CARL CONNIELINGUS

Guys what can I even say about 2020, never mind Halloween 2020?? What an absolute washout!! This is probably one of my fav times of the year, bar a great Summer lol but even the motivation to dress up was not there, so I have no new pics to delight you with from Halloween haha . . Hayley and I did watch a lot of scary Movies suitable for October time and I’ll go over those on Page 2 :) :)

FUN FACT

I was an army Wife in my early 20’s lol I know right?? Haha . . So yea, I was married to a British Soldier and we were together for 7 years total!! After our divorce he got remarried and had a wee family, and I couldn’t be happier for him!! He was a really great guy and not many people can say that about their exes :) :)

As most of you know, Hayley and I have been together officially now for 1 year on the 1st of November and what a year it’s been. When people say “What a difference a year makes”, it’s this moment that rings that true.

Around 6 years ago, whilst in the middle of a mental breakdown lol I vowed to stay Single for as long as I could so that I could really work on my Mental Health and get back on my feet again, then after 2 years I vowed Celibacy which continued for another 3 years!! Until one late night, scrolling down Instagram (drunk lol), I came across a profile and immediately I was drawn and done something I didn’t do very often, I DM’d the profile and within minutes, Hayley responded. With that came a quick meet up and we became fast friends, although our intentions were more, I realised that there were a few factors that were holding me/us back. I didn’t have anywhere to live at the time because life hit me hard and there was also a 13 year age gap. From then we decided to be friends but I always knew that at some point, we would end up together.

Leaving things like that was hard but so necessary because Hayley got to do what she needed to grow, she even had a relationship through our friendship, and although it was hard to watch at times, I just always knew if I was patient it would happen. And it did, after a few years of intense friendship and feelings (and getting my own apartment) and with all avenues cleared to have a relationship we finally got together and I honestly have to say it’s been one of the best years of my life. She is so beautiful, kind, creative, talented & funny and sometimes I just can’t believe my luck that I get to share my life and memories with her..watch this space for more of our “Queer Love

Story” :) :) <3 <3

2020 is the year of Clear Vision, because everyone’s Mental Health suffering due or is it?? What about our Mental and Financials are severely low to current

Health?? and there seems to be no major events

I mean I do get that, a lot of stuff movements to be able to live please has come to light this year and with this Virus that Scientists say do not they also say that 2021 is the year may take years to completely suffer in of Reflection!! Is it possible that go away!! How as Humans will silence. the Universe is doing a clear out we survive this and how will our If you and reboot if you like, or are we resilience get us through?? I can’t just living in one of the craziest know I’ve been struggling a lot talk times in Modern Human History?? personally due to my diagnosis’ to friends

For me, as an Empath, it’s both and just basic human instinct that or family for whatever and its overwhelming!! something doesn’t feel right right reason you can email myself or

After 6 months of a complete now, because it’s not. Everything alternatively you can contact a

Lockdown due to Covid-19, I think we all had hope and faith that we’ve ever know has been turned upside down, so please variety of places - see below a few examples: OUTRO things would get to some sort of remember, you’re not alone!! Contact your GP/The Rainbow Aw beauts that’s us for another normal, and they did, for just a matter of weeks until Lockdown We are all struggling in our own ways and we need to reach out to Project/Cara-Friend/Lifeline NI - 0808 808 8000 Quarter, and it’s flying in!! I wanna take this time to thank each and every one of you for

No. 2 came. This time it’s been for those who need a help in hand. reading my column and for all 4 weeks but this one is different If your Mental Health has been of your continued support!! I LIFE’S FUNNY This is a very unpopular opinion..but I detest please feel free to drop me an email if you have any questions or queries at carlconnielingus@ MUSIC & MOVIES Christmas!! I like what it’s supposed to be but I hate what it’s turned into!! I even gmail.com!! enjoy a wee Christmas Song or Carol and Next time I’m gonna update you I enjoy the day itself but I hate the run up guys on my Level 2 Barbering

This past while has been quite fun our end for Movies & Music to it, I hate that people get themselves Course, some info on my Ann as we had a Scary Month for October watching the likes of into debt and danger for it, I hate that Summers Parties and of course

Nightmare on Elm Street, Hellraiser, Poltergiest and all of the things are expected from people, I hate whatever Life is gonna throw at

Screams (since the new one is out in 2021) but then also we that prices get hiked and I hate that Kids us over the next few months lol couldn’t leave out Hocus Pocus!! Is it even October if you are lied to about Santa haha I know, but I wish everyone Health & haven’t watched it at least once?? Lol . . **Fun Fact - I seen Hocus Pocus in the Cinema when it first came out in 1993 :) :)** you’s are all calling me “The Grinch” or a “Bah Humbug” but I don’t care, it’s Wealth, please stay kind but stay true :) :) very traumatic when you find out Santa Until then, Give it 10.

Music wise we’ve been swaying more towards Slow Jazz isn’t real and yes, that’s from personal Lots of Love

Jams and Hertz Music with Jellyfish/Aquarium Visuals, as we experience lol find those really help if I’m/We’re feeling really anxious or Carl ConnieLingus overwhelmed!! We are also currently obsessed with Bob Ross Although as I got older, I got smarter and his “Joy of Painting” Series on YouTube, we’ve currently in where to “hunt” for toys etc etc and You can also find me on just started the Season 4 Compilation and we watch it for a ended up ruining my whole Christmas Facebook at www.facebookcom/ soothing experience before bed and also to get some creative Day a few years in a row because carlconnielingus and Instagram ideas from his fabulous Artwork!! My favourite thing about I found everything I got..so yea, I @carlconnie_lingus

Bob Ross is how sweet and kind he is!! He always encourages detest Christmas LOL . . Anyone else

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