HOOKED ON YOU

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MINISTRY OF HEALTH, SOCIAL POLICY AND EQUALITY OFFICE OF THE SECRETARY OF STATE FOR EQUALITY Office of the Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence 1

General catalogue of official publications: http://www.060.es

Published by: Ministry of Health, Social Policy and Equality.

Office of the Secretary of State for Equality.

Office of the Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence.

Paseo del Prado 18. 28014 - Madrid Email: violencia-genero@igualdad.mspsi.es Website: www.mspsi.es Coordinated by: Pilar Gómez Muñoz Official advisor Miguel Lorente Acosta Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence Authors: © Text: Miguel Ángel Giner Bou. © Artwork: Cristina Durán Costell.

Design and layout: LaGRUAestudio.

The authors benefitted from the advice of Carmen Castro (SinGénerodeDudas) and the supervision of the Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence when producing this comic-strip.

Official publication identification number (NIPO): 860-11-021-7

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HOOKED ON YOU OLIVIA AND MARTIN'S STORY CRISTINA DURÁN / MIGUEL A. GINER BOU

MINISTRY OF HEALTH, SOCIAL POLICY AND EQUALITY OFFICE OF THE SECRETARY OF STATE FOR EQUALITY Office of the Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence 3

HOOKED ON YOU FOREWORD It might seem made up, a cautionary tale rather than a true story, or something surreal and far off, as if real life had nothing to do with the pictures in the comic-strip or the characters with people we see every day on the metro or bus. But I can assure you that Olivia and Martin’s story is real and the characters in it aren’t from another planet or a figment of someone’s imagination. The main characters could be any of those girls or boys you see each day around school or down at the local shopping centre.

People you know, girls who fall for boys who seem lovely at first, but who then start thinking they own the girl, that she belongs to him…and they stop being lovely and turn violent.

A survey conducted by the Ministry of Equality on teenage girls and boys across Spain shows that roughly 1 in every 10 girls says they have experienced an abusive situation at the hands of the boy they are going out with. A little more, 1.3 in every 10 teenage boys, admit to behaving aggressively towards their girlfriends. So you see, it’s not all that uncommon and it is closer than you think. Maybe you think I’m exaggerating and you wonder what these guys have done for us to think they have been abusive. I’ll tell you: these guys themselves admit to, for example, hitting their girlfriends, making them feel afraid, insulting them or making them look a fool, or they have made them feel that they are worthless. They have also sent images of their girlfriends or messages with their mobile or over the internet to insult them or humiliate them...to name just a few of these things. As you can see, this isn’t just kids’ stuff. It is the complete opposite. These are genuine acts of aggression that form part of the violence suffered by women, even the very youngest.

This is why it is really important for you to be aware of this kind of violence and understand that it appears to be the most normal thing, as if it was just a part of being in a couple, or at least part of being with a particular partner, which means it is justified instead of rejected. What’s more, it is very widespread as you have seen: remember, nearly 10% of teenagers admit to experiencing it or inflicting it at some time! It can happen anywhere, forget about poverty, conflict, alcoholism and drug addiction...any teenage boy can inflict it if they decide to do so; it all depends on his will.

And if this is the case, have you ever wondered why so many teenage boys inflict it in all kinds of places? This is a good question. If the same kind of behaviour appears in highly different circumstances, it means there must be something in common to all of them, something that is nothing to do with whether the parents earn more or less money, whether the family have a higher or lower level of education, whether they live in one neighbourhood or another, ...if it was a result of certain circumstances, it

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would be associated with them. Yet it’s not. Being violent to women crosses all barriers and situations to arise in any couple if that is what the aggressor wants. They all have the same cultural references.

By culture I’m not talking about cultural expression in the form of art, literature, painting or music, etc.

I mean values that our culture gives us to organize how we live in society and the functions and roles assigned to us as part of these cultural references so we grow up to be “real” men and women. These values say different things to girls and boys, allowing some boys to feel that they should control “their girl” as part of a commitment to the relationship so they don’t look bad and his friends don’t think he’s under the thumb or that she could cheat on him with his friends. And these values make girls believe that when “their guy” gets tough or tells them not to talk to other friends (whether girls or boys), or tells them to wear different clothes… he does it for love, because he’s jealous and jealousy means love.

And that’s completely true: he does do it for love, but love of himself, because he is selfish and thinks he owns her. These values make him think that he is the one who can set limits in such a way that the relationship adapts to what a culture built by men believes a relationship between a couple should be.

This is how deception occurs, which leads to the most serious expressions of inequality; these include violence to and discrimination of women, the same as “it’s no time for a girl to be out” or “this place isn’t suitable for a woman”.

Where there is love, there cannot be violence. And everything that involves imposing, limiting or controlling a girl’s will is violence because it forces her to obey her boyfriend, and because it leads him to act in a more violent way by means of aggression to correct what he considers to be wrong or feeling that it is her behaviour that threatens his status as a man.

Putting up with this behaviour doesn’t mean you love him more or that he is more of a man by behaving like that. The human condition is based on respect for Human Rights. If you find yourselves in situations like those described in the comic-strip or you know that it is happening to someone you know, don’t hesitate, hesitation always traps the person suffering from the violence and reinforces the person being violent as the only thing it does is draw it out over time and prolong the circumstances surrounding it. Ask questions, raise the issue, call 016, ask for help and give it yourselves like Olivia’s friends do. We need to build a better society where there is no longer any violence. By taking action together, we can succeed.

Miguel Lorente Acosta Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence

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HEY LOOK OLIVIA, A PUPPY! DO THINK IT’S DANGEROUS, CAROLINA?

JUST LOOK AT IT, IT’S SO SWEET.

YES IT IS...

HI DOGGY...

LARACROF!

LARACROF!

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THERE YOU ARE, YOU STUPID ANIMAL!

I’LL TEACH YOU TO OBEY YOUR OWNER……...

HE... HE WAS PLAYING WITH US AND... AND...

I’LL TEACH YOU!

OLIVIA! OLIVIA, HELP ME!

LEAVE HER ALONE, YOU BULLY!

WHAT’S THIS? YOU WANT SOME TOO, DO YA?

OOO... OLI...

VIAAAA...

O…... OLIVIA… DO SOMETHING...

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OLIVIA!

OLIVIA.

OH, SORRY, I WAS MILES AWAY…...

YEAH, I NOTICED...

I WAS JUST THINKING…...DO YOU REMEMBER THAT GUY I TOLD YOU ABOUT? MARTIN? THE ONE ON THE FOOTBALL TEAM?

YOU SHOULD SEE THE WAY HE LOOKS AT ME…..

I THINK HE FANCIES ME…...

I’VE NEVER FELT THIS WAY ABOUT ANYONE BEFORE…... …... THE OTHER GUYS WERE JUST A BIT OF FUN.

DON’T TELL THEM THAT, HA HA…...

LOOK, HERE COME RAQUEL AND AHMED.

YOU GO GIRL!

HIYA, CAN YOU LET ME HAVE THE NOTES FROM MATHS?

SO MARTIN FANCIES YOU THEN?

COURSE…... AND YOU KNOW I’LL HELP YOU IF YOU WANT...…

CAROLINA, ****!

OH, THAT’D BE GREAT…...

HA, HA... …I’M OFF, I’VE GOT ART.

LISTEN, THE OTHER DAY I WAS IN THE CHANGING ROOMS AND I HEARD HIM TALKING ABOUT YOU…...

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YOU DID?

YEAH, YEAH...WHERE YOU LIVED, WHICH CLASS YOU WERE IN, THAT KIND OF STUFF...

MARTÍN!

YEAH?

OH MY GOD! DID YOU SEE HOW HE JUST LOOKED AT YOU? TALK ABOUT OBVIOUS!

ISN’T THAT THE GIRL YOU FANCIED?

OH MY GOD, I THINK I JUST WENT BRIGHT RED…I’M GONNA POUNCE ON HIM AT THE PARTY.

WHO’S THAT I CAN SEE? IT’S MY LITTLE BUDDHA…...

MUM, DAD, I’M HOME.

YEAH RIGHT, THAT’S NOT EXACTLY YOUR STYLE…...

OLI... VIAA...

WELL, SEE YOU TOMORROW.

CIAO.

HELLO LOVE, GIVE ME A HAND WITH YOUR BROTHER, I NEED TO START THE SUPPER.

HI SWEETHEART.

O.. LI... VIAA...

O.. LI... VIAA...

HI MUM, I’LL GIVE ADRIAN HIS SUPPER…...

SO, HOW WAS SCHOOL TODAY?

FINE, SAME AS USUAL...

JUST FINE? SO WHAT‘S THAT TWINKLE IN YOUR EYE?

OLI... VIAA...

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ERRRR..…. WEEELLLL..….

I THINK THERE’S A BOY WHO LIKES ME...

BITE THE DUST, YOU MINGING ZOMBIE!

ARE YOU STAYING FOR TEA, RICARDO?

****! THEY’VE KILLED ME AGAIN!

NO, NO, I SAID I’D BE BACK FOR TEA AND I DON’T WANT PROBLEMS WITH THE OLD MAN.

MARTIN, TEA’S READY!

WHATEVER... …BY THE WAY I THINK I’M GONNA TRY AND PULL THAT GIRL FROM SCHOOL…...

I DUNNO... …I’LL TRY AND PULL HER AT THE PARTY ON FRIDAY…...

YEAH, I REALLY FANCY HER.

THAT OLIVIA? SHE’S A FOX...

WHATEVER, BUT DON’T SAY I DIDN’T TELL YOU SO: THEY’RE ALL A PAIN IN THE NECK.

RICARDO’S NOT STAYING, WHAT’S FOR TEA?

AS USUAL...

WHERE’S DAD?

HE’S BUSY AT THE OFFICE, HE’LL BE BACK LATE...

YEAH, AS USUAL...

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WELL, THEY’RE ALL THE SAME REALLY…...

I’VE LEFT A SANDWICH OUT FOR YOU... I’VE ALREADY HAD MINE.

OH NO OLIVIA…I... VE JUST HEARD THE GUYS ON THE FOOTBALL TEAM AREN’T COMING…...

THEY’VE GOT TRAINING AND THEY’RE NOT COMING, SORRY…...

HOW COME?

WELL…... IT DOESN’T MATTER... DON’T WORRY…...

WILL I HAVE TO START EATING SPINACH?

Hi..

HIVA! IT’S OLIVIA, ISN’T IT? AND YOU’RE MARTIN...

HA HA, YOU’VE GOT THE SAME NAME AS POPEYE’S GIRLFRIEND.

THAT’S GOOD IDEA...

AND THE SAME ONE AS THE GIRL IN FRINGE…... ?

AM I ON TIME? DEPENDS...

ON WHAT? ON WHAT YOU WANTED TO BE ON TIME FOR…...

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TWO MONTHS LATER. … ... THEN CAROLINA TO HAVE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE PAGES IN HER COMIC…...

I CAN’T, I TOLD YOU I’M MEETING AHMED…...

AND THEN I’VE GOT TO PICK ADRIAN UP.

AHA. HI OLIVIA, HI MARTIN. HI SIR.

WHY DON’T YOU COME TO TRAINING AND WAIT FOR ME?

BUT IF YOU LIKE I COULD COME AND MEET YOU WHEN I’VE PICKED ADRIAN UP…...

EH... …NO, NO. I CAN’T JUST NOT MEET THEM.

BUT MARTIN, HE LOVES WATCHING YOU PLAY…HE HAS SUCH A GREAT TIME.

TUT…... DOES YOUR BROTHER HAVE TO COME?

WELL, SEE YA...

SPEAK LATER...

HI AHMED, LET’S HAVE A LOOK AT THIS THEOREM…...

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SO WE’VE GOT A TRIANGLE WITH ANGLES ABC, RIGHT? ABC.

SO A DIVIDED BY SIN A EQUALS B DIVIDED

BY SIN B, WHICH EQUALS…... OH, THERE GOES MY MOBILE AGAIN. MISS U...

NOT AGAIN! FOR GOD’S SAKE OLIVIA, THAT’S THE TENTH TEXT...

I CAN’T CONCENTRATE WITH THAT GOING ON.

HE’S JUST REALLY AFFECTIONATE…...

HE’S A PAIN IN THE NECK MORE LIKE...

YEAH, IT’S STOPPED RAINING…...

WHAT? YOU MEAN RIGHT NOW?

NO, NO IT’S NOT THAT…...

IT’S JUST I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE PLANS AT THE LAST MINUTE.

WHAT ABOUT CAROLINA AND...

AND... ADRIAN ?

UHM, AHMED... TRAINING’S BEEN CALLED OFF AND…...

ER... WELL, I’M LEAVING…...

TAP, TAP, TAP, TAP.

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WELL, ALRIGHT THEN…... I’LL LET THEM KNOW I’M NOT COMING…...

THAT WEEK...

I CAN BRING THE DRINKS…...

HI OLI, WE’RE PLANNING TO GO TO THE BEACH THEN THE CINEMA ON SATURDAY.

HI BABE, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?

HI GUYS, WHAT’S UP?

COURSE! IT SOUNDS GREAT!

FANCY IT?

WE’RE GOING TO THE BEACH THEN THE CINEMA ON SATURDAY...

KILLING ZOMBIES, WANNA JOIN ME?

I’LL TELL MARTIN LATER...

WE’LL DEFINITELY COME!

ON SATURDAY? I’VE GOT A MATCH ON SATURDAY...

COURSE! AS IF YOU NEED TO ASK...

WELL, UHM…... I’LL GO, I REALLY FEEL LIKE IT…...

WHAT? I THOUGHT WERE COMING TO SEE US PLAY...

... … IT’S A BIG MATCH.

ER...… IT’S JUST IT’S BEEN AGES SINCE I WENT OUT WITH THEM...

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WHAT’S THE IT’S JUST, FOR GOD’S MATTER? AREN’T SAKE OLI, YOU MAKE WE PLAYING EVERYTHING SO COMPLIANYMORE? CATED…...

I’VE ALREADY TOLD THE GUYS YOU’RE COMING…...

I’D REALLY LIKE YOU TO BE THERE...

AND BY THE WAY... CAN YOU DO YOUR TOP UP A BIT? I CAN SEE EVERYTHING...

WELL, YOU COULD HAVE ASKED ME FIRST.

YOU’RE KIDDING, RIGHT?

COME ON OLI…... THEN ME AND YOU CAN GO TO THE CINEMA…...

BUT TO SEE ONE OF OUR FILMS, NOT THAT SOPPY STUFF YOUR FRIENDS ARE INTO...

COME ON, IT’S NO BIG DEAL…...

OH. WHAT’S THE MATTER?

IT WAS OLIVIA...

GUESS WHAT?

WELL, IT’S NORMAL… THEY’VE GOT BETTER THINGS TO DO!

SHE’S NOT COMING ON SATURDAY. KNEW IT!

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OH PEDRITO, YOU’VE GOT A ONE TRACK MIND.

THIS ONE’S NICE, MUM.

YES, WHAT’S WRONG WITH IT? DON’T YOU LIKE IT?

TH...THAT ONE?

IT’S JUST AS YOU ALWAYS WEAR SHORT SKIRTS, I’M NOT USED TO SEEING YOU WITH SUCH A LONG ONE…...

WHY DO YOU SAY THAT? IT SUITS ME.

YES, YES I LIKE IT… I’M JUST SURPRISED YOU DO.

SKIIIIIIIIRT...

OOO... LI... VIAA.

WELL MUM, I’M OLD ENOUGH TO WEAR WHATEVER I LIKE, AREN’T I?

WHY DON’T YOU STOP TREATING ME LIKE A CHILD?

NO DARLING, IT’S NOT THAT…...

AND STOP TALKING DOWN TO ME LIKE THAT... ...I CAN’T STAND IT.

IT’S MARTIN... HE’S WAITING FOR ME OUTSIDE...

WH...WHAT ABOUT THE SKIRT?

I’M OFF.

I DON’T CARE! JUST LEAVE IT THERE!

OLIVIAAA...

CROOOOOSS…...

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HERE, YOU CAN HAVE MY GO…...

I’M GOING FOR A WEE.

YOU GET THEM, BABE...

BRING US UP SOME NICE COLD CANS…...

I’M GOING THE OTHER WAY...

WHAT!?

WHAT’S UP?

JUST YOU LISTEN TO ME…...!

CAN’T YOU EVEN DO THAT FOR US?!

IF I TELL YOU TO BRING US A DRINK, YOU BRING IT AND THAT’S THAT!

YES, IF I WAS GOING DOWNSTAIRS, BUT I’M NOT, SO YOU CAN DO IT...…

YOU’RE KIDDING, RIGHT?

YEAH, A JOKE...

DO US A FAVOUR AND JUST BRING THE ******* CANS AND LET’S FORGET ABOUT THIS.

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THE NEXT MORNING AT SCHOOL…...

AND REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REPORT IT, TO REQUEST A RESTRAINING ORDER AND TO RECEIVE INFORMATION ON LEGAL PROCEDURES...

LOTS OF PEOPLE ARE IN A SITUATION OF RISK AND THEY DON‘T REALISE IT...

THERE’S ALSO THE 016(*) HELPLINE AT YOUR DISPOSAL. I’LL LEAVE YOU A LEAFLET…...

016(*): Helpline providing legal advice and information on gender-based violence.

OK, PLEASE THANK THE SPOKESWOMAN FROM THE VIOLENCE UNIT OF THE EQUALITY MINISTRY FOR HER TIME.

I’M IN A HURRY...

THANK YOU VERY MUCH, IT WAS A PLEASURE…...

OLIVIA, CAN YOU HANG ON A MINUTE? IT WON’T TAKE A MOMENT...

I DON’T KNOW WHETHER YOU KNEW I COACHED HIM FOR A FEW YEARS, HOW’S IT GOING WITH HIM?

DID YOU LIKE THE TALK? IT WAS VERY INFORMATIVE...

THAT’S NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU…...

I SEE YOU’RE GOING OUT WITH MARTIN FROM THE FOOTBALL TEAM…...

COME ON OLIVIA, DON’T TRY AND ACT TOUGH, IT’S NOT YOUR STYLE…...

YEAH...SO WHAT?

WHAT IS MY STYLE IS FOR PEOPLE TO LEAVE ME ALONE…...

JUST TAKE THE LEAFLET AND HAVE A LOOK AT IT, PLEASE...

WHATEVER YOU SAY...… AND IF YOU’VE FINISHED HAVING A GO AT ME, I’M GOING...

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DO YOU LIKE IT?

CAROL? YOU HAVEN’T CALLED ME THAT FOR AGES...…

SINCE WE WERE LITTLE...…

DO YOU REMEMBER THAT PUPPY?

LARACROF! CAROL, THIS IS AMAZING...

GOD... WE WERE SO SCARED.

HOW COULD I FORGET?

YEAH, DO YOU REMEMBER I SAID YOU WERE LIKE A BLOCK OF WOOD?

IT’S JUST THAT..…

UHM…... YOU’RE A BIT LIKE THAT NOW, OLIVIA…...

YOU’RE PUSHING US AWAY, YOUR FRIENDS...

AHA...

¡***** CAROLINA! NOT YOU AS WELL!

I’M WORRIED ABOUT YOU...

WELL YOU CAN STOP WORRYING BECAUSE I’M A BIG GIRL NOW...

BUT OLIVIA...

LOOK, WHAT WE’VE GOT IS SOMETHING REALLY SPECIAL…...

YOU LOT DON’T UNDERSTAND HOW WE FEEL. ESPECIALLY YOU…... YOU’D NEVER GET A GUY LIKE THAT...

WHAT’S THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?

PFFF...

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... …AND WE THRASHED THEM…...

HA, HA, OH MY GOD!

HI BABE, WHAT’S UP? YOU LOOK A BIT DOWN...

IT’S BECAUSE OF ME, ISN’T IT?

IT’S NOTHING...

YOU’RE RIGHT, I WAS OUT OF ORDER…...

NO, SILLY...

I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT IT ALL DAY...

YOU KNOW I’M HOOKED ON YOU...

... HOPING TO BUMP INTO YOU TO SAY SORRY...

SO GO AHEAD, PUNISH ME, YELL AT ME, TELL ME TO GET LOST, WHATEVER YOU WANT…...

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BECAUSE OF THE DRINK THING THE OTHER DAY…...

THAT WEEKEND OUTSIDE THE LOCAL BAR...

HIYA.

OLIVIA? FANCY COMING FOR A DRINK? WE’RE ALL HERE...

HI CAROLINA, HOW’S IT GOING? HEY, ISN’T THAT MARTIN? ... …AND THE WHOLE TEAM… WASN’T HE SUPPOSED TO BE PLAYING AWAY ALL WEEKEND?

YEAH, THAT’S WHAT OLIVIA SAID... I’M GONNA RING HER.

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AH, OK...

UHM…... SHE’S NOT COMING...…

SHE’S GOT TO LOOK AFTER HER BROTHER AND SHE’S STAYING IN TO REVISE…...

SHE’S EXPECTING MARTIN TO RING AFTER THE MATCH!

AND, JUST LISTEN TO THIS BIT…...

HEY, THEY’RE LEAVING, THE FOOTBALL GUYS ARE LEAVING…...

LET’S FOLLOW THEM TO FIND OUT WHAT THEY DO, OK GUYS?

UHM…... BETTER NOT, CAROLINA. WE DON’T WANT ANY TROUBLE…...

WELL, I’M GONNA FOLLOW THEM...

... ANYWAY WE’VE GOT TO REVISION TO DO…...

HMMM, WHERE COULD THEY HAVE GOT TO?

COME ON THEN IF YOU THINK YOU’RE HARD ENOUGH!

OH MY GOD!

LET’S SEE WHAT YOU’RE MADE OF..

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SUNDAY EVENING. HEY, YOU’VE GOT A MASSIVE BRUISE ON YOUR RIBS...

OH, THAT’LL BE FROM YESTERDAY’S MATCH…...

I DON’T KNOW HOW YOU CAN LIKE SUCH A VIOLENT SPORT…...

WELL YOU DON’T SEEM TO MIND WIPING OUT ZOMBIES...

OH THAT’S NOT THE SAME, THAT’S PRETEND...

HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT I SAID?

ABOUT KILLING ZOMBIES? NO STUPID, ABOUT TAKING IT FURTHER…...

THERE’S NO WAY I’M LETTING YOU TAKE PHOTOS OF ME WITH YOUR MOBILE!

YOU KNOW I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT THAT…...

I DON’T KNOW… LET ME THINK ABOUT IT A BIT LONGER…...

YOU ALWAYS SAY THAT YOU LOVE ME: IT’S ABOUT TIME YOU SHOWED ME, ISN’T IT? YES, AND I’VE NEVER LOVED ANYBODY LIKE I LOVE YOU, BUT I NEED MORE TIME. 24

I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR MONTHS, I CAN’T WAIT FOREVER…...

THE OTHER DAY I SAW YOU FOOLING AROUND WITH SOME GIRLS...

WHAT WE’VE GOT IS SPECIAL, YOU’LL NEVER FIND ANYTHING LIKE IT…...

YEAH, BUT YOU DON’T LET ANYONE GO ANYWHERE NEAR ME...

OH THAT? THAT’S NOTHING, IT’S NORMAL FOR GUYS TO FOOL AROUND...

…... AND IF THEY DO YOU SPEND AGES NOT SPEAKING TO ME AND YOU GET IN A RIGHT STROP…...

SORRY, BUT IT’S STUFF I’VE BEEN WANTING TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT FOR A WHILE...

YOU’VE DONE IT AGAIN! YOU’VE CHANGED THE SUBJECT AGAIN!

STUFF? IS THERE ANY OTHER STUFF?

YES, BUT DON’T GET CROSS…...

IS THAT EVERYTHING YOU WANTED TO TELL ME?

IT’S JUST WE ALWAYS GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS…... I MISS MINE. PFFF, YEAH BUT YOUR FRIENDS ARE SO STRAIGHT…...

UHM...YOUR FRIEND RICARDO…...

WHAT ABOUT HIM?

… AND BORING...… YOU’VE SAID IT YOURSELF BEFORE…...

I DON’T KNOW…... I JUST DON’T LIKE HIM…...

YOU ACT DIFFERENTLY WHEN YOU’RE WITH HIM.

LOOK, RICARDO’S LIKE A BROTHER TO ME…...

HIS FAMILY HAVE PROBLEMS AND I KIND OF FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR HIM…...

HE ISN’T A GOOD INFLUENCE…...

HE ISN’T A GOOD INFLUENCE? YOU SOUND LIKE MY OLD WOMAN! IF YOU’RE AS KIND AS YOU SAY, YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT, SHOULDN’T YOU?

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COME ON MARTIN, DON’T BE LIKE THAT…...

IT’S LIKE YOU’RE DELIBERATELY TRYING TO **** ME OFF!

OH, HELLO CAROL… OLIVIA’S NOT HERE, SHE’S AT A BASKETBALL GAME...

COME ON IN THEN, I THINK I KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO TALK TO ME ABOUT…...

HELLO CARMEN, I DIDN’T COME TO SEE HER, I CAME TO SEE YOU…...

THE FOLLOWING DAY. HAVE YOU SEEN CAROLINA?

H…...HI OLIVIA...… SH... …SHE WAS PLAYING BASKETBALL…...

WHAT’S THE MATTER?

CAROLINA!

EH, EH...

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WHAT THE **** DID YOU TELL MY MUM AND DAD?!

CALM DOWN?! MY FOLKS ARE PACKING ME OFF TO IRELAND FOR THE WHOLE SUMMER!

CALM DOWN OLIVIA...

AND JUST WHEN I’D SORTED MY HOLIDAY OUT WITH MARTIN…...

YOU’RE RIGHT, I’M SORRY, I SHOULDN’T HAVE GONE TO YOUR FOLKS…...

THE THING IS YOU DON’T REALISE BUT YOU’RE NOT YOU ANYMORE, IT’S LIKE YOU’VE HAD A PERSONALITY TRANSPLANT…...

THAT’S MY BUSINESS!! AND YOU SHOULD LEAVE OUT OF IT!

I TOLD YOU, YOU’RE MY FRIEND AND I’M WORRIED ABOUT YOU…...

WELL FROM NOW ON YOU‘LL HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT FINDING ANOTHER FRIEND TO PUT UP WITH YOUR STUPID IDEAS...

HEY, THAT’S OUT OF ORDER...

YOU’RE JUST NOT THE SAME ANYMORE OLIVIA, YOU’VE LOST YOUR SPARK…...

YOUR PROBLEM IS THAT YOUR’RE SO JEALOUS YOU CAN’T STAND IT.

IF EVERYTHING’S SO GREAT WITH HIM, WHY DON’T YOU ASK HIM ABOUT LAST SATURDAY NIGHT?

YOU’RE...… YOU’RE LIKE THAT LITTLE DOG THAT LOOKED SO FRIGHTENED AT ITS OWNER…...

LAST SATURDAY? THEY WERE PLAYING AWAY…...

ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT? WHY DON’T YOU ASK HIM?

THAT’S WHAT YOU’RE LIKE WHEN YOU’RE WITH MARTIN…...

NO WAY IS THAT LOVE...

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GO TO HELL!

WHERE R U?

WHAT HAPPENED LAST SATURDAY NIGHT, MARTIN?

AT FTBLL, WHY?

EH?

THERE WASN’T A MATCH, WAS THERE?

WHO TOLD YOU THAT?!

WHO’S GRASSED?!

SO IT’S TRUE THEN?

THAT’S NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU…...

WHAT DO YOU MEAN IT’S NOTHING TO DO WITH ME?!

I’M SUPPOSED TO TELL YOU EVERYTHING I DO! WHO I’M WITH, WHERE I’M GOING AND YOU JUST LIE TO ME!

OK, I LIED...

BECAUSE GIRLS DON’T UNDERSTAND THAT STUFF...

GOING AROUND PICKING FIGHTS?

WE WENT TO SETTLE A SCORE WITH THE GUYS FROM THE OTHER TEAM…...

IT’S NO BIG DEAL...

I SEE, THE BRUISE WAS FROM THE FIGHT…...

WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ME?

WHAT’RE YOU TALKING ABOUT? 28

DO YOU THINK THAT’S GOT TO DO WITH BEING A GIRL?

LOOK I’M GETTING FED UP WITH YOUR NONSENSE…...

NOW TELL ME WHO GRASSED!

WELL IT WON’T BE BECAUSE YOU DON’T DESERVE IT…...

OF COURSE, CAROLINA...

WHAT’RE YOU GONNA DO? BEAT IT OUT OF ME?

TELL ME, WHO WAS IT? WHO TOLD YOU?

RAQUEL?

THE PAKI? CAROLINA?

THAT ****STIRRER!

I’LL TEACH HER A THING OR TWO!

CA... CAROL...

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“YOU’RE LIKE THAT LITTLE DOG THAT LOOKED SO FRIGHTENED AT ITS OWNER”

CAROL...

MARTÍN, NO!

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HUH!

NO!

BUT NOT WITHOUT TEACHING YOU A LESSON...

I’LL DEAL WITH YOU LATER...

I’LL LET YOU GO THIS TIME…...!

OWWWW, MY HEAD...

YOU CAN STAY WITH YOUR WEIRDO FRIEND…...

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WEIRDO?

ARE YOU ALRIGHT, CAROL?

THE FOLLOWING DAY.

WHAT DO WE DO IF HE GETS AGGRESSIVE?

YEAH, BUT WHAT IF HE DOES?

THERE THEY ARE...

WELL WE’LL CALL THE POLICE, WON’T WE?

YEAH, AND IT LOOKS LIKE THEY’RE ARGUING. HE WOULDN’T DARE WITH ALL THESE PEOPLE AROUND. 32

YEP, COME ON...

LOOK, I THINK MARTIN’S LEAVING...

HOW ARE YOU?

FINE, FINE… I BROKE UP WITH HIM...…

... FOR GOOD!

AND LOOK AT YOU! NOT A SINGLE TEAR!

WELL, I’VE DONE ALL THE CRYING I NEEDED TO…...

HE DOESN’T DESERVE ANY MORE TEARS...

THANKS FOR BEING HERE FOR ME GUYS....

ME TOO RAQUEL, ME TOO… BUT I DIDN’T WANT TO BE THAT LITTLE DOG....

WE’RE YOUR MATES…... YOU CAN’T GET RID OF US THAT EASILY.

WHAT’S THAT?

OH MY GOD, I WAS SO SCARED!

NOTHING, NOTHING, I’LL TELL YOU SOME OTHER TIME...

SHALL WE GO AND HAVE A NICE RELAXING DRINK?

YOU GO, THERE’S STILL SOMETHING I NEED TO DO…...

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HELLO CAROL.

I’LL GET IT...

DON’T CLOSE THE DOOR, PLEASE.

I’VE GOT SOMETHING FOR YOU...

WELL...… UHM...… I GOT A BIT WET…...

WHAT IS IT? I’M NOT IN THE MOOD FOR ANY MORE SURPRISES…...

TRUST ME…... OPEN IT AND YOU’LL FIND OUT…...

BUT I THINK THAT’S ALL OF THEM, ISN’T IT?

OLIVIA! BUT HOW?

COME HERE YOU!

AND DON’T WORRY ABOUT MARTIN…...

GIVE ME ANOTHER HUG! YOU’RE SUCH A SOFTY!

I DUMPED HIM FOR GOOD!

I’VE JUST THOUGHT OF SOMETHING…...

I’VE LEARNT MY LESSON, CAROL! THANKS TO YOU...

I’M GOING TO DO A COMIC STRIP ABOUT THIS STORY…...

I’LL CALL IT: “HOOKED ON YOU”.

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Survey on Equality and Prevention of Gender-based Violence in Adolescence at:

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Cristina Durán (1970) and Miguel Ángel Giner Bou (1969) graduated in Fine Arts under the speciality of Drawing from the San Carlos School of Fine Arts in Valencia (UPV). In 1993 they opened the LaGRUAestudio where they have been professionally engaged ever since in comics and editorial and advertising illustration. In 2009, Ediciones Sins Entido published its graphic novel UNA POSIBILIDAD ENTRE MIL. In March 2010 it was also published in French by the publishing house Dargaud under the title UNE CHANCE SUR UN MILLION. The novel was shortlisted for the National Comic Prize 2010 awarded by the Culture Ministry and in 2011 it won second prize in France in the 1er Trophée “les Bds qui font la différence”. www.lagruaestudio.com www.unaposibilidadentremil.com

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HOOKED ON YOU OLIVIA AND MARTIN'S STORY “It might seem made up, a cautionary tale rather than a true story, or something surreal and far off, as if real life had nothing to do with the pictures in the comic-strip or the characters with people we see every day on the metro or the bus. But I can assure you that Olivia and Martin’s story is real and the characters in it aren’t from another planet or a figment of someone’s imagination. The main characters could be any of those girls or boys you see each day around school or down at the local shopping centre. People you know, girls who fall for boys who seem lovely at first, but who then start thinking they own the girl, that she belongs to him…and they stop being lovely and turn violent...”

Taken from the foreword by Miguel Lorente Acosta Government Delegate for Gender-based Violence

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