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Dear Reader,
Welcome to the first edition of Keep The Faith (KTF) for 2025. I have to say, though: “Doesn’t time fly?” Just four weeks ago I was wishing you all a merry Christmas – and now we are heading fast towards February!!!
My encouragement to you, and myself, is to use your time wisely and intentionally in 2025. Time moves quickly, and once it’s gone we can’t get it back, so let’s be about living God’s purposes for our lives.
This edition touches on subjects most people are interested in: relationships and women. This shouldn’t be a surprise; Valentine’s Day falls in February. There are articles about dealing with toxic relationships; avoiding relationship mistakes; Rev Les & Louise Isaac share how they support marriages; and Travis Greene and his wife, Dr Jackie, talk about how they support each other.
Our articles on women are a precursor to International Women’s Day on March 8. Be inspired by the annual KTF list of Christian women making a difference and our interviews with women of note, namely June Ross MBE, whose work helps to provide food and other necessities for the vulnerable; and Pastor Marjorie Esomowei, Founder of the Wise Women Awards, an event that recognises the contributions of Christian women. We have also included articles touching on different aspects of women’s lives, like motherhood, older women building relationships with younger women, and how women can have it all (but not at the same time).
My prayer is that you’ll find reading Keep The Faith a beneficial use of your time, and that you’ll be left feeling encouraged, equipped and inspired to live your life – God’s way.
Happy reading.
Marcia Dixon MBE Editor
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Inspired by her faith and a word from the Lord, Yvette McDonald started women’s ministry JustBe in 2009. Such has been its popularity it’s gearing up for year-long celebrations of its 15th anniversary.
JustBe does more than the typical women’s ministry: it hosts regular Bible studies, organises holidays abroad, weekend trips, theatre trips, conferences, as well as hosts charitable events for senior citizens.
Yvette, who has won awards for her work, is thankful JustBe has lasted so long. “I feel incredibly grateful and proud,” she said. “It’s amazing to see how far we’ve come and how many lives we’ve touched. It’s been truly rewarding to witness the transformations and connections that have blossomed over the years.”
Yvette shared: “JustBe's biggest accomplishment has been building a vibrant, welcoming community for women. Our strength lies in providing a safe place for women to grow, both personally and spiritually.”
Like many ministries, JustBe has been a lifeline to those who participate in its ministry offerings. Yvette explained: “One member, once lonely, found support in JustBe during a tough time. Another, who travelled from Chatham to Beckenham, was isolated and knew little about God. Now a deacon, she has built strong friendships and says: ‘I have a phone full of numbers.’ Through various events, JustBe has given women the confidence to pursue dreams, strengthened relationships, and created a true sense of belonging. JustBe is a family.”
Yvette has a number of initiatives planned to mark this anniversary, including an afternoon tea for seniors on February 14, a gala celebration on March 8, and a retreat which runs from August 1–3.
Looking to the future, Yvette hopes that JustBe continues to impact women’s lives. “I want to see more women find healing, growth and connection through our regular events and activities. Above all, I hope we continue to be a place where women can be inspired to grow in their faith and make a positive impact in their own communities. I am excited to see where God leads us in the future.”
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Keep The Faith filmed its first ever documentary last year, with the expectation it would be completed by September but, due to unexpected challenges, the deadline was not met.
However, things are now back on track, and the documentary should be ready by April 2025, when a screening is planned. Entitled Living, Loving Serving: Women Leaders in the Church, the documentary features five women – Bishop Rosemarie Mallett, Pastor Marjorie Esomowei, Tanya Hughes OBE, Rhona Mpologoma Tackie, and Pastor Yvonne Brooks – talking about their faith and ministry experiences.
Other media projects KTF has planned in 2025 include the launch of a podcast about Christian leadership.
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Britain needs a fresh wave of disciples of Jesus to go where the people are, to share the Gospel and see new disciples made and multiplied. Do you want to be trained and equipped in how you could do this?
We are excited to announce that we are relaunching the Amnos Ministries Church Planting School this February. After several years’ resting, we are launching a streamlined programme and are seeking students to join this initial pilot cohort. The refined programme will continue to seek to raise up and release church planters who will grow churches through evangelism and disciple-multiplication. Amnos Ministries is an evangelical organisation that exists to help see the UK and Europe reached with the Gospel.
The course will be delivered in a hybrid format, enabling students to engage with the training from the location where God has planted them. Through using a blend of webinars and online coaching sessions, in addition to high-quality in-person practical training, we will seek to release people to go into the harvest, plant seeds of the Gospel, nurture those seeds as they grow, and then gather new disciples into churches that multiply.
Over 10 months, the course will be delivered through:
• Weekly 2-hour Online Sessions (Thursdays, 8–10pm)
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There is an expectation that time will be taken by individuals every week in prayer, in preparation, and in the harvest (e.g. prayer walking and outreach). At the end of each unit there is also a written assignment. Progress through the course will not be celebrated merely through these assignments but instead through missional milestones that are based on putting the learning into practice.
• For more information, including how to sign up for the Open Evening (Monday 27th January on Zoom) contact Stephen via director @amnosministries.org or see https://www.amnosministries.org/cps/
• Start Date: Thursday 27th February 2025
• The course is aimed at any followers of Jesus who feel a call to step into evangelistic ministry. Age over 18. International participants are welcome to join for the online content, but the Amnos team would not be able to visit to do practical evangelism with them, nor to provide a UK visa.
• Cost for 2025 Pilot Cohort: £500
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Last year’s artists to watch included MOBO-, Premier Gospel- and AStepFwd-nominated and award-winning artists Of that 2024 selection of artists, three released albums, two released EPs, and most released singles throughout last year. It’s safe to say those artists had an excellent 2024. This year, expect no different.
Here are DJ Haych’s 10 Christian and gospel artists to watch in 2025!
Alia has been giving us some r&b gospel flavour for a few years now, and to a really high standard at that. She capped off a great 2024 with the Kingdom Minded EP. 2025 feels like it could be an even bigger and better year for this award-winning artist.
The phrase ‘Christian Rap is Evolving’ has gone viral with content for DC3’s songs ‘Finesse Freestyle’ and ‘Upstairs’; however, it feels like we haven’t even scratched the surface with what music DC3 will bring this year. Featured on Annatoria’s Present Jesu EP, DC3 continues to show his versatility, style and creativity, which makes 2025 a well anticipated year for him.
Off the back of his amazing album God Reigns, Eugy has had a mind-blowing 2024. His transition into gospel music has looked somewhat seamless, with an incredible performance at the Premier Gospel Awards near the end of the year. I can definitely see
more wins, more collaborations, and more soul-stirring bangers from the guy on the Winners Side
An up-and-coming worship collective out of Birmingham, UK, who have continued to build and grow during the last couple of years. Their EP Higher and the double single ‘A House Christmas’ gives just a taste of what is to come in 2025.
Previously part of the Lotto Boyzz, Imrhan’s testament to high quality songs and social media content cannot be understated. He has shown a consistent work rate and versatility which I feel will translate into an even more superb 2025 for him musically.
Fresh from performing at the AStepFwd Awards, Laura’s gift and talent are immense as well as undeniable. The superb song ‘See Me’, featuring Becca Folkes, is still high on a lot of playlists – and rightly so. I cannot wait
to hear and see more of Laura’s singing and songwriting ability in 2025.
When we talk UK Afro Gospel, NaffymaR’s name always has to be in the mix. Now a staple in the scene, and giving us vibe after vibe with her singles and features, this year, NaffymaR will not leave 2025 without having us dancing and vibing to, hopefully, some of her new music.
The artist and producer who had two ‘leaving the listener wanting more’ EPs in Room Worship Vol 1 and his debut EP Cloud 9 in 2024, Obed has really started making even more of a name for himself within the scene. His r&b vocals with THE Gospel message is a very special combination which bodes well for whatever he decides to do in 2025 on his musical journey.
Collaborations with Limoblaze and Jackie Hill Perry are just a small sign of Sondae’s hard work and dedication to his craft. His songwriting
Ten student choirs from all over the UK will converge at Oasis House, Croydon CR0 3EX on Saturday 22nd March 2025 to perform in the University Gospel Choir of the Year (UGCY) competition. Inspired by the film Sister Act, expect an evening filled with laughter, entertainment and excitement for everyone who loves good music. Founded by Lorraine Wright MBE in 2011, UCGY provides an opportunity for university gospel choirs to perform in front of judges and a live audience.
The 10 choirs shortlisted to compete in the live finals this year are:
• BIMM Birmingham Gospel Choir – BIMM Birmingham, who are back again to defend the title after winning the UCGY competition last year
• The Revival Gospel Choir – University of Leicester
• Portsmouth Gospel Choir – University of Portsmouth
• Kent Gospel Choir – University of Kent
• Keele University Gospel Choir (KUGC) – Keele University
• Warwick Gospel Choir – University of Warwick
• King’s College Gospel Choir – King’s College London
• University of Birmingham Gospel Choir (UOB Gospel Choir) – University of Birmingham
• Canterbury Christ Church Gospel Choir – Canterbury Christ Church University
• BIMM London Gospel Choir – BIMM London
All the choirs are busy preparing to inspire with a winning performance.
pen, matched with a unique voice and sound, are heard nowhere else in the industry. Over three years, he has given us four albums – an amazing feat. This makes me look forward to how Sondae will continue to raise the bar of excellence in his music for 2025.
Taking 2023 and 2024 by storm, Y.Shadey has been true to himself as an artist. With collabs with the likes of Eugy, and recognition from some of the best in the game, he is clearly doing a lot right. Y.Shadey has given us some bangers over the last 15 months, and I know 2025 has got something big in store for the Croydon rapper.
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UGCY Founder, Lorraine Wright, MBE is looking forward to attending the final. She said: “As always, the UGCY will be full of dancing, laughter and roaring cheers – along with a few surprises and tears – as the strongest performance emerges to be crowned the 2025 University Gospel Choir of the Year.”
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Yvonne Michèle wears a number of hats. Well known in the Luton area as CEO of not-for profit organisation Global Empowerment Movement Ltd, Yvonne is also an acclaimed singer and author. She can now add playwright to the list.
On January 31 Yvonne will star in ‘Caught You In A Lie’ – her own one-woman show at The Hat Factory Arts Centre 65-67 Bute Street Luton LU1 2EY.
This production will feature gospel and lovers’ rock, and aims to uplift and encourage audiences to confront the lies they’ve believed about themselves, break free from self-doubt, and live their best lives. Through captivating musical performances and heartfelt monologues, Yvonne Michèle takes audiences on a journey that explores the lies society tells us, the excuses we create, and the deep wounds that hold us back.
“This isn’t just my story – it’s a mirror for everyone,” says Yvonne. “It’s about breaking free from the lies we believe, healing from generational trauma, and stepping into the light of our true potential. My goal is to leave people laughing, crying, and, most importantly, transformed.”
Visit www.yvonnemichele.com/ caught-you-in-a-lie/ to get tickets
Juliet Fletcher talks to musician Donavan Hepburn, who shares why he has brought together the Highgate Gospel Choir to re-record songs from their debut album first released 40 years ago
I’m excited! I think Highgate Gospel Choir (HGC) from New Testament Church of God in Birmingham has set a precedent all other church-based choirs should follow. Forty years after recording their first LIVE album – using 22 of the 29 original choir members – HGC has gathered and re-recorded the same songs.
Why? Donavan Hepburn, the youngest child of nine in a musical family, recounts and explains how the Highgate Gospel Choir rose to fame at the start of the Golden Age of British Gospel in 1979. He attributes the success of his professional and international career as a musician to the Church, and now he’s ‘giving back’. It’s a fantastic real-life story!
NTCG Highgate District was made up of five churches: Balsall Heath, Redditch, Small Heath, Sparkbrook, and Highgate. It's from these local churches that Highgate Gospel Choir was formed.
Donavan takes up the story:
Donavan Hepburn (DH): Our parents Linford and Idalee Hepburn were always in the Church. I have five older brothers and sisters who were involved in HGC: Beverley, Jean, Kathleen, Martin and Aaron. It was around the age of five when I began to notice they would all disappear for whole days at a time – and come back smiling and laughing. Martin, a drummer, influenced my love of drums and by age 13 it became apparent that it was my calling.
JULIET FLETCHER (JF): I’ll definitely ask you about your successes, but first, tell us more about this HGC album initiative.
DH: In 2019, following the passing of one of our senior pastors, J R Williams, many of those who gathered at his home were former young people from the choir. They had fond memories of him. As we sang together there was an undeniable connection – as if we hadn’t skipped more than 30-odd years. The project idea was born.
JF: So why not record an album with new songs?
DH: Good question. Here is the important answer: Roger Moore of gl360 Media (owner of Affinity Xtra Radio) has been conducting a great project called RECOUNTED – which means to tell or give an account of an event or experience. I was truly impressed with what he was doing, and it tied in perfectly with the idea that had formed in my mind: the retelling of the HGC story, with the original members singing and talking about what they did back then. They’d done numerous TV performances, toured around the country, and one of the key highlights was that they are the original choir behind Labi Siffre hit song ‘Something Inside So Strong’. Now we are gathering all the media, TV appearances, documentaries, recordings... everything we can find that evidences this amazing group of people from our churches.
JF: Donavan, I understand exactly why you’re doing it. The UK gospel scene has so little documentation about the music created by artists in the pioneering years. As someone who has lived and worked for more than 50 years in UK Gospel, I feel guilty that only now – when so many of our elders have passed – that those of my age and younger (gulp!!!) are only just beginning to take time to reflect, look for and bring to the fore what we have done – and are still doing.
DH: A key word for me in this season is INTENTIONAL! It is with resolved determination that I am forging this path, and I am deeply grateful to God for the opportunity. I’ve called this a reimagined album to celebrate HGC's 40th anniversary of the original songs, giving them a modern twist.
JF: Some of our readers probably have the original album. It's going to be fascinating for them to compare the voices of teenagers and 20-somethings to those who are now 50- and 60-yearolds performing on this special release. DH: This is what gave me confidence: I have titled it The Highgate Gospel Choir Legacy Project. In my recording studio, the voices were so rich and filled with super six+ part harmonies. The Choir’s founder, Pam McIntyre, was a trained musician.
She and her brother Fritz McIntyre were phenomenal musicians – like their father, NTCG National Overseer Bishop Jeremiah McIntyre. He was a multi-instrumentalist and drove the music quality of NTCG in those days. Sadly, neither Bishop nor his son are with us. Thankfully, Pam has given us her blessings. It’s truly her early training that constructed the choir’s musicality, harmonic strength, and the memory muscles of their vocals.
JF: It’s so special to see singers and musicians who are still able to deliver after 40 years! In your opinion, what are the top songs on the album? And tell us in more detail about their impact on you.
DH: Various songs on the album were, and still are, popular with British choirs and congregations. For example, ‘Uncloudy Day’ – a classic sung by Myrna Summers – and ‘Prayer Changes Things’ by Twinkie Clark.
JF: Oh, yeah! I understand Dr Mattie Moss Clark – with Twinkie and her sisters – went to Birmingham back then and did a vocal workshop that transformed the way you all sing.
DH: She sure did. It was a phenomenal choir workshop at COGOP Aberdeen Street. Every choir member was never the same again. Unforgettable. We also have original songs written and arranged by Pam and Fitz that became popular with audiences, like the title track ‘How Good Is The Lord’ and ‘Sing Unto The Lord’.
JF: When I saw the back of that first album, I remember being impressed that all the lyrics, songwriters, musicians, and singers – everybody – was mentioned by name.
And that Tony Cummings – co-founder of Cross Rhythms magazine/website – was the producer! He’s written a lot about Black gospel artists.
DH: It was so special for me to talk to Tony about the actual LIVE recording. He had some very interesting stories to tell (lol). I am so pleased he consented to write the sleeve notes for this anniversary edition. Lead singers, like Clifford Martin (sings and releases music with his wife Jacqueline-Louise); Trevor Minto (session singer and performing in the forthcoming Luther Vandross musical); and Evadne Kerr (performing with Clive Brown & Urban Sound Choir), all keeping up to date with their vocal talent.
JF: The original was published by Word UK on their very popular Myrrh label. It was distributed throughout Europe in 1985. Gospel artists signed to Myrrh included
Edwin Hawkins, Shirley Caesar, and many others. But you’ve funded this project?
DH: Yes, I have, and I am delighted because all that I have enjoyed and appreciated about my love for music and my success came from my roots – firmly in gospel. I am very proud of that! I have experienced over 25 years of success in the music industry, playing around the world with artists like Take That, Gary Barlow, Jeff Lynne & The Electric Light Orchestra (ELO), Alesha Dixon, and many more. It’s a job that has given me the ability to do this freely. Secondly, the choir and band for all they have done, its legacy must not be denied. My family has benefited in so many ways: they have given them and others so much JOY. You can hear it in their voices in the melodies. I first started this journey in 2019. Throughout 2023, founding choir member, Jocelyn Ferguson, would send me timely voice messages to encourage me. Sadly, she passed away in the USA in 2024 before she could hear the tracks. I just had to mention what she meant to me and this project: #invaluable.
The same JOY and HOPE that had meaning in our youth is the same in our latter years. We are looking forward to conducting a series of special performances to support this initiative. And for however long we’ll keep retelling and creating opportunities for this generation and those to come.
Connect with HGC on social media: @highgategospelchoir
Audrey Linton shares how female leaders can exhibit Christian values in the workplace via their leadership style
Leadership is often described as a lonely place – especially for men and women navigating the complexities of workplace dynamics, such as office politics and toxic cultures. However, the workplace can also present one of the most rewarding and purpose-filled opportunities for Christian leaders to bring God.’s love, wisdom and authority into spaces that so desperately need it.
In this article, the focus will be on Christian women leaders, although Christian men can certainly gain valuable insights they can apply to their own leadership journeys. As marketplace Christian leaders, our default position should always be the Word of God. What does the Bible say about how we should show up as Christian leaders? What behaviours should we cultivate, and what impact should we be striving to make? Here are three leadership virtues we can reflect on.
In Proverbs 31 we see the woman’s ability to exercise wisdom. Verse 26 reminds us that ‘She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.’ As Christian women in leadership, we must first be aware of the culture we are in and then seek to influence it for good. Leadership sets the tone for the environment. While workplace challenges are inevitable, as an ambassador of Christ, we have the spiritual authority to bring His wisdom, truth and power into the environments He has placed us. Exercising wisdom means being able to read situations clearly, make sound decisions, and stay grounded in God's Word amidst the pressures of leadership.
We should seek fresh ‘manna’ from the Lord each morning, asking for guidance and strength to make the right decisions and to lead with integrity. Yes, we will fall short at times, but it is in our daily regrouping and refocusing on God's Word and presence that we are restored and equipped for the day ahead.
The second leadership virtue is the ability to look after our team. A common reason employees leave their jobs is because they feel undervalued. In fact, employees are often more dissatisfied with their leaders than with the company itself. As Christian women leaders, we have the ability – and the responsibility – to nurture the talent entrusted to us. We are called to build platforms for success, helping our team members grow and reach the next level of their potential.
At times we will need to call out bad behaviour, discipline staff, and make tough decisions, but as we do so, we must ensure we maintain a posture of respect and dignity, dealing with issues swiftly and fairly.
Additionally, as women leaders, we may encounter challenges, like being undermined. We may struggle with imposter syndrome or have our agentic traits trivialised or masculinised by employees or other leaders. But the story of Esther in the Bible offers powerful lessons for Christian women leaders. Esther used her voice and her position to bring about change, yet she didn’t do it alone; she had supportive allies. Women leaders! Build a circle of trustworthy allies. You do not need to be the lone hero! Find mentors, coaches and people who can
speak into your life, encourage you, and hold you accountable.
The third leadership virtue is to get behind the organisation’s vision – understanding what is within your capacity to influence. Proverbs 3:27 says, ‘Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in the power of your hand to do so.’ God has placed resources, skills and opportunities into our hands to make a difference. Whether you are in a leadership position for a season or for a longer period, seek God's guidance to discern what is in your power to change for the betterment of your organisation, for those around you, or within you. Christian leadership is not always about changing the organisation; it’s often about what God is trying to change in us to refine our character, deepen our dependence on Him, and equip us for the work ahead.
Christian women in leadership have a unique calling and an incredible opportunity to bring the values of the Kingdom into the marketplace. May you be encouraged as you navigate your leadership journey, knowing God is with you, and that you are equipped to lead in a way that honours Him and transforms the world around you.
BY MARCIA DIXON MBE
Has anyone ever wondered what women’s lives would be like if Eve hadn’t eaten the forbidden fruit, as outlined in Genesis 3? I have.
For one, our relationships with men would be brilliant. Men and women would understand each other perfectly; would have total respect for each other; would see each other as equals; and we’d be united in following God’s command to multiply and have dominion in the world He created.
Adam and Eve were created as equals – with Eve designated the role of helper. The Hebrew word for helper is ‘ezer’ and is used 21 times in the Old Testament. Two of those times it is used in reference to Eve; three other times it’s used when Israel called on powerful nations to help them when overwhelmed by aggressive nations, and 16 times when God is referred to as our Help. Eve was created to be Adam’s helper, working alongside him, as his equal, to help him fulfil God’s mandate for humanity.
The disharmony between men and women arose because Eve succumbed to the tempting words of the serpent and then caused Adam to do the same. Both were judged by God and expelled from the Garden of Eden. Eve was told that, due to her actions, she would experience pain in childbirth and have a desire for her husband who would rule over her.
This judgement – some would say curse – has been played out in women’s lives through the centuries. In fact, prior to the advent of modern medicine, childbearing was not only painful; it often resulted in death. Even today, maternal mortality rates still remain high in some parts of the world, and are higher for some ethnicities than others. For example, in the UK, the maternal mortality rate amongst Black mothers is said
to be nearly four times higher than amongst white mothers (UK Parliament report).
Furthermore, some would say the existence of patriarchy – a system of society or government where men hold the majority of power – is a result of the fall, hence the debates in modern society about a woman’s role. Then there’s the whole issue of submission in marriage – as described in Ephesians 5 – which has been used by (some) men to justify domestic violence and abuse of their wives to “keep them in line”. Were it not for the fall, men would not behave in this way towards their spouses.
Jesus died to break every curse and reverse the impact of sin on people’s psyche, on their lives and on their relationships. This is why women flourish when they accept the Gospel. They are able to fully love God, themselves and others and, for some, they are able to recognise for the first time that they are ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’.
Women of faith should demonstrate, through their lives and accomplishments, God’s original intention for humankind, and for women specifically. Women should be viewed as more than just wives and mothers – even though these are honourable callings. Women can serve in the whole gamut of roles, as the Bible shows us: as political leaders (Deborah, a judge), royalty (Queen Esther), spiritual leaders (Miriam, a prophetess), business women (Lydia, a merchant of purple cloth, and Priscilla, who alongside her husband Aquila made tents, and worked alongside the apostle Paul in Ephesus and Corinth).
It’s important for everyone to be mindful of God’s primary purpose for women before sin entered the world. Women were created to be men’s helpers – not beneath them, not above them – but working alongside them, as equals, to fulfil God’s purposes.
When I was younger, churches used to regularly hold evangelistic outreaches to win people to Christ. I got saved at a youth outreach.
Evangelistic meetings were major events. Churches put a lot of time, energy and prayer into them, so that they were well executed, and people would get saved.
I get the impression that churches are more into friendship evangelism these days, i.e., members are encouraged to share the Gospel with friends and family and invite them to church. Whilst friendship evangelism is great, how will those who have no Christian friends or relatives hear the Gospel? The answer is by evangelistic outreach – whether it’s street evangelism, prison ministry, or a church runs one.
Evangelistic outreaches still have the power –whether they last a day, a week or a month – to transform lives and communities.
I still remember the time in the noughties when the church I was attending held a service focused on reaching people involved in gangs, guns and crime. Nine hundred people attended that service!
When the sermon was over and the altar call was given, men responded, crying. Some took their drugs to the altar with them. Some went and got their weapons and laid them on the rostrum. Several gave their hearts to God. The Holy Spirit moved tremendously.
The Church is the vehicle God uses to proclaim His message of salvation. Let’s not be afraid to continue using evangelistic outreaches as one of the tools to reach the lost and those God wants to bring into His Kingdom.
College sweethearts Dr Jackie and Travis Greene always sensed a deeper purpose to their love. However, the exact way God would weave their lives together was yet to be unveiled. Unbeknown to them both, the seeds of faithful service sown during their college ministry years would return a bountiful harvest: a global ministry. Today, Dr Jackie is a highly sought-after preacher and author, while Travis is a world-renowned multi award-winning recording artist and pastor. Together, they co-pastor Forward City Church, one of South Carolina’s fastest-growing churches. While their professional successes are undeniable, if you asked either of them about their proudest achievement, it would be their three sons: Jace, Josh and Judah Akosua DF caught up with Travis and Dr Jackie to talk all things love, family and ministry.
AKOSUA DF (ADF): For those unfamiliar with your love story, you met during your college years at Columbia University. However, it wasn’t always smooth sailing. At one point, you (Dr Jackie) saved Travis’s number as ‘Never Again’! Tell us about that ‘interesting’ period in your relationship and how Travis ultimately won you back.
DR JACKIE GREENE (DJG): Oh, that’s true! There was a season where I just thought, “This man is not serious.” Travis had a way of being, let’s say, creatively persistent. There were moments when I didn’t feel he was fully aligned with what I wanted in a partner. But here’s the thing about Travis, he’s a fighter, and not in an aggressive way, but in a way that showed he was willing to grow. God began to show me his heart and his potential. Slowly, I realised that his persistence wasn’t just about me, it was about his faith that God had a plan for us.
TRAVIS GREENE (TG): Yeah, I had to step my game up! I knew Jackie was the one, but I also knew I needed to mature. I think what ultimately won her back was consistency, being intentional, and showing her that I was ready to lead spiritually, emotionally and practically. Once she saw the changes, I think God did the rest.
ADF: You both have incredibly busy schedules. Can you share some insights on how you’ve managed to nurture both your marriage and ministry during the most demanding times?
TG: First, we’ve learnt that God has to remain the centre of everything. When you’re rooted in Him, He gives you the grace to balance it all. Practically, we are intentional about creating boundaries. There are days when ministry has to wait because our marriage comes first.
DJG: Communication is huge for us. We check in regularly, what’s working, what’s not, and where we need to shift. We also schedule time for just us. Even if we have to block out the calendar weeks in advance, we make sure we’re protecting that sacred space.
TG: And let’s not forget teamwork. We don’t see it as ‘my ministry’ or ‘her ministry’; it’s our ministry. That mindset helps us stay aligned, even when things get overwhelming.
ADF: In recent years, Dr Jackie has emerged as one of the leading Christian female voices. Travis, what are some of the practical ways you’ve helped her thrive and maximise her potential?
TG: You know, God gave Jackie an extraordinary
gift, and my role is to be her biggest supporter. That means creating space for her to flourish. Whether it’s taking on extra responsibilities at home, helping with the kids, or even just speaking life into her dreams, I’m all in.
DJG: He really is. Travis always says, “Your win is our win,” and he lives that out. His support has allowed me to step into spaces I never imagined.
TG: It’s about partnership. When you genuinely want your spouse to succeed, you’ll find ways to lift them up, even if it means stepping back sometimes to let their light shine.
"...we’ve learnt that God has to remain the centre of everything. When you’re rooted in Him, He gives you the grace to balance it all."
ADF: What does ‘downtime’ look like in the Greene household?
DJG: Honestly? It’s pretty simple: we’re homebodies when we get the chance. Movie nights, board games with the kids, or just relaxing on the couch... those moments mean everything to us.
TG: And food! I love getting in the kitchen and whipping up something, even if it’s just breakfast for dinner. Downtime is about being present with each other, no matter what we’re doing.
ADF: Breakfast for dinner? [laughs] So what can we expect from you both this year?
DJG: We’re excited about what God has in store! I’ll be releasing a new book that’s been on my heart for a while now, focusing on identity and purpose.
TG: And musically, I’ll be touring with some new worship projects that I believe will bless the body of Christ.
DJG: We’re also working on some joint ministry initiatives, especially geared toward marriage and family. 2025 is going to be a year of growth and impact, for sure.
ADF: Final fun question: holiday with or without the kids?
DJG: Oh, that’s a tough one! Can we say both?
TG: Absolutely both. Family trips are amazing for creating memories with the kids, but every now and then, you need that one-on-one time to reconnect as a couple.
DJG: So true. Balance is key!
Visit https://www.forwardcity.tv for info about Forward City Church
Christian women can be found in a wide range of roles – both within and outside the Church. They are having an impact and making a difference.
Keep The Faith has compiled an impressive line-up of Christian women who are just doing their thing – whether as professionals, church leaders, preachers or businesswomen – and in the process they are making inroads and shining a light.
So have a read and be inspired...
Writer, founder of the Orange Room Collective
Shani Akilah is a Black British Caribbean writer and screenwriter from South London who has made a mark following the publication of her debut book, For Such a Time as This, which was released last year. It was voted Best Short Story Collection at the 2024 Cosmopolitan Book Awards and has received widespread praise amongst readers, authors and reviewers. Shani is also the co-founder and cultural producer of the Orange Room Collective, which celebrates Black British creatives in London. In recognition of her contribution to literature, her local borough, the London Borough of Greenwich, named a new library, The Shani Akilah Library in her honour in October 2024. Shani is also a book influencer, served as a literary judge for the Nota Bene Prize in 2023, and holds a master’s
degree in African Studies from the University of Oxford.
Visit www.shaniakilah.com
Founder, The Rehoboth Foundation
Rev Celia Apeagyei-Collins is one of the UK’s most popular Christian speakers and teachers. She is in constant demand to preach and teach at church conferences, ministry events, church services, as well as to deliver talks at secular conferences. Pastor Celia, as she is affectionately known, is also founder of The Rehoboth Foundation. It provides training for leaders and emerging leaders, mentoring, as well as practical support to vulnerable communities in Ghana, and micro-financing to help individuals earn an income. She is also a director of the NCLF (National Church Leaders Forum). In recent years, Pastor Celia has presented a number of shows on TBN UK. Programmes Rev Celia hosts include Take the Lead, and Fit for Purpose
Visit www.therehobothfoundationgh.org.uk
Founder of Pure Hearts and LVC Trust
Kika Ashanike is known to many in her role presenting TBN UK show, The Perspective; however, she is also a ministry leader, speaker and businesswoman. She is Founder of Pure Hearts – a charity that helps Christians find healing and wholeness through events and retreats; and she speaks on church and ministry platforms across the UK and in countries like Nigeria, Ireland and India. Kika is Director of LVC Trust – a business that helps individuals, faith networks, and SMEs to register as charities; and provides training for leadership teams.
In 2022, Kika launched Jael & Co., an online platform for women that provides
teaching and insight in the areas of character development, servant leadership, and much more.
Visit https://www.purehearts.org.uk/ and www.lvc-trust.org
A photographer, who’s also a believer making waves, is Holly-Marie Cato, an award-winning, in-demand documentary maker and commercial photographer. Holly-Marie’s work explores how people use space within the built environment, and she has travelled the world, documenting stories of resilience, human rights, and wildlife conservation, partnering with international brands. She has hosted masterclasses and workshops with Leica Akademie, The Photographers’ Gallery, and National Geographic Traveller; and has co-led the Southbank Centre’s first art residency – REFRAME – in partnership with Apple, for Black emerging artists. Holly-Marie held her debut solo exhibition, ‘Heavy is the Mantle’, at Leica Gallery London, which honoured the presence of Caribbean churches in England. Keen to make her profession more diverse and inclusive, she curated a programme for Leica’s Black History Month in partnership with WePresent, where monetary grants, camera equipment, and portfolio reviews were awarded to underrepresented photographers.
Visit www.hollycato.com
CEO, RAFFA International Development Agency
Angela Clarke is Chief Executive Officer of RAFFA International Development Agency – the charitable arm of the Church of God of Prophecy UK – which seeks to reduce inequalities and supports local and global community. It achieves
this by providing essential medical equipment, food and supplies to those in need. RAFFA’s work has included partnering with the NHS and NHSBT to reduce health inequalities, as well as working with the Home Office to assist the Windrush Generation and their descendants to apply for naturalisation and compensation. Angela is also a Head of Provider Services in Adult Health and Social Care for local government; sits on boards for safeguarding children and adults; and undertakes investigations. In 2022, Angela received a Commendation from the Home Secretary and, in 2023, was honoured with a British Empire Medal (BEM) by King Charles III. She takes special pride in the inscription on her medal, which reads ‘For God and the Empire’, reflecting her dual commitment to her faith and community service.
Visit www.raffa.org.uk
Founder, Young Lit Stars and the Children’s Black Book Fair
Juliet Coley is forever remembered as co-presenter, alongside Bishop John Francis, of award-winning gospel music show People Get Ready, screened on Channel 4 and ITV1 in the late 80s and early 90s. Since those heady days, Juliet has held various roles. She taught in an inner-city school for 20 years and retired as a senior deputy headteacher with an award from Haringey Council for Outstanding Achievement in Education. She has written six books, including Mothers of Zion, which profiles mature Windrush women within the Black Pentecostal Church. Her publishing company, Young Lit Stars, has published over 60 young black authors in 25 books. She is Patron of a school in Ghana; Director of Youth Advocacy charity Perm Inc that works with parents whose children are at risk of being permanently excluded; and is Chair of Hackney Council’s Improving Outcomes of Black Children and Young People’s Accountability Board. In 2024, she launched the Children’s Black Book Fair UK and was Managing Editor of Exodus Christian magazine’s 40th Anniversary Special Edition. www.younglitstars.com/juliet
Founder of Cultural Style Week, and prayer minister
Nigerian-born mumpreneur Candy-Ellie Graham is the visionary behind Cultural Style Week, an international movement that encourages people to celebrate their unique cultural heritage through fashion, beauty and self-expression. This movement began as an online initiative and has expanded to in-person events across the UK and internationally. Candy is also the founder of Cultural Fashion & Arts CIC, which creates culturally relevant educational resources, and hosts impactful events.
Alongside her love of fashion, Candy is
committed to helping people feel good about themselves. She serves as prayer minister with Living Bridge Ministries and at her home church, Holy Trinity Brompton in West London. Candy is a YouTuber and has shared her personal healing journey through her Libertatem TV channel, offering viewers tools to find healing, and teaching them how to maintain freedom through Christ.
Visit www.culturalstyleweek.com
SARAH KITTOE
Children’s author and philanthropist
Sarah Kittoe is one of the growing number of child authors using their talents to inspire other young people and be a blessing to the vulnerable. This 12-year-old has published four books – the first at just seven years old. Sarah is also a young philanthropist. Inspired by her faith and a desire to make a difference, she donates the proceeds from her books to two charities –Centrepoint, and West Croydon Methodist Church Wednesday Club. She has also spearheaded the development of two libraries in Ghana. Sarah has been nominated for the prestigious Pride of Britain Award and honoured with the Special Recognition Award at the ROYaL Global Awards. The child of Christian parents, Sarah is guided by the biblical principles of Philippians 4:13 (‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me’) amongst others, so she can serve her local community and wider world with her talent, compassion, and unwavering faith.
Follow on Instagram @sarahkittoebooks
JOYCE FLETCHER
National Women/Family Ministries Director, Church of God of Prophecy UK
Joyce Fletcher is an ordained minister, trustee and is the National Women/Family Ministries
Director for the Church of God of Prophecy UK (COGOP), overseeing the COGOP Children’s, Youth, Men, Seniors, and Women’s Ministries. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Joyce founded the Connect Series, online events for women in the UK and around the globe. These events have continued. Joyce has spent much of her professional life in the NHS, starting as a registered nurse, rising to the role of Executive Board Director in the areas of leadership of Nursing and all non-medical professions, Quality and Governance. Her specialism is mental health and well-being. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Joyce led the faith response to COVID-19 as a member of the Chief Nursing Officer team, raising the importance of faith in health and social care, whilst engaging national multifaith organisations across the UK. She also commissioned research into the importance of faith and psychospiritual approaches.
Visit www.cogop.org.uk
Bishop of Dover
Within and outside the Church of England, Bishop Rose Hudson-Wilkin is a figure of inspiration for many. She made history by becoming Britain’s first Black female Anglican bishop, when she was appointed Bishop of Dover 2019. She recently published her autobiography, The Girl from Montego Bay (SPCK Publishing), which chronicles her journey from growing up in Jamaica, journeying to the UK, becoming a church leader, to ministering to monarchy and politicians. In 2007 she was appointed as a Chaplain to Her Majesty the Queen and, in 2010, she became the first female appointed to the position of the 79th Chaplain to the Speaker of the House of Commons. In November 2014, she took on the additional responsibility as Priest in Charge of city church, St Mary-at-Hill near Monument.
She has previously served as a member of the General Synod of the Church of England and as one of the Panel of Chairs of the Synod. She has twice represented the Church of England at the World Council of Churches (in Zimbabwe and Brazil), and served as its priest representative on the Anglican Consultative Council for nine years.
Visit www.canterburydiocese.org
Spoken Word Artist
Poetess Jess is a multi award-winning Christian spoken word artist who has become a leading voice and pioneering force in the UK Gospel spoken word scene. She uses her poetry to uplift and inspire. She won the How Sweet the Sound gospel competition for Christian creatives at London’s prestigious Royal Albert Hall. A graduate of Guildhall School of Music & Drama, Poetess Jess has performed on various Christian and secular platforms, including the
MOBO Awards, BBC, Premier Christian Radio, Big Church Fest, +44 Podcast, TBN UK, PIA (Poets in Autumn), The Black Magic Awards, Amazon Music, and many more. She also had the privilege of opening for the pioneer of grime music, D Double E. Last year she embarked on hosting masterclasses to train others in being spoken word artists.
Visit www.poetessjess.com
Founder, The Father’s Joy Ministries, special needs advocate
Apostle Victoria Lawrence wears a number of hats. She runs a mentoring programme for women called to ministry in the UK and abroad, and has led missions in various African nations, including Kenya, Malawi, Zambia, Uganda, Ghana and Nigeria. Apostle Lawrence is the founder of The Father’s Joy Ministries (TFJM), which empowers women to lead in all spheres of society. TFJM advocates for children with special needs and encourages churches to support families with special needs children. Victoria is a trained therapeutic counsellor and is Co-Facilitator for REGAIN, a self-rediscovery programme for women who have experienced life disappointments or who feel stuck. She also hosts Dinner4Dads – an awards event to celebrate fathers. Victoria has an unquestionable love for God and people, and seeks to impact everyone she comes into contact with.
Visit www.thefathersjoy.org.uk
Founder/Director, Multicultural Marketing Consultancy
Patricia is Founder/Director of award-winning PR and marketing agency Multicultural Marketing Consultancy that is dedicated to reducing inequalities within multicultural communities across the UK. Patricia has played a key role
in shaping communications across various government departments, including the Home Office and NHS England, for over two decades. She has also spearheaded a range of highprofile behaviour change campaigns that have addressed pressing societal issues, such as the Windrush Scheme; encouraging early diagnosis of cancer, stroke and dementia; and tackling Violence Against Women and Girls. Outside her work, Patricia is a minister at The Excel Church and heads the women’s ministry, which seeks to empower women to excel in all areas of their lives. Her work has earned her the prestigious Wise Women Award for enriching and uplifting women from diverse backgrounds.
Visit www.mmc-uk.co.uk
Preacher and ministry leader
Evangelist Sharon Miller, an ordained minister within the New Testament Church of God, is a woman in demand for her passionate preaching of the Gospel. She receives invitations across the world to preach. Nations she has visited include England, Scotland, Wales, Canada, Ghana, South Africa, Kenya, USA, and the Caribbean. She also has a ministry for intercessory prayer and is Founder of PrayerCloset Ministries UK – a prayer ministry that brings people across the world to pray. She is committed to seeing people become Christians and has been featured on TBN UK.
To find Sharon on Facebook search for Evangelist Shaz Miller.
Charmaine Noble-McLean is an award-winning media and communications professional and is Director of Content at Premier Media Group (PMG) – one of the UK’s leading Christian media organisations. She has served PMG in various capacities, culminating in her current role which entails overseeing the creation of content across PMG’s various platforms, which encompass radio, digital and publication. Her accolades including receiving a Fellowship from the Radio Academy. Charmaine supports initiatives that provide mentorship and training for aspiring journalists and media creators, and is a mentor for Christians in Media. At the heart of Charmaine’s career is a genuine desire to see individuals flourish in their calling and through her work she remains dedicated to uplifting others.
Visit www.premier.org.uk
REV LOLA OYEBADE
President of Feast of Esther UK and Founder, HOTRIC
Rev Lola Oyebade is a church founder, ministry leader, and pastor of HOTRIC (House on the Rock International Church), based in Bermondsey, South East London. A preacher, conference speaker, and missionary, she has
shared the Gospel across the world, including China. She is dedicated to raising leaders, and serves as President of Women of Faith International, a mentoring ministry for women and is an executive board member of PVM (Prophetic Voice Ministers’ Fellowship UK). Active in the community, Rev Lola is the CEO of the award-winning HOTRIC Charity Shop, based on Tower Bridge Road, London. Last year, Rev Lola was appointed as President of The Feast of Esther, a ministry that brings together female church leaders, who are wives of general overseers, prelates, archbishops, heads of ministries, and women leaders of ministries for fellowship, equipping and empowering.
Visit www.hotric.org.uk
Currently serving as vicar of St John’s Church, Egham, the Rt Rev Esther Prior is due to be appointed as Bishop of Aston, sited in the Diocese of Birmingham, in May 2025. Alongside her role as a church leader, Rev Prior serves as Chair of Trinity College, Bristol, and is on the General Synod as Pro-Prolocutor and on the Crown Nominations Commission. Until recently Esther was Vice-Chair of Church Pastoral Aid Society Patronage Trustees. Originally from Zimbabwe, Rev Prior came to England in 1999 to study theology at Trinity College, Bristol. After two curacies, she served as a school chaplain, a young offenders’ prison chaplain, and a team vicar in Farnborough. Esther is passionate about the local church being a loving and growing community, where God’s people of all ages are empowered and released to follow Jesus in their everyday lives, and has a special interest in fostering partnerships in the wider community for the common good.
Visit www.cofebirmingham.com
MARCIA M SPENCE
Book publisher, Managing Editor, Aspire Magazine
Marcia M. Spence, aka ‘The Authors’ Midwife’ is the award-winning Director of Marcia M Publishing House Ltd (MMPH), which has supported over 250 authors on their selfpublishing journey. In recent years, she has worked with church leaders, theologians and Christians, helping them craft books about their ministries, biblical knowledge, memoirs and spiritual journeys. Notable projects MMPH has worked on includinge developing books and an app for West Midlands Police. A member of the New Testament Church of God, Marcia Spence has a large social media following and used her platform to talk about living with trigeminal neuralgia and fibromyalgia. Last year Marcia became Managing Editor and Creative Director of ASPIRE, a magazine which profiles winners of the MBCC Awards, an event founded by businesswoman Zoe Bennett. This year, Marcia is working on launching her second
small press, offering traditional publishing deals for people with invisible disabilities. Visit www.marciampublishing.com
Managing Director, The People’s Partner
Michelle Raymond has become an influential figure and inspiration in her role as Managing Director of The People’s Partner, an executive coaching and training consultancy. Michelle has spearheaded initiatives, like the Emerging Leadership Programme at UCL, and worked with numerous corporates, including Amazon, BT, Lloyds Banking Group, and Deloitte. She is a co-founder of the Diverse Business Summit (DBS), London. Launched in 2023, DBS informs business owners how to win contracts with corporates. Michelle is also a co-founder of the Diverse Business Summit Global, held in Dubai. In addition to her consultancy work, Michelle holds non-executive directorships on two boards and serves on the Lloyds Bank Black Advisory Board. Her insights and expertise have been showcased by prominent media outlets, including the BBC, ITV, Sky TV, People Management, and Good Housekeeping Magazine
Visit www.thepeoplespartner.com
Preacher/speaker, Founder of Emerge Worldwide Elder Sharlette Reid has made a mark as a preacher and teacher and, in the process, become a popular figure. She has spoken as church services, conferences, mission outreaches, across the UK, and internationally in Namibia, Jamaica, South Africa, the US and beyond. She is Founder of the Ore Community, a retreat dedicated to wholeness and healing, and is Founder of The Outpouring, an annual gathering of believers for a time of prayer, fasting and intercession. Aside from being a preacher of the Gospel, Sharlette is the visionary
behind Emerge World, an organisation combatting sex trafficking and exploitation, and has authored a book called Emerge Connect on Instagram @sharlette.e.reid
Founder/Chair, Caribbean & African Health Network (CAHN)
The Caribbean & African Health Network (CAHN), founded by Dr Faye Ruddock, partners with stakeholders across the UK to address health inequalities in the Black community. CAHN also hosts the Black Health Awards. A clinician by background, Dr Ruddock has developed university undergraduate and postgraduate degree programmes aligned to nursing and public health over the last two decades. Aside from her work at CAHN, Dr Ruddock is Director at the Institute of Health Equity & Social Justice, University of Greater Manchester, and the North West systemwide Independent Chair for Anti-racism in Nursing & Midwifery. Faye has co-chaired the Diabetes UK Health Inequalities Commission; and chaired the first Black Cardiovascular Disease Advisory Group for NHS England. Faye is a Deputy Lieutenant in the county of Greater Manchester and District Lead for Trafford.
Visit www.cahn.org.uk
CAROL STEWART
Founder, Abounding Solutions
Carol Stewart is Founder of Abounding Solutions, which provides a range of coaching and training services. Carol is a coaching psychologist, providing executive, career, and leadership coaching; author of Quietly Visible: Leading with Influence and Impact as an Introverted Woman and presents the Quietly Visible podcast. She is renowned for her specialist service coaching introverted leaders. Her clients have included Barclays, Bloomberg, and the Metropolitan Black Police Association. Last year Carol hosted the first-ever conference for introverts. She is widely recognised for her professional skills; this includes being featured on the Inclusive Awards, Diversity Power List last year; being named a LinkedIn Top Voice UK in 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020, 2022 and 2023; added to the Northern Power Women, Power List in 2023; receiving the Inspirational Woman of the Year at the Wise Women Awards in 2018; and the We Are The City, Rising Star Champion Award for her work helping women to develop as leaders.
Visit www.aboundingsolutions.com
NIKKI TAPPER
BBC radio presenter, event host, podcaster, trainer
Nikki Tapper is a well-known broadcaster in the West Midlands, having spent much of her career at BBC West Midlands. She first became known in the church community as a co-presenter of a gospel show in 1998 on Galaxy 102.2, becoming a solo presenter in 1999. In 2003 she joined BBC WM
to present a gospel show, taking over from local legend, the late Frank Stewart. Nikki presented 'The Gospel Lounge’ on BBC WM for nine years, as well as other programmes on BBC Radio WM, and BBC Coventry & Warwickshire. These included BBC Sport Relief and the Commonwealth Games 2022 Special with BBC Radio 1Xtra. In 2024 Nikki produced her podcast ‘Have You Got 10 Minutes?’ where she chats with household names from business, sport, music, TV, Film. She also presents ‘Tapper’s Tree’ – a mix of music and chat – on gospel internet station Affinity Xtra, and is now one the Midlands most experienced and established hosts/ comperes for events. Nikki is a patron for the Birmingham-based charity, Edward’s Trust.
Connect on Instagram @nikkitapper
SHARON THOMPSON
Deputy Leader, Birmingham City Council
Sharon Thompson is a history maker. Homeless as a teenager, she is now one of the most influential women in Birmingham, having been first appointed as Deputy Leader of Birmingham City Council 2023. She is the first Black woman and ethnic minority to be in such a role. As Deputy Leader, Sharon also holds the cabinet portfolio for skills, jobs and apprenticeships, strategic partnerships, and Cost of Living. In May 2024 she was reappointed Deputy Leader of Birmingham City Council and Cabinet Member for Economy and Skills. In June 2024, Sharon was appointed Deputy Mayor of the West Midlands Combined Authority. Prior to being appointed to her current roles, she worked as a councillor. She has spent much of her professional career in the Third, Public and Housing Sectors. In addition, she has served as a magistrate.
Visit www.sharonthompson.co.uk
June Ross MBE is founder/leader of Esther’s Community Enterprise (ECE) – one of the largest non-profit/charitable organisations started by a Black woman here in Britain. ECE leads a consortium of charities, faith groups, projects, and organisations whose 400+ volunteers distribute free food and clothing to people across London and the UK. ECE’s work has had great impact, and in 2016, June received an MBE from the late Queen. June, a mother of two and committed Christian, spoke to Keep The Faith about her work, faith, and feeding the nation.
KEEP THE FAITH (KTF): What inspired you to set up Esther's Community Enterprise (ECE), and how did your Christian faith influence that decision?
JUNE ROSS MBE (JR): I was doing my housework in April 2004, when I heard a distinct voice saying, “I'm going to feed you with manna.” In that same week, I had a prophetic dream and saw myself dressed in a purple robe with an exquisite crown on my head. I was standing in front of a supermarket with an open automatic door. As I looked down at my hands, I saw food coming out at a phenomenal rate. The dream was so real, that I went and bought a tiara – to symbolise the crown – and a purple piece of fabric which I put in a box as a symbolic act. I sought the Lord for clarity, and he told me that a time was coming when people would not be able to feed themselves or their families. He gave me a blueprint of how to set up foodbanks and secure contractual agreements with our retail sponsor donors, which would help to support the communities in the future. By 2008, there was an economic crash, and our foodbanks were already set in motion to help those in need.
KTF: How many people does ECE currently serve, and what kind of impact
does the foodbank have on their lives?
JR: We currently feed more than 50,000 people on a weekly basis across the UK in London, Birmingham, Milton Keynes, Leeds, and Wolverhampton. We are seeing white-collar workers having to access our foodbanks due to the cost-of-living crisis, which proves “misfortune has no prejudice”. Anyone can find themselves in need of help. We have seen church growth, people finding jobs, and social cohesion formed within neighbourhoods and communities because of the foodbanks.
KTF: ECE has been operating for some time now. What are some of the major achievements that have stood out to you over the years?
JR: We celebrate 21 years of service in 2025 and will host a fundraising gala event in the autumn. This is a major accomplishment for a non-profit voluntary organisation. The greatest milestone for me was seeing the prophetic dream and blueprint materialise in real time. In 2011, ECE was awarded the Queen’s Award for Voluntary Service (equivalent to an MBE for volunteers). The commemorative
crystal was encased in a purple box with an image of a gold crown on the front – just like the symbols of my dream! In 2016, I received my MBE from the Queen herself, which aligned with the biblical story of the journey of Esther and royalty. Other milestones include being a self-published author of my first book, A Call by Royal Appointment: Your Dreams Can Come True, which highlights my personal journey with ECE.
KTF: What have been the major challenges you have experienced running ECE, and how has your faith helped you overcome them?
JR: From the onset of starting ECE, I was very much aware that this was something God Himself was orchestrating, not me. One of the words He gave me was “You look after My business, and I will look after yours.” These words cemented my trust in Him during those dark moments when I wanted to quit. My major challenges came in the form of sabotage and jealousy. Like anyone in leadership, in the early years you will encounter those who have ulterior motives, who will only follow you for the ‘fish and bread’ (literally).
KTF: Tell me a little bit about your upbringing, i.e., your childhood, siblings, and the role of faith in your life.
JR: My dad was a pastor and one of the co-founders and pioneers to establish the COGOP in England. Both our parents are now deceased: Mum in 1987 and Dad in 2020. I am one of nine siblings (six from the marriage of my parents); I have six bonus siblings from my father’s remarriage, after my mother passed. My mother had what I would describe as a ‘heightened discernment’ like no other. She was the epitome of a nurturer. Mum was a homemaker and had creative skills, like dressmaking, making patties, and homemade ginger beer. Dad was very much the disciplinarian and flowed in the healing ministry from time to time. He also had a dry sense of humour! As a child I suffered from chronic asthma, which at one point left me lifeless during one of our church services. I was 10 years old. It was my father who anointed me with oil, took me in his arms, and threw me up in the air three times whilst speaking in tongues. I was healed instantly and never had another asthma attack again. That experience stirred a hunger and love for God, as I began to experience many prophetic dreams and visions during my early childhood and throughout my present Christian walk. Even when I didn't have the full knowledge and understanding of what they meant, they would always play out with great accuracy when God gave me the revelation.
KTF: What inspired you to make the decision to follow Jesus, and how has being a Christian impacted your life? JR: For obvious reasons, you had little to no choice whether you were going to be a Christian or not, when you’re raised as a PK (Pastor’s Kid). However, my healing was the catalyst of wanting to know Christ more, in addition to witnessing great examples of parents who knew how to pray and who lived sacrificially for the work of the Lord. As I continue my walk with Christ, I have come to realise that the fear and reverence of His presence will help me to make right choices. I have witnessed firsthand the miracles and provision He has made for me as a single parent and for my children (who are now grown adults). There were days when I didn't know how things would work out, but God always has a plan. Witnessing my eldest daughter getting married recently has been the highlight of this year for me. My family mean the world to me. I would encourage those experiencing life struggles to find a good church home where you can start your healing journey. For me and my household, Ruach City Church was the oasis that helped bring my vision back to life.
KTF: How do you feel about founding and leading one of the largest charities/ non-profit organisations founded by a
Black woman here in the UK?
JR: To be honest, it didn't dawn on me until I read one of your featured articles in The Voice newspaper many years ago on ‘Women making a difference’, and you added me to the line-up!!! I never started this journey for the accolades, but He who sees in secret will reward you openly. I do feel honoured and privileged to be doing something I really enjoy and that brings a sense of satisfaction. I see Black women making their mark in areas that were once prohibited for them to thrive in. Many sacrifices have been made by our forerunners, and I believe we owe it to ourselves – and to them – to take our seat at the table unapologetically.
KTF: Looking ahead to 2025, what are your hopes and dreams for the future of ECE? Are there specific goals or new initiatives you’d like to achieve?
JR: It would be great to see the economy level up from this place of austerity to where there would be no need for foodbanks and everyone inherited their ‘promised land’, so to speak. I understand my assignment as being part of the seven mountains of influence in the Kingdom, therefore I believe that ECE will continue to serve until such time when the
need for manna will cease. Until then, I am enjoying the journey with my ECE family, and the doors that are being opened as well as the ones that are being closed.
KTF: Finally, what message would you like to share with readers who might be considering starting their own faithinspired initiatives?
JR: Be more concerned about having the presence of God going with you and before you if you want to start a faith-inspired initiative. There are many gifted initiatives that may seem good, but is it God? The process of the call will either make you or break you, so it is vital that your foundation is based on Christ, on His directives and on His Word. Leading people is no easy feat; I witnessed some difficult moments my parents faced in their pastoral journey. God will send you your tribe of people who will help and support you to execute the vision He gave you.
For more details about Esther’s Community Enterprise, visit https://www.eceuk.org/ Connect with June on LinkedIn at https:// www.linkedin.com/in/june-ross-mbe8721b415/
The Wise Women Awards (WWA) is considered Britain’s premier awards for Christian women.
Every March, on the day before Mothering Sunday, women gather to see who will receive an award at this inspirational event. Previous award winners read like a who’s who of women in Britain’s Black Christian community.
Apostle Marjorie Esomowei, who co-pastors Triumphant Church International alongside her husband Pastor Clem Esomowei, is the brainchild behind WWA and on March 29, this nationally known event celebrates its 20th anniversary.
Keep The Faith spoke to Apostle Marjorie about the Awards to discover its impact on women, her plans for WWA’s future, and her personal goals for 2024
KEEP THE FAITH: What inspired you to start the Wise Women Awards 20 years ago, and what impact did you want it to have?
APOSTLE MARJORIE ESOMOWEI (AME): The vision for the Wise Women Awards came to me as a very young believer. I heard God clearly say: “Go and celebrate My daughters.” The voice of God is always my main inspiration in all my life assignments.
If I must be honest, when we held the first Awards in 2004 at a school hall in Islington, we never knew it would have such an impact. My heart was to celebrate Christian women, who are going against the odds to shine the light of the Gospel in their various communities.
A few weeks ago, when I took time to go through photos from 2004 to date, I was overwhelmed by what I saw. I looked back at all the faces, had a flashback of the many years of the Awards, and I could only kneel down to say: “Thank You, Lord.”
KTF: How has the Wise Women Awards evolved over the past two decades, and what are some of the foremost memories you recall from the event over the years?
AME: We started from our ‘Jerusalem’ (Triumphant Church International), where most of the attendees were from my local church and women from other churches were awarded. We built up from there, growing from strength to strength each year. I remember that first year, we only awarded one person.
Over the years, our award criteria keep improving, and each year God gives wisdom for finetuning the criteria, so the right winners are selected.
In 2013, the Awards launched out from UK to Nigeria, where it’s now on the way to its 10th Wise Women Awards. In the next decade, we hope to see the Wise Women Awards being held in other African countries.
KTF: How has Keep The Faith magazine helped you and WWA in its journey of hosting the Awards?
AME: I have always believed that women’s ministries
should prayerfully collaborate with other women’s ministries and other organisations. Like Mary and Elizabeth, the right collaborations cause your ‘baby’ to leap.
When we collaborated with Keep The Faith magazine in 2011, it improved our brand to the extent that we are now a widely accepted inter-denominational organisation. We can humbly say that the date for the Wise Women Awards is now a must-attend date in the UK Christian calendar. Thank you, Keep The Faith magazine.
KTF: Looking back, how has founding the Wise Women Awards influenced or shaped your personal journey as a leader in ministry?
AME: I feel immensely grateful to serve the Christian community through the Wise Women Awards forum. Knowing that I have such an assignment every year makes me push towards my self-development as a Christian leader. I draw closer to the Lord, spending time to pray for award winners, and asking that the award is the least of things they would ever achieve in their life’s journey.
KTF: Can you share some examples of how receiving a Wise Women Award has impacted the lives or ministries of past recipients?
AME: I know, from the joy I see on women’s faces, that they greatly value receiving a Wise Women Award for their work and service for the Lord. I don’t know whether receiving an award has impact people’s ministries, but I have watched the ministries and/or careers of some WWA recipients have continued to grow and expand. For example, the 2011 winner of the Woman of the Year Award, Rt Rev Rose HudsonWilkin, is now the Bishop of Dover; Karen Gibson, recipient of the Woman in Music Award in 2011 is now known throughout the world after performing at the wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle;
and Sharon Thompson, winner of the Women in Politics Award in 2022, who is now Deputy Leader of Birmingham Council.
KTF: What do you think the Church can or should do to further empower women and amplify their voices in leadership and service?
AME: Training. Empathy. Being less judgemental on women who have suffered abuse, divorce, and older, single women. Life happens to us all in different ways, and we must learn to be kind to women in different crises.
KTF: As the Wise Women Awards celebrates its 20th anniversary, what is your vision for the next 20 years?
AME: I see the baton being passed on to a younger woman as CEO, a visionary who is able to take it to a higher level than myself. I envision it being hosted in North and South America, Asia, and in other parts of Africa.
KTF: What advice or encouragement would you give to Christian women aspiring to make a significant impact in the Church and society?
AME: Take life step by step, be faithful, be consistent. ‘Your work shall be rewarded’ (Jeremiah 31:16).
KTF: What can people expect from this year’s Wise Women Awards?
AME: It will be a celebration of God’s faithfulness and thanksgiving for how far God has brought us.
KTF: What should we expect from you in 2025?
AME: This year is my year of books. I am putting down the things God has help me to know, understand and experience in books. This January, I will be releasing two books Renunciation, and Winning Your Transferred Battles, and many more in the year 2025 and beyond.
Marcia Dixon MBE talks to Rev Les and Louise Isaac, a couple committed to supporting couples whose marriages are in trouble
Rev Les Isaac OBE and his wife Louise are a much-loved couple and viewed as role models within the Black community.
Married for 44 years, with adult children and grandchildren, they have a strong desire to support married couples – so much so, that over the years they have provided a listening ear and advice to couples experiencing marital difficulties, firstly in their home and latterly as course leaders. In fact, their in-home ministry served as a launchpad for the courses and retreats the couple run for courting, engaged and married couples. They now also lead courses for Christians who want to support marriages.
Like many ministries, Rev Les and Louise’s
marriage-support initiatives were inspired by personal experiences. Louise shared: “It began organically. Les and I had difficulties in the early years of marriage and didn’t feel we could approach anybody, so we just got on with it ourselves. At the time we thought we were abnormal because of our difficulties, but realised that some of what we had experienced was normal, and other couples needed encouragement to push through.”
The couple began supporting Christian couples by inviting couples for a meal at their home. Rev Les stated: “We’ve been willing to share any difficulties we’ve had. The Church needs more older and younger couples to get together and talk about their struggles. The number of people who have said to us: ‘Oh, we thought it was only us.’ And Louise would say: ‘No, that’s normal. You’ll get over that. You’ll come through that.’ When couples hear that, it brings down the anxiety and frustration levels, and they’re able to work through those difficulties.”
Couples speak to Rev Les and Louise about a range of issues. “With the men, it was
issues of adultery, or financial issues,” Rev Les said. “But it’s really varied. Some couples don’t understand what's normal in a marriage, or understand each other, or communicate effectively, and how they can find that synergy in becoming one.”
To hear Rev Les state that adultery was a factor in Christian marriages was a surprise, but he explained why it happens. “It occurs when couples aren’t communicating, or when people feel polarised in a marriage, or when people haven’t dealt with issues from their previous lifestyle.”
During their many years of supporting thousands of couples, one issue they’ve noted impacting Christian couples is the tendency to disconnect from each other. Louise shared: “Disconnection can come about through work, life, children, or indeed church. Because of the disconnect, couples lose touch with the importance of feeding their relationship. Marriages don’t just happen; couples have to build them. If they don't build them, they become derelict and begin to fall apart.”
When presented with a ‘disconnected’
and Louise encourage them to reflect on 1 Corinthians 13, the Apostle Paul’s famous treaty on love. Louise shared: “We get people to think about what love is and what they’re demonstrating in their relationship. Is there pride? Is there jealousy? Is there kindness? Am I patient with my spouse? Scripture talks about preferring one another, and that is so important. We need to have conversations about making sure that we are both preferring one another, have high regard for one another, wanting to help and develop one another.”
get divorced. However, the issue is we’re not teaching couples how to do marriage well, how to overcome the difficulties and go ‘till death do them part’ anymore.”
Rev Les and Louise believe couples can safeguard their marriage by being committed God and being accountable to someone. Louise notes that since COVID, an increased number of couples are forgoing church attendance and instead watch services online. She doesn’t see this as a good thing. She explained: “The Bible says that the enemy prowls around like a roaring lion to see whom he can devour. Predatory creatures will always go for animals which are on their own. And what’s going to happen is that those are the couples who will be picked off. They have no accountability. Their boundaries are loose, and they have made themselves vulnerable.”
Louise also encourages couples to be transparent with each other. “Transparency is so important. I should be able to ask my husband where he is or who he is with –without him being defensive about it, what he’s got in his pocket... that’s transparency. He needs to be transparent with me, and I need to be transparent with him, so that there is less room for the enemy to get in.”
Rev Les and Louise are great advocates for couples praying together. Louise stated: ‘One of the first things that go when couples are entrenched in conflict, is prayer. And often when they come and see us, and we ask: ‘When was the last time you prayed together?’ the answer is: ‘Oh.’”
couple, Rev Les and Louise get them to do exercises to get their marriage back on track. Louise explained: “One of the things we do in some of our courses, is to get people to think about how perfunctory their relationship is, and to think about what they would like their relationship to look like. And how intentional can they be about bringing back some of the spark they had at the beginning.”
When talking to Rev Les and Louise it’s evident that they are solid Christians. The Bible is the foundation for their marriage and the inspiration behind the support they give – hence Rev Les’ view that some couples fail to realise that Satan – the enemy of Christians – is anti-marriage. He explained: “When we talk about marriage, we’ve got to understand we have an adversary, the devil, that comes to steal, to kill and to destroy everything God said is good. I think when couples are not humble and not willing to humble themselves and cry out for help, they sort of align themselves with the enemy.”
To counter the enemy and get couples focused on dealing with their issues, Rev Les
She continued: “Often, when couples need help, one person says we need help, and the other doesn’t follow suit. Those are the hardest couples to work with. Sometimes what a couple needs, is to get someone else involved. And that's where humility comes in.”
Rev Les added: “We talk about building foundation stones and start with the first one – friendship. Louise is my best friend, and when we have friends, you’ll be surprised how much we tolerate and how much we are willing to go the extra mile.”
"WHEN YOU READ OR STUDY THE BIBLE TOGETHER, IT SHOULD HELP COUPLES TO ALIGN THEIR CURRENT SITUATION WITH WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES.”
Over the years it’s evident that there has been a rise in divorce amongst believers. Where once Christian couples stayed together no matter the condition of their marriage, now, some marriages don’t even last a year.
“Divorce is part of church culture now,” says Rev Les. “The Church has got to look at the issue of divorce prevention and how to support couples who are potentially going to
Rev Les believes couples praying together is imperative. “When you come before God and there are problems, you have to confess them to God. When you read or study the Bible together, it should help couples to align their current situation with what the Bible teaches.”
“I remember one day Louise and I were praying, and I said, ‘Lord, Louise gets on my nerves.’ And she said: ‘Lord, ditto.’ And both of us started to laugh afterwards. And we just continued to pray. It was nice, because we were talking to the heavenly Father, but we were also talking to each other in love.”
Their commitment to God and to each other means that whenever Rev Les and Louise experience life challenges, they draw closer together. Louise recalled: “A few years ago, Les was very unwell. The experience was traumatic for us in different ways, but it drew us individually, nearer to God, and closer together as well.”
They are also committed to helping couples have long-lasting marriages. “A spouse is a gift,” Rev Les said. “If God has blessed us with a partner – a husband or a wife – then He has blessed us with that person to walk the journey. If one is not feeling well and their partner discovers that, they should help them. If one is down, the other should pull them up. And if it’s not like that, then it’s time for couples to start working on their marriage.”
M. Jasmyn Allen explores the emotional and physical impact of rejection and shares how to recover from it and build resilience
Rejection – whether it’s the heartache of a broken relationship, the sting of being overlooked for a job, the disappointment of being excluded from church activities or leadership roles, the loneliness of singleness, or the pain of feeling unloved by family – can lead to a decrease in self-esteem and self-worth. We may start to question our value and abilities, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
Research studies using MRI scans have shown that our brains process rejection similarly to physical pain. Rejection can activate memories of past rejections, making the current experience even more painful. This can also lead to heightened sensitivity to potential rejection in the future. When we experience rejection, our brain may perceive it as a threat to our social standing or self-worth. This can activate the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions like fear and anxiety. The activation of the amygdala triggers the release of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones prepare the body for action by increasing your heart rate, blood pressure, and energy levels.
Historically, humans have relied on social groups for survival, making ostracism a life-threatening experience. Consequently, we have developed a strong aversion to rejection. When we experience it, we often engage in self-protective behaviours. We might withdraw, become defensive, or retaliate to shield ourselves from further hurt.
While rejection is undeniably painful, it does not define who we are. Even Jesus faced profound rejection. Isaiah 53:3 reminds us, ‘He was despised and rejected by mankind, a Man of suffering, and familiar with pain.’ His rejection
was part of God’s divine plan for humanity’s salvation, illustrating that while rejection is painful, it does not determine our worth or future. Through faith, we can find healing and strength, resting assured in the knowledge that we are loved and accepted by God. During the course of 2025, as we confront feelings of rejection, may we also embrace the profound love and acceptance that God offers, allowing that truth to guide us throughout this year and beyond.
Broken Relationship:
• Allow yourself to grieve: It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself time to heal. Journaling or talking to someone can help process your emotions.
• Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
Singleness:
• Embrace your independence: Focus on personal growth and pursue your passions.
• Stay open to opportunities: Be open to meeting new people and forming new relationships. Attend events and participate in activities. Explore new things.
Overlooked for a Job/Promotion:
• Seek constructive feedback: Ask for feedback from the employer to understand areas for improvement. This can provide valuable insights for future applications.
• Enhance your skills: Develop new skills or improve existing ones.
Exclusion from church activities or roles:
• Communicate openly: Have a conversation
with your church leader to understand the reasons behind the exclusion. Express your desire to contribute and ask for guidance on how to get more involved.
• Lean on your faith: Trust that God has a plan for you, even if it doesn’t align with your current expectations.
Family Rejection:
• Set boundaries: Establish healthy boundaries with family members who may be causing you pain.
• Seek support elsewhere: Surround yourself with people who appreciate and support you.
• Focus on self-love: Practise selfcompassion and remind yourself of your worth.
• Isaiah 41:10 reminds us that God is always with us, offering strength and support.
• Psalm 27:10 emphasises that even if we face rejection from those closest to us, God will always accept and love us.
• John 15:18 reminds us that rejection is part of our Christian journey, but we are not alone in our experiences.
• 1 Peter 2:4 highlights that our worth is determined by God’s acceptance, not human rejection.
Rev Grace Ellis-Goodridge shares why and how mature Christian women can follow Titus’ biblical instruction to teach younger women
Last December my mother passed away, and I realised I was now the matriarch of my family, and one of the ‘older women’ in my church.
My grandmother Jane and my mother Enid were pioneers of the faith, fiery preachers, and devil-stomping prayer warriors. I am reminded of their sincere faith (2 Timothy 1:5), which they took great delight in sharing with us.
I was raised in the New Testament Church of God, where long skirts and heads and shoulders covered was the order of the day. I was surrounded by ‘Prayer Dogs’ – the ‘Mothers of Zion’ who watched and prayed over our souls, our clothes, and the boys who watched us too!
Then I moved to the USA, where the bare-as-you-dare look seemed to have abandoned the dancehall in favour of church halls instead, and where Christian women embraced the look. I was absolutely conflicted. My view of ‘holy’ had developed holes! Not all conformed to the new ‘normal’ – there were still many Revelation 7:14 saints in the church – but it was very cloudy for a while.
My role as Director of Singles and Single Parent Ministry required me to work with single male and female believers.
On one occasion, a young male musician expressed concern about his chances of finding a wife – in a church where 70% of the 300 singles were women! He stated that often, at offering time, he and the other musicians saw an endless array of scantily dressed women march past them, displaying their ‘offerings’ as they placed their offering into the bucket.
Trying to address this issue, I was often met with responses such as: “Only God can judge me” or “Mi nah tun old ooman fi none a yuh!” I wanted to respond: “Better me to judge you than God,” but I turned instead to the Word.
Titus 2:3-5 states
‘The aged women likewise, that they may be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things. That they teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children. To be discreet, chaste, keepers of home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed.’
And therein is the challenge. Many young women are without guidance. No one wants to be an ‘older woman’. The Church seems to be filled with women aged 45 and over, competing to show the most cleavage, longest weave, and Bambi lashes! Where have all the mothers gone?
I grew up in a church where women aged gracefully. I remember one mother, expressing the delight and honour she felt when young people began to call her Mother Tait. The problem today is there seems to be only two categories of women in the Church. Instead of ageing gracefully, women are either young (in fashion, attitude, etc.) or old, wearing muumuus and looking like we have just stepped out of a Crayola advert...
Meanwhile, men are crying out privately for women like their mothers and grandmothers – women who carry themselves circumspectly, with family values at heart. Women who will cook and clean and keep house... These men are not looking for women to do it all, but for women who at least KNOW what to do.
How do we call older women back to their God-given positions to nurture, encourage and teach younger women? Well, older women, please show them what you know. Model what your mother and grandmother taught you.
I also suggest:
1. Women’s discipleship ministries, hold Bible-based groups. Talk about how we can become the Phoebes, Lydias and Esthers of our day. Everyone wants a Boaz, but do we know how to be a Ruth?
2. Mothers, stop competing with your daughters. Teach them how to live, to dress, to speak, how to present themselves circumspectly.
3. Start having tea parties again. It may seem strange, but this area of ministry has been one where I have been most able to influence young women. They WANT to get dressed up, put on a hat, hold a cup and saucer, and have conversation. This may seem old school, but it’s working. My tea parties are a sell-out.
4. Start cooking and baking classes. Many of us love the toto, bulla, black cake and sorrel, but once our mothers pass on, we don’t know how to make them. TEACH THEM!
5. Have an ‘Old-Time Religion’ Night now and again. Old-time rally services, where you ‘fine’ people who aren’t dressed appropriately! It’s a fun way to learn and grow.
These suggestions may seem random, but I have found them to work. I have involved the older women in planning and delivering in these areas, and the young women appear to be thirsting for more. Why not give it a try?
REV GRACE ELLIS-GOODRIDGE
Founder of Scriptfit, a qualified health and fitness coach, personal trainer and public speaker. www.scriptfit.com
Ordained minister in the Church of God, and runs conferences, workshops and retreats for Christian singles and couples
The Bible isn’t just a book of rules. Gary Clayton shares how the Bible is also a Book full of wit, irony and laughter.
The filmmaker Woody Allen is quoted as saying: “If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans” – a quote probably based on the old Yiddish proverb, ‘Mann tracht, un Gott lacht’ (‘Man plans, and God laughs’).
But, although Scripture shows God laughing at the foolishness of man, it shows humans laughing too.
We see this in Genesis 17 and 18, when Abraham and Sarah, an amused senior citizen and his elderly wife, goggle at the thought of two people – one nearly 100 and the other aged 90 – having their first child.
And yet, when God’s word comes to pass and Sarah gives birth, the mature mother exclaims joyfully: “God has brought me laughter, and everyone who hears about this will laugh with me” (Genesis 21:6).
Examples of godly laughter can also be seen in Job 8:21 and Psalm 126:2.
Contrary to what people who’ve never read the Bible might think, Scripture contains an abundance of puns, playfulness, irony and hyperbole. Because humour plays such a large part in the way we communicate, live and think, it’s hardly surprising.
Take the prophet Jeremiah, who compares an idol to a scarecrow to show how ridiculous it is for people to create a god they can worship, as if it created them. ‘Like a scarecrow in a cucumber field, their idols cannot speak; they must be carried because they cannot walk’ (Jeremiah 10:5). It’s a far cry from the God who leads, guides and carries us.
The humorous image shows that these tottering, man-made objects aren’t going anywhere unless those who made them can carry the inanimate idols themselves!
It reminds me a bit of Judges 6:31, when Gideon demolishes Baal’s altar and his father Joash says to the hostile crowd: “Are you
going to plead Baal’s cause? Are you trying to save him?... If Baal really is a god, he can defend himself when someone breaks down his altar.”
The implicit irony in Joash’s comment shows that if Baal can’t defend himself, then why should his followers attempt to do so?
There’s dramatic irony, where Joseph, sold into slavery by his brothers, eventually ends up in charge of an entire nation.
Bible translations, such as the NIV, show him both saving and enslaving the Egyptians, Genesis 47:20-21 telling us that, to prevent the people starving, ‘Joseph bought all the land in Egypt for Pharaoh... and Joseph reduced the people to servitude, from one end of Egypt to the other.’
Later, with tragic irony, the descendants of Joseph’s brothers become slaves in Egypt when the Pharaoh who knew Joseph dies.
In Acts 16:27-33, there’s a later instance of dramatic irony when the jailer – thinking he has lost all his prisoners – is about to draw his sword and take his life. Fortunately, when he realises all his captives are safe, he asks Paul and Silas: “What must I do to be saved?”
It’s a question that sees the formerly sword-drawing prison guard being saved –in more ways than one!
There’s unintentional humour, too. Take Aaron’s comically disingenuous excuse to
Moses in Exodus 32:22-24: ‘Do not be angry, my lord... You know how prone these people are to evil. They said to me, “Make us gods who will go before us...” Then they gave me the gold, and I threw it into the fire, and out came this calf!’
The way he describes it, you’d have thought the calf emerged from the flames fully formed, rather than Aaron having spent time ‘fashioning it with a tool’ (see Exodus 32:4)!
Jesus, of course, uses wit, word play and quick-wittedness when He interacts with those around Him. There’s the time He produces a particularly brilliant get-out-of-jail card when He’s asked: “Teacher... is it right to pay the imperial tax to Caesar or not?” – cleverly evading the Pharisees’ trap by asking them to show Him the coin used for paying the tax.
When Jesus says: “Whose image is this? And whose inscription?”, His accusers reply that it’s Caesar’s, then quickly realise they’ve been outwitted, outgunned and outmanoeuvred when Jesus judiciously replies: “Give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s” (Mark 12:17).
In Matthew 21:25, He answers His enemies by asking them a question: “John’s baptism – where did it come from? Was it from heaven, or of human origin?”
Again, it forces those attempting to entrap Jesus to turn away, tongue-tied at His possibly tongue-in-cheek attempt at getting them to provide an honest answer.
“Man plans,” one might say, “but God laughs.”
GARY CLAYTON
Husband to Julie, father of two teenagers and works for Mission Aviation Fellowship (MAF) www.maf-uk.org
On one hand, my theme for this spring edition feels timely, as February is often celebrated as the month of love and romance with Valentine’s Day. On the other, some might question, “Why focus on toxic relationships, then?” They might even argue that such issues don’t exist within the Church. Oh really? While the Church is meant to be a sanctuary for the vulnerable, it’s also true that abuse and toxic relationships occur more often than we’d like to admit. Toxic relationships can be found everywhere – from the crèche to the playground, boardroom, bedroom, family room, and office.
Toxic relationships persist because of their subtle and insidious nature. In some cases, the offender is intentional and skilled at manipulation. Any relationship characterised by constant conflict, competition, control and coercion is toxic. The bottom line is that toxic relationships deplete rather than enhance your well-being – spiritually, emotionally, physically, relationally, financially or intellectually. Such relationships make you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, attacked or simply drained.
Hendrick’s Relationship Assessment Scale (1988), initially designed for couples but adaptable to other relationships, can be an eye-opener in evaluating the health of your connections.
Perpetrators of toxic relationships often use strategies such as:
• Gaslighting: Making the other person question their feelings, instincts and sanity
• Overt bullying: Using intimidation and aggression
• Love-bombing: Overwhelming a new partner with excessive affection
• Fear and guilt-tripping: Instilling fear or guilt to manipulate behaviour
How can you tell if you are in or contributing to a toxic relationship? Watch out for these 12 red flags:
1. Lack of holistic support
2. Presence of toxic emotions: Anger, bitterness, jealousy, envy or resentment
3. Controlling behaviour: Emotional or financial manipulation
4. Habitual blaming and criticism: Constantly putting the other person down
5. Disrespect for values: Ignoring or undermining what matters to you
6. Violence and aggression: Physical or emotional harm
7. Dishonesty and concealment: Hiding important truths or lying
8. Isolation: Cutting the person off from others to prevent intervention
9. Walking on eggshells: Constant fear of triggering anger or conflict
10. Self-neglect: Sacrificing your needs to maintain the relationship
11. Unremitting stress: A persistent state of tension and anxiety
12. Toxic communication styles: Sarcasm, criticism or backhanded remarks
Toxic relationships are as damaging as they sound. Studies reveal significant health risks are associated with negative interactions, including hostility and anger. A longitudinal study of over 9,000 British civil servants found that individuals reporting high levels of negative interactions in their closest relationships were 34% more likely to suffer from serious heart problems over a 13- to 15-year period. Other harmful effects include:
• Diminished overall well-being
• Suppressed immunity
• Increased risk of mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety
• Worsening of unhealthy habits and indices like obesity, substance misuse or alcohol abuse
When addressing toxic relationships, there are no quick fixes or one-size-fits-all answers. However, these four options can guide your decision-making:
1. Stay and repair: Work on the relationship with mutual acknowledgement and commitment to change.
2. Secure boundaries: Clearly define limits to protect your well-being.
3. Separate temporarily: Take time apart to evaluate next steps.
4. Sever ties: End the relationship if the other options prove unviable.
Ask yourself: Is the other person aware of the issue? Do they acknowledge their role? Are they taking responsibility and seeking change through anger management, counselling or therapy? Are they willing to be accountable to others?
Boundaries are essential for restoring health in relationships. They define limits to ensure safety, preserve energy, and maintain selfadvocacy. Boundaries can apply to physical, emotional, sexual, work, financial or digital interactions. A lack of boundaries increases vulnerability to exploitation and toxicity. Boundary-setting involves:
1. Clarity: Clearly state what behaviours are unacceptable.
2. Communication: Express expectations and consequences for boundary violations.
3. Consistency: Enforce the boundaries consistently.
4. Check-ins: Periodically review the situation and make adjustments as necessary.
Healing from toxic relationships takes intentional effort. Consider these steps:
• Confide: Share your decision with a trusted individual.
• Seek support: Enlist help in ending the relationship.
• Appraise the damage: Assess your losses and their impact.
• Prioritise healing: Engage in self-care and restoration.
• Detox your thinking: Replace harmful thoughts with affirmations from Scripture (such as Psalm 139:14, Philippians 2:13).
• Allow time: Give yourself grace to recover fully.
Toxic relationships can cause significant harm, but recovery is possible with God’s grace and your intentionality. Let us be vigilant and proactive in fostering healthy, Christ-centred relationships in every aspect of life.
DR T AYODELE AJAYI
Olivia Williams writes that Black women need to make health and fitness, and self-care a priority in 2025 and shares how
Have you ever felt like the weight of the world is on your shoulders? Between being the go-to friend, the ever-present mum, wife, church volunteer, and everything else, it’s no wonder we often find ourselves running on empty. Sound familiar?
We pour out our love, time and energy into our families, communities and ministries. But let’s be real, who’s filling us back up? We often neglect our own needs, and let me tell you, the toll it takes is real. When was the last time you truly stopped to care for yourself?
The shocking reality of Black women’s health
As Black women, we face unique health challenges that silently weigh us down – from higher rates of chronic illnesses to disproportionate mental health struggles. The statistic paints a heart-breaking picture that could reflect deeper issues, such as systemic racism, cultural pressures, and unequal access to healthcare.
• Hypertension: We’re 60% more likely to die from high blood pressure.
• Diabetes: We’re 77% more likely to develop diabetes, often leading to complications.
• Breast cancer: We’re more likely to be diagnosed with advanced-stage breast cancer.
• Mental health challenges: Anxiety, depression and burnout are often caused by societal and personal pressures.
Did you know that Black women in the UK are five times more likely to die from healthrelated complications than white women?
But, even in the midst of these challenges, there’s hope. God doesn’t want us to live this way. He calls us to thrive, not just survive. And by prioritising our health and wellbeing, we can reclaim the strength and vitality He desires for us.
Self-care is sacred
Taking care of ourselves is not selfish; it’s an act of love for ourselves, our families and our God. Trust me; I know this all too well. As a Black Christian woman, I’ve juggled multiple responsibilities and neglected my own needs along the way. I’ve also dealt with cultural expectations that discouraged me from focusing on myself.
But I realised that prioritising my health is not a luxury, it’s a necessity! It allows me to
be the best version of myself, to serve others with more love and compassion, and to fulfil God’s purpose for my life. So, how do we get started with some good self-care practices?
1. Nourish your body: Your temple deserves the best
The food we eat plays a critical role in preventing chronic diseases.
• Eat God’s rainbow of promise: Fill your plate with colourful fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.
• Spice it up: Chaste berry helps balance hormones and reduce premenstrual discomfort. Black cohosh can ease menopausal symptoms and keep your bones strong.
• Fight cancer with food: Superfoods, like pomegranates, soursop, sea moss, and cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, kale) are your allies.
• Combat diabetes: Reduce salt, processed carbs and sugary drinks.
• Don’t forget sleep: It’s essential for cell repair and helps manage stress.
• Hydrate like a queen: Aim for at least eight glasses of water a day.
2. Move your body: Find joy in activity Exercise doesn’t have to feel like a mission
– let it be a celebration of life and faith! It’s one of the most powerful tools for preventing and managing chronic illnesses while boosting your mental health.
• Dance it out: Put on your favourite gospel playlist and let loose with God.
• Walk with purpose: Walking strengthens your heart and clears your mind.
• Build yourself up: Bodyweight exercises
or light weights can help build muscle and strength.
3. Nurture your mental health: Give yourself grace
Black women often carry the unspoken expectation of being “strong” all the time. But true strength comes from God and knowing when to rest or seek help.
• Acknowledge your emotions: It’s OK not to be OK. Talk to a trusted friend, therapist or pastor.
• Unplug and recharge: Take time away from social media and overwhelming commitments.
• Find your tribe: Build a circle of friends and loved ones who uplift and encourage you.
Ladies, we are more than caregivers and nurturers – we are daughters of the Most High, created in His image, and called to live abundant lives. By prioritising our health, we not only honour ourselves but also God’s purpose for us.
Let’s rise together, empowered by faith and a commitment to wellness. Share this message with your sisters, friends and family. Let’s hold each other accountable and create a movement of health, hope and healing.
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Mothering is about ‘standing in the gap’ for those who need guidance, nurturing and hope. I believe deeply in the phrase ‘standing in the gap’, which God spoke to me one morning, and it has since become my guiding mantra. It reminds me that my purpose is to be a bridge of love and support for children, young people, and those in need.
After working as a hairdresser for 18 years, winning competitions and enjoying life, at the age of 27, I faced one of the most heartwrenching experiences of my life: the loss of my twin girls. They were born prematurely at 27 weeks. Twin one weighed 2lb 9oz and stayed with us for two weeks. Tragically, a mistake at the hospital resulted in her being given the wrong milk, which ate her tiny gut away. Twin two weighed 2lb 1oz, defied the odds, and held on for six months, after the doctor predicted she would not survive the night. She passed away due to developing hydrocephalus. Through their loss I experienced an overwhelming sadness, guilt, emptiness and confusion, whilst being physically and emotionally exhausted. My twins, so tiny yet so full of life, had fought bravely.
As a Christian I leaned into my faith and found strength in God’s promise of restoration. In time, God blessed me with two beautiful daughters, who are now approaching their 27th and 21st birthdays. These precious girls became living reminders that life, even after great sorrow, holds much beauty and joy.
Mothering my daughters brought new meaning to my life. I learned that being a mother is not only about bringing children into the world but also about being their guide, their protector, and their source of unconditional love.
At the age of 33, I became a foster mother – a decision that would shape my life in the most profound way. Fostering has been one of the most rewarding and transformative aspects of my journey. Caring for 42 children – aged between two weeks to nineteen years old – within our home over the years has changed the lives of many.
Each child has brought their own story, their own needs, and their own light, as well as carrying burdens that no child should bear. Mothering foster children has taught me the true depth of resilience – both theirs and mine. It has shown me how powerful love can be in
healing wounds, offering hope, and changing lives, to children I have not birthed. My role has been to provide them with stability, love, and a safe place to call home, even if only temporarily.
This calling to nurture and care for children grew further when I opened a children’s nursery at the age of 52. The nursery became a sanctuary for young lives, a place where children – including those who require additional support – can feel loved, valued and understood. For children who require additional support, the nursery provides a space where their unique abilities are celebrated, and they are given the tools to thrive.
Fostering and starting the nursery was not just a professional endeavour; it was a continuation of my healing. Every day, as I witness children laughing, learning and growing, I feel a sense of peace and fulfilment. The nursery has become a daily reminder of the importance of creating environments where children feel secure and cherished. It also allows me to extend the love I have to give far beyond the walls of my own home.
For me, mothering is about being present in the lives of children who need someone to believe in them. It’s about providing a sense of belonging and the tools to navigate the many challenges life may bring. It’s about creating memories, offering encouragement, and planting seeds of resilience, confidence and kindness.
Though the loss of my twins was an unspeakable tragedy, it shaped me into the woman I am today. It deepened my empathy and reinforced my faith. It taught me to treasure every moment with my children and to dedicate my life to helping others. My twins may no longer be here, but their legacy lives on in every child I have nurtured, continue to nurture within our home, and every child who walks through the doors of the nursery.
Mothering is my calling, my healing, and my gift to the world. Through the challenges, the blessings, and the lessons, I have found purpose in giving children the love, support and care they deserve. And, in doing so, I have discovered the true essence of what it means to be a mother.
Joy Roxborough shares how to build better relationships and manage relationship conflicts when they arise
Ifeel like the world has become somewhat of a strange place, especially in this post-lockdown era. The area of interpersonal relationships is no exception. After months of varying degrees of isolation, social distancing, and communicating through screens, I believe we have lost part of our normal way of relating to other people. Just as technology has unintended consequences, societal trauma – even when apparently resolved – has unintended consequences, too.
One of the biggest differences I have noticed is in how customer relationships are conducted when speaking with people, especially on the phone. Often, it feels like there’s a definite disconnect in communication, as if you are speaking a different language from the person on the other end. Furthermore, apart from disconnections when communicating with strangers, ask yourself, how many of your closer relationships have come under strain – or even broken down completely –since the lifting of lockdowns? There appears to be mounting research supporting an increase in spousal break-ups, for instance.
So, what can we do to protect and restore our relationships this year, whether informal relationships, work relationships, with neighbours, with people at church... with whomever? Here are five things to consider:
1. Deal with conflicts right away. This is nothing new but, be honest, how often do we discuss the conflict we have with somebody with everyone apart from the person in question? If we arm ourselves with a mindset to be gentle – gentleness being a component of the fruit of the Spirit – we could alleviate personal stress and misunderstandings with others. Furthermore, we will be obeying the biblical injunction to not allow the sun to go down on our anger.
Admittedly, approaching a person about an interpersonal conflict does not guarantee an amicable resolution. The other person may
not even acknowledge that a problem exists, in which case, what should we do?
2. Adjust our expectations. People will not always agree with us, listen to us or try to understand us. Sometimes, they are on a journey of their own and are not in a position to accommodate our fragilities. Adjusting our expectations does not mean lowering them and expecting nothing good from another person. It does mean being flexible and realistic in what we demand from others. And, as we adjust our expectations of others, we need to...
3. Treat others the way we wish to be treated. Forgo the tit-for-tat mentality which is so easy to fall into on very subtle levels. Treating others the way we wish to be treated creates positive vibes around us, even if the other person does not reciprocate. That is not to say we are to repeatedly put ourselves out there to be mistreated, since there may well be times when some relationships may need to be ended for our own well-being. However, it helps if we understand that, if we are legitimately ill-treated by another, what comes out of that person is a reflection of what is within them, rather than anything to do with us. Understanding this will free us to not take things so personally, and to still treat others with the same grace with which God treats us. Furthermore, negative
responses towards another, that come from us in response to unresolved conflicts with that person, reflect our inner world in the same way that the other person’s behaviour towards us reflects their inner world. This is why we need to...
4. Honestly evaluate our attitudes and behaviour. We need to address any areas within ourselves that need to be adjusted to facilitate better relationships with others. Like most people, we may have a tendency to be overly critical of ourselves but similarly, like most, we may have a tendency to blind spots that leave us in denial about areas where we need to change. We need to be as honest with ourselves as we are with others, and...
5. List all that is good about a given relationship, and find a way to communicate our appreciation. Do you find that annoyances about another person are often at the forefront of your mind? We are all at fault. But when the Bible says that we are to think about ‘whatever things are true... noble... just... pure... lovely... of good report...virtu[ous] [and]... praiseworthy....’ it includes all those good things about the people we have relationships with, and which we may not have communicated to them recently.
Let 2025 be the year we begin to actively show appreciation to all those we are in relationship with. It could boost their perception of themselves and, while it is not a given, it could spur them towards making more effort to relate in a better manner with us.
Finally, only God can fulfil us, so let’s learn to see Him as our Source. This is important in every sphere of life – not just relationships.
JOY ROXBOROUGH
Chioma Fanawopo provides much-needed insight on how women can “have it all” but not at the same time
As a youth minister, award-winning educator, certified teen-and-parent coach, and mother of two after 18 years of marriage, I have learned firsthand that balancing the roles of wife, mother and ambitious woman is no small feat. Society often tells women we can “have it all”, but the truth lies somewhere in between: we can have it all... just not all at once. Maintaining balance, walking in purpose, and leaving a legacy are the cornerstones of a life well-lived – and for women, especially those wearing many hats, these principles are vital.
The myth of having it all at the same time The idea of “having it all” is alluring but unrealistic. Every season of life demands different priorities. As a mother, your newborn might need the majority of your energy and focus. As a professional, there may be seasons when your career requires you to work late or travel more often. Recognising and accepting that life has seasons can help alleviate the pressure to excel in every area simultaneously. Instead of striving for perfection in all roles, aim for intentionality. Ask yourself: “What does this season require of me?” Being present in the moment allows you to give your best where it matters most.
Walking in purpose
One of the most liberating truths for women juggling multiple roles is that purpose is not confined to one area of life. Your purpose is not only found in your career or as a mother; it encompasses all you do.
To identify your purpose, spend time in prayer, reflection or journalling to understand what God has placed in your heart. What legacy do you want to leave behind? For me, it’s important to build a legacy of faith, love and service. This purpose guides my decisions – from how I parent my children to how I pursue my professional goals.
When you are grounded in purpose, you’ll find it easier to let go of guilt. Purpose reminds you that every action contributes to the bigger picture.
1. Be present: In a world full of distractions, being present is a rare and valuable gift. When you’re with your family, put your phone down, and focus on making memories. When working on your dreams, immerse yourself fully. The quality of your attention matters more than the quantity of your time.
2. Be intentional: Living with intention means aligning your daily actions with your values and goals. Plan your week in advance, prioritising tasks that align with your purpose. Delegate what you can, and don’t hesitate to say No to things that don’t serve your priorities.
3. Build a tribe: No woman can do it all alone. Surround yourself with a tribe of supportive people – family, friends, mentors, or a church community – who uplift and encourage you. These relationships provide emotional support, practical help, and accountability. Lean on your tribe for babysitting, business advice, or simply a listening ear. Having a support system allows you to recharge and focus on your goals without feeling overwhelmed.
4. Embrace self-care: Many women feel guilty for taking time for themselves, but self-care is not selfish – it’s necessary. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritise rest, exercise, prayer, and hobbies that rejuvenate you. When you are at your best, you can give your best to others.
5. Make memories: Time is fleeting, especially when you have children. Be intentional about creating joyful moments that your family will cherish forever. Simple activities, like family movie nights, cooking together, or taking a walk, can create lasting memories.
6. Celebrate small wins: Progress, not perfection, is the goal. Celebrate small victories in all areas of your life. Whether it’s finishing a work project or having a heart-toheart with your child, acknowledging these moments builds confidence and motivation.
Ultimately, the goal is not to be the perfect wife, mother or professional, but to leave a legacy of faith, love and purpose. Your children won’t remember if the house was spotless or if dinner was gourmet, but they will remember how you made them feel and the values you instilled in them.
Teach your children by example that pursuing your dreams is important, but so is showing up for your loved ones. Let them see you pray, work hard, and cherish family time. This balance is the essence of a meaningful legacy.
Balancing marriage, motherhood, and professional aspirations is a process, not a destination. Each day brings new challenges and opportunities, but, by being present, intentional and purpose-driven, you can thrive in every role you play.
Remember: you don’t have to do it alone. Lean on your faith, your tribe, and the grace of God to guide you through. With purpose and intentionality, you can build a life that honours your calling and creates a lasting impact on those you love.
Youth minister and family expert, empowers parents with strategies to foster resilient, connected homes in the digital age
You may be thinking that, as a literary manager, I should be encouraging new authors to submit to a traditional publishing house or even to find an agent. However, it would be a discredit to new authors entering into this publishing arena, as nowadays making a name for yourself has come to the fore within the publishing industry.
By all means, if you want to submit a manuscript to a traditional publishing house or find an agent, you can do so. However, without a name or credibility, the chances of you getting published within their establishment is slim. That’s not to say it cannot happen if you enter competitions or have the right connections.
Yes, you will need to have a budget for self-publishing, however the rewards you can reap are worth it – especially if you are a new author with no name or connections. View self-publishing as a stepping stone to getting traditionally published.
Here are three main reasons why self-publishing will benefit and prepare you for the traditional publishing world.
Step One: Build your readership
Once your book is on the market, you can now start to gain a readership. However, you will need to be consistent with the marketing and the writing.
New authors tend to give up very easily if they are not seeing the results they need off just one book, not realising that the more you write – and market – the more you’ll build a name for yourself, and the more readers will get to know you. As the Bible states: ‘Do
Vanessa Grossett outlines how self-publishing can help new authors grow their readership, build their brand, and possibly land them a traditional book publishing deal
not despise [these days of] small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin’ (Zechariah 4:10 NLT).
Even with big-name authors, it took them a while to build their large readership, so you shouldn’t give up so easily. For some authors, the breakthrough doesn’t happen until their third book.
Independently building your readership within the self-publishing world is a great way to lead to you getting traditionally published, and to gain recognition.
Step Two: Train yourself in the publishing process
When you self-publish, you get to learn about the publishing industry. You see what goes on behind the scenes long before your product is released into the market. These stages include getting the book cover designed, the editing process, and distribution. Having that knowledge makes you more aware of the industry’s workings, and it can also help you decide if writing is a career you want to pursue. It is good to understand the publisher’s side of things, as it will make you appreciate the work that goes into the publishing process before a book gets released.
Knowing what the role of publisher involves – and the expectations of being an author – will give you an excellent multi skillset, which in today’s environment is essential for your career. It enables you to develop the mindset of an entrepreneur, which you need when you are new to the publishing industry, as you are also a brand, with creative control of your project.
Self-publishing will help you to practise and become a better writer, as when you start writing you want it to be good.
You want people to love your writing, therefore you will be more willing to take the time to enhance your creativity. A good book can sell for itself, through word of mouth.
Editors within publishing houses also seek out writers who have a great voice and by that, I mean your writing is engaging; it flows and is consistent.
Being a good writer through the self-publishing route will provide you with a good chance of being traditionally published, especially if an editor likes your voice, as they will be willing to take a chance on you.
As a new author, self-publishing is an investment into your career. It is important to invest in yourself and what you are doing. You invest time into your jobs and for someone else, so why not do that for yourself? If you think there is no way, God will provide a way and a door opening for you – especially with finances.
When you invest in yourself, the only way you can go is up and onto the next stages within your career, leading you to a great reward within a traditional publishing house.
Happy writing.
Celebrity hairdresser Verona White shares how showing your hair love and care can help you deal with problem issues like hair loss, thinning and alopecia
There’s something that is blessed about hair. It’s not just the strands of hair on our scalp; it’s an expression of our personality, a reflection of our mood, and a part of our identity. But what happens when we start to notice changes in our hair? Whether it’s thinning at the hairline, sparse patches at the crown, or total hair loss, it can be disheartening.
Hair loss can stem from a variety of factors, including genetics, hormonal changes, medical conditions, and even stress. For many, the experience of hair loss can feel isolating. You may look in the mirror and feel a sense of loss – not just of hair, but of self-confidence and self-esteem. It’s essential to understand that hair loss is a common concern affecting millions of people globally. Acknowledging this can help you feel less alone.
Falling back in love with your hair requires a journey of self-acceptance and care. Instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, try to shift your perspective to what you still have. Celebrate the uniqueness of your hair, its texture and its potential. Every strand tells a story and embracing that can be empowering.
When dealing with hair loss, consider these steps to promote healthy growth:
Step 1: Unclogging the pores on your scalp is essential for healthy hair. Regularly cleanse your scalp to remove product build-up and excess oil. This can be done with aloe, Moroccan Clay or activated charcoal.
Step 2: Ensure your body is healthy by getting a blood test to check for deficiencies, hormonal issues, or underlying medical conditions that may contribute to hair loss. Discuss your results with your doctor to identify potential solutions.
Step 3: Avoid tight hairstyles that can put unnecessary stress on your hair follicles and lead to traction alopecia. Gentle styles will allow your hair to thrive. The hair is sensitive, so treat it with care.
Nourishing your hair from within is also crucial.
A balanced diet, rich in vitamins and minerals, can promote hair health and growth. Foods high in omega-3 fatty acids, vitamins A, C, D and E, and biotin can make a significant difference. Or find hair vitamin tablets and be consistent in taking them.
The science of hair reveals why it often becomes the last place to receive essential nutrients in the body. Hair growth is a difficult
process that requires a variety of vitamins, minerals and proteins to thrive. However, when the body is under stress, experiences nutritional deficiencies, or challenges with hormonal changes, it prioritises vital organs and systems over hair follicles. This means that if your body is not receiving adequate nutrients, your hair may suffer as a result.
One of my favourite and proven things to do in my hair care routine is to ensure that I’m using the right products. I always use AHGC shampoos and conditioners rich in vitamins and essential proteins, and natural oils. Ingredients like argan oil, jojoba oil, and shea butter are staples in my regimen because they provide the moisture my hair craves and promote healthy growth. I’ve also found that incorporating biotin and keratin supplements into my diet has made a noticeable difference.
In addition to using the right products, I can’t stress enough how much satin headwear has transformed my hair health. I love wearing satin scarves and bonnets at night. Satin is gentle on my hair and helps reduce friction, which prevents breakage and retains moisture. It’s such a simple addition to my routine, yet it has significantly impacted the overall health of my hair.
Moreover, consistency is key. Establishing
a routine that includes regular cleansing, conditioning, and protective styling has become crucial for me. I’ve learned that healthy hair doesn’t happen overnight, but with dedication and the right approach, I can revitalise and rediscover the beauty of my locks. By understanding the science behind hair health and implementing effective strategies, I ensure that my hair receives the love and attention it deserves, allowing it to flourish in all its glory.
If you’re looking for guidance, consider joining the HAIR HEALTH PROGRAMME at www.afrohairgrowthchallenge.co.uk. This program is designed for all hair types and offers support tailored to your specific needs. With the right care, love and attention, you can regain a sense of confidence and beauty in your hair. Remember, love conquers all, and that includes your relationship with your hair. Embrace your journey and rediscover the beauty that lies within you.
Welcome to Cook with Kirly-Sue! I hope you’ll join me regularly as we dive into the world of food and drink together. This column is all about celebrating the delicious dishes I love – and trust me, that’s just the beginning!
Every issue, I’ll bring you easy, mouthwatering recipes and handy cooking tips to make your time in the kitchen a breeze.
There’s something deeply satisfying about a grain bowl. It’s more than just a meal; it’s a vibrant celebration of flavours, textures and nutrients – all brought together in perfect harmony. For vegans, the grain bowl is a blank canvas for endless creativity, while conveniently meeting dietary needs. But what makes a vegan grain bowl truly exceptional? Let’s dive into the elements of this culinary masterpiece and discover how to craft a bowl that’s as nourishing as it is delicious.
1. The base: A foundation of grains
Every perfect grain bowl begins with... grains. These form the heart of the dish, offering complex carbohydrates to fuel your body and a solid base to build upon. From the nutty flavour of quinoa to the chewy satisfaction of farro, the choices are diverse. Brown rice, millet and bulgur are equally popular, each adding a unique texture and nutritional profile to the mix. Feeling adventurous? Experiment by combining grains for a more dynamic bite. For those seeking lighter options, cauliflower rice or spiralised zucchini noodles provide low-carb alternatives. Enhance the taste with a pinch of salt, a splash of olive oil, or even some infused spices during cooking. This step sets the stage for the magic to come.
2. A rainbow of vegetables
Vegetables are where a grain bowl comes alive, bringing vibrant colours, textures, and nutrients to your creation. A mix of raw, roasted, and steamed veggies ensures a delightful variety in every bite.
Roasted sweet potatoes, for example, offer warmth and natural sweetness, while raw cucumber ribbons add a refreshing crunch. Leafy greens like spinach, kale, or rocket lettuce provide freshness, and pickled red onions contribute a tangy zing. Other options, like shredded carrots or lightly steamed broccoli, round out the dish.
3. Protein power: Plant-based additions
Protein is an essential element of a vegan grain bowl, providing satiety and ensuring your meal feels complete. Fortunately, plant-based options are abundant and versatile.
Chickpeas and black beans are classic choices. Pan-fried tofu or tempeh marinated
in tamari, garlic, and spices offers a nutty flavour and chewy bite. For a protein boost, add edamame or spiced lentils. Want to try something different? Grilled seitan slices bring a meaty texture that pairs well with bold sauces.
4. Healthy fats: The creamy component
Healthy fats are the secret ingredient that ties all the elements together, adding richness, flavour, and a satisfying mouthfeel. Avocado slices are a crowd favourite – but the options don’t stop there.
A dollop of hummus or a drizzle of tahini can elevate the bowl with nutty undertones. Nuts and seeds, such as walnuts, almonds, or pumpkin seeds, add crunch and depth, while sesame seeds or flaxseeds bring subtle earthiness. Remember, a little goes a long way.
5. The flavour bomb: Sauces and dressings
A good sauce is what separates a decent grain bowl from a truly unforgettable one, tying the ingredients together while infusing the dish with personality and depth.
Tahini-based dressings are a staple in vegan cuisine, offering creamy, nutty richness. Vinaigrettes made with olive oil, lemon juice and mustard create an equally delicious alternative. For an Asian-inspired bowl, try sesame-ginger dressing or a peanut sauce. Sriracha or harissa can add a fiery kick. Apply
your dressing evenly, ensuring each bite carries a touch of its delightful flavour.
6. The finishing touches: Texture and garnish
A perfect grain bowl isn’t just about the main ingredients – it’s about the small details that elevate the experience.
For added texture, sprinkle crispy chickpeas, crushed tortilla chips, or roasted nuts over the top. Nutritional yeast is another great option. These seemingly minor additions make all the difference, turning a simple bowl into a masterpiece.
A vegan grain bowl is more than just a meal
– it’s a nutrient-rich, flavour-packed celebration of creativity. By mastering the balance of grains, vegetables, proteins, fats, and sauces, you can create dishes that are as nourishing as they are delicious.
So, grab your favourite ingredients, unleash your creativity, and craft a bowl that reflects your unique taste. Because when it comes to grain bowls, the only limit is your imagination.
KIRLY-SUE
Specialises in cooking vegan food. Find her on social media @KirlySuesKitchen
FUTURE YOUTH (FY) is an opportunity for those aged 18-30 to spend a year growing in young people and children’s ministry through ministry placements, training and mentoring.
FY is more than just a great experience year though, participants test God’s calling on their lives by pursuing ministry in a safe and supportive environment and receiving training through a nationally run course. All placements will provide ministry opportunities across a range of ages and contexts.
Youth and children’s work can sometimes be made to feel like the smallest cog in the machine – and yet it lays the groundwork for the future of the church as well as bringing life and vibrancy to church congregations today. FY is an opportunity to invest in young adult leaders to make that happen.
The year is free to do with accommodation and expenses covered.
“I love being a support for young people, being patient with them even when they go wrong, being somewhere safe for them”
“The best thing about this year is my youth growing. I‘m just really, really, proud of them. And that makes me really, happy to see their growth” Camila
