Gather isn't just a financial institution—we're your partner in prosperity. We o er a variety of services that can help build a strong financial future for you and your family—no matter what stage of life you are in.
Gather isn't just a financial institution—we're your partner in prosperity. We o er a variety of services that can help build a strong financial future for you and your family—no matter what stage of life you are in.
Gather isn't just a financial institution—we're your partner in prosperity. We o er a variety of services that can help build a strong financial future for you and your family—no matter what stage of life you are in.
Gather isn't just a financial institution—we're your partner in prosperity. We o er a variety of services that can help build a strong financial future for you and your family—no matter what stage of life you are in.
Gather isn't just a financial institution—we're your partner in prosperity. We o er a variety of services that can help build a strong financial future for you and your family—no matter what stage of life you are in.
From early childhood to when you're ready for retirement, we have it all so you can spend more time with family doing the things that matters most.
From early childhood to when you're ready for retirement, we have it all so you can spend more time with family doing the things that matters most.
From early childhood to when you're ready for retirement, we have it all so you can spend more time with family doing the things that matters most.
From early childhood to when you're ready for retirement, we have it all so you can spend more time with family doing the things that matters most.
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Call Gather today and let us know how we can help.
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From early childhood to when you're ready for retirement, we have it all so you can spend more time with family doing the things that matters most. Call Gather today and let us know how we can help.
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MESSAGE FROM THE MAYOR
DEREK S.K. KAWAKAMI, MAYOR
Happy New Year to you and your family! Let us always cherish how blessed we are to raise our children on this beautiful island.
Spring is a wonderful time of year when everything feels fresh and new. It’s an excellent opportunity to get together and enjoy the season safely with our loved ones. Let’s enjoy this beautiful time with our extended family and friends.
Mahalo to Kaua‘i Family Magazine as a resource for our families in the County of Kaua‘i and Ni‘ihau. This publication is filled with an abundance of recreational activities and information that benefits our children’s and families’ well-being.
I wish all of you a productive and safe Spring season!
With warmest aloha,
Derek S. K. Kawakami Mayor, County
of Kaua‘i
State of Hawai‘i
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MESSAGE FROM DANIEL HAMADA
INTERIM KAUAI COMPLEX AREA SUPERINTENDENT
Aloha,
We are very pleased that our schools’ assessment data shows that our students continue to demonstrate positive academic growth. The Kauai Complex Area is committed to providing a high-quality education for every student, and we are proud of the accomplishments of our students, teachers, and staff.
Other key indicators that we have seen are a positive increase in our students’ attendance rates, participation in extracurricular activities, and a decrease of disciplinary action indicators.
We believe that a strong partnership between schools and the community is essential for student success. We encourage you to stay involved in your child’s education by attending parent-teacher conferences, volunteering in the classroom, and attending school events.
We are excited about the future of our students and look forward in working together in providing every student the best possible education.
Sincerely,
Daniel S. Hamada Kauai Complex Area Superintendent
2025 THE YEAR OF THE WOOD SNAKE
According to traditional Chinese culture, 2025 is the Year of the Wood Snake. With an emphasis on self-discovery, relationships, personal development and conquering challenges, 2025 is an excellent time for consistent progress and personal growth. 2025 is also the 15th anniversary of Kauai Family Magazine. We are celebrating this milestone by bringing you an extra special issue, chock full of ways to make 2025 your family's best year yet! Self-Discovery.
Have you ever wondered what parenting style you practice? Flip to page 42 to find out.
Help your kids get to know themselves better by answering Would You Rather questions (p. 22). Relationships.
Strengthen your relationship with your child by eliminating "technoference" (p. 66).
Puberty brings about many changes in a child, and parenting a child in puberty requires an abundance of love and patience. Follow the advice on pages 50-51 to help your child navigate this challenging time in life — and keep your relationship intact! Personal (and Family) Development.
From 31 Ideas for Family Wellness (p. 38) to Fun Over Fitness (p. 70) to Take the Lead on Sportsmanship (p. 76) , this issue of KFM offers you an abundance of ways to grow and consistently progress — both as individuals and as a family unit. Conquering Challenges.
Losing a pet is never easy, especially for little ones, but there are ways to help your child cope with their grief in healthy ways. Read up on page 54.
Like a snake shedding their old skin, let 2025 be the year you let go of what no longer serves you and embrace the excitement of what lies ahead.
ON THE COVER THE CABERTO 'OHANA Treston and Kali’a, with son Hauola, and daughters Waiea & ‘Ikena, tell their story on page 24. Todd Fuerte Photography
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Your Financial Partner for College and Beyond
Heading off to college is an exciting time, filled with new experiences, independence and opportunities. As you prepare to leave the comforts of home, it’s important to have a reliable financial partner to support you every step of the way.
That’s where Gather Federal Credit Union comes in. Whether you’re staying on Kaua’i or venturing to the mainland, Gather can be there with you, offering tools, resources, and products to help your finances grow with you.
A Checking Account as Smart as You
One of the best ways for students to manage their finances is with Gather’s Kasasa Checking accounts, designed to reward you for everyday banking activities. The Kasasa Cash Back account allows you to earn cash rewards on debit card purchases — a great way to stretch your college budget. And as a Gather member, you can have all of your ATM fees reimbursed nationwide when you
meet simple qualifications, like using your debit card or enrolling in e-statements.
By pairing your Kasasa Checking with a Kasasa Saver account, you can effortlessly grow your savings. Any rewards you earn are automatically transferred to your Saver account, helping to build a financial cushion over time—perfect for emergencies or unexpected college expenses.
Smart Savings Tips for Students and Everyone Else
College life can come with its fair share of financial challenges…and opportunities. That’s why a little planning can go a long way. Here are some tips to make the most of your Gather accounts:
Budget Wisely: Use the Gather Mobile Banking app to track your spending, set limits and monitor your balances, all in real time.
Build Your Savings: Even small, consistent deposits to your Kasasa Saver account can add up over time. Use your cashback rewards to jumpstart your savings without feeling the pinch.
Share Account Access with a Parent: Adding a parent as a joint account holder can be a smart move. In case of emergencies, they’ll have access to help you when you need it most.
Everything Is Mobile; Your Banking Should Be, Too
Gather’s Mobile Banking app is like having a local branch office right in your pocket. You can check balances,
transfer funds, pay bills and deposit checks right from your phone.
Another feature that’s great for students is Zelle®. This peer-to-peer payment service allows you to send money to friends or family in minutes. Whether you’re splitting the check at a restaurant, paying your share of the rent, or receiving a few extra bucks from your parents, Zelle is a fast and secure way to handle transactions. Just remember: only use Zelle with people you know and trust. Scammers are always out there.
Why Gather?
As a member-owned credit union, Gather is dedicated to helping you succeed financially. Unlike big banks, Gather focuses on providing personalized service and products tailored to your needs. From competitive rates and rewards to community-driven values, Gather is a financial partner you can trust, because you’re a part of it.
Plus, your membership with Gather extends benefits to your entire family. Encourage your siblings or parents to explore the advantages of credit union membership so everyone can benefit from the same excellent service.
Ready for College, Ready for Life
Your college years are a time of growth and learning. With Gather Federal Credit Union by your side, you’ll have the financial tools and support to thrive both on and off campus. From the rewards of Kasasa Checking to the convenience of mobile banking, Gather makes managing your money one less thing to worry about.
FUN Kaua`i FamilySpring
February
Chinese New Year Lion Dance with Tsunami Taiko
Saturday, February 1, 10am Kukui Grove
Hearts and Dragons Celebration
Saturday, February 8, 10am-3pm Kukui Grove
Valentine’s Day
Aloha Friday
Friday, February 14
Kukui Grove
48th Annual
Waimea Town Celebration
February 15-23
A 9-day festival of concerts, competitions and cultural events
WaimeaTownCelebration.com
Events are subject to change without notice. Always call event first to confirm.
March
Kaua’i Healthy Living Spring Celebration
March 1, 9am-12 noon
Samual Mahelona Memorial Hospital Campus
Healthy living vendors; health tips from a doctor; family fun; food; FREE giveaways; entertainment; and more!
Ola Ka ‘I Kaua’I Ni’hau
Hawaiian Language Celebration
Saturday, March 1, 10am- 3pm Kukui Grove
Read Across America with Kumu’s Cupboard
Sunday, March 2, 11am-3pm
Kukui Grove food court
Book sale and reading activities
Hanalei School Drama Club presents Madacasgar –A Musical Adventure JR. Friday, March 7, 6pm
Saturday, March 8, 6pm Hanalei School cafeteria stage
Help with various projects to spruce up the park and remove marine debris. Stay for lunch.
Lydgate Beach Park (near the lifeguard tower)
Kaua'i Performing Arts Center (KPAC): Empowering students through transformative theater education. Nurturing creativity, building confidence, and inspiring the next generation of performers, one stage at a time.
MAY 1st through 11th 2025
May 1-11, 2025 • Fridays & Saturdays at 7pm • Sundays at 2 pm Kaua'i War Memorial Convention Hall • 4191 Hardy Street, Lihue Kaua’i Performing Arts Center of the Department of Education Presents Tickets are $10! To purchase tickets, go to www.kauaiperformingarts.org!
Easter Bunny Photos
Saturday, April 5–19
(Fridays, Saturdays & Sundays)
Kukui Grove
(next to Keiki Korner play area)
Lihue Baptist Church
Saturday, April 9, 11:30am- 2pm
Egg hunt, lunch and Bible lesson
Kukui Grove Spring Festival
Saturday, April 12, 10am-1pm
Center-wide egg hunt and activities
Kukui Grove
Hope Collective Church Kauai Helicopter Easter Egg Drop
Saturday, April 12
Arrival time 9am
Drop at 9:30am
Vidniha Soccer Field
Events are subject to change without notice. Always call event first to confirm.
`KAUA I’S EVENTS
Easter Hunt
Real dyed eggs!
New Hope Kauai
Sunday, April 20, 10am
West Kauai Lions Club
Sunday, April 20, 8:15am
Kekaha Basketball Court
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Sunday, April 20, 10am
Egg hunt, music, meal, haircuts, and keiki fun!
Kapa’a Beach Park
Easter celebration service, egg hunt & and free luau
Kauai Memorial Convention Hall
Ohana Christian Fellowship Day of Hope
Kapaa Missionary Church Glow in the Dark Egg Hunt
Friday, April 18, 6:30-8:30pm
Food, prizes, candy and fellowship
Would You Rather...
QUESTIONS FOR KIDS, TWEENS AND TEENS
“Would You Rather” questions expand your kids’ thinking while allowing you to discover the inner workings of their young minds. They’re great conversation starters when you’re in the car, going for a walk, eating dinner or just hanging out together as a family. Use this list to get you started and then create your own. Encourage your kids to come up with ones for you!
be always hot or always
live on a boat or in a castle?
have a pet dinosaur or a pet dragon?
pet animals or animals pet you?
have donuts at every breakfast or hot dogs at every dinner?
be a prince/princess or the president of the United States?
AGES 7-9
AGES 10-12
Would You Rather...
15 eat the same thing every day or never get to go on the internet again?
16 work at an animal shelter or a panda rescue?
18 be recognized everywhere you go or be invisible?
17 have to sing everything you say or say everything twice?
19 live in a theme park or a mansion?
20 be able to breathe underwater or be strong enough to lift anything you want?
21 have someone do all your chores or do all your homework?
AGES 13+
Would You Rather...
22 know the answer to every riddle or the lyrics to every song?
go to the beach or mountains? 13 tickle a cockroach or hug a snake?
14 have to skip everywhere you go or walk everywhere backwards?
win an Oscar or a Nobel Prize?
go to an art exhibit or a book reading?
be able to read others’ minds or control their actions?
be able to travel to any point in the past or any point in the future?
27 remember every thing you’ve ever read or every thing you’ve ever done?
28 be able to speak every language or be able to communicate with animals?
29 go a day without your smartphone or have it but not be able to use it?
30 only have access to Amazon Prime or only have access to Netflix?
MARCH MADNESS
DAY CAMP AND SKILLS COMPETITION
Students in the program will participate in speed and quickness training, basketball skill training, team building activities/games, and skills competition.
For more info, contact Clyde Vito at (808) 335-3731 or cvito@kauai.gov.
MEET OUR COVER FAMILY
The Caberto ’Ohana
What are the names of everyone in the family and the ages of your kids?
Aloha mai kakou! My name is Kali’a Mayer Caberto and it is a privilege to introduce our ‘ohana here! My husband Treston (Hena) Caberto-Raco and I were both born and raised on Kaua’i and are now raising our 3 keiki here as well. Our son is Hauola (10), and our daughters are Waiea (7), and ‘Ikena (6). We currently live in Wailua ahupua’a and like many ‘ohana, we love our land and our culture, our family and good food — and our lifestyle very much revolves around these things!
What type of schooling is your family involved with, and what is your family motto?
We had always envisioned raising a family on our farm and living simply. To grow food and raise animals, to teach our kids to be sustainable and to be
good stewards of our land. These are some of the things we value most and what we believe is true waiwai or wealth. Although we are still working towards some of those dreams, the rise of Covid in 2020 gave us not only the opportunity but the courage to finally start homeschooling our kids and we have been ever since.
A well-known ‘Olelo No’eau or Hawaiian proverb that we try to live by is “Ma ka hana ka ‘ike” which means that one learns by doing, or in other words, knowledge is gained through experience. Homeschooling allows us to spend our time doing hands-on, real life activities from home repairs, hunting and cooking, to grocery shopping and spending more quality time with family. Although we enjoy the freedom of homeschooling, we are also enrolled in an online public charter school
called Kanu O Ka ‘Aina NCPCS, giving us the perfect balance between a structured school format and flexible, child-led learning.
What activities are your family involved with?
With our deep love of ‘aina, adventure, sustainable practices and education, we have always prioritized sourcing locally grown and freshly harvested foods. We spend a lot of our time hunting, fishing, farming, and ranching! It is important that our keiki know where their food comes from and that we should be in control of the things we feed both our bodies and our minds. We are blessed to come from generations of providers from the backyard garden to the large-scale farms, the hunters, fishermen, and those who bring it all together in the kitchen. These are the people and the events that bring us the most joy and leave lasting memories in our hearts. Like anything else, it ebbs and flows and we do what we can. Will you still see us at Costco and Skinny Mikes? Absolutely!
What else do you like to do for fun?
Although this lifestyle takes a lot of time and energy, we try our best to maintain the balance of work and play! Aside from roaming the neighborhood on bikes with friends and cousins, the kids dance hula and (the girls) ballet, they go to horse camp and play soccer, love music and arts and crafts, and occasionally hop in for crossfit or jiu jitsu and lots of things in between. They cherish the opportunities for screens or video games and end most nights with a family movie. But in a time where technology is quickly and constantly progressing, it is important to us to both keep them active and let them be bored. “Boredom sparks creativity” I always say, and they may not agree but it is always true!
We hope to instill in our own keiki as well as inspire others to preserve and perpetuate this way of life. To give back to the land that feeds us so abundantly, and take care of the natural resources that we will one day leave in the hands of future generations. Mahalo for reading and getting to know our ‘ohana. A hui hou and malama pono!
kupuna
Caring for Kupuna in the Heart of Lihu’e
Music & the Mind
By Kim Sueoka, Kaua’i Adult Day Health Center Program Director
In December, Kaua’i Adult Day Health (KADH) Center bid farewell to our Program Director, Kurt Akamine who served with Ohana Pacific Health for over 23 years. Kurt has left an indelible mark on each of our hearts, gracing us with beautiful new ways to think about and better our world. We are grateful for his many contributions to our organization and the community, and we wish him the very best. Kurt originally brought me to the Center as a guest to provide music for the friends (as we call our clients) May Day celebration. That day left a deep impression on me; I marveled at the level of engagement and support among the staff and clients, and I felt the space radiate with joy for individuality and togetherness. When Kurt later reached out to me about becoming the Center’s Program
Director, I was filled with humility and honor at the possibility of joining this remarkable family of kupuna and care partners. While I am still new to the position, I am committed to learning, growing, and working together with our incredibly dedicated staff to care for the friends here at KADH.
I’ve been asked to share a little bit about my background, and my work experience with kupuna and caregiving. I was born and raised here on Kaua’i, and my training is in vocal music and community arts outreach. While living and working in Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota, I trained as a teaching artist with ArtSage Minnesota, and learned to tailor participatory music experiences to the needs and interests of older adults.
In my teaching artist work, I was particularly moved by music’s ability to help individuals with dementia access connections within themselves and build connections with others. I could see in real time that both familiar and unfamiliar music had dramatically positive effects on many of our clients, especially when we had opportunities to actively engage with the music: singing, humming, or playing a rhythm
to see each of our unique kupuna, and to hear what moves their hearts and minds.
As we enter the spring season of a new year, my hopes for all who care for kupuna are these: May we be a space for kindness. For safety. For connection. For respect. For stability and familiarity. For bravery and new discovery. For acknowledgement of
I could see in real time that music could bring a sense of calm or a sense of focus, could spark a lively conversation, could blossom into dancing and laughter.
together could bring a sense of calm or a sense of focus, could spark a lively conversation, could blossom into dancing and laughter.
My mentor, Artistic Director and conductor Jeanie Brindley-Barnett, and Giving Voice Chorus Minnesota have been a huge influence on my thinking and practices as a teaching artist. Giving Voice is comprised of individuals with dementia and their caregivers, plus a number of volunteer singers from the community. Jeanie, a wellspring of positivity, humor, and encouragement, finds ways to connect with each person. When they begin singing, they are awake, alive, and fully engaged; and it is impossible to tell client from caregiver from volunteer.
I am excited to continue learning about what our friends here at Kauaʻi Adult Day Health connect with. It is a privilege to be part of this ‘ohana, and I am grateful for this opportunity
change and challenge. For thoughts and feelings that are timeless. May we reach to others for support, guidance, and energy. May we embrace the joy it gives people to love and strengthen one another. For more information about Kauaʻi Adult Day Health, call us at (808) 246-6919 or visit us online at ohanapacific.com/kauai-adult-dayhealth-center
ohanapacific.com
Phone: 808-246-6919
2943 Kress Street, Lihue 96766
Take Control of Your Health: 6 Steps to Prevent a Fall
Every 13 seconds, an older adult is seen in an emergency department for a fall-related injury. Many falls are preventable. Stay safe with these tips!
Find a good balance and exercise program
Look to build balance, strength, and exibility
Contact your local Area Agency on Aging for referrals. Find a program you like and take a friend.
Find a good balance and exercise program. Look to build balance, strength, and flexibility. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging for referrals. Find a program you like and take a friend.
Talk to your health care provider.
Talk to your health care provider
Ask for an assessment of your risk of falling. Share your history of recent falls
Ask for an assessment of your risk of falling. Share your history of recent falls.
Regularly review your medications with your doctor or pharmacist
Regularly review your medications with your doctor or pharmacist.
Make sure side effe cts aren’t increasing your risk of f alling Take medi cations only as prescr ibed
Make sure side effects aren’t increasing your risk of falling. Take medications only as prescribed.
Get your vision and hearing checked annually and update your eyeglasses
Your eyes and ears are key to keeping you on your feet.
Get your vision and hearing checked annually and update your eyeglasses. Your eyes and ears are key to keeping you on your feet.
Keep your home safe.
Keep your home safe
Remove tripping hazards, i ncrease lighting, make stairs safe, and install grab bars in key areas
Remove tripping hazards, increase lighting, make stairs safe, and install grab bars in key areas.
Talk to your family members
Talk to your family members.
Enlist their support in taking simple steps to stay safe Falls are not just a seniors’ i ssue.
Enlist their support in taking simple steps to stay safe. Falls are not just a seniors’ issue.
Want Whiter Teeth?
What You Should Know
By Tialei Agader, R.D.H., Kalaheo Dental Group
faster results, whiten consecutively for 3–5 days. This allows the “pores” of your teeth to open, boosting the whitening process. Consult your dental professional for personalized advice!
Changes in the Real Estate Industry: HOME BUYERS
with Leah Ragsac, Kauai Realty
Got Real Estate Questions?
If you are looking to purchase a home, there has been a change in the real estate industry. A key update for home buyers is the new National Association of Realtors (NAR) policy: before you can start viewing homes with an agent, you’ll need to sign a Buyer’s Representation Agreement. Here’s what that means for you and how it works to your advantage.
What is a Buyer’s Representation Agreement?
A “buyer representation agreement” is a legal contract between a buyer and a real estate agent that defines their working relationship. It details the agent’s services, the buyer’s responsibilities, and the agent’s compensation, formally designating the agent as the buyer’s dedicated representative throughout the home-buying process.
Why First-Time Buyers Benefit from a Buyer’s Agent
Having a dedicated buyer’s agent offers significant advantages:
Market Expertise: Your agent knows the local market and can guide you to the right home at the best price.
Skilled Negotiation: They’ll help craft a competitive offer and negotiate favorable terms on your behalf.
Choose an experienced professional who cares for you and our island.
LEAH RAGSAC RS 80621 808-212-4086
TAYLOR RAGSAC RS 84781 808-635-3449
Leah@LeahRagsac.com www.LeahRagsac.com
Paperwork Assistance: From contracts to closing, your agent will explain and handle all the legal details, ensuring nothing gets overlooked.
What Does the New Policy Mean for You?
The updated NAR policy requires buyers to sign this agreement before touring homes. While it’s a change, it’s designed to protect your interests and ensure your agent is fully aligned with your needs. By working with a trusted buyer’s agent, you gain a knowledgeable advocate to simplify the process and help you navigate your first home purchase with confidence. If you’re thinking about buying in 2025, let’s connect—I’m here to help you every step of the way!
Recycle on Kauai
by the County of Kauai Programs shown here are for residents only, except where noted.
Transfer Station 5-3751 Kūhi‘ō Highway Hours: 7:15am-3:15pm
Building Communities through Housing with Puakea II and III
Since our historic sugarcane era, Grove Farm has been at the forefront in building communities. The plantation “camps” included grocery stores, post offices, banks, movie halls and other establishments that arose to serve the needs of the people living and working on the plantation.
In 1955 Grove Farm was the first Hawai‘i plantation to offer a home ownership program to its plantation workers, enabling 177 employees and their families to purchase houses and lots in the Puhi Subdivision. Later, this program was replicated in the Waikomo Subdivision in Kōloa.
Over the last six decades, Grove Farm has played a key role in driving the master development plan in the Līhu‘e-Puhi area and working with the County to establish the necessary infrastructure for housing, commercial space, and industrial lots. This includes building water sources and water transmission systems, sewer systems, roads, and drainage structures.
Those who came before us at Grove Farm worked to develop this critical infrastructure that led to residential communities in Puhi. The Līhu‘e-Puhi Master Plan includes Chiefess Kamakahelei Middle School, Hokulei Village, Regency at Puakea, and hundreds of residential homes in subdivisions including Regency at Huleia, Hokulei Estates, Halelani, Halemalu, Ho‘okena, Puhi Self-Help Housing, and Pīkake. More than 650 of these residential units were developed as affordable housing.
Residential Lots Completed in Puakea II and III
The recent completion of the singlefamily residential lots in the Puakea II and III subdivisions gives 103 local families an opportunity to build their dream home in the heart of Līhu‘e, surrounded by the Puakea Golf Course and picturesque views of the Hā‘upu and Kilohana mountain ranges.
We caught up with future Puakea homeowners, including Matt Ballard, a firefighter with the Kaua‘i Fire Department, and his wife, Jenn, an orthopedic nurse practitioner at Wilcox Hospital. They said, “The Puakea subdivision location in Līhu‘e is convenient and the beautiful views make you feel like you are away from town. You get the best of both worlds.” The convenience of bringing their three young children to school and their activities is important to their family.
The same sentiment was shared by Frank and Theresa Pascua. Their son is attending Chiefess Kamakahelei Middle School and will attend Kaua‘i High School next year. Frank, who works at the Outrigger Kaua‘i Beach Resort, and Theresa, who is with Home Health Kaua‘i, said Puakea provides a central and convenient location. Frank has already designed the layout of their home, and they are excited to begin the building process.
Taryn Chow, a social worker for the State of Hawaiʻi and Chris Gandeza, who works for the Department of Land and Natural Resources take a family photo on the site of their future home. “We are lucky to call Kauaʻi our home. To raise our kids here means so much to our family.”
Travis and Shelea Koga returned to Kaua‘i after graduating from college. After their schooling on the mainland, they always knew they wanted to return to their roots. Travis manages Kaua‘i Ice and Shelea is a planner with the County. They are also owners of Hanapa‘a Fishing Company Kaua‘i. They said they wanted to purchase a lot in Puakea as “Grove Farm made it affordable for locals.”
Thank you to all the new lot owners for choosing to make Puakea your home!
By Pam Molnar
31 IDEAS
FOR FAMILY WELLNESS
1. Get your steps in. The benefits of walking include improved cardiovascular and joint health, stronger muscles and improved mood.
2. Eat more plants. Add more fruits and vegetables to your diet. Don’t forget beans, legumes, whole grains and healthy fats like avocados.
3. Hydrate. Water is the best choice, but decaffeinated teas and water-filled fruits and vegetables like celery and watermelon also aid in hydration.
4. Reach out to friends, relatives or neighbors who are going through a rough patch to remind them that they are not alone. Kids can pitch in by writing cards or gifting artwork.
5. Keep a gratitude journal. Write down things you are grateful for to improve your mood and general outlook and to help focus on what brings you joy. This is a great activity to do as a family.
6. Read a book. Find a reading challenge or book club for your preferred genre or interests — or simply read a book that’s been on your list for a while. Consider starting a parent/child book club with friends or neighbors. If you don’t have time to sit down and read, listen to an audio version while walking or driving.
7. Practice yoga, qigong or tai chi to improve strength, balance and flexibility, reduce stress and boost your mood.
8. Meditate. Use a guided meditation app like Calm or Balance to help quiet your mind and relax your body during stressful times and before bedtime.
9. Listen to music. Music is a stress reliever, motivator and memory stimulator. Make a playlist or find one to match your mood on Spotify.
10. Indulge in a “dry” month. Fill your glass with sparkling water or fruity mocktails instead of alcohol.
11. Get more sleep. Try winding down three minutes earlier every night for a month. By the end, you will get 90 more minutes of sleep. Sufficient sleep is especially important for kids!
12. Play games! Boost brainpower, build memory, reduce cognitive decline, reap the social benefits of interacting with other people — and have fun!
13. Set goals. Take time to consider what is working for your family and what is not. Adjust and move forward.
14. Connect with nature. Forest bathing is a Japanese practice of relaxation that encourages people to head out among trees to listen, observe, take deep breaths and recharge.
15. Disconnect from technology. Focus on the present, non-digital world, even if for just one hour each day.
16. Set boundaries. Relationships with friends, relatives and coworkers are sometimes a source of stress. It’s OK to say “no” to events you don’t want to attend and things you don’t want to do.
17. Do a social media cleanse. Social media often gets to be too much. Consider using an app like Opal to help limit screen time.
18. Laugh. Find something that gives you belly laughs — a movie, comedian or chatting with a friend — and partake often.
19. Find a spiritual outlet. Join a church or temple — or simply connect with a higher power on your own.
20. Pursue your passion(s). Figure out what makes you happy and do more of it: take up a new hobby or volunteer for a cause that speaks to your heart.
21. Make doctor appointments. Stop making excuses; schedule physical, dental, dermatology, eye and other necessary wellness exams.
22. Bring nature inside. Enjoy natural elements at home — a crackling fire, the breeze from an open window or a bouquet of flowers provide a sense of calm and relaxation.
23. Create routine. Predictable routines provide structure and organization and help relieve stress. Set everything out the night before, make beds in the morning and have a meal plan.
24. Find a creative outlet like cooking, writing, drawing, decorating, painting, crafting, knitting, playing an instrument or woodworking.
25. Take power naps. A catnap of 10–30 minutes can provide the recharge you need to power through the rest of your day.
26. Forgive yourself and others. Let it go. Holding onto anger, hurt and resentment keeps focus on negative feelings instead of releasing you to move forward.
27. Learn something new. There are opportunities to learn at every age. Watch a documentary, take a class, visit a museum, listen to a podcast, watch a YouTube video or read an article.
28. Every week, do something that makes you feel like you’re on vacation: try a new restaurant, a sunset picnic or a morning walk on the beach.
29. Make home a sanctuary. Create a space that recharges you: a coffee bar in the kitchen, a cozy window seat or a waterfall shower head.
30. Have a spa treatment. Treat yourself to a massage or mani/pedi at the salon— or a bubble bath at home.
31. Try something new. What’s an activity you have always wanted to try? Horseback riding? Juggling? Scuba diving? Take the plunge!
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What Is Your Parenting Style — and Why Does It Matter?
Your parenting style can impact everything from your child’s self-esteem to their academic success to their ability to function in society as an adult. It’s important to ensure your parenting style supports healthy
growth and development because the way you interact with your child — and how you discipline them— will influence them for the rest of their life.
Researchers have recognized four main parenting styles. Read on to find out which style you tend to practice.
In the 1960s, developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind identified three distinct parenting styles — authoritarian, permissive and authoritative — based on parental demands and responsiveness to children and their needs. A fourth style — neglectful — was later added based on work by other researchers. So ... which parenting style is best? The truth is, there's no one right way to parent, but the parenting style that most experts — including the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) — recommend is the authoritative (not to be confused with authoritarian) approach.
Even if you’ve never given it much thought, it’s not too late to consider your parenting style and how it may be impacting your child. It’s important to be honest with yourself as you contemplate the questions posed below. No parent is perfect and there’s always room for improvement.
Authoritarian Parenting
Do any of these statements sound like you?
Kids should be seen and not heard.
You often don’t take your child’s feelings into consideration.
AUTHORITARIAN
This style of parenting emphasizes strict obedience and punishment over nurturing.
When it comes to rules, you believe it's "my way or the highway."
You've responded "because I said so" when your child questions the reasons behind a rule.
If these statements ring true for you, you might be an authoritarian parent. Similar to an army drill sergeant, authoritarian parents are often not nurturing, communicable or willing to compromise. They have high expectations; set strict, non-negotiable rules; expect complete obedience; and rely heavily on discipline and punishment for control.
Holding all decision-making power, authoritarian parents have little regard for their child’s opinions and rarely give them agency to make their own choices or have any input in family matters.
How authoritarian parenting affects children
When raised by an authoritarian parent, children are often wellbehaved at home but are more apt to rebel at school or with friends. They may also experience the following:
Low self-esteem
Poor social skills
Indecisiveness and trouble thinking independently
Anger management issues and resentfulness
Hostility and aggression
Trouble judging others’ character
Research also indicates that children raised by authoritarian parents reported more substance use disorders and higher rates of clinical depression as adults.
PERMISSIVE
This style of parenting is light on rules and heavy on the believe that “kids will be kids.”
Permissive Parenting
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You set rules but rarely enforce them.
You don't give out consequences very often.
You believe your child will learn best with limited interference from you.
You often let your child do what they want — even if it's drinking soda at every meal. If these statements sound familiar, you might practice permissive parenting. Permissive parents are lenient, only stepping in when there's a serious problem. They're quite forgiving and tend to adopt an attitude of "kids will be kids."
The total opposite of strict, permissive parents oftentimes they act more like friends than authoritative figures.
Permissive parents cater to their child's desires without doling out much discipline. When they do administer consequences, they may not stick. For example, they'll give privileges back if a child begs or they may allow a child to get out of timeout early if they promise to be good.
How permissive parenting affects children
Accustomed to getting their way, a child raised by permissive parents might act entitled, egocentric and selfish (even as an adult). They might fail to put meaningful effort into school, work or social endeavors since they don’t have to exert much effort at home. Their lack of respect
This style of parenting promotes positivity while still maintaining healthy boundaries.
for authority and rules may even manifest in behavioral problems.
Outcomes for children raised by permissive parents include:
Poor self-regulation and selfcontrol; impulsivity; aggressiveness
Low achievement in many areas of life, including academics
Lack of self-awareness, personal responsibility and how their words and actions impact others
Immature, demanding personality
Additionally, kids raised by permissive parents are at a higher risk for health problems — like obesity and dental cavities — because permissive parents struggle to limit unhealthy food intake and promote regular exercise, healthy sleep habits or even regular teeth brushing.
If these statements sound familiar, you might practice authoritative parenting, considered by many experts to be the "gold standard" of parenting styles. Authoritative AUTHORITATIVE
Authoritative Parenting
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You put a good deal of thought, energy and effort into creating and maintaining a positive relationship with your child.
You explain the reasoning behind rules and expectations.
You set limits, enforce rules and give consequences — while also validating your child’s feelings.
You use positive discipline strategies like praise and rewards.
parents are patient, caring, communicative, responsive, empathetic and nurturing, while still setting clear expectations for their child’s behavior, as well as the potential consequences if their expectations are not met. They instill the importance of responsibility and discipline and establish safe boundaries but also give their child the freedom to make age-appropriate decisions, knowing that inevitably means their child will make mistakes.
The authoritative parenting style views mistakes as learning experiences. Rather than enforcing harsh, predetermined, inflexible consequences, authoritative parents place a heavy emphasis on their child’s feelings. They determine consequences after considering many factors: the specific circumstances, the child’s overall personality/maturity level and, perhaps most importantly, the child’s perspective — as expressed in their own words.
One of the most defining characteristics of authoritative parenting is reinforcing positive behavior and preventing negative behavior by implementing positive strategies, like praise and rewards.
How authoritative parenting affects children
Children raised by authoritative parents tend to be happy, confident and successful. They're apt to evaluate risk and make sound decisions on their own. Authoritative parenting is linked to high academic achievement, increased self-esteem, resiliency and adaptability.
Children raised by authoritative parents tend to have many positive outcomes, including the following: High degrees of joy and happiness; self-confidence and self-advocacy; overall success in life
Emotional intelligence; ease in making friends and forming and maintaining healthy relationships
A strong moral compass; altruism
Authoritative parenting tends to result in children becoming high-achieving, productive members of society.
Neglectful or Uninvolved Parenting
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You don't ask your child about school or homework. You often don’t know where your child is or who they're with.
You spend limited time engaging with your child.
You don't have many rules and expectations.
If these statements sound familiar, you might be an uninvolved or neglectful parent. This style of parenting is marked by providing children little guidance, nurturing and attention; setting few rules and expectations; and having limited knowledge (or concern) about what children are doing.
In many ways, children of uninvolved parents raise themselves. Sometimes parents simply aren’t engaged enough to devote the time or energy required to meet the child's physical and emotional needs. Other uninvolved parents, lacking adequate knowledge
UNINVOLVED
This style of parenting is marked by providing children little guidance, nurturing and attention.
about child rearing, genuinely believe their child will do better without their influence and oversight. Uninvolved parents may be neglectful — but it's not always intentional. For example, a parent with mental health or substance abuse problems may be unable to consistently care for their child.
How uninvolved parenting affects children
Without sufficient guidance, structure or parental involvement, children will act out in an attempt to get the care they desperately need. Uninvolved parenting leads to some of the worst outcomes for children, including:
Diminished sense of self-worth
Academic struggles and rebelliousness
Social incompetence; inability to form bonds with others
Substance use disorders
Children of uninvolved parents might devolve into juvenile delinquency (vandalism, theft, assault, rape, etc.). Without intervention, these behaviors can carry over into adulthood.
Remember: your parenting style will have a lifelong impact on your child’s mental and emotional wellbeing — and even their physical health. From books and podcasts to therapy and parenting classes, many resources are available to you. Raising children in today’s often chaotic and stressful society is very challenging — and there is no shame in asking for help. No parent is perfect; we could all benefit from professional advice.
Preventing Digital Eye Strain
By Punzal Vision, Dr. Joel E. Punzal, OD
Digital Eye Strain, or Computer Vision Syndrome, is the result of spending prolonged hours on digital devices. Looking at screens for two or more hours in a row is considered extended use.
Some symptoms of digital eye strain include:
• Headaches • Tired eyes
• Blurry vision • Red or itchy eyes
• Dry eyes • Watery eyes
The best approach to digital eye strain is to prevent it from happening.
To reduce digital eye strain:
• Blink your eyes regularly.
• Use artificial tears.
• Follow the 20-20-20 rule: for every 20 minutes of screen time, look away and focus on something that is 20 feet away.
• Wear glasses with a quality antireflective coating and blue light filter.
• Wear glasses specific to computer work. These specialty glasses have a modified prescription to help you see better while sitting at the computer. They may be worn over contact lenses or separate from your regular distance glasses.
Helping Your Kids Cope with the Loss of a Pet
For most kids, pets are more than just animals their families own — they’re members of the family best friends. Unfortunately, the joy of owning a pet goes hand-in-hand with the heartbreak of losing one. After all, family pets often are the first to greet kids in the morning and after school. Your pet may be the one your child looks to for comfort and companionship when ill or feeling sad or upset.
When kids go through the loss of a pet, you can help them cope with it. A pet’s death might be their first time losing a loved one, so the grieving process can help kids learn how to cope with other losses throughout life.
Sharing the News and the Grief
One of the hardest parts about losing a pet may be breaking the bad news to
kids. Try to do this one-on-one in a place where they feel safe and comfortable and aren’t easily distracted.
As you would with any tough issue, base how much information kids should hear based on their age, maturity level, and life experience.
If your pet is very old or has a long illness, consider talking to kids before the death happens. If you have to euthanize your pet, you may want to explain that: the veterinarians have done everything that they can your pet would never get better this is the kindest way to take the pet’s pain away the pet will die peacefully, without feeling hurt or scared
Again, a child’s age, maturity level, and questions will help you decide whether
to offer a clear and simple explanation for what’s going to happen. If so, it’s OK to use words like “death” and “dying” or to say something like “The veterinarian will give our pet a shot that first puts it to sleep and then stops the heart from beating.” Many kids want a chance to say goodbye first, and some may be old enough or emotionally mature enough to be there to comfort the pet during the process.
If you do have to euthanize your pet, be careful about saying the animal went “to sleep” or “got put to sleep.” Young kids can take things literally, so this can conjure up scary ideas about sleep or surgery and anesthesia.
If the pet’s death is more sudden, calmly explain what has happened. Be brief, and let your child’s questions guide how much information you provide.
Sticking to the Truth
Avoid trying to gloss over the event with a lie. Telling a child that “Buster ran away” or “Max went on a trip” won’t ease the sadness about losing the pet, and if the truth does come out, your child might be angry that you lied.
If asked what happens to the pet after it dies, draw on your own understanding of death, including, if relevant, the viewpoint of your faith. And an honest “I don’t know” certainly can be an appropriate answer — it’s OK to tell kids that death is a mystery.
Helping Your Child Cope
Like anyone dealing with a loss, kids usually feel a variety of emotions after the death of a pet. They might experience loneliness, anger if the pet was euthanized, frustration that the pet couldn’t get better, or guilt about times that they were mean to or didn’t care for the pet as promised. Help kids understand that it’s natural to feel all
of those emotions, that it’s OK to not want to talk about them at first, and that you’re there when they are ready to talk. Don’t feel compelled to hide your own sadness about losing a pet. Showing how you feel and talking about it openly sets an example for kids. You show that it’s OK to feel sad when you lose a loved one, to talk about your feelings, and to cry when you feel sad. And it’s comforting to kids to know that they’re not alone in feeling sad. Share stories about the pets you had — and lost — when you were young and how hard it was to say goodbye.
Looking Ahead
After the shock of the news fades, it’s important to help kids heal and move on.
It can help for them to find special ways to remember a pet. You might have a ceremony to honor your pet or just share memories of fun times you had together. Write a prayer together or offer thoughts on what the pet meant to each family member. Share stories of your pet’s funny moments. Offer lots of loving hugs. You could do a project too, like making a scrapbook. Keep in mind that grieving over the loss of a pet, particularly for a child, is similar to grieving over a person. For kids, losing a pet who offered love and companionship can be much harder than losing a distant relative. You might have to explain that to friends, family members, or others who don’t own pets or don’t understand that. Perhaps most importantly, talk about your pet, often and with love. Assure your child the pain will get better and the happy memories will always remain. When the time is right, consider adopting a new pet — not as a replacement but to welcome another animal friend into your family.
3 Changes for Expectant Moms
By Dr. Clyner Antalan Kaua‘i Medical Clinic OB-GYN
There are a few things most expect when they are expecting: cravings, an increased need for naps and, of course, an expanding growing belly. But other changes that come before baby arrives can catch moms-to-be off-guard.
Dr. Clyner Antalan, Kaua‘i Medical Center OB-GYN, and his team share three fun facts expectant moms can look forward to in the first trimester, weeks one through 13.
FUN FACT NO. 1: Expect a hyper-sensitive sense of smell. If it seems like your nose knows more than usual, you’re experiencing hyperosmia. “You may develop ‘superpowers’ for sniffing out scents, which some experts believe is a way your body helps protect against harmful foods,” Dr. Antalan said. Increased production of estrogen and progesterone are thought to heighten olfactory sensitivity. The hormones can also make breasts larger and more tender, as well as affect your digestive system causing nausea which can happen any time of the day.
FUN FACT NO. 2:
Babies’ hearts get an early start. At six or seven weeks, babies are only about the size of a grain of rice, but their
pregnancy viability.
“Hearing the baby’s heartbeat for the first time can be a magical milestone for parents!”
FUN FACT NO. 3:
Bones are constantly forming. Start snacking on yogurt, leafy greens and sardines. Babies’ skeletal systems start to form around seven weeks and never stop. “A healthy diet with calciumrich foods supports both your bones and your baby’s growth,” Dr. Antalan said. Getting enough calcium during pregnancy can reduce your risk of osteoporosis later in life.
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7 Safer, More Trustworthy News Sources for Children
Talking to your children about the news can be challenging, especially these days when misinformation spreads so quickly that it’s hard to tell what is factual and what isn’t. Not to mention, it’s getting increasingly tougher to determine what news sources are credible and unbiased.
“Children often hear about news stories at school or from friends, so it is important that parents have sensitive and age-appropriate conversations with their children,” says Michelle Ciulla Lipkin, Executive Director at National Association for Media Literacy Education.
“The news is often sensationalized, so parents should strive to give their children factual, accurate information — and make sure they feel safe.
“Parents should be cautious about exposing children — especially young ones — to news content and should reconsider news as background for their morning or evening routines.
“Unless news sources specifically state that they are appropriate for children, assume that they are not,” Lipkin says.
With Lipkin’s help, we have compiled a list of safer, more credible news sites specifically designed for children.
1Snopes snopes.com
Snopes is a great resource for anyone looking to verify facts. The largest and one of the most respected organizations for authentication and fact-finding of news, myths, mysteries and more, Snopes also plays a vital role in debunking political disinformation and conspiracy theories.
2 TIME for Kids
timeforkids.com
Both a magazine and a website, TIME for Kids is known for reliable, kid-friendly news covering a variety of topics such as politics, current events, business, wellness, Earth sciences and more. The articles stick to the facts and encourage learning by highlighting and defining larger vocabulary words. The site is categorized by grade level and also features kids who are making a positive impact around the world.
4 KidNuz kidnuz.org
KidNuz is a kid-friendly podcast that focuses on stories of the day. It’s age-appropriate, nonpartisan and produced by Emmy-winning broadcast journalists who believe children have a right to be up-to-date with current events. Each episode is seven minutes long and features six news stories.
5 The Week Junior theweekjunior.com
Designed to inspire middle grade students (ages 8 to 14) to stay informed, engage with the news and discuss with their parents, The Week Junior (which offers a printed magazine in adition to the website), features topics like national news, international politics and science and nature.
5
DOGO Kids dogonews.com
Dogo Kids focuses on trending news but also broadens into categories including culture, technology, science and world news. Kids can learn about the duct-taped banana art exhibit that sold for six million dollars or the ancient, unearthed coins that were found to be worth millions!
6 Common Sense Media commonsensemedia.org
Common Sense Media is a great resource for children and parents alike. The website touts, “Most technology wasn’t built with kids in mind. We’re on a mission to change that ... by making media and technology safer, healthier and more equitable for kids everywhere.” A nonprofit, Common Sense Media independently rates movies, TV shows, books, games, podcasts and apps, providing parents with research-based guidance on age-appropriate content (including news) for their children.
7 News for Kids newsforkids.net
Acknowledging that news is “complicated and messy,” founder Will Adams says News for Kids was designed to tell interesting stories in an accessible manner — which means it works well for both elementary students and English language learners. By using simple language, News for Kids presents information in a way that’s easy to understand. “We strive to make each article selfcontained, giving the necessary background and context. Where that is not possible, we try to provide easily accessible resources to fill in the gaps,” Adams says.
DRAGON EGGSedible
A fun & unique way to decorate Easter eggs
The colorful crack lines are so cool!
Whether you're planning a party or decorating eggs for Easter, these hard-boiled dragon eggs are sure to be a hit!
INGREDIENTS
6 hard-boiled eggs (Do not peel!)
Food coloring in 6 colors — red, blue, green, orange, pink, purple, etc.
6 tsp. vinegar Water
SUPPLIES
6 coffee mugs (or deep bowls) — 1 for each food coloring
Clean, soft kitchen towel
DID YOU KNOW?
Komodo dragons are the world’s largest lizards.
INSTRUCTIONS
1. Gently roll boiled eggs around on clean towel to create cracks in the shells.
2. Fill each cup halfway with water.
3. Add 1 tsp. of vinegar and 4 drops of one food coloring to each mug. Stir well.
4. Add 1 boiled egg to each mug.
5. Refrigerate overnight.
6. Remove eggs and peel.
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A GATEWAY TO MULTISPORT
Early Athletic Specialization vs. Multisport Participation
There’s a growing debate among parents and coaches about whether children should specialize in a single sport from a young age or participate in multiple sports. While early specialization can lead to success in a particular sport, it often comes at the expense of overall athletic development and increases the risk of burnout and injury.
Gymnastics provides a solid athletic foundation that allows children to participate in a variety of sports. The skills developed in gymnastics— strength, flexibility, coordination, and mental toughness—are universal and can be applied to any athletic endeavor. This makes gymnastics an ideal starting point for children who may later choose to specialize in a particular sport.
Enhancing Performance in Other Sports
The physical and mental skills acquired in gymnastics have a direct impact on performance in other sports.
Here are a few examples:
Basketball: Gymnasts’ agility and strength contribute to better jumping ability and quicker movements, essential for both offense and defense.
Martial Arts: The flexibility and balance gained in gymnastics improve a martial artist’s ability to execute precise kicks and maintain stability during combat.
Soccer: Gymnasts have superior body awareness and coordination, allowing them to control the ball effectively and move fluidly.
Swimming: The core strength developed in gymnastics enhances a swimmer’s ability to maintain proper form and efficiency in the water.
Track and Field: Gymnasts’ explosive power and speed translate well to track events, particularly in sprints and jumps.
By participating in gymnastics, children are not only preparing themselves to excel in other sports but are also reducing the likelihood of overuse injuries associated with early specialization.
Technoference
How does technoference impact children?
Most of us know that kids spending too much time on screens is bad. According to the Mayo Clinic, potential dangers include behavioral issues, sleep problems, delays in language and social development, difficulty paying attention, violence and obesity. Many children also experience loneliness, anxiety or depression when screen time is excessive.
Changing your family’s technology habits is challenging, but doing so goes a long way toward improved mental health. The biggest impact and influence on children are at home.
To start, parents should establish and enforce age-appropriate screen time limits for kids, along with encouraging
high-quality media content and co-participating whenever possible. The problem with technology goes deeper than how kids are using it. The uncomfortable truth is that the amount of time parents spend on screens has a profound impact on kids, too. Excessive screen time by parents leads to distracted parenting, disengaged parentchild relationships and negative behavior in children—in other words, technoference.
What is technoference?
Technoference is a shortened term for “technology-based interference.” It refers to screen-focused behaviors that
interfere with relationships—including those between parents and children. If you’ve found yourself ignoring your child in favor of technology (and inevitably noticed them doing the same to you), it’s time to make some changes. There may be other signs that technology is taking over. If you’re experiencing anxiety, poor sleep or feelings of isolation, you may be too involved in your phone.
How does technoference impact children?
As parents spend more time on smartphones and electronic devices, kids work harder to gain their attention—often by misbehaving.
According to Psychology Today, research demonstrates a relationship between the amount of technoference in a parent-child relationship and a child’s behavior (McDaniel & Radesky, 2018). To further complicate things, the more challenging a child’s behavior becomes, the more likely a parent will turn to their smartphone as a means of distraction or comfort.
“Screen use by parents impacts children negatively if it’s not in balance,” says Dr. Whatley. “Our kids need to know they matter and we prioritize them. If we are on digital devices and not making eye contact with them, their narrative becomes ‘I don’t matter.’” She explains that as a result, kids may begin to act out, seeking attention.
Making eye contact with children is imperative to their development. Eye contact helps develop emotional regulation and social skills, foster communication and build trust, among other things. Ask yourself, “How many times a day am I making eye contact with my kids?”
Children’s brains are unable to manage the stress of being ignored.
Kids do what they see parents do. “They are always watching us and mimicking our behavior. What we model is how they act. If parents are spending a lot of time on screens, their kids probably are, too.
We can and must help kids learn to let their phones be a tool to enhance their lives—not a prison that controls their lives. To do this, parents should encourage kids to put phones away, get enough sleep, and meet friends in-person to establish deeper connections. Perhaps most importantly, parents need to model balanced, healthy behavior with technology.
How to reduce technology use
Parents should teach kids that phones are a convenience, not something to which we are enslaved. The best way to do this is to model healthy behaviors. Here are three tips to reduce screen time usage:
Don’t look at screens for the first hour of the day.
Don’t look at screens for the last hour of each day.
Put your phone away when you are with other people.
Additional methods include tracking usage, turning off message alerts and creating screen-free times (i.e. during mealtimes) and screen-free zones (bedrooms, cars and strollers). It may be helpful to create a family media plan.
Schedule regular, offline, family fun time—preferably outdoors. Finally, be realistic with goals and stay on course. Change doesn’t occur overnight.
COLOR ME!
Play is brain building, a central part of healthy child development, a key to executive function skills, and a buffer against the negative impacts of stress. Play builds the bond between parent and child. — The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)
Exercise doesn’t have to be strenuous to positively influence health. Activities like playing outside, running, riding bikes and sports are all beneficial. Take advantage of Kauai sunshine by staying active as a family and creating healthy habits that last all year and carry into your child’s adulthood.
Benefits of physical play include: stress management improved sleep stronger bones increased self-confidence reduced risk of diseases like diabetes and heart disease improved social/emotional skills
Here are eight ways to encourage family fitness through playtime:
1 Focus on fun!
Choose activities your kids already enjoy, such as playing at the park, taking bike rides, riding scooters or playing sports.
2 Lead by example. Make exercise (or outdoor play) a priority in your life and let your kids see you enjoying physical activity.
3 Choose active toys. Provide bikes, scooters, balls or sand toys that encourage kids to be active —versus electronics, toys or games that can only be used at home.
4 Get exercise while doing another activity. Walking around the Ke Ala Hale Makalae Path in Kapa’a is a fun way to take a long walk without a focus on exercise.
5 Try new activities. Visit a new park or trail or try a new sport together to increase family bonding.
6 Create boundaries around screen time.
Screen time is a big reason kids do not get enough physical activity. Use the Family Media Plan at healthychildren.org — and our Technoference article on pages 66-67 — to help guide you.
7 Let your kids take turns picking the family activity. Children are more likely to participate when involved in scheduling a favorite activity.
8 Make play a regular part of your routine. It’s easier to stick to new habits when you attach them to something you already do. For example, a family walk after dinner once a week, a family trip to the park on weekend mornings, or a monthly date to explore a new hiking trail. Even if you only have 10 minutes, it’s worth taking the time to play together, and you’re more likely to follow through if it’s on the schedule.
Kid-Approved Snacks
For the New Year
Chocolate Chip Zucchini Muffins
Sneak veggies into snack time with these equal-parts-delicious-and-nutritious muffins. Shredded zucchini adds moisture and nutrients while chocolate chips mask any hint of veggie flavor, making them an excellent choice for picky eaters. Find this recipe — and many more — at TheSeasideBaker.com (search “muffins”).
ColdFighting Smoothie Pineapple, mango, apple and orange juice pair up with kale and spinach to create this vitaminpacked, immunityboosting smoothie your keiki are sure to love! Find this recipe — and many more — at TheSeasideBaker.com (search “smoothie”).
FROM NORTH TO WEST:
Waipa Farmers Market (Hanalei)
Tuesdays 3pm-5pm
Hale Halawai Farmers Market (Hanalei)
Saturdays 9:30am-Noon
Anaina Hou Farmers Market (Kilauea)
Saturdays 9am-Noon
Kealia Farm Market (Kealia)
Mondays & Fridays 3pm-6pm
Coconut Marketplace (Kapaa)
Tuesdays & Thursdays 9am-1pm
County Sunshine Market (Kapaa)
Wednesdays 3pm-4:30pm
Grove Farm’s Puhi Park Produce (Lihue)
Saturdays at 9:30am
Pau Hana Market Kukui Grove Center (Lihue)
Mondays 3pm-5:30pm
Shops at Kukuiula (Poipu)
Wednesdays 3:30pm-5:30pm
County Sunshine Market (Hanapepe)
Thursdays 3pm-4pm
Hale Puna Farmer’s Market (Waimea)
Thursdays 3pm-5pm
Enjoy Kauai’s playgrounds with crazy cool climbing structures! These are epic parks to check out with your family this spring!
ANAINA HOU PLAYGROUND KILAU EA
Anaina Hou Community Park is located on the North Shore of Kauai in Kilauea.
Created by visionaries Bill and Joan Porter, Anaina Hou Community Park serves as a multipurpose space for Kauai residents, offering picnic tables and restrooms.
With engaging structures that illustrate Hawaiian history, the Anaina Hou Playground will inspire your keiki to tell their own stories as they play. They’ll climb, jump and run on replicas of a volcano, sailing canoe and a sugarcane train.
LYDGATE PARK/ KAMALANI PLAYGROUND LIHUE
Conceived of and built by the community and Kauai County Parks Department, Kamalani Playground features inter-connected wood structures chock full of nooks and crannies and imaginative places for kids to hide and play. Conveniently located at Lydgate Beach Park — directly across from the swimming beach — this amazing marvel is surrounded by extensive lawn and shade trees and close to a restroom.
Further west — off of Nehe Road and adjacent to the Lydgate public campground — is Kamalani Kai, another wondrous space for kids of all ages with an intricate wood structure that leads directly to the beach.
Take The Lead in
SporTSmanShip
Ways parents can support their kids and teach them what it means to be a good sport
not, plenty. Losing teaches life lessons in humility, perseverance, respect for others and acceptance of defeat. Defeat is not failure. A child (and parent) who walks away content whether victorious or not, is the true winner.
What else do sports offer? Sports teach important principles that serve children their entire lives such as opportunities to build friendships;
lessons on the importance of rules, fairness and honesty; and teamwork, anger management and leadership skills.
ips to help your child be a good sport
Praise your child’s efforts, regardless of performance or outcome. Practice with them but don’t push. Demonstrate proper technique and offer pointers but abstain from constant correction.
Avoid criticizing your child or pointing out mistakes. They are likely already aware of their mistakes and pointing them out will only make them feel worse.
Cheer on your child and their team. Be courteous to and respectful of the other teams’ players, coaches and fans.
If your child is struggling to show good sportsmanship, look for opportunities to help them practice their skills and reward accordingly as reinforcement. For example, when talking with your child about a game, point out any displays of sportsmanship you saw and praise your child for their positive behavior on and off the field.
Allow coaches and officials to do their jobs. Remember: they are human and we all make mistakes.
Set up a sportsmanship recognition program for your child’s team. Acknowledge and show interest in team members whose physical abilities don’t stand out.
Don’t place blame when your team loses; encourage your child to do the same.
Lastly, if your child isn’t enjoying the sport, don’t force them to stay in it. Team/ball sports aren’t for everyone. Perhaps a more individual sport like gymnastics or swimming — or another activity like art, theater or music — would be a better fit.
Crispy Rice Treats with a twist
PeepLayeredsTreats
Yummy,colorful Easter goodies
INGREDIENTS
• 4 tablespoons butter or margarine, divided into fourths
• 4 3-ounce packages of marshmallow Peeps in 4 different colors (Use any colors you like!)
• 6 cups crispy rice cereal, divided into fourths Involve your keiki when making these treats. They will love helping pick out the colors and deciding which order to layer them!
Made with marshmallow Peeps and guaranteed to be a hit with keiki of all ages!
INSTRUCTIONS
1. Prepare an 8-9" loaf pan by lining with foil and spraying lightly with cooking spray.
2. Divide the Peeps by 10s of the same color (10 pink, 10 yellow, etc).
3. In a deep, medium-sized, microwave-safe bowl, microwave 10 of the same color peeps plus 1 tablespoon of butter on high for approximately 45 seconds. Because microwaves vary, watch closely so the mixture doesn’t flow over the sides of the bowl.
4. Using a large spatula, stir butter and Peeps together until completely mixed.
5. Gradually stir in 1-½ cups of cereal until fully coated. Spray the spatula with cooking spray to keep mixture from sticking to it.
6. Press firmly into the loaf pan.
7. Repeat steps 3-6 with the other Peeps colors, layering each on top of the ones already in the pan. To keep colors pure, clean mixing bowl in between.
8. Allow to cool completely (1-2 hours) before slicing.
9. If desired, make Peep pops by inserting cake pop sticks (as shown above).
There’s no need to leave Kaua‘i to receive quality maternity care. From low-risk (with minimal intervention) to high-risk pregnancies, we work with you to honor your birthing plan. We even provide free childbirth classes and a lactation support group. If needed, we also offer an immediate and seamless connection to maternal fetal medicine specialists at Kapi‘olani Medical Center for Women & Children.
There’s no need t o leave Kaua‘i to receive quality maternity care. From low-risk (with minimal intervention) to high-risk pregnancies, we work with you t o honor your birthing plan. We even provide free childbirth classes and a lactation support group. If needed, we also offer an immediate and seamless connection t o maternal fetal medicine specialists at Kapi‘olani Medical Center for Women & Children.
There’s no need t o leave Kaua‘i to receive quality maternity care. From low-risk (with minimal intervention) to high-risk pregnancies, we work with you t o honor your birthing plan. We even provide free childbirth classes and a lactation support group. If needed, we also offer an immediate and seamless connection t o maternal fetal medicine specialists at Kapi‘olani Medical Center for Women & Children.
There’s no need t o leave Kaua‘i to receive quality maternity care. From low-risk (with minimal intervention) to high-risk pregnancies, we work with you t o honor your birthing plan. We even provide free childbirth classes and a lactation support group. If needed, we also offer an immediate and seamless connection t o maternal fetal medicine specialists at Kapi‘olani Medical Center for Women & Children.
OB-GYN services are also available at the KMC Kapa‘a clinic.
OB-GYN services are also available at the KMC Kapa‘a clinic.
OB-GYN services are also available at the KMC Kapa‘a clinic.
OB-GYN services are also available at the KMC Kapa‘a clinic.
