Lifestyle Moray Magazine - Oct Nov 2022

- By Mica Bale

Elgin Fashion Show

Whether it’s fitting into your victory outfit, seeing warm coats on your kids' backs or just spotting that perfect pair of shoes to match your favourite top, new clothes can make us feel good. For those who have gained or lost pandemic pounds, fancy a change of style, are looking for gifts or are just seeking a few different glam outfits for nights out, the season of shopping is surely upon us. But could 2022 see the season of sustainable shopping?

Whether you have your collar turned up against the wind or have to do the salsa to get into your skirt and tights, now is a great time to be considering a wardrobe upgrade. But with the cost of living crisis and an ongoing problem with fast fashion, what options are there for looking great whilst on a budget?

Elgin Museum was the recent location of a sustainable fashion shoot which was the idea of local photographer Mark Smith. He comments, “My idea was a case of visiting the museum and thinking this would be a good place for a fashion shoot.”

Claire of Elgin Museum highlights that the museum is an ideal venue for such events as the fashion shoot. She says, “Elgin Museum is Scotland’s oldest continuously independent museum. It opened in 1843 and, inside, the main gallery features a double-height space with horseshoe gallery at first floor level reached by a beautifully ornate T-plan staircase. The large triple windows fill the room with light, creating a unique space well-suited to events of all kinds. In the past we have played host to weddings, drinks receptions, musical evenings and have acted as a backdrop for photoshoots.”

Images by Mark Smith Photography

Photographer Mark Smith continues, “Fast fashion seems to be on its way out of fashion. As for stylising the model and general wardrobe I can't take credit there - the model, Justine, I've met a few times for shoots before and could see she had style so decided she would make a good job of choosing her outfits. With each outfit change we went to a part of the museum that I thought suited the particular look.”

Three Elgin charity shops, Cancer Research, Red Cross and Oxfam, allowed Lifestyle Magazine and photographer Mark Smith the pick of their many clothing donations for Justine Montgomery to model as pictured.

Hayley of the Red Cross in Elgin comments on how important it is to support sustainable fashion, saying, “Sustainable fashion is at the heart of what we do in the Red Cross shop. The clothing donations we receive are all utilised, even if they don't make it on to the shop floor. The clothes that we can't sell are all recycled! A lot of people are now coming in looking for their warmer winter knits and we have lots available at amazing prices.”

Val at Cancer Research highlights, “The shop is fortunate to receive a lot of good quality donations. We have a wonderful selection of autumn and winter clothing for all ages and also accessories at reasonable prices.”

Oxfam Shop Manager Julie Mellis echoed a similar sentiment, commenting “The rapid, mass production of ‘fast fashion’ is depleting natural resources, polluting the environment and contributing to climate change, putting many of the world’s poorest people at risk. The circular economy – in which waste is transformed into raw materials for new products – offers a vital solution to keeping clothing in use for longer.”

Charity shops and other second-hand clothing outlets are a great way to upgrade an outfit or to create a completely new one. Perhaps you have bought a perfect pair of new shoes from one of the area’s many independent shops. Could you make the entire outfit more sustainable by opting for a preowned accessory or item of clothing? Often older or branded and well made clothes are a budget-friendly option whether you are hunting for party outfits this winter or even for gifts.

Here we are in October already, with less than ten weeks until Christmas 2022.

I don’t need to go into details to remind you all of the year we have had, and with the continuing economic crisis and uncertainty over our energy bills, Christmas is maybe the last thing you need to be thinking about.

All I ask is that no matter what budget you have, when considering what you are purchasing for your loved ones then please, please, please ‘shop local’.

If you struggle not knowing what to buy for that one person who you think has everything or is maybe just hard to please, why not choose a Scotland loves local ‘Moray Gift Card’.

You need to order the card online then it can be spent with any retailer across Moray who has signed up to the scheme.

Our town centres, high streets and local busi nesses have faced significant challenges and have lost out on vital trade, through Covid yet many of them went to great lengths to support the most vulnerable people in our communities.

Our high streets are not just a series of buildings where things are bought and sold. The people who run these businesses are our brothers, sisters, mums, dads, friends and neighbours. Our high streets have always been there, and to a certain extent are taken for granted, but if we want them to continue to be there, they need our support. Our small businesses, whether a gift shop, clothes shop, a pub, cafe, tailor, butcher, baker, grocery shop or any of the other wonderful retailers in our towns, they are the lifeblood of our Scottish economy. Now is the time to support them, now is the time to be there for them. Now is the time to think local first.

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Cullen

Cullen, the birthplace of Cullen Skink, sits on the Banffshire Coast in North East Scotland. The Banffshire coast is one of the world’s outstanding coastlines, says the National Geographic. Not just for its natural beauty with plentiful wildlife – there are dolphins, seals, puffins and other seabirds in abundance – but for its “strong community feeling”.

The Royal Burgh of Cullen has stunning sandy beaches and seascapes, coast paths, an historic harbour designed by Thomas Telford, great shops and eateries and places to stay all set against the stunning backdrop of old railway viaducts, Castle Hill viewpoint and the Bin of Cullen and is part of the North East 250 Touring Route.

A walk around the town centre will leave you spoilt for choice with so many wonderful independent businesses, many advertising within these pages. Remember ‘Shop Local’ and support these fantastic small businesses.

From arts and crafts to antiques and vintage, fabulous seafood, gifts and clothing, the wonderful shops in Cullen will offer the best in locally made and sourced products.

Cullen is home to a mouth-watering range of places to eat in or takeaway and being the

birthplace of Cullen Skink and home of the Cullen Skink World Championships, no visit to Cullen would be complete without a bowl of the famous dish followed up by a visit to the Ice Cream Shop.

If you are looking to stay over, we have a quality range of accommodation including self-catering, B&B, hotels and a holiday park. Don’t forget if you have a special occasion, especially with the festive season coming ever closer, that can be taken care of too in the health and beauty salon. Cullen is fast becoming an adventure tourism hot spot with surfing, paddleboarding, sailing, kayaking and coastal rowing on offer and a fantastic range of walking and cycling routes along our coast. You can climb the lofty heights of Castle Hill to enjoy views across Cullen Bay and the Bin of Cullen for panoramic views across the Moray Firth and beyond.

Located on the A98 Cullen is easily accessible by road and on public transport on Stagecoach Bus Service no. 35.

Christmas Markets 2022

Aberlour Christmas Market

Aberlour Christmas Market is on Friday 2nd Dec 4pm-8pm and Sat 3rd Dec 10am-2pm

Aberlour Community Association are continuing the tradition of the Aberlour Christmas Market which was run in previous years by the Rotary club.

There will be the usual stalls from local artisans and businesses with lots on offer to eat and drink too.

Buckie Kracker

Buckie Kracker is on Sat 19th November from 10am – 5pm.

• With all the usual outdoor stalls and a Craft Marquee

• Dance displays and music will be on stage in the square throughout the day

• Don’t forget to visit Santa’s Grotto or enter the Fun Dog Show

Check out Buckie Kracker Facebook page for timetable of events.

Buckie Kracker

Aberloiur Christmas Market

Huntly

Visit Huntly this autumn and winter to enjoy local shopping and a range of seasonal events.

When it comes to food and drink, there are a number of Huntly based producers contributing to Scotland’s rich larder. Select from a range of locally produced meats from award winning butcher Forbes Raeburn, and be sure to stock up on Rizza’s ice cream to accompany those seasonal desserts! Dean’s of Huntly offers a range of delicious Scottish shortbread products and authentic gifts, while an enviable collection of spirits, including locally produced whisky from the town’s Glendronach Distillery, can be found at Whiskies of Scotland. Browse Huntly’s town centre businesses to find gift ideas for everyone, including books, art, flowers, jewellery, fragrances, cosmetics, gift vouchers and more.

Take time out from the bustle of shopping to enjoy a walk in Huntly’s stunning surroundings, or discover the history and heritage at Huntly Castle or nearby Leith Hall and Gardens. Sports enthusiasts can enjoy the range of activities available at the Nordic and Outdoor Centre, including Nordic skiing, roller skiing, tubing and cycling.

There is plenty to experience in Huntly, and despite the seasonal temperatures, a warm welcome awaits!

Start your Christmas shopping early and take advantage of a range of £5 offers across Huntly during Fiver Fest from 8 – 22 October. A host of local businesses are taking part, with items including fresh local produce, cosmetics, local Christmas cards and more all on offer. Why not treat yourself to coffee or lunch deal too while you shop.

Find out more at www.experiencehuntly.com

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Huntly’s Festive Event Dates For Your Diary

Huntly Farmers’ Market

Saturday 5 November, 9am – 1pm

The Square, Huntly

Featuring the best in locally produced foods and plants - from farm reared beef, venison and lamb, to artisan fresh breads, cakes and fudges, honeys, cheeses, oatcakes, pies and seafood, beers, dips, pizzas, veggies and plants.

Christmas Craft Fayre

Saturday 26 November, 10am – 3pm

Ex-Servicemen’s Club, 59 Gordon Street, Huntly Stalls, Crafts, Homebakes, Raffle, Refreshments

Free Admission

Huntly Festive Farmers' Market

Saturday 3 December, 9am - 1pm

The Square, Huntly

The regular line up of stallholders bringing the best of seasonal local produce and special guest stalls including wreaths, seasonal gifts, gins, rums and street food.

Huntly Crafters Craft Fayre

Saturday 3 December, 9.30am – 2pm

The Gordon Arms Hotel, The Square, Huntly

A host of local crafters offer a range of handmade items offering the perfect Christmas gifts for family and friends. Come along and have a browse.

Coffee Morning and Huntly’s Citizen of the Year Award Presentation

Saturday 3 December, 9.45am – 11.45am

The Stewarts Hall, 15-17 Gordon Street, Huntly Come along and enjoy a fly cup and fine treat. Funds raised will go towards ensuring the return of Santa’s reindeer to Huntly. The Huntly Citizen of the Year Award Presentation will also be made.

Santa and Sleigh Collection

Around Huntly

Saturday 3 December, afternoon onwards

Greet Santa as he travels through the streets of Huntly in his sleigh spreading festive cheer.

Santa’s Reindeer Visit Huntly Sunday 11 December, 4pm – 7pm

The Square, Huntly

Come along and see Santa’s reindeer before their busiest night of the year!

Huntly Festive Farmers' Market

Sunday 18 December, 10am - 1pm

The Square, Huntly

A final chance to stock up before Christmas as stallholders bringing the best of seasonal local produce and special guest stalls including wreaths, seasonal gifts, gins, rums and street food.

HUNTLY LIBRARY

Brander Building, The Square, Huntly Join our team for Christmas craft sessions every Saturday in December leading up to Christmas. We will also have lots of festive story sessions throughout December. See our Facebook page for details: https:// www.facebook.com/ HuntlyLibraryAberdeenshire/

Huntly Farmers Market

Duff House and Bridge of Alvah circular

Tracy undertakes lovely walks all over our beautiful country and we are delighted she has agreed to provide Lifestyle readers with the inside knowledge that she has gleaned from her many adventures.

I hope you enjoy Tracy’s walks? Please do let us know and send us some photos. Follow Tracy goes outside on Facebook (www.facebook.com/tracygoesoutside)

Iheaded to the coastal town of Banff in Aberdeenshire for this walk exploring the beautiful grounds of the historical Duff House, before heading into the stunning countryside and ending with coastal views of the Moray Firth. There are several fascinating hidden treasures to explore and admire along the way.

In the carpark you will see a signpost for the icehouse and Bridge of Alvah, follow the sign

Distance: 5 ¼ miles

Time: 2 - 2 ½ hrs

Level: Easy with little elevation

Terrain: Mix of woodland path, quiet country lanes and pavements.

Access: Arrive by car, parking is available at the Duff House playpark carpark, AB45 3SX. There is a regular No 35 Stagecoach bus that runs between Elgin and Aberdeen, the nearest bus stop is in the carpark opposite the entrance to Duff House.

straight ahead through the large gates. There is a path that forks to the left but stay on the main path and you will shortly come to the icehouse which was used as an early fridge for Duff House.

Back on the main track, a short walk after the icehouse, you will come to the stunning gothic style Duff House mausoleum that was erected in 1793 by James the 2nd Earl of Fife. The mausoleum is the final resting place of 21 members of the Duff family. Hidden round the back in the trees you will find the tomb of Alexander Douglas, provost of Banff 1648-1650. I wouldn’t like to visit here at night, but it is beautiful.

The path continues to wind through the woods till you come to a fork in the road with a house opposite, take a left here and follow the road,

admiring the views of the countryside beyond Banff. The path leads you to the Bridge of Alvah that stretches over a deep gorge and the river Deveron. This is a perfect peaceful place to stop for a rest and a snack.

After leaving the bridge, take the road that turns to the left. Take care as there may be vehicles on the road. You will pass by the impressive Montcoffer house and just after on your right you will find the remains of Montcoffer circular Dovecot. Keep following the road and just after you pass the right turn you will see an opening on your left. Turn into the opening and head straight up towards the narrower path ahead. Banff will soon come in to view but just before you come back into town you will walk through Macduff Distillery. The Distillery was founded in 1960 and produces Glen Deveron and The Deveron malt whiskies.

After the distillery you will come to the impressive seven arch Banff Bridge where the river Deveron reaches the sea. Take a left and head over the bridge back to Banff. Shortly after, take the left turning to Duff House.

Follow the road but rather than taking the road back to the carpark take the one to the left. You will shortly come to the beautiful Duff House, built in the 18th century for William Duff the 1st Earl of Fife. The house was gifted to Banff and Macduff communities in 1906. It has been many things during its long and turbulent life; a stately home, an internment camp, a barracks, a hotel, a sanitorium, and an art gallery. These days Duff house is now in the care of Historic Scotland. As well as being able to explore the grounds; the house is open for tours and boasts a superb collection of furniture and paintings.

After you pass the front of the house you will soon return to the carpark and your starting point.

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Help The Hedgehogs

Think of all the delightful creatures that share our gardens with us, from tiny birds that enchant us with their song at dawn and dusk to the sometimes pesky insects that wreak havoc on our prize pruning’s, arguably one of the cutest and most important animals to make their way into backyards and outdoor spaces are hedgehogs. Characteristic with their countless quills and endlessly happy little faces, hedgehogs play a much more important role than being mere ornaments. In fact, more than ever, hedgehogs need help.

According to recent studies hedgehog numbers have plummeted in the past twenty-five years. Although it may be difficult to make grand gestures such as opening a complete hedgehog hotel or sanctuary, if everyone in the local area makes just a little effort to help these smiley little creatures then the whole population can be aided.

Animals will always need food, water, shelter and to live in a clean environment, free from harmful pesticides and that is especially true in the colder months of our long autumns and winters. Actually, if you are keen to be a wildlife supporter, it can never be too early to start providing safe spaces and extra food supplies. Why not have a go and enjoy having a hedgehog housewarming in your garden and get the little ones involved too?

Hedgehog House - A great way to encourage hedgehogs into the garden or to make the ones already there feel welcome is to create an ideal den. If you’re feeling

more adventurous, there are plenty of ways to create a safe home for hedgehogs to adopt. Generally speaking, the entrance to the hedgehog home should only be wide enough for the hedgehog itself to fit through.

Make A Clean Environment - Nobody likes living with pollution and the same is true of hedgehogs. Sprays, pellets and other chemicalbased products created to rid our gardens of unwanted insects have a far wider impact than just on the intended targets. Hedgehogs eat slugs and insects, and it is all too easy for them to ingest the poisons that are designed to keep creepy crawlies at bay. Research methods that won’t harm other animals. In fact, encouraging animals like hedgehogs into your garden can actually work as a natural solution for all those hungry nibblers! It may be possible to consider creating hedgehog highways as well so that their natural pathways are not disturbed by the construction of a fence.

Use Natural Resources - Ready to put the garden to bed for the winter? Picking up twigs and leaves doesn’t have to be a boring job. With a little help from the kids, collect small handfuls of cuttings and shredded twigs from trees or hedgerows and place them in a secure area of the garden to encourage hedgehogs to feel at home in your garden.

Food Glorious Food - Nobody wants to think about diets at this time

of year - or any time of year really - but don’t forget to provide a little comfort food for the hedgehogs. Dog or cat food, whether dry or wet feed, is a great idea but don’t forget to never put out milk or bread - they are lactose intolerant and bread isn’t ideal either as it has little food value for them. Water is a great idea, just be sure it doesn’t get frozen over.

Aside from the fact that we love these adorable little creatures, hedgehogs play a vital role in both our gardens and the local eco-system. It would be devastating for us to lose any more of the hedgehog population and the fact remains that the more we miss a vital aspect in the natural food chain. As the nights draw in further and the weather gets chiller still, don’t forget to welcome the hedgehogs into your outdoor spaces.

www.wedrifters.co.uk

We Drifters is a premium clothing brand, specialising in bamboo unisex sleepwear infused with treatment to keep 90% of biting bugs away.

The company was inspired by travels and struggles with insects at night. The founder, Naudia Salmon, was travelling in South East Asia when she suffered from particularly bad mosquito bites, getting allergic reactions and also reacting badly to her antimalarials.

Night-time was the worst, with mozzies being very active at dusk and dawn, and feeling more vulnerable when sleeping. Getting a good night’s sleep became impossible. Tired of spraying DEET, wearing restrictive head nets and

squeezing into repellent sleeping bag liners, she came up with an idea. Why not keep bugs away with our own comfy pjs?

We Drifters and their nifty bug proof clothing was born, designed for sleep and beyond (think loungewear and base layers), and effective against mosquitoes as well as midges, ticks and bed bugs! The super soft bamboo fabric is infused with a treatment that the insect’s nervous system detects and they want to keep away. Each clothing set includes a top, trousers, socks, pillowcase and bag, and the fabric is sweat wicking and odour resistant. The clothing is designed to give you peace of mind whether at home or exploring the great outdoors.

We Drifters also donate £2 from every sale to help end malaria.

Travel also inspired Naudia’s path of living life on her own terms and finding a sense of

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freedom and purpose. This led to the creation of the We Drifters community of travel and adventure lovers, with well-being at the heart of it. We Drifters champion globetrotters, adventure seekers and weekend glampers to be fearless in the pursuit of what sets their souls on fire.

Tracy, known to you all as ‘Tracy goes outside’ road tested the pyjamas:-

We headed off on a 17 night tour of the West coast of Scotland in August. We all know the West Coast is a prime spot for midges, so I was delighted to try the We Drifted anti-insect pyjamas out. My first impressions when they arrived, I was impressed how soft and comfortable they felt which is a must when it comes to a pair of Pj’s. The top is long sleeved with thumb holes and the trousers have pockets, they come with matching socks and a

2 in 1 pillowcase storage bag. The bamboo material is breathable, sweat wicking, odour resistant and quick drying which makes them a great addition to your camping essentials.

Once we were away, I got to put them to the test!

I am pleased to say they are very effective, and I never got a single bite. We are lucky to be sleeping in a van rather than a tent so once we are inside, we are safe from the wee blighters. They are great for not only pjs but great for protecting you when you are lounging in the evening after a busy day exploring when you just want to wear your comfies!

I was also kindly given a pair of these lovely pyjamas to try. I am not so adventurous as our Tracy so I haven’t

actually put them to the test on the bug biting front, but I’m sure we can take Tracy’s word on that.

What I can confirm is that I was very impressed with the We Drifters pyjamas when they arrived. The quality was immediately obvious, they are extremely well made. I couldn’t wait to put them on, and they were so comfy to wear. They have a good length in the arms, legs and body, nothing worse than a top that’s not long enough and it rides up through the night and your back gets cold.

I have worn and washed them a few times now and I can absolutely say I thoroughly recommend on all fronts.

They are extremely comfy but also smart enough to wear as a loungewear, relaxing around the house too.

With all the technology built into these lovely pyjamas, I would suggest you don’t just keep them for camping, but they should be worn all year round, keeping you wonderfully temperature controlled in bed at home.

‘Tracy goes outside’

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Moray’s first Walk of Hope positive focus for World Suicide Prevention

In the early hours of Saturday 10th September, as part of Suicide Prevention Week, Moray Wellbeing Hub CIC hosted Moray’s first ‘Walk of Hope’ in Lossiemouth. Twenty-one folk from across Moray walked from the new Lossiemouth foot bridge across the sands to see a glorious North Sea sunrise together. With participants ranging in age from 7 to 70, there were tears as well as laughter as the group marked those they were remembering and thinking of on the day.

“The weather smiled on us!”, Shared one participant at the event, “It was good to see so many people and hear them sharing their experiences, and for me to share a bit of mine.”

Once the group walked for a time, gently chatting and sharing, they paused to write in the sand names as well as words that shared what they were thinking about at this time. “I loved being able to do something with others, showing hope and that no-one is alone. I

especially loved the writing in the sand activity.”

The optional sharing included stories of loss as well as hope from those living with suicidal thoughts, from those family members left behind after suicide, and the sharing helped others to do so as well as hold space for silent reflection. A minute’s silence at dawn was observed and the sense of connection was powerful. The youngest attendee brought joy with their skipping on the beach and the inclusion of a few dogs was another support for hope too.

After the walk and connection chats, many retired to the previous Lossiemouth Youth Café space where Lossie 2-3 group treated everyone to a cuppa and pancakes donated by the local Co-op. Some of the reflections shared included “Relaxed and powerful event” “friendly supported space” “I appreciated the calm and the sharing of life events”.

Within the participants were Champions from Moray Wellbeing Hub who offered their skills as mental health first aiders for the event as well as attending for their own wellbeing. Joining them were representatives from the North East Suicide Prevention Team and the Highland based support line Mikeysline, who are now open to supporting people in Moray through their text line.

The event was made possible with funding from The National Lottery Community Fund, made possible by National Lottery players, and aimed to remember those lost to suicide, express solidarity to those living with suicidal thoughts, and raise awareness in a positive and inclusive way. It was just one of a range of events that local organisations, including Health & Social Care Moray, SAMH, NHS Grampian

and Police Scotland, organised in partnership. All were hosted and co-designed together with individual personal experience. This included an Act of Remembrance at Elgin Town Hall on Tuesday 6th, Suicide Prevention Skills Training on the 12th, as well as the launch of the annual Moray suicide prevention survey and a creative competition to design messages of hope.

For those still keen to get involved the survey and creative competition around creating hope are still open for contributions through Moray Wellbeing Hub website. There are courses on suicide awareness upcoming from the North East Suicide Awareness Team.

Heidi Tweedie, Social Movement & Enterprise Lead at Moray Wellbeing Hub, was delighted at how the event went, “Personally, and on behalf of Moray Wellbeing Hub, this event could not have gone better. Everyone contributed and created a safe space with hope and connection. It was wonderful to have other organisations join us, and for me as someone who has their own experiences of suicidal thought and lost others to suicide, the impact on my wellbeing has been positive too. I can’t wait to see what we can manage next year, hopefully more walks across Moray to give more people the chance to join in.”

For those keen to have their views and ideas on how we can prevent suicide in Moray an online survey and creative competition is being promoted to gather ideas. Information on this can be found by contacting Moray Wellbeing Hub, or visiting their website news section at www.moraywellbeinghub.org.uk

If you are concerned about your own challenging thoughts or want to be prepared to support someone you care about, a local app is available to support with all the links including how to create a safe plan. This can be downloaded from www.preventsuicideapp.com

Take the mask off and reveal the real you!

By Sophia Hanson

How do you feel about the things people say to you when you’re pregnant?

I’ve been supporting pregnant women for five years and I’m noticing their real desire to stand up for themselves and call time on the flippant comments that come their way.

It’s a bit embarrassing for me to admit that in my younger years I was probably one of those people who, when confronted with a baby bump, didn’t always know what to say (and no doubt dropped a few clangers).

Either way there are still classic comments out there such as:

• How on earth is that baby going to get out of there?

• Were you trying or was it an accident?

• Hope this one is a boy/girl then your family will be complete.

• Are you going to keep trying until you get a boy/girl?

• You are enormous, sure there aren’t twins in there?

• Take it you didn’t like being back at work then?

• You look exhausted.

• It’s been long enough, didn’t think you were going to have another one.

• Are you eating for two, or three?

• Do you think you’ll find it easier to lose the baby weight this time?

• You’re going to have your hands full soon enough.

How many times have you heard a comment

like this, and well-meaning or not, felt irritated or worse?

I like to think that people are just making small talk, but I know that some of these phrases cut deep and if they do that to you, it’s time to take off the mask (it is Halloween after all!) and share how you really feel.

Unless you let these people know that what they’ve said has offended or upset you, we can’t expect them to change; every time you highlight why what they’ve said is inappropriate (and offer them some alternatives) you’re helping another generation of new families to be better supported.

And, let’s face it, it’s not just the mums that are on the receiving end of these comments, the dads get them too including:

• Oh so you’re baby-sitting today then? [you can’t babysit your own child].

• You’re awfully good to her taking the wee ones off her hands [the mum].

• Bet you’re glad you didn’t have to give birth!

• Hope you’re managing to sleep for workwhat with the baby and everything?

• Are you sure you’re the dad, looks a bit like the milkman?!

What are some of your favourite clangers? The ones that make you fume and the ones that have you texting your bump-bestie? I’d love to know. Message me sophia@highlandhypnobirthing. co.uk

And remember, ripping your mask off doesn’t have to get ugly, go for clear, firm education!!

6years!

Lifestyle is Six Years Old

Wow!!!! Who would have thought, six years! It has been eventful!!

Not sure if I had been able to see into the future back in the summer of 2016 if I would have made the same decision. But, it is what it is and here we are six years on and still going, haven’t missed an issue even through Covid, maybe a few late ones, who’s judging?

It is thanks to all my loyal advertisers that I have survived, and I will always do my best to help them through difficult times too. It has not been easy for any business and it doesn’t look that rosy yet.

Anyway this is supposed to be a HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Lifestyle and hope we will be here for a few more.

Have a look back at some of the forty plus issues published since October 2016.

ROSIE BARRON IS THE TIDY COO

Rosie Barron is The Tidy Coo, an award-winning Professional Organiser, who works with clients to help them Declutter and Organise their homes and live a more relaxed life. A Master KonMari Consultant and member of APDO (the Association of Professional Declutterers and Organisers), Rosie lives in Aberdeenshire with her husband, four Home Educated children, nine ponies, six dogs, three cats, four bunnies, chickens, ducks and fish which all Spark Joy.

Ithink that I may well get in trouble for using the C-word when we are only just into October, but hear me out, because a little bit of preparation now will stand you in good stead for the end of the year. Plus, the thought of some Christmas cheer might be just what you need!

As ever, the whole point of what I do is to try to make your life easier and less stressful. So don’t worry about trying to plan the Best Christmas Ever –remember it’s not about how many different courses there are at Christmas Dinner, or about who can spend the most money on presents, it’s about spending time with each other.

Images: Laura Walter Photography

First things first, where are you going to spend Christmas and with who? With the number of animals we have, we usually spend Christmas at home and this year is no exception. For many people there will be negotiations to be had with families, and I know we’re all hoping that this year Christmas will be normal but do make sure that you’re not running round like a headless turkey trying to please everyone.

Who will you be buying gifts for? Make a list now so you don’t forget, and don’t forget to set yourself a budget. Remember that the point of Christmas is not to bankrupt yourself trying to show love.

Gift giving is an area that can be fraught. I absolutely love getting gifts, and I love the love behind it, but there is no denying that there is often a massive amount of waste at Christmas. Whilst nothing beats the Christmas magic of running downstairs to see if Father Christmas has been (and that’s just me!), you do not need a hundred presents to get the same magic. In fact, too many presents under the tree can be

distinctly overwhelming, especially for young children.

For my own children, we try to keep the presents a little reined back and there is a useful little rhyme for this that I use; Something they Want. Something they Need. Something to Wear. Something to Read.

Using this, they usually get a nice stocking from Father Christmas, with the addition of some things like chocolate and socks, and a larger present from us. They do a Secret Santa among themselves (which encourages them to think of others!), but we try to encourage other family members to contribute towards experiences instead of presents.

As for the grown-ups, I have quite a large family, being one of four, so we all do a Secret Santa between us, spouses included. It means that rather than frantically hunting round for heaps of presents for each person, we can spend our energy on just one and make it a really good one. I always try to make sure that the gift I give is thoughtful, but I appreciate that I may not always get it right!

As for receiving gifts, I always encourage everyone to receive gifts with grace and thanks for the love that has been given with it. The job of the gift (to show love) is done when it is given. Once the gift has been handed over, it is then up to you to decide if it has a place in your life and if it doesn’t, to release it with thanks. I cannot tell you how many of my clients are buried under heaps of things that were gifts and that they feel guilty about letting go of. Either keep it and love it, or let it go on its way to someone else.

Decide if you are sending Christmas Cards. I know that these are rather going out of fashion now, with many people preferring to make a charity donation, but I still love a card. They help me to keep in touch with people who are not big on social media and I enjoy reading the round ups that people send with them. Do check out the last posting dates with the Royal Mail as some of them are much earlier than you might think!

Prepare food where you can. If you’re making a Christmas cake, then tradition dictates that you should have started in September, but it’s not too late to start now. You can also start slipping the extra thing into your trolley for the store cupboard or freezer now to spread out the cost. Do you need to order a turkey? My children are not fond of turkey, so we will be having something else at Christmas, probably chicken. With my husband being such an avid cook, food features pretty highly during Christmas Day, but equally, we like to keep it relatively simple – the point is not that he should spend the whole day in the kitchen, but that we should enjoy the day as a family.

P.S If you’re looking for a present, then I hear that there is a rather fabulous book out there called Easy Life. If you use the code LifeStyleFS on my website www.thetidycoo.com, you can get free domestic shipping until the end of November!”

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Forgetting the Future

After the turbulent times of the last few years, it’s safe to say that we would all be happy to forget the past. Yet, in a spin of conception as unique as their sound, one Scottish indie band from the Highlands is all keen for us all to be Forgetting the Future. Yes, recording in Nairn, Robbie McNicol, Jamie Mackay, Max Paul and Connor Wilson are the four lads behind an indie rock act with that unforgettable name - Forgetting the Future.

Front man Robbie McNicol explains a little of the band’s history. He comments, “Forgetting the Future consists of myself as singer, guitarist Jamie Mackay, bassist Max Paul and drummer Connor Wilson. We’re a band of 22 year-olds who first met in our teens. Connor and I shared a love of surfing together and Jamie Max and I were high school friends in our hometown of Thurso. We have been playing music together since our early teens, but FTF fully formed around 2019. The following year saw us writing and recording our debut album ‘Broken Phones & Hormones.’”

Did the band come from a strong musical background? Robbie explains, “I was brought up surrounded by a musical family with blues and rock influences. Connor and Jamie both found a love for heavy rock music in high school which led to a severe ‘emo’ stage, but they have recovered now!

“Max was a best friend of mine, and he always had a great taste in music but never actually played an instrument. His history with the band came about when we found ourselves in need of a bass player. We made the decision to call Max

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in and teach him how to play. With Max having no prior knowledge or know-how for playing the instrument. We are originally from Thurso but record in Nairn now.”

Did Max have a long apprenticeship of bass training before he went on to play alongside Forgetting the Future? Surprisingly not! Robbie comments, “We decided to spend days going over the tabs for the set which Max would then play in for a gig just two weeks later!”

Despite the evident baptism of fire, the fourstrong indie band has gone on to have many successful and exciting moments. Robbie expands, saying, “So far, we have had the pleasure of playing on some major stages all around the UK, alongside artists such as Sam Fender, The Hara, King Charles and many others.

“We’ve had an amazing track record of being able to work with the best producers available to us. At the start of our career, we had the pleasure of working with Scottish 80’s popstar, Edwin Collins when we recorded various demos to get the band started. Shortly following this we met one of our biggest inspirations, top LA producer, Ken Allardyce in Nairn, who has worked with Green Day, Fleetwood Mac, Madonna and many more. Now we find ourselves working with Ken on a daily basis recording our material and helping us achieve our sound.”

Speaking of achieving their sound, Forgetting the Future has created a strong symphony of

both musical and lyrical prowess. The process of song writing begins with Robbie who is never seen without a pen and paper to jot down random ideas that may make it into the mix. Every so often, Robbie will go through his ideas and see what fits and where he can use certain material before taking it to the band at their bi-weekly rehearsals where the other band members are able to share their ideas and make the songs their own.

Frontman Robbie comments, “The band’s influence mainly comes from our varied and sometimes unalike tastes in music. We all have different tastes and enjoy each other’s differing takes on what inspires us and our music. Our music would mostly appeal to fans of Arctic Monkeys, Catfish & the Bottlemen, the Amazons, the Wombats, Biffy Clyro, Green Day, The Snuts and general lovers of Indie Rock. In fact, We’ve just released our latest single, Cigarettes, Cigarettes, Cigarettes available now on all streaming platforms alongside many of our other songs.”

For a band that is renowned for Forgetting the Future, what exactly does the future hold in store for this Scottish indie rock act? Robbie enthuses, “We will be touring the UK this November, covering some of our favourite Scottish cities, Glasgow, Newcastle, Aberdeen, Dundee, Inverness, Edinburgh. In the next three years, we would like to see ourselves playing on the biggest stages and festival slots selling out more headline shows all over the UK. Our live shows are very energetic and there’s no better feeling than the adrenaline of playing to a wild crowd - the fruits of the inspiring time at the studio where we get to be creative.”

Aether to Easel

Aether to Easel is a locally run, online gallery created to showcase the work of specially selected Visionary and Intuitive artists. Born from a desire to support and encourage visionary artists all over Scotland and further afield Aether to Easel is a platform that understands their unique creative expression and strives to bring their visions to a wider audience.

The artists shown here are specially selected because they offer a glimpse of something beyond the mundane. Their work inspires us to connect with something greater, whether that be our own intuition, the natural world around us or more celestial and spiritual realms.

For our customers, we are creating truly unique, one-of-a-kind art that will enrich your home or work environment. Our artists each have their own style and work intuitively, so each creation is as individual as its creator. The pieces are not painted with a formula or manufactured on repeat so what you are getting is something no one else will have. Nothing beats the energy, colour and texture of a handcrafted objet d’art or an original painting on your wall.

We also offer painting workshops and art retreats for artists wishing to learn new skills and anyone wishing to deepen their connection to intuition through painting.

Whether you wish to bring some soul connected artwork into your home or ignite the spirit of creativity in your own art practice, you’ll find a wealth of inspiration here.

We are inviting submissions from artists that fit the ethos of Aether to Easel.

Wintering your home

The thrill of seeing the mellow colour palette, the crunch of leaves and the glorious sunsets all hail the beauty of autumn uncurling into winter however the first frost, the bellowing wind and the dropping temperatures can easily snatch that feeling of delightful cosiness into one of concern. So how can we capture that autumnal essence and ensure that our home is winter-ready?

Keeping the house and you in your home warm doesn’t always mean completely restructuring or refitting areas of each of the rooms, often simple and small steps can be ideal for keeping the place cosy whether you live in a bungalow, a semi or even a Scottish castle!

Layer Up - Who doesn’t like layers? Whether that’s layering your hair, layering your clothes or even layer upon layers of cake, layers are always the way forward! Just as we keep our physical body warm, why not review areas of the home which need extra protection? Windows and doors are classic examples of where layers can be used to best affect. Could you put up nets and thicker curtains for instance or look out clear films that fit over the window for a cost effective way to add extra protection? What about locations where you are more sedentary such as in your home office or sofa?

Consider aesthetic options of layering in the form of rugs, throws and quilts draped artistically and practically? Why not add a rug or two? Think of it as slippers for your floors, especially tiled or wooden ones.

Light The Way - Candles are a small, cost effective way that can help to cosy your home. Although candles will not give off much heat unless you have twenty or thirty candles burning together, candles give off a

warm ambience. Although the cold weather is certainly not something that is all in our minds, the mere sound of whistling wind can bring a cold shiver to the spine of even the most seasoned Highlander. The same can be true of bringing candles in your house’s landscape. We associate the flicker of a fire with warmth and cosiness and that feeling alone can stop us from unnecessarily reaching to put the heating up. Another advantage of having a candle, especially at lower levels such as one a hearth, means that you can see where draughts are creeping in. If you are trying to light a candle indoors and the wind is constantly putting it out then your draughts need to be addressed!

Draughts - Defending your home against draughts can seem like a never-ending task however the benefits of stopping your hard earned heat from escaping are huge. Keeping windows and doors closed is a great way of keeping the heating in of course but putting draught excluders under doors, on windowsills and under the window is another good option. Don’t forget to make sure areas where your pets sleep are well insulated too.

Keep Crafty - If you are a keen crafter, making draught excluders for anywhere cold air finds a way of creeping is a great project for the long nights. It’s a good idea to check for cold outer walls and see if it is possible to put some form of protection up. If you don’t want to lose your light, why not find a sheet of wood or chipboard, cover it with wadding and fabric to make a decorative but practical defence that can be placed across the lower part of patio doors, windows and even unused fireplaces to block off the cold? If you’re really skilled, could shutters be added to your windows either on the outside or the inside?

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INDEPENDENT

Heading into autumn there are many economic challenges ahead

So what does this mean to you? Higher mortgage/rental payments, increased energy bills, higher weekly shopping bills. With wage growth not keeping up with the rising costs of living, it’s time to get smart with our finances. Inflation affects us all and there is no hiding from it unfortunately.

A great way to help your financial well-being is by budgeting. This is a simple but effective way to give yourself peace of mind when it comes to knowing where you are with your finances.

A budget planner, recorded on a spreadsheet or a piece of paper (if you aren’t that technical) can be used to calculate your income e.g salary, pension, benefits etc against your expenditures e.g rent/mortgage payments, utility bills, petrol etc.

Once you have added up your income and expenses, the difference is your disposable income. This will either be a positive or negative number.

Your goal is to be positive! A negative means you are operating at a loss, simply meaning that you are spending more than you earn. If this is the case you may need to look at areas where money could potentially be saved or earned. If you would like to receive a FREE copy of my Budget Planner, that I provide all my clients with, you can receive this by contacting me on the details below.

• Email: greg@gefinance.co.uk

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I know there are many of you enter the Lifestyle competitions time after time and probably feel it might never happen, but the saying is very true, if you aren’t in you can’t win so, please keep sending in your entries. I really enjoy seeing all the postcards and some of the lovely comments coming in the e-mails. Apologies I don’t have time to reply to them all but be assured they are appreciated.

First up this issue you have the chance to win lunch for four at Bijou in Elgin, you will not be disappointed.

If you fancy a pair of the We Drifters PJ’s for yourself or a Christmas present then there is a pair up for grabs for one lucky winner and you know I can vouch for them.

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Maggi at Intricate Designs has kindly donated a £15 voucher for you to choose from an amazing range of gifts

A photoshoot with the talented Morag of Ceamara Photography will I’m sure be a much sought after prize., maybe another Christmas present sorted.

A £50 Gift Voucher to spend online at www.aethertoeasel.com from Aether to Easel online Gallery. At this rate we will have Christmas all wrapped up.

Let’s not forget our furry friends, Pawbags have ensured they won’t miss out by offering an advent calendar for your fur baby be it cat or dog, you choose.

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