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don’t like to think about my parents getting older. Maybe it’s because I know if they’re getting older, that means I am too. I prefer to picture us years ago, when I had naturally dark hair and I still held high hopes that my mom would figure out e-mail. I’m still waiting for her first e-mail. My mom sends me lots of snail mail, often with articles clipped from newspapers, but never an e-mail. I once e-mailed her photos of my kids and her head nearly exploded. “The photos are attached,” I told her. “Attached? Attached to what?” Fortunately, my dad is better with technology, although he won’t open any e-mail with an attachment. Viruses! The good news is my mom has branched out into text messaging. I discovered this a couple of months ago when she sent a message that said, “Test message, please let me know if you get this.” I responded, “Yes.” I haven’t heard from her since. At least not by text, anyway. I do receive lots of phone calls—those are always welcome. But I’ve also received a lot of voice mails, and they can be weirdly alarming. My dad has always been my role model but his voice mails have grown from comically confusing to downright stress-inducing. Here’s a voice mail I recently received: “Lysa. Hello, it’s your dad.” Long pause. “Hello? It’s dad…” ”Hi, Lysa …” You might see what’s happening here. I think my dad got a little flustered, which is understandable. Except that he does this pretty much every time he leaves a message. Still, no big deal. That’s my dad. Most of my dad’s voice mails are pretty funny. After he establishes who he is, he moves on to the actual message. It’s like deciphering code. “Lysa, I just wanted to tell you …” Then another long pause. I don’t know if my dad forgot what he was going to say or if my mom distracted him with some kind of directions. Nonetheless, the silence is often stretched out. It’s like he’s struggling to break some bad news, and I often feel really anxious. Seriously, the pause is about three or four seconds long. I should time it: One Mississippi (something is wrong with mom?), two Mississippi (bad news from the doctor?), three Mississippi (the computer has a virus?), four Mississippi (please dad, would you begin speaking again?). “… I watched the Ducks the other night. What a game! Give me a call when you get a chance.” That’s it? That long, dramatic pause was to rev up to talk about a hockey game? Yes, that was it. I did call my dad back, and we had a nice conversation about the weather, the kids and politics (his favorite). We also got around to the hockey game, although I never did get around to telling him his voice mail put more gray hair on my head. Hmmm, maybe I’ll tell him in an e-mail.

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Drake Leaves UCI The chancellor of UC Irvine is stepping down to accept the position of president at Ohio State University, UC President Janet Napolitano announced recently. “Michael Drake has informed me that he intends to step down as chancellor at the University of California, Irvine, effective June 30, 2014, to become president of the Ohio State University,” Napolitano announced in a statement. “I am grateful to Chancellor Drake for his more than 30 years of service to the University of California, as a faculty member, a health administrator and, finally, as UC Irvine’s fifth chancellor, Napolitano added.

Measles on the Rise in Orange County Three confirmed cases of measles in Orange County over the past several weeks prompted health officials to send an advisory to local physicians. The recent outbreak has alarmed officials because measles is highly contagious, and over the past five years, the county has seen only one case on average per year. According to the advisory sent by the Orange County Health Care Agency, this recent increase in cases raises the potential for additional cases in the near future. Symptoms usually start 10 to 12 days after exposure, but sometimes up to three 10 Newport Beach Lifestyle | April 2014

Youth Expo Reimagined Full S.T.E.A.M ahead (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics) for OC Fair Imaginology, a re-imagined Youth Expo to be held at the OC Fair and Events Center on April 11-13, 2014. The new Imaginology will feature family friendly exhibits that highlight S.T.E.A.M-related exhibits created by kids. There will be lots of activities and hands on exhibits for the entire family. Youth in Orange County from pre-school through high school were invited to showcase their talents in individual and group project com-

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Beach Parking Program California State Parks added a portion of Huntington State Beach to its short list of beaches charging visitors for parking by the hour as opposed to a flat, $15 per day. The pilot program, already in place in Crystal Cove, is expected to extend to Corona del Mar and other state beaches in Orange County. Instead of using a parking machine or handing their money to the gate attendant, beachgoers pay through the PassportParking program, either by calling 714.988.6865 or downloading a free app. In 2013, state beaches in Crystal Cove, San Clemente and San Onofre began offering hourly parking through automated parking machines and eventually switched to PassportParking that spring. The pilot program for Huntington State Beach, which started January 31, will be enforced at the 711-stall lot that stretches from Beach Boulevard to Newland Street. The new option is cheaper for those looking to make a quick stop at the beach, but can be pricier for those looking to stay all day. Young adults have seamlessly adapted to the new system, but there is some concern that using the app or calling could prove to be trickier for older adults.

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eniors from 65 to 106 filter in and out of the Oasis Senior Center in Newport Beach on a daily basis. The 36,500-square-foot facility bustles with golden-agers and, if the atmosphere is any indication, they consider age a state of mind. The center offers diverse classes for seniors, and social events for guests. Everyone there benefits from the seniors who donate their time as teachers, cashiers, greeters and more. This mutually beneficial relationship sustains the center as seniors engage as volunteers, and others attend as guests. The staff, board members and volunteers at Oasis don’t subscribe to the stereotype that assumes one’s golden years should be spent participating in cliché “senior-type” activities. Instead, they take advantage of amenities that appeal to a variety of temperaments, physical levels and social needs—none of which include bingo or knitting. Staff members lend an ear to seniors who share innovative ideas for classes, and there’s no shortage of attendees who take advantage of the many social aspects that the center provides. “What’s different about our senior center is its atmosphere, and the fact that we offer upbeat classes,” says Senior Center Director Celeste Jardine-Haug. “We don’t offer what I consider stereotypical or condescending classes here. We don’t play bingo. I’ve worked here for 25 years and they weren’t playing bingo when I started either. I believe the key to aging well is keeping active; staying involved with something, and moving along like age has nothing to do with it.” The center came to fruition in 1976 when a group of seniors united in search of a place to congregate, and engage with the community. A city council member guided the group to establish a nonprofit organization to gather grants and acquire funds, and the group began operating as the Friends of Oasis. Subsequently, a committee was formed to begin scouting for a proper facility, resulting in the discovery of an unoccupied school that met the needs of a senior center. After more than three decades of thriving in the former school, Oasis Senior Center initiated plans for a new, modernized facility. In 2011, the new building was revealed, boasting a top-of-the-line fitness center, 18 computers, a gift shop, a cafeteria, 21 staff members and five drivers. While the members of Friends of Oasis have changed throughout the years, the group continues to keep the center relevant and accessible to seniors. Fitness classes, including Zumba, yoga and FallProof, and various chair-assisted exercises are offered to keep seniors of every physical level engaged. Foreign language classes, creative writing forums, and social savvy courses like Introduction to Facebook ensure that a wide variety of interests are stimulated. By safeguarding that the range of amenities, events and classes continued after the remodel, staff members and the Friends of Oasis were able to guarantee the center is run as a place of learning and celebration.

While spirited events like bunco night and live music performances keep the energy high at Oasis, the senior center doesn’t ignore the realities of aging. In fact, addressing the challenging aspects associated with age is a concept Oasis embraces. The needs of seniors with health issues are met with in-house support groups for those with ailments such as Parkinson’s disease, Multiple Sclerosis and Alzheimer’s. Final arrangement seminars are also avenues that respectfully address the topics that confront seniors, providing a platform in which issues will be less intimidating and more manageable. While on-premise support is greatly beneficial, aid goes beyond the walls of the senior center. Staff and members of Oasis travel to the homes of struggling seniors and work with them and their families to identify their need for assistance, and determine how to provide those services to them. “I believe the idea of all senior centers is to help people remain active and engaged in their community as long as possible. If that just means getting them to the doctor because they no longer drive, or getting them a healthy meal, or providing them the resources they need to stay in their own home, then we’re achieving the goal of the center,” says Jardine-Haug. Oasis is a public establishment that doesn’t charge visitors a membership fee, but it does apply individual fees for most amenities. The center operates with roughly 30 volunteer-based classes and 75 fee-based classes, and takes pride in its travel group and various entertainment-based events. At Oasis, a symbiosis is established which keeps seniors immersed in a thriving environment that finds them in the juxtaposed roles of teacher and student, volunteer and guest. The success of the duality is obvious. Age is just a state of mind for these inspiring individuals who make their golden years seem liberating.

“What’s different about our senior center is its atmosphere, and the fact that we offer upbeat classes.”

Meet Jean and Tom Naughton Jean Naughton’s vivacious personality is instantly apparent. Working as chair of the greeters, the spunky redhead sports a nametag that reads “Info Babe” just below her name. “All of my greeters are so excited to be here,” says Jean. “Nobody wants to quit, and if they have to go on vacation they tell me not give their place away! Everyone’s just so loyal and it’s great to meet everybody who comes into the center. It’s a marvelous institution. And one of the best parts of working here is that I get to be my husband’s boss for three and half hours!” Tom laughs with his wife about her authority over him at the center. He quickly notes that he gets to be the boss at home, but genuinely enjoys his time with Jean at the center. Tom brings a live music element to Oasis, playing the old-time instrument known April 2014 | Newport Beach Lifestyle 15

as the “gut bucket” bass. “We entertain all over the local area, including the senior center,” says Tom. “John Valeriano plays the accordion extremely well and I play the gut bucket. If you didn’t grown up in the Appalachians, you might not know what that is. The bass line is a washtub, and the gut is a piece of string that goes from the Jean and Tom Naughton washtub to a pole. The string controls the notes, and you just pluck it. The third Tuesday of the month we take a group of Oasis seniors over to the Landmark restaurant for happy hour and perform. We’ve been playing together for years.”

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lecture here and picked up four concepts. You have to keep yourself physically active as senior in the aging process. You also have to keep yourself intellectually involved, socially engaged and spiritually active. These four concepts will help you enjoy the life you’re living.”

Meet Anita Valeriano Anita and John Valeriano were living in the Porter Ranch area of the San Fernando Valley when their son convinced them to move closer to their family and reside in Corona Del Mar. After a bit of hesitation on John’s part, the couple began attending the senior center. Now viewed as one of the most active couples at Oasis, Anita alternates between positions as greeter, kitchen aid, information desk attendant and cashier, while John serves in various aspects of the center, most notably as the accordion player alongside Tom Naughton. Anita’s kind temperament is contagious. “At the end of the day, I take away a great deal of happiness from Anita Valeriano here,” says Anita. “The friends you make here are true friends, and we all enjoy being around one another. You couldn’t ask for anything better. I love it.”

Ed and Mary Romero have been married more than 60 years, and Ed doesn’t hesitate to share his initial skepticism regarding joining the senior center. After a bit of encouragement from his wife, he began attending regularly and continues to champion Oasis to this day. His fondness of the center is apparent. “After I retired, my wife started going to aerobics, and she kept trying to drag me along,” says Ed. “I told her, ‘I don’t want to go with all those old people!’ She took me in and I was one of three men in a class of about 60 women. But you know what? We had a great time. That’s how I got started. The board president at the time said they needed some help with a rummage sale, so my wife and I volunteered. The next event was the casino night. One thing lead to another, and I was asked to be on the board of directors. All of a sudden I was having a great time contributing, and I’m very proud to say I’ve played a significant part in developing the senior center that you see today. Mary Romero “A long time ago I attended a 16 Newport Beach Lifestyle | April 2014

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One woman’s creative journey to finding hope after divorce Article Susan Schaefer Bernardo

oday, I painted my front door blue. It’s been three years since my husband moved out, but our divorce was just made final. It’s official. I’m my own “head of household” now, for the first time in 20 years. With a loan from my parents, I have been able to keep my house. I am blessed and immensely grateful, but there are times when I wake up in the dark, terrified, my brain stuck in a loop of fear. It’s the same old fear I’ve been battling for many years now: that I am somehow “not enough.” My marriage was divided along conventional lines. After baby was born, I became the homemaker and he the breadwinner. He climbed the career ladder, I kept our son safe as he climbed everything else. We both put in long hours. The bills got paid, we upgraded from renting to owning, and five years later we upsized again, bought and remodeled a bigger house in a better school district.

I put a lot of love into creating a pleasing home for our little family. A la Martha Stewart, I painted walls, planted roses, even built my own chicken coop. We hosted amazing parties, had another son. On the material level, our marriage and home life seemed as solid as my minivan and his plasma television. American Dreamy. But there were deep cracks in our foundation -- poor communication, a lack of partnership, hidden emotional scars. External stressors took their toll, too: a demanding job, a miscarriage, societal expectations that stifled our spirits. We didn’t spend enough time patching the cracks with joy and gratitude for the gifts we had been given. Rather than us getting closer as we went through life’s struggles, the cracks between us widened into chasms. Eventually, he had an affair and fathered a child with another woman, and the home I had been making all those years crumpled like a house of straw in a hurricane.

We may come to divorce in different ways, but we share the same challenge after we get through it: remaking home.

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My self-esteem toppled, too, and was bruised even further during the divorce process. The skills and experience my ex-husband gained over the past twenty years ensure his future financial success, but I haven’t held a paying job since our son was born. I’m so used to giving my time and energy on a volunteer basis that it’s tough to recalibrate myself as worthy of payment. I have some child and spousal support as I transition back into work, but all too soon I need to become financially self-sufficient…and it might be a steep climb. Yes, it’s terrifying…but it’s also motivating. I am determined to remake my home – and my life -- on a new kind of foundation. We may come to divorce in different ways, but we share the same challenge after we get through it: remaking home. Remaking home is an ongoing process, a rollercoaster ride that is both exhilarating and exhausting. Exhilarating, because you suddenly have breathing room and freedom to choose after having been locked in conflict for so long. Exhausting, because a multitude of financial and practical decisions must be made during the divorce. Stay or move out? Sell the house or hold on? How to divide custody and split up the belongings? As I slogged through each step, my battered heart kept yearning for sanctuary, a haven where I could recover my courage and my confidence. Sometimes, I wondered if it would have been easier if I had been the one to move out, made a fresh start away from the ghosts of Christmases past. He took the things he needed to set up his new home, and I was left with a decade’s worth of clutter and crayoned walls. I cried buckets, then stripped the memory foam topper off my marital bed, remembering how lonely that bed

had become by the end of my marriage. I was ready to tackle the task of transforming my haunted house back into a happy home. The first challenge was to define what “happy home” really meant to me now, not just accept an ideal sold in house decorating magazines. A friend suggested that I sit quietly in each room in my house and visualize how I wanted to feel. I did just that, setting my intentions for each space: a kitchen filled with friends and family eating nourishing meals. A living room filled with music and laughter. A vegetable garden in the backyard. Safe space for my creativity to thrive. And under it all, a rock-solid foundation of trust, joy and love. Slowly, my home and I are healing together. Gratitude, sustainability and simplicity are the keys. Here are a few of the moves I’ve made: • I pulled down the blackout curtains my ex-husband demanded…and now I wake up with the sunrise streaming into my room. • I’ve filled the house with my own art. The process of making art keeps me sane, and seeing it in my house – amateur though it might be - makes me happy. Revitalizing my creativity has also opened the door to my new career. • I set up an altar, a sacred space where I can light a candle and write in my gratitude journal. It’s a peaceful place to meditate and count my blessings. continued >

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• I’ve welcomed in housemates, to help me meet expenses and create community. • Instead of roses, I’m planting drought-tolerant natives and vegetables these days. Sustainable choices that thrive on less water and tending…or give me food in return. • I began to let go of perfection, to focus on moments instead of material things and invite friends to gather for simple, spontaneous celebrations, like house concerts and potluck dinners. • And … when I was ready, I invited in a new love, transforming my boudoir (I refuse to call it the master bedroom now!) back into a place of wonder and joy and emotional healing.

When the fear rises, I try to be a good hostess to myself. I invite myself to sit down and have a cup of tea. I remind myself that I am worthy, that I am enough, that I might make mistakes, but I will learn from them and grow. I focus my attention on something essential to making home: a light and happy heart. The place where you live – be it a penthouse suite or your parents’ basement – only becomes a home when love is at the center. The best architects build upon the lessons of the past. Our houses today are engineered to withstand earthquakes and hurricanes. We know now how to eliminate lead and asbestos, to add solar panels and high-efficiency appliances. A marriage that ends in divorce is not a failure – it is an opportunity to make different choices in the future, an invitation to open our hearts

Sometimes, though, I still get stuck. Scared to make the wrong move. Unable to make a simple decision like what color to paint the door. Afraid that I am not up to the challenge of being head of household. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” --Thomas Edison

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to new possibilities. We are here in these bodies to learn, to live, to love, and sometimes, to let go. So today, while I was at the hardware store with my son, we popped over to the paint department and picked out the perfect shade of semi-gloss in two minutes f lat: “Blue Echoes.” After three years of agonizing, the project was complete in a few short hours (if I change my mind in a few years, there are 9,999 other colors to try). I even created a “Welcome Home” sign, embellished with all of the things I invite into my home these days: Joy. Harmony. Gratitude. Peace. I smile every time I see it. Wherever you’ve landed after your divorce, find ways to welcome yourself home. Everyone deserves a space to dream and to heal, until eventually we are ready to open the door wide to our beautiful new lives. Author Susan Schaefer Bernardo believes in the healing power of creativity. Her divorce inspired her to write Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs, a picture book that reassures children we are always connected to the people we love (available on Amazon). Her poetry and articles have appeared in DivorceSupportCenter.com, HopeAfterDivorce. org, LAParent.com, Journeys through Grie, and The Cancer Poetry Project 2.

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ost people prefer to stay in their home or apartment for as long as possible. The best way to make this a reality is to plan ahead of time to make the amenities in your home as safe and accessible as possible. It can be hard to imagine that tasks around the house that were once done with ease can one day pose a challenge. Anticipating the challenge and planning accordingly may allow you to remain in your home for an extended period of time. Often, with some minor modifications, your home can be adapted to help you stay as long as possible even with some loss of mobility. Home Modifications

Living at home longer may mean renovating a home to make it more accessible. This can include such things as installing ramps to bypass stairs, building a bedroom on the main f loor, placing grab bars in the shower, changing the height of kitchen countertops or making a bathroom safer and more accessible. Before you make home modifications, you should evaluate your current and future needs by going through your home room by room and answering a series of questions to highlight where changes might be made. Several checklists are available to help you conduct this review. The National Resource Center on Supportive Housing and Home Modifications is a good place to start. Go to the centerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s website at HomeMods.org and click on the link to the â&#x20AC;&#x153;Safety Checklist and Assessment Instrument.â&#x20AC;? Getting Help

Keeping a house running smoothly requires a lot of hard work. If you are no longer able to keep up with the demands, you may need to hire someone to do laundry, buy groceries, run errands, clean the house or perform any necessary repairs. Those who are unable to perform Activities of Daily Living (ADLs), such as getting in and out of bed, walking, bathing, dressing, and eating, can often continue to stay at home with outside help. There are a number of services that can be brought in to assist with ADLs and other personal care. You can hire someone, such as a personal care aide or home health aide, to help you out a few hours a day or around the clock. 22 Newport Beach Lifestyle | April 2014

Some health care services can be provided at home by trained professionals, such as occupational therapists, social workers or home health nurses. Check with your insurance or health service to see what kind of coverage is available, although you may have to cover some of these costs out of pocket. If very specific conditions are met, Medicare will help pay for all or a portion of home health care. Transportation

Declining health often causes a decline in independence and mobility. Many seniors lose the ability to drive or simply feel uncomfortable behind the wheel at night. Investigate transportation options in your area so you can maintain an active social life, get medical care and shop for necessities. You might find family members willing to take you to the grocery store, friends who will drive you to social events, nearby bus routes, reduced fare taxis or senior transportation services funded by a local notfor-profit. Staying in your home should not mean being cut off from community activities you enjoy. Finding new ways to get around, even after you are no longer driving, may allow you to stay engaged and active.

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alk up to the all-electric Tesla Model S, and the beautifully sculpted flush door handles glide silently out to greet you. The handles, themselves a work of art, are an invitation to a driving experience that is silent, sophisticated and addictive. I was fortunate to be able to sample the experience through the generosity of a local Tesla owner who let me drive his car, the most powerful P85 performance model. The first thing you notice is how beautiful the car is. The four-door has a coupelike profile with muscular flanks and a purposeful stance. Its lines are fluid and smooth, much like the power delivery of its AC induction electric motor. The second thing is the bank-vault quiet and the incredible acceleration of the P85. It launches from a stop like a Porsche Turbo (minus the noise), pinning you back in the seat like a jet plane on takeoff. Zero to 60 miles per hour comes in 4.2 seconds. Top track speed is 133 mph. Consumer Reports called the Model S “a nearly perfect car,” the best it has ever tested. Motor Trend magazine awarded it the 2013 Car of the Year and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration gave it a five-star crash rating. It is built in Tesla’s plant in Fremont, Calif. With top-quality materials and fit and finish equal to or better than a Mercedes-Benz S-Class or BMW 7-series, the Model S has a hard-to-describe but easy-to-feel sense of heft and road presence. The low center of gravity (because the litium-ion battery pack is under the floor), instantaneous torque from the electric 24 Newport Beach Lifestyle | April 2014

motor and lack of noise make it feel as if you are flying a magic carpet. The more you drive, the more you want to drive. Regenerative braking recharges the battery as the car slows and it is strong enough that letting up on the the throttle is usually enough to bring the car to a stop with very little brake application. Range anxiety, so common in electric cars, is rarely an issue

with the Model S unless you have a long trip in mind. The 60 kWh battery has a range of 208 miles, and the 85 kWh battery has a range of 265 miles. Range depends on how you drive. The acceleration is enthralling; but if you mash the throttle a lot; the range will be shortened considerably. Drive reasonably, and you should be able to get close to the EPA-certified range target. Charging can be done with a 110-volt outlet, but that takes a long time. Buyers will want to install a 240-volt outlet at their home. The car can be equipped with a 40-amp charger or an 80amp charger that is twice as fast. To facillitate long-distance travel, Tesla is installing Superchargers along well-traveled highways in North America and Europe. These proprietary stations will provide a half charge in 20 minutes. The Model S was designed by Franz von Holzhausen, formerly the director of design for Mazda’s North American Design Center and before that, a design director at General Motors responsible for the Pontiac Solstice, Saturn Sky and Opel GT. A similarly beautiful Model X utility model will be available this year, and reservations are now being taken. When you slip into the cabin, you’re greeted by an iPad-like flat screen in the center of the instrument panel that is almost as big as a 17-inch laptop. Most all of the car’s functions can be controlled from this screen, and it can also display a full-screen navigation map. The Model S is a hatchback with room for five passengers. Cargo space is quite large with the seats folded. Two small rear-facing seats for kids are optional. The front trunk, where an engine would normally reside, is quite spacious. Aside from tires, brake pads and windshield wipers, there is not much to wear out. The company says routine software updates handle most issues, and the car monitors itself. The company recommends service every year or every 12,500 miles. The owner can take the car to a service center or for $100 Tesla will send a technician to the car. Tesla is planning valet service that will pick up a

customer’s car and leave a loaner in its place. There are three Model S versions, available online with a fully refundable deposit. The model with a 60 kWh battery has a range of 208 miles, hits 60 miles per hour in 5.9 seconds and has a base price of $63,570. The 85 kWh battery has a range of 265 miles, hits 60 in 5.4 seconds and has a base price of $73,570. The Performance 85 kWh hits 60 in 4.2 seconds and has a base price of $83,570. Max out the P85 with all options and the price can be $122,020. All base prices quoted are after a federal tax rebate of $7,500 that you receive when you file your income taxes. Installation of a home charging unit is additional. Price: The base price of the P85 that I drove was $94,900. The tech package was an additional $3,750, personal delivery was $990 and final inspection, prep and coordination was $180. The as-driven price was $99,820. Warranty: Four years or 50,000 miles. The 60 kWh battery has an eight-year, 125,000-mile warranty and the 85 kWh battery has an eight-year, unlimited-mile warranty. You can contact Tom Strongman at tom@tomstrongman.com.

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April April 4 SPRING CONCERT

APRIL 12

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Stephen Coker, Conductor. Works performed will include music of Paul Mealor, Morten Lauridsen, Benjamin Britten, and Bob Chilcott. $15 general admission; $10 senior citizens, alumni and non-Chapman students. The concert starts at 7 p.m. and will be held at Fish Interfaith Center.

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APRIL 5 MS WALK UNIVERSITY CALIFORNIA, IRVINE UCI

Fun, festival-like event including food, drink, entertainment and a two mile walk at UCI. The National MS Society's mission is to end the devastating effects of multiple sclerosis. They are currently accepting registrations via, email, mail or over the telephone for this walk. Participants must pre-register. 800.486.6762.

APRIL 11 IMAGINOLOGY OC FAIR & EVENT CENTER

The OC Fair & Event Center invites students and their families to go â&#x20AC;&#x153;Full S.T.E.A.M. Aheadâ&#x20AC;? at Imaginology for three days of competitions, exhibits and activities all designed to explore the fun of S.T.E.A.M. (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts and Math.) Exciting workshops, build-your-own scarecrow contest, scavenger hunts, hands-on activities and more will fuel imaginations. Friday 9 a.m.-3 p.m. and Saturday-Sunday 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Free Admission. OCFair.com

APRIL 12 DOHENY WOOD DOHENY STATE PARK

The Southern California Woody Club presents Doheny Wood. Come to Doheny State park and check a variety of classic woodies. The show is free to woodie owners and spectators. The state beach does have a park entry fee. Over 150 classic wooden cars, surf wagons will be on display. 8 a.m - 3 p.m. Show information: 714.968.9798 26 Newport Beach Lifestyle | April 2014

This annual spring event features an outdoor Festival, Open House and Car Show. Wayzgoose, UCI's oldest tradition, is a student-run festival in Aldrich Park and is filled with live entertainment, food, games and rides for UCI and the community. Many offices and services will be open or available with information for everyone especially prospective students. This includes academic program information and sessions; campus, housing and recreation facilities tours; Financial Aid and Admissions; and much more. Events and Parking are Free. 949.824.5182.

APRIL 12 BOLA CHICA EARTH DAY FESTIVAL BOLSA CHICA CONSERVANCY INTERPRETIVE CENTER

The Bolsa Chica Earth Day Festival is a fun way to get outside and learn about the environment with the whole family! Visitors will have the opportunity to touch a live snake, count migrating birds, learn about pollution, test the water, and much more. Alongside a multitude of educational activity booths the festival will also include a jump tent, food sales, and guided tours of the reserve. Entry is free. Sponsored by the Bolsa Chica Conservancy and the Amigos de Bolsa Chica.

APRIL 19 EASTER EGG SCRAMBLE MARINERS CHURCH

The hunt is on! Bring your basket and join the fun on the lawn of Mariners Church as 50,000 candy-filled eggs are dropped! Around the lawn there will be face painting, crafts for the kids and cookie decorating. The Egg Scramble will be at 3:15 p.m. After the scramble you can join us for the 4 p.m. Easter service. The Flashlight Egg Scramble will be at 7:15 p.m. Attend 6 p.m. Easter service and then come out for the scramble after. Bring your own flashlight. Suitable for kids 1-10. 949.769.8100

APRIL 19

April 25-27 Pet Expo

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Children can get ready for the holiday with a free egg coloring kit offered to the first 500 kids in line for the Treasure Hunt which starts at 10 a.m. Youngsters are encouraged to bring their Easter baskets to participate in the hunt in which they will visit various Market Place vendors and food operations for candy and treats including plastic eggs, some with gold tickets hidden inside to win giant Easter baskets. Bring your cameras for free photo opportunities with the Easter bunny from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Suitable for kids ages 1-11.

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contemporary film-making from around the world. This eight-day event will showcase a diverse collection of studio and independent films as well as a Family Film Series that will give film goers of all ages the chance to enjoy the festival. The festival provides a unique opportunity for attendees to learn more about the directors, actors, and producers behind the films. NewportBeachFilmFest.com

April 27 Taste of Huntington Beach SPORTS COMPLEX

A unique sampling of favorite local restaurants in Huntington Beach, paired with the finest wines in California, all in the name of charity! Proceeds benefit the children's wing of the Huntington Beach Library. Located at the Sports Complex at Talbert and Goldenwest. 12 p.m.– 4 p.m. 714.375.5023.

APRIL 24 – MAY 1 NEWPORT BEACH FILM FESTIVAL SELECTED THEATERS & VENUES

Celebrated as one of the leading lifestyle film festivals in the United States, the Newport Beach Film Festival seeks to bring to Orange County the best of classic and

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