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CONTENTS features Summer’s Best Extras, 25 Accessories worth building an outfit around

Before and After, 35 Patio makeover on a budget

Island Time, 44 Even us landlocked gals can indulge in beachy styles

Outside the Box, 52 Tips for sprucing up your outdoor space

DEPARTMENTS Out and About, 6 Kit picks for this season’s must-go events

Women Winning, 14 Find out which three words changed brewery-owner Eilise Lane’s life

Family, 18 Coping with pain and embracing opportunities in an empty nest

Fashion Picks, 22 Swimsuit cover-ups for every taste

Health, 30 Five things to know about your lady parts

Caregiving 101, 40 Final thoughts from Kit’s six-part series

Fashion How To, 56 Get this effortless, all-day weekend ensemble

Jodi-Middle Sister Style, 60 Spot-on dresses, outerwear, sandals and accessories

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Brad Paisley with Leah Turner and Charlie Worsham June 19, 7 p.m. The handsome country superstar brings his considerable talents to Klipsch Music Center for a night of rollicking tunes and good times. 12880 E. 146th St., Noblesville, (800) 745-3000, livenation.com

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get cozy with the arts during a month-long festival from fishers to tipton Nickel Plate Arts Fair

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May 29 through June 28 People looking for an experience outside of their usual routine will discover new venues, artists and interests during the 2014 Nickel Plate Arts Festival. Each weekend features different communities along the Nickel Plate Trail. Check out the Polk Street Review Film Festival, Conner Prairie Curiosity Fair, Hamilton County Artists’ Association’s Gathering of Plein Air Painters and Art in the Park in Fishers. Various locations, presented by Nickel Plate Arts, 107 S. 8th St., Noblesville, (317) 452-3690, nickelplatearts.org

Carmel Pedals Thursday Night Ride Thursdays through Sept. 25, 6:30 p.m. Saddle up to get some exercise and explore a different Carmel neighborhood each week. These free family-friendly excursions cover 10 miles at a leisurely pace of 10 miles per hour. Carmel Cyclery Bicycle Shop, 230 W. Carmel Dr., Carmel, (317) 575-8588, carmelcyclery.com

Terra Cotta Warriors: The Emperor’s Painted Army May 10 through Nov. 2 The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis unveils a collection of 2,000-yearold hand-painted Chinese clay warriors and other artifacts in conjunction with the opening of its Take Me There: China permanent exhibit. 3000 N. Meridian St., (317) 334-3322, childrensmuseum.org

Mary Poppins May 15 through June 29 The beloved Broadway story of the practically perfect nanny flies into Beef and Boards Dinner Theatre for the first time and is sure to enchant audiences of all ages. 9301 N. Michigan Road, (317) 872-9664,

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As April showers dry up, May blooms with events, festivals and concerts. Take advantage of sunny days and warm nights by making plans with friends, significant others and family at venues all across central Indiana. Get it on the calendar!

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49th Christ Church Cathedral Women’s Strawberry Festival June 12, 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Forget about calorie counting and treat yourself to a feast of strawberry shortcake with all the trimmings. $6, cash only. Monument Circle, (317) 636-4577, cccindy.org

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American Family Insurance 500 Festival Community Day May 21, 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Start your engine and take a lap around the famed Indianapolis Motor Speedway oval, and then enjoy fun, family-oriented activities at the track. You might even get an autograph and photo op with your favorite driver. 4790 W. 16th St., (317) 9273378, 500festival.com

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International Orangutan Center Opens May 24 Eight lovable orangutans move into their flashy new digs at the Indianapolis Zoo. The only facility of its kind in the Midwest, this state-of-the-art center features the soaring Beacon of Hope tower. 1200 W. Washington St., (317) 630-2001, indianapoliszoo.com

Joshua Bell and Dvorak’s “New World” June 6 and 7 The Indiana University graduate and violin virtuoso arrives at Hilbert Circle Theatre for an unforgettable appearance with the Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra, conducted by Krzysztof Urbanski. 45 Monument Circle, (317) 6394300, indianapolissymphony.org

The Book of Mormon June 17 through 22 Trey Parker and Matt Stone’s raunchy musical comes to Old National Centre for a run of performances filled with laughs and naughty humor. 502 N. New Jersey St., (800) 793-7469, broadwayacrossamerica.com

Marsh Symphony on the Prairie: The Music of the Eagles June 27, 8 p.m. Take it easy with the laidback songs of this 1970s super group, reinterpreted by the Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra at Conner Prairie. 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers, (317) 639-4300, indianapolissymphony.org

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HOME DEC analysis paralysis After this long, cold winter, my husband and I were really excited to begin working on our outdoor space. My family moved into our home a couple years ago. We love it here. The house has strong bones, big pantries and plenty of closets. It’s on a wonderful lot in a rambling neighborhood, but it still needs some TLC. We updated major things right away—windows, siding, heating and air conditioning—but after the first wave of improvements, we’ve struggled to get anything else done. Simply put, I have trouble making decisions. Instead of moving ahead decisively, I talk about what I’d like to do and look at endless magazines to gather ideas. Then I become paralyzed when faced with so many choices and options. The outdoor space was an area I knew we would thrive in, if I could just pull the trigger on a direction that suited our budget. I worried about the costs involved in hiring professionals, but I’m so happy we did. In the long run, relying on the pros saved us time and money by helping us make the right decisions the first time. As with most things, having someone who confidently knows what they’re doing guide you through the process makes life so much easier!

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Now, we love our updated porch (see page 35). It’s nothing fancy, but it’s amazing how paint, comfy furniture, a landscape plan and finishing touches from a decorator have transformed our space. It’s the perfect place to find a little peace, entertain friends or browse all those home magazines I seem to be collecting. My family is so excited about the results that we’ve decided to keep the momentum going by updating the front porch, too. Special thanks to the wonderful companies who helped us—Marean Roberts Interior Design, CertaPro Painters and Sundown Gardens. Get outside and make the most of the season!

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Local brewer finds her happy hour By Lindahl Wiegand + photos by Chris whonsetler

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ilise Lane was steadily moving up the corporate ladder in a comfortable insurance job, but her heart wasn’t in it. When her husband, Nick Servies, asked what made her happy, they both laughed when she responded, “Well, I’m really obsessed with beer.” A seed was planted, and while traveling and tasting microbrews in Oregon, the seed grew into a hops plant. “I tried a coconut stout that changed my world and said, I have to have this again, and I want to make it myself,” Eilise says. When she asked if the brewer was in, she heard three words that would inspire her: “No, she’s not.” Eilise bought a home brew kit. She went back to school for fermentation sciences, and then packed up and moved from Indiana to Oregon. After spending six years homebrewing and shadowing experts in some of her favorite Oregon breweries, she completed an apprenticeship with the American Brewer’s Guild. She then wrote a business plan and moved back to Indiana. “I learned a lot while living in the Northwest. Not just about beer, but about how to live my life and give back. I wanted to bring that back to my community in Indiana,” she says. One coconut stout and seven years later, Scarlet Lane Brewing Company officially launched in McCordsville, Ind.

eilise lane icebreakers five facts to get a conversation brewing CEO & Brewer, Scarlet Lane Brewing Company 1. This Butler Bulldog is originally from Coatesville, Ind. 2. Currently listening to Royal Blood, Phantogram and Arctic Monkeys 3. Can be found reading Oscar Wilde, Edgar Allan Poe, H.P. Lovecraft and George R.R. Martin 4. Scarlet Lane is named for Eilise’s dog, Scarlet, who died from heart disease at 5 years old. “She was a brilliant, beautiful, adopted pup. She was so strong and tenacious until the end.” 5. Favorite quote: “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”—Oscar Wilde Scarlet Lane Brewing Company 7724 Depot St. McCordsville scarletlanebrew.com facebook.com/scarletlanebrew

The first brewers Today, the craft beer business is fairly male dominated, with women making up just 29 percent of brewery workforces. Eilise was one of two women in her apprenticeship program. But history tells a different story. From the Amazon to Egypt to England, women were the first brewers. “It was truly a woman’s craft. We were just left out of the business for a while,” Eilise says. “Not that men aren’t wonderful brewers, but it’s great to see and meet more women who are getting into it. I love seeing all these strong women support each other.”

What’s on tap When Scarlet Lane opens its doors, Eilise and her team will be filling growlers with three delicious beers, with a seasonal release always in rotation. Eilise offers her tasting notes. Vivian Red IPA. “This is our flagship beer. I wanted something sweet and caramel-ly to back up the big, hoppy notes characteristic of an IPA.” Dorian Stout. “There’s always going to be a stout in rotation—something approachable anyone can enjoy. My girlfriends used to be so scared of stouts. Now we go out and they all order dark beer!” Saison De Silas. “We brought in a different brewer to focus on developing a saison. I wanted to keep it light, easy to drink, spicy notes with a bit of lemon.”

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A taste of what’s to come In the near future, you’ll be able to buy pints of Scarlet Lane brews at area restaurants and bars. The brewery also plans to open its tasting room this summer. Eilise says the environment will be cozy and laid-back with a late-1800s, pre-Prohibition feel. Award-winning Head Brewer Chris Knott, former head brewer at Ram Restaurant & Brewery in downtown Indianapolis, and a tight-knit team of friends supports Eilise at Scarlet Lane. “We just want to make really awesome beer. We came together to start a business and to have fun with each other and everyone we meet on this journey,” she says. ❍

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here was a time, long, long ago when you really couldn’t picture this moment. Standing in your living room, surrounded by Tonka trucks, Lego bricks and Barbie’s pink tutu, you couldn’t fathom a house without children in it. Couldn’t imagine not wiping sticky fingers 10 times a day, tying neon shoelaces or cutting someone else’s steak before you could sit down to eat your own. In fact, there were likely days you wished your children would just grow up. Now that day has arrived. Your oldest is getting married next summer and your youngest will be headed to college in the fall. Meanwhile you’ll be still here. No more toys, no sticky hands, no demands on your time. Finally you have the freedom you’ve longed for, but yet all you want to do is hit rewind and go back.

Empty nest syndrome

There’s a name for this feeling and period in your life. Empty nest syndrome is a time of mourning or depression that occurs when the youngest child moves out of the family home. According to Carin Rubenstein, PhD and author of Beyond the Mommy Years: How to Live Happily Ever… After the Kids Leave Home, a recent study found 10 percent of all women (and some men) experience long-term emotional upheaval when the last child moves out. It’s really no surprise. As parents, we dedicate the majority of our time to taking care of, fretting over, and talking about our children. To say they’re an enormous part of our lives is, well, an understatement. Like the death of a loved one or going through a divorce, empty nest is characterized by feelings of loss or sadness. One often feels out of sorts, depressed or confused about what’s next in life. If you’re experiencing empty nest, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings. They are a normal reaction to this transition into the next phase of life and parenthood. “Empty nest is a grieving process,” says Linda Elliott, a licensed mental health counselor and Executive Director at Living With Intention, a medical and counseling group in Fishers. Elliott has worked with numerous clients who experienced extreme sadness when their children moved out. For many, she explains, empty nest is a stage stemming from a loss of purpose in life. “It’s a depressed mood we go through,” she says. While our children are ready to move on, we feel left behind.

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Those who have been the primary caregiver for their children may experience it more deeply. Having invested nearly 20 years into raising their children, they are now faced with a blank slate. “It’s the only job in the world whereby if we are successful, we’re left unemployed,” Elliott jokes. But there’s no need to keep your slate blank; it’s just a matter of rewriting your future. Use the following techniques to help you get through empty nest and discover the joys in this new phase of your life.

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Keep family ties tight Your young adults are out of the house, making it even more difficult to communicate—as if it were easy when they did live under your roof. They are experiencing their own sense of freedom, so meet them where they are to make staying in touch easier. Use technology Making a smartphone call is so old school, so try texting, Twitter, Google Hangout, Facebook, Skype or whatever technology your child prefers. Doing so will increase her likelihood to maintain communication. Don’t forget snail mail Who doesn’t love to get personal mail? Even as your child is busy living his own life, he’ll appreciate knowing you’re thinking of him. It’s a low-key way to express your love. Give bribery a shot Nothing speaks to the heart of a young person like food and fun. Invite her for a home-cooked meal, meet for appetizers at her favorite pub or offer to take her to a movie or theater production. It certainly worked for my parents when I was a young adult.

Develop a plan while the nest is full. We know our children will eventually leave. Elliott suggests we prepare in advance. “Depression and anxiety come when we don’t have a plan,” she says, “when we feel out of control.” Start envisioning what life sans children will be like before they leave. Think about what the days will look like, how you might feel and how you’ll want to spend your time. A plan will help you look toward the future instead of dwelling on the past.

Allow yourself to feel sad. “Give yourself grace,” Elliott says. Oftentimes we try to talk ourselves out of our feelings. Sadness and depression are natural emotions. We need to feel them to get through them. For many, the first year is the hardest. But don’t set a time limit on your emotions. Admit your feelings, know they will pass, and remember it’s ok to shed a tear now and then.

Talk it out and listen. One of the best ways to work through our emotions is to talk about them. Spill your guts to a close friend, or discuss your sadness with a peer going through the same situation. Ask your mom how she felt when you left home. You’re not the first empty nester; instead of trying to reinvent the wheel, learn how to cope from those who’ve been through it. A counselor can help if your can’t find relief on your own.

Remember who you were. Surely you did something before you started changing diapers, helping with homework and driving everyone everywhere they needed to be. Who was that girl? What did she do in her spare time? Find her and bring her back. Now is the time to go back to school, volunteer, focus on your career. Joy can be found in so many places. So go on, the world is waiting for you.

Reinvent your relationships. An empty nest can be hardest on those who have lost connection with their spouse. So many of us envelop ourselves in the role of parent, employee and daughter. We’ve forgotten how to be a partner. The man you married isn’t just a dad. He’s your other half. Go find him. Tear him away from the garage, the yard or ESPN and take him out to dinner. Single moms can now reconnect with family and friends. If you aren’t putting yourself out there, consider dating again (remember, you no longer have a curfew). Regardless of your marital status, Elliott suggests connecting with others through activities you enjoy. Whether it’s traveling, dining out, or simply walking the dog, do it

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with people who matter the most to you. Great freedom comes with having children out of the house. If you’re married, focus on reconnecting with the man you fell in love with so long ago. If you’re single, recognize the fact that you now have the freedom to do whatever you want.

Embrace the good and the freedom. You may feel sad now, but statistics show you won’t forever. A recent article in Time magazine stated that second to childless couples, empty nesters are the happiest of couples. Consider the positives of having your children gone. First of all, you can quit worrying about, waiting up for and picking up after your teenagers. You can take a backseat to being responsible for them. “If I’ve done my job well, they’re prepared,” says Elliott, “and I don’t have to obsess anymore. I am free from the day-to-day worries.” Secondly, for the first time in a long time, you can put yourself first. The days belong to you. No more orthodontist appointments, school functions or volunteering to work the concession stand at football games. This is the time to take those piano lessons, spend an entire Saturday reading in your pajamas or dance naked in the family room (just because you can). Best of all, now you can enjoy watching your children fly. Grow. Become. As the mother of three adult children, Elliott adds, “Adult relationships with your children can be marvelous, it’s so rewarding.” All the reward without the day-to-day worry: Sounds like a gift to me. m

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Ocean blues. With its swingy, sexy shape, a deep V-neck and watery-blue tones, this cover-up pairs perfectly with a white or coral swimsuit. Coco Reef handkerchiefhem cover-up, $72 at Macy’s

Getaway garb. Delicate crochet turns a basic black cover-up into a pretty, beachworthy layer. Kenneth Cole Reaction cover-up, $58 at Macy’s

Peek-a-boo panel. Three-quarter sleeves offer extra coverage, and open embroidery down the center shows off a bit of your suit. La Blanca crochet-neckline cover-up, $99 at Macy’s

Fine feathered. This relaxed cover-up doubles as a tunic dress. Pair it with flat sandals and beaded bracelets when you’re away from the water. Parrot-printed tunic dress, $99 at Talbots

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In reverse. Sporty side-cinching lets you show a little more leg by the water and a little less on land. “Sweetwater” reversible cover-up, $98 at Athleta

Keen eye(let). An airy, oversize eyelet design in crisp white puts you in a breezy state of mind. Jordan Taylor embroidered cover-up, $68 at Macy’s

New ThermiRF Eliminates Fat and Tightens Skin without Surgery CAN BE USED ON ANY PART OF THE BODY

ncreasingly, patients seek non- invasive, or minimally invasive procedures that do not require them to take time from work or their daily schedules for recovery. ThermiRF is a new FDA-cleared non-surgical device that uses radiofrequency (RF) energy to stimulate collagen and to address wrinkle reduction, body contouring and skin tightening of the face, neck and body. The major benefit of this technology is that it can be done in the office setting without the need for anesthesia and with minimal to no downtime. ThermiRF delivers radiofrequency energy through a cannula that is inserted under the patient’s skin. The cannula heats the tissue beneath the skin, melting the fat and preparing it for excretion from the body. The heat from the cannula also stimulates collagen production beneath the skin, correcting the skin laxity that commonly occurs after fat reduction and age. The patient is numbed and able to relax and be comfortable during the treatment. The treatments use “temperature-controlled” radiofrequency to make it more comfortable. Because the temperature can be adjusted, the doctor is able to calculate the frequency level to fit the area of the body being contoured. Over time, the treated area fat cells are drained through the lymphatic system and eventually are removed through your body as urine. The treatment results will continue to improve and look better during the first three to six months. During this time, the skin continues to tighten and new collagen is forming. The ThermiRF treatment provides excellent results in areas that previously were difficult to treat with other methods. The procedure can be used to tighten skin on the face, neck, chest and arms. For contouring and fat reduction, we can use it on the abdomen, backs, thighs, buttocks and any fat pockets throughout your body. We can also use this treatment in conjunction with other procedures such as injectables. The treatments generally take less than one hour. After the procedure, some patients may experience a small amount of swelling or redness, but this usually will disappear in a few hours. More than one treatment may be necessary to obtain optimal results. An ideal candidate for ThermiRF has stubborn pockets of excess fat on their body that have not responded to diet and exercise. The patient should be in good health with no underlying conditions. There are several treatment options available with ThermiRF including the ThermiLift to lift, tighten and rejuvenate the lower face and neck; ThermiTight to lift, tighten and rejuvenate the abdomen, arms and other body areas, and for cellulite reduction; and ThermiSmooth to smooth wrinkles.

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The pain of being in pain Dr. Stephen Elliott of Living with Intention, Inc. discusses ways to cope with pain without the use of chronic pain medication.

Living with Intention, Inc. 11979 Fishers Crossing Drive, Fishers, IN 46038 For an appointment, call (317) 863-5888 LivingWithIntention.biz

Chronic pain (CP) facts: In 2011, CP cost the U.S. somewhere between $560 to 635 billion. That’s about $2,000 for every single man, woman and child alive today. 42 percent of those with CP are unable to work. 63 percent can’t even manage daily activities like bathing, dressing, grooming, etc. 20 percent of all American adults report that pain frequently disrupts their sleep. 86 percent of those with CP report sleep problems. According to a 2006 survey, 51 percent of CP sufferers report little or no control over their pain.

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As I get older, I feel like I’m getting more aches and pains. Is that normal? No—chronic pain is not a normal part of aging.

Q A

Almost everyone I know has pain. Am I imagining this?

Not at all. More than 100 million Americans suffer chronic pain. That’s more than diabetes, heart disease and cancer combined. It truly is a national health crisis. (For more chronic pain facts, see box.)

Q A

Sometimes I don’t think my doctor takes my pain seriously. What’s going on?

If you’re a woman, you’re not alone. There’s a significant gender bias here. More women than men seek medical care for pain, but are less likely to receive treatment. Many physicians discount women’s pain complaints as being emotional rather than real. But even if you’re not a woman, many physicians haven’t been adequately trained in pain management. Others are afraid of over prescribing” pain medications, being seen as a “candy man/ woman,” and running the risk of losing their licenses.

Q A

Why do I feel like my pain makes me so exhausted?

Because it does. Chronic pain has lots of effects, all bad. Feeling tired is just one of them. Others include insomnia, increased sense of stress, depression, irritability, anxiety, difficulty fighting infection, increased risk of cancer, hormonal imbalances, and GI problems.

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Besides taking pills, what can I do?

Medications (prescription, over-thecounter, or both) rarely adequately treat chronic pain. There’s a vast and growing body of evidence supporting the use of alternative therapies — meditation, massage, stretching, acupuncture, biofeedback, relaxation, visualization, electro-magnetic stimulation with new devices like SCENAR, even simple breathing exercises and changing what you eat. This really is a classic example of optimal health being a mind-body-spirit thing.

What I eat can make a difference?

Absolutely! Our Standard American Diet (or SAD, for short — pretty appropriate, I think) is incredibly inflammatory, and most common pain is the result of chronic inflammation. I’ve seen it over and over again — dramatic improvement simply by changing your diet.

And breathing, too? What’s that about?

This one, along with meditation, is particularly difficult for us materialistic-“scientific”-Western-culture-types to wrap our brains around. Some even believe this sort of thing is anti-Christian. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s evidence-based, and it works. Living with Intention, Inc. was awarded the 2013 Fishers Chamber of Commerce Pillar Award for Excellence in the area of Entrepreneurial Spirit.

Summer s Best Extras We call them accessories, but these sandals, sunnies, bags and bracelets are worth building an outfit around. Welcome back your summer wardrobe with a little extra punch.

By Erica Sagon + Photos by Chris Whonsetler

{ Sandals } Dive into summer feet first with bright flats, wearable wedges and strappy heels

All caged up. This season’s strap-happy sandals are a smidge edgy, but ultimately wearable—especially when they have a friendly stacked heel like these. Nine West “Claire” heeled sandals, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet* *Find Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

Candy-colored. Everyone’s closet needs one pair of fun flats—we’re not talking flip flops—to spice up sundresses and shorts. Corso Como “Sangria” buckled sandals, $98.95 at amazon.com

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Festival friendly. Birkenstock is back, inspiring a revolution of earthy, moldedsole sandals. But before you dig your old Birks out of the closet, consider the new crop with updated details like patent straps and bright accents. Birkenstock “Gizeh” patent-strap sandals, $89.95 at birkenstockusa.com

Pedi ready. There’s something satisfyingly simple and sophisticated about this season’s pared-down, minimalist anklestrap sandals. This pair is polished enough to show off a pedicure on workdays. Alfani “Kyrah” ankle-strap wedges, $59 at Macy’s

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Pop! With so many new colors and styles, updating your sunglasses is a bright idea this season.

Freshly squeezed hues. You’ll find colorful frames everywhere, and muted hues are certainly catching our eye, too. Tory Burch (style TY9027) oversize square sunglasses, $165 at the Sunglass Hut boutique at Macy’s

Flight risk. Get away from it all wearing classic, gold-rimmed aviators. Why not have a little fun with unexpected details like mirrored lenses? Tortoise-bridge aviator sunglasses, $78 at C. Wonder

Convertible calling. Oversize sunnies always make us look retro glam in an instant—even if the tired eyes behind them feel otherwise. Vented sunglasses, $12.99 at Target

Meow. A clear winner—this softer, modern take on the feminine cat-eye frame is flattering for all faces. Dolce & Gabbana cat-eye sunglasses (style DG6075M), $295 at the Sunglass Hut boutique at Macy’s

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The four essential bags for summer have you covered, whether you need to carry a little or a lot.

Get cross. If you buy one bag, make it a crossbody in your favorite color (we’ve got a soft spot for cobalt blue). This one easily has room for the essentials—and then some—and the thin strap and slim shape miraculously lighten up your look for summer. Calvin Klein leather crossbody bag, $138 at Macy’s

Summer solstice sack. This is the tote that can handle the fullest day of the year. It’s a carry-on, a beach bag, and a catch-all for snacks, workout clothes or a spare pair of ballet flats on those true marathon days. Striped tote, $79.99 at Banana Republic Factory Store*

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Bucket list. Set yourself up to do great things with a relaxed bucket bag in warm, neutral leather. This everyday piece is laid back enough for a sundress, yet has plenty of polish for the office. Vince Camuto “Jill” drawstring leather bag, $248 at Macy’s

Calling the shots. This perforated leather clutch has a sporty-meets-sophisticated look that will score you major points this summer, even if you don’t get anywhere near a court. Coach “Bleecker” perforated leather clutch, $218 at zappos.com

{ bracelets } This season’s best arm candy spans styles, from a single, sculptural cuff to a curated collection of mix-andmatch bracelets.

Tower power. The key to perfecting a mixed stack is to include a variety of textures. Sneaking in a coiled version will easily mimic the heft of several bracelets. Top to bottom: Faux-stone and silver-tone cuff, $9.99 at Target; beaded coil bracelet, $12.99 at Target; and silver-tone bangles (two shown), $24.99 at Banana Republic Factory Store* *Find Banana Republic Factory Store and Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

Dressed to the vines. This leafy bracelet studded with rhinestones is perfect for dressing up a bit. Slip it on with a cocktail dress for a summer wedding or with a maxi-dress on a Saturday night. Rhinestone-studded stretch bracelet, $29.99 at Banana Republic Factory Store*

Gold standard. This elegant cuff is a 24/7, goes-with-everything piece that gives you the look of bangle bracelets without all the noise. Stella & Dot “Adelina” cuff, $79 at stelladot.com

All set. Love the stacked look, but don’t want to think about coordinating various bracelets? This colorful, affordable set has it figured out for you. Faceted stone and beaded stretch bracelet set, $19.99 at Loft Outlet*

Unmentionables

Five things to know about your lady parts By judy burnett

our grandmother may have called it “down there.” Oprah calls it your “va-jay-jay.” Whatever you call it, here are five things you should know about it.

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Annual Pap smears aren’t necessary, and they don’t screen for everything. You don’t need an annual Pap test, according to the American Cancer Society. The new guidelines stipulate: • Up to age 21: No Pap test is necessary. Whoop! • Ages 21-29: You need to get a Pap every three years. • Ages 30-65: You’re due for a Pap smear and HPV (Human Pappillomavirus) test every five years or a Pap alone every three years. • Ages 65 and over: No more Pap smears if there is no history of serious cervical disease. Who said getting older was all bad? No matter how old you are, you’re never completely off the hook. A Pap smear screens only for cervical cancer. “You still need to have a pelvic exam every year,” says Dr. Cameual Wright of Noblesville’s OB/GYN Specialists of Indiana, part of Riverview Medical Group. “The pelvic exam looks at the vulva, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, bladder and rectum for any abnormalities or possible disease,” says Dr. Susan Benson of St. Vincent OB/ GYN Services in the McCordsville/Geist area.

The rate of sexually transmitted diseases among people 45 and older is skyrocketing. In 2011, the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention identified more than 37,000 cases of gonorrhea, syphilis and chlamydia in people ages 45 and older. A 2008 study in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections showed that in less than a decade (1996-2003), STD rates had more than doubled in this age group, blaming the increase in part on the fact that more adults are divorced and single, which results in new and more sexual partners. Dr. Wright says chlamydia is the most common infection, followed by HPV. HPV is spread through sexual contact and can lead to genital warts, abnormal cervical cells or cervical cancer. “Ninety percent of sexually active people have been exposed to HPV, and most of those are young people,” says Dr. Wright. “Young people have a robust immune system and are able to clear the virus, but as we age we are less likely to clear the virus.” When women are unable to clear the virus, they develop active HPV, which puts them at greater risk for cervical cancer.

Abnormal uterine bleeding is common. According to Dr. Benson, abnormal bleeding is the No. 1 reason women seek care other than preventive care in most practices. “There are a lot of options for treatment depending on what the problem actually is and what stage of life the woman is in,” she says. “Sometimes abnormal bleeding happens and it is just normal, although it seems abnormal, and requires only watchful waiting.” Hormone therapy, such as the use of birth control pills, patches, injections or vaginal suppositories, also effectively controls bleeding in certain cases, says Dr. Benson. A progesterone IUD can provide relief for up to five years. Growing in popularity is the endometrial ablation, a simple outpatient procedure typically requiring just local injections and light sedation. “It has a very high success and satisfaction rate and eliminates the periods for good. The beauty is it does not affect the woman’s hormones at all. It is virtually painless, and the women are back to work the next day. It saves a lot of women from having a hysterectomy, which is the final option,” Dr. Benson says.

Sex should feel good. The Center for Vulvovaginal Disorders in Washington, D.C. estimates that 20 million American women will have sexual pain disorders at some point in their lives. This often occurs during menopause because of vaginal atrophy due to the lack of estrogen being produced. But painful intercourse shouldn’t be the norm. Over-thecounter lubricants can provide some relief. There are also topical estrogen creams, suppositories and an oral medication available with a prescription from your doctor. The bottom line is do not suffer in silence or avoid sex; talk to your physician.

There are lots of birth control options. The formulation for birth control pills has changed,” Dr. Wright says. “The newer pills on the market offer a shorter and significantly lighter period, and many women don’t have a period at all,” she says. “The NuvaRing is a device that goes in the vagina. You put it in for three weeks and then take it out for a week and then put another one in,” Dr. Wright explains. The NuvaRing releases a continuous low dose of hormones to prevent eggs from maturing and releasing from the fallopian tubes.

She recommends women “limit your sexual partners, take an appropriate sexual history and protect yourself with condoms.” (In other words, follow the same advice you would give your own daughter.)

Through a shot in the arm, Depo-Provera continuously releases progestin to keep eggs from being released from the ovaries. “It has been around for a long time, lasts for three months and is very effective,” Dr. Wright says.

I bet you’re worried. I was worried. I was worried about vaginas. I was worried about what we think about vaginas, and even more worried that we don’t think about them.

Another option is Nexplanon, a matchstick-sized implant that goes in the upper arm and provides three years of pregnancy prevention by continuously releasing progestin. Dr. Wright says there are three IUDs currently on the market as well.

Eve Ensler, The Vagina Monologues

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There is something for every woman, depending on her stage in life, health history and personal preference. Talk to your doctor about what is best for you. Bottom line: Pay attention to your lady parts. Claim them, be proud of them and above all, protect them. It’s your job to educate yourself, listen to your body, get regular checkups and be honest with your doctor about what’s going on down there. m

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Julie Schnieders, MSN, NP is a women’s health nurse practitioner with extensive experience in women’s health. She has a special interest in menopause and pelvic health, and is a breast risk assessment consultant for the St.Vincent Breast Center.

WOMEN’S HEALTH Q&A

Julie Schnieders, MSN, NP, answers some common questions about health symptoms that women shouldn’t ignore.

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Do women often dismiss or downplay their symptoms when something is wrong?

Yes, definitely. I see a lot of women worrying about something, but not following through with checking it out. Or, thinking that if something’s wrong, the doctor will catch it during an annual exam.

Is there a good rule of thumb to follow about deciding when it’s time to call the doctor?

Women are caretakers. We get so busy taking care of everybody else and making sure their needs are met, we end up putting ourselves last. Sometimes it’s a case of denial.

If a symptom is present for longer than two weeks, it needs to be checked out. Of course, certain symptoms require immediate attention or a trip to the emergency room. Such as: Heart attack symptoms can present much differently in women than men, and may include fatigue, nausea, shortness of breath, shoulder pain or back pain. The worst headache ever needs to be evaluated quickly. You should also seek immediate attention if you notice any sign of a stroke—uneven smile, weakness on one side of the body, dizziness or slurred speech.

Q A

Why do we do this?

What are a few of the most common health symptoms that women tend to ignore?

A cough that won’t go away, especially if you’re a non-smoker; 20 percent of all lung cancers are found in non-smokers. Lingering fatigue could indicate anemia or a thyroid problem. Any kind of breast changes—a lump obviously needs to be investigated, but also thickening, redness or unilateral pain. Bloating that lasts for more than two weeks could be irritable bowel syndrome; you want to make sure it’s not an ovarian issue. Headaches are a common complaint, and need to be worked up so they can be treated the right way. Post-menopausal bleeding; if you haven’t had a period in 12 months and you start bleeding, it needs to be evaluated. Blood in the stool may just be a hemorrhoid, but needs a work up. These are all examples of issues women tend to ignore.

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What will a doctor want to know about your symptoms?

It depends what the symptoms are, but doctors will want to know when the symptoms started, how severe they are and what, if anything, you’ve done to treat them.

Q A

What can happen if women wait too long to seek treatment?

If symptoms go unchecked, they can develop into much bigger problems. Eighty percent of heart disease is preventable with lifestyle changes, and the earlier breast cancer is discovered, the better your chances of survival. If a symptom comes on suddenly or is severe, making a trip to the ER could save your life.

HOME budget pATIO

Before & After

It doesn’t have to cost a fortune to give your outdoor space a new look photos BY chris whonsetler

it publisher Kelly McVey and her husband, Mike, moved into their home a few years ago but never did much to their porch and patio. They were waiting until the time was right to give their outdoor living space a complete overhaul, and after this year’s horrible winter, they realized they couldn’t put it off any longer. With only a small budget to work with, Kelly and Mike asked their friend and decorator Marean Roberts with By Design to help them put together a plan. The only requirements: keep the budget under $3,000, the chairs must be comfortable and have movement (rock or swivel), and a versatile conversation table was a necessity. In the end, the total bill rang up to less than $3,000. “It’s amazing what a little color, paint, landscaping and finishing touches from a decorator can do for a space,” Kelly said. “It’s just perfect for our small family.” Hank, the family bulldog, heartily agrees, and now spends his days lying around the sunny porch with his family.

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Keep the colors of your landscape in mind. Kelly wanted to incorporate pink to match the peonies and hydrangeas in her yard.

Painting the floor & interior brick walls makes the porch feel more like an interior room.

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Arranging four identical chairs around a table was Kellyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s idea; the furniture placement perfectly suits the way her family uses the porch.

Hank enjoys the soft cushions and bold , bright colors as much as the rest of the family

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Caregiving 101

Part VI

A few final thoughts As our Kit Caregiving 101 series winds down, our local panel of sources reflects on their own experiences, and offers helpful words of wisdom to other caregivers. by Amy Lynch

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Kate Kunk, RN, CIRS-A, Caregiver Options Counselor at CICOA Aging & In-Home Solutions: In 2008, I relocated to Indianapolis (a six-hour drive from Knoxville, where my mother lived in assisted living). My brother was the primary caregiver, and I knew she would continue to receive great care, so she probably wasn’t affected much by my departure. However, in leaving her, not only did I realize the complexities of navigating resources and systems from a distance, I also came to appreciate the special kind of grief unique to those of us who feel like we can’t do enough. I had to learn to accept the limitations of my role, to be present as often as possible and to savor every moment with her. Beth Gehlhausen, Executive Director, Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County: I haven’t been a direct caregiver, but have witnessed first-hand as my mom has provided care to both of my grandparents and now to my stepdad who is suffering from Alzheimer’s. There are so many plates spinning, and she has kept them all going with grace, a positive attitude and determination— providing great care; handling the insurance, doctor’s appointments and personal care; running the household and many other things. It’s imperative that those who have transitioned (usually very quickly) into a caregiving role have a support system, take time out for themselves and gather as much information about available resources as possible. Having someone to talk to who will just listen and be supportive is such a gift for a caregiver. Tina McIntosh, Founder and President of Joy’s House Adult Day Service: I am surrounded by caregiving— it was part of my childhood and it followed me as I became an adult. Fifteen years ago, I was the primary caregiver for my biological father. After that, I started Joy’s House and became a professional caregiver. I have three children. I host a local radio program called Caregiver Crossing, which focuses on the journey of caring for another. Two years ago I was the recipient of caregiving, as I made my way through breast cancer. And two days before this past Christmas, my husband was diagnosed with kidney cancer. My best advice is to embrace the imbalance. Some days, we are incredible in one area of our lives and lacking in another. After that, our scale tips. We can’t be everything to everyone at every moment, but we can be great where we are.

Beth Gehlhausen, Executive Director, Meals on Wheels of Hamilton County

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Kate Kunk, RN, CIRS-A, Caregiver Options Counselor at CICOA Aging & In-Home Solutions

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Tina McIntosh, Founder and President of Joy’s House Adult Day Service

Carol Applegate, Nurse, Elder Law Attorney and Owner of Applegate Elder Law

Pat Fox, President and CEO of Riverview Hospital: As a nurse, I know there is no greater joy than being able to help someone in need. While the struggles can be tough on our patients, they can also be hard on their loved ones. For this reason, taking the time to answer their questions and support them is critical. As a recent caregiver to an elderly parent, I remember the emotional journey of guilt, hope, joy and compassion that comes with the experience. Whether it’s cooking a meal, grocery shopping or caring for a loved one following surgery, the demands placed on caregivers can be substantial. Together as a community, we need to support caregivers to let them know first, and most importantly, they are not alone. Maureen Lindley, Vice President of Marketing, Flanner and Buchanan Funeral Centers: Within the past year, I have begun laying the groundwork to serve as a caregiver for my parents. They are in relatively good health and still live in their home. We have updated their will and advance directives, and added my name to their safety deposit box. We’ve also selected and pre-paid all cemetery costs, and we’re working on funeral pre-arrangements. It’s been a process and we’ve taken our time making these big decisions. Thanks to ongoing conversations about their wishes as they age, we’ve felt very little pressure. They’re relieved to mark these items off their list, and I feel good knowing that when we need these services, they’re already in place. Marc Adamson, Administrator, Hancock Regional Home Health: As a physical therapist, I’ve seen many situations in home settings. I have yet to find myself providing care for an aging loved one, but we most likely will all find ourselves faced with a situation where we will be a caregiver or provide support to someone who is. The best advice I can offer is to take initiative in your loved one’s medical care. While the caregiving role can be uncomfortable at times and require difficult conversations, the value and improved outcomes that can result are well worth the awkwardness. Protecting your overall mental and physical well-being by seeking assistance or support services when needed will improve the care you provide, and potentially strengthen your relationship. Carol Applegate, Nurse, Elder Law Attorney and Owner of Applegate Elder Law: I cared for my father as he made his journey through dementia and Alzheimer’s—a long slow process that lasted for more than 10 years until his death five years ago. I am now caregiving for my mother, who lives in an assistedliving facility. As an elder law attorney, I assist other caregivers on a daily basis, but dealing with my own family is totally different. I experience the same feelings and frustrations as any other caregiver. Building a team and planning for the future journey is vital. Caregivers need emotional and physical support throughout the process, and caregivers need each other. There are others out there who truly want to help. You just need to call on them. m 42 kitindy.com May+June 2014

Upcoming events for caregivers Joy’s House caregiver retreat May 3, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. The Willows (formerly the Riverwalk) in Broad Ripple, 6729 E. Westfield Blvd. If you’re a caregiver, plan ahead to attend this fun and supportive free event. The retreats include educational breakout sessions, lunch, fellowship and even pampering massages. For more information, contact Missy Gold, Joy’s House Outreach Manager, at (317) 254-0828 or missy@joyshouse.org.

CICOA CareAware workshops Dates/time vary Your community venue Invite CICOA into your church or civic organization to deliver a free CareAware caregiver workshop such as CareAware Options for Caregivers and Managing Home and Care. Free educational literature specific to your interest is included. To find out more, visit cicoa.org and call Kate Kunk, RN at CICOA, at (317) 803-6002.

Cremation seminars May 21, 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Flanner and Buchanan Geist, 7855 Cork Road June 18, 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Flanner and Buchanan Washington Park East, Community Life Center, 10612 E. Washington St. Sponsored by Flanner and Buchanan, these lunch-andlearn sessions cover everything you’ve always wanted to know about cremation, but were afraid to ask. To RSVP, call (317) 396-3730 or email cremationexpert@ﬂannerbuchanan.com.

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Really Great Reasons to call 1.

You want accurate, unbiased answers about available community resources for older adults, people with disabilities or family caregivers.

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You need help getting or preparing nutritious meals. You are looking for an in-home service provider. You need transportation. You are comparing Medicare prescription drug plans. You provide care for a family member who needs assistance with activities of daily living.

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You are a grandparent raising grandchildren. You are making decisions about long-term care. You need home accessibility modifications. You are looking for volunteer opportunities.

Call today! (317) 254-3660 (800) 432-2422

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island time

Even us landlocked gals can indulge in beachy style this summer, thanks to breezy, flowy silhouettes, a shock of white and plenty of brightsâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; even Hawaiian-inspired prints with palm fronds and florals. Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s how to bring that faraway look closer to home. text and Styling by Erica Sagon + photos by Wil Foster Model Emily Smith/Helen Wells Hair by Jennifer Odom/twenty volume Makeup by Mandi Lucas/twenty volume

to the max Both retro and modern versions of island-inspired prints are a sure thing this season. Take the plunge with this maxi-dress. The sexy (yet completely wearable) halter neckline is perfect for summer nights. 1. Knit halter patio dress, $130 at Banana Republic 2. Lucky Brand gold-and-silvertone drop earrings, $35, and Lucky Brand silver-tone cuff, $45, both at Macy’s 3.“Maxie” espadrille wedges, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet.* *Find Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

Pile on the bracelets, or stick to one simple cuff—this dress is ready for either.

Three-quarter sleeves offer a little extra coverage, but these alluring slits let some skin peek through. The best of both worlds, right?

white out The little black dress has some serious competition this summer from all the cute white numbers out there. Think relaxed, breezy and beachy in gauzy linen or otherwise lightweight fabrics. A dress like this can easily double as a cover-up, making it a must-have for vacation. 1. Embroidered tunic dress with elastic waist, $150 at White House Black Market 2. Robert Lee Morris beaded necklace, $48, and 3. BCBGeneration “Anais” sandals, $89, both at Macy’s.

the bright stuff With so many gorgeous colors out this summer, why not pair them up? Start with slim pants or shorts in a subdued hue, like these muted salmon skinny jeans, and then add a bright patterned tunic.

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1. Tab-sleeve tunic, $44.99 at Loft Outlet* 2. slimming crop jeans with side-zip hem, $79.50 at Talbots 3. Lucky Brand necklace, $49 at Macy’s 4. lasercut satchel, $79.99 at Nine West Outlet* 5. “Maxie” espadrille wedges, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet* *Find Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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Looking for a summery bag but don’t want a straw tote? Keep an eye out for satchels and clutches with pretty laser-cut patterns.

GO BOHO If you’re drawn to the bohemian side of the beach, try a relaxed tank tucked into a clean-lined maxi skirt. Look for a top with texture—be it embroidered, eyelet or crochet—and layer both long and short necklaces. 1. INC International Concepts crochet tank, $69.50, and Kenneth Cole New York mixed-bead cluster necklace, $95, both at Macy’s 2. maxi-skirt, $49.99, and 3. long gold-tone necklace, $24.99, both at Loft Outlet,* and Sandals, stylist’s own. *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

After years of straphappy gladiator sandals, we love this season’s super-simple footwear. With just one strap around the ankle and one across the toes, the look is effortlessly chic.

SHORT STORY Mix up your cover up. For a day at the pool or beach, layer shorts and a whisper-thin button-down over your swimsuit. We love the chic combination of lightweight chambray and classic white because it works with any suit. 1. Sheer tie-front button-down shirt, $44.99, and chambray shorts, $44.99, both at Loft Outlet* 2. Tommy Bahama “Scenic Harbor” one-piece swimsuit, $147 3. The Sak “Cambria” crochet tote, $109 4. Lucky Brand turquoise charm knotted leather bracelet, $25, and Lucky Brand beaded leather bracelet, $39, all at Macy’s 5. “Maxie” espadrille wedges, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet.*

*Find Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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Those crochet purses we loved years ago feel so right again. This one caught our eye because of the gold layer peeking through the crochet— such a great update.

PRINTS CHARMING Give a bold print your undivided attention by pairing it with crisp white jeans in your favorite fit.

1. Marimekko Collection peplum top, $69.50 at Banana Republic 2. Not Your Daughter’s Jeans “Clarissa” skinny jeans, $104, and 3. Calvin Klein “Phillipa” wedge sandals, $89, both at Macy’s 4. interlocking rope necklace, $78 at C. Wonder 5. wicker shell clutch, $99 at Talbots and 6. coiled gold-tone bracelet, $19.99 at Loft Outlet.* *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

This shell-shaped clutch is a cheeky extra, but surprisingly sleek, too. Carry it to summer weddings and on date night.

Love your parents? We do, too.

Joyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s House is an adult day service for aging individuals and those living with physical or mental challenges. We offer complimentary caregiver support and educations program for you as well! Contact us; weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re here to help.

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The transition from your indoor space to your outdoor one should be seamless. Decorating with complementary colors and styles helps make it so.

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Home outdoor inspiration

Outside the box. Tips for sprucing up your outdoor spaces. Photos by Chris Whonsetler

Cassey Perry lives in Carmel with her three children. She offers design consultations/ inspirations, staging projects and custom reclaimed accessory and decor items for the home. She draws inspiration for her signature “rustic chic” design from her rural childhood and desire to incorporate a modern feel. Me&3 Designs LLC, meand3designs@gmail.com (317) 519-2733

A few thoughts on the space Feel: Outdoor living spaces are an extension of our “four walls” inside and should serve as a seamless extension of your indoor space, as if only another door were to separate the two “rooms.” To achieve this, stick with a color scheme and furniture that complement the interior style of the home, e.g., a traditional space may call for a timeless, simple all-weather wicker set. On the other end of the spectrum, a contemporary or transitional home might demand a sleeker, streamlined look in order to stay consistent with the interior of the home. Color: With the feel of the space in mind, choosing a color palette for the furniture is easy for me because I know that if I stick with a neutralcolored cushion, it will complement any pillow or accessory I select as the seasons change. It’s hard to invest a lot of money in any seating area— inside or out—without wondering if you’ll regret a bold color in a few years. Switching up pillows and throws when your mood shifts is a lot less costly than recovering or replacing lots of cushions. In this particular color set, I chose a poppy orange to round out the bold navy of the home; it’s a fresh, fun pop. Several of my accessories inside the home also complement this color combination, so I can easily bring a few pieces outside while entertaining—fluidity is a key factor. Finds: Before I design a space, I gather an idea folder of the looks I love from several design blogs, retail websites, etc. (Crate & Barrel is featured here, for example.) And then I take inventory of what I currently have that will transition and fill in the “blanks.” Adding a chalkboard frame with a fun summer saying to greet guests is a versatile idea that can be used regardless of season or style changes. Slip casual photos into inexpensive frames that can bear the pollen, dust and weather. It’s a simple way to make the outdoor space carry through the charm that is behind the door that leads inside.

5. 1. A deep tray serves double duty. First, use it to carry drinks and

nibbles from the kitchen to the porch. And second, fill it with candles to light up a dim space. 2. Pair a rustic piece with a more dainty one to bridge outdoor and indoor decor. 3. Make it personal with family photos. Just be sure you have doubles, in case the weather wreaks havoc. 4. Add punches of color with transitional details such as florals, pillows or summery throws. 5. This personalized chalkboard is so welcoming andâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;who would have guessedâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;is hiding an outdoor TV. 6. A firepit can be a simple DIY project. Surround it with comfortable chairs for everyone. 54 kitindy.com May+ June 2014

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Bu y New Towels

Display SPA Like Items

Orga nize Ca binets

Keep Tile a nd Rugs Nice & Clea n

quick tips to improve your master bath before showing your house:

1. Clear counter tops of clutter, but leave a display of perfume or a nice decorative piece. Anything SPA like. 2. Don’t hang your day-to-day towels for a showing, unless you use those big fluffy spa like towels. Purchase a couple for “showing purpose only”. They don’t have to be expensive, just look it. 3. Candles around a whirlpool tub are always inviting. 4. Fold and stack your towels, blankets and sheets to be neat in your linen closet. Keep cabinets tidy, too. These details will speak to the overall care of your home when you take the time to keep these areas organized. 5. Keep your rugs clean and fresh on the floors. If you have beautiful tile, the less is better. Show off the assets of our bath.

Amy W. Corey, Realtor

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FASHION how to

Welcome to the weekend

1. Easy printed dress. An outfit built on a bright, modern-print dress doesn’t need many accessories.

don’t you love those saturdays that start with a leisurely trip to the farmers’ market and end with impromptu pizza and wine on a patio with friends? (And yes, let’s acknowledge the million unmemorable-yetnecessary errands in between.)

Elastic-waist dress, $69.99 at Banana Republic Factory Store* 2. Light jacket. For sudden blasts of AC and breezy evenings.

You could easily change outfits three times. Or you could get dressed once and be ready for wherever the day takes you. We prefer the latter. Here’s our recipe for an effortless ensemble that lets you take on Saturday in style.

Lucky Brand linen drawstring jacket, $129 at Macy’s 3. Hands-free purse. A cross-body in your favorite hue is a summertime essential.

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Lands’ End “Landmark Mini Fontana Lady Bag” cross-body purse, $148 at landsend.com 4. Your own shopping bag. A cavernous catch-all for your farmers’ market haul. Baggu nylon tote, $9 at baggu.com 5. Cute sunnies. Classic aviators updated with tortoise-shell frames. Ray-Ban aviator sunglasses, $224.95 at sunglasshut.com

6. Laid-back bracelets. Wear a few of these glam, grown-up friendship bracelets at one time.

Clockwise from top: Blee Inara macrame and gold-tone bead bracelet, $48, Blee Inara crystal-disc string bracelet, $35, and Meredith Hahn “Happy” plate bracelet, $50, all at maxandchloe.com 7. All-day sandals. Ditch your flip-flops for sleek thongs with a comfortable back strap. Aldo “Adraedda” sandals, $50 at aldoshoes.com

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GARDEN /Fashion S h o w

may 22 | 6:30pm F R E E

A D M I S S I O N

Refresh your garden and your wardrobe Get bright new ideas and learn about our favorite new plants and incredible fashion from local boutiques

R e g i s t e R o n l i n e a t a l l i s o n v i l l e n u R s e R y. c o m

JOIN THE FUN MEMORIAL DAY May 26, 2014

Fishers Heritage Park

10595 Eller Road, Fishers, IN 7:00 AM — On-site Registration (online at givehoperide.com) 8:00 AM — Adult Ride: featuring 21, 45 and 62 mile courses around Fishers with SAG stops and a SAG vehicle

Presented by Fritz in Fishers

8:05 AM — Cruiser Ride: 9.7 miles for the laid back riders

Benefiting St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital

10:30 AM — Kids' Bike Safety Class: children learn proper riding skills from the Fishers Police Department 11:00 AM — Family Ride: kids and parents ride inside the park