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Great Gifts for Kids BY THE NATIONAL ASSOCIATION FOR PARENTING PUBLICATIONS

Award-winning toys, games, DVDs and CDs these are gifts you’ll want under your tree this year.

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Discipline: When Parents Disagree BY ALISON JOHNSON How to handle your parenting differences, no matter how significant they may be.

the departments

31 EARLY ELEMENTARY

41 LET’S COOK

BY KATHY SENA

BY PATRICK EVANS-HYLTON

Kids, food allergies and bullying: there is a connection.

A yummy treat kids can help prepare and eat.

35 TEENS AND TWEENS

44 LET’S TALK

BY KRISTEN KIRK

COMPILED BY SUSAN ACKER

Acne care 101.

Should teens have Facebook pages?

38 FLICKS

46 LET’S CRAFT

BY JANE BOURSAW

BY CAMILLE PERRY

The month’s releases, lots of choices.

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IN THE LOOP

52 MILITARY MOMENTS

Updates on health, family fun, kid culture, shopping and more.

BY MICHELLE GALVEZ

49 THE FINAL WORD

54 GREAT DATES

BY RICK EPSTEIN

COMPILED BY SUSAN ACKER

Potential is a dirty word to lazy kids.

Kicking back when Dad’s in town.

on the cover They’re raising readers at Children’s Harbor Norfolk. PHOTO: HARRY GERWIEN

NOVEMBER 2010 VOLUME 20 NUMBER XI

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Editor’s note

Traditions are work, but they’re worthwhile he holiday season is a mixed bag for parents. On the one hand, we cringe when we think about all the events, shopping trips, office parties and other commitments that we’ll have to force into an already busy schedule. On the other hand, we relish the opportunities we’ll have to spend with our kids, extended family, coworkers, neighbors, etc. If you think all of those traditions you and your family keep are just busy work leading up to the holiday, you’re wrong. Experts say holiday traditions offer children plenty. For starters, they pass on your family and cultural values, but they also establish a sense of tradition and of priorities. If you give children the chance to contribute to holiday tasks, you also help them develop their identities, and take a step back from their own occasional egocentric thoughts. So get busy. Delegate tasks and reach out to others - with your children by your side.

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SMART CHOICES • STRONG CHILDREN • HEALTHY FAMILIES

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Battling the Holiday Bulge Great Shopping Finds Books about Thanksgiving On-line Shopping And much more

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in the loop children’s health

Avoid overeating during holiday feasts BY BABS BENSON, RN, MANAGER OF CHKD’S HEALTHY YOU PROGRAM

Adults aren’’t the only ones who can put on extra pounds during the holidays. Homemade goodies, big family meals and visits with relatives can also mean extra calories and weight gain for children. But children trying to watch their diets can still enjoy holiday feasts, Holiday meals, in fact, often include low-calorie staples: Roast turkey, fresh vegetables, fruit and whole grains and breads are all healthy. The key is moderation. In this age of fast-food supersizing, children need to know what a healthy portion size looks like for a person their age and that portion control applies to holiday foods as well. You need to teach children the size of a healthy portion, and that portion control applies to holiday foods as well. The holiday season should not be an excuse to abandon healthy eating habits. If your child does have a healthy favorite food or snack, always make sure that’s available. You also want to teach your children that eating isn’t the only way to celebrate the holidays. Learning

how to celebrate occasions like holidays and birthdays without overeating is an important lesson. During holidays, children also have many hours of unstructured time. Don’’t let them get bored. Sometimes, people eat simply for something to do. Invite other children over to the house to play. Plan a few active outings like a trip to the rec center or roller skating rink. Visit a pumpkin patch.

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If the weather permits, get the kids outside. They can play tag, hide-andseek, ride their bikes, toss a ball back and forth, climb a tree....as long as they are moving. It’s also important that parents role model healthy activity. Plan in advance to have your days full of activities. Aim for at least one hour of exercise a day. If children are having fun, they won’t want to stop after an hour.


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in the loop kid culture

This is the feast by Diane Shore, illustrations by Megan Lloyd. HarperCollins, 2008. “This is the Mayflower, sturdy and strong. Her sails skim the skies as she sails along.” The rhyming text sails along in this somewhat idyllic view of the first Thanksgiving celebration between the Pilgrims and their Indian neighbors. The bouncy rhymes lightly gloss over some of the severe challenges the Pilgrims faced including disease and death. However, preschoolers, too young to understand the enormity of those challenges, will enjoy this simple version. Older readers looking for a more accurate and honest version of the story, can also read Joseph Bruchac’s Squanto’s Journey: The Story of the First Thanksgiving or Catherine O’Neill Grace’s 1621: A New Look at Thanksgiving. For ages 4 to 8 years old.

Holidays Around the World: Celebrate Thanksgiving with Turkey, Family and Counting Blessings by Deborah Heiligman. National Geographic, 2006. Deborah Heiligman is the award-winning author of over a dozen books for children. She captures the spirit of the holiday in this volume while also relating its significance to other harvest festivals around the world. The beautiful photographs show historical and cultural aspects of the celebration, which are explained in more detail in a note by Dr. Elizabeth Pleck. The additional glossary, holiday references and resources and Thanksgiving recipe make this book worth adding to any collection. It pairs well with Laurie Halse Anderson’s Thank You, Sarah: The Woman who Saved Thanksgiving. For ages 6 to 9 years old.

All New Crafts for Thanksgiving by Kathy Ross, illustrations by Sharon Lane Holm. Millbrook Press, 2006. Thanksgiving is a great holiday for crafts and this book, which features some 22 craft ideas, is a wonderful resource for parents, teachers, scout leaders or anyone who works with young children. The projects range in their level of difficulty and call for inexpensive and easy-to-find materials. The directions are paired with clean, colorful and detailed illustrations. Crafts include Pilgrim place cards, a wild, bouncy turkey, puppets, a sailing ship cup and many others. This is a wonderful book to have on hand for family gatherings that include lots of young children. Aimed at elementary age children with adult assistance. –Sharon Zoumbaris

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in the loop groovy gear BY KRISTEN DE DEYN KIRK PHOTOS BY HARRY GERWIEN

pink and powerful We can only hope that the girls who are gooing and ga-ing now will have more options to play if they like in the future. Get the ball rolling in the right direction by showing her the game and decking her out in style. $19.99 at Old Dominion University’s bookstore, University Village, 1074 W. 47th St., Norfolk.

cheers While Mommy and Daddy enjoy a brewski or two, Thirsty Toddler can celebrate his own “bottoms up” with juice and start to learn the alphabet at the same time, starting with the letters O-D-U. $1.99, at Old Dominion University’s bookstore, 1074 W. 47th St., Norfolk.

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feature

the 34 top gifts for kids

The year’s best toys, games, DVDs and story CDs for all ages

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s the season of giving approaches, th National Parenting Publication (NAPPA) shares its best gift ideas f

From 20 years of experience setting the Gold st children’s products, NAPPA’s team of expert jud and child testers proudly present their top picks children’s learning and entertainment.

TOYS By Ellen Metrick Toys allow children to mimic the world and do what the grown-ups do. Today’s toys provide “grown-up” technology in durable, kid- and eco-friendly versions with less packaging and more natural elements. Dolls and plush animals continue to provide nurturing play, even as whimsical sounds and soft glows add new life to these classic favorites.

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For Infants & Toddlers Babipouce Activities, Corolle, $50; www.corolle.com; birth to age 3. This perfect first plush doll has soft vinyl hands and face. To lull baby to sleep, press the doll’s back for a lullaby and gentle twinkling lights that gradually fade and stop. Machine washable. “This doll is so precious. My granddaughter immediately settles down when the music plays.” - Grandmother of four Flow ‘N’ Fill Spout, Yookidoo by International Playthings, $16.99; www.intplay.com; ages 9 months and up. A battery-powered spout suctions to the side of the bathtub and continuously draws bath water up from the tub itself, allowing kids to play with running water without overflowing the tub. Cups are included for exploratory water fun. “My kids love to play under the running faucet. Now they can without flooding the bathroom!” - Mother of two Spring Roller, Chicco, $19.99; www.chiccousa.com; ages 6 months and up. This colorful, cylindrical toy invites baby to crawl, as it plays upbeat Caribbean tunes when rolling along the carpet or floor. Encircling the toy are manipulative activities with causeand-effect buttons to push, and lights and sounds to intrigue.

For Preschoolers Hot Dots Jr. - Ace the Talking Teaching Dog, Educational Insights Inc., $39.99; www.educationalinsights .com; ages 3 and up. The electronic dog “Ace” supports learning by pointing to correct answers on cards that focus on fundamental literacy skills. She lights up, gives a verbal “good job” and occasionally vibrates for added kudos. Ace lets kids know when an answer is incorrect, too.

In This Issue: Toys, Games, DVDs, Story CDs

Next Month: Books, Music, Software, Websites & Video Games

The Rest of the Best MobiGo Touch Learning System, VTech, $59.99; www.vtechkids.com; ages 3 and up. “Edu-gaming” at its finest! Touch screen and slide-out keyboard accompany a clear voice and excellent video quality. Insert cartridge and start playing and learning. More games can be downloaded from the website. Sing-a-ma-jigs!, Fisher-Price, $12.99; www.thesingamajigs.com; ages 3 and up. Oozing with personality, these plush characters make you smile and brighten your mood! Push their tummies and they talk and sing in goofy chipmunklike voices. Each has a different pitch so that they can sing in harmony. “These little guys are hilarious! Every person I’ve shown them to laughs and wants to get their hands on one!” - Educator and mother of two The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Zoobies, $40; www.zoobies.com; ages 5 and up. Snuggle up to this beloved bug from Eric Carle’s classic tale while reading! Exquisitely soft, the caterpillar plush toy opens up to a comfy pillow and unzips to reveal what he really ate: a warm, fuzzy blanket! “This is the perfect gift set! It’s familiar and adorable. I’m definitely giving several as holiday presents, and keeping one set for us!” - Mother of two

Find more gifts kids will love among the NAPPA Honors winners featured at www.NA PPA.Parenthood.com. Here, you can download handy shopping lists - by age group of all the 2010 NAPPA winners!

For Ages 5 & Up Liv Dolls, Spin Master Ltd., $14.99 each; www.spinmaster.com; ages 5 and up. Glam to the hilt, Liv teenage dolls strut in style. Each of four diverse dolls can be posed and comes with interchangeable wigs and an online code for more games and fashion fun. Makedo, Makedo/Reeves International Inc., $15; www.makedo.com.au; ages 5 and up. Kids create fun and functional items by using imagination and ordinary household recyclables. Armed with this set of connectors, hinges and multipurpose tools, young children can saw cardboard and punch holes to make cars, costumes and more. Real Construction Deluxe Tool Set, JAKKS Pacific Inc., $29.99; www.jakks.com; ages 5 and up. A “must have” for builders who are too old for pretend tools but too young for real ones. Build a garage for toy cars or a dollhouse with lightweight tools. Styrofoam?-like faux wood and screws for solid construction. “This was my ‘wow’ find at the New York Toy Fair! I saw a prototype and was amazed! The tools work well, the ‘wood’ cuts easily

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and the screws really do hold tight!” - NAPPA Judge Springfree Trampoline, Springfree Trampoline, Inc., $1,599; www.springfr eetrampoline.com; ages 6 and up. Marketed as the safest trampoline, flexible fiberglass rods replace traditional metal springs and are located beneath the jumping surface for a safer and more natural bounce. The FlexiNet enclosure keeps kids safely inside and guides them back to the trampoline’s center. “It’s jumpier than regular trampolines and it looks really cool, too!” - Erin, age 9

For Ages 8 & Up Ground Force Drifter, Razor USA LLC, $299.99; www.razor.com; ages 8 and up. This steel-framed, electric go-kart zips through neighborhoods at speeds of up to 12 mph. Thumb-tab acceleration and a rear-wheel hand break put control in the palm of kids’ hands; a high torque motor and Super Slider(tm) rear tires give the power and precision for spin-outs, fishtails and 360s. “It’s so cool because it’s ‘batterized’!” - Ben, age 9 Perplexus, PlaSmart Inc., $24.99; www.plasmarttoys.com; ages 6 and up. Methodically rotate and tilt this 3D labyrinth-like maze, encapsulated in a clear plastic ball, to move a small metal marble through an intricate web of shoots and track. Totally addictive! Potato Chip Science, Workman Publishing, $17.95; www.workman.com; ages 9 and up. “High in saturated facts,” as the package states, this is not your typical science kit. Packaged in a potato chip bag, this set uses potato chip bags, tubes, lids, spuds and chips to conduct experiments with immediate results. “As an engineer by trade, I enjoy the science behind this kit. As a kid by trade, my son loves the attraction of using potato chips in the experiments.” - Father of one

Board and Card Games By Peggy Brown, with Kim Vandenbroucke

picture on each card matches one (and only one) on every other card.

Games are more popular than ever and for good reason. They pack a lot of entertainment into a box and offer a costfriendly alternative to movies, sports events and, of course, boredom! A game can also become the centerpiece of good, old-fashioned family togetherness.

For Preschoolers The Amazing Alphabotz Superphonic Decoder Cards, Ideopolis LLC, $19.95; www.alphabotz.com; ages 3 and up. These oversized flashcards demystify upper and lowercase letters, the sounds they make, and how they work as a system. Charming and cheerful characters identified for each letter are designed in a new-but-retro style.

For Ages 5 & Up Can You See What I See? Bingo Link, Gamewright, $15.99; www.gamewright.com; ages 6 and up. Quick! Find the soccer ball! The mitten! The scissors! Identify items and cover them to create a connection across your board. Learn simple strategy and how to be descriptive in the process. The first player to link across the board wins. Animal Mastermind Towers, PressmanToy,$11.99;www.pressmantoy.com; ages 5 and up. This problem-solving and deduction game makes you use your noodle to figure out the order of stacked animals on your opponent’s tower. It’s simple but tricky at the same time; fun to set up and figure out.

For Ages 7 & Up Spot It!, BlueOrange Games, $11.99; www.blueorangegames.com; ages 8 and up. Four quick-match games come packed in a little round tin box. Magically elegant, each circular card has a series of pictures on it: one (and only one)

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Minotaurus, LEGO Systems Inc., $24.99; www.LEGO.com; ages 7 and up. Setting up the game board is as much fun as playing it. A little chance and light strategy can get one of your heroes to the temple without confronting the Minotaur. The “game-scape” can be changed limitlessly for creative and imaginative play. “Can we play again, except change the board?” - Jack, age 8

For Ages 8 & Up Dweebies, Gamewright, $10.99; www.gamewright.com; ages 8 and up. Cute and colorful, the appropriately named Dweebies are lovable, laughable and clever characters. Capture them by playing matches at each end of a row to collect the most. Scrabble Flash, Hasbro Games, $29.99; www.hasbrogames.com; ages 8 and up. Scrabble meets electronics in an unusually fresh way. Five electronic “tiles” have LCD displays and each shows one letter. Players arrange and rearrange the tiles to make words. The tiles magically know rules to three games and track your time. “This is so much more fun than those unscrambling puzzles in the paper.” - Mom of three


Q-bitz, MindWare, $24.95; www.mindware.com; ages 8 and up. Complete visual masterpieces by using cubes with simple graphic elements on each side. Each player has his own tray, which he uses to align his cubes in a race to be the first to match the graphic on the card. Q-bitz includes three games with fun twists.

DVDs By Ranny Levy This year, three KIDS FIRST! senior jurors worked closely with child jurors to winnow the best from a pool of excellent submissions. We saw an exponential uptick in sophistication and the use of computer-generated graphics and digital recording. The quality of content clearly reflects a commitment to create better programming that both teaches and inspires children.

For Toddlers Big Bird, Little Bird, Sleeveless, 2010; 35 min.; $14.99; www.sarahickman.com; ages 0 to 5. Texas’ official State Musician Sara Hickman nurtures babies’ transition into tot-hood with this loving, quiet-time video. Gentle, colorful animation brings tender lyrics to life. Everything is pitch perfect as it flows from a cappella renditions to acoustic and string accompaniments. The cover art is also a winner! “‘You Are My Sunshine’ brought tears to my eyes - and to my husband’s. I had to immediately play it again to sing along with Sara’s resonant voice.” - Senior Juror and grandmother of five

A hoot! Mo’s pigeon uses every imaginable kid ploy to persuade off-screen kids to let him drive, but they don’t buy it! Simple graphics and story lines, WoodyAllen-style humor and vaudevillian timing prove that Mo really “gets” kids. “Frame for frame, this is one of the most original and rewarding kid videos I have ever watched.” - Senior Juror and grandmother of five Look Out World Here I Come! New York, Look Out World LLC, 2010; 30 min.; $19.95; www.lookoutworldhereic ome.com; ages 2 to 5. Imaginary travelers Otto, Blink and Casey guide young viewers on a tour of New York City via cleverly mixed animation and real images. An unhurried pace, sing-along tunes and a 36-page activity book encourage fun and interactive learning. “The packaging alone deserves an award. It includes character passports, taxi games, a NY pizza recipe and more.” - Senior Juror and mother of two

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Meet the Sight Words DVD BoxedSet,PreschoolPrepCompany, 2009; 108 min.; $39.97; www.preschoolprepco.com; ages 2 to 5. “Sight words” are words that are frequently seen but not easily decoded, such as “a,” “and,” “for,” “have,” “he” and “I.” Using playful approaches with animation, graphics and letter personification, this series helps kids recognize words without having to “figure them out.” “The children testers laughed and shouted and asked for more. Readers and non-readers were equally engaged.” - Senior Juror and mother of two

Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus ... And More Stories by Mo Willems, Scholastic Media/New Video, 2010; 49 min.; $14.95; www.newkideo.com; ages 2 to 5.

Wimzie’s House - A World of Enchantment, Mill Creek Entertainment, 2010; 4 hrs. 10 min.; $9.98; www.millcreekent.com; ages 2 to 5.

When Wimzie opens the door to her enchanting home, we can’t resist stepping in ... and all that follows is good. It’s puppetry at its three-dimensional best! Superb theatrical sets and engrossing scripts help preschoolers sort through daily challenges.

For Ages 5 & Up The Wheels on the Bus Sing-Along Travel Kit, Scholastic Media/New Video, 2010; 2 hrs. 12 min.; $24.95; www.newkideo.com; ages 5 to 8. Fifteen brilliantly illustrated musical storybooks on two DVDs keep kids and parents happy on road trips. Together with 13 songs on a music CD and an activity booklet with crayons, children are introduced to good, diverse music and art styles.

For Ages 8 to 12 The Secret of Moonacre, E1 Entertainment, 2010; 103 min.; $24.95; www.E1homevideo.com; ages 8 to 12. Stunning 1900s sets and costumes bring fantasy, history and mystery together in this film about 13-year-old Maria who, once orphaned, must rise to meet her destiny in a magical moonlit world of exotic characters and mythical beasts. “For those who enjoy the Chronicles of Narnia stories and The Golden Compass, I promise you will not be disappointed by this.” - Senior Juror and grandmother of one

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For Younger Children

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Guess How Much I Miss You, written by Julia Lobo, illustrated by Rebecca Elliott, Publications International Ltd., 2010; $19.99; www.pubint.com; ages 18 months to 3 years. This board book tells of two bears who miss each other while apart. A concealed panel allows loved ones to record the tale in their own voice so that a child can hear her out-of-town grandparent, mom or dad read a bedtime story. Perfectly Arugula, written by Sarah Dillard, Sterling Children’s Books, 2009; Free; www.listenalongstoryboo k.com; ages 3 and up. A perfectly cute little hedgehog organizes a perfect party, but everyone is perfectly miserable until an uninvited guest shakes things up ... perfectly. Directions for downloading free audio and streaming audio are provided.

For School-Age Children The Lost Bicycle, by Cory Hills, Reach Out Kansas Inc., 2010; $12.97; www.coryhills.com, www.reachoutkansas.org; ages 5 to 12. Master percussionist Hills uses marimba, kalimba, water glasses, gong, wood block, cow bell and cymbals to punctuate his stories. This mix of folktales,

Frindle, written by Andrew Clements and read by Keith Nobbs, Simon & Schuster Audio, 2009; $14.99; audio.s imonandschuster.com; ages 8 to 12. This classic story - students in a battle of wits and words with a strong-willed teacher over a “frindle” (aka pen) - is funny, fastpaced and heart-warming. “Great story! One of our all-time favorites.” - Mother of six

For Tweens & Teens Sisters Red, written by Jackson Pearce and read by Erin Moon, Michal FriedmanandSuzanneToren,HachetteAudio, 2010; $22.98; www.jacksonpearce.com, www.hachetteaudio.com; ages 12 and

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up. Granny’s dead, werewolves are on the prowl, and sisters Scarlett and Rosie are out for revenge and blood literally. The setting is contemporary and gritty; the characters are distinctive. Not your baby sister’s Little Red Riding Hood. “The story grabbed me. I couldn’t stop listening. Really, really good.” - Alicia, age 16

For Family Listening Tales2Go, Tales2Go LLC, 2010; $24.99 annual subscription; www.tales2go.com; ages 3 to 11. Get stories from great storytellers anytime from this on-demand website that offers more than 1,200 audio books and storytelling for under $25/year. (Note: One subscription covers downloads to one iPod, iPad or iPhone device.)

Meet NAPPA’s Judges Toys & Games Ellen Metrick is a consultant, researcher and evaluator for major toy retailers and manufacturers, advising on toy design and the impact of play on childhood development. She is manager of business development at the National Lekotek Center (www.lekotek.org), a nationwide nonprofit, which focuses on accessible play for children of all abilities. NAPPA’s lead judge for board and card games, Peggy Brown, has worked for many of the world’s biggest toy companies as an inventor, designer, writer, creative director and consultant. She’s a developer of games and an author of children’s activity books. Assistant Games Judge Kim Vandenbroucke is a game inventor and developer, president of Brainy Chick Inc., and runs TheGameAisle.com, a game review site.

DVDs Ranny Levy, founder and president of KIDS FIRST!(r) Coalition for Quality Children’s Media (www.kidsfirst.org), has advocated for quality children’s media since 1989. KIDS FIRST! evaluates, rates and reviews children’s programming; produces the KIDS FIRST! Film Festival; and recently launched a campaign to find five kids nationwide to become official KIDS FIRST! Film Critics. Additional judges include Lauren Longworth and Deborah Cool. Storytelling & Spoken Word Marilyn McPhie has been a professional storyteller for 25 years. She is a state liaison for the National Storytelling Network and a presenter at festivals and conferences nationwide.

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the discipline divide Learn to agree even when you disagree

MAYBE MOM doesn’t think breaking curfew once is a big deal, but Dad is hopping mad and ready to do some grounding. Or Dad is known to let a child slide on finishing homework while Mom not only wants all assignments done on time but re-done until they’re totally correct and neatly written. From early toddlerhood to the late teenage years, disagreements over how to discipline a child are very normal, especially with first children, parenting experts and pediatricians say. The potential hot spots are almost endless: potty training and bedtime, time-outs versus spanking, homework and chores, cursing and backtalk, curfew and driving, drinking and sex. The challenge for parents is to present a united front and clear boundaries whenever possible, even if they come in with very different ideas on discipline. That takes planning, respect, compromise and the ability to pick battles based on an understanding of what each parent feels strongly about.

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“It’s very important to remain supportive of one another as we raise children,” said Dr. Saira Ahsan, a pediatrician with Sentara Pediatric Physicians in Williamsburg. “We have partners in this process because it takes the thinking, energy and commitment of both parents to raise well-mannered and well-rounded children.” Opinions on how to discipline children often stem from each parent’s own experiences as a child, said Sharon Silverberg, a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with Rising Tide Therapy in Virginia Beach. Parents know what they want to repeat and what they want to do differently with their own kids, but that doesn’t mean their spouses automatically understand. “Most people who have kids together didn’t know each other growing up, so they may not have a good perspective

on how the other was raised and where they are coming from,” Silverberg said. “You need to have conversations to open that door. You can’t start doing that too early - as soon as a pregnancy happens, or maybe even sooner.” To avoid surprises, parents can identify specific behaviors important to each, whether it’s getting good grades, keeping a clean room, eating healthy foods, limiting screen time or something else. They also can agree on absolutely nonnegotiable issues and values, which usually include safety, education, respect and honesty. Silverberg suggests parents take situations in other families that they read about, see on television or encounter in their lives and talk about what they’d do if something similar happened with their kids. “You don’t want to just wait until something big happens and you’re in crisis mode,” she said. Give-and-take is crucial, even though that can be difficult depending on the personality of each parent, said Amy Behm, Education Director for the Downtown Hampton Child Development Center (DHCDC). “Parents must be able to compromise with each other and recognize that what each parent has to say is important,” she said. “It can be helpful for each parent to write down their thoughts on a particular issue and then come together to read and discuss them, with the idea that a compromise might be the best solution. It is important to focus attention on the problem, not the participants.” In many families, one parent tends to be more lenient than the other. That’s not a problem unless the two refuse to compromise, agree to a consequence but don’t enforce it when one parent isn’t around or, perhaps worst of all, fall into the roles of “good” and “bad” cop, Silverberg said. “For example, you don’t ever want Dad saying, ‘Well, I would be OK with you staying up later, but your mother says you need to go to bed,’” she said. “That kind of thing is very unhealthy for both the kids and the parents. You don’t ever want the kids to think there’s a division - that they can go to Dad on this one or Mom on that one to get what they want.” One parent also shouldn’t have to shoulder an unfair share of the discipline, she added. Even if one person is around the child more - and therefore in a position to punish more often - the other needs to support those decisions and step in when he or she is home. So if Dad has to handle homework every weekday while Mom works, then she is responsible for making sure the child studies and does chores over the weekend. “Otherwise, that first parent is going to feel very resentful,” Silverberg said. If one parent has already imposed a punishment that the other thinks is too harsh, they could still decide to change it. However, the best person to break the news is the person who first set the punishment, Ahsan said. So if Mom www.MyTidewaterMoms.com | N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 0 | 27


grounded her son for two weeks but later compromised on a week after a parental conference, she should be the one to tell the child. “This is a technique that will allow both parents to be supportive of one another and will not appear as if one parent is overriding the other,” Ahsan said. As a parent, Behm tended to be less strict with her two now-grown boys than her husband. She remembers times they didn’t agree, especially during the teenage years (driving curfew was one particular sticking point). They would have discussions privately, agree on a compromise and actually put it in writing before discussing it with one of their kids. “Try to remain calm and try to listen and understand each other,” she said. Applying the rules consistently is the next hurdle - although that doesn’t mean throwing flexibility out the door. “Obviously with any set of rules, there may be times when there is an exception or they may need to be revised,” Behm said. One common problem with consistency is parents breaking their own rules

because they feel guilty about some dynamic in the family, said Jaynelle Oehler, Executive Director of the DHCDC. A working parent, for example, might feel terrible about getting home late and missing time with the kids, and then compensate by not enforcing a regular bedtime. “This causes problems later for both the parent and child, when the parent decides to put the child to bed earlier at his regular bedtime,” Oehler said. “Inconsistency is very confusing for young children.” In general, experts agree that discussions about discipline should occur away from at least younger children, who are good at picking up even subtle clues that their parents aren’t on the same page. While listening to kids is always important, discussing or debating punishments in front of them can lead to big trouble if they see openings to argue and negotiate, Silverberg said. “If there’s room for wiggle room, then there’s room for manipulation or playing one parent off the other,” she said. “I’m a

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big fan of no wiggle room - of setting very clear boundaries. Children don’t have to know all the work that goes into parenting. They don’t need to be involved in the process. To me, most conversations about parenting should be considered adult conversations.” However, older children may benefit from watching parents have a healthy debate or discussion while still showing respect to each other, Ahsan said. That means no name-calling, bullying, screaming, cold shoulders or other bad behavior. Whether in or out of earshot of the kids, “I” statements tend to be more effective than more accusing “you” ones, she said. For example: “I feel so nervous when the kids play on the stairs. I’m afraid they will get hurt, so can we work together to explain that to them?” instead of “Why do you always let the kids get away with playing on the stairs? Why don’t you ever do anything to control them?” “I try to talk to my spouse the way I’d talk with a trusted colleague during a


point of disagreement,” Ahsan said. “In this way, I always continue to show that person respect and at the same time, make my case in a credible way. Getting personal with a statement beginning with ‘you’ will not likely lead to productive discussion.” (Tip: Having the discussion in a public place such as a restaurant also can keep any tempers under control). Although some parents like to let kids have a voice in their punishment - “What do you think should happen to you?” Silverberg cautions against giving a child too large a role. “Obviously it depends on the child, the age and the situation, but in general I’d say if you ever give a child a choice, make it between two consequences,” she said. “Don’t leave it openended for them to decide.” Children actually like strong leadership from their parents, she said: “Kids need to feel safe, especially when they’re little. Subconsciously, they know that their parents are making good decisions for them. They know what the consequences are for certain behaviors. It is a real feeling of security for them.”

One common problem with consistency is parents breaking their own rules because they feel guilty about some dynamic in the family.

Some disagreements are easy to resolve. If one parent favors an 11 p.m. curfew and the other would rather go with 10 p.m., 10:30 is a logical compromise. So is 10 p.m. one year with an agreement to try 11 p.m. the next year, assuming the teenager has behaved well and respected the rule. But what if parents simply can’t agree? Take a big issue such as spanking - what happens if one wants to spank and the other doesn’t? Experts suggest doing research together to learn pros and cons and, if wanted, seeking outside opinions

from grandparents, friends, teachers, pediatricians, ministers, family counselors or other trusted sources. Just don’t let a problem fester for too long. “Standing discord about issues will cause confusion with children,” Ahsan said. “A child could easily be put in a position of picking sides, and that’s not healthy.” Agreeing on discipline also can get much trickier if parents are divorced or separated, Oehler said. “The child gets caught in the middle and often does not understand the issues and reasons for the conflict,” she said. “Divorced parents need to strive very hard to communicate with each other for the sake and well being of their children.” Finally, parents shouldn’t punish themselves too harshly for their inevitable missteps. “Even the best parents are not perfect and that mistakes are a natural part of parenting,” Behm said. “If you can remember to communicate and compromise and be fairly consistent, you will be practicing good parenting.”

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1. Wash her hair more often: Up until that point, my sweet girl could push washing her hair to two or three times a week and still look great. Suddenly, that was no longer the case. She maybe could get away with every other day, but, really she should lather up every day. 2. Wash her face every night: She was OK at rinsing off in the morning, but there was no nighttime routine. Plus, she was experimenting with makeup and all of us over 20 know what that does to once-smooth skin if you don’t remove it. Finally, a few days after her birthday, she complained to me about the pimples, and I gently suggested my ideas. She moaned, but she did both. For a week or so. Then I had to gently remind her of the necessity of keeping at it. My gentle, manipulative approach: “It’s just part of a teenager’s life to take care of her skin.� See how I made her older to get her to do what needed doing? So far, three months of this approach has kept most of the pimples in check.

(I’ve been fortunate, too, that she hasn’t been picking at her face, so I don’t have to nag her about that. And I’m sure she would be glad to learn that diet doesn’t have much to do with causing acne. She loves chocolate and chips as much as me and would hate to give them up!) I’m ready for the next attack, though, if it presents itself. My weapons: Suggesting oil-free and “noncomedogenic� makeup and over-the-counter acne medicine. According to the Mayo Clinic, there are three types of acne-fighting products. Some kill propionibacterium acnes (called P. acnes), the bacterium that causes acne inflammation. Others decrease excess oils from the skin, speed up the growth of new skin cells and remove of dead skin cells that clog pores. Certain products do all of these things. Here’s what to look for: Benzoyl peroxide. This kills P. acnes, helps remove excess oils from the skin and removes dead skin cells that clog pores.

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flicks BY JANE LOUISE BOURSAW

Reel life with Jane Movie and DVD reviews for you and your family

A FAVORITE WIZARD, a girl with magical hair, and a runaway train are barreling into theaters this month! Here’s the rundown on what’s new in theaters in November:

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part 1 Rated PG-13 for some sequences of intense action violence and frightening images. In theaters 11/19. Ok for kids 13+. www.harrypotter.com Sqqquuueeee! That’s the sound of Harry Potter fans around the world squealing in delight over the return of everyone’s favorite wizard. But is it really the beginning of the end? I have

a feeling someone will figure out how to keep the franchise going one way or another. Part 1 begins as Harry, Ron and Hermione (Daniel Radcliffe, Rupert Grint and Emma Watson) embark on a perilous mission to track down and destroy the secret to Voldemort’s immortality and destruction — the Horcruxes. Meanwhile, the wizarding world has become a dangerous place for all enemies of the Dark Lord (Ralph Fiennes). The long-feared war has begun

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and Voldemort’s Death Eaters seize control of the Ministry of Magic and Hogwarts, terrorizing and arresting anyone who might oppose them. The one prize they seek is the one most valuable to Voldemort: Harry Potter. But as Harry searches for clues to the Horcruxes, he uncovers an old and almost forgotten tale — the legend of the Deathly Hallows. If true, the legend could give Voldemort the ultimate power he seeks. Offered in 2D, 3D and IMAX 3D.


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Rated PG for action and some language. In theaters 11/5. Ok for kids 7+. www.megamindmovie.com With a voice cast that includes Brad Pitt, Tina Fey, Will Ferrell, Jonah Hill and Ben Stiller, ‘Megamind’ is fun on all sorts of levels. The CG-animated movie (in 2D, 3D and IMAX 3D) follows the most brilliant super-villain (Megamind, voiced by Will Ferrell) the world’s ever known! Unfortunately, he’s also a colossal failure, thanks to the caped superhero known as Metro Man (Brad Pitt). But when Megamind actually defeats Metro Man, the fate of Metro City is threatened when a new villain arrives and chaos runs rampant. Can the world’s biggest “mind” actually be the one to save the day? Since it’s a DreamWorks production, there’s no doubt that all will end well.

Rated PG-13 for sequences of action and peril, and some language. In theaters 11/12. Ok for kids 14+. www.unstoppablemovie.com Every year needs a runaway train movie, and ‘Unstoppable’ is the one for 2010. It’s also an environmental movie of sorts, since the runaway train is carrying a cargo a toxic chemicals threatening to decimate everything in its path. Directed by Tony Scott, this tense action thriller finds an engineer and his conductor in a race against time to bring the train under control before it derails on a curve and causes a catastrophic toxic spill. And oh yes, 150 kids on a field trip are on a separate locomotive smack in the train’s way. Look for plenty of thrills, spills and explosions in this movie starring Denzel Washington, Chris Pine, Rosario Dawson and Kevin Chapman.

Rated PG-13 for some sexual content, including dialogue, language and brief drug references. In theaters 11/ 12. Ok for kids 13+. www.morningglorymovie.com When hard-working TV producer Becky Fuller (Rachel McAdams) is fired from a local news program, her career begins to look as bleak as her love life. Then she stumbles into a job at ‘Daybreak,’ the last-place morning news show, and decides to revitalize it by bringing on legendary TV anchor Mike Pomeroy (Harrison Ford). He’s not too keen on covering morning show staples like celebrity gossip, weather, fashion and crafts, let alone work with his new co-host, Colleen Peck (Diane Keaton). She’s a former beauty queen and longtime morning show personality who’s more than happy to cover the “news.” Mike and Colleen clash as Becky’s romance with fellow producer Adam Bennett (Patrick Wilson) begins to unravel. McAdams is adorable, and the pairing of Keaton and Ford is Hollywood gold.

Jane Louise Boursaw is a freelance writer specializing in the movie and television industries. Visit her online at www.filmgecko.com and www.ReelLifeWithJane.com, or email jboursaw@charter.net.

Tangled Not yet rated; likely PG. In theaters 11/24. Ok for kids 7+. www.disney.com/tangled This action-packed, swashbuckling, animated musical comedy follows the adventures of the girl with 70 feet of magical, golden hair - Rapunzel (voiced by Mandy Moore). Stolen from her parents’ castle as a baby, the princess has been locked in a hidden tower for years. Now she’s an imaginative and determined teenager who

finds herself on a wild escapade with the help of a dashing bandit named Flynn Ryder (Zachary Levi). With her captor in pursuit, Rapunzel and Flynn find adventure, heart, humor, and hair ... lots of hair. What a fun family movie to take us into the holiday season! This re-imagining of the classic Brothers Grimm fairytale is available in 2D and 3D, and features original music by Alan Menken and lyrics by Glenn Slater. Other voices include Donna Murphy, Ron Perlman, Jeffrey Tambor and Brad Garrett.

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Now we’re talking turkey Leftovers turn into nothing left with our Turkey Soft Tacos BY PATRICK EVANS-HYLTON

urkey is great food - it’s a good protein, generally lean and low in calories. It also has a mild flavor that appeals to many, and that takes on other flavors well. Because of that, turkey pops up on many tables throughout the year, and not just at the holidays. This time of year, the turkey reigns. It makes its appearance in holiday meals, and in countless leftovers once the main dinner has passed. Sooner or later, however, like houseguests, turkey outwears its welcome. Just how many turkey sandwiches and turkey soup can you eat, anyway? We like our Turkey Soft Tacos to not only help take care of those leftovers

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in an unique and flavorful way, but to offer any time, too. Large cubes of roasted turkey are paired with sweet, chunky applesauce and tart dried cranberries, wrapped in a whole wheat tortilla. It’s a little savory, a little sweet. It has a good source of protein, fiber and other nutrients. And it is quick and easy to assemble. Quick and easy are key words The beauty of our Turkey Soft Tacos is that it uses food that you probably already have on hand, especially after Thanksgiving. We use cubed roasted turkey, but you could just as easily use deli turkey that is sliced into large matchsticks. We also like to use homemade applesauce (if you’d like my recipe for home-

made applesauce, email me at: patrickeva nshylton@gmail.com) but you could just as easily use a commercial applesauce. If you are using applesauce bought from the store, look for natural and chunky brands that do not include high fructose corn syrup as a sweetener, and have some texture and fiber to them. Also, avoid flavored applesauce so that the sandwich will not get too complex. For a little tartness, we like to use dried cranberries, but you could use dried cherries, raisins or other dried fruits on the sandwich. To wrap the whole thing up, we like whole grain tortillas for their nutritional context, but you could use flour tortillas. As with the applesauce, avoid flavored tortillas, or corn tortillas, so that the flavors work more harmoniously.

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What you need to do An adult should cut roasted turkey into medium-sized cubes, about the size of a dice, and place in a medium bowl. Kids can lay tortillas out on a clean work surface. Kids can measure out applesauce in a small bowl and dried cranberries in a separate small bowl. Kids can spread out equal amounts of applesauce onto each tortilla. Kids can then sprinkle each tortilla with equal amounts of dried cranberries. Kids can then top each tortilla with equal amounts of cubed, roasted turkey. Kids can fold the tortillas over in half to form a taco. Makes about 6 servings.

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My 13-year-old wants a Facebook page, all of his friends have one. We do not think he’s ready. What should we do? Ask important questions Social networking sites are popular within the teenage community. Teenagers communicate and play games on sites like Facebook. With all things, there are advantages and disadvantages. As parents, it is important to know your child. Is your child responsible? Will he make good choices and use the site safely? It is essential to discuss the potential dangers associated with social networking sites, create rules your teen should follow to keep him safe, establish a time your teen can access the site at home, and monitor his activities online. There are three important rules teenagers should know and practice when using social networking sites. 1. Do not share your personal information with anyone online. (i.e. phone number or address) 2. Never meet with anyone you met online. If someone tries to set up a meeting with you, tell your parents

immediately. 3. Do not engage in cyber bullying. If someone says mean or inappropriate things to you, report this behavior to your parents immediately. Setting rules, maintaining an open line of communication about friends and discussions on Facebook, and monitoring your child’s online activities are great ways to introduce them to the social networking world and easyeyour anxiety. Karen Bazemore Technology Curriculum Integration Specialist Warwick High School Newport News

Offer constructive feedback We recommend having a quality conversation with your teen about Facebook and its original purpose. Although you might think you know why he wants a Facebook page, we encourage you to ask him and allow him to

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share his reasons. Your conversation with him will help you to give him constructive feedback and will help him to choose whether he is ready for Facebook. Also, share with him why you feel that he is not ready for a Facebook page. This prevents a struggle where your child will realize you are not just telling him no because you just do not want him to have it, you are giving him your reasons for not wanting him to have one and allowing him to see where you are coming from. Remember, your response is the key because feeling that he is not ready for a Facebook page is one thing, but not being open and honest with him about your feelings and thoughts is another. In addition, we suggest that you share some of the stories that you know and have heard regarding teens on Facebook. If your quality conversation leads to you allowing him access to a Facebook account, but you may still be apprehensive, meet him half way and compromise and set some parental con-


trols or monitor his account so you have peace of mind as a parent that you know he is safe on the internet. Maintaining a positive relationship with your teen is crucial, especially during this developmental stage. So, follow your “mother’s wit.� You will know when your teen is ready for Facebook. Alice Spence, MSW, CSAC School Counseling and Guidance Director Becki Trant, M.Ed, Q.M.H.P. School Guidance Counselor Lafayette-Winona Middle School Norfolk

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final word BY RICK EPSTEIN

POTENTIAL: THE CURSE OF THE UNDERACHIEVER

“HERE’S THE DEAL: You’re smart enough to get all A’s if you apply yourself. But go ahead and have some fun; get a couple of B’s. I can live with that. But get a C, and I am going to intervene in your life.”

That’s me, The Demanding One, laying down the law to my teenage daughter. I only do it because she has loads and loads of Potential. I feel for the kid; I know what a burden that can be. My own Potential had been a talking point in many unpleasant conversations with my teachers and parents. The reason everyone thought I had so much Potential was because I liked to read. A reader can’t help but learn a few things, and when a standardized test is administered, you get a high score. And then teachers think you can do well in school. Very funny. That’s like betting

someone will win the high jump because you saw him fall out a window. What is needed is a test that measures a student’s willingness to put his nose to grindstone and keep it there. That would separate the scholars from the bums and prevent untold delusion and disappointment. As it was, my Potential caused my parents unnecessary pain and sometimes even cut into my good times. At my old school, kids in grades 5 and 6 who had been identified as having towering Potential, were eligible for Saturday Morning Classes at the high school. At the time, my ambition was

to become a cowboy or a taxidermist, so I scanned the offerings with these objectives in mind. I chose Biology, figuring we’d learn how to use a scalpel and maybe cover the rudiments of skinning. But the curriculum involved lots of microscope work and much palaver about cells - and not the kind in which they lock up horse thieves either. When the 10-week program had ended, I was no closer to being a taxidermist, and I realized the whole thing had just been a hoax to lure me into school on Saturdays. So the next year, when I was picked for Saturday Morning Classes, I said, “No thanks.” Saturday mornings were for television - and the local station offered a killer lineup of Western reruns (“Tales of the Texas Rangers,” “The Cisco Kid,” “The Lone Ranger,” etc.). I told my parents I was learning a trade, but they

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saw my Potential parked on the couch. They wanted me to take it out for a spin. So, under protest, I signed up for Spanish - because it’s the second language of cowboys. But the teacher did not speak Spanish like a regular Gringo cowboy; she spoke it like Zorro. “Adios� was rendered as “ah-DEEose� instead of “addyOSE� and she’d make me say it her way with a foreign accent. Well, in 10 weeks I learned enough Spanish to order a meal, but not nearly enough to talk banditos into surrendering their captives and staying on their own side of the Rio Grande. Muy disappointmente! Well, after that, I kind of strolled through the rest of my schooling, not getting too excited about any of it. Apparently MY Potential was the kind that lies in a hammock and not the kind that gets up and mows the lawn, weeds the garden and sculpts the hedges into giant swans, corkscrews, etc. Talk of my latent ability petered out about halfway through high school, and it was never spoken of again. Now, at age 49, I kind of miss being

What is needed is a test that measures a student’s willingness to put his nose to grindstone and keep it there. That would separate the scholars from the bums and prevent untold delusion and disappointment.

nagged about my Potential. None of my co-workers even suspect I have it. At the office, the general perception is that I am stretched right to my limit. If I had a gauge, its needle would be edging into the red zone (but the guys in the engine room aren’t expecting much of an explosion). With my Potential laid to rest, you’d

think peace would reign. But Potential, like an unpaid bill, has become an issue again. Luckily this time it belongs to my daughters, who range in age from 8 to 15. I won’t bore you with the boasty details, but those kids have more Potential than SUVs have cup-holders. So when I see them watching stupid sitcoms on TV or wasting their time playing board games, I think, “Shouldn’t they be learning Spanish or something?� When their vapid friends come over, I yearn for more-stimulating companionship for them and will even chauffeur them miles away to find it. And when their report cards show a lack of effort, I demand, “What happened!?� as if mediocrity were something new in this family. It’s a big responsibility helping kids live up to their Potential, and I can’t help but wish my own parents had made a better job of it. If only they’d applied themselves! Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

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Letting go when Dad comes home BY MICHELLE GALVEZ n most typical families there’s probably a good cop/bad cop dynamic. But in my military family, there’s generally only one parent home on a regular basis (that would be me): a.k.a. “mean mom” and every once in a while “fun dad” swoops in, stirs things up and swoops back out again. Last month I told you how my military husband has been traveling for months with layovers at home just long enough for a load of laundry. Well, during that short time, he’s able to accomplish plenty of routine disrupting too. Bedtime will get extended for more father-child bonding time, we’ll go out for meals, chores

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are suspended and they usually score a guilt-driven trip to the toy store. Time doesn’t stand still while Daddy’s away either. During his frequent absences the finicky child’s favorite food changes, the tween has a complete new set of friends and our son no longer likes that movie, that bedtime stuffed animal or playing that game anymore. The discipline strategy I employ to keep all three kids in line may have changed from time-outs to cell phone restriction and I’ve probably gotten a new set of dishes and donated some of his tee shirt collection to the thrift store. When he’s only home for the weekend there’s really no point in learning all the new rules or navigating the reorganized cabinets.

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It’s much more fun for him to be fun and treat the family. Historically, I’ve cringed when fun dad charges in changing things and I tag along only grudgingly while bracing myself for the backlash of rules enforcement after he leaves. Inevitably the missing of daddy gets taken out on me as does the resentment at having to return to routine. But during his last 24-hour layover between his trips, I decided to try something new. I figured it would be a change of pace to embrace the fun instead of insist on Saturday bathroom cleaning, laundry, dog bathing and the usual playing in the backyard. Being rigid and boring does get old after a while. I certainly surprised the kids and even myself by ignoring the unmade beds and being out of the house from sun up to sun down while only stopping off at home briefly to shed shin guards or grab jackets. We thoroughly enjoyed soccer games, a matinee at the base movie theater, then dinner on the town followed by biking on the boardwalk and a free concert at the beach well past bedtime. Granted, the next day’s “fun” included several loads of laundry from my husband’s suitcase to be immediately transferred from the laundry basket to the suitcase once again and a trip to the airport to say good bye. But the euphoria of being “fun mom” lasted quite a while! Michelle Galvez is a Navy wife, mother of three, full-time student and volunteer who is a journalist in her free time. Contact her at michellegalvez@ hotmail.com.


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November 2010 November 1 GEICO Gecko Exhibit - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues until Jan. 5. If you’ve ever admired the gecko of the GEICO advertising campaign, or just have a fondness for the tiny, green reptiles, the Virginia Aquarium & Marine Science Center has an exhibit for you. The Association of Zoos and Aquariums (AZA) and GEICO have brought their live gecko and educational exhibit to the Aquarium’s Marsh Pavilion, Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaaquarium.com Earth from Space Smithsonian poster exhibit - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues until Jan. 2. View rare satellite images in “Earth from Space,” a Smithsonian poster exhibit, at the Virginia Living Museum. See large color reproductions of images captured by high-tech satellites constantly circling the globe, recording conditions and events that are nearly impossible to document on the planet’s surface. A collaboration with geographer and curator Andrew Johnston at the Smithsonian’s National Air and Space Museum’s Center for Earth and Planetary Studies, the traveling exhibit won a 2007 U.S. Geological Survey award. Rare views of events such as dust storms, forest fires, volcanic eruptions, and hurricanes are accompanied by text that explains how satellite imagery is gathered and used to explore the Earth. Documenting

environmental cycles, natural disasters, and man-made ecological effects, satellite images provide clues about the dynamic nature of our planet. The Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 595-1900 or www.thevlm.org

November 2 Games On! Board, Card and Video Games Galore For Youth - 4 p.m.- 6 p.m. All board game and video game players ages 6-18 can play the new card games Monopoly, Slam and Pictureka with other players. New members are always welcome. No registration required. Pearl Bailey Library, 2510 Wickham Ave. (NN) 247-8677 Flash Back Fun - 6 p.m.- 8 p.m. Try your hand at original Nintendo games, rock out to the classic radio hits, play retro board games and enjoy the snacks and crafts of the past. Prizes will be awarded for the best costume, so pull that pony tail to the side and grab some shoulder pads or plaid. Registration is not required. Presented by the library’s Teen Advisory Group. Meyera E. Oberndorf Central Library, 4100 Virginia Beach Blvd. (VB) 385-0150

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create nurturing environments, increase parenting confidence, and promote optimal physical, intellectual, language, and social/emotional development in their infants and toddlers. Parents will explore how to create consistent routines, set appropriate expectations and limits, and support learning through play and exploration. Brain research and the impact of early development on life long learning will also be discussed. Register online at www.chkd.org/ classes. Children’s Hospital of The King’s Daughters 6th Floor conference room, 601 Children’s Lane, (N) 668-7402 Fall Planetarium Programs - various times and continues until Nov. 23. Choose among three programs. “Kaluoka’hina.” Is about two fish must touch the moon to save their home. “Astronaut” is an immersive experience by the National Space Centre that takes you from Earth into space and beyond. A staff astronomer takes you on a tour of the current night sky in “Virginia Skies.” The planetarium is open Wednesday through Sunday. Tickets $4 in addition to museum admission. Abbitt Planetarium, The Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 5951900 or www.thevlm.org

November 4 The Virginia Aquarium Presents: The Chesapeake Indians Program - 10:30 a.m. This program examines a variety of artifacts. Discover how Virginia’s Chesapeake Indians used the wealth of resources right in your own back yard. Janaf Branch Library, Janaf Shopping Center, Military Highway (N) 441-5660 Tickle My Ears: Modern & Contemporary Galleries -10:30 a.m. and 11:30 a.m. This unique storytelling program for prekindergarten children meets on the first Thursday of every month for stories, songs, and surprises that help young children appreciate art. Reservations are not necessary for individuals, but please call 333-6239 for group reservations. Chrysler Museum of Art, 245 W Olney Rd. (N) 664-6200 or www.chrysler.org


November 5 Legends of Flight 3D in IMAX - various times. Come face-to-face with some of history’s most amazing aircraft when you take an amazing journey through 100 years of flight as engineers develop and build the new Boeing 787 Dreamliner. See how a century of aviation trial and error, and some airplanes of the 20th century, influenced the design of the Dreamliner. The Virginia Air & Space Center, 600 Settlers Landing Rd. 727-0900 or www.vasc.org An Enduring Legacy: The U.S. Navy and the 1907 Jamestown Exposition- various times. Developed by the Hampton Roads Naval Museum, this 26-minute film traces the importance of the Jamestown Exposition to the region and its influence on the development of the naval station at Sewells Point. The film will be shown in the new Jamestown Exposition exhibit area after its debut in the Nauticus Theater. Nauticus, 1 Waterside Dr. (N) 664-1000

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November 6 Free Admission Weekend - 10 a.m.5 p.m. and continues Nov. 7 from 1 p.m.- 5 p.m. Enjoy the current exhibit, Biennial 2010, a selection of the best artwork in all media from hundreds of entries submitted from across North America. This year’s juror is noted sculptor Richard Hunt. Tours and games from 2 p.m.- 4 p.m. Peninsula Fine Arts Center, 101 Museum Dr. (NN) 595-8175 or www.pfac-va.org

November 7 World Turned Upside Down - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. This exhibit features artifacts from the fall of the Berlin Wall, including a 10’ x 10’ section of the Wall. Virginia War Museum, 9285 Warwick Blvd. (NN) 2478523 or www.warmuseum.org

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Sustainable Choices - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues Jan. 3, 2011. Discover your role in making sustainable choices. This new traveling exhibit will help you learn how choices you make today can have a lasting effect on our planet. From washing and drying your clothes to keeping your lawn green, discover how everyday tasks can affect the environment. Burn calories through pedal power and get a whiff of your lifestyle. Take the water usage quiz, sort through recyclables, and see if you can take the heat. Virginia Air and Space Center, 700 Settlers Landing (H) 7270900 or www.vasc.org A to Z - Exploring the Collections of The Mariners’ Museum - 10 a.m.- 6 p.m. and continues until Dec. 31. Curators are throwing open the vaults to bring an alphabetical assortment of rarities and oddities from The Mariners’ Museum’s 76 years of collections. The Mariners’ Museum, 100 Museum Dr. (NN) 596-2222 or www.marinersmuseum.org

November 9 Toddler Tuesdays - 11 a.m. For ages 2 5. This 30-minute program creates not only an environment of fun and play, but also one of learning. Children will explore animals through stories, songs and movement. Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaaquarium.com

November 10 Do You See What I See? - 6:30 p.m. On the second Wednesday of each month, this event takes families into the galleries to explore the Museum’s collection through dialogue and art activities. Children 6 and older and their adult companions are welcome. Chrysler Museum of Art, 245 W Olney Rd. (N) 6646200 or www.chrysler.org

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Young Writers’ Write-Ins - 6 p.m.- 8 p.m. Come celebrate National Novel Writing Month with us and write a novel! Learn how to tackle mountainous word counts and beat writer’s block. Teens. Call to register. Meyera E. Oberndorf Central Library, 4100 Virginia Beach Blvd. (VB) 385-0150 Story and a Walk - 10 a.m. Enjoy a story and a nature walk with a Park Ranger. Continues every second Wednesday of the month. Newport News Park, 13560 Jefferson Ave. (NN) 888-3333 or www.nnparks.com

November 11 Veteran’s Day Honoring Veterans - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues until Nov. 14. The Virginia Air & Space Center honors our military veterans with free exhibit admission for military veterans. ID must be presented to receive admission. Virginia Air and Space Center, 600 Settlers Landing (H) 727-0900 or www.vasc.org Winning the Game of Life — A program for parents and teens - 7 p.m.- 8: 30 p.m. Rayna Dubose will share her heroic story of courage and resilience. Learn how she went from receiving a full athletic scholarship to play college basketball to overcoming amputation of her limbs in her freshman year due to a bacterial disease. Her story will inspire and provide you the courage to work through the obstacles in your own life. Free. Register online at www.chkd.org/ classes. CHKD Brickhouse Auditorium, 2nd floor, 601 Children’s Lane, (N) 6687402

November 12 Stargazing - Sunset. Enjoy the stars and planets with high powered telescopes provided by local amateur astronomers. Every second and fourth Friday of the month. Riverview Farm Park, 105 City Farm Rd. (NN) 886-7912

Endangered Species: Watermen of the Chesapeake Bay - 10 a.m.-5 p.m. and continues until May 1, 2011.The opening will include a 2 p.m. tour in the gallery by Norfolk photographer Glen McClure and Senior Curator of Photography Thomas Moore. It celebrates the culture of the watermen, while lamenting their seeming demise. The exhibit is centered on the work of McClure - whose portfolio includes the celebrated exhibit “Random Portraits of Virginia.” For the exhibit, McClure took to the docks the watermen inhabit, photographing the watermen in black and white. The Chincoteague Cultural Alliance and the Tangier History Museum and Interpretative Cultural Center are partners in the project. Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaquarium.com

are on display for the first time in a museum setting. Werowocomoco was the principal residence of Powhatan, paramount chief of 30-some Indian tribes in Virginia’s coastal region at the time English colonists arrived in 1607, and was an important Virginia Indian political, spiritual and social center predating the Powhatan chiefdom. Located on the York River in Gloucester County , Werowocomoco is the place where Captain John Smith was taken prisoner by Powhatan in 1607 and first met Powhatan’s daughter Pocahontas. Admission is $14.00 for adults and $6.50 for ages 6-12. Children under 6 are free. Settlement is located on State Route 31 in James City County , adjacent to Historic Jamestowne. (888) 593-4682 toll-free or (757) 253-4838 or www.historyisfun.org.

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Star Party/Laser Light Shows - 7:30 p.m. Free observing begins at sunset at the Virginia Living Museum. Enjoy a planetarium program at 7:30 p.m. Enjoy the state-of-the-art laser system that splashes brilliant high-color LED laser light all across the entire

Under the Sea 3D and Dolphins and Whales 3D - various times. Enjoy this under the sea experience. Call Guest Services at (757) 385-0300 for credit card charged reservations. Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaaquarium.com

surface of the planetarium dome. Laser Spirit (family) at 8:30 p.m., Hypnotica (hard rock) at 10 p.m. and Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of the Moon at 11:30 p.m. All shows $6. Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 599-1900 or www.thevlm.org

Sea Glass: Pieces from the Collection 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. The exhibition, located in the Collections Gallery, features unique items from the Museum’s collection that could be considered artistic, functional, or both. Expect to see a variety of items, from lighthouse lenses to beautiful multi-colored rum bottles, from stained glass windows to medicine chests and ships in a bottle. Mariners’ Museum, 100 Museum Dr. (NN) 596-2222 or www.MarinersMuseum.org

Barefoot Puppets present Little Red and the Gingerbread Man - 2 p.m.- 3 p.m. The Barefoot Puppet Theatre, a traveling puppet troupe, will present Little Red and the Gingerbread Man, a puppet show for a family audience. Main Street Library, 110 Main St. (NN) 591-4858

November 14 Werowocomoco: Seat of Power - 9 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues until Jan. 2. More than 60 artifacts spanning nearly 10,000 years from one of the most significant sites in Virginia Indian history

November 16 Red Crooked Sky - 6 p.m. NPL welcomes the Red Crooked Sky dance troupe - a collaborative mix of American Indians, each dedicated to educating and promoting positive cultural awareness through traditional and contemporary dance. Based in Southeastern Virginia, the troupe represents an array of

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Extraordinary Measures - 7:15 p.m. Free movie and talk. Harrison Ford, Brendan Fraser and Keri Russell star in the upcoming movie inspired by the true story of John Crowley, a man who defied conventional wisdom and great odds, and risked his family’s future to pursue a cure for his children’s life threatening disease. Crowley (Brendan Fraser) teams up with a brilliant, but unappreciated and unconventional scientist, Dr. Robert Stonehill (Harrison Ford) and together they form a bio-tech company focused on developing a lifesaving drug. One driven to prove himself and his theories, the other by a chance to save his children, this unlikely alliance eventually develops into mutual respect as they battle the medical and business establishments in a fight against the system- and time. Following the movie join John Crowley for a Q&A discussion about his true life journey portrayed in the movie. Register online at www.chkd.org/classes. Naro Expanded Cinema, 1503 Colley Ave. (N) 668-7402

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Babygarten - 4:30 p.m. Come join Babygarten, a fun, exciting and rhythmic program for infants (ages - birth to 24 months) and their caregivers. Babygarten builds vocabulary, develops phonological awareness and print motivation, encourages narrative skills and increases letter knowledge. It enriches a child’s life from the very beginning and provides them with an


excellent foundation for the future. Larchmont Branch Library, 6525 Hampton Blvd. (N) 441-5335

November 18 Mickey Mouse’s Birthday Party - 4 p.m. Let’s celebrate Mickey Mouse! We’ll read stories, watch videos sing songs, and eat cake! Larchmont Branch Library, 6525 Hampton Blvd. (N) 441-5335

November 19 Holidays Lights at the Beach - 7 p.m. Drive on the boardwalk and become enchanted by the array of animated nautical and holiday-themed light displays. 2nd Street and Atlantic Avenue at the Virginia Beach Oceanfront. Atlantic Avenue (VB) 491-SUNN or www.beachstreetUSA.com Stroller Tours - 1 p.m. If you have children up to the age of 18 months, join us on the third Friday of each month for a guided tour of the Museum and engaging adult conversation. Cost: Free, but space is limited. Please check in at the Welcome Desk in Huber Court. Chrysler Museum of Art, 245 W Olney Rd. (N) 664-6200 or www.chrysler.org

November 20 Make and Take Holiday Crafts - 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. All supplies provided. All ages, Great Neck Area Library, 1251 Biscayne Dr. (VB) 385-2606. Holidays in the City - 7 p.m. This celebrates six weeks of magical festivities, saluting the holidays of Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa and New Year’s Eve. The festivities begin with the illumination of the downtown Norfolk and Olde Towne Portsmouth skylines followed by Hampton Roads’ most cherished event, the Grand Illumination Parade. Festive floats, marching bands, giant balloons, dancers and Santa himself will delight spectators as they parade through downtown Norfolk. Holidays

in the City serves up a season full of amazing experiences in the most vital and vibrant holiday destination in the region. Downtown Norfolk, Granby Street and Waterside Drive (N) 623-1757 or www.downtownnorfolk.org

November 21 The DaFishy Code - 10 a.m.- 4 p.m. Celebrate National Game and Puzzle Week by solving the DaFishy Code mystery! Pick up an entry form in the Upland River Room and begin your quest. Decipher the code and you could win a cool prize. Bay and Ocean Pavilion, Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaaqu arium.com The Living Sea - Times vary. This film celebrates the world ocean - its beauty, diversity and importance to all life on Earth. Swim with thousands of golden jellyfish and witness the bizarre spawning behavior of giant clams. Surf in Hawaii, deep-sea dive in Palau and test your courage with the Coast Guard in some of the world’s roughest seas. Nauticus, 1 Waterside Dr. (N) 664-1001

November 22 Pawsitive Reading with Therapy Dogs 5:45 p.m.-6:45 p.m. Practice your reading skills by sharing stories with therapy dogs. Bring your own book or choose one from our selection. Registration required. Grade K-5. Kempsville Area Library, 832 Kempsville Rd. (VB) 385-2627 Wild & Wonderful: Virginia Wildlife Captured on Camera - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continues until Nov. 28. View amazing photos of the Virginia Living Museum’s animals and exhibits taken by the area’s amateur photographers who post to the Daily Press/HR Town Square web site. Fifty photos selected by Daily Press Photo Editor Dennis Tennant will be displayed in the museum’s Changing Exhibit Gallery Nov. 20-28. Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 5991900 or www.thevlm.org

November 23 1-2-3 Grow With Me - 10:30 a.m. and continues Tuesdays until Dec. 21. This is a playgroup and fun-filled program for kids, parents and caregivers. Each 60 90 minute program includes free play, an art activity, circle time, and great resources for parents. Toys featured include trucks and cars, puzzles, blocks, dolls, push/pull toys, musical instruments and more! (Toddlers) Pretlow Anchor Branch, Ocean View Avenue (N) 441-1750

November 24 Star of Wonder: Mystery of the Christmas Star - various times and continues until Dec. 31. Experience the journey of the Magi around you in the Virginia Living Museum’s state-of-theart digital planetarium theater! Since 1965, the museum has journeyed in the footsteps of the magi. Over the years, the scientific thinking has changed, archeology has revealed new clues, and our understanding of who the magi might actually have been has grown. The show was completely revised in 2008 to offer a truly immersive look at the journey of the magi while examining the latest clues and seeking once more to understand the appearance of the Star of Bethlehem. $4 in addition to museum admission. The museum is closed Thanksgiving, Dec. 24 and 25. Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 599-1900 or www.thevlm.org

November 25 Happy Thanksgiving! Celebration in Lights - 5:30 p.m.- 10 p.m. Over 700,000 lights glitter and glow, sparkle and shine in Virginia’s oldest drive-through light event. $10.00 per car, $50.00 per bus; Newport News Park, 13560 Jefferson Ave. (NN) 888-333 or www.nnparks.com 15th Annual Garden of Lights - 5:30 p.m.10 p.m. and continues through New

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Year’s Eve. Norfolk Botanical Garden will be aglow with the sights and spirit of the holidays during the 15th Annual Garden of Lights. This 2 1/2 mile drive through winding paths lets you experience the magic of the four seasons coming alive with close to a million twinkling lights. Tickets go on sale October 1. Charge per vehicle:$10($8 for NBG Members). Norfolk Botanical Gardens, 6700 Azalea Garden Rd. (N) 441-5830 ext. 338 or www .norfolkbotanicalgarden.org

November 26 Laser Holidays - times vary. Continues until Dec. 31.Get into the holiday spirit with the music of the season and dazzling laser effects! Featuring classic holiday favorites like Burl Ives’ “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,” modern hits like Randy Travis’ “Jingle Bell Rock”and unique of timeless songs like Enya’s beautiful “Oiche Chiun (Silent Night),” this delightful program is fun for the whole family. It’s an animated Christmas light display like no other you’ve ever seen. Recommended for ages 6 and above. Days and times vary. $4 in addition to museum admission. The museum is closed Thanksgiving, Dec. 24 and 25. Virginia Living Museum, J. Clyde Morris Blvd. (NN) 599-1900 or www.thevlm.org Downtown Hampton on Ice - 10 a.m.6 p.m. and continues until Feb. 27, 2010.Take to the Ice on the Peninsula’s only, covered, outdoor ice skating rink. Next to the Virginia Air & Space Center, 600 Settlers Landing Rd. (H) 727-0900 or www.vasc.org.

November 27 Sailing with Santa - 11:30 a.m. and 12: 30 p.m. Take a 45-minute cruise on Owls Creek with Santa and his crew. Enjoy refreshments, games and activities while Santa greets his guests for a unique photo opportunity. Fees: $17 per person; members $14 (infants 12 months and under free). Call 385-0300 for reservations. Winter Wonderland the Coleman

Collection - 9 a.m.- 9 p.m. and continues until Dec. 31 at different times. The Coleman Collection has settled into its new surroundings. Begin your holiday and New Year countdown with Holidays Around the World, which celebrates diverse cultures and traditions from many nations. Watch for the Snow Babies frolicking nearby in the courtyard. Each year, newly renovated figures add to the enchantment of visitors and remind young and old of holidays past. Scenes from a Victorian era offer a Chalet with animated carolers, strollers and skaters. Fanciful elves prepare their treats at Santa’s Bakery and Candy Shop, while more of his crew ready by constructing toys and wrapping gifts for distribution. View other holiday favorites such as Sleeping Santa, representative of one of the first figures that launched the Coleman collection during the 1960s. On special weekends, the inaugural Singing Santa returns to rejoice audiences with seasonal songs. Fee: Museum Admission $5. A ticket to Winter Wonderland includes admission to Andalo’s Clubhouse. Courthouse Galleries, High & Court streets (P) 393-8543 or www.court housegalleries.com

November 28 The Blue Realm - Shark Business various times. New in CineMuse HiDef Cinema. Shark Business unravels some of the mysteries surrunding sharks with controversial behaviorist Dr. Erich Ritter. Witness divers testing the limits of shark-human interaction outside of cages. Running time is 47 minutes. Nauticus, 1 Waterside Dr. (N) 664-1001 Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part I - various times. The first installment of the two-part fantasy, adventure film Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part I in 3D IMAX hits the IMAX screen. The seventh and final chapter of the Harry Potter chronicles begins with Voldemort’s power growing stronger. He now has control over the Ministry of Magic and Hogwarts. Harry, Ron and Hermione set out on a perilous mission to track down and

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November 29 Cheers to Queen Victoria! British Glass from the Chrysler Collection - 10 a.m.5 p.m. and continues until February 2011. As a complement to the Museum presents 50 glass objects made in Britain from 1837-1901. The range of decorative styles during this period, from Gothic Revival to Art Nouveau, and the advancement of technologies caused an explosion of creative output in British glass manufacturing. Admission is free. Chrysler Museum of Art, 245 W Olney Rd. (N) 664-6200 or www.chrysler.org Scuba Santa - 11 a.m. and continues Saturdays and Sundays until Dec. 19 Santa descends into the depths of the Chesapeake Bay Aquarium to feed the fishes. Free with Aquarium admission. Virginia Aquarium, 717 General Booth Blvd. (VB) 385-FISH or www.virginiaaqu arium.com

November 30 Paint Days - 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Every Tuesday and Thursday. Paint your own picture in the Kids Gallery. Peninsula Fine Arts Center, 101 Museum Dr. (NN) 596-8175 or www.pfac-va.org. London Calling: Victorian Paintings from the Royal Holloway Collection - 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. and continue until Jan. 2, 2011. This exhibit is one of the greatest collections of English Victorian art anywhere—60 works from Britain. Chrysler Museum of Art, 245 W Olney Rd. (N) 664-6200 or www.chrysler.org

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