All in - Dean Curry - Life Center by Lifetogether Ministries

Copyright © 2016 by Life Center Tacoma, Tacoma, WA ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman. Unless otherwise noted, all scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 and 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. ISBN 9781945589249 Printed in the United States of America

CONTENTS INTRODUCTION USING THIS WORKBOOK (READ THIS FIRST) OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION

PART 1: JESUS

SESSION ONE: HIS KINGDOM SESSION TWO: HIS CHURCH SESSION THREE: HIS MESSAGE

5 6 7 10

12 32 52

PART 2: YOU

SESSION FOUR: YOUR GIFTS SESSION FIVE: YOUR DAYS SESSION SIX: YOUR PLACE

74 94 118

LIFE GROUP HOST SUPPORT

140

HOW DO I START A GROUP? I’M IN CHARGE THIS WEEK….HELP!

142 148

LIFE GROUP WEEKLY TOOLS

151

LIFE GROUP AGREEMENT LIFE GROUP CALENDAR LIFE GROUP ROSTER MEMORY VERSE CARDS (CLIP & REVIEW) PRAYER AND PRAISE REPORT

152 154 155 156 158

When I first heard the phrase “all in”, I heard it in regards to gambling. I pictured a sweaty, smoke-filled room with perspiration on someone’s brow as they risk everything on one toss. That is not what it has come to mean in our culture; and it is certainly not what we are talking about here. We are not picturing risk in terms of victory or defeat, win or loss, but rather picture a hot day and a cool pool, less risk and more refreshment, renewal and not destruction. To go all in with Jesus is to get out of the risky business and to get into the redemption business. Nothing could be sweeter; nothing could be more fulfilling or refreshing than to truly go ALL IN on your faith. At this place on all our campuses we have a philosophy, as all churches do, that guides us in how and why we go all in the way we do. This series will not only help you be more ALL IN with your personal faith, but will also help you understand the “big why” of Life Center. Go all in, you won’t be sorry.

USING THIS WORKBOOK Tools to Help You Have a Great Life Group Experience!

Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Life Group Host Support; and (3) Life Group Weekly Tools. Familiarize yourself with each section. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves.

If you are facilitating or hosting a Life Group, the section Life Group Host Support will give you some tools to encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership.

Use this workbook as a guide, not a constraint. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Life Group Host Support, but let the Holy Spirit guide your time.

Pray before each sessionâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;for your group members, for your time together, and for wisdom and insight.

Read the Outline for Each Session on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

Enjoy your Life Group experience.

OUTLINE OF EACH SESSION A typical group session will include these sections: WEEKLY SCRIPTURE MEMORY VERSES

Each session opens with a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we have included these Scriptures in the back to cut out and meditate on throughout the week. Scripture meditation is a vital part of filling our mind with God’s word. We encourage you to give this important habit a try.

INTRODUCTION

Each session opens with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session. You may want to have the group read them aloud.

SHARE YOUR STORY

Each of us are formed by our past experiences, beliefs, and opinions. This section will give you some simple opening questions to get the conversation going and to help your group begin to share their story with each other. You can either answer these questions as a group, or if your group is too large, subgroup to allow everyone the opportunity to share.

HEAR GOD’S STORY

Our story is meant to intersect with God’s greater story. In this section, you’ll watch the video and then read a passage of Scripture. Take notes on what you hear and observe. The point of this section is not to merely accumulate information, but to hear and process what God is saying to you and to your group. This section’s questions focus on what you observe and think about what you heard.

ADDITIONAL NOTES

This brief section provides additional commentary, background, or insights on the passage you’ll study in the Hear God’s Story section.

CREATE A NEW STORY

The ultimate goal is not merely to listen to the Word, but to become “doers of the word” (James 1:22), so that Jesus begins to weave His story into yours. This section asks questions that challenge you to live out and apply what you have heard and discussed.

DAILY DEVOTIONS

While a weekly time with your group is valuable, so is the daily discipline of spending time in prayer and reading God’s Word. Each week we have chosen Scriptures to read and reflect on daily, between sessions, as a way of growing in your relationship with Jesus. This provides you with a chance to slow down, read just a small portion of Scripture each day, and reflect and pray through it. You’ll then have a chance to journal your response as a prayer to God. Don’t get in a hurry; take time to be still before God.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY

If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided additional passages and questions, which you can use either during the meeting, or as homework. Your group may choose to read

and prepare before each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. Or, group members can use the additional study section during the week after the meeting. If you prefer not to do study homework, this section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study while still accommodating those who canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do homework or are new to your group.

part 1:

JESUS 11

jesus:

his kingdom THE LORD SHALL REIGN FOREVER AND EVER. EXODUS 15:18

Did you ever play “King of the Castle”? The idea was to claim the top of a hill or the top of a mountain of snow. As long as you could stay higher than everyone else, you were the king, but usually your “reign” involved wrestling with other kids to keep them from taking your spot. The “king” changed often in this game, based on which kid was the biggest or fastest. God’s kingdom is nothing like that. There has always been, and will always be, only one king. He has reigned since the inauguration of the kingdom and He will reign for all of eternity. No one can muscle Him out of the spot or push Him out of the way, and His kingdom will never end. That king is Jesus. He is the ruler of everything, and He’s called us to go ALL IN by living for him. As we begin this study, we’ll consider what it means to follow Jesus as our king, and why it’s worth it!

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

What brought you here? What do you hope to get out of this group?

Imagine you could be king or queen of the world for a day. What would you do? What would be most important to you?

Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On page 152 is a Life Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.

We recommend you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. Studies show that healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30-44). Look at the Life Group Hosts Support beginning on page 140 for additional information about hosting or leading the group.

The Life Group Calendar on page 154 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t skip this important step! It will revolutionize your group.

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

DOODLE BOX

Ephesians 4:4-7; Luke 14:25-28a

There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it. 7

Large crowds were traveling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: 26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate 25

What does it mean that God is over all? Through all? In all?

When Jesus becomes our ‘King,’ what gets added to our life? What gets subtracted?

father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters— yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. 27 And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple. “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?”

Does Jesus really mean that should dislike or despise the people closest to us? If not, what is He saying?

How do we “carry our cross”?

ADDITIONAL NOTES: About a year ago, there was a story on CNN about Prince George, the young son of Prince William and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, in Great Britain. Apparently the paparazzi were hiding in sand dunes at the beach, trespassing onto private property, and even prompting other young children to lure the prince into view at the playgroundâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;all so they could snap a pic and make some cash. What it means to be a king or to rule a kingdom has hugely changed since ancient times. Today, in most areas of the world kings (and queens!) are figureheads with limited authority. Their main role is to represent the country, not to rule it.

But thousands of years ago, the king had absolute power over his subjects’ lives. He could send armies into war and make peace treaties. He lived off the work of his people, enjoying beautiful palaces and fine food while most of his subjects struggled to survive. If he was a good king, the people thrived. If not, they suffered and sometimes the kingdom was conquered. Either way, the fate of the people was bound to the decisions of the king. With all these conflicting models of “kingdom,” it can be difficult for us to understand what it means for Jesus to be our king or what it means for us to be part of His kingdom. But as Dean said, Jesus talked about this topic more than any other. To learn more, read through the seven parables about the kingdom that Jesus shares with His followers in Matthew 13.

CREATE A NEW STORY In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned f rom the teach ing and S c r ipt u re st udy. T he n think about practical steps you can take in the coming we e k to l ive out wh at you’ve learned. study. Then think about practical steps you can take in the coming week to live out what you’ve learned.

What does it mean to you that Jesus is over everything? That He’s in everything? Do you find this challenging, overwhelming, or exciting?

A s A nson shared on the video, having Jesus as king means this isn’t a democracy—we follow where the king leads, without question! Does what you know about Jesus make it easier or more difficult to consider Him as king?

Reflect on Deanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s question about intentions vs. actions. If you believe Jesus is over everything, how does that need to change your choices?

What areas of your life still need to be submitted to Jesus as King? How do you need to get out of the stands and onto the court?

This week, how can you commit to spending time in daily prayer or study of God’s Word? Use the Daily Devotionals & Partners section to guide you.

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 158.

Close your meeting with prayer.

Thank God for the people in your group. Pray for each person, that they would be open to Jesus in a new way through this study. Also, pray for new people you could invite to join your group next week.

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 1:3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. Reflect: God is not only over all, He owns all. What are some of the spiritual blessings He can give us?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 1:7-8 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us. Reflect: When we follow Him, how generous is God with His grace and His gifts?

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 1:8-10 With all wisdom and understanding, he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.

Reflect: What does it mean that Christ brings unity between heaven and earth? What other insights do you get about Jesus from these verses?

DAY 4 • EPHESIANS 1:13-14 When you believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession—to the praise of his glory. Reflect: In ancient times, people marked things with a seal to show ownership. How does the Holy Spirit mark us as His people?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 1:22-23 And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way. Reflect: As the church, we are the fullness of Christ, and He is the fullness of God in us. What have you learned this week about Jesus?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

FOR ADDITIONAL STUDY If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time before the next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this sessionâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s theme on your own and jot your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

Luke 12:29-32

What does it mean to â&#x20AC;&#x153;seek his kingdomâ&#x20AC;?? How is that in contrast to seeking earthly things like food and drink?

Why would Jesus tell the people not to be afraid in the middle of this teaching?

What does it mean for God to give us the kingdom? Why does that please him?

Philippians 2:6-11 1.

Consider verses 6 and 7. What choice did Jesus have when He came to earth?

How does Jesusâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; humility and obedience actually make Him greater? What does this passage tell us about our king?

How do you need to exalt, or lift high, the name of Jesus? Have you acknowledged that He is Lord of your life?

jesus: his church

“MY PRAYER IS NOT FOR THEM ALONE. I PRAY ALSO FOR THOSE WHO WILL BELIEVE IN ME THROUGH THEIR MESSAGE, THAT ALL OF THEM MAY BE ONE, FATHER, JUST AS YOU ARE IN ME AND I AM IN YOU. MAY THEY ALSO BE IN US SO THAT THE WORLD MAY BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE SENT ME.” JOHN 17:20-21

If you’ve ever studied church history or read about theology, perhaps you’ve noticed that sometimes you will see the word “church” and other times you see “Church.” What’s going on? Did the editor mess up and forget to fix this? No way. This small difference in capitalization reflects a huge truth: while there are many local churches — groups of Jesus people who worship and serve together — there is really just one Church, made up of all the Jesus people around the world. In today’s session, we’ll learn more about what it means to be part of the local church, why we are all part of the global Church, and what it means to go ALL IN at our church.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

Did you grow up in the church? If so, which denomination or tradition were you part of?

Why do you think itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s important to be connected to a local church?

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

DOODLE BOX

Ephesians 2:8-22

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Therefore, remember that formerly you who are Gentiles by birth and called “uncircumcised” by those who call themselves “the circumcision” (which is done in the body by human hands)—12 remember that at that time you were separate from Christ, excluded from citizenship in Israel and foreigners to the covenants of the promise, without hope and without God in the world.13 But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ. 11

For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of 14

How does this scripture describe the church?

What unifies us?

hostility,15 by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace, 16 and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility. 17 He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near. 18 For through him we both have access to the Father by one Spirit. Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s people and also members of his household, 20 built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone. 21 In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. 22 And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit. 19

What distinguishes a Jesus church from other religions or beliefs?

ADDITIONAL NOTES: It’s easy for us to quickly read these verses in Ephesians 2 and miss the revolution inside them. See, when Jesus came, the Jewish people believed they were the only chosen people of God. After all, God had created the Israelites as a nation, formed covenants with them, delivered them into the Promised Land, and promised His presence and protection. They didn’t make this up—God told them they were “chosen to be his treasured people from all the nations that are on the face of the earth” (Deuteronomy 14:2). However, Jesus made it clear to the disciples that they were to go into ALL the world and make disciples for him, and that He came to save both Jews and Gentiles (non-Jewish people).

For centuries the Jews believed God’s salvation was only for them; now they had to adjust their entire perspective to accept that everyone could be part of the church. While we may not struggle with the Jewish/Gentile issue, there might be other groups that are difficult for us to fully accept into the Kingdom. But as we learned this week, there is one Church, with Jesus as the head, and He wants as many people as possible to be part of it. Just as the Jews had to set aside personal prejudices or expectations about what the Church should be, we too must choose to love and partner with everyone who has accepted “what Christ has done for us.” If someone is a Jesus person, they are our brother or sister!

CREATE A NEW STORY In this section, talk about how you will apply the wisdom you’ve learned f rom the teach ing and S c r ipt u re. T he n t h i n k about practical steps you can take in the coming we e k to l ive out wh at you’ve learned.

What does it mean that the church is all about Jesus?

Is it a new idea for you that the church is more than what happens on Sunday, or more than a building? Share your thoughts with the group.

What does it mean to be “one” or have unity with other Christians? Why is it so significant that this was one of Jesus’ last prayers for us?

What is the difference between attending church and participating in the Church?

Thinking about this session, how are you challenged to go more “ALL IN” with the church?

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 158.

Close your meeting with prayer.

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 2:13 But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ. Reflect: At one point, all of us were far away from God. How does the blood of Jesus bring us near to him?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 2:14-15 For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. Reflect: On our own, we can’t keep the law. But Jesus died to be our peace and to give us victory over the law. How does this truth change your relationship with God?

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 2:17-18 He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near. For through him we both have access to the Father by one Spirit.

Reflect: Again today, the scripture reminds us that Jesus came to bring us peace. In what areas of life do you need His peace today?

DAY 4 • EPHESIANS 2:19-20 Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone. Reflect: What does it mean that Jesus is the cornerstone of the family of God?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 2:21-22 In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit. Reflect: In the Old Testament, God’s Spirit lived in the temple. How are we the temple of God today?

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

John 10:14-16

How do verses 14 and 15 reflect the teaching on unity we studied in John 17?

Who are the “other sheep” Jesus is referring to? (Re-read Ephesians 2:14 kicked off this week’s video teaching.)

What does is mean that there is “one flock”? What does it mean that we all have “one shepherd”?

Hebrews 3:1-6 4.

What does it mean to fix our eyes on Jesus? Why is this so important?

God’s “house” is the Church. According to verse 6, who is in charge of the Church?

How do we participate in the Church? (verse 6)

jesus: his Message

HE SAID TO THEM, “GO INTO ALL THE WORLD AND PREACH THE GOSPEL TO ALL CREATION.” MARK 16:15

When one of my friends was in college, she shared a room with a very driven, ambitious student. For months, my friend’s roommate had pursued an exclusive internship in New York City, a summer-long experience that only accepted a handful of students. But as the weeks passed in the spring of their senior year, and no word came from the organization in Manhattan, the roommate assumed she had not been selected for the internship. She was extremely disappointed. Then one afternoon, late in April, the phone rang in their small dorm room and a voice asked for the roommate. My friend took the call and asked if she could take a message. The voice on the other end of the line explained that the roommate had won the internship spot and the organization would be emailing with all the details. My friend could hardly sit still. She knew how thrilled her roommate would be to get the news, and she was so excited to be the one to tell her. It would be some of the best news her roommate could receive, and my friend’s heart beat in triple time until she finally found her roommate, blurted out the surprise, and gave her a huge hug. Sometimes when we think of sharing the message of Jesus with other people, it can feel like work—like something we have to do. Sometimes it feels intimidating— something we’re scared to do. But when we remember that we have a message of hope, love, and life, we can be as excited as my friend waiting for her roommate. We have the best news of all time, and Jesus has entrusted us with this message so we can tell the world.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

Have you ever shared your faith with someone else?

Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s unique about the mission field where you live?

Do you see yourself as an evangelist? Why or why not?

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

DOODLE BOX

Matthew 28:18-20

Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” 18

We have the authority to connect people to God because Jesus told us to. Who gave Him this authority (verse 18)? Why? Is this different from the authority Jesus had during His earthly ministry?

This passage says it’s not enough to help others make the initial connection to Christ; we must also “disciple” them. What does that mean? How do we do it?

Jesus has all authority, we are to go into all nations, we are to teach obedience to everything He has commanded, and He will always be with us. Why do you think Jesus emphasized these ideas?

Why would Jesus end this commissioning with a promise not to leave us?

ADDITIONAL NOTES: As Dean mentioned in this week’s teaching, there are three kinds of “word” in the Bible: the spoken word (for instance, God speaking creation into existence), the written Word (the Bible), and also the Word itself, the person of Jesus, who was the message, who brought the message, and who embodied God’s message in our world. Spend a few minutes slowly reading and reflecting on this well-known passage from John 1 that so beautifully expresses these ideas. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was with God in the beginning.3 Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. 4 In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. 5 The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. 1

There was a man sent from God whose name was John.7 He came as a witness to testify concerning that light, so that through him all might believe. 8 He himself was not the light; he came only as a witness to the light. 6

The true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world. 10 He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. 11 He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him. 12 Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of Godâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; 13 children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husbandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s will, but born of God. 9

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. 14

What does it mean that we have an “arrows out” philosophy? What’s the difference between building an audience and building an army?

If you follow Jesus, are you responsible for sharing His message? If so, how?

Some ways you can share the hope and the message of Jesus include sharing your story (how God has worked in your life); sharing your life (spending time with others and listen to them); sharing God’s Word; and reading His Word (because you can’t share what you don’t know!). What’s one area in which you could grow?

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 158.

Close your meeting with prayer.

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 3:10-11 His intent was that now, through the church, the manifold wisdom of God should be made known to the rulers and authorities in the heavenly realms, according to his eternal purpose that he accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord. Reflect: If we are members of Christ’s church, what is our responsibility?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 3:12 In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. Reflect: Do you ever feel that you’re bothering God with your prayers? Memorize this verse and remind yourself that God wants to hear from you, and He welcomes you into His presence.

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 3:16-17 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.

Reflect: How does God strengthen us in our “inner being”? How do you need His power at work in your life today?

DAY 4 • EPHESIANS 3:17-19 And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Reflect: Have you grasped how wide, how long, how high, and how deep the love of Christ is for you?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 3:20-21 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. Reflect: What would you like God to do in you? How would you like Him to use you to bring Him glory in the church? Ask Him in faith today!

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

Matthew 9:35-38

“Gospel” is a word that means “good news,” like we see in verse 35. How does the fact that we’re sharing good news make it easier to tell people about Jesus?

Why would Jesus have compassion on the people? How would this compassion lead into His comment to the disciples?

What is the harvest field? Who are the workers? What is their work?

Matthew 5:13-16 4.

Think about the metaphor that Jesus uses here, comparing us to salt. What does He mean? How are Christians â&#x20AC;&#x153;saltâ&#x20AC;? to the world?

What responsibility comes with being a light that points to Jesus?

Why do we let our light shine before others?

part 2:

YOU 73

you:

your gifts BUT TO EACH ONE OF US GRACE HAS BEEN GIVEN AS CHRIST APPORTIONED IT. EPHESIANS 4:7

When we think of gifts, we think of piles of presents under a Christmas tree, or a wedding registry, or maybe a beautifully-wrapped box for our birthday. In the Bible, we read about a different kind of gift. These don’t come from a store, they come from God, and they won’t fit in a bag or under a tree. Instead, they become part of who we are as God entrusts each one of us with unique talents and abilities. These gifts are also different because they’re not ours to keep. God doesn’t give us talents or skills so we can just use them for ourselves — in fact, the whole point is to bless others. But that shouldn’t be a surprise — serving others is at the core of Jesus’ message, and we want it to be central to our lives as we follow Him together.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

What is something you do that makes you come alive?

What is something you wish you could do really well?

What is one thing youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been good at ever since you were a child?

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

DOODLE BOX

Romans 12:3-8

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We

Paul begins by encouraging His readers to be humble and honest when considering their gifts. Why is this so important?

How does the analogy of a body with many parts illustrate the importance of each gift?

have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If a manâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith; if it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.

What does it mean that â&#x20AC;&#x153;each member belongs to all the othersâ&#x20AC;??

Why does God gift us so differently?

ADDITIONAL NOTES: Each of you have a unique gift mix, a combination of various factors:

Natural abilitiesÂâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;hings that have been constant in your life since childhood

Acquired or learned skills you have accumulated throughout your life

Spiritual gifts God has given you through the Holy Spirit. There are supernatural gifts of healing, tongues, prophecy, word of knowledge, gift of encouragement, gift of teaching/preaching, gifts of mercy and compassion, gift of faith.

What are some of the gifts you have been given? What are some gifts that you’ve “gotten”?

What spiritual gifts have you seen operate in your life? Which spiritual gifts do you desire to have?

How does knowing our own gifts help us appreciate others?

Why is it important to have humility about our gifts? Why is it so important to remember they come from God?

Thinking about what you have learned in this session, how could you use your specific gifts to serve this group?

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 158.

Close your meeting with prayer.

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 4:4-6. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. Reflect: We are different people with different gifts, but we are one church (and one Church!) united by one Lord and one faith. How can you use your gifts to build up the church here or around the world?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 4:7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it. Reflect: How has God blessed you? How do you need His grace?

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 4:11-13 It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body

of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Reflect: What are the reasons given here for God gifting His people? How can your gift contribute to one of these goals?

DAY 4 â&#x20AC;˘ EPHESIANS 4:16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. Reflect: Why is every part important to the body?

DAY 5 â&#x20AC;˘ EPHESIANS 4:22-24 You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Reflect: How has God made your mind and your spirit new as you follow him? Take some time to thank Him and to ask Him to help you grow in holiness.

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

1 Peter 4:10-11

The Greek word translated as “various” in 1 Peter means “of many colors.” When we all use our gifts, we create something more beautiful than any of us could alone. How are the various gifts designed to work together?

Peter says we should use our gifts faithfully. What does this mean? How is using our gifts a stewardship issue?

How do we demonstrate God’s grace to others when we use our gifts?

1 Corinthians 12:4-11 1.

Why is it so important to remember that our gifts come from the Holy Spirit? Why is it important to remember that they are all ways God is working?

How are our gifts a manifestation of the Spirit?

Our gifts are not for ourselves, but for â&#x20AC;&#x153;the common good.â&#x20AC;? How can you use your gifts for others?

you:

your days TEACH US TO NUMBER OUR DAYS, THAT WE MAY GAIN A HEART OF WISDOM. PSALM 90:12

W h e n s o m e o n e a c c u m u l ate s a number of assets or investments, or owns several properties, or simply wants to plan well for the future, it’s common to use a financial planner. Financial planners don’t own our money or our property, but they help us manage our wealth so it can do the greatest good. In a way, we are “financial planners” for God. This is certainly not because we are wiser or more insightful than God is about money, but because in His generosity He has given each one of us a portion of His own wealth for us to manage. Not only that, we have also been given time (the years of our lives) and talent (our gifts and skills) and we have been told to use these gifts with wisdom, as well. The Bible calls all of this being a steward—taking care of God’s “assets” and using them to bring Him the greatest honor and glory. This week, we’re focusing on what it means to serve the God who owns everything and how we can be faithful stewards of our lives.

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

Have you heard the saying â&#x20AC;&#x153;time is moneyâ&#x20AC;?? What does that mean?

Are you more of a planner or more spontaneous?

Share with your group the results of your spiritual gifts assessment. Do you think it was accurate? What, if anything, did you learn about yourself?

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

DOODLE BOX

Matthew 25:14-30

“Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. 17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money. “After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. 20 The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.’ 19

“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’

“The man with two bags of gold also came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.’ 22

100

One author describes this story as a process of gracious receiving and gracious giving: three servants received and accepted; two servants grew the money through investing; the first two brought all of it back plus extra; God gave them more to invest. How do both the workers and the master demonstrate gracious giving in this parable? How do they show gracious receiving?

“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’

“Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’

“His master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.

“‘So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags. 29 For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. 30 And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’ 28

101

102

Why did the third servant bury the money instead of investing it?

Why do you think the master gave different amounts to each servant?

Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s easy to see the applications of this story to money. How does this parable apply to the way we steward our time? Our talents?

For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Matthew 25:29

103

ADDITIONAL NOTES: In Ephesians 5, Paul instructs us to: 15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit…. This passage mentions using our days intentionally. This concept is called “stewardship.” A “steward” is a person who carefully and responsibly manages something entrusted to his or her care. Although God is ultimately in control, He created us with free will. We can choose to obey or disobey. We can choose to be faithful or unfaithful. We can choose to be a good steward or to waste the things God has given us. This leads us to the question: what have you been given to be a steward of?

104

TIME/TALENT/TREASURE Time is one thing we all have at our disposal, yet it is a limited resource. Each year, month, day, week, hour, and minute, we all have exactly the same amount of time. The longer we live, the more we realize that life on earth is short. And life is made up of moments, some important and some more mundane. TIME Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot… a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” The challenge of life is discerning how best to use our time and when it’s appropriate to weep and mourn, or laugh and dance. In Genesis 1 God creates the heavens and the earth. He works for six days and rests on the seventh day. This is the pattern of time God asks us to follow.

105

We are to take a Sabbath—a day of rest—each week. The goal of the Sabbath is to cease striving and simply enjoy life. Enjoy God. Enjoy your family. Enjoy your friends. Enjoy food. But allow time for rest and relaxation. When we consistently practice a Sabbath, we will naturally become more effective the rest of the week. Think about a typical day in your life. How do you spend most of your time? What tasks are necessary? Which are optional? How do you spend your morning, afternoon, and evening? Do you plan most of the details of your day beforehand, or do you tend to go with the flow? All things considered, do you think you are a good steward of your time? Clearly, the time management of Jesus followers should be different than the way other people use their time. The earliest followers of Jesus lived with a sense of purpose and urgency. They placed high value on relationships and spending time with God through prayer, worship, and Bible study. They spent their disposable time looking not only to their own interests, but also to the interests of others. Shouldn’t our lives reflect these same values? TALENTS As we talked about last time, God has blessed each one of us with talents and gifts. Ephesians 4:11-13 says, “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become

106

mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.” The purpose of our gifts is not to enrich ourselves, but to enrich the lives of others. We have been blessed so that we can be a blessing. TREASURE God asks us to be good stewards in every area of life, including our money. This is one of the most simple and concrete ways we can obey God. Yet it is also one of the most difficult for people to commit to and consistently practice. In the Old Testament, God asked His people to give a tenth of their resources back to God. This is called a tithe. Since God has given us everything, and it all belongs to God anyway, He asks us to worship and honor Him with our money. In the New Testament, a new standard of giving is introduced. Some people use this as an excuse not to tithe. But the standard in the New Testament is actually greater than the standard in the Old Testament. Last week you read in Acts chapter 2 how the earliest followers of Jesus gave everything to the church in order to share all things in common. Furthermore, in 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 we are instructed, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” We are to give generously and cheerfully; not because we have to, but because we want to. We believe that living generously is part of the good life, for it is better to give than to receive. And when we give generously, God abundantly blesses us. is part of the good life, for it is better to give than to receive. And when we give generously, God abundantly blesses us.

107

108

What is a steward? How is it different from an owner?

When you understand that God owns your days, your gifts, and your resources, how does it change your approach to how you use your time? How does it affect how you use your money?

109

110

Why is money such a sensitive subject? What do your checkbook and your credit card statement say about your priorities?

Out of these three areas— time, talent, and treasure— which one are you a good steward of? Which one do you need the most improvement in?

Ask, “How can we pray for you this week?” Invite everyone to share, but don’t force the issue. Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 158.

Close your meeting with prayer.

111

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 5:1-2 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Reflect: How does Christ’s sacrifice for you motivate you to “walk in the way of love”? How does it encourage you to use your days well?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 5:5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Reflect: We have all done wrong things. None of us is holy or pure on our own power. Thank God today for the grace He has given you.

112

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 5:8-10 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord.

Reflect: What are some things that you know please the Lord? How can you bring more of these good, righteous, and true things into your life?

DAY 4 • EPHESIANS 5:15-16 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Reflect: The Bible says that God will always give wisdom if we ask for it. In what areas of life do you need wisdom right now?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 5:19-20 Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Reflect: Gratefulness always precedes generosity! How has God blessed you? How can you live out of that abundance in ways that bless others?

113

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

114

115

Deuteronomy 8:6-18

116

What should our response be when God gives us good things?

What sin do we tend to fall into when we experience these blessings?

Why is it so important to remember the source of our abilities?

2 Corinthians 9:6-11 1.

What does it mean to give cheerfully? Does that word characterize your giving, or do you give reluctantly? (Interesting note: The Greek word used for “cheerful,” actually means “with hilarity!”)

What is the promise in verse 8? Does that change your attitude toward giving?

Why does God “enrich” us? (verse 11)

How does generosity result in thanksgiving?

117

you:

your place WHATEVER YOU DO, WORK AT IT WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AS WORKING FOR THE LORD, NOT FOR HUMAN MASTERSâ&#x20AC;¦. COLOSSIANS 3:23

118

Take a look at your life. What are you: a child? A spouse? A brother or sister? An employee? A friend? A parent? Young? Old? Wealthy? Poor? Where are you? In an apartment or a house or sleeping on a couch? In a job or retired from a job or looking for a job? In the 253 or in some other area? How are you? Fulfilled, anxious, content, sad, joyful? Each of us are in different life stages, marital statuses, and emotional states. Some of these things are our choice; others are circumstances or situations determined by others. But we are all on a journey, and as we close this series we’re taking a look at where we find ourselves, what we can learn there, and how God might want to use us. As we’ll learn today, no matter what’s happening in our lives we’re always in the right place at the right time when we’re seeking God.

119

SHARE YOUR STORY Open your session with prayer and introductions. Get any new group memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s information.

120

What has surprised you most about this group? Where did God meet you over the last six weeks?

Have you ever experienced a moment when you felt God specifically telling you to do something? How did you respond?

Take time in this last session to discuss what your next steps are as a result of this study, both in each person individually and as a group.

121

HEAR GODâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S STORY WATCH THE VIDEO NOW. Read the Scripture together. Then write down any notes in the space provided.

122

DOODLE BOX

123

Ephesians 6:1-8

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” 1

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

124

Looking at these verses, how would you describe your “place” right now?

Is it easier for you to “embrace your place” or do you want to change your place?

Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people,8 because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free. 5

Which do you struggle with moreÂâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; restlessness or apathy?

How c ou ld you apply ve r s e 7 to you r s pec i f ic circumstances?

125

ADDITIONAL NOTES: In 1 Corinthians 7:20-24, we read: Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.

Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings. 24 Brothers and sisters, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them. 21

Have you ever noticed how kids always want to be one stage older? Preschoolers want to go to kindergarten; grade-schoolers want to go to middle school; junior highers want to be cool high school teenagers; the high-schoolers

126

want to go to college; college kids want jobs and apartments and independence. On and on it goes! The same is true for many of us. We feel stuck in our career paths, in our house payments, perhaps even in our marriages. We spend a lot of time and energy focusing on the greener grass in another yard instead of choosing to be content in the situation where God has placed us. There’s nothing wrong with trying to improve yourself or your life— go ahead and get that graduate degree, or look for a spouse to spend your life with, or take that new job. But remember that at a deeper level we are called to be faithful to God right where we are. We should not spend our lives longing for the next stage, and we should never think God can only use us if we change our situation. No matter where you are right now, remain available to God and He will work through you.

127

CREATE A NEW STORY How has God changed your story during this sixweek study? What new things is He asking you to do? What truth has transformed your heart? Think about specific steps you want to take to live a new story, to walk more closely with God so you can be part of His story, engaged in His kingdom.

128

Why do we have to obey God before we experience His power?

What does it mean to think like an owner? How can we also feel like a passer-by and work like a slave?

129

130

How can you put this into action in the 253?

What breaks your heart here in this place? What do you think breaks Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart? How might He be calling you to think, feel, and work about this?

131

CLOSING STEPS FOR YOUR GROUP As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves. Instead, affirm others in the group.) Make sure each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebratedâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; whether the steps theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve made are large or small. If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when you will meet. Think about what worked well for your group during these six weeks, as well as what you would change for next time. Review your Life Group Agreement on page 152 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to

132

make as you move forward. If you plan to continue to meeting, and your group starts a new study, this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, maybe your group members have some ideas for you. Remember you aren’t making a lifetime commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you don’t feel ready to serve solo. Close by praying for your prayer requests and take a couple of minutes to review the praises you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 158. Spend some time thanking God for all He’s done in your group during this study.

133

DAILY DEVOTIONALS

DAY 1 • EPHESIANS 6:7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free. Reflect: How does it change your behavior if you think of it as serving God? Does the reward God promises make it easier to serve where He’s placed you?

DAY 2 • EPHESIANS 6:10-11 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Reflect: If we are to make a difference in our place, it requires the strength and power of God. How do you need Him to work through you and strengthen you?

134

DAY 3 • EPHESIANS 6:13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Reflect: God will not let us encounter anything He has not equipped us for! How can you put on His armor to prepare?

DAY 4 • EPHESIANS 6:17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Reflect: How do salvation and scripture protect us as we obey God in our place?

DAY 5 • EPHESIANS 6:18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Reflect: Why is prayer so important in living out the call God has on our lives? Who can you pray for today?

135

DAY 6 Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Daily Devotions time this week.

136

137

Galatians 6:7-10

138

What does this passage have to say about our choices? Why is it so important to “sow” for the Lord?

Have you ever felt “weary in doing good”? What have you learned in this week’s study that you can apply to your life when that happens?

In verse 10, what is our responsibility? What’s God’s responsibility?

2 Corinthians 6:1-2 1.

How could we receive Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s grace in vain?

Why is it so important to be tuned in to Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s timing instead of our own?

How is every day the day of salvation? How should that affect the way we live?

139

LIFE GROUP HOSTS SUPPORT

140

RESOURCES TO MAKE YOUR LIFE GROUP EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!

141

How do I start a group?

142

ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS You already have the most important element: you! This is the biggest key in any group: someone to take the first step. FIND SOME FRIENDS. Whom could you partner with? This study is not meant to be done alone. Having someone to do it with makes it a lot more fun and effective! You can either have a private, invite-only group, or a public group, open to all in the church. SET A TIME. Without a set me, you will never get started. Keep it consistent and easy. CHOOSE A LOCATION. There are many options, so keep it simple: Your home, workplace, a local restaurant or coffee shop. Choose somewhere open discussion can happen without too many distractions. Also, think about switching hosts to share the load. PRAY. You’re not alone. The Holy Spirit wants to lead and guide your group. Let Him! START INVITING. The best method of getting others to join your group is a personal invite to someone in one of your circles of influence. Expect your list of people you invited to be much larger than the list of people who show up to your group. Don’t be discouraged by this, as your group will not work for everyone. Keep the invites coming!

143

WHO CAN JOIN YOUR GROUP?

Write down some names in the circles below:

FOR EXISTING GROUPS: HOW CAN WE FIND NEW MEMBERS TO JOIN OUR GROUP?

This can be challenging, especially if you’ve lost a few people along the way. But don’t worry: All groups tend to go through healthy attrition from the result of moves, releasing new leaders, other ministry opportunities, and so forth. If you and your group continue to stay open to new people, you’ll be amazed at whom God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know! We encourage you

144

to pray with your group and then brainstorm using the circle chart on the previous page. Then, have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. A healthy group always has room for new friends.

WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR NEW GROUP?

Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch this new study. You may want to review the Group Agreement (pages 152–153) that night to make sure you are all on the same page. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET?

Most groups meet weekly for their first study together. Some groups might want to meet every other week, but we have found it hard to build momentum when your group is first forming. We strongly recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month. At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another study, or even host a group of their own! Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping stones into another group experience. Either way,

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ANY WAY WE WANT?

Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy combining some relational me (perhaps going out to dinner, etc) with going through this study. You could even send a copy of the book to a family member and do it through Skype! Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

145

WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?

You’re not alone! There could be many factors: Clashing personalities, differences in schedules, or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and at the end of this study, decide whether to continue with this group or find another. You don’t typically buy the first car you look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with a group. However, don’t be quick to bail out; God might have something to teach you. Give others a fair chance, and remember, God is still working on your life, too!

WHO’S IN CHARGE OF OUR GROUP?

Most groups have an official ‘host.’ But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate roles. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate hosts. The group calendar will be a great tool for this.

146

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILDCARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP?  Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and then adjust over time. Some groups don’t mind a noisy, family friendly group while others would prefer to share the cost of a babysitter who can watch the kids in a different room of the house. This way, parents don’t have to be away from their children all evening when their children are too young to be leftat home. Another option is to use one home for the kids and a second home (close by or a phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common solution is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

147

Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;M IN CHARGE NEXT WEEK! HELP! 148

Here are some tips for hosting for the first time SWEATY PALMS ARE A HEALTHY SIGN. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble. Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty-palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through. SEEK SUPPORT. Ask someone to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics. BRING YOUR UNIQUENESS TO THE STUDY. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study. PREPARE. PREPARE. PREPARE. Go through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and consider writing in a journal to prepare you for what God wants to do. PROVIDE TRANSITIONS BETWEEN QUESTIONS. When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Scripture passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud. BREAK UP INTO SMALLER GROUPS IF THE GROUP IS TOO LARGE. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather in discussion circles of three or four people during the Hear God’s Story and Change Your Story sections of the study. With greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning, and ultimately get more out of it. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. You can also do this for prayer requests at the end.

149

WHEN YOU ASK A QUESTION, BE PATIENT. Someone will eventually respond. Some times people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question. Keep in mind that if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time. ASK FOR FEEDBACK SO YOU CAN GROW. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive. Instead, show an openness to learn and grow. PRAYERFULLY CONSIDER LAUNCHING A NEW GROUP. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time. Not all of us are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday. SHARE WITH YOUR GROUP WHAT GOD IS DOING IN YOUR HEART. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully His. Share your trials and victories. We promise that people will relate. PRAYERFULLY CONSIDER WHOM YOU WOULD LIKE TO PASS THE BATON TO NEXT WEEK. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled. Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest. ON E F I NA L CH A L L E NGE ( F OR N E W OR F I R S T-T I M E LEADERS). Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip you with a shepherd’s heart. By doing this, you will be more prepared for your first meeting. Matthew 9:36; 1 Peter 5:2-4; Psalm 23; Ezekiel 34:11-16; and 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12

150

LIFE GROUP WEEKLY TOOLS 151

LIFE GROUP AGREEMENT OUR PURPOSE

To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

OUR VALUES GROUP ATTENDANCE To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page 154 will minimize this issue.) SAFE ENVIRONMENT To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.) RESPECT DIFFERENCES To be gentle and gracious to fellow group members with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections.” We are all works in progress. CONFIDENTIALITY To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group. ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GROWTH To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts. SHARED OWNERSHIP To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time. ROTATING HOSTS/LEADERS AND HOMES To encourage different people to host the group in their homes and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page 154.)

152

OUR EXPECTATIONS 1.

Refreshments/mealtimes

Childcare

When we will meet (day of week)

Where we will meet (place)

We will begin at and end at

We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service together. Our primary worship service time will be

Date of this agreement

Date we will review this agreement again

Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of this study

(time)

153

LIFE GROUP CALENDAR Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.

DATE

January 11

154

SESSION

HOST HOME

Steve and Laura’s

DESSERT/MEAL

LEADER

Joe

Bill

LIFE GROUP ROSTER

NAME PHONE EMAIL

155

MEMORY VERSE CARDS SESSION ONE THE LORD SHALL REIGN FOREVER AND EVER. EXODUS 15:18

SESSION TWO “MY PRAYER IS NOT FOR THEM ALONE. I PRAY ALSO FOR THOSE WHO WILL BELIEVE IN ME THROUGH THEIR MESSAGE, THAT ALL OF THEM MAY BE ONE, FATHER, JUST AS YOU ARE IN ME AND I AM IN YOU. MAY THEY ALSO BE IN US SO THAT THE WORLD MAY BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE SENT ME.” JOHN 17:20-21

SESSION THREE HE SAID TO THEM, “GO INTO ALL THE WORLD AND PREACH THE GOSPEL TO ALL CREATION.” 156

MARK 16:15

SESSION FOUR

SESSION FIVE

BUT TO EACH ONE OF US GRACE HAS BEEN GIVEN AS CHRIST APPORTIONED IT.

TEACH US TO NUMBER OUR DAYS, THAT WE MAY GAIN A HEART OF WISDOM.

EPHESIANS 4:7

PSALM 90:12

SESSION SIX WHATEVER YOU DO, WORK AT IT WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AS WORKING FOR THE LORD, NOT FOR HUMAN MASTERSâ&#x20AC;¦. COLOSSIANS 3:23

157

PRAYER REQUESTS

158

PRAISE REPORTS

159