You Have Called Me by My Name
Other Books by Joseph A. Tetlow, SJAlways Discerning: An Ignatian Spirituality for the New Millennium
Making Choices in Christ: The Foundations of Ignatian Spirituality
You Have Called Me by My Name
Praying with Father Joe Tetlow, SJ© 2021 United States Central Southern Province of the Society of Jesus
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Cover art credit: Thomas Rochford SJ and JJ Mueller SJ/Jesuits USA Central and Southern Province.
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This book honors the memory of my father, Joseph Allen Tetlow, Sr.
When He was very small, you would caress Him with your calloused hands and cradle Him contentedly against your workman’s chest. Now, Joseph, father to my brother Jesus, I recall myself a little boy, and ask you: let me stand against your side, your arm around my slender shoulder and my father (a Joseph, too) on my other side, and me between, because I need you now, and Him, too, and need’s the only ground I have to stand on as I call.
Will you, please, remembering Him— stand by me—remembering—and calling on you both? Amen.
Contents Introduction .............................................................................. xi 1. Preparing What’s to Come..................................................1 Like the Sun, Lord, You Cherish Me ..........................3 My Music Is Enough.....................................................4 Quiet, All Alone ............................................................6 You Do Want My Love.................................................8 In This Place I Know You ..........................................10 Send Your Spirit to Me ...............................................11 I Open My Heart ........................................................12 Embraced Forever........................................................13 2. Who Dwell in Darkness and the Fear of Death ............15 Such Insistent Gentle Love.........................................17 How Can You Love Me?.............................................18 A Little Ping of Pure Intent........................................19 Now I Am in Need......................................................20 I Repent Again.............................................................21 Love Wrapped in Fear.................................................22 Call Me to an Agile Love............................................24 Wanting More and More to Love..............................25 Turning Away from Sin ..............................................26 vii
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3. Blinking in Broad Daylight..............................................27 What Do I Bring to You? ...........................................29 Remembering the Shepherds .....................................30 He Has Come into My Shrinking Soul ....................31 Wisdom, Age, and Grace............................................32 I Trust That You Can Manage Me ............................33 Thinking of Peter ........................................................34 What Is This Hole in Me?..........................................36 Lady Mary, Teach Me to Love ...................................38 What Thomas Said .....................................................40 Love and Blunder Both...............................................42 Woman with a Broken Heart.....................................43 Waiting.........................................................................44 How Can I Know You?...............................................46 I’ll Go with You...........................................................48 What Do You Want?...................................................49 If Only I Could Hear You Say My Name.................50 Holy Potter, Finish This Work...................................52 Thinking of Joseph......................................................54 4. In the Crimson of the Setting Sun..................................57 Say the Truth One More Time ..................................59 Now, an Eternity of Dark...........................................60 Son of Holy Silence.....................................................62 If You Help Me, I Will Die in Hope.........................63
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May I Hope That It’s Enough? ..................................64 We Stumble and Fall...................................................66 I Cling to You with Slipping Hands..........................68 I Haven’t Cared Till Now ..........................................69 5. So This Is What It Means ................................................71 Jesus’ Wounds and Ours.............................................73 How to Believe Now...................................................74 To Mary of Magdala ...................................................76 I Must Wait, Wrapped in Hope.................................78 Given Your Spirit, We Call You.................................79 Please, Lord, Want Us Back .......................................80 6. And Then Afterwards.......................................................83 Alone but Not Alone...................................................85 A Friend Missed...........................................................86 Since I Am Clay...........................................................88 I Would Walk Unanxious...........................................89 Now I Go to Rest ........................................................90 Together We Weep......................................................92 Unready but Anointed................................................94 Give Me Today What to Do Today...........................96 I Would Not Be a Fake ...............................................98 From No to Yes..........................................................100 What All the Father Means in Me...........................102 About the Author ..................................................................105 Contents ix
Introduction
Jesuitsinourmanyyearsofstudyweretaughttothinkin Latin.Ididit,andIconcludethatsomegoodmighthave comeofit,butit’sbettertothinkinourownlanguage.I thinkinEnglish,withallitsbluntnessandvividness,approximationsandmisnaming.AndEnglishisthelanguageGod expectstohearfromme—myEnglish,thewayIthinkand talk, the fire under liturgical ashes.
Imentionthisbecausesomanyseemtohavebeentaught toprayasthoughprayerwereaforeignlanguageoranalien kindofmindfulness.Someonewastaughttojust“sitandlet God talk to you,” apparently expecting a “word.”
That’sodd,butitmakesavalidpoint.God’slanguageis silence,asthegreattheologianKarlRahnertaught.ButGod’s silenceisnotbeingdumb—ordeafanddumb.Godisnot constrained,asweare,touselanguage.No.Hecomesina vividrangeofchallengesandemotions,inatornadoofidea
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anddesire,andwithinthepressuresandsolicitationsofour surround.
Whenweprayinfaithandhope,wetakeatimeofsilence tohear,feel,andreflectinHim,justthewayahawksoarson awindwhenitgoesintothesky,needingnoinstructionin how to fly.
TheChurch’smagnificenttraditionofacloisteredlife ofsilenceandprayerbringsuscontemplation.Mostofus PeopleofGod,though,mustprayinstolensilence,always urgenttocrossthethresholdintostridentlife.Our lectiodivina mustendindiscernmentaswebegforgracetoknow Wherejustnow,inallthat’sgoingon,amItojoinmybusyGod creating and redeeming me and His cosmos?
Sometimes—butvery,veryrarely,inmyexperience—the divinesilencemovesamantoadifferentspace,changinga wholelife,oralteringanattitudeorstance,ortearingouta fixedhabit.God’slanguageissilence—andtheincarnationof His Truth.
WelivebelievingthatthisTruthwasonceincarnate amongus,livingalifequitelikeourown.WhenIhearsomeonetalkabouttheir“imageofGod,”Ihopetheylearnthat theyaretalkingabouttheir image,notabouttheir God.We are given an image of God.
Ifwereachforit—thisdesireisthebeginningof prayer—weturntotheOnewhosaid: Learnofme,forIam meekandhumbleofheart.AsHisdifficultfriendSaulofTarsusputitfortheColossians: HeistheimageoftheunseenGod, the
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AswearereborninHim,JesussendsHisSpirit.TheSpirit comesfromwhereJesusis:inourflesh.Shegivesusoutright thefiercedecisionthatGodlivesandthatGodlovesmeand approvesofmeasIam—thoughmuchtoowelltoleaveme as I am.
ForthisGodisateveryinstantpoweringevolutionfrom withinitstiniestelementstothefurthermostmassesinspace. Andpoweringtheevolutionwithinmyownheart,soIdo notneedto“gointoGod’sPresence.”Godispresentinme alreadynow: Don’tyouunderstandthatyouareatempleof God, and God’s Spirit dwells within you?
PaulfumedattheGalatians—andatuswhenweforget. WeareinGod now;Godisinus now.Whenwethinkweare prayingbutarenotconsoledinthepresentmoment,weare thinking in a foreign language.
Backinourownlanguage,the imageoftheindivisibleGod showsuswhatintimacywithGodlookslike.It’slikeintimacywithanyother,thewayJesusdidit.Forsomeyears,He spentwholedaysandweekswithmenandwomen,thesame menandwomen.Heatewiththem,walked,slept,talked withthem—andtalkedandtalked.Anddidsomewonders, too,whensomeoneneededone.Hechoseadozen,andthen grewveryclosetothree:Peter,James,andJohn.Butthere wasoneeverybodyknewwasHisfavorite.Soit’sthatway with God.
Hedidwhatloveinthiskingdomofearthmustdo: cajoled,fed,corrected,fussed,blazedout,andlovedtothe endthoseHetoldindivineintimacy: Youaremyfriends.This
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isintimacywithGodinChrist,whotriedtomakeusunderstand: You are to love one another the way I have loved you.
WhenPaulwrotethat HeistheimageoftheunseenGod,he wasremindingusthatJesushasgivenusapictureofexactly what intimacy with God looks like.
Every prayer is a momentary focus of eternal meaning. So let us pray.
1. Preparing What’s to Come
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Like the Sun, Lord, You Cherish Me
Like the sun, Lord, cherishing the earth, warming it to life, lighting it to sight, inciting little leaves to grow and burning off excess, like the sun, Lord, You cherish me. At every moment of my time You warm me in my marrow, You put sight into my eyes and a steady rhythm in my blood. If I can wonder for a while about your care, the dark side of the earth feeling night, I cannot fear for long. Even fear, when I’m enclosed in it, finds You inward there and I am again content, like the blue globe gently wheeling in the sun that would hurtle off to empty space did the sun not cherish it most gently but in might.
So ever cherish me, my Lord. Amen.
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My Music Is Enough
You make Yourself, they tell me, the music of the spheres, the heart of heaven’s harmonies.
Well, Lord, I stand within this suite of glory an old upright piano, ivory off some keys, some wires broken, twanging through the octaves.
Can I be called to play polyphonies and fistfuls of climbing chords?
Should I join in cantatas and quartets? Well, God of harmonies, no. I cannot. You know I cannot. But look, I do not disdain the symphonies and songs, I am not proud to crack the honeyed chords.
I just sit on my stool, head bowed to the wonder of weightless harmonies that I can’t lift from my croaking keys.
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So I sit content in ragtime and in jazz, my heart drumming to the blues for my Holy God of heaven’s harmonies. May I hope, O Lord, oh, may I hope— my prayer this syncopated stutter— that ragtime is enough? Amen.
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Quiet, All Alone
Now I come to quiet all alone, no one else by me but You, I have no special thoughts to think, but marvel that I know You here, Eternal Triune God— in a little room, the middle of my heart— here, where no one else can be, just You and me for a little while.
May I wonder, Lord—What is it like to be One God, the only One, unique and unimaginably alone? Well, now I have a thought to offer You, a little bit afraid to think it, even in this middle room of quiet. Here: I find myself unique—they tell me that—unique and unrepeatable, too.
Holy One, mighty One, now I swiftly feel my littleness, am just one other whom, magnanimous, You make to share Your Oneness. And now I feel a little shy with You, alone.
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Please, Lord, I beg: Do share with me as well Your boundless love for all the other ones You share our being with. Amen.
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You Do Want My Love
Almighty and everlasting God, as I am told, You hold me in the palm of Your hand, and so I come to be. But somewhat puzzled, I confess, how hard it is to feel You present through the thrum of humdrum life. And yet I yearn to cling to You— cannot not yearn—whom I cannot see or touch or tell into Your ear that secret love hisses in me.
I yearn to cling to You in love but cannot find the hold.
Yet You are kind, Lord— You let me live, a smeared and trembling mirror of Your power at work creating yet another man, shining with light and joy but shaking with the holy fear that You do want my love—and always will.
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Well, glory be to You, Father, I say, and to You, His Son, in whom I do delight, and to You, their joyous Spirit, and I mean to make this holy shout forever, and now for now. Amen.
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In This Place I Know You
What if there were nothing here when I come to be alone, nothing but emptiness and dumb silence? O most precious God, how great You come to be against blank nothingness, how dear to me, the Most in all. And in this place I know You where I hang in nothingness, for You are here and here I know You, that You live, are great and beautiful beyond all I see and feel, and know that You love it all, are love, and let me know, and ask me —You ask me—to choose to love You back—and let me rest in Your lap, a bewildered child, and here You let me stay for joy. Amen.
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Send Your Spirit to Me
You free us, Lord, to grow in wisdom and in grace even as we grow in age, as Jesus did. I know that, good Father, and yet I grow in age clinging to what may not be wisdom and is not grace, aware that some of what is mine You cannot like. And yet, my Lord, I yearn for what You like.
I beg You, send Your Spirit to me and restore the sprouting holiness of the infant child baptized. Then I will remember whom You love.
I beg this grace through Christ our Lord. Amen.
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I Open My Heart
I open my heart to You, Lord Jesus Christ. Rummage around in me and fling out what You do not like, of thought and want, of boldness and of fear.
Throw out all You do not like, all of it, and teach my heart to not like it as well. Then put instead, my Leader and my Lord, put into my heart what You would like— all that You would like.
I open my heart, like a young lover, timid and brightened at what I do. Then let me fall in love with You, as I mean to do, and hope to live in love with You— will You put this hope in me?— forever. Amen.
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Embraced Forever
I didn’t know I knew these things until You came, encompassing all, being All in it, if Other, loving, “Love itself poured out,” they say. How dear, when I woke up so tense at all I know and don’t, to find You, waiting for me to wake, giving me to know that You are here, always here, everywhere, waiting—so beautiful and sweet You embarrass language. Your real makes my real an icon, and You give me this knowing that quells my dread of nothingness. And I embrace You, to find You have been embracing me forever bringing me to know You my Beloved.
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Prayer is the heartbeat of Christian life.
St. Ignatius encouraged people to nurture their relationship with the Creator to the point of speaking “as one friend to another.” In You Have Called Me by My Name, Father Joe Tetlow shares original prayers that have emerged from his decades-long friendship with God. As a teacher, writer, retreat leader, and spiritual director, he beautifully articulates our human doubts and desires, our questions and challenges, presenting them through the poetry of honesty, wonder, and love.
Allow your heart to resonate with the themes in this powerful collection as Fr. Tetlow’s prayers invite you to join the conversation.
has spent his life sharing the message of Ignatian spirituality. His books Choosing Christ in the World and Always Discerning are considered classics of modern spirituality. Fr. Tetlow continues lecturing and writing. He resides at Montserrat Jesuit Retreat House in Lake Dallas, Texas.
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