Kit - May + June 2017

bring the outdoors in

ADD LIFE TO ANY ROOM WITH A VARIETY OF HOUSEPLANTS

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respect yourself & your body

MOTIVATION & PRACTICAL TIPS TO BOOST YOUR FITNESS — TODAY

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PERFECT PHOTOS & STYLES TO INSPIRE YOUR BIG DAY + DRESSES FOR THE MOMS!

I’m not just the CEO of my family.

I’m also the CMO—Chief Medical Officer.

I make sure my active family stays active—and healthy. Whether my husband isn’t bouncing back after a game with the kids or my daughter overdoes it at practice, I depend on the orthopedic and sports medicine team of Riverview Health to help me take care of what matters most.

To learn more, visit riverview.org/ortho

RIGHT SIZE. RIGHT CARE. RIGHT HERE. NOBLESVILLE / CARMEL / CICERO / FISHERS / SHERIDAN / TIPTON / WESTFIELD Riverview Health has a full-service hospital with advanced, 24/7 ER capabilities and doctor offices located throughout Hamilton and Tipton counties.

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Heart disease is different, easy to miss for women.

You have the power to help prevent it.

Heart disease and symptoms are different for women—and our #1 killer. It’s also easy to ignore, as signs differ from men’s and are often mistaken for other health issues. Fortunately, you have the power to help prevent it when you take the time to identify and counter risks, from age and heredity to lifestyle factors like smoking, stress, or high blood sugar.

At the St. Vincent Women’s Cardiac Risk Clinic, we help women like you protect themselves and live longer, fuller lives. Take time for a healthier you. You and your loved ones deserve it.

Call to schedule a heart health evaluation or visit stvincent.org/taketime4u to learn more.

St. Vincent Carmel Women’s Center: 317-583-4437 St. Vincent Anderson Regional: 765-646-8538

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the kit agenda TOP PICKS FOR MAY/JUNE OUTINGS

Kit mini: Sunny outlook SUMMER’S COOLEST SHADES

Kit mini: baggage claim CARRY THE DAY — & NIGHT

mini kit: open (toe) season 2 SANDAL TRENDS + 5 STYLISH PAIRS

health kit: find your best fit GIVE YOUR BODY THE EXERCISE IT REALLY WANTS

care kit: meet Maria Dampier CICOA’S 2017 CAREGIVER OF THE YEAR

aging kit: elder abuse SCAMS, CRISES & HOW TO HELP

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Indiana wedding gallery FIVE GLOWING BRIDES, PLUS ALL THE DETAILS ON THEIR PHOTOGRAPHERS, VENUES, FLOWERS & MORE

SHINE ON, MomS! DRESSES & ACCESSORIES FOR THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE & GROOM

Home Kit: INDOOR Plants VARIETIES FOR EVERY SHADE OF THUMB

DIY KIT: Macramé MAKE PLANT HANGERS ON A DIME

Recipe Kit: Pâte à Choux BAKE BEAUTIFUL ÉCLAIRS & SWANS

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DRESS: GRACE LOVES LACE, PAGE 30

Photo by Gabrielle Cheikh, gabriellecheikh.com (Wedding info on page 32)

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MOTIVATION & PRACTICAL TIPS TO BOOST YOUR FITNESS — TODAY

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It’s much more than a lapel pin.

It’s a beacon of hope.

Here at Community, the lapel pins that certain physicians wear indicate those doctors have been certified by MD Anderson Cancer Network®, a program of MD Anderson Cancer Center, one of America’s leading cancer care providers. That tiny lapel pin isn’t a fashion statement. It’s a quality statement. It says we’ve met MD Anderson’s nationally recognized standards and that their guidelines and treatment plans can be shared with our patients right here locally. Nowhere else in central Indiana can you get this quick access. You see, its’ much more than a lapel pin. It’s a beacon of hope. For more information, visit eCommunity.com/cancercare or call 800.777.7775.

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CALENDAR MAY + JUNE

THE KIT AGENDA MAY AND JUNE ARE ARGUABLY CENTRAL INDIANA’S TOP MONTHS FOR FUN! (DON’T TELL THE OTHER 10.)

THIS IS THE KIND OF TODO LIST YOU WILL LOVE TACKLING. The Kit Agenda offers up highlights to do, see and hear around town.

Definitely pleasing to your senses.

Music & Entertainment

ARTS & CULTURE

OnyxFest

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OnyxFest is Indy’s only theater festival of stories exclusively from emerging African-American playwrights. See works from Mijiza Holiday, Angela Jackson-Brown, Ryan Bennett and Nicole Kearney (pictured), whose “Wedding Bells” takes the stage May 12.

IndyFringe, 719 E. St. Clair St.; indyfringe.org

Neil Diamond: The 50 Year Anniversary World Tour

Indianapolis Bacon and Beer Classic

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Dozens of bacon-infused dishes from local chefs.

More than 50 craft beers from regional breweries.

Giant Jenga. Cornhole.

A bacon-eating contest.

Need we say more?

Music icon and Rock & Roll Hall of Famer Neil Diamond has sold more than 125 million albums worldwide. This Memorial Day weekend, he travels to Indianapolis to celebrate his five-decade career.

Bankers Life Fieldhouse; (317) 9172727; bankerslifefieldhouse.com

Star Spangled Symphony at White River State Park

Dial “M” for Murder Through May 21

June 30

A retired tennis pro plots to murder his wife — but on one fateful night, nothing goes as planned and she finds herself in a different kind of danger. Don’t miss the thriller that inspired Alfred Hitchcock’s classic suspense film.

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Indiana Repertory Theatre, 140 W. Washington St., Indianapolis; (317) 635-5252; irtlive.com

Join guest conductor Alfred Savia, Broadway vocalist Doug LaBrecque, and the Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra for a special, one-night-only concert. Maestro Savia will lead the ISO for an evening of patriotic favorites.

White River State Park, 801 W. Washington St., Indianapolis; (317) 639-4300; indianapolissymphony.org

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Regions Tower, 211 N. Pennsylvania St., Indianapolis; baconandbeerclassic.com

Spring Blooms: Celebration of Color Through May 31

This spring, immerse yourself in color. Take a breathtaking stroll around the Indianapolis Museum of Art campus and admire more than a million blooms. Check out five new gardens, and then drop by the new beer garden, open Thursday through Sunday.

Indianapolis Museum of Art, 4000 Michigan Road, Indianapolis; (317) 923-1331; imamuseum.org

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Indianapolis Bacon and Beer Classic baconandbeerclassic.com

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Neil Diamond: The 50 Year Anniversary World Tour bankerslifefieldhouse.com

IPL 500 Festival Parade 500festival.com

ARTS & CULTURE

family & education Heirloom Plant Sale May 12

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Get your green thumb ready. On Mother’s Day, Conner Prairie will have an heirloom plant sale.

There will be a variety of heirloom plants to choose from, including tomatoes, peppers, herbs and scented geraniums.

A Night in India June 9-10

Gregory Hancock Dance Theatre closes its season with A Night in India, inspired by the region’s beautiful culture. Colorful costumes, brilliant lighting, dramatic stories, and passionate dancing are a feast for the senses.

Booth Tarkington Civic Theatre, 3 Center Green Carmel; (317) 8433800; civictheatre.org

Indian Market & Festival

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Conner Prairie, 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers; (317) 776-6000; connerprairie.org

IPL 500 Festival Parade May 27

Join more than 300,000 people in downtown Indianapolis for the IPL 500 Festival Parade. See every qualifying driver and dozens of floats and bands.

The parade is the only 500 Festival event to take place every year since 1957.

Downtown Indianapolis; (317) 927-3378; 500festival.com

The Minimalists: Less is Now Tour June 22

Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus are The Minimalists. They have helped more than 20 million people live with less through their website, books, podcast and documentary. Don’t miss the opportunity to hear them on the first leg of their latest tour.

Old National Centre, 502 N. New Jersey St., Indianapolis; (317) 231-0000; oldnationalcentre.com

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Seussical

In June, the Eiteljorg will host is 25th annual Indian Market & Festival. The celebration honors Native American art, history, and cultures, and includes family activities, cultural demonstrations, shopping, and entertainment.

Through June 28

This fantastical family musical brings everyone’s favorite Dr. Seuss characters to life, including Horton the Elephant, the Cat in the Hat, Gertrude McFuzz, and lazy Mayzie. What’s more, the production is composed completely of actors under the age of 14.

Eiteljorg Museum, 500 W. Washington St., Indianapolis; (317) 833-1316; eiteljorg.org

Booth Tarkington Civic Theatre, 3 Center Green, Carmel; (317) 843-3800; civictheatre.org

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City Market Catacombs Tour Through Oct. 28

Indiana Landmarks offers guided tours of the catacombs located beneath City Market’s Whistler Plaza. They are all that is left of Tomlinson Hall, which burned in 1958, and was demolished by the city. Check the website for days/times.

Indianapolis City Market, 222 E. Market St.. Indianapolis; (317) 639-4534; indianalandmarks.org

Nature Released: Inside Natural Disasters Through May 29

This exhibition — created

by The Field Museum in Chicago — takes you inside a tornado, allows you to create your own volcano or earthquake, and shows you the aftermath of several historical disasters.

Indiana State Museum, 650 W. Washington St., Indianapolis; (317) 232-1637; indianamuseum.org

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SUNNY OUTLOOK Text by Erica Sagon | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

In the market for new shades? Try something new to you. If you normally reach for black, how about navy instead? A sucker for mega-big sunnies? Go for a smaller, more modern shape.

Marc Jacobs sunglasses, $39.95 at Amanda’s Exchange (amandasexchange.com) “Piper” sunglasses, $118 at J.Crew (jcrew.com) Ray-Ban sunglasses, $99.95 at Amanda’s Exchange (amandasexchange.com) Maui Jim “Garden Isle” sunglasses, $299 at Tommy Bahama (tommybahama.com)

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HERE COME THE MOMS

style + home

The season for “I do’s” is upon us.

Weekends will now be full of white lace, sentimental music and giddy brides.

I love weddings. They’re simply beautiful, whether at a courthouse, inside a church or under the trees.

They’re beautiful because for a brief moment, for the bride and groom, they are the only two people in the universe, vowing to work on loving each other for the rest of their days. Who wouldn’t love that?

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I walked down the aisle nearly seven years ago, which means I had a luxury that brides today will never have again.

Back in the olden days of 2010, we had to get married without the help of Pinterest. The social crafting phenomenon didn’t become one of the top social sites until the end of 2011. So I had to slip on that white gown, march down that aisle and say “I do” without a plethora of DIY’s.

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It was bliss.

If we thought the wedding industry was intense before, Pinterest has taken it to a whole new level. It seems like in this Pinterest Era, everything about weddings is a huge production. It starts with asking people to be in your bridal party. Just ask? No. You have to have them open a box with butterflies that (hopefully) fly out and inside you’ll find a cute poem asking you to be in the bridal party.

Hang your dress up on a normal hanger? No, silly. They have to have “Mrs.” scrolled into the wire. First dance? Nope. Flash mob.

Standard table numbers? Not unless by “standard” you mean each number has a significant meaning like the number of concerts the couple has been to together.

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HE’S YOUR FRIEND AND YOUR BIGGEST FAN.

I’m not saying any of this is bad. I’m simply saying that someone has to help us put all of this together.

Enter moms.

They do so much for the big day, but tend to get so little recognition the day of. Dads walk us down the aisle. Dads often impart a greeting/speech/prayer. They get the father-daughter dance. You get the picture.

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My beautiful mom was ravishing on our wedding day. She was so happy and eager to help in any way she possibly could to make it flawless for my husband and me. Leading up to the day, she was on the other end of many phone calls with a crazy bride-to-be. My heart was so full watching her really enjoy a special day that she helped orechestrate. I hope she had as much fun as I did!

Dad always had the answer, ready with words of wisdom to save the day. We are proud to honor all of the dads out there especially the amazing dads who have made Clearwater Commons home.

For this wedding issue, we wanted to give a big shout out to the moms of brides-to-be. We see you there, behind the scenes cutting, crafting and planning. Page 39 is for you. Mary Collyer, one of our readers, is going to be a mother-of-the-bride this summer.

She graced our pages with eight different dress options, one of which she’ll wear to her daughter’s wedding.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY FROM CLEARWATER COMMONS

Central Indiana has been the home of some breathtaking weddings.

Check out some favorites from local photographers on page 26.

Join us this month for a complimentary lunch.

Cheers to love!

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A POWERFUL, PERSONALIZED APPROACH TO PHILANTHROPY

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Put our unmatched knowledge of Central Indiana, professional charitable advice and premier client-centered services to work for you.

For more information call Rob MacPherson at 317-634-2423 or email him at robm@cicf.org.

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CREATIVE DIRECTOR Ashlie Hartgraves

GUEST EDITOR Casey Kenley

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FASHION & STYLING Erica Sagon STYLIST AND WRITER Ashley Fuson HAIR AND MAKEUP ARTIST Mary Collyer FASHION MODEL

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ART AND PHOTOGRAPHY Chris Whonsetler LEAD PHOTOGRAPHER Wil Foster ILLUSTRATOR Olivia Perreault ILLUSTRATOR Gabrielle Cheikh PHOTOGRAPHER Arianna Torres PHOTOGRAPHER Nate Crouch PHOTOGRAPHER Nathaniel Edmonds PHOTOGRAPHER Michelle Thompson AD DESIGNER Julie Taylor Reed AD DESIGNER Josie Sanders SOCIAL MEDIA AND STYLING

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BAGGAGE CLAIM Text by Erica Sagon | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

Whether you’re heading around the world or across town, a bright, sporty cross-body or cheeky canvas tote will perk up those casual outfits. While you’re at it, how about a new tote for date night and one for work, too?

Stripe straw tote, $165 at draperjames.com

Perforated cross-body bag, $24.94 at Old Navy (oldnavy.com) “Chandler” fold-over zipper clutch, $88 at Trades of Hope (tradesofhope.com) “Acenavia” tote, $55 at Aldo (aldoshoes.com) Hello Sunshine “Vanderbilt” tote, $175 at draperjames.com

Did you know that Draper James is Reese Witherspoon’s line of clothing, accessories and home goods? We can absolutely see her “Big Little Lies” character, Madeline, digging this tote!

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A great bag for work that you’ll end up loving for weekends, too.

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The Why’s of wise exercise

FINDING YOUR MOTIVATION We’ve all heard, from childhood on, that exercise is good for us.

It’s one of those things we never think to question. So let’s question: Why, precisely, is exercise good for us?

There are lots of reasons; here are just a few: » CANCER. Exercise helps prevent cancer. Studies now show that regular exercise lowers the risk of 13 specific cancers, including breast cancer, colon cancer, lung cancer in current and/or former smokers, endometrial cancer, kidney cancer, bladder cancer, myeloid leukemia, and more. » BRAIN HEALTH. Exercise helps prevent dementia, including Alzheimer’s.

Regular physical exercise improves brain function, cognitive clarity and memory. » Emotional well-being: Exercise improves mood and alleviates feelings of depression. » Exercise improves confidence, promotes a sense of accomplishment and boosts self-esteem. » SLEEP. Exercise improves sleep, especially the restful, restorative stages of sleep called N3 and REM. » Quality sleep improves healthy immune function, minimizing your risk of infection and cancer. » Important hormones are released in sleep that help with weight loss. » SEXUAL PERFORMANCE AND LIBIDO. Exercise can put the zip back in your sex life. Studies indicate that physical exercise may enhance sexual stimulation and arousal for both sexes. And for men, it helps improve erections. » ENERGY, STRENGTH, AND STAMINA. Certain exercises help with balance, too, minimizing the risk of falls and fractures. » BONE HEALTH. Weight-bearing, resistance exercise is crucial for building strong bones and preventing osteoporosis. » DETOXIFICATION. By stimulating blood flow, heart rate, and lung function, exercise delivers essential nutrients throughout the body and improves the elimination of dangerous toxins through sweat. » ADD & ADHD. By stimulating dopamine production, exercise improves concentration, focus and attention. » WEIGHT CONTROL. Of course, exercise helps with weight loss.

Given the fact that being overweight increases your risk of chronic diseases like cancer, diabetes, heart disease, obstructive sleep apnea, chronic fatigue and dementia; this may be the single most compelling motivation to get started today.

Moving from Why to How: So, that’s WHY it’s important to exercise. For many of us though, the bigger question is HOW to get started. We want to do it. We intend to do it. And, at the end of the day, we feel badly (again) that we’ve not done it.

How do we move from intention to action? It’s a timeless question, raised by countless scholars, philosophers and theologians through the ages.

Stephen P. Elliott, M.D. Living with Intention, INC 11979 Fishers Crossing Drive Fishers, IN 46038 317-863-5888 LivingWithIntention.biz

It’s only recently, though, that we’ve begun to discover what happens in the brain when it comes to breaking old habits and creating new ones.

We’re in the very infancy of understanding the “science of change.”

Having said that, strategies that work for many include: » Write it down. Put your goal down on paper.

Keep it in front of you (bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, computer screen). » Tell a friend about your intention to exercise, someone you trust. Ask them to hold you accountable. (This has long been a foundational strategy and secret success of Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers). » Invite a friend to exercise with you. Again, it’s that accountability thing. » Set some measurable goals: “I’ll exercise 3 times this week for at least 20 minutes this week.” “I’m going to walk a 5K in August.” » Schedule time for exercise in your calendar or daily to-do list.

Stephen P. Elliott M.D. practices Functional and Integrative Medicine at Living With Intention, Inc. For more information call 317-863-5888 or visit us at www.livingwithintention.biz and www.lwimedtherm.com.

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Dolce Vita “Peya” sandals, $49.95 at DSW (dsw.com) Heeled sandals, $130 at White House Black Market (whitehouseblackmarket.com)

OPEN (TOE) SEASON

Text by Erica Sagon | Photos by Chris Whonsetler

When it comes to summer sandals, think slides and ankle straps. These two big looks for the season are equally chic. Make that pedicure appointment — these shoes will draw looks.

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Heeled ankle-strap sandals, $85 at Lands’ End (landsend.com) “Sylvie” slides, $80 at Eddie Bauer (eddiebauer.com) Tassel sandals, $98 at White House Black Market (whitehouseblackmarket.com)

Plastic Surgery Trends Reveal Focus On Non-Invasive Fat Reduction Cosmetic surgical procedures remain popular & continue to grow

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he American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) recently released information showing that Americans want to “put their best face and body forward”. ASPS is the largest plastic surgery specialty organization in the world representing board-certified plastic surgeons in the U.S. and abroad.

According to ASPS statistics, there were 17.1 million surgical and minimally invasive cosmetic procedures performed in the United States in 2016.

Newer, non-invasive fat reduction and skin tightening procedures are gaining popularity among patients because of the limited down time and, in some cases, budget. Some of the most popular are: • Injection-based procedures that target pockets of fat in a specific area, such as under the chin with Kybella, increased 18 percent.

• Non-invasive fat reduction procedures that use special technology to “freeze” fat without surgery, such as CoolSculpting, increased 5 percent.

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• Non-invasive skin tightening procedures that tighten sagging areas, such as Ultherapy, increased 5 percent.

When we look at non-surgical cosmetic treatments, the leader is BOTOX Cosmetic with 7 million procedures performed in 2016. BOTOX is followed by soft tissue fillers, such as Juvederm or Radiesse, and chemical peels.

These injectables, and others, can be combined to provide a “liquid facelift” without surgery. While not offering the same result as surgery, liquid facelifts can be very effective for many patients.

The top five cosmetic surgical procedures performed in the U.S. in 2016 were: 1. Breast augmentation – up 4 percent from 2015 2. Liposuction – up 6 percent from 2015 3. Nose reshaping - up 2 percent from 2015 4. Eyelid surgery – up 2 percent from 2015 5. Facelifts – up 4 percent from 2015 Other popular surgeries include tummy tucks, brow lifts and breast lifts.

Another trend is the increasing number of men seeking surgical and non-surgical treatments to improve their looks and self-confidence.

If you’d like to learn more about this or any of our other procedures, call 317-848-0001 to arrange a consultation.

No matter the procedure you are considering, it is important to seek a consultation with a board-certified plastic surgeon that will ensure it is performed with the highest medical standards.

Dr. Turkle offers an ongoing series of free webinars on various surgical and non-surgical enhancement topics. To view a webinar go to www.turklemd.com.

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uch like rest, reflection, reading for pleasure and so many other restorative measures in life, exercise often shifts down our list of priorities as the day progresses, only to inevitably fall completely off the agenda. We’re busy. We’re tired. We have to help the little procrastinator in the family finish his science project.

We think we’re too young to worry about it. We think we’re too old to get back to it. It’s easy to forget what a gift our bodies are and how moving these vessels is really a sign of respect and appreciation, at every stage of life.

The mind-set to move

“Someone can customize a perfect exercise prescription for you, but if you don’t think it’s important, you aren’t ready, you aren’t able, you aren’t making the case to yourself to make a change, it won’t matter,” Mindy Mayol, assistant professor in the Exercise Science department at

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the University of Indianapolis, says.

Through her research and work with clients, she finds the mental component to be paramount to success.

“Self-Determination Theory tells us that in general people need to feel three basic things: autonomy, competence and relatedness. If they feel ambivalent — like they were told they should do something but aren’t convinced — that has to be explored and resolved first before the physical pieces can come into place. You need the right mind-set, then momentum, and then, once you’re in a good place — which may take some time — you can move forward," she says.

As evidence, about 50 percent of clients will cut ties with their physical trainers by the six-month mark. If a mental foundation isn't established, your training program will likely not be sustainable.

Exploring expectations is important, too. “We want it and we want it now.

We demand quick results or we concede it’s not working, but it takes time for sedentary behavior to take effect and it takes time to undo it,” Mayol says.

Mindy’s equation for change Once you have a vision of a goal …

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Write down 2-3 things you like about how things are now.

Write down 2-3 things you don’t like about how things are now.

Write down 2-3 things that would be hard about change.

Write down 2-3 things that would be good about change.

Considering what you wrote down, revisit your vision and ask, "Am I ready?" "Am I willing?" and "Am I able?" For each of these questions, rate your response on a 0-10 scale, 0 being "not at all" and 10 being a resounding "absolutely!"

"A 6 or 7 rating means you’re more likely to do what it takes. If it’s less, you’re likely not. Maybe you need to revise your goals and ask yourself those questions again,” Mayol says.

Work up a [smart] sweat

When you’re ready, it’s time to get moving! “We like to have some level of control, so people who feel like they have a say in their exercise regimen are more likely to stick to it. You can work with an expert, but ultimately we all like to make our own decisions,” she says.

And those choices are important. The majority of our workout habits lack the recommended balance. As the debate between the benefits of each category of exertion persist, the truth actually includes a mix of all of them.

The American College of Sports Medicine recommends a combination of cardiovascular, strength/resistance training and flexibility exercises.

Generally, no matter age or gender, all three elements need to be included.

Once you have the all clear from your doctor to get started, especially if you are older, start tracking your preference, duration, frequency and intensity of exercise. This all goes back to goal-setting, whether you want to complete a half marathon, gain more functional strength or improve your quality of life.

"Whatever the motivator, the ACSM wants women ages 20 and older to do moderate-to-vigorous activity — light-to-moderate is good, too — most days of the week," Mayol says.

"Duration often depends on intensity.

If your activity is vigorous, you might not need to work out quite as long, whereas if it’s lighter, you may need more time.”

Most women find a sport or a class they love and stay in that lane, but she warns this introduces a common risk. “Overuse injuries often occur if the routine is unbalanced, but realistically, most routines are.

You just have to find a regimen you’ll sustain and do your best to incorporate other activities as often as possible.” There are other benefits to mixing up a perfect cocktail of movement.

“Strength training will bolster your cardio performance, stretching will support range of motion, and so on.

They all build upon each other to create a feeling of empowerment, improved health and a reduced risk of disease,” she says.

As you search for your best fit, Mayol encourages women to pay attention to their feelings. For example, relaxation can be an indicator of preference. “If you’d rather go to a yoga class than a spin session, this can be an indicator that yoga is a good fit. It signals that mind-body connection,” Mayol says.

The more your activity ties you back to those three basic human needs — autonomy, competence and relatedness — the more likely it will stick. Find fun. Find something you’re interested in. The more you do it, the more competent, confident and connected you will feel.

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MORE FROM THE EXPERTS.

Every aspect of a smart exercise routine has a positive impact on your mind and body. Here, the team from Living With Intention shares their thoughts on the advantages of being active.

9 SOURCES OF MOTIVATION STEPHEN P. ELLIOTT, M.D. LIVING WITH INTENTION

We’ve all heard that exercise is good for us. But why, precisely? Let this list stimulate your workout goals. »» CANCER: Studies show that regular exercise lowers the risk of 13 specific cancers. »» BRAIN HEALTH: Exercise helps prevent dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease, and improves brain function, cognitive clarity, and memory. »» EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING: Exercise improves mood and alleviates feelings of depression. »» SLEEP: Exercise improves sleep, especially the restorative stages of sleep called N3 and REM. Important hormones are released during sleep that help with weight loss. »» SEXUAL PERFORMANCE AND LIBIDO: Exercise can put the zip back in your sex life. Studies indicate that physical exercise may enhance sexual stimulation and arousal for both sexes. For men, it helps improve erections. »» ENERGY, STRENGTH AND STAMINA: Certain exercises help with balance, too, minimizing the risk of falls and fractures. »» BONE HEALTH: Weight-bearing, resistance exercise is crucial for building strong bones and preventing osteoporosis. »» DETOXIFICATION: By stimulating blood flow, heart rate and lung function, exercise delivers essential nutrients throughout the body and improves the elimination of dangerous toxins through sweat. »» ADD AND ADHD: By stimulating dopamine production, exercise improves concentration, focus and attention.

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PHYSICAL FITNESS' IMPACT ON YOUR WELL-BEING LINDA B. ELLIOTT, M.A., LMHC, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR LIVING WITH INTENTION

Physically fit individuals typically have an overall sense of well-being. They sleep better, have fewer memory issues, have more energy, and feel more relaxed and positive about their lives. Consider these related areas: »» DEPRESSION: Exercise is a natural, effective way to promote positive brain change, neural growth, reduced inflammation and new activity patterns that lead to feelings of calm and well-being. Exercise releases endorphins that improve your mood. It also serves as a distraction from the cycle of negative thoughts often associated with depression. »» ANXIETY: Increased endorphin release relieves tension and stress, and boosts mental and physical energy, especially when incorporated into mindfulness activities such as noticing the rhythm of your breathing or the sensation of your feet hitting the ground. This serves to interrupt the cycle of worried thinking that comes with anxiety. »» STRESS: Tight muscles, headaches, insomnia and tightness in our chests are frequently caused by stress.

Physical activity relaxes muscles and works to relieve tension in the body. Since body and mind are intertwined, when your body feels better, so will your mind.

More health benefits of physical activity:

»» Increased energy »» Higher self-esteem »» Sharper memory and thinking »» Better sleep »» Improved emotional resiliency

HOW TO STAY PHYSICALLY FIT ANDREA MCMATH PHYSICAL THERAPIST

The American Heart Association recommends at least 150 minutes of moderate activity each week. Health benefits are gained by doing one of the following each week: »» 21/2 hours of moderate-intensity aerobic activity »» 75 minutes of vigorous-intensity aerobic activity »» Combination of moderate- and vigorous-intensity aerobic activity

A few definitions:

Moderate activity causes an increase in heart rate, but it is still comfortable to carry on a conversation.

Vigorous activity causes breathing hard enough that it is difficult to carry on conversation.

Aerobic activities move the large muscles in the arms and legs.

Strength training activities increase muscle strength and endurance.

Typically start with 10-15 repetitions of light weights.

Stretching activities improve flexibility to allow easier movement.

Yoga tones muscles and improves balance.

Tips to move by:

»» Start slowly and build up to 30 minutes of activity on most or all days of the week. »» Start and end every workout with a warm-up and drink plenty of fluids. »» Exercise should not hurt or make you feel exhausted. »» If you cannot set aside one block of time to exercise, do short activities throughout the day, such as three 10-minute walks. »» Yard work and housework count as activity! »» If you need to talk on the phone, walk and talk. »» Walk or bike to the store. »» Use the stairs instead of the elevator. »» Don’t park your car in the closest spot. »» Vary activities to decrease boredom. »» Listen to music or an audiobook.

EXPERT ADVICE Q+A

love your heart Heart disease is the leading cause of death for both men and women in the United States. The good news? It is also one of the most preventable. Keep heart risks at bay by working with your physician to make heart-healthy nutrition and exercise choices that suit you best. Here, Emily A Ruden, MD at St. Vincent, gives Kit an overview of why we should love our heart.

To schedule an appointment or for more information: St. Vincent Carmel Women’s Center 13420 N. Meridian Street Carmel, IN 46032 317.583.4437 St. Vincent Anderson Regional 141 West 22nd Street Anderson, IN 46064 765.646.8538 stvincent.org/taketime4u

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What do nutrition and exercise have to do with heart health?

Obesity is an important risk factor for heart disease, increasing your risk three-fold. Nutrition and exercise are our best tools for controlling not only this important risk factor but also others like diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.

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Why is it important to have healthy nutrition AND an exercise regimen for heart health? Why can’t we just focus on one or the other?

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Nutrition and exercise compliment each other in terms of their cardiovascular benefits. Nutrition is most important for preventing obesity and controlling cholesterol/triglycerides, while exercise makes your blood vessels more healthy, reducing your risk of high blood pressure. These two lifestyle habits are our most effective way of reducing your risk of heart disease without the use of medicines -- the natural way!

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What types of workouts do you recommend for heart health?

The ACC/AHA recommends 150 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise per week -- that’s 30 minutes per day, 5 days per week. Alternatively, 75 minutes of high-intensity exercise per week is also acceptable.

Finally, we also recommend muscle-strengthening activity at least 2 days per week. The best workouts are the ones that get your body moving, burn calories and most importantly, keep you interested and coming back for more! Sticking with your program is key. For most people, brisk walking is a great way to get started. You can add light hand weights to your walks to increase calories burned.

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What does a heart-healthy diet consist of?

A heart-healthy diet should include a wide variety of fruits and vegetables, lean proteins such as chicken and fish, whole grains, low-fat dairy products, and nuts and legumes.

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How else can we take care of our hearts?

Stop smoking! This is the single most important thing you can do for your heart health. Smoking increases your risk for heart disease seven-fold! Talk to your doctor, make a plan — just do it!

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BRIDE & GROOM Emily & Gabe Zink MOST SPECIAL MEMORY “I would have to say that the most special memory I have from that day was saying our vows. It started to rain during them, which made our wedding day seem that much more enchanting. It felt as though time stopped for a moment. And our unity ceremony was pretty comical considering we were supposed to plant a tree together but forgot to put soil and water up at the altar.”

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BRIDE & GROOM Emily & Brandon Wilson MOST SPECIAL MEMORY “For each of us the most memorable part was when the barn door opened and we saw each other for the first time. It is one of the moments we will never forget.”

PHOTOGRAPHY Nate Crouch Photography VENUE The Barn at Kennedy Farm, Lizton, Ind. FLOWERS Wildwood Floral Company, Indianapolis DRESSES Bridal Superstore by Posie Patch Alfred Angelo Bridesmaids TUXES Louie’s Tux Shop, Avon, Ind. CATERER Flying Pink Pig Caterer, Seymour, Ind. CAKE Heavenly Sweets, Noblesville, Ind. MUSIC/DJ DJ Connection, Indianapolis

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What’s old is new again. The newer look is much more relaxed and casually put together then the traditional cascade, but makes a big statement as brides walk down the aisle.

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At the corner of St. Clair Street and Pennsylvania Ave., the East Garden at Central Library is a fully-gated oval lawn with lush landscaping and outdoor seating. With a guaranteed inclementweather backup space included, you can relax and plan a beautiful ceremony, cocktail reception or dinner reception without the worries of bad weather on your big day!

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ayla and Evan Hunter knew as soon as they entered The Barn at Kennedy Farm that this was the ideal venue for their wedding. They were able to find this perfect venue and their planning process was made less stressful than it might have been thanks to the free Wedding Guide they requested from Visit Hendricks County. It connected them with all the DJs, bakers, hotels and caterers to consider. To top it off, they took advantage of the free Visit Hendricks County welcome bags for their hotel guests.

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BRIDE & GROOM Abigail Cole & Sterling Cridge BRIDES’S SPECIAL MOMENT “The most special moments of this beautiful celebration were the little moments we snuck away from the crowd. At the end of the ceremony, we walked back down the aisle as husband and wife. When we reached the end of the aisle, I jumped into his arms and we held each other in the sweetest embrace with so much gratitude that this love was ours. We laughed, smiled, kissed and hugged in sheer joy for the privilege of loving each other. We were lucky enough to have this very moment captured by our amazing photographer. I will treasure this moment forever.”

GROOM’S SPECIAL MOMENT “The greatest part of the whole celebration of our love and unity was seeing the woman of my dreams walk down the aisle. It all hit me all at once that this was happening and I was the luckiest man alive.”

PHOTOGRAPHY Arianna Marie Photography VENUE Arts Park of Henry County, New Castle, Ind. FLOWERS Dandelion’s, Muncie, Ind. DRESSES Grace Loves Lace ISLA_CO Bridesmaids TUXES Calvin Klein RINGS Reis-Nichols Jewelers CAKE Cake Bake Shop, Indianapolis CATERING Big Hoffa’s SmokeHouse BBQ, Westfield, Ind. HAIR Elisabeth Razor, Tangles Salon & Spa

BRIDE & GROOM Chelsea & Brian Albertson MOST SPECIAL MEMORY “The most memorable part of my wedding day was the sparkler grand finale at our reception. The inevitable stress of the day had fully vanished and was replaced with ultimate joy! All of our friends and family, including my 90-year-old grandpa who stayed up past his bedtime, circled us with their sparklers chanting our names as my husband dipped me for a kiss. I could live in that perfect moment forever.”

PHOTOGRAPHY Gabrielle Chiekh Photography VENUE Roofless Church and Rapp Owen Granary, New Harmony, Ind. FLOWERS Lindsey at Petal and Pine, Kentucky CAKE Piece of Cake, Evansville, Ind. CATERING Marx BBQ & Catering, Evansville, Ind. HAIR/MAKEUP Taylor Scott MUSIC/DJ Pete Wazny

BRIDE & GROOM Denise & Phillip Cutler MOST SPECIAL MEMORY “Our day was made special by having our closest friends and family celebrate our love story. We wanted something different, so we chose a Sunday date and included brunch at an outside venue. God blessed us with a beautiful day and it couldn’t have been more perfect!”

PHOTOGRAPHY Nathaniel Edmonds Photography VENUE Indianapolis Museum of Art CAKE Confectioneiress, Zionsville, Ind. FLOWERS Rusted Window, Carmel, Ind. CATERING Kahn’s Catering, Indianapolis DRESSES Marie Gabriel David’s Bridal Bridesmaids TUXES Jos A. Banks MAKEUP Melissa Van Horn HAIR Chelsea Tiefel, Wild Hairs Salon MUSIC Band Encore Entertainment

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Visit Hendricks County is here to help.

They provide complimentary services to brides and grooms and publish a wedding guide that features venues, photographers, transportation, and caterers — all located in Hendricks County. These fine folks also will seek discounted hotel rooms for you and your overnight guests, and provide welcome bags with custom-decorated cookies and other visitor information. Don’t hesitate to contact Visit Hendricks County; they’ll connect you to the services you and your fiancé need, all at no cost.

Download a free wedding guide at www.

VisitHendricksCounty.com/Weddings.

Visit Hendricks County also hosted its first-ever wedding contest this year.

Twenty-one couples submitted their stories to Visit Hendricks County. The winning couple, Rose DeLarme and Matt Cronley, got engaged at Walt Disney World, in front of Cinderella’s castle. They both work for the City of Indianapolis, and will marry in September at Avon Gardens. As the featured couple, they will blog about their wedding planning experience at www.VisitHendricksCounty.com/Blog.

Matt and Rose will make an appearance in the next Visit Hendricks County Wedding Guide.

Provide options. Gigi’s Cupcakes recommends providing up to four different cupcake flavors.

They can even provide a gluten-free option. Gigi’s also bakes mini cupcakes, which make it easy for guests to eat while walking and mingling, and are great for children or older adults who might prefer smaller portions.

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Looking for a wedding venue that’s rustic, yet refined? Country, but with a touch of cosmopolitan elegance? Then turn to Hendricks County, whose three barns — the Avon Wedding Barn, The Barn at Kennedy Farm, and the Cartlidge Barn — are chic and unique.

Avon Wedding Barn | 7498 E. County Rd. 100 N., Avon, Ind. (photos 1-3) Jim and Darinda Dragon own this 80-year-old, authentic Amish-built barn. They purchased the property in 1998, and after watching their youngest daughter get married in the barn in 2011, they opened it up for reservations and events. The barn seats up to 200 people and is best described as “country chic with modern conveniences.” It features chandeliers, a rich-looking interior, grand entrance doors, and a porch. And since it’s located on the Dragons’ six-acre property, there are several outdoor wedding ceremony options, and plenty of opportunities to pose for photos.

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The Barn at Kennedy Farm | 525 N. State St., Lizton, Ind. (photos 4-6) This Amish-built barn in Lizton, Ind., blends rustic charm with modern elegance.

The interior boasts wood posts and beams, as well as café lighting and an ornate crystal chandelier. Double doors at each end of the 5,000-square-foot barn open to towering oak trees and lush, green pastures. What’s more, a three-story tower features rooms for both the bride and groom. Your guests — up to 250 of them — will also appreciate the venue’s modern amenities. The Barn at Kennedy Farm may be rustic, but it’s sure to leave you and your guests feeling like royalty.

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Cartlidge Barn | 1900 E. Main St., Danville, Ind.

This 180-year-old barn — originally constructed along U.S. Highway 36 — is located at the Hendricks County 4-H Fairgrounds & Conference Complex. When the farmland upon which the barn sat was sold for commercial development, the barn was professionally disassembled and stored until it could be reassembled at the Fairgrounds. Today, the barn is equipped with electricity, chairs for your guests, and burlap-wrapped chandeliers. It holds 100 guests (but can accommodate more when coupled with the Pavilion). What better way to celebrate your day than at the Cartlidge Barn, which preserves and celebrates the county’s agricultural heritage.

Photos by Nate Crouch Photography

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MOTHERS OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM:

Dress suggestions by Beth Divine Story edited by Brooke Reynolds Flowers by Rusted Window

Mothers of the bride and groom have the pleasure of supporting their grown kids as they make decisions about their big day. It’s a proud moment to realize you’ve raised competent young adults with great taste — they got it from somewhere, didn’t they?

On July 1, Mary Collyer — a mom with style — will watch her oldest daughter, Katie, get married. The Collyer family, who live in Noblesville, will help host 175-200 guests, over half of whom live out of town, at a ceremony at St. Therese Little Flower Catholic Church in Indianapolis and reception at the Eugene and Marilyn Glick Indiana History Center.

“Getting all of our friends and family together to celebrate Katie and Eric’s wedding will be so much fun!” Mary says.

As she shopped for her own dress, Mary never physically went into a store to try anything on. She bought her dress online.

“I bought my dress before Katie had hers and before she had chosen the color that the girls would wear,” Mary says. “Can you tell I was a little excited?”

She kept the receipt handy in case it wasn’t going to work with the color Katie chose for the bridesmaids, but as it turns out, it looks great.

“I really loved the dress but didn’t let myself fall in love with it until I got the OK from Katie.” Luckily, Mary’s lightweight, blue-mist dress complements the summer wedding and fits her perfectly (see page 42).

For Kit, Mary models other lovely dress options for mothers of brides and grooms. Cheers to the moms!

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Glide effortlessly through a daytime wedding in this floral, flowy dress fit for a outdoor or destination occasion. All body types can wear this forgiving style, although its light color and draped waist are particularly suited to the no-curves figure and a bigger-on-thebottom woman who is average-to-slim in size.

Dress by Jenny Yo (style JY534), $250 at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique. Pearl Gold shoes by INC, $69.65, at Macy’s.

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For an evening church wedding, city venue or any place more formal, be spot-on gorgeous in a tailored black and white column. This simple, elegant style is a modified mermaid cut, suitable for hourglass or straight figures.

Dress by Calvin Klein, $199 at Macy's. Linear “Bling” earrings, $118, at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique; Gold Champagne INC shoes, $69.65, Macy’s; Nina gold bag, $34 at Von Maur.

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This mermaid-style dress comes in an array of colors so you can be perfectly in tune with the wedding party. It is a beautiful choice for indoor or outdoor weddings. Nearly any shape can wear it, but particularly hourglass and bigger-on-the-top figures.

Mori Lee dress by Madeline Garden, $228 at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique. Nina purse, $55 at Von Maur. Whimsy “Thomas Knoell” earrings, $148 at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique. Gold Champagne shoes by INC, $69.65 at Macy’s.

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It's OK to get a little misty at weddings — tuck a tissue inside your clutch. This slimming navy-and-cream stunner looks like a top and skirt, and really highlights the waist. It’s flattering on hourglass, bigger-on-the-top, bigger-on-the-bottom and straight shapes.

Tahari dress by Arthur S. Levine, $239 at Von Maur.

Designer Shoe Warehouse shoes, $49. Whimsy “Thomas Knoell” earrings, $148 at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique.

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Celebrate true love on a beach or other outdoor venue in an ultra-lightweight fabric. Any woman can wear this dress because of the high waist that skims over the middle and hips.

Dress by Pretty Maids, $190 at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique. Bay to Baubles Palmer Deco Statement Necklace from Stitchfix (similar necklaces at Baublebar.com.). INC gold/pearl reversible bag, $109.75; and INC gold champagne shoes, $69.65; both at Macy’s.

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Reveal a little leg as you walk down the aisle and dance all night while keeping it more demure at the neckline. This dress slims and covers arms but still maintains its glamour for any indoor venue. The shape is particularly flattering on bigger-on-the-top and bigger-inthe-middle figures.

Dress by Vince Camuto, $168 at Von Maur. Shoes

by INC, $69.65 at Macys. Whimsy “Thomas Knoell” earrings, $148; and bracelet, $238; both at Nancy’s Bridal Boutique. Designer Show Warehouse shoes, $49. Nina silver bag, $128 at Von Maur.

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CHIC MOMS EXPERT TIPS BY BETH DIVINE STYLE Mothers of the bride and groom don’t have to wear beige and stay in the background. There are so many dress options out there! Here are some tips.

MARRIAGE WOWS Mary Collyer is sure to feel incredible at her daughter's July wedding.

The A-line shape makes it a winner for all body types. This dress can be worn to any wedding venue, but might be a too heavy for a warm beach.

This is the actual dress Mary will wear to her daughter's wedding!

Adrianna Papell dress, $350 at Nordstrom. Shoes, $49 at DSW. La Regale black crystal clutch, $34 at Von Maur.

Thomas Knoell Whimsy bracelet, $233; and earrings, $148; both from Nancy’s Bridal Boutique.

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Consider a dress in silver, navy or blush pink. They will coordinate with most bridal color schemes. Don’t try to match your dress to others.

Pick a dress that fits the venue and time of day. A garden or beach wedding calls for a lighter, more casual dress, and an evening wedding needs a more formal style.

Stay away from shawls and boleros that can be fussy.

Consider adding a knee-length coat to a shorter dress, especially if it may be chilly at the wedding venue.

Don’t forget to add your shape wear. Try it out before the big day to make sure it’s comfortable.

Shoes really complete the outfit — don’t be afraid of a little bling. Forego pantyhose unless you have something to hide.

If you do, try opaque hose, especially with navy and dark colors. Wearing suntan-color hose is never OK, however.

If you pick a dress from a store’s “everyday” collection, just know someone else could wear the same dress to the wedding. If that doesn’t bother you, there are many options.

When you pick your dress, consider what looks great on your shape. If you’re bigger in the waist or bust, choose a V-neck and simple lines that skim the middle. If you want to hide your arms, try on a dress with sleeves or a light cape. Have great arms? Wear a halter, strapless or one-strap dress. If you are bigger on the bottom or have a thin figure, a princess shape always looks great since it highlights your waist and skims your hips. If you pick a print, make sure it’s the right scale for your figure. No-curves figures can also wear very fitted, snug dresses and look amazing. Take the time to look in the mirror and make sure you feel fabulous.

Sources: Martha Stewart Weddings and Brides.com.

ABOUT OUR MODEL: Mary Collyer and her husband, Jeff, will have been married 30 years in October. They have three daughters, and Katie is the oldest and first to get married. Mary and Jeff have lived in South Harbour in Noblesville for 20 years. Mary worked as an instructional assistant for Noblesville Schools for many years but recently decided to substitute teach instead.

She also volunteers with the Boys & Girls Club and Noblesville Schools Education Foundation.

ALL-NIGHT GLAMOUR This satiny gown will keep you shining through the day or night, until that slice of cake has been eaten, and the bride and groom have made their exit. The rose-gold shade is flattering against nearly every skin tone, and the cut is formfitting — flattering on hourglass and straight shapes.

Mary’s advice to other mothers of brides and grooms is to be a sounding board for ideas, but bear in mind that it’s their wedding. “You already got to plan yours, so let them come to their own conclusions,” she said, adding, “of course, it doesn’t hurt to lead them in the direction you think is best.”

Dress by Calvin Klein, $179; necklace by Charter Club, $49; and Gold Champagne shoes by INC, $69.65; all at Macy’s. Gold purse by Nina, $55 at Von Maur.

LEFT TO RIGHT: MEG, SHANNON, JEFF, MARY AND KATIE COLLYER.

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CAREGIVER OF THE YEAR GREENWOOD BUS DRIVER RECEIVES CICOA’S CAREGIVER OF THE YEAR It all started over a heart-shaped pizza on a cold winter afternoon in Garfield Park.

Maria Dampier was a single mom trying to make ends meet. She wasn’t interested in dating. But then Bill Dampier came along and asked her out, and she said, yes. They were both bus drivers at Perry Township Schools.

“I wasn’t interested at first,” she recalls. “He asked me to go to Garfield Park in February and have pizza. He even got a heart pizza for me. It was kind of romantic … and it went from there.”

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They married on Dec. 30, 1972. Of course, on that happy occasion she couldn’t imagine how things would turn out.

Instead of growing old together at home in Greenwood, where they built their lives around four children, Maria spends her days caring for Bill as Alzheimer’s disease robs him of his ability to walk, say more than a word or two, or care for himself.

She does it out of love. She does it, she says, because it’s just the right thing to do, the thing that a lot of people do every day. She’s surprised when she learns that CICOA has named her the 2017 Caregiver of the Year, an award given annually to someone who gives of themselves to care for a loved one.

“SAVE WHAT YOU NEED, BUT ENJOY YOUR LIFE. HAVE ENOUGH TO PAY THE BILLS, BUT SPEND THAT MONEY WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE.“ Her daughter, Beth Green, nominated her for the award. When CICOA posted the finalists on its Facebook page asking for the public’s help in selecting a winner, Maria received 652 votes. Dozens of people posted messages, too — people Maria’s never even met.

“She possesses much strength and courage to keep pushing forward despite the obstacles she’s facing,” her daughter wrote.

Nearly every day since, Maria drives her morning bus route, and then heads over to the nursing home to care for Bill. He smiles when she walks into the room. She stays until it’s time for her afternoon route, and then she returns again, staying until about 8 p.m.

She bathes her husband, puts lotion on him and tucks him into bed.

“I just want to be there, because I want to be the one who takes care of him,” she says.

There are days she feels guilty about being away to drive her bus, something she’s done for 48 years. However, she doesn’t want to retire until she’s been there 50 years.

Her dad worked for 50 years, and that’s been her goal, too. Plus, she admits it helps to break up her days when she gets to go talk to the kids on her route.

As she reflects on their life, she offers this advice.

Life certainly hasn’t turned out the way Maria had imagined.

“Save what you need, but enjoy your life. Have enough to pay the bills, but spend that money with the person you love,” she said.

“It’s hard to see someone deteriorate who was so able-bodied,” Maria says.

“There wasn’t a thing he couldn’t fix.”

She and Bill were penny-pinchers. They saved for retirement, but instead of taking trips, all their retirement savings is going to pay for nursing care. They saved too much to qualify for any assistance.

At age 18, Bill took over his dad’s milk delivery business for Golden Gurnsey Farms. He drove a bus, and for 42 years he was night custodian at Greenwood Schools. Despite working three jobs, he never complained.

“We did have a good time. We had those weekends. We had vacations and had our good times, so I can’t feel sorry for myself. It’s been a good life.”

It’s just not the life she had imagined.

They both worked hard, saved enough money to buy a house and boat on Lake Lemon, where they spent weekends and summer vacations water skiing.

“There are lots of kids in this town Bill taught to ski, kids in their 40s now,” Maria says.

Bill, 80, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease about seven years ago, but things took a turn in December 2015, when he fell and broke his hip and femur.

When he woke up from the surgery, he was a different person. He no longer could walk or talk. After 100 days in rehab, he showed no signs of improving.

He no longer could care of himself, and Maria made the difficult decision to place her husband in a nursing home.

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CARING FOR THE VULNERABLE When people are not sound of mind, they are more susceptible to mistreatment.

Sometimes it is at the hands of a criminal, but well-meaning caregivers can become desperate, too. Here, experts touch on two areas in which our elderly loved ones can be abused and how we can help.

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how to protect elderly family members from fraud MUST-READ TIPS FROM BEDEL FINANCIAL Don’t leave elderly parents or relatives alone, isolated and vulnerable to fraud.

Educate them about the latest scams. Recently the United States Senate Special Committee on Aging released its “Fighting Fraud” book, providing the top scams for 2016. Get it at aging.senate.gov (search “Fraud Book 2017”).

If it isn’t feasible for you to personally be actively involved, assemble a team of trusted advisors (e.g. financial advisor, accountant, lawyer) to watch over your loved one(s).

Even if a family member is providing care for your mom or dad, having others involved is a smart move. Many problems occur when one person has unlimited access to seniors without any checks and balances in place.

Above all, stay connected. The better communication with your loved ones is, the more likely you will be able to protect them from harm.

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ELDER FRAUD SCAMS TO WATCH OUT FOR Financial fraud is the fastest-growing form of elder abuse, as scammers find seniors easy prey. Since fraud comes in many forms, the best way to avoid financial disaster is to stay on top of the latest trends in these kinds of crimes. Here are nine scams Nancy Moore, Senior Medicare Patrol Program Director at the Indiana Association of Area Agencies on Aging, says seniors should be wary of.

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LOTTERY SCAM If you receive an email that claims you are the winner of a foreign lottery, don’t believe it.

Don’t shell out your hard-earned money for “winnings” you’ll never receive.

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DURABLE MEDICAL EQUIPMENT SCAMS Be skeptical of companies that offer medical equipment at reduced prices, or claim Medicare will cover the cost. More than likely, the product will be inferior and will need to be replaced.

PHONE SPOOFING Scammers can change the caller ID to a number other than the calling number. If you don’t recognize a name or number, let it go to voicemail.

PHISHING EMAILS Phishing is designed to steal your identity. The messages look authentic and may feature corporate logos, but if they ask for credit card or account information, delete, delete, delete.

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“CAN YOU HEAR ME?” SCAM If you receive a phone call from someone asking, “Can you hear me,” hang up. If you say the word “yes,” a scammer can record it and use your voice to authorize unwanted charges.

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HOME REPAIR SCAMS Door-to-door sales are a favorite among home repair scammers. Be skeptical of anyone who pressures you to accept an offer, or who says they can do the work that day.

GRANDPARENT SCAMS Scammers like to take advantage of your sentimentality.

In this case, someone may call, claim to be your grandchild and ask for money. Talk to your family before taking action.

FAKE DEBT COLLECTORS Scammers will call and try to collect payments for “overdue accounts.” Be wary of these calls, as the IRS does not contact individuals by phone. Screen your calls, always.

“FREE” TRIAL OFFERS Free trial offers may seem risk free, but it’s common for seniors to be repeatedly billed every month. It can be extremely difficult to cancel, too.

If you or a loved one believes you are a victim of financial fraud, or would like more information on how to protect yourself, contact these agencies: AARP www.aarp.org, 866-448-3618 Indiana Association of Area Agencies on Aging www.iaaaa.org, 800-986-3505 Indiana Attorney General Consumer Protection Division www.indianaconsumer.com, 800-382-5516 Office of the Inspector General www.oig.hhs.gov

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PROTECTING SENIORS FROM

Anyone of any age can get scammed, but seniors make the easiest targets. Each year they lose billions of dollars to scam artists, friends and family.

But if they’re armed with the facts and know what to do when a fraudster comes calling, they’re far less likely to be victimized.

How Big a Problem Is It? Huge! A 2015 Consumer Reports article reported that elder financial abuse alone (i.e. the illegal or improper use of an older adult’s funds/assets) costs families between $3 billion and $36 billion every year. The true cost probably lies somewhere in-between.

And it’s on the rise.

A Scam for Every Vulnerability Recently the United States Senate Special Committee on Aging released its “Fighting Fraud” book. (found at aging.senate.gov) Warning: It’s a depressing read that can shake your faith in mankind, but it contains valuable information. Here are the book’s Top 10 scams for 2016: • IRS impersonation scams • Sweepstakes scams • Robocalls/unwanted phone calls • Computer scams • Elder financial abuse • Grandparent scams • Romance scams/confidence fraud • Government grant scams • Counterfeit check scams • Identity theft Unfortunately it’s not always professional thieves and strangers you have to protect yourself from.

According to a 2013 Consumer Reports article, ninety percent of abusers are family members or trusted others.

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Remember This: The IRS Will Not Call You!

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This is the big one. In 2016, IRS impersonation scams were three-anda-half times more prevalent than the other nine scams combined. In this scam con artists, claiming to be IRS agents, call you. Sometimes they’ll say you’re due a refund and then try to trick you into divulging private information. More often they’ll claim you owe taxes and demand immediate payment – often threatening you with arrest.

The IRS will never initiate contact with you via phone call or e-mail. Instead, you’ll receive official correspondence through the mail. The IRS won’t ask for sensitive personal information such as credit card or bank account information. If you receive a “fishy” call, hang up. If you’re unsure – perhaps there’s a legitimate reason the IRS might need to contact you – hang up, then call the IRS for confirmation.

How Can You Protect Your Family?

The best way to protect someone you love is to stay connected. Don’t leave elderly parents or relatives alone, isolated and vulnerable to fraud.

Educate them about the latest scams.

The book Fighting Fraud is a good starting point. If it isn’t feasible for you to personally be actively involved, assemble a team of trusted advisors (e.g. financial advisor, accountant, lawyer) to watch over your loved one(s). Even if a family member is providing care for your mom or dad, having others involved is a smart move. Many problems occur when one

Being scammed by fraudsters, friends or family is a serious, and growing, problem impacting seniors today. Combatting it takes constant vigilance, perseverance and personal involvement. There are no shortcuts.

But spending time on prevention is far better than desperately trying to undo the financial and emotional damage resulting from senior fraud.

David Crossman, CFA, is an Investment Manager with Bedel Financial Consulting, Inc., a wealth management firm located in Indianapolis. For more information, visit their website at www. bedelfinancial.com or email David at dcrossman@bedelfinancial.com.

Copyright © 2017 Bedel Financial Consulting, Inc. All rights reserved.

David Crossman, CFA, is a Senior Portfolio Manager at Bedel Financial Consulting, Inc., a wealth management firm located in Indianapolis. For more information, visit their website at www.

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CARING FOR OUR ELDERS: WHO’S THERE WHEN THE BREAKING POINT ARRIVES?

By Vicki Maynard, SarahCare of Indianapolis

It was a bitter, cold day in January, and we had begun our morning coffee hour at SarahCare. A caregiver I had been taking with about his wife attending adult day services came to our door. His face was flushed, and he was obviously upset.

“My wife, my wife,” the caregiver stammered, “Can you take her?

“I can’t take it any longer,” he pleaded. “I have to get away from her, even if I just go to McDonald’s and get a cup of coffee. I am afraid I will hurt her.”

Our reply was instantaneous. Of course we could take her.

With that simple invitation, John brought Mary into the center. Mary had no awareness of her disease; dementia had taken away her ability to understand.

John and Mary had been married for more than 40 years. John was a retired university professor.

Mary had been an elementary school teacher who wrote children’s books about Indianapolis because she wanted stories to read to her students. They had two grown boys who’d created successful careers and families of their own.

Their life plan didn’t include dementia.

John never thought he would become so frustrated with Mary that he could become abusive. When he married Mary, she was gentle and loving. But the gradually increasing stress tied to being a caregiver 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, became too much for him to endure.

Caregivers often react to excessive stress. Chronic fatigue becomes an issue that no amount of sleep can help. Caregivers find themselves depressed over what “should have been” at this point in their lives. Now their lives are about managing behaviors, medications and medical bills. Stress and anxiety from limited finances and resources exacerbate the situation.

Caregivers don’t recognize burnout until it’s overwhelming.

As a community, we need to be more aware caregivers’ needs and help attend to them. When coworkers and family members see warning signs, they should not be afraid to discuss them.

Help is available for caregivers and their loved ones.

John returned to SarahCare a few hours later. He went home and took a nap, read the newspaper and had a cup of tea.

At SarahCare, Mary found an outlet for her restlessness. She participated in activities and went home tired, making John’s evenings a little more manageable. She assisted the SarahCare staff with bus responsibilities when it was time for participants to go home. Her experience as a teacher was put to good use. It made her the perfect person to organize the line of people at the door, and when children visited she enjoyed reading to them.

After the plan came together and Mary settled into her routine at SarahCare, John went back to being a loving husband and caregiver.

When that occasional desperate phone call arrives or another haggard caregiver walks into our center, I always remember John and Mary.

I will always be grateful we were available to help them out on that cold winter’s day in January.

Vicki Maynard is the Executive Director at SarahCare of Indianapolis.

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PONYTAIL PALM A full sun plant with a lot of character! Requires almost no water throughout the winter months, as it stores water in its trunk. Genius.

VITAMIN D, STAT! While still easy to maintain, these plant varieties have but one critical request: sunlight.

YUCCA This full-sun plant can really take the heat.

A great plant for any southor southwestfacing window.

CACTI No surprises here: Cacti can take the heat and require very little water. Perhaps lesser known, they come in all sorts of interesting shapes, sizes and colors. Plant them in almost any container with sand or small pebbles (just make sure to allow for drainage). Watch them bloom and have fun pairing them together!

OLIVE TREE A symbol of health and wealth, the olive tree makes an excellent housewarming gift. It can handle sun, but not quite as much as the others listed here — make sure it doesn’t dry out.

LOW LIGHT, LOW WATER, NO PROBLEM. These laid-back, lowmaintenance beauties will thrive without much sunlight, water, or even attention from you. (The perfect house mate.)

SANSEVIERIA Also called the snake plant, this perennial comes in a range of colors and patterns, and ranks as one of the best natural air purifiers (NASA tested! for its ability to remove airborne carcinogens.

Water 1–2 times each month.

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PHILODENDRON This quintessential house or office plant comes in an enormous number of varieties.

It has moderate to light watering needs and can tolerate moderate to bright light. Talk about adaptable!

ALOCASIA POLLY This striking, no-fuss companion plant has naturally glossy tricolored leaves. Just make sure to give it a stable balance of indirect light and frequent sips of water.

ZZ PLANT Appropriately nicknamed the “bachelor plant,” this beauty can be watered as few as nine times a year. Maintains highly glossy and upright leaves — if you see them leaning or turning yellow, hydrate a bit more.

POTHOS Called devil’s ivy, the pothos comes in a variety of colors and can grow long vines when nurtured. Can tolerate being slightly under or over watered.

SHOW ME SOME LOVE Plant nurturers and lovers, these are for you. Consider a Plant Nanny to keep these varieties appropriately watered. And dote away.

MAIDENHAIR FERN A pretty, delicate and very thirsty fern, the maidenhair needs to be watered on an almost daily basis.

FIDDLE LEAF FIG Also known as a ficus, this popular sculpture-like plant can really dress up an interior space.

While some refer to it as the “big baby” of the plant world, it’s fairly easy to maintain as long as you keep it in one spot. Don’t put it where you plan to put your Christmas tree in the winter — that’s the worst time of year to move it.

SPATHIPHYLLUM The peace lily has beautifully glossy leaves and blooms pretty white flowers. While most plants don’t like to be re-potted, this one is an exception. You can re-pot every 12 months. If leaves start to droop, hydrate more.

ECHEVERIA The so-called "desert rose" has a lovely flower and an interesting, unique trunk. This delicate succulent is not for beginners, but with the right care can boast a gratifying bloom.

SWEET SUCCULENTS. By far the cutest of all the plants, succulents like to be warm during summer and cool in winter. Make sure to let the soil dry out between waterings.

Houseplant Specialist Ra Gadd at Allisonville Nursery studied fine art at Anderson University.

For the last 20+ years, she has used her good taste and design sense in horticulture and floriculture.

STRING OF PEARLS Also named "pearls of wisdom," this succulent is relatively easy to care for and blooms an interesting flower that will trail over the edge of a shelf or hanging pot.

PENCIL CACTUS Almost the opposite of a String of Pearls (at right), this plant looks like sticks and can grow tall. Also called "fire sticks," it will turn yellow, orange or red as it gets more sun.

KALANCHOE With its signature fuzzy leaves, Kalanchoe comes in a limitless number of varieties. Collect them and display together in groups.

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Baby boomers are no stranger to the dangling world of macramé, but this decorative knotting trend has come full circle, gaining major popularity among millennials. We’ve spotted it in designer home magazines, Houzz and from Fixer Upper power couple Chip and Joanna Gaines — not as much as their beloved shiplap, but it’s up there.

Keeping with the style, Kit found a variety of simple macramé hangers, each costing $24 or less. They are adorable paired with planters and plants from Allisonville Nursery and McNamara Florist. Check out more plants to pair them with on page 53.

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Cut three, 8-foot strands of macrame cord. It can be purchased in a variety of colors for any craft store.

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DIY PLANT HOLDER If you can tie a knot, you have the skills to create this easy macrame design.

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Create a new set of pairs by taking two adjacent cords from two different knots and tying them together like the previous step.

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SEVERAL MONTHS AGO, BASIC PÂTE À I had a dear friend stop by for the sole purpose of having me try an éclair she had purchased from a new local bakery, not usually my first pastry choice because the quality can vary so widely. But one bite and I knew it was perfection.

That taste brought back a fond baking memory — this one goes deep, circa ’77, when I was in high school making cream puffs for a pitch-in at work. I’m not sure if it was beginner’s luck or most likely a detailed recipe, but the cream puffs were visually stunning and delicious, with all the key components coming together: shiny chocolate icing glazed the top of the crispy pastry, filled with a classic French pastry cream.

I’ve been making this dough ever since for a range of pastries, including my favorite, choux, or pâte à choux, the pastry base for éclairs, profiteroles, cream puffs and those beautiful swans. The recipe is very simple, and you can achieve success if you are not rushed and examine the dough throughout the process, especially while adding the eggs as they are absorbed in the dough. I find it best to mix them in by hand using a wooden spoon or silicone spatula and a good-sized mixing bowl. I urge you to set aside some time for this, or invite a friend over and make this pastry — you will be glad you did!

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Adapted from a Julia Child recipe, this is the version I’ve had the most success with to make éclairs, cream puffs, swans and the cake bases. I do not recommend doubling this recipe. You will need double the amount for the cake bases, but because of the technique, I suggest you just make the recipe twice.

7 tablespoons butter (brown butter optional, see note below) 1 cup water 1 cup flour 1 pinch nutmeg 4 large eggs (cage free preferred) 1| Melt butter with the water in a heavybottomed saucepan; bring to boil.

Add the flour and nutmeg all at once, stirring until it forms a ball; reduce the heat to medium and cook the dough by spreading it against the bottom of the pan with a silicone spatula, stirring and repeating for 2 minutes.

2| Remove from heat and transfer dough to a mixing bowl, using the paddle attachment. Beat — and this is key — adding the eggs one at a time, scraping the bowl after each addition.

Do not rush this step! Each egg should be fully absorbed into the pastry before adding the next. The dough should resemble a thick, shiny paste. Place in a pastry bag and follow each recipe’s instructions below for baking.

NOTE: To make your own brown butter, place 7 tablespoons butter in a small saucepan.

Heat over medium, consistently stirring or swirling the butter around in the pan until it is light brown in color; be careful to not let it burn. Strain using cheesecloth or a fine-mesh strainer. (For the eclairs, and cake layers I prefer to brown the butter.

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1. The pastry dough for the swan’s body should be the size of a walnut. 2.

Horizontally cut off the top half of the baked body. 3. The swan neck is a long “S” shape. 4. Swan heads and necks are ready to assemble!

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ÉCLAIRS PASTRY GANACHE 1 cup heavy cream 14 ounces semisweet chocolate, chopped 1| To make the ganache, in a small saucepan, bring the cream to a boil and then remove from heat; add the chocolate and let sit for 10 minutes. Stir, stir, stir until smooth, or cheat and use an immersion blender.

ÉCLAIRS Basic Pâte à Choux, 1 recipe (see page 61) 1| To make the éclairs, first preheat oven to 400 degrees. Using a 16-inch pastry bag, snip about 1/3 inch off the bottom.

To make smaller éclairs, as I prefer, pipe the basic pâte à choux dough onto a parchment-lined sheet pan into 21/2 -inch strips, leaving 2 inches in between each.

If you have any peaks on your éclairs, wet your fingers and smooth them out.

2| Place in the 400-degree oven until golden brown with firm sides (about 12-15 minutes).

3| Remove from oven and place on a rack.

Cut horizontally and cool. Fill with desired fillings. (See note below.)

4| Once filled, chill in the refrigerator until firm, and then dip the tops in warm ganache. Chill and serve within 24 hours.

NOTE: The baked shells freeze well and lend themselves to an array of fillings and toppings.

I usually like to make a batch for the éclairs, and then make another batch for the swans.

NOTE: For fillings, I like to use a berrytinged whipped cream (gently mix 2 cups whipped cream, 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract, 1/2 teaspoon almond extract; fold in 1/2 cup crushed freeze-dried strawberries).

ÉCLAIR CAKE LAYERS If you know you don’t have the patience for making a lot of little pastries, I’ve included this delicious éclair cake recipe.

Each choux recipe should make a total of two layers, so you will need to make two batches of dough for this four-layer cake.

Basic Pâte à Choux, 2 recipes (see page 61) 1| Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

2| On a sheet pan, trace two 8-inch circles on parchment as a guide for your layers. Pipe the dough onto the parchment, circling from the outside into the center until the layer is filled; spread to even with an offset spatula if needed. Repeat on the other circle. Bake in a 400-degree oven until light brown

(about 15 minutes).

3| Remove from the oven and place on a cooling rack, cutting slits in the layers to let steam escape. You will need to repeat this to make a total of four layers.

PASTRY CREAM FILLING 2 cups whole milk 1 /2 cup plus 2 tablespoons (reserved) sugar 1 /4 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons vanilla extract or a 1/2 vanilla bean, split 3 tablespoons cornstarch 1 tablespoon flour 4 large egg yolks 2 cups heavy cream (1 cup to be heated and 1 cup whipped, to be folded into the cooled product) 3 tablespoons butter 1| In a medium-sized, heavy-bottomed saucepan, stir together the milk, 1/2 cup of the sugar, salt and vanilla bean (if using whole bean). Bring to a simmer over medium heat, stirring to dissolve the sugar.

2| Meanwhile, whisk the cornstarch, flour and egg yolks with 1 cup of the cream.

Whisk some of the hot milk mixture with the yolks into the cream mixture to temper them, and then add the egg/ cream mixture to the saucepan; bring to a boil over medium high heat, stirring constantly with a whisk until the mixture thickens (about 5 minutes).

3| Remove from the heat and strain through a fine sieve. Stir in the butter and vanilla extract (if using extract).

Place in a bowl to chill, and then evenly sprinkle the top with the 2 tablespoons reserved sugar — this keeps the pastry from forming a skin — and cover with plastic wrap directly on top of the pastry cream. Refrigerate until cool and firm.

TO ASSEMBLE Pastry Ganache, 1 recipe (see above) Toasted walnuts and dried bananas, to garnish

SWANS I’m pretty sure the swans are long out of fashion, but I’ve never made them without guests being in awe of their beauty, and they always get eaten up.

Basic Pâte à Choux, 1 recipe (see page 61) 16 ounces whipping cream 2 tablespoons powdered sugar, plus more as needed for assembly 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1| Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

2| Put about 3/4 of the pâte à choux dough in a large pastry bag and snip off about 1 /3 inch from the end. Pipe the dough onto a parchment-lined cookie sheet and pipe out 18 walnut-sized balls, with 11/2 inches in between each (tamp down any points of pastry with wet fingers).

Place in the 350-degree oven for 12 minutes. Remove and cool on a rack. Cut each ball horizontally in half, and then delicately cut the top in half (this will be the wings).

3| To make the heads/necks, put the remaining dough in a different pastry bag with and snip a smaller opening (about 1/4 inch). Pipe 18 “S” shapes on a parchment-lined baking sheet and bake for 12 minutes, watching closely so they do not burn. Place on a rack to cool.

4| To make the whipped cream filling, place the cream in large mixing bowl; with the whipping attachment, start on low speed for a few minutes, and then increase the speed until peaks are stiff.

Add the sugar and vanilla. Place the whipped cream in a pastry bag with star tip, or cut the tip of the pastry bag about 1/2 inch.

5| Line up all of the bottom pieces of the pastry puffs, and then heavily pipe the whipped cream into each one; place wings on each side and the necks in the center. Dust with powdered sugar and serve or store in the refrigerator for up to 24 hours.

1| On bottom layer of cake, spread on about 3/4 cup ganache to edges.

2| Place the next cake layer on the top and add about a cup of the pastry cream, spreading to the edge of the layer.

Place the third layer on top, spread on the ganache to the edges, and let it set for about 20 minutes in the freezer.

3| Add about 1 cup pastry cream and spread to the edges; place the last layer on top, and pour the remaining ganache on the top, letting it drip down the sides of the cake. Garnish with toasted walnuts and dried bananas.

NOTE: I prefer to brush the cake layers with a thin layer of warm preserves (e.g., tangerine fruit spread) before adding the ganache and filling. Use a total of 2 tablespoons per layer.

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