I sometimes feel that my day-today life is boring. I wake up early, do my morning rituals, and work through the to-do list that I set the day before. There are days when I feel like I'm drowning in meaningless tasks and become angry with myself.
I also get bombarded with philosophical questions like "What is the meaning of life?" or "What do you want to do with your life?" These might be the most complicated questions in life, and maybe there are many more questions after that. The answer can't be summed up in only one sentence and might require a long page. If you can't answer it today, no problem.
However, it's a good thing to wrestle with such a question during your midnight session.
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It might be something that gives you pressure that irritates you. Responsibility can take many forms, from personal to professional life Many people tend to think that their actual responsibility is when they have to report directly to someone But, please be honest with me, does it make you feel more meaningful and like you belong to a certain group because you have something to do? Probably, yes, am I right?
Responsibility helps individuals develop discipline and accountability, which are essential qualities for personal and professional growth Giving a certain amount of responsibility over something makes us more aware of our decisions and empowers us to control our lives. Every responsibility in our life will certainly teach us about being conscious of our actions.
Take it from a private level, yourself What is your responsibility for yourself? Of course, you must take care of your body, mental health, brain health, and social life That’s a lot to be a human, right?
Now, take it to a social level, in your home If you live with your parents, you certainly have specific tasks to do, like doing your chores, cooking a meal, or dropping off your sister at her school
Now, take it to a more strategic role in your career. When those responsibilities become repetitive tasks, we often feel less interested in doing such a thing. That must be challenging because you need to rethink and redesign how you see your responsibility or how you will elevate the responsibility.
On the other side, if we take our responsibility to a serious level, we can learn to foster a sense of empathy and social awareness. Responsibility will take place in society or social life, and that way, it allows us to show empathy in doing our tasks. You will get irritated when someone always wants to be served first and doesn’t want to be in line, right? The same goes for responsibility. We get irritated if one person can’t finish the task on time and it affects our work.
Finally, by accepting responsibility, individuals can build trust and credibility with others, leading to stronger relationships and opportunities for personal and professional advancement.
So, from now on, take your responsibility seriously and don’t miss opportunities to finish your tasks. Life will reward that.
Fear setting is a technique developed by Tim Ferriss, a popular author, and entrepreneur. The technique involves identifying and writing down your fears, analyzing their potential consequences, and creating plans to mitigate those consequences. It is a powerful tool designed to help individuals overcome their fears and take action toward their goals.
The phrase "Inaction to Action" is likely a reference to the idea that by addressing our fears, we can overcome the inaction they may cause and take action toward our goals.
Fear can often be paralyzing, preventing us from taking the necessary steps towards achieving our dreams. Fear setting can help us break through this barrier and move forward with confidence. melvabintangg.substack.com
Ferriss' TED Talks are some of the best and most transformative in my life so far. I listen to TED Talks every single day, with a variety of topics, and although I know that I'm not into self-help talks, I have to admit that Ferriss's presentation was exceptional. He explained the art of combating our fear of rejection and failure. It sounds lofty, right?
You may also find a variety of lists to combat your fear, and yet you still delay doing or executing your planning. This is not wrong; perhaps it's because our survival mind wants us to be safe and comfortable in our zone. But now, you need to make some breakthroughs in life by
Let's get back to Ferriss's presentation. We're going to do a writing exercise on fear setting.
Say you have 3 to 5 plans or even dozens of dozens of planning. If you don’t mind, please write all your plans again on the piece of paper. It can be confessing your feelings to your crush, cooking a new recipe to your momin-law, starting your flower business, etc, just writing them all.
Now, follow these steps:
Define what your fear is and imagine the worst case of that situation. Say that you want to cook for your friends because you want to start your restaurant business. You are afraid of their expressions towards your food, and it can destroy your self-esteem. Right after that, it possibly can make you cancel your plan to start a restaurant business.
Just be honest about the consequences that you’re imagining. It will give you relief and understanding of your fear. If you’re feeling so low during writing, it’s okay, you can pause for a moments and leave it there. Grab some water and have a walk for a moment. The writing process, especially writing your fears, require a lot of energy.
In this section, I invite you to create the solution to your fear that’s been written in the previous section. You can imagine the best scenario to delay your fear happen Now, jot down some of your prevention to your fear
Say that you want to cook to your friends but afraid of their expressions. You can ask your mother or you go-to siblings or cousin to taste your food first. Since we are a very unfair being towards our own ideas, it can be helpful to ask your trust one to give some feedbacks.
It’s possible that list can go on and on. Now, you’re in a middle of conquering your fear.
This is the last part of explaining your fear. Imagine that you’d cooked a meal and unfortunately, your friends dislike your meal, what would you do at that moment? Perhaps, you can ask them specific feedback on the meal, you can prepare the questions, and would like to explain the recipe to them, so that they can give you clear feedback. Dang, you get better at your cooking right after that. melvabintangg.substack.com
Source: Tim Ferris's Presentation
You might ask, “What if this scenario left become only a memory? or Will I have an advanced advantage of doing this?” Sometimes, it’s not enough only to conquer the curiosity of our feeling, we need further benefit Okay, now let’s jump into the next part.
I often brainstorm whenever I want to decide whether I should do this or not. Basically, I explore physically, emotionally, financially, and mentally. You can add some more categories before taking real action. Spend around 10-15 minutes. Remember, do not press yourself to know all the benefits. If you are satisfied physically and you think that’s enough, you execute that decision. Now, you’re settled with your plan but still a feel lack of confidence. Now, try to imagine the cost of inaction.
Remember that fear setting is a technique designed to help you break through the barrier of fear and move forward with confidence. By breaking down your fears into manageable pieces and developing strategies to overcome them, you can build confidence and take action toward your goals.
Reading is a habit that allows us to think critically to argue the topic in the book. I always have a tremendous and satisfying feeling whenever I finish reading a book, article, or journal However, thinking requires a lot of energy, so we need to put strategy to take all the knowledge, which sources are worth reading or not.
Remember, you don’t have to finish every book you read; you just have to get all the knowledge you want or need. Don’t force yourself into something that makes you hate it. Obviously, you never know whether you need the knowledge inside the book or article. However, you can examine your next reading list before getting trapped in a guilty loop.
Here are what I always do every time:
Check the outline or table of contents.
The table of content hides the treasure of the books You can scan the contents list and pick the list that you really want to read. For the part you feel less interested in, you can do skimming or just fast reading.
Check the Introduction part.
The introduction part tells us why the writer wants to write the book. It’s the abstract of the book, like in the article. From this side, you can grab the mini hypothesis of the book, also you also assume your own hypothesis, and argue the writer’s opinions.
If you read a hard book, you can read the back part of the book. If you read an online book, you can read the free sample.
I must admit that hard or printed books are way better than online books. However, online book is more convenient and easy to access every day Till this time my favorite app to read books is Google Play Book and Libby
Reading can open up diverse opinions, broad situations, and provoke thoughts. You may not know the writer, and so do the writer, but probably you share the same experience with certain things. You can learn from their path to tackle your problem, and you don’t need to be slapped by the same tragedy
The book can also be your mentor. For example. psychology books can help you to guide your mental health, way of thinking, and improve your knowledge about psychology. Who knows you can find your path during your reading time.
Reading is a powerful tool for personal growth and development. It can open up new perspectives, challenge our beliefs, and help us gain knowledge and understanding By approaching reading strategically and focusing on the content that is most relevant and interesting to us, we can make the most of our reading time and learn valuable lessons to apply to our everyday lives.
So, let's make reading a regular habit and see the positive impact it can have on our lives.
I understand that this E-book can’t meet your needs or your question. I want to let you know that you have to work on yourself to get better understanding of yourself. Obviously, you will need help from expert, endless research, and talk with a friends, eventually it’s your decision to change yourself.
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