Mamas&Papas February 2017 by Kwenta Media

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Mamas & Papas February 2017 Cover Models: Zari and Diamond Platnumz Photographer: Gareth Jacobs Styled by: Palesa Sethlapelo Assistant: Lelethu Tobi Make-Up: Vuyo Valoyi Dressed by: African Fashion House, Leviâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;sÂŽ

On the cover 18 Essential oils and pregnancy 26 Be a five-star birthing partner 40 Curb bad toddler habits 60 An affair of the heart: Zari and Diamond Platnumz 66 Escape on a babymoon while you still can 69 New Year nerves: Are you ready for 2017?

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Features

Your regulars

11 Should you go for preconception counselling?

13 Preggy diaries

31 The power of your baby's suck

22 Preggy fashion 30 Baby names

36 The healing waters of infant hydrotherapy

34 Hall Of Fame

49 Measuring intelligence and maturity

46 Kids’ fashion

52 Snacks for families on the go

48 Kids’ voices

56 Talk is far from cheap

59 Gogo’s advice

72 In every issue 06 From the Editor’s Pen 08 Contributors’ Page 09 Your Letters 44 Subscriptions 96 Stockists List

73 Parents with pizzazz 76 News & tips 78 Recipes: For the sweet tooth 83 Reviews 84 Exercise 88 International travel with children 92 GEMS baby showers

Columns 10 Fertility: Dr Antonio Rodrigues 17 Dr Serote Says: Dr Khensani Serote 24 Your gynae 44 Dr Dad: Dr Ashraf Ahmed 72 Family law: Adv. Veerash Srikison 75 DeConstruct to Construct: Fumani Shilubana | FatherFigureZA

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77 Cancer column: Zoleka Mandela 86 Motoring: Melissa Jane Cook

Section guidelines 10 Pre-pregnancy 13 Pregnancy 26 Labour & Birth 30 Babies 0-1 year 40 Toddlers 2–3 years 48 Preschoolers 4–7 years 56 Special Needs 59 Working Moms & Dads

COVER PHOTOGRAPHY: GARETH JACOBS. IMAGES: DEPOSITPHOTOS, ISTOCK, RENNLIST, SHUTTERSTOCK, STAFFORDS.

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Parenting... Your Way!

CEO of Kwenta Media & Editor of Mamas & Papas Managing Editor Features Writers

Fashion & Beauty Editor Fashion & Beauty Interns Proofreader Senior Designer Junior Designer Digital & Web Specialist Marketing & Sales Team Business Development & Production Manager Brand Strategist Marketing Team Intern Operations & Finance Operations & Finance Manager Administrator Office Drivers Advisory Board

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Tumi Mdluli Tracy Maher Cathrine Versfeld, Claire Maher, Fulvia Stoltz, Hlulani Masingi, Kati Dijane, Loren Stow, Melissa Jane Cook, Peta Daniel, Thina Mthembu Tumi Mdluli Palesa Sethlapelo, Lauren Matthews Nuraan Motlekar Lelethu Tobi Siphokazi Masele Lekeke Mahlo

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Kelly Moyo Palesa Sethlapelo Gabriel Mashishi, Kamohelo Mokoena, Yusuf Msinyi Adv. Veerash Srikison, Grace Masuku, Dr Alessia Gioliano, Dr Antonio Rodrigues, Dr Ashraf Ahmed, Dr Birgit Katharina Bothner, Dr Bongani Khumalo, Dr Sumayya Ebrahim, Lethepu Matshaba, Major-General Jackie Modise, Maria Sterrenberg, Mohammed Bhabha Adv. Veerash Srikison, Dr Antonio Rodrigues, Dr Ashraf Ahmed, Dr Khensani Serote, Fumani N. Shilubana, Gina Wolfenden-McDowell, Melissa Jane Cook, Zoleka Mandela Kwenta Media (Pty) Ltd. Kwenta House, 19 Weaver Street, Fourways, 2191 Tel: 011 467 5859 or 0861 873 689, Fax: 086 416 1529 Mamas & Papas: P.O. Box 4437, Dainfern, 2055 www.mamasnpapasmag.com / www.kwentamedia.com subs@mamasnpapasmag.com advertising@mamasnpapasmag.com editorial@mamasnpapasmag.com info@mamasnpapasmag.com / info@kwentamedia.com

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Choose LOVE

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right track. I am learning to embrace my journey and I choose to be happy over being perfect. At times, this can mean choosing to cuddle up to my husband for movie night knowing that I won’t get to see the end because I’ll be tucking our daughter into bed. I have had to convince myself that it’s OK to not have a sparkling clean home because I put the needs of my baby, her father and myself first. It is OK to be tired. It is okay to not feel OK. It is OK to get a last-minute babysitter so that we can go out on a date night. It is OK to relax and put myself first for a change. I am learning to say ‘no’ – even to those who have been there for me and love me dearly. At times, the birthing methods and parenting styles we choose may upset those nearest to us, but we must always be true to ourselves. I choose love. I choose me. I choose to make it my way. Pick love daily, it’s the only guide that stands true. We wish you a month filled with love!

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lease don’t tell me that I am one of ‘those moms’ – these are my thoughts as I put pen to paper. Writing this letter is my special time because I get to share a portion of my life with you not just as a fashion editor, but also as a new mom who sometimes moves about the house covered in food stains, while pulling faces to make my baby smile. I have seen parents whose kids cry for candy in shopping aisles, or who sneak outside to splash in the dirty puddles just after bath time – or those with that odd toy that simply has to bath, sleep and ride in the car with them. Before I had my daughter, I used to look at these children and wonder what on earth the parents were thinking. I could never understand how children who were normally so well behaved would play up the very moment their parents had important visitors and friends over. Being a mom slowed me down in the most graceful, humbling and beautiful way. I am in awe of miracles all around me. I used to just grab my wallet, lipstick and car keys and I was good to go. Now, I have to double-check the baby bag, pack clothes for all four seasons in one day, prepare milk and feeds, plan my route, and watch out for that ‘mom is in a hurry, let me sneak in a last minute poopy’. Even in the unplanned moments of life, there is so much love inside of me. I never knew that I could have so much love for my baby, flesh of my own, heart of my heart – and for my husband for making me a mom. However, I am not the supermom my husband would have everyone believe. I feel very needy at times; I need help to get the housework done and to even catch my breath. When I feel guilty because I feel less-than despite the beauty around me, I find solace in the knowledge that there are other women out there who are moms, who run blue-chip companies, who keep ultra-fit and still seduce their partners in the most intimate way at night. Parenting is complex and it is difficult to know if you are on the M a m a s & Pa p a s

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M&P|columnists & contributors FERTILITY COLUMN

CANCER COLUMN

FAMILY LAW Dr Antonio Rodrigues MBBCH(Wits) FCOG(SA) MBA(Henley)

DR SEROTE SAYS

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Infertility specialist, founder developer and director of Medfem Fertility Clinic, along with fellow directors, Dr Johan van Schouwenburg and Dr Johan van Rensburg. Co-author of the book Faster, Better, Sicker and co-developer of StaminoGro (Georen Pharmaceuticals). The doctor’s special medical interests lie in lifestyle management to improve fertility. Dr Rodrigues is married to clinical psychologist Mandy Rodrigues and together they have six children, ranging from 28 to 6 years in age. Contact Dr Rodrigues on 011 463 2244.

Advocate Veerash Srikison Advocate Veerash Srikison is an internationally accredited mediator at Fair Practice in Johannesburg. For more information on mediation and how you can benefit from it, visit www.fairpractice. co.za.

Although the unexpected and tragic loss of two of her children surpassed her battle with addiction, her early breast cancer diagnosis catapulted Zoleka from a journey of pain and struggle to one of hope, faith and inspiration. Zoleka is an author, a motivational speaker and founder of the Zoleka Mandela Foundation. Visit www.zolekamandelafoundation.org.

@zolekamandela zolekamandelafoundation

Contact Veerash on 011 046 2644.

DR DAD (PAEDIATRICIAN)

DECONSTRUCT TO CONSTRUCT (FATHERHOOD)

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49 Fumani N. Shilubana

Dr Ahmed is a Johannesburg-based paediatrician and father of 5 children, Iman (16), Mehreen (9), and 8-year-old triplets Jazib, Taheem and Alman – conceived naturally! His wife Aneesa is also a doctor.

Father, actor, producer, social entrepreneur, founder of Father Figure ZA and DeCon2Con Talks “If the passion and talent that God gave me won’t make a better difference in people’s lives, then I don’t want to do anything.”

Contact Dr Dad on 011 875 1845 or 011 875 1840.

Bewitched by the magic of France, Melissa Jane Cook is an intrepid explorer. A lover of traversing the globe, she eagerly absorbs different cultures and laps up the magnificent oceanic experiences. Wooed by words and writers alike, her penchant for facials, chocolate, owls and bugs is surpassed only by her fascination with the stage aglow in lights or bookshelves that heave with stories, where characters invite her along on their marvellous journeys. @jwanderlustmjc

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Dr Khensani Serote is a qualified medical doctor working and living in Johannesburg, South Africa, with 21 years in practice, both state and private. She is a board member at iARi (for the incubation and innovation of African renaissance and indigenous knowledge systems). She is a real mom of two boys, dealing with real health and everyday issues like all moms and choosing to use natural ways. She is also a coach and mentor for small business, a wife and a businesswoman.

ED. PSYCHOLOGIST

Melissa Jane Cook

Dr Serote

Dr Ashraf Ahmed

@FumaniShilubana @FatherFigureSA FumaniNShilubana FatherFigureSA

Claire Maher Claire works fulltime at a school in Johannesburg and maintains a private practice. Claire is interested in attachment, barriers to learning and fair assessment practices in South Africa. In her free time, Claire enjoys drinking tea, cycling, photography, cooking and spending time with her family and friends. Contact Claire on 071 150 1863 or clairemaher.psych@gmail.com. @Educ_Psych

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We want to hear from you Zizikazi Ntontela I’m expecting a baby girl early next year. My firstborn (boy) is turning 10 this December, so this is like a new experience again. The excitement of having a girl, also! Your magazine is helping me. Thanks to the GEMS baby shower, I’m hooked. 196 reactions

Fulufhelo Siaga She is so beautiful. Nonceba Bara White dress, please. Agrineth Mano Very beautiful.

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A LOOK INSIDE THE WOMB Dr Antonio Rodrigues explains how pregnancy scans work and what you can expect in each stage of pregnancy

FIRST TRIMESTER During your first trimester, you may have an early scan at about six weeks or seven weeks. However, this will only happen if you’re experiencing problems, such as pain or vaginal bleeding.

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Your first scan is likely to be a dating scan, when you’re between 10 weeks and 13 weeks plus six days pregnant. This will confirm your due date. The dating scan is especially important if you’re having screening tests for Down syndrome because a correct due date is needed to make the result accurate. Your first scan won’t be able to tell you if you are carrying a boy or a girl just yet, but it will show your baby’s heartbeat and reveal the basic anatomy of your baby’s head, abdominal wall and limbs. Studies have found no link between ultrasound and birth weight, childhood cancers, dyslexia or hearing. A nuchal translucency (NT) scan can be conducted between 11 weeks and 13 weeks plus six days of your pregnancy, or when your baby measures between 45 millimetres (1.8 inches) and 84 millimetres (3.3 inches). In most cases, this will be combined with a blood test for increased accuracy.

anomaly scan shows that your placenta is lying low in your womb, you may need a follow-up scan at 32 weeks. Most of the time, the placenta has moved into a better position by the time you’re 32 weeks pregnant. However, if your sonographer can’t get a clear picture, she may offer to do a transvaginal scan through your vagina to confirm the position of your placenta.

THIRD TRIMESTER In your third trimester, your doctor or midwife may recommend that you have a growth scan between 28 weeks and 40 weeks. This will be if you:  Previously gave birth to a small baby.  Are having twins.  Have other complications, such as diabetes or high blood pressure.  Are pregnant with a baby that measures smaller than expected.  Are measuring larger than expected and your midwife suspects that there’s too much fluid around your baby.

SECOND TRIMESTER In your second trimester you’ll be offered an anomaly scan between 18 weeks and 20 weeks plus six days to check that your baby is developing normally. If the

Ultrasound scans have been used in pregnancy for decades and nobody has found them to be harmful, if carried out correctly.

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our first pregnancy scan can be very exciting because it gives you the first glimpse of your baby. Although it’s great to have that first photo for your baby album, the purpose of the scan is to check how many babies you’re carrying, and whether they’re developing normally. An ultrasound scan sends sound waves through your womb (uterus) that are interpreted by a sonographer or your doctor. These waves bounce off your baby as echoes, and the echoes are then turned into an image on a screen that shows your baby’s position and movements. Hard tissues, such as bone, reflect the most sound waves and so make the biggest echoes. These appear white in the image, and soft tissues appear grey. Fluids, such as the amniotic fluid surrounding your baby, appear black, because the sound waves go through them without any echoes.

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PRECONCEPTION COUNSELLING We often consider counselling prior to marriage or as a last resort, before things fall apart. Melissa Jane Cook asks an expert why couples planning a baby should consider sitting down with a therapist first. M a m a s & Pa p a s

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