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Tony Bennett with Antonia Bennett in Carmel Nov. 21, 8 p.m.

The velvet-voiced crooner and best-selling recording artist brings his distinctive musical stylings to the Palladium for one night only with special guest and daughter Antonia Bennett. Tickets range $85-$180.

The Center for the Performing Arts, 355 City Center Dr., Carmel; (317) 843-3800; thecenterfortheperformingarts.org

Before you ring in the new year, polish off 2014 by making some exciting memories with friends and family. Our November and December kit of holiday happenings has you covered.

NORTHSIDERS WON’T TRAVEL FAR TO SHOP MASS AVE DURING THE HOLIDAYS. IT’S COMING TO US.

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Mass on Main Holiday Pop Up Shop Wednesdays-Sundays, through Dec. 31 Shop till you drop as Mass Ave retailers Silver in the City, Crimson Tate, Nurture Baby, Handmade Promenade and others join forces to bring a taste of this downtown Indy cultural district to Carmel.

Sophia Square, 110 W. Main St., Suite 130; facebook.com/ massonmain

Georgia O’Keeffe and the Southwestern Still Life Nov. 2, 2014-Feb. 15, 2015 See more than 50 works showing how artists including O’Keeffe capture the essence of a particular place; in this case, the Southwest. Adult admission to the Indianapolis Museum of Art is $15 TuesdaysThursdays; $20 FridaysSundays.

4000 Michigan Road; (317) 9231331; imamuseum.org

Hamilton Town Center Holiday Festival Nov. 15, 1-9 p.m.

Live music, food vendors, Santa visits, fireworks and general good cheer kick off the holiday season.

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Saturdays, Nov. 15, 2014-March 14, 2015, 9 a.m.-noon Shop this growers- and producers-only market in its new location at Wilfong Pavilion in Founders Park.

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Setting an Inspired Holiday Table Nov. 18, 10:30 a.m.

David Jackson shares his secrets for creating a beautiful holiday table.

The Indiana-based interior designer has creatively coiffed social, corporate and not-for-profit events for over two decades.

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The Mustache Dache is the world’s largest mustachethemed running race series.

The 5K race and kids run benefit “Movember,” the leading charity for raising funds and awareness for men’s health and prostate cancer initiatives.

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Stonycreek Farm Country Christmas Nov. 22-Dec. 21, 10 a.m.6 p.m.

Start a tradition with a hayride into the fields to cut your Christmas tree, and then browse the gift shop for fresh wreathes, garland and poinsettias.

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Nov. 28, 6-8 p.m.

Join the throngs on Monument Circle for this beloved local holiday tradition. This year’s lighting of the world’s largest Christmas tree (i.e. the light-strewn Soldiers and Sailors Monument) includes the added bonus of live music from The Voice winner Josh Kaufman.

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Noblesville Holiday Parade Nov. 30, 2 p.m.

Usher in the holiday season with Santa Claus during this traditional parade through hipstoric downtown Noblesville.

Noblesville, (317) 776-6367, cityofnoblesville.org

Duke Energy Yuletide Celebration with Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra Dec. 5-23 Co-hosted by renowned soprano Angela Brown and Broadway star Ben Crawford, the ISO’s 29th annual holiday extravaganza features music from Frozen, tapdancing Santas and a string of hits from the Yuletide Jukebox.

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Conner Prairie by Candlelight Fridays and Saturdays, Dec. 5-20 Relive the night before Christmas and see Conner Prairie in a whole new light—literally—during these charming 90-minute tours. Adult admission is $16; $14 for CP members.

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Santa Hustle Indy 5k and Half Marathon Dec. 21, 9 a.m.

Keep the inevitable holiday weight gain in check with a fun run through downtown Indy alongside thousands of other participants all decked out in Santa gear.

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Great Holiday Decorating Ideas For Every Budget

With the holidays quickly approaching, here are a few GREAT ideas to help you festively decorate your home for the season beyond the traditional trappings.

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BEAUTIFUL TABLETOPS

Today, fresh is in! So why not consider decorating your holiday table with a beautiful fresh flower arrangement. Even floating a few carefully chosen flowers in a beautiful ceramic or fine cystal bowl would help your tabletop take center state.

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GLOWING CANDLES

If one pair of candlesticks on your fireplace mantle is good, then a collection is even better. Creating a candle arrangement of varying heights will help set a romantic holiday mood in any room. The more eclectic your candle arrangement the better! Don’t be afraid to mix and match shapes and sizes.

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FABULOUS FOYERS

Foyers set the stage for every home. Be sure yours is inviting. How about adding a holiday inspired area rug to your foyer? It’s not only a practical idea, but a decorative one as well.

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GUEST ROOM GLITZ

Expecting houseguests for the holidays? Create a special welcoming holiday touch in your guest room by adding a holiday inspired accent pillow to your bedding ensemble.

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FESTIVE FRUITS AND VEGETABLES

Visit the produce aisle of your grocery store for some simple and unique holiday decorations. For example, spray paint walnuts and gourds in silver or gold and display them in a decorative basket. Or fill a crystal bowl with red and green apples. Simple and definitely festive!

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ORNAMENTAL ACCENTS

Holiday tree ornaments aren’t just for trees anymore. Consider using clear round glass ball ornaments as place cards by writing each guest’s name on them before placing them around your holiday table.

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WRAP IT UP WITH RIBBON

Try using French wire ribbons… they come in a variety of widths – to tie bows on your tree. And instead of using garland or greenery to wrap your banister – use ribbon. Holiday cards can also be beautifully displayed on fireplace mantles or shelves using narrow ribbons in holiday colors. Even your lamps can use a bit of holiday magic, when wrapped with a gold or silver bow.

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SET YOUR OWN STYLE

Consider making your holiday tree an integral part of your decorating scheme and a reflection of your personality. Are antique toys a personal passion? Are you a dedicated beachcomber? Try incorporating your passions into your holiday tree design.

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DECORATE IN UNEXPECTED PLACES

Windowsills, armoires, and yes, even bathrooms deserve a little touch of holiday magic.

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ADD SOME SPARKLE AND SHINE

Mirrors, silver and gold ornaments, picture frames, and even candlesticks will help your room sparkle and shine.

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There are literally dozens more ways to make your guests and family feel at home for the holidays.

Put your own family’s customs and traditions into everything you do.

Preparing to open your home to friends and family should be a fun and enjoyable experience.

So, remember to have fun when adding a bit of holiday magic to your home this year!

CONTRIBUTORS

Kristen Moore Stylist, Sola Salon Studios

Katja Geisler Stylist, Salon Lofts

Kelly Oswalt Makeup Artist

Kristen is a licensed cosmetologist with over six years of experience.

She currently owns a single studio at Sola Salon Studios in Fishers and helped make our “Holiday Hustle” model look extra beautiful. She specializes in color, cut and style in a fun atmosphere, utilizing a fresh perspective within the hair industry.

Bridal and event styling is a passion of hers—after all, your style is her business. Kristen feels that if you leave her chair feeling better, not only about your hair but also as a whole, she’s done her job.

Katja kept locks in check and looking beautiful in “How to Master Sweater Weather” and “Party of Five.” A fully licensed stylist and owner of a Salon Lofts space in Carmel’s Merchant Square, Katja has been a hairstylist for almost three years and enjoys the thrill of being creative every day. She loves meeting new people, getting to know her existing clients better and taking care of her customers’ hair-care needs.

In “How to Master Sweater Weather” and “Party of Five,” Kelly Oswalt kept multiple wardrobe changes from mussing our models. Over the last 15 years, Kelly has worked as a freelance makeup artist for cosmetic industry leaders including Lancome, Smashbox, Bobbi Brown and Clarins. The Ball State University graduate has received many awards for her fashion pictorials, and her photographs can be seen in various local publications. As a licensed esthetician, she offers her clients a wide range of spa services.

Stephanie Burkhart Fashion and Home Contributor

Cassandra Perry Home Contributor

Kate Roth Makeup Artist

For the past decade, Stephanie has been afforded the opportunity to work in multiple disciplines within the commercial design field. She has traveled the country from coast to coast designing restaurants, medical buildings, corporate facilities and financial institutions. More recently, Stephanie has turned her creative sights toward photography and freelance design work. The Ball State University graduate now spends her time a little closer to home, residing in the Geist area with her husband and daughter.

In 2011, Cassie created Me&3 Designs LLC to provide interior inspiration, born out of her passion to reinvent, repurpose and re-envision her clients’ homes through creative consultation/strategy and design expertise. Me&3 is defined by a rustic contemporary feel, seamlessly blending new, fresh ideas with the charm of reclaimed and worn warmth. Raised on a farm outside Chicago, Cassie presently resides in Carmel with her son, Jack, and twin daughters, Ellisyn and Gracyn.

Kate Roth is a hair and makeup stylist who currently owns and operates Kate Roth Beauty, a studio salon located within Sola Salon Studios of Fishers. Kate made up Stephanie Burkhart in “Holiday Hustle.” She is passionate about specialty looks such as wedding day styles and makeup. Her work has been featured in Indianapolis’ North Magazine.

Making someone look and feel their best is Kate’s ultimate goal. Kate lives in Indianapolis with her husband and spends her free time working on her other career as a published romance novelist.

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When Robin Williams took his own life back in August, I couldn’t believe how much it affected people. My Facebook feed blew up, and the comments went on for weeks.

I think his suicide struck a chord with everyone, and I suspect depression affects a lot more of us than we realize. Myself included.

When I started showing signs of early menopause, I gained weight and was less interested in doing anything social. The couch became one of my best friends. I fought the urge to sit there for hours watching the news, Modern Family and The Big Bang Theory. A couple friends suggested I consider medication, but I was reluctant to seek help. I thought that if I just waited long enough, things would get better. Before I knew it, five years had gone by.

I’ve thought long and hard about these feelings, and I wonder how many women experience depression as they age. When I was younger, I used to get out more and enjoyed being social. I knew older couples who really just wanted to stay at home on the weekends. Now, I’m part of one of those couples. Is this just a normal part of the aging process? Or is it depression?

The holidays can be especially difficult if you’re dealing with depression. I used to love to decorate my house, but when my mood started to change, my joyful feelings about all those boxes of decorations in the attic disappeared. A few years ago, I remember talking with some women who are older than I, and they all noted how much they hated getting out all their decorations. So again, I ask myself: Is it normal to feel this way as you get older, or is this depression talking?

When I read the depression article by Judy Burnett on page 31, it really hit home for me. Eating to self-medicate is common among depressed women in their 40s and 50s, and many women discount depression as a normal part of aging.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, there is help out there. All you have to do is ask for it. As for me, I feel like I’m finally getting some pep back in my step. I’ve got mums on my porch, and I’ve already hauled the Christmas boxes down out of the attic.

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It’s that time of year, and we know what you’re saying. “The holidays, already?” This year, you are ready. While you spend the next several weeks bouncing in and out of shops and malls on the hunt for gifts to keep everyone happy on your list, wear an errand-friendly outfit to keep you feeling cozy and looking great.

Because the mall always feels as warm as chestnuts roasting on an open fire, streamline your wardrobe by ditching the heavy coat and opting for a thick, plush sweater instead. Pair it with leggings and puddle-proof boots, and you can maneuver the most crowded store aisles or slushiest parking lots. Bring on the holiday cheer!

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Here’s our take on what to wear while you’re running all over town.

Perfect wrap A thick, loose cardigan that hits below the hip takes the place of a bulky coat. In an open, flowing style, you can easily regulate your temp.

Hem Thread, Square Stitch Open Cardy, $78 at Evereve

Bling power Nothing lifts your mood like a dazzling necklace. Dress up an otherwise casual outfit and face that daunting to-do list feeling like a million bucks.

Metal and Jewel Statement Necklace, $68 at Evereve

Tick tock Keep track of your seemingly endless shopping with a classic watch with interchangeable bands.

Change your watchband to match your mood.

(Additional bands sold separately.)

Michele Watches, Diamond Stainless Steel Chronograph Watch with Black Alligator Strap, $1895 at Saks Fifth Avenue

Prize holder A roomy tote will become your new best friend during the shopping season. Carry one large enough to hold all those small treasures, yet comfy enough to throw over your shoulder.

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Tory Burch, Kerrington Dotted Pony-Print Shopper, $295 at Saks Fifth Avenue

Caffeinated tee Keeping your energy level up is a holiday-shopping necessity. This perfect tee is thin enough to layer for easy movement, and the scoop neck provides a great spot for a statement necklace.

Splendid, Striped Layers longsleeve tee, $64 at Evereve

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Legging love Want to shop in comfort throughout the day? Wear these! Instantly slimming and thick enough to keep you warm on the coolest of days. Buy them in every color.

Hue, Ponte Knit Leggings, $44 at Nordstrom

Wellie heeled These classic rubber boots will keep your feet warm and cozy while navigating parking lots full of snow. Go ahead, muck ‘em up. They’re a breeze to clean.

Hunter, ‘Tour’ Packable Rain Boot, $148 at Nordstrom

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“My husband has a saying. Sometimes, it’s just about showing up. You can have ideas, but if you don’t show up, nothing will happen. When you do, you can make a difference.”

Even at a young age, Michele L. Jackson wanted to be the kind of person to “show up.” Her family’s ethos to give back through work inspired this feeling and fueled her passion for international politics and foreign affairs.

While she was a student at Indiana University Maurer School of Law in Bloomington, Michele spent a summer internship researching the sexual exploitation of women and children in impoverished countries.

“Time and again I saw that most of these women and children were raised in institutional orphanage care,” she says.

“That was the moment I found it. This is how I want to help.”

After earning her Juris Doctor, Michele’s peers discouraged her from pursuing international adoption, saying that perhaps she should represent birth mothers domestically.

Instead, she landed a job at a law firm and asked if she could to develop a new practice area around international adoption. Their answer was yes. She soon connected with an organization working with orphanages in Ukraine. During her first year, she represented three clients who adopted children.

She hasn’t looked back since.

the incredible need

“I WALK INTO AN ORPHANAGE IN CONGO OR HAITI AND THERE IS A 50 PERCENT MORTALITY RATE FOR CHILDREN AGES 2 OR UNDER. HALF OF THOSE KIDS ARE GOING TO DIE.”

Today, Michele is a founding partner of Harden Jackson LLC in Carmel, Ind., representing clients seeking to adopt or who have issues with international adoption or orphan visas.

“A significant need for international adoption exists in our world,” she explains. “There are families who have more love to give than children they have, and you have children who lack the support and love of a family. You can’t quantify it.

There’s no amount of money to equate what that means to a child.”

From a child’s perspective, though, the value isn’t always accepted immediately. It’s easy to look at adoption from highly impoverished areas, countries in Africa where preventable diseases are so prevalent, and believe that adoption is “saving a child,” Michele explains.

“It’s natural to think that by bringing them to the U.S., they are in a better place,” she says. “But I tell families, don’t expect your child to be thankful. These children lost their family, their country, their culture, everything, to get to this point. We can’t expect them to be grateful.”

As the adoption—or family-building—process started to become more and more complicated with new rules and regulations, Michele saw that families needed more resources and legal support. To help meet the demand, she founded MLJ Adoptions Inc. in Indianapolis, which today serves 500 clients and children in need of families through programs in Bulgaria, the Democratic Republic of Congo, Haiti, Honduras, Mexico, Nicaragua, Samoa and Ukraine.

“I’m shocked sometimes by the sheer numbers,” she says.

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ORPHAN CRISIS The international orphan crisis affects more than 140 million children.

If these children formed one country, it would be the 10th largest country in the world Show Hope (showhope.org)

The number of children finding new families in the u.s. from other countries is decreasing.

It peaked at 22,734 families in 2005 and fell to 7,092 in 2013.

U.S. Department of State (travel.state.gov)

the average cost of international adoption is $44,000 (creatingafamily.org)

The Top five sending countries in intercountry adoption in 2013 were China, Ethiopia, Ukraine, Haiti and Congo. U.S. Department of State (travel.state.gov)

MORE INFO MLJ Adoptions Inc. Read adoption stories, see pictures and check out the blog at mljadoptions.com.

Global orphan Foundation Learn about the Pebble Project, adoption grants and more at globalorphanfoundation.org.

November is national Adoption Month Nov. 22 is National Adoption Day. The collaborative effort’s goal is to raise awareness of the more than 100,000 children in foster care waiting to find permanent, loving families. Learn more at nationaladoptionday.org.

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“It can be difficult and challenging work, with a lot of setbacks. The people who work for me are incredible. To them, this profession is an honor and a privilege. We have 40 employees who show up every day, and we couldn’t do this work without them.”

Enough love to go around Michele and husband Wayne are expecting their family’s seventh child, and they are in the process of adopting their eighth. The children range from ages 3 to 18, including two sons from the Congo and a little girl from Nicaragua currently under their guardianship.

“People ask me which ones are my own,” she says. “They are all my own!

I have an unconditional love for all my children, and my husband would tell you the same thing. It’s shocking how much I can love them.”

With MLJ Adoptions up and running, Michele turned again to the part of her heart that was telling her to give back in a different way. In 2006, she founded the Global Orphan Foundation, a nonprofit organization that provides support to adopting families and orphaned and vulnerable children worldwide.

“There are 140 million orphans in the world, and many of them will never be available for adoption,” she says. “They are going to grow up in an institution or homeless, with lack of medical care or education. No one will ever process their paperwork and they will linger until they age out. It’s a hard number to grasp.”

‘All kids need a family’ Often, Michele is asked why she doesn’t focus on domestic adoption. She is blunt with her answer, explaining that thousands of families wish to adopt and

foster domestically, but the United States only represents 0.1 percent of the global orphan crisis.

“I walk into an orphanage in Congo or Haiti and there is a 50 percent mortality rate for children ages 2 or under. Half of those kids are going to die,” she says. “All kids need a family, and it’s so awesome to see family-building everywhere. I’m just being honest about the demand and the need globally.”

The statistics and the need that exist are overwhelming. If you don’t have the capacity to adopt, Michele encourages people to find what they are interested in and connect with a nonprofit organization that is working to impact the orphan crisis. People are building schools, carrying out health and nutrition programs, ensuring others have clean water and setting up self-sustaining microeconomic projects. Important work is being done, and anyone can be a part of it.

“Be a pebble, and you can make a ripple,” Michele says. “You can make a difference—in a moment or for a lifetime.

Just make the decision to show up and try.” ¦

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There are a couple of ways to address this dilemma. One, of course, is surgical, such as abdominoplasty, or a tummy tuck. A tummy tuck not only removes fat; it removes excess skin and tightens the muscles as well. While a tummy tuck is not a substitute for weight loss, it can greatly improve one’s contour.

The results are permanent but the outcome can be diminished by future significant weight gain or fluctuations. For this reason, we recommend you delay a tummy tuck until you have completed your family and do not plan any more pregnancies.

In this surgery a horizontal incision is made hip-to-hip between the belly button and the pubis. A second incision is made around the belly button.

Excess skin and fat is removed from the abdomen and the abdominal muscles, which have weakened and separated, are stitched back together.

The result is a flatter, firmer abdominal contour that is more proportionate with your body type and weight. The typical downtime for a tummy tuck is 10 to 14 days. After that, most patients can drive and return to a desk job.

The patient is asked to avoid strenuous lifting or exercise for six weeks.

If surgery is not for you and if you have good skin tone and muscles, CoolSculpting is a non-invasive procedure to remove excess fat from the abdomen. CoolSculpting is the only FDA-cleared, non-surgical fat reduction treatment that uses controlled cooling to eliminate stubborn fat. We use it as well to remove fat from the love handles, bra fat, thighs and back.

Developed by Harvard scientists, this in-office technique uses a vacuum device attached to the body part being treated. The device super cools the underlying fat without harming the skin. The frozen fat is metabolized and gradually eliminated from the body. Results continue to improve over two to four months. Two treatments thirty days apart are recommended to achieve up to an 80 percent reduction in fat. During the procedure you can read, check your email or even take a nap. There is no downtime and you can return to your normal activities immediately.

The best candidate for either of these procedures is in good health and at a reasonable weight. Neither of these treatments is a substitute for healthy eating and exercise and are not weight loss methods. A consultation is required to determine which of these options is suitable for your situation.

Dr. Turkle offers an ongoing series of free webinars on various surgical and non-surgical enhancement topics. To view a webinar go to www.turklemd.com.

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Caregivers share common challenges, but realistically, no two caregiving situations are the same. A great challenge to one caregiver might not be any problem for another. For example, a caregiver whose loved one is in another state might cite distance or coordination of care as the greatest challenge, while someone whose care recipient lives next door is overwhelmed with personality changes and resistance. Adding to the complexity, no two days are alike; various challenges seem to ebb and flow in intensity throughout the journey. Admittedly, several big challenges are frequently reported— insufficient personal time, stress, compromised health, family conflict, financial and legal issues, and balancing work responsibilities—but research has shown that lack of timely information about resources and solutions might well be the greatest challenge. Having quality information at the right time can go a long way toward ameliorating other challenges.

Kate Kunk, RN, CIRS-A, Caregiver Options Counselor with CICOA Aging & In-Home Solutions

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With life expectancy on the rise, caring for an aging parent(s), in all reality, will be a likelihood for many of us.

Communication is an essential part of this process. Emotions can run quite high on both sides as the adult children assume more of the parental role and parents comply to their adult children, but not always without some resistance.

Keep a schedule. Each month, write doctor appointments and other important appointments on a calendar that hangs in the kitchen for your parent to see. And allow others to help. Many obstacles can be met if we go in with a plan, have open communication and, most importantly, strive for understanding. This is not to say conflict and emotions won’t be part of the journey, but being able to discuss concerns with others may help you cope with a situation many of us will certainly face at least once in our lives.

Edna L. Domingo, Executive Director of Meadow Brook Senior Living

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Role reversal. Let’s face it, we know how to be the kid. Even when we’re 50 years old, we know how to be the kid. But suddenly taking on the role of mother to a parent is, well, nearly impossible.

We find ourselves taking away car keys, making major decisions on their behalf, nearly forcing them to shower and brush teeth and using a tone of voice unknown to mankind. No therapy in the world can prepare us for those moments, but for 1 in 3 of us, it simply can’t be avoided. It’s good to have a safe place where you can go. That may mean a friend who understands your situation and will listen and offer support when you’re in a rough spot. It might be a journal you can write in without judgment, or a room that’s all your own where you can simply escape and take care of you.

Every Saturday morning from 8 to 9 a.m., Terri Stacy and Tina McIntosh host Caregiver Crossing, a radio program for family caregivers on WIBC 93.1 FM that addresses these and other caregiving questions.

Tina McIntosh, President and CEO, Joy’s House

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Go ahead. Accept every holiday party invitation. Your favorite LBDs will have you ready in a snap.

The secret to stress-free party outfits is already hanging in your closet—the little black dress. Here’s how to change up this lifesaver through five different holiday occasions by swapping in cute jackets, glittery jewelry and fun heels. And don’t forget the other party essential—a classic red lipstick.

Styling and text by Erica Sagon Fashion Assistant, Dana Kalachnik Photos by Chris Whonsetler Hair by Katja Geisler of Salon Lofts Makeup by Kelly Oswalt Model: Amanda Reynolds, Indianapolis-based photographer and co-founder of Thread Indy, a love letter to this great city. Find out more about her and her work at AmandaReynolds.com and ThreadIndy.com.

Lace dress, $220 at White House Black Market, and Carolee chandelier earrings, $65 at Macy’s.

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Jessica Simpson faux-leather accented dress, $128 at Macy’s Faux-fur jacket, $248 at C. Wonder Alfani braided tassel necklace, $42 at Macy’s Sam & Libby faux-snakeskin convertible clutch (chain strap tucked inside), $39.99 at Target Merona tights, $8 at Target “Josephina” heels, $49.99 at Nine West Outlet*

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a dress with a flattering flared skirt

WHAT TO ADD:

If there is ever a night to pull out all the stops (and by that, we mean wear faux fur), it’s New Year’s Eve. A fur chubby—a.k.a. short or cropped fur coat—plus LBD equals major glam.

You’ll get more use out of the jacket than you think. Buy one now, and pair it with skinny jeans, heels, a simple T and a sparkly necklace during the holiday season.

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JEWEL-TONE TIGHTS BREAK UP AN ALLBLACK LOOK WITHOUT BEING TOO OBVIOUS.

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Cami fit-and-flare dress, $34.94 at Old Navy

a strappy slip dress

Kensie polka-dot sweatshirt, $69 at Macy’s Silver-tone stretch bracelet, $19.95, and gem stretch bracelet, $24.95, both at Chico’s outlet* Chain-strap purse, $49.99 at Nine West Outlet* Merona tights, $8 at Target A.N.A. “Presto” lace-up heels, $69.99 at JC Penney

Wine with the girls WHAT TO ADD:

SLIP ON LACEUP HEELS OR BOOTIES RATHER THAN PARTY HEELS TO KEEP THE LOOK A LITTLE MORE CASUAL.

Give a frock a fresh edit by pulling on one of this season’s fancied-up sweatshirts—maybe it has a jeweled neckline, or it’s covered in sequins, lace or a metallic polka-dot print like this one. Now, the black dress looks like a party skirt, and that’s the whole point. * Find Chico’s outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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Hosting your own soiree Lace dress, $220 at White House Black Market INC International Concepts crystal drop earrings, $19.50 at Macy’s Crystal ribbon necklace, $98 at White House Black Market Chambray button-down, $49.99 at Loft Outlet* Merona tights $8 at Target

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an elegant party dress

WHAT TO ADD:

A chambray button-down underneath a party dress is an unexpected twist that comes off as smart, quirky and stylish— you’ll be quite the chic hostess. A big sparkly necklace worn right underneath the collar keeps the look from veering toward too casual. Prepare for compliments to pour in when you open the door.

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Michael Kors “Flex” haircalf heels, $99 at Macy’s

PARTY HEELS DON’T HAVE TO BE SUPER-HIGH OR BEJEWELED. THESE ARE LOW, COMFY AND FESTIVE, PLUS EASY TO WEAR WAY PAST PARTY SEASON.

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a classic workday shift dress

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After-work holiday party WHAT TO ADD: Nine West “Nostalgia” dress, $89 at Macy’s Carolee chandelier earrings, $65 at Macy’s Style&Co. sequined scarf, $26.98 at Macy’s Velvet jacket, $129 at Talbots INC International Concepts gold-tone ring, $26.50 at Macy’s Polka-dot box clutch, $99 at Talbots Merona tights, $8 at Target Alfani “Ranjer” booties, $99 at Macy’s

When you’ve got plans right after work with no time to stop at home, a little prep goes a long way. When you’re getting dressed for the day, choose sleek booties instead of your standard black heels, along with a pretty winter blazer (we happen to love velvet this season) instead of your standard suit jacket. Both are office-friendly and make a great foundation for a cute evening outfit. Stash a few extras like a sparkly scarf and clutch in your work tote to add on at the end of the day.

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a classic workday shift dress

Networking event Nine West “Nostalgia” dress, $89 at Macy’s INC International Concepts crystal drop earrings, $19.50 at Macy’s Kenneth Cole necklace, $52 at Macy’s Knit moto jacket, $29.95 at H&M Merona tights, $8 at Target “Celia” booties, $69.99 at Nine West Outlet*

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You might be tempted to reach for a traditional cardigan to cover up at an event that’s sorta social, sorta professional.

For a look that feels a bit more current, try a closefitting cropped jacket. Think something along the lines of a marled-knit moto or a collarless boucle jacket.

PAIR GREY BOOTIES WITH GREY TIGHTS FOR A LEG-ELONGATING LOOK.

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Is depression easy to recognize?

There are “typical” warning signs of depression that include persistent sadness, isolation from others, and an inability to perform normal daily tasks. However, people struggling with depression don’t always display clear warning signs. They might become angry, moody, physically ill or show no changes at all. If you feel something is “off”, trust your gut.

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How can I change my mood?

According to The National Institute on Mental Health, life cycle and hormonal changes may contribute to women struggling with depression more often than men. Women tend to have feelings of excessive guilt and sadness while men often become angry, have trouble sleeping, and no longer enjoy activities they did before.

Listening to upbeat music, exercising regularly, developing positive self-talk, and spending time with safe, encouraging people are quick ways to improve your mood.

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Being with family during the holidays can be a source of stress for some while others are reminded of loved ones they have lost.

Remember, it’s ok to feel what you’re feeling, but plan ahead for the stress. Prepare yourself with a few healthy coping strategies to make the season more joyful.

Is it normal to feel depressed about something that happened long ago?

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Should I just wait for my mood to improve?

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epression is like living in a padded room.

The senses are subdued, sound and light are dampened, you feel cut off from life.” This description of depression by a local woman who has experienced and recovered from it graphically depicts the feelings of many people living with the mood disorder, the majority of whom are women.

People with depression have a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. It affects how we feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems.

Depression does not discriminate between rich and poor, famous and anonymous, young and old, or male and female. It is a common medical illness, affecting as many as 19 million American adults each year—12 million of whom are women.

In fact, one in five U.S. women will suffer from depression during her lifetime, according to a report by the Mayo Clinic.

“Depression seems to hit more women in their 40s and 50s than at any other time,” says Linda Elliott, a licensed mental health counselor and executive director of Living with Intention, a medical and counseling group in Fishers. The related drop in estrogen that occurs in women’s lives during perimenopause and menopause can trigger physical and emotional changes such as depression or anxiety.

Elliott says more tangible life changes can also lead to depression. “Women of this age are often caring for aging parents, which is another stressor,” Elliott says. Returning to the workforce, having children move out of the house, shifting from work to retirement and feeling financial pressures are also common culprits.

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WOMEN STATS » Women experience depression at roughly twice the rate of men.

» Depression in women is misdiagnosed 30 to 50 percent of the time.

» Less than half of all women who

experience clinical depression will seek care.

» 41 percent of women surveyed cited

embarrassment or shame as barriers to seeking treatment for depression.

» Women report attempting suicide

approximately twice as often as men but more men actually die of suicide.

ARE YOU IGNORING THE SIGNS? Don’t accept what is “normal” A 1996 survey by Mental Health America found that more than half of all women believe depression is a normal part of aging. In the same study, more than half of women believe it is normal to feel depressed during menopause and that treatment is not necessary.

Unfortunately—or perhaps fortunately—those are misconceptions.

Depression is more than being “blue.” Author J.K. Rowling described it like this: “Depression is the most unpleasant thing I have ever experienced… It is that absence of being able to envisage that you will ever be cheerful again. The absence of hope. That very deadened feeling, which is so very different from feeling sad. Sad hurts but it’s a healthy feeling. It is a necessary thing to feel. Depression is very different.”

The August suicide of actor Robin Williams created an opportunity for many people to open up about their own struggles with depression.

“His suicide was a cultural event,” Elliott says. “People related to him like a friend. The impact in our practice has been greater than 9/11.

Many more people have reached out for help since his death.”

According to Elliott, women tend to self-medicate for depression with things such as food, reality TV and social media rather than seek help.

But depression is not something we can just snap out of, as wellmeaning friends and family sometimes suggest. Elliott says the most effective treatment for depression is usually a combination of therapy with a licensed mental health professional and medication.

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Many of us mistakenly view symptoms of depression as “normal.” Following are common signs of depression from HealthinAging.org:

» Sadness that lasts more than a couple weeks

» Loss of interest or pleasure in doing things you once enjoyed

» Feeling hopeless, worthless, helpless or guilty

» Fatigue » Inability to concentrate or stay focused » Sleeping too much or sleeplessness » No desire to eat or eating to “feel better” » Thoughts of hurting yourself or of death » Constant physical symptoms that do not get better with treatment such as headaches, upset stomach or pain that doesn’t go away

As a starting point to assess whether you might want to start a conversation with a qualified professional, take the online depression screening test psychcentral. com/depquiz.htm.

Dr. Stefanie Flora, OB/GYN physician with Women’s Health Alliance

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Dr. Stefanie Flora, OB/GYN physician with Women’s Health Alliance, answers your questions about postpartum depression.

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What is postpartum depression and how many new mothers does it affect?

Postpartum depression is a mood disorder occurring near delivery and affects 1 in 4 women.

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What are the symptoms of postpartum depression, and how is it different from regular depression?

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The symptoms range from mild to severe and can change quickly. Most women experience some emotional instability from the physical stress of delivery and the lack of sleep that comes from caring for a newborn. You should worry about postpartum depression if symptoms last more than two weeks and include eating disturbance, sleep disturbance or feelings of hopelessness. Extreme symptoms can include thoughts of harming yourself and others.

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When is the typical onset and duration of postpartum depression?

We now think that this type of depression may start as early as the third trimester of pregnancy, and can occur as late as six months after delivery.

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Is there a root cause of postpartum depression?

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What can women do to help prevent postpartum depression?

It’s likely due to the physical and mental stress of delivery and caring for a newborn, as well as significant hormone transitions that affect neurotransmitters in the brain.

Prevention includes early recognition and implementation of treatment including antidepressant medications and counseling as well as group therapy. Pregnant women need to reduce stress, stay active and take some time for themselves each day. These habits need to continue postpartum.

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What is the standard treatment for postpartum depression, and what resources are available?

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St.Vincent has a Postpartum Depression Support Group that anyone can attend.

Also, delivering OBGYNs are trained to recognize and treat postpartum depression.

How you can take charge If you think you are clinically depressed, seek help from a qualified person such as a licensed mental health counselor, clinical social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. If you don’t know someone, ask your primary care physician for a referral. Help family and close friends understand what you are confronting and how they can support you and give you what you need. This critical component of recovery might involve attending therapy sessions together, taking walks or just listening.

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As the loved one of someone who has been diagnosed with depression or who has symptoms of the mental illness, you have the power to support them. If you have a friend, parent, spouse or relative who you believe may be clinically depressed, start a conversation with him or her to open the door to treatment.

Keeping feelings inside only makes things worse. Offer your help and ask them specifically what they want from you.

Depression is common and treatable. It is nothing to be ashamed of, so there is no reason for you or your loved ones to suffer in silence. Communication is key to understanding and recovery. Reach out for help. ❍

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Yes. Naturally.

The Typical Scenario Here’s your chance at the doctor’s office. Ten minutes with the Physician Assistant. You’re feeling down, tired, unmotivated, on edge, not sleeping well, eating poorly, and even tearful at times. The immediate diagnosis: Depression. The reflexive treatment: A prescription.

Six weeks later you go back for a checkup. Perhaps you’re feeling a little better. You’re not sure. The solution? Increase the dose and/or add another drug. It doesn’t work. You don’t feel heard. You don’t go back.

Sound familiar? Feel familiar? If you weren’t depressed before, you certainly are now.

Points to Ponder • Depression is complex and has multiple causes.

• Depression isn’t caused by a Prozac deficiency (or Zoloft, or Effexor, or…

You get the picture).

• In order to accurately diagnose depression, doctors are supposed to consider medical conditions that can mimic depression. That rarely happens. Instead, out comes the prescription pad.

• In mild to moderate depression, prescriptions are rarely better than a placebo.

• Often the very best treatment for depression is talk therapy with a competent, trained counselor.

The Problem with Prescriptions Antidepressants only treat symptoms. They don’t address the true “root cause” of anything. Only two approaches do that: Counseling and Functional Medicine.

Looking Outside the Box Functional Medicine looks for abnormalities involving neurotransmitters, hormones, nutritional deficiencies, gastrointestinal function, and food sensitivities. Problems in any of these areas may prove to be the actual underlying cause of depression.

The Gut-Brain Connection The gut is especially important. Gastrointestinal (GI) function and emotional well-being are intimately linked. Tiny chemicals that effect mood (like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine) are far more involved in, and affected by, what’s going on in the gut than they are in the brain.

Fixing the gut, even if you’re not having any GI symptoms, can be very helpful.

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Reason for Hope?

Once we identify the source of dysfunction, we can fix it. Naturally. Rarely, if ever, does that require a prescription.

Sad but true.

• 1 in 10 Americans take antidepressants daily, up 400% over the past two decades.

• Antidepressants are the most prescribed class of drugs in the US today.

• 15,000,000 Americans experience depression annually. Two thirds are women. Two thirds don’t receive the help they really need.

• Teens, too: 1 in 25 adolescents take antidepressants. Four percent of these have suicidal thoughts as a side-effect.

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AVOID THE FORMAL TABLECLOTH PREP OF PRESSING AND PLACING BY USING FANCY DISPOSABLE PLACEMATS LIKE THESE FROM PAPER SOURCE.

LET’S GET THIS PARTY STARTED!

ADD IN WHIMSICAL, HANDMADE DETAILS TO BALANCE OUT THE MASSPRODUCED ITEMS. NO ONE WANTS A "STORE BOUGHT" TABLESCAPE.

Story by Cassie Perry | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

Nothing marks the beginning of the holiday season like the first invite to a dinner or cocktail party. If you’re like most women, slipping into something festive—opposed to office garb or the weekend yoga-pant uniform—and

stepping out to enjoy family, friends and coworkers is reason to celebrate. On the other hand, when you're the one doing the hosting, you're working to create a memorable experience for your holiday-hungry guests.

Beyond the many decisions to make about food, seasonal cocktails and home décor, there’s also the pressure of setting a fantastic table to serve as the focal point of the evening. This is where the joy of sharing food, laughs and

toasts to the New Year is often found.

Each dinner party is unique, and so should be each tablescape presentation. For my first venture as Kit’s home

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FRESH OUTTA REAL PINE? SWAP IN SEPARATED PLASTIC PINECONE AND TWIG BRANCHES FROM HOBBY LOBBY.

INSTEAD OF PURCHASING A STRING OF METAL JINGLE BELL GARLAND, BUY A FEW BULK PACKAGES OF ACTUAL JINGLE BELLS AND LOOP THEM ONTO TWINE.

design contributor, I was given the challenge of creating two dining spaces, one for a formal sit-down dinner and the other for a casual gathering. The hitch? Each had to incorporate the same items to save time and money, and reduce hostess stress.

Starbucks in hand, I landed at Crate and Barrel, one of my favorite stores, to get the espresso-fueled creative juices flowing. After choosing a few must-have items that I knew I could incorporate with what I already had at home, I was en route to Hobby Lobby, another of my favorite shopping destinations.

Confession: Hobby Lobby is my happy place. I can get lost for hours among ribbon rolls and scented markers. If you see me there, my tiny blue cart will look like a disheveled hodgepodge geared for a production of Hoarders.

This shopping trip was no exception. Coupons scanned, DIY goodies in hand, and a “design on a dime” mindset in place, I headed home.

My interior design tastes often shift depending on trends, bold color surprises or everyday items that can be repurposed by adding in an element of personality.

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Keeping a neutral base for any project not only provides a solid foundation for outof-the-box ideas to emerge, but also removes limits for creative color choices.

TABLESCAPE 1 The formal dinner party table design includes trending elements of modern rustic appeal that are easy to imitate. A centerpiece that commands attention is a good place to start. I stumbled upon a topiary ball at HomeGoods (5520 E. 82nd St., Indianapolis) this fall that fit nicely upon the chippedpaint urn I purchased with my 40 percent off coupon at

Vera Wang striped set. To eliminate any stuffiness, I layered it on chrome chargers from Pottery Barn and placed the entire setting on upscale paper placemats made by a company sweetly called Cake (Paper Source, 8701 Keystone Crossing, Indianapolis).

To dress up my everyday twill pinstriped napkins, I rolled them up and tied them with a khaki suit-inspired ribbon (substituting twine is also fine). To amplify all of the holiday senses, I tucked in a sprig of fresh pine and a rich-smelling cinnamon stick. I wrote place cards in a metallic font and wedged

Hobby Lobby. To add height, I added a combination of paper twig branches made to look like birch (available at Crate and Barrel), along with thinner natural farm stems to feather out and fill in space.

The twigs provided a stage for the chrome, brass and copper to shine brightly when wrapped in LED lights.

I chose white paper snowflake ornaments to soften the sparkle and sneak in a hint of whimsical ambiance. Before arranging the place settings, I cut runners from a supply of burlap I keep on hand at all times. I wanted to put my wedding china to good use (or at least one use), so I pulled out my crisp white

each among the upside down spokes of glittery ornaments I fell in love with at Crate and Barrel. Lastly came the soft warm glow of tea lights floating in mercury votives to illuminate the sprinkling of faux snow and speak a cozy welcome to each guest.

TABLESCAPE 2 The second setup transitions from formal holiday dinner to casual winter celebration with friends. I used the same table, but added an old piece of reclaimed whitewashed barn wood for added height.

The layered look provides interest—and extra room—for serving items. Don’t have time to search the salvage lots in your snow boots?

Maybe you have an updated Lazy Susan that spins around, giving guests a chance to fill their plates without having to ask neighbors to pass the dinner rolls.

I exchanged my Vera Wang plates for the modern white squares that I use for casual dining. Using the napkins I already rolled, I simply added a few DIY ornaments that I sprayed with metallic paint to continue the modernrustic trend. Looking around my house for a centerpiece, I decided on a clean-lined glass hurricane I had on my bookshelf, adding in a scrap piece of coordinating fabric and topping it off with the pinecones and sprigs from the previous setup. The brown branch garland in its natural state lends a touch of warmth and interest, and can be transformed into a chic wrap when sprayed with metallic paint.

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KIDS' TABLE If kids are along, the question of “Can I sit at the grownup table, please?” is bound to come up. Unless, that is, you’re able to create a fun spot for the little elves to eat dinner and stay occupied. Here are a few key ideas to incorporate into a kids’ table: • Activities galore. Craft little bags filled with holiday-themed goodies (trinkets, candy canes, etc.) as a reward for eating well and staying seated—two challenges every parent faces.

• Bingo, crayons, paper or a chalkboard runner and chalk keep little fingers busy before and after dinner is served.

• Who needs more dishes? Stick to colorful paper goods and disposable utensils.

One less mess to clean up!

Whether you’re hosting a fancy formal meal or an impromptu gathering, the most important thing to keep in mind is to enjoy the people who surround the table itself.

They are truly the greatest gifts of all. ❍

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BUFFET BEAUTIFULLY

By Stephanie Burkhart | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

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Your calendar is sure to be full of holiday gatherings in the weeks ahead. Your turn to host this year? Leave the stress at the front door. Short of food preparation, food service tends to cause us the most anxiety. This year, allow us to assist you in getting your table ready for guests. Our solution: Forego the plated dinner and put together an impressive buffet instead.

We love the idea of setting up a dessert and champagne bar. Whip up a specialty cocktail, some sweet treats and call it done. Or apply these nine tips to serve a special dinner, warming brunch, indulgent heavy hors d'oeuvres and more.

These rules provide you with the backdrop for limitless holiday hosting ideas. Most importantly—have fun with it!

YOUR SIGNATURE COCKTAIL

Rule number one for any great entertainer? Have a signature cocktail on hand for guests.

A clear glass canister helps you to maximize your visual impact—think champagne cocktails, sparkling ciders or even a nonalcoholic beverage.

Add to the festive look with frozen cranberries or mint leaves to add flavor and color.

DOME OF DISTINCTION

A tall, elegant domed cake stand allows you infinite possibilities. The height helps add drama to your table, but what’s really worth talking about are all the wonderful things you can fill it with. Love to bake exquisitely crafted cakes? Perfect. How about stacks of pizzelles? Wonderful!

If doing a brunch buffet table, stacks of crispy brown waffles would also look lovely.

Cheers

Square steel tube table with weathered wood finish from Whimsy Urban Chic (whimzyuc.com)

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GO FOR THE SMALL PLATES

When setting up a dessert table, skip the large plates.

Smaller ones allow guests to enjoy more bite-sized pieces of all your goodies.

These scalloped-edge plates add a touch of whimsy to an otherwise utilitarian item on the table.

MENU CARDS DO THE TALKING

No guest likes questioning what they’re placing on their plate. Provide cards denoting each of the goodies on your table. You can purchase premade cards at various stores, or, if you have the DIY spirit, make your own from cardstock at home. Have fun with it.

Take creative license with your descriptions. Especially your specialty cocktail; it’s practically a rule that it must have a fun name!

COLLECTIONS IN GLASS

MILES OF SWAG

One key component to pulling together a buffet table is to add filler. Evergreen swag works perfectly for holiday time. Add in some pinecones or metallic elements (shown here with snow white and bright silver jingle bells) to break up the texture and color—and a little sparkle goes a long way. If hosting your event in the evening hours, lighted greenery or twigs add additional drama.

Bring a few multilevel canisters to the table. Use them to add color to your buffet canvas by filling them with decorative items. Split peas (shown below, right) work well for festive color, or try small pinecones, shiny acorns, citrus fruits such as kumquats, miniature sparkling ornaments, etc.

TIER IT UP

Establishing multiple levels in your buffet is key to having a dramatic setup. Utilize a multitiered stand to showcase stacks of your favorite holiday cookies, collections of pretty homemade candies or varieties of artisanal cheeses.

Displaying cupcakes, or even cake slices, would also be perfection.

SCOOP AND MINGLE

Smaller bowls in a variety of sizes help to fill in the empty spots on your table. But more importantly, they help provide spots for guests to grab handfuls of nuts, candies, crackers, etc. Guests like to graze throughout the night.

Make it easy on them. These tilted glass bowls from Crate and Barrel have an unusual twist to them.

MODERN BUBBLY

MIX COLORS AND TEXTURES TO CREATE DIMENSION AND DRAMA. TWISTS OF EVERGREEN AND SILVER DO THE TRICK.

Cheese (please!)

Enjoy!

Make hosting feel more casual—skip the traditional champagne flutes in favor of a stemless, more streamlined version (shown on page 44).

Keep the polished look and ditch the fussiness.

NOT A SPLIT PEA KIND OF GAL? FILL CANISTERS WITH EDIBLES! THINK RED AND WHITE M&MS, MIXED NUTS OR MINT CANDIES.

Don't double-dip.

(Santa's watching)

Cold Beverage Jar with Stand, $60; Lulie Champagne Glass, $4 each; Memo Clips, $6 for set of 3; Footed Cake Platter with Dome, $60; Mallorca Saucer, $5 each; Hyde Jars, various sizes, $30-45; Rigsby Marble 2-tier server, $60; Tilt Bowl, various sizes, $13-$17; Long Needle Pine Garland, $60; Silver Jingle Bell Garland, $20; Frost and Clear Bead Garland, $13; Hyacinth Metallic Runner, $40; all from Crate & Barrel.

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Each year when the holidays roll around, we’re always caught off guard by those few hard-to-buy-for girlfriends. Everyone’s got at least one, right? Not this holiday season. Try these ideas and maximize your gift-giving ability in no time at all. Say goodbye to schlepping around the mall for hours on end.

Instead, spend that time enjoying a cocktail with a friend this month. How’s that for a time-saver during the busiest season of the year?

Gifts to Inspire

Do you know a woman who doesn't need a little bit of added inspiration in their life? We didn't think so. Provide her with a book (or two!) to help guide her days to happier, more inspired places.

'She', $13 | 'Let Your Spirit Soar', $15 'May You Live a Life you Love', $15 'Starting Today: A Journal of Intention and Change', $15 All available from Silver in The City at Mass on Main

Hostess with the Mostess

Make cleaning up as much fun as the party itself. This holiday scent, redolent of cinnamon and clove, is certain to add some pep to her step after a long evening of entertaining.

The dishtowels offer a practical, but pretty, helping hand.

Spiced Chestnut Hand Soap & Lotion, Williams-Sonoma, $13 each Dishtowel Set, Williams-Sonoma, $20 *Mass on Main is located in downtown Carmel at 110 W. Main Street.

Fan in the Making

Start them off in style with a sweet little beanie to keep those heads warm during football season.

Children's Beanie, Snugglebug Boutique, Nurture at Mass on Main, $27 each.

Lover of Local

Know someone who treasures her Hoosier roots? Allow her to show her pride with these home accents with a hometown feel. Or, have a friend who's moved away?

Perfect way to send a little bit of 'home' to her 'new home'.

Foodie Friend

A true foodie can never have enough cookbooks. Gift her one that helps turn the basics into something extraordinary.

Then, provide her with a place to keep her latest oil and vinegar selections. Pretty enough to leave out on the counter.

Becca's Bits & Pieces burlap art, Handmade Promenade at Mass on Main, $40

Humanitarian

What feels better then gifting something with a purpose? One-of-a-kind, fair-trade crafted bracelets from Kenya provides not only a unique, beautiful accessory, but one you can feel good about wearing. A gift that truly makes a difference.

Single Bracelets, from $3, Large Bracelets, from $15, Global Gifts at Mass on Main

Cookbook, Williams-Sonoma, $25 Oil & Vinegar Ceramic Cruets,Williams-Sonoma, $15 each

Girlfriend's Gift Swap

We're all invited to one each year, but never have a clue as to what to bring. Problem solved. Fully customizable bath products are great for creating a unique, personalized gift on a budget. Pick a product, select your scent and color, and you'll be thanked for your one-of-a-kind gift.

'That' Crafty Friend

What creative gal doesn't covet unique fabrics for their never-ending list of items to make?

These fun prints will inspire her to create and brighten her work.

April Rhodes Arizona 8 piece quarter bundle, Crimson Tate at Mass on Main, $24

Salt scrubs, lotions and other bath, body (and even pet) products, Bath Junkie, $5 and up

Fitness Fanatic

No health nut is ever far away from a water bottle. Carry H2O in style with this rubberencased glass variety. The punchy color is certain to brighten the dreariest of winter days; add some additional warmth to your workout wear with a lightweight scarf draped around your neck.

Eddy Glass Bottle

by Camelback, Athleta, $25 Striped Scarf, Athleta, $32

Friendly Neighbor

Start her day with these cheerful, whimsical oversized coffee mugs, and add in some gourmet cocoa-on-a-stick to end her day on a sweet note.

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JustDessert HIT THE HOLIDAY SWEET SPOT WITH EVERYONE’S FAVORITE COURSE

The holidays bring out the hostess in all of us, but you don’t have to throw a full-fledged dinner party. Instead, focus on just one word: dessert. OK, two words: Dessert and wine.

It’s a pairing that simplifies entertaining, so you can still host a festive, thoughtful get-together without the stress.

For inspiration, we looked to Oliver Winery Downtown, the wine bartasting room on Bloomington’s downtown square. At this chic outpost of Oliver Winery, whose main location is just north of Bloomington, wine is offered by the taste, glass or bottle—but it also serves stellar desserts.

Here, Oliver shares recipes for four irresistible treats from its menu and the best wines to pour with them.

Text by Erica Sagon | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

MAXIMUM PORT PECAN PIE

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WHIPPED UP TO DELIGHT

It might sound fancy (say “poe-de-krehm” with your best French accent), but this ultra-rich, thick chocolate custard could not be easier to whip up. Served chilled, you can make it hours or even a day ahead, freeing up your afternoon until the first guest knocks on the door.

Pair with: Oliver’s Dry Red Blend, a fusion of cabernet sauvignon and syrah with hints of dark cherry, blackberry, currant and spice. An easy-drinking, polished choice when chocolate is involved.

PEPPERMINT-CHOCOLATE POTS DE CRÈME SERVES: 12

Peppermint extract gives pots de crème a seasonal twist. For traditional chocolate flavor, substitute vanilla extract for peppermint extract. If you don’t have a dozen ramekins, fill small mason jars, martini glasses, stemless wine glasses or teacups—or mix and match!

20 ounces bittersweet chocolate, chopped 10 egg yolks 2 /3 cup (5 ounces) granulated sugar 1 /2 teaspoon sea salt 3 cups heavy cream 1 1/2 cups half-and-half 2 tablespoons (1 ounce) peppermint extract (or vanilla extract) Whipped cream, for garnish Peppermint pieces, for garnish 1 Place the chocolate in a large stainless steel bowl. Set a fine-mesh strainer over the bowl.

2 In a saucepan over medium-low heat, combine egg yolks, sugar, sea salt, heavy cream, half-and-half and peppermint extract (or vanilla extract, if using). Whisk until combined.

3 Continue to cook mixture over mediumlow heat, stirring frequently with a rubber spatula and thoroughly scraping the bottom of the pan.

4 Cook mixture until temperature taken with candy thermometer or instant-read digital thermometer reads 170°F. 5 Remove from heat immediately and pour through strainer set over the bowl of chopped chocolate. Do not push solids through the strainer.

6 Let mixture stand untouched for about 5 minutes to allow chocolate to melt entirely.

After 5 minutes, whisk the chocolate mixture to combine completely.

7 Divide mixture evenly among 12 ramekins or other small serving bowls or cups.

8 Keep at room temperature for 30 minutes to allow chocolate to set slightly. Transfer to refrigerator and chill 3 hours before serving.

9 Top the chilled pots de crème with whipped cream and peppermint pieces.

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MINI LEMON TARTS

Decadent desserts certainly shine during the holidays, but sometimes you want something on the lighter side, like souffle-like lemon tarts. These bite-sized sweets are perfect for mingle-ready groups or gatherings where you have something else going on, like decorating a tree or DIYing with the ladies.

This super-easy recipe makes a lot of tarts, but, trust us, they’ll go fast. If you’ve got more than one celebration in 2/Brown butter mushroom a weekend, you can bake just once and Gorgonzola soup treats. thenand divvy up these two-bite (Recipe on page 62)

Pair with: Oliver’s Blackberry wine, a semi-sweet variety with a slight tartness that complements lemon.

For a semi-sweet white, try Oliver’s Moscato, whose zippy fizz is ideal for a lighter dessert.

100 frozen mini-tart shells 3 whole eggs 3 egg yolks 1 1/4 cups (9 ounces) granulated sugar 3 /4 cup lemon juice 9 tablespoons (4.5 ounces) cold unsalted butter, cut into pieces

YIELDS: 100 MINI TARTS

1 Bake and cool tart shells according to package directions.

2 Create a double boiler: Bring 11/2 inches of water to boil in a pot. The pot should be slightly smaller in diameter than the bowl used in the next step.

3 In a metal mixing bowl, whisk eggs, egg yolks and sugar until the mixture is smooth.

4 Set bowl over the pot of boiling water and whisk until mixture thickens.

Whisk in lemon juice one third at a time, allowing mixture to thicken between additions.

5 Continue whisking until mixture is thick and light in color. The whisk should leave a trail in the bottom of the bowl.

6 Remove from heat and whisk in the butter. Mixture will thicken as it cools.

7 Pour mixture into tart shells. Chill in refrigerator at least 2 hours before serving.

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MAXIMUM PORT PECAN PIE YIELDS: 1 PIE, ABOUT 8 SERVINGS

Start with your favorite pie crust recipe or prepared version from the grocery store. The focus here is on the filling, which is laced with port wine and chocolate. If you aren’t able to find Oliver’s Maximum Port, substitute another ruby port.

1 refrigerated or frozen pie shell 3 eggs 1 cup packed brown sugar 1 /2 cup plus 2 tablespoons (5 ounces) light corn syrup 4 tablespoons (2 ounces) unsalted butter, melted 1 /2 teaspoon iodized salt 1 /2 cup Oliver Maximum Port wine 21/2 ounces bittersweet chocolate, chopped 2 cups pecan pieces, chopped 1 Prepare pie shell as directed on package and set aside.

2 Whisk eggs in a large bowl.

3 To the bowl, add brown sugar, corn syrup, melted butter, salt and port wine. Whisk to combine the filling.

4 Sprinkle chopped chocolate and pecans into the bottom of the pie shell. Pour the filling over pecans and chocolate.

5 Bake in 350°F oven until filling is puffed and just set in the center, about 50-55 minutes. Filling may begin to crack. Rotate pie halfway through baking. If the edge of the crust gets dark, cover the crust with foil halfway during baking.

6 Cool completely at room temperature.

pie notes: Even ardent fans of traditional pecan pie will be wowed by this one, which is subtly laced with chocolate and port wine (a fortified wine that’s sipped after dinner). There’s a good chance it will replace your go-to recipe. We’d make two of these pies at once—one for Thanksgiving, and one for later that weekend to share with good friends.

Pair with: Oliver’s Maximum Port wine, a smooth ruby port made from Petite Sirah. It is barrel-aged for more than four years, and carries notes of dark cherry, fig and walnut, with hints of caramels and nuts. Port is a dessert wine that is fortified, meaning alcohol is added during fermentation.

That causes residual sugars to linger, making for a naturally sweet wine. Because Maximum Port is an ingredient in the pie, sipping it alongside will deepen the dessert’s flavors.

PEANUT BUTTER CUP CAKE SERVES: 15

Because of the freezing required between steps, plan to make this decadent dessert over two days. Make the brownies on day one. On day two, make the peanut butter filling and chocolate ganache coating, and assemble the cake.

FOR THE BROWNIES: Note: This preparation yields two 13-by-9-inch baking pans of brownies, to create the two brownie layers in the assembled dessert. Divide the batter equally between two pans.

11/2 cups granulated sugar 11/2 cups packed brown sugar 4 sticks plus 4 tablespoons (18 ounces) unsalted butter 15 ounces bittersweet chocolate, chopped 7 eggs 11/2 cups flour 3 /4 teaspoon iodized salt 1 3/4 teaspoons baking powder 1 Preheat oven to 325°F. 2 In a saucepan, combine sugars and butter over low heat, stirring occasionally, until sugar has melted and mixture is smooth.

3 Remove from heat and add chocolate, stirring until chocolate has melted and mixture is smooth.

4 Whisk in eggs until thoroughly combined.

5 In a separate bowl, add flour, salt and baking powder, and whisk to combine.

6 Whisk dry ingredients into chocolate mixture in 2 batches, making sure no lumps form.

7 Prepare two 13-by-9-inch baking pans by spraying bottoms and sides with nonstick spray.

8 Pour batter into pans, dividing equally between the two, and bake for 30 minutes, rotating pans halfway through baking.

9 Cool brownies to room temperature, and then loosen from pan (keep whole pan of brownies intact). Wrap tightly and freeze for a few hours, or overnight.

FOR THE PEANUT BUTTER FILLING: 12 ounces cream cheese, softened 1 cup creamy peanut butter 11/4 cups powdered sugar 1 tablespoon (1/2 ounce) vanilla extract 1 Beat cream cheese in standing mixer until smooth, stopping occasionally to scrape bowl to remove lumps.

2 Add peanut butter to mixing bowl and continue mixing until smooth, stopping occasionally to scrape bowl.

3 Add powdered sugar and vanilla and mix until smooth.

FOR THE CHOCOLATE GANACHE: 1 pound bittersweet chocolate, chopped 2 cups heavy cream 2 tablespoons (11/2 ounces) light corn syrup 1 /4 cup granulated sugar

cake notes: This is the most divine version of a peanut butter cup imaginable — luscious peanut-butter cream sandwiched between two layers of homemade brownies and coated in chocolate ganache. Make these and invite over your girlfriends, who will love/hate you for showing them that this dessert exists. Don’t forget to send them home with a piece or two.

Pair with: Oliver’s Merlot, a blend with nips of cabernet sauvignon, shiraz and zinfandel.

This dry red remains bright with red berries and soft rose notes, and plays well with the rich chocolate ganache that envelops this peanut butter cup cake.

1 Place chopped chocolate in bowl.

2 In a saucepan over low heat, combine heavy cream, corn syrup and sugar until mixture just begins to simmer, stirring occasionally.

3 Pour the hot mixture over chocolate and allow to sit untouched for a few minutes, letting the chocolate melt. Then, whisk together until smooth. Cool slightly at room temperature before assembling the cake.

TO ASSEMBLE: 1 Remove both sheets of brownies from the freezer and from their pans.

2 Spread peanut butter mixture evenly over one sheet of brownies. Top with the second sheet of brownies and gently press the layers together.

3 Freeze for a couple hours, or overnight, until layers have set completely.

4 Remove brownies from freezer, and then cut into square portions.

5 Dip each square into the ganache, and place on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper.

6 Return brownie squares to freezer until ganache has set completely.

7 To serve, cut each brownie square in half diagonally, creating two triangles to reveal the peanut butter layer. Serve chilled.

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Space designed by Bill Bernard from The Affordable Companies.

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Design and create zones for the activities that are important to your family and partyguests. A good kitchen is designed around the way you live. Breaking it down into activity-appropriate areas — food preparation, cooking, drinks station, buffet service and clean-up — keeps your party organized and flowing smoothly.

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Get the skinny on islands. Get the skinny on islands. Make sure to determine the function of your island prior to design. Will it be used for entertaining, prep, seating, cleaning, etc.? Standard height counters are better for the workspaces while higher islands are better than standard heights for gatherings, because they make it easier for people to mix, mingle and lean while managing their drinks and plates. Maybe you would like a combination of both?

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Small details. Cabinetry hardware, backsplashes, wallpaper, faucets — make a big difference. The icing on the holiday cake, consider these finishing touches the “bling” of any kitchen project.

To learn more about these topics and others, plan to attend our free Kitchens, Bathrooms and Flooring Seminar at 6:30 on November 20th at Affordable Companies Showroom in Carmel. Please go to affordablecompanies.com for details. You’ll hear all about the latest design trends, tips and tricks, and gather valuable information about the home construction and remodeling process. Refreshments and door prizes will be offered!

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Balanced Calendars and Parenting time.

The balanced calendar, or year-round calendar, has been adopted by many Indiana school corporations recently. The new Guidelines for balanced calendars may effect your parenting time.

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Parenting time orders and settlement agreements entered prior to the implementation of a balanced calendar may not take the new school calendar into proper consideration and may need to be modified.

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The Indiana Supreme Court recently adopted the newest version of the Indiana Parenting Guidelines (“Guidelines”), effective March 1, 2013. The stated purpose of the Guidelines is to provide a model which may be adjusted depending upon the unique needs and circumstances of each family. There is a presumption the Guidelines should be followed in the cases in which they apply.

According to the current guidelines:

» If a child attends a school with a year-round or balanced calendar, the noncustodial parent’s parenting time may need to be adjusted so that the noncustodial parent and child spend at least as much time together as they would under a traditional school calendar. The Guidelines indicate the noncustodial parent’s extended parenting time shall be one-half of the time for fall and spring school breaks. Unless otherwise agreed to by the parents or ordered by the court, the noncustodial parent should exercise parenting time the first half of school break in odd years and the second half of school break in even years. » The Guidelines also provide that summer vacation should be shared equally between the parents. The summer vacation begins the day after school lets out for the summer and ends the day before school resumes for the new school year. The time may be either consecutive or split into two (2) segments. The noncustodial parent needs to give notice to the custodial parent of the selection by April 1 of each year. If such notice is not given, the custodial parent must make the selection and notify the other parent. All notices are to be given in writing and verbally. A timely selection may not be rejected by the other parent. With the balanced calendar, winter break/Christmas vacation and all other Holidays remain to be shared as provided for in the Holiday Parenting Time Schedule.

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If you have a parenting time order or settlement agreement: It is important to be familiar with the

Guidelines and be aware that they do change from time to time. It is recommended you consult an attorney to consider how the recent changes to the Guidelines may or may not affect your current order or settlement agreement and whether or not modification is appropriate. Also, it is important to know that the Guidelines do not apply in every situation and, under appropriate circumstances, the parties and/or the court may deviate from the Guidelines. To review the current Guidelines, visit www.in.gov/judiciary/rules/parenting.

Please be advised that this information does not constitute legal advice or create an attorney-client relationship and is provided for informational purposes only.

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Roxanne & Darrel’s story could be that of many.

They were overweight, but still led relatively active lives.

“You just can’t out-exercise a bad diet” is Roxanne’s conclusion, “our cholesterol numbers were high and we were both on meds for it. Darrel also had high triglycerides.”

Roxanne is not alone in being unaware of the difference between what we “think” we look like and what we really do. She comments, “Geez, I didn’t realize just how much weight I gained until I saw this picture. I actually had a hard time finding a full length one of Darrel and me because ‘selfies’ are mostly of our face only.”

“After going through HNT, we have really become conscious of our overall health, and have managed to eat better, stay active, and keep our weight at a healthy number. “i lost 20 pounds and Darrel lost about 30. We are both off our meds,” states Roxanne. But what she is most proud of is how her new lifestyle impacts those she loves most.

Adoring the cherished title of cool Aunt Rox, she beamingly restates, “My family means the world to me.”

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This truth is reciprocated as Roxanne’s sister, Rachel, and brother-in-law Andy, are the ones that introduced her to HNT. Rachel and Andy were introduced through his parents, who heard about HNT through their niece. Family and friends celebrate the successes of those they love.

Health & Nutrition Technology (HNT) is more than a weight loss program.

We strive to assist you in living out the motto: Change your life... so you can live it!

People want changes they can sustain. We do too. We have been in the Indianapolis area since 2002, with Dr. Dawn Ayers at the helm. A medically supervised behavior modification program tailored to meet your needs. With an average weight loss of 40-50 pounds in the first 20 weeks, we can help you make a change in your life that you can live out for years to come. Our friendly staff extends a warm welcome to YOU. Attend a FREE orientation to gather details for yourself, family and friends.

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Text + Styling by Erica Sagon | Photos by Chris Whonsetler Hair by Katja Geisler | Makeup by Kelly Oswalt

We can’t take away the chill of winter completely, but we can face it in style with these five essential sweaters. From slouchy, chunky knits to sleek turtlenecks, here’s how to stay stylish all season long.

COZY COWL NECK A CHUNKY KNIT LIKE THIS REALLY AMPS UP THE SNUGGLY FEELING!

WHAT TO LOOK FOR: This is the kind of sweater you’ll want to live in every weekend until March, slouchy and relaxed with a big cowl neck. Warm, neutral hues like charcoal and oatmeal are the way to go.

HOW TO WEAR IT: Add a soft layer and urban flair with a plaid flannel button-down underneath. Slim jeans or leggings and flat boots are great matches for an oversized sweater like this.

Free People sweater, $128 at Macy’s Buffalo plaid button-down shirt, $26.94 at Old Navy "Always Skinny" pants, $59.99 at Gap Factory Store* Lauren Ralph Lauren “Marisol” boots, $129 at Macy’s

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Windowpane-print sweater, $54.99 at Gap Factory Store* Kasper sleeveless collared blouse, $59 at Macy’s Mini skirt, $44.99 at Loft Outlet* Merona tights, $8 at Target Fossil "Preston" purse, $198 at Macy’s "Vienne" wedge boots, $104.99 at Nine West Outlet* *Find Gap Factory Store, Loft Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

LAYER A BUTTON-DOWN BLOUSE UNDERNEATH—AND BUTTON IT UP ALL THE WAY—FOR A POLISHED, PREPPY SPIN.

GRAPHIC-PRINT CREWNECK WHAT TO LOOK FOR: Simple crewneck sweaters are having all the fun this winter, emblazoned with foxes, owls and deer, or cheeky phrases like “Ooh la la” and “Chic Happens.” For a more sophisticated take on the trend, keep an eye out for patterns like windowpane, houndstooth and leopard spots.

HOW TO WEAR IT: These classic-cut sweaters tend to be close-fitting, so pair them freely with just about any silhouette, from wide-leg trousers to slim skirts. A graphic print is perfect for the office; to keep it looking sleek, tuck it into a skirt that hits at your natural waistline.

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IF YOU TYPICALLY SHY AWAY FROM RIBBED SWEATERS, A RELAXED SILHOUETTE LIKE THIS MIGHT JUST CHANGE YOUR MIND.

HIGH-LOW HEM WHAT TO LOOK FOR: A longer hemline in the back makes a classic pullover style fresh this season. It’s a laid-back look we love because it provides a little extra coverage right where we want it.

HOW TO WEAR IT: Don’t let this flattering high-low cut get lost over a pair of baggy pants. Stick to skinny or straight jeans.

Ribbed sweater, $49.99 at Loft Outlet* Joules plaid scarf, $26 at Joules.com

Rachel by Rachel Roy jeans, $79 at Macy’s Sorel "Joan of Arctic" wedge mid-boots, $240 at Sorel.com *Find Loft Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

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WE LOVE THESE WEDGE HEELS WITH A UTILITARIAN EDGE!

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OPT FOR A CHUNKY BRACELET RATHER THAN A NECKLACE TO AVOID INTERFERING WITH THE CLEAN NECKLINE. Turtleneck sweater, $49.95 at Chico’s Outlet* Gem bracelet, $45 at White House Black Market Maison Jules "Charlotte" pants, $49.50 at Macy’s "Julian" heels, $69.99 at Nine West Outlet* *Find Chico’s Outlet and Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

CLASSIC TURTLENECK WHAT TO LOOK FOR: Utterly simple yet undeniably chic, this classic is back. It’s a sleek counterpoint to all of the cozy, slouchy sweaters out there, and we love it in black or a deep jewel tone. The fit shouldn’t be skin-tight, but it should hug close to the body.

HOW TO WEAR IT: This inherently elegant piece is a smart choice for the office or lunch with the girls. Pair it with nearly any shape on the bottom, from A-line skirts to slim trousers.

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Rachel by Rachel Roy wrap sweater, $189 at Macy’s Calvin Klein blouse, $69 at Macy’s Merona belt, $12.99 at Target Modern-fit leggings, $69.99 at Loft "Brynn" Heeled boots, $119 at Nine West Outlet* *Find Nine West Outlet at Edinburgh Premium Outlets in Edinburgh, Ind.

DITCH THE MATCHING KNIT BELT AND WRAP A LEATHER BELT AROUND YOUR WAIST FOR A MORE THOUGHTFUL LOOK. USE THIS STYLING TRICK WITH ANY LONG, OPEN-FRONT CARDIGAN, TOO.

WRAP SWEATER WHAT TO LOOK FOR: An extrathick, super-cozy cardigan that still manages to look tailored and polished? Yes, please! With a flattering wrap shape and a belt, this shape defines the waist better than a standard cardigan.

On days when the weather isn’t so brutal, a heavy wrap can even function as a coat.

HOW TO WEAR IT: Try leggings or skinny jeans on the weekends; slim trousers or a pencil skirt at the office.

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Meet Major Collette Webster

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lthough Major Collette Webster and her husband only moved to Indianapolis very recently, she’s already diving into the local community and culture, including a full-time job as the Director of Women’s Ministries for The Salvation Army.

“My parents are officers in The Salvation Army, so I’ve been involved since birth,” she says. “All my life, I’ve either been part of the programs or I’ve volunteered at them, and I found so much joy and fulfillment in helping others, I’ve continued on as an adult. My husband and I have been officers in The Salvation Army for 24 years, and each year brings beautiful new blessings from God as we serve.”

During her career with The Salvation Army, Major Webster has assisted with children’s and musical programming, coordinated summer camps, and participated in counseling and recreational activities.

“The best thing about my work in The Salvation Army is seeing life transformation,” she says. “We are about people, and when we see people totally change their way of life for the better, that brings great joy. We all need some kind of transformation in our lives and when that transformation is made, incredible things happen.”

MORE ABOUT MAJOR COLLETTE WEBSTER: • She played volleyball and other sports while attending Asbury University in Wilmore, KY. • She runs every other day.

• She loves to read and is currently taking additional college courses.

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PASSING ON HOPE SELF

THIS MAGICAL LIFE

I NO LONGER FIGHT LIFE OR WORK AGAINST IT.

Kathy McHugh is the author of Passing On Hope, a book of healing stories about her walk of liberation from the pain of the past through the transformative power of love. Kathy reminds others to “love your life” every single day, no matter what.

You can contact Kathy at mchugh_kathy@ yahoo.com and check out her website, passingonhope.com.

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dare to see what most dismiss. Ever-present magnificence blows through us and flows through the moments of our lives silently and thunderously. So I say “thank you” and welcome it all. Living in the open, I no longer fight life or work against it. Living free, I dance this sacred dance for the joy of it, for the privilege it is. No conditions, no fixed ideas that block the blessings. I experience the profound beauty that takes me into worlds within this world beyond my wildest dreams. I live in the magic of this life that leaves me in awe. I am truly wired this way; it is a gift with which I came into this world at a soul level. But, it also blossoms from the choices I consciously make as the depth of this magical life is ever evolving, ever growing, ever surprising—and leaves me giggling with delight, blissed out for no reason at all, and for a million reasons.

A dear friend and I were sharing stories and he told me the name of my memoir needs to be “My Upgraded Life.” “Yes!” echoed through me as I appreciated his observations of my magical life and acknowledged with all of me the blessings I have been showered with, so vast and glorious that I weep tears of gratitude for this privilege, for this ride, for this adventure—all of it! I truly give thanks for it all, seeing the blessings in it all. The moments that have kicked my ass and taken me to my knees, and the moments that have lifted me to heights I didn’t know existed, soaring freely, playing with the infinite. And from this, I live life unconditionally present to what comes, allowing the miracles that pull me out of the hat again and again, making me

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anew, revealing more and more without ceasing.

Willing to try on Cinderella’s slipper and step into new life, this new lifetime, wondrous and mystical and magnificent. This is my magical life. And this life is not exclusive to me; it is available to all who dare to claim it, to show up fully present to the ball, open to receive what is ever present, ever flowing.

The soul’s journey I have walked required hard knocks. I’ve been swallowed and spit out by life and death thresholds, necessary heart-shattering experiences. The hope I am passing on comes from a grounded place, human to human, honoring the totality of my story. The pain, the joy and everything in between so I can honor the stories of others, appreciating fully their challenges, struggles, scars and wounds. Honoring my soul’s journey, I can honor the unique journey of each soul and hold it sacred as it is, wherever it is.

When I speak of this magical life, my voice is grounded in truth. Straddling this world and the realms beyond mirrors the limitless potential that lies within us all right here, right now. The invitation this day is to upgrade your life by tapping into the magic swirling through your very breath, pulsing through your body and creating immeasurable beauty in the poetry that you are. See your Self!

See the truth of who you are. Look closely with the eyes of your soul. Step into the magic that you are, and know that life is moment by moment, choice by choice, day by day, knowing you have everything because you have life. From this knowing springs more magic than you can possibly imagine. ¦

MEDITATION When is the last time you experienced a moment of awe and wonder feeling the magic of life?

ACTION Watch holiday movies that remind you of that magic— It’s a Wonderful Life, The Polar Express, Miracle on 34th Street, The Bells of St. Mary, and Scrooged are just a few examples.

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