Kauai Family Magazine Holiday 2023 by Kauai Family Magazine

SHOP LOCAL! HOLIDAY 2023

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YOUR ULTIMATE GUIDE TO HOLIDAY FAMILY FUN ON KAUA‘I

Breakfast with Santa

Light shows & parades Craft fairs & concerts

Christmas movie classics

Budget-friendly traditions Delicious recipes

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MESSAGE FROM THE MAYOR DEREK S.K. KAWAKAMI, MAYOR

Aloha! As the holiday season approaches, we turn our attention to our loved ones and community. Let’s give thanks for our blessings. We have so much to be grateful for, and I hope we can take the time out of our busy schedules to help those in need. Sharing our time and aloha with others ensures that our extended ‘ohana and community are well cared for. This allows us to responsibly enjoy the holiday season to the fullest. On behalf of my family, the Office of the Mayor, and the County of Kaua‘i, I thank Kaua‘i Family Magazine for its excellent service to our community. Mahalo and aloha to your staff and ‘ohana, and I wish all of you continued blessings into the new year.

With Warmest Aloha,

Derek S. K. Kawakami Mayor, County of Kaua‘i State of Hawai‘i

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COVER PHOTO Todd Fuerte Photography

Holly Jolly Holiday Fair P. 10 HOLIDAY FEATURES

WHAT’S INSIDE

10 FIND THE PERFECT EVERYTHING

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Kauai Made Holly Jolly Holiday Fair

What a wonderful world

16 CELEBRATE THE SEASON

KAUAI STYLE Fun, festive events for the whole ‘ohana

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Choking first aid

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Celebrate every month of 2024

Make your reservation today!

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HOLIDAY TRADITIONS No matter your budget, your family can enjoy meaningful holiday traditions

Reading aloud to animals

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When the holidays aren’t so happy

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National Rubber Ducky Day National Rubber Ducky Day gets its date from the classic childrens’ show Sesame Street. In a 1973 episode, Ernie announced his beloved bathtime toy’s birthday was January 13.

National Love Your Pet Day

Whether your family pet is a dog, cat, bunny, bird or turtle, on this day, you and your kids can pamper your pet(s) with special treats, extra cuddles or new toys, while reflecting on the special bond you share.

National Day of Unplugging

From sundown on March 3 to sundown on March 4, families are encouraged to unplug from technology and tune in to each other. Put your phones away and enjoy a device-free 24 hours.

After the excitement of ringing in the New Year, many of us are faced with the January blues. But each month brings something to celebrate. Whether it’s enjoying delicious food, spoiling our pets or just being silly, here are unique and fun days to commemorate as you keep the party going throughout 2024.

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National Unicorn Day

The most popular mythical creature in the world represents magic, fantasy and joy. On this day, create unicorn art, watch unicorn movies and make unicorn cookies— with extra sprinkles!

National Smile Day

Make an effort to smile at everyone you encounter this day. Little ones can count how many smiles they see throughout the day, while bigger kids can be encouraged to smile in order to brighten other people’s day.

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National Eat Your Veggies Day We should be eating our veggies every day, but on this day, eat a few more than usual. Life is all about balance, so after you finish your peas and carrots, have some dessert because it’s also National Apple Strudel Day!

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Education

State of Hawaii Dept. of Education . . . . . . .60, 72 Big Brothers Big Sisters of Kauai . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16 Kauai Christian Academy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .66 Kauai Forest Bird Recovery Project . . . . . . .52, 53 PATCH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .73 Child and Family Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .67

Health & Medical Services

Malama Pono Health Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .37 Regency at Puakea Assisted Living . . . . . . . . . . .31 Ohana Pacific Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 Hoku Smiles Pediatric Dentistry . . . . . . . . . . . . . .66 Hawaii State Dept. of Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .64 Garden Isle Healthcare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 Hawaii Dental Service . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .59 Kauai Adult Day Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26–29, 31 Stay at Home Health Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 Hale Kupuna Heritage Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 Hawaii Health Systems CorporationKauai Region . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40–41, 58 Kalaheo Dental Group . . . . . . . . . . . . .71 Kauai Medical Clinic . . . . . . . . . . . . . .56 Wilcox Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .80 Jason Blake Health Insurance . . . .31

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Holiday Festivals

Kukui Grove Holiday Events . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .12, 13 Kauai Made Holly Jolly Holiday Fair . . . . . .10, 11 Kauai Breakfast with Santa . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18 Hawaii Children’s Theatre, “ Elf” . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16 Waimea Light Parade . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17

Community Partners

Kauai Complex Area DOE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .61 County of Kauai Office of the Mayor . . . . . . . . . . . 4 County of Kauai Police Dept. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 County of Kauai Agency of Elderly Affairs . . . .30 County Dept. of Recreation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .31, 54 County of Kauai Dept. of Water . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .64 County of Kauai Waste Management . . . . . . . . .36 Gather Federal Credit Union . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Kauai Island Utility Cooperative . . . . . . . . . . . 2, 17 Hawaii Community Foundation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .79 West Kauai Energy Project . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17 AES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17 Kilohana Plantation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19 Kauai Made . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10, 11 Grove Farm . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .48, 49 Mark’s Place . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Catholic Charities Hawaii . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45 Hale ’Opio Kauai . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45 Leah Ragsac, Realtor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47 The Countdown . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .74, 75

BRINED PORK LOIN ROAST By Chef Mark Oyama, Mark’s Place Brining a pork loin adds flavor and makes the meat juicer. This recipe is great for those on a gluten-free diet. Please check each ingredient to ensure it does not contain gluten.

INGREDIENTS

4 lb. boneless pork loin roast 1 1/2 gallons warm water # 1 kosher salt 12 oz. brown sugar

INSTRUCTIONS 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

Combine water, salt and sugar; stir until salt and sugar dissolve. Cool completely; pour brine over pork loin and let soak in refrigerator overnight.

Remove pork loin from brine and let dry completely before roasting.

Roast in a 350-degree oven until the internal temperature of the pork loin reaches 155 degrees. Remove from oven and let sit for 15 minutes before slicing.

Be adventurous and add other flavoring ingredients to the brine. Try different herbs and spices, maple syrup, orange juice or wine.

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Find the perfect everything Mark your calendar

THE ANNUAL

Kaua‘i Made Holly Jolly Holiday Fair SATURDAY, DEC. 9th 9AM - 2PM SHERATON COCONUT BEACH RESORT for more details or get a jump start on our website at www.kauaimade.net

this holiday season

give the gift that's Kaua‘i Made If you require an auxiliary aid or other modification, please call Therilynn Martin-Haumea at (808) 241-4299 or email tmhaumea@kauai.gov at least a week prior to event.

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Start your holiday season at THE ANNUAL

Kaua‘i Made Holly Jolly Holiday Fair! Visit with SANTA & MRS. CLAUSE Enjoy entertainment! KAPA‘A MIDDLE SCHOOL CHOIR/BAND TAMATEA NUI O KAUA‘I (HALAU) LADY IPO KAUNAELE-FERREIRA

SHOP! SHOP! SHOP! with over 40 Local Products to fill your holiday list and more! APPAREL ACCESSORIES CRAFT & HERITAGE FOOD & FLORAL FINE ART JEWELRY HEALTH & BEAUTY and more!

Kaua‘i Made is the official program of the County of Kaua‘i to identify and promote products made on Kaua‘i, by Kaua‘i people and are authentic to Kaua‘i. www.kauaimade.net or call (808) 241-4946

Photo credit: Todd Fuerte Photograpy / Location: Anaina Hou Community Park

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Celebrate

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the Season

Kauai Style

KUKUI GROVE’S HOLIDAY LIGHT SPECTACULAR November 25 • 5pm-8pm Family Fun Fair & Light Show Premier Kukui Grove Center LIGHTS ON RICE STREET PARADE December 1 • 6pm-8pm Downtown Lihue Parade starts at 6pm from the Vidinha Stadium and travels up Rice Street to the Historic County Building. Get there early for best seats and bring chairs. Please properly dispose of your trash after the parade. LIGHTS ON RICE POST SHOW December 1 • 8:00pm Kukui Grove Center FLIP THE SWITCH AT HOFGAARD PARK December 2 • 5:30pm See Waimea Town Light Up! Visit by Santa! See the lights come on in Waimea heralding the Christmas Season. www.WaimeaLightparade.com

ANNUAL WAIMEA LIGHT PARADE December 16 • 6:15 pm ELECTRIFIED FUN! FREE! From illuminated floats to glo-stick marching units, you'll see the westside community full of holiday cheer! The Annual Waimea Light Parade travels down Main Street at 6:15 pm and ends at Hofgaard Park with a holiday music concert in the center of town. Both the parade and concert are free. SPECIAL NEW YEAR’S SHOW December 28th and 29th at 7pm Kukui Grove Center NEW YEARS EVE CELEBRATION December 31 • 5pm-8:30pm Po‘ipu Beach Park Food trucks, live entertainment or a movie in the park, and activities for the keiki. FREE (except for food/drink). Open to the public. Arrive early and bring beach chairs. Po‘ipu Beach Foundation

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Kilohana in Hawaiian means “not to be surpassed” and offers guests a wide range of adventures. Wander through the historic home and its collection of shops and boutiques, dine at The Plantation House by Gaylord’s, or enjoy Happy Hour cocktails on our Mahiko Lanai. A tour of the property can include a train ride on board Kauai Plantation Railway, or explore the 105 acres with Kauai Safaris with stops at the Jungle Bungalow and the Loi Lanai.

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BY PAM MOLNAR

CREATE YOUR OWN

For children, Thanksgiving can be a big letdown. Sandwiched between the candy rush of October and the gift-giving of December, it’s more of a holiday for adults. Kids are often seated at a separate table, shushed during football games and sent from the room when the conversations get interesting. This year, using Charlie Brown, his dog Snoopy and their friends as our role models, let’s make Thanksgiving one the kids will never forget. Since 1973, Charles Schultz’ classic TV special “A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving” has entertained millions of kids, creating fantasies of eating jelly beans and popcorn instead of green bean casserole. For starters, make the kids’ table the best one in the house by recreating the Ping Pong table where Chef Snoopy served his guests. Simply cover the table with a disposable green table cloth and use white tape to add lines.

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While I am sure the kids would count jelly beans as vegetables, this mom believes the kids need to eat the family meal before participating in Charlie Brown’s Thanksgiving. After they rush through their dinner, allow them to watch “A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving,” giving the adults an extra half hour to eat in peace. When the show is over, move onto the crafts, games and, of course, Chef Snoopy’s famous Thanksgiving meal (jelly beans, popcorn, pretzels and toast).

CRAFTS

Charlie Brown Shirts. Get yellow t-shirts at the craft store, along with black felt sheets. Make a template of the famous zigzag pattern from Charlie’s shirt. Have the kids trace it on the black felt, cut it out and hot glue one on each side of the shirt. Mini Football Pillow. Using brown fabric, make a football-shaped tieclosed pillow. Make an oval template

Chef Snoopy Hat. Supplies needed to make one hat: 2 pieces of white computer paper; 5 feet of white parchment paper; 1 rubber band; 1 sheet of black felt; stapler; Scotch tape • Tape the two pieces of computer paper together at the shorter ends. Fold in half lengthwise and in half lengthwise again to make the band of the hat. • Measure around the child’s head; cut off the excess. • Fold the parchment paper back and forth as if you are making a fan (1-inch strips). • Open up the fan and tape inside the folded band of the hat. Staple into place starting in middle and on ends and then filling in between the staples. • Wrap band in a circle but do not secure. Gather up fanned parchment paper and wrap the rubber band around the edge to hold it together. • Flip the band inside out so the rubber band is hidden inside the hat. Secure the band to fit the child’s head. Fluff out the hat so it is puffy on the sides. • Trace and cut out Snoopy ears from black felt. Hot glue to the inside of the band.

GAMES

Popcorn-Eating Contest. Give each player a bowl of popcorn and two pretzel rods. The first to finish eating their popcorn using only the pretzel rods to pick it up, is the winner. Jelly Bean Separation. Give each kid an equal amount of jelly beans. The first to separate them by color wins. Pin the Football in the Goal. Think “Pin the Tail on the Donkey,” but with a goal post and mini footballs. You know it: Blindfold the players, spin them in a few circles and see who can get their football in the goal.

CHARLIE BROWN TRIVIA

For older kids who have seen the movie “a million times,” have a trivia contest. Use these questions or come up with your own. 1. Who was the first guest Peppermint Patty invited? 2. Who helped Snoopy prepare dinner? 3. Was Sally part of the Thanksgiving meal? 4. What did Snoopy and Woodstock eat when everyone left? 5. What were Snoopy and Woodstock wearing? 6. Who is Sally supposed to write her essay about? 7. What are the only things Charlie Brown can cook? 8. Who says grace at Charlie Brown’s Thanksgiving? 9. What time is Charlie Brown supposed to be at his grandmother’s house? 10. Who got the bigger piece of the wishbone at the end? Answers: 1) Herself. 2) Linus, Charlie Brown and Woodstock. 3) No. 4) Turkey. 5) Pilgrim outfits. 6) Myles Standish. 7) Cereal and toast. 8) Linus. 9) 4:30 p.m. 10) Woodstock.

in two sizes: 22 inches and 17 inches. Trace the larger template onto the fabric and cut out two ovals (per pillow). Then trace the smaller oval on the back side of each of the large ovals. Have the kids cut 1-inch strips from the large oval edge to the drawn line of the smaller oval. Then tie the two pieces together with the strips, leaving a few open at the end so you can stuff with filling. Once stuffed, tie the remaining strips together. For an added touch, use white felt and hot glue to create the football stitches.

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OHANA THANKSGIVING MEAL Tuesday, November 21st 5pm (while supplies last) King’s Kauai presents: Celebrate Thanksgiving with a FREE MEAL 4368 Kukui Grove Street, Lihue SALVATION ARMY THANKSGIVING MEALS Wednesday, November 22 The Salvation Army 4465 Puolo Road, Hanapepe 10:30am –1pm SIT DOWN MEALS Lts. Jose & Drica Gonzalez 808-335-5441 Lihue Kauai War Memorial Convention Hall 10:30am –12:30pm TAKE OUT MEALS Majors George & Florence Rodriguera 808-245-2571 Events are subject to change without notice. Always call event first to confirm.

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THANKSGIVING DAY INTERFAITH SERVICE (nine different congregations) Thursday, November 23 Thanksgiving Day 10 –1pm FREE LUNCHEON for everyone in attendance All Saints Gym/All Saints Church Kapaa Delivery to Home Bound only, from Lihue to Anahola Sarah Rogers, kuipokauai@gmail.com 5K TURKEY TROT AND 9 HOLE TURKEY SHOOT Thursday, November 23 Thanksgiving Day 6 –9am Ocean Course Hokuala Lihue $35 entry fee Donate canned goods to Hawaii Foodbank Kauai Enter to win prizes Sign up online at www.downtownlihue.com/turkeytrot

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See how many of these words you can find. They can be forward, backward or diagonal. 1. THANKSGIVING 2. CRANBERRRIES 3. GRATITUDE 4. PIE 5. STUFFING 6. NOVEMBER 7. POTATOES 8. FALL 9. HAPPY 10. TURKEY 25

11. HOLIDAY 12. GOBBLE 13. FEAST 14. CORN 15. THURSDAY 16. FRIENDS 17. PUMPKINS 18. FAMILY 19. HAM 20. BREAK

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This story was recently shared with me and gave me a reflective pause. In a former sugar plantation town, the spirit of Christmas was more alive than ever. A group of seniors, who we affectionately call our kūpuna, gathered at the local community center, where good food, laughter, and friendship awaited them. Among the group was Clara, an 80-yearold woman with a heart full of kindness. She had been attending for years, cherishing the friendships she had formed with her fellow kūpuna. Clara and her friends gathered around a

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beautifully decorated Christmas tree, creating a magical atmosphere. Al, a talkative gentleman who enjoyed telling stories, began to recount a tale of his childhood Christmases. The room fell silent as they listened, their memories wandered to simpler times when Christmas meant homemade gifts and heartfelt moments. As Al shared his story, Clara couldn’t help but reflect on the importance of these gatherings. For many, their families were far away, and these gatherings were the highlights of their year. It was their chosen ohana, bound not by blood but by shared experiences. The room soon echoed with laughter and joy as they exchanged stories and jokes. As the day wore on, they gathered in a circle for a gift exchange. Clara had carefully crafted a beautiful hand-knitted scarf for Helen. Her eyes welled up with tears as she accepted the gift, grateful for the love and care that had gone into making it.

Alan had brought a collection of his favorite poems. He explained how these poems had brought him comfort and inspiration throughout his life and he hoped they would do the same for his friends. The room was filled with gratitude as they received his thoughtful gift. As Clara watched her friends exchange gifts, she realized that one of the most cherished gifts of Christmas was found in the love and companionship they shared. These friends had discovered that the secret to a joyous and fulfilling life was not the pursuit of material wealth but the nurturing of meaningful relationships.

As they gathered for a sing-along of classic Christmas carols, Al’s fingers strummed the ukulele gracefully as they sang with all their hearts, their voices harmonizing in a beautiful melody of love and unity. Inside the community center, the warmth of friendship and the spirit of Christmas echoed in their hearts. They knew that no matter the challenges that life had thrown their way, they had each other, and that was the most special gift of all. As they celebrated, Clara and her friends discovered the specialness of the holiday. It was a reminder that, regardless of age, the spirit of Christmas could always be

found in the gift of time and the love and laughter shared among friends. This story reflects the sentiment of our friends at the Kauaʻi Adult Day Health Center. It reminds me of the song lyrics originally sung by Louis Armstrong, A Wonderful World. I see skies of blue And clouds of white The bright blessed day The dark sacred night And I think to myself What a wonderful world The colors of the rainbow So pretty in the sky Are also on the faces Of people going by I see friends shaking hands Saying, “How do you do?” They’re really saying I love you Kauaʻi Adult Day Health Center is a non-profit organization that relies on donations and grant funding to make it possible for many kūpuna to attend. We are grateful for your consideration. Kurt Akamine Kurt.akamine@ohanapacific.com (808) 246-6919 Scan this QR code to watch a video about Kauai Adult Day Health Center and all we have to offer!

ohanapacific.com p: 808.431-4211 | c: 808.651-4566 3-3367 Kuhio Hwy, Lihue, HI 96766

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Take Control of Your Health:

6 Steps to Prevent a Fall Every 13 seconds, an older adult is seen in an emergency department for a fall-related injury. Many falls are preventable. Stay safe with these tips! Find good balance Find aagood balance and and exercise program. exercise program Look to build balance, strength, and flexibility. Look to build balance, strength, and flexibility. Contact local AreaonAgency Contact youryour local Area Agency Aging for on Aging for referrals. FindFind a program you like and takelike a friend. referrals. a program you and take a friend. Talk to your health care provider. Talk to your health care provider Ask for assessment ofofyour Ask for an an assessment of your risk falling.risk of falling. Share your history of recent falls. Share your history of recent falls. Regularly review medications Regularly review youryour medications with your doctor or pharmacist with your doctor or pharmacist. Make sure side effects aren’t increasing Make sure side effects aren’t increasing your risk your risk of falling. Take medications only as prescribed. of falling. Take medications only as prescribed. Get yourvision vision hearing checked Get your andand hearing checked annually and update annually and update your eyeglasses. your eyeglasses Your eyes and ears are key to keeping you Your eyes and ears are key to keeping you on your feet. on your feet. Keep your home Keep your home safesafe. Remove tripping hazards,hazards, i ncrease lighting, make lighting, Remove tripping increase stairs safe, and install grab bars in key areas. make stairs safe, and install grab bars in key areas.

Talk to family members Talk toyour your family members. Enlist their support in taking simple Enlist their support in taking simple steps to steps to stay safe. Falls are not just a seniors’ issue. stay safe. Falls are not just a seniors’ issue.

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SEND IN THE REINFORCEMENTS

Caring for the Caregiver BY PAM MOLNAR

Honor the caregivers you know, whether they are a family member, friend, neighbor, or co-worker. By showing them your support, you are taking away a bit of their burden, sadness, guilt or pain, if only for a moment. Not sure how you can help? Check out these 12 suggestions.

1. Give them much needed time off. Offer to sit in their place while they attend their child’s soccer game or spouse’s work dinner. You can drive to routine doctor appointments, take their patient on a small outing, or simply be on call for the day in the caregiver’s place. 2. Make them a home-cooked meal. The caregiver often lets their own health go while taking care of their loved one. As you plan your own dinner, make a double batch to take over to the caregiver’s house. Deliver the meal ready to eat. If you are not a cook yourself, offer the family a restaurant gift card so they can enjoy family time alone. 3. Offer to do a task. Caregivers have their hands full with their patient and the immediate needs of their family. Everything else takes a back seat.

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Don’t offer a general “let me know what I can do to help.” Instead, if you specifically offer to shop, mow the lawn, walk the dog, or handle a carpool, they will most likely take you up on it. 4. Write a handwritten note of encouragement. During this stressful and often sad time in the caregiver’s life, they need to be reminded that they are doing their best. Your letter will most likely be read and reread when the caregiver has a quiet moment and needs an extra pick-me-up. They might also enjoy you sharing a memory of their loved one during better times. 5. Bring awareness. While the caregiver is busy taking care of their sick patient, their friends and supporters might like to donate time and money to their cause. Gather people for a Relay for Life, play Bunco for Breast Cancer Awareness, or sponsor a golf outing with the proceeds going to their cause. Check with the caregivers for local needs like chemo packages at the hospital. 6. Make a de-stress basket. Include favorites for the caregiver like wine, homemade baked goods, magazines, and a gift certificate to a spa or spa items they can use at home. Either present as one large gift or spread it out for a week by sending a little gift each day. 7. Bring the party to them. If the caregiver has to routinely cancel plans in order to stay home with their loved one, have the event at their house. The caregiver’s friends will clean before and after the party, bring the food and drink, and provide the entertainment. Even an hour-long party will brighten the caregiver’s day.

8. Offer your expertise. Most of the caregiver’s responsibilities will be new to them. If you are a nurse, offer to help administer medication. Estate planners or lawyers may also want to answer questions that come up. Friends that have served as caregivers in the past can be the best guides during this difficult process. 9. Be the shoulder to cry on. Sometimes the caregiver just needs to vent about their patient, the doctors, the time they’ve had to take off work, or the unfairness of it all. Often the caregiver wants someone to listen and empathize, not necessarily propose a solution. In other words, they just need a friend. 10. Keep inviting. Long-term caregivers can feel like their friends have forgotten them after the initial first few months in their new position. The cards, care packages, and invitations quit coming. Extend the invites to parties as well as for a walk around their neighborhood with them. If they say no, don’t badger. Offer a rain check and ask again next time. Eventually, they will take you up on it. 11. Keep the caregiver smiling. Send a funny card in the mail. Email a daily joke. Text a silly picture or a meme. Try to break the cycle of seriousness, if only for a moment. It shows the caregiver that you are still thinking about them. 12. Help to fill the gap. A longtime caregiver’s job often ends due to the death of their patient, leaving a large void in their life. Not only did their loved one pass away, but their identity as a caregiver and daily routine has come to an abrupt end. Offer your support to help them get back on their feet and find a new normal.

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CHOKING FIRST AID In a medical emergency, the first thing you should do is call 911.

BY EDIE MANN

ADULTS & CHILDREN OVER ONE

YOURSELF Try coughing up the object

1 Give 5 back blows

Give 5 abdominal thrusts

Repeat 5 & 5 until object is dislodged

PREGNANT WOMEN

2 Thrust your fist inward & upward 3

2 Stand behind her & give her 5 back blows

Add more pressure with a stable object

Place your arms under her armpits & around her chest

Conduct thrusts in a backward & upward motion

INFANTS UNDER ONE Alternate 5 back blows and 5 chest compressions until the object is dislodged

5 BACK BLOWS

5 CHEST COMPRESSIONS

1 Assume a seated position and rest your non-dominant arm on your thigh, holding the infant face down on your forearm, supporting their jaw with your hand. 2 Using the heel of your dominant hand, firmly thump the infant 5 times on the middle of the back. 3 If the back blows do not work, turn the infant over (face up) on your forearm with the head lower than the trunk. 4 Using 2 fingers placed at the center of the breastbone, give 5 rapid chest compressions. 5 Alternate 5 back blows and 5 chest compressions until object is dislodged.

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Being prepared in the event that your child or grandchild chokes is essential, but better yet is to prevent choking incidents altogether. Here are some valuable tips, facts and hazards to avoid to help you keep your little ones safe.

FOOD-RELATED CHOKING IN CHILDREN FOOD ACCOUNTS FOR MORE THAN 50% OF CHOKING INCIDENTS IN CHILDREN An average of 12,400 children ages 0–14 are treated in emergency rooms for non-fatal food-related choking each year.

HARD CANDY

Hard candy causes 15% of non-fatal choking episodes in children, while other kinds of candy cause 13%. Meat other than hot dogs accounts for 12% of choking, as do bones.

TIPS FOR PARENTS

• Cut food into small pieces. • Supervise children while they eat. • Make sure your child chews thoroughly. • Ensure they do not rush or overstuff their mouths. • Be sure that children are always sitting down to eat. • Do not let your child talk, play, run or lie down with food in their mouths.

HOT DOGS

Hot dogs are the food most commonly associated with fatal choking incidents. They are cylindrical, airway sized and compressible, allowing them to wedge into the entrance of the esophagus and completely block the airway. Other foods parents need to be mindful of include hard foods the diameter of your pinky, such as raw carrots, corn and nuts. Cutting foods such as grapes into quarters can greatly reduce the risk of choking. Other hazardous food items not recommended for children younger than 5: • Chunks of raw vegetables • Chunks of meat or cheese • Chunks of peanut butter • Chewing gum • Popcorn

NONFOOD-RELATED CHOKING IN CHILDREN Small objects that can cause choking include coins, buttons, marbles, small hair bows, rubber bands, pen caps, refrigerator magnets and pieces of dog food.

TIPS FOR PARENTS

• Follow recommended age ranges on toys and games as these guidelines take into account potential choking hazards. • Be wary of latex balloons. If a child bites a balloon and takes a breath, he or she could suck it into his or her airway and choke. This content is only for informational purposes and is not intended to be a substitute for proper first aid training.

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Electronic Waste Recycle

Open to Businesses and Residents for FREE!* visit www.kauai.gov/eWaste or call 241-

6 Days a Week! Puhi Metals Recycling Facility, 3951 Puhi Road, Mon-Fri 7:30AM-3:30PM Operated by Resource Recovery Solutions Phone: 808-245-6919 All material is sent to an e-Steward or R2 certified recycler

*Large eWaste such as commercial printers and industrial electronics may be subject to packing and handling fee, call 245-6919 for more information Accepted:

Not Accepted:

Computer systems and accessories, cellular phones & accessories, office equipment, & audio & video equipment. Small computer speakers only.

Non-computer batteries, packaging, contaminated equipment, cracked or broken CRT screens, smoke detectors, and hazardous or non-eWaste items, stereo speakers.

Full List available at www.kauai.gov/eWaste

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CELEBRATE EVERY MONTH IN THE

NEW YEAR!

JAN

feb

mar

JANUARY 13

FEBRUARY 20

MARCH 3-4

National Rubber Ducky Day

National Love Your Pet Day

National Day of Unplugging

aug

sep

National Rubber Ducky Day gets its date from the classic childrens’ show Sesame Street. In a 1973 episode, Ernie announced his beloved bathtime toy’s birthday was January 13.

JULY 16

AUGUST 8

jul

National Ice Cream Day

The third Sunday of July is National Ice Cream Day! Beat the summer heat with a few scoops from your favorite spot, or maybe you and your keiki want to try making your own.

Sleep Under the Stars Night

Pitch a tent or bundle up under blankets in the backyard or on your lanai. Read books about constellations, shine a flashlight in the sky to make your own, and enjoy the outdoors as you turn your gaze upward.

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From sundown on March 3 to sundown on March 4, families are encouraged to unplug from technology and tune in to each other. Put your phones away and enjoy a device-free 24 hours.

SEPTEMBER 19

Talk Like a Pirate Day

Argh, matey! Shiver me timbers! Spend the day talking like your favorite swashbuckler. Don an eye patch, eat chocolate gold coins and dig for buried treasure, but don’t walk the plank!

apr

may

jun

APRIL 9

MAY 31

JUNE 17

National Unicorn Day

National Smile Day

National Eat Your Veggies Day

nov

dec

The most popular mythical creature in the world represents magic, fantasy and joy. On this day, create unicorn art, watch unicorn movies and make unicorn cookies— with extra sprinkles!

OCTOBER 5

NOVEMBER 14

DECEMBER 13

Who doesn’t love to spend the day in their favorite PJs? Sleep in or snuggle up. Get your pets in on thefun, too. If you’re really planning ahead, now is the perfect time to snap that holiday card photo.

Welcome winter by indulging in a cup of hot chocolate. Learn about the history of drinking cocoa, said to have been started by the Mayans around 500 BC, or have a topping taste test: marshmallows or whipped cream?

oct

National Do Something Nice Day

You and your family can show kindness in big and small ways on this day. Volunteer at a local charity, hold the door for a stranger, give compliments or write a letter to a loved one.

National Family PJ Day

We should be eating our veggies every day, but on this day, eat a few more than usual. Life is all about balance, so after you finish your peas and carrots, have some dessert because it’s also National Apple Strudel Day!

National Cocoa Day

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Lucky draw, giveaways and more! Many healthcare organizations participating For updates, scan our Facebook QR code or visit us online at www.kauai.hhsc.org For more information call (808) 338-9247

Living

HEALTHY

Budget Friendly Holiday Traditions BY SARAH LYONS

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Tis the season for shopping, cooking, decorating and celebrating with friends and family — all of which can start to stretch the pocketbook. But not to worry! No matter your budget, your family can enjoy meaningful holiday traditions. 1. Bake cookies for Santa (and others). Set aside a few dozen for first responders and deliver them with your kids. Turn to page 44 for yummy (and adorable) ideas. 2. Have a Christmas movie marathon. Curl up on the couch and watch your favorite Christmas movies as a family. Turn to page 50 for some of our favorites. 3. Make homemade ornaments. When your kids are grown, they can use them to decorate their own tree. Turn to page 53 to make the ‘I‘iwi Bird ornament. 4. Count down to Christmas. Create a homemade advent countdown calendar. Find lots of fun, unique ideas online. 5. Go on a tour of Christmas light displays in your area. See pages 14 and 20 for lists of our favorites happenings. 6. “Camp-in.” After decorating the tree, get out the sleeping bags and “camp” under it for the night. 7. Wear family pajamas. Pick out matching pajamas for the whole family to wear on Christmas Eve and Day. For a low-cost option, choose plain colored t-shirts and basic flannel pants. 8. Play holiday tunes each morning as you’re getting ready for your day and in the evenings when you’re all back home from work and school. Scan this QR code for a playlist of some of our favorites.

9. Visit Santa. Take the kids to visit Santa or write him a letter and mail it. 10. Gather friends and family and go caroling in your neighborhood or at a local senior center. BONUS: SPREAD THE ALOHA! Consider a contribution to one of the charities supporting Maui families affected by the fires. Turn to page 79 for one option. 11. Christmas Egg Hunt. You guessed it: it’s just like an Easter Egg Hunt. 12. Make “reindeer food.” Mix rolled oats with red and green sugar sprinkles. Have the kids sprinkle it on the lawn before bed so the reindeer can refuel while Santa visits your home. 13. Read holiday classics by the fire. Collect Christmas books (check local thrift stores) and wrap them. Have the kids unwrap and read one (or one chapter) each day leading up to Christmas. 14. Enjoy a big Christmas breakfast together. Make a breakfast casserole the night before so you can enjoy the morning with your family. 15. Bless others. Sure, you could buy new toys to donate to charity. But why not have your kids pick out toys they don’t play with anymore to donate? Just make sure they are still in good, working condition. By giving their own belongings, kids can truly experience the joy of helping others. 16. Provide a meal. Help a family in need stock up on items that can be used to make a special holiday dinner. 17. Have a clothing drive. Go through your closets and donate what you no longer need. Consider collecting clothes in your community to donate as well.

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It’s time to make

Christmas

COOKIES THESE MELTED SNOWMAN COOKIES ARE ALMOST TOO CUTE TO EAT! Baking cookies together is a timeless tradition that creates childhood memories and magical moments in the kitchen. We bet your family has favorite recipes, but we recommend adding a few new ones, too.

When there’s a tower of flour, sugar and colorful sprinkles in the grocery store entrance, it must be holiday baking season. YUMMY!

TALK ABOUT KID-FRIENDLY: THESE EASY-PEASY NUTTER BUTTER REINDEER TREATS Scan this QR code to DON’T REQUIRE BAKING. YOU JUST get complete recipes DIP, DECORATE for these adorable & DEVOUR! (and delicious!) cookies - and lots more - from Sara at MyImperfectKitchen.com

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The holiday season gives us the opportunity to pause and reflect on the important things and people around us, whether it be those we love or those in need in our community.

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Kauai

Craft Fairs Saturday, November 18 • 8:30am-1:30pm 43RD ANNUAL KAUAI HANDWORKS CRAFTS FAIR Kauai Veterans Center, Lihue www.kauaihandworks.com Saturday, November 25 • 10am-3pm KAUAI MADE CRAFT SHOW Kukui Grove Center Saturday, December 2 • 9:30am-12:30pm GROVE FARM HOLIDAY FAIR Grove Farm Puhi Park Saturday, December 9 • 9am-2pm KAUAI MADE HOLLY JOLLY HOLIDAY FAIR Sheraton Coconut Beach Resort www.kauaimade.net Sunday, December 10, • 9am-1pm THE BEACH HOUSE RESTAURANT CRAFT FAIR Poipu

Events are subject to change without notice. Always call event first to confirm.

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Home for the Holidays with Leah Ragsac, Kauai Realty

Creating fun traditions in your home for the holidays can foster a warm and inviting atmosphere that your family will cherish today and for years to come. Here are some ideas to get you started: DECORATE TOGETHER. Make decorating the house a family affair. Let each family member have a say in the decorations, whether it’s for Valentines Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas, or any other holiday you celebrate. You can even have a decorating competition. In our home, our tradition at Christmas is putting out all of our nativity scenes. BAKING DAY. Pick a day for baking holiday treats like cookies, gingerbread houses, or pies. Everyone can help bake — and, of course, enjoy the homemade goodies! MOVIE MARATHON. Designate a day to have a holiday movie marathon. Create a cozy movie-watching area with blankets and pillows, and let each family member choose their favorite holiday films. CRAFTING. Get creative with holiday-themed crafts. Make ornaments, wreaths, or homemade holiday cards together. These crafts can also serve as decorations for your home. THEMED DINNER. Host a themed holiday dinner or potluck. Food and decorations can align with the chosen theme. MATCHING CHRISTMAS PJS. We started wearing matching Christmas pajamas and it’s been one of our family favorites! We use our PJs throughout the holiday season, for our Christmas family photo and you’ll even catch us wearing them at the grocery store sometimes. It’s a meaningful way to bond, be unified as a family, and have fun! Remember, the key to cultivating lasting traditions is to make them enjoyable and inclusive for everyone in the family. These activities will create cherished memories and make your home a place your family always looks forward to returning to during the holidays.

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Happy Holidays from all of us here

at Grove Farm! The holiday season is a time to reflect on the past year and look ahead to what we can accomplish in 2024!

Recipe submitted by Sunee Putisan

Green Papaya Salad - Som Tum In E-Sarn, the Northeastern area of Thailand, we find Som Tum, a vibrant green papaya salad. “Som” refers to the delightful sourness of the dish, while “Tum” represents the rhythmic pounding sound of the large pestle used to crush the ingredients.

Ingredients

2 chilies 2 cloves garlic (peeled) 3 tablespoons fresh lime juice 2 tablespoons palm sugar 21/2 tablespoons fish sauce 1 green papaya (1 - 11/2 pounds)

Instructions

4 long beans (halved) 1 medium tomato (cut into small chunks) 1 tablespoon dry roasted peanuts (for garnish)

1. Pound chilies and garlic with a pestle and mortar, or finely mince them. 2. In medium bowl, make the dressing by whisking together lime juice, palm sugar and fish sauce until sugar is dissolved. 3. Remove outer skin of papaya, cut in half and remove seeds. Julienne the papaya using a mandolin or sharp knife. Soak papaya strips in a bowl of ice water for 15 minutes to increase crunchiness; then drain well. 5. Crush the long beans with mortar and pestle or flat side of knife. 6. Add all ingredients to a bowl, then top with the dressing and peanuts. 7. Serve and enjoy! 48 www.kauaifamilymagazine.com

Biko

Biko is an easy homemade dessert that never fails to transport me back to my childhood in the Phillipines. Of all the kankanen (desserts) I watched my mom and ladies in our neighborhood cook, baked biko has always been my favorite!

Ingredients

4 cups glutinous/sweet rice 3 cans coconut milk 11/2 cups water

Instructions

4 cups brown sugar 1 teaspoon salt Ube extract

1. In a rice cooker, combine rice, one can of coconut milk, water and ube extract (if desired). Cook as directed. 2. In a separate pan, combine two cans of coconut milk, brown sugar (to taste) and ube extract. Cook mixture over low heat, stirring, constantly, until it thickens to desired texture. 3. Once the rice mixture is done cooking, add to the mixture in step 2; mix well and continue cooking until all liquid evaporates. 4. Transfer biko to a service plate, flatten and top with latik (recipe below). This dish is best served warm!

To make latik

In a pan over medium heat, add thawed coconut cream. Bring to a boil, stirring occasionally until it starts to thicken. Lower heat to prevent burning as the oil begins to separate. Cook until curds turn golden brown. Drain the latik from the oil. Recipe submitted by Mary Jane Omi

Grove Farm Holiday Craft Fair

Saturday, December 2, 2023 9:30am to 12:30pm Grove Farm Puhi Park

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GOOD STUFF

the whole family will love

Pop some popcorn, brew up a batch of hot cocoa, grab a blanket, and cozy up with your family to one (or all) of these family favorite holiday classics! 50 www.kauaifamilymagazine.com

No matter how you and your family celebrate, the holiday season is the perfect time to curl up on the couch with your loved ones and watch classic holiday movies. Some will have you in stitches while others will tug at your heart strings, but we assure you, none will leave you disappointed. Watch them throughout the month of December or wait and have a movie marathon on Christmas Day. Either way, you’ll be making lasting memories for everyone from keiki to kupuna!

Elf

(2003) Perhaps the ultimate goal for any family favorite holiday movie is to join the pantheon of films that air for 24 hours straight on TBS. Classics like A Christmas Story have enjoyed that status for decades, and now Elf can count itself amongst that rare breed of films. This hilarious and heart-felt story about a misplaced elf searching for his father in New York City is filled with quotable one-liners from start to finish.

Home Alone

(1990) Home Alone, the film that launched a young Macaulay Culkin into international stardom, continues a long tradition of zany, slap-stick holiday films that families love. When 8-year-old Kevin McCallister (played by Culkin) is accidentally left home alone during a family vacation, he must protect the house at all costs from two moronic, would-be serial burglars. Let the hijinks ensue!

The Polar Express

(2004) This animated fantasy feature film is equal parts warm and nostalgic, playing on our deepest feelings for the holiday season. Based on the beloved children’s book of the same name written and illustrated by Chris Van Allsburg, this uplifting movie chronicles the adventures of a young boy who takes a magical train ride to the North Pole where he discovers the true meaning of Christmas.

How the Grinch Stole Christmas

(2000) Yes, there is the animated 1966 adaptation of this classic Dr. Seuss story (plus a more recent 2018 animated feature), but we’re talking about the live-action film starring Jim Carrey. This movie does everything right; from the wonderful depiction of Whoville, an Oscar-worthy performance from the king of slapstick himself, and a touching story about spreading love during the holidays.

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer

(1964) The true test for any family favorite holiday movie is if it can stand the test of time. Considering this classic stop-motion film is still capturing the hearts of young movie watchers in the 21st century, we think it’s safe to say this film passes with flying (reindeer) colors. This nostalgic fable of Santa’s favorite reindeer who saves Christmas is a must-watch every year.

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I Ola Nā Manu Nahele

So the native forest birds thrive

Mahalo nui loa for all the support you have given this year to Kauaʻiʻs beautiful nā manu nahele. Our birds are unique, stunningly beautiful, and among the rarest forest birds in the world. The Kauaʻi Forest Bird Recovery Project and Birds, Not Mosquitoes are thankful for conversations and connections with all of you! Whether we chatted at the Kaua‘i Ag Fest, visited your school, gave a presentation to your organization, or bumped into you hiking in Kōke‘e, we felt the love Kaua‘i has for our native forest birds and our beautiful forests.

With your help, we: Coordinated support and education for the passage of a State and County of Kaua’i resolution celebrating honeycreepers Organized and hosted honeycreeper celebration events across the state Raised awareness about conservation actions, like mosquito control, to mālama our forest birds Filmed a documentary about the last ‘akikiki in the wild Brought many of the last ‘akikiki under human care to prevent their extinction in the wild Continued to control rats benefitting native forest birds on the Alaka’i Plateau Continued to conduct research vital to effective conservation of the “jewels of the rainforest”

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‘I‘IWI

‘APAPANE

Graham Talaber photos

The Kauaʻi Forest Bird Recovery Project and Birds, Not Mosquitoes wish you a delightful holiday season! We hope that you can spend some time with your ‘ohana to make this beautiful ‘i‘iwi ornament (Design by Monika Mira) and continue to re-establish your pilina (relationship) with our native forest birds. Scan this QR code for a link to our YouTube channel with lots of videos to learn about our native forest birds. Together, we are making a difference, resisting extinction, and bringing native bird songs back into our forests. Kauaiforestbirds.org info@kauaiforestbirds.org 808 335 5078

Holiday Activity ‘I‘IWI Bird Holiday Ornament Scan this QR code and print out the ornament template. Gather the supplies needed. Follow the steps below to make your ornament.

SUPPLIES NEEDED scissors coloring pens glue hole puncher string

1 5

3 6 4 6 2

Scan this QR code for video instructions.

1. Color and cut out all pieces.

2. Glue tail feathers back to back.

3. Glue wings back to back, matching A top with A bottom and B top with B bottom. 4. Glue bird body back to back.

5. Fold wing at line above feathers. Glue to body at dots.

6. Cut slit in tail feathers and body tail; insert perpendicularly. 7. Punch hole and insert string to hang.

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County of Kauai Parks and Recreation

WINTER FUN PROGRAM Dec. 26, 2023 – Jan. 5, 2024 • Tues. – Fri., 7:30am – 4:30pm

Program information & online registration: recreation.kauai.gov/wbwsc/webtrac.wsc/SPLASH.html Enrollment opens Wed., Nov. 22, 2023 at 8am. Space is limited. Kekaha Neighborhood Center (808) 337-1671 Kalaheo Neighborhood Center (808) 332-9770 Lihue Neighborhood Center (808) 241-6858 Anahola Clubhouse (808) 822-1931

AGES 5–11 • $50 PER CHILD

Please provide snacks, lunch and a drink for your child(ren). If you need an auxilary aid/service or other accomodation due to a disability, contact Melanie Okamoto at (808) 241-4462 or mokamoto@kauai.gov ASAP to allow adequate time to fulfill the request. This notice is available in alternate formats such as large print, Braille or electronic copy upon request.

FOR

K EIKI IN GRADES K-12

WINTER PROGRAMS WRESTLING

WILL BE OFFERED THROUGH NOVEMBER & PICK UP AGAIN IN THE SPRING.

Waimea Tues., Wed. & Thurs. at Waimea Baptist Church; K-12th: 6:30-8PM Kapaa Thurs. & Fri. at the Kapaa K-PAL Youth Center (behind Mahelona Hospital); K-12th: 4:30-6PM Lihue Tues., Thurs. & Sat. at the Kauai High School Cafeteria K-8th: 3:15-4:45PM (Beginners) 9th-12th: 4:45-6:15PM (Experienced) Sat.: K-12th: 12:00-2:00PM

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No program on 1/1/24

BOXING

Kapaa

K-5TH CLASSES AT KAPAA ARE FULL; REGISTRATIONS CLOSED.

Mon. & Wed. at the Kapaa K-PAL Youth Center (behind Mahelona Hospital) 6th-12th: 6-7PM Hanapepe Tues., Wed. & Thurs. on Puolo Road next to the Hanapepe Armory K-5th: 5-6PM 6th-8th: 6-7PM 9th-12th: 7-8PM To register for wrestling or boxing, scan this QR code or visit www.kauaipal.org

Contact Chuck (808) 645-0080 cbedford@kauai.gov

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Happy, Healthy Holidays! By Dr. Clyner Antalan Wilcox OB-GYN

It’s a season of joy and family time. It’s also a time of shopping, wrapping, cooking, cleaning and everything needed to make holiday magic happen. For expectant or new parents, the festive activities may be more challenging. “The holidays can be one of the happiest and most stressful times of the year,” said Dr. Clyner Antalan, OB-GYN chief at Wilcox Medical Center. “Even if you don’t have much free time, it is important to prioritize self-care to help you manage stress and help boost your immune system.” When you have a moment, go for a walk. Get enough sleep and stay wellhydrated, even during shopping expeditions. Once you’ve found those perfect presents, get help carrying them. “Try not to lift anything over 20 pounds when you’re pregnant,” Antalan said. “Keep your back straight; lift using your legs, not your back; carry items close to your body and don’t twist your torso.” When you stop for a bite, eat mindfully. Antalan suggests finishing a plate of protein and vegetables before dipping into desserts. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says pregnant women are at increased

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risk of food poisoning, so make sure items with raw eggs — eggnog, hollandaise sauce, tiramisu — use pasteurized ones. Or avoid them all together. Soft cheeses including Camembert, brie, feta and blue-veined cheeses may have harmful bacteria, since they are often made with raw or unpasteurized milk. Hard cheeses are better choices.

Definitely do not skip regular doctor’s appointments. Your physician is a great resource and so is your ‘ohana. “As a new mom or mom-to-be, your friends and family are there to help,” Antalan said. “Let them take the lead on holiday chores so you can make the most of the season with your loved ones.” For more information, go to WilcoxHealth.org/Maternity.

Even if you don’t have much free time, it is important to prioritize self-care. This not only helps you manage stress but can also help boost your immune system.”

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What Is Gestational Diabetes? (and why it’s important for pregnant moms) Heidi J. Purcell, MD Obstetrics/Gynecology HHSC Kauai Region: The Clinic at Waimea

As part of routine prenatal care, your physician will order several blood tests to ensure that your pregnancy is progressing safely. One important test is the screening test for gestational diabetes, a condition that can develop when the hormones from pregnancy interfere with the mother’s ability to process sugar. This leads to high blood sugar levels, which can affect both the mother and the baby. Often, the condition can be managed with dietary and lifestyle adjustments, but other times patients will require medication to keep the blood glucose levels safe to avoid complications.

Complications from gestational diabetes range in severity and include: Fetal growth problems Delivery complications (increased C-sections, delivery with forceps or vacuum, or birth trauma)

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Newborn problems like jaundice and difficulty maintaining sugar levels after delivery, which can require advanced care in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit Gestational diabetes is also associated with preeclampsia – another dangerous pregnancy complication involving blood pressure. The good news is, many of these complications are preventable. Risk factors for gestational diabetes include the following: Being overweight, obese or physically inactive Having previous pregnancies affected by gestational diabetes or very large infants Having medical conditions like heart disease, hypertension or polycystic ovarian syndrome Sometimes, however, a patient will develop gestational diabetes without any risk factors. Most of the time, patients with gestational diabetes are asymptomatic, which is why we screen everyone during pregnancy. Participating in group prenatal care programs like our CenteringPregnancy program through HHSC Kauai Region is a great way to learn how to stay healthy and prevent gestational diabetes. Through CenteringPregnancy, patients and their families participate in a community-based prenatal care environment where education and the patient experience is prioritized to keep both mom and baby safe. Call us today for more information at the Clinic at Waimea 808-338-8311.

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MESSAGE FROM DANIEL HAMADA INTERIM KAUAI COMPLEX AREA SUPERINTENDENT

Aloha! The start of each academic year brings excitement and anticipation for students, teachers and parents. Our Kauai Complex Area schools began this academic year on a very positive start, with clear intention, and students continuing to demonstrate positive growth. Parents and community are assured that our teachers, support staff, and administrators continue to work tirelessly in providing our students that quality education with that ultimate goal in preparing them for college, careers and citizenship. We encourage parents to stay informed and continue to be an active partner in your children’s education. To our community partners, thank you for always being there in supporting our schools. Kauai’s specialness continues to be seen in our strong sense of community as it does take a community to raise a child! With 2024 soon upon us, wishing everyone a terrific and rewarding 2023! Happy Holidays! Sincerely,

Daniel S. Hamada Kauai Complex Area Superintendent

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Reading Aloud to Animals Can Boost Kids’ Literacy Skills Learn four ways early and struggling readers can bond with pets and shelter animals, while practicing reading without judgment. It’s often said that a dog is man’s best friend. But did you know that dogs, cats, birds and pretty much any pet can be a friend to a struggling reader? Family pets, shelter animals or even visiting animals at your local library can help enhance your child’s reading skills. Here are just a few ways practicing reading aloud to animals can benefit your child:

MOTIVATION

If you were a child who was told you could pick any book to read aloud without your mistakes being corrected, your motivation to read would jump up a few notches. That’s

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exactly what happens when we provide the opportunity for kids to practice reading to animals. Often, children will bond with the animal they are reading to and be motivated to visit that animal over and over again to read aloud.

CONFIDENCE

Struggling and reluctant readers often lack confidence when reading, especially when reading aloud. When a child reads to an animal, there is no pressure or judgment. A child can stumble through a word, read at a choppy rate, or take an extended amount of time to read a passage. The animal remains a consistent listening companion. Over time, a child will begin to feel more comfortable reading aloud, thus building reading confidence.

FLUENCY

Reading fluency, including reading speed and phrasing, improves with reading aloud and practicing the same material over and over. Animals don’t mind if a child reads Go, Dog, Go! by P.D. Eastman 20 times in a row. In fact, we suspect that’s most dogs’ favorite book. This safe listening environment provides opportunities for kids to rack up lots of practice time.

READING FOR A PURPOSE

The benefits of reading to animals aren’t just for the children. Animals love the attention. Kids have a sense of purpose when they know the animals are benefiting from their kindness through the act of reading. Have your young or struggling reader give reading to an animal a try. You will be pleased to see your child’s — and the animal’s — love of reading flourish.

Where can you find an animal for your child to practice reading? Here are a few options. FAMILY PETS

If you have a family pet, then your child has a built-in reading partner every day of the week. Dogs, cats, hamsters, fish and birds all make good listening partners. A neighbor’s or an extended family member’s pet can also work if you don’t have your own.

SHELTER ANIMALS

There are many animals who spend long days in small spaces with limited human interaction. Many shelters allow kids to read to the animals and boy, do these animals love it! Check with a shelter near you for availability, hours and other requirements.

SERVICE ANIMALS

Check your local library for Reading to Animal programs. Many have service animals who visit on select days. The service animals are specially trained to sit or lay still next to the child during their reading session, making them perfect for kids who aren’t as accustomed to being around animals.

STUFFED ANIMALS

Perhaps your child has allergies and reading to a live animal just isn’t possible. A stuffed animal friend can serve the same role. Little ones especially love to read to their favorite stuffie.

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Looking for a good book for your keiki? Check out these new books available from the Hawaii State Public Library System.

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Telling Stories Wrong

By Gianni Rodari

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No Is All I Know! By Chris Grabenstein; Illustrated by Leo Espinosa RANDOM HOUSE BOOKS FOR YOUNG READERS, 2023 PICTURE BOOK, PREK-K

Oliver says “no” to everything from brushing his teeth to eating ice cream. But when his agreeable cousin Jess visits, Oliver learns what is possible when you say “yes.”

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In this hilarious Italian import, Grandpa tells the story of Little Red Riding Hood all wrong, and so his granddaughter is obliged to correct him!

A Vaccine Is Like a Memory

By Rajani Larocca, MD; Illustrated by Kathleen Marcotte LITTLE BEE BOOKS, 2023 CHILDREN’S NONFICTION, K-GR 4

Physician and Newbery Honoree Larocca explains how vaccines work in simple, child-friendly language. She tells a brief history of vaccines developed for diseases from smallpox to COVID-19. The back matter shows kinds of germs, common infections for which we have vaccines, and types of vaccines.

A First Time For Everything By Dan Santat

FIRST SECOND, 2023 CHILDREN’S BIOGRAPHY, GR 5-9

In this graphic novel memoir, 13-year-old Dan takes a formational school trip to Europe the summer after middle school. He experiences many “firsts,” including Fanta, a discotheque, and a kiss. His story is full of humor, adventure, and poignant moments relatable to anyone familiar with the awkwardness and earnestness of adolescence. Holiday 2023 65

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e s i a Ra By Bernard Riola, M.D.

Pediatrician KVMH Waimea Alumnus Saint Theresa School Two of the first things we teach our children to say are, “please“ and “thank you.” What we are instilling in them is gratitude, in which children show appreciation and not take things for granted. As children grow up, we should aim to move beyond just saying please and thank you, teaching them the meaning behind the words. Learning to be grateful can help build childrens’ relationships, teach them to empathize and improve their overall happiness. Here are some tips to teaching children the importance and many benefits of gratitude.

Lead by example. Kids learn by watching their parents, so offering a genuine “thank you” to others will teach them to do the same. Remember to also say “thank you” to your children when they are being helpful, even if it is routine chores like putting away their toys. This reinforces the behavior and shows appreciation for them. 68 www.kauaifamilymagazine.com

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Discuss feelings. Younger children

may have trouble understanding the emotional side of gratitude. Sit down and ask them how they feel when someone says thank you to them for doing something nice, or how they feel if they don’t. Discussing feelings will help them understand how their behavior affects others.

Find people to show appreciation.

Ask your child about people who help them, whether it is a coach, neighbor, fireman, or teacher. Then come up with a fun way to show appreciation, such a baking cookies or cupcakes and giving it to them. It’s not only fun, but helps children realize how we are all connected.

Put things into perspective. Here

on Kauai, we can easily take things for granted. Living in paradise with great weather and friendly communities can shield us from a realistic world perspective. Talk to your children when you come across someone who is

Here on Kauai, we can easily take things for granted. Living in paradise with great weather and friendly communities can shield us from a realistic world perspective. unwell or perhaps experiencing homelessness. Understanding that not everyone has the same advantages in life will help foster compassion for others and gratitude for what they have.

Discuss how things are made.

In addition to being thankful for their clothes, toys, and food, talk to your children about all the people involved in its production. For example, farmers work hard to grow and harvest the food. Then someone cleans and boxes it. A truck driver delivers it, and a grocer organizes and sells it. Mom and dad work hard to earn money to buy it, and finally, someone has to cook it. This not only teaches them a little about how the world works, but to be thankful to the many different people involved.

Don’t forget to ask “why?” In addition to asking what they are thankful for, be sure to also ask why. A house keeps them warm at night, food helps them grow big and strong. If they are having a hard time, give them an

example, “I’m thankful for this dress your aunty gave me. She was thinking about me, and knew this was my favorite color, and it reminds me that she loves me.”

Make gratitude a part of bedtime.

When tucking your child in at bedtime, ask your child to name three things they are thankful for. Make sure you have them name three new things each night. If they are having a hard time coming up with things, drop hints to guide them. They can name little things like having their favorite lunch at school to bigger things like getting to play with their favorite cousin.

Recognize gratitude in other forms.

Not all children express their thanks by actually saying thank you. Keep an eye out for nonverbal expressions of of gratitude like a hug, a thumbs up, or even a simple (but genuine) smile. You might then want to prompt them, “Are you smiling because you are thankful for the toy you got?” They might be feeling gratitude but not realize it.

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Malama Your Mouth By Dr. Michael Lutwin, DDS

It’s holiday season on Kauai! Our keiki are full of trick-or-treat candy; Thanksgiving pies are baking; Christmas and New Year’s celebrations —with cherished holiday meal traditions —are just around the corner. It is a magical time of year, yet the holidays can also bring dental health concerns for our ohana. We offer some tips to ensure a healthy holiday season.

Be picky if it’s sticky! We love our mochi, but starchy/sticky foods, even dried fruits, hang longer on teeth and cause more cavities. We’re not suggesting you be a Grinch, but limit these foods and choose healthy snacks instead (hint: carrots = reindeer food!). Drink water: Avoid sodas, sports drinks, and juices with lots of sugar. There’s plenty of sugar in everything else this season.

Don’t forget the dentist! The holidays can be a busy time, but Keep your routine. From family feasts if your ohana members are due to late night parades and fireworks, for their teeth cleaning or need work it’s easy to get off your regular routine. done, don’t put it off. Add in holiday sweets, and perhaps this is the most important time of the Malama your mouth during holiday year for keiki (and you) to brush twice time and all year long because a a day, for two minutes (each time). healthy mouth means a healthy life!

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“And the seasons, they go round and round” — LYRICS BY JONI MITCHELL FROM THE CIRCLE GAME

By Monty Downs, M.D. Medical Director, Kauai Hospice

When the Holidays Aren’t So Happy Each of us deals with loss and sorrow in our own way. And that’s exactly how it should be.

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Joni Mitchell sang “And the seasons, they go round and round.” Sure enough, just like that, the holidays are here!

Well, then, what can we do? There isn’t one simply, magical answer because people have different perspectives, experiences and personalities.

For many, it is the season of joy, of sleigh bells, mistletoe and candy canes, Ho Ho Ho, beautiful carols, and time spent with loved ones.

Some of us are stoic, with a “stiff upper lip,” seemingly managing the pain without demonstrating outward signs of emotionally decompensating.

Unfortunately, for others it can be an exceptionally difficult and sorrowful time. In my life’s work — first as an ER doctor for 50 years and now as the Medical Director of Kauai Hospice — I have witnessed it far too often.

Others let their emotions fly. Their pain is obvious and demonstrative. Often, by “letting it out,” these people process the grief and manage to move forward with their lives (self care, cooking, going back to work, etc.) in a reasonable amount of time.

Obviously, the Lahaina tragedy is acutely on all our minds. Children were lost, parents were lost, grandparents were lost. Friends and relatives were lost. Beloved pets were lost. That’s not to mention homes and personal treasures gathered over the years. Unimaginable horror — and yet, all-too-real for those directly affected. Many people suffer losses that don’t make the headlines, but that doesn’t make their pain less real or debilitating. People who are grieving the loss of a loved one, especially if the loss was recent — but even if the loss was years ago — can be particularly impacted by sadness during the holiday season. SUPPORTING OTHERS What can we do to help a friend or loved one who has experienced a tragic loss? We’ll start with what we can’t do — and it’s what we really want to do — turn back the clock. We can’t make the loss go away. If only ...

Then there are some people who simply cannot break out of their grief. They remain severely depressed and despondent, unable to function the way they used to before the loss. We call this “complicated grief.” For those who suffer “complicated grief,” it’s imperative that you get professional help. If need be, enlist the help of a friend or family member to get you to a doctor. Getting counseling is also advisable, and medication can be beneficial in situations of profound grief, sorrow and depression. If you are a person of faith, you might lean into the teachings of your religion. All the great religions address the fact that we are not alone in dealing with death and loss. If you have a relationship with your faith leader, reach out to them for support. Likely, they have both training and experience in helping others work through emotional hardships.

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The best advice I have heard for people dealing with a recent death is “The One Year Rule.” For the first year after your loss, make sure you are actively doing something with others on special days (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc.). My experience tells me that it’s important to not be alone on those days; keep yourself busy. Perhaps you want to host a gathering of your support network. Or maybe something lowkey like going to lunch or a movie with a friend or family member is preferable. After a major loss, some people take up the cause to prevent others from suffering the same tragedy. For example, some parents join MADD after losing a child in a drinking and driving accident. I know surviving family members of a drowning victim who got involved with water safety and drowning prevention efforts. Helping others can be therapeutic for survivors and ensures the loved one’s death was not in vain.

The main takeaway here is that there are no rules, no right or wrong, for how you are “supposed to” manage grief. Your response my not look like others’ — and that’s perfectly OK. Also know that grief is not linear, so when you least expect it, you may have trigger moments of acute hurt, and this cycle may last for the rest of your life. SUPPORTING CHILDREN AND TEENS What about young children who have been struck by a major loss? Children often don’t have the words to articulate their feelings, so pain and sorrow can manifest in their behavior. They may withdraw or becoming irritable; they may suddenly have trouble in school. They may even experience physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches and hair loss. If your child experiences any of these, please seek professional help.

about teenagers who have “Where there is deep grief What experienced traumatic loss?, Even in the best of times, it can be challenging there was for adults to communicate effectively with teenagers. Under circumstances great love.” — UNKNOWN

of grief, teenagers may withdraw more than usual. They may downplay their pain and scoff at you if you recommend professional help. Even if they don’t seem open to receiving it, your love and support is critical to their healing, so don’t give up. I close this difficult essay with my best wishes that you, KFM readers, have a safe and (mostly) happy holiday season!

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