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JANUARY 7, 2021 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I am engaged to a girl who comes from a well-known family in our big community.
I think the problem is we only went out for a month and a half, but I did not know what I was getting into when it comes to her family. Her parents dictate the way they want things, what they want their kids to do, how they want the wedding to be, and my family must adhere to all of it with no questions asked. I knew my kallah, Malka*, did not have the closest relationship with them, but what I did not know was that she was so intimidated by them that she cannot say no. She feels obligated to them and expects me to go along with everything without having a say. What in the world do I do? I am second-guessing spending my life attached at the hip to this family. Thanks Naftali*
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