Issue 9 - 2013 - November

Seattle

2013 Editor’s Picks

From designers to boutiques, we share our Seattle favorites

Change for Heart Gene Juarez Salons & Spas partner with the Hope Heart Institute for an inspirational fashion show

November 2013

WEATHERING THE STORM EDITOR’S PICK DEYONTE WEATHER SHOWS OFF SOME SEXY LOOKS FOR YOUR HOLIDAY PARTY

Gentlemen Still Exist?

The gentleman’s guide will beat the “bro “code every time

Transitional Fall to Winter Beauty

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Editor’s Pick modeisfashion.com facebook.com/fashionischanging @modeisfashion

Editor-in-Chief Larissa Long

Executive Fashion Editor Angelique Ashton

Executive Associate Editor Krista Townsend

Executive Style Director Scotty Provo Creative Director Christopher Chapman Executive Assistant Tosha Wilder

Seattle Team Beauty Editor Maria Vlasenko Lifestyle Editor Linda Lowry Food & Entertainment Editor Teresa Potter Events Director LB Dutchess Contributors Heidi Dong Jamei June Victor Loo Beauty Contributors Dakita Harris Alishia Birkby Rhiannon Cupps Sofia Lyons Photographers Mike Adams David Bailey Josh Diamond Teresa Potter Richard Wood

Table of Contents

On the Cover 12 20 32 102

November Spell I Am Hopeful Stormy Weather Rules for the Distinguished Gentleman

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Beauty Editor Editor-in-Chief Executive Fashion Editor Creative Director Executive Associate Editor Lifestyle Editor Events Director Arts Editor

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I Am Hopeful Stormy Weather Warm & Funky The Finerie Angelique Ashton Designs

Beauty 10 12 64

Eye Popping Lases November Spell Spa in the City

Art 90 Dynamic Diverse 94 Bravo! Indeed

In Every Issue 78 102

Savvy Sips Rules for the Distinguished Gentleman

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On the cover, Angelique Ashton’s favorite designer pick Deyonte Weather shows off his gowns just in time for the holiday season. Model Renee Sun glamourously reflects the beauty of his designs. MODE was lucky enough to parner with Aston Manor, Christopher Chapman’s choice for favorite event venue to truly add a look of luxury to the look. Always lucky to work with the hair and makeup team we created of Rhiannon Cupps, Alicia Birkby, and Laticia (Tish) Weather (Deyonte’s beautiful wife) the sultry look we were going for came out even better than planned all brought together by the photography of David Bailey.

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Favorite Boutique = Hoity Toity in Snohomish Favorite Local Designer = Scottie Marie

Scotti Marie

Favorite Hair Salon/Spa = Habitute in Seattle Favorite Stylist = Bobbie Rock, at Habitude in Seattle Favorite Restaurant = El Gaucho Favorite Beauty Supplement = Isotonix Beauty Blend* Favorite Hot Spot = Joey’s in Bellevue Favorite Seattle Activity = Pike Place Market* Favorite Local Charity = Pregnancy Resource Center (PRC) 8 MODE Seattle| modeisfashion.com

Maria Vlasenko Beauty Editor

“Isotonix supports healthy skin with key micronutrients that replenish and rejuvenate skin. It also supports healthy joints and skin elasticity to keep skin looking young and firm. It helps maintain healthy collagen production.�

Photographers from left to right: Pike Place stock, kapchur.us photography, Natalie Vlasenko , stock

Eye Popping Lashes

Interview by Jamei June

“The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.”

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ubrey Hepburn’s quote, although true, is not the reason there is a faux lash frenzy. Don’t we all want to bat long, lush, gorgeous eye lashes at all times that captivate people?

I went to Wink Lash Extensions in Bellevue and found out what all the fuss is about.

you can add additional eye makeup to dramatize,” Tova Edwards, owner of Wink Lash Extensions said.

I love that they allow me to spend less time getting ready.

I go to events often, which involves the time consuming art of carefully putting on fake lashes. An embarrassing story I hope you don’t relate to is, once PROS: I got too hot dancing and off slid the lash strip leaving people wondering if I have an extra eyebrow! Eye lash They’re truly eye catching extensions last for weeks so you can dance the night

“Wow! Your eyelashes look amazing!” My away with no worries. sister exclaimed after my appointment. Even grocery Wink saves you even more time than just in the clerks commented when I was shopping. They make morning. “We also provide combined services. Relax your eyes appear larger and naturally more attractive. and have your lashes done while getting a manicure and pedicure at the same time. It’s an innovative way for They save you time women to maintain their beauty services without wast“You cut out the hassle of having to wear mascara and

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ing time,” Edwards commented.

There are options

I prefer the full set of lashes. Others like the more natural, subtle look.

Wink has extensions completely customizable; 13 different lengths, choices of curls, thicknesses, and between traditional and faux mink extensions! Edwards said, “They are perfect for anyone whether they

CONS: They aren’t sensitive eyes’ best friend:

My eyes are super sensitive. If your eyes are irritable, take the appointment slow. Only book for an hour long session and the go from there.

I found out that one cause for discomfort is that that most people are allergic to the carbon in black lash glue. Edwards said, “At Wink, we use a purple glue that is fume free and safe for sensitive eyes.” She was right, the glue at Wink did not bother me at all.

Unfortunately they don’t last super long:

The only other downside is the length of time the lashes stay on for the cost, which can range from 2-3 weeks. However, this depends on how each person cares for them.

Using non oil-based products, skipping on hot yoga for the first 48 hours after your session, and being conscious of them in general will can make them last up to over a month.

Wink uses Xtreme Lashes Lash Extensions, the highest quality products in the industry. Edwards said, “Paired with our highly skilled and continually trained in advanced techniques, Wink is able to provide the best quality product and service.” Go to a salon that provides high quality, it will be most cost effective.

In the end, I suggest trywant long and thick lashes for a dramatic look or thin- ing it! Whether you want a prettier ‘doorway to your heart’ like Audrey Hepburn says or just want to save ner and shorter for a more natural look.”

She suggests that people with thin or fragile time, lash extensions are a great beauty service with natural lashes opt for the Faux Mink Lash Extensions. noticeable effects. Also, during the month of October “[They] are both made of synthetic materials but the enjoy 20% off manicures when booked in combination Faux Mink is designed with a lighter weight, softer with a lash appointment at Wink Lash Extensions. feel, and a more tapered end, just like real hair.”

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Editor’s Picks “I had a hard time choosing just one charity to highlight so I chose two.

First, Stories of Autism. As the mother of a child with autism it's so refreshing to have a non-profit focus on the positives and encourage parents to really see the great things about autism and how kids can overcome. My second, Hope Heart Institute. I love them for so many reasons, first is the way they treat their volunteers. I've worked with hundreds of charities and never felt as welcome as I do with them. Second, is the cause itself. My family has been affected by heart disease multiple times.

It's great to see a local cause really making a difference.�

Larissa Long Editor-in-Chief

Jamie Von Stratton

Stories of Autism

“Macy's is so my favorite bargain spot because no one can beat their clearance prices. I once got an entire black basic suit for $8.00, yes eight dollars!”

Favorite Boutique = London Couture Favorite Local Designer = Jamie Von Stratton Favorite Hair Salon/Spa = O2 blow dry bar Favorite Beauty Product = Clarisonic Favorite Bargain Hunting Spot = Macy’s Favorite Restaurant = Daniel’s Broiler in Bellevue Favorite event venue = Four Seasons Seattle Favorite Hot Spot = Parlor Live Favorite Seattle activity = Mariners game Favorite Local Charity = Stories of Autism & Hope Heart Institute Photographers from left to right: Irene Jones, Larissa Long, Charlie Cotungo, Jiamin Zhu.

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am delighted to say that this was one of my favorite event's this year. It was not simply people walking down a runway with beautiful new hair. It was interactive, fun, playful and heartfelt featuring survivor's and local people who make a difference in our community such as Brook Fox & Amy Yamada!

I had the pleasure of speaking with Gene Juarez himself, recently back from NY and receiving a lifetime achievement award, and even though he no longer runs the show his elegant presence shows the spirit of the Gene Juarez salon support for such a worthy cause as "I am Hopeful. "

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As the night begins we see survivor after survivor strutting their stuff with the new do's provided by the Gene Juarez staff!

And what makes this hair show different you might ask? Well it's not everyday you watch the models strut out on the walk with the designers, take out extensions and watch them restyle the hair right there on the spot!

The creativity and interaction made for a fresh approach and was appreciated by the very enthusiastic crowd as they cheer on their favorite survivors and looks on!

A success on every level, this event raised over $50,000 for the Hope Heart Insitute.

For more information on this Charity goto http:// www.hopeheart.org/ and check out their FB page at The Hope Heart Institute

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Fremont Studios

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Favorite Boutique = Panache on Capitol Hill Favorite Local Designer = Deyonte Weather Favorite Salon/Spa = Olympus Spa in Lynnwood Favorite Beauty Product = Julep nail polishes Favorite Bargain Hunting Spot = Everett Value Village Favorite Restaurant = Japonessa Favorite Event Venue = Fremont Studios Favorite Night Club/Hot pot = Tini Biggs Favorite Seattle Activity = Teatro Zinzanni Favorite Local Charity = Ruby Room The one charity event that is an absolute can’t miss for me every year is the Ruby Room’s Annual Fashion Faux Fas to Fashion Fabulous Fashion Show and Auction, and that’s why the Ruby Room is my pick for favorite local charity. Every year the Ruby Room gives some of the sad, torn, stained and/or just plain ugly dresses that are donated throughout the year but not worthy of being given to a client for prom to local fashion designers who use the fabric to remake the dresses into one of a kind couture pieces, which are then auctioned off after the show. This year’s event was as fabulous as ever and featured the talents of local designers BOHO Republic, Sassafras Boutique, Stone Crow Designs, MAC Fashion House and Poppy + Bloom. Not to mention bottomless signature wine glasses for only $20, which helped loosen up the crown to beat last year’s total funds raised for the Ruby Room’s 2014 operations and scholarship program. Not only do they put on a heck of a show, but the work they do to support low income teens in the community by donating prom attire so they can attend their right of passage school dances, is amazing and inspiring.

Photographers from left to right: Angelique Ashton, Nate Gowdy

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“Trinity Nightclub is a uniquely original two level, multiroom space housing three separate rooms and a large private VIP room. Each room has a distinctive theme and décor with a full lounge, state of the art sound and lighting,

Christopher Chapman Creative Director Photographers from left to right: Morning Star Creative Group, Trinity Night Club Stock

Favorite Boutique = David Lawrence Favorite Local Designer = Corban Harper Favorite Salon/Spa = Capellis Favorite Bargain Hunting Spot = Nordstrom Rack Favorite Restaurant = The Brooklyn Favorite Event Venue = Aston Manor Favorite Hot Spot = Trinity Nightclub Favorite Seattle Activity = Boating Favorite Local Charity = Reason Foundation “Aston Manor is Seattle's most exclusive nightlife experience. The Owner’s fictional persona Seattle socialite and heir to the Puget Sound's most notorious bootlegging family, Roy Aston, supposedly developed his father's already profitable business into a veritable empire and had the speakeasy nightclub built into his private mansion – behind a secret bookcase. It was the perfect glamorous, sexy and mysterious setting for a November cover photo shoot featuring the designs of Deyonte Weather.”

Trinity Nightclub

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Savor Seattle Food Tours

John Howie

“Savor Seattle Food Tours offers award-winning food and w tasting tours that explore the exciting history, culture, and f that makes Seattle a top culinary destination. Tantalize y taste buds with Pacific Northwest seafood, fine wine, gour chocolate, and much, much more! “ MAC Fashion House

Favorite Local Boutique = Soul Boutique Favorite local designer = MAC Fashion House Favorite hair salon/spa = Truce Spa at The Westin Favorite beauty product = Model in a Bottle makeup setting spray Favorite bargain hunting spot = Tukwila Value Village Favorite restaurant = John Howie Steak Favorite event venue = The Paramount Favorite night club/hot spot = Karma Martini Lounge Favorite Seattle activity = Savor Seattle Food Tours Favorite Local Charity = Boys & Girls Clubs of King County Photographers from left to right: Jerry & Lois Photography, Savor Seattle Wine Tours Stock, John Howie Stock, Karma Stock, Teresa Potter

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“Boys & Girls Clubs of King County exists to inspire and enable all young people, especially those who need us most, to realize their full potential as productive, responsible and caring citizens. Programs teach our youth to be engaged citizens by getting involved in the community, registering to vote and modeling strong character. 40 locations with open doors throughout King County provide space for children and teens to learn, create and attain their best in academics, athletics and more.�

Karma Martini Lounge

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10655 NE 4th Street, Suite 102 Bellevue, WA 98004 Tel: +(425) 454-5033 Fax: +(425) 454-7767 E-Mail: info@bellevuewellness.com

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Twisted Winter

A Benefit Fashion Show for St Francis House Friday, November 22, 2013 from 7:00 PM to 11:00 PM (PST) Puyallup Pavilion 330 S Meridian Puyallup, WA 98371

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Seattle Design Center

“If you have not had an opportunity to visit the Seattle Design Center, then you are missing out! The 3rd Thursday Art walk gives you an opportunity to visit all of the galleries the Design Center has to offer and enjoy complimentary drink and appetizers! Not bad way to feed your hunger as well as your mind!”

Favorite local boutique = The Finerie Favorite local designer = Victoria Postolit Favorite salon/spa = Kucumber Skin Lounge Favorite hair salon = La Petite Salon Favorite Beauty Product = Prescriptives Line Preventor Favorite bargain hunter spot = Tannya Bernadette Consignment Shop Favorite Restaurant = Sky City Restaurant at the Space Needle Favorite Event Venue = Cornish Playhouse at the Seattle Center Favorite Hot spot = The Columbia Tower Club Favorite Seattle Activity = Seattle Design Center Favorite Charity = Cystic Fibrosis Foudation & Russian Chamber Music Foundation Photographers from left to right: Teresa Potter,Josh Diamond, Don Poling, Linda Lowry

Linda Lowry Lifestyle Editor

Victoria Postolit

“If you are looking for a bargain on some designer wear, this is the spot! In this treasure trove of a spot you will find items that have never been worn before or gently worn at prices that are unbelievable. Items I have found here range from Vera Wang boots to The Limited blazers.� modeisfashion.com | MODE Seattle 57

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adya Kozlova and Shay Sim give a whole new meaning to “quick fix” as the founders of Kucumber Skin Lounge. “This should not be a lifestyle, this should be an improvement. It should be something that will make you feel great and wonderful about yourself.

I want clients to celebrate who they are as women,” Nadya Kozlova said when she explained her philosophy about Kucumber Skin Lounge. Kozlova and Sim became acquainted with one another while working in the same industry, the beauty/spa industry, in fact, they were competitors. Through the years in the spa industry, each one of them promoting and marketing their employers services, they became friends and decided to collaborate together and open their own spa lounge, the Kucumber Skin Lounge. Kozlova and Sim wanted to introduce a skin lounge that would cater to the business professional who can “pop” in during their lunch time and receive a quality “quick fix” to boost their appearance. These industry gurus understand in today’s business environment, most professional do not have the time to spend three hours at spa, however, they can spare an hour for a luxurious treatment such as their popular Hydra Facials and Chemical Peels that garners beautiful results in under an hour. These two beauty experts also understand that “knowledge is power” and have an in house skin Dr. to provide expert and professional skin consultations awarding their clients to leave the Kucumber Skin Lounge feeling refreshed and educated!

Speaking to Kozlova, she explains that living in Chicago, Los Angeles and New York she was focused on finding inspiration in the different areas with new, leading skincare techniques and procedures. She then took all the inspiration she could find and brought it to Seattle. “I find Seattle going in a different direction now because it’s such a beautiful mix of people. The city has become one of the most popular places to live and we are becoming THE people in trend-setting and fashion.” These two BFF’s are living out

their dream of managing, not one, but two skin lounges; one in Seattle and the other in Bellingham. Kozlova comes from a background working in the industry in various chains at the regional and director level with a background in the medical spa industry. Sim also has 13 years in the medical and spa experience, along with a business background developing stores and working in the corporate world. “Our passion is to create the experience for medical spa customers. At the same time we want to deliver top-notch equipment and technology and be ahead of the trend,” Sim said. “It’s always going out there, finding the equipment that delivers the best results.” Kucumber Skin Lounge also specialize in other familiar treatments such as Botox®, tanning, and acne treatments and a special service known as Vajazzling. According to Kozlova, she happily said it is one of their most popular treatments and if you are won-

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dering what Vajazzling is Kozlova explains the procedure is doing a Brazilian bikini wax to make the “area” bare, and it is then decorated with Swarovski crystals.

Kucumber Skin Lounge offers free consultation and works around the client’s budget to allow her to receive the desired treatment while making it affordable at the same time. Both her and Sim plan on opening another branch in Washington soon, and hope to expand across the country.

I had the opportunity of stepping into the salon where I met the two women and I could easily see that Kozlova and Sim know the simplicity of just having fun when working with clients and making them feel at home when giving treatments. It’s almost as if you could see yourself going out, having drinks and watching a movie with the two. Kozlova was also gracious enough to give me a tour of the skin lounge and the different equipment they used such as the Hydrafacial®.

I had the privilege of interviewing the fun-loving Kozlova as far as what is different about Kucumber Skin Lounge from other skin lounges, and her idea of women and aging (it’s all in the attitude!!!).

MODE: Thank you for having us and allowing us to interview you! So can you please explain to me what is Kucumber Skin Lounge known for?

Kozlova: Kucumber Skin Lounge is a premier medical spa directed by Board Certified doctors located in Downtown Seattle (the Belltown area) and Bellingham.

We specialize in laser hair removal, anti-aging treatments, advanced acne treatments, laser tattoo removal, body contouring, cellulite reduction, skin tightening, non-surgical facelifts, and Botox® & dermal fillers.

Our Seattle location also offers tanning. We use oneof-a -kind European tanning beds. Aside from the business, we are also known locally as two women who said they could and they did. We take pride in being able to help various, non-profit local organizations and take philanthropy very seriously!

MODE: How did this whole idea come about to give clients this “instant rejuvenation?”

Kozlova: There is something to be said about no downtime, non-invasive cosmetic procedures that can be done during your lunch break or before you go meet the ladies for happy hour. At Kucumber, we feel that the future of beauty is the ability to utilize top of a line equipment to provide instant gratification to our customers. We want to focus on helping our customers with their skin/body needs without taking too much

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time away from their already busy schedules. Our goal is to be part of their lifestyle, not to take away from it. By focusing on non-invasive cosmetic procedures offered at Kucumber Skin Lounge our customers can avoid the unnecessary down time associated with plastic surgeries.

MODE: How is Kucumber Skin Lounge different from any other spa organization?

Kozlova: In as little as three and a half years, Kucumber Skin Lounge is proud to serve over 15,000 clients in both Seattle and Bellingham stores! Aside from our state of the art equipment, incredibly talented staff, and our conveniently located clinics, we often hear from our clients that we are anything but a typical medical spa.

Our motto is to stay very edgy, current and exciting on the front end and very clinical, results oriented on the back end. If you walk into our clinics, we are NOT the boring type – or so we hear! Between the latest in the treatments and a huge variety of services we offer, our clinics are often booked up two to three weeks in advanced. If you have an opportunity to meet with our treatment consultants you will see that their entire goal is to identify the areas you like to address and design the “WOW” package tailored to your needs and budget.

MODE: What is the Kucumber Skin Lounge’s mission? What do you want a woman to feel or think once they walk out the door after their appointment?

Kozlova: Our mission is simple – YOU. Tell us what your needs and concerns are and let our clinics take care of everything. We have just the right mix of talent and services to get you exactly where you want to be in your anti-aging process. We want every customer, woman or man, to walk away feeling satisfied, confident and excited about the way he or she looks and feels.

MODE: You mentioned that your clients could come into Kucumber Skin Lounge during their lunch break and walk out, ready to go back to work looking fabulous with no trace of a chemical peel. Can you please explain the different types of procedures your skin lounge offers to better a person’s skin without having the "patient" taking a few days off to recover from the procedure?

Kozlova: Yes, everything we offer is no downtime lunchtime procedure, as we call it. Chemical peels and Hydrafacials® will provide you with that instant glow, more advanced procedures such as fractionals and photofacials may leave your skin a little pink but you can

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apply make-up immediately and the redness subsides in as little as 15 minutes to a few hours at the most. Compared to surgical procedures our body contouring, cellulite reduction and non-invasive facelifts can be done in as little as 45 minutes, as you walk away feeling, and looking, amazing!

And where do we start with injections? Botox® can be done in as little as 10 minutes giving your eyebrows just the right lift or have you lose those "elevens" (referring to the lines of wrinkles) between the eyebrows for the next three to four months. And the best part of it all nobody can tell! If you don't tell anyone, we wouldn't either. We also love working with customers who are getting ready for a big event - be it the wedding, anniversary, big vacation or anything else!

MODE: You recently added tattoo removal to your list of procedures. Can you please explain the process? Why did you decide to make this one of your services?

Kozlova: We have invested in one of the most effective lasers available in the industry designed specifically for tattoo removal. Our medical aestheticians are trained to work with all skin types and all colors and sizes of the tattoo. We also perform advanced treatments such as R20 that allow somebody to remove the tattoo in half the time.

Although we embrace self-expression and appreciate body art, we also understand that sometimes tattoos become a regret. Whether your tattoo was a “bad decision” of last night, if you are enrolling in the army where tattoos are not acceptable, or if it is preventing you from getting your next big job we want to help. We also work with a number of artists who simply want us to lighten the existing tattoo so a different work can be done over it. Whatever the reasons to part with tattoos, at Kucumber Skin Lounge we will take care of you!

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MODE: Kucumber offers "sculpting” as a service. Can you please explain to our readers what this procedure is and how fast it works?

Kozlova: We offer revolutionary technology for body contouring, cellulite reduction, skin tightening, and non-surgical facelifts. This technology sets us apart

by combining three levels of energy that can be delivered at the same time. Combining the energies that address body contouring, skin tightening and cellulite at the same time allows for amazing results as fast as your very first appointment with no downtime! We are known for our signature non-surgical facelifts! We do

recommend a series of treatments to sustain results and we always recommend healthy lifestyle choices but do not believe in unrealistic diet plans. So you could enjoy results without having to completely re-adjust your life.

MODE: What is the ONE skin regimen every woman should follow? Why? Kozlova: SPF! Whatever you do, you must protect yourself from sun damage!

MODE: What is your most popular procedure? Why do

MODE: What is your advice for women who are fearful about aging?

Kozlova: Embrace your age and the reality of aging gracefully; it’s all in the attitude! Focus on preventative and don’t think it’s too early to start taking care of your skin and body.

The earlier you start, the less you will have to worry and correct later on.

Meanwhile, we have services that can make you look and feel younger. We make it our goal to research all the latest and greatest procedures.

MODE: What are some future plans for Kucumber Skin Lounge?

Kozlova: We are so grateful to have Kucumber Skin Lounge take off to a new level and appreciate how welcoming Seattle has been to our business. With the third store on its way, we are looking to have a total of five stores in Washington before we start expanding to other states. We owe our success to the loyalty of our customers and our team. We look forward to continue our services for all your beauty needs!

MODE: Finally, what is your definition of “TRUE BEAUTY?” Kozlova: True beauty is always within. No matter how much money you spend to make the outside look beautiful, it will never hide an ugly personality! Be the best person you can be, and Kucumber Skin Lounge would love take care of the rest!

you think it is the most requested one?

Kozlova: Too much hair in unwanted areas could be the end of your social life. Laser hair removal is definitely one of our most popular procedures simply because nowadays it is a commodity and not a luxury.

If you would like to learn more about the services and/or book an appointment, please visit the website: www.Kucumberskinlounge.com The website also allows clients to chat with consultants about personal needs

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Delille Cellars Chateau

LB Dutchess Events Director Photographers from left to right: LB Dutchess, Studio 7 Photogrphy, DeLille Cellars Stock, Carlton Canary

Local Boutique = Via Lago Favorite Local Designer = Luly Yang Couture Favorite salon/spa = Gem Favorite beauty product = Clairin's Double Serum & Kate Somerville Quench Favorite Restaurant = Daniel's Broiler Favorite Event Venue = DeLille Cellars Chateau Favorite Night Club/Hot Spot = Suite Lounge Favorite Seattle Activity = Wine Tasting Favorite Hair Care = Serge Normant Favorite Charity = Helping a Hero Helping a Hero working with the Richard Sherman Foundation

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Savvy Sips T Written by LB Dutchess

his month for Savvy Sips we are going to delve into the world of picking options for the Holidays. What do you buy? Red Wine? White Wine? Vodka? Beer? How are those going to make your events or even used as gifts, give the impression that you did more than just grab something off the shelf? So here are some thoughts on the matter.

First ~ think about the event you are putting together, he people you are inviting and the over all theme or feel you want the event to have. That will help you to add the right combo of beverages.

Second ~ try something fun or different. Do you know someone who works at a tasting room? maybe have a mini tasting station at your event or in your home.

Third ~ For a dinner Party - make your special beverages part of your table settings - IE have unique glasses at each table setting and place the bottle infront of them‌..seat your vodka drinkers together, red wine drinkers and so on, and makes for fun conversation too!

Want something on your tables that says I'm hip on what's new? Check out these options: 1.) Beer ~ micro breweries are all the rage, but LOCAL micro's make things even better! They add the diversity and richness of your area!

2.) Hard cider! ~ These are popping up all over the place and are a fantastic addition to Holiday fun! Light and delicious, these beverages add diversity to your table or create a unique gift!

3.) Wine ~ I always say go with local wines! Supporting of your businesses in your communities has so many added benefits that you never even have to point out but that people notice right away! Find out where your tasting rooms are and take a friend or two to go taste and pick out the wines you want at your events or for your gifts! Make it an experience to enhance your experiences, Not to mention that the tasting room peeps usually have fantastic tips on how to serve and what to serve with!

4.) Local distilled Vodka, Whiskey and Gin to name a few, are unlike any of the regular store bought middle shelf liquors you can buy. They work to enhance each unique flavor and show you many new sides to these alcohols making the regular mixed drinks spectacular!

5.) Last but not least, the imported specialties promoted in your area. I love these! They can be anything from Mezcal's, tequila, vodka to Hard Cider and putting them out on a table makes for a great conversation piece (especially if you find out the back story on the brand) and makes you look worldly! How do you find these? check out the sponsors of local events ~ it is a sure way to find hidden gems!

And with that said, here are a few our our Favorites that we will be enjoying over the Holiday season! El Zacatecano, Balinoff Vodka ,Paco Chicano Tequila and the fantastic local tradition Rainier Beer.

Check out our show here Check them out and let us know what you think at Socially Savvy.

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Peter Sessum Arts Editor

Tom Douglas’ Palace Ballroom

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Pacific Northwest Ballet company dancers in Crystal Pite’s Emergence, presented as part of KYLIAN + PITE, November 8 – 17, 2013. Photo © Angela Sterling.

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the dancers are human. It also reminds the audience how difficult what transpires on stage really is. With how easy PNB dancers make it seem it is good to be reminded from time to time how hard they work.

The performance was still solid and enjoyable. To say they made mistakes is like saying someone won a silver medal in the Olympics. While it is not gold, it is still pretty darn good.

After a short musical pause, Dances comes on. Some of the props from Mort are used in Dances but in a whimsical way. Both pieces are set to music

by Mozart and they both reflect the range of Mozart’s music. Some of it is powerful and moving and some of it is fun and whimsical. This kind of thing is where MODE editor pick Jonathan Poretta excels. He has the skill to dance the piece, but can also put forth the performance needed to make the piece light and fun.

Dances has six short acts that are loosely connected if in no other way than they are nonsensical.

Six Dances can best be summed up as the best, most technical ridiculous dancing. It takes a lot of skill to dance that silly well. Best of all, they look like they are having fun.

Kylian also brings an interpretation of breaking the fourth wall in ballet. That is an easy concept to express with a medium where the spoken word is used. But how do you do it when you live in a world without speech? The ballet onstage world is a silent one where people dance to music. Breaking the fourth

(L-R) Pacific Northwest Ballet company dancers Jonathan Porretta, Kylee Kitchens, James Moore and Leah Merchant in Jiri Kylian’s Sechs Tänze (Six Dances), presented as part of KYLIAN + PITE, November 8 – 17, 2013. Photo © Angela Sterling.

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o say I am a ballet regular would be an understatement. As a journalist, I am pretty cynical. Put those two together and my ballet viewing can be a little analytical, more intellectual than emotional which is why I was so impressed with the night of Kylian + Pite at Pacific Northwest Ballet (PNB). The four pieces of the night ranged from powerful and moving, to whimsical to the disturbing.

The night started with three performances by choreographer Jiri Kylian. This was not the first time Petite Mort and Sechs Tänze (Six Dances) has graced the stage at McCaw Hall. While they premiered five years apart, they are connected with one being powerful and the other more whimsical.

Petite Mort is a French idiom meaning “the little death” and is a euphemism for orgasm. It is sometimes used to reference the post orgasmic state and the unconsciousness that follows. While it may seem a crude reference, it might be fitting. Audience members might need a moment to catch their breath after the curtain comes down.

The costumes are minimal to say the least.

While asteetically pleasing, it helped to display the power in the performances and performers. Shirtless men dancing with fencing foils and women with the foils being a more difficult partner. The women also have props of their own. Black baroque dresses that are sometimes attached and sometimes independent of the dancer. Opening night was the first time I had seen a missed grab with a foil but it showed the professionalism of the dancers with how seamlessly thy transitioned into the next move and the rest of the performance.

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wall means they are peering into a world where the people sit and watch. It might look like a weird thing to see from the onstage perspective. The best part is that the audience is not really sure when the piece ends until the curtain falls.

There are passing references to Petite Mort that always get a chuckle from the audience. It is Kylian poking fun at himself. Since Dances premiered fist it raises the question did he makes dances first and then decide to make a serious version of it or was Mort first to be made but second to make the stage. It would be an interesting discussion for intermission or after the night at a local watering hole.

Kylian’s last piece for the night is Forgotten Land. This, and pieces like it are why it I always recommend not reading the program before the performances. The program notes tell the audience what to expect to see. While that can be helpful in better understanding the choreographer’s vision, it means that you rob yourself of seeing the art unfold without influence.

Six men and six men with their back to the audience moving to the sound of the wind blowing. Because I had not read the program I was free to interpret the piece however I wanted. Before I knew it, an entire story about 1940s Poland came to mind.

I couldn’t stop thinking about the struggles of the people in the days after the German invasion.

Some of the men want to fight out of national pride, others out of necessity.

The Jewish man in occupied Poland might feel the need to fight for survival. Some of the people on stage were soldiers, others resistance fighters and some were just people trying to survive the war. But there was a couple that had hope. Despite all that was going on around them, they found love.

To me, the dancers falling to the ground was a representation of their personal fall. Some would have been killed in combat, others as collateral damage from allied bombing. Others were heartbroken because their spouse was killed.

Some were taken to camps and there was the man that just knuckled under. His was not a physical death, but a part of him died when he succumbed to German rule.

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Like the decent man that revealed the location of hiding Jews to save himself.

This entire storyline unfolded on stage for me because I was not told what to expect on stage. I asked other audience members what they got and we all agreed on a theme of a struggle even though our specifics were different. This is why it can be enjoyable to see what you

get from the art on your own. There is, however, not really a wrong way to watch ballet as long as you are in the seat. Forgotten Land was a good palette cleanser to prepare the audience for Emergence.

Emergence by Crystal Pite broke the long standing tradition of the last piece not being the strongest.

uncomfortable. Emergence was in a word creepy.

“That was disgusting,” said one audience member with a smile. Through music and movement Pite made a piece that was disturbing to watch but you can’t look away from. I am not ashamed to say that I was creeped out by the performance. The dancing was

awesome, but it was creepy. It was like he birds. Both the movie in how it was creepy and weird, but also the movements and costumes were avian.

When 19 women in crow masks walk out on pointe like a group of birds was a touch freaky. It made sense why a gathering of crows is called a murder. If that is the case, what would someone that controls the crows be called? A murderer? I don’t have the answer, so discuss it after seeing their piece.

This was the most powerful performance that Corps de Ballet Andrew Bartee has had at PNB to date. It is difficult to stand out when everyone else has a strong performance but Bartee found a way. Artistic Director Peter Boal should be commended for bringing Emergence to PNB and helping Bartee elevate his game.

Rachel Foster also proved why she is a principal dancer with her performance. Taking a different role than women traditionally take in ballet ad proved she can keep up with the boys.

The men were shirtless wearing black pants so when Foster came out in black pants and a nude top it took many a few moments to realize it was a female. It might be good to remember that performance during the next discussion about gender roles in the fine arts.

There was a lot happening on stage and it might be difficult to take it all in with one viewing. Emergence is one of those pieces that is great to see twice from different angles. The formations have a very different feel when viewed from a completely different angle.

Emergence was beautiful, powerful, creepy, disturbing, original, through-provoking and all around wonderful. It alone is worth going, but that counting will haunt me for a while.

Once again, PNB brings a great night out to Seattle audiences and if you haven’t see it there are only four performances left. If you have, time to see it again.

Who knows when they will once again grace the stage at McCall Hall? Up next at PNB is holiday classic Nutcracker starting Nov. 30. Tickets on sale now.

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Pacific Northwest Ballet soloist Kylee Kitchens and corps de ballet dancer William Lin-Yee in Jiri Kylian’s Forgotten Land, presented as part of KYLIAN + PITE, November 8 – 17, 2013. Photo © Angela Sterling.

Not only was Emergence the best piece of the night, it blew the rest of them away. A good performance pulls you in, a great one makes you feel. I have seen people cry after a performance. When performed well, After the Rain is too intimate and makes the audience feel voyeuristic. It is easier to make the audience feel joy but a great choreographer can make the audience feel

BRAVO! Indeed Written by Heidi Dong Photos by David Bailey

A night where the young generation came together to celebrate the oldest art form

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walked into a dark alleyway of the Sodo District not knowing what to expect and kept wondering whether or not I was in the right area. It was when I saw two girls dressed up in fancy, cocktail attire and wore hats with netting over their faces that I decided to follow them.

I ended up walking into an intimate venue with delicate, glowing lanterns that decorated the ceiling. It turned out to be the “Within Sodo” venue where hors d’oeuvres, wine, and coffee were being served. I observed the guests in cocktail at-

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tire mingling, hugging one another as if it has been a while since the last time they’ve met. In the main area, there was a piano and rows of chairs set up as I became anxious to know what was going to happen and upstairs was the rooftop deck where it showcased a beautiful view of Seattle.

The Seattle Opera hosted its BRAVO! Kick-Off Party to celebrate the BRAVO! Club and the opera’s upcoming season; which was also going to be its 50th anniversary. Since 1996, BRAVO! continues to bring together young enthusiasts from the ages of 21 to 39 to get together and share the love and fascination for the opera.

After enjoying some of the delicious appetizers and a good sip of wine, an announcement went out

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to have all the attendees take a seat. Marti McCaleb, the Board President of the BRAVO! Club welcomed everyone and mentioned how far BRAVO! has come.

According to McCaleb, BRAVO! has the biggest membership ever to date with 700 members and as the new Board President would love for it to reach a thousand plus in the future.

Afterwards, the audience and I were lucky to receive special performances by two, talented singers from the Seattle Opera. We were introduced to baritone Danny Oakden and mezzo-soprano Cheryse McLeod Lewis. While being accompanied by the piano, a tall, broad shouldered Oakden started off the night singing an aria where we got to hear the deep, clean voice as he sang in Italian that was executed flawlessly. Oakden has been with the Seattle Opera since 2001. He found out at an early age that he sang loud and “the only outlet for me to do creatively was opera. I owned a skill that I was able to use and enjoy. Chorale music wasn’t working for me, for I wasn’t able to blend well,” he said in a later interview.

Up next was the lovely and poised Cheryse McLeod Lewis. Lewis got into the opera scene when her parents exposed her to the arts while growing up. “My mom got me in a Christmas play when I was in the 8th grade and was like ‘Oh! I think she can sing!’ so she got me voice lessons the next year and it just went from there,” she said.

Wearing a floral, red halter dress she presented her mysterious yet elegant voice by singing “Seguidilla” from the opera, Carmen. Oakden remained on the floor to accompany Lewis as, in his own words, being “the human prop.” Lewis acted out as a prisoner trying to seduce the guard, played by Oakden. Of course, the two rendered this song in a playful manner that caused lots of laughter from the audience.

Oakden then took a dramatic turn to sing another score from Carmen. This time it was the famous and familiar “Toreador Song,” where Oakden got rid of his benign face and transformed himself into a bullfighter.

I noticed how he expanded his chest to bring out the best quality of sound when singing. He committed to the character as he rolled up his sleeves and put on a game face as if he was about to enter a battlefield. And that right there, was true dedication.

The two continued to switch off, singing songs from famous operas such as The Consul and Tales of Hoffmann. My personal favorite moment was when Lewis performed a number she decided to do “just for fun.” Lewis sang “Oh! What a Movie” from the opera,

Trouble in Tahiti by Leonard Bernstein. Her character just watched a movie she was very disappointed with, as the song explained what she just experienced. Lewis fell into character by re-enacting scenes with sprightly gestures such as hula dancing and marching soldiers. That night, Oakden and Lewis proved that opera doesn’t only involve vigorous singing, but also an equal amount of acting to showcase an outstanding performance. This realization gave me a deeper respect, for I witnessed the hard work performers such as Oakden and Lewis put in to entertain a crowd.

After ending the performances with a duet, Oakden and Lewis were handed bouquets of flowers as everyone came up to shower them with compliments. I managed to sneak my way in to chat with the two showstoppers of the night, as well as Board President McCaleb who made everything at the event possible. “This has been fabulous,” McCaleb said, “the space is great, and the performance was amazing. Danny and Cheryse are great performers. The fact that [opera] has become so theatrical, as the performers expose their two talents of acting and singing, and that we get to experience it here has been really engaging.”

Operated by volunteer board members, BRAVO! continues to live by the mission of creating new generations to support the opera. By being a member of BRAVO!, members get to enjoy many perks and benefits such as discounted tickets on performances (almost 50% off!), free admissions to intermission lounges at the McCaw Hall, and of course, the opportunity to meet other young opera fans. Kris Josue has been a member since 2009. “I wish I had started earlier. It’s nice to be a part of a community of young people who have an appreciation for the opera,” she said.

The whole night I wondered why BRAVO! was specifically created for the younger generation in particular. “There’s not a lot of outlet when you’re into the arts,” McCaleb said. “People of our generation are not as excited when they hear about the opera. It attracts more of an older crowd. When you go to an opera, a young person might feel out of place and not comfortable, so BRAVO! is a great opportunity to just have people your own age build an art form.” McCaleb also said that from joining BRAVO!, it helped her moving to Seattle a hassle-free process. “I joined BRAVO! a week after I moved to Seattle, and it was the primary way to meet people the first couple of months in town. I met people my own age with similar interests and it made everything comfortable.”

Lewis couldn’t be more thrilled as far as what

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BRAVO! does for her as an opera performer. “What they are doing is amazing. I think they’ll just reach more and more people and introduce this art form and continue to grow. They are already doing the right thing.”

Peter Rouch has been a member for two years now, and says that the best thing about BRAVO! is “connecting with a variety of people while having hosted events planned year round, not to mention the discounts.”

The more I learned about BRAVO! that night, the more impressed I became about the idea of preserving an art that was discovered centuries ago. As someone who grew up with a fascination for classic movies and parents who enjoyed listening to Luciano Pavarotti, it was as if I could relate to some of the members, as far as being the only one enjoying something that is unfamiliar to many. We live in a world today where Justin Bieber’s dance moves and Taylor Swift’s new break-up songs seem to be the only recognized art form. Let’s not forget Miley Cyrus’ “twerking.” The idea of music and the arts seem to have disappeared into what is trendy, and we forget where the idea of expression and creativity originated. Opera is one type of expressionism that has been around for a while now, and one of the reasons why we listen and enjoy the arts in the first place.

“I think that young people should admire [the

opera] because of all it brings artistically,” Oakden said. “It’s an art form where you have a giant orchestra, amazing musicians, a conductor, a full chorus, and world-class singers all on one stage. It’s just all of the elements that go into producing an opera. It’s really something to see and take in.” As for Lewis, “ It’s live singing. It’s live performing. There’s no auto-tune, and there’s no ‘let’s record that again.’ It’s real, live talent!.”

“We should appreciate opera for the same reason why the Grand Canyon should be appreciated and preserved. It’s a natural wonder, a gift to mankind. It is the human voice in it’s most powerful, most fluid, most poetic and passionate form,” said Josue.

As I left the Sodo Within venue that night, I realized that BRAVO! was there to reassure the younger generation that true art shouldn’t disappear and it’s up to us to preserve it. It was also nice to know that I wasn’t alone as far as being fond of the opera. I could look forward to hearing more powerful, seraphic voices like what I heard from Lewis and Oakden, and for that, I was appreciative.

If you are interested in becoming a member of BRAVO! and to see a list of the Board of Directors, please visit: www.bravoclub.org For more information on the Seattle Opera’s 2013-2014 season, please visit: www.seattleopera.org

Rules for the Distinguished

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Written by Peter Sessum he fashion section of MODE is a guide for how to dress like a gentleman.

MODE’s entertainment section can give a man advice on the nightlife of a gentleman. So why not a section on the guide of how to act like a gentleman? In upcoming issues MODE will dedicate a little space to the rules of the distinguished gentleman. Please pay attention, after all, proper listening is one of the rules of the proper gentleman.

Why do we need rules? Somewhere along the way gentlemen forgot how to act. In a sense we lost our way. The rules for how a man conducts himself in public has been watered down from codes of chivalry to so called “Bro codes” and tells us to act in a way that is beneath us. Instead of being gentlemen to be respected men have becomes idiots with rules boiled down to fortune cookie brevity.

Part of the reason was that when a civilization modernizes some of the old ways are lost. Common courtesies and pleasant niceties fade away as we enter a more fast-paced, instant gratification world. Part of it could also be blamed on the glorification of the “bad boy” image. After all, the bad boy is too cool to stand when a woman enters a room. Mostly, I believe, as our culture progressed many gentlemen did not know how to adapt the rules of the gentlemen into modern society.

This is not the fault of women. While many proper men have experienced some backlash, myself included, by a woman that feels the rules of chivalry are demeaning to women. As a gender, we men should not have adapted our behavior for a few discourteous people. Instead we should have taken the opportunity to inform them that men do not hold a door open because a woman isn’t able but as a sign of respect.

The rules of the distinguished gentleman can be boiled down into three ideals, Courtesy, Reciprocity and honor. Courtesy is more than just polite behavior

and manners, it is acting in a way that makes a man worthy of the respect of others. Reciprocity is a companion to the “Golden Rule” and is the obligation to treat others as they treat you. Without a doubt a man should treat others as he would like to be treated, but he should also in return treat people as he himself is treated. It is with a system of values like honor, respect and loyalty that separates the gentleman from other males.

In upcoming issues we will be discussing the etiquette for being a proper gentleman but here are some tips to get started.

The term, “Ladies first” is a good guideline.

Women precede men in many instances. Men should hold doors open and allow women to proceed into the row at the theater, but men should lead the way in a crowd to clear the path and head first into revolving doors.

When in doubt, stand. On a crowded bus or train, a gentleman will never sit while a lady stands.

Like other rules of modern chivalry this is not due to the fact that a woman is unable, but their shoes are more uncomfortable that our shoes are so it is nice to give them a rest. A man should also stand when shaking hands, when a lady stands or sits at the table or when a lady or important person enters the room. The only exception to the standing rule is when in a business setting and then all present are treated equally regardless of gender.

Times have changed and men must change with them.

Gender roles are completely different than when our grandparents were raised. Women are breadwinners, men cook, clean and stay home with the kids, but as we adapt we should bring forward the positive values from the past and leave the negative outdated ones behind. After all, being polite, respectful and honorable with a touch of class never goes out of style.

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