassador By Melissa Kimble

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mbitious. Brave. Determined. Generous. Punctual. Witty. Wise. All adjectives to describe a successful young woman, right? A true Gemini wouldn’t even allow you to limit her character to just those words. Her restless nature keeps her striving for more, her abilities as a communicator would explain more than you could ever understand, and her easy acceptance of opposites would allow her to appreciate your opinion about her, even if she disagrees. Chani Christie takes everything in stride and turns it into inspiration. ¶ The true beauty of our cover girl lies in her ability to charm you in one second, and be taking the competitor’s spot in the next second. There is nothing about her that is offsetting or rude; she is quite humble and down-to-earth. Chani simply works hard to do what she loves. Creating her own path has had its ups and downs, but it has also helped Chani craft her own steps to success. >>

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advantage. She stood on her own two feet and worked for everything she's received’."

Appreciate Your Current Achievements to Gain More

Modeling since the age of three, Chani has over 100 fashion print and runway appearances to her name. An acclaimed award-winning artist, she was the recipient of the 2009 Martin Luther King, Jr. Excellence in Hip Hop award and the Winner of the LA Music Awards’ 2009 Pop Artist of the Year. Her 2008 debut album entitled My Dream, (Jean Rah Fya records) has sold out twice since its release. She is also the author of the bestselling debut book I Want to Live: A Teenagers Guide to Finding Self Love and the United States Youth Ambassador for HIV/AIDS Awareness along with being a YMCA Youth Spokesperson.   Her list of accomplishments reads longer than most people half her age but bragging or boasting is not a part of Chani’s character. Humility is. She’s more focused on using her talents to help and inspire others. That perspective has helped her gain more than just the latest handbag or iPod. “I feel as though teens will listen to teens more so than a parent or guardian speaking to them. So through my books, music, and TV shows I can reach them and hopefully make a positive difference in their lives.”

Define Your Own Idea of Success

One mistake that we often make is that we allow other’s inputs to override our intuition. But in defining what we want to do—and ultimately who we want to become—we must set our own expectations and form our own opinions about what we want. When most would relate success to material gain, Chani, true to Gemini form, goes in the opposite direction.   “I don't think success comes in monetary gain or the size home you buy after getting your ‘first big check’. It doesn't come in the form of those new Louboutins,” the multi-talented singer reveals. “I think success, for me, is all about respect. Success comes in a form of respect.” Chani grew up with a well-known father and mother, and always had to fight to build her own name, make her own connections, and kick down her own doors. “Success for me will be the day the world looks at me and says, ‘She has talent and I respect her because she didn't use her family’s name to her

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Stay True to Your Inspirations

Any creative type understands the value of constantly being inspired. It adds nuances to the work and fuels new ideas and plans. Chani has a mix of inspirations and influences that pay homage to not only the diva inside of her, but the humanitarian as well. Chani notes fellow actress, singer, producer, dancer, and multi-entertainment star Jennifer Lopez as one of her biggest influences.   As an ambassador for the fight against AIDS, Chani visits local schools and talks with kids about the dangers of the epidemic and the importance of protecting their minds and bodies. When offered any praise for her heart of community and service, Chani admits that her inspiration comes from the unsung heroes who often don’t receive their just due. “The ones that get up at 4 a.m., go feed people at shelters, then go to school, volunteer their time to the community,” she describes. “The people that make a difference every day and never look for monetary gain, or for the public to recognize their good deeds. Those are the people that inspire me.”

Ignore the Negative

Even with a full-fledged career and proven track record, the 18year-old powerhouse still runs into people who doubt her abilities because of her age. How does Chani deal with all of the negativity? With one simple solution: “I just ignore it. As I get older, the less I look for the acceptance of others—I just do what I love and I use every talent God has given me.” Chani has no plans of slowing down or stopping anytime soon. This past Valentine’s Day, she released her sophomore album, Lyrics and Lipstick, on Jean Rah Fya Records which featured collaborations with Lil Mama, IRocc Williams and is produced by label mate, Bobby Tinsley. This year she will also release her second book, A Girl Has to Look Good! A Beauty, Fashion, and Lifestyle Guide, and co-starred in the screenplay, Proud to be a Colored Girl, an adaptation of the bestselling book by the same name.


With the founding of her organization, The Chanigirl Foundation, in 2008, Chani continues to act on her mission to bring HIV/ AIDS Awareness and Education to young people while inspiring and empowering, the youth to achieve their goals. You may not dismiss her because of her age, but you won’t dismiss her work ethic.   “People can only ignore your hustle and your talent and your ambition for so long before they finally give in and say, ‘You know what, this kid is persistent and I can respect that.’ I can't wait for the day that people realize age is just a number,” she admits. “Talent has no face, age, or background. I always give respect when respect is due. Age shouldn't be the determining factor. I just say ‘Doubt me, then watch me.’”

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master plan for me—the hard part is going through the growing pains and not knowing what's next. But I'm excited to see what's in the future.”

Expand to New Territories

If there’s one thing Chani knows, it’s to keep expanding herself and develop her strengths and talents. It may seem as if she’s already dominated every aspect of the entertainment industry, but the thinker in this Gemini always has something up her sleeve. One thing she wants to embark upon next involves her knack for public speaking.   “I'd love to present at an awards ceremony. It seems like something so small and insignificant but something as simple as presenting an award is high on my list of things I want to do. I think somewhere in the next two years I'll do something in the hosting field.” Aside from promoting her latest album, Lyrics and Lipstick, Chani is working on a plethora of private projects and getting them ready for the ultimate reveal.

“Talent has no face, age, or background. I always give respect when respect is due. Age shouldn't be the determining factor. I just say ‘Doubt me, then watch me.’”

“Five years ago I didn't imagine I'd be where I'm at—not to say I considered myself being farther behind or further ahead—I just didn't know what to expect. When you enter the business at a young age, you have all of these expectations and these standards and this false sense of reality—thinking things are gonna be one way and they turn out completely different.”   While entering the entertainment industry can shake the faith of even the most secure person, Chani has taken every experience as a learning opportunity and a chance to grow an appreciation for her solid foundation. “I just use all of that knowledge to better myself and I think if things would have went the way I planned way back then, I wouldn't be as happy as I am now,” Chani reflects. “Back then, I swore it'd be smooth sailing, and when I got out in the sea, the water wasn't shallow —it was full of fish and crabs and some sharks, too. Luckily I was in a boat with a spare dingy.” Her time in the industry has made her smarter and stronger, but Chani is not deterred by its pitfalls. “I know God has this

Go Against the Grain

Chani has given plenty to her dreams, aspirations, and goals in life. Chani stays motivated even by the people who don’t wish her well.   “‘Hollywood’ can be like that sometimes; A bunch of crabs in the bucket—not to say there aren't successful people that support other successful people here—they’re just hard to come by.”   When you’re as unique and vibrant as Chani, you began to appreciate the battle in overcoming obstacles and how that struggle can help you become a better person. Going where there is the most resistance, makes you a fighter and ultimately, a champion. “I think it's easy to get to the top once you've gotten through the crowd at the bottom. I love to stand tall in the midst of adversity. I always have. I'm a woman that likes to go against the grain.” 


Love ‘em or hate ‘em, the Kardashian clan, led by sisters Kourtney, Kim and Khloe represent a contemporary image of success by turning controversies into to cash and exposure into affluence.

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The Modern Meaning of Success Young Women Making a Difference p. 78 Music and Mettle p. 79 Passion and Patriotism p. 81 Success can mean making the big bucks, scoring the perfect job or working for the President of the United States. However, prosperity can also be taken one step further. The amazing women on the following pages prove success means empowering others to create change, breaking into the tough music industry, and maintaining love in the military relationship. Their message? Celebrate small victories, challenge your endurance and surround yourself with positive influences, and you’ll realize: The sky’s the limit and your destiny’s within reach >>

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A few words on Success: “Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time.” –George Sheehan

young women making a difference: Empowering Others to Create Change Harvard student Rebecca Kantar and friends lead organization to combat the child-sex trade industry

Rebecca Kanter works tirelessly to make a difference in the lives of others across the country.

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n 2006, a group of precocious 14-year-olds heard about the child sex trade industry. Heavily impacted, they held a yard sale to help raise money for the cause, and with the success of their small fundraisers they created Minga. Fast forward five years later, and Minga is now the only organization in the United States that focuses solely on preventing the commercial sexual exploitation of children. The success of the organization has since outgrown the borders of this country and now partners with programs in Thailand, the Philippines, Guatemala and Canada.   Rebecca Kantar, a freshman at Harvard University in Massachusetts, is one of the cocreators and current CEO of Minga, an organization focused on the abolishment of the child sex trade industry. Kantar originally from Newton, MA, is hoping to develop her own concentration of Leadership of Large Organizations while at school. Kantar and her team have become highly educated on the child sex-trade industry, have learned effective marketing tools and have overcome some of the obstacles of running a non-profit at such a young age.   Minga was created when a friend of Kantar’s came back from a leadership camp and told her and a few others about the child sex trade market. From there, the group of about eight started putting together fundraisers and community events. When Kantar tells her story she says, “If at age 14 my friends and I could raise $6,500 with a yard sale and then keep holding similar community events until we had raised enough money to fund the building of a rehabilitation center for child victims in the Philippines, you can take action with Minga.”  As stated by the organization’s website, every year an estimated 325,000 children are involved in child prostitution, child sex trafficking, child pornography, and child sex tourism in the United States alone. Additionally, 25 percent of sex tourists outside the United States are American. Minga emphasizes the faults in the United State’s legal framework with laws mainly focused on trafficking in general aspects, making them less effective in combating the child sex trade. There are also large gaps concerning the public awareness and focus on the child sex trade industry, and that is where Minga steps in. The group travels to different schools, youth groups and community functions giving speeches to educate people on the travesty. To date, Minga has engaged over 10,000 young people in their programming.  Along the way Minga has faced challenges including funding and credibility; Kantar says she feels the questionable credibility is due to their age, “For Minga, finding funding has

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always been a struggle, mainly because we are so young—I think people often do not take us seriously and are less willing to contribute to our work.”  The group works to establish themselves as a prominent foundation through hard work and determination. They have taken steps to distinguish and be up-to-par with fellow acclaimed nonprofits; such as, Minga considers themselves a “green organization” meaning they buy only recycled materials, such as supplies for events and sending e-vites instead of paper. In the future

they look to expand the organization moving into permanent office space in the Boston area. Yet even upon just entering college, Kantar and her colleagues are still learning to balance their hectic lives and school schedules, “Balancing Minga with all the other activities we have going on in our lives has always been tough. It's hard to be a student, a teenager, and a leader of an organization.”  Still, the members of the organization cohere and come together to achieve a common goal. “Minga's team is a group of inspiring, smart,


Keep in Mind: According to a 2002 survey conducted by Clive Hamilton of the Australia Institute, having enough for a basic standard of living is important, but once we have enough to live on, the biggest happiness gains are reaped from the quality of our human relationships. creative, and above all driven young people, so I think we all just enjoy working with and learning from each other,” says Kantar.   Kantar looks to her personal success as her potential to be a leader of global change. As she is leading a top-notch organization, she has the opportunity to empower and encourage others to promote and instill change. She believes it is important to empower her generation to “become leaders in change now, not in twenty years.” She accomplishes her success by giving others an example to live by: “I certainly try to set an example and to really live the values I promote at Minga and beyond. I am persistent and ambitious. I think my friends and colleagues often support my efforts because I work so tirelessly to make my vision a reality.”   Minga is currently in the midst of launching a new project for students to get involved in. Kantar says, this new project will feature celebrities in public service announcements who ask teens to join Minga in encouraging airlines to show educational film-clip messages during flights that will inform passengers about the sex trade industry. Students are being asked to send letters of support for the project to potential airline partners and to submit the film clips to be shown in the airplanes.   Many of the other events Minga sponsors for teens and students are great bonding activities for campuses. Such events include inviting a Minga speaker to their school for

a engaging, educating presentation, or hosting an event such as, "Don't Pimp My Ride Car-wash,” or a movie screening of an awarenessraising film. Students can also help by writing a letter to the local newspaper, publicizing Minga’s cause using online social media, or by doing what the founders did five years ago: hold a yard sale.  At Minga, success is measured with progress markers such as, how many students it involves, how many people its awareness messaging reaches, how teens and adults respond to messaging and how receptive legislators are to Minga’s eventual attempts to change laws around the commercial sexual exploitation.   In the future, as Minga is able to grow, educate, and reform, Kantar says that one day the program will no longer be needed, “If Minga effectively combats the child sex trade by preventing young people from becoming victims and by discouraging potential exploiters from buying child sex, the child sex trade will gradually decline.”  As for now, Kantar will continue to work towards her Leadership of Large Organizations concentration, with the success of Minga being just one of her many accomplishments. Her passion, dedication, and hard work with her fellow peers have changed people all over the world. By Kanter and her team setting an example of the sacrifices and persistence needed to make in empowering others to create change, Minga has grown to

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what success means to me Being happy! I think that I will feel truly successful only if I am happy. I could be rich or own my own business but if I'm not happy with my life or what I'm doing, I don't think I'll ever feel successful or as though I really achieved anything great. We only get to do life once, so being happy with what we do in this short amount of time is the most important thing. – Caitlin Bueller, 22, from Massachusetts receive nationwide recognition.   From a small presentation at leadership camp to a large-scale organization, the creators of Minga have balanced their personal schedules to create a program that educates, provides and encourages others to become involved in their community while combating the phenomenon of the child sex trade industry.  To become involved in Minga, head over to their website at www.mingagroup.org. You can send donations to Minga P.O. Box 610004 Newton, MA 02461 and email Rebecca@mingagroup.org to learn about more ways to help.

music and mettle: The Yellow Brick Road to Success Kimberly Nichole’s hard work makes dreams a reality

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imberly Nichole’s performance at the BET Awards in June was the culmination of years of persistent effort and hard work. It is not only her music that is helping the Seattle, Washington native, but enthusiastic, energy-filled performances aided by the flamboyancy of her stage costumes always decorated with a classical ballerina’s tutu. Kimberly’s success of breaking her way into the music industry, is the result of her determination as well as her distinctive sound and style that was shaped by her upbringing, surroundings, and personal experiences.   We caught up with Kimberly a few days before her performance at the BET Awards. As she spoke to us, while waiting in line at the post office, she admitted to her nerves, “I’ve never performed for so many celebrities before.”   The self-described “rock ballerina” grew up around music. Her mother was a singer in the church choir and Kimberly, along with her older sister, was exposed to and grew up singing at the >>


The modern meaning of success church. Through her extended family she was exposed to R&B as well as gospel. Her home city and state of Seattle, Washington, the birthplace of grunge, exposed Kimberly to the genre, and all its variations.   As a young girl, Kimberly enjoyed playing the clarinet, writing songs, and singing. She confessed it was something that was always very natural to her. Kimberly’s ongoing success into the music business was slow but steady. It is made even more remarkable when she revealed that she was a two-lifer—someone who during the day lives an average

A few words on Success: “Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” –Arnold H. Glasgow going to support herself. Kimberly says he did not want her calling and asking for money. Hence began her life pulling double duty, in a new city, as she began the battle to break into the music industry.   Living life in the Big Apple is not easy, even for those born and raised in New York City. Though Kimberly lived in a major city for most of her life, surving in a fast-paced manic city like New York took the better half of a year for Kimberly to adjust. A lot of what she faced is documented in her first album, The Yellow Brick Journey—an explora-

“I want to be that artist that’s familiar, but yet new and fresh … whether it is a moment in your life … but I want to be progressive as well.” life working a 9-to-5 job and in the evening does something completely out of the norm. In Kimberly’s case her out of the norm was performing. When Kimberly went to her parents and told them she wanted to make music a big part of her life, her mother was supportive from the start. However, it was her father, though a believer in his daughter’s talent, who wanted to know how she was

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tion of Kimberly’s life, emotions, and experiences from the past four to five years. Her life in Seattle may have made her want to perform music but her time spent living in New York, shaped her into the woman and artist she is today. Kimberly’s performance costumes almost always feature a tutu. Drawn to and inspired by the discipline and visual drama and striking presence

of classical ballerinas, Kimberly wanted to draw both the elegance and playfulness of the tutu into her act.   This aspiring musician hopes to be the “Tina Turner” of this generation, and though her first album covers many different genres of music ranging from pop to hip-hop, Kimberly plans for her next album to take on a more rock n’ roll feel. Many popular African-American acts perform neo-soul, or perhaps many feel pressured to; Kimberly tends to artists like Jimmy Hendrix, Nirvana, and The Doors more Kimberly Nichole’s determination— she worked a 9-to-5 by day, produced her music by night— has paved the way for her success.

than current R&B and pop artists. Her aim is not just to entertain her listeners but to share part of herself. “I want to be that artist that’s familiar, but yet new and fresh … whether it is a moment in your life … but I want to be progressive as well.”   For many musicians, the process of putting together and releasing an album is a triumph. The frantic frenzy, blood, sweat, tears, time, and emotions that goes into writing the music, finding and creating a workable vibe with a producer, going back and editing the developing arrangements


Keep in Mind: In the same Australian survey, studies show that people who value money highly tend to be less happy than those who place highest priority on love and relationships. and lyrics, and the search for distributors and labels to favor your music above the rest of the competition, is definitely a measure of success. John Kegler is Kimberly’s musical collaborator. Kimberly just sang his praises, and credits him for helping her expand the album from the planned four-track EP to the 11-track journey it became.   Does Kimberly consider her music and breakthrough an achievement? She certainly does but she doesn’t plan on stopping there. To Kimberly, people who persevere and continue to do their passion are successful. These days she no longer has to live her life as a two-lifer but she confesses, “There are mornings where I don’t want to get out of bed but I do it because I know I am not done yet. There is still so much I want to do and share with other people. I don’t care if it is a hundred people or ten thousand people.” It is that attitude and determination that has helped Kimberly achieve some of her goals. It is also what will help make her such a great musician and person as she continues sharing, performing, and finding new ways to get her music to relate to as many people as possible. She may have started performing in small venues, but nothing stopped her from working her way up—and that, is success.

passion and patriotism: Fighting to Love Maintaining the Military Relationship By Michelle Golden

Ashley Demaio shares a loving moment with her boyfriend Beau Richards.

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very relationship has its own ups and downs, but for the most dedicated two, the military relationship is the toughest to maintain. It’s hard enough that long distance relationships in general are tough to handle, but when you’re living day-today wondering where your significant other will be stationed

The modern meaning of success what success means to me: “Success, for me, means finally reaching a happy medium in my life, whether it be with work, family, friends. I guess the most important term I associate with success is happiness. It should go hand-in-hand.” –Meg Roth, 22, from Pennsylvania or where he’ll be deployed, keeping the military relationship in tact takes patience, emotion, and a ton of effort.  Ashley Demaio, 22, from Connecticut, met her boyfriend, Beau Richards, through mutual friends during winter break of her freshman year of college in 2008. They stayed in touch during the course of the next six months after their first encounter—but solely as friends.   After eventually losing contact, Demaio noticed on Facebook that Richards was joining the Marines and was going to be leaving for boot camp within the next week and a half. The two hung out after she decided to give him a call. “The beginning of our relationship was such a whirlwind. I knew he was leaving for three months with no communication except for letters,” Demaio says. Although she was aware that during the beginning of their relationship they would be getting to know each other on a deeper, emotional level via written letters, Demaio knew she had to stick around for this guy. “I had no doubt in my mind that I wanted to be with him and be there for support >>


The modern meaning of success Kaylen Bowers and her boyfriend Brian Dunbar realizes sacrifices have to be made for a successful military relationship.

A few words on Success: “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” –Herman Cain throughout this experience.”  After Richards completed Military Occupational School (MOS), the two were under the impression that he would be stationed in Japan. At the time, although they had been only dating for about eight months, they considered marriage. “We just didn't know how we would make it work if he lived in another country and how often we could see each other,” Demaio explains. Following MOS, Richards got stationed in North Carolina. “In the end, we were able to see each other once a month, which was doable,” Demaio continues. “Before, we would have gotten married so we wouldn't be apart for months on end. In all honesty, we both were not ready for marriage at that point.”   Richards will soon be deploying for the next eight months to Afghanistan. After his deployment, the couple will have been together for two years and will soon consider more serious decisions about their future together. “A long distance military relationship is not easy and there comes a time when decisions need to be made,” Demaio adds.   While her boyfriend is deployed in Afghanistan, Demaio will have her worries and fears, but it is important to keep positive—something they both will have to do.  A military relationship is truly based on trust, reliant on technology like Skype and email, and spent separated from one another for months.   “Beau is my other half and my best friend. I live my life without him physically by my side. I don't get to see his smile everyday. I don't get a hug or a kiss for a month at a time and our time apart makes me cherish every single second we're with each other,” Demaio says.   During the first year of their relationship, Demaio and What Success Means to Me: “People define success in different ways. There’s personal success and monetary success. Some people feel successful when they make money but some people pursue their dreams and inherit their success like that. It’s really hard to define it but I think that ultimately setting a challenging goal and following it to completion means success.” –Sarah Passick, 22, from New York

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Key to success? Many people are reaping greater happiness by shifting from high-paid high-pressure jobs to lower key, home-based jobs, giving them more time for friends and family. Richards saw each other for a total of about 30 days out of the entire year. Imagine seeing your loved one for one month out of the year. Birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries are spent alone or on a web cam and phone conversations are rare and often cut short.  The military relationship takes dedication, perseverance, and a significantly strong bond. The non-existent physical aspect of the relationship is hard—and only the few and faithful can do it. “This isn't the type of relationship I saw for myself but now that I'm in it I can't imagine anything else,” Demaio confesses.

ing for boot camp, Dunbar didn’t want to promise Bowers anything serious. Boot camp allowed for no communication, and it wouldn’t be fair to Bowers. However, from the day Brian left for boot camp, his mentality about their relationship started to change. “Through his letters, I began to sense his appreciation for me.”   Over the past few months, because Dunbar has been in SOI training and has access to his phone, the communication is much easier for Bowers. “Sometimes when I do talk to him it is [still] hard for me because there are times where I wish I could just see

“This isn't the type of relationship I saw for myself but now that I'm in it I can't imagine anything else.” – Ashley Demaio   Communication in any relationship can be frustrating. But when you only have the phone to talk, arguments and disagreements are much more heated than they would be in person. “We both used to say things that we didn’t mean. We communicate much better when we are able to look into each other’s eyes and express our opinions,” Demaio says.   Kaylen Bowers, 24, from Pennsylvania, finds herself deep in love with Brian Dunbar, a Marine early in his military career. Prior to leav-

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him rather than talk to him on the phone,” Bowers says.   “[There are times when] I feel like I can't handle the emotions of missing him so much but it never crossed my mind to throw away everything that I have with him. It's too good to give up. When you love someone more than your life, you would do whatever it takes to stay with that person.” Bowers says she knows she will never find a love like the one she has, again. “Just because he is doing something that he has always wanted to do, I'm

Rebecca’s shirt says it all.

What Success Means to Me: “Success is doing what you love regardless of how much you get paid to do it.” –Brooke Parsons, 22, from Texas not going to be selfish. I am going to be that supportive girlfriend for him and realize that I am back home waiting for him and eventually it will be him and I. But until then, I am going to be patient.”  As college students we often calculate success by achieving cum laude or a 3.5 grade point average. Some of us think that success is about getting the perfect internship or being class president. While those certainly count for success, sometimes “success” can take on a whole new meaning. What really defines a successful relationship? Is it getting married? Or creating a family? Perhaps. But to some it’s more about sustaining a relationship that no matter how many

miles, oceans, or seas separate the two, the couple can still grow. In the end, it’s not about the miles that keep you apart; it’s about the love that keeps you together.   Demaio doesn’t think that her relationship is better or stronger than the civilian’s because every relationship has it’s own story, struggles, memories, and moments. However, unlike the civilian relationship, Demaio and her boyfriend, like Dunbar and Bowers, are always hundreds or thousands of miles apart. Both couples have to take what is thrown their way and make it work because they are in love. “What I can say,” says Demaio, “is I know firsthand that distance truly does make the heart grow fonder.” 


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The new season’s swept in a barrage of beautiful clothes inspired by some of the most stylish eras. So whether you adore the classic shapes of the militant ‘40s, the hiked-up hemlines of The Swinging ‘60s, or the ‘70s femininity of the Me Decade, one thing’s for sure: True style survives the test of time Photographs courtesy of style.com Fashion editor: Arriel Ginter 84  august 2011  JAYE


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Keep it simple! Timeless shapes and neutral colors are the way to go.

the ‘40s Inspiration: Mui Mui Top $252, Mui Mui; net-a-porter.com.

pants $32, Debenhams; debenhams.com.

sunglasses $93, Suri; reissonline.com.

flats $55, Milly; topshop.com.

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skirt $140, T by Alexander Wang; net-a-porter.com.

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the ‘60s Inspiration: Mulberry dress $381, Milly; my-wardrobe.com. coat $370, Karen Millen; karenmillen.com. shoes $250, Pour La Victoire; zappos.com.

shoes $80, Jessica Simpson; heels.com.

bag $2,235, Valentino; farfetch.com.

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earrings $80, Gilded Lily Goods; pinkmascara.com.

jeans $240, MiH; net-a-porter.com.

shoes $199, Jeffrey Campbell; urbanoutfitters.com.

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You heard it here first: The color of the season? Jade green.


Modernly styled, black pieces are chic and far from boring.

Like a breath of fresh air, ivory updates enduring staples.


Plunging necklines? Yes please! A scarf tones down the sexiness.

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A thigh-high slit is sultry and seductive without being too revealing.


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the ‘70s Inspiration: Gucci blazer $575, Rag & Bone; net-a-porter.com.

earrings $425, Alex Monroe; cultstatus.com.au.

pants $499, Altuzarra; barneys.com.

bag $478, Marc by Marc Jacobs; couture.zappos.com.

shoes $445, Casadei; thecorner.com.

top $118, French Connection; usa.frenchconnection.com. shoes $148, Frye; nordstrom.com.

jumpsuit $78, Rare; topshop.com. bag $45, Warehouse; warehouse.co.uk.


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travel pack >> College presents itself with many opportunities—you can live on your own, be taught an array of topics and learn life lessons. Instead of undertaking those possibilities on American soil, you can go abroad and get a completely different perspective. Whether you’re traveling for four months to study language and culture or just spending a week on a missions trip, leaving America opens up a new world of possibilities. Five girls tell JAYE about their experiences abroad By Sara Brown Krista Dulkowski Hometown: Wellington, Fla. Where did you go? Jaibon, Dominican Republic Why did you choose to go there? I heard of an opportunity to teach public health and preventative medicine, as well as utilize and improve my Spanish. Those two things are really important to me so it was a no-brainer. Where was your favorite place you visited? Besides the town where we taught (Jaibon), we visited Monte Cristi, which is a beautiful coastal town about an hour away from Jaibon. Our group hiked up a

mountain right on the ocean. Let’s just say the view was an unreal experience that I can't describe in words. What is the most important thing you learned? Contentment has nothing to do with “things.” The children and families I met had very little, but their faith in God and gratitude for their few possessions was so strong that they were able to exude pure joy, no matter their circumstances. I thought I was going to feel sorry for the people with whom I came into contact, but I ended up feeling sadness for the United States because we're so discontent and greedy that we forget how blessed >>

Krista hanging out with kids during her time in the Dominican Republic.


we are. Public health education is a must for these developing countries. You would never think that a person needs to be taught how to wash their hands, but while visiting the school we realized there was no soap or towels. Just huge trash cans filled with water that the kids dipped their hands in after using the restroom. Because cholera is such a huge issue in this particular region, preventative measures can make all the difference. What is one thing about you missed about home? Initially, hot water and air conditioning. However after being there for a week, I almost forgot what hot water and air conditioning felt like, so it didn't really feel like a necessity. How has this experience changed you? I had been on a similar trip in high school, however I'm much more mature now and have a better grasp on reality. Being a Pre-Med student, it's easy to be selfish and worry about getting into Medical school, future plans, salary, etc. But after the first day of being there, my goals and ambitions were put into perspective. It really reminded me of why I wanted to be a physician in the first place: people simply don't have the knowledge or resources it takes to live healthy, pain-free lives. It’s the job of the physician to share these skills and talents to better others’ health and in doing that, they fulfill their mission as a person and a doctor. Most memorable experience? I can't think of one specific moment, but our times at recess were always memorable. These kids are so full of life and energy that it's contagious. Also, being an American there was kind of like being a celebrity. The kids were so welcoming and even bought us snacks at recess—knowing that they didn't really have money to do that made it all the more special. Worst thing about your experience? Staying up for 36 hours to get home. But

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Rachel enjoying the gorgeous scenery in Spain.

“I will never be the same again. The cultural enrichment I received was indescribable.” our group became very close so we were able to help each other out. One item from home you wish you would have brought? Just more toys or gifts for the kids. Advice to someone who is thinking about going abroad: Be prepared for very different environments. And be flexible because if you allow yourself to soak up the culture and surroundings, you'll gain a greater appreciation for the little details that often go unnoticed. Do you plan on going back? Absolutely! Next spring break for sure. Rachel Bennett Hometown: Navarre, Fla. Where did you go? Granada, Spain (also visited Barcelona, Madrid, Seville and Nerja and Paris, France) Why did you choose to go there? I studied abroad there. My favorite Spanish professor was there and I thought it would

be a great introductory trip to Europe. Where was your favorite place you visited? Barcelona, Spain. I love Antoni Gaudi's architecture! What is the most important thing you learned? That the way of life in the U.S. isn't the only way. And that studying art in its language of origin is so much more meaningful than the translated version. What is one thing you missed about home? Central air conditioning! How has this experience changed you? I will never be the same again. The cultural enrichment I received was indescribable. I learned to be more open-minded and I met some of my best friends, with whom I could never communicate without Spanish (friends from Turkey, Hong Kong and the Ukraine!) Most memorable experience? Being in the center of Madrid when Spain won the World Cup. There were people climbing the stoplights, hugging strangers, screaming, "Que viva España!" and crying. It was incredible. Worst thing about your experience? Lack of A/C, complaining classmates in the study-abroad group and too many Americans speaking English. One item from home you wish you would have brought? I'm neurotic, so I


Under the Florence Sun Kim Jaso was looking for her own version of the film “Under the Tuscan Sun,” but her experiences in Florence were completely different than she ever imagined

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he moment I stepped off the plane into Florence, I thought to myself—“This is it?” This smattering of concrete buildings splashed with graffiti and clumps of yellowing grass is the Renaissance city I was anticipating? I wondered, Where are the rolling Tuscan hills with those funny trees that stick straight up? Where’s the Duomo? And the David? Hello?   When I discovered last fall that I’d been accepted into the NYU study abroad program in Florence, I was beyond ecstatic. I couldn’t wait for the food, the culture, the art, the golden sunshine and my own Under the Tuscan Sun Italian romance. This wasn’t what I had in mind.   Thankfully, a short cab ride later I was in the heart of the city, and my stomach did all the delightful little leaps I was hoping for. The Duomo towered over the historic city center in its massive, awe-inspiring beauty. It welcomed me to the city, an intimidating doorman promising more mind-blowing, stomach-flipping moments to come. My apartment was merely a block away, and by the time I managed to push open the front

door that was ten feet tall and lug my 50-pound suitcase up the old stone steps, my jaw dropped and I nearly screamed. I couldn’t believe the high ceilings, the windows that reached from mid-wall to those cathedral ceilings, and the impeccable Italian woodwork and detailing throughout. It was stunning, and despite it being January and rather chilly, I threw open every single window and did a little happy dance around the apartment with my new roommates.   This initial excitement, the thrill of being in a new country subjected so often to my girlish fantasies of jet setting in style, lasted the first couple weeks as I tried to adjust to the new culture. Given I came to Italy knowing little to no Italian, I struggled more than some other students trying to assimilate and blend in with the local Italians. I wanted my experience to be authentic and I figured—when in Florence, do as the Florentines do! I managed to print a list of helpful phrases to practice on the plane ride, which would join my mispronounced “Grazie” and my overeager “Buon giorno!” which I used all hours of the day. (Incorrectly, of course; >>

Kim knew she'd have a good time, but her time in Florence exceeded her wildest expectations.

One of Rachel's memorable moments is when Spain won the 2010 World Cup in Madrid.

brought everything. I would say my laptop (I wasn't sure because of safety reasons) and more tampons. And contact-lens solution. It's extremely difficult to find it in Spain. Advice to someone who is thinking about going abroad: Do it. Without question. You'll never regret it. And read, read, read about the place you're going to make sure it's right for you. The world's big; there's something for everyone. Do you plan on going back and if so when? Yes. I am applying for a master's program in which I'll teach English and get my master's in bilingual education. Wish me luck! Jordan Feeney Hometown: Greenland, New Hampshire Where did you go? I went to Florence, Italy. Where was your favorite place you visited? The Duomo, leaning tower of Pisa, Venice What is the most important thing you learned? That people have a very interesting view of America in other countries. They think we fit a very specific stereotype. What is one thing about you missed about home? My boyfriend and my fam-


The Duomo in Florence is one of the city's most well-known landmarks.

“Take every opportunity presented to you and enjoy your time and experiences.” ily, being seated at a restaurant, not >> being gawked at by Italian men on the streets. How has this experience changed you? It made me grow up. I learned a lot about myself from being completely out of my comfort zone. Most memorable experience? Making Italian friends and teaching them how to speak English! Worst thing about your experience? Missing home; not feeling safe at some points. One item from home you wish you would have brought? Honestly, a really great European hair straightener. Advice to someone who is thinking about going abroad: Do it! You may never have the chance again. It also looks great on a resume and is an awesome conversation piece. Do you plan on going back and if so when? Absolutely! Maybe for my honey-

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moon or something like that! Bri Nestor Hometown: Triton, Mass. Where did you go? London, England Why did you choose to go there? The program I went through had an internship program that I really liked. Other countries had an internship program as well, but overall, I liked this one the best. Where was your favorite place to visit? Two places! Barcelona, Spain, was absolutely gorgeous. The weather was warm when I went in January, the people are friendly and, I know this sounds silly, but the chocolate was delicious! The city as a whole was just so colorful and beautiful. I also went to Dublin, Ireland, recently, and since I have Irish roots, it was great to see the culture there. What is the most important thing you learned? Studying abroad was one of the best decisions I've made. I was nervous before I left, but once I arrived in London, I realized that, if you do study abroad, take every opportunity presented to you and enjoy your time and experiences. What is one thing you missed about home? I miss the Boston accent! I know that sounds silly, but I hear it on a daily basis back home and I've gotten so

used to hearing it. It feels like something is missing sometimes, when really, it's just replaced with a British accent. How has this experience changed you? Typically, I'm the kind of person who enjoys being home and being in familiar surroundings, but studying abroad has provided so many experiences that pushed me out of that comfort zone. Most memorable experience? That’s a tough question—there are so many! I came here with my best friend, though, and we've known each other since we were four years old. We have so many memories and experiences together, and

With a gorgeous landscape like this, it's easy to see why Bri loved Dublin so much.

Safety Alert: Watch for “Not-So-Mr.-Nice Guys”

“Some of the girls from our study abroad program went out to dinner at a fancy restaurant one night and our waiter seemed really nice. He took pictures with us and joked about how he was going to put them on Facebook. He also kept insisting we order drinks. When he asked if we planned on going out, we decided we’d like to and he gave us the address of a club he said the brother of another waiter worked at and promised to call ahead, so he’d know we were coming. But when we got there, it was on a deserted street in a bad neighborhood and the door had a red light over it, which usually means it’s a place for prostitution. I knew the circumstances in the film “Taken” could happen, but I never thought it could almost happen to me. Thank God we took a cab and went in a large group.” –Brianti Downing


you find that after about 1 p.m. shopkeepers and other local Italians give you a funny look. It’s much more appropriate to say “Buona sera” later in the day) I was surprised to discover that Italians, at least Florentines, were not particularly friendly to Americans, especially young students like myself. Shortly after I discovered the partying scene in Florence, I understood why.

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ith an abundance of students studying in the small, intimate city, its Renaissance charm can quickly be overpowered by the thousands of Americans who inhabit it, turning the cobblestone streets into an outdoor frat house. Jersey Shore wannabes stumble drunkenly through the streets at all hours of the night.   If you really want an authentic Italian experience, you can find it if you break away from the packs of students and venture to smaller areas where the locals go. I was nervous about doing that, given my lack of proficiency in Italian, but you find that Italians are instantly more respectful of you when you at least attempt to speak to them in Italian, you’re patient, and you don’t embody every obnoxious American stereotype: typing away on a BlackBerry, while you chew gum loudly in a pair of flip flops and sweatshirt.   I quickly discovered Italians never wear flip flops, sweatshirts or sweatpants of any kind (in public) and they never leave the door in the morning with wet hair and a piece of toast in hand. They take the utmost care in their appearance, always looking sleek and polished with the finest quality shoes, leather, etc. I’ve found they also tend to sport funky watches and colorful glasses, a big trend that expresses the constantly evolving and vibrant style in Italy. I spent a little extra time getting ready in the morning, hoping I wouldn’t instantly stand out as an American college student.   As far as the food goes, it was every bit as delicious as you may have heard. I think the biggest difference is the ingredients in Italy are higher quality than in America. The olive oil and balsamic vinegar are simply beyond expectation; even if I thought I’d had good olive oil in America, I turned out to be wrong. Pasta and bread is homemade, the cheese is flavorful and the sauce is absolutely delectable. Italians are also more

conscious of smaller portion sizes. In America, if I go to an Italian restaurant, I’m normally given a heaping plate of pasta that is nearly impossible to finish, whereas in Italy it is much more reasonable.   Many of the “Italian” dishes they serve in America, I have yet to see on a menu in Italy. Spaghetti and meatballs? Nowhere to be found. Chicken parmesan and Caesar salad? Also missing. Instead, you find a large variety of pastas, meats and vegetables that perhaps you have not seen before. The Italians embrace eating as an art; people spend hours at the table, ordering several dishes, starting with antipasti, then a pasta, followed by meat, salad or vegetables and finish with dessert. While I get irked about having to pay a cover charge to sit at a table, you do experience the luxury of sitting at the table for as long as you like. You won’t be rushed out in order to bring in the next guest. However, I don’t like having to pay for water, a frustration many encounter throughout Europe. And, as delicious as the food is, I get sick of constantly eating bread, pasta, and cheese. Coming from school in New York City, I miss the diverse array of foods available, from Chinese to Indian to a good old American hamburger. In Florence, you’ll be hard pressed to find anything other than Italian food, save for an occasional McDonald’s.

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ll in all, Italy has been an incredible place to study abroad. The art and architecture of the city are truly stunning. I’ve taken to running along the Arno River at sunset, and brushing past the Uffizi gallery and the Ponte Vecchio doesn’t get old. While I get frustrated sometimes with the lack of convenience stores or coffee shops, it’s nice to experience a place that hasn’t entirely caught up with the times yet. Shops and stores take a lunch break to close their doors in the middle of the day, and you can eat gelato at any time of day, any time of year, which is always incredible. I’ve loved having the opportunity to explore all through Italy, adventure to the vastly different cities of Venice, Rome, Naples and Milan.   Florence holds a special place in my heart. The gorgeous yellow buildings and rolling green hills will live on in my memory. The delicious food will also live on, mostly on my hips. 

studying abroad will be one of the most memorable, as a whole. Worst thing about your experience? For some reason, I've grown to strongly dislike the public transportation, such as the Tube. I'm used to the T in Boston, and technically, the Tube is no different, just bigger. I can't say I've had a bad experience here, but public transportation is one thing that I do not like. One item you wish you brought from home? It's not an item, but I wish I brought my sister with me! I miss her a lot and I wish she could've come with me so she could see and experience Europe. Advice to someone who is thinking about going aboard? Read up on the place you are going to. Do you plan on coming back and if so when? I'd love to come back, but not for as long of a time. I'd definitely visit Ireland and Spain again, and maybe find some new places, too! Brianti Downing Hometown: Panama City, Fla. Where did you go? Paris, France Why did you choose to go there? One of my African American studies professors teaches a a weeklong class there called Blacks in Paris and I really wanted to study the race politics of Parisian culture. Where was your favorite place to visit? I really love the Arc de Triomphe, but my favorite place was Basilique du SacréCœur, or The Basilica of the Sacred Heart. It’s a cathedral on a hill, looking over the Montmartre district. Not only is the

Brianti loved visiting Basilique du Sacré-Coeur during her one-week journey to Paris.


Brianti taking a quick moment to snap a picture during her trip.

cathedral beautiful, but there’s a small amphitheater in front of it where you can see most of the city. The day we went, there was a man playing the harp. It was magical. What is the most important thing you learned? I learned a lot about the race politics regarding people from former French colonial cities. It’s interesting how differently they’re treated based on what country they’re from. It’s also nice to be in a city with history on every corner. What is one thing you missed about home? I always miss my bed whenever I travel. I also missed having more than croissants for breakfast. I’m a picky eater and I don’t like bread that much, but it’s a huge part of Parisian culture. How has this experience changed you? I’ve always wanted to be a culture reporter, so seeing how different culture is there really changed my perspective and it reinforced my goals. I also met

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“There’s nothing wrong with wearing sneakers after you’ve been walking non-stop for days.” two journalists there who are permanent residents in Paris, which really broadened my scope of where I could live one day. Most memorable experience? I met Madame Diope outside of her bookstore, Presence Africaine in the Latin Quarter. The bookstore was a meeting place for African intellectuals in the 1950s and she and her husband, Alioune Diop, were among the main organizers of the first Black Congress at the Sorbonne in 1955. Meeting someone with that much influence was surreal, especially since she talked to me directly. She told me, “You must learn French.”

Worst thing about your experience? It wasn’t long enough. I enjoyed it so much and I was really sad to leave. One item you wish you brought from home? My mom is an expert at packing for travel, so I brought everything. Everyone wants to look fashionable when they go to Paris, but there’s nothing wrong with wearing sneakers after you’ve been walking non-stop for days. Advice to someone who is thinking about going aboard? Be respectful of the culture. A lot of the problems Parisians have with Americans is they expect them to accept American manners. The important parts of Parisian etiquette aren’t really hard to learn, but they show a respect for their culture that they’ll appreciate. Do you plan on coming back? I didn’t want to leave, so I definitely plan to come back. I would love to retire in Paris and become fluent in French. 

Picky eaters, take note, says Brianti: Croissants are a huge part of Parisian cuisine .


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 Long Distance Relationships  High School Sweethearts  Hooking Up

Love will find a way Life was so much easier when your boyfriend just lived a few blocks away. Since heading back to school complicates everything—whether you’re in a relationship or not—JAYE has a fall romanace handbook to help you out >>

By Brianti Downing


Love Will Find a Way Remember when relationships were as easy as chasing one another around the playground? Now they not only require an admission of attraction besides hair pulling but a commitment to make them work. When you and your high school sweetheart are back together after being apart for the school year or missing one another in different cities after a whirlwind dorm romance, it only gets harder. Instead of spending months going back and forth about what to do with your relationship, it’s best to identify what type of relationship it is and inform yourself on its future possibilities.

Long Distance Relationships

Frank and Michelle met through a mutual friend who went to college with Michelle and started talking over instant messenger and e-mail one summer, Frank says. They talked for almost a year and met twice, but were just friends.   “About 11 months into our friendship, we realized had fallen in love with each other, so we decided to give the long-distance relationship a try,” Frank says.   They celebrated their five-year anniversary on April 23.   Even if it’s just for the summer or lasts the whole school year, there’s a considerable amount of ups and downs that are exclusive to this brand of relationships. A romance that lasts for years can only amount to a couple of weeks spent together and the rules for the relationship are significantly different than ones for couples who live in the same city.   Managing a relationship from different cities has it definite drawbacks. There are also a lot of unforeseen costs for travel, which Frank suggests splitting. Also, studies show that persons in these relationships often feel lonely, even though they’re in a relationship, and doubts about their partner’s faithfulness can often cause stress.   Because long-distance couples are apart more than they are together, they have to trust what their significant other tells them.   “Trusting someone that much is not natural to most people,” Frank says. “Imagine giving something as precious as your love and relying on someone not to hurt you, but then only having one phone call a day as a reassurance that you are not being hurt.”

But it’s definitely not all bad. In fact, one of the main

27 percent of LDRs end within the

first month, compared with 30 percent of proximal relationship.

The percentage of LDRs that fail peaks at 42 percent, versus 35 for proximal

relationships. FYI: after six months and drops to 8 percent after the first year (compared with 25 percent for proximal relationships).

advantages of long-distance relationships is a stronger bond.   “Distance helps us step back from the everyday chaos that occurs in a relationship and helps us appreciate its existing strong points,” Sylvia Shipp writes in her book, The Long Distance Relationship Guidebook.   In the spirit of creating a stronger bond from long distances, Michelle came up with the idea for a website to help other couples in long distance relationships. Frank says they started with their “Things to Do” list, which now has 98 activities, and grew from there. The website now gets over 35,000 visits a week and is a resource for all types of long-distance couples, including those in college and involved with persons in the military. The site also sells bracelets and key chains with “Love Knows No Distance” written on them, along with hand-made love letter satchels and a relationship workbook the couple wrote.   “We aim to provide our visitors with the number one resource for a lasting, healthy and successful long-distance relationship,” Frank says. “We want to help people realize they can have a fulfilling relationship despite the distance.”   Frank suggests meeting your significant other’s friends, so you’re “real” to them and planning their trip to see you, so there’s no wasted time. But the most important part of making it work, in Frank’s opinion, is trust.   “If you have good trust, then you can hopefully avoid the big blow-ups over nothing,” Frank says.

High School Sweethearts

Just about every teen flick would have you believe high school sweethearts stay together forever, but the number of students who come to college right off the heels of a break-up is in stark contrast to that image.   Stephanie Rios moved away from home to attend the University of Florida at the age of 17. She was excited to embark upon new experiences, make new friends and really find out who she was in this new environment. Instead of embracing her independence fully, she ended up talking on the phone with her ex-boyfriend for hours almost every night.   “There weren’t friends to go out with on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday, so I found myself sitting in my room alone,” Rios

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Love Will Find a Way social impact of being in a relationship with someone who’s used to seeing you often.   Rios and her ex-boyfriend eventually parted ways, living their lives separately with no contact for about a year before they reunited. They’re currently in a healthy long-distance relationship, balancing their relationship with their friendships, and see one another at least once a week.

Hooking Up

Hooking up isn’t just a popular phrase among college students, it’s a full-blown subculture on campuses around the world. Studies have consistently shown that most college-aged women prefer a long-term committed relationship, while men the same age favor a more casual situation. Regardless, it doesn’t stop women from engaging in casual encounters with Mr. Right Now while

says. “You can’t hang out with people every day, so I would talk to my ex-boyfriend.”   Studies show that women with boyfriends or who are still transitioning to the single life oftentimes deal with their discomfort in a new place by clinging to their significant other because they’re familiar and spent their free time communicated with him instead of interacting with other students. Because of this, a lot of them don’t make many friends.   Rios admits spending every night on the phone with her ex-beau caused her to inadvertently alienate people because she was seeking the comfort of something familiar. She also says she wasn’t being fair to him by using him for comfort either.   Most experts and book authors encourage a breakup before students attend college. The suggestion stems from the

The Love List Must-know tips, whether you’re loving from a distance or making it work with your high school sweetheart Go on a date. Take your computer with you to a coffee shop and have a webcam date in a public place. Couples usually talk on webcams in their homes, so this is a nice change of scenery for both of you. Watch YouTube together. Instead of sharing links from your own lonely searches around the video website, use Synchtube (www.synchtube.com). You can create a room that allows you to watch YouTube videos simultaneously with up to 50 people. Send your scent. Cut a small piece of felt in a heart shape and spray your perfume on it. Send it to your sweetheart. It may sound strange, but Loving from a Distance’s Michelle did it for Frank and she says just smelling his brand of deodorant makes it seem like he’s with for a second. Write a love letter. Whatever happened to the days when people sent one another hand-written notes? They take a little more effort and show that you really care. Buy some stationary to give it a quaint touch. Play games together. Sites like Pogo.com and Yahoo! have tons of multiplayer games for you and your guy to play together. If games are your thing, set up a weekly game night to play online. Instant Message in Your Handwriting. The instant messenger interface on YourFonts.com allows you to install your own handwriting, giving your messages a more personal touch. If you’re high school sweethearts it’s like passing notes in class all over again and a great way to connect when you’re apart. Restrict your phone time. It’s hard to make new friends if all your free time is spent on the telephone with someone you already know. You need to find a balance between keeping your romance and starting your new life, so make guidelines for how often you can communicate without hindering your new friendships. Skype once a week. If you’re used to seeing each other almost every day and, depending on how far away you are from one another, it could be months before you get to be in proximity to one another. Just seeing one another can make it easier to cope with being apart. Courtesy of LovingFromADistance.com.


Love Will Find a Way No Strings Attached! Hooking up is a tricky combination of bold moves and emotional restraint—good thing JAYE’s got you covered  Don’t get attached. This is the number one rule of casual encounters and also the hardest to follow. If you’re looking for a one-night romance to turn into something more, you’ll probably get hurt. You should like the guy you’re hooking up with, but make sure you can handle the likely possibility that you’ll never be meeting his parents or planning your wedding.  Don’t feel pressured. If you don’t want to hook up with a guy, then don’t. If you only want to kiss, don’t feel pressured to go any further. Even if you think you’re sure, a hook up can turn into a regret, so if you know you’re not, don’t cross that line.  Protect yourself. Of course you should always use condoms if you have sex (there’s nothing wrong with buying your own, just in case), but you also need to be prepared if your date gets a little too pushy. Carry around pepper spray on your key chain and tell a friend where you’re going and who you’re with. Remember, most women are raped by someone they know, so don’t let your guard down just because he’s a friend.

they’re waiting for Mr. Right.   The term “hooking up” has been deemed by sociological researchers as a one-time sexual encounter—ranging from random making out to casual, doesn’t-mean-anything sex—with no plans for a future tryst. In her book, Hooking Up: Sex, Dating and Relationships on Campus, Kathleen Bogle found that hooking up usually doesn’t end in a relationship. With that said, it’s best to go into the situation knowing what both of you expect to get from it if it starts getting hot and heavy. And if your guy makes it clear that he’s looking for nothing more than a quick fling, don’t think sex will convince him to pursue anything further.   Hooking up also comes with a lot of emotional issues, especially for women. Even if you go into a situation knowing you only

want a casual encounter, you can leave with mixed feelings and regrets. A 2008 study found that women regretted engaging in sexual behaviors with someone they only met once and someone they only knew for a 24-hour period. The study also found that women regretted hook ups that resulted in sex more than those that didn’t.

Summer is notorious for short-lived romances, so as you head back to school this month, be careful about how you handle these situations. Make sure you’re both on the same page before you engage in any sexual behavior. And take heed: The longer you interact with someone, the harder it will be to get over them. 

For most students, hooking up is second nature thanks to the reality TV shows like Jersey Shore and a campus culture that is filled with students used to one-night stands.

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 The cosmetics industry is an overflowing trove of glamorous, beautifying, pampering innovations—and the great news? it’s only getting better! Take notes and prepare to update your personal collection with the best of the best handpicked by our beauty editors >>


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the 2011 beauty awards  cutest product name: Juice Just because a product is oil-free doesn’t mean you can’t get a richly moisturized finish­­—just try this appropriately named product ($28 Juicebeauty.com).

n i k s / face  best on-the-go skincare: Quickly blast away unwanted acne breakouts with this easy-to-carry beauty tool that’s also perfect for beauty on-the-go. Neutrogena Rapid-Clear On-the-Go Acne Treatment Pen, $9.50, drugstoresnationwide.

 Go-to skin cleanser: For a gentle, daily cleanser, you won’t go wrong with this scent-free formula that’s also great for removing makeup. Cetaphil Daily Facial Cleanser, $10, drugstores nationwide.  biggest beauty buzz: Biggest Beauty Buzz: Give your face the spa treatment with this facial brush for a more youthful, blemish-free look. Clairsonic Cleansing System, $195; Clairsonic.com.

 editor’s pick: I’ve used this product on a zit and by morning seen it gone away. –Margaret Francois Queen Helena Oatmeal n’ Honey Natural Facial Scrub, $4, Sally Beauty stores.


 most stylish hair duo: Wrap hair around this stylish curling iron for cute coils, or straighten those hard-to-get hairs with the travel-ready mini flat iron. Wigo Silver Zebra Coil Iron with Mini Iron, $30; ulta.com.

hair  best heat protectant: Best heat protectant: Shiny hair, silky hair, and heat protection all in one? Check! Chi Silk Infusion, $23; target.com.  editor’s pick: This is my go-to hairspray for any look that I’m rocking. Not only is this product light-weight, but it also keeps hair bouncy and soft—remember a little bit goes a long way! –MF Bumble and Bumble Classic Hairspray, $21; bumbleandbumble.com.

 best moisturizer: Rejuvenate dry locks with a burst of restorative moisture. Moroccan Oil Restorative Hair Mask, $35; beauty collection. com.

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the 2011 beauty awards

 best tinted moisturizer For a barelythere, natural look a tinted moisturizer is the  day-to-night glam kit: Get sleek, way to go. Laura Mercier, $42; nordstrom. chic with this sensual makeup palette com. that will take you from rockstar status to a glam goddess in the blink of an eye. Urban Decay’s The Black Platte, $36; Sephora stores .

makeup  Most innovative all-natural makeup : A fresh face is ideal for all-day makeup wear, and we can’t keep our hands off this one. Cover Girl Clean Foundation, $6, drugstores nationwide.  best makeup shimmer: Get the look of a champagne goddess with this non-greasy shimmer spray, that’s perfect for a brunch with friends or a night on the town. Tarte Celebutante Dry Oil Shimmer Spray, $34; Sephora.com.

 prim and proper: Every fab face has a solid foundation, and that glam gals is primer. Get the luck of the draw with this face, lip and eye kit. Laura Geller Spackettes Kit, $30; laurageller.com.


the 2011 beauty awards

 best of body care: A sweet-smelling body wash is a glam gal mainstay and it’s even better if it revitalizes skin and locks in moisture. Dove revive Body Wash, $6, drugstores nationwide.

 best bath treatment: Rejuvenate achy muscles with an all-natural sea salt during a warm, bubbly bath. Carol’s Daughter Body Aches Bath Salt, $18; carolsdaughter. com.  innovative body care: Get a double dose of moisture with a body sponge that exfoliates while cleansing. Buf-Puf Doublesided Body Sponge, $5.50; Walgreens stores.

 best of body care: Exfoliate and let the scent marinate with a sultry body scrub. Life NK All Round Body Scrub, $30; spacenk.com.

 best in show: The packaging of this sassy scent speaks for itself. We love everything about his hybrid scent that epitomizes style and grace. SJP NYC 44; bluefly. com .

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August 2011

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ne day while aimlessly scoping through someone’s Facebook page, I saw the quote, “Trust the process.” I sat back in my chair, stopped flipping apprehensively through photos and randomly liking wall posts, and thought about it for a minute.   Trust the process.   I thought about all the times I would have loved to hear those words: During the long and tiring Common Application and college essays back in high school, my first year of college when I felt so lost as a freshman, my transfer to another school, and my senior year that I spent thinking “When will this semester just finish?” And now while pulling out my hair and thinking, “What the hell comes next?” On the morning I graduated from college I thought, “This is really it.” No more all-nighters writing papers (or waking up really early to write them—yes, I was that girl). No more stressing out about not getting that perfect magazine internship in New York. And no more busy schoolwork and extracurricular meetings. But in reality, now thinking about it, that was all a lot easier than the current contemplation of my future. I realized as I walked across that stage and snatched my degree that I could have worked harder for

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Lessons & Confessions the past four years: I’ve got a long way to go.   I think to all those girls (and guys!) out there reading this rant, let me tell you what no one told me what seems like forever ago: Trust the process.    This semester is a new start—whether you’re starting college or entering your junior year—make every semester as if it were your first. There will be days where you’ll wish college would just hurry up and finish. You’ll get into fights with your roommates or get a C in that Native American literature class that you hated so much. But don’t worry everything will be okay. Join a club, learn more about a nonprofit that you can support, go to the library more often, make an effort to go to the gym (and then stick to it), and actually get to know your professors (their intelligence levels surpass that of any encyclopedia). Thinking about getting an internship? It’s not too late to try to set something up! Pump yourself up for each semester. New year, new you? Maybe over-said but couldn’t be more than true.   I was told the summer before leaving for college that these four years would be the best four years of my life. And while I made some really great friends, had some awesome classes with pretty cool professors, and went to a school where self-expression was something each one of us was born to do (Emerson hosts

Trust the Process

it’s easy to become restless and wonder if the lectures and late-night study sessions are worth it, but as michelle golden explains, life is too short to spend all of your time stressing and worrying. heed her advice, garnered from personal experience quite the eccentric bunch), during those four years I could certainly have used a Xanax or two. Here’s my second piece of advice: You have your whole life to work, your whole life to be that professional person you’ll be for the years to come after college, so go out—I’m not saying go crazy—but enjoy yourself, take

a deep breath or two, and remember that you’ll never have these days again. And for those days that you question your decisions, and worry about the transitions you’ll have to adjust to, remember: trust the process. You’ll all get there someday and somehow. And while I am still looking for that job this fall, go enjoy your next college semester. You’ll thank me later. 

“Pump yourself up for each semester. New year, new you? Maybe over-said but couldn’t be more than true.”

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Relax!

It doesn’t get any better than darkwashed denim and a crisp white T-shirt, as Kate Moss shows us.

Lifestyle / food / drinks / shopping  J. Crew sweatshirt, $65; jcrew.com.

 Equipment blouse, $241; my-wardrobe.com.

 Elie Saab heels, $545; boutique1.com.

 Mod Cloth bag, $68; modcloth.com.

Jean Code

Breathe new life into old denim — the foundation of the cool girl’s college wardrobe — with colorful knits, inchadding heels, unexpected jewelry and tailored jackets >> august 2011  JAYE  113


Relax! >> Shopper

Sienna Mille effortlessly rocks worn in skinny jeans with creative and unexpected layers

 Miss Selfridge bag, $36; missselfridge.com.  Helmut Lang sweater, $395; lagarconne.com.

 Topshop ring, $22; topshop.com.   Oscar de la Renta earrings, $290; net-a-porter.com.

 Delia’s top, $20; delia’s.com.

 Betsey Johnson scarf, $68; betseyjohnson.com.

 Zara bag, $50; zara.com.

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 Naughty Monkey boots, $90; heels.com.

 Sequin necklace, $60; charmandchain.com.


  J. Crew cardigan, $80; net-a-porter.com.

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Boss by Hugo Boss, $431; asos.com.

Zara blazer, $100; zara.com.

Dorothy Perkins bracelets, $20; dorothyperkins.com.   Charles by Charles David shoes, $100; heels.com.

Yves Saint Laurent ‘Rouge Volupté Pearl' Lipstick, $34; nordstrom.com.

  Zara socks, $7; zara.com.

Hot Topic bracelets, $4; hottopic.com.

  SOMEDAY by Justin Bieber Eau de Parfum, $35; nordstrom.com.

  Mia pumps, $115; pureshu.com.

Glam up denim like Beyoncé with peep-toe stilettos, a crisp blazer and stylish accessories like a fedora and round sunnies.

Aubin & Wills, $115; net-a-porter.com.

  Alexander Wang top, $450; net-a-porter.com.


Relax! >> Thirst Quenchers

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ornings seem to be a blur, especially after having nearly three months of summer break to sleep in, not having to worry about pop quizzes, lectures and term papers. As the new semester winds up, prepare yourself for the inevitable Idon’t-have-anything-to-eat-forbreakfast quandry by whisking together a mouthwatering smoothie, starring blueberries, which are at peak season this month. They’re small in size, but big in impact — the highest antioxidant capacity of all fresh fruit — and when two cups of these frozen good-mood activators are blended with a banana sliced in half, half-cup of reduced-fat milk, one-and-ahalf cups of nonfat yogurt, two tablespoons of honey and one cup of ice, the result is a glass full of on-the-go goodness infused with the ingredients to keep you sharp ans alert in your 8:00 criminal justice seminar.

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Relax! >> Yummy Eats

Cajun Shrimp Pasta

Ingredients 1 pound corkscrew pasta 1/2 onion, chopped 2 garlic cloves, minced 4 tablespoons olive oil 1 bag (16-ounce) mixed vegetables , frozen 2 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, halved 1/2 cup chicken broth Parmesan cheese, grated Caesar salad (optional) Salt and pepper, to taste

Master Class: Pasta

Kick off the new semester with good friends and even better food, made easy with our handy guide to all things pasta Ingredients 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 (20 ounce) package ground turkey 1 egg, beaten 1/3 cup Italian seasoned bread crumbs Directions >> Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9x13 inch baking dish with the olive oil, and place it in the oven while preheating. >> In a medium bowl, mix together the ground turkey, egg, and bread crumbs

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using your hands. >> Using an ice cream scoop if possible, form the meat into golf ball sized meatballs. >> Place about 1 inch apart in the hot baking dish. Press down to flatten the bottom just slightly. >> Bake for 15 minutes in the preheated oven, then turn them over, and continue baking for about 5 more minutes, or until somewhat crispy on the outside. Serve with pasta and sauce or however you’d like.

Directions >> Prepare pasta as package label directs and season chicken breast halves with salt and pepper. Cut into bite-size pieces. >> In a nonstick skillet coated with 1 tablespoon olive oil, sauté chicken over medium-high heat until no longer pink, about 4 minutes per side. >> In another skillet over medium heat, add onion and garlic in 2 tablespoons olive oil until onion is soft, 5 minutes. >> Add frozen mixed vegetables; cover and cook 5 to 7 minutes. >> Add chicken to the vegetable skillet along with chicken broth and warm through. >> Drain pasta and toss with chicken and veggies. Drizzle with another tablespoon olive oil and top with grated Parmesan cheese.

The Perfect Meatball


And Now For Dessert!

Meat-Free Lasagna Rolls Ingredients 12 whole-wheat lasagna noodles 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 3 garlic cloves, minced 1 package (14 ounce) extra-firm water-packed tofu, drained, rinsed and crumbled 3 cup chopped spinach 1/2 cup shredded Parmesan cheese 2 tablespoon finely chopped Kalamata olives 1/4 teaspoon(s) crushed red pepper 1/4 teaspoonsalt 1 jar (25 ounce) marinara sauce, preferably lower-sodium, divided 1/2 cup shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese Directions >> Bring a large pot of water to a

boil. Cook noodles according to package directions. Drain, rinse, return to the pot and cover with cold water until ready to use. >> Meanwhile, heat oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Add garlic and cook, stirring, until

fragrant, about 20 seconds. >> Add tofu and spinach and cook, stirring often, until the spinach wilts and the mixture is heated through. Do this for 3 to 4 minutes. Transfer to a bowl; stir in Parmesan, olives, crushed red pepper, salt and 2/3 cup marinara sauce. >> Wipe out the pan and spread 1 cup of the remaining marinara sauce in the bottom. To make lasagna rolls, place a noodle on a work surface and spread 1/4 cup of the tofu filling along it. Roll up and place the roll, seam-side down, in the pan. Repeat with the remaining noodles and filling. (The tofu rolls will be tightly packed in the pan.) Spoon the remaining marinara sauce over the rolls. >> Place the pan over high heat, cover and bring to a simmer. Reduce heat to medium; let simmer for 3 minutes. Sprinkle the rolls with mozzarella and cook, covered, until the cheese is melted and the rolls are heated through, 1 to 2 minutes. Serve hot.

strawberry cheesecake Ingredients 2 cups heavy whipping cream 1 tablespoon chopped fresh basil 1 tablespoon chopped fresh thyme 2 teaspoons salt 2 teaspoons ground black pepper 1 1/2 teaspoons crushed red pepper flakes 1 teaspoon ground white pepper 1 cup chopped green onions 1 cup chopped parsley 1/2 pound shrimp, peeled and deveined 1/2 pound scallops 1/2 cup shredded Swiss cheese 1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese 1 pound dry fettuccine pasta Directions >> Cook pasta in a large pot of boil-

ing salted water until al dente. >> Meanwhile, pour cream into

large skillet. Cook over medium heat, stirring constantly, until just about boiling. Reduce heat, and add herbs, salt, peppers, onions, and parsley. Simmer 7 to 8 minutes, or until thickened. >> Stir in seafood, cooking until shrimp is no longer transparent. Stir in cheeses, blending well. >> Drain pasta. Serve sauce over noodles.

what to drink with pasta  If your pasta’s light, go with a white wine (we love a Pinot Grigio or Chardonnay); for more heavier dishes, opt for red (a Zinfindel will do the trick)—you don’t want the wine to dominate the food.

Wanna Make Your Own Pasta? Meet the Harold 8320Pasta Machine Atlas ($97; buy.com), one of the most versatile pasta makers on the market. It flattens and slices your dough and comes with a removable cutting head, interchangeable with optional attachments. Now get to cooking!


Relax! >> JAYE At Home

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e can all agree that it’s a little easier to do homework when you’re comfortable, and we’ve learned that solace starts with a cozy desk chair to serve a central component to our late-night study areas. This model—with a mesh back, countour arms and nylon casters— is from Walmart, and while it’s only sold online, you’ll be less hesitant to give up the credit-card digits because it rings in at $45.

Sittin’ Pretty… …in the perfect desk chair

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the syllabus to jaye 101

Course Description: An advanced study in all aspects of life outside of the classroom covering the essential skills required of every smart, stylish and sophisticated college-aged woman. Objectives:  Learn how to translate runway trends to fit the reality of your everyday lives.  Learn how to take expert tips on everything from careers and personal finance to self-improvement and relationships and apply it to enrich your life and everyone else’s around you.  Learn style, beauty and health strategies to look great and feel even better.  Learn to be a more critical consumer of news and information.  Gain inspiration from the stories of women across the world through their successes and struggles.  Learn to manage your time more effectively so that you can play just as hard as you work. Standard Policies: All students must understand that JAYE is an advocate and produced by a group of editors and writers who know all to well the ups and downs that come with being a college student. If at any point during your enrollment in JAYE 101, you have any questions or concerns, you will immediately email jayespeakyourmind@gmail.com and an instructor will respond accordingly. Attendance: As with most web-based courses, you have the liberty to come and go as you see fit. However, during the second week of each month, you are expected to show up to class to pore through the latest issue of the magazine (er, um, textbook). Make-Up Work: Because there is so much information in each issue, we encourage you to take notes, print out pages as you see fit and apply the recommendations to your life—the market’s much too competitive to stay behind!

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Class Rules: Class participation is vital in JAYE 101. Tell a friend about the awesomeness included in these pages, and post the links on Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr and any other social networks you frequent. Interact with the magazine on Facebook and Twitter (@JAYEmagazine) and take advantage of the wealth of information at your disposal at no cost! Evaluation: After reading each issue, you should be able to answer “yes” to the questions below. Here’s how your final grade each month will be calculated: Fashion and Beauty (25%): Did you find inspiration in the style pages to take your look to the next level? Are you willing to apply the tips and advice to your body, budget and lifestyle to make a memorable impression on the people you interact with on campus and in your everyday life? Wellness and Fitness (25%): Are you taking the necessary steps to exercise, eat healthy foods and tend to your mental and emotional well-being? Do you surround yourself with positive influences that push you to be the best you you can be? News and Current Events (25%): Are you furthering the cultural conversation with your inner circle through discussion about the pieces featured in the magazine? Leisure Activities (25%): Are you carving out time in your busy schedule to test a new recipe, mix a new drink, shop for a new must-have or add a new fixture to your apartment or dorm?


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