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PORNSTARS! H O W P O R N R E A L LY D I F F E R S F R O M R E A L - L I F E S E X … BY CATRIONA BOFFARD | CLINICAL SEXOLOGIST & PSYCHOTHERAPIST
Don’t believe everything you see on TV… especially not in porn! One of the biggest problems younger generations face today (we’re talking millennials and younger here), is the constant access to information online, at any given time. This means that access to porn is almost instant, and most often free. You can literally access any category of porn at any time you like. And what this also means is that for most men this age, porn is likely to have been their first bought of ‘sex ed’…
When we take a closer look at porn sex and real sex, there are major differences that men and women need to identify and understand! The type of sex that porn portrays, and unfortunately often the type of sex a young person grows up seeing as their only form of sexual stimulus and reference, more than often leads to a very skewed perception of sex and expectations of one’s partner. Porn focuses on performing, not on sensuality and pleasure. We often forget that pornstars are actually actors, and therefore are acting. They are acting out the ecstasy and pleasure that you see in a porn clip, and even the lead roles are playing the lead simply because of their aesthetic.
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